Tone of Voice Impacts on Children
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- How Tone of Voice Impacts children in negative and positive ways. In this video I show you a role play of nice tone vs harsh tone of voice and why it is important top change our tones to mold behavior.
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Your amazing jady A..
Keep it going..your changing lives every day..and that is a blessing..
Thank you so much sister Jady. I have learnt a lot from you.. God bless you
Lincy, from India
Thank you so much Jady for this video. I am the type that uses harsh tone of voice thank for putting up this video am really learning a lot from you . Shalom
Such a timely video, especially with all the fear and stress society as the world seems to be going made! Thank you as always❤
Can't wait for those great nuggets Jady A! Thank you again for your tremendous support for us parents to thrive in these challenging times!
Needed this. I’m sad that I lose my temper at times. Will pray on this and work on being better. My kids deserve it 💙
Thank you for this video! I needed it - I need to use my sweet voice more. Also, I love the quote "Treat others the way you want to be treated". 👍🏼
We all get there. I’m guilty of it sometimes too.
Ditto. I’m praying and working on it as well. 🙏🏼
I loose my temper with my kids. They are so naughty and I get tired dealing with them alone.
Same
Thank you my sister God richly bless you. ALMIGHTY JEHOVA has used you to transform my otherwise very impatient and bad tone while teaching my son. God bless you forever
The harsh tone parent was my mom spot on and even worse at times. Sadly, I also saw myself in the video as well. I want to change because it definitely hurt my relationship with my mom who I lost over five years ago. Lord help us to change for the better!
I just can’t thank you enough for posting this at the right time. I’m just sitting here crying because I definitely use a harsh voice at times when I’m super stressed. It’s so hard being a stay home mommy but I’m definitely going to take your advice. Thanks again! Love all your videos. 🥰
I agree 👍💯! You're not alone, we're here to support other mom like us and thanks to Jady A to keep reminding us to apply the LAWS and PRINCIPLES that governs our behaviors to treat others like the way we wanted to be treated 💕. You Got This!!! Wish you all the best in your journey in the world of parenting. It also strengthen your faith and unleash unlimited possibilities in yourself and your children ❣️
Thank you for the reminder and for sharing about your grandfather. I am more so patient but I do have my moments. God is definitely working patience in me. You inspire me to want to be better.
Wow! Lord forgive me for being harsh verbally with my loving children. Thank you so much for pointing this out to me. I find myself being harsh with my words when I'm in fear or anxious.
I was very sweet with my daughter when she vas s child , today she s studying at Nova University Florida , thank God for my patient each night after school 😅 each day , each moment , our children deserve our love and dedication , not is easy bu we can do it !
AHHH ANSWER TO PRAYER!!!
Thank you for this reminder. We now have a 4 week old baby girl added to our family. With the lack of sleep and as adjustment for us all I have sadly fallen into the snappy and mean voice with our six year old. Before this it was her and I and I have been blessed to be home with the her all these years. Our bond was amazing. This has taken a hit to our relationship and her behavior and she is definitely a mirror of my off behavior. I watched this video this morning and have been kind and gentle voiced for the day. Thank you Jady. It has created the best environment for my daughter, myself, my husband and our new baby girl. Thank you for bringing this to my attention.
Oh wonderful video and close to your daughters especially the first one I would have cried with how good your acting is and forgot it’s just for the video to show lol 😂 you ladies did great. And thank you you are always helping out to redirect me, I haven’t yet done school stuff cause my kids are small but I need to stop scolding my boys at times I do get overwhelmed but it’s not an excuse I’m praying for patience and kindness. Thank you
Loved it. God bless you sister. You are filled with wisdom. It is definitely a very helpful video.
Thank you so much for this wonderful lesson and reminder. You said it all in a very easy to understand way. I’m now trying to get out of the phone addiction related overwhelm. I realize now that I’ve been using my phone as an excuse to “avoid the kids stressing me out” but I’m really just being lazy with my own parenting and wanting to get easy dopamine hits from social media than from the progress of working patiently with my children. Realizing this makes me realize I have some character flaws and it’s really left me grossed out with my own behavior because I call out other parents when they are being selfish or lazy when I still do that myself. It’s only caused me and the kids stress. So I’m logging off for today, thank you 🙏
😭😭Thank you. I'm guilty of the harsh tones. Thank you for enlightening me in your video on how to be a better Mother and Tutor. I really appreciate your videos and your shared experiences.
