I suffered my wifes bipolar disorder for the last 20 years of our marriage. Many incidents of running away, hospitalizations, long depressions, threats, accusations, blowing money, cost me my job, distressed my parents, we lost friends and a social circle. Finally both our doctor and her psychiatrist told me she will never be cured, she doesn't acknowledge her disorder and her psychiatrist finally said "She's manic...and loving it" I had no rights, she could do what she wanted and the health service treated me as if I didn't exist. I had to divorce her before my life was completely destroyed. Even today, 10 years after our divorce she gets manic and harasses me. I wish I'd never met her.
How difficult to hear you. A year has passed since I experienced my partner's manic episode. I'm still recovering from that traumatic episode. Even though my partner is on meds sometime has some bizarre behavior. Is possible have a relationship ?? a friend of mine...10 years with a bipolar, she divorced at the end...
@@tomasalvarez7283 It is incurable and you never know if it will get worse. I have read that 2/3rds of relationships fail. My mistake was suffering it too long. It cost me my job, friends, distressed my parents and lost me years of my life. You have to look at your situation calmly and rationally, not emotionally. I didn't do that and wasted years of my life.
I can feel the pain of being not able to do anything. I can very well relate coz I am in the same situation where she got into substance abuse and consequently diagnosed with bpd. Multiple instances of hospitalization, losing our pet, blowing of all hard earned money, accusations, depressions, losing social circle.....she took medication for a while and then stopped it saying that she is fine in her hypomanic stage.....the words in my wishes are identical to yours....
@@tomasalvarez7283 I tried for 18 years and had to divorce in the end as my life was out of my control. Most marriages end. The hard part is biting the bullet....but when I did it was like a huge weight lifted off me.
What's hard is you don't forget the things they say and do during an episode so it does make it hard to forgive/trust and love again, every time she has an episode the things she said push me further away.
I feel this. My wife last July just went off the deep. For like a week. The day before we met back up was with a bad influence of a friend that helped her to cheat. I found out from the guy 3 weeks later. Going thru a lot and seeing a lot of professionals. Then after boom again it hits and then we find out why. The Bipolar disorder explaines it but does not excuse it. Now I'm here trying but it feels. As if I am the only one.
I'm in a fairly new relationship with a bi polar guy but we don't live together. When he's good - it's fabulous but when he's down he can be cutting to me and cold . He's always sorry afterwards and friends tell me to get out now. I'm trying my best to support him cos I do love him but part of me knows my friends are right.... Oh dear - what a horrible condition. I can't look into the future to see what it holds for us - or if we even have a future. He refuses to take medication cos he says he feels like a zombie. He's also quite promiscuous given a chance during the manic episodes and whilst I know it's part and parcel I'm finding this hard to handle , although I don't say anything 😢
This comment is ignorant. It’s ignorant because you have no clue what you’re talking about. You mustve never experienced true unconditional love. When someone loves you they help take care of you/help you take care of yourself out of love, not because “you pushing your burdens” on them. I hate that someone in this world ever made you think this way or someone overworked you so much they became a burden either way, it’s not an issue to someone who loves you. “Those who mind, don’t matter. Those who matter, don’t mind.”-❤️
@@pragatiblogs4704 when the love is TRULY unconditional you don’t care about what disabilities your partner has, you don’t care about the fact they need help taking care of themselves, because you don’t see it that way when the love is real. You just do it, out of love, out of the kindness of you heart, because you WANT to because you love that person so dearly you’d do anything to see them in happiness and being the best version of themselves regardless if they needed your help getting there or not. It really does sadden me that not enough people in this world have experienced genuine, from the heart and spirit, unconditional love. 😢
Within 2 months of being diagnosed, I proactively found CBT and Psychiatric therapy for myself and started medication. What a crazy concept: it worked! Now I’m carrying a 4.0GPA and applying to masters programs at Harvard and Oxford within my respected field. Yes bipolar sucks, but for gods sake please do not sit there and feel sorry for yourself reading through UA-cam comments. You have a fucking SUPERPOWER that medication and therapy can help you express. Don’t waste it feeling sorry for yourself while simultaneously making everyone else around you miserable.
@@sarahperrault3265 it is never unrealistic to desire something, I just know from my experience it wouldn’t have been possible to maintain it. Medication process is tough but it’s all about finding the right one :)
@@sarahperrault3265 I mean, it depends on the person and how bad their symptoms are. For me, I just could not have a stable relationship without meds, just because I wouldn't want to burden someone with dealing with me under the influence of my disorder. But With meds, of course, I know I can do really well. But it takes a lot of accountability on the part of the person with bipolar.
I've been living with this my whole life. Not having it, but living with 2 people who have it. I'm sure it's not the case for everyone, but for me, this disorder ruined my entire sense of normalcy. I constantly deal with isolation and a sense of powerlessness in my relationships. I'm used to walking on eggshells, as I've been doing it my whole life. It's my unfortunate second nature, and I blame it on this disorder. I hate the yelling. I hate the instability. I hate not knowing if we're going to be happy today or if I should just stay in my room. I hate that they've made me distrust the world with their trauma...I hate what they've taught me. Please take your medication.
💯 agree. There are all these videos about how bad things are for them but damn living with people with bi polar disorder is difficult. The person I deal with is also a constant victim and they gas light all the time. And then they walk around like nothing has happened. I constantly walk on eggshells.
Totally sympathetic - went through this hell myself - but not with two people - that is really really tough. Huge sympathies, and I hope you're able to branch out on your own before too long. (See my post above). Wishing you the very best of luck and, one day, freedom.
The worst part is when they’re good, you don’t believe it. You forgive them to the point where you no longer love them, and then you feel the crushing guilt when you admit it to yourself. How can I still love someone who make me feel like I’m worthless one minute and then a princess the next? An if I do leave, how do I regain any normalcy or trust in any future relationship?
This is really making me feel horrible… just know we don’t mean to put you through this… it’s an uncontrollable circle of emotion. We Love you. We understand if you choose to leave…
Understand it isn't your fault. Remember your a warrior for fighting this everyday. Don't beat yrself up for wanting to hide away. Make the most of the days when Yr feeling well. Xx
Don’t let a bunch of selfish, complaining people make you feel inhuman. You are a person. You are worthy. If you’re doing your best, and someone says it’s not enough, or they’re still trying to guilt trip you, they need to do you a favor and gtfo.
@@electricapplemediapremium7373 what a dumb view you have. If someone isn’t strong enough to deal with years of abuse that is blamed on bipolar disorder, they are not being selfish if they choose sanity and self preservation. I was a fully functioning normal person before I met my husband, 16 years later I have such low self esteem, anxiety, depression. All because I live in a constant roller coaster of his emotions. I have tried to love him and support him for almost 2 decades now and I’ve never put my own health and well being in the forefront . But I am tired and I just can’t love someone who doesn’t love me.
It's like, all bad behavior is based on *something*, some set of perceptions and influences that lead people to those moments, whether it's being verbally mean to your partner or Jeffery Dahmer type stuff. Some patterns have labels and some don't.
Been in a bipolar relationship for 18 years. Have 2 kids together and has been a rollercoaster ride for sure. Many times you try to be understanding but sometimes your just exhausted and trying to understand why they did/said something is pretty much impossible. Unfortunately this can lead to distancing yourself in order to protect yourself even if it's not on purpose. Sometimes you have to ask if they have been taking their medications (yes they hate that) but sometimes they do skip or stop taking them especially if they say "i just want to feek normal". You know it's not their fault and they didn't choose to have this but it's also hard when you as a partner have because exhausted and feel like you've become more of a caretaker than a spouse. Unfortunately trust is often broken and hard to earn back from past things said and done. You're not purposely holding something against them but things are always in the back of your mind. Which unfortunately can easily turn to anger, frustration or spite towards your bipolar partner.
My two year relationship with my bf who has BP has just finished. His choice - not mine. However he said - and he's right - he will continue to cause me pain over and over again. It's been a rollercoaster and I'm emotionally exhausted with it. I feel so sorry for him and I'll miss him but it's for the best. He refuses to Medicate but I've said if he ever changes his mind then to come and find me 😢. I think supporters of ppl with BP are heroes...
I am just now ending a 10 year relationship with a bipolar 1 person. He drinks, gambles, is often mean and refuses to medicate. I am now taking anxiety meds due to this relationship. I accepted him as is and understood its a disease but it has become abusive so must end. He will never be sorry or feel bad for what he did to me and put me through. He seems incapable if empathy.
Same thing happened to me, they were talking about having sex with other people the day my friend died, they knew the person and didn't even care, their only goal was to hurt me more and I never will allow it to happen again.
My mother has bipolar and she just talks so much shit about her kids, says god gonna get us and me in my siblings are about to leave her. We tried getting her help but she refuses
Iv been with someone for 4 years with bipolar 1 and it’s very much the same thing.. aggressive, manipulative, extremely negative, selfish, argumentative, abusive, constantly threatening me and the people around me, gambles my money and whatever he has, I’m so broken over this person and I still can’t let go.. I feel so down and low of myself I just dont have the courage to properly leave… he refuses to get help and just turns it on me and says I’m the one who’s sick and needs help.. he was treated really poorly as a kid with his mum eventually leaving him at the age of 7, so I always promised to him I would never leave his side but my life has literally been torn apart.. I have nothing left..
I even have his wake up to me crying uncontrollably at night and instead of him nurturing me and trying to calm me down he yells at me and tells me I’m so selfish to wake him up.. which can lead to a huge outburst even if I don’t say anything back..
My best friend is Bipolar Manic Depressive Schizoaffective. It has been 12 long years of progress, setbacks, disappointments, and wins! I have come to accept and embrace his disorder, it is something we cannot change. We cope, we manage, and we look to the future. The Bipolar condition can be highly misunderstood. But what I learned early on is that the love for my fellow man overcomes all. My best advice is to stop fighting it! Accept it and accept the person/people who suffer from it. If you are tired, frustrated, and numb then imagine what the person with the disorder must be experiencing.
It's not, in my very profound experience, about simple acceptance when you are being eaten alive. It's unbelievably difficult to 'imagine what the person with the disorder must be experiencing' when you are an adolescent and being torn apart, literally abused and mentally tortured. I'm afraid you are being horribly naive.
@@jomurphy1654yeah. My husband has these traits and I unfortunately am going through a domestic violence case with him in court soon. Since we have chosen not to divorce, I am asking the judge to mandate a psychological evaluation of my spouse my safety, along with anger management. I’ve been mentally abused and physically by this disease i just know he has. There are so ma y other signs that indicate he is bibpolar. The man then the depression, smh. The urgency to start a task, but no fuel to complete the task. Took him 3 months to paint one wall, smh. I just hope the courts can give him the help he needs and also offer therapy. We both could use it.
I lived 25 years with someone with rapid cycling bi-polar 2 and lived on eggshells for all those years. My nerves are shot to say the least. But one of the most challenging aspects was his lack of understanding that his moods affected me and others. He would dismiss my feelings and not recognise how hurful he could be and the utter exhaustion experienced from his mood swings. He blamed every behaviour on bi-polar, but what was and what wasn't becomes impossible to tease it out. Its easy to say you love the person but not the behaviour but next time you are being screamed at in rage over some minor problem - try and have sex with them that night when you are vulnerable and test theory. Can you really so easily discriminate between the two.
I know exactly what you are saying. I’m going through a similar experience with my bipolar husband. It’s been 30 years. I feel he’s teaching me how to hate life. It’s been horrible. I love him but feel like it’s time to save myself. I’m trying to figure out how to get out!! You’re not alone in how you feel.
i think my boyfriend has bipolar i’m exhausted he goes days without sleeping doing bizaaar things and then will sleep for 2 days straight it’s sad i thought he was on drugs but the more i see these episodes i started thinking he’s Bipolar. It’s very difficult to be with him when he is in a manic state it’s very exhausting I can’t keep up even though he wants me to. He doesn’t stop talking and he has a multitude of endless ideas going from one thing to another. And then the crash will come and he will sleep and sleep and sleep and be incredibly moody and miserable and mean
going through the same thing right now. I couldn’t say it gets any better because my partner is not at that stage yet but im really trying to keep hope. It’s hardest for the people closest to them but I encourage you to look at programs if you haven’t already. I wish you and your boyfriend luck
My ex was bipolar we dated for 2 years I just recently broke it off with him. It got exhausting overtime he was always so mean made me cry a lot stayed up for days never slept when all I wanted to do was sleep it sucked because in the beginning knowing he was bipolar and an alcoholic I guess I didn’t know what I was getting myself into. I experienced a lot trauma in the beginning with him he is now a year and some months sober. I’m proud of him but also still scared I guess that’s why I left cause I was looking into the future. It makes me so sad because I feel guilty leaving him. I just have flashbacks of us fighting the constant abuse I just couldn’t take it anymore I love him so much I didn’t want to let him go. He had medication for his bipolar but he didn’t always take it it’s like I had to always tip toe around him the things I would say would just make him so angry I saw myself saying sorry all the time when I never had to with anyone else. I just couldn’t anymore.
I had to stop listening to this immediately! All well and good (...almost) if you're living in the modern world with all this wealth of input on how to help/live with someone with bipolar disorder - however, with all the help in the world, it can still be difficult, to impossible. However, back in the sixties I was (no doubt like many other children) stuck alone, the eldest of two siblings, trying to cope with my bipolar, narcissistic psychologically (and occasionally physically) abusive parent. No one is EVER on the side of the offspring of the mentally ill on these sites...all the sympathy is with the bipolar patient. I find this myopic, and I find it tough. Back then, my life was often (with some good times thrown in occasionally) a living hell. Finally, at 40, I wrote about my ludicrously challenging childhood and adolescence - 'Burnt Dress' by Joanna Murphy. Please feel free to ignore it - it did me the world of good to write and has thrown light, for other bipolar offspring, on the dreadful rollercoaster living with such a parent involved. I loved my parent, and in the book, it shows. But 'Burnt Dress' is an honest - and also uproarious - account of what this experience is like, and I would think a pretty difficult read for any parent suffering with bipolar disorder...but an important one. Just putting it out there.
@@kyupified2440 I don't think that's true .. I don't get pitied .. I don't want to be pitied .. Just understood We with bipolar many times try the best we can and that's all we can do .. There are plenty of people with chemical disorders and some of us did have trouble growing up .. Please take a look at your partner, or family member or friends .. The true ones will talk with us and do their best too.. two way street? Thank you everyone who is commenting
I don't get pitied. I get mocked, made fun of, called crazy a million times and have people constantly ask me what's wrong with me. Stigma is real. It's not a ploy for attention, being bipolar stinks.
@@kyupified2440 I pity my husband when it's difficult .. I don't get pitied.. I am understood because fortunately for me, I have a husband who has learned about the disorder and understands that bipolar disorder is difficult, and I am always sure to ask him how he is doing during a difficult time .. That's with anything .. If you truly love someone, yes that is key to all areas of a relationship
only people living with bipolar know how difficult is.. every morning you wake up you start expecting his mood and what you re supposed to do anhd how to handle these unstablized behaviors and that fucking swing mood ;when you see him happy you start to be more optimistic and have hope that everything is gonna be ok but suddenly everthing switches from bad to worse . the bipolar need specific care /sometimes you are obliged to stay at home all the day besides him in hopes to support him during the hypomanic periods and stopping him for commiting suicide in all of sudden . it s fucking hard you lose your life ;bipolar life s becomes yoursand your mood becomes depending on him . you do all the best to help him and to contribute in healing him but in vain .you can feel some success but overnight everything changes and and turns into a terrifying nightmare .there is no life with a bipolar.
