"Shit sucks and nothing is perfect and never will be but you gotta fucking try sometimes" YES. Knowing and accepting this is absolutely the difference between maturity and immaturity
I think theres a huge difference between "I am suffering from a disorder of some type and while I'm not perfect, I will HAPPILY correct course if you tell me I'm out of line"/"I am suffering from a disorder and it's mostly affecting me/my home/my life and that's my burden to bear but I cant be perfectly happy/give my all to everyone else all the time" VS "I have this cup full of disorders that I use to excuse being crappy to people" It's more than understandable to not know, understand, or have the energy to do certain things, but its also entirely the responsibility of the person WITH those problems not to take out on other people. Not even to handle it by themselves; asking for help is SUPER reasonable! Just to not hurt other people with their problems, or to put in the work to fix it if they do!
I felt this entire rant with my soul, ESPECIALLY the parts about mental health weaponizing- Like I go to counseling and other things to help take care of what I need to take care of, whilst a growing pile of ex friends try to use their disorders as an excuse to treat myself and others like shit- There's no give and take with these people, only take-
At this point I’ve lost a looot of faith in a lot of people because of recent events so I’m very much in a “Fine. I’ll do it myself,” kind of mood. Everyone else can either keep up or get left TF behind. I’m tired of coddling
I feel this in my soul. And even then, I need to work to become a better person. Self-improvement should never stop. Nor should it come at the cost of my love for others.
My 5th grade teacher once had enough with kids interrupting her to say 'not me, though!' when she was trying to address what a lot of the kids had been doing, which was generally talking out of turn. She basically said, "Then you know I am not talking about you, but interrupting to say you don't interrupt is not respectful, either. The kids doing it know who they are; and you have nothing to feel upset about if it's not you- you know if you're acting right, I know which kids are acting right. And besides- jumping up and down to say 'not me' just makes you look more guilty.' I wonder why I think of that so often when you talk about all these fools you've had to suffer 😅
That reminds me of the Portlandia skit where the woman who has just been promoted even slightly hints that it's been difficult to work in a male-dominated office, and during the rest of her speech, she keeps getting interrupted with men going "But *I'M* ok, right?"
As a disabled/neurodivergent person it pisses me off so much when people blame their shitty behavior on being disabled/neurodivergent, because they’re just reinforcing the idea that we’re incapable and incompetent. We’re intelligent and responsible for our fucking actions just like everyone else.
Literally. And the thing that bothers me is when people call it lack of accountability when it’s someone asking for accommodations. Like there are two sides of the shitty coin. 1. Where people lack accountability and blame it all on disability or ND, and 2. When people genuinely do try to be accountable, but in daily life need some accommodations sometimes because disability and that is seen as lack of accountability. Like, for example: A lack of actual accountability, would be hitting or groping someone and saying “Sorry I’m autistic, I can’t control that.”, where as an example of the other would be someone saying something like “I’m sorry, I can’t understand what you mean, can you rephrase it/say it slower/give me more time to process it before I respond?”
"....and some people can't wait to engage in bad faith." A very good way to put it! That one spoke to me because I know people like that in my personal life and it gets exhausting. I'm talking about little things too. 😓 I can't even imagine what it's like being a content creator!!
Fully support this message. Some people make a big deal out of blocking/being blocked but we never used to just let people say wild things to our faces in real life. Why shouldn't we be able to walk away from people saying stuff we don't wanna hear online too? 2025 is a good year to limit energy to the things that are actually productive. 👍
A member of my family told me that I have to have more sympathy for people with points of view other than mine. While we were on the topic of _JK Rowling._
LMAO! Irony is dead. Also, I saw JK Rowling in italics at the end of your post, and for a full 3/4s of the way through the post I thought it was an extremely ironic quote *by* her.
