I was in foster care, adopted at 12, severely abused by my adoptive parents, and technically homeless at 19. I am currently living a normal life as a law abiding citizen. I have no desire to cause physical harm to others. I don’t care what kind of childhood you have. You either make the choice to break the cycle or you make the choice to lash out at others. It’s a choice.
It's heart breaking to know what was done to you/what you were put through. Nevertheless, It's good to hear you are doing well. You're a strong person. Wishing all the best.
God Bless you for not hurting others because you hurt. May you heal from the pain that has be inflicted upon you. Love, strength and God Blessings to you.
It can be a roll of the dice. Sometimes people receive profound traumatic brain injuries from being beaten on the head, and that tbi alters their personality and severely impairs decision making ability and impulse control.
Please don't judge others by your own rule. I'm not dismissing what you have been through, but not everyone recovers the same. How people handle trauma is not always a "choice".
@@AllTheCloudsArePink thank you so much for pointing that out!! I’ve had a traumatic childhood, too, behaved like a total psycho for many years (didn’t kill or rape someone tho) and it was actually more the lucky coincidence of some very close friends to kinda force me into therapy in my early 20s. Eventually I cooperated and was able to overcome my past and myself, if you will. For sometime I started to think also it was all my own choice to be better and so on, but essentially it was not a choice but the lucky coincidence of a good support network, the lucky coincidence of not being „damaged beyond repair“ and my personal inclination not to willingly disappoint the few people I build up a real love for. God knows what I would have become if I hadn’t had my friends back then.
I had an awful childhood. My teen years are still a nightmare to me, at 45. Yet, all that did was make me wanna ensure my kids and OTHER PEOPLE don't HAVE to go through that hell. I could never hurt someone because I was hurt by others. I am so glad my soul, my humanity, remained intact, despite my trauma.
I can relate completely! Unfortunately, many people don't become better as a result of their pain, but rather perpetuate it... We are very fortunate that we are strong and that we want to break the cycle. I believe the deciding factor is at our core to begin with. That said, this story is sad and there is NO EXCUSE for what this man has done. Tragic
Yes, yes, and yes. Having a bad childhood is not an excuse to harm others. I went through hell and back i suffer from major depression disorder, ptsd and generalized anxiety; yes im the complete package and I never in a million years would think of committing such heinous crimes. In fact all that shit from my past only makes me more weak and empathetic towards others. Bad childhood is only a coward excuse.
❤️ It makes me so sad that some people had awful childhoods - but it’s so great that you were strong and able to turn that around. I hope you’re having a wonderful life now. No one deserves a horrible life - especially in childhood. 💕🌸
What makes this story so much more upsetting is, the Amish community's whole way of life is to protect them from the evils of the world. But the evil of the world came to find them. RIP sweet Linda.
I was thinking the same thing. Not that anyone deserves to be a victim of crime, but there's a tragedy in a community that secludes themselves to avoid our evil society being targeted bc they are vulnerable.
I live among the Amish in Lancaster County where poor Linda was abducted. The Amish are NOT sheltered from the real world and have smart phones, computers and other forms of technology. They are not the fairy tale community so many make them out to be. Please, I'm not taking away from the horrific crime this young woman sustained. But it makes me nuts when people view the Amish community as "protected". There's a LOT of incest and abuse that goes on within many of the families, unfortunately.
I'm actually quite surprised that Stephanie's journalism hasn't been seen by a bigger audience? Or even snapped up by a big tv channel. Her research, presentation & editing is 2nd to none.
I can feel bad for what someone went through in their childhood, but that won’t change anything about what I feel for you after you’ve committed these types of crimes. I had a bad childhood myself, but that just makes me want even more to make sure that other people don’t get hurt
@@altarush ... hate crime is a ridiculous statisticians exercise. Murder carries the highest penalty, these extra labels are tiresome legalese... I fear these very rules may increase exactly what they seek to count.😇
After Katrina a bunch of Amish people came down to South MS to help rebuild houses. They helped build a house next to where we moved after we lost everything. When I tell you they are the kindest, most polite and hard working people you will ever meet I mean it. We were so blessed to have them. I will always have a special place in my heart for them and all of the other volunteers who came to help us pick up the pieces after the most horrible time of our lives.
I am from Indiana, and while we aren't disilussioned by some of the wrongs they have been known for. There is a lot of respect for them and there way of life. There is just a general feeling that most of them are doing their best to be good people.
@@ThunderStruck15 is this really the time for that sort of comment? This is a video about a woman from that community tragically dying. It's not the time to get angry at the community whether it has problems or not.
@@ThunderStruck15 then investigate your bs quietly. if you can't have the basic respect for a mourning community (that isn't just her religious community) then you need to step back and go to fucking therapy.
Can you talk about the Maya Millete case. She’s a 39 y/o woman who went missing in Chula Vista, Ca in January 2021. It’s a mind boggling case. She disappeared without a trace. Her husband has been uncooperative with the police and is now not allowing her family to see their 3 children.
There's nothing mind-boggling about that case. It's just a matter of time before the husband gets arrested and charged with murder. I'd say he received help discarding the body from someone else who will be arrested as well. Just a matter of time. Trust me.
@@Grejegando I agree...every bit of this story points to the husband. I have no doubt. One of the biggest claims husbands make after killing their spouses is “ they were having an affair” with the intent of making it believed they ran off. I just hope he confesses soon enough so that the family can find closure.
Same thing happens to Crystal Rogers in bardstown, Kentucky. And what's messed up about that case is her mom has custody of I think four of her five kids. Her boyfriend (who I think killed her) has the fifth and won't let her mom of her other kids see him.
Just read up on this case 3 years later... She hasnt been found but at least her sister has custody of the kids now 😢 not sure why you would allow the paternal grandparents to have them in the first place, since they only let him violate the restraining order towards the kids...but okay...
I work at the Market that she worked at and knew her. They had posters posted here that she was missing. This is too close to home and scares the shit outta me. So heartbreaking. May prayers be with the family and friends.
He knew she was innocent Probably thinking she was a virgin This is definitely a form of profiling And after the story in this much totality (bc we know there’s more) it safe to say he should be confined the rest of his life
Is is so sad what the Amish community has been through in this general area. This and the 2006 Amish school shooting was extremely hard on the community. And the amount of forgiveness they have for these sick individuals because of their faith is incredible. Praying for them 🙏🏻
Ugh the Nickel Mines shooting was horrific 😢 The response from the Amish community was so amazing. They supported his poor wife and forgave him despite the despicable things he did. Such a total mind-blowing thing.
My stomach literally dropped when I heard all the random items he had bought around the time of her murder. You don’t have to use your imagination much to realize what he had probably used them for 😢. He is a sick coward!
I think a coward would fail to do what this individual did and only have fantasies about it.... he has picked an unusual target. His shopping was an interesting selection I grant you!
@Thee Mademoiselle, I know! These killers get lesser sentences than drug dealers/other offenses. We need to get people into the justice system that can make killers get the death penalty.
@@jant7881 I feel like a death sentence is the easy way out. Prison without parole is true punishment. So many people find god in prison and believe that because the Bible says if they repent, they are forgiven, many prisoners believe death would be preferred over spending the rest of their lives in prison. They don't deserve to be put out of their misery, they deserve to spend every single day for decades, never getting a moment of peace, always having to watch their backs and being on high alert, knowing at any minute some inmate could come stab them, could smash their head with a lock in a sock, eating bad food and living a miserable existence. Not to mention, there's been too many cases where we find out decades later, that the wrong person was convicted of a crime. If we just killed all the people convicted of murder, eventually a innocent man would be killed. In fact, like a month ago people were fighting to stop a man from being put to death because there was big questions on if it was actually him who committed murder but the state refused to hear it. I'm not trying to attack you or anything lol, I just worry about increasing the usage of the death penalty for these reasons😊
I totally agree. I know someone who was sexually assaulted by a man who was let out of prison early for rape. It's tragic knowing that had he been kept in prison, he wouldn't of been out to hurt my friend.
This happened right in my town and I used to work with a bunch of Amish woman They are so kind as someone who is openly gay they treated like everyone else I can’t describe how heartbreaking this is
Lancaster County too. My heart is broken for Linda and her family. Her remains were found less than a mile from my home. I prayed daily for a different outcome for Linda as did all of those who followed this since Father's Day June 21 2020.
bad childhood is no excuse. i had one and im father of five boys and husband to a wonderful wife, getting along with my life. never forget the past because it made me what i am. you can only go on and try to learn from everything bad that happened and try to make better on your own kids for that their lifestart become more comfortable. there are a lot tortured souls out there that never get over it and forever stuck in the past. my prayers go out for you all. please dont let your past become your future. search for help. start over new. dont look back.
Same here. A traumatising childhood gives us an opportunity to learn, it's not excuse for acting out or like our parents before us. We should always aim to do better than our parents. That's the whole point.
Same here. I used to work in jails/ prisons and I always got irritated when an inmate would whine "Oh but my childhood...oh my parents/ mom/dad..." whatever. Same but look at the different spots we're in, I accept the responsibility of getting to mine.
My childhood/teenhood was absolute garbage and I don't wish what I went through on my worst enemy, but I would never do something like that. I'm sending love to her family and rest easy Linda
This story was so sad ... I agree with you that he probably chose an Amish girl to be an “easier” target to sexually assault .. ugh the whole community must be so scared from this
Something else to consider that makes it even scarier is that they are pacifists and they wouldn't fight back. I never really thought about what their pacifism entailed until I read a book series about a group of Amish who tried to set up a colony in Mexico in the 1930s (I think?) and they ended up being targeted by violent groups. There was this one scene where this Amish family was waiting in their house one night and they knew there was a really good chance they were about to be attacked. It was in the father's perspective and it just really hit me what pacifism means and how serious they take it. Like he was imagining having to watch his wife and daughters be murdered or worse. Sorry if that ended up being too long; that had a huge impact on me and when I was hearing Stephanie's telling the story of this community, I remembered it and had that same sinking feeling.
