You give off a vibe that your are very calming, understanding & supportive, thats what people with bipolar disorder need in their corner. Great video ☺️
I’ve been with my partner for 10 years. He turned 30 last month & something snapped. He’s now in the hospital getting help after having a complete manic episode & scaring me. This video is calming me so much. I needed to say that. He’s not diagnosed but there’s been signs all his life.
My bf took meds for most of our relationship - 7 years. He has decided to come off it. It is very tricky because I've told him my boundaries. However, I cannot continue seeing his unhappiness towards his meds. I cannot force him to take meds so that he can be in a relationship with me. I'm ok if we need to go our separate ways. He has given so much towards our relationship. We have given so much for each other. 💕
Make sure he is on a strict routine, and knows the signs before his BP kicks in. This will forewarn you and him to prepare and have medications on hand. Meanwhile, developing concentration and observation of feelings and thoughts by insight meditation may be a great help. 🙏🏽Keep faith in God
Thank you for this. My boyfriend is bipolar 1 and I have ADHD and panic disorder. It seems like a recipe for disaster but I’m hoping it works out for us. He has said he will see a counselor and do something but is too “busy” with work. I just pray he will get some actual help.
I really like that y'all working this out together no illness make you and when you have those type of things you have to turn to the Lord returns to God he will bless you because I can say I never went through mental illness I went through abuse as a child after I grew up I was so depressed I was suicidal I was so down and out today I have a peace of mind and the scripture said if your trust in the Lord he will make a way and I tell you he make a way for me I'm excited
Thank for sharing your story. I may start dating someone who has bipolar and its just not something anyone speaks about in my community. Seeing a couple talk practically about this is enlightening. God bless your love.
I have been dating a guy w bipolar 1 for three years and it’s one of the hardest relationships i have ever been in. I also suffer from mental illness and i have made so much progress to get better bc we both have professional help , but there’s only so much that can be done either, and i dont see my partner progressing. I am waiting and waiting for him to find a good balance of the right medication and right dosage. Bc w how things affect him, shit can hit the fan at any time to a level 100. And i dont know if i can wait anymore for him to get stable enough for me to feel safe. Or be able to talk to him without him attempting suicide or becoming suicidal. He has a Great support system, and I also try my best to be a good support to him. But idk. I feel so hopeless and alone. I feel like an emotional hostage.
wow first off thank you for taking your time to leave this comment. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. that is such a hard spot to be in. I hope he can find the right medication soon, I know finding the right medicine and dosage is such a life savior. I am so proud of you for the progress you have been making. Know that you cannot control the outcome of your boyfriends health, all you can do is work on yourself, be there for him when you can, but don't overextend yourself, which is so easier said than done. But for real I am so so so proud of you. Keep being you. You're going to be such a blessing in so many pals lives. The struggles you are going through are will make you a much more relatable, and compassionate person. keep it up. sorry for the book 😂
@@Karisbell your response means so much to me and gives me strength to try another day and another one after. Thank you for your compassion and understanding and I hope you the best this week and more to come🖤
Thank you so much for sharing your story... I am a 25 year old man with Bipolar 2. 3 months into a new relationship and my bipolar had triggered within 2 weeks. She is at her breaking point with me and thank God my doctors appointment is next week. It's not a life I want to live. My brain chemistry doesn't let me use my true heart. As in my brain prevents me from loving how I truly intend and want to love... Best of luck to all of us who struggle
heey idk how's everything today but i too have a bipolar bf and i struggle with mental illness too. We've been together for 4 yrs now and shit's hard, especially when i was on a deep depression, but i've improved a lot, and he didn't, so i rlly understand how you feel. You need a good support system and self care. Go out w yours friends, take care of yourself first and be there for him, cause the progress and the struggles are rlly different for you and him. Patience, empathy and dialogue, a lot of it. Don't get me wrong, it's pretty hard, but it's so fucking worth it. My bf is not stable yet and i know it's gonna take some yrs for that to happen, so i guess you can't look at it as a "goal", just as something that will happen eventually. Just ask yourself, if it takes 2, 5 or 10 yrs for him to stabilize, would you handle it? would it take a lot of you? bc you don't need to stay if you feel you can't, and that's rlly ok
This video is so nice to see. I just started seeing someone that had a manic episode with psychotic symptoms that ended with him being hospitalized. I had no idea what bipolar disorder even was. I read all of these horror stories on Reddit and I got very nervous for what the future would be for us even though I like him a lot. Thank you for this video.
Im glad I watched this video. It encouraged me to go and seek professional help. Continue doing what you guys are doing. I felt like I was weak if I seek out and get help and not doing it has ultimately made me possibly lose my wife. Its so hard to deal with and sometimes its hard to force yourself to get help but this video honestly has helped me wanting to seek help and I can guarantee you probably have helped way more people than you think. Thank you for this!
Wow thank you for leaving this comment. I am so glad our video encouraged you to seek help. We wish you best of luck on your journey. You already did the hardest part. The only way from here is up. Proud of you!
This is a really good sensible video with good advice. You have such a calm, intelligent vibe as a couple. You're also both physically beautiful with incredible skin tones and eyes, wow! I've just had a negative experience being rejected in dating after I disclosed my past of major depression. It hurt but I definitely need a partner who understands and has empathy about mental health.
I’ve been dating my guy for 4 months now. He has bipolar disorder but doesn’t take medication. It has been very difficult and exhausting. Sometimes he is so loving and compassionate and other days he is aggressive and ghosts me, he has only told me about the BD. I’m gutted about it because I like him alot.
My guy and I have been together for 7 months now. and he has seen a specialist for undiagnosed mental issues he just admitted that he thinks he is bipolar he gets very rude and aggressive sometimes and other times he is very sweet I just want him to get help.
