Colossal: Or How I Learned to Stop Stressing and Drop Bad Friends
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instrumental music (in order of appearance):
"blues or something like that" - tigerblood jewel
"leather feather" - lennon hutton
"brazen" - [ocean jams]
"fire, then nothing" - da sein - Фільми й анімація
Jason Sudekis was one of the best casting in the past decade for a friend who is secretly toxic. I see him in a movie and prepare myself for a fun loving, wholesome dad-like figure.
Precisely, you normally think of Sudekis as a fun loving, yet amicable slacker, so it was genius to cast him as the main antagonist!
Exactly, I was definitely tricked at the beginning especially that I just watched the movie now, and in my mind he is Ted Lasso.
I love him so much that I completely forgot he was bad in this movie 😂
Bo Burnham in Promising Young Woman is another good one
@@maggie5990 I was just thinking about that film. All of the casting was excellent for this reason.
i haven't seen this film but had no idea a godzilla-type monster film could be so deep about loneliness... brb gonna watch
Definitely, there's so many poignant themes and messages in the movie that initially pass you by!
🕞33⏰minutes🆕Record⚠🆒💡
Can I send you the essay I wrote on the original Godzilla film for my early japanese cinema class last semester?
then you should watch neon genesis evangelion
It's so fucking food. I watched this strictly because I like kaiju stuff. And man when the plot hits halfway through it's a fucking tense scene.
"Kindness w/o honesty is manipulation" yooooo I didn't think I'd see that in effect so soon after reading that quote
Christian groups looking for new members do this all the time
That’s deeep!
Timestamp!
Speaking of toxic relationships, what you said about gift giving...
I remember one of my (ex)friends bought me Fenty makeup for my birthday, then whenever they wanted me to do things for them they would bring up said $45 makeup.
That was definitely a red flag for me, you shouldn’t give gifts expecting something in return. Gift giving is a selfless act.
I definitely think using the gifts as blackmail to “friends” is toxic. But I think when you give a gift to someone that shows you care about them and you realize that they will never do the same for you it is okay to be saddened and upset by that. At that point you should leave that person and find people who will do those things for and with you.
I broke up with my "best friend" in 2018 - went through guilt, sadness and a lot of anger, but today I feel light as a feather. Life is really too short for people who only love themselves. Now excuse me while I go watch Colossal!
a movie about using your kaiju alter ego to navigate the unhealthy relationships in your life can be something so personal....... also the idea that having no friends is better than having bad friends seems so simple yet it's kinda blowing my mind because i've definitely held onto terrible relationships out of a fear of not wanting to be alone before. anyway, loved the video and analysis!!
I actually really enjoyed this movie, and it works as a metaphor to drop toxic friends who only serve to drag you down. I also thought it was interesting that Tim and Oscar, Gloria's ex and prospective new beau, have similar hair and beard styles, as well as controlling tendencies.
I love it when film criticism starts out with an article on neurobiology. A+
Also interesting that the 2 white American characters are the embodiment of these destructive forces tearing through South Korea to settle something between the 2 of them that is only resolved when Gloria's monster leaves Korea and Gloria as a person enters it.
That's a pretty fucking powerful statement on government intervention lol
I don't trust people who don't like Anne Hathaway!!
She's an amazing actress.✨
Seconded, Anne acts brilliantly in the movie, and it's definitely one of her most underrated performances!
@@trinaq yes!!! She deserves more recognition.
She is have you seen her in the movie havoc that was one of my favorite movies ❤️❤️❤️🙌
Remember when she was hated by the media around the time she was in les mis? Never got why
@@user-mb9nm7bq5e same! It made no sense
wow perfect timing i cut out my best friend of 7 years a couple weeks ago and I feel free.
I know what that's like. I hope you're doing okay and I'm happy you finally get to feel free
I hope you're doing okay! It's hard sometimes but u gotta stay firm knowing you did the best for yourself
Thanks. I'm feeling alright, like there's 1 less daily texts from someone and less birthday presents but also less unprecedented banter, less TMI, less unfiltered oversharing, less walking on eggshells. It feels good
this is so topical for me right now. I don't even like my current friends anymore and they don't really like me. we're just a few lonely people complaining to each other about our depressions. being friends with them feels...empty. and yet it's less scary than a complete loneliness.