Sometimes,I am loosing my temper with my child and I am giving her a strong voice but after that I am also to hug her and saying I love her sooo much and explain to her .
You are awesome jady😍your video was an eye opener to me.I will definitely keep your words in my mind.Keep on posting parent child relationship videos.
Hi Jady, every single word you said is so true. I used harsh tone on my 4 year boy most of the times. After watched your this video i promised my self ill be change my self from today onwards. Thank you soo much!! your videos helped me to teach my kid at home.
I miss this channel. Relationship is more important than results
Thank you very much! I use a harsh tone lots of times but deep down I really don't want to act that way and fell the pain of anger in my whole body but finger crossed I am trying to change that.
Thank you this is truly an eye opener lately I sound like the harsh example. Not happy about it. I am scared that I will damage the relationship with my kids. Thank you
I needed it. Thanks. God bless you dear
My voice is harsh definitely a wake up call i am constantly stressed. I don’t know how to change it’s become a habit. It’s crazy I feel like this video was made specifically for me.Thank you for this.
Thank you sooo much for this video! I have so much to work on and I will always remind myself to treat my kids the way I would like to be treated. I always tell my kids this on treating others or to put themselves on other people's shoes but then here I am losing it with them and "tend" to forget to do so with them 🥺....great reminder. I will definitely work on this. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for this video and thanks for letting God use you
Like this video? LOVE this video! Profound message from such a beautiful soul.
110 grandfather.... AMAZING
Great video. It’s hard to find the balance being assertive and loving.
*as a side note I love your one on on homeschooling space.
My favorite video I really needed this thank you
Thank you, Jady.
How convicting 😭 thank you ❤
I needed this, thank you! ❤️
Need this today, thank you!
Thank you for sharing this message! I really needed it and I shared it with other people.
This is so good 😭😭 can you do another longer video on habitual anger?
Yes please do.
I'm definitely the harsh one while teaching and feeding and some other times. Just thinking back I felt I'm bipolar. Or maybe just all mothers arethat way. Trying to Make them better and making them happy at the same time
I am a person who has raised tone at times and at times its low. But mostly raised.
I am definitely guilty for using the harsh tone 99.9% of the time. Okay maybe 99% is extreme but I’m definitely trying everyday to do better.
Thank you for this video
God bless you and your family ❤️
Thank you
Thank you so much for sharing this! 🙏🏾💕🙏🏾
😹😹 oh God this is so me sometimes. I feel you need to have this harsh voice sometimes to get things done.
Excellent
Beautiful video
Can you make video about sibling fights
Thank you for this eye opening video. While watching the first scenario, I saw a lot of myself in it. I home school my kids and I must admit I use a strong tone sometimes. This video has helped me to be more mindful about my tone of voice and also the reinforcements I use. Thank you for being a light
Thank you… so timely :)
Thank you jady, I knew my tone of voice was harsh but actually seeing it gives it a new meaning. Today I break the harsh tone from me in the name of Jesus I declare I'm free and use the sweet tone I desperately want to use 🙏.
Amen! Looking at all the comments it's clear to see this is a struggle for us all. Everyday we need to resolve to be kinder with the help of the Lord, and we will! 🙏🏽❤️
I have the same problem too i laughed with the intro because that was me teaching my child and i hate myself afterward, so hard for me to have a sweet tone all the time gets frustrating but i never give up praying hopefully someday i can fight this battle to myself..
It's so weird, I just finished maths with my daughter and I stressed her with my voice today. And this came..., God is definitely talking to me. I BETTER CHANGE
Omg! The harsh scenario shown in this video totally depicts me with my kids, by everything i meant even the dialogues, the gestures,the tone, everything! Plead guilty 🤚. I always triec to keep my calm and work on myself but ended up repeating the same mistake over again. However, I will now practice to be consistent. I just love Jady's level of patience and understanding ❤ and i wish i will be like u someday. Hats off to a mother like u. Thanx for this video ❤
Same here sister... I always promise myself but end up being rude again :(
@eterno femenino thank u for the supplement tip. I feel much better now as I know Im trying my best and Im actually improving day by day. U said it right that patience comes with practice and i must say a lottttt of practice..
This has been on my heart lately because The Lord has shown me that I'm harsh in my tone towards my children. I have tears in my eyes because this has been me, and I'm so saddened but thankful that The Lord is showing me his grace and I have to make sure I extend it to my children. Thank you for this very timely reminder! You are such an encouragement Jady!
