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If someone were in a life or death scenario & chose to save a pet over a child then they don't deserve to be a parent (& this is coming from a guy with 5 cats but no kids).
I agree and if that girl wants him to choose a pet over her then she should just stay single or marry her dogs. Half joke but seriously she values pets over human life. This is coming from someone who has multiple siblings 2 parents and have had pets my entire life. I love them all but I would save my family first.
Dude, I see my cats as my children, but OP's fiancee is next level. 😅😅 He needs to dump her. She's a walking red flag and would be a terrible parent.
OP could have turned it all around and said "So what you are saying is that you'd save your animals before you'd save me?" .... 🤔🤔
@@Kayenne54Exactly! If someone would save their pets before they'd save me, that's an automatic out.
@@reeses_unicorn Sounded to me like she was looking for that "automatic out" by making a storm in a teacup.
@@Kayenne54If that's the case, would've been better if she was just open and honest instead of creating a total scene.
@@reeses_unicorn Of course it would have been better; but obviously she's unconscious. Coming from possibly learned strategies? When we know better, we do better.
The cousin and her partner need OP to accept them so they can stop feeling guilty about how badly they treated her.
I actually checked this post out myself to look for an update. Turns out, OP has a detailed post history of discussing this situation. OP is a gay man who fell in love with this guy when he was THIRTEEN years old in high school. He was being bullied when it happened and latched onto him. He wrote the man a letter and he did not respond. Now it's 17 years later and the OP still seems to have an unhealthy attachment to this man.
It wasn't like the cousin and the man started doing this right after he sent the letter. They fell in love and got married a whole decade after everything went down. OP has been in a relationship with another person for 2 months and is having dreams about this man. And also, OP has psychosis and struggles to differentiate between which memories from his childhood are real or something he made up.
Basically, OP has no reason to feel betrayed. He IS being immature and needs to go to therapy to search for the reason WHY he's so obsessed with this guy who clearly isn't LGBTQ because OP never would've had a chance with him and yet he's still pining a decade later instead of moving on.
I would say that he does need to move away and stay away from this couple, though. In the comments of the post, reddit was asking for more info. The only comment he responded to was one that affirmed his views. He's not looking for constructive criticism on moving forward. He wants the echo chamber, the confirmation bias. This is not healthy for him.
@@Someone-or8tpwow where can I find this post that’s crazy and not what I would have guessed
@@lunarialoonatic the first line Kyutie reads from the story is the story title. I just searched up "my childhood best friend ended up marrying the guy I fell in love with" and one of the top search results is the reddit post the OP put up on r/relationship_advice. If you scroll down to the comment section, all the top commenters are discussing the OP's post history and asking for more info on the timeline of events. And if you want to see the actual posts he put out before the one asking for advice, just clicking on the OP's profile and scrolling through his post history for a while will work.
I would post a link for you to direct you straight to the post but UA-cam automatically blocks links to other sites because of spam rules and whatnot.
@@lunarialoonatic I sent a reply, but it's gone for some reason. Basically just searching the title of the story (the first line Kyutie reads) will show the reddit story as one of the results. Then, just click on the profile of the poster, and their post history will appear. Or you can scroll down the post to the comment section where everyone is discussing it.
I’ve been vegetarian for 25yrs, absolutely adore animals but I would definitely save my kids/grandchildren before any animals. They can run out on their own but children might be too young/scared to get out on their own. Saying that, I would definitely go back inside to save my animals, even if I got hurt myself. I think asking people hypothetical questions like this sucks arse.
I always think of either the people being on the edge of a cliff or drowning. I find it interesting that different people come up with different scenarios when just given the prompt: In a life or death situation
Right, animals tend to run from disasters before humans even know what’s happening!
My cat is absolutely my baby and I hate the thought of loosing her in a fire, but I can’t imagine grabbing her and leaving my niece or any other human being behind.
First story: Run far and run fast. Good thing he found out about her before the wedding rather than after. Second story: People are funny, and not "ha ha" funny. Third story: Just find another job. You have no proof. These two will reveal themselves soon enough. Then you can watch the fireworks from a safe distance.
For the last one, I agree with finding a new job, but I think it would be good to tell the wife on the way out since it leaves the choice up to her if she wants to look into it and she’d likely have an easier time getting proof than OP would
Story 2 - OP is a 30 year old acting incredibly immature over a childhood crush on someone they never had a romantic relationship with.
Op can’t just call dibs on a person. And giving a married’s couple this ultimatum is crazy.
This is NOT love it’s obsession.