I understand - I was trapped with my bipolar parent for two decades and suffered their abuse and hellish confrontation, mania and psychotic anger for much longer than that. It IS worse than hell, and I sympathise greatly. I really hope you can find some support with all you're going through...I still think that Lithium has its place in treatment - it was the only thing that calmed my parent...I don't really think there's much that has replaced it but admittedly I'm rather out of touch with the medication side of things now. Wishing you some kind of freedom and peace of mind one day.
The worst part is when they turn psychotic against you. I am at the brink of exhaustion with someone who refuses medication constantly. I feel I have to endure all the violence because it is "not her fault"...
@@THEELDER1 i was diagnosed with bipolar because it was so affecting me that i adopt ed the same traits of this person and i had medecines instead of him and experienced the most painful struggles and side effect of the traitement and i was always blamed of feeling tired all the time. can you just feel the tremendous amount of this pain ? it s exactly what it seems to be living with a bipolar
@@farahk7139 My ex and I were married for over 25 years, I always suspected he had Bipolar because of his moods, excessive spending and always needing something new. They ramped up after he suffered a motorcycle accident back in 2016. He took a huge blow to his head, after that the bipolar got much worse, he was always a laid back happy go lucky person, but turned into a very angry and unpredictable person. I absolutely exhausted myself trying to keep him positive, it was very wearing on our son as well. Then when I was going through menopause, I had ZERO patience and that's when everything really ramped up, one night he got super paranoid and started recording me! all because I said I'd had enough of his moods, next minute police were out our door WTF they ordered me out of the house and I had to go live with my sister. My son is an adult but being separated from him, sent me into a deep depression. He has health issues and I wasn't there to help him and his father couldn't have cared less!!!! anyway my ex took up with another couple of people in this time and I said I want a divorce. He moved out and I moved back with my son. The short time with these other women proved it was his fault because they broke it off with him. He was suicidal, so silly me patched things up, more for the sake of our son who loves his dad. Anyway I said to him I'm pretty sure you're Bipolar after him not sleeping for a week and being on a high! so he actually went to the Drs and is now on meds. But the validation I now feel is wonderful, knowing all my reactions over those years were all normal, he nearly sent me mental!!!! so now we see, if he goes off the rails again and stops the meds, he's gone, I will NOT be put through that ever again, so yes, I feel for you because we good people DO NOT deserve this.
Bipolar 1 with mixed episodes here. I just got diagnosed after 25 years of marraige. I am now on meds and I am now kissing my wife's ass for not leaving me despite my mixed episodes when we had no idea I was sick. She rode it out until I found healing and got on meds. She is finally able to breathe. I'm looking forward to the next 25. I know this is not everyone's experience but people need to know most of bipolar people go unnoticed in society. We are not all bad and listen to this stuff to understand what our partner is going through.
Number 12!!! Trying to believe I’m appreciating when they’re lashing out ungratefully but want apologies after hurting us too. Sigh. Woooosah!! Thanks !
It's very very difficult to live with bipolar disorder and almost equally as difficult for your partner.. I believe that this disorder is not looked at as a chemistry of the brain disorder .. Hard as hell to have constantly changing moods .. It's been a major intrusive way into my life .. If anyone has had luck with a medication regiment that has helped you .. Thanks!!
@@RyanMathis55 You are so right Ryan .. I started on that right around the time that I wrote that comment .. Doesn't feel like other anti-psychotics .. I've had to go with samples with here in GA it costs $400.00 for one month supply ... I hope the new bill on a lower cap kicks in soon.. Thanks Ryan so nice of you to reply
My husband takes Latuda and we recently had a lapse in our insurance for one month and he was out of meds so I went to the pharmacy to try to buy one month supply and it was $1750 in California! Luckily we had an old psychiatrist that gave us some samples. Honestly it works better than anything else we’ve tried but he’s still a complete asshole 80% of the time.
I've been on Lamictol for 6 years and no mania, just break through symptoms and monitoring the dosage. I don't have side effects except for light sensitivity in the sun.
I lost my mind trying to keep up with my wife’s mania. I know we’re told to simply accept and manage though I couldn’t do this seeing my best friend unknowingly suffering while our children could not expect anything consistent out of US. Please look into detox + Iodine supplementation. Remove amalgam fillings, supplement with iodine. My wife has not had a manic episode over a year - we renewed our vows last month. It was a very special moment. Renewing vows with my best friend’s healed brain and our two children. There are scientific journals linking fat soluble toxins such as mercury, bromide + low glutathione to neurological illness.
It's important for all of us to remember that some things work for some and maybe something else works for that person who suffers with this illness.. And I mean suffer.. Not knowing what any day will hold and that includes family members and friends .. It takes special people to help other special people .. Thank you Lake A
@@doreenswaim6802 all human and animal life are vulnerable to neurotoxins. Read the scientific literature, numerous studies conclude, patients presenting with psychiatric disorders should require lab analysis of neuro-intoxicants that are being put into our food and water supply. It works for every human to remove mercury exposure from their mouths, it works for every human to remove exposure sources of halide neuro-toxins, it works for every human to reduce homocysteine levels through biocompatible optimization of epigenetic function via methylated vitamins.
I had no clue what bipolar 1 was and she in 7 years never showed any real signs until 6 mos ago. Up all night, saying hateful things, pushed me down the stairs and spent her life savings in no time. She began cheating on me and didn't care. She acted as though I was a leper and I lost my temper after 5 days not coming home out with another man and sent a text out of anger and went to jail. She got a protection order so not only am i dealing with probation for two years but I lost my home, truck, job, clothing and most of my possessions and worst of all the love of my life over something I didn't understand at the time and never knew she had. I miss her badly & love her so much. Had I only known, things would be different.
My sister has never been diagnosed but its tough being around her 24/7, both at work and at home. Its draining😢 I pray for all of us it some how gets easier
Hello, any advice on convincing the person who suffers from this illness to get professional help? It’s very difficult when they refuse to acknowledge they are sick.. and lash out with anger at any mention of it.
Eventually he/she will likely experience a break serious enough to require hospitalization. Then they will have no choice but to have an evaluation. 10 days locked in the psych hospital and coming to terms with the diagnosis will be the best thing that can happen to you both. Until then, there’s little you can do.
@@samiam8641 You would think that is true. It depends on the personality of the individual and the severity of the disorder. My best friend is Bipolar Manic Depressive Schizoaffective. Is it difficult having a best friend with this disorder? Heck yeah! But, we are best friends. I accept him for who he is. Is there something I would change about him? Absolutely not!!! He is a gift from God! Just like he is!
@@sylvesterq04 schizoaffective-bipolar is a bit different (from my experience). The psychotic element is always there. It’s a terrible combination. Yea, people are different.
@@sylvesterq04 btw, thanks for sticking with your schizoaffective friend. I have a child with the condition and keeping friends has been extraordinarily difficult. It breaks my heart.
@@samiam8641 Hey Sam! This is the case with Jesse also. He is an extreme loner. I am pretty much his only friend. But that's okay! We don't like people anyway. I work very closely with Jesse. (we work together). Progress can be painfully slow but I can't help but applaud because I do see progress. It's not always easy but I am very grateful that Jesse is a part of my life. I wouldn't have it any other way. We focus Jesse's energy on things that he loves to do, like searching the streets for rare and valuable coins. LOL! (I know that it may sound funny but I let him be himself). That is why I believe our relationship is successful. His personality is what it is. You may not be able to appreciate his hobbies, me either. But it's what he likes, and that's good enough for me. So, few to no friends but we do have a house full of rare and valuable coins. He is a true blessing in my life. I see so many posts on the threads with a lot of sadness, grief, and pain. Me and Jesse refuse to take that road. We will take these lemons that life gave us and make them into lemonade. Life is not fair but we do our best. Between the two of us, we will be just fine.
Just recently my mom saw how bad it was when I was screaming “what is wrong with me” during a mania episode.. They immediately called whoever they could reach at that time of night after I begged for medication. A few days later after just explaining only a few words, I was given medicine. It helps with the emotions and helps me be able to control them more. It doesn’t help my racing thoughts and only somewhat helps with my anxiety, so my parents also bought some anxiety gummies as a backup.
Hey can I have your number so you explain to me more about this 🥺my bf has bipolar and what toys can I buy for him for this anxiety ? And how to deal w him
Y’all know what? Fuck this. I’ve hurt enough people already, no more relationships for me. Can’t expect someone to be able and willing to deal with this
@Daniel Kerkes: I am sorry to see you make that statement. My best friend is Bipolar 1. He is aware of his condition. I accept and embrace his condition. Together we work towards a better life. Because of him, I am smarter. I am more aware of myself and the world around me. He has made an indelible mark on my life, a mark that cannot be erased or blemished by anything on this earth. My advice to you is that you must learn to love and accept yourself, just the way you are before anyone else can learn to love and accept you
I hate how people make us feel like we’re lucky they’re with us. Man screw that, we’re worthy human beings and hey, do they look at themselves with that scrutinizing eye? No of course not. This kind of 💩 makes us all out to be monsters. The sad dramatic music, the dramatic pauses, give me a fckn break.
@@electricapplemediapremium7373 On October 28th of this year I lost my best friend, he was hit by a car and died at the scene. He's gonna be missed! I agree with what you are saying, people always said that he was lucky to have me. They were wrong! He was my best friend because he was a good friend! I will miss him until the day I die. Electric Apple Media Premium, you are not a monster. And if people are not willing to accept you for who you are then they are not worthy of you. (But take your Lithium) :)
@@electricapplemediapremium7373 you know damn well the monsters we can become 👹 then the shame and guilt depression from hell. The way I see it now is we are saving ourselves from ourselves. I just turned 40, at 36 I said I can't keep going through this, and 42 was most likely my time. So I guess I'll enjoy the last 2 years as best as I can.
@@mista589 Jesse used to say dumb things like that, he hated it if I drove past a cemetery. You don't know when you're going to die. I wish all my friends were bipolar. I believe I understand you.
Hello, I enjoy your videos. Congratulations on your channel. I am Brazilian, a lawyer, and I work a lot. I have Bipolar Disorder Type 2 with comorbid ADHD. I believe I have written here before. I would like to ask you a question: what is life like for someone with bipolar disorder in the United States in terms of benefits for people with bipolar disorder? Does the government provide medication for those who cannot afford it? Does the government provide a psychiatrist and psychologist, or does everything have to be paid for by the individual? If you are experiencing a crisis, can you stay at home to receive treatment, or do you have to be hospitalised? How do Americans perceive a person with bipolar disorder? Do they respect and help, or is the stigma very strong? Is there a lot of prejudice? Are you allowed to drive? I apologise for asking so many questions.
Oii, eu sou brasileira,moro no US tenho bipolar 1. Desde de muito nova sabia que tinha algo de errado cmg e só agora fui diagnosticada com bipolaridade com 20 anos. Já fui internada 3 em hospital psiquiátrico. Se chama psycho ward é tipo uma parte do hospital que é só para pessoas com problemas psicológicos e lá fiávamos por 3 dias, semana ou meses se eles acham que precisamos. Não é o melhor lugar para ficar mas se vc está lá e realmente quer melhorar tera muitas oportunidades e benefícios para tratamento como remédios, grupos e pessoas para ajudar. Tomo como uns 4 remédios e pago como $5 mas antigamente pagava nada agr to com um plano de saúde com minha empresa. Tenho terapeutas que estão sempre indo embora por que são como assistentes sociais e isso dificulta muito o processo de melhorar pq é cansativo está sempre explicando o mesmo. Eu trabalho e sou bem recebida no meu trabalho, o meu chefe é como meu melhor amigo e já presenciou muitos dos meus ataques de pânico e até mesmo com um episódio suicida. Por algumas semanas estive no hospital e simplesmente voltei quando pude paro o trabalho, meu chefe me deu um papel para meu psiquiatra assinar que prova e me protege de perder meu trabalho por coisa de problemas psicológicos que eu tiver no futuro. Sim temos uma vida normal, vc pode trabalhar com oque quiser e também pode dirigir. Acho que aqui no US as pessoas sabem e respeitam a bipolaridade mais do que no Brasil, minha família mesmo não entende sendo que tenho certeza que minha mãe é bipolar até meu pai só ela que acha que não. Moro com a família do meu namorado e me tratam como se eu fosse da família sabem da minha bipolaridade e prezam para a minha saúde mental. Espero ter ajudado e fique a vontade para perguntar mais.
@@beatrizdanobrega4810 Olá, Beatriz! Tudo bem? Obrigado por escrever. Sim, eu tenho bipolaridade tipo 2 com comorbidade TDAH. Na verdade, tipo 1 e tipo 2 têm semelhanças, mas eu tive várias crises quando morava na Inglaterra e não sabia exatamente o que era. No entanto, depois de passar por bons profissionais particulares, já faz mais de 10 anos que sei que tenho bipolaridade e sigo o tratamento. Particularmente, não sei como funciona o tratamento na rede pública aqui no Brasil. Sou advogado e já trabalhei com pessoas que têm bipolaridade, entre outros transtornos. Alguns gostaram e outros não, mas, ao contrário do que muitos pensam, ter bipolaridade não é uma sentença de morte quando você faz tudo corretamente. Eu não bebo álcool, não tomo café, não durmo tarde e pratico esportes seis vezes por semana. Se você tomar seus remédios corretamente, praticar esportes e tentar dormir bem, você pode ter uma vida muito boa. E olha que eu também tenho TDAH, o que torna a vida com bipolaridade ainda mais difícil. Mesmo assim, sou advogado e tenho duas pós-graduações. Não deixe que a bipolaridade seja seu dono. Você é uma guerreira, parabéns! Você mencionou que não tem acesso constante à sua psicóloga. É isso mesmo? Eu não fico sem minha psicóloga; hoje em dia, vejo o psiquiatra a cada dois meses, mas minha psicóloga me vê toda semana, e quando é pouco, a cada 15 dias. Se você não está tendo um bom suporte, talvez valha a pena procurar uma psicóloga online no Brasil. Mesmo que você fale bem o idioma, ter uma psicóloga brasileira pode fazer a diferença e, geralmente, é mais barato pagar em dólares. Quando estive na Inglaterra por 6 meses, tive uma crise e, mesmo falando bem o inglês, preferi ficar com minha psicóloga do Brasil de forma online. Tenho uma psicóloga especializada em bipolaridade e posso te passar o contato dela. Mas, se você se dá bem com as profissionais que tem aí, continue com o que te faz sentir melhor. Ter um profissional que entende de bipolaridade faz toda a diferença, pelo menos para mim. No meu caso, a única abordagem de psicologia que funcionou foi a terapia cognitivo-comportamental, mas cada um tem suas preferências. já que você ofereceu, como são as clínicas por aí? Quando você está internada, é obrigada a tomar os remédios todos os dias? Você é bem cuidada e tratada? Tem acompanhamento quando está fora? Consegue ajuda do governo? Pode levar e usar seu celular durante a internação? Fica em um quarto sozinho ou divide com outras pessoas? Os médicos psiquiatras informam sobre o tratamento e durante a internação? Há terapia individual ou sempre em grupo? Na escola ou no trabalho, você precisa informar sobre a a sua bipolaridade? Obrigado pela sua ajuda e informação. Não desista nunca. Eu só me recordo que que tenho bipolaridade q2uando vou tomar meu remédio. Já ia me esquecendo: quando fiquei internado pela segunda vez, sempre foi em clínica particular e conheci várias pessoas diferentes, como médicos, engenheiros, advogados e policiais. Eram pessoas de diferentes áreas, mas todos lutando e realizando seus sonhos. Se quiser me mandar um e-mail, fique à vontade. Desejo sucesso para você. Não deixe a doença te dominar, seja você a dona de tudo. Evite pessoas negativas. Eu consegui e estou vencendo todos os dias. Você já é uma vencedora. Que Deus esteja sempre com você. Jone José Estado de Goiás - Brasil jonesilvasilva77@gmail.com
We just buried a child who was bipolar 1 or schizo- affective, depending on the psychiatrist… She had psychotic breaks, kept changing or going off meds because of side effects. She tried self medicating… she tried cod gummies… they triggered her psychosis 3 times…Delta 5’s and 8’s. She was in a break, and having paranoia and grandiose delusions. She was driving ,, got stopped several times … then she was hiding … was also being scammed by a hacker , stole all her money, told her not to take meds, not to listen to family and friends…. She would have probably have listened and gotten help…but the scammer fed her delusions… she pulled out too close and was killed by a semi truck…she may have been having delusions and mixed perceptions… I warned her many times she could get killed if she didn’t take care of herself…… and it happened. Our roller coaster is over, sadly in a tragic way…
My husband just tells me to get over it and if I’m in a depressed suicidal state he agrees with everything I say about myself. I can’t believe I’m still alive.
