ONLINE vs. IN PERSON THERAPY | BETTERHELP EXPERIENCE
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I would LOVE online therapy, I hate my current therapist she basically bullies me??/says a lot of things that a therapist shouldn't say
Fiona Moran :( :( :(
Fiona Moran You should get rid of her it's only going to make you feel worst
You should find a new therapist! Not every therapist you find will be the right one for you but you gotta keep looking :)
The problem with in person therapy is that the clinic has limited therapists and they all have very specific approaches and often times you get matched with someone who doesn't know how to work with not only your specific problem but personality. I have experienced very gentle therapists who didn't push me enough and one who made me feel guilty and wrong. I've always envisioned an online kind of clinic would be so much easier in terms of getting matched with the right person.
You should find a new one and get her fired she shouldn't be working with people who need help
I had a terrible experience with therapy, which is unfortunate, because when someone is debating if they should get help and finally get it, they expect things to at least improve a bit, but in my case... complete opposite.
I can't afford private therapy, so my insurance provides the only phychologist around my area. Since I live in a very small town, she's really the only opcion that I can go to. Well; she's a 60 year old lady, who diagnosed me with severe clinical depression and signs of an anxiety disorder, but did NOTHING to improve it. She refused to give me any medication, which I honestly think I need, because she just basically gave me coping mecanisms you could easily find on freaking tumblr. She just wasn't interested in my case, and treated it like I was sad because my parents were divorcing. She told me to just pretend I was okay, and smile even if I didn't want to, so happiness would come to me eventually. She also said that I shouldn't be depressed, since there are a lot of people who have it worse.
That might work for some people, of course, but for me, made things worse. Pretending I was okay just made me an incredible actress; no one could EVER imagine I was feeling suicidal, ever. Even if I was talking to someone and brought that up to the conversation, they could never notice I was feeling that way. And also, later I'd feel guilty for being so sad, because I have no real reason to be. People have it worse than me, so being depressed for no actual reason made me feel stupid, guilty and selfish. And when I told her she literally said "well, whatever, if you're sad make something about it, don't just come here to complain I'm not giving you the magic solution to it". That's the last time I went to therapy, and I'm never ever going to try that again. Sadly, when I talk to people and ask for other experiences, they all say therapists are not there to say what you want to hear, and that she was quite right about me.
She made me feel like I deserved my mental illness. I wouldn't recommend therapy to anyone if it's like this. Made it worse, and still haven't figured out what to do about the illness itself. Total waste of time. No one tells you what to do when therapy doesn't work.
Kiki Contreras I'm sorry that has happened to you. I cried reading your comment, I used to go to therapy but my parents couldn't afford the copy so I had to stop going. Then when I asked to go again my mother (I live with her) said what your therapist basically said and that I'm faking my depression bc I'm bored and I'm making other people around me depressed. My father is heavily old school religious he doesn't believe in therapy or mental illness. The only other time I went to therapy was when I went to my high school therapist she was very lovely and helped me A LOT.
Even though that's a horrible experience, thanks so much for sharing it here! I've never been to therapy myself (yet), but I guess there's just as many rotten apples as in most other industries, too, huh... I'm really sorry that you had to listen to this therapist and all these people even agreeing with her. :/ People told me similar things about my depressions before. I guess you know that yourself just too well, but keep in mind that they're just plain wrong; at least that helps me reclaim the validity of my emotions. They probably just don't know enough about mental health, and hopefully, you'll remember this the next time you're about to blame yourself for something you have no control over. I really hope you'll get to know real good therapists and more people that actually support you in the future. ♥
Kiki Contreras that is NOT what therapy is supposed to be. Literally one of the first things you learn when becoming a therapist is about "unconditional positive regard" which is basically that they think of you highly and respect you in their actions and behaviors no matter what you bring to session. There are amazing therapists and therapy shouldn't feel like a shouting match. I'm so sorry you went through that. Therapy can be life changing in the best way when a good match occurs.
i had a terrible experience with the psychiatric system in general. i was in a open psychiatric hospital for three months because i was going to get diagnosed, i was put there because of depression and anxiety. they told me that i wasn't "sad enough for depression" and a year later, i was told by another psychologist, that i have a severe depression and i have had this depression for at least four years. my therapy and psychiatric system experiences made my mental health even worse, because they told me that "it wasn't that bad" and i started to doubt myself, which is really hard when you have anxiety already. it's very sad
Aw dear, I'm so sorry. But I think we have things in common. When I opened up about this to my family, I just got yelled at. I was asking for some time off uni, since I was feeling terrible about myself, and couldn't really handle both things at once, and they refused. So I basically failed every exam I took and completely droped out a few months later. My family doesn't believe in this either, they see mentally ill people as "plain crazy", with all the medications and such. They think if we skip the medication we'll kill someone or something weird like it. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
I've been using BetterHelp for over a month and I can't recommend it enough 👌🏼The concept of not having to leave your home to get help is incredible, and my therapist is really amazing, he's really flexible with our sessions so if I have to cancel and reschedule it's not a problem, he really pays attention to what I say and gives me great feedback. I'm so glad you made this video so more people know about it and get help ❤️
It took me years to find the right therapist. I was diagnosed with anxiety at 8 so I’ve seen quite a few in my life. Some never clicked, some hardly talked which didn’t help me at all, one started acting cold towards me after I came out to her.. it was horrible. I didn’t click with one until I was 16 and now I’m 22, still seeing the same one. She’s helped me through so much. I loved this video
stoked for this video, been waiting to hear your thoughts !