@@ActualOphelia I thought the exact same. I hope this time he stays in jail for life and has other inmates scare him as he did Linda. May she rest in peace.
@@StephanieHarlowe Would you consider including the case of Pazuzu Algarad in our Harloween line up? Everyone is doing a great job but I prefer your work on true crime. Thanks🎃
Lol.I did the same to an old friend who was staying with me. This dog though was just just hungry, he ate all the cat food, came in through the front door and left through the back the door. I think I found a happy stray dog. I went back to the living room and my poor friend, was sat on the couch saying ‘ how could you’. You would I would had bought a bear home. Lol. Nope he was just a hungry, nosy little fella.
The mental health problem and a troubled childhood are an explanation, not an excuse. What we truly need to do is protect children and accompany them along their journey when they have been abused. If we focused on that, I am sure there would be way less criminals.
I don’t think everyone has a bad childhood. Certainly everyone has bad things happen but what determines a ‘bad childhood’ ? I agree that regardless it is no excuse to do another person harm though!
@EpsilonGoods I see where you’re coming from but I can’t completely agree with your statement. For the first 12 years of my life my parents both worked full time jobs and we still lived paycheck to paycheck. I had no clue at the time about my parents’ money situation because they never let me & my sisters know that they were barely making it by every month. We didn’t have a lot back then but my sisters and I had the best childhoods! When I was 12 my dad got a good promotion at work and they were able to purchase their first house and we were always able to get things we needed and earn money for things we wanted. Both situations were great for me and my parents were always very present in my life and made sure I was well taken care of. I understand that not all people were as fortunate as I was but I also know tons of people that had great childhoods, all with different financial backgrounds. My personal traumas came later in life, when I was in my 20’s. Anyways, I definitely don’t agree with anybody who uses their childhood as an excuse to hurt or murder people. That’s just a cowardly cop out!
Yeah we cannot excuse sexual assault, murder, anything really bc of a “bad childhood” or “mental health issues,” but we should continue to emphasize the importance of mental health and normalize seeking mental health help.
Thank you for this comment, it reminds me of when tv crime shows say, “oh this person was on [med for some mental illness]” (especially if they’re meds I have taken in the past or do take) or “they were depressed/bipolar/schizophrenic/any other mental illness, it must be them”. It’s such a toxic and harmful mindset. Because it’s such a small percentage and I hate using mental illness as an excuse for anything. Unless the mental health issues is psychopathic tendencies.... It is however interesting that a lot of true crime stories (except those confirmed psychopaths or sociopaths) do have bad childhoods and coped with trauma in a grotesque and terrifying way.
@@rorybrown7803 no psychological disorder on its own is enough to cause a person to commit any crime- every person is different and personal experience always plays an important part in the action. It’s our country that always has to make excuses and blames it on mental illness instead of society and culture. I’m working on my PhD in psychology and it makes me pretty mad that mental illness is always blamed instead of the individuals.
@@shelbyschnoor9369 Oh I completely agree with that. I myself suffer from quite a few mental illnesses, including bipolar type 1. Which is why any crime show that states things like “oh they are bipolar, must be them.” Aggravates me to my core. Or anytime any tries to use mental illness as an excuse for anything that they do (especially murder) just perpetuates the toxic mindset and stigma around mental illness.
Wow thank you for covering this case. I live in Lancaster city, and I use to work with an Amish woman who knew the family of Linda. The community has been deeply hurt and affected by her case. Thank you for covering this and bringing awareness around her case. Truly heartbreaking. Love from Lancaster❤️
I’m only 6 minutes into this video and growing up in Lancaster County, where I dealt a lot with the Amish, I have to agree that they are literally the nicest people out there. I still remember the Amish school house massacre, so part of me is sad and terrified to watch the rest of this video, but I will. Their stories deserve to be heard, so thank you.
I remember when she first went missing, her uncle set up a Facebook page for updates and prayers and it was so heartbreaking. She seemed like such a light, and that pos just put her out.
This happened in my area, about 20 minutes away from where I live. The entire state is just devastated. I used to work closely with Amish and Mennonite women and I couldn't imagine my friends going through this. We're all just heartbroken.
Same. I also work closely with Amish as many of our farmers are Amish. I work down the road where she was buried. I can’t believe I was driving by her every day... too much tragedy has happened here, nickel mines included 😔
I can't believe you did a coffee and crime time on something in my area!!! I lived in ronks and worked in gap when this happened. I remember how everyone joined together to search for her. it's so sad what happened. I'm glad they at least were able to properly put her to rest.
This happened literally right in my town The Amish think that the outside world is evil and that man just solidified that for them So sad Protect the Amish and Mennonite
My husbands family is from there and still has aunts and cousins that live in the area. It's so sad hearing that this has happened my thoughts and prayers go out to the family!
they’re salt of the earth, hard working people who want to be left to their way of life and commoners find a way to ruin it for them every time. i agree with you 100%
I don’t know. I think the way that the Amish community reacted to the massacre of 5 little girls at the Nickel Mines school in 2006 shows that the Amish don’t necessarily characterize everyone and everything outside of them as evil. Many embraced (literally) the family of the murderer, cautioned against characterizing him as evil and beyond forgiveness, helped raise funds to help his widow and children, and some even attended the murderer’s funeral. I don’t think the Amish see the outside world as evil, just that modernity is corrupting and they take Jesus’ words to “be no part of this world” quite literally. But that’s just my observation...don’t come for me : )
The Amish, especially Old Order, believe the "English" world tempts people into vanity and "worldly" behavior (greed, ego, etc.) That's a bit different from evil. I've known a lot of Amish near where I presently live, and they're pretty realistic about the modern world. They aren't under any illusions that they don't live in the same world the rest of us do. They just go to work and mind their own and try to live in peace with their neighbors. And avoid worldliness.
We went to Bird in Hand last month. I hadn’t heard about this case. We went on an Amish buggy ride and the Amish woman who took us, told us about her and showed us where she had lived. She mentioned how it was so awful that her parents had no closure. I’m glad they found Linda for her parent’s sake.
I went on a tour like that in intercourse a couple years ago.. the whole community was just idk.. striking .. they were so calm and peaceful and the gardens!! Omg!! I cannot imagine somebody targeting a young woman from that lifestyle. All these attacks are bad and wrong and heartbreaking but this one is just .. I can’t fathom it.
we just got back from visiting Pennsylvania. The day we got to Bird in Hand was the day after they found Linda's remains. One of the Amish women said the family could finally have some closure.
I went to school with Kelly Camargo She was a 16 year old girl who was murdered in my town almost 30 years ago still no answer, still no justice for her rape murder and dump on a country roadside. Any information you could find maybe you can find the answers and solve or at least bring attention to. Thank you Stephanie for an amazing job, your stories are so well done 👍👍
There's a Amish and Mennonite community not to far where I live in Indiana, I see so many of them at Walmart and The Rulers. I was even asked by a Amish little boy at Walmart why I was in a wheelchair since I'm paralyzed from the waist down and I explained it to him as much as I for someone as young as he was. I even asked the woman that was with him if she could explained it better to him in Dutch since I know a lot of Amish people speak Dutch cause it's their mother tongue and second language she explained it to him and he said he was sorry that I couldn't walk anymore I told him thank you and that he was a little cutie.
Aw, sweet story, and very kind of you to respond at a level that he could understand. He didn’t know that his question was impolite. At that young age, kids just want to know things.
@@666numberofthebeast I've been to Stoll's Lakeview restaurant in Loogootee Indiana, I've also been to Montgomery, Indiana to that restaurant it's a Amish Community.
I'm glad you covered this case. Thank you. I live in Pennsylvania, so with this crime happening so close to home for me, it truly breaks my heart and hits me even harder.
Me too. Harrisburg area. So sad since the Amish I know are very honest, hardworking and peaceful. Saddest case like this in this area since the Amish school murders. Breaks my heart
I live in NJ, just across the Walt Whitman bridge and have family in Camp Hill, PA. Dutch Wonderland was a big trip for our family growing up. Something about the Amish and how hardworking and respectful they all are has always fascinated me. Absolutely devastating for their community listening to this story and knowing the way of life. Heartbreaking. Sending my love and prayers ♥️
Me and my brother had a troubled childhood and neither of us grew up to become murderers. It’s a cop out and it’s absolutely ridiculous. I hope he’s put away for a very long time. I hope and pray Linda’s family gets justice for her
The closest to home story you've ever covered for me. Her remains were found less than a mile from my mom's work- in the small town I grew up in. The hunt for Linda was massive and I'm so thankful they were able to finally give the family some peace. RIP Linda.
I live in this town and the amount of heartbreak we feel is incredible. I’m not in the Amish community but they are a huge part of our lives. Thank you for getting this case to the mainstream media
@EpsilonGoods bruh what?? its not anyone's fault but the abductor's that this happened. im sure that if people knew what was going on they would have stopped it, and im sure Ms Stoltzfoos tried her best to fight back against her murderer.
Of course he should have still been in jail..this has happened over and over!!! And frankly im getting sick of it..that rapes and sexual assaults and child molestation all have jail sentences that are a joke!!! We need to get rid of ppl in jail for drugs and send them to treatment and fill the jails up with rapists and murders!!!
It's like " Oh so you wanna use drugs ????, we're going to lock you up in a small room with a murderer " Not good. Off topic from the story but I had to add my two cents!
He probably new she was pure still and might be why she was targeted. This is very sad. I hope her family can find some closure and peace that she has been found.
What do you mean by pure? I agree it's awful but I'm sure a bit better knowing she has been found, I can't imagine the pain of having a family member going missing but never getting any answers.