It definitely hurts going through this...I wanna leave but I wanna stay, idk what to do or even how to feel anymore...Man this Sucks. She Great when she is(even tho sometimes I can tell it's a mania situation and she's just having a good day) But I'm a Grown ass Man and No one can talk to me like she does and it hurts...Yall pray for me cause I don't know what to do but I Love her, smh
Praying strongly for you Farris .. maybe if more partners or spouses wanted to really really sit down and listen what it's like, perhaps the moods wouldn't be se severe and swing so hard, but we have to remember please that so much boils down to a medication regiment that works that we can afford and have a doctor/psychiatrist that really wants to help us and not put a definition and the traits all the same .. This and that it's not always like that to be categorized .. If anything makes me angry, that is a main one.. Please reach out to us when we have to experience the things that hurt you .. Talk about the hurt at a good time and have at least one or more good friends that accept you for who you are .. All is possible if we are treated like equals and not nut jobs.. I don't know? Would that make you angry spouses and other loved ones?
Sometimes you can be everything and it will never be enough for someone struggling mentally. That can be so hurtful, and painful. Sometimes you just have to let go and appreciate and be grateful for the good moments and pursue your own path and shine your light as bright as you can. I hope she finds the right treatment to help her out.
What if both suffer from the same thing? One partner went to 4 years of therapy and has the same doctor for years! But the other partner never seeks help and fights against it. Now exhausted the partner who always sets up appointment and professional help for their partner is mentally and physically hurt, while dealing with same thing, BP and ADHD. Now the best advice I've heard is one day at a time. 🥺 Mood swings suck. I'll just keep taking care of my own mental health and love and care for family. That's what makes me happy, but I would love for the spouse to take my advice. Go to the doctor go to counseling get education on mental health, because we both can do better. Today I'm struggling. Tomorrow may be a good day.
One thing that really helps me is when a person who has bipolar disorder is considered just that .. With respect, we are not bipolars. It may all seem harmless but being considered "a bipolar" it gives the mental illness so much more power .. Do you know what I mean? If you suffer from depression, you aren't called "a depression" .. It really hurts being defined by your particular disorder. I remember sitting in the dentist office, and some big growly man was checking out, and I heard him say "Yes it's a full moon. We better look out for those bipolars. They get crazier when the moon is full" So uninformed and judgemental.. What did I do? Sit there and take it because saying anything to this prejudice man would have only given him some kind of fuel that he could place on us as individuals.. I don't mean to hurt anyone by these words.. If mental health was given the kind of information to people to understand it, perhaps all of the name calling and shaming words would be gone?? Doubtful but hopeful
This all hit close to home since my wife does have bipolar 1 I wish could understand more but like the video said when she is manic there is no reasoning with her and she get really violent or tries to fight me. All I can do is wait for it too ride out. Any advice on what to do when a manic episode hits?
Hello fellow husband of a bipolar wife! After 2 decades of fighting, depression, fighting, and combativeness, I’d learned to live for those “moments of lucidity”, those times when she was between cycles and recognized how destructive her behavior was. After her first suicidal incident and hospitalization, she was diagnosed bipolar 1. Things began to make sense. It wasn’t all my fault!!!! I realize it’s something you can’t talk to anyone about, but you gotta find someone. Fwiw, my marriage is better now than ever (but still somewhat cyclical). If she’s still this unstable, her med management doctor needs to know.
hello i am bipolar. i have bipolar 2, at least that’s my first diagnosis, and while i don’t get to that stage of mania i have gone in and out of psychosis as well as dealing with borderline mania. i had just enough strength to not ruin my life and letting my thoughts and desires win the best of me. with all due respect if you don’t feel safe when she gets violent do not be afraid to save your peace, whatever that may be. if you’re at peace living with someone this disorder and helping her i applaud you. the best advice i could give whenever she gets that way is to not engage and LISTEN. she “knows” she’s making sense so just go along with it, we take it as a damn near confrontation when people don’t understand what we’re talking about lol because in our heads we make complete sense. again, do not engage and just let her ride it out, do not encourage but be sure she’s comfortable and there’s nothing to trigger stress or anxiety. i wish you the best of luck ❤️
@@samiam8641 Hello friend! I have a friend with the Bipolar 1 disorder. What works like a charm for me is "SILENCE." Don't engage with her when she's manic. I believe people with the disorder are aware that they are out of control. Where I live the local mental health agency has a procedure called "Pink Slip." When my friend becomes too combative I will initiate the procedure. I have never done it to be cruel or mean. I have never had my friend Pink Slipped because I was angry. It is a useful tool. If I have to use it then I will!
I tried to kill myslef because of the stress of being around my bipolar family member, I just hit a brick wall every time I tried to help him and he was verbally abusive and a giant bully, I had to get away from him and that was 35 years ago he still has not gotten help, recked every relationship he has had, now finally living in a room alone and that is what he needs, so he doesn’t have to expose his moods to the poor sucker that would be living with him.
i'm in love with someone with bipolar personality disorder, trying to educate myself on this disorder. i don't know how to help or what to do, or if i should continue this relationship. he's the best person i know, the best person to talk to, the most chemistry i had with someone. he did have an episode, and it hurt a lot. i'm a very sensitive person, i don't think i'm the best match for him because of the fact he does and says things out of impulse. but i can't let him go, i love him so much. i've tried letting go, we've tried letting each other go but we can't. i just hope that whatever happens, we both end up happy in the end.
It won't get better unless he wants to get better. And just saying it isn't enough. He needs therapy and medication to even attempt a healthy life and relationship. Trust me. I wish you both luck. It's not your fault. Don't let them drag you into suicidal thoughts during their episodes. They're small in these moments and want to make you smaller.
@brittanygreen127 thank you so much, he's going through another episode again and is completely icing me out. I'm trying so hard not to take it personally, to not let him make me feel small as well. I don't know if he's for real leaving me this time or is just self isolating, but if he ever does get in contact with me again, I'm definitely gonna have a conversation with him about starting therapy and medication. He was in a really great mood the other week, and last week he told me felt burnt out, and now this week, he's just completely blocking me out.
I've been knowing my boyfriend since we were 17 years old who better in a relationship for two and a half years now and baby when I tell you it's been a roller coaster it has been a roller coaster in the past two and a half years he has had over 15 jobs July 2023/3/2024 he has bipolar and mental illness you never know when anything is going to trigger his illness every time I turn around he's depressed in a room in the bed sleeping losing jobs and I'm handling everything insecurities his family said he got bipolar 6 years ago when his father passed away I think it started when he was a child when we started our relationship two and a half years ago he wasn't taking his medication he was just drinking alcohol being in and out of the hospital with ulcers these two and a half years has felt like 5 years he was in a salvation army program since December 2022/July 2023 he was in there for 6 months came home excellent had two jobs coming out of the program got a vehicle 2 months later last year November 2023 he had a trigger moment I've been out of work since then I think he started back drinking in January is doctor recommended him to take a shot for drinking he started that January the 4th what was still drinking while taking the shot I'm just done and drained I have about had enough I sent him to go live with his mother 10 days ago I have helped him by his side motivated him uplifted him into every doctor's appointment it's a lot it's like you're their caretaker sometimes I feel like they get too comfortable and then everything is left on you
I'm diagnosed with bipolar 1 disorder since 2002 to date. Married to the love of my life in 2006 , she then left in 2010.. we had 2 kids by then....then she sought me back to which I agreed ,remarried and as at present have 5 kids. I started being serious with my meds on 2017 to date which has kept me a bit stabilized. I solely check on my symptoms, arrange psychiatric and psychology appointments on my own. My wife doesn't care to be of help in my diagnosis neither does she apply whatever were told in therapies/family counseling. I cater for her double diagnosis in terms of medications and attending her appointments just as I cater for my double...meds and therapies. The appointments I repeatedly attend for both of us triggered I being laid off from my job a month ago. Now jobless bit she doesn't want to understand this hard times. We usually have spats infront of our kids , clash on home bills which . Despite being hospitalized for more than 5 years ,her migraine never stops, and so does my bipolar symptoms despite taking expensive meds. My theory now is: we are a trigger to each other and so long as we are together , none of us shall ever improve . The kids too are having a hard time with our persistent verbal fights. I'm not violent ,never touched her but at the same time have anxiety the kids shall loose incase we separate,which is on my diary as am writting. She's diagnosed with migraine and goiter which has symptoms close to what bipolar has in terms of depression,anger,intolerance etc. As partners living with shared symptoms
Be sure you know it will not change. Ever. 23 years in. My dairy from 10 or even 20 years ago reads exactly the same as it does today. Its not just a challenge. Your life becomes empty. You get worn down to the bone. As they age they get worse.
This made me feel bad :( i am aware that i’m causing great pain to those around me. At the same time, i feel completely alone in this. I have great self control, and NEVER get vissably angry. I stop it from leaving my body. I feel like there is so much stigma around bipolar…Not all of us are violent or unstable on the outside…:(
I am a person with this fucking disorder, i have lost my love of my life...who supports me in every odds....i used to abused her verbally without any reason, and i have taken her granted...i became so selfish, now i realised that I got this disorder from my father and grandfather...but inner me knows that I love her so much...and i am really proud of her she is a strong lady coz I know it's not easy for her to leave me...but i didn't left her any choice..she was loosing her confidence ...now i am sad and alone. My life sucks.. if I die i will ask to God...what was my fault..why did you blessed me this fucking mental disorder
@Rohit Das: Don't be so hard on yourself! She probably understands more than you think. Give her a little time... The funny thing I have learned is that love is more powerful than Bipolar Disorder.
@Rohit Das: I remember my best friend Jesse asking that same question: why did God bless me with this disorder? Well, probably for the same reason I am Black! For the same reason I am Gay! I have come to learn and appreciate my Blackness! I have come to learn and appreciate my Gayness! I have come to learn about my friend, and love my friend just the way he is!!! I would change nothing!!!!!!!
More than 50% of people with bipolar disorder experience psychosis as a symptom, this video makes no mention of that or the damage that can cause and how it's usually an underlying cause of one's behavior..That is sad. It's still not even remotely understood in the psychiatric community. To all the loved ones I'm sorry.. it's hard...we don't mean to be a burden or the source of your pain. Our actions in mania don't often match our core beliefs. I woke up one day delusional that my husband was having a secret other life with his ex and her two kids. I was in psychosis then I was unfaithful because I was hypersexual and completely detached from reality, it was a nightmare, when I was finally well and got my diagnosis and went on medication to this day I feel shame and embarrassment and horrified that my husband had to be married to someone like me. I would never in a million years be unfaithful but when you are psychotic your thinking and decision making are impaired. Somehow he forgave me and stayed with me and loves me more than ever but he will be the first to tell you "run" if inquiring whether you should marry someone bipolar. The Book "I'm Not Sick and I Don't Need Help," helped him understand a lot I'm so lucky to have him. The Author has an amazing Ted Talk demonstration that provides a demonstration of someone not wanting help. Loved ones have every right to be upset and hurt, it hurts to watch someone die of cancer, or diabetes, or obesity, or heart disease, dementia, tourette syndrome, alcoholism these things are not easy and no ones pains should ever be diminished. Not everyone can successfully manage a relationship with a bipolar individual and that's okay. Sometimes people need to walk away and that's okay too. I am managing my illness with medication, therapy and my husbands help it is still hard for both of us.
I have bi polar disorder, but my wife abuses me for it. She introduces me as "he's bi polar". She ignores all symptoms and manias, she even ignored when I was suicidal. I see the holy 3 as i call them. psyci, and psycol, as well as my therapist. Anytime I need to talk about my issue "talk to your therapist". What triggers my mania is when she lies and gaslights me; that is every day. This is not an illusion, this is an admission from my wife. She's so chipper and happy, but she treats me worse than any normal couple I've heard of. She's like Netflix documentary abusive. I want to leave, I want to stay, I've threatened her financially if she doesnt stop lying, Ive told her i want to jump off as cliff, and all she can see is herself not wanting to hear it. I was diagnosed several years after we were married, however, the abuse is well documented before I was diagnosed. Any advice for me? I used to be so strong. I could do anything. Now, the same thought is considered an episode. I'm broken, ill and isolated why my wife controls the narrative. It's crazy, but I know she hasnt had an affiar, or even attempted. So why stay with me and just ignore I exist? I am a very attractive male. I'm a competitive boxer, and I regularly volunteer at retirement homes. I have gifted communicative IQ (you know we have to take a state issued IQ test through diagnosis, so, ADD disorder I have as well, I guess. I'm on Lamictal and my stimulant is Mydayis. Mydayis is not covered by insurance and is $400 for 30 pills. I'm trying everything humanly possible even paying ridiculous prices for the best medications. She wont even agree to marital counseling. I'm just a thing. Arm candy. I'm just a stupid thing. She's 8 years older than me. I just am suffering while doing everything I can and she does nothing. I do, feel a little better typing it on here. You know we rarely get to tell our side if youre where I've ever been. Thanks for reading.
