Omg! They've just fallen asleep and I was actually sitting here crying my eyes out after how they acted today. And everyone just kept looking at us. .my son has "ADHD" and is just sooo rowdy and just does cartwheels everywhere and running around and and sliding along the floor. I mainly stay isolated from society because of this behaviour. I actually was brave today and took them into a coffee shop , I knew it was a bad idea, when we got in there my youngest 5 yrs old doing cartwheels and skidding along the floor and then he ended up crashing over the whole display table with the Costa mugs smashing all on the floor , then every one just stating at me like I can't control my children. But actually they aren't bad children they are so kind and loving and well mannered however they are just unable to stay still and always always messing around with eachother. I just stay home, I can't go to anyone's house I can't go in shops I can't go to family because I just get criticised. . They are also homeschooled also for this reason . We mainly go to large parks and nature walks ect they enjoy this and so do I Because no one is around to judge us and I can actually have some time with them without having to tell them to stay still or keep quiet or nag them at all.
My heart goes out to you momma! This must be so hard! Try to find a local support group where you can get support from other moms, a local bible study group, etc. Go to places that are stress free such as hiking, the beach, lakes, open field parks. Invite one other momma that understands the struggles. Never lose hope!
@@JadyA Thank you for this advice. I do believe everything is a blessing in its own way, so because of this we have such a close bond and to be honest it's what has lead me to homeschooling which I feel is much more beneficial for them especially in the times we are living in. And also they have and I have become very fit and active as we are always exploring nature. We're from the UK so there are so many beautiful nature reserves and hiking landscapes ect. Also due to them being so active and boisterous and rowdy lol screens hardly work for them so that's an amazing blessing in itself I think lol although I don't get a second for myself at all but I have learnt to embrace it due to finding happiness in supporting my children in the way that they need support and putting there needs first I realised that is our duty as mother's 💓 I just hate the judgement from others though and that's why I just stay away from everyone as no one ever seems to understand. And if it means I have to give up having friends , going to coffee shops lol or restaurants then so be it at least I put them first x
@@Joebammy What an amazing selfless human you are. To serve those children the way you do- you have chosen the path less traveled but I guarantee you there is great reward. Keep going my friend and forget the naysayers and people who stare. This should be a lesson to anyone reading. Never judge those you see. As for you posting this you have touched my heart today!
I know God sent me to our channel. For homeschooling, teaching my kids to read and this video is perfect timing I have been so frustrated with the way my kids 3 & 5 act at the grocery store and park. Thank You for all your hard work you are such a blessing with your fantastic and always insightful advice. I have been working hard to change the way I react to the way they are acting and I am already seeing small improvements to their actions. I have also scraped my reading curriculum and am just following the way you use and I am seeing great improvements in that as well. Thank you Jady!!
Lovely video. I practice the "preparation" method myself, since my 13 y/o daughter was a baby (first child) and my now 8 y/o son, and it works. If we go to the store, they know what Im looking for and they know not be asking for anything for me to buy them depending on my budget. I sometimes do get a little toy or item for them, usually from Dollar Tree, just to reward them occasionally. But Im highly supportive of talking to your kids and expressing your expectations from them in EVERY aspect of their life. People always tells me that my children express themselves like "adults", very respectful and using words they fully understand. I dont thing any less of them, they are human beings livings with me, under my care.
Such golden advice Jady. Thank you so much. Love the advice about prepping our kids by telling them our expectations. That was a game changer for me taking my two toddlers to the playground. When I told them exactly what I expect and consequences if they protest leaving etc. they totally were on board and super cooperative. They expressed they wanted to play longer but bc they knew the plan, they got in the wagon without an angry protest. Thank you for your great advice ❤️❤️❤️
This video is great ❤️. Something my mother reminds me from time to time is to go over what we will be doing with my children before we go, so that when we arrive at the place, they already know what’s expected of them, and through the time, remind them what we talked about. I really like how you touched on pulling the child aside to correct the behavior, giving them warnings and following through. These things are so important and make a big difference in the child’s life. They learn boundaries, consequences, and how to behave, learning from their lessons and it’s done with love.