This was such a beautiful video, you two just strike me as a sweet, loving and connected couple… Im being reviewed for Cyclothymia (lesser version of Bipolar 2) and possibly some autism traits… I recently lost a relationship to what I now believe to have been elements and traits of bipolar and autism.. I wanted to seek help for us both but my fiancée didn’t so that’s that… may be if I feel right my next gf will cope better. Im 98% neurotypical or so i and others have believed. currently im having medical and therapy treatment and assessment and after 40 years of dealing with myself, I am gaining such a stronger and better level of understanding of me as man and person and much like your comments my empathy and compassion is growing more than it ever was. I’ll definitely be watching for on your channel
I have met this relationships with friends or relatives it can be pretty hard. Requires lots of support and understanding between partners. Happy to be hear and learn something 😊
My boyfriend is also bipolar and we goes days he don’t talk to me and days he is so sweet , he will eat so little and he will sleep mostly, but he is not aggressive, I love him so much but it’s like very disturbing for me also . Like I see my friend relationship it’s so stable and mine is like this . How to stay positive and help him and also myself too . Pls tell
How are things going a month later? I just started speaking with a guy day after day, laughter, jokes, flirting, etc. But he seems distant now. Then he tells me his cousin died. Said he wanted the day to his self. Which, of course is perfectly fine! But he was getting distant already. It’s a long distance relationship. So I figured he was anxious about coming down to see me for the first time. Idk.. I’m not trying to over think it, but I’m trying to learn how to cope through this relationship and learn to be a support system. We both have our own mental illnesses and traumas. We are learning to be with each other. But any advice from anyone would be perfect!
@@snap_crackle_popshaw7958 nothing as such he is more distant from me now . He just says u know na this that and all . He just come out of a depressed phase . And now he is super active .shifts at hospital all night long .and we just do vedio call now In 2 to 3 days 😢. But I do understand. For me to cope up with all this I had my best friend who help me from all this . He has been my support system through out .otherwise may be because of it my mental health might get affected. So my advice is pls take care of yourself.no matter how much u love him .prioritise yourself first .and just give him space .he will eventually come back ❤️
It will never change. You have to accept your relationship as it is or don't stay in it. Bipolar is a disease with no cure. It gets worse with age. I stayed for 10 years because I accepted it is what it is. He has changed and gotten worse in the past year or so. I can no longer sustain this so am ending it. You have to at the end of the day do what is best for you. My fiance will not medicate other than Xanax....so I am out.
Salt & Pepper Couple Love it! Been involved with a Beautiful Queen for 5 months. I've researched the illness. To make it work!! It's to tiring! it's sad! I gave her my all. I Love her so much!! Ups & downs! Can't deal with it anymore!
Im with a person who has bipolar and have asked him to get help but refused to get help. I have depression and it triggers me so bad when he goes into hypomania. We’ve been together six yrs but I feel like I can’t do it anymore. It was inspiring to hear your story.
@@codynhax I broke up with my bf because he didn’t want to seek help. I still love him but I value my mental health more and down the line I know I need a emotionally supportive partner if I want to start a family.
I have a 14 y/o miniature dachshund that I love more than anything and can always rely on her when everyone has let me down So I totally get how ur attached to your furry friend 🥰🥰. They will always give you unconditional love!
My girlfriend is 26 years old I am 36 but I suffer with mental illness pdst yeah two couples gave me a lot of Hope God bless you I really appreciate it
My boyfriend is bipolar and he dont wanna take meds cuz he says that they makes him "felling flat" (he has tried it before I met him) and I have been okay with it because I respect his decision, but some times his mood swings is really hard to deal with and understand. He often manic i think (I’m not sure how his manic state look like all the time) but I dont know what to do when he is manic and irritated… It is very hard, but I want this relationship to work between us. So do you have any advices to help me out? (Sorry if my english is bad, I ordinarily speak Norwegian😅)
This is what I wish and hoped for with my guy but it’s just not like this for us. He is easily angry, agitated, and is very difficult to get along with. Also, once he gets depressed he can stay in his room for days at a time without communicating with me. He has been aggressive, verbally mean no matter how nice I am. He says he will get help but has yet to do so and is not on medication because of the trauma he experienced as a child being forced to be on meds. At this point I am one foot out the door and just don’t know what to do. I care for him and love him but it’s been two years and it’s been draining for me. He doesn’t have friend or family support so I am really his only outlet,
Dating only 2 years. Hes not yet diagnosed but hes also kinda excited theres a name to something thats been obviously off all these years. His kids, his ex-wife are impacted and now me. My life has always been steady, calm and optimistic. Now i getdragged into so many ups and downs. Im calm. We talk. Hes doing better because of it. He might get help, he fluctuates on that decision daily. Hes otherwise a beautiful soul and worthy of a great life. But meanwhile mine has been turned upside down. Im not sure if love is enough to take all this on and become someone elses caregiver for the rest of my life. But i also know my pulling back is both helping and making worse his episodes. What do i do?😢
I’ve lived with a man, that has bipolar 1 for 40 years, and it has been extremely rough. He goes from anxiety, and not sleeping g for days, energetic and manic,to being hyper manic. We have a family, and it’s very stressful for all of us.
I’m so glad I seen this video for in the future if I ever date anyone with an mental illness I’ll be more prepared .. I’m just now looking into mental illness becuase I was just recently dealing with someone with a mental illness some days she’s the sweetest and loving and so caring like everything than some days she’s rude , mean , angry, mad have episodes etc I didn’t understand at first it was like she liked and didn’t idk it was so confusing and so exhausting we argued a lot and I just could no longer do it I was losing myself I was becoming a angry person I was exhausted so we split ways .. I knew she had a mental illness but I didn’t think it was serious into I started looking into it 😢 she had medication that she refused to take because it made her sleep a lot and she refused help she didn’t think she need help 😣I’m so sad I love her and really wish I could’ve helped her but we have gotten so mad at each other because I was trying to make her see how she was treating me when she has these episodes but it did nothing but make us argue and we said nasty mean things I don’t think we could come back from 😢
part more im scared, i get wrong partner with love. Like my ex bf no understand my depression just give motivation stupid ( toxic positive ) be like " take breath, let go everything ur past and bla bla " wtf. Thats why im single bcause i know no one understnd wht mean depression.