4:47 This message. Literally. I’ve had people, former friends, calling me a bad person for just asking to repeat words at times and give me more time to process. I literally have a processing disability and hearing aids for it (which is a privilege to even have) so clearly it’s not faking or purposefully not trying to hear you. It’s not personal if I just do not hear you out of my control, especially when I try to make it clear you said or asked something when others do not hear you but I did. I’ve had terrible people who I thought were friends say I was using my marginalization as an excuse in response to me asking for clarification because I didn’t understand or wasn’t able to grasp all of the underlying messages or body language. Likel literally saying, I want to understand you, can you say more or be more specific? If you don’t have the space or energy to do so now, can we continue this another time? Like…. A lot of it was alllll, projection due to invalidation they had experienced, especially since they always discussed their emotions, but hated me for doing the exact same. Even the exact same words. People who used their marginalization to invalidate me having feelings or trauma of any kind. They were allowed to be disabled and have accommodation, I wasn’t. It was like they could have trauma, but I wasn’t allowed to just because my trauma was different or not from my mother. It was like I couldn’t have any relationship issues with my mother because my parents weren’t abusive like theirs. As if I need to have abuse in there to have relationship struggles. 🙄 That all said, Can I do better? Yes, of course. I work on that every damn week in therapy. That’s kinda why I spend half my time researching to figure out what others deem kind, or what is seen as respect in various cultures, ways I can make others lives easier. Ways I can handle my own energy to help others without overdoing it physically. Where I can give the proper time to others and myself to handle and process emotional circumstances. Which is hard, but worth it 100%. And while I 100% wanna put in the work, have that give and take and strive towards it in my current healthy relationships, I’m tired of always putting in effort for people who don’t do the same, who only take and get mad if you do, and refuse to take any accountability, tired of constant draining of my energy and being targeted for working on being emotionally mature by people who haven’t or can’t. Tired of feeling used in relationships and like basic courtesy and caring about each other’s feelings is asking “too much”. I am putting in effort in 2025, but I will not put up with fake friends, and this utter lack of respect.
The one thing i don't wanna hear, is the ones who helped bring about this oncoming chaos complain and cry when shit hits the fan. You wanted the orange clown, so deal with the circus.
PREACH!! *finger-snaps* I was with my friend walking around her townhome complex with a fellow member of the Landscaping Committee. They never met in-person before that day, and barely had talked before that. They were talking about ways to beautify the area, and my friend has a dog so that was her primary focus-- make the area a place where dogs don't get all muddy from lack of grass, but also make the areas dog-friendly (i.e. not tear it up). It seemed to go really well, and they both were getting along from my view. My friend forwarded me an email a week later saying "wait, whut". In it, the Committee member made ridiculous accusations against her, saying she "mocked [her] severe allergic condition concerning dogs" by my friend emailing her picture and written ideas, and including a friggin picture of dogs running around an interestingly-done garden path. Also, my friend (nor I) paid enough attention to her shying away from a dog that was being walked by us at one point, and likened that to being insensitive because she didn't say anything about her reaction(?), Idk. Apparently that was all it took! She went on and on basically calling my friend a sociopath who likes to throw people's medical conditions in their faces. People are insane nowadays with their weaponized conditions!
So many times I hear “it’s how things have always been, change takes time,” etc. Bro, people are tired of working on other people’s schedule for change to occur and “being patient while they learn.” It’s 2025, not many are willing to wait anymore.
Since it is January, I will point out these were irritations Dr. King had 60 years ago. They say that to avoid their own discomfort and unwillingness to change.
Preach ma'am. I wish I had that energy. I'm still not strong enough. You are out her kicking ass and taking names. I tried saying some of this same shit and people were IMMEDIATELY on me "Oh people can't afford therapy" "People are traumatized by therapists" "The world is not friendly to people going through those struggles rn". My students were constantly like "you can't call on someone randomly to answer, they have anxiety!" "You can't make me do this presentation, I have anxiety!" "I'm not going to do this assignment, I have ADHD". It's like, you can have anxiety, and you have to learn to work around it. Having a label is there to help you better take care of yourself and MAKE IMPROVEMENTS. So many people are all about "I have this label so I should be exempt!" No, you have this label so here are the specific tools for that label to help make you be a part of society and make the world a better place. The entitlement with these children, I s2g
very funny listening to this while i've been having my first real New Year New Me of a long time bc i'm realizing i need to actually do things if i want things to get better or want my creative stuff to exist. that i can't just let mental illness and disability convince me that i CAN'T do anything. you're so right about not tolerating shitty and stupid anymore and i think that can extend to our own brain bullies as well.
Looool the callouts and the tea spilled! My ex roommate we kicked was the exact person I thought of when you talked about people using their marginalization as an excuse for being shitty while doing NOTHING to try to improve themselves or their lives.