Thank you so much. My son had been affected socially by the pandemic, when ever we go into stores he runs and becomes overly excited about being in a store. Preparing him in advance has helped us tremendously and following through with consequences.
im blessed with 2 amazing kids that listen and are well behaved, so true jody everything start at home! i make sure they understand how i except them to behave at any place prior we attending to. they also knew me very well to knew that few basics are most important to me such as respect kindness and manners. always a pleasure listening to you Jody.
Thank you so much, I was brought up with authoritative parents. We got spanked and there was a lot of violence in our family. It wasn't all bad but that is what was instilled in me as a child. I don't want to be that way with my children. I want to try other ways of discipline other than yelling and spanking or " you do this my way because I said so." It's really hard to break the chain. I'm really thankful for your ideas on discipline because I haven't been shown any other way so I appreciate you.
I am a pre- school teacher .I enjoy watching your channel. I really learn a lot and I am currently working on how to discipline my class , this video was Soo helpful.❤️😊
Thank you so much! I am going threw this situation. Sometimes it works and sometimes it just does not. I will follow more of this information specially the if they had a big meal never taught of this. Thanks.
This is exactly what we have been doing with our little boys. They arent perfect, but behaving well is a skill that requires practice and consistency. I also believe setting them up for successful completion of outings is important. So if I see warning signs that they are starting to have a difficult time controlling themselves, we end the activity. I think it does help them start to know their own limits and when they need a break.
When you start the way hello everyone with a smile ...jady i am feeling like hugging my best friend in the world Love you jady always.... Even everyone loves you...
Thank you Jady there is nothing worse than having a 2 year old toddler acting out at church. My daughter acts so different at home and acts out in public it's like she knows she can get away with it.
@@gunnikr who said my expectations are high? Did you see where I mentioned how she only does this in public. All children are different and as her mother I know what my child is capable of.
My daughter the same and she was very young 2 years old and I never understood why does she do this only in public …she is a different person when we are alone …I did get the answers though she has extreme ADHD I knew that before the diagnosis age five… her father has …but she also has sensory overload… she suffers from the environment change and all the people, noises and new environment over stimulates her and she reacts badly. She also knows how others respond to her with distain and it builds the bad reaction. She is eight now and I still learn every day how hard it is for her now she can describe to me what she feels when out of our house, all the small things that overwhelm her that I do not even notice. Your child may have the same. Sensory processing disorder.
What do you do if they are fine with leaving? Sometimes it's not somewhere they want to be. I have told my children we're going to leave the stores or church if they keep misbehaving,and they just say okay let's leave. It's almost like they are happy they misbehaved because now they can leave. If I make them sit with me they make a big scene or keep trying to move away from me and it is so distracting for everyone. I just dont know what to do. I have grounded them and they just beg and beg and say they will do better next time. However they do not do better. Everyday is repeating myself over and over of the rules that they already know, rather it's in public or at home.
Hey Jady, I’ve been trying not to bribe because older generations in our family have been toxic to get what they want from the child. Although consequences and bribing are not the same… can u make a video on the differentiation? . I’ve been so fearful of bribing that I mistake consequences for bribing when it’s actually not at all.I love your videos you’re phenomenal
Also my 9 year old son has been diagnosed adhd and has sensory processing issues and teaching him coping skills has been a struggle. If i try to pull him off to the side he causes a scene. And makes my anxiety and ptsd issues Go through the roof. And then I end up having a panic attack in the process of trying to talk with him and teach him what was wrong.
PREPERATION!!!! YES! Making sure your child is well fed and well rested is the key to helping your child behave there best. #2 would be to slow down and talk to them. Just saying no no no to a child at the store is a recipe for a breakdown. Explain and compromise with them instead of just saying no.
Thank you for this validating and helpful video. After another bad day after many many days like this I'm so discouraged. The simple idea of 'just go home' literally is the best thing I could of heard today. Do you have a video on good protein meals/snacks ideas? I struggle so much with food that they will actually eat. It's a real problem in my house. Thank you again, your videos are my lifeline.
never embarrased. talk to the child, warn. children are in a learning process, every day, every minute. if someone around doesn't understand that, I can't do much. I continue to work with my child and help him understand what is expected of him ignoring others thoughts.
