I want to let you know I did a video on your son and educated people on how important it is to discuss these sort of topics with children. You as a parent are still a great father and Gods gift upon this world. Don’t let anyone tell you different. Hayden is in Gods hands now and it will take a long time to heal, but out of this great tragedy YOU yourself are taking the extra mile to make sure these parents don’t go through what you went through. No parent should bury their child. #AllLivesMatter #ConversationsMatter
Praying for you and the rest of your family through this difficult time. But thank you so much for helping and saving many other people. I know Hayden is at peace with God and is looking down on you and is proud of all that you are doing.
I so needed to hear this. Im going through issues with my 10yr old Son. May the memories of Hayden keep your heart alive and know that the love that you shared will forever be the bright light in your life. We need you Dad. Thank you for all of your efforts to get the word out that help is needed. Why is there no provisions in these bills that are being passes. Covid has affected us both young and old that can be long lasting. Rest in perfect peace Angel Hayden. You have not elevated in vain. Much as it hurt your Parents you have also empowered them to be the voice that was silence that is now shouting and being heard from the mountain top. Hayden you have and will continue making a difference forever. 💛
I still can't stop crying. My son is 11ys & my daughter is 7yrs old. The other day I heard my son say he wanted to kill himself. I've been surrounding him with love & my husband & I are doing our best but you're right, this is so hard on our kids. I can't even express the admiration I have for you for sharing this. I know this video was meant for me & my family to see. I'm so sorry for your lost. My heart is so broken for you. Love you guys.
@Ari Arredondo Thank you for your reply. I've been holding my son very tight myself lately. I'm so terrified of losing him sometimes its so hard to do my daily things or even let him take showers. I understand I'm going over board but I can't help it. If I don't have my eyes on him I panic. Please Lord help me!!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hi , your kid is very lucky to have a mom who cares about their mental health and will protect them. I wish I could say the same about my parents, I'm 12. Maybe get your son some therapy? It might help.
@@strawberry_lemonade2886 Oh sweetie I'm sorry. Is there a reason why you feel like your parents don't care about you? I know there's a lot of parents out there that are abusive both physically & mentally but I also know that there're some kids who feel like their parents don't care about them & it turns out not to be the case. I'm not saying this is you at all & honesty although my parents did everything for me when I was younger, I myself was one of those kids who couldn't help but feel like my parents didn't care or love me. It was nothing that they did or didn't do. I just felt the way I felt & that was it, no one at that time could change my mind. However as I got a bit older those feelings went away & I was able to appreciate my parents & accept their love. I did get my son therapy. He goes every Thursday. He's gotten so much better especially with controlling his angry outbursts. Him & I talk about our feelings, we share so much with each other it's incredible. I encourage you to tell your parents how you feel. Again I'm sorry sweetie.
@@aramirez320 hi, i do think they care about me mostly, but theres this problem that doesnt go away, and when I told my parents (mostly my mom), she said "oh its okay i had the same thing as a kid its normal you should be fine." The problem is, there's like certain words i dont wanna hear/see or else something will happen to my dog (a few of my friends said it might be ocd idk) so i dont have anyone to help me and my brother and his friends say things that'll trigger it on purpose becasue they "like to see me fAkE sUffEr". So idk what to do also sorry for not responding earlier as my power went out for a while
Unfortunately I did know this, only because I have suffered with depression for most of my life. I have made a life time study to understand my condition and to make others aware of the necessity of understanding the many levels and facets humans experience about mental health. Conversations do matter, but you cannot beat yourself up with what ifs. Suicide can be contemplated or spontaneous. Talking does help. Keep talking, Brad. And thanks.
I’m just seeing your video about your son man and I am soooo sorry that you and your family has got to go through that and my condolences to you and your family 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I have 8 Grandchildren and I never want to know the Pain Y'all are going through. I think Y'all are so Strong to Share your Story of Hayden. Y'all are admirable for the things that you are doing that does not let Hayden's Life go in vain, that you can save a Life, with your words and thrive to reach out to Parents that might feel, " Not my Child" Thank Y'all and my Prayers come to your Home. Also, to anyone Dealing with Suicide thoughts or Families is a loss from Suicide. 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️
God bless you and your familly, never give up on saving kids life, I will fallow your example. My douhgter started to be sick becouse of bulling at scholl. Teachers are like a dead man walking no reaction! Now she is no longer with us.
Hayden will be with you always and forever and the love for his family and friends will always be there. God Bless All Of You. R.I.P Hayden you are loved by so many.