I'm so grateful that there is a free healthcare system in germany
I never knew this existed and it sounds like a great resource. Every person should be devoting their life to things that are therapeutic and helping bring out the best aspects within the person while handling the difficult things which hold people back from experiencing their great moments which are available. Thanks for sharing a valuable resource and in-depth personal experience through this.
telling you therapists that you're a psych student or have graduated is very important, no because they can teach you (with come with having therapy whether we want to or not) but because our psychology knowledge can block us from getting through the therapy correctly, we use it as a defence mechanism and it makes us forget we are the patient at times. if we tell them, they can work around it to help us and make us realize what we are doing
ok so i had two therapists (btw english is like my 3rd language so excuse any mistakes) and the first one was horrible. so basiclly she would sit there, listen to me rambling about stuff and then give me tipps. the problem was that i was plus-size at that time and still am. this led to specific remarks like 'i think that the fact that you being overweight influences your mood and makes you depressed' (which isn't fundamentally wrong) and then continued with comments like 'i think you should stop eating too many carbs and unnecessary fats/sugars, also only eat 2 eggs per week (weird) and drink a lot of tea and water' ok fine but mind you that i already knew all of this stuff and told her that. i knew how to handle my diet and what the best method for weight loss was for me but i couldn't make myself to do anything with it (if that makes sense). so she was basically wasting my 45 minutes with her per MONTH (btw) and would do the same next month. she would also sprinkle some fatphobic comments in there for good mesure and would give me fashion tipps to hide my fat?? which is like??? u are not my personal stylist???
the second one was alright but also a bit fatphobic and a bit racist. she thought i was weird and a difficult patient (like told me that to my face) and later on canceled my therapy sessions because i couldn't answer her email in time (7 hours later), so she just assumed..that...i don't want to continue..??? yeah.
Eda Kivanc wow. Fuck those people. Your counselor is not trained to give you fashion or diet advice!!!! What the hell. I'm so sorry you had that experience. Fire any counselor that makes you feel wrong in your body. They're supposed to be there to help you, not tell you how wrong you are 😤 I hope you have better experiences in the future
aw thats so nice of you to say!
Report them!
laurapirate nah too late now.
It's good to be fatphobic though as you should be scared of fat, sure she shouldn't have been an ass but it was good of her to tell you to lose weight since weight has a lot of negative consequences and I'm sure that probably it can lead to all these mood disorders and mental illnesses.
i have the SAME issue with not being able to cry in front of people. i find it so much easier to talk through my issues through text with friends so something like this would be AMAZING. i have gone to many therapists in the past when i was struggling more with my depression and i just couldnt get myself to let down my walls with people face to face because i felt like i would be too vulnerable. im so happy you brought light to this option because i think it could help so many people-possibly even myself!
I've thought about online therapy before but never tried it. In-person has a lot of cons for me, esp having to travel home afterwards when I'm upset. My last therapist was kinda mean, she didn't like the way I dressed so printed off random photos of celebrities from google and told me to dress like them and also that I should dye my hair red?? Surprisingly I never went to see her again lol.
Crypt Bunni are you sure she was a therapist? Sounds more like a stylist.. she needs to get fired
Report her!
You need to report her and get her kicked off her job
I have used BetterHelp in the past, and I loved it. It was a fantastic experience for me. I'm on a college student budget so I couldn't afford to keep doing it. I really enjoyed my therapist. He was so patient and kind to me. It was almost like I was rediscovering myself and unlocking the causes to some of my issues. It was great and when I have more funds I will definitely go back to them.
Betterhelp legit turned me away because I was too much work for them. They simply gave me all the hotlines I already knew. I wouldn't be reaching out to them if I hadn't already known those... what a lovely experience :,)
That would be standard if you were a concern to hurt youself or others. You would not be a candidate for online therapy, would you?
Hey Megan, I'm so sorry you had that experience and I hope that you found the help you need somewhere...
This was SO helpful. I totally understand the thing about feeling like you were not connecting with your emotions in real life and « talking like a friend was saying your story at your place ». That always as been my problem with therapy. I’m a writer and i only connect with my emotions while writing OR talking to my husband. He’s the only one i’m able to talk to. So i get the fact that it could be easier behind a screen. I’m also way more successful in my online studies! :) thank you for that, i decided i’m gonna try it. I wasn’t sure because of all the bad reviews!
Therapy is a luxury I can't currently afford.