I feel the same way 🥺 We got this !
Let’s not forget that , they’re learning at their own pace , but so are we .
I'm the harsh voice majority of the time. please share more of this content. I honestly struggle with this. Do you have any parenting book recommendations that I could read to help me as well?
@Jameela HD here some great books that you can consider. They have been written by doctors/PhDs and researchers in the fields
1) The Whole-Brain Child
2) No-Drama Discipline
3) Predictive Parenting (what to say when you talk to your kids)
4) Helping Children succeed by Paul Tough
5) The school years (the emotional and social development of children) by Dr. Spock
6) How children succeed (Grit, curiosity and the hidden power of character) by Paul Tough
7) The Montessori Toddler (A parent's guide to raising a curious and responsible human being)
Thank you for being honest I too have this struggle and I don't want to be like that, I have to be better for myself and my family.
I love that we can all be honest with each other 😭😭 this is such a wonderful group of ladies I love you all so much. (I’m sure lots of men on here too, you as well!!) it takes a village you guys ❤️❤️❤️
@@isaactogola7620 Thank you for the recommendations.
@@Mahagony1985 I find that I resemble a lot of the parenting styles I received when I was a child. And now struggle to control my bursts of anger. I believe self care is also important and getting enough sleep. We can definitely do this with lots of practice and break that parenting cycle.
Everything you said here is 💯. Thank you for this reminder. Stress, the fear of them being defiant and our screens cause these harsh tones as you’ve pointed out. We hope to catch ourselves when we drift off the gentle tone. Thanks Jady.❤️
Yeah it is
Thank you for this video! I realize my tone of voice is reflecting how my toddler is acting at home and at school. This is a wake up call for me to change and be a better example for my kids!
I know my voice comes off harsh…. I hate it but I recognize it want to stop. I feel like I need more help. I guess I need to submerge myself in hearing what a healthy tone sounds like
Jady, I can not thank you enough!
I struggle with this everyday, and I have been praying about it.
Your channel changed my life!
I have been a subscriber of you channel for 5 years, and this channel is so much more than educational content … but about a life style!
u really have well mannered kids , Please make a video of all the manners rules or how to get kids listen to Parents
Relationship over results .. I’m getting that printed and put in my homeschool area … my son is only 3 and one morning I felt myself getting annoyed and short because he didn’t know a letter sound .. how sad and shameful of me .. I will never behave this way again
@@josie9583 the fact that your 4 year old expresses emotions that well is even a a testament to how good your doing .. one thing I love about being a parent is that these kids are really here to teach us and today is a new day to do better ❤️
Even if you do behave this way again, maybe show yourself some grace and you get a new chance every day. 💕 that’s what I say to myself 😀😅
This is exactly me! I’m a Sahm to three children 5 and under and my daughter is on the spectrum and I’m stressed and my anxiety is on an all time high! I even caught my daughter speaking like me to her stuff animals 😢
@@katianahilaire4818 💓
True😔
You posted this at the perfect time 🙌🏾 This is something I’ve been working on for weeks. My parents always had the harsh tone at all times and when I started homeschooling this year I noticed if I got frustrated I would do the same. I started consciously stopping myself and looking inside myself to look at the root of this trigger and learning to stop reacting that way. God is good and is giving me the patience more and more everyday to be a fully gentle parent. You’re awesome!
This is totally true. Whenever i see parents shouting and screaming at their kids, these are the kids that dont listen to anything.
Thank you Lord for conviction. Thank you Jady. I needed to see this reminder.
Thank you!!!! I’m going to start practicing these techniques immediately. God bless you and your family💞
Very true ! Such an amazing video...though most of us know this but putting it into practice is so much important. Thanks for the beautiful reminder.
Jady this made me tear up. I have followed you for a long time and love how you challenge me to do the Hard things,well! Thank you.
I needed to see this! I’m about to wake my children for the day now. Thank you 😊
I need help on this
I quit smoking after 25 years. I feel like I sound harsh all the time. My parents were also harsh, my dad hit alot. I apologized to my 5 yr old. Im a stay at home mom, homeschool and homestead. I asked him to tell me if I get harsh.
Couldn’t agree more with you! I actually ended up crying after seeing what a difference it makes. I will for sure be implementing your advice from now on. Thank you so much!!