My 4yo and 3yo daughters already know you as “the lady from tv” because I can’t get anything done in the house without listening to a case you’re covering😂 I love it because there’s nothing graphic in the videos and since we only speak Finnish and Swedish in the house, so the kids don’t know very much English yet so they won’t get traumatised by the subject material lol. 💕
I totally agree with you about the current patterns going on in court cases where a past trauma is used as an excuse for the behavior or action. It's a really sad state of the world when this is passable. It seems that these days nobody has to take accountability for their actions! I myself had a very trouble/abusive childhood. I myself turn to drugs and alcohol to cope as a teenager and young adult. But I've turned my life around and am in the medical field helping people not hurting people. It angers me when these defenses are used because it makes it seem like anybody who's had that type of a past is capable of horrible things when it's really the complete opposite. Thank you for bringing up!
A local Mennonite woman in Farmington New Mexico was kidnapped and murdered not too long ago. Her body was found in Flagstaff Arizona. Her name is Sasha Krauss. It was absolutely horrible. The whole community came together looking for her, mourning her, and now seeking justice for her.
This happened practically in my backyard.. it was absolutely terrifying, and heart wrenching. It affected everyone in Lancaster County, her posters were up for almost a year everywhere you went.. my heart breaks for her and her family daily.
My daughter used to ask about her every time she seen the poster 😞 If she had been found yet. It was so awful. At least her family has closure now. It's not ok, but closure can at least help them heal.
No childhood trauma is an excuse to kill. I do agree that he chose an Amish girl as an “easy target”, but she’s a human being as well. Twelve years is not enough at all. So heartbreaking 💔
The “I had a bad childhood” is no excuse because what about the people who had great childhoods and go on to commit crime and murder?! Or those who have horrible childhoods become upstanding citizens. My heart and prayers go out to Linda’s family.
The mental health/bad childhood is a tricky one, it's true that a lot of people have experienced that early on (I had a lot of trauma, and did not grow up to be a murderer), but mental illness is not created equal. I think it makes sense that it manifests differently and more severely for some people, who go on to become sociopaths or psychopaths. Mental illness is not a catch all excuse for bad behavior, if anything it's a bigger umbrella term with a lot of things underneath it. So while I don't think that everyone with a mental illness will grow up this way, there are certain illnesses that have more of a chance of leading someone down a bad path if it's not treated. I think it's something that deserves more discussion because there's a LOT of variables with mental health, environment, how you grew up, etc.
That’s a very toxic/ harmful mindset aimed toward mental health. Antisocial Personality Disorder is the mental illness linked to sociopaths and psychopaths. No one should use mental health as an excuse (with the exception of ASPD) for anything. There are so many mental illnesses out there, most people with mental illness don’t go on to do bad things. However most true crime stories I’ve heard lately the murderer did have a bad childhood, it could be a grotesque and horrifying trauma response but it’s also no excuse.
That's a very rational comment. I don't have sympathy for murder or violence, it's true that innocent people need to be safe from others with the capacity to do harm. But it's also true that childhood trauma can alter the brain in random ways. Some people develop more severe issues like antisocial disorders while others do not. It's not all necessarily down to a magical 'natural virtue' alone. But either way, a true tragedy is that mental illness and trauma rarely get the full attention and care they warrant. People are left to 'walk it off' hoping that the effects won't get worse. Then something terrible happen, either to the sufferer or an innocent victim, before it's seriously looked into and all the 'what ifs' come out. It's too late then.
Here in the Netherlands in cases with a psychiatric component usually they will sentence then to prison + TBS, the latter is a facility in which they are locked up with therapy and they work on being able to live in society again. This can take a varying length of time and there are varying levels of security. For instance some can start to go home on weekends on a trial basis. Sometimes this goes wrong but it's better than just only locking them up for the assigned time period.
yes, it's very tricky. trauma can cause us to say we will NEVER go through that thing again or put anyone else through it, or trauma can shut your brain down to the point you're more likely to inflict abuse on others. while a rough childhood isn't an _excuse_ for doing harm to others, it can definitely be a *factor*. bottom line, we must get better at protecting our children. hope you're well ❤
Super headband jealous here! Is it just me or does anyone else have trouble wearing head bands that arent constantly sliding around or slipping off through the day???
This must just have been so scary and heartbreaking for everyone involved. 😭 On a happier note: can we just say Stephanie looks so amazing in this video!
Say it with me class "just because people were shitty or awful to you does not make it okay to hurt or be awful to other people!" Its really not that hard to understand! Omg this story pisses me off
This case happened so close to me, thank you for covering it! It was a scary time for the Amish community in Pennsylvania and now the Amish girls don’t walk alone anymore
The moment you popped on the screen my immediate thought: “my goodness she’s beautiful!” Looking so cute with your matching glasses and adorable headband on that gorgeous hair 🥰
My sister had an amazing childhood just like the rest of my siblings and myself. She has no mental illness and she is a murderer. So I really wonder what the actual cause is for these crimes.
@@juliesuzanne8011 she killed her son. And I'm honestly not sure as to why. Her explanation to the police is she was sick of him and had no other choice. I know this is not true as my mother had been fighting cps for over a year to get him taken and placed with her. (My mom was foster parent) my nephew was only 3 years old and abused for atleast a year and a half before his death. My sister and her girlfriend were both charged with torture murder.
@@liveyourbestlife143 I'm sorry on both accounts 😞. It is clear to see that, due to whatever it is which caused her to commit such a heinous act, you lost both a child you loved and a sibling. I can't fathom the situation, but I wish you peace & strength in coping.
@@cb3514 thank you. This all happened when I was ten years old. We had to move because of the judgement that comes upon the rest of the family even though it was not our fault. It's been 32 years and my heart still breaks.
When I was dating my ex every time I went to visit him in Canada there would always be an Amish family that would get on right before going over the border and I remember one time this little boy was running around the bus station (he looked about 3 ish) and by accident, he ran right into the back of an Amish man, fell on his butt and started to cry. The man and his wife kneeled down and helped him up and gave him a little bag of Famous Amos cookies to stop him from crying and walked him over to his panicking mom who lost sight of him. They were so nice my heart melted.
NO WAY YOU DID A VIDEO ON THIS! I KNEW HER FAMILY GROWING UP AND LIVE RIGHT BY THEM! MY FAMILY FRIEND WRESTLED WITH JUSTO IN HIGH SCHOOL AS WELL! THANK YOU FOR BRINGING AWARENESS TO THIS! I LOVE YOU STEPHANIE!!!!!!
I had just started watching crime weekly and was thinking, damn, Stephanie is a powerhouse giving us so much content then I get this UA-cam notification. We don’t deserve you.
Thank you so much for covering this story. My husband is from Lancaster County and I’ve been hearing about this case from his family. Poor girl! I’m glad that at least now her family can bury her properly.
I appreciate you covering Lindas story. I live in Lancaster and this has been a horrific situation. The Amish community was preyed upon by this monster. Its horrible.
we live minutes from Lancaster, this has been a horrible case to follow. We love and appreciate the amish community and my heart breaks for them having to deal with this tragic loss.
I used to live in lancaster when Linda went missing, followed this story and always seen her missing photos around town. I am very sad this is the outcome. I was hoping she just decided to leave the amish life. Thank you for covering this Stefanie because I feel like she deserved more than the attention her story has got.
I lived in Lancaster Pennsylvania from 1990-1995. The Amish people are the kindest, loving people you will ever have the privilege to meet. They welcome everyone and ask only that the public not take their picture. (Unfortunately most “Englishers” do not honor that request.) I don’t miss much about Lancaster County, except the Amish. They really are wonderful people. God Bless them...🙏🙏🙏
As nice as they seem from the outside, they aren't without their issues. There are just as many issues with trafficking, abuse, rape, and other awful acts within these communities. Linda is just the tip of the iceberg. I recommend the plain people's podcast! It really details these issues from those that have first hand experience.
I was going to make a similar comment. The community looks like “Little House on the Prairie “ from the outside but there are horrific stories of rape, abuse, incest, horrible treatment of those with mental illness or disability within the community. And those are just the ones we know about since so many victims don’t have access to report and/or are taught to mistrust outsiders.
I live in Lancaster and this case is just so shocking. My heart breaks for her family. Thank you for covering this and being so respectful of their community 🥺♥️
They did. As a local, he was seen at the location of her body when they found her. He led them to her. Amish also believe in forgiveness so I’m not surprised her family was okay with the deal. They get to put her to rest and he gets a shorter sentence
We are lucky we have you. You're so respectful, amazing & so genuine. All of these victims are so lucky to have you cover their stories as no one covers the stories like you do. You are truly a gem. You put your heart & soul into your stories. God bless you & thank you so much!
I love all that you said in the 35 minute area! Abuse, neglect and trauma can not help a murderer get out of prison time. It literally perpetuates the cycle. I like this line “what happened to you is not your fault, but properly dealing with it is now your responsibility”. There is a great difference between fault and responsibility. You might be paralyzed from a drunk driver and you have no choice but to move forward in life in the best way possible, what other option is there?
So my massage therapist is just getting into the true crime scene .... and you and That Chapter were the first two I suggested to her!! I went over a couple of your cases during my massage and she was so intrigued! I keep telling people about my Playlist of crime!
perfect time, Stephanie, i have to cook some traditional bread for tommorow cause it is the Orthodox Easther and now i have something to listen to :) .
I watch a lot of true crime and I’ll see others cover cases that interest me.. I’ll then go thru stephanies playlist and see if she has covered that case.. she just has so much more info and insight..
My sister in law told me about Linda’s abduction as it happened just down the road from her house. I’m so devastated for the family and for what she had to endure. There’s no words for this tragedy 😔
She really does. Everything really works for her- the colors (including colorful glasses), makeup, hairstyle, and her hair itself looks nice- down, with curls, and brighter than usual. It all comes together really well, she's a fashion icon in this video!
I live in lancaster county and I have been waiting for someone to cover her case, I am so glad you did. Her missing posters everywhere and the media coverage wasn't that good so I'm happy i got more information !! She seemed like a sweetheart.
I had the worst childhood you can imagine, if anything its made me more mindful NOT to hurt people or make them feel bad. Abuse and MH issues dont make you do bad things it's a choice you make
Thank you for sharing this story. I live in this area where this happened. This really broke the hearts of this community and this family has all our love and support as they know. I hope and pray justice is served.