Randi me neither. I purchased some therapy sessions from better help now I have no money left for shoes or clothes. Oh well. I think it's important for a person to sort out themselves first no matter how much it is
saarah you’re assuming I am choosing to buy unnecessary material things like shoes and clothes over my mental health~ that’s simply not accurate.
Your privilege is blinding if you honestly think new shoes are my financial burden.
Your life sounds real tough.
calm down nigga
get medical insurance
7cups of tea is free
This sounds really good to be honest. If I have enough money I'll definitely try this out. The experience with my therapist was terrible actually, I didn't feel like she did anything but tell me my problems were all because of my bisexuality, which I have no problems with. I could talk about something else entirely and she'd link it to my sexuality. I never left feeling like we'd achieved something. So I really think this online therapy would be amazing, I also have a very hard time leaving the house/making appointments face to face in general so that's a major plus too. Thank you so so much for opening up/telling us about this, I had no idea this existed. Love you
I don't think anybody will care but I really need to get this out somewhere.
So I've been experiencing symptoms of anxiety. Or at least that's what I believe. I don't know if I just worry too much, my mind "wanting" something to be wrong or if I should really consider therapy.
Let's start at (presumably) the beginning. For about one year I felt nauseous every day I went to school. It starts at the moment I'd wake up and end when I arrive at school. About two months ago my nausea started getting worse. As did my anxiety. Everytime when I meet someone I would get extremely nervous the day before. And if I get nervous I also feel sick. These two symptoms go hand in hand. I can't have one without the other. Even when meeting my best friends, I felt sick for the whole day until they arrived.
Additionally I also worry why to much about what I say to people and what they think of me. If I do something awkard I will surely think about in the evening for the next couple months/years. I also tend to regret things as soon as I do them. I often handle based on emotions and as soon as these are gone I regret my past decisions.
Hence why I'm writing this.
I've been rambling way too much and I'm sorry for taking up so much space in this comment section, but I just wanted to get that off my chest. (If you can say that. I'll probably worry the whole night about what people will say and I won't get much sleep)
Anyway, if you really read the whole thing "Thank you" from the bottom of my heart.
Thanks
from a nervous little girl
CreativeCreature I certainly can't diagnose anything but if I were you I would see a psychiatrist first because they can diagnose you and prescribe you medication/therapy
CreativeCreature
I totally get what you said. I feel the same way when I go to school, no one I talk to related, so I was thinking about therapy but I am worried it will just turn out to be another teenager wasting the time of a therapist who could be helping someone who needs it more.
MMMCLXXX ________ I really didn't expect that, but thank you so much! I'm definitely saving this somewhere and rereading it a bunch of times. I would've never thought anyone cared enough to answer, especially this detailed. Thank you for the help and all the information
that guy That's my problem too. I don't wanna waste any recourses when others need it more. That's also why I'm unsure to tell anybody close to me. But we'll get through this, somehow
Fiona Moran Thanks, this will help me make my decision. I wasn't really sure what to do before, but after what you all said I'm really going to consider it. Thank you
Ugh I loveee the idea of online therapy, but $260 a month is literally my car payment I barely make. I hate being a poor student :(
Omg. My life in a nutshell
Or ya know enough to buy health insurance.
I have been spending $175 per 50 minutes, and it's worth it
Message SilencedVictims on Instagram he helps people get through depression, anxiety and other feelings like them. He offers therapy for 10 times cheaper than a Therapist that you would have to go to and speak to face to face(£25/$35). He helps you through text because many people may not feel confident going out and seeing a therapist. This also gives you time to think and really express yourself, he is there to listen and assist.
Thank you for being so open and honest! Your videos are one of the reasons that I finally decided to get help.
Ugh thank you! Ive been seeing that and tried a trial but it was too short for me to know if it was actually good or not and I wasn't sure if I should pay or not. Its nice to see a review on it!
Ive been trying to get therapy, but needed to get referred because I am new to the city I go to university in and my doctor refused because I didn't have a "legit" reason for being depressed?? He literally said "Why do you think you are depressed?" super bluntly and I was caught off guard so I said "Uh, well my parents passed away" and he said "How long ago?" And I said "Well my dad when I was 11, and my mom when I was 17 (I'm 20 now). " And his reply was "That was a long time ago, theres no reason for you to be depressed. Time has passed. I cant refer you to a therapist but I can prescribe anti-depressants.."
Like WHAT. You cant let me talk to someone, but you CAN give me pills?? Did not make sense to me. Needless to say, I didnt go back or take the pills. I've been trying to look for a therapist ever since so I am so happy I stumbled upon this video :)
Wow. I'm sorry that he said something like that that's not right.