This 👏 the fact the OP made a post about still having dreams about this guy while in a new relationship with someone else isn't even the worst part. Its the way he talks about it. He goes on about how strongly he feels in these dreams and dismisses people in his life saying that it's just him drumming up this image for comfort through hard times, basically implying that it has some bigger meaning. That he could never replicate the love he felt for this guy. It's really concerning behaviour, as if he's looking for signs from the universe that they were supposed to be together.
Allegedly to for the first one the guy is gay and is convinced he had a chance when the best friend has not come out or reciprocated feelings
First one: fiancee was definitely asking this as a loyalty test. She's trying to drive a wedge between him and anyone else in his life. Flee!
Also FYI you can train a dog, or cat for that matter, to run to the door if the fire alarm goes off. Makes them a lot easier to rescue if they already evacuated to the exit!
I respectfully disagree about the fiancée's motives, at least short term. Some people trick you into saying something and then hold it against you to try to make you feel inferior. _Nothing_ has happened and now she's acting as if he's an animal abuser.
But I completely agree with the Flee! sentiment. She'll probably keep a mental list of "fails" to justify mistreating OP.
3: tell the wife anonymously without evidence. You know it's happening, but you don’t need to prove it. Once wife is aware of the possibility, she can start looking for her own evidence. Alternatively there is also hiring a PI to obtain it but that costs money.
The second story feels a bit familiar to me had a different ending though kind of experienced something similar in high school. It is best for that girl to step away so she can get herself together.
I am sorry to say for most people it's human before animals. If she is willing to put her pets over a child in a life or death situation speaks volumes. Will she put her fur babies before any bio kids or op? With how she acting now then op is less than the animals.
why do people ask stupid questions
wow that is so disrespectful & cruel.
wow john & the coworker is disgusting & tell the wife immediately
As a dog lover I’d save my kids first before my dogs as they’re more important than some dog.
Story 2 happened to me as well. We are no longer friends. I see the guy every once in awhile through mutual friends but we never say more than hi
Last story: Tell the wife please.
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First story. People please, more fire drills and less stupid hypothetical questions. Life isn't a movie, in case of a fire you're not going to walk thru flames while carrying every single person or creature out of the house. Those are 2 adult humans and 3 "adult" pets, and the fiancée is not some damsel in distress.
First story: I love my dog with my heart and soul. She is my fur baby. I can't imagine my life without her. If god forbid there was a fire, I would do my best to save her. However, if my mom or my grandma were in the house too (or any other person who was not a criminal trying to harm me), I would be making sure they were able to get out first. Unless it's just you and your pet in the house, most people are going to try and save the people first. And the fiancee bringing it up in the context of a 3 year old too? Fortunately I have never experienced a house fire (and knock on wood that I never have to), but from what I gather it can be difficult for grown adults to make it out on their own sometimes so how is a 3 year old supposed to do it? OP could save his niece and fiancee can save the dogs. I don't normally like to jump to the conclusion of dump them, but I am going to. I would not want to be in a relationship with someone who would put their pets lives over another human beings (especially a child). Imagine having kids with her. Is she going to be upset that you would save the human kids over the animal kids? I think if she had brought up the hypothetical of "who would you save me or the dogs?" and he said her then her getting upset is a slightly different scenario. I would very much be reevaluating my relationship with this person.
Last story: If it was just a hunch on OP's part, I would say stay out of it. But because of the confession, OP needs to tell the wife. The wife deserves to know. She may not believe it right away, but she will see the signs eventually. The signs that she might just brush off thinking nothing of it. Thinking she's being paranoid. Maybe she has seen the signs and is suspicious, but is brushing it off. Maybe she needs OP to confirm her suspicions. Maybe she will leave him or maybe she'll stay. Either way, she needs to know.
For the cousin and boyfriend, it is their own guilty conscience demanding she remains friends. A truly mature response is to attend their wedding, be civil, but otherwise avoid them like the plague. Move away. Find a better life away from assholes. Be happy in your life and see how jealous they get.
OP is a gay man who is obsessed with his crush from thirteen years ago simply because they were going through a hard time. He hasn't been treated like shit by any of those poor people and he never had a chance with his crush because he gave no signs of being gay. Also, his cousin and his crush got married a decade after his little vent so no, he has no right to feel betrayed.
He is being creepy and immature and needs to get over it.
That couple is not about to get jealous over an idiot with an a creepy obsession
Honestly the OP from the 2nd story did the right thing.
If OP cannot deal with his cousin and crush being together then it's best for everyone involved if OP removes themselves.