After and during quarintine I realized what little friends I actually had... not many people would text me or check up with me. Social media is a lie.
My "best friend" for 12 years just ditched me like it was nothing back in 2018. As horrible as she was, it hurt so much when she just stopped talking to me after we graduated high school. I always think im over it, but then i catch myself thinking back and noticing all the toxic things she would do and how i was always so naive and never questioned any of that.
I can relate to your experience! Due to covid restrictions not permitting unecessary travel, I didn't see one of my oldest friends for several months. Instead of being reasonable, she got personally offended and cut me off at the beginning of 2021. Since being rudely removed from all contact with her I've reflected upon our friendship... and the more distance is put between us, the more I realize she wasn't ever a real friend to me. Since our teenage years she'd stolen from me, used me, chipped away at my confidence, ordered me around and mocked me. When they say " better alone than in bad company" its no lie 😳
@@marad786 "better alone than in bad company" wow i don't think I have heard that phrase before.
Sometimes I’m not sure if I was the toxic friend or if my friends were toxic to me.
It often is both
@@cl0thes0ff Yes! A toxic friendship can be like unhealthy romantic relationships - in that it often brings out the absolute worst side in both parties 😔✌️
dude you're speaking my language right now, i've been through the exact same thing and it sucks.
Going through this right now
Same. That's what therapy is for
I'm unstable, so I mostly become the problematic part of a relationship. When I get to that point, I just pick myself up, turn around, and I throw me out of their lives lol
I do that too :(
Omg !! Never related soooo much with a comment before !!!!
SAME
Now that's self awareness!
The day I cut ties with my so-called best friend since highschool, was such a freeing day, I felt lighter, she always belittled me and gave mme backhanded compliments to keep me in "my place" but I only realized when I was finally away from her.
there should really be some sort of support group for this. People who don't experience this don't take it as seriously when its not a romantic relationship, but in my experience, its worse when its a best friend.
@@marisacohen93 it really is and it even feels like a deeper wound. There really should be a support group for it
I experienced this! I recently stopped talking to an old friend and it's amazing how putting distance between myself and her has made me realize all the cute little ways she used to enjoy making me insecure. When we were 13 she told me she liked me enough that when she was "rich and famous" she'd buy me a "nice nose"........ I had never mentioned being insecure about my nose 😔✌️
@@marad786 that is a terrible thing for someone to say to a friend! Even if you did say you were insecure about your nose, that wouldn't have been okay. I'm glad you were able to distance yourself from them.
I don't know a single person who watched this movie and its always been so frustrating because the ending of chucking an abusive man right into the ocean is so so good and I want more movies to end that way.
Because sometimes the alternative too bad friends isn’t always good friends, sometimes it’s just no friends at all.
Lol that line just hit me like a ton of bricks. I dropped my *entire* group of “friends” in 2017 after realizing they never valued my companionship to begin with. It’s horrible to feel that completely alone. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody.
this is one of my favourite movies almost nobody has seen. my partner and i were initially drawn in by kaiju knowing nothing else about the movie and were pleasantly surprised with the plot! right off the bat we felt uneasy with jason's character but because a lot of movies play these dynamics off as genuinely romantic, we weren't sure how to watch the film.
and then the mask finally came off, and we both breathed a sigh of relief!
thanks again for another interesting video! i'm happy to see that people in the comments are adding this to their watchlist.
I watched this movie based on the monster concept alone and was so pleasantly surprised by its deep storyline. I can't believe how few people talk about how great it is. I'm so glad you decided to tackle this.
Right? Same here. Seems like most of youtubers focus more on making video essay about problematic movies or characters ignoring films that have good messages, like this one.