Hayden will always be in hearts and minds. God bless you and your family for speaking out and hopefully reaching others who are suffering similar types of isolation. God bless your son!!
I love you Brad. I love your beautiful and honest expressions that you might have missed something else. Your son is such a beautiful boy. His smile is bright. I wrote on another post that I thought to post here as well. I am SO sorry of your loss. God bless you and your family Brad. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. Hayden's death is truly tragedy. He was such a handsome child. I also have a 12 year old boy and 8 year old girl, both I treasure beyond anything else in my life. They play together a lot, which helps a great deal of not feeling disconnected. All the clues of Hayden's death are mentioned in this video by his dad. It's not just one thing, but many things that are the real reasons of Hayden's tragic death . The clues are these: 1) Hayden is a gifted Fortnite gamer. This tells me that he spends a great deal of time playing the game. Too much time even. He is totally obsessed and addicted to the game. 2) He broke his monitor because of his competitiveness. Hayden doesn't like to lose, and when he does, he doesn't know how to manage his emotions, thus, his reactive anger caused the monitor to be damaged. Not being able to play his game created a deep withdrawal, as it's clear that Hayden is addicted to the game, hence, not being able to play created a negative psychological emotion on Hayden. He suffered a withdrawal much like a drug addict suffers. His dad clearly told him that he is not getting another monitor. Hayden at this point was devastated. 3) His dad provided a pathway for him to possibly get a new monitor. But he had to earn it. Busting his balls to be nice to his sister and to work hard on his chores to obtain another monitor is a very positive usage of leverage for Hayden to earn his new monitor. But in this case, it backfired. His strong motivation to get another monitor is also an indication that he is totally obsessed with fornite. Hayden knew he could get his "fix" back again if he does what his dad wants for him to do, so he went to work. 4) His full blown addiction returned when he earned a new monitor. He was fully engaged in the game that created his competitiveness and fed his anger. The game is about destruction and annihilation of your opponents, and in order to be a good player, one has to be determined in destroying your enemies. Anger and frustration was fostering within and continuing to be fed constantly for a very long time. He is elated when he wins, and but depressed and angry when he loses. So, his depression and anger was slowly being manifested. The anger part had an outlet, hence, the 2 broken monitors, but the depression did not have an outlet. 5) After he earned his new monitor, Hayden lost again, perhaps lost many times. He wasn't able to manage his competitive nature and it manifested in anger that once again damaged his new monitor. Hayden knew that his dad would be upset, and the likelihood of him getting a 3rd monitor is non-existent. This means that he wouldn't be able to play his game, and this caused a great deal of despair and a sense of hopelessness. It's equivalent of a drug addict having his drugs taken away. He felt that without his Fortnite, life is disastrous. His rationality went out the window, depression overcame him, and he overreacted that the only way for him to end his pain is through killing himself. 6) Dad said that Hayden wasn't depressed. True, because Hayden had a way to get his fix by playing Fortnite. What his dad didn't know is that Hayden does get depressed frequently.....it's when he loses playing Fortnite. That depression comes in the form of anger. So, when Hayden damaged his 2nd monitor, he could hear in his mind what his dad would say to him, which is that will be no more monitor purchased for him. It's a big loss to him, it's the ultimate defeat. Therefore, he knew that he wouldn't be able to play again, which in his 12 year old eyes, is forever. He can't imagine of permanently not being able to play Fornite again, hence, a deep bout of depression took over so strongly that he didn't know how to handle it. He felt that his only way out of his sense of failure and the pain associated with that, is through death. His dad was right, that Hayden didn't understand the finality of that fateful decision, based on an overreaction of irrational thinking that his life is over because he couldn't play Fortnite anymore, so he might as well end it. It's a sad and tragic circumstance that Hayden's suicide is not due to covid, but to a game, and the associated psychological damage from being obsessed by it, that his very emotional existence became depended upon it. Hayden's emotional barometer was founded upon him being high when he wins, and depressed when he looses.
My sincere condolences. Thanks for the videos, you are making suicide an awareness with every one you post. Take care and don't beat yourself up over the "I should, I coulda". God bless your family.
My deepest condolences to you. I This is so tragic!have an 11 year old son and I love him more than anything in the world. I cu-suffer with you. I share your videos on Facebook and everytimeI go on on Facebook I see your son's beautiful smile and pray for him..
