Seems to me that you are not doing enough to be impactful to other people. Some jobs have more of an impact than others and you can do things to be impactful. You allow yourself to be alone rather than paying it forward. Pay it forward and you will feel a sense of satisfaction and purpose. Volunteering and religion can help you. I am not a religious nut, but finding a religion to hold onto and do noble things for people allow you to feel good and noble. You become part of the community rather than just a passive person.
me too. i have also completely lost motivation to do anything. try in school, workout, like i used to. (used to every day, now it’s about 2x a week). it’s hard to keep going everyday when you feel like you aren’t getting anything out of it
@@trapbois4573what if i lack motivation to do things i used to love? or why i get the feeling that everything is meaningless and im not getting anything out of it? i saw you respond to the other guy and was wondering if you knew anything about what im going through.
Well every single thing in life that really matter is a competition innit? No amount of sugar coating would change the fact. You re in a competitiom why would you not be depressed. Well unless you got way ahead of the competition
You focus too much on the burdens of life and not enough of gratitude. I go to bed hugging my pillows. thanking god for even allowing me to lay here , with a roof over my head, with a climate controlled room and a tv for entertainment. I look back at all the Emperors,pharoh's , kings, queens, all the elite of history... and remind myself i am living in better comfort then they ever did ! I am experiencing this amazing thing of just simply laying in bed hugging a warm blanket. I get a smile on my face and can feel the brain releasing feel good chemicals.
There is a phenomenon called ACEs: adverse childhood experiences. Children who grow up with abuse, neglect, or chaos in their lives have much higher rates of disease in adulthood. Throwing an antidepressant at them will not do enough when a depressed person has unresolved traumatic issues. Telling a patient who was sexually abused as I was that just a pill will fix them is just plain wrong.
Thats the doctors in general lol i went manic and psychotic and the doctors still told me to take it i also became so dehydrated from vomiting and diharea and almost needed to go the the emergency room they did not care and told me take it anyway
Since a little child I have been aware that people cause my anxiety and depression. The doctors tell me what i need is to be more social. Having a degree means nothing.
@@peternolan4107 the doctor isn’t wrong, people are not meant to be alone, people are meant to do their part in society to grow as a whole. Be part of a community that you feel happy with and the result will pay tenfold
You think you have a degree and that should mean something to others, that you deserve more. That is your ego talking. Drop all the expectations, meaning stop thinking and you will be free
The underlying issue of depression is people ain't free they are forced to basically work when people just want to live and enjoy life but with out work there is no money and without money you can enjoy life so you feel trapped and inslaved
Absoulte garbage and nonsense. I live off minimum wage. and never depressed. I don't go vacations. or out for dinner. or buy stuff. Cuz i can't afford it . I'm not going to cry and get sad about it . I'm going to be greatful that i am even able to wake up everyday . I am greatful that i have legs and hangs.. I am greatful that i can even enjoy life without pain . I am greatful i don't have cancer. I am greatful i am able to move ! I hug my pillow and blanket like homer does in the meme.... Life is what you make it .
Depression is like a demon punishing us for giving up on life. I just want to live in peace and die. Most of the time I do not want to fight, grow or expand anymore, I'm tired. Even if I get out of this, I will resent people and the world for not accepting me before, or for not finding the solution before (if any).
In a way its liberating to accept ur fate and get on with it but it is a battle so u have to try be more resilient in the long run and find something ur passionate about
Demon is your ego. People don't accept you because you don't accept yourself. You don't accept yourself because your ego created your image of success, prosperity and happiness but you look at reality and it sucks. That misalignment causes depression. Take that image created by your thoughts put it right in front of you and observe it. Let it suffer. Just keep looking at it. As soon as you recognize it as not you, you will be free.
victim mentality is one of the many dirty spots in your mind that will always make you feel like a victim. You should clean your mind. Do mental practices to clean your mind
Depression, oversimplified, is nothing more than the feeling/notion of entrapment. Figuring out what is causing that entrapment and changing your life to remove it will release you from the cycle. Anxiety will cause you to fear the unknown... much like Stockholm syndrome. Humans fear change they do not know and in most cases, that fear immobilizes them to act on the change. Overcoming your fears is the first step to releasing your depression. The farmer story was simply a man who felt trapped in his lifestyle... it wasn't until someone else forced a change in his life that he was able to live without the cause of his agony and pain. The farmer felt trapped and could not escape his life until someone else changed it. This would be a natural way to treat depression and everyone can achieve it if they can identify what is making them feel entrapped in their lifestyle. In time, your brain adapts and becomes custom to your chemical releases from your synapses. If you regularly think negative thoughts, your brain releases chemicals that influence that (cortisol, Serotonin, ect...), and in time it craves those chemicals. Antidepressants will mask our depression superficially for a while, but the compounding chemical releases will return. It will not be until you change your life to cut out the things that are making you feel trapped, that you will find true blissful happiness.