I am in face to face therapy and I find myself lying about my situation or not telling the full extent of it because I'm ashamed so I think the somewhat anonymity with online therapy may be better for me
I've had my ups and downs with therapy. There was a point where I had had four different therapists in one year. But I finally found the one for me and I've been seeing her for over a year now, though I did take a 4 or 5 month break in the middle. but I have MediCal so my therapist is only "allowed" to use some forms of therapy, like cognitive behavioral therapy and some things she isn't allowed to do because shes technically a government worker and i dont even know. But she makes it work and shes helped me through so much, more than all of my other therapists combined. I've been going to therapy off and on for almost 8 years, for a multitude of different reasons, and a word of advice to those who are thinking about it: don't be discouraged if it doesn't do anything the first oupe go arounds. It takes time to find not only the personality that works for you but the methods as well. It's all a learning experience. I still remember/use things my old therapists taught me yeeears ago.
I can definitely relate to the crying thing. I think the most frustrating thing about it is the time spent crying isn't really constructive yet it still eats up a good chunk of my appointment ($$$)
Thank you so much for making this video. I've had to start going to therapy and it's so embarrassing for me. It really helps me to see someone else talking about it.
+Sarah yes do not be embarrassed! you're so brave for deciding to go even while being embarrassed about it. a lot of people are in therapy and I think it's a great thing so don't ever feel ashamed. you're so strong for doing it don't forget that!
I am super glad onlin therapy is an option. Personally, I don't have one online and that is because I work better with a therapist in person. I am lucky enough to live I canada and have the Heath care to see my therapist in person. I've been seeing my therapist and group therapy for over a year and a half now, it's crazy how much progress I have made. I still have a lot to work on but I'm glad I have the option for help. For those of you who are looking for a therapist online or in person, it can take time to find one that works with you well. Sometimes there are trials and error when it comes to counsellors and tht is okay. Keep looking for what works for you.
BETTER HELP IS A SCAM, DON'T DO IT PEOPLE. GO TO IN PERSON THERAPIST!
I've never been to a therapist but when i was depressed i ask my parents for one and they said no because i "didn't have anything to be sad about". Luckily i pushed through and found ways to become happy again
I went to the therapist yesterday and im liking it. I think for me it's better in person because i have social anxiety, and even being really nervous it's good for me to talk face to face, i thing it might help me a lot during the sessions. I had never been in a therapy before and I was scared that my therapist weren't a therapist or whatever, but i liked her a lot and she truly understands me so I'm feeling each day less fear of having to go there and talk to her...
Thank you for this video!!!
Can you someday make a video about social anxiety? 💓
I'm really grateful to live in a country where a lot of therapies are free (there are private and public therapists)... I've been with my former therapist for more than one year and she's was a really nice person! She helped me a lot (mostly with my OCD and my self-esteem issues) and our last session even was a bit emotional. I had to stop only because I leave my current city for my higher education. Anyway, I find it's sad you have to pay for it but at least it seems more affordable than a in person therapy, and if it allows more people to get helped, then that's great!
Thank you so much for this video! I recently had to stop my therapy and I loved my counselor so much, I had been seeing her for 6 years. I have been going through a lot recently with postpartum depression and anxiety and I have been looking for help. I'm so excited to start my new therapy!♡
I'm definitely going to try this once my finances improve (hopefully I can anyway as I'm in the UK), thank you for being so thorough on how it works! I've had all kinds of therapies over the years, talking therapy, CBT, DBT, I even have a care coordinator who I meet up with weekly but I find it SO difficult to talk face to face and I often feel like these people who are supposed to be helping me seem so stretched that they often forget what I've told them from session to session and so I end up not telling them anything as I don't want to be an inconvenience. I have too many walls up and find it really difficult to open up, but I imagine it'd be easier through an online chat system as I won't have to worry about gauging the therapists reaction as I can't see them so I'd hopefully feel less judged.
I'm so happy for you! I'll definitely try online counseling if I'll ever feel like I need it. Thank you for this video!
Wow, they even have Non-Binary option, I almost cried. That is so awesome.
Love, love, love girl👌🏻 thanks sooooo much for sharing your experience with therapy! I'm seriously considering trying this company out
This sounds like the future especially considering the overwhelming numbers of people seeking help right now. It solves the geographical issue. So many people in communities that don't have access to therapy that works for them will be able to reach out to someone who can actually get them moving forward, at the very least. I still think the human in person experience is probably important for a lot of people but this is great.
I went to get help lesss an week ago and I was forced in the psych ward for a day and everyone was so mean. They made me feel crazy.
I think I'm gonna try this app :)
I do in person therapy and I thinks this works best for me. Since I moved a year ago I still feel lonely and sad and even I text my family and friends almost daily it's not the same seeing somebody in person and have a real conversation, because of this I really like going to my therapist and also she is very nice and welcoming. I need this close connections and I think over a chat or a video call I would feel as close
I haven't had therapy since I was young. (About 12) after a tramatic childhood and my first therapist who I opened up to alot actually just one session out of the blue brought in another lady and told me this would be our last session together and that the lady was my new therapist. Apparently she was moving but I remember feeling so shocked and mad that she just dropped it on me last minute and now I had to start over with this new person. I'll probably never forget it. Anyway my new therapist actually was really cool and we got along fine. (I actually taught her to knit and we would knit together during our sessions) but I winded up moving out of state and I haven't seen anyone since. I really need to though so thanks for this video, I think I'll actually check into this site and see how it goes since social anxiety is one of my issues and I don't like talking to people I don't know in person.