Hey Karis you mentioned suffering from anxiety and seasonal depression. I wonder if you could actually be suffering undiagnosed (inattentive) ADHD. I could be wrong .. I’m currently wondering the same of myself; have seasonal depression and anxiety as well but I think mine come from hyper focus and or zoning out at times when I really need to be present or grounded within Me.. the love of my life also is diagnosed with bipolar (mood disorder).. ADHD persons also highly identify with being highly sensitive persons (HSP) or Empaths ..
7 year relationship of a nightmare with someone I caught feelings for she is bi polar 2. I got so tired of the cheating the mood swings I did everything in my power to stick around because aside from the episodes she was a beautiful person it just seemed to intensify I finally walked away and it’s extremely hard
Me and my husband both struggle with mental illness. I have cptsd, depression and anxiety and my husband has bipolar. It's definitely been a challenge. I am a dv and SA survivor and sometimes my triggers can trigger him.
Currently living this with my fiance. He was diagnosed with bipolar and depression after we started. They never believed in mental health it was just a normal behavior. I have depression and anxiety but am very firm with it and was good but now with all this struggle with my fiance my anxiety has sky rocketed. He started treatment and is better but still has moments where he says horrible horrible things. Me having anxiety start overthinking if what he says is how he really feels or it's just random bouts from the bipolar episode. Anybody else go through something similar? I don't know what to think or feel anymore. I love him to death but what if you know?
My gf has bipolar 1 and is going through an episode right now. Does medicine work very effectively or do people with bipolar 1 will have episodes anyways
My mom was abused by a mentally ill person, yes they deserve love but it is hard to understand them, because they are different in many special ways none of us understand, it hurts me that my mom tried to give my dad the love but he took advantage of it and started to abuse it.
I’m talking to the girl right now who has bipolar we went on two dates but she is not currently on meds and is acting in a self destructive way. I’d like her to get on meds but I’m not sure how best to ask about that. What should I do?
I’m sorry! I dealt with mine too and I suffer from insecurities. He loved me but his past and his mental health kept creating more insecurities for me… I feel so bad. You will heal I promise
@@Karisbell that’s what I been going through this whole year. My boyfriend stay with his family but they are no help. They stay in arguments. They all believe that he’s manipulative and always throws in “ you’re smart, nothing wrong with you” and it’s been so hard on me because I’m in this alone 🥺 I even stepped in and tried to explain to them like okay he’s actually going through these things and he needs to be communicated this way he needs to be talked to this way. You see my boyfriend have schizophrenia and currently diagnosed with bipolar. With schizophrenia you know they have they own beliefs, language words and sometimes they need to be communicated in ways they can understand but his family don’t want to help in no way. I’m so over expecting them to help. But like I said I feel so alone and responsible if anything goes bad.
Hi Karis, my girlfriend have mental illness depression. When she ignoring me what can I do when she stop contact me what can I do please advice me thanks.
Hey guys thankyou for this video, me and my girlfriend started a relationship 3 months ago and things have been amazing, my partner has recently entered a depressive state of mind (mania) being very distant, blunt with words, casting issues up randomly which creates an atmosphere, she is medicated and told me she can manage it but is this the bipolar talking? Can she really manage it in the way she thinks she can because from my understanding of bipolar they cannot control when they have manic episodes and what they say or do so I am really struggling to work out which one it is......I want this to work so badly
This is so hard. I am so sorry you all are going through this. Bipolar is definitely manageable, however it can take a very long time to find the right medication for each person. And once you do find the medication that works it might take awhile before you can find the right dosage. One thing that helped me make the decision between staying in the relationship or not was getting educated on the illness. One book both my BF and I recommend is an Unquiet mind by Kay Jameson. This is a difficult illness but if the person is willing to get the right kind of help it’s very manageable.
This is so hard. I am so sorry you all are going through this. Bipolar is definitely manageable, however it can take a very long time to find the right medication for each person. And once you do find the medication that works it might take awhile before you can find the right dosage. One thing that helped me make the decision between staying in the relationship or not was getting educated on the illness. One book both my BF and I recommend is an Unquiet mind by Kay Jameson. This is a difficult illness but if the person is willing to get the right kind of help it’s very manageable.
@@Karisbell do you guys live together? We have both spoken strongly on living together? Is this something you would advise because I don't want to end up in a position where its too difficult and I'm on my own (feeling) when she is in a manic state and does not want to speak to me
@@lukeswinny669 we do live together now. We’re gonna get married in September. However we have been dating for 4 years. And 3 of those years were long distance (about 3 hours away) I honestly don’t recommend moving in together. You need your space to take care of yourself. You don’t want to get yourself in a position where you’re the caretaker. It’s important to be there for her but have that physical distance so you don’t lose yourself in the process if that makes sense. But things like this are really up to what each couple need. There is no one right way of going at it.
@@Karisbell thankyou, we also live long distance, 4 and a half hours to be precise and I make that trip every week or two, she became overwhelmed at first with the love bombing eachother and wanted to take a few steps back in the relationship but after 3 days she told me she changed her mind and she was just scared of how much she loved me and cared for me just didn't expect it if that makes sense, kind of messed with my head a little but I have listened to podcasts watched videos, read up and researched and its clear to me more now, I agree with you because when I went to hers for NYE we had a little fall out (could nit get a taxi and it was freezing cold) the day after she was unbelievably distant, sat on her phone zoned out then night time had a burst of energy and mood changed but then the day after cleaned all day then straight into bed on her phone for the whole night being very un responsive to me, dirty looks towards me etc. I felt so out of place like I didn't belong there, i know this is her in a deep mania right?