@@sunshinestate1306 it's hard though. One has to unearth many many years of loneliness and being mistreated by the culprit. It needs strength and stamina.
expectation of something other than what is at the moment. Thinking about past and future. Those are the main causes of depression. stop thinking. thinking is the ego.
Thank you so much Johann Hari for such true, beautiful words! I sometimes feel I just need smoeone to be w/me throughout the day, a coach so to speak, cheering me on, giving me reason to keep going. This may be due to losing both parents at such a young age and feeling I have no one who truly deeply cares, but always I am trying each day, giving myself positive affirmations. It's just hard.
I think even situational is more likely for some than others. I used to think mine was mostly situational, but I think some people handle adverse situations better than others. In other words, some people want everything to be perfect in order for them to be happy and content. I speak from experience.
Record levels - were they that way before the internet took over? I was a kid in the 90s, it was glorious and I used the internet very little. Acually age 8 to 18 so more than a kid. There was no youtube, spotify, facebook, instagram. You had books and video games. I really think it's opening the doors for a lot of "what if" thinking and also exposure to negative things. It's increased since the 2000s, internet. Thank you!
Now, after years of being victimised by depression, now I know the main reason, I am weak emotionally. I'm easily brushed off by challenges, bad emotions bad thinking. Now I have to improve my thinking and change my life.
Am absolutely life-changing reframing on how to approach and understand depression. As someone with depression, I can 100% confirm that there are practical solutions - not just chemical. Going down the chemical rabbit hole is a dead end. Sometimes we just need a cow to solve an underlying practical issue to take away the pain.
What i dont really understand is why do i feel to scare of being lonely , while i m not alone at all , but always it feels like i dont have any body to my side , and empty
I have experienced depression since I was 10 years old. None of the expressions or explanations of depression in this comment section have rung true to me. Depression, to me, is the overwhelming feeling of doom, peril, and anxiety, for no apparent reason. If feels like there is no way to escape these feelings; suicide often seems like the only way to get relief. So don't judge the person who can no longer live with the depression.
It comes down to this I think: we live in a sick society so why should it come as a surprise to anyone that everyone is sick!!! Unresolved trauma: a major trigger for depression, anxiety. And some people are born predisposed to these mental illnesses.
"Love for multiplicity vs. Love for unity" is what the depression comes from. We live in the world of multiplicity, Loving it changes man from unity into multiplicity like all dimensions to converge toward zero in time in the lacking of unity. Beauty is Truth, and Truth is Beauty. Learning aesthetic from Nature can rejuvenate hope and wellness in depressed individuals. Not wanting and not having make one brazen-bodied. Other treatments are business-centered do not provide permanent solutions.
Self discipline can help with alot. Most mental illness exist because we feel like we are not in control. Set small goals like cleaning your room everyday, exersize routine, reading at certain times. Ect. The more control you have over your life the better you will feel about yourself. You don't have time to blame how people didn't treat you right ect nobody is coming to save you.
Depression comes from not having our needs met… (I heard someone say the other day & it clicked…!!!!) doesn’t it ? The issue of depression (and anxiety) is really quite political then when you start to think about it, isn’t it ?
¨Depression comes from not having our needs met… (I heard someone say the other day & it clicked…!!!!) doesn’t it ?¨ This is a very similar idea to what the video talks about. You could think of not having your needs met as having pain. When there's pain, your needs are not being met. The video tells us to listen to the pain to try to find the root problem to try to fix it. If you find the root of the problem and fix it, this will in return solve the pain and your needs will be met.
I'm depressed because for the past 20 years I've had to get up, leave the house, deal with traffic and then do a day's work. I don't want to do it anymore but have to for the 30 or so years. I'm just hoping my heart packs in sooner rather than later because that is the only way out.
Hi friend. Sometimes I wish to sleep and dream for a duration of 100 years where I can fly. Sometimes I wish to sleep and never wake up. I understand you
Feel the same way, depressed pass 30 years but I am older and maybe I have to do it for the next 15 yrs. or so and want to die but want it to be a more natural way, like this morning can't find what happened to my blood pressure med, and I like its ok maybe today. But my brother dies by suicide all most two years ago and messed me up really so bad I fight every day not to do it since I will mess my daughter up for life and I can't do that. For some of us life just sucks really bad.