Rayne Shadow I am a well teen and my parents don’t know how bad my anxiety and depression is if I’m honest I have no idea how to tell them and because of my anxiety I find it so hard to tell anyone anything. I mean if I need help in a class I’m too scared to even talk to that teacher
ty for the help sarah!!
and yes please update! : )
I've been going to a therapist who I got into first for my marriage (which he saved and turned from toxic to supporting)
I booked some one on ones, and, while I felt they were really helpful, he doesnt take insurance, and recommended I find a new therapist who is more cost effective. He was not just a listener, he helped translate my brain into feelings and solutions.
Found your video while I was researching online therapy.
I'm kind of apprehensive about trying online therapy, though. I was just discussing with my wife, and I think I'll try it for a month.
What I'm worried about is that I'll use it too often- every time I feel an emotion, I'll turn to my handy dandy therapist rather than learn how to work it out on my own. I think it would really help me, though
When I was in high school I was having a really tough time and my mom took me to a therapist who ended up being my high school psychology teacher. That was awkward. I only went to two sessions.
A few months later I started going with a different therapist and that one went a lot better. She was young and she gave me those homework assignments you mentioned. I talked to her a bit about my sexuality as well and it seemed that she wasn't really informed about bisexuality so I taught her a few things as well. (For context, I live in a mid to low income part of a big city in Mexico).
One thing that I didn't like is that each therapist latched on to one particular issue as if it was the root of all my problems. The first one, my teacher, seemed to think that money was my main concern. My family did go through really bad financial problems when I was fourteen that we still haven't fully recovered from and it was something that I was struggling with, but it wasn't the only thing. The other therapist thought that my big issue was my weight, which is a concern, but it wasn't the only thing on my mind.
My experience with in person therapy was similar. I also find it hard to correct people, so when my therapist would draw an opinion or give me ways to cope with my anxiety I would just agreed with it knowing very well I wouldn't do it later.
I have the same problem. for me, I think its because I worry too much about hurting people's feelings.
I wish they took insurance plans because I think online therapy could benefit me, but in person unfortunately is cheaper. I agree with you that I'm not entirely open in person even though I try to be. I feel embarrassed and ashamed about a lot of my issues, which sadly is stigma, but it holds me back from getting the help I need. :/ I'm so happy for you Sarah!! You're glowing here girl :)
i find this whole thing very interesting. i'm a psychology major here in brazil and online theraphy is against the law here, so the professional in question could lose their license if they met and started sessions with a patient online (there are exceptions - online therapy is allowed only if the patient and theraphist previously had in person consultations and for some reason are now apart and want to continue the treatment). as i said, this whole concept is very foreign to me, so it was nice to hear how it works
I have in-person, individual therapy around twice a month and group therapy once a week.
The idea of online therapy seems so foreign to me. But so did group therapy at one time! I'd honestly try it if I didn't already have the best therapist ever.
I started BH a couple months ago. I've never had therapy before, but this was definitely a good first experience.
I am torn over this topic because I had a kind of bad therapy experience but it was also kind of OK.I went to a therapist for almost a year and I am good at talking to people who are older than me, but that is exactly the point because I am not talking about my problems in an emotional way but rather very stiff and calm. Therefore I never showed emotions on front of her and then one time she told me, that she is very sure that I do not have depression, even though I was diagnosed by multiple different therapists before and even was I'm a clinic for multiple months because of that. After she said that I closed myself completely and pretended like I was fine. It really didn't help.
Sarah... thank you for your transparancy.... i love the way you talk and i cannot say you are not cute.. Thank you for serving us with your insight! Hug
I signed up and I got an email telling me BetterHelp is not a service that will suit my needs and may not be the best option for me.
What do I do now?
i hate that the only place my insurance covers, i don't even get a real licensed therapist, it's a graduate student. i just want a real therapist, i don't know, i just hate the idea of graduate students using my struggles as a way to gain experience
Thank you for this video! I told my boyfriend about this and he loves the idea. He'll probably sign up sometime this week. :) He's been wanting help for lots of different issues but some of them are embarrassing and hard to talk about. Online would be better for him to open up!
I also had free counseling in college and she was great. It was really convenient (it was a small campus) and it was in the library, so I didn't have to tell anyone what I was doing, I could just say I was going to the library (though I did wind up telling people cause I don't really care). Unfortunately, my class load got so busy I didn't have the time or energy to keep going.
I'm a doctor (clinical and forensic psychologist), and I really wish you had spoken to a real professional before making this video.
Can you clarify what you mean? She's just discussing her experiences. Does she need to check with a therapist before doing so, or are you saying you don't consider online counselors real professionals?
@@caileighmcgoldrick3850 Absolutely, my apologies for not being more clear. BETTERHELP is extremely frowned upon by the mental health community IRL. This video is, more than likely, sponsored by BETTERHELP, so she's being paid. Many of the "mental health" people with YT channels are sponsored by BETTERHELP, which is simply unethical in my book. Sarah is 500% free to talk about whatever she wants on her channel, even her mental health, but what bothers me is when it may be incentivized by money.
