Thank you, Amy! Feeling "voiceless" hit home with me too. Staying quiet, running away from the conversation, shutting down, paralyzed, out of the fear of confrontation - is all lumped together in your brain bc your brain can't distinguish between a tough conversation and an actual crisis that is occurring. That when we are stressed, the brain is cloudy because it is actually saving its energy to run. Perfect explanation and makes complete sense now. Powerful!! I love the tool of depersonalizing the conversation because it really isn't all about me.
Wow. What an amazing talk. I also was molested at the age of 10 and did not tell. I also find it very hard to speak up. I also want people to like me, and I shy away from conflict. I have worked on myself for 35 years, and now I learn the lesson of conflict with compassion and forgiveness. I accept that sometimes people are going to be mad at me, and that's okay. Thank you. Thta's valueable advice.
What a masterful presentation. It's a crash course in productive conflict. (It reminds me of the books Crucial Conversations and Difficult Conversations.) Well done!
What a GREAT speech, and what a WONDERFUL speaker! I sometimes find TEDx talks complacent and boring... But this one, I TRULY enjoyed - and automatically clapped at the end! Thank you!
I am actually very happy and inspired after a long time watching a TED talk. There are a lot of TED talk videos out there, and not each and every video will inspire you or relate to you at that specific point in time, it can maybe in the future or maybe never, TED talks are where people share their own experiences of their lives. either you can relate to it or you don't. but that doesn't mean that you should criticize it. " Sometimes People can be MAD at you and that's OK" :)
The issue for me is not the act of disagreeing, but making the assumption that the other person has the intelligence, competence and ability to seek a dialogue to resolve the disagreement.
Thank you, Amy! Feeling "voiceless" hit home with me too. Staying quiet, running away from the conversation, shutting down, paralyzed, out of the fear of confrontation - is all lumped together in your brain bc your brain can't distinguish between a tough conversation and an actual crisis that is occurring. That when we are stressed, the brain is cloudy because it is actually saving its energy to run. Perfect explanation and makes complete sense now. Powerful!! I love the tool of depersonalizing the conversation because it really isn't all about me.
Just when I feel down for disagreeing, your words make me feel a little better. Thank you.
Wow. What an amazing talk. I also was molested at the age of 10 and did not tell. I also find it very hard to speak up. I also want people to like me, and I shy away from conflict. I have worked on myself for 35 years, and now I learn the lesson of conflict with compassion and forgiveness. I accept that sometimes people are going to be mad at me, and that's okay. Thank you. Thta's valueable advice.
Thank you so much, Amy!!!! The Gift actually was listening to you!!!!!
What a masterful presentation. It's a crash course in productive conflict. (It reminds me of the books Crucial Conversations and Difficult Conversations.) Well done!
What a GREAT speech, and what a WONDERFUL speaker! I sometimes find TEDx talks complacent and boring... But this one, I TRULY enjoyed - and automatically clapped at the end! Thank you!
I am actually very happy and inspired after a long time watching a TED talk. There are a lot of TED talk videos out there, and not each and every video will inspire you or relate to you at that specific point in time, it can maybe in the future or maybe never, TED talks are where people share their own experiences of their lives. either you can relate to it or you don't. but that doesn't mean that you should criticize it. " Sometimes People can be MAD at you and that's OK" :)
So grateful for these words.
The issue for me is not the act of disagreeing, but making the assumption that the other person has the intelligence, competence and ability to seek a dialogue to resolve the disagreement.
My favorite Ted talk so far! Thank you so much for this talk.
Why does this not have more likes?
This is so smart, funny, instructive and humane!
Couldn't agree more with the concepts and beautifully put!
Just when it looked like this speech had everything out came the bongo drum!
Parfait! : Clear. Funny. Actionable. Danke.
I shared it with my class. Lovely talk.
“Maybe they’re on their way to buy helmets.” ❤
This is directed for "passive" characters only. She should also try to address the aggressive charachter (in terms of being assertive).
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“When I was a management consultant…” is never a good opener.