I used to know someone who used to claim their self awareness and put it on a pedestal as the best thing about them. But they weren't quite self aware enough to notice that they, for some reason, ALWAYS had issues with other people in their life. They also thought they were always right in every situation. Thought they could win back a past lover with an essay and an I'm sorry because they were so great, not taking into consideration that they probably hurt that person and didn't WANT to go back to them. When I told them things they did weren't great for me mentally, they stopped talking to me IMMEDIATELY. Unless you use that supposed self awareness to make a better person in society, self awareness means nothing.
I know a guy who said his vote didn’t count because he voted third party I was so angry about it. Wait till the system is fixed or stable before voting third party.
This rant is perfect and perfectly encompasses a lot of what I’ve felt like for just under 3 years. I’m sorry that a lot of people who look like me are uncompassionate idiots. Blocking people is often the only way to look after yourself in this day and age.
I’ve been making friends with my demons and shadows that used to sabotage my world, now I see how they are my protectors from those worse shadows. I am here for a year of accountability and consequence practices this year🎉
This is what happens when someone hurt finds it in themselves to keep going, living, trying, caring, and putting effort into her own life while others around them do nothing and could care less. When we do all we can, to spite all we've been through, then affected daily by completely avoidable and causal situations, issues, problems... the struggle is real. We can all do better, but let's be real, a lot of people can do more. Playing the "I didn't know game" needs to be retired on 2025. You got this. We all got this ❤ I'm here for the spice ❤️🔥
I and wishing you emotional support because though your rant gives me strength to keep going on, I know it takes a lot of emotional energy to share all of that energy and vent that frustration. So because you've given me a some more strength to keep fighting in 2025, I am hoping you have what you need to have the emotional strength to deal with everything that's going on in your experiences. The last thing I would want to see is such a queen like you giving so much strength that you have none for yourself.
You are becoming one of my favorite content creators. Some of the shit I have seen; I could rant for days and go nowhere. Your content is really helping me focus on my projects and helping me be less of a pushover in my own freaking head. Thank you.
I ended up developing an allergic reaction to this sort of shit from my ex, who insisted that NOBODY had ever suffered like HE had- as a white, privileged, able bodied male with intergenerational wealth. He said that because he was deaf in one ear from 15 to 30. He’d say this with his full chest at the individual living in chronic pain from childhood abuse, a fall out of a second story window, multiple trauma and anxiety disorder diagnoses and a long list of other crap. I just could not process the audacity and self absorption, but it was absolutely real. I *loved* this rant. ❤
I’ve had a very odd version of this. Where I’ve worked on my accountability and emotional maturity, for years with therapy, and working on when something does or does not need explanation for the other person. As, in my mind, an explanation is not excuse, but often can be used to prevent further issues, but that is often not how it is taken, and many people do not want to do preventative work in relationships. (Which tbh is a red flag to not want at all, but makes sense to not want to do so in the moment or just after an argument.) And I’ve had people who utterly lack any accountability, never say sorry, who have stonewalled, sent hateful messages group edited, excluded me, called me abusive for being mentally ill and having meltdowns at home with my parents when things were really bad, very much harmed me to a point I wanted to unalive myself. (And of course I hate the meltdowns, and for some meltdowns can become abusive action, but in my family it was not and we have worked together on them, our communication, and how we can all help one another, so scary things like that happen way less or in minor ways where I and or others are more regulated or able to regulate quickly.) The people who utterly lack the accountability tho who have told me anytime I say how I feel or why I am lacking accountability. Like…what? Nothing on what I can do better, even me asking how I can is me “lacking accountability”. Anything bar 100% agreeing with them, changing the past, never saying my feelings, and mind reading would be “accountability” in their minds, when no, that is just manipulative, controlling, and a need to be right on their end. Thankfully they are former friends, though one is still in my life semi ish because family connections. I barely see them though and have much better friends who, if something comes up, we talk about it, we let each other know things to help ourselves work with each other, and we don’t use any passive aggression.