Love and am so thankful for your videos and beautiful points that I apply with my own boys, but how do you promote not spanking your child when the Bible over and over emphasize the importance of the rod especially when done in a loving and consistent manner without anger?
what do you recommend when its something they don't want to do and act up, if i just leave they get what they want and may continue to act that way anytime we do something they don't like? I went to the store today with my 1 and 3 year old, the 3 year old was grabbing at everything, pulling on clothes, he'd start wiggling and screaming about which way he wanted the stroller to go. I made the mistake of taking him out of the stroller and he started crawling around, running and grabbing things. i would try to pull him aside and talk to him but he would just laugh in my face. I then tried holding him and he kept wiggling and yelling to let him go, it was embarrassing to say the least. I know i should have just left but sometimes we are going to have to do things they don't want to do and it scares me when things like this happen.
For my kids usually I check in on the physical aspects-hunger or tiredness are the most common with my kids Sometimes I ask them if their tummies need a snack (definitely nothing with high sugar or food colorings as those make my kids unable to calm down) or sometimes they’re just sleepy and need to be carried or cuddled in the store and i talk through what we’re doing in those moments It can be so hard I know
Jady how do you address a situation when you have told your kids the rules they understand them but their friends are asking them why they can not do whatever the rule is. For example you said no going into the kids rooms at a friend's house, at then friend's kids ask them to go in the room and the other family does not understand the problem. I struggle with this, I feel my rules are a lot different then other families.
My dad would always just say these are our families rules based on our experiences and we want to be consistent with the kids so they remember the family rules
I needed this! I practice gentle parenting and homeschool, well more unschool. My 4 year old does this to me , he started yelling at me in public, kicking and screaming when just being asked to sit down in the cart or " no" we can't have that toy. He also scream cries when the baby wants his drink or food and tells me he hates sharing. I don't even use that word. Idk what to do. 😢 😭 He wela , recently did spank him and push him because he did it to her. I didn't agree but it happened. He has also seen his wela scream at me and throw things at me. Maybe it's that. 😢 😭
I have a 3 yo daughter, she's always been quiet, kind and respectful. She's experiencing tonsillitis for the first time and she didn't want to "go number2" for 8 days. This was the first issue I experienced with her. From this experience she's changed behaviour. She's suspicious, reluctant and fit both afternoon nap and bedtime, she's started to push me and throwingher toys away. I feel defeatedbecause she has never never did that before. She's changing and I'm not ready. I'm really concerned. I truly love your videos but it's really hard to put your tips into practice. I hope to be able to stay calm and patience. It's hard.
I think you should give your daughter some grace. She may not be feeling well and may have some unmet needs. The best you can do for her is just help her through her difficult time, give her grace, understanding and love. Fill her with unconditional love regardless of her toilet regression.
Thank you for another great video Jady. And thank you for sharing an example from your own life. You give such good advice and cause me to do some self-reflecting.
Hi Jady!! This is my first time writing to you.First ofall thank you so much for helping us mother's on our journey.I always come back to your channel when in doubt and I always get the required motivation to again get up and move ahead.Would like your opinion on one thing though.Whats your take on abacus?I am kind of confused with taking that decision.If you could help.Thank you so much.
My son is 17 months and is always sleepy and not in a great mood for church on Sunday’s. At restaurants he gets really fussy if the food takes a long time. Any advice?
Hi Jady, what if my son (3.5 years) is misbehaving but i dont want him to leave the place. like my son doesn't want to attend sunday school at the church and if i take him home and he is so ok with that.he is very difficult when it comes to staying at the church.
Hi Jady! My young daughter (she is almost 2 and a half) hits constantly her sister (she is 10 months old) whenever she can even she knows hitting is bad. She's extremely jelous. The only thing I do when she does this I take the oldest one from that place and I explain to her that hitting is bad. But I don't now any example of boundaries in this case. Could you help me, please?