Seeing her missing person posters in Lancaster and the surrounding area broke my heart. Thank you for covering this story and bringing awareness to the case.
This case has been so near and dear to my heart. I live in the area and spent so much time trying to piece things together. The day Linda was found was so bittersweet. Thank you so much for covering this case and spreading Linda's story.
My childhood was so bad I am in the process of writing a memoir. My brother did not fair so well, and we fully expected him to kill someone (or many people). No matter how many times we had him arrested or tried to get him mental help, he always got off with a slap on the wrist. He was highly intelligent (tested genius) and knew what the authorities wanted to hear. When he held my sister-in-law at gunpoint for 9 hours and was just about to pull the trigger in front of their 5 year old son, the cops knocked on the door because a friend who had been there all day during the beatings and rapes had escaped and ran away to call police. She narrowly escaped with her life, but just under 2 years later at age 46, my brother shut his heart down doing drugs. I am now 46. My brother molested me my whole life, our dad was an alcoholic and abusive, I was raped when I was 13, then my mom was having an affair with my first husband whom she signed for me to marry at just 16. I guess my point is, my brother and I grew up in the same house but the abuse I suffered was much worse than him due to him and my mom abusing me. Mental health issues are NOT an excuse (or even a reason usually) to do things like this. Nope. I learned what not to do and have gone on to lead a beautiful life with my husband and 2 now grown kids. For someone to do this, just as my brother would have been, the person is just a bad person. Otherwise, I should be much worse than my brother was.
I am so sorry you must be extremly strong you suffered more then the most I full of admiration for you. And you're right so many with horrible upbringing and bad mental health and still wouldn't hurt a fly.
Your memoir is pretty common. Except by your own accord you went on to have a beautiful life. The reality is most who have endured the same, or even worse are not able to process the trauma. You must of had serious CBT for years in order to not be triggered. My brother started raping me when I was 8, then my stepdad while my mom encouraged it. Foster care was an entirely different abuse. I’m now 47. CBT twice a week. Antidepressants. Yes I can fake happiness because that’s how you fool yourself into being “normal”. Your the first person I’ve encountered who easily transitioned into a “beautiful life”. Sounds suspect but congrats if you really accomplished it.
@@jamb5057 I am sorry for all you went through. I did not "easily" transition into anything. None of it was easy. I never had therapy of any kind until I was 38 years old. I have spent about 2 years total in Christian counseling, but other than that, none. Don't get me wrong, I still struggle with a lot! My life isn't perfect, however, I have a husband and 2 children who support and love me when I have been completely unloveable. I also spent over 30 years of my life addicted to narcotics. That was my coping mechanism. It wasn't until I had multiple strokes and watched both my dad and brother die of addiction-related diseases that I realized I would be the next to go. I knew if I continued on that path, I wouldn't make it another 5 years. I was determined not to go out like them. I finally opened up to my husband and sought help through Celebrate Recovery. Yes, I relapsed while going through the program. However, the first week of February 2021, I was able to claim 3 years clean from narcotics. None of my story should sound suspect, everyone is different and I can only tell so much in a UA-cam chat. Thus the memoir I am working on. It will tell a LOT more. It hasn't been easy and I still deal with things today that stem from all of that. Things that do affect my marriage and my life. But I have amazing support and love from people and I am a person of strong faith. I can only attribute where I am today to God and my husband and kids. I hope you continue to heal from the trauma you endured, and I am truly sorry for all you have gone through.
@@jamb5057 I don’t want to be rude but as a survivor myself I have to ask… how dare you? It is extremely sad to see a survivor bash another one and QUESTION their story and even worse to ASSUME about their life! It’s extremely sad and I recommend finding a different therapist because sadly it’s not working out babe. I am truly sorry for what you’ve been through but it is not okay to question, assume, and to minimize someone else’s trauma. “Your memoir is pretty common”, again WHAT!? One has to learn how to live with their demons. I have severe PTSD from a lot of childhood traumas and at night I have to take pills to sleep or else I’d relive everything. I learned through therapy how to use my trauma and turn it into STRENGTH 😊. How to make “friends” with the past and use it as an energy source to keep going. I have horrible days, sure, I’m not “cured” but I don’t let my trauma DEFINE WHO I AM and WHERE IM GOING. Neither do I use it to MINIMIZE fellow survivors! I invite you to be more respectful specially if you went through trauma yourself and I invite you to have more empathy love❤️. I hope you are able to work through the pain and turn it into fuel to live life and to smile, and to not let your trauma define who you are!✨
@@AmandaOgletree I’d like to tell you that I admire you and please update me on your memoir, I am 100% interested in reading it 🥺❤️!! You’re amazing and I hope your life is full of happiness next to your wonderful family.
Can you talk about the Kristin Smart case? There’s been new developments this week after 25 years, and it’s such a sad situation considering how bad the police fumbled the ball on it. The podcast Your Own Backyard goes so in depth with research regarding Kristin’s disappearance, highly recommend!!!
Thank you for detailing this tragic case. I live about an hour and a half away from where this happened. I love visiting that area. It's so nice and the Amish people are lovely. So very sad for this poor girl and her family.
I was in foster care, adopted at 12, severely abused by my adoptive parents, and technically homeless at 19.
I am currently living a normal life as a law abiding citizen. I have no desire to cause physical harm to others. I don’t care what kind of childhood you have. You either make the choice to break the cycle or you make the choice to lash out at others. It’s a choice.
It's heart breaking to know what was done to you/what you were put through. Nevertheless, It's good to hear you are doing well. You're a strong person. Wishing all the best.
God Bless you for not hurting others because you hurt. May you heal from the pain that has be inflicted upon you. Love, strength and God Blessings to you.
It can be a roll of the dice. Sometimes people receive profound traumatic brain injuries from being beaten on the head, and that tbi alters their personality and severely impairs decision making ability and impulse control.
Please don't judge others by your own rule. I'm not dismissing what you have been through, but not everyone recovers the same. How people handle trauma is not always a "choice".
@@AllTheCloudsArePink thank you so much for pointing that out!! I’ve had a traumatic childhood, too, behaved like a total psycho for many years (didn’t kill or rape someone tho) and it was actually more the lucky coincidence of some very close friends to kinda force me into therapy in my early 20s. Eventually I cooperated and was able to overcome my past and myself, if you will.
For sometime I started to think also it was all my own choice to be better and so on, but essentially it was not a choice but the lucky coincidence of a good support network, the lucky coincidence of not being „damaged beyond repair“ and my personal inclination not to willingly disappoint the few people I build up a real love for. God knows what I would have become if I hadn’t had my friends back then.
I had an awful childhood. My teen years are still a nightmare to me, at 45. Yet, all that did was make me wanna ensure my kids and OTHER PEOPLE don't HAVE to go through that hell. I could never hurt someone because I was hurt by others. I am so glad my soul, my humanity, remained intact, despite my trauma.
I can relate completely! Unfortunately, many people don't become better as a result of their pain, but rather perpetuate it...
We are very fortunate that we are strong and that we want to break the cycle. I believe the deciding factor is at our core to begin with.
That said, this story is sad and there is NO EXCUSE for what this man has done.
Tragic
Me too. A traumatising childhood gives us an opportunity to learn, it's not excuse for acting that way.
Yes, yes, and yes. Having a bad childhood is not an excuse to harm others. I went through hell and back i suffer from major depression disorder, ptsd and generalized anxiety; yes im the complete package and I never in a million years would think of committing such heinous crimes. In fact all that shit from my past only makes me more weak and empathetic towards others. Bad childhood is only a coward excuse.
The people in your life are lucky to know you, and I really hope you find peace.
❤️ It makes me so sad that some people had awful childhoods - but it’s so great that you were strong and able to turn that around. I hope you’re having a wonderful life now. No one deserves a horrible life - especially in childhood. 💕🌸
What makes this story so much more upsetting is, the Amish community's whole way of life is to protect them from the evils of the world. But the evil of the world came to find them.
RIP sweet Linda.
I was thinking the same thing. Not that anyone deserves to be a victim of crime, but there's a tragedy in a community that secludes themselves to avoid our evil society being targeted bc they are vulnerable.
Heartbreaking
@Romeo wtf
I live among the Amish in Lancaster County where poor Linda was abducted. The Amish are NOT sheltered from the real world and have smart phones, computers and other forms of technology. They are not the fairy tale community so many make them out to be. Please, I'm not taking away from the horrific crime this young woman sustained. But it makes me nuts when people view the Amish community as "protected". There's a LOT of incest and abuse that goes on within many of the families, unfortunately.
@@Patricia-413 yes! A ton of child abuse, pedophilia, incest and sexual abuse to children and animals!
I'm actually quite surprised that Stephanie's journalism hasn't been seen by a bigger audience? Or even snapped up by a big tv channel.
Her research, presentation & editing is 2nd to none.
She was featured in the Elisa lamb story on Cecil hotel on Netflix! I always think this. Her presentations are awesome!
Completely agree. Exceptional in all areas.
Her and Kimbyrleigha... absolutely exceptional...
She is too opinionated and subjective. I believe this holds her back. It certainly is extremely annoying.
@@maryl1735did anyone ask you? Why do you even watch then?
I can feel bad for what someone went through in their childhood, but that won’t change anything about what I feel for you after you’ve committed these types of crimes. I had a bad childhood myself, but that just makes me want even more to make sure that other people don’t get hurt
What a monster. He preyed on the Amish women until he finally found someone. My heart goes out to her family and community
I hope they charged him with a hate crime against a particular religion.
@@altarush ... hate crime is a ridiculous statisticians exercise. Murder carries the highest penalty, these extra labels are tiresome legalese... I fear these very rules may increase exactly what they seek to count.😇
Heartbreaking for this girl, her family and the whole community.
Totally agree! Poor little Dove 💗
So wrong, so frustrating, so very sad. Rest in Peace, sweet lady.