I need help, maybe yall can help me understand some stuff. I have high functioning anxiety and the girl i am seeing but not dating, we both like eachother and she has bi polar. Its all fresh for us. Can one of you guys pm me please?
@@Karisbell Be more attentive to him trust me. You areI appreciate it very much by him you don't have toTry so hardBe more a little bit more Down to Earth on a little bit more understanding just a little bit more.
I’m so sorry to hear that :( it’s an illness that’s so misrepresented and misunderstood. I hope as ppl continue to share their stories and speak out, those who don’t struggle with the illness can come to have a better understanding of it so ppl like yourself don’t get miss treated and blamed
Hi Karis, the comment made by Ronny Scruggs was done so in error. I’m actually pretty shocked that he sent me this video to watch and then came across this comment. Throughout our relationship, I have been very kind, caring, and compassionate towards him. I have not “mistreated” or “blamed” him for his sickness.. as I’ve been very understanding and patient with him for almost 4 years. I have taken up for him and even helped him process things, together. I am certified as a Special Educator and have studied it for years , so I understand the mental illness very well and have been sooo supportive of him and his journey. I never ever would give up on him or blame him. Ever! So, it definitely is hurtful to read the comments above.. as I’ve been there for him since before he was diagnosed and even afterwards. The reason for our break up actually had nothing to do with Ronny’s illness. I’m not sure why this false image has been presented, but it was due to something completely unrelated. I will talk with him offline, but I wanted to make sure that the truth was presented. Additionally, there have been times when he didn’t take his medicine- which like you said is a deal breaker for you- but I still stayed with him, just to be a support. So, I hope that my comment sheds light to the situation and that the truth is revealed. In no way do I desire to be combative or argumentative on your post. I simply wanted to present another perspective.
@@nicolemqueen oh my gosh I’m so sorry. I definitely did not mean to undermine you or anything. Thank you for taking your time to respond, to learn about the illness, and for your empathy and patience. ❤️
@@Karisbell Ohhh no no you didn’t do anything wrong at all. I definitely don’t feel undermined, offended, or anything. I just wanted you to know that the image presented wasn’t entirely true because I wasn’t sure if his original comment was misleading. I truly truly love and care for Ronny and would never ever break up with someone because of an illness. My heart wouldn’t allow me to do that. 😢 I am very sensitive to those who may be treated unfairly and hate seeing people hurting. And like you said so wonderfully in your message, it takes a support team. I realized that I couldn't do it all alone. It takes professional help and a strong support, just like you mentioned. 🙏
@@Karisbell People underestimate how much animals can help us. They show the purest form of unconditional love. It also says a lot about who he really is on the inside. He’s nurturing, gentle and kind towards the defenceless. I would never trust anyone who didn’t like my dog or…even more importantly…my dog didn’t like! Not even joking.
Your are giving it all these terms when all it is is someone who is emotionally disfunctional. If you follow mainstream psychiatry you will not find answers except to self-medicate.
You give off a vibe that your are very calming, understanding & supportive, thats what people with bipolar disorder need in their corner. Great video ☺️
You touched my heart, we hope to do more videos like this one in the future :)
I’ve been with my partner for 10 years. He turned 30 last month & something snapped. He’s now in the hospital getting help after having a complete manic episode & scaring me. This video is calming me so much. I needed to say that. He’s not diagnosed but there’s been signs all his life.
My bf took meds for most of our relationship - 7 years. He has decided to come off it. It is very tricky because I've told him my boundaries. However, I cannot continue seeing his unhappiness towards his meds. I cannot force him to take meds so that he can be in a relationship with me. I'm ok if we need to go our separate ways. He has given so much towards our relationship. We have given so much for each other. 💕
That’s such a tricky place to be in!! I wish you all best of luck with everything!!
Hi, how is it going? 🙏🏼
Meds aren’t for everyone. Personally they made me feel awful.
Make sure he is on a strict routine, and knows the signs before his BP kicks in. This will forewarn you and him to prepare and have medications on hand. Meanwhile, developing concentration and observation of feelings and thoughts by insight meditation may be a great help. 🙏🏽Keep faith in God
It looks like you are already giving up on him.
Thank you for this. My boyfriend is bipolar 1 and I have ADHD and panic disorder. It seems like a recipe for disaster but I’m hoping it works out for us. He has said he will see a counselor and do something but is too “busy” with work. I just pray he will get some actual help.
Hey! Just checking up, how are things going?
@@Karisbell could you contact me plenty have questions
@@Karisbell could you contact me plenty have questions
I really like that y'all working this out together no illness make you and when you have those type of things you have to turn to the Lord returns to God he will bless you because I can say I never went through mental illness I went through abuse as a child after I grew up I was so depressed I was suicidal I was so down and out today I have a peace of mind and the scripture said if your trust in the Lord he will make a way and I tell you he make a way for me I'm excited
Thank for sharing your story. I may start dating someone who has bipolar and its just not something anyone speaks about in my community. Seeing a couple talk practically about this is enlightening. God bless your love.
Aww glad you came across our video! Best of luck with everything!
I have been dating a guy w bipolar 1 for three years and it’s one of the hardest relationships i have ever been in. I also suffer from mental illness and i have made so much progress to get better bc we both have professional help , but there’s only so much that can be done either, and i dont see my partner progressing. I am waiting and waiting for him to find a good balance of the right medication and right dosage. Bc w how things affect him, shit can hit the fan at any time to a level 100. And i dont know if i can wait anymore for him to get stable enough for me to feel safe. Or be able to talk to him without him attempting suicide or becoming suicidal. He has a Great support system, and I also try my best to be a good support to him. But idk. I feel so hopeless and alone. I feel like an emotional hostage.
wow first off thank you for taking your time to leave this comment. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. that is such a hard spot to be in. I hope he can find the right medication soon, I know finding the right medicine and dosage is such a life savior.