I have a family friend who was in this rlly toxic friendship with her best friend. It quite horrible, especially because that friend's dad and the other girl's mum eventually started an affair. I kept telling her to just cut her off, but I guess it's not quite that easy and maybe I was inconsiderate. They did eventually stop being friends
The quarantine was heaven sent for me. I needed a break from people because that was killing me and not the lack of social bonds. My job was nothing but people and connections all the time. Now I have lost weight, have savings, and no one talking to me or wanting something. No more drama at work, no more gaslighting from co-workers, and no more "no end in sight." The pandemic saved my life.
Omg the weight loss after losing toxic people in one's life. That (plus more savings) happened to me too. I have some toxic family members and friends who were very discouraging and manipulative for the longest time.
Even after the lockdown in my city ended, I found myself almost instinctively saying "no thanks I'm busy with work" to all of them when they invited me to have dinner or whatever. I'm not that busy. But I'd rather stay at home or go out on my own than staying with people who I strongly dislike.
And now after a year of self-isolation and 100% focus on work and relaxation at home, although it gets lonely sometimes, I've just been sleeping better, naturally losing weight, having much less mood swings, and having far less gaslighting negative voices in my head telling me that I'm doing this wrong or that wrong.
Funny how my life gets so much better after blocking out all those people who "cared" about me and loved to tell me how to live my life the "RIGHT" ways.
No but literally. But my mental health has been really bad lately. But that's just me
Although I haven't seen the movie, lockdown restrictions really helped me understand the meaning of loneliness and how its more so a state of mind as opposed to objective reality! This is definitely going to the top of my "movies to watch while my city is still shutdown" list
Interestingly, I've always chosen to dip out on shitty people instead of putting up with them, even in adolescence. I think it's helped by the fact that I tend to isolate myself unhealthily and am an incredibly guarded person. It comes with plenty of other problems, but hey, at least I didn't have to put up with shitbags in high school.
Mood
I remember I had a friend who helped me out of a funk just like Anne Hathaway in the movie. She wasn't awful, but she wasn't great. She would stop talking to me without warning only to suddenly appear whenever something big happened. First time she told me she had moved but was back and pregnant. Like, when did you move?? Second time I was feeling salty that she ghosted me again, but then she texted that her husband left a few days after the baby was born and I couldn't just not respond after that.
I ended up babysitting her kid and it was alright. Though she would complain to my sister instead of me directly about things she didn't like.
Then I got a housekeeping job and told her I wasn't going to be able babysit anymore. Never called me back after that. My sister asked what happened and when I explained, she said.
"Some people only want to see you when they need you. "
It really hit home after that. The friend messaged me on Facebook awhile later, but at that point I was done.
“Because sometimes the alternative to bad friends isn’t just good friends. Sometimes it’s just no friends at all”
I would have never known that there’s so much depth to a movie that was advertised so slap-stickly.
Time and time again you find a way to make thematic ideas in movies so heart-wrenchingly familiar and relatable to everyone. Honestly one of the best UA-cam channels out there. We love you Yhara!!
I had a friend that I was incredibly close too for years. But she'd randomly cut me off and say the reason was because I said something that hurt her. When I asked her what I said she would never tell me. So I started getting really paranoid about what I said not to in my her but to everyone in my life. Shed still have times where shed cut me off and I knew I didn't say anything because I had become so paranoid about what I was saying. I finally realized she just liked doing that ti me and playing the victim and making me look bad. So I catcher out of my life. It's been a few years and I have been in therapy since to try and trust that I'm not secretly a bad person that says hurtful things without even knowing. Im slowing having more trust in myself and building strong relationships with lots of wonderful and loving ppl
Wow! Yeah. I’m having almost the exact same issues here. That’s what I’m trying to work through in therapy myself. Thank you for putting in words. I hope the work is going well so far.
I like how in the closed captions you put “ red flag “ when he told her about stealing the keys lol
The hard thing is ussualy nobody is "the bad friend". They are in some ways and Some ways not and you learn to either cope with the bad traits, or adress them or totally cut them loose but the thing is because you're not perfect yourself and theyre not fully evil, no choice wil be fully satisfactory.