The way you want to BE just doesn’t show up as possible in the present. But the present demands you be concerned with it. The past shows up as how you feel about the present. You need to feel yourself in this situation and choose while feeling that way. No dialogue, no verbal justification, I just found myself feeling that way. Give no justification to anyone, they are the ones lost in the “chat”, you are the self, you felt your way to a decision. This technological age with all its demands for rational justification is killing us! FEEL your throwness and your certain eventual death, and choose from how you feel.
I see that those suffering from depression with nihilism don’t even care to change their condition.. so if you asked them why do they feel like that or maybe they need to do this or this or some activity liked before to find motivation and purpose they flatly refuse to. Lack of motivation and purpose is a hallmark.
I feel like i bother people, no one wants nor cares to be around me. No one asks me how im doing, i wish i could let people in, but people get comfortable and can be so mean with their words and have no idea how much damage they can do. When u let them know u hurt them, they make a big deal about it and gossip about you. I honestly just want to move away and stay away and not call anyone Do not disturb and just live my life quietly
right. as soon as you accept that nobody owes you anything, nobody has to treat you the way you think they should, nobody has to apologize to you, you become free and happy
Pyschology views individuals like they live in boxes and cant be affected by relations, our relationships with others, our society. Thats why i decided to study Sociology rather than Pyschology in the end
Depression is not a problem in your brain. It’s a symptom of the larger problem of a depressing life. When your life sucks and you have no friends you’re probably gonna be “depressed”.
They only seem to treat serotonin but if receptors don’t work right serotonin don’t matter. Lack of dopamine no body treats that!! And trauma and childhood abuse.
I understand that having feelings or emotions it is all normal, I feel pain I feel it, most of our life is suffering. It is all normal. Love every moment, our happiness is here, even when we are sad we should embrace the sadness. We were brought here to face this life to all that life throws at us🤍. I hope you feel better ❤️🩹.
EGO is the cause of depression. Your ego keeps telling you that you have to be this or that, have this or that when the reality is opposite. So stop feeding your ego with thoughts. Stop living in illusions aka thoughts. Recognize your thoughts as your ego. Depression is simply mental, it is just your thoughts that do not correlate with reality. stop thoughts, commenting every event in the past and in the future. expecting something from others, all of that is your ego.
I did have severe depression. I was referred to a Chinese doctor who had a reputation of curing hard cases. She asked me about my diet. I told her that I had developed asthma attacks after eating eggs, and that this had never happened before. She smiled and gave me a presciption for antibiotics, a lot of them, and told me I would be okay in three days. Three days later, my depression was gone. It has never come back either. I called her and asked her why antibiotics cured me. She said she suspected it was due to bad gut bacteria, and that the antibiotics killed them. She also said that the eggs/asthma connection gave her the clue.
I strongly believe depression and anxiety is caused nutritional deficiencies! (I’m open to debate plz comment) Vitamin d B vitamins Vitamin c Zinc Iron Magnesium Potassium
Did you have supportive parents? Were you meeting their expectations, or where they jealous of succes you may of had? (Jealousy could be in the form of not celebrating you for accomplishments). That little guy is your ego which is basically the voice of one or both of your parents or caretakers from before the age of 5.
I feel like a part of me doesn't enjoy wealth (not that I have loads) because I know not everyone has it and that means you either have to lie to yourself that you're better or more deserving, numb it out, or somehow manage to share the money. I do not think spending money on myself after basic things makes me happy. What makes me happy is helping a lost stranger or connecting deeply with a friend
The reason why I’m always depressed is because of nostalgia. Not sure why I’m always thinking about it. I guess it’s because I am a car person and I hate seeing the new electric era of cars, and I hate seeing how people are turning out to be. And I hate living in this generation right now.
Choises young boys do in their childhood affects their teens and adult life; they get erectile dysfunction, this in turn leads to depression! I wonder, can antidepressants like Wellbutrin or prozac help against the erectile dysfunction?
@@nathanembro3693 if you can’t find any motivation to continue, it is OK. There are plenty other activities you may want to try it out, please don’t focus on reaching the goal but enjoyment. Your word “Used to be” is already passed, I think as long as you had fun before and your time had not been wasted. Time to move on. I know you can!
I quite disagree with him. First, he's not a doctor let alone an expert in that field. He's a journalist. Secondly, the solution he thought can't really cure it for most, because some depressed people have a good job, but still depressed.