I really truly see you and love you for who you are! I am so grateful for the year of 2025 is the year of accountability. I hope we can meet this year and talk shit together. I HEAR YOU! Everything you are saying is the truth and 100% what’s happing. And it’s so important to educate ourselves on the big picture of what’s happening and have a plan for the apocalypse. I love you! I love you! I love you! I shall follow you, you are the leader. We all need to stick together in 2025. 🎉❤ Love BellaDrew Starkey
Honestly, if you factor Mrs. Harris being both BLACK and a WOMAN while looking at the voting numbers, she won. Even if she's started the campaign later than Agent Orange, it's still a win. I'll never accept Donna being President and I'm not even American.
I love this energy honestly and it feels right and good to me. I'm not in any way the same situation as you Nicque but sure as fuck I feel it. No excuse to be shitty and stupid, for me or for anyone else. also right after this video i got a terrible add for a shitty scam carnivore diet. I wonder if we could like collectively pull enough money together to just have this videos thesis statement broadcast in place of all other youtube adds for the rest of the month; it feels like it would add more value.
6:57 - “it’s like a Baskin Robbins of shitty and stupid” MA’AM! You cannot just drop a banger-ass line like that without giving us warning! I nearly choked on my tea! Anyway, please take time if you need to, give yourself grace, and lmk if you need me to keep the kettle boiling for all the tea you need to spill. Because I WILL tune in, and hopefully help you monetize calling these fuckers out, like the queen you are! (Was… was that cringey enough, or should I dial it back?)
Damn. I'm sorry for whatever has angered you this much and is causing you pain. I hate the stupid people that have brought us global consequences of ignorance and bigotry. I want to do my best not to be the kind of shitty person you're describing. Sorry if I ever piss you off. 😔
Oh, Sweetie, you already started wrong with that “I’m sorry for whatever angered you” BS. She’s a Black woman living in a country that just showed it doesn’t give a F*CK about anyone who isn’t cis, White, male, and Christian. WTF do you THINK has her heated?!? SIDDOWN!!!
This year is going to be hell and I’m not ready for it. Throwing tiny particles of positivity out there: 1. you’re right and 2. your earrings look really cool.
2025 = You done fucked around, now you gonna find out.
"It's 2025, there's no excuse to be shitty and stupid" is now my mantra! For myself and others.
"Shit sucks and nothing is perfect and never will be but you gotta fucking try sometimes" YES. Knowing and accepting this is absolutely the difference between maturity and immaturity
i'm taping that quote to my door from now on.
I agree with this, for other people. I gave up years ago. Sometimes you gotta be content in misery because change doesn't always happen
I think theres a huge difference between "I am suffering from a disorder of some type and while I'm not perfect, I will HAPPILY correct course if you tell me I'm out of line"/"I am suffering from a disorder and it's mostly affecting me/my home/my life and that's my burden to bear but I cant be perfectly happy/give my all to everyone else all the time"
VS
"I have this cup full of disorders that I use to excuse being crappy to people"
It's more than understandable to not know, understand, or have the energy to do certain things, but its also entirely the responsibility of the person WITH those problems not to take out on other people. Not even to handle it by themselves; asking for help is SUPER reasonable! Just to not hurt other people with their problems, or to put in the work to fix it if they do!
Hear, hear.
@@Blech-h9z^^
I felt this entire rant with my soul, ESPECIALLY the parts about mental health weaponizing- Like I go to counseling and other things to help take care of what I need to take care of, whilst a growing pile of ex friends try to use their disorders as an excuse to treat myself and others like shit- There's no give and take with these people, only take-
"I'm Black and tired and disabled and I'm trying to have a good time" needs to be a sticker and a tshirt
At this point I’ve lost a looot of faith in a lot of people because of recent events so I’m very much in a “Fine. I’ll do it myself,” kind of mood. Everyone else can either keep up or get left TF behind. I’m tired of coddling
OH MY GOD YES THIS EXACTLY-
I feel this in my soul. And even then, I need to work to become a better person.
Self-improvement should never stop. Nor should it come at the cost of my love for others.
“Maybe if you wanna maintain a relationship with people, there has to be give and take. What a concept!” - Nicque Marina (01/03/2025)
Literally.
My 5th grade teacher once had enough with kids interrupting her to say 'not me, though!' when she was trying to address what a lot of the kids had been doing, which was generally talking out of turn. She basically said, "Then you know I am not talking about you, but interrupting to say you don't interrupt is not respectful, either. The kids doing it know who they are; and you have nothing to feel upset about if it's not you- you know if you're acting right, I know which kids are acting right. And besides- jumping up and down to say 'not me' just makes you look more guilty.'