Question! What happens when one sibling is behaving and doing what I ask but the other one is not listening and rebelling to my instructions when going out. Do I leave the place and have the other sibling suffer the consequences too? How can I explain this to the well behaved sibling. Especially if the play date is for the well behaved child in this case. My 4 year old is being very well behaved lately and I’m having more challenges with my 2 yr old that’s why I ask. Thanks! I’m also very pregnant so it’s so hard to manage the 2 yr old strong willed rebellion.
this happened to me I had to take away the park playtime for one misbehaving child but I think the ones who behaved will try to encourage the misbehaved one to do what’s right so they all can go to the park. I have 5 littles so it’s hard to do or maybe just have the misbehaving one sit on the park bench and watch the others enjoy their park time.
Hey Jady. I know this video is a little older, but I have a question/need. I love all this advice so I wonder what I could do in a situation where we are home and the misbehaving starts when we have a guest here (whether it be a family member or a friend). My oldest son tries to lazily blow throw his chores, get crazy running off, and eats a lot more junk food (which she brings here) when my MIL is here. He is almost 10. I will pull him aside and talk to him privately and he will tell me he will stop, but then he goes back and continues acting that way. She will invite herself to stay the night also. I have a hard time because she doesn't agree with discipline and tells me to ignore it.
Hi jady. would you please make a video about how to make our kids more friendly to each other, my older daughter who's 9 years old is always jealous of her younger brother who's is 6 years old and treat him badly which makes me out of my mind most of the time
My kids are jealous of each other too. Ages 9 and 8. If 1 has something the other feels as though they should also. And if they didnt then theres a big issue.
My kid at home does everything opposite or what she knws what is right ... coughs in my face , takes leaves off tree n looks at me , i can go on and on .. im losing it Jady :/
Hi Jade! Thank you for making this video. Do you apply the same with your 2 year old or is this only done with your older children? Also what do you do if your 2 year old just runs off and they think that once you follow them they think your playing but in reality you just concern they can run off in harms way when your outside. Any advise for that? I want to let my daughter be a child without having to be that parent that is constantly nagging but at times I do not know what is the best way to react to certain situations.
I would have them strapped in a stroller at all times for safety. And only take them out in an enclosed space like a park with a fence or play room. My son used to be like that when he was young about 1-3. It was very stressful. When he got older he finally understood that safety matters as I’d talk about it all the time. He’s 6 now and very safe and does not ever run off.
I have five children. I'm nervous my 4 year old is autistic. Just adding that because I've been working with him but it's hard to make progress. Do you have idea's for teaching the dangers of out side without. I'd like to make being outside more enjoyable for him and the family. I don't want to worry he's going to run into the road or just walk away if I turn my back to check on my two year old.
How can I give a one year old consequences I don’t think she’d understand, she’s really acting out and I know that’s normal around this time ( tantrums ) I don’t know what to do for her I just tell her no and explain to her why I said no and redirect her … 🤷🏽♀️😪 she still throws tantrums
Having an autistic 5 year old with ADHD and is incredibly defiant is like 3 kids in 1....but it's because he feels like he really has no control that he fights for control. Its easy to forget because it looks like blatant disrespect. Its not.
Omg! They've just fallen asleep and I was actually sitting here crying my eyes out after how they acted today. And everyone just kept looking at us. .my son has "ADHD" and is just sooo rowdy and just does cartwheels everywhere and running around and and sliding along the floor. I mainly stay isolated from society because of this behaviour. I actually was brave today and took them into a coffee shop , I knew it was a bad idea, when we got in there my youngest 5 yrs old doing cartwheels and skidding along the floor and then he ended up crashing over the whole display table with the Costa mugs smashing all on the floor , then every one just stating at me like I can't control my children. But actually they aren't bad children they are so kind and loving and well mannered however they are just unable to stay still and always always messing around with eachother. I just stay home, I can't go to anyone's house I can't go in shops I can't go to family because I just get criticised. . They are also homeschooled also for this reason . We mainly go to large parks and nature walks ect they enjoy this and so do I Because no one is around to judge us and I can actually have some time with them without having to tell them to stay still or keep quiet or nag them at all.
I recommend studying adhd, I recently found out it used to be “adhded” (adhd -emotional dysfunction)
My heart goes out to you momma! This must be so hard! Try to find a local support group where you can get support from other moms, a local bible study group, etc. Go to places that are stress free such as hiking, the beach, lakes, open field parks. Invite one other momma that understands the struggles. Never lose hope!