It's not about the job it's about asking what can we do to help you and genuinely want to help or write down some stuff that can help. Pills are a bandaid on a wound. For example if you're depressed cause you feel burnt out from school, bullying, girlfriend cheating, lack of confidence, or you just can't put it to words since it's many things a pill won't really help address the issue. A good supportive system and brainstorming solutions is more important. You have to listen to the person, they'll tell you what they're feeling and it might take a bit of guessing or brainstorming to find what can or how it can be helped
Yeah it's got nothing to do with the job. It's about having an unmet need. Also, the problem with having a qualification in Pyschology or being a doctor is that the base assumptions are sometimes wrong. I.e. the base assumption that the issue is in your mind. Having a lack of serotonin in your brain was a leading cause of depression was actually pushed by.. you guessed it, pharmaceutical companies.
Doctors are behind the times and in the pockets of drug companies. A lot of my issues were actually caused from the miscare of "doctors". The days of gatekeeping information are over.
Probably very true but you can't get enough people in America together to play a game of solitaire, and if you do they won't trust it enough to play. It's socially easier to just isolate them people and let them end it themselves
This is just a plug for his book . When you have a book , and want it known . This is free publicity, it's cheap for the TV programme too , they do not have to pay a fee for the interview .
Everyone is special. Every 7.500.000.00 one of us! ^-^ oops someone just died in Ukrain or Gaza or Xinjiang. Oh well. 7.499.999.999 people left so who cares.
I get so depressed I feel nauseous and feel like I’m going to throw up and it lasts for hours sometimes and makes me not wanna eat any food Idk what to do
My underline problem is that I’m so lonely and never have felt important to anyone
Every human being is special in their own way, You are special dear and worthy to be listened to and to be seen💜 warm hugs
Sending you love. You are important and here with so much beautiful purpose!
Seems to me that you are not doing enough to be impactful to other people. Some jobs have more of an impact than others and you can do things to be impactful. You allow yourself to be alone rather than paying it forward. Pay it forward and you will feel a sense of satisfaction and purpose. Volunteering and religion can help you. I am not a religious nut, but finding a religion to hold onto and do noble things for people allow you to feel good and noble. You become part of the community rather than just a passive person.
me too. i have also completely lost motivation to do anything. try in school, workout, like i used to. (used to every day, now it’s about 2x a week). it’s hard to keep going everyday when you feel like you aren’t getting anything out of it
@@trapbois4573what if i lack motivation to do things i used to love? or why i get the feeling that everything is meaningless and im not getting anything out of it? i saw you respond to the other guy and was wondering if you knew anything about what im going through.
I sometimes wish I never came into this world. I don't get why some people don't get depression. It's a struggle to make it through the day.
Same here :/
Well every single thing in life that really matter is a competition innit? No amount of sugar coating would change the fact. You re in a competitiom why would you not be depressed. Well unless you got way ahead of the competition
Hoping you find more and more joy in each day!
same babes . You’re not alone 🩷
You focus too much on the burdens of life and not enough of gratitude. I go to bed hugging my pillows. thanking god for even allowing me to lay here , with a roof over my head, with a climate controlled room and a tv for entertainment. I look back at all the Emperors,pharoh's , kings, queens, all the elite of history... and remind myself i am living in better comfort then they ever did ! I am experiencing this amazing thing of just simply laying in bed hugging a warm blanket. I get a smile on my face and can feel the brain releasing feel good chemicals.
There is a phenomenon called ACEs: adverse childhood experiences. Children who grow up with abuse, neglect, or chaos in their lives have much higher rates of disease in adulthood. Throwing an antidepressant at them will not do enough when a depressed person has unresolved traumatic issues. Telling a patient who was sexually abused as I was that just a pill will fix them is just plain wrong.
Thats the doctors in general lol i went manic and psychotic and the doctors still told me to take it i also became so dehydrated from vomiting and diharea and almost needed to go the the emergency room they did not care and told me take it anyway
Since a little child I have been aware that people cause my anxiety and depression. The doctors tell me what i need is to be more social. Having a degree means nothing.
Your doctors are just plain incompetent if that is all they can say.
How are you doing now?
@@peternolan4107 the doctor isn’t wrong, people are not meant to be alone, people are meant to do their part in society to grow as a whole. Be part of a community that you feel happy with and the result will pay tenfold
I can totally relate. I would love to connect with you if u want.