The only way you will stay is by choice. Been dealing with my partners Bipolar for 20 years. It's hard and i'm told all the time " i'd be better off without her" or " Why do you stay with me?" It's extremely hard when you have kids and her family is complete narcissist who likes to fuel her illness. It all comes down to love but even love can only take such a beating
Honestly, I just focus on the kids. The in-laws always try to punish my wife for being with me ( removing her from the will, guilt shaming her, They don't like me because I fight back against the abuse) but mostly I just take it. You have to always be on eggshells. Their memory is also scary. We can have the exact same thing happen or say something and they don't recall it and will argue. Even if they're proven wrong. my best advice is your life will suck but if you love them you'll stay. That's the harsh reality of it
I am so lucky. I put my boyfriend through hell with my Bipolar2. He stuck by me the whole time and got help for me and etc. His reason to stay was because he knew I wasn’t that person. He loved me for my real self and knew we could manage
@@DowntownOsaka yes we have been together for 8 years. I still get my bipolar moments but few because I am on a great medication and my bf is very supportive
Given the nightmare of this illness, both for the sufferer and for those in their lives, sincere question here: in the case of romantic relationships, what's in it for the non-sufferer to continue in that relationship? Assuming that person knows their potential partner is dealing with BD, -- and would be in for a lifetime of all the things mentioned in this video -- why would they continue this relationship?
I can speak from experience, the weirdest experience of my life to be honest..also the most difficult. As a matter of fact the creepiest thing I can barely conceive. Here's the answer, it starts off really good. Then it gets bad, then good again..by this time you're in love and have some dedication to this person. Somewhere down the Line A TRAUMA BOND develops. There's the answer, a trauma bond develops and it's something nobody could have explained to me without experiencing. The most gut wrenching craziest thing. A perverse version of love
My husband and I have been married for 7 years, he was just diagnosed about a year ago. If you love the person, especially on their good days, help them with their bad days & help them fight it. Do research to see what could potentially help. Ask for help from friends, family, etc. & don’t forget about taking care of yourself; talk to a counselor, take self care days, do fun things together, pray, stay positive. You’re stronger together and can be stronger than anything if you set your mind to it❤️
Sometimes kids are involved… it’s hard to just leave a marriage with children…a house.. etc. Also, there is a good side to them. Deep down. They are good. This illness… it’s so complex.
@@samanthab8256 If I could give you more than 1 thumbs up then I would. My best friend is Bipolar 1. We have been best friends for the last 12 years and we'll probably continue to be best friends. My friend Jesse is aware of his condition and himself. That bit of knowledge is true power! He has no control over his behavior. But!!!!! We have rules! We have boundaries! And! For every action, there is a reaction. I force my friend to seek out his own mental health treatment and sobriety. Now how do I do this? Well, it's simple, there are rewards and there are punishments. It is up to you to be creative with the rewards and punishments. Works like a charm! One more thing: I participate in the treatments with him. Now stuff is not always easy but if you are tired, frustrated... Then imagine what the patient must be feeling. Come on people! Let's not be defeated by this disorder. I love my friend Jesse. There is no way I would give up on him. That would be like giving up on myself.
I thought my fiancé could break whatever it is that this is, I’ve ignored it, I’ve tried my best with life skills I have like mindfulness, taking steps away, stuff like that but I feel like I really need to learn about it if I’m going to stay. I know I have a choice, I feel that she’s worth it. This is tough shit tho fs. My moms got it and my sister holy shit.
I didn’t know my date had Bipolar. I also he was hypersexual and went to rehab for a year for sex addiction. He was reckless with me. I was in a shock when he misbehaved, abused me and forced himself on me. I ran away from him. Later his friends and family have been pushing guilt on me that I abandoned him. I had no clue to handle him. He could be HIV positive. Now I am living in dread. 😢
My ex partner is bi polar skitsoftenic and paranoid he is very verbally abusive and he would tell all he's family I was cheating on him iam wheelchair bound and he always took care of me but everything and anything was my fault and he would be angry all the time and threaten me to leave me for something as simple as misplaced house items I left him but I feel like it was the worst mistake I did because nobody else will want me for me and I really want to fix things but he always refused help and said he didn't care about getting help and that I had to deal with it no matter what
@Kevin Leal: That's a tough one, but I have the answer. When it comes to dealing with people that have this disorder you're going to have to be clever, deceptive, calculating, devious... and all those other things. You are dealing with a person who is irrational! You will never be able to use rational thinking with that person and come out with a viable solution. YOU MUST OUT THINK THEM! The person with the disorder can't help it! They have absolutely no control over it. Therefore, you must take control! You drive the car because they will run into the ditch!
I have finally had to walk away from my friend of twenty years he's bipolar and he's too much and I can't live with his craziness anymore I hope he will make it and live alright I can't worry about him though 😌
I had several bipolar partners. But the one I live with has altered my mind, emotional,physical and spiritual. I feel bad writing this. But I tried keeping it all together till now. I don't want to date another person with this illness because I just can't go through the betrayal, disrespect and sexual hyper active abuse. In which I allowed because I knew he was manic and was going through work and taking care of me so I allowed certain things I didn't really feel comfortable. Just to get over with. To please him. But after the break up. His bipolar not only made him call the cops at our place WHEN WE HAD UM 😅 🍄 YES people with mental illness and psychedelic plus abusing the substance isn't a good idea whatsoever. So please stay in your medication. That was our mistake. But now he is such an assholes towards me. In which makes me think he played the character or person I needed so I can depend on him and when it was alot he just blew up. Wouldn't let me leave the apartment till the cops got there. I left anyways because it was a very bad idea so for everyone i left that day all of my belongings. He is engineer and has fake his piss test to get to the good job he has now. Even though intelligent he was easily manipulated because he suffered every day from imposter syndrome. I tried being his back bone when people abuse his manic episodes of kindness like even giving money to his friends, jobs and they have stole from him while we broke up. Again. I've been there taking care of him. I know I wasn't easy. We all out here to heal. But is hard to believe who you really dating when the person switches from the most sweetest to the worst person on this god forsaken planet.
3:15 a little correction here: people with hypomania (like me) can STILL lose it and experience burst of uncontrollable rage just like someone going through a full blown manic episode like what's found in people with Bipolar 1.
I think it’s partly right but a little misleading. Bipolar (like all psychotic illnesses) is highly genetic but I don’t think you can simply point to a chromosome for diagnosis.
I am suffering from bipolar. And I am scared of starting a relationship. Pleeeeeese tell me I am not going to hurt my future partner.... Ant tips? Or any videos that can help? Anything? I can't put someone I love in this hard situation...
The reality is you are going to hurt them time to time. BUT it's up to you to put in the work for your health and theirs. You also need a very mature, strong, patient, and compassionate person to enter a relationship with.
There's a massive amount of videos on UA-cam, and groups to join. And vital that the right medication for you is there and fully discussed with your doctor(s)....it is certainly very difficult to live with this condition and to expect others to cope without massive challenges - I really do sympathise.
Even without the disorder you will end up hurting your partner or being hurt. It’s part of the growth….growth in a relationship can be painful but also beautiful. My husband has put up with so much , more than I thought.but as you get older I feel like it’s easier to understand , we manage the bipolar better and find a good rhythm. Live life and go for it , don’t let any disorder hold you back!
just started dating this girl im 16 shes 17, shes manic and im new to this, any tips from anyone whos partner has this so i can learn how to deal with it best, its already caused problems and we have only been dating 2 weeks but i want a future with her, any reply helps
I disagree with what these people are telling you. See if you can deal with it and communicate with her. Don't feel like you can't speak to her. Good luck
Actually hypomania is not always a positive experience. Yes it usually involves more productivity without the extreme shifts that occur with mania but some people are productive, upbeat, creative, and energetic while others are most of those things but angry/ irritable Vs upbeat and happy.
This is my husband. He experiences hypomania and mania with anger, irritability, what seems like a total lack of empathy and strange obsessions. His obsessions change from episode to episode. He does become more productive but it’s not in a positive way. He just obsesses over things and neglects his family. He spends money on things he doesn’t need. And I get emotionally abused and blamed for literally everything.
@@ChardeeMacdennis339 you’re not alone. I thought I was when I was going through it but found a bipolar spouses group on FB and it was helpful. I divorced mine in 2016 after 24 yrs of marriage because the household with our two boys was untenable due to his anger and obsessive thinking, etc.
My relationship is broke down of 23yrs because of my bpd but ya no wat am having to except it because is hard for the partner to live with and I goin through that I don't want to be round people because I just feel all the time that there out to get me and read things totally out of perspective won't listen to anyone and can't listen to no one
Probably because the person living with someone who has it has a sad life. Imagine walking on a frayed tight rope. You not only have to worry about falling off the rope but you also have to worry about the rope breaking. There are certain aspects where you think you can help the person, but you really cant, and they are other aspects where you have simply no control at all to help the person.
@@21222or my girlfriend exploded on me the other day. I can hold my own, i negotiate daily for a living with intense businessmen. But my lord, this energy that came out of her when she was yelling was POWERFUL. She invited me over and she wanted to go out around 10pm, then i said “baby, I dont want u to go…” in a kind tone. Then she BLEW UP! And kicked me the fuck out on the spot. It was insane!!!! I fee so bad for her:/ but she has admitted being Bipolar… she drinks a bottle of champagne a day, ive told her to decrease it but nothing…. It felt like being yelled at by Satan, I am still Sooooo taken back… on top of this all she lost 100% hearing in her left ear.
OMLLL IM CRYING SO HARD 😭😭 I know I put the father of my kids through hell regardless if he apologized for wrongdoings. I relived everything I accepted apologies for unwillingly. Plus the toll it takes on family and friends 😭 I had four episodes earlier 😭😭😭😭
you're not a hero for staying with someone with a mental illness..you need to look after you and your life..bipolar don't get better..it's a life long illness..you can't heal ..
I do my best to manage mine, I limit everything I do for the benefit of loved ones who use my disorder against me frequently. Honestly if we are too much for y’all, don’t keep stigmatizing us, just go find less. Nobody has empathy for us, but we’re supposed to hate ourselves for you?? Yeah go ahead and talk trash behind our backs. We can hear you. You guys are so scared when we feel really good… where’s all that alarm and concern when we feel really bad? Nobody seems to care then. Why? Because it doesn’t inconvenience you as much. Cause that’s really what it’s about; you. You and your comfort. You don’t care if we’re depressed. You care if we can’t clock in for work. You don’t care if we’re manic, you care that we are annoying you. You don’t care if you upset us, you care that our voices are loud. I’m tired of having to pander to everybody else. How about this : if you can’t take the heat, get out of the kitchen. there’s the door 👉. Bye! 👋
You should stop being mean. In all situations you're gonna have to do your part to make things work. It's easy to be stupid but it takes great effort and maturity to do and say the right thing.
OH don't get me started on the mania when your partner starts talking to others online and proclaiming they love them, same sex too! WTF and I'm supposed to be ok with it! hell NO.
Just a heads up, you guys are not the victims. Those who DON'T have BPD and live with someone else who has it are not the "poor me, poor me" you guys describe because you guys literally blame every ounce of your emotional pain on the behaviours of someone with BPD. It's not about you guys and if you don't like it then leave, knock them out of mania and let them enjoy their introspective depression. I know, I've lost everyone but it has never stopped me from trying to find out who I am and what I can do best for myself and others. Stop being victims and just leave if you are going to talk about it on here like you have no one else. Talk to the person, not everyone with bipolar is educated on the condition or even know they have it. I didn't know I had it until 26 and since I know I have had a more tailored approach to the way I conduct life.
I can relate to y’all’s comments and this video 100%… I’m pretty certain my husband is bipolar. He recently even said he felt manic the last time he was upset, which - good news - he’s researching his symptoms. He finally agreed to counseling even after a coworker suggested it to him… I just…. I just don’t know how much more I can take. The verbal abuse, the hypocrisy. The spending habits & the wrecking his/our things, I’m tired. So so tired… And he refused to accept that I have mental health issues because of him. It’s because of “how I was raised.” Um, yeah, I was pretty fucking normal before I met him. Now I suffer from depression, anxiety and PTSD due to his abuse. He even now calls me his narcissistic mother (which he acts like SO MUCH nowadays, it’s insane). So…. That’s my life right now. Thank God I’m finally in counseling. Not fun when you’re now….4 months pregnant with your third son. *sigh* yeah, I know, I’m stupid. But good to know I ain’t suffering alone. ❤❤️🩹
I suffered my wifes bipolar disorder for the last 20 years of our marriage. Many incidents of running away, hospitalizations, long depressions, threats, accusations, blowing money, cost me my job, distressed my parents, we lost friends and a social circle.
Finally both our doctor and her psychiatrist told me she will never be cured, she doesn't acknowledge her disorder and her psychiatrist finally said "She's manic...and loving it"
I had no rights, she could do what she wanted and the health service treated me as if I didn't exist.
I had to divorce her before my life was completely destroyed.
Even today, 10 years after our divorce she gets manic and harasses me.
I wish I'd never met her.
How difficult to hear you. A year has passed since I experienced my partner's manic episode. I'm still recovering from that traumatic episode. Even though my partner is on meds sometime has some bizarre behavior. Is possible have a relationship ?? a friend of mine...10 years with a bipolar, she divorced at the end...
@@tomasalvarez7283
It is incurable and you never know if it will get worse. I have read that 2/3rds of relationships fail.
My mistake was suffering it too long. It cost me my job, friends, distressed my parents and lost me years of my life.
You have to look at your situation calmly and rationally, not emotionally. I didn't do that and wasted years of my life.
My husband is turning my college son on me for leaving him now. :/
I can feel the pain of being not able to do anything. I can very well relate coz I am in the same situation where she got into substance abuse and consequently diagnosed with bpd. Multiple instances of hospitalization, losing our pet, blowing of all hard earned money, accusations, depressions, losing social circle.....she took medication for a while and then stopped it saying that she is fine in her hypomanic stage.....the words in my wishes are identical to yours....
@@tomasalvarez7283
I tried for 18 years and had to divorce in the end as my life was out of my control.
Most marriages end. The hard part is biting the bullet....but when I did it was like a huge weight lifted off me.
What's hard is you don't forget the things they say and do during an episode so it does make it hard to forgive/trust and love again, every time she has an episode the things she said push me further away.
I feel this. My wife last July just went off the deep. For like a week. The day before we met back up was with a bad influence of a friend that helped her to cheat. I found out from the guy 3 weeks later. Going thru a lot and seeing a lot of professionals. Then after boom again it hits and then we find out why. The Bipolar disorder explaines it but does not excuse it. Now I'm here trying but it feels. As if I am the only one.
I'm really sorry. I'm new in this situation. Unsure what to do
But do they remember what they said to you?
I'm in a fairly new relationship with a bi polar guy but we don't live together. When he's good - it's fabulous but when he's down he can be cutting to me and cold . He's always sorry afterwards and friends tell me to get out now. I'm trying my best to support him cos I do love him but part of me knows my friends are right.... Oh dear - what a horrible condition. I can't look into the future to see what it holds for us - or if we even have a future. He refuses to take medication cos he says he feels like a zombie. He's also quite promiscuous given a chance during the manic episodes and whilst I know it's part and parcel I'm finding this hard to handle , although I don't say anything 😢
Whewww I need this channel😢
Exhibit A as to why I stay single. Never bearing my pain and disability on anyone else.