I agree with you, but in the case of the character Oscar, he is definitely the bad friend. That's what makes it so insidious. Someone who consistently gaslights and manipulates you the way he is shown to do to Gloria, doesn't just have "some bad traits you have to decide to deal with", it's an ingrained toxic and sometimes even abusive behavior that often takes a lot of therapy to undo. Constant manipulation like what is shown should never be "put up with" (which is sorta what your comment implies but I don't think you meant it that way, just wanted to leave my two cents). I just want to say that because I had a best friend just like Oscar. The sad news of it is, even if you know the trick -- that doesn't mean you won't fall for it.
It was super satisfactory to cut her off though. I know she had her reasons, but it was one of the first steps I took in learning to love myself and put myself first. Definitely cut people off if they are "bad friends", that means they're not meant for you.
Perfect comment.
If you think there are no "bad friends" you might be the bad friend yourself. One of the common traits of a bad friend is twisting situations to make the other person feel equally culpable for your own bad behaviour.
Just because no person is "fully evil" doesn't mean that their actions can't be.
No. There are definitely bad friends in life. Some people are so insidiously manipulative and project their insecurities onto other people, like Oscar.
When I heard about the gift giving a lightbulb went off in my head about my abusive ex and how he used to shower me with gifts and damn, for the millionth time, glad I got out of that relationship. Also great video once again Yhara!!!
I’m so happy to see more people appreciating this film! Watched it the year it came out & loved it but haven’t heard of anyone else who’d seen it until now
Thank you for doing an analysis of this film. It’s such an underrated gem.
Your video reminded me of why I love this movie, and I actually rewached it with my husband who had never seen it last night.
Another thing I love about this movie is the metaphor of how people who deal with addiction sometimes think they are only harming themselves because they can't see the other people they are hurting. Gloria doesn't know at first she is harming people, she has no connection to them. When she realized her addiction isn't only harming her, but hurts others, she accepts responsibility for her actions and fights her addiction to protect others.
I've been the bad friend too often; I still regret it a lot. But...watching this video, I'm starting to be unsure that it's always been me. Got used to thinking about myself as the bad guy, but based on the picture painted of Oscar here, parts of that sound an awful lot like someone I used to be close friends with. I think this movie goes to the top of my watch list now.
Sorry to overshare; thanks Yhara, as ever, for thoughtful recs! 🧡
That moment you start crying because you genuinely relate to a monster movie 🤪 seriously though, I have my past with emotionally abusive narcissistic friends just like this, and I can tell you, this is ACCURATE.
I dumped some toxic friends many times over. I keep them at a distance now. I was torn over it. And now I am better off. Same with family. Despite being by myself, I am free.
Yhara back at it again with appreciating and analyzing underrated gems. Every video essay you put out is a gift. Bless.
Not me watching Colossal as soon as I had time specifically so that I could watch this video without getting spoiled
Here to learn about a movie I've never seen but looks great. 😊
Hearing you give the surface summary of the first half of the movie _really_ reflects the whole "deconstructed romcom" structure. Like, how many times do we get in those 'city girl moves back home to the country (then learns the true meaning of Christmas)' movie where the male lead just inserts himself into her life b/c "he knows better"? The girl learns a lesson in humility and priorities, and the guy... learns how to get over his ex-fiancee.
But, like, how easy is it to be manipulated when you have no support where you came from? And how easily would it be to latch onto the first person to show you "unconditional kindness"?
Definitely will be checking out this movie in the future. As usual, loved the hell out of this video.
I’ve always loved this film but no one ever talked about it. I’m so glad It’s being recognized for how awesome it is. Love this analysis ❤️
I absolutely loved this movie. Can't really relate to the "bad friend better than no friend" theme, as I've spent most of my time in the "no friend" camp.
I cut out pretty much all of my friends in the past few months because they were toxic to me, and I'm not close with anyone right now. I feel very lonely, but I'm happier and feel less anxiety about pleasing others than I ever have before. It's nice to feel reassurance that I'm not being unfair in cutting toxic people in my life, and I am better off alone than in bad company.
I was just about to message someone who is so incredibly bad for me, out of loneliness.
Thanks! 💕💕
Yeah, this video dropped exactly when I needed to hear its message most ❤️✌️
I do the scratching my head when I'm anxious thing. It's more like playing with the part of my hair. I cut out a best friend of 15 years in 2018 and have felt a lot better since. She was definitely one of these toxic friends that used my anxiety to manipulate me and make herself feel good.