I am so proud of you for the progress you have been making. Know that you cannot control the outcome of your boyfriends health, all you can do is work on yourself, be there for him when you can, but don't overextend yourself, which is so easier said than done. But for real I am so so so proud of you. Keep being you. You're going to be such a blessing in so many pals lives. The struggles you are going through are will make you a much more relatable, and compassionate person. keep it up.
sorry for the book 😂
@@Karisbell your response means so much to me and gives me strength to try another day and another one after. Thank you for your compassion and understanding and I hope you the best this week and more to come🖤
@@willow9719 ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your story...
I am a 25 year old man with Bipolar 2.
3 months into a new relationship and my bipolar had triggered within 2 weeks.
She is at her breaking point with me and thank God my doctors appointment is next week.
It's not a life I want to live.
My brain chemistry doesn't let me use my true heart. As in my brain prevents me from loving how I truly intend and want to love...
Best of luck to all of us who struggle
heey idk how's everything today but i too have a bipolar bf and i struggle with mental illness too. We've been together for 4 yrs now and shit's hard, especially when i was on a deep depression, but i've improved a lot, and he didn't, so i rlly understand how you feel.
You need a good support system and self care. Go out w yours friends, take care of yourself first and be there for him, cause the progress and the struggles are rlly different for you and him. Patience, empathy and dialogue, a lot of it. Don't get me wrong, it's pretty hard, but it's so fucking worth it.
My bf is not stable yet and i know it's gonna take some yrs for that to happen, so i guess you can't look at it as a "goal", just as something that will happen eventually. Just ask yourself, if it takes 2, 5 or 10 yrs for him to stabilize, would you handle it? would it take a lot of you? bc you don't need to stay if you feel you can't, and that's rlly ok
This video is so nice to see. I just started seeing someone that had a manic episode with psychotic symptoms that ended with him being hospitalized. I had no idea what bipolar disorder even was. I read all of these horror stories on Reddit and I got very nervous for what the future would be for us even though I like him a lot. Thank you for this video.
Im glad I watched this video. It encouraged me to go and seek professional help. Continue doing what you guys are doing. I felt like I was weak if I seek out and get help and not doing it has ultimately made me possibly lose my wife. Its so hard to deal with and sometimes its hard to force yourself to get help but this video honestly has helped me wanting to seek help and I can guarantee you probably have helped way more people than you think. Thank you for this!
Wow thank you for leaving this comment. I am so glad our video encouraged you to seek help. We wish you best of luck on your journey. You already did the hardest part. The only way from here is up. Proud of you!
This is a really good sensible video with good advice. You have such a calm, intelligent vibe as a couple. You're also both physically beautiful with incredible skin tones and eyes, wow! I've just had a negative experience being rejected in dating after I disclosed my past of major depression. It hurt but I definitely need a partner who understands and has empathy about mental health.
This meant the world to us! How are things going?
Many thanks for this video! Anxiety is devastating but we can crush it!
Agree! Thanks for watching!!
SAME i'm hanging out with mostly mentally ill people! this video is such a relief!
I’ve been dating my guy for 4 months now. He has bipolar disorder but doesn’t take medication. It has been very difficult and exhausting. Sometimes he is so loving and compassionate and other days he is aggressive and ghosts me, he has only told me about the BD. I’m gutted about it because I like him alot.
My guy and I have been together for 7 months now. and he has seen a specialist for undiagnosed mental issues he just admitted that he thinks he is bipolar he gets very rude and aggressive sometimes and other times he is very sweet I just want him to get help.
This was such a beautiful video, you two just strike me as a sweet, loving and connected couple…
Im being reviewed for Cyclothymia (lesser version of Bipolar 2) and possibly some autism traits…
I recently lost a relationship to what I now believe to have been elements and traits of bipolar and autism..
I wanted to seek help for us both but my fiancée didn’t so that’s that… may be if I feel right my next gf will cope better.
Im 98% neurotypical or so i and others have believed. currently im having medical and therapy treatment and assessment and after 40 years of dealing with myself, I am gaining such a stronger and better level of understanding of me as man and person and much like your comments my empathy and compassion is growing more than it ever was.
I’ll definitely be watching for on your channel
I really appreciate you sharing your story, thank you :)
I have met this relationships with friends or relatives it can be pretty hard. Requires lots of support and understanding between partners.
Happy to be hear and learn something 😊
My boyfriend is also bipolar and we goes days he don’t talk to me and days he is so sweet , he will eat so little and he will sleep mostly, but he is not aggressive, I love him so much but it’s like very disturbing for me also . Like I see my friend relationship it’s so stable and mine is like this . How to stay positive and help him and also myself too . Pls tell
How are things going a month later?
I just started speaking with a guy day after day, laughter, jokes, flirting, etc.
But he seems distant now. Then he tells me his cousin died. Said he wanted the day to his self. Which, of course is perfectly fine!
But he was getting distant already.
It’s a long distance relationship. So I figured he was anxious about coming down to see me for the first time.
Idk.. I’m not trying to over think it, but I’m trying to learn how to cope through this relationship and learn to be a support system.
We both have our own mental illnesses and traumas.
We are learning to be with each other.
But any advice from anyone would be perfect!
@@snap_crackle_popshaw7958 nothing as such he is more distant from me now . He just says u know na this that and all . He just come out of a depressed phase . And now he is super active .shifts at hospital all night long .and we just do vedio call now In 2 to 3 days 😢. But I do understand. For me to cope up with all this I had my best friend who help me from all this . He has been my support system through out .otherwise may be because of it my mental health might get affected. So my advice is pls take care of yourself.no matter how much u love him .prioritise yourself first .and just give him space .he will eventually come back ❤️
It will never change. You have to accept your relationship as it is or don't stay in it. Bipolar is a disease with no cure. It gets worse with age. I stayed for 10 years because I accepted it is what it is. He has changed and gotten worse in the past year or so. I can no longer sustain this so am ending it. You have to at the end of the day do what is best for you. My fiance will not medicate other than Xanax....so I am out.