This comment is ignorant. It’s ignorant because you have no clue what you’re talking about. You mustve never experienced true unconditional love. When someone loves you they help take care of you/help you take care of yourself out of love, not because “you pushing your burdens” on them. I hate that someone in this world ever made you think this way or someone overworked you so much they became a burden either way, it’s not an issue to someone who loves you.
“Those who mind, don’t matter. Those who matter, don’t mind.”-❤️
@@rosalindtye5104 DAMN..somebody wrote what- -THEY felt and you attack because they don't have the same feelings in that moment you do.??,WTF..Chillax
I feel the exact same way.. I don't want anybody to have to go thru my highs and lows and in betweens.
@@rosalindtye5104 hy... Actually u are so true.. Love should be unconditional... I myself love someone who is suffering with same...
@@pragatiblogs4704 when the love is TRULY unconditional you don’t care about what disabilities your partner has, you don’t care about the fact they need help taking care of themselves, because you don’t see it that way when the love is real. You just do it, out of love, out of the kindness of you heart, because you WANT to because you love that person so dearly you’d do anything to see them in happiness and being the best version of themselves regardless if they needed your help getting there or not. It really does sadden me that not enough people in this world have experienced genuine, from the heart and spirit, unconditional love. 😢
Within 2 months of being diagnosed, I proactively found CBT and Psychiatric therapy for myself and started medication. What a crazy concept: it worked! Now I’m carrying a 4.0GPA and applying to masters programs at Harvard and Oxford within my respected field.
Yes bipolar sucks, but for gods sake please do not sit there and feel sorry for yourself reading through UA-cam comments. You have a fucking SUPERPOWER that medication and therapy can help you express. Don’t waste it feeling sorry for yourself while simultaneously making everyone else around you miserable.
Would you say that without medication its unrealistic to want a stable relationship?
@@sarahperrault3265 it is never unrealistic to desire something, I just know from my experience it wouldn’t have been possible to maintain it. Medication process is tough but it’s all about finding the right one :)
@@sarahperrault3265 I mean, it depends on the person and how bad their symptoms are. For me, I just could not have a stable relationship without meds, just because I wouldn't want to burden someone with dealing with me under the influence of my disorder. But With meds, of course, I know I can do really well. But it takes a lot of accountability on the part of the person with bipolar.
Please do not sit there and pretend it's easy to access medication or therapy at all times ❤ I'm really happy it all worked for you as easily
My bf refused to Medicate. And h
I've been living with this my whole life. Not having it, but living with 2 people who have it. I'm sure it's not the case for everyone, but for me, this disorder ruined my entire sense of normalcy. I constantly deal with isolation and a sense of powerlessness in my relationships. I'm used to walking on eggshells, as I've been doing it my whole life. It's my unfortunate second nature, and I blame it on this disorder. I hate the yelling. I hate the instability. I hate not knowing if we're going to be happy today or if I should just stay in my room. I hate that they've made me distrust the world with their trauma...I hate what they've taught me. Please take your medication.
💯 agree. There are all these videos about how bad things are for them but damn living with people with bi polar disorder is difficult. The person I deal with is also a constant victim and they gas light all the time. And then they walk around like nothing has happened. I constantly walk on eggshells.
Totally sympathetic - went through this hell myself - but not with two people - that is really really tough. Huge sympathies, and I hope you're able to branch out on your own before too long. (See my post above). Wishing you the very best of luck and, one day, freedom.
This spoke to me. I love them and I hate their behavior, both at the same time. Impossible to understand unless you are deep in it all.
The worst part is when they’re good, you don’t believe it. You forgive them to the point where you no longer love them, and then you feel the crushing guilt when you admit it to yourself. How can I still love someone who make me feel like I’m worthless one minute and then a princess the next?
An if I do leave, how do I regain any normalcy or trust in any future relationship?
Poor you having to live with someone who has it! It must have been TERRIBLE! Gtfoh
This is really making me feel horrible… just know we don’t mean to put you through this… it’s an uncontrollable circle of emotion. We Love you. We understand if you choose to leave…
Understand it isn't your fault. Remember your a warrior for fighting this everyday. Don't beat yrself up for wanting to hide away. Make the most of the days when Yr feeling well. Xx
Don’t let a bunch of selfish, complaining people make you feel inhuman. You are a person. You are worthy. If you’re doing your best, and someone says it’s not enough, or they’re still trying to guilt trip you, they need to do you a favor and gtfo.
@@electricapplemediapremium7373 hey pls dont call it as selfish, this is just two people suffering , you can never blame it on each other
@@electricapplemediapremium7373 what a dumb view you have. If someone isn’t strong enough to deal with years of abuse that is blamed on bipolar disorder, they are not being selfish if they choose sanity and self preservation. I was a fully functioning normal person before I met my husband, 16 years later I have such low self esteem, anxiety, depression. All because I live in a constant roller coaster of his emotions. I have tried to love him and support him for almost 2 decades now and I’ve never put my own health and well being in the forefront . But I am tired and I just can’t love someone who doesn’t love me.
@@shawnac9289 ikr😔
I just don't want to judge. But the scary patterns. The changes. The violent outburst and verbal abuse is real.
It's like, all bad behavior is based on *something*, some set of perceptions and influences that lead people to those moments, whether it's being verbally mean to your partner or Jeffery Dahmer type stuff.
Some patterns have labels and some don't.
Been in a bipolar relationship for 18 years. Have 2 kids together and has been a rollercoaster ride for sure. Many times you try to be understanding but sometimes your just exhausted and trying to understand why they did/said something is pretty much impossible. Unfortunately this can lead to distancing yourself in order to protect yourself even if it's not on purpose.
Sometimes you have to ask if they have been taking their medications (yes they hate that) but sometimes they do skip or stop taking them especially if they say "i just want to feek normal". You know it's not their fault and they didn't choose to have this but it's also hard when you as a partner have because exhausted and feel like you've become more of a caretaker than a spouse.
Unfortunately trust is often broken and hard to earn back from past things said and done. You're not purposely holding something against them but things are always in the back of your mind. Which unfortunately can easily turn to anger, frustration or spite towards your bipolar partner.
My two year relationship with my bf who has BP has just finished. His choice - not mine. However he said - and he's right - he will continue to cause me pain over and over again. It's been a rollercoaster and I'm emotionally exhausted with it. I feel so sorry for him and I'll miss him but it's for the best. He refuses to Medicate but I've said if he ever changes his mind then to come and find me 😢. I think supporters of ppl with BP are heroes...
I am just now ending a 10 year relationship with a bipolar 1 person. He drinks, gambles, is often mean and refuses to medicate. I am now taking anxiety meds due to this relationship. I accepted him as is and understood its a disease but it has become abusive so must end. He will never be sorry or feel bad for what he did to me and put me through. He seems incapable if empathy.
Same thing happened to me, they were talking about having sex with other people the day my friend died, they knew the person and didn't even care, their only goal was to hurt me more and I never will allow it to happen again.
My mother has bipolar and she just talks so much shit about her kids, says god gonna get us and me in my siblings are about to leave her. We tried getting her help but she refuses
Iv been with someone for 4 years with bipolar 1 and it’s very much the same thing.. aggressive, manipulative, extremely negative, selfish, argumentative, abusive, constantly threatening me and the people around me, gambles my money and whatever he has, I’m so broken over this person and I still can’t let go.. I feel so down and low of myself I just dont have the courage to properly leave… he refuses to get help and just turns it on me and says I’m the one who’s sick and needs help.. he was treated really poorly as a kid with his mum eventually leaving him at the age of 7, so I always promised to him I would never leave his side but my life has literally been torn apart.. I have nothing left..
I even have his wake up to me crying uncontrollably at night and instead of him nurturing me and trying to calm me down he yells at me and tells me I’m so selfish to wake him up.. which can lead to a huge outburst even if I don’t say anything back..
@@clarisseroseflambard3921 If someone else is destroying you, you have to leave
My best friend is Bipolar Manic Depressive Schizoaffective. It has been 12 long years of progress, setbacks, disappointments, and wins! I have come to accept and embrace his disorder, it is something we cannot change. We cope, we manage, and we look to the future. The Bipolar condition can be highly misunderstood. But what I learned early on is that the love for my fellow man overcomes all. My best advice is to stop fighting it! Accept it and accept the person/people who suffer from it. If you are tired, frustrated, and numb then imagine what the person with the disorder must be experiencing.
So true sylvesterq04
It's not, in my very profound experience, about simple acceptance when you are being eaten alive. It's unbelievably difficult to 'imagine what the person with the disorder must be experiencing' when you are an adolescent and being torn apart, literally abused and mentally tortured. I'm afraid you are being horribly naive.
@@doreenswaim6802 Disagree. See my comment below.
@@jomurphy1654yeah. My husband has these traits and I unfortunately am going through a domestic violence case with him in court soon. Since we have chosen not to divorce, I am asking the judge to mandate a psychological evaluation of my spouse my safety, along with anger management. I’ve been mentally abused and physically by this disease i just know he has. There are so ma y other signs that indicate he is bibpolar. The man then the depression, smh. The urgency to start a task, but no fuel to complete the task. Took him 3 months to paint one wall, smh. I just hope the courts can give him the help he needs and also offer therapy. We both could use it.
I lived 25 years with someone with rapid cycling bi-polar 2 and lived on eggshells for all those years. My nerves are shot to say the least. But one of the most challenging aspects was his lack of understanding that his moods affected me and others. He would dismiss my feelings and not recognise how hurful he could be and the utter exhaustion experienced from his mood swings. He blamed every behaviour on bi-polar, but what was and what wasn't becomes impossible to tease it out. Its easy to say you love the person but not the behaviour but next time you are being screamed at in rage over some minor problem - try and have sex with them that night when you are vulnerable and test theory. Can you really so easily discriminate between the two.
I know exactly what you are saying. I’m going through a similar experience with my bipolar husband. It’s been 30 years. I feel he’s teaching me how to hate life. It’s been horrible. I love him but feel like it’s time to save myself. I’m trying to figure out how to get out!! You’re not alone in how you feel.
Good for you baby.
Your comments carry so much emotional weight and hit very close to home, thank you for honest words
i think my boyfriend has bipolar
i’m exhausted
he goes days without sleeping doing bizaaar things and then will sleep for 2 days straight
it’s sad
i thought he was on drugs but the more i see these episodes i started thinking he’s Bipolar. It’s very difficult to be with him when he is in a manic state it’s very exhausting I can’t keep up even though he wants me to. He doesn’t stop talking and he has a multitude of endless ideas going from one thing to another. And then the crash will come and he will sleep and sleep and sleep and be incredibly moody and miserable and mean
going through the same thing right now. I couldn’t say it gets any better because my partner is not at that stage yet but im really trying to keep hope. It’s hardest for the people closest to them but I encourage you to look at programs if you haven’t already. I wish you and your boyfriend luck
Is your boyfriend on medication or undiagnosed? Sending prayers of comfort your way.
My ex was bipolar we dated for 2 years I just recently broke it off with him. It got exhausting overtime he was always so mean made me cry a lot stayed up for days never slept when all I wanted to do was sleep it sucked because in the beginning knowing he was bipolar and an alcoholic I guess I didn’t know what I was getting myself into. I experienced a lot trauma in the beginning with him he is now a year and some months sober. I’m proud of him but also still scared I guess that’s why I left cause I was looking into the future. It makes me so sad because I feel guilty leaving him. I just have flashbacks of us fighting the constant abuse I just couldn’t take it anymore I love him so much I didn’t want to let him go. He had medication for his bipolar but he didn’t always take it it’s like I had to always tip toe around him the things I would say would just make him so angry I saw myself saying sorry all the time when I never had to with anyone else. I just couldn’t anymore.
@@Ghoulby I couldn’t either, but I made 7 years. I can tell you, it doesn’t get better
This is me in a nutshell with my fiancee. Whew😔🥺
I had to stop listening to this immediately! All well and good (...almost) if you're living in the modern world with all this wealth of input on how to help/live with someone with bipolar disorder - however, with all the help in the world, it can still be difficult, to impossible. However, back in the sixties I was (no doubt like many other children) stuck alone, the eldest of two siblings, trying to cope with my bipolar, narcissistic psychologically (and occasionally physically) abusive parent. No one is EVER on the side of the offspring of the mentally ill on these sites...all the sympathy is with the bipolar patient. I find this myopic, and I find it tough. Back then, my life was often (with some good times thrown in occasionally) a living hell. Finally, at 40, I wrote about my ludicrously challenging childhood and adolescence - 'Burnt Dress' by Joanna Murphy. Please feel free to ignore it - it did me the world of good to write and has thrown light, for other bipolar offspring, on the dreadful rollercoaster living with such a parent involved. I loved my parent, and in the book, it shows. But 'Burnt Dress' is an honest - and also uproarious - account of what this experience is like, and I would think a pretty difficult read for any parent suffering with bipolar disorder...but an important one. Just putting it out there.
You are not alone, no matter what, people only pities the bipolar.
@@kyupified2440 I don't think that's true .. I don't get pitied .. I don't want to be pitied .. Just understood We with bipolar many times try the best we can and that's all we can do .. There are plenty of people with chemical disorders and some of us did have trouble growing up .. Please take a look at your partner, or family member or friends .. The true ones will talk with us and do their best too.. two way street? Thank you everyone who is commenting
I don't get pitied. I get mocked, made fun of, called crazy a million times and have people constantly ask me what's wrong with me. Stigma is real. It's not a ploy for attention, being bipolar stinks.
@@kyupified2440 I pity my husband when it's difficult .. I don't get pitied.. I am understood because fortunately for me, I have a husband who has learned about the disorder and understands that bipolar disorder is difficult, and I am always sure to ask him how he is doing during a difficult time .. That's with anything .. If you truly love someone, yes that is key to all areas of a relationship
only people living with bipolar know how difficult is.. every morning you wake up you start expecting his mood and what you re supposed to do anhd how to handle these unstablized behaviors and that fucking swing mood ;when you see him happy you start to be more optimistic and have hope that everything is gonna be ok but suddenly everthing switches from bad to worse . the bipolar need specific care /sometimes you are obliged to stay at home all the day besides him in hopes to support him during the hypomanic periods and stopping him for commiting suicide in all of sudden . it s fucking hard you lose your life ;bipolar life s becomes yoursand your mood becomes depending on him . you do all the best to help him and to contribute in healing him but in vain .you can feel some success but overnight everything changes and and turns into a terrifying nightmare .there is no life with a bipolar.
I understand - I was trapped with my bipolar parent for two decades and suffered their abuse and hellish confrontation, mania and psychotic anger for much longer than that. It IS worse than hell, and I sympathise greatly. I really hope you can find some support with all you're going through...I still think that Lithium has its place in treatment - it was the only thing that calmed my parent...I don't really think there's much that has replaced it but admittedly I'm rather out of touch with the medication side of things now. Wishing you some kind of freedom and peace of mind one day.
The worst part is when they turn psychotic against you. I am at the brink of exhaustion with someone who refuses medication constantly. I feel I have to endure all the violence because it is "not her fault"...