I’m so so sorry for your loss. I have a group on Facebook called We Made Angels. I’d love to have you join us and heal together. I send all my love my friend
I'm very sorry for what happened to your son. And you're wonderful to help other people prevent suicide. Maybe, when he realized you love him so much,and his whole family..after you kissed his head and hugged him tight he started playing and got anggry and broke his monitor,he felt like,he doesn't want to disappoint you so much in him.. that's why he escaped from this situation but made his family even more sad 😔to loose him.. and as I know by myself, thinking of suicide,or negativity,can come by any second..no need for a previous mental illness history. mind can be like a fog surrounds ,it and all of a sudden mood changes to depressed..and it's hard to change it back to positive..he was very young,and had no one close on his side..he loved his family,but everyone needs a best friend or lover who they trust so much to express inner emotions..this is why, suicide can also happen,if he has no one to see future in,or live for.. I'm really sorry for what happened,and it must be very tragic for all of u, especially the lil sister who found him 😔
FAILED. is so harsh............ I WISH I COULD HUG YOU ALL. FATHERS and SONS !!!!!! MIDDLE AGE MEN YOUNGER BOYS SOMEONE FIX THIS PROBLEM. DADS are not taught to SPEAK to the Sons.....you know this also ties into the Gay male Youth problem..bullying cause of it. ALL THE SONS WANT IS DADS APPROVAL....MIDDLE AGE MEN NEED TO BE MORE GREAT FULL and stop being so hard on the Sons. it is natural but it can change. MEN DO NOT TALK UK BIG PROBLEM with Middle age men. BOOZE is another problem BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN talks about the FATHER AND SON THING lets get everyone talking
Hayden is still somewhere near you. He may be gone but, he thinks to himself that you were the best dad ever for him. God bless Hayden.
He is in our hearts
@@Brian._.3351 in heaven
God bless you and your family from Boston, Mass. I can’t even imagine what your going through. ❤️🙏🏻
I want to let you know I did a video on your son and educated people on how important it is to discuss these sort of topics with children.
You as a parent are still a great father and Gods gift upon this world. Don’t let anyone tell you different. Hayden is in Gods hands now and it will take a long time to heal, but out of this great tragedy YOU yourself are taking the extra mile to make sure these parents don’t go through what you went through.
No parent should bury their child.
#AllLivesMatter
#ConversationsMatter
Thank you my friend ❤️
Praying for you and the rest of your family through this difficult time. But thank you so much for helping and saving many other people. I know Hayden is at peace with God and is looking down on you and is proud of all that you are doing.
I so needed to hear this. Im going through issues with my 10yr old Son. May the memories of Hayden keep your heart alive and know that the love that you shared will forever be the bright light in your life. We need you Dad. Thank you for all of your efforts to get the word out that help is needed. Why is there no provisions in these bills that are being passes. Covid has affected us both young and old that can be long lasting. Rest in perfect peace Angel Hayden. You have not elevated in vain. Much as it hurt your Parents you have also empowered them to be the voice that was silence that is now shouting and being heard from the mountain top. Hayden you have and will continue making a difference forever. 💛
I still can't stop crying. My son is 11ys & my daughter is 7yrs old. The other day I heard my son say he wanted to kill himself. I've been surrounding him with love & my husband & I are doing our best but you're right, this is so hard on our kids. I can't even express the admiration I have for you for sharing this. I know this video was meant for me & my family to see. I'm so sorry for your lost. My heart is so broken for you. Love you guys.
@Ari Arredondo
Thank you for your reply. I've been holding my son very tight myself lately. I'm so terrified of losing him sometimes its so hard to do my daily things or even let him take showers. I understand I'm going over board but I can't help it. If I don't have my eyes on him I panic. Please Lord help me!!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@Ari Arredondo
How old is your son if you don't mind me asking?
Hi , your kid is very lucky to have a mom who cares about their mental health and will protect them. I wish I could say the same about my parents, I'm 12. Maybe get your son some therapy? It might help.
@@strawberry_lemonade2886
Oh sweetie I'm sorry. Is there a reason why you feel like your parents don't care about you? I know there's a lot of parents out there that are abusive both physically & mentally but I also know that there're some kids who feel like their parents don't care about them & it turns out not to be the case. I'm not saying this is you at all & honesty although my parents did everything for me when I was younger, I myself was one of those kids who couldn't help but feel like my parents didn't care or love me. It was nothing that they did or didn't do. I just felt the way I felt & that was it, no one at that time could change my mind. However as I got a bit older those feelings went away & I was able to appreciate my parents & accept their love. I did get my son therapy. He goes every Thursday. He's gotten so much better especially with controlling his angry outbursts. Him & I talk about our feelings, we share so much with each other it's incredible. I encourage you to tell your parents how you feel. Again I'm sorry sweetie.