I have heard many stories about the quality of counselors associated with BETTERHELP, but I have no personal or professional experience working with them, and even if I did, it wouldn't be reflective of all the counselors as a whole. I've browsed the profiles, but I'm not impressed. If someone just needs a person to vent or talk things out with, sure, that might work. It certainly is convenient. However, if a person is experiencing anything of clinical significance, those things should be left up to the professionals who have the real training and expertise to ethically and competently manage them. My first grad program was in social work, I have nothing against them or counselors, but I pursued my doctorate because I knew and wanted to work on a higher level.
I'm protective of my field and our patients, and I can be a bit blunt sometimes, but my intent was pure. I will totally put someone on blast if necessary, though, and I will always back it up.
@@g0ne_dark Thanks for the reply! I get the criticisms. For me, I recently started online therapy as a way to get back into therapy-- just because it's so customizable and convenient, it's an easy way to start. However for long term help, IRL definitely seems the better option. Once I've gotten a better idea of what I'm looking for from a counselor (and once the world goes back to semi-normal) would definitely prefer to go back to IRL, but this is a great stop-gap for now.
@@caileighmcgoldrick3850 Excellent point! Online therapy may be advisable at this point, as it could, literally, be safer than therapy IRL, lol. The customizations/convenience certainly are attractive, but what worries me is you just never know what you're going to get. I agree with your reasoning, though. It makes sense. You've actually just given me an idea for a new video topic. I get quite a lot of questions from people asking how to find a good therapist, what to look for, etc., and I know this has been covered by other people on YT, but not to the extent that I believe prospective patients should be aware of. There are a lot of bad social workers, counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, etc. out there, and they might come across as a perfect fit, but turns out, this person isn't even licensed, this person has had multiple complaints or board violations, this person isn't even a doctor, etc. I'm a strong believer in patients becoming their own best advocate. I feel like I have a responsibility to inform and educate people on how to do that, but others may want to avoid the attention. When you're ready to find a therapist IRL, stop by my channel, I'll probably have a video about this by then.
@@g0ne_dark Def would be helpful! I've been in & out of therapy for years, and I've always left because I was unhappy with the counselor/type of therapy. One insisted on going to group therapy, I wasn't a fan. One was more focused on "mental wellness" (things like leaving yourself love notes around the house) than working on concrete coping techniques. One was the stereotypical soft spoken woman in a beige sweater who would just ask "and how does that make you feel?" It's hard to know what works for you without seeing what definitely doesn't work for you.
Hey Sarah I was having a panic attack and watching your video calmed me down. So thanks for that. 😁
sarah you should do a video on how to get the most out of your therapy sessions.. i have never been to any kind of therapy and something holding me back is ME holding back. like I don't think I can open up to a stranger. I feel like I would be so awkward and shy and only tell half of my shit... if that makes sense?
I really want to get therapy because I think it would benefit me greatly, but I'm scared at the same time
The therapist I went to was similar to one you described in your video. The quiet type that barely says anything. I'd rant about my issues and what's bothering me and she didn't even say much? It bugged me a lot since I have horrible conversation skills and get nervous whenever there's awkward silences. She didn't help me that much when I talked about how I had panic attacks every night, and all she recommended was breathing exercises and yoga, which didn't help much. I don't see a therapist anymore, and am not sure I should. I'm not dealing with that many panic attacks as of lately, but am having some issues with socializing and am extremely self conscious and nervous in public places to the point I'll avoid going anywhere (even if I want to) because I'm afraid I'll be judged. My mom says I'm just shy though and doesn't understand why I'm close to breaking down in public.
Your skin looks great!
thank you for this video! it's very helpful 😊💚 I've never gone to therapy but I am considering it
7cups of tea is another sort of counselling and is free!
lamp shade BEE I've had many negative experiences with 7cups unfortunately. They are usually very unprofessional and unempethetic.
Sunshine Honey yeah, i think it does have it's faults but it can be useful i suppose
lamp shade BEE they're not licensed tho
also waiting times can be pretty long
I have had exclusively negative experienced with that site, i would not recommend it. They are really unempathetic and they don't seem to understand that I cant just turn off my depression/anxiety. I often feel vary invalidated and attacked by the listeners.
How are you feeling that this may be a potential scam?