Another incredible video!!!
omg i'm so excited i love this movie and it's so underappreciated!! i think it was marketed incorrectly and the trailers didn't do it justice but it's just so good honestly
That Dr. Strange love reference💯🚀🔧🌇🌚💤
Great to see a video essay on this masterpiece! Colossal is one of my favorite movies of all time!
This video felt like a personal call out post to me from life itself. Thank you.
This and Wisecrack uploading a video about friends, great timing.
I was legit terrified of Oscar when i first watched this movie
Also i love the soundtrack by Bear McCreary (if I’m not mistaken)
Thank you Yhara for this video! I'd never heard of this movie before and it's just what I need to watch right now. Thanks for another amazing analysis, much love all the way from argentina
Need to rewatch this movie. I watched it with my parents and I remember loving it as a metaphor and my parents didn’t really get it so I just switched my opinion to theirs. Need to watch it again as an adult!
How you keep churning out such quality content is a mystery to all of us.
It's like Evangelion but without penguins
Wow. Seeing this and all of the ways you casually list the narcissistic behaviors without any hesitation , I’m glad I cut the person who displayed them out of my life. The gift giving with strings part really spoke to me. I was pressured into accepting a gift from them this past Christmas due to external social pressure and upon getting home immediately donated it to the nearest charity shop. I reject the strings that could turn me to a puppet.
creepy but you have the nicest voice i've heard so far.
Also very good video you're right about everything✨
@IntrepidFinch it's not creepy at all
@IntrepidFinch sounded creepy in my head when i commented this. it really isn't though
I have like 5 friends left, from which I consider 3 my best friends... I'm a loner so I don't mind being alone, to be my friend your company has to really be better than me being alone... However getting rid of some people was a lot harder than others, the shared memories and all, it's also hard to admit we were wrong to call them friends to begin with. Anyway, I loved Colossal and it became one of my favorite movies instantly.
People like Oscar are the reason I have a hard time accepting gifts. Great video, I'm definitely going to watch this movie.
Thank you! This movie was severely underappreciated when it came out and deserves more attention.
I love your channel. You expose me to the most interesting films that no one else is talking about. Everyone else is talking about the same films, we've all seen. It's great to get these new perspectives and new recommendations. I watch most of the films you talk about. Stay awesome.
this movie is so good and was so so triggering as someone who was in a very abusive friendship at one time. this person used very similar methods to manipulate me - excessive amounts of gifts, a skewed perception of my perception of them, an obsession with knocking me down a peg, ideally in public. this movie depicts my very worst nightmare and it did it justice.
my only criticism here is that i wouldn't call their relationship toxic, i'd call it abusive.
Thank you for this, I've been fighting some inner turmoil on Wethersfield or not to drop a "friend" or not
The thing the pandemic taught me was just how sh*tty my friends are. I mean, I had already known by 2019 and planned to drop them, but somehow things managed to get even worse because the pandemic made it harder to drop them and they revealed themselves to be utter awful. Throughout it all and in spite of their behavior, I've tried to better myself because I realized how toxic and awful I was around my friends. They weren't helping me grow or to be a better person, so I challenged myself to be better and kinder. Despite having very little in my life, especially in 2020--almost no friends, no family, no partner, living in a rundown place and with a low class wage at a job I can care less about--I managed to garner the envy of my friends. Much like envy Gloria received from Oscar, despite being at the lowest point in her life. I noticed it throughout every one of my friendships, but being at complete rock bottom just made it that much louder. By the end of 2020, I couldn't believe just how bad things had gotten with everyone. I thought it was bad enough that they disappeared when they found out I had covid, but that they were getting so bad at pretending they cared about me was most upsetting of all. Anyway, this video has been a reminder to follow through with my 2019 plans. I don't need this negativity in my life anymore, now I have to figure out how to drop them because my plan to up and move isn't happening as for anothe 2 years. Anyway, thanks for sharing this message. I actually started this movie years ago and stopped before the monster stuff so I had no idea what it was truly about, so thanks again.