Dont compare your relationship to others. You nvr know what’s going on behind the scenes and what God has for you is for you.
Salt & Pepper Couple Love it!
Been involved with a Beautiful Queen for 5 months. I've researched the illness. To make it work!! It's to tiring! it's sad! I gave her my all.
I Love her so much!!
Ups & downs!
Can't deal with it anymore!
All cute but I wouldn't call this salt n pepper more accurate cream and mocha 🍓
Try again hope it works as love takes time
@Vet Marie We tried! It's working Great!! TY!!
Very happy that you are discussing this. Keep us posted. Thanks
We will ❤️
Im with a person who has bipolar and have asked him to get help but refused to get help. I have depression and it triggers me so bad when he goes into hypomania. We’ve been together six yrs but I feel like I can’t do it anymore. It was inspiring to hear your story.
Hey...how are things going ( i hope its not a hard question, only reply if your comfortable with it )
@@codynhax I broke up with my bf because he didn’t want to seek help. I still love him but I value my mental health more and down the line I know I need a emotionally supportive partner if I want to start a family.
How are things going now? Has he watched the video? I am happy you were touched by our message :)
You are so sweet that you are there for him men usually get scared with me and leave while I'm not even being agressive towards him..
Tht nigga is moist
I have a boyfriend w/ he said he is experiencing a mental health.He is pushing me out because he thinks i don't understand him but i love him so much.
I have a 14 y/o miniature dachshund that I love more than anything and can always rely on her when everyone has let me down So I totally get how ur attached to your furry friend 🥰🥰. They will always give you unconditional love!
He loves his German Shepherd. Lol
Thank you for this video because my boyfriend has bipolar and I have anxiety and depression. This video was helpful because mental illness is serious
I lost my fiance due to my ranting from bipolarity 1 🥺 I'm so miserable rn. He doesn't know.
My girlfriend is 26 years old I am 36 but I suffer with mental illness pdst yeah two couples gave me a lot of Hope God bless you I really appreciate it
Him and I are happy to hear this, hope all is well
another good resource is "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels
I’ll have to check that out!
Plz don’t quit on bro💯plz keep being caring and patient
We are in the same situation with my partner. It’s means a lot this video for us. Please make others 🙏🏾😃✨
I can understand i think he wants you around alot. Its tuff being alone and to be far apart.
My boyfriend is bipolar and he dont wanna take meds cuz he says that they makes him "felling flat" (he has tried it before I met him) and I have been okay with it because I respect his decision, but some times his mood swings is really hard to deal with and understand. He often manic i think (I’m not sure how his manic state look like all the time) but I dont know what to do when he is manic and irritated… It is very hard, but I want this relationship to work between us. So do you have any advices to help me out?
(Sorry if my english is bad, I ordinarily speak Norwegian😅)
This is what I wish and hoped for with my guy but it’s just not like this for us. He is easily angry, agitated, and is very difficult to get along with. Also, once he gets depressed he can stay in his room for days at a time without communicating with me. He has been aggressive, verbally mean no matter how nice I am. He says he will get help but has yet to do so and is not on medication because of the trauma he experienced as a child being forced to be on meds. At this point I am one foot out the door and just don’t know what to do. I care for him and love him but it’s been two years and it’s been draining for me. He doesn’t have friend or family support so I am really his only outlet,
thanks for sharing this video. it helped me.
Dating only 2 years. Hes not yet diagnosed but hes also kinda excited theres a name to something thats been obviously off all these years. His kids, his ex-wife are impacted and now me. My life has always been steady, calm and optimistic. Now i getdragged into so many ups and downs. Im calm. We talk. Hes doing better because of it. He might get help, he fluctuates on that decision daily. Hes otherwise a beautiful soul and worthy of a great life. But meanwhile mine has been turned upside down. Im not sure if love is enough to take all this on and become someone elses caregiver for the rest of my life. But i also know my pulling back is both helping and making worse his episodes. What do i do?😢
I’ve lived with a man, that has bipolar 1 for 40 years, and it has been extremely rough. He goes from anxiety, and not sleeping g for days, energetic and manic,to being hyper manic. We have a family, and it’s very stressful for all of us.
Wow, I cannot imagine being your specific situation, must be hard. Is he on medicine?
You guys are such a cute couple 🥰 Thank you for posting this video. My boyfriend has bipolar so this video is inspirational to me.
This meant a lot. Thank you loves 🌸☀️
No problem 😊
I’m so glad I seen this video for in the future if I ever date anyone with an mental illness I’ll be more prepared .. I’m just now looking into mental illness becuase I was just recently dealing with someone with a mental illness some days she’s the sweetest and loving and so caring like everything than some days she’s rude , mean , angry, mad have episodes etc I didn’t understand at first it was like she liked and didn’t idk it was so confusing and so exhausting we argued a lot and I just could no longer do it I was losing myself I was becoming a angry person I was exhausted so we split ways .. I knew she had a mental illness but I didn’t think it was serious into I started looking into it 😢 she had medication that she refused to take because it made her sleep a lot and she refused help she didn’t think she need help 😣I’m so sad I love her and really wish I could’ve helped her but we have gotten so mad at each other because I was trying to make her see how she was treating me when she has these episodes but it did nothing but make us argue and we said nasty mean things I don’t think we could come back from 😢
My BF has Bipolar Depression so Im watching to get tips on building a better relationship with them.
part more im scared, i get wrong partner with love. Like my ex bf no understand my depression just give motivation stupid ( toxic positive ) be like " take breath, let go everything ur past and bla bla " wtf. Thats why im single bcause i know no one understnd wht mean depression.