I am so sorry that happened today, I hope tomorrow is a better day and just remember that the hard days do not last forever. It's going to be okay. 💛
@@JadyA Thank you for this advice. I do believe everything is a blessing in its own way, so because of this we have such a close bond and to be honest it's what has lead me to homeschooling which I feel is much more beneficial for them especially in the times we are living in. And also they have and I have become very fit and active as we are always exploring nature. We're from the UK so there are so many beautiful nature reserves and hiking landscapes ect. Also due to them being so active and boisterous and rowdy lol screens hardly work for them so that's an amazing blessing in itself I think lol although I don't get a second for myself at all but I have learnt to embrace it due to finding happiness in supporting my children in the way that they need support and putting there needs first I realised that is our duty as mother's 💓
I just hate the judgement from others though and that's why I just stay away from everyone as no one ever seems to understand. And if it means I have to give up having friends , going to coffee shops lol or restaurants then so be it at least I put them first x
@@Joebammy What an amazing selfless human you are. To serve those children the way you do- you have chosen the path less traveled but I guarantee you there is great reward. Keep going my friend and forget the naysayers and people who stare. This should be a lesson to anyone reading. Never judge those you see. As for you posting this you have touched my heart today!
I know God sent me to our channel. For homeschooling, teaching my kids to read and this video is perfect timing I have been so frustrated with the way my kids 3 & 5 act at the grocery store and park. Thank You for all your hard work you are such a blessing with your fantastic and always insightful advice. I have been working hard to change the way I react to the way they are acting and I am already seeing small improvements to their actions. I have also scraped my reading curriculum and am just following the way you use and I am seeing great improvements in that as well. Thank you Jady!!
Lovely video. I practice the "preparation" method myself, since my 13 y/o daughter was a baby (first child) and my now 8 y/o son, and it works. If we go to the store, they know what Im looking for and they know not be asking for anything for me to buy them depending on my budget. I sometimes do get a little toy or item for them, usually from Dollar Tree, just to reward them occasionally. But Im highly supportive of talking to your kids and expressing your expectations from them in EVERY aspect of their life. People always tells me that my children express themselves like "adults", very respectful and using words they fully understand. I dont thing any less of them, they are human beings livings with me, under my care.
Such golden advice Jady. Thank you so much. Love the advice about prepping our kids by telling them our expectations. That was a game changer for me taking my two toddlers to the playground. When I told them exactly what I expect and consequences if they protest leaving etc. they totally were on board and super cooperative. They expressed they wanted to play longer but bc they knew the plan, they got in the wagon without an angry protest.
Thank you for your great advice ❤️❤️❤️
This video is great ❤️. Something my mother reminds me from time to time is to go over what we will be doing with my children before we go, so that when we arrive at the place, they already know what’s expected of them, and through the time, remind them what we talked about. I really like how you touched on pulling the child aside to correct the behavior, giving them warnings and following through. These things are so important and make a big difference in the child’s life. They learn boundaries, consequences, and how to behave, learning from their lessons and it’s done with love.
Thank you so much. My son had been affected socially by the pandemic, when ever we go into stores he runs and becomes overly excited about being in a store. Preparing him in advance has helped us tremendously and following through with consequences.
im blessed with 2 amazing kids that listen and are well behaved, so true jody everything start at home!
i make sure they understand how i except them to behave at any place prior we attending to.
they also knew me very well to knew that few basics are most important to me such as respect kindness and manners.
always a pleasure listening to you Jody.
These videos are amazing. I've learned so much from you & even realized things about myself that I didn't even notice I was doing. Thank you! 🙏
Thank you so much, I was brought up with authoritative parents. We got spanked and there was a lot of violence in our family. It wasn't all bad but that is what was instilled in me as a child. I don't want to be that way with my children. I want to try other ways of discipline other than yelling and spanking or " you do this my way because I said so." It's really hard to break the chain. I'm really thankful for your ideas on discipline because I haven't been shown any other way so I appreciate you.
