The Fire of the Guru & Working With Attachment in Relationships | Into the Heart of Datta - S5E9

0:00 The Nature of Guru and Guide
1:39 When You Connect to a Guru, You Can't Avoid the Truth Anymore
2:32 Sacredness of the Guru in India vs. the West; Superficial Displays of Spirituality and Religiosity
5:22 We Are All Actors Playing a Role
6:22 The Only Currency for Realised Beings is Honesty and Authenticity; Shri Swami Samarth Loved People Who Were True To Themselves
8:22 Avadhutas Amplify What is Already Present; What is Experience?; All Experience is Personalised Experience
11:11 Why Do We Connect to a Master?; The Qualities of Reality: Perfect Bliss, Security and Unconditional Love
14:14 When We Connect to a Guru, We're in the Right Ballpark of Security, Love, Bliss--But Some People Still Fumble the Ball At This Stage
15:38 Betrayal of the Guru; The Guru Gives a Direct, Precise Reflection of Us; A Guru's Presence Accelerates Everything and Everyone
19:00 Whatever is Amplified is Already Within Us Anyway; To Refine Our Patterns, We Have to Be Able to See Them, We Have to Feel the Pain in Situations Precipitated by These Patterns
21:02 What Does Closeness Mean for Human Beings?; Love for the Guru is a Toll Road to Truth and Liberation--the Toll Has to Be Paid; Love Mixed with Ownership, Possessiveness and Expectations Has Suffering Built In to It
24:38 When We Get Hurt or Disappointed, We Want to Run Away and Disconnect; Attachment Theory: Different Styles of Attachment; Anxious Attachment and Avoidant Attachment
28:33 Attachment Styles in Relation to the Guru; All of Our Dead Patterns Will Come Up in the Presence of the Guru--Only To Be Ripped Apart; The Impulse of the Heart is To Connect--This Path is About the Heart Defeating the Ego and Mind
30:35 Leonard Cohen: 'When I Tried to Be Alone, He Fastened Me to a Congregation'; We End Up Being Pushed Into Things We Didn't Want To Do; The Journey Back to Self is the Stilling Back to Neutrality of Emotional Extremes
33:40 We Have to Keep Moving, We Have to Keep Going Where Our Heart Tells Us to Go; Cohen Might Have Felt Peaceful Alone, So His Guru Made Him Work With People
35:10 Leonard Cohen: 'He Curled His Fists and Pounded Me Towards My Proper Shape'; The Guru Will Point Out the Darkness Within Us and Say, 'Look What's There. Look at the Suffering That It Is Bringing To You.'
36:45 Leonard Cohen: 'And He Puked In Disgust When I Swelled Without Filling'; If We Can Stay In the Master's Presence After Feeling Like 'I've Arrived', Then We Will Be Shown What Is Still There To Be Refined Within Us
37:38 Leonard Cohen: 'He Sank His Tiger Teeth Into Everything Of Mine That I Refused To Claim'; All of Our Problems and Complaints Are All Our Own Creation; We're All Conditional Karmic Beings, and When We Come Together, We Make a Mess--That's What Life Is
39:33 Leonard Cohen: 'At A High Price He Sold Me Water Beside the River'; We Already Are the Ocean, And Yet We Go To Someone Else and Ask for Water; The Job of the Master is To Show You That You Don't Need to Ask Anybody for Anything
40:52 The Mama Tiger Pushes the Baby Tiger Out On Its Own After A Certain Point; The Difference Between When Humans Kill and When Animals Kill; We Are the Lowest of Parasitical Beings As Long As We Continue to War and Kill for Pleasure
43:59 Masters Show Us Our Inheritance of Rubbish, Our Job is To See It, Accept It and Lean Into What We Want To Do; We Should Know the Lessons That We Are Facing Every Day
46:03 We Have to Know Who We Are As An Actor--We Won't Realise Our Real Character If We're Getting Tricked Every Day By the Fake Character We Play; We Can't Call Out Anyone Else On This Path--Everything is Within Us, The Dirt is Our Stuff
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