It's so hard to find someone who truly gets it!
Hey Karis you mentioned suffering from anxiety and seasonal depression. I wonder if you could actually be suffering undiagnosed (inattentive) ADHD. I could be wrong .. I’m currently wondering the same of myself; have seasonal depression and anxiety as well but I think mine come from hyper focus and or zoning out at times when I really need to be present or grounded within Me.. the love of my life also is diagnosed with bipolar (mood disorder).. ADHD persons also highly identify with being highly sensitive persons (HSP) or Empaths ..
I have not thought of that. I'll have to look into that! Although I have never struggled with zoning out and stuff like that
7 year relationship of a nightmare with someone I caught feelings for she is bi polar 2. I got so tired of the cheating the mood swings I did everything in my power to stick around because aside from the episodes she was a beautiful person it just seemed to intensify I finally walked away and it’s extremely hard
I commend both of you. Thank you for posting this video.
You are so encouraging, should we do more of these videos?
Me and my husband both struggle with mental illness. I have cptsd, depression and anxiety and my husband has bipolar. It's definitely been a challenge. I am a dv and SA survivor and sometimes my triggers can trigger him.
Currently living this with my fiance. He was diagnosed with bipolar and depression after we started. They never believed in mental health it was just a normal behavior. I have depression and anxiety but am very firm with it and was good but now with all this struggle with my fiance my anxiety has sky rocketed. He started treatment and is better but still has moments where he says horrible horrible things. Me having anxiety start overthinking if what he says is how he really feels or it's just random bouts from the bipolar episode. Anybody else go through something similar? I don't know what to think or feel anymore. I love him to death but what if you know?
Is love to hear a response to this from someone who has experience similar
thank you for sharing, this is a blessing
No problem!
Support group for dating ppl with bipolar depression
Do you guys have any book recommendations? I love videos but I love books even more
Do more videos together more often!
Glad you liked it, will do 😊
Girl you are so beautiful.
I am in love with someone but him Bipolar on mi don't know what to do on mi don't want to give up on him can u tell me what to do please
My gf has bipolar 1 and is going through an episode right now. Does medicine work very effectively or do people with bipolar 1 will have episodes anyways
Once you have the right medicine, you will be able to manage those episodes almost completely
I love the way he looks at you ❤ beautiful couple
The way he looks at me makes me feel special :)
My mom was abused by a mentally ill person, yes they deserve love but it is hard to understand them, because they are different in many special ways none of us understand, it hurts me that my mom tried to give my dad the love but he took advantage of it and started to abuse it.
Awwww, that must of have been really difficult to go through
Yes, please do more videos regarding bipolar disorder
I’m talking to the girl right now who has bipolar we went on two dates but she is not currently on meds and is acting in a self destructive way. I’d like her to get on meds but I’m not sure how best to ask about that. What should I do?
How are things going right now?
I felt bad for him when she said she wouldn’t be with him if he wasn’t on meds. Like I literally gulped and had to run it back.
Very helpful thanks ☺️
Please do more me my gf just separated over me being unbearable to deal with
I’m sorry! I dealt with mine too and I suffer from insecurities. He loved me but his past and his mental health kept creating more insecurities for me… I feel so bad. You will heal I promise
When I told my boyfriend family member for help they was like he’s lieing
That’s really sad. I’m so sorry :(
@@Karisbell yes and when he said it they responds like nothing Is wrong with you
@@Karisbell that’s what I been going through this whole year. My boyfriend stay with his family but they are no help. They stay in arguments. They all believe that he’s manipulative and always throws in “ you’re smart, nothing wrong with you” and it’s been so hard on me because I’m in this alone 🥺 I even stepped in and tried to explain to them like okay he’s actually going through these things and he needs to be communicated this way he needs to be talked to this way. You see my boyfriend have schizophrenia and currently diagnosed with bipolar. With schizophrenia you know they have they own beliefs, language words and sometimes they need to be communicated in ways they can understand but his family don’t want to help in no way. I’m so over expecting them to help. But like I said I feel so alone and responsible if anything goes bad.
Hi Karis, my girlfriend have mental illness depression. When she ignoring me what can I do when she stop contact me what can I do please advice me thanks.
Very useful video thank you 🙏🏽
No problem!
I want to know when he told her...
Hey guys thankyou for this video, me and my girlfriend started a relationship 3 months ago and things have been amazing, my partner has recently entered a depressive state of mind (mania) being very distant, blunt with words, casting issues up randomly which creates an atmosphere, she is medicated and told me she can manage it but is this the bipolar talking? Can she really manage it in the way she thinks she can because from my understanding of bipolar they cannot control when they have manic episodes and what they say or do so I am really struggling to work out which one it is......I want this to work so badly
This is so hard. I am so sorry you all are going through this. Bipolar is definitely manageable, however it can take a very long time to find the right medication for each person. And once you do find the medication that works it might take awhile before you can find the right dosage. One thing that helped me make the decision between staying in the relationship or not was getting educated on the illness. One book both my BF and I recommend is an Unquiet mind by Kay Jameson. This is a difficult illness but if the person is willing to get the right kind of help it’s very manageable.
This is so hard. I am so sorry you all are going through this. Bipolar is definitely manageable, however it can take a very long time to find the right medication for each person. And once you do find the medication that works it might take awhile before you can find the right dosage. One thing that helped me make the decision between staying in the relationship or not was getting educated on the illness. One book both my BF and I recommend is an Unquiet mind by Kay Jameson. This is a difficult illness but if the person is willing to get the right kind of help it’s very manageable.