After Katrina a bunch of Amish people came down to South MS to help rebuild houses. They helped build a house next to where we moved after we lost everything. When I tell you they are the kindest, most polite and hard working people you will ever meet I mean it. We were so blessed to have them. I will always have a special place in my heart for them and all of the other volunteers who came to help us pick up the pieces after the most horrible time of our lives.
Oh wow this is amazing!!! I always knew they were hard working but it never occurred to me that they do interact with the outside world a lot.
I am from Indiana, and while we aren't disilussioned by some of the wrongs they have been known for. There is a lot of respect for them and there way of life. There is just a general feeling that most of them are doing their best to be good people.
As a Pennsylvanian I am sicken by this. Pennsylvanians love the Amish community, and I hope Linda’s family can find some peace.
Why? Do they like the animal abuse? The child abuse? Physical? Sexual? What part of the Amish cult do Pennsylvanians love?
@@ThunderStruck15 is this really the time for that sort of comment? This is a video about a woman from that community tragically dying. It's not the time to get angry at the community whether it has problems or not.
@@en5799 it is when her community most likely led to her death
@@ThunderStruck15 then investigate your bs quietly. if you can't have the basic respect for a mourning community (that isn't just her religious community) then you need to step back and go to fucking therapy.
@@ThunderStruck15 you are seriously uneducated with some serious issues obviously. I wouldn't throw stones if I were you.
Can you talk about the Maya Millete case. She’s a 39 y/o woman who went missing in Chula Vista, Ca in January 2021. It’s a mind boggling case. She disappeared without a trace. Her husband has been uncooperative with the police and is now not allowing her family to see their 3 children.
There's nothing mind-boggling about that case. It's just a matter of time before the husband gets arrested and charged with murder. I'd say he received help discarding the body from someone else who will be arrested as well. Just a matter of time. Trust me.
@@Grejegando I agree...every bit of this story points to the husband. I have no doubt. One of the biggest claims husbands make after killing their spouses is “ they were having an affair” with the intent of making it believed they ran off. I just hope he confesses soon enough so that the family can find closure.
Same thing happens to Crystal Rogers in bardstown, Kentucky. And what's messed up about that case is her mom has custody of I think four of her five kids. Her boyfriend (who I think killed her) has the fifth and won't let her mom of her other kids see him.
@@Grejegando It needs to happen before he kills the kids!
Just read up on this case 3 years later... She hasnt been found but at least her sister has custody of the kids now 😢 not sure why you would allow the paternal grandparents to have them in the first place, since they only let him violate the restraining order towards the kids...but okay...
I work at the Market that she worked at and knew her. They had posters posted here that she was missing. This is too close to home and scares the shit outta me. So heartbreaking. May prayers be with the family and friends.
May her memory be a blessing, I'm so sorry for your and the community's loss.
I recognized her face from Missing posters at the Dutch Country Market in Flemington and I'm wondering if this is where she worked
I'm so sorry for this awful tragic death of an innocent young lady by an evil monster.
@@sarahd9272 oh man... I lived in Flemington (well Hopewell) until ‘06... I didn’t realize it was this close
This feels like a violation of innocence. Truly depraved. All abductions are and Linda and her family did not deserve it.
He knew she was innocent
Probably thinking she was a virgin
This is definitely a form of profiling
And after the story in this much totality (bc we know there’s more) it safe to say he should be confined the rest of his life
As a Pennsylvanian, thank you for speaking on this case ❤️ I feel so horribly for Linda, her family, and the whole Amish community.
HARRISBURG/HERSHEY, PA HERE.
@@shannonmarie9254 ME TOO?! Omg!!
This case is so sad I remember seeing her posters everywhere 😞
Klingerstown/Shamokin here!
@@chandlerlewis1946 CHANDLER hello angel
Is is so sad what the Amish community has been through in this general area. This and the 2006 Amish school shooting was extremely hard on the community. And the amount of forgiveness they have for these sick individuals because of their faith is incredible. Praying for them 🙏🏻
Ugh the Nickel Mines shooting was horrific 😢 The response from the Amish community was so amazing. They supported his poor wife and forgave him despite the despicable things he did. Such a total mind-blowing thing.
My stomach literally dropped when I heard all the random items he had bought around the time of her murder. You don’t have to use your imagination much to realize what he had probably used them for 😢. He is a sick coward!
I think a coward would fail to do what this individual did and only have fantasies about it.... he has picked an unusual target. His shopping was an interesting selection I grant you!
12 years???????? Excuuuuuuse me 😟...that is ridiculous he should have served his full sentence the first time.
Hey girly! funny seeing you here (subscriber)
@Thee Mademoiselle, I know! These killers get lesser sentences than drug dealers/other offenses. We need to get people into the justice system that can make killers get the death penalty.
@@jant7881 I feel like a death sentence is the easy way out. Prison without parole is true punishment. So many people find god in prison and believe that because the Bible says if they repent, they are forgiven, many prisoners believe death would be preferred over spending the rest of their lives in prison. They don't deserve to be put out of their misery, they deserve to spend every single day for decades, never getting a moment of peace, always having to watch their backs and being on high alert, knowing at any minute some inmate could come stab them, could smash their head with a lock in a sock, eating bad food and living a miserable existence. Not to mention, there's been too many cases where we find out decades later, that the wrong person was convicted of a crime. If we just killed all the people convicted of murder, eventually a innocent man would be killed. In fact, like a month ago people were fighting to stop a man from being put to death because there was big questions on if it was actually him who committed murder but the state refused to hear it. I'm not trying to attack you or anything lol, I just worry about increasing the usage of the death penalty for these reasons😊
I totally agree. I know someone who was sexually assaulted by a man who was let out of prison early for rape. It's tragic knowing that had he been kept in prison, he wouldn't of been out to hurt my friend.
@@Juwlz people on death row most often serve their life out. Death penalty will be federally abolished soon anyway.
This happened right in my town and I used to work with a bunch of Amish woman
They are so kind as someone who is openly gay they treated like everyone else
I can’t describe how heartbreaking this is
I live in Lancaster too
Lancaster here too.
Lancaster County too. My heart is broken for Linda and her family. Her remains were found less than a mile from my home. I prayed daily for a different outcome for Linda as did all of those who followed this since Father's Day June 21 2020.
I grew up in Lancaster too!
Are you really clapping them for not being homophobic? Thats a low bar
bad childhood is no excuse. i had one and im father of five boys and husband to a wonderful wife, getting along with my life. never forget the past because it made me what i am. you can only go on and try to learn from everything bad that happened and try to make better on your own kids for that their lifestart become more comfortable. there are a lot tortured souls out there that never get over it and forever stuck in the past. my prayers go out for you all. please dont let your past become your future. search for help. start over new. dont look back.
Zedong Thien: I did as well,& you're absolutely right! It's a CHOICE.
Same here. A traumatising childhood gives us an opportunity to learn, it's not excuse for acting out or like our parents before us. We should always aim to do better than our parents. That's the whole point.
Same here. I used to work in jails/ prisons and I always got irritated when an inmate would whine "Oh but my childhood...oh my parents/ mom/dad..." whatever. Same but look at the different spots we're in, I accept the responsibility of getting to mine.
@@MorbidKat Also how does being mean make you feel better. It doesn't.
@@TheInvestiGatorYT I'm never mean. Those thoughts are not said out loud to inmates. That's wholly unprofessional!
My childhood/teenhood was absolute garbage and I don't wish what I went through on my worst enemy, but I would never do something like that. I'm sending love to her family and rest easy Linda
Lots of people have troubled childhoods but they don't kill people. She was very vulnerable. He was looking for that in his victims.
This story was so sad ... I agree with you that he probably chose an Amish girl to be an “easier” target to sexually assault .. ugh the whole community must be so scared from this
Oh they lived in terror for almost a year
Something else to consider that makes it even scarier is that they are pacifists and they wouldn't fight back. I never really thought about what their pacifism entailed until I read a book series about a group of Amish who tried to set up a colony in Mexico in the 1930s (I think?) and they ended up being targeted by violent groups. There was this one scene where this Amish family was waiting in their house one night and they knew there was a really good chance they were about to be attacked. It was in the father's perspective and it just really hit me what pacifism means and how serious they take it. Like he was imagining having to watch his wife and daughters be murdered or worse.
Sorry if that ended up being too long; that had a huge impact on me and when I was hearing Stephanie's telling the story of this community, I remembered it and had that same sinking feeling.
Probably also because, being amish, the chance that she's still a virgin is (perceived to be) much bigger than a non-amish girl...
@@ActualOphelia That crossed my mind, too. 🤦🏼♀️
@@ActualOphelia I thought the exact same. I hope this time he stays in jail for life and has other inmates scare him as he did Linda. May she rest in peace.
Her father built the kitchen cabinets in my parents house... such a nice family. Absolutely devastating.
Aww 🥺 Breaks my heart.
How sad 😞 that this poor girl had to go through this. I’m sure you were in shock after knowing it was his daughter. 🥺
@@patriciaelbadry6789 yes it was horrible to learn of this. I cannot imagine what this poor family has gone through. They are salt of the earth.
Pray for them🙏
Do you know anyone who can build a large shed/storage? I live in PA.
On a more positive note, this outfit/glasses combo is giving me life.
Thank you!!
Agree
@@StephanieHarlowe Would you consider including the case of Pazuzu Algarad in our Harloween line up? Everyone is doing a great job but I prefer your work on true crime. Thanks🎃
Big same!
“He had a bad childhood” so I, but the worst thing I’ve ever done is bring home a dog without asking my wife first.
Lol.I did the same to an old friend who was staying with me. This dog though was just just hungry, he ate all the cat food, came in through the front door and left through the back the door. I think I found a happy stray dog. I went back to the living room and my poor friend, was sat on the couch saying ‘ how could you’. You would I would had bought a bear home. Lol. Nope he was just a hungry, nosy little fella.