I wonder why I think of that so often when you talk about all these fools you've had to suffer 😅
wow. that teacher sounds like an awesome woman to have in your life. hope her impact on you was positive as for the other children in her care, mate.
That reminds me of the Portlandia skit where the woman who has just been promoted even slightly hints that it's been difficult to work in a male-dominated office, and during the rest of her speech, she keeps getting interrupted with men going "But *I'M* ok, right?"
Most likely bc of group punishment.
It’s like the saying goes, a hit dog is gonna holler!
My new years resolution is to take up space instead of always keeping my head down and being quiet
Mine might be now too, thanks to you ☺️
This.
As a disabled/neurodivergent person it pisses me off so much when people blame their shitty behavior on being disabled/neurodivergent, because they’re just reinforcing the idea that we’re incapable and incompetent. We’re intelligent and responsible for our fucking actions just like everyone else.
Literally. And the thing that bothers me is when people call it lack of accountability when it’s someone asking for accommodations. Like there are two sides of the shitty coin. 1. Where people lack accountability and blame it all on disability or ND, and 2. When people genuinely do try to be accountable, but in daily life need some accommodations sometimes because disability and that is seen as lack of accountability.
Like, for example: A lack of actual accountability, would be hitting or groping someone and saying “Sorry I’m autistic, I can’t control that.”, where as an example of the other would be someone saying something like “I’m sorry, I can’t understand what you mean, can you rephrase it/say it slower/give me more time to process it before I respond?”
"....and some people can't wait to engage in bad faith." A very good way to put it! That one spoke to me because I know people like that in my personal life and it gets exhausting. I'm talking about little things too. 😓 I can't even imagine what it's like being a content creator!!
I love clicking on these videos assuming it's going to be short because it's in portrait mode only to find it's a glorious full length video!! 😁
Fully support this message. Some people make a big deal out of blocking/being blocked but we never used to just let people say wild things to our faces in real life. Why shouldn't we be able to walk away from people saying stuff we don't wanna hear online too? 2025 is a good year to limit energy to the things that are actually productive. 👍
Wish I could send this to my co-worker who’s been bullying me for nearly half-a-year for the crime of *checks notes* asking her to email me something
A member of my family told me that I have to have more sympathy for people with points of view other than mine. While we were on the topic of _JK Rowling._
🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Sounds like some shit my family would say.
I have zero sympathy for those who go out of their way to take others humanity away. Different views is pineapple on pizza not human rights.
LMAO! Irony is dead.
Also, I saw JK Rowling in italics at the end of your post, and for a full 3/4s of the way through the post I thought it was an extremely ironic quote *by* her.
@MackerelSkyLtd 🤣
One of mine said I should have more empathy for Kanye West. All I said was that he's antisemitic, and I was told that I Iack empathy.
4:47 This message. Literally. I’ve had people, former friends, calling me a bad person for just asking to repeat words at times and give me more time to process. I literally have a processing disability and hearing aids for it (which is a privilege to even have) so clearly it’s not faking or purposefully not trying to hear you. It’s not personal if I just do not hear you out of my control, especially when I try to make it clear you said or asked something when others do not hear you but I did.
I’ve had terrible people who I thought were friends say I was using my marginalization as an excuse in response to me asking for clarification because I didn’t understand or wasn’t able to grasp all of the underlying messages or body language. Likel literally saying, I want to understand you, can you say more or be more specific? If you don’t have the space or energy to do so now, can we continue this another time? Like….
A lot of it was alllll, projection due to invalidation they had experienced, especially since they always discussed their emotions, but hated me for doing the exact same. Even the exact same words. People who used their marginalization to invalidate me having feelings or trauma of any kind. They were allowed to be disabled and have accommodation, I wasn’t. It was like they could have trauma, but I wasn’t allowed to just because my trauma was different or not from my mother. It was like I couldn’t have any relationship issues with my mother because my parents weren’t abusive like theirs. As if I need to have abuse in there to have relationship struggles. 🙄
That all said, Can I do better? Yes, of course. I work on that every damn week in therapy. That’s kinda why I spend half my time researching to figure out what others deem kind, or what is seen as respect in various cultures, ways I can make others lives easier. Ways I can handle my own energy to help others without overdoing it physically. Where I can give the proper time to others and myself to handle and process emotional circumstances. Which is hard, but worth it 100%.