@@Karisbell do you guys live together? We have both spoken strongly on living together? Is this something you would advise because I don't want to end up in a position where its too difficult and I'm on my own (feeling) when she is in a manic state and does not want to speak to me
@@lukeswinny669 we do live together now. We’re gonna get married in September. However we have been dating for 4 years. And 3 of those years were long distance (about 3 hours away) I honestly don’t recommend moving in together. You need your space to take care of yourself. You don’t want to get yourself in a position where you’re the caretaker. It’s important to be there for her but have that physical distance so you don’t lose yourself in the process if that makes sense. But things like this are really up to what each couple need. There is no one right way of going at it.
@@Karisbell thankyou, we also live long distance, 4 and a half hours to be precise and I make that trip every week or two, she became overwhelmed at first with the love bombing eachother and wanted to take a few steps back in the relationship but after 3 days she told me she changed her mind and she was just scared of how much she loved me and cared for me just didn't expect it if that makes sense, kind of messed with my head a little but I have listened to podcasts watched videos, read up and researched and its clear to me more now, I agree with you because when I went to hers for NYE we had a little fall out (could nit get a taxi and it was freezing cold) the day after she was unbelievably distant, sat on her phone zoned out then night time had a burst of energy and mood changed but then the day after cleaned all day then straight into bed on her phone for the whole night being very un responsive to me, dirty looks towards me etc. I felt so out of place like I didn't belong there, i know this is her in a deep mania right?
Why you pushed hun away at the end ?? Good video otherwise ! Great tips .
Thank you!
I need help, maybe yall can help me understand some stuff. I have high functioning anxiety and the girl i am seeing but not dating, we both like eachother and she has bi polar. Its all fresh for us. Can one of you guys pm me please?
Beautiful people 🦋🦋❤️
Thank you!!
I am have anxiety disorder,ocd,panik attact, gerd and i have 1 tips : imagine you dont have mental health and never sit alone and daydream.
I have bipolar depression
I hope to see more🙏🙏❤️❤️
We plan on making more videos this summer!
Let's be real of he wasn't attractive you wouldn't be with him
Yeah he is pretty cute I gotta admit 😉
@@Karisbell Be more attentive to him trust me. You areI appreciate it very much by him you don't have toTry so hardBe more a little bit more Down to Earth on a little bit more understanding just a little bit more.
Why would she be with anyone she's not attracted to.....
He is just average looking
My boyfriend just pretends its not there.
Why would you push him away.. try to be more loving towards him😢
💕
No one can really understand a nigga but mums
Thank you, guys. Bipolar 1 has been hell. My girlfriend just broke up with me. She said I was playing the victim. Smh
I’m so sorry to hear that :( it’s an illness that’s so misrepresented and misunderstood. I hope as ppl continue to share their stories and speak out, those who don’t struggle with the illness can come to have a better understanding of it so ppl like yourself don’t get miss treated and blamed
Hi Karis, the comment made by Ronny Scruggs was done so in error. I’m actually pretty shocked that he sent me this video to watch and then came across this comment.
Throughout our relationship, I have been very kind, caring, and compassionate towards him. I have not “mistreated” or “blamed” him for his sickness.. as I’ve been very understanding and patient with him for almost 4 years. I have taken up for him and even helped him process things, together. I am certified as a Special Educator and have studied it for years , so I understand the mental illness very well and have been sooo supportive of him and his journey. I never ever would give up on him or blame him. Ever! So, it definitely is hurtful to read the comments above.. as I’ve been there for him since before he was diagnosed and even afterwards.
The reason for our break up actually had nothing to do with Ronny’s illness. I’m not sure why this false image has been presented, but it was due to something completely unrelated. I will talk with him offline, but I wanted to make sure that the truth was presented.
Additionally, there have been times when he didn’t take his medicine- which like you said is a deal breaker for you- but I still stayed with him, just to be a support.
So, I hope that my comment sheds light to the situation and that the truth is revealed. In no way do I desire to be combative or argumentative on your post. I simply wanted to present another perspective.
Never said you mistreated me or anything. Just stating me being untreated has been the case. God bless.
@@nicolemqueen oh my gosh I’m so sorry. I definitely did not mean to undermine you or anything. Thank you for taking your time to respond, to learn about the illness, and for your empathy and patience. ❤️
@@Karisbell Ohhh no no you didn’t do anything wrong at all. I definitely don’t feel undermined, offended, or anything. I just wanted you to know that the image presented wasn’t entirely true because I wasn’t sure if his original comment was misleading. I truly truly love and care for Ronny and would never ever break up with someone because of an illness. My heart wouldn’t allow me to do that. 😢 I am very sensitive to those who may be treated unfairly and hate seeing people hurting. And like you said so wonderfully in your message, it takes a support team. I realized that I couldn't do it all alone. It takes professional help and a strong support, just like you mentioned. 🙏
Honey, run for your life. Living for DECADES with a bipolar spouse and it's hell on earth. Leave while you can.
Is this comment helpful? No. Millennials have different outlook on life and loving someone with mental illness. Jheeze
Kind of have to agree but I also feel like mentally I’ll people should be loved as well.
But why should she run away is he not human or does he eat people 🙄🙄
What happened
Not all bipolar people are mean.....sounds like he may have also had other personality issues going on....
He loves his Dog more than he loves you and its obvious lol girl leave wth
he really does love his dog. I think I am up there tho
@@Karisbell People underestimate how much animals can help us. They show the purest form of unconditional love.
It also says a lot about who he really is on the inside. He’s nurturing, gentle and kind towards the defenceless.
I would never trust anyone who didn’t like my dog or…even more importantly…my dog didn’t like! Not even joking.
Im sorry but long years in its hell
Your are giving it all these terms when all it is is someone who is emotionally disfunctional. If you follow mainstream psychiatry you will not find answers except to self-medicate.
Bro you can look at the camera you don't have to stare at her like a hawk. Understandable if you're not used to being on camera tho
Lol
Loooool this comment though 🤣