““Because sometimes the alternative to bad friends isnt always good friends, sometimes it’s just no friends at all, sometimes we know our friends are terrible for us and we know we’d be better off without them but we tolerate them and our place with them because who wants to be alone?” Damn that hit me hard. After high school graduation(over eleven years ago, god I’m old) my boyfriend slept with my best friend and all of my other “friends” at the time knew about it and didn’t care to tell me(lots of “we didn’t want to get involved” and “it wasn’t our place” bullshit), so I spent the following year of community college alone, essentially, and you just so perfectly and concisely summed up why I made that choice, and I’m glad I did because I made waaaay better friends in college and then university then I ever had in high school. Being alone and knowing your value is always always always better then being surrounded by people who don’t value you.
Finally someone talk about this movie!!!, I love Nacho Vigalondo's short movies and loved this one too. I think it deserves more videos and video essays. Of course it got poorly reviews, mostly from guys who expected just a kaiju movie.
So many great movies get bad reviews. Especially when the behaviour of toxic men is being exposed. I have to wonder about that. I remember loving Georgia Rule, Gothika and Enough, and was shocked to find out that all three movies were panned by critics.
@@Ilikefrogs.. totally, even the subtle criticism towards toxic male characters gets bad reviews, ugh.
you're the only youtuber i have notifications on for i don't regret making that decision at all. i actually get excited for your content/film analysis.
Thank you so much for this video, after I realized how bad was my only best friend I wanted to find pieces of media that dealt about this particular problem just to feel I little less lonely, and Colossal seems the perfect film for me right now! Your review is really intresting and I will rewatch it after the film.
I love the last scene of the movie so much
in 2017 after a 10 year friendship... i tried to come out to her as not straight. Hadn't figured anything out yet but she blacklisted me everywhere immediately, not having heard even my words completely, without any last words of byes or anything. I felt worthless for about a year. I started to notice all her toxic behaviours and how that mindset had held me back in life. She was my only friend. If i hadn't stuck to her 5 years after hs graduation then i would have had a better life earlier. But alas. I'm good now. Graduated uni. Have friends. Didn't die due to covid. So much better than the girl who collapsed in a parking lot in 2017 winter from crying and caught pneumonia
ahh you used a clip from Mary and Max- I will have to go watch again now.(highly recommend to anyone who hasn't seen it- heartbreakingly beautiful) excellent video
I'm bummed it didn't see Sudekis as the villain until way too late. It hit me like a truck. I really enjoyed this movie when I saw it! Great discussion!
THIS MOVIE IS SO UNDERRATED IM SO HAPPY YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT IT I NEVER SEEN ANYONE TALK ABOUT IT
This film is an underrated gem and I've been singing its praises for a while.
Oh this is a treat, it's definitely the sort of film I hoped you would cover, and it's great
Discovered your channel last night, & well... you’re a Godsend.
i had forgotten most of the plot of this movie
Thank You!
This video hit a little closer to home than I was expecting...
I remember being really moved by the film; your analysis reminded me about it & almost made me cry in a good way!
I like that this movie is a deconstruction but that that's not ALL it is. It still has it's own point to make and isn't a deconstruction just to be a deconstruction. I like this
I am *SO GLAD* that you deconstructed thia movie and made a video like this because I saw this movie a little over a year ago and I swear I just thought it was a terrible film with no purpose😂
A very underrated film and I'm glad we are discussing it!!!!
This movie triggered the ever-loving fuck out of me. I saw it by myself in theaters since it was heavily advertised as a sci-fi comedy. It's the reason I spoil every movie and show for myself before I watch them now... But it's the only film that I've seen to truly capture the absolute betrayal of gaslighting by those closest to you.
Ironically the first person I texted after leaving the theater sobbing was a friend who'd confided in me that she'd also been ab*sed - years later we'd find out she had been scamming all of us and literally every detail of her life was fabricated to manufacture empathy.
Anyway!!! Thank you for making this. I've never been able to get this movie out of my head. I'm glad to finally see someone talk about how chilling and moving it actually was.