I can so relate, it sucks the life out of you!
@@THEELDER1 i was diagnosed with bipolar because it was so affecting me that i adopt ed the same traits of this person and i had medecines instead of him and experienced the most painful struggles and side effect of the traitement and i was always blamed of feeling tired all the time. can you just feel the tremendous amount of this pain ? it s exactly what it seems to be living
with a bipolar
@@farahk7139
My ex and I were married for over 25 years, I always suspected he had Bipolar because of his moods, excessive spending and always needing something new. They ramped up after he suffered a motorcycle accident back in 2016. He took a huge blow to his head, after that the bipolar got much worse, he was always a laid back happy go lucky person, but turned into a very angry and unpredictable person. I absolutely exhausted myself trying to keep him positive, it was very wearing on our son as well. Then when I was going through menopause, I had ZERO patience and that's when everything really ramped up, one night he got super paranoid and started recording me! all because I said I'd had enough of his moods, next minute police were out our door WTF they ordered me out of the house and I had to go live with my sister. My son is an adult but being separated from him, sent me into a deep depression. He has health issues and I wasn't there to help him and his father couldn't have cared less!!!! anyway my ex took up with another couple of people in this time and I said I want a divorce. He moved out and I moved back with my son. The short time with these other women proved it was his fault because they broke it off with him.
He was suicidal, so silly me patched things up, more for the sake of our son who loves his dad. Anyway I said to him I'm pretty sure you're Bipolar after him not sleeping for a week and being on a high! so he actually went to the Drs and is now on meds. But the validation I now feel is wonderful, knowing all my reactions over those years were all normal, he nearly sent me mental!!!! so now we see, if he goes off the rails again and stops the meds, he's gone, I will NOT be put through that ever again, so yes, I feel for you because we good people DO NOT deserve this.
Bipolar 1 with mixed episodes here. I just got diagnosed after 25 years of marraige. I am now on meds and I am now kissing my wife's ass for not leaving me despite my mixed episodes when we had no idea I was sick. She rode it out until I found healing and got on meds. She is finally able to breathe. I'm looking forward to the next 25. I know this is not everyone's experience but people need to know most of bipolar people go unnoticed in society. We are not all bad and listen to this stuff to understand what our partner is going through.
Let yourself breath too bro. You didn't get on meds just for her mate, think about your own prolonged suffering you've had to endure.
This was a very helpful video. Thank you.
Number 12!!! Trying to believe I’m appreciating when they’re lashing out ungratefully but want apologies after hurting us too. Sigh. Woooosah!! Thanks !
It's very very difficult to live with bipolar disorder and almost equally as difficult for your partner.. I believe that this disorder is not looked at as a chemistry of the brain disorder .. Hard as hell to have constantly changing moods .. It's been a major intrusive way into my life .. If anyone has had luck with a medication regiment that has helped you .. Thanks!!
Vraylar is working for me I hope this helsp
@@RyanMathis55 You are so right Ryan .. I started on that right around the time that I wrote that comment .. Doesn't feel like other anti-psychotics .. I've had to go with samples with here in GA it costs $400.00 for one month supply ... I hope the new bill on a lower cap kicks in soon.. Thanks Ryan so nice of you to reply
My husband takes Latuda and we recently had a lapse in our insurance for one month and he was out of meds so I went to the pharmacy to try to buy one month supply and it was $1750 in California! Luckily we had an old psychiatrist that gave us some samples. Honestly it works better than anything else we’ve tried but he’s still a complete asshole 80% of the time.
We use the old and trusted Lithium Carbonate. Very cheap and accessible!
I've been on Lamictol for 6 years and no mania, just break through symptoms and monitoring the dosage. I don't have side effects except for light sensitivity in the sun.
I lost my mind trying to keep up with my wife’s mania. I know we’re told to simply accept and manage though I couldn’t do this seeing my best friend unknowingly suffering while our children could not expect anything consistent out of US. Please look into detox + Iodine supplementation.
Remove amalgam fillings, supplement with iodine.
My wife has not had a manic episode over a year - we renewed our vows last month. It was a very special moment. Renewing vows with my best friend’s healed brain and our two children. There are scientific journals linking fat soluble toxins such as mercury, bromide + low glutathione to neurological illness.
It's important for all of us to remember that some things work for some and maybe something else works for that person who suffers with this illness.. And I mean suffer.. Not knowing what any day will hold and that includes family members and friends .. It takes special people to help other special people .. Thank you Lake A
@@doreenswaim6802 all human and animal life are vulnerable to neurotoxins. Read the scientific literature, numerous studies conclude, patients presenting with psychiatric disorders should require lab analysis of neuro-intoxicants that are being put into our food and water supply.
It works for every human to remove mercury exposure from their mouths, it works for every human to remove exposure sources of halide neuro-toxins, it works for every human to reduce homocysteine levels through biocompatible optimization of epigenetic function via methylated vitamins.
I had no clue what bipolar 1 was and she in 7 years never showed any real signs until 6 mos ago. Up all night, saying hateful things, pushed me down the stairs and spent her life savings in no time. She began cheating on me and didn't care. She acted as though I was a leper and I lost my temper after 5 days not coming home out with another man and sent a text out of anger and went to jail. She got a protection order so not only am i dealing with probation for two years but I lost my home, truck, job, clothing and most of my possessions and worst of all the love of my life over something I didn't understand at the time and never knew she had. I miss her badly & love her so much. Had I only known, things would be different.
My sister has never been diagnosed but its tough being around her 24/7, both at work and at home. Its draining😢 I pray for all of us it some how gets easier
Sometimes it makes me want to rip my chest apart. I am losing the battle...
Hello, any advice on convincing the person who suffers from this illness to get professional help?
It’s very difficult when they refuse to acknowledge they are sick.. and lash out with anger at any mention of it.
Eventually he/she will likely experience a break serious enough to require hospitalization. Then they will have no choice but to have an evaluation. 10 days locked in the psych hospital and coming to terms with the diagnosis will be the best thing that can happen to you both.
Until then, there’s little you can do.
@@samiam8641 You would think that is true. It depends on the personality of the individual and the severity of the disorder. My best friend is Bipolar Manic Depressive Schizoaffective. Is it difficult having a best friend with this disorder? Heck yeah! But, we are best friends. I accept him for who he is. Is there something I would change about him? Absolutely not!!! He is a gift from God! Just like he is!
@@sylvesterq04 schizoaffective-bipolar is a bit different (from my experience). The psychotic element is always there. It’s a terrible combination.
Yea, people are different.
@@sylvesterq04 btw, thanks for sticking with your schizoaffective friend. I have a child with the condition and keeping friends has been extraordinarily difficult. It breaks my heart.
@@samiam8641 Hey Sam! This is the case with Jesse also. He is an extreme loner. I am pretty much his only friend. But that's okay! We don't like people anyway. I work very closely with Jesse. (we work together). Progress can be painfully slow but I can't help but applaud because I do see progress. It's not always easy but I am very grateful that Jesse is a part of my life. I wouldn't have it any other way. We focus Jesse's energy on things that he loves to do, like searching the streets for rare and valuable coins. LOL! (I know that it may sound funny but I let him be himself). That is why I believe our relationship is successful. His personality is what it is. You may not be able to appreciate his hobbies, me either. But it's what he likes, and that's good enough for me. So, few to no friends but we do have a house full of rare and valuable coins. He is a true blessing in my life. I see so many posts on the threads with a lot of sadness, grief, and pain. Me and Jesse refuse to take that road. We will take these lemons that life gave us and make them into lemonade. Life is not fair but we do our best. Between the two of us, we will be just fine.
Just recently my mom saw how bad it was when I was screaming “what is wrong with me” during a mania episode.. They immediately called whoever they could reach at that time of night after I begged for medication. A few days later after just explaining only a few words, I was given medicine. It helps with the emotions and helps me be able to control them more. It doesn’t help my racing thoughts and only somewhat helps with my anxiety, so my parents also bought some anxiety gummies as a backup.
Hey can I have your number so you explain to me more about this 🥺my bf has bipolar and what toys can I buy for him for this anxiety ? And how to deal w him
Good move Kaitlyn
Y’all know what? Fuck this. I’ve hurt enough people already, no more relationships for me. Can’t expect someone to be able and willing to deal with this
@Daniel Kerkes: I am sorry to see you make that statement. My best friend is Bipolar 1. He is aware of his condition. I accept and embrace his condition. Together we work towards a better life. Because of him, I am smarter. I am more aware of myself and the world around me. He has made an indelible mark on my life, a mark that cannot be erased or blemished by anything on this earth. My advice to you is that you must learn to love and accept yourself, just the way you are before anyone else can learn to love and accept you
I hate how people make us feel like we’re lucky they’re with us. Man screw that, we’re worthy human beings and hey, do they look at themselves with that scrutinizing eye? No of course not. This kind of 💩 makes us all out to be monsters. The sad dramatic music, the dramatic pauses, give me a fckn break.
@@electricapplemediapremium7373 On October 28th of this year I lost my best friend, he was hit by a car and died at the scene. He's gonna be missed! I agree with what you are saying, people always said that he was lucky to have me. They were wrong! He was my best friend because he was a good friend! I will miss him until the day I die. Electric Apple Media Premium, you are not a monster. And if people are not willing to accept you for who you are then they are not worthy of you. (But take your Lithium) :)
@@electricapplemediapremium7373 you know damn well the monsters we can become 👹 then the shame and guilt depression from hell. The way I see it now is we are saving ourselves from ourselves. I just turned 40, at 36 I said I can't keep going through this, and 42 was most likely my time. So I guess I'll enjoy the last 2 years as best as I can.
@@mista589 Jesse used to say dumb things like that, he hated it if I drove past a cemetery. You don't know when you're going to die. I wish all my friends were bipolar. I believe I understand you.
Hello, I enjoy your videos. Congratulations on your channel. I am Brazilian, a lawyer, and I work a lot. I have Bipolar Disorder Type 2 with comorbid ADHD. I believe I have written here before. I would like to ask you a question: what is life like for someone with bipolar disorder in the United States in terms of benefits for people with bipolar disorder? Does the government provide medication for those who cannot afford it? Does the government provide a psychiatrist and psychologist, or does everything have to be paid for by the individual? If you are experiencing a crisis, can you stay at home to receive treatment, or do you have to be hospitalised? How do Americans perceive a person with bipolar disorder? Do they respect and help, or is the stigma very strong? Is there a lot of prejudice? Are you allowed to drive? I apologise for asking so many questions.
Oii, eu sou brasileira,moro no US tenho bipolar 1. Desde de muito nova sabia que tinha algo de errado cmg e só agora fui diagnosticada com bipolaridade com 20 anos. Já fui internada 3 em hospital psiquiátrico. Se chama psycho ward é tipo uma parte do hospital que é só para pessoas com problemas psicológicos e lá fiávamos por 3 dias, semana ou meses se eles acham que precisamos. Não é o melhor lugar para ficar mas se vc está lá e realmente quer melhorar tera muitas oportunidades e benefícios para tratamento como remédios, grupos e pessoas para ajudar. Tomo como uns 4 remédios e pago como $5 mas antigamente pagava nada agr to com um plano de saúde com minha empresa. Tenho terapeutas que estão sempre indo embora por que são como assistentes sociais e isso dificulta muito o processo de melhorar pq é cansativo está sempre explicando o mesmo. Eu trabalho e sou bem recebida no meu trabalho, o meu chefe é como meu melhor amigo e já presenciou muitos dos meus ataques de pânico e até mesmo com um episódio suicida. Por algumas semanas estive no hospital e simplesmente voltei quando pude paro o trabalho, meu chefe me deu um papel para meu psiquiatra assinar que prova e me protege de perder meu trabalho por coisa de problemas psicológicos que eu tiver no futuro. Sim temos uma vida normal, vc pode trabalhar com oque quiser e também pode dirigir. Acho que aqui no US as pessoas sabem e respeitam a bipolaridade mais do que no Brasil, minha família mesmo não entende sendo que tenho certeza que minha mãe é bipolar até meu pai só ela que acha que não. Moro com a família do meu namorado e me tratam como se eu fosse da família sabem da minha bipolaridade e prezam para a minha saúde mental. Espero ter ajudado e fique a vontade para perguntar mais.
@@beatrizdanobrega4810 Olá, Beatriz! Tudo bem? Obrigado por escrever. Sim, eu tenho bipolaridade tipo 2 com comorbidade TDAH. Na verdade, tipo 1 e tipo 2 têm semelhanças, mas eu tive várias crises quando morava na Inglaterra e não sabia exatamente o que era. No entanto, depois de passar por bons profissionais particulares, já faz mais de 10 anos que sei que tenho bipolaridade e sigo o tratamento.
Particularmente, não sei como funciona o tratamento na rede pública aqui no Brasil. Sou advogado e já trabalhei com pessoas que têm bipolaridade, entre outros transtornos. Alguns gostaram e outros não, mas, ao contrário do que muitos pensam, ter bipolaridade não é uma sentença de morte quando você faz tudo corretamente. Eu não bebo álcool, não tomo café, não durmo tarde e pratico esportes seis vezes por semana. Se você tomar seus remédios corretamente, praticar esportes e tentar dormir bem, você pode ter uma vida muito boa. E olha que eu também tenho TDAH, o que torna a vida com bipolaridade ainda mais difícil. Mesmo assim, sou advogado e tenho duas pós-graduações. Não deixe que a bipolaridade seja seu dono. Você é uma guerreira, parabéns!
Você mencionou que não tem acesso constante à sua psicóloga. É isso mesmo? Eu não fico sem minha psicóloga; hoje em dia, vejo o psiquiatra a cada dois meses, mas minha psicóloga me vê toda semana, e quando é pouco, a cada 15 dias. Se você não está tendo um bom suporte, talvez valha a pena procurar uma psicóloga online no Brasil. Mesmo que você fale bem o idioma, ter uma psicóloga brasileira pode fazer a diferença e, geralmente, é mais barato pagar em dólares. Quando estive na Inglaterra por 6 meses, tive uma crise e, mesmo falando bem o inglês, preferi ficar com minha psicóloga do Brasil de forma online. Tenho uma psicóloga especializada em bipolaridade e posso te passar o contato dela. Mas, se você se dá bem com as profissionais que tem aí, continue com o que te faz sentir melhor. Ter um profissional que entende de bipolaridade faz toda a diferença, pelo menos para mim.
No meu caso, a única abordagem de psicologia que funcionou foi a terapia cognitivo-comportamental, mas cada um tem suas preferências.
já que você ofereceu, como são as clínicas por aí? Quando você está internada, é obrigada a tomar os remédios todos os dias? Você é bem cuidada e tratada? Tem acompanhamento quando está fora? Consegue ajuda do governo? Pode levar e usar seu celular durante a internação? Fica em um quarto sozinho ou divide com outras pessoas? Os médicos psiquiatras informam sobre o tratamento e durante a internação? Há terapia individual ou sempre em grupo? Na escola ou no trabalho, você precisa informar sobre a a sua bipolaridade?