I am a pre- school teacher .I enjoy watching your channel. I really learn a lot and I am currently working on how to discipline my class , this video was Soo helpful.❤️😊
Thank you so much! I am going threw this situation. Sometimes it works and sometimes it just does not. I will follow more of this information specially the if they had a big meal never taught of this. Thanks.
This is exactly what we have been doing with our little boys. They arent perfect, but behaving well is a skill that requires practice and consistency. I also believe setting them up for successful completion of outings is important. So if I see warning signs that they are starting to have a difficult time controlling themselves, we end the activity. I think it does help them start to know their own limits and when they need a break.
I will remember that whatever kids do in public is not new, it's the same they are doing at home. Thank you!
Wow I love the way you address and prepare them for everything in detail
When you start the way hello everyone with a smile ...jady i am feeling like hugging my best friend in the world Love you jady always.... Even everyone loves you...
An ideal mom
The way u homeschool ur kids is incredible👍 very well desclipned
Thanks for your good advice❤
Thank you for all the encouragement and great advice.
Yes preparing children before we go outside is a good idea
Thank you Jady there is nothing worse than having a 2 year old toddler acting out at church. My daughter acts so different at home and acts out in public it's like she knows she can get away with it.
@@gunnikr who said my expectations are high? Did you see where I mentioned how she only does this in public. All children are different and as her mother I know what my child is capable of.
My daughter the same and she was very young 2 years old and I never understood why does she do this only in public …she is a different person when we are alone …I did get the answers though she has extreme ADHD I knew that before the diagnosis age five… her father has …but she also has sensory overload… she suffers from the environment change and all the people, noises and new environment over stimulates her and she reacts badly. She also knows how others respond to her with distain and it builds the bad reaction. She is eight now and I still learn every day how hard it is for her now she can describe to me what she feels when out of our house, all the small things that overwhelm her that I do not even notice. Your child may have the same. Sensory processing disorder.
Thank you, Jady, your videos have really helped me. Youve been a blessing in my homeschool journey. God bless you!
What do you do if they are fine with leaving? Sometimes it's not somewhere they want to be. I have told my children we're going to leave the stores or church if they keep misbehaving,and they just say okay let's leave. It's almost like they are happy they misbehaved because now they can leave. If I make them sit with me they make a big scene or keep trying to move away from me and it is so distracting for everyone. I just dont know what to do. I have grounded them and they just beg and beg and say they will do better next time. However they do not do better. Everyday is repeating myself over and over of the rules that they already know, rather it's in public or at home.
Love your new intro Jady A . It’s beautiful.
I like how you talk about consequences for every bad behaviour
Hi Jady! Blessings to you! Thank you for the video. They are always helpful. 💕
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and we all go through these embarrassing moments😢. Thank you
Thank you thank you for the great tips Jady ! I
So so needed...thank you Jady...much love from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤️
Thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing this...it was very helpful for me.
For some reason you got taken off my follow list. Thank goodness I found you again!
I have a two year old daughter you have taught me such a valuable lesson
Jady, you are so wise! Thanks for your videos!
Thank you and love your accent.
I really needed this thank you so so much 💕
Hey Jady, I’ve been trying not to bribe because older generations in our family have been toxic to get what they want from the child. Although consequences and bribing are not the same… can u make a video on the differentiation? . I’ve been so fearful of bribing that I mistake consequences for bribing when it’s actually not at all.I love your videos you’re phenomenal
Your right..i always had snacks when we were out for a long period of time. But i feel that the worst mistake i made was giving my child a tablet..
Also my 9 year old son has been diagnosed adhd and has sensory processing issues and teaching him coping skills has been a struggle. If i try to pull him off to the side he causes a scene. And makes my anxiety and ptsd issues Go through the roof. And then I end up having a panic attack in the process of trying to talk with him and teach him what was wrong.
Thank you Judy love this lesson
You are SO smart. How do you just know this, lol? My son is now 8yo and I am STILL learning so much
PREPERATION!!!! YES!
Making sure your child is well fed and well rested is the key to helping your child behave there best. #2 would be to slow down and talk to them. Just saying no no no to a child at the store is a recipe for a breakdown. Explain and compromise with them instead of just saying no.