Wow!!! Oh goodness, oh goodness….I Seriously have to work on my tone…😔 I would never speak with other children or strangers like I do with my kids…and these are my precious kids! 😔…everyday struggle.. and yes I notice my child sounding like me ….I always always feel guilty afterwards.
My hope for my kids is to believe and know God….it’s not just about doing great in school..and my example is failing.
Oh man this is my biggest issue. Thank you for sharing
Right on Jady!! Thank you ❤️ the truth will set us free.👌
I agree 100% with Jady. Thank you for this awakening.
Before I started homeschooling in 2019, I was blessed to attend a workshop for homeschooling Moms in my area. What an eye opening. One of the Speakers, said - do not start homeschooling if your have unbalanced emotions and cannot control your temper. She said even if you can, on days when you are not well emotionally, rather not homeschool that day.
This couldn't have come at a better time. I am guilty of the first example and I know it is because of how I was raised. Since I've recently acknowledged it, I want to work hard before it becomes habitual. Thank you for creating this video. I'll be sure to share it with other parents.
Thank you for this video, watching this video made me realize that Im doing something bad and that every day you can learn something new and as parents the learning never ends❤️
A lot of truth! Thank you so much for the reminder and awareness 🥰 in my case it’s the stress… I have a new born and I noticed that I’ve been more stressed lately. Intentionality is crucial. Thank you again! Bendiciones :)
I'm both! I'm working on that Jady A! You're a Phenomenal woman 👠 who has great values and Godly principles that you applied and demonstrate every day for yourself and your family! You have beautiful and wonderful children which such great values instilled in them by your wonderful Grace. Thank you for inspiring us and to applied these LAWS and PRINCIPLES in our daily lives to create a healthy world 🌎. Love you and your work and your beautiful family 💖💖. You guys stay safe 🙏
This really spoke to me. I have been praying recently for help in being slower to anger and for help in raising my children so they know they are loved ❤️ this video came at the perfect time. I have been so much more conscious of my tone with my son thank you for these videos
This is heartbreaking and eye opening. I see myself in the harsh tone. Even my kids said that sounds like me
Jady, this video was eye opening. I have said every single thing you did in scenario #1. I was raised by a "yeller" and so I am very aware of keeping my composure enough to not yell. By watching this video I now see that speaking in a harsh tone can do just as much damage as yelling. Thank you so much for bringing this to light and I am now trying to keep both yelling and speaking in a harsh tone out of my parenting.
Thank you for encouraging and sharing wisdom for other mommas! I was raised in a home that used harsh town disappoint and would shame you for making mistakes. I knew I wanted to be better but for lack of knowledge of what was better I would fall into the same style of parenting as I was raised it. Many thanks to you for opening my eyes to general parenting based off of a good foundation on relationship! I’m so grateful for your beautiful spirit!
Wow, I’m the hard person, I’m hard on my grandkids! Thank you for this roll play cause I didn’t see myself this way! Thank you soo much for open my eyes! God Bless you! 🙏🏼🕊️
This is such a good video! I think as busy moms, we sometimes forget about the importance of our voices to our kids. Thanks, Jady, for reminding us.
Wow I’m definitely harsh 😔 just this morning we were running late and my son was walking too slow for my liking and I nudged his backpack slightly but in a rude way. I wish I can take it back I feel so bad 😭 And it was even my fault we were running late, wow! I’m definitely a highly stressed and overwhelmed single parent, but going to try the sweet tone ☺️ right this moment. Thanks!
I tore up reading this, we all do this at times and to hear my son correct me, not to be unkind or be a bully. Hearing that, made me make the change with how I respond when I'm stressing or overwhelmed. Punctuality helps to keep stress away as well, so I start with that. Each day, each moment is a blessing to have with our children.
Oh gosh I love you! Thank you so much for sharing this video. I think you just changed my life!!!!! You really have a way to speak and teach.
I want to be better, but it is so hard. My daughter doesn’t listen until I’m yelling, which then reinforces my behavior. She is crazy sometimes and there isn’t always a clear natural/logical consequence for her behavior, or I feel like the consequence would unintentionally punish my son. I am still trying though. I know that yelling and talking down to them is not the answer. Do you have any tips on how to get husband on board with this though? Sometimes his tone is almost one of disgust. I’m so shocked that I don’t know what to say sometimes.