@@aramirez320 hi, i do think they care about me mostly, but theres this problem that doesnt go away, and when I told my parents (mostly my mom), she said "oh its okay i had the same thing as a kid its normal you should be fine." The problem is, there's like certain words i dont wanna hear/see or else something will happen to my dog (a few of my friends said it might be ocd idk) so i dont have anyone to help me and my brother and his friends say things that'll trigger it on purpose becasue they "like to see me fAkE sUffEr". So idk what to do also sorry for not responding earlier as my power went out for a while
Deeply sorry for your loss. One day you and your family will reunite with him and rejoice with him FOREVER!!!!
Unfortunately I did know this, only because I have suffered with depression for most of my life. I have made a life time study to understand my condition and to make others aware of the necessity of understanding the many levels and facets humans experience about mental health.
Conversations do matter, but you cannot beat yourself up with what ifs. Suicide can be contemplated or spontaneous. Talking does help. Keep talking, Brad. And thanks.
I’m just seeing your video about your son man and I am soooo sorry that you and your family has got to go through that and my condolences to you and your family 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I have 8 Grandchildren and I never want to know the Pain Y'all are going through. I think Y'all are so Strong to Share your Story of Hayden. Y'all are admirable for the things that you are doing that does not let Hayden's Life go in vain, that you can save a Life, with your words and thrive to reach out to Parents that might feel, " Not my Child" Thank Y'all and my Prayers come to your Home. Also, to anyone Dealing with Suicide thoughts or Families is a loss from Suicide. 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️
sorry 😔 for the lost of your son my he rip my condolences go out to his father and his family lord 🙏 look over his father amen 🙏
Wow, I'm a parent & completely unaware of those terrible stats. It has to change. For the better, so scary & sad. Prayers for you & your family 🙏💞
God bless you and your familly, never give up on saving kids life, I will fallow your example. My douhgter started to be sick becouse of bulling at scholl. Teachers are like a dead man walking no reaction! Now she is no longer with us.
I hope ur doing ok through your this pandemic and iam sorry that u lost him I hope that u and ur family make it through this pandemic. Prays for u 🙏😔
Hayden will be with you always and forever and the love for his family and friends will always be there. God Bless All Of You. R.I.P Hayden you are loved by so many.
Your son may be gone but we will never forget of who he was 😖😭🙁💖🙏
rest in peace Hayden
My heart breaks for you Your Son was such a beautiful child. Angel God Bless you and your family.
Your amazing, You are a great Dad, don't ever doubt yourself
Hayden will always be in hearts and minds. God bless you and your family for speaking out and hopefully reaching others who are suffering similar types of isolation. God bless your son!!
I love you Brad. I love your beautiful and honest expressions that you might have missed something else. Your son is such a beautiful boy. His smile is bright. I wrote on another post that I thought to post here as well. I am SO sorry of your loss. God bless you and your family Brad.
I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. Hayden's death is truly tragedy. He was such a handsome child. I also have a 12 year old boy and 8 year old girl, both I treasure beyond anything else in my life. They play together a lot, which helps a great deal of not feeling disconnected.
All the clues of Hayden's death are mentioned in this video by his dad. It's not just one thing, but many things that are the real reasons of Hayden's tragic death .
The clues are these:
1) Hayden is a gifted Fortnite gamer. This tells me that he spends a great deal of time playing the game. Too much time even. He is totally obsessed and addicted to the game.
2) He broke his monitor because of his competitiveness. Hayden doesn't like to lose, and when he does, he doesn't know how to manage his emotions, thus, his reactive anger caused the monitor to be damaged. Not being able to play his game created a deep withdrawal, as it's clear that Hayden is addicted to the game, hence, not being able to play created a negative psychological emotion on Hayden.
He suffered a withdrawal much like a drug addict suffers. His dad clearly told him that he is not getting another monitor. Hayden at this point was devastated.
3) His dad provided a pathway for him to possibly get a new monitor. But he had to earn it. Busting his balls to be nice to his sister and to work hard on his chores to obtain another monitor is a very positive usage of leverage for Hayden to earn his new monitor.
But in this case, it backfired. His strong motivation to get another monitor is also an indication that he is totally obsessed with fornite. Hayden knew he could get his "fix" back again if he does what his dad wants for him to do, so he went to work.