You think you have a degree and that should mean something to others, that you deserve more. That is your ego talking. Drop all the expectations, meaning stop thinking and you will be free
The underlying issue of depression is people ain't free they are forced to basically work when people just want to live and enjoy life but with out work there is no money and without money you can enjoy life so you feel trapped and inslaved
The thinking is the main issue. Stop thinking and just live
Absoulte garbage and nonsense. I live off minimum wage. and never depressed. I don't go vacations. or out for dinner. or buy stuff. Cuz i can't afford it . I'm not going to cry and get sad about it . I'm going to be greatful that i am even able to wake up everyday . I am greatful that i have legs and hangs.. I am greatful that i can even enjoy life without pain . I am greatful i don't have cancer. I am greatful i am able to move ! I hug my pillow and blanket like homer does in the meme.... Life is what you make it .
Depression is like a demon punishing us for giving up on life.
I just want to live in peace and die. Most of the time I do not want to fight, grow or expand anymore, I'm tired.
Even if I get out of this, I will resent people and the world for not accepting me before, or for not finding the solution before (if any).
Same here! Life is pointless!
swt heart it’s so bad
In a way its liberating to accept ur fate and get on with it but it is a battle so u have to try be more resilient in the long run and find something ur passionate about
no its not and he explained it. If you disagree with the video I wonder why you wrote this comment
Demon is your ego. People don't accept you because you don't accept yourself. You don't accept yourself because your ego created your image of success, prosperity and happiness but you look at reality and it sucks. That misalignment causes depression. Take that image created by your thoughts put it right in front of you and observe it. Let it suffer. Just keep looking at it. As soon as you recognize it as not you, you will be free.
Feeling trapped in horrible system is definitely the cause
Yes that is tru
Nah that's victim mentality. You can make the best out of any situtation
@@gtxoiltastebad exactly. It is not the system that is horrible, it is your opinion that makes it horrible for you
victim mentality is one of the many dirty spots in your mind that will always make you feel like a victim. You should clean your mind. Do mental practices to clean your mind
@@gtxoiltastebad facts! I struggle with it a lot
Depression, oversimplified, is nothing more than the feeling/notion of entrapment. Figuring out what is causing that entrapment and changing your life to remove it will release you from the cycle. Anxiety will cause you to fear the unknown... much like Stockholm syndrome. Humans fear change they do not know and in most cases, that fear immobilizes them to act on the change. Overcoming your fears is the first step to releasing your depression.
The farmer story was simply a man who felt trapped in his lifestyle... it wasn't until someone else forced a change in his life that he was able to live without the cause of his agony and pain. The farmer felt trapped and could not escape his life until someone else changed it. This would be a natural way to treat depression and everyone can achieve it if they can identify what is making them feel entrapped in their lifestyle.
In time, your brain adapts and becomes custom to your chemical releases from your synapses. If you regularly think negative thoughts, your brain releases chemicals that influence that (cortisol, Serotonin, ect...), and in time it craves those chemicals. Antidepressants will mask our depression superficially for a while, but the compounding chemical releases will return. It will not be until you change your life to cut out the things that are making you feel trapped, that you will find true blissful happiness.
Thank you. This summary is EXCELLENT
Please keep spreading awareness
Depression indicates an unsolvable issue, something that needs changing.
@@treeoftrees7523 seemingly unsolvable. Confidence builds once you do
@@sunshinestate1306 it's hard though. One has to unearth many many years of loneliness and being mistreated by the culprit. It needs strength and stamina.
The world is going in direction that is not liked by many, too many.
Who are you to like or not to like the world. Stop your opinions about everyone and everything. They make you suffer.
Why do "we have very limited time" for this topic? Let the man speak!
I have traveled to many countries to escape depression but depression is with me everywhere.
Also same ! Did not figure out the cause 😅
Expectation is the root causes.
expectation of something other than what is at the moment. Thinking about past and future. Those are the main causes of depression. stop thinking. thinking is the ego.
Thank you so much Johann Hari for such true, beautiful words! I sometimes feel I just need smoeone to be w/me throughout the day, a coach so to speak, cheering me on, giving me reason to keep going. This may be due to losing both parents at such a young age and feeling I have no one who truly deeply cares, but always I am trying each day, giving myself positive affirmations. It's just hard.
The problem is that alot of people these days, don't care to listen..
What?
So true, I think depression is mostly situational.
Have you seen a brain MRI of depressed versus non-depressed patients?
absolutely not.
Yeah, it can still be situational. They get better and the brain looks better. Happens when alcoholics stop drinking
Depression is a made up disorder by the pharmaceutical companies to sell drugs and control society
I think even situational is more likely for some than others. I used to think mine was mostly situational, but I think some people handle adverse situations better than others. In other words, some people want everything to be perfect in order for them to be happy and content. I speak from experience.