The mental health problem and a troubled childhood are an explanation, not an excuse. What we truly need to do is protect children and accompany them along their journey when they have been abused. If we focused on that, I am sure there would be way less criminals.
the good old ' i had a bad childhood' Didn't we all ffs! we ALL have a story
Exactly!
Exactly! Everyone has a story
I don’t think everyone has a bad childhood. Certainly everyone has bad things happen but what determines a ‘bad childhood’ ? I agree that regardless it is no excuse to do another person harm though!
excuses for not taking accountability for his actions 🤦🏻♀️
@EpsilonGoods I see where you’re coming from but I can’t completely agree with your statement. For the first 12 years of my life my parents both worked full time jobs and we still lived paycheck to paycheck. I had no clue at the time about my parents’ money situation because they never let me & my sisters know that they were barely making it by every month. We didn’t have a lot back then but my sisters and I had the best childhoods! When I was 12 my dad got a good promotion at work and they were able to purchase their first house and we were always able to get things we needed and earn money for things we wanted. Both situations were great for me and my parents were always very present in my life and made sure I was well taken care of. I understand that not all people were as fortunate as I was but I also know tons of people that had great childhoods, all with different financial backgrounds. My personal traumas came later in life, when I was in my 20’s. Anyways, I definitely don’t agree with anybody who uses their childhood as an excuse to hurt or murder people. That’s just a cowardly cop out!
Yeah we cannot excuse sexual assault, murder, anything really bc of a “bad childhood” or “mental health issues,” but we should continue to emphasize the importance of mental health and normalize seeking mental health help.
Thank you for this comment, it reminds me of when tv crime shows say, “oh this person was on [med for some mental illness]” (especially if they’re meds I have taken in the past or do take) or “they were depressed/bipolar/schizophrenic/any other mental illness, it must be them”. It’s such a toxic and harmful mindset. Because it’s such a small percentage and I hate using mental illness as an excuse for anything.
Unless the mental health issues is psychopathic tendencies....
It is however interesting that a lot of true crime stories (except those confirmed psychopaths or sociopaths) do have bad childhoods and coped with trauma in a grotesque and terrifying way.
@@rorybrown7803 no psychological disorder on its own is enough to cause a person to commit any crime- every person is different and personal experience always plays an important part in the action. It’s our country that always has to make excuses and blames it on mental illness instead of society and culture. I’m working on my PhD in psychology and it makes me pretty mad that mental illness is always blamed instead of the individuals.
@@shelbyschnoor9369 Oh I completely agree with that. I myself suffer from quite a few mental illnesses, including bipolar type 1. Which is why any crime show that states things like “oh they are bipolar, must be them.” Aggravates me to my core.
Or anytime any tries to use mental illness as an excuse for anything that they do (especially murder) just perpetuates the toxic mindset and stigma around mental illness.
@@rorybrown7803 completely agree
Steph bouncing because she’s happy about coffee is such a mood
Yes! I caught that and was just instant- excited for her! Stephanie is the cutest little thing lol we should all hop around for coffee time
Being able to drink coffee again after being sick for a while is THE GREATEST!
Not to mention that she's decked out in green, the mug was green, and so was the label for the creamer lol
I’m lucky if I even get to drink my coffee warm in the morning lol
@@mommybat2941 just do what I do and wake up super early before anyone else and sip coffee alone in the dark watching UA-cam videos at 4am
Wow thank you for covering this case. I live in Lancaster city, and I use to work with an Amish woman who knew the family of Linda. The community has been deeply hurt and affected by her case. Thank you for covering this and bringing awareness around her case. Truly heartbreaking.
Love from Lancaster❤️
I’m only 6 minutes into this video and growing up in Lancaster County, where I dealt a lot with the Amish, I have to agree that they are literally the nicest people out there. I still remember the Amish school house massacre, so part of me is sad and terrified to watch the rest of this video, but I will. Their stories deserve to be heard, so thank you.
I remember when she first went missing, her uncle set up a Facebook page for updates and prayers and it was so heartbreaking. She seemed like such a light, and that pos just put her out.
This happened in my area, about 20 minutes away from where I live. The entire state is just devastated. I used to work closely with Amish and Mennonite women and I couldn't imagine my friends going through this. We're all just heartbroken.
It is such a sad story. I live just outside Lancaster, and this one hit me hard too. Just can't feel safe anywhere, no matter who you are.
Same. I also work closely with Amish as many of our farmers are Amish. I work down the road where she was buried. I can’t believe I was driving by her every day... too much tragedy has happened here, nickel mines included 😔
My sister and her husband live in bird in hand as well, it definitely has completely rocked everyone!
The story is so sad and heartbreaking. He found the perfect victim....an innocent trusting young lady. Rest in peace and fly high.
Thank you Stephanie. I live in the area and could not believe that such a beautiful summer day could turn so horrific for this sweet young lady.
I can't believe you did a coffee and crime time on something in my area!!! I lived in ronks and worked in gap when this happened. I remember how everyone joined together to search for her. it's so sad what happened. I'm glad they at least were able to properly put her to rest.
This happened literally right in my town
The Amish think that the outside world is evil and that man just solidified that for them
So sad
Protect the Amish and Mennonite
My husbands family is from there and still has aunts and cousins that live in the area. It's so sad hearing that this has happened my thoughts and prayers go out to the family!
they’re salt of the earth, hard working people who want to be left to their way of life and commoners find a way to ruin it for them every time. i agree with you 100%
I don’t know. I think the way that the Amish community reacted to the massacre of 5 little girls at the Nickel Mines school in 2006 shows that the Amish don’t necessarily characterize everyone and everything outside of them as evil. Many embraced (literally) the family of the murderer, cautioned against characterizing him as evil and beyond forgiveness, helped raise funds to help his widow and children, and some even attended the murderer’s funeral. I don’t think the Amish see the outside world as evil, just that modernity is corrupting and they take Jesus’ words to “be no part of this world” quite literally. But that’s just my observation...don’t come for me : )
The Amish, especially Old Order, believe the "English" world tempts people into vanity and "worldly" behavior (greed, ego, etc.) That's a bit different from evil. I've known a lot of Amish near where I presently live, and they're pretty realistic about the modern world. They aren't under any illusions that they don't live in the same world the rest of us do. They just go to work and mind their own and try to live in peace with their neighbors.
And avoid worldliness.
@@MelissaThompson432 listen they keep themselves separate cus they think we are sinful or ..... evil. Sorry I used the wrong synonym?
We went to Bird in Hand last month. I hadn’t heard about this case. We went on an Amish buggy ride and the Amish woman who took us, told us about her and showed us where she had lived. She mentioned how it was so awful that her parents had no closure. I’m glad they found Linda for her parent’s sake.
I went on a tour like that in intercourse a couple years ago.. the whole community was just idk.. striking .. they were so calm and peaceful and the gardens!! Omg!! I cannot imagine somebody targeting a young woman from that lifestyle. All these attacks are bad and wrong and heartbreaking but this one is just .. I can’t fathom it.
we just got back from visiting Pennsylvania. The day we got to Bird in Hand was the day after they found Linda's remains. One of the Amish women said the family could finally have some closure.
Stephanie seems like she wants to dance with someone who loves her today. Jk like the headband
What
Cause when the night falls, my lonley heart calls
🤣🤣 I'm so glad someone else thought of this too!! Absolutely J'ADORE this look!!!
Old school Whitney Houston tunes, LOVE!! ❤️ Wish she was still with us!
@@AmandaLeighS a reference to a Whitney Houston music video where she is wearing a cute headband.
I went to school with Kelly Camargo She was a 16 year old girl who was murdered in my town almost 30 years ago still no answer, still no justice for her rape murder and dump on a country roadside. Any information you could find maybe you can find the answers and solve or at least bring attention to. Thank you Stephanie for an amazing job, your stories are so well done 👍👍
100% , I had a crap childhood. Taking responsibility and having accountability is becoming a problem now days.
There's a Amish and Mennonite community not to far where I live in Indiana, I see so many of them at Walmart and The Rulers. I was even asked by a Amish little boy at Walmart why I was in a wheelchair since I'm paralyzed from the waist down and I explained it to him as much as I for someone as young as he was. I even asked the woman that was with him if she could explained it better to him in Dutch since I know a lot of Amish people speak Dutch cause it's their mother tongue and second language she explained it to him and he said he was sorry that I couldn't walk anymore I told him thank you and that he was a little cutie.
Aw, sweet story, and very kind of you to respond at a level that he could understand. He didn’t know that his question was impolite. At that young age, kids just want to know things.
Awe what a sweet story! You are a darling :) old-faith groups like Amish, should be protected. It’s terrible to see them being prayed on. :(
Random....
Shawna have you ever been to rise and roll bakery in cedar lake or schereville in Indiana?
Its a Amish bakery with the best donuts .
@@666numberofthebeast I've been to Stoll's Lakeview restaurant in Loogootee Indiana, I've also been to Montgomery, Indiana to that restaurant it's a Amish Community.
@@shawnabrinkley4821 that is far from me, 4 hours .
I go to lake county Indiana I live in Chicago but stay in st John every now and then .
I had a very troubled childhood. It made me fiercely protective! I can't stand to see people hurt much less be the one who hurts them.
I'm glad you covered this case. Thank you. I live in Pennsylvania, so with this crime happening so close to home for me, it truly breaks my heart and hits me even harder.
I’m in Pennsylvania too and close to where this happened
Me too. I'm glad they finally found her.
HARRISBURG/HERSHEY, PA HERE. So very sad. 💔
Me too. Harrisburg area. So sad since the Amish I know are very honest, hardworking and peaceful. Saddest case like this in this area since the Amish school murders. Breaks my heart
I live in NJ, just across the Walt Whitman bridge and have family in Camp Hill, PA. Dutch Wonderland was a big trip for our family growing up. Something about the Amish and how hardworking and respectful they all are has always fascinated me. Absolutely devastating for their community listening to this story and knowing the way of life. Heartbreaking. Sending my love and prayers ♥️
Me and my brother had a troubled childhood and neither of us grew up to become murderers. It’s a cop out and it’s absolutely ridiculous. I hope he’s put away for a very long time. I hope and pray Linda’s family gets justice for her
thank you for covering this case. happened right in my backyard and its been haunting me ever since i saw her face on the missing posters.