4) His full blown addiction returned when he earned a new monitor. He was fully engaged in the game that created his competitiveness and fed his anger. The game is about destruction and annihilation of your opponents, and in order to be a good player, one has to be determined in destroying your enemies.
Anger and frustration was fostering within and continuing to be fed constantly for a very long time. He is elated when he wins, and but depressed and angry when he loses. So, his depression and anger was slowly being manifested. The anger part had an outlet, hence, the 2 broken monitors, but the depression did not have an outlet.
5) After he earned his new monitor, Hayden lost again, perhaps lost many times. He wasn't able to manage his competitive nature and it manifested in anger that once again damaged his new monitor. Hayden knew that his dad would be upset, and the likelihood of him getting a 3rd monitor is non-existent.
This means that he wouldn't be able to play his game, and this caused a great deal of despair and a sense of hopelessness. It's equivalent of a drug addict having his drugs taken away. He felt that without his Fortnite, life is disastrous. His rationality went out the window, depression overcame him, and he overreacted that the only way for him to end his pain is through killing himself.
6) Dad said that Hayden wasn't depressed. True, because Hayden had a way to get his fix by playing Fortnite. What his dad didn't know is that Hayden does get depressed frequently.....it's when he loses playing Fortnite. That depression comes in the form of anger. So, when Hayden damaged his 2nd monitor, he could hear in his mind what his dad would say to him, which is that will be no more monitor purchased for him. It's a big loss to him, it's the ultimate defeat.
Therefore, he knew that he wouldn't be able to play again, which in his 12 year old eyes, is forever. He can't imagine of permanently not being able to play Fornite again, hence, a deep bout of depression took over so strongly that he didn't know how to handle it. He felt that his only way out of his sense of failure and the pain associated with that, is through death.
His dad was right, that Hayden didn't understand the finality of that fateful decision, based on an overreaction of irrational thinking that his life is over because he couldn't play Fortnite anymore, so he might as well end it.
It's a sad and tragic circumstance that Hayden's suicide is not due to covid, but to a game, and the associated psychological damage from being obsessed by it, that his very emotional existence became depended upon it. Hayden's emotional barometer was founded upon him being high when he wins, and depressed when he looses.
My sincere condolences. Thanks for the videos, you are making suicide an awareness with every one you post. Take care and don't beat yourself up over the "I should, I coulda". God bless your family.
Im so sorry
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My deepest condolences to you. I This is so tragic!have an 11 year old son and I love him more than anything in the world. I cu-suffer with you. I share your videos on Facebook and everytimeI go on on Facebook I see your son's beautiful smile and pray for him..
Im not crying u are
Our 25 son just committed suicide Tuesday we are in so much it hurts in pain . I’m so sorry you also are feeling this also. 😢
I’m so so sorry for your loss. I have a group on Facebook called We Made Angels. I’d love to have you join us and heal together. I send all my love my friend
I’m so sorry for your loss sorry for your loss
I'm very sorry for what happened to your son. And you're wonderful to help other people prevent suicide. Maybe, when he realized you love him so much,and his whole family..after you kissed his head and hugged him tight he started playing and got anggry and broke his monitor,he felt like,he doesn't want to disappoint you so much in him.. that's why he escaped from this situation but made his family even more sad 😔to loose him.. and as I know by myself, thinking of suicide,or negativity,can come by any second..no need for a previous mental illness history. mind can be like a fog surrounds ,it and all of a sudden mood changes to depressed..and it's hard to change it back to positive..he was very young,and had no one close on his side..he loved his family,but everyone needs a best friend or lover who they trust so much to express inner emotions..this is why, suicide can also happen,if he has no one to see future in,or live for.. I'm really sorry for what happened,and it must be very tragic for all of u, especially the lil sister who found him 😔
Just why that's horrible it's tough to go to go though something Like that
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FAILED. is so harsh............ I WISH I COULD HUG YOU ALL. FATHERS and SONS !!!!!!
MIDDLE AGE MEN YOUNGER BOYS SOMEONE FIX THIS PROBLEM. DADS are not taught to SPEAK to the Sons.....you know this also ties into the Gay male Youth problem..bullying cause of it.
ALL THE SONS WANT IS DADS APPROVAL....MIDDLE AGE MEN NEED TO BE MORE GREAT FULL and stop being so hard on the Sons. it is natural but it can change. MEN DO NOT TALK
UK BIG PROBLEM with Middle age men. BOOZE is another problem
BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN talks about the FATHER AND SON THING
lets get everyone talking
Agree with everything but the gaming industry part