People who you are intimately close can cause you depression if the relationship is not healthy
yeah, valid point
yep
Record levels - were they that way before the internet took over? I was a kid in the 90s, it was glorious and I used the internet very little. Acually age 8 to 18 so more than a kid. There was no youtube, spotify, facebook, instagram. You had books and video games. I really think it's opening the doors for a lot of "what if" thinking and also exposure to negative things. It's increased since the 2000s, internet. Thank you!
Now, after years of being victimised by depression, now I know the main reason, I am weak emotionally. I'm easily brushed off by challenges, bad emotions bad thinking. Now I have to improve my thinking and change my life.
How are you doing now?
Just stop thinking then
Recorded Mar 2019. “Recorded levels of anxiety and depression. COVID: “hold my beer.”
Am absolutely life-changing reframing on how to approach and understand depression. As someone with depression, I can 100% confirm that there are practical solutions - not just chemical. Going down the chemical rabbit hole is a dead end. Sometimes we just need a cow to solve an underlying practical issue to take away the pain.
What i dont really understand is why do i feel to scare of being lonely , while i m not alone at all , but always it feels like i dont have any body to my side , and empty
I have experienced depression since I was 10 years old. None of the expressions or explanations of depression in this comment section have rung true to me.
Depression, to me, is the overwhelming feeling of doom, peril, and anxiety, for no apparent reason. If feels like there is no way to escape these feelings; suicide often seems like the only way to get relief. So don't judge the person who can no longer live with the depression.
It comes down to this I think: we live in a sick society so why should it come as a surprise to anyone that everyone is sick!!! Unresolved trauma: a major trigger for depression, anxiety. And some people are born predisposed to these mental illnesses.
I need to meet this guy. Like how do I thumbs up this video more than once?
i feel like this is the only person who gets it lol
make another account and thumbs up
"We have very limited time", 5 minutes is not nearly enough for this subject. 🙄😔
I love the idea of gardening in a therapeutic group
❤❤❤ yessssss
gardening grounds you to earth. you stop thinking, and that heals you.
"Love for multiplicity vs. Love for unity" is what the depression comes from. We live in the world of multiplicity, Loving it changes man from unity into multiplicity like all dimensions to converge toward zero in time in the lacking of unity. Beauty is Truth, and Truth is Beauty. Learning aesthetic from Nature can rejuvenate hope and wellness in depressed individuals. Not wanting and not having make one brazen-bodied. Other treatments are business-centered do not provide permanent solutions.
I cant grasp your message, it is chaotic. The first sentence makes sense tho
..."Love and practical support from those around you".... Where you at though?
Definitely a well understood & ignored solution. Unfortunately, cannot be made into a pill and sold in millions 😂 ❤👍.
So true...."Pains are meaningful....address them"....
i totally agree with the Cambodian psychiatrist... and i would love to read your book too.
Self discipline can help with alot. Most mental illness exist because we feel like we are not in control. Set small goals like cleaning your room everyday, exersize routine, reading at certain times. Ect. The more control you have over your life the better you will feel about yourself. You don't have time to blame how people didn't treat you right ect nobody is coming to save you.
Depression comes from not having our needs met… (I heard someone say the other day & it clicked…!!!!) doesn’t it ?
The issue of depression (and anxiety) is really quite political then when you start to think about it, isn’t it ?
¨Depression comes from not having our needs met… (I heard someone say the other day & it clicked…!!!!) doesn’t it ?¨
This is a very similar idea to what the video talks about. You could think of not having your needs met as having pain. When there's pain, your needs are not being met. The video tells us to listen to the pain to try to find the root problem to try to fix it. If you find the root of the problem and fix it, this will in return solve the pain and your needs will be met.
BIG FACTS. You are right!
I'm depressed because for the past 20 years I've had to get up, leave the house, deal with traffic and then do a day's work. I don't want to do it anymore but have to for the 30 or so years. I'm just hoping my heart packs in sooner rather than later because that is the only way out.
Hi friend. Sometimes I wish to sleep and dream for a duration of 100 years where I can fly. Sometimes I wish to sleep and never wake up. I understand you
Feel the same way, depressed pass 30 years but I am older and maybe I have to do it for the next 15 yrs. or so and want to die but want it to be a more natural way, like this morning can't find what happened to my blood pressure med, and I like its ok maybe today. But my brother dies by suicide all most two years ago and messed me up really so bad I fight every day not to do it since I will mess my daughter up for life and I can't do that. For some of us life just sucks really bad.
The way you want to BE just doesn’t show up as possible in the present. But the present demands you be concerned with it. The past shows up as how you feel about the present. You need to feel yourself in this situation and choose while feeling that way. No dialogue, no verbal justification, I just found myself feeling that way. Give no justification to anyone, they are the ones lost in the “chat”, you are the self, you felt your way to a decision. This technological age with all its demands for rational justification is killing us! FEEL your throwness and your certain eventual death, and choose from how you feel.