"Sometimes the alternative to bad friends is not just good friends. Sometimes there are simply no friends at all"
This must be used as a mantra.
This was one of the most realistic movies I’ve ever seen in terms of human interactions, down to how the internet reacted to seeing the monsters, and I love it! Love the review, too!
Just wanna say I really appreciate your work. I love your editing, your humor is perfectly niche (I think I'm exactly your age haha), and I wanted to let you know how much I enjoy watching what you put out. Keep it up! You're an inspiration.
Thank you, I needed this.
Getting rid of some bad friends, TODAY
the part you mentioned about this seeming like a romcom before it slowly deteriorates into its true form is one of the main reason i loved this movie so much. it really took me by surprise, idk if thats commentary on how naive i am or how well written these characters are, but i will never forget the scene where jason's character blows up in front of anne and her ex.
I loved this movie. It pairs really well with Sadie's last days on earth as disaster films that are actually about mental health
its great
I love this movie and I am so happy you made this video! Your videos are always thoughtful and eloquent, something this movie deserved.
i stumbled across this film in the middle of addiction recovery and its become like a semi annual watch for me- everything about the writing and acting is so real and relatable
this video is rly incredible, it really captures the message and themes of the movie and your editing and voice work is lovely!!
this was such an underrated movie, when it came out I thought it was gonna be some dry action movie but I was wrong and I loved it
Thank you for this video I feel better about cutting out all my bad friends during quarantine 💓😞
What an excellent analysis of a wonderful film. This movie is easily in my top five kaiju flicks and also one of my favourite black comedies too
I love this film. It’s so underrated. Also, that actor sounds so much like Seth McFarland it was super distracting when I was watching it. 😂
This upload schedule
✨ Iconic ✨
Had someone I was romantically interested in (who showed mutual interest) recently pull some shit where they claimed that an expression of my affection was coming out of nowhere, despite literally spending a lot of time openly flirting with one another and... some other adult stuff, that I won't detail for obvious reasons. It resulted in me literally being kicked out of a recent group of friends, severing some relationships I had built over a short period of time and grown quite fond of despite having physical evidence that more than proved their mutual interest in me.
It fucking sucks and I still think about them, still desire to be with them on a certain level because before I saw that side of them, it was pretty great. Even though I have mostly removed that specific person from my life, I can tell I'd probably relapse due to certain aspects of my personality. I'm sure those desires will end up tempting me into taking certain actions that I may come to later regret with completely different people. The ending is too damn perfect a reflection of that.
Yes, there are people out there that can be a detriment to you, feeding your addictions either intentionally or unintentionally, but the thing we tend to leave out in stories (because it rarely fits into a "happy ending") is that our temptations rarely vanish along with the evil mecha we just chucked into the sea.
If I can respectfully drop in here: no one owes you any reciprocal romantic affection, no matter if they’ve show you physical affection in the past. People are allowed to change their minds and revoke consent.
You’re a little vague here, but either way, I hope you might consider telling this story in detail to a therapist-there are a few red flags that I’d recommend working through to make sure future relationships are on steady, mutually-safe ground.
@@comfort-and-joy I don’t think the first part of your advice is relevant. Their point was how mofo was gaslighting them when they said that their affection came out of nowhere which isn’t true due to past actions. Yes the other person is entitled to not feel any romance towards op. If you do something that is commonly known for being romantic (it could be platonic and casual for you personally) you need to be ready and expect a possibility that the person might be doing the same thing for romantic reason. I totally get it. As in I do stuff and things that are seen as romantic but are completely platonic for me. But I try to give a disclaimer that it is just platonic I don’t have romantic behind this. And if someone keeps pushing then they are the problem. Yes draw a line. Tell them that it’s just casual for you and you don’t plan on moving it to something more. (Should’ve been established in the beginning)But to say that your completely blindsided by their feelings is kinda strange. I know your trying to give out advice but the way you said kinda comes off as sort of invalidating their experience. And accusing them of being the bad guy. Op is venting about a toxic friend in a comment section full people venting about toxic friends. I don’t think this is the time to accuse someone of something we don’t have the full context to.
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