The closest to home story you've ever covered for me. Her remains were found less than a mile from my mom's work- in the small town I grew up in. The hunt for Linda was massive and I'm so thankful they were able to finally give the family some peace. RIP Linda.
This is the epitome of "they were just minding their own business". Prayers for her family ❤️
I live in this town and the amount of heartbreak we feel is incredible. I’m not in the Amish community but they are a huge part of our lives. Thank you for getting this case to the mainstream media
@EpsilonGoods bruh what?? its not anyone's fault but the abductor's that this happened. im sure that if people knew what was going on they would have stopped it, and im sure Ms Stoltzfoos tried her best to fight back against her murderer.
I used to live in Lancaster County. It’s always interesting to hear the familiar towns.
I live not far from the Lancaster area and was horrified when this happened. Thank you for doing this case
RIP Linda❤️ Nobody deserves to go through this but it hits different since she truly was so innocent and trusting🥺
Of course he should have still been in jail..this has happened over and over!!! And frankly im getting sick of it..that rapes and sexual assaults and child molestation all have jail sentences that are a joke!!! We need to get rid of ppl in jail for drugs and send them to treatment and fill the jails up with rapists and murders!!!
I so agree with you about treatment for drug cases and killers locked up forever.
It's like " Oh so you wanna use drugs ????, we're going to lock you up in a small room with a murderer " Not good. Off topic from the story but I had to add my two cents!
He probably new she was pure still and might be why she was targeted. This is very sad. I hope her family can find some closure and peace that she has been found.
What do you mean by pure?
I agree it's awful but I'm sure a bit better knowing she has been found, I can't imagine the pain of having a family member going missing but never getting any answers.
@@NotAnotherKuromi nice way of saying virginity
@@NotAnotherKuromi Amish women usually save themselves for marriage. Maybe be why he specifically targeted a young Amish woman. Just a guess.
@@NotAnotherKuromi 2w
Fetishized female virginity is a big factor in sex trafficking and child sexual abuse. Just my opinion. Don’t come for me LOL
My 4yo and 3yo daughters already know you as “the lady from tv” because I can’t get anything done in the house without listening to a case you’re covering😂 I love it because there’s nothing graphic in the videos and since we only speak Finnish and Swedish in the house, so the kids don’t know very much English yet so they won’t get traumatised by the subject material lol. 💕
I totally agree with you about the current patterns going on in court cases where a past trauma is used as an excuse for the behavior or action. It's a really sad state of the world when this is passable. It seems that these days nobody has to take accountability for their actions! I myself had a very trouble/abusive childhood. I myself turn to drugs and alcohol to cope as a teenager and young adult. But I've turned my life around and am in the medical field helping people not hurting people. It angers me when these defenses are used because it makes it seem like anybody who's had that type of a past is capable of horrible things when it's really the complete opposite. Thank you for bringing up!
A local Mennonite woman in Farmington New Mexico was kidnapped and murdered not too long ago. Her body was found in Flagstaff Arizona. Her name is Sasha Krauss. It was absolutely horrible. The whole community came together looking for her, mourning her, and now seeking justice for her.
So sad! Is this case unsolved?
Prayers for JUSTICE!💔💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏🙏
They ended up catching the guy. He took her to Arizona and shot her. It’s kind of ongoing right now. I’d love to see it covered here!
This happened practically in my backyard.. it was absolutely terrifying, and heart wrenching. It affected everyone in Lancaster County, her posters were up for almost a year everywhere you went.. my heart breaks for her and her family daily.
My daughter used to ask about her every time she seen the poster 😞 If she had been found yet. It was so awful. At least her family has closure now. It's not ok, but closure can at least help them heal.
No childhood trauma is an excuse to kill. I do agree that he chose an Amish girl as an “easy target”, but she’s a human being as well. Twelve years is not enough at all. So heartbreaking 💔
The “I had a bad childhood” is no excuse because what about the people who had great childhoods and go on to commit crime and murder?! Or those who have horrible childhoods become upstanding citizens. My heart and prayers go out to Linda’s family.
It is wild how many true crime stories there are where the murderer “had a bad childhood” that being said I agree it’s no excuse.
Yes many have had a bad childhood. But it made me think of Joel Guy Jr. who killed his parents and he had a good childhood.
The mental health/bad childhood is a tricky one, it's true that a lot of people have experienced that early on (I had a lot of trauma, and did not grow up to be a murderer), but mental illness is not created equal. I think it makes sense that it manifests differently and more severely for some people, who go on to become sociopaths or psychopaths. Mental illness is not a catch all excuse for bad behavior, if anything it's a bigger umbrella term with a lot of things underneath it. So while I don't think that everyone with a mental illness will grow up this way, there are certain illnesses that have more of a chance of leading someone down a bad path if it's not treated. I think it's something that deserves more discussion because there's a LOT of variables with mental health, environment, how you grew up, etc.
That’s a very toxic/ harmful mindset aimed toward mental health. Antisocial Personality Disorder is the mental illness linked to sociopaths and psychopaths. No one should use mental health as an excuse (with the exception of ASPD) for anything. There are so many mental illnesses out there, most people with mental illness don’t go on to do bad things.
However most true crime stories I’ve heard lately the murderer did have a bad childhood, it could be a grotesque and horrifying trauma response but it’s also no excuse.
That's a very rational comment. I don't have sympathy for murder or violence, it's true that innocent people need to be safe from others with the capacity to do harm. But it's also true that childhood trauma can alter the brain in random ways. Some people develop more severe issues like antisocial disorders while others do not. It's not all necessarily down to a magical 'natural virtue' alone. But either way, a true tragedy is that mental illness and trauma rarely get the full attention and care they warrant. People are left to 'walk it off' hoping that the effects won't get worse. Then something terrible happen, either to the sufferer or an innocent victim, before it's seriously looked into and all the 'what ifs' come out. It's too late then.
Here in the Netherlands in cases with a psychiatric component usually they will sentence then to prison + TBS, the latter is a facility in which they are locked up with therapy and they work on being able to live in society again. This can take a varying length of time and there are varying levels of security. For instance some can start to go home on weekends on a trial basis. Sometimes this goes wrong but it's better than just only locking them up for the assigned time period.
yes, it's very tricky. trauma can cause us to say we will NEVER go through that thing again or put anyone else through it, or trauma can shut your brain down to the point you're more likely to inflict abuse on others.
while a rough childhood isn't an _excuse_ for doing harm to others, it can definitely be a *factor*. bottom line, we must get better at protecting our children. hope you're well ❤
i agree.
You are hands down my absolute favorite creator and your style is a DREAM. 🥰
I swear I can’t get anything done without watching your videos anymore!
Thank you so much 🤗
Super headband jealous here! Is it just me or does anyone else have trouble wearing head bands that arent constantly sliding around or slipping off through the day???
Right?
I'm constantly having to fix mine
I love how she looks in a headband, and have always tried to pull it off.. I look like an old lady trying to look young! And, they slide off too! Lol
I got these on Amazon for Bella, but I liked them so much I started wearing them because they are comfortable and they don't slide off!
The pop right off my round head lol
This must just have been so scary and heartbreaking for everyone involved. 😭
On a happier note: can we just say Stephanie looks so amazing in this video!
She does but I wish she’d smile a bit at the beginning. She looks stressed all the time. Working too hard or sad stories getting to her?
She always looks gorgeous 😊
Say it with me class "just because people were shitty or awful to you does not make it okay to hurt or be awful to other people!" Its really not that hard to understand! Omg this story pisses me off
This case happened so close to me, thank you for covering it! It was a scary time for the Amish community in Pennsylvania and now the Amish girls don’t walk alone anymore
The moment you popped on the screen my immediate thought: “my goodness she’s beautiful!” Looking so cute with your matching glasses and adorable headband on that gorgeous hair 🥰
Yes! 💯
My sister had an amazing childhood just like the rest of my siblings and myself. She has no mental illness and she is a murderer. So I really wonder what the actual cause is for these crimes.
Sometimes we just don't know, and that is what is frustrating. There's no way to understand.
Very interesting! Thanks for sharing. Do you mind me asking who she killed and why?
@@juliesuzanne8011 she killed her son. And I'm honestly not sure as to why. Her explanation to the police is she was sick of him and had no other choice. I know this is not true as my mother had been fighting cps for over a year to get him taken and placed with her. (My mom was foster parent) my nephew was only 3 years old and abused for atleast a year and a half before his death. My sister and her girlfriend were both charged with torture murder.
@@liveyourbestlife143 I'm sorry on both accounts 😞. It is clear to see that, due to whatever it is which caused her to commit such a heinous act, you lost both a child you loved and a sibling. I can't fathom the situation, but I wish you peace & strength in coping.
@@cb3514 thank you. This all happened when I was ten years old. We had to move because of the judgement that comes upon the rest of the family even though it was not our fault. It's been 32 years and my heart still breaks.
When I was dating my ex every time I went to visit him in Canada there would always be an Amish family that would get on right before going over the border and I remember one time this little boy was running around the bus station (he looked about 3 ish) and by accident, he ran right into the back of an Amish man, fell on his butt and started to cry. The man and his wife kneeled down and helped him up and gave him a little bag of Famous Amos cookies to stop him from crying and walked him over to his panicking mom who lost sight of him. They were so nice my heart melted.
I’m from Lancaster county. Thank you for covering this tragedy. It really has been felt by all of us here 💔
NO WAY YOU DID A VIDEO ON THIS! I KNEW HER FAMILY GROWING UP AND LIVE RIGHT BY THEM! MY FAMILY FRIEND WRESTLED WITH JUSTO IN HIGH SCHOOL AS WELL! THANK YOU FOR BRINGING AWARENESS TO THIS! I LOVE YOU STEPHANIE!!!!!!