I agree with not hitting your children. I have 6 children and disaplining can be done just fine without hitting.
Totally amazing teaching strategies!
Even tho im not a mother but still there is alot to learn from this videos❤️👍
Thank you for this validating and helpful video. After another bad day after many many days like this I'm so discouraged. The simple idea of 'just go home' literally is the best thing I could of heard today. Do you have a video on good protein meals/snacks ideas? I struggle so much with food that they will actually eat. It's a real problem in my house. Thank you again, your videos are my lifeline.
Great video as always, Jady ❤️
Going home is the opinion I usually use.
never embarrased. talk to the child, warn. children are in a learning process, every day, every minute. if someone around doesn't understand that, I can't do much. I continue to work with my child and help him understand what is expected of him ignoring others thoughts.
Hola Jady! Mil gracias por tus consejos. Can you please give examples of consequences please. Thank you in advance.
Thank you
Love and am so thankful for your videos and beautiful points that I apply with my own boys, but how do you promote not spanking your child when the Bible over and over emphasize the importance of the rod especially when done in a loving and consistent manner without anger?
what do you recommend when its something they don't want to do and act up, if i just leave they get what they want and may continue to act that way anytime we do something they don't like? I went to the store today with my 1 and 3 year old, the 3 year old was grabbing at everything, pulling on clothes, he'd start wiggling and screaming about which way he wanted the stroller to go. I made the mistake of taking him out of the stroller and he started crawling around, running and grabbing things. i would try to pull him aside and talk to him but he would just laugh in my face. I then tried holding him and he kept wiggling and yelling to let him go, it was embarrassing to say the least. I know i should have just left but sometimes we are going to have to do things they don't want to do and it scares me when things like this happen.
For my kids usually I check in on the physical aspects-hunger or tiredness are the most common with my kids
Sometimes I ask them if their tummies need a snack (definitely nothing with high sugar or food colorings as those make my kids unable to calm down) or sometimes they’re just sleepy and need to be carried or cuddled in the store and i talk through what we’re doing in those moments
It can be so hard I know
Thanks for child preparing
Jady how do you address a situation when you have told your kids the rules they understand them but their friends are asking them why they can not do whatever the rule is. For example you said no going into the kids rooms at a friend's house, at then friend's kids ask them to go in the room and the other family does not understand the problem. I struggle with this, I feel my rules are a lot different then other families.
My dad would always just say these are our families rules based on our experiences and we want to be consistent with the kids so they remember the family rules
I needed this!
I practice gentle parenting and homeschool, well more unschool.
My 4 year old does this to me , he started yelling at me in public, kicking and screaming when just being asked to sit down in the cart or " no" we can't have that toy.
He also scream cries when the baby wants his drink or food and tells me he hates sharing.
I don't even use that word.
Idk what to do. 😢 😭
He wela , recently did spank him and push him because he did it to her. I didn't agree but it happened. He has also seen his wela scream at me and throw things at me.
Maybe it's that.
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I have a 3 yo daughter, she's always been quiet, kind and respectful. She's experiencing tonsillitis for the first time and she didn't want to "go number2" for 8 days. This was the first issue I experienced with her. From this experience she's changed behaviour. She's suspicious, reluctant and fit both afternoon nap and bedtime, she's started to push me and throwingher toys away. I feel defeatedbecause she has never never did that before. She's changing and I'm not ready. I'm really concerned. I truly love your videos but it's really hard to put your tips into practice. I hope to be able to stay calm and patience. It's hard.
I think you should give your daughter some grace. She may not be feeling well and may have some unmet needs. The best you can do for her is just help her through her difficult time, give her grace, understanding and love. Fill her with unconditional love regardless of her toilet regression.
Thank you for another great video Jady. And thank you for sharing an example from your own life. You give such good advice and cause me to do some self-reflecting.
Hi Jady!! This is my first time writing to you.First ofall thank you so much for helping us mother's on our journey.I always come back to your channel when in doubt and I always get the required motivation to again get up and move ahead.Would like your opinion on one thing though.Whats your take on abacus?I am kind of confused with taking that decision.If you could help.Thank you so much.