I see that those suffering from depression with nihilism don’t even care to change their condition.. so if you asked them why do they feel like that or maybe they need to do this or this or some activity liked before to find motivation and purpose they flatly refuse to. Lack of motivation and purpose is a hallmark.
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I feel like i bother people, no one wants nor cares to be around me. No one asks me how im doing, i wish i could let people in, but people get comfortable and can be so mean with their words and have no idea how much damage they can do. When u let them know u hurt them, they make a big deal about it and gossip about you. I honestly just want to move away and stay away and not call anyone Do not disturb and just live my life quietly
I am reading the book. It's great
All I needed was true love when I found someone who truely loved me it went completly away
Love causes depression
So close
May be laziness or burn-out from work cause depression
Unresolved endless grief 🙏
The society is Not Here to serve you. IT IS an Interactions. Give and Take.
right. as soon as you accept that nobody owes you anything, nobody has to treat you the way you think they should, nobody has to apologize to you, you become free and happy
@@GanibekZhan yes. The world owes you nothing. IT was here first.
Pyschology views individuals like they live in boxes and cant be affected by relations, our relationships with others, our society. Thats why i decided to study Sociology rather than Pyschology in the end
I feel worthless
@@skullemojiiz You are not worthless
You are just as valuable as everyone else
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Depression is not a problem in your brain. It’s a symptom of the larger problem of a depressing life. When your life sucks and you have no friends you’re probably gonna be “depressed”.
Doesn't seem right the way it's put inside a one way ticket box to understand how depression develops.
I voice out my needs I'm labeled demanding
They only seem to treat serotonin but if receptors don’t work right serotonin don’t matter. Lack of dopamine no body treats that!! And trauma and childhood abuse.
Ive tried support and therapy. It doesnt help
I understand that having feelings or emotions it is all normal, I feel pain I feel it, most of our life is suffering. It is all normal. Love every moment, our happiness is here, even when we are sad we should embrace the sadness. We were brought here to face this life to all that life throws at us🤍. I hope you feel better ❤️🩹.
Maybe instead of talking about swap parties, you should have given him twice as much time.
Amalgam fillings ARE ALSO THE CAUSE OF DEPRESSIONS. I have 10. Also IBS. Started after dentist. I was a better person b4 that visit.
EGO is the cause of depression. Your ego keeps telling you that you have to be this or that, have this or that when the reality is opposite. So stop feeding your ego with thoughts. Stop living in illusions aka thoughts. Recognize your thoughts as your ego.
Depression is simply mental, it is just your thoughts that do not correlate with reality. stop thoughts, commenting every event in the past and in the future. expecting something from others, all of that is your ego.
I did have severe depression. I was referred to a Chinese doctor who had a reputation of curing hard cases. She asked me about my diet. I told her that I had developed asthma attacks after eating eggs, and that this had never happened before. She smiled and gave me a presciption for antibiotics, a lot of them, and told me I would be okay in three days. Three days later, my depression was gone. It has never come back either. I called her and asked her why antibiotics cured me. She said she suspected it was due to bad gut bacteria, and that the antibiotics killed them. She also said that the eggs/asthma connection gave her the clue.
Havening the correct bacteria is so important to the way we feel
It can be psychological but it can be hormonal and poor digestion that cause anxiety and depression .
Great interview!
Unmet needs. You nailed it.
I strongly believe depression and anxiety is caused nutritional deficiencies!
(I’m open to debate plz comment)
Vitamin d
B vitamins
Vitamin c
Zinc
Iron
Magnesium
Potassium
yeah thats also have affect like sitting in home always also affect
These nutritional deficiencies being fixed can help but won't fix childhood trauma, lack of purpose, lack of close connections.
Needa good reason to go on living when deep in depression.
You provide the "social support"? I've been this way for 50 years. It's left me 100% alone. Suggestions?
There is this little guy in the back of my head telling me I don't deserve all the things I've worked to get
Did you have supportive parents? Were you meeting their expectations, or where they jealous of succes you may of had? (Jealousy could be in the form of not celebrating you for accomplishments). That little guy is your ego which is basically the voice of one or both of your parents or caretakers from before the age of 5.
@@mwloos1 You are definitely wrong! Have fun with your assumption though.
@@tetsugiux1917 no colonel sanders, you’re wrong….Mama’s right.
