This Conversation Could Save Your Relationship | Harville & Helen

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  • Опубліковано 28 жов 2024

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  • @marieforleo
    @marieforleo  2 місяці тому +10

    I love Harville & Helen's advice here for setting and protecting your boundaries. So key for ANY successful relationship, and sometimes the hardest thing to do. If you’d like more help navigating those tough conversations - get my word-for-word scripts for saying “no” with kindness and class. → www.marieforleo.com/blog/how-to-say-no-ultimate-guide

    • @vilinskis
      @vilinskis Місяць тому +1

      I get this process of apologizing even if it’s “their triggers “ coming up… but what if it keeps coming up? So your always apologizing for your spouses unhealed trauma triggers that they won’t work through?
      What do you do then?

  • @AngelaHarding-uq2yc
    @AngelaHarding-uq2yc Місяць тому +4

    The way he listens and looks at her when she talks . He’s in awe of her 🥰🙏

  • @kimberlystewart8170
    @kimberlystewart8170 2 місяці тому +12

    Harville's book "Keeping the Love You Find" was the very first self-help book I read some 35 years ago. I saw him on Oprah. It literally changed the trajectory of my life, 1000%. It's super interesting to see him here giving me relationship insights again, just when I'm asking and need it most. The Universe must love me.

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 Місяць тому

      Doesn’t work with people unwilling to grow or work at growth together in a relationship and it’s rare to see long term marriages now a days sadly. Most people sadly don’t know what love is and I find that very tragic and more so for the ones that do know what it takes. Most of my fiends have given up. Sadly

  • @danpeterson8040
    @danpeterson8040 Місяць тому +3

    WOW, REALLY LIKE THIS ELDERLY COUPLE!!!! THEY HAVE BEEN THERE AND CAN HELP ALL THE REST OF US FIND OUR WAY THROUGH THE JUNGLE! THANK YOU!!!!

    • @TeamForleo
      @TeamForleo Місяць тому

      We think they're amazing. Thank you for watching.

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 Місяць тому

      Jungle!!!😂. Yes!!! Married a Narracist and now I’m lost in a new relationship!!!

  • @katherineb9
    @katherineb9 2 місяці тому +12

    As a couples therapist who's approach is very inspired by Imago therapy i have such gratitude for these two amazing souls and what they have brought to the world. It is a blessing to listen to them and learn about there process of creating their approach. Thank you for this beautiful conversation

  • @ParisTNT
    @ParisTNT Місяць тому

    I love Harville & Helen's work and dialogue 🥰 thank you for having them on the Podcast, Marie🙏

    • @TeamForleo
      @TeamForleo Місяць тому +1

      Thank YOU for being here! We're so honored you're watching with us. ❤

  • @KateGee-wf8pc
    @KateGee-wf8pc 2 місяці тому +2

    What you say is so important in this polarised moment in time.
    Of course the development of ‘listening’ is new! But I’ve never! Until you said it, considered this! It’s an extraordinary evolutionary development ! We must must make use of this!
    Look at the difference and come up with a third thing!
    Thank you 🙏

  • @janberger4057
    @janberger4057 Місяць тому +1

    My husband left out important information, "clamed -up" and refusing to discuss most topics, and just plain lied to me. He developed a gambling addiction that progessively worsened. He also expected to make all of the financial decisions and "went on business trips" which I later learned were solo vacations for himself. I now know that he is probably neuro divergent (based on the diagnosis of our children), which helps to explain some of his troubling behaviors. It was so incredibly difficult to live with someone so self-absorbed.

  • @casperinsight3524
    @casperinsight3524 Місяць тому +1

    A successful relationship is learning to harmonize 👌🏼❣️😎🕊️

  • @EasyYoutubeAI
    @EasyYoutubeAI 2 місяці тому +3

    Explore common communication mistakes, the importance of dialogue, embracing differences, and strategies for rebuilding connections in relationships.
    00:12: Common communication mistakes in relationships often stem from assumptions.
    01:01: Listening helps understand differences between partners and fosters acceptance.
    02:30: Rejection of differences creates relational problems in couples.
    03:11: Dialogue is essential for effective communication and relationship growth.
    04:06: Embracing differences is crucial for healthy relationships and personal growth.
    05:41: Understanding that all particles and galaxies are inherently different.
    06:12: Communication struggles arise from how we talk, not the topics.
    07:10: Balancing individual needs with relationship needs requires open dialogue.
    08:43: Exploring differences creatively can lead to fulfilling shared experiences.
    12:01: Curiosity and understanding are vital for rebuilding connections after conflicts.

  • @pains1956
    @pains1956 Місяць тому +3

    IF YOU MARRY YOU SHOULD HAVE FIND OUT BEFORE HOW YOUR PARTNER AND
    AGREE IN A COMMON PROJECT.
    NOWADAYS PEOPLE DONT GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER AND ARE MORE DEMANDING...THEY HAVE NO COMPASSION OR KINDNESS

  • @myrameijer
    @myrameijer 2 місяці тому +1

    Great interview! Love their work too, Marie! ❤

  • @suzyq8328
    @suzyq8328 2 місяці тому +1

    I loooooveeee harville’s teachings.

  • @colleenalcantar9061
    @colleenalcantar9061 2 місяці тому +1

    I love their teaching

  • @RegenaO
    @RegenaO 2 місяці тому +1

    Love this!!!! ❤ sooo important - thank you for bringing this to light

  • @uzileradebe
    @uzileradebe 2 місяці тому +3

    That talk about us being different.

  • @neyisek6928
    @neyisek6928 2 місяці тому +5

    Curious if they have studied this and worked with it with neuro diverse couples vs neurotypical?
    Married 32 years I am NT my husband has aspergers. I can say so far this type of dialog does not work. So wondering if it does for other ND/NT relationships

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 Місяць тому

      Great points!!!! ❤

  • @SMam81
    @SMam81 2 місяці тому +2

    I love them, theit books are so Importamt!

  • @claudiomanago7210
    @claudiomanago7210 2 місяці тому

    Thank you Mary

  • @zunairbirds3984
    @zunairbirds3984 2 місяці тому

    Beautiful every video ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @ariadnaladdy3227
    @ariadnaladdy3227 Місяць тому +1

    35:13 I have heard from my boyfriend that he doesnt want to tell nice things when asked cause it needs to be done when he feels like it and does that spontaneously at the given moment. Is it ok or rather means that he just doesnt feel nothing like this to me?

    • @tinaferr
      @tinaferr Місяць тому

      Your boyfriend is being a jerk. Being a good partner means lifting each other up especially if the other person is asking for this. I’m sure you do this for him.