I'm a firm believer of removing and limiting contact especially if you know you cannot mentally and emotionally handle the situation otherwise.Time away and focusing on yourself is the best medicine.
Humans before pets; that's a given. But, for a useful comprise, look at the first part of Lethal Weapon 3. The heroes accidentally set off the 💣, and the whole building is about to go off. Mel Gibson's character yells:" Grab the cat!"
"Th--he cat!!!!"
Hey now, accidentally is a bit generous, they were told not to mess with the bomb.
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Anyone who says “be mature, and just be happy for them” have no room to talk if they’re honestly giving advice to a situation they’ve never been through personally. It’s easy for her family to say that cause they just want to keep the family peace or some bullsh*t like that, but to say ‘at least he’s joining the family’ like what?? That’s not why she’s upset, she’s upset bc she feels betrayed knowing every time she went to her cousin/best friend for advice and to open up about her feelings for this man, she purposely kept her own feelings hidden when she could’ve been honest and said she feels the same for him too. She’s not only hurting cause the man she loves doesn’t love her back, but someone close from her family has deeply hurt her. The guy is also a douche cause he’s well aware OP is in love with him but instead of telling her he doesn’t feel the same way and stopping it from giving her false hope, he decides to wait until he’s dating her cousin??
It feels just as icky that they purposely chose to love so close to her too that they’re running into her, maybe it’s just one or both, but it feels like it was planned this way to ‘flaunt’ their relationship at OP.
OP is a gay guy, his crush is not gay, he should have known from the start that he had no chance with him and the story is misleading based on the clarification he gave afterward. His cousin and his crush getting married a decade after him confessing to her does not qualify as a betrayal.
He definitely needs to get over it.
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I would save my pets first before myself but probably they would be able to get out just fine lmao
Also 1 min ago is crazy 😭
6:09 why do the couple still insist on being her friend? That would be guilt, which they're trying to assuage by pretending everything's fine and then blaming her for not co-operating. Either that or other mutual friends are asking questions or judging them, and they need to prove all is well, still friends, honest!
Someone literally called OP immature for not getting over a childhood crush, but how do they not suspect anything from the so called ‘friends’? It’s an a**hole move and suspicious as hell that they chose to live so close to OP that they run into her around the area. I thought maybe it was cause the cousin or bf or both want to ‘flaunt’ their relationship at OP, but it could also be a tactic to get OP to get used to it and ‘be friends’ again. I’m with you now on the theory their friends are judging them and are hoping OP being okay with their relationship gets them back in other people’s good graces. She said even the guy was aware of her feelings for him, so it’s highly possible the friends knew too. Not to mention OP said she had a mental breakdown (I guess that’s why some commenters think she overreacted but they forget it’s not just that the guy she liked rejected her, it that she felt betrayed by her best friend, someone in her family she trusted).
@@gred_and_forge Him, not her. OP is a gay guy with delusions and a creepy obsession. They can choose to live wherever they want to and the fact that they are still treating him like a friend despite his creepy entitled behavior shows that they are actually nice people
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So for the first one, most dogs and cats are incredibly intelligent and will do what they can to get out on their own and go to safety. His niece is 3 so she can't do that. Obviously I would go for the young children first. Her and her pets are smart enough to get out on their own if they can.
I value my cats life more than my own to me they come first.
Note not every woman want to have human kids.
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The second story is a gay guy who is complaining about his two decade old crush who is now getting married to his cousin. He was also in a relationship with someone else while still having dreams about his crush. He never had any chance with his crush as he had given him no indication that he is lgbt. OP simply latched onto him because he was simply kind to him when he was being bullied at 13 years old.
He is being entitled, creepy, obsessive and a little crazy. He needs therapy and needs to get over his bs and stop painting his cousin and his crush out to be villains in his drama
2nd story is actually quite disturbing. Apparently OP is a gay man obsessing over his friend that he knew when he was 13. The friend is straight hence why he hooked up with the girl. OP has some severe mental issues and freaked out over this. Also, OP was already in a 2 month relationship. Somebody in the comments explained this better but basically, DONT feel bad for 2nd OP. The guy is extremely creepy and was trying to force a gay relationship on his friend who also made it clear they did not reciprocate his feelings.