Obrigado pela sua ajuda e informação. Não desista nunca. Eu só me recordo que que tenho bipolaridade q2uando vou tomar meu remédio. Já ia me esquecendo: quando fiquei internado pela segunda vez, sempre foi em clínica particular e conheci várias pessoas diferentes, como médicos, engenheiros, advogados e policiais. Eram pessoas de diferentes áreas, mas todos lutando e realizando seus sonhos. Se quiser me mandar um e-mail, fique à vontade. Desejo sucesso para você. Não deixe a doença te dominar, seja você a dona de tudo. Evite pessoas negativas. Eu consegui e estou vencendo todos os dias. Você já é uma vencedora. Que Deus esteja sempre com você. Jone José
Estado de Goiás - Brasil
jonesilvasilva77@gmail.com
We just buried a child who was bipolar 1 or schizo- affective, depending on the psychiatrist… She had psychotic breaks, kept changing or going off meds because of side effects. She tried self medicating… she tried cod gummies… they triggered her psychosis 3 times…Delta 5’s and 8’s. She was in a break, and having paranoia and grandiose delusions. She was driving ,, got stopped several times … then she was hiding … was also being scammed by a hacker , stole all her money, told her not to take meds, not to listen to family and friends…. She would have probably have listened and gotten help…but the scammer fed her delusions… she pulled out too close and was killed by a semi truck…she may have been having delusions and mixed perceptions… I warned her many times she could get killed if she didn’t take care of herself…… and it happened. Our roller coaster is over, sadly in a tragic way…
My husband just tells me to get over it and if I’m in a depressed suicidal state he agrees with everything I say about myself. I can’t believe I’m still alive.
It definitely hurts going through this...I wanna leave but I wanna stay, idk what to do or even how to feel anymore...Man this Sucks. She Great when she is(even tho sometimes I can tell it's a mania situation and she's just having a good day) But I'm a Grown ass Man and No one can talk to me like she does and it hurts...Yall pray for me cause I don't know what to do but I Love her, smh
Praying strongly for you Farris .. maybe if more partners or spouses wanted to really really sit down and listen what it's like, perhaps the moods wouldn't be se severe and swing so hard, but we have to remember please that so much boils down to a medication regiment that works that we can afford and have a doctor/psychiatrist that really wants to help us and not put a definition and the traits all the same .. This and that it's not always like that to be categorized .. If anything makes me angry, that is a main one.. Please reach out to us when we have to experience the things that hurt you .. Talk about the hurt at a good time and have at least one or more good friends that accept you for who you are .. All is possible if we are treated like equals and not nut jobs.. I don't know? Would that make you angry spouses and other loved ones?
Sometimes you can be everything and it will never be enough for someone struggling mentally. That can be so hurtful, and painful. Sometimes you just have to let go and appreciate and be grateful for the good moments and pursue your own path and shine your light as bright as you can. I hope she finds the right treatment to help her out.
What if both suffer from the same thing? One partner went to 4 years of therapy and has the same doctor for years! But the other partner never seeks help and fights against it. Now exhausted the partner who always sets up appointment and professional help for their partner is mentally and physically hurt, while dealing with same thing, BP and ADHD. Now the best advice I've heard is one day at a time. 🥺 Mood swings suck. I'll just keep taking care of my own mental health and love and care for family. That's what makes me happy, but I would love for the spouse to take my advice. Go to the doctor go to counseling get education on mental health, because we both can do better. Today I'm struggling. Tomorrow may be a good day.
One thing that really helps me is when a person who has bipolar disorder is considered just that .. With respect, we are not bipolars. It may all seem harmless but being considered "a bipolar" it gives the mental illness so much more power .. Do you know what I mean? If you suffer from depression, you aren't called "a depression" .. It really hurts being defined by your particular disorder. I remember sitting in the dentist office, and some big growly man was checking out, and I heard him say "Yes it's a full moon. We better look out for those bipolars. They get crazier when the moon is full" So uninformed and judgemental.. What did I do? Sit there and take it because saying anything to this prejudice man would have only given him some kind of fuel that he could place on us as individuals.. I don't mean to hurt anyone by these words.. If mental health was given the kind of information to people to understand it, perhaps all of the name calling and shaming words would be gone?? Doubtful but hopeful
This all hit close to home since my wife does have bipolar 1 I wish could understand more but like the video said when she is manic there is no reasoning with her and she get really violent or tries to fight me. All I can do is wait for it too ride out. Any advice on what to do when a manic episode hits?
Hello fellow husband of a bipolar wife! After 2 decades of fighting, depression, fighting, and combativeness, I’d learned to live for those “moments of lucidity”, those times when she was between cycles and recognized how destructive her behavior was.
After her first suicidal incident and hospitalization, she was diagnosed bipolar 1. Things began to make sense. It wasn’t all my fault!!!!
I realize it’s something you can’t talk to anyone about, but you gotta find someone.
Fwiw, my marriage is better now than ever (but still somewhat cyclical). If she’s still this unstable, her med management doctor needs to know.
hello i am bipolar. i have bipolar 2, at least that’s my first diagnosis, and while i don’t get to that stage of mania i have gone in and out of psychosis as well as dealing with borderline mania. i had just enough strength to not ruin my life and letting my thoughts and desires win the best of me.
with all due respect if you don’t feel safe when she gets violent do not be afraid to save your peace, whatever that may be. if you’re at peace living with someone this disorder and helping her i applaud you. the best advice i could give whenever she gets that way is to not engage and LISTEN. she “knows” she’s making sense so just go along with it, we take it as a damn near confrontation when people don’t understand what we’re talking about lol because in our heads we make complete sense. again, do not engage and just let her ride it out, do not encourage but be sure she’s comfortable and there’s nothing to trigger stress or anxiety. i wish you the best of luck ❤️
@@jasperchisum4891 excellent advise! Ya gotta ride it out.
@@samiam8641 Hello friend! I have a friend with the Bipolar 1 disorder. What works like a charm for me is "SILENCE." Don't engage with her when she's manic. I believe people with the disorder are aware that they are out of control. Where I live the local mental health agency has a procedure called "Pink Slip." When my friend becomes too combative I will initiate the procedure. I have never done it to be cruel or mean. I have never had my friend Pink Slipped because I was angry. It is a useful tool. If I have to use it then I will!
I tried to kill myslef because of the stress of being around my bipolar family member, I just hit a brick wall every time I tried to help him and he was verbally abusive and a giant bully, I had to get away from him and that was 35 years ago he still has not gotten help, recked every relationship he has had, now finally living in a room alone and that is what he needs, so he doesn’t have to expose his moods to the poor sucker that would be living with him.
i'm in love with someone with bipolar personality disorder, trying to educate myself on this disorder. i don't know how to help or what to do, or if i should continue this relationship. he's the best person i know, the best person to talk to, the most chemistry i had with someone. he did have an episode, and it hurt a lot. i'm a very sensitive person, i don't think i'm the best match for him because of the fact he does and says things out of impulse. but i can't let him go, i love him so much. i've tried letting go, we've tried letting each other go but we can't. i just hope that whatever happens, we both end up happy in the end.
It won't get better unless he wants to get better. And just saying it isn't enough. He needs therapy and medication to even attempt a healthy life and relationship. Trust me. I wish you both luck. It's not your fault. Don't let them drag you into suicidal thoughts during their episodes. They're small in these moments and want to make you smaller.
@brittanygreen127 thank you so much, he's going through another episode again and is completely icing me out. I'm trying so hard not to take it personally, to not let him make me feel small as well. I don't know if he's for real leaving me this time or is just self isolating, but if he ever does get in contact with me again, I'm definitely gonna have a conversation with him about starting therapy and medication. He was in a really great mood the other week, and last week he told me felt burnt out, and now this week, he's just completely blocking me out.
I've been knowing my boyfriend since we were 17 years old who better in a relationship for two and a half years now and baby when I tell you it's been a roller coaster it has been a roller coaster in the past two and a half years he has had over 15 jobs July 2023/3/2024 he has bipolar and mental illness you never know when anything is going to trigger his illness every time I turn around he's depressed in a room in the bed sleeping losing jobs and I'm handling everything insecurities his family said he got bipolar 6 years ago when his father passed away I think it started when he was a child when we started our relationship two and a half years ago he wasn't taking his medication he was just drinking alcohol being in and out of the hospital with ulcers these two and a half years has felt like 5 years he was in a salvation army program since December 2022/July 2023 he was in there for 6 months came home excellent had two jobs coming out of the program got a vehicle 2 months later last year November 2023 he had a trigger moment I've been out of work since then I think he started back drinking in January is doctor recommended him to take a shot for drinking he started that January the 4th what was still drinking while taking the shot I'm just done and drained I have about had enough I sent him to go live with his mother 10 days ago I have helped him by his side motivated him uplifted him into every doctor's appointment it's a lot it's like you're their caretaker sometimes I feel like they get too comfortable and then everything is left on you
I'm diagnosed with bipolar 1 disorder since 2002 to date. Married to the love of my life in 2006 , she then left in 2010.. we had 2 kids by then....then she sought me back to which I agreed ,remarried and as at present have 5 kids. I started being serious with my meds on 2017 to date which has kept me a bit stabilized.
I solely check on my symptoms, arrange psychiatric and psychology appointments on my own. My wife doesn't care to be of help in my diagnosis neither does she apply whatever were told in therapies/family counseling. I cater for her double diagnosis in terms of medications and attending her appointments just as I cater for my double...meds and therapies. The appointments I repeatedly attend for both of us triggered I being laid off from my job a month ago. Now jobless bit she doesn't want to understand this hard times. We usually have spats infront of our kids , clash on home bills which .
Despite being hospitalized for more than 5 years ,her migraine never stops, and so does my bipolar symptoms despite taking expensive meds.
My theory now is: we are a trigger to each other and so long as we are together , none of us shall ever improve . The kids too are having a hard time with our persistent verbal fights. I'm not violent ,never touched her but at the same time have anxiety the kids shall loose incase we separate,which is on my diary as am writting.
She's diagnosed with migraine and goiter which has symptoms close to what bipolar has in terms of depression,anger,intolerance etc.
As partners living with shared symptoms
Be sure you know it will not change. Ever. 23 years in. My dairy from 10 or even 20 years ago reads exactly the same as it does today. Its not just a challenge. Your life becomes empty. You get worn down to the bone. As they age they get worse.
This made me feel bad :( i am aware that i’m causing great pain to those around me. At the same time, i feel completely alone in this. I have great self control, and NEVER get vissably angry. I stop it from leaving my body. I feel like there is so much stigma around bipolar…Not all of us are violent or unstable on the outside…:(
I am a person with this fucking disorder, i have lost my love of my life...who supports me in every odds....i used to abused her verbally without any reason, and i have taken her granted...i became so selfish, now i realised that I got this disorder from my father and grandfather...but inner me knows that I love her so much...and i am really proud of her she is a strong lady coz I know it's not easy for her to leave me...but i didn't left her any choice..she was loosing her confidence ...now i am sad and alone. My life sucks.. if I die i will ask to God...what was my fault..why did you blessed me this fucking mental disorder
@Rohit Das: Don't be so hard on yourself! She probably understands more than you think. Give her a little time... The funny thing I have learned is that love is more powerful than Bipolar Disorder.
@Rohit Das: I remember my best friend Jesse asking that same question: why did God bless me with this disorder? Well, probably for the same reason I am Black! For the same reason I am Gay! I have come to learn and appreciate my Blackness! I have come to learn and appreciate my Gayness! I have come to learn about my friend, and love my friend just the way he is!!! I would change nothing!!!!!!!
She left you because of your own actions. If you really care about her - leave her alone.
Please work on yourself before you even attempt to talk to her again.
Life is a test read the quran to understand more
More than 50% of people with bipolar disorder experience psychosis as a symptom, this video makes no mention of that or the damage that can cause and how it's usually an underlying cause of one's behavior..That is sad. It's still not even remotely understood in the psychiatric community. To all the loved ones I'm sorry.. it's hard...we don't mean to be a burden or the source of your pain. Our actions in mania don't often match our core beliefs. I woke up one day delusional that my husband was having a secret other life with his ex and her two kids. I was in psychosis then I was unfaithful because I was hypersexual and completely detached from reality, it was a nightmare, when I was finally well and got my diagnosis and went on medication to this day I feel shame and embarrassment and horrified that my husband had to be married to someone like me. I would never in a million years be unfaithful but when you are psychotic your thinking and decision making are impaired. Somehow he forgave me and stayed with me and loves me more than ever but he will be the first to tell you "run" if inquiring whether you should marry someone bipolar. The Book "I'm Not Sick and I Don't Need Help," helped him understand a lot I'm so lucky to have him. The Author has an amazing Ted Talk demonstration that provides a demonstration of someone not wanting help. Loved ones have every right to be upset and hurt, it hurts to watch someone die of cancer, or diabetes, or obesity, or heart disease, dementia, tourette syndrome, alcoholism these things are not easy and no ones pains should ever be diminished. Not everyone can successfully manage a relationship with a bipolar individual and that's okay. Sometimes people need to walk away and that's okay too. I am managing my illness with medication, therapy and my husbands help it is still hard for both of us.
I have bi polar disorder, but my wife abuses me for it. She introduces me as "he's bi polar". She ignores all symptoms and manias, she even ignored when I was suicidal. I see the holy 3 as i call them. psyci, and psycol, as well as my therapist. Anytime I need to talk about my issue "talk to your therapist". What triggers my mania is when she lies and gaslights me; that is every day. This is not an illusion, this is an admission from my wife. She's so chipper and happy, but she treats me worse than any normal couple I've heard of. She's like Netflix documentary abusive. I want to leave, I want to stay, I've threatened her financially if she doesnt stop lying, Ive told her i want to jump off as cliff, and all she can see is herself not wanting to hear it. I was diagnosed several years after we were married, however, the abuse is well documented before I was diagnosed. Any advice for me? I used to be so strong. I could do anything. Now, the same thought is considered an episode. I'm broken, ill and isolated why my wife controls the narrative. It's crazy, but I know she hasnt had an affiar, or even attempted. So why stay with me and just ignore I exist? I am a very attractive male. I'm a competitive boxer, and I regularly volunteer at retirement homes. I have gifted communicative IQ (you know we have to take a state issued IQ test through diagnosis, so, ADD disorder I have as well, I guess. I'm on Lamictal and my stimulant is Mydayis. Mydayis is not covered by insurance and is $400 for 30 pills. I'm trying everything humanly possible even paying ridiculous prices for the best medications. She wont even agree to marital counseling. I'm just a thing. Arm candy. I'm just a stupid thing. She's 8 years older than me. I just am suffering while doing everything I can and she does nothing. I do, feel a little better typing it on here. You know we rarely get to tell our side if youre where I've ever been. Thanks for reading.
The only way you will stay is by choice. Been dealing with my partners Bipolar for 20 years. It's hard and i'm told all the time " i'd be better off without her" or " Why do you stay with me?"
It's extremely hard when you have kids and her family is complete narcissist who likes to fuel her illness. It all comes down to love but even love can only take such a beating
Thank-you for the heartfelt comment. This must be so hard. Perhaps you could suggest some content that we could development to help make it easier?