And while I 100% wanna put in the work, have that give and take and strive towards it in my current healthy relationships, I’m tired of always putting in effort for people who don’t do the same, who only take and get mad if you do, and refuse to take any accountability, tired of constant draining of my energy and being targeted for working on being emotionally mature by people who haven’t or can’t. Tired of feeling used in relationships and like basic courtesy and caring about each other’s feelings is asking “too much”.
I am putting in effort in 2025, but I will not put up with fake friends, and this utter lack of respect.
The one thing i don't wanna hear, is the ones who helped bring about this oncoming chaos complain and cry when shit hits the fan. You wanted the orange clown, so deal with the circus.
PREACH!! *finger-snaps*
I was with my friend walking around her townhome complex with a fellow member of the Landscaping Committee. They never met in-person before that day, and barely had talked before that. They were talking about ways to beautify the area, and my friend has a dog so that was her primary focus-- make the area a place where dogs don't get all muddy from lack of grass, but also make the areas dog-friendly (i.e. not tear it up). It seemed to go really well, and they both were getting along from my view.
My friend forwarded me an email a week later saying "wait, whut".
In it, the Committee member made ridiculous accusations against her, saying she "mocked [her] severe allergic condition concerning dogs" by my friend emailing her picture and written ideas, and including a friggin picture of dogs running around an interestingly-done garden path.
Also, my friend (nor I) paid enough attention to her shying away from a dog that was being walked by us at one point, and likened that to being insensitive because she didn't say anything about her reaction(?), Idk. Apparently that was all it took! She went on and on basically calling my friend a sociopath who likes to throw people's medical conditions in their faces. People are insane nowadays with their weaponized conditions!
So many times I hear “it’s how things have always been, change takes time,” etc. Bro, people are tired of working on other people’s schedule for change to occur and “being patient while they learn.” It’s 2025, not many are willing to wait anymore.
Change takes time but people have to work on that change. The ones saying it takes time are the ones refusing to do the work for change!
Since it is January, I will point out these were irritations Dr. King had 60 years ago. They say that to avoid their own discomfort and unwillingness to change.
FFR!
“Change takes time!” Well, in that time, people are gonna suffer and DIE, BECKY!
What about THEM?!?
Ugh!
This 👏
Preach ma'am. I wish I had that energy. I'm still not strong enough. You are out her kicking ass and taking names. I tried saying some of this same shit and people were IMMEDIATELY on me "Oh people can't afford therapy" "People are traumatized by therapists" "The world is not friendly to people going through those struggles rn". My students were constantly like "you can't call on someone randomly to answer, they have anxiety!" "You can't make me do this presentation, I have anxiety!" "I'm not going to do this assignment, I have ADHD". It's like, you can have anxiety, and you have to learn to work around it. Having a label is there to help you better take care of yourself and MAKE IMPROVEMENTS. So many people are all about "I have this label so I should be exempt!" No, you have this label so here are the specific tools for that label to help make you be a part of society and make the world a better place. The entitlement with these children, I s2g
And that's why I quit teaching. I could not *even* with that disgusting bullshit, day in and day out. It started to make me mean. And angry. So angry.
very funny listening to this while i've been having my first real New Year New Me of a long time bc i'm realizing i need to actually do things if i want things to get better or want my creative stuff to exist. that i can't just let mental illness and disability convince me that i CAN'T do anything. you're so right about not tolerating shitty and stupid anymore and i think that can extend to our own brain bullies as well.
Unsolicited advice: keep it small to be sustainable.
Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.
❤❤😊
Yuya as your avatar? Good taste.
Looool the callouts and the tea spilled! My ex roommate we kicked was the exact person I thought of when you talked about people using their marginalization as an excuse for being shitty while doing NOTHING to try to improve themselves or their lives.
This is giving DBZ Future Trunks done with the bullshit of Past Vegeta and I am living for it❤
3:59 Self aware means you can better fix your shit, but people don’t wanna do that, because it’s work
I used to know someone who used to claim their self awareness and put it on a pedestal as the best thing about them. But they weren't quite self aware enough to notice that they, for some reason, ALWAYS had issues with other people in their life. They also thought they were always right in every situation. Thought they could win back a past lover with an essay and an I'm sorry because they were so great, not taking into consideration that they probably hurt that person and didn't WANT to go back to them. When I told them things they did weren't great for me mentally, they stopped talking to me IMMEDIATELY. Unless you use that supposed self awareness to make a better person in society, self awareness means nothing.
