Visiting The Grave Of My High School Teacher Who Died In Jail!

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  • @angeliqueherygers6083
    @angeliqueherygers6083 9 місяців тому +71

    You can hear the emotion in your voice when you found your teacher's grave. Glad you found him.❤

  • @dawnmroz2627
    @dawnmroz2627 9 місяців тому +61

    I’m glad he has a nice grave stone. It says son so obviously his parents loved and hopefully supported him. ❤

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +6

      I agree and I was thinking the same thing Dawn!

    • @ginaharden2111
      @ginaharden2111 9 місяців тому +6

      ....idk, it should have said "beloved son, husband, and father."....and if he had a sibling- brother....in that year, it may have been a surprise to them as well. A family member or a friend of the family may have some insight on this XO

  • @ilanarhian
    @ilanarhian 9 місяців тому +72

    The poor man probably felt sure he would never be hired as a teacher again 😞 I believe even now it can be difficult for gay teachers because of idiots who think they are paedophiles. So sad 😞

    • @ChrisW-17
      @ChrisW-17 9 місяців тому +14

      It really is disgusting how a certain segment of society thinks we should erase 50 years of progress.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +12

      Yes, very sad but true! 🙁

    • @stephenwallis3433
      @stephenwallis3433 9 місяців тому +5

      People should be able to talk about what they are into not just gay people but all people cross dressed I find the same thing in my life I am not gay but I am into bdsm the same I can’t talk about it I love that life but can’t talk to anyone about it is cost me 5 relationships but I me but like you I can’t change ever that was a good down load today the first time I can understand you

  • @mr.nibbles2369
    @mr.nibbles2369 9 місяців тому +37

    You are a class act creating a memorial page, I love it

  • @maryturko6490
    @maryturko6490 9 місяців тому +29

    Thank you for remembering him, Steve. This is a sad story of injustice.

  • @lawrente
    @lawrente 9 місяців тому +43

    Hey Steve, thanks for your efforts in locating your teacher. Growing up, I knew two people who were gay who were brutally murdered. Recently, I created their Find A Grave Memorial pages. Both of their murders were committed in the 1980's. So, thanks for doing this search and subsequent video. As always, I love your channels! Troy!

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +5

      Hi Troy, OMG, I’m so sorry to hear that. Thank you for mentioning them here and for making her find a grave memorial pages. If you want to share their names, I’m sure many others on this channel would want to visit their memorial pages and remember them there. If so, please share it in a new comment. Are usually don’t see replies to my replies in the comment section. Thanks! 💙🏳️‍🌈

    • @Kimteach2011
      @Kimteach2011 9 місяців тому +5

      Did you happen to grow up in North Georgia? There were a couple that was killed in the 1980s. An older professor and his younger lover. No one in the community wants to talk about them.

  • @rdo1231
    @rdo1231 8 місяців тому +3

    Bless you, Steve. This was wonderfully done. Thank you for posting this.

  • @susansmith4112
    @susansmith4112 9 місяців тому +24

    What a sad story! But so important this story be told. Thank You Steve! May his soul RIP.💕💕

  • @judd442009
    @judd442009 9 місяців тому +32

    Steve! Your persistence in trying to locate a grave site is remarkable. Thank you for your video about your high school teacher who lived a life of desperation. His story is a sad reminder of