My son is 17 months and is always sleepy and not in a great mood for church on Sunday’s. At restaurants he gets really fussy if the food takes a long time. Any advice?
Hi Jady, what if my son (3.5 years) is misbehaving but i dont want him to leave the place. like my son doesn't want to attend sunday school at the church and if i take him home and he is so ok with that.he is very difficult when it comes to staying at the church.
Hi Jady! My young daughter (she is almost 2 and a half) hits constantly her sister (she is 10 months old) whenever she can even she knows hitting is bad. She's extremely jelous. The only thing I do when she does this I take the oldest one from that place and I explain to her that hitting is bad. But I don't now any example of boundaries in this case. Could you help me, please?
Question! What happens when one sibling is behaving and doing what I ask but the other one is not listening and rebelling to my instructions when going out. Do I leave the place and have the other sibling suffer the consequences too? How can I explain this to the well behaved sibling. Especially if the play date is for the well behaved child in this case. My 4 year old is being very well behaved lately and I’m having more challenges with my 2 yr old that’s why I ask. Thanks! I’m also very pregnant so it’s so hard to manage the 2 yr old strong willed rebellion.
this happened to me I had to take away the park playtime for one misbehaving child but I think the ones who behaved will try to encourage the misbehaved one to do what’s right so they all can go to the park. I have 5 littles so it’s hard to do or maybe just have the misbehaving one sit on the park bench and watch the others enjoy their park time.
Hey Jady. I know this video is a little older, but I have a question/need. I love all this advice so I wonder what I could do in a situation where we are home and the misbehaving starts when we have a guest here (whether it be a family member or a friend). My oldest son tries to lazily blow throw his chores, get crazy running off, and eats a lot more junk food (which she brings here) when my MIL is here. He is almost 10. I will pull him aside and talk to him privately and he will tell me he will stop, but then he goes back and continues acting that way. She will invite herself to stay the night also. I have a hard time because she doesn't agree with discipline and tells me to ignore it.
Hi jady. would you please make a video about how to make our kids more friendly to each other, my older daughter who's 9 years old is always jealous of her younger brother who's is 6 years old and treat him badly which makes me out of my mind most of the time
My kids are jealous of each other too. Ages 9 and 8. If 1 has something the other feels as though they should also. And if they didnt then theres a big issue.
Hi Jady. Can you please make a video about Autism and activities to help then engage.
My kid at home does everything opposite or what she knws what is right ... coughs in my face , takes leaves off tree n looks at me , i can go on and on .. im losing it Jady :/
Hi Jade! Thank you for making this video. Do you apply the same with your 2 year old or is this only done with your older children? Also what do you do if your 2 year old just runs off and they think that once you follow them they think your playing but in reality you just concern they can run off in harms way when your outside. Any advise for that? I want to let my daughter be a child without having to be that parent that is constantly nagging but at times I do not know what is the best way to react to certain situations.
I would have them strapped in a stroller at all times for safety. And only take them out in an enclosed space like a park with a fence or play room. My son used to be like that when he was young about 1-3. It was very stressful. When he got older he finally understood that safety matters as I’d talk about it all the time. He’s 6 now and very safe and does not ever run off.
I have five children. I'm nervous my 4 year old is autistic. Just adding that because I've been working with him but it's hard to make progress. Do you have idea's for teaching the dangers of out side without. I'd like to make being outside more enjoyable for him and the family. I don't want to worry he's going to run into the road or just walk away if I turn my back to check on my two year old.
Let your child watch a child friendly road safety video.
How can I give a one year old consequences I don’t think she’d understand, she’s really acting out and I know that’s normal around this time ( tantrums ) I don’t know what to do for her I just tell her no and explain to her why I said no and redirect her … 🤷🏽♀️😪 she still throws tantrums
Nice tips 👍
Hey, jady I wants to receive videos through email but link you given in description box ,it's not opening plz help
Having an autistic 5 year old with ADHD and is incredibly defiant is like 3 kids in 1....but it's because he feels like he really has no control that he fights for control. Its easy to forget because it looks like blatant disrespect. Its not.
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Love ur chaneel❤️
Thank you for not supporting spanking! As a Christian mother, this is not a common belief that I run across.