💯
I know a guy who said his vote didn’t count because he voted third party I was so angry about it. Wait till the system is fixed or stable before voting third party.
This rant is perfect and perfectly encompasses a lot of what I’ve felt like for just under 3 years. I’m sorry that a lot of people who look like me are uncompassionate idiots. Blocking people is often the only way to look after yourself in this day and age.
My entire comment now can only be Old Black Church Lady going "Ummuhm!" because there's nothing to say that isn't being said.
I’ve been making friends with my demons and shadows that used to sabotage my world, now I see how they are my protectors from those worse shadows. I am here for a year of accountability and consequence practices this year🎉
Omg. I felt every word. This was THE BEST. Thank you. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Preach My Black Queen And My Black Sister.🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I am ALL FOR THIS STRAIGHT-UP CALLOUT energy!
FUCK. YES.
Yes all the points are great and the other comments and some great stuff, can we all just appreciate the Wicked references
I love your rants, they make me feel humbled and motivated.
Honestly though 🙂↕️
4:43. Say it louder for those in back!
Bless you Nique, fully down with this energy
Block parties bout to take on a whole new meaning. 2025 is welcome to the FO portion of FAFO.
The loss of 3rd Spaces is a serious, society wide problem.
👏THANK 👏YOU 👏AUNTIE 👏NICQUE!!
I admire your honesty and am envious of your confidence
This is what happens when someone hurt finds it in themselves to keep going, living, trying, caring, and putting effort into her own life while others around them do nothing and could care less.
When we do all we can, to spite all we've been through, then affected daily by completely avoidable and causal situations, issues, problems... the struggle is real.
We can all do better, but let's be real, a lot of people can do more. Playing the "I didn't know game" needs to be retired on 2025.
You got this. We all got this ❤ I'm here for the spice ❤️🔥
*sips tea* say it louder some people need to be told twice for it to sink in.
I and wishing you emotional support because though your rant gives me strength to keep going on, I know it takes a lot of emotional energy to share all of that energy and vent that frustration. So because you've given me a some more strength to keep fighting in 2025, I am hoping you have what you need to have the emotional strength to deal with everything that's going on in your experiences. The last thing I would want to see is such a queen like you giving so much strength that you have none for yourself.
May your coffee always be the right temperature, because your tea always is.
I fully believe no one in this comment section wants to do violence, but we all sure as hell want to start teaching lessons
You are becoming one of my favorite content creators. Some of the shit I have seen; I could rant for days and go nowhere. Your content is really helping me focus on my projects and helping me be less of a pushover in my own freaking head. Thank you.
It's find out season!
I feel like this is gonna be my 2025 energy too.
Cheers to everyone's 2nd favorite wine Aunt (the first is eda from the owl house)
The screaming "TO THE BEST OF THEIR ABILITIES" is too real
She didn't left anything behind 💜
I ended up developing an allergic reaction to this sort of shit from my ex, who insisted that NOBODY had ever suffered like HE had- as a white, privileged, able bodied male with intergenerational wealth. He said that because he was deaf in one ear from 15 to 30. He’d say this with his full chest at the individual living in chronic pain from childhood abuse, a fall out of a second story window, multiple trauma and anxiety disorder diagnoses and a long list of other crap. I just could not process the audacity and self absorption, but it was absolutely real. I *loved* this rant. ❤
I’ve had a very odd version of this. Where I’ve worked on my accountability and emotional maturity, for years with therapy, and working on when something does or does not need explanation for the other person. As, in my mind, an explanation is not excuse, but often can be used to prevent further issues, but that is often not how it is taken, and many people do not want to do preventative work in relationships. (Which tbh is a red flag to not want at all, but makes sense to not want to do so in the moment or just after an argument.)
And I’ve had people who utterly lack any accountability, never say sorry, who have stonewalled, sent hateful messages group edited, excluded me, called me abusive for being mentally ill and having meltdowns at home with my parents when things were really bad, very much harmed me to a point I wanted to unalive myself. (And of course I hate the meltdowns, and for some meltdowns can become abusive action, but in my family it was not and we have worked together on them, our communication, and how we can all help one another, so scary things like that happen way less or in minor ways where I and or others are more regulated or able to regulate quickly.)