Thank you so much for this video. I am well aware I speak harsh to my children. I start off with the gentle voice, get down on their level and when they don’t listen I yell or get harsh. I have found when I take the time to be more present and intentional, they listen well. Have you struggled being harsh with your children? I’m just curious if you learned this from experience and regret, or if you’ve always just been a sweet patient soul 🤍 you’re a huge blessing. I hear myself and I instantly regret my words. Praying the Holy Spirit leads and guides my tongue.
i am like both sometimes being sweet mommy sometimes using harsh tone and i hate it i wanna change myself 🙁if i don't change myself i will ruin my children and their beautiful childhood memories
You are so so right. I’m embarrassed that I have raised my voice so much. Thank you for all your videos.
Lord forgive me for neglecting the way that You tell us to treat our children. You tell them to obey us, but then You tell us not to provoke them. Help me to turn it around for the precious ones You have entrusted me with. Ultimately they are Yours.
Thank you for this video. I want to remind this myself, the relationship is more important over the result. Thank you Jady!
Thank you for this reminder. I always try to remember how I used to feel as a child so I don’t make the same mistakes my parents made when raising me. I try to use the sweet low voice all the time, but sometimes I catch myself using the harsh tone. When this happens I apologize to my child and explain that I’m not frustrated with her. It’s good to get these reminders though. We wouldn’t talk to a friend, neighbor, or coworker in harsh tones, so why would we talk to a child like this. It’s never acceptable to be mean to a child. We have to guide and love and be the unfailing support our children need to thrive. Thanks Jady 💜
Ohh God.. That's damn behavior when am under stress..
Honestly watching the first scenario, I was very convicted. I need to work on this. Thank you for listening to the Lord and being a light. Your girls did wonderful helping you to share your message.
Thank you for this. I definitely use a "nice tone" most of the time, but sometimes I will use what some people call the "mom voice." Such as when you got the slinky... I probably would have said, "alright, the slinky is distracting you; hand it over" in a more disapproving tone. I could probably get a much more positive reaction and better results overall if I just kept the nice tone and asked for it as you did... so again thank you for this. 💜💕
Can you make more videos just like this. Different situations. I have 3 year old.I want healthy relationship
I needed this video. I use a calm and soft tone of voice most of the time. But when I get frustrated/ill/tired I definitely lose my patience and I use a harsh approach..
Can you do a video talking about boundaries when it comes to family members? How do you deal with situations when your values and rules and boundaries are ignored?
Im guilty of this. I tend to be harsh in voice whenever I feed my 4yr old boy, i hate it when my anger gets over the situation. My son used to hold his food in his mouth for about 30mins. We always have a meal for about 1.30 to 2 hrs ans thats too long. My patience loses and I get to be hard to my son... my problem is my son holding up his food in the mouth and he doesnt want to eat on his own, and he wants me to feed him. I hope he could, by now, feed himself and swallow the food quickly so that his meal would only take 15 to 30 mins.
how about you just feed him for now and give him alot of love and attention. This is just a phase. Enjoy the time you can still feed him.
I just cried . I said this yesterday and was so harsh. Thank you for opening my eyes .
Yes! Thank you for this! This also translates into how they speak to themselves throughout life, as they grow up as well!
This video was God sent! Thank you
If you are nice but after 6-8 times of them not listening, then should you use a sterner tone??
Need this to settle a debate.
My son honestly would laugh at me, I don't know if it's because I'm mommy?! He thinks it's a joke, he thinks it's boring, he's going next year.
Unfortunately I can't do it and I'm holding him back.
Thank you for everything and sharing❤️ Dad is the more aggressor, mom is the good cop but dad's at work.
That's what I'm afraid of, I want my son to succeed in life, not like me being a bakery manager and that's why I get angry, even though I'm the good cop I yell.
I know he can do it 👊
I'm literally in tears right now, upset with myself that I sound harsh with my 3 year old ( mainly meal times and home school times)
Thank you so much that you showed an image of looking from the OUTSIDE IN.
This video will change my life forever!!
Thanks once again with all your previous videos and your teaching materials. You are the reason that my 3 year old reads level 4 books and knows everything from your folders.
I'm a mother of a three year old. And guilty as charge.. neve comment but see your three year old is reading!!!
Grat Job mom! That must be acknowledged
@@tanroj3252 thank you, it’s been with great perseverance. Not been easy but finally we have achieved that level.
That's amazing great knowledgeable parent in my eyes
I would say
And would take any tips😉