No cus I feel like the girl is kind of immature cus she did say that her cousin had a crush on the same guy at the same time she just didn't tell her cousin (which is kinda rude but idk) plus in the end it's up to the guy to pick who he likes. Maybe he never liked OP and doesn't know how to let her down easy. And I've sorta been in a situation like this except I (17) only knew the girl (not friends and she's 18 I think) that dated him (17-18? Long story idk how to explain why idk his age) and she sorta rubbed it in my face that their relationship was perfect except they broke up because he sent a video of himself drunk driving to her mom. They're both kinda as holes so it's alright (he told me personally that he compares himself to a mild Andrew Tate and she made fun of a kid (14-18) with a cleft lip.) I'm with a really nice guy (18) now though. He's amazing and we've been together for like a year and almost five months.
Nuh uh. Fianceé was right. Prioritise saving the pets and her.
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Second story: oh wow, ex bf knew she was in love with this guy, went out with him anyway and doesn't even seem to acknowledge hurt was caused? I mean if your bestie who is also your cousin tells you she's in love with someone, you don’t chat them up yourself. And if they chat you up, you tell them no because your friend has feelings for them. If they then say they don’t feel the same, then you can take that info to your friend and break the news he doesn’t feel the same so she can start mourning and moving on BEFORE you pounce on him. Not let her keep believing she might one day have a chance right up until you spring the wedding news on her. As it is, OP has some entirely justified mourning and moving on to do, and isn’t going to be able to do that if she's around them the whole time.
I read on another comment that actually OP had a crush on the guy at 13, so almost 2 decades ago. And now the best friend fell in love with him and they started dating, in fact OP was already dating someone at the moment of the story but was still delusional with the guy. I honestly think op needs therapy and I don't entirely blame the best friend and the guy for calling him inmature
Story 1: Okay, I'm a cat owner, but the fiancée is legit crazy. If I were OP, I'd just ask her whether she'd save me or the dogs. Because it sounds like if she were in the situation, she'd save her dogs first. I wouldn't marry her if she values her dogs' lives over me. Just live off your life with your dogs then.
Story 2: Those two can go kick rocks. They could just leave OP alone, but it seems like they are trying to hurt her on purpose. They tell her she's immature and should be happy for them and but they're forcing OP to see them together to rub it in on purpose. Fuck those two.
Story 3: I'd try to tell the wife anyway. I'd tell her everything that's happened and let her know. If she doesn't believe it, gather some evidence.
Actually, I responded to another comment with the same info. OP from story 2 is a gay man who fell in love at 13 with the man in the story. Cousin didn't approach him for the purpose of betraying OP. This is all happening a decade later. OP confessed his feelings to the man in high school with a letter and he never responded. So it looks to me like he formed an unhealthy attachment to this guy and has no right to feel betrayed 17 years later. But for some reason, he's latched onto him. So it's totally justified for them to be saying that he's being immature. He had a whole decade to get over this person who probably isn't gay and thus, they never would've been together. Its wrong for OP to think the cousin should've stayed away from the man she organically fell in love with.
Genuinely makes me sad to see so many people with justified resentment towards their respective betrayals relate to him because he's obsessed with a person whose situation with him should've ended a long time ago.
A lot of you guys are missing valuable info. So was everyone in the comments of this story on reddit. They kept asking for clarification but OP ignored them and only replied to someone in the comments who said what he wanted to hear. That he was right abd they were wrong and he was brave for understanding his boundaries.
If you are saving your pets over your kids then you will rot in hell
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How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I hope just great!! In the very first story, his fiancee is just so completely loopy for even asking him a ridiculous question like that in the first place, and second of all this is his 3 year old niece so of course he's going to save her first. I love dogs with a passion, but sadly to say she can just get more dogs later on whereas he just can't get another niece like that. He should just break up with her because from that question alone, it just tells him exactly what type of woman she is. In the second story, no you are not being unfair at all because despite knowing that the main protagonist had very strong feelings for him, her so-called friend took the opportunity to fully just throw herself on him first. Her friend is all the way in the wrong here and she doesn't even care at all. He is completely foul too because he knew exactly how she felt about him, but instead of just telling her that his feelings weren't mutal back towards her he just strung her along for his entertainment. They both are nasty people and deserve it eachother. In the third story, the main protagonist here should just mind their own business and let them continue on being a couple of nastys, and they are both going to get caught one day because the truth always comes out. I love you my friend!! Have a great day, good night from me!! Stay safe!!
I read on another comment that actually on the second story OP had a crush on the guy at 13, so almost 2 decades ago, so yeah, i dont think the friend even knew she still had feelings for him, and also OP was already dating someone else. I honestly think OP is still delusional with the guy and I think he needs therapy. I don't entirely blame the best friend and the guy for calling him inmature for that