The people who utterly lack the accountability tho who have told me anytime I say how I feel or why I am lacking accountability. Like…what? Nothing on what I can do better, even me asking how I can is me “lacking accountability”. Anything bar 100% agreeing with them, changing the past, never saying my feelings, and mind reading would be “accountability” in their minds, when no, that is just manipulative, controlling, and a need to be right on their end.
Thankfully they are former friends, though one is still in my life semi ish because family connections. I barely see them though and have much better friends who, if something comes up, we talk about it, we let each other know things to help ourselves work with each other, and we don’t use any passive aggression.
I feel this with people I know
The relief! Yes, yes, yes!!! Thank you 💙
This is life giving.
Feel like we all need butter socks for 2025.
Call a spade a spade.I been biting my tongue for a while and I thank God somebody is talking about this.
Yes, let 2025 be that year!
I really truly see you and love you for who you are! I am so grateful for the year of 2025 is the year of accountability. I hope we can meet this year and talk shit together. I HEAR YOU! Everything you are saying is the truth and 100% what’s happing. And it’s so important to educate ourselves on the big picture of what’s happening and have a plan for the apocalypse. I love you! I love you! I love you! I shall follow you, you are the leader. We all need to stick together in 2025. 🎉❤ Love BellaDrew Starkey
Honestly, if you factor Mrs. Harris being both BLACK and a WOMAN while looking at the voting numbers, she won. Even if she's started the campaign later than Agent Orange, it's still a win. I'll never accept Donna being President and I'm not even American.
LOUDERRRRRR!!!!!
accrued interest 🗣️‼️‼️ we deflecting their shitty stupidity tenfold!
LOVE IT!!
I love this energy honestly and it feels right and good to me. I'm not in any way the same situation as you Nicque but sure as fuck I feel it. No excuse to be shitty and stupid, for me or for anyone else.
also right after this video i got a terrible add for a shitty scam carnivore diet. I wonder if we could like collectively pull enough money together to just have this videos thesis statement broadcast in place of all other youtube adds for the rest of the month; it feels like it would add more value.
Just from the opening 12 secs…. SLAYYYYYY💅🏼
At least it is for me.. the shade.
SPILL IT.
6:57 - “it’s like a Baskin Robbins of shitty and stupid”
MA’AM! You cannot just drop a banger-ass line like that without giving us warning! I nearly choked on my tea!
Anyway, please take time if you need to, give yourself grace, and lmk if you need me to keep the kettle boiling for all the tea you need to spill. Because I WILL tune in, and hopefully help you monetize calling these fuckers out, like the queen you are! (Was… was that cringey enough, or should I dial it back?)
2025 is is gonna be the year we become justified assholes. we're done playing.
Clock that tea
Damn. I'm sorry for whatever has angered you this much and is causing you pain. I hate the stupid people that have brought us global consequences of ignorance and bigotry. I want to do my best not to be the kind of shitty person you're describing. Sorry if I ever piss you off. 😔
Oh, Sweetie, you already started wrong with that “I’m sorry for whatever angered you” BS.
She’s a Black woman living in a country that just showed it doesn’t give a F*CK about anyone who isn’t cis, White, male, and Christian. WTF do you THINK has her heated?!?
SIDDOWN!!!
PREACH IT!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Damn straight. You tell ‘em!
May you find and block all haters during these trying times! 🙏😜
TESTIFY. Spitting facts and I'm here for all of it. May I quote you in some of these gems?
YES!
I’m done waiting on em…
Yup🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Can inget your robe size so i cam send you some preacher robes you speaking straight facts right now and I'm here for it all day
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Hell yeah!
THIS!
Preach.
This year is going to be hell and I’m not ready for it. Throwing tiny particles of positivity out there:
1. you’re right and
2. your earrings look really cool.
Let the FAFO--commence!
Resilience
NAME THE NAMES
AMEN
Ha! Type shit ❤
To use a certain term, to every one that didn't vote for Trump. Stay upity my like minded folks.
Chocolate milk distracting me
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What's in your cup?
I wish I could like this 3x
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First ❤
@nicque marina Thank you! ❤