Damn girl, check out those locks! I wish i could get my hair to do that!
Agreed !!!
Thank you! Sometimes my curls behave!
I had just started watching crime weekly and was thinking, damn, Stephanie is a powerhouse giving us so much content then I get this UA-cam notification. We don’t deserve you.
It is I who does not deserve all of you ❤️
I LOVE your headband, glasses necklace and overall look today!
Thank you so much for covering this story. My husband is from Lancaster County and I’ve been hearing about this case from his family. Poor girl! I’m glad that at least now her family can bury her properly.
I appreciate you covering Lindas story. I live in Lancaster and this has been a horrific situation. The Amish community was preyed upon by this monster. Its horrible.
I don't understand how someone could do this to another. Breaks my heart
we live minutes from Lancaster, this has been a horrible case to follow. We love and appreciate the amish community and my heart breaks for them having to deal with this tragic loss.
Got my coffee ready and no interruptions. Husband at work and my little girl is at school so I'm so ready to dive into this case!
I used to live in lancaster when Linda went missing, followed this story and always seen her missing photos around town. I am very sad this is the outcome. I was hoping she just decided to leave the amish life. Thank you for covering this Stefanie
because I feel like she deserved more than the attention her story has got.
I lived in Lancaster Pennsylvania from 1990-1995. The Amish people are the kindest, loving people you will ever have the privilege to meet. They welcome everyone and ask only that the public not take their picture. (Unfortunately most “Englishers” do not honor that request.) I don’t miss much about Lancaster County, except the Amish. They really are wonderful people. God Bless them...🙏🙏🙏
As nice as they seem from the outside, they aren't without their issues. There are just as many issues with trafficking, abuse, rape, and other awful acts within these communities. Linda is just the tip of the iceberg. I recommend the plain people's podcast! It really details these issues from those that have first hand experience.
I was going to make a similar comment. The community looks like “Little House on the Prairie “ from the outside but there are horrific stories of rape, abuse, incest, horrible treatment of those with mental illness or disability within the community. And those are just the ones we know about since so many victims don’t have access to report and/or are taught to mistrust outsiders.
I live in Lancaster and this case is just so shocking. My heart breaks for her family. Thank you for covering this and being so respectful of their community 🥺♥️
I must say the law did a great job in getting justice for this innocent young girl. Rest in Peace Linda. 💔
they did really fight hard for her, I hope they didn't give Justo a sweetheart deal, though
They did. As a local, he was seen at the location of her body when they found her. He led them to her. Amish also believe in forgiveness so I’m not surprised her family was okay with the deal. They get to put her to rest and he gets a shorter sentence
@@lemona98 xv
We are lucky we have you. You're so respectful, amazing & so genuine. All of these victims are so lucky to have you cover their stories as no one covers the stories like you do. You are truly a gem. You put your heart & soul into your stories. God bless you & thank you so much!
I love all that you said in the 35 minute area! Abuse, neglect and trauma can not help a murderer get out of prison time. It literally perpetuates the cycle. I like this line “what happened to you is not your fault, but properly dealing with it is now your responsibility”. There is a great difference between fault and responsibility. You might be paralyzed from a drunk driver and you have no choice but to move forward in life in the best way possible, what other option is there?
So my massage therapist is just getting into the true crime scene .... and you and That Chapter were the first two I suggested to her!! I went over a couple of your cases during my massage and she was so intrigued! I keep telling people about my Playlist of crime!
Love that chapter too!!
perfect time, Stephanie, i have to cook some traditional bread for tommorow cause it is the Orthodox Easther and now i have something to listen to :) .
I hope your bread turns out amazing!
Kali Anastasi!
You’re the best True Crime UA-camr ever, no one is as articulate and entertaining to watch. FR 💕
Awww thank you so much!!!!
I watch a lot of true crime and I’ll see others cover cases that interest me.. I’ll then go thru stephanies playlist and see if she has covered that case.. she just has so much more info and insight..
I love that she says "ginormous" I thought I was the only one who said that.
My sister in law told me about Linda’s abduction as it happened just down the road from her house. I’m so devastated for the family and for what she had to endure. There’s no words for this tragedy 😔
Stephanie you look amazing today!
She really does. Everything really works for her- the colors (including colorful glasses), makeup, hairstyle, and her hair itself looks nice- down, with curls, and brighter than usual. It all comes together really well, she's a fashion icon in this video!
She’s beautiful and I love her style !!!
I live in lancaster county and I have been waiting for someone to cover her case, I am so glad you did. Her missing posters everywhere and the media coverage wasn't that good so I'm happy i got more information !! She seemed like a sweetheart.
Me too
I had the worst childhood you can imagine, if anything its made me more mindful NOT to hurt people or make them feel bad. Abuse and MH issues dont make you do bad things it's a choice you make
Thank you for sharing this story. I live in this area where this happened. This really broke the hearts of this community and this family has all our love and support as they know. I hope and pray justice is served.
Seeing her missing person posters in Lancaster and the surrounding area broke my heart. Thank you for covering this story and bringing awareness to the case.
This case has been so near and dear to my heart. I live in the area and spent so much time trying to piece things together. The day Linda was found was so bittersweet. Thank you so much for covering this case and spreading Linda's story.
My childhood was so bad I am in the process of writing a memoir. My brother did not fair so well, and we fully expected him to kill someone (or many people). No matter how many times we had him arrested or tried to get him mental help, he always got off with a slap on the wrist. He was highly intelligent (tested genius) and knew what the authorities wanted to hear. When he held my sister-in-law at gunpoint for 9 hours and was just about to pull the trigger in front of their 5 year old son, the cops knocked on the door because a friend who had been there all day during the beatings and rapes had escaped and ran away to call police. She narrowly escaped with her life, but just under 2 years later at age 46, my brother shut his heart down doing drugs. I am now 46. My brother molested me my whole life, our dad was an alcoholic and abusive, I was raped when I was 13, then my mom was having an affair with my first husband whom she signed for me to marry at just 16. I guess my point is, my brother and I grew up in the same house but the abuse I suffered was much worse than him due to him and my mom abusing me. Mental health issues are NOT an excuse (or even a reason usually) to do things like this. Nope. I learned what not to do and have gone on to lead a beautiful life with my husband and 2 now grown kids. For someone to do this, just as my brother would have been, the person is just a bad person. Otherwise, I should be much worse than my brother was.
I am so sorry you must be extremly strong you suffered more then the most I full of admiration for you. And you're right so many with horrible upbringing and bad mental health and still wouldn't hurt a fly.
Your memoir is pretty common. Except by your own accord you went on to have a beautiful life. The reality is most who have endured the same, or even worse are not able to process the trauma. You must of had serious CBT for years in order to not be triggered. My brother started raping me when I was 8, then my stepdad while my mom encouraged it. Foster care was an entirely different abuse. I’m now 47. CBT twice a week. Antidepressants. Yes I can fake happiness because that’s how you fool yourself into being “normal”. Your the first person I’ve encountered who easily transitioned into a “beautiful life”. Sounds suspect but congrats if you really accomplished it.
@@jamb5057 I am sorry for all you went through. I did not "easily" transition into anything. None of it was easy. I never had therapy of any kind until I was 38 years old. I have spent about 2 years total in Christian counseling, but other than that, none. Don't get me wrong, I still struggle with a lot! My life isn't perfect, however, I have a husband and 2 children who support and love me when I have been completely unloveable. I also spent over 30 years of my life addicted to narcotics. That was my coping mechanism. It wasn't until I had multiple strokes and watched both my dad and brother die of addiction-related diseases that I realized I would be the next to go. I knew if I continued on that path, I wouldn't make it another 5 years. I was determined not to go out like them. I finally opened up to my husband and sought help through Celebrate Recovery. Yes, I relapsed while going through the program. However, the first week of February 2021, I was able to claim 3 years clean from narcotics. None of my story should sound suspect, everyone is different and I can only tell so much in a UA-cam chat. Thus the memoir I am working on. It will tell a LOT more. It hasn't been easy and I still deal with things today that stem from all of that. Things that do affect my marriage and my life. But I have amazing support and love from people and I am a person of strong faith. I can only attribute where I am today to God and my husband and kids. I hope you continue to heal from the trauma you endured, and I am truly sorry for all you have gone through.
@@jamb5057 I don’t want to be rude but as a survivor myself I have to ask… how dare you? It is extremely sad to see a survivor bash another one and QUESTION their story and even worse to ASSUME about their life! It’s extremely sad and I recommend finding a different therapist because sadly it’s not working out babe. I am truly sorry for what you’ve been through but it is not okay to question, assume, and to minimize someone else’s trauma. “Your memoir is pretty common”, again WHAT!? One has to learn how to live with their demons. I have severe PTSD from a lot of childhood traumas and at night I have to take pills to sleep or else I’d relive everything. I learned through therapy how to use my trauma and turn it into STRENGTH 😊. How to make “friends” with the past and use it as an energy source to keep going. I have horrible days, sure, I’m not “cured” but I don’t let my trauma DEFINE WHO I AM and WHERE IM GOING. Neither do I use it to MINIMIZE fellow survivors! I invite you to be more respectful specially if you went through trauma yourself and I invite you to have more empathy love❤️. I hope you are able to work through the pain and turn it into fuel to live life and to smile, and to not let your trauma define who you are!✨
@@AmandaOgletree I’d like to tell you that I admire you and please update me on your memoir, I am 100% interested in reading it 🥺❤️!! You’re amazing and I hope your life is full of happiness next to your wonderful family.
Can you talk about the Kristin Smart case? There’s been new developments this week after 25 years, and it’s such a sad situation considering how bad the police fumbled the ball on it. The podcast Your Own Backyard goes so in depth with research regarding Kristin’s disappearance, highly recommend!!!
Yes I've been following i!
Thank you for detailing this tragic case. I live about an hour and a half away from where this happened. I love visiting that area. It's so nice and the Amish people are lovely. So very sad for this poor girl and her family.