I don’t get it honestly! I used this service for 9 months with a session every week and paid for it with my own money. my therapist was definitely licensed and was amazing. they probably have many counselors that don’t work universally for everyone, and they’re very open about their limitation with the amount they can help you simply over the internet. my counselor told me many times I should get blood work done and go to a psychiatrist to get an actual diagnosis since she could not do those things online. I think it may take a few tries with different counselors, or maybe I just got lucky with an amazing one, but I definitely don’t think it’s a scam!
did youre therapist show actually proof of verification being certified? Betterhelp themselves have litigated that they do not verify, confirm etc their credibility, they are not liable for any advice, statements, or actions that happen between person a and councilor, they keep all information for "training" purposes, but why when all the "councilors" are not even employees? there on a short term contract, who are they training? so there using all the users information, everything is kept recorded and "sold" for "research purpose" not to mention the 7 day free trail is a scam, then still charging and not refunding when cancelled
I think that this is more than taking a few different trys with different councilors, but i digress I am really happy that this service has been nothing but good to you ;) I wonder, you know how many signed up with youre link, try a poll to see how it went for them
@@sarahhawkinson its s scam. 1:06 "licensed therapist" BS
@@clairebeauty4183 have you verified the validity of your allegations, or repeating what you've heard? Have you ever used the service personally?
Online therapy DID NOT work for me because I never took it seriously. In person is more of mine. I also had a very very poor school counseling.
Do you know what the site does or what it's policy is for if the therapist decides that you need prescription medication?
i needed this
I wish I had known about online therapy when I was 18. I didn't want to go to therapy cause I was still living with my mom and she would know.
I went to therapy when I moved out and it did help somewhat, but I think online therapy would've worked so much better because I've always had trouble saying what I feel but writing or typing never was a problem. I still struggle with that and I still rather type if something is wrong. If I ever feel like I need therapy again, I'm totally going to try online therapy!
I hate counselling irl, I’m definitely talking to my mum about better help
I’m 14 and can’t afford any therapy so maybe one day. I want to be a therapist when I am older because I love to help people. I hate that people have negative experiences there because it should be a positive experience which helps you feel better.
Is it weird that I get more anxiety thinking of talking to someone on a webcam rather than in person? I like this option for other people though.
+Laura Scott Bell no I feel the same! including talking on the phone. I'd much rather be in person or over chat.
I really couldn't take to counselling/therapy..she simply sat and listened while I talked and didn't really speak and I feel really uncomfortable crying in front of people but after years of self harming and suicidal ideation I was prescribed lexapro and that has really helped especially with the anxiety..sometimes therapy isn't for everyone
Some therapists are collaborative which means they self disclose as a tool but it would be relevant.
I did counseling with my school for a great fucking price before I graduated (And I fucking LOVED it, it did so much for me), and then I thought to try Better Help afterward cause I didn't know how else to find counseling or therapy. After about 2 months though I realized that it wasn't doing much for me. I don't remember having the option for a live chat appointment. Mine was only the general chat room and then I could schedule a phone call appointment. (Which lmao I have terrible phone anxiety and that was never gonna work). So for me, it didn't work because I never had any appointments and couldn't have a conversation even in one day, it would always be over a week. Which was really useless for me. For me doing in-person counseling, even though it was much more nerve-wracking, was helpful because it helped me face that fear. I have the same problem with getting emotional/crying in front of others and my in-person counselor had helped me start to get over it little by little. My Better Help counselor also just wasn't useful. She would constantly tell me to "just be more positive" when the problem is that I don't know how to do that lmao. Just another perspective on the site I guess.
Thank you so much for making this video
I'm in therapy, however, with these therapists, they just don't feel like they work. I'm not really a fan of how the sessions go and I don't think they are really doing anything for my mental health and I'm not sure how to bring it up to my mom.
i just want to thank you so much for this video. i was looking around trying to find an alternative for my friend who needs help but couldn't do like traditional (?) therapy. i care about her deeply and i've been looking for a new solution to help her and this could be it!
How do you tell if you need therapy? Or how did you know you had to go to someone? how do you know the difference between what you think or what you feel? (Sorry, there's so many questions. I know the last one doesn't make much sense 😅)
i decided to go to therapy when i started bursting out with emotions and started crying or screaming at people without a specific reason behind it. it felt like a certain limit was being broken everytime something little happened, as if you would have a nearly full glass of water and any little thing would let it overflow. also sleeploss and weird sleeping patterns because of anxiety. but thats very specific i guess. you just feel it you know? it's different for everybody.
that guy I think one needs therapy when you can't cope with your own feelings anymore. I've always had blockades inside my head, a dark and impenetrably cloud, that just covers everything good and positive. I started going to therapy when I knew I couldn't get out of this could alone anymore. xx
The second therapist you mentioned reminds me of my first (/most recent) therapist..
Hi Sarah, have you ever heard of a therapist telling a client that they will no longer work with them because they have "graduated"? My mom was seeing a therapist for a long time, and he at one point told her that he wouldn't see her anymore because he had "helped her all he could" and she had to find someone else if she still needed counselling. She was heartbroken and felt betrayed that someone she trusted so much made her feel like a lost cause.
Btw your skin is looking bomb as hell you're glowing girl :)
Yes, one of my therapists did this to me too.
Yes, one of my therapists did this to me too.
Clicked kinda just cause of an awesome Manson t-shirt, stayed cause of great video.
What a great video!