Honestly, I just focus on the kids. The in-laws always try to punish my wife for being with me
( removing her from the will, guilt shaming her, They don't like me because I fight back against the abuse) but mostly I just take it. You have to always be on eggshells. Their memory is also scary. We can have the exact same thing happen or say something and they don't recall it and will argue. Even if they're proven wrong. my best advice is your life will suck but if you love them you'll stay. That's the harsh reality of it
I am so lucky. I put my boyfriend through hell with my Bipolar2. He stuck by me the whole time and got help for me and etc. His reason to stay was because he knew I wasn’t that person. He loved me for my real self and knew we could manage
I've a genuine question
Are you two still dating? And how things are now with you?
@@DowntownOsaka yes we have been together for 8 years.
I still get my bipolar moments but few because I am on a great medication and my bf is very supportive
@@allie936 May i ask what medicine are you on please?
@@yara-vm8zk lamotrigine
Given the nightmare of this illness, both for the sufferer and for those in their lives, sincere question here: in the case of romantic relationships, what's in it for the non-sufferer to continue in that relationship? Assuming that person knows their potential partner is dealing with BD, -- and would be in for a lifetime of all the things mentioned in this video -- why would they continue this relationship?
I can speak from experience, the weirdest experience of my life to be honest..also the most difficult. As a matter of fact the creepiest thing I can barely conceive. Here's the answer, it starts off really good. Then it gets bad, then good again..by this time you're in love and have some dedication to this person. Somewhere down the Line A TRAUMA BOND develops. There's the answer, a trauma bond develops and it's something nobody could have explained to me without experiencing. The most gut wrenching craziest thing. A perverse version of love
My husband and I have been married for 7 years, he was just diagnosed about a year ago. If you love the person, especially on their good days, help them with their bad days & help them fight it. Do research to see what could potentially help. Ask for help from friends, family, etc. & don’t forget about taking care of yourself; talk to a counselor, take self care days, do fun things together, pray, stay positive. You’re stronger together and can be stronger than anything if you set your mind to it❤️
Sometimes kids are involved… it’s hard to just leave a marriage with children…a house.. etc.
Also, there is a good side to them. Deep down. They are good.
This illness… it’s so complex.
@@samanthab8256 If I could give you more than 1 thumbs up then I would. My best friend is Bipolar 1. We have been best friends for the last 12 years and we'll probably continue to be best friends. My friend Jesse is aware of his condition and himself. That bit of knowledge is true power! He has no control over his behavior. But!!!!! We have rules! We have boundaries! And! For every action, there is a reaction. I force my friend to seek out his own mental health treatment and sobriety. Now how do I do this? Well, it's simple, there are rewards and there are punishments. It is up to you to be creative with the rewards and punishments. Works like a charm! One more thing: I participate in the treatments with him. Now stuff is not always easy but if you are tired, frustrated... Then imagine what the patient must be feeling. Come on people! Let's not be defeated by this disorder. I love my friend Jesse. There is no way I would give up on him. That would be like giving up on myself.
But a trauma bond does not sound healthy!!!?
I thought my fiancé could break whatever it is that this is, I’ve ignored it, I’ve tried my best with life skills I have like mindfulness, taking steps away, stuff like that but I feel like I really need to learn about it if I’m going to stay. I know I have a choice, I feel that she’s worth it. This is tough shit tho fs. My moms got it and my sister holy shit.
Is your fiancé diagnosed? If not, you need a competent doctor first.
Watch out when you have kids. My youngest son is bipolar 😢
Hi I was wondering if you could do a video on hypersexuality and bipolar disorder type 2. Thanks so much.
Look up Polar warriors on here, there's one there.
The sound on this video is terrible. Very hard to hear, and I'm using an external device!
I didn’t know my date had Bipolar. I also he was hypersexual and went to rehab for a year for sex addiction. He was reckless with me. I was in a shock when he misbehaved, abused me and forced himself on me. I ran away from him.
Later his friends and family have been pushing guilt on me that I abandoned him.
I had no clue to handle him. He could be HIV positive. Now I am living in dread. 😢
My ex partner is bi polar skitsoftenic and paranoid he is very verbally abusive and he would tell all he's family I was cheating on him iam wheelchair bound and he always took care of me but everything and anything was my fault and he would be angry all the time and threaten me to leave me for something as simple as misplaced house items I left him but I feel like it was the worst mistake I did because nobody else will want me for me and I really want to fix things but he always refused help and said he didn't care about getting help and that I had to deal with it no matter what
@Kevin Leal: That's a tough one, but I have the answer. When it comes to dealing with people that have this disorder you're going to have to be clever, deceptive, calculating, devious... and all those other things. You are dealing with a person who is irrational! You will never be able to use rational thinking with that person and come out with a viable solution. YOU MUST OUT THINK THEM! The person with the disorder can't help it! They have absolutely no control over it. Therefore, you must take control! You drive the car because they will run into the ditch!
My roommate has it, and she’s an active alcoholic. It’s very hard to get some peace, and she turns on me at the drop of a hat.
I have finally had to walk away from my friend of twenty years he's bipolar and he's too much and I can't live with his craziness anymore I hope he will make it and live alright I can't worry about him though 😌
I wish to find someone here loves me
And you most definitely will bc God made us in pairs.
im sorry, I didn't want to be this way. i wanted to have a wife and kids
I don’t want to hurt my family anymore…
Non bipolar people go through their own stuff. No time, no inclination, to nurse grown toddlers.
Mum diagnosed in the 80s mum and dad dod nothing no help no meds. I put up witn he episodes.
My husband has ultrarapid cycle bipolar disorder and it is killing me 😢😢😢😢
I had several bipolar partners. But the one I live with has altered my mind, emotional,physical and spiritual. I feel bad writing this. But I tried keeping it all together till now. I don't want to date another person with this illness because I just can't go through the betrayal, disrespect and sexual hyper active abuse. In which I allowed because I knew he was manic and was going through work and taking care of me so I allowed certain things I didn't really feel comfortable. Just to get over with. To please him. But after the break up. His bipolar not only made him call the cops at our place WHEN WE HAD UM 😅 🍄 YES people with mental illness and psychedelic plus abusing the substance isn't a good idea whatsoever. So please stay in your medication. That was our mistake. But now he is such an assholes towards me. In which makes me think he played the character or person I needed so I can depend on him and when it was alot he just blew up. Wouldn't let me leave the apartment till the cops got there. I left anyways because it was a very bad idea so for everyone i left that day all of my belongings. He is engineer and has fake his piss test to get to the good job he has now. Even though intelligent he was easily manipulated because he suffered every day from imposter syndrome. I tried being his back bone when people abuse his manic episodes of kindness like even giving money to his friends, jobs and they have stole from him while we broke up. Again. I've been there taking care of him. I know I wasn't easy. We all out here to heal. But is hard to believe who you really dating when the person switches from the most sweetest to the worst person on this god forsaken planet.
3:15 a little correction here: people with hypomania (like me) can STILL lose it and experience burst of uncontrollable rage just like someone going through a full blown manic episode like what's found in people with Bipolar 1.
I saw a video by Henry Wright called what causes bipolar disorder on UA-cam search engine. Is that video believable?
I think it’s partly right but a little misleading.
Bipolar (like all psychotic illnesses) is highly genetic but I don’t think you can simply point to a chromosome for diagnosis.
I am suffering from bipolar. And I am scared of starting a relationship. Pleeeeeese tell me I am not going to hurt my future partner.... Ant tips? Or any videos that can help? Anything?
I can't put someone I love in this hard situation...
I have the same illness and my advice is stay single
The reality is you are going to hurt them time to time. BUT it's up to you to put in the work for your health and theirs. You also need a very mature, strong, patient, and compassionate person to enter a relationship with.
@@soulbreaker625 you are exactly right in every way. If you can’t trust your partner to advise you when you are sick, he/she’s the wrong person.
There's a massive amount of videos on UA-cam, and groups to join. And vital that the right medication for you is there and fully discussed with your doctor(s)....it is certainly very difficult to live with this condition and to expect others to cope without massive challenges - I really do sympathise.
Even without the disorder you will end up hurting your partner or being hurt. It’s part of the growth….growth in a relationship can be painful but also beautiful. My husband has put up with so much , more than I thought.but as you get older I feel like it’s easier to understand , we manage the bipolar better and find a good rhythm. Live life and go for it , don’t let any disorder hold you back!
"Tens of tens of thousands? Really? Are they group sessions?
just started dating this girl im 16 shes 17, shes manic and im new to this, any tips from anyone whos partner has this so i can learn how to deal with it best, its already caused problems and we have only been dating 2 weeks but i want a future with her, any reply helps
Run. You are too young and have no obligation. Dont destroy your life like I did.
RUN
Save yourself
Let go.
Focus on your goals and future
I disagree with what these people are telling you. See if you can deal with it and communicate with her. Don't feel like you can't speak to her. Good luck
Little update, we only last ab 2 months she broke up w me during an episode 2 weeks ago and we havnt talked in over a week, done w that headache ig
Actually hypomania is not always a positive experience. Yes it usually involves more productivity without the extreme shifts that occur with mania but some people are productive, upbeat, creative, and energetic while others are most of those things but angry/ irritable Vs upbeat and happy.
This is my husband. He experiences hypomania and mania with anger, irritability, what seems like a total lack of empathy and strange obsessions. His obsessions change from episode to episode. He does become more productive but it’s not in a positive way. He just obsesses over things and neglects his family. He spends money on things he doesn’t need. And I get emotionally abused and blamed for literally everything.
@@ChardeeMacdennis339 you’re not alone. I thought I was when I was going through it but found a bipolar spouses group on FB and it was helpful. I divorced mine in 2016 after 24 yrs of marriage because the household with our two boys was untenable due to his anger and obsessive thinking, etc.
My relationship is broke down of 23yrs because of my bpd but ya no wat am having to except it because is hard for the partner to live with and I goin through that I don't want to be round people because I just feel all the time that there out to get me and read things totally out of perspective won't listen to anyone and can't listen to no one
@Amy Howcroft-Sims but we keep on goin forward and never give
@Amy Howcroft-Sims lmao - spot the girl that was never the victim of a full manic episode !!!!
Why is the music so SAD? It makes me think bipolar is a death sentence.
Probably because the person living with someone who has it has a sad life. Imagine walking on a frayed tight rope. You not only have to worry about falling off the rope but you also have to worry about the rope breaking. There are certain aspects where you think you can help the person, but you really cant, and they are other aspects where you have simply no control at all to help the person.
@@21222or my girlfriend exploded on me the other day. I can hold my own, i negotiate daily for a living with intense businessmen. But my lord, this energy that came out of her when she was yelling was POWERFUL. She invited me over and she wanted to go out around 10pm, then i said “baby, I dont want u to go…” in a kind tone. Then she BLEW UP! And kicked me the fuck out on the spot. It was insane!!!! I fee so bad for her:/ but she has admitted being Bipolar… she drinks a bottle of champagne a day, ive told her to decrease it but nothing…. It felt like being yelled at by Satan, I am still Sooooo taken back… on top of this all she lost 100% hearing in her left ear.
@@MidwestBoxin I know exactly what you mean man. Same 😣
Yeah the music is pretty wack - but this s* IS sometimes a sentence. 😭
@@MidwestBoxin yelling and screaming a lot sounds familiar.
I took it 7 yrs, it will not get better
Have people found EMDR to be helpful with bipolar
You can't or you will be just like they
Them
Never trust a bipolar person
pos
Ok but why make this public? Were already going through enough, we dont need to be shitted on even more. This made me fucking cry.
OMLLL IM CRYING SO HARD 😭😭 I know I put the father of my kids through hell regardless if he apologized for wrongdoings. I relived everything I accepted apologies for unwillingly. Plus the toll it takes on family and friends 😭 I had four episodes earlier 😭😭😭😭
To everyone reading this, Jesus loves you.
He loves you too! So much, thank you for sharing. 💛
Amen. Jesus loves all who suffer. His word says that he is close to the brokenhearted. ❤🦋🙏
Brother.
you're not a hero for staying with someone with a mental illness..you need to look after you and your life..bipolar don't get better..it's a life long illness..you can't heal ..
Slow it down, talking to fast.
I do my best to manage mine, I limit everything I do for the benefit of loved ones who use my disorder against me frequently. Honestly if we are too much for y’all, don’t keep stigmatizing us, just go find less. Nobody has empathy for us, but we’re supposed to hate ourselves for you?? Yeah go ahead and talk trash behind our backs. We can hear you.
You guys are so scared when we feel really good… where’s all that alarm and concern when we feel really bad? Nobody seems to care then. Why? Because it doesn’t inconvenience you as much. Cause that’s really what it’s about; you. You and your comfort. You don’t care if we’re depressed. You care if we can’t clock in for work. You don’t care if we’re manic, you care that we are annoying you. You don’t care if you upset us, you care that our voices are loud. I’m tired of having to pander to everybody else. How about this : if you can’t take the heat, get out of the kitchen. there’s the door 👉. Bye! 👋
You should stop being mean. In all situations you're gonna have to do your part to make things work. It's easy to be stupid but it takes great effort and maturity to do and say the right thing.
Sadly, irrational anger is a symptom of mania.
The best door ever(?)
OH don't get me started on the mania when your partner starts talking to others online and proclaiming they love them, same sex too! WTF and I'm supposed to be ok with it! hell NO.
How about grow up and leave if you're unhappy and unwilling to, you know, not abuse them? Be a man ffs lmao. You're not a child.
I'M BIPOLAR ,
THANK 🤝🤝🤝
OH for fucks sakes why is the audio SO bad??????
Just a heads up, you guys are not the victims. Those who DON'T have BPD and live with someone else who has it are not the "poor me, poor me" you guys describe because you guys literally blame every ounce of your emotional pain on the behaviours of someone with BPD. It's not about you guys and if you don't like it then leave, knock them out of mania and let them enjoy their introspective depression. I know, I've lost everyone but it has never stopped me from trying to find out who I am and what I can do best for myself and others. Stop being victims and just leave if you are going to talk about it on here like you have no one else. Talk to the person, not everyone with bipolar is educated on the condition or even know they have it. I didn't know I had it until 26 and since I know I have had a more tailored approach to the way I conduct life.
Thereishopeihaveabestfriendthatissupportiveitjustdependsonyourfriendsthatyoukeep❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Wtf is a Spend UP 😐.?
I can relate to y’all’s comments and this video 100%…
I’m pretty certain my husband is bipolar. He recently even said he felt manic the last time he was upset, which - good news - he’s researching his symptoms. He finally agreed to counseling even after a coworker suggested it to him…
I just…. I just don’t know how much more I can take. The verbal abuse, the hypocrisy. The spending habits & the wrecking his/our things, I’m tired. So so tired…
And he refused to accept that I have mental health issues because of him. It’s because of “how I was raised.” Um, yeah, I was pretty fucking normal before I met him. Now I suffer from depression, anxiety and PTSD due to his abuse. He even now calls me his narcissistic mother (which he acts like SO MUCH nowadays, it’s insane). So….
That’s my life right now.
Thank God I’m finally in counseling. Not fun when you’re now….4 months pregnant with your third son.
*sigh* yeah, I know, I’m stupid.
But good to know I ain’t suffering alone. ❤❤️🩹