I got one too😭
I feel like a part of me doesn't enjoy wealth (not that I have loads) because I know not everyone has it and that means you either have to lie to yourself that you're better or more deserving, numb it out, or somehow manage to share the money. I do not think spending money on myself after basic things makes me happy. What makes me happy is helping a lost stranger or connecting deeply with a friend
Thanks for this info 😊
Lack of emotional and mental reward, no fulfillment, have to self medicate with alcohol/marijuana to manage
A home and a livable wage is what 98% of America needs
and a cow
The reason why I’m always depressed is because of nostalgia. Not sure why I’m always thinking about it.
I guess it’s because I am a car person and I hate seeing the new electric era of cars, and I hate seeing how people are turning out to be.
And I hate living in this generation right now.
Same here nostalgia really hitsl different especially in thel afternoon 😢
But change is a constant throughout history, we must adapt to those changes 🤍
You hate this generation because of cars ? Just cars? 😅
A bicycle would help your depression more then a classic car.
I'm frustrated that he mentions 9 causes, but never gets into them. If you're not going to cover it, why bring it up?
Choises young boys do in their childhood affects their teens and adult life; they get erectile dysfunction, this in turn leads to depression! I wonder, can antidepressants like Wellbutrin or prozac help against the erectile dysfunction?
Having a healthy diet and regular excise can reduce anxiety.
i used to be like this but i can’t even find the motivation to try
@@nathanembro3693 if you can’t find any motivation to continue, it is OK. There are plenty other activities you may want to try it out, please don’t focus on reaching the goal but enjoyment. Your word “Used to be” is already passed, I think as long as you had fun before and your time had not been wasted. Time to move on. I know you can!
Yup Ssri does little for you and damages your brain!
Heh, this is the moment I knew I have no chance in this life
Super vague!
Exactly! He says at the start how he has 9 factors but never says them lol!
man's search for meaning
I quite disagree with him. First, he's not a doctor let alone an expert in that field. He's a journalist. Secondly, the solution he thought can't really cure it for most, because some depressed people have a good job, but still depressed.
It's not about the job it's about asking what can we do to help you and genuinely want to help or write down some stuff that can help. Pills are a bandaid on a wound. For example if you're depressed cause you feel burnt out from school, bullying, girlfriend cheating, lack of confidence, or you just can't put it to words since it's many things a pill won't really help address the issue. A good supportive system and brainstorming solutions is more important. You have to listen to the person, they'll tell you what they're feeling and it might take a bit of guessing or brainstorming to find what can or how it can be helped
Yeah it's got nothing to do with the job. It's about having an unmet need.
Also, the problem with having a qualification in Pyschology or being a doctor is that the base assumptions are sometimes wrong. I.e. the base assumption that the issue is in your mind. Having a lack of serotonin in your brain was a leading cause of depression was actually pushed by.. you guessed it, pharmaceutical companies.
Doctors are behind the times and in the pockets of drug companies. A lot of my issues were actually caused from the miscare of "doctors". The days of gatekeeping information are over.
Encouraging words. Unmet needs,
Spot on in 2024
Well what did you have him on here for if you won’t give him time to tell us
i knew a cow was the key
Please please. Dont say you know everything.
Nothing is as worse as what I'm going through in my youtube video 😭
Yes, exactly!!!
I want the book I want the book. Anyone know where I can get it?
me too
Pride is vital
pride is ego. get rid of it.
@@GanibekZhan exactly, looks like someone changed my comment
Is this Monty Python
Probably very true but you can't get enough people in America together to play a game of solitaire, and if you do they won't trust it enough to play. It's socially easier to just isolate them people and let them end it themselves
He moved so much. Could be in medication.
I agree
does not do a good job of answering the question in the video title
this guy has done joe rogan podcast if u want to check it out
Change your Lifestyle Foods People FFS
I really have discovered that the best medication for depression is listening to the holy Qur'an
Ya could tryna do
Everything what gives purpose. To Help Others. Religion. Structure.
nope, listening to religious books don't helps
This is just a plug for his book . When you have a book , and want it known . This is free publicity, it's cheap for the TV programme too , they do not have to pay a fee for the interview .
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Everyone is special. Every 7.500.000.00 one of us! ^-^ oops someone just died in Ukrain or Gaza or Xinjiang. Oh well. 7.499.999.999 people left so who cares.
may be everyone is special
Ask Andrew tate
To instantly be ridiculed? No thanks!
hmmm, wait why is he a scientist
he is just internet rich joke
It was very hard to understand him due to his accent
Turn on subtitle
I get so depressed I feel nauseous and feel like I’m going to throw up and it lasts for hours sometimes and makes me not wanna eat any food
Idk what to do