Wow I have the exact same t-shirt, awesome! I love the video as always btw c:
I tried Betterhelp, but they turned me away. Something about in person therapy being better for me. I totally get that, though- Online therapy is new. It's just, I can't afford in person therapy, so it was incredibly depressing to find out that I couldn't get online help.
do you know if you can put those online therapy sessions on your insurance ? like i think i would like it better that way than the traditional face to face thing, but if i cant put them on my insurance i dont think it's gonna work. but it seems like a really good alternative for people who are not really confortable with face to face interactions.
i really wish i could get online therapy instead of in person. my therapist now, she worked for a little bit but then she almost feels like a teacher who's lecturing me on rules of life and whatever. like i cant say this i cant do this i cant think this only this this and this type thing. or like she'll question me on what i know like "how do you know shes a good friend" or "were you really depressed?" and often she'll just say blatantly cruel things (to me they were hurtful at least" such as "why do you think you're so important" and "i think you like the attention you get from being mentally ill." and that really really messed me up.
plus it's so hard to verbalze things and make them sound genuine, plus i hate the sound of my own voice and that honestly just makes every session worse because i can hear myself going on and on about something and half the time im so spaced out i cant even remember most of what i said.
I always use Childine for therapy I guess. The 1-2-1 counselling is actually quite good for me at least. Its only for the UK and for up to 18 year olds but it's good
It's so strange, I've had the same type of experience with my therapist that you had with the second lady you were seeing. She was really nice and reassuring, we set up how I wanted this therapy to go, but at the end she was talking a lot about herself too, and each session so one every two weeks, I had things to talk about but she would say Well we need to focus on that first Because it is the most urgent - that was school, exams, or planning my exams, or analysing how it went. As she is a professionnal I never said anything (my body langage spoke for me I think) but at the end she wasn't helping me anymore so we stopped :/ I really want to try CBT I think it would be so much helpful ! x
I am in therapy and I like my therapist but since I suffer from social anxiety I don't feel like I can opean up in front of her
literally therapy does nothing
they focus on my depression and none of my other problems
and for depression when recently i've been happy, motivated, and not a little bit bad about myself, suicidal, etc
it can't just disappear but i can't see myself with major depression
i wake up and can get up (unless i'm lazy and just sleep again or go on my phone)
i can eat normally
i can clean, move around, without feeling awful or tired
i'm always energized
and when i see myself i shrug and get over it
not sit there crying for an hour about how fat i am
and therapy just goes on and on about telling them things i have nothing to say
i have no moments of those symptoms
i have no recent stories to say and to help me be better
like i said, mental illness can't just go away, but this last year, most of my ongoing problems ended, and still, i'm always told to go back to therapy, go back to therapy, you need therapy, and don't explain why?
likeeeee e e e e if i get upset, i get over it in less then ten minutes
so i'm just
yeahhh
how does this online therapy work? do you message them whenever you want or do you have scheduled times like face-to-face therapy? all i know is it's much easier for me to express myself through writing, and i also have trouble getting out of the house to go to sessions. i've fallen off with several therapists for this reason
+GarlicPoncho you can message them anytime whenever you want and they will respond when they can but you also set up dedicated time for a live session however often they're available if that makes sense!
This sounds very good! How is it with confidentiality and so on?
I´ve been talking to many councellors and therapists in my life, but my current one I feel a connection with and it seems like the things he ask/say to me is very good and what I need to hear exactly in that moment. I had my first appointment after the summer today and it felt very good. I´m going to see him once a month now, but it scares me to know that I can´t talk with him forever... maybe this autumn is my final time with him.
Maybe in therapy you could try to uncover why it's difficult to cry if it's something you want to change p.s. thank you so much for this video
I love you Sarah
i guess i have social anxiety, i really think that therapy would help me, but i'm so scared of saying this out loud, because it feels too real. plus: my parents would probably shrug it off and say something like "stop overreacting". they really care about what others say about them and in my country people still believe that if you go to a psychologist/psychiatrist you're a "freak" etc
I’ve had bad experiences with better help because I’m always turned away :,)))
Lilac Tyler why were you turned away?
Me too
Your second therapist didn't sound too great 😬
I'm a third year counselling graduate... it sounds really unethical
nootoffee I'm a 3rd year grad student as well! Yeah, there are a lot of "oh no!'s" there
I was told by my parents and friends to get over my clinical depression is till havnt got medication or gone to therapy
It seems some of the info in this video is outdated or wrong... I thought I would check out the website because I'm trying out new therapists, and the site says you have to commit $695 right away for 3 months of service. I thought you said it was billed monthly? This would be a great option for me if I didn't have to fork over the better half of a thousand dollars for something I may not like :/
Thank u so much ♡
Idk if this is a true or typo but the bottom says not sponsored. Didn't want you to get in trouble :)
Idk what I should do... I feel sad often and have random breakdowns and have thoughts that I would be better off dead for no reason, I feel like my brain just makes me do it cuz I want attention. Know one really knows, I've tried to bring up ADD with my mom a few times but she just says I don't and stop thinking about it. any advice for me?
does anybody know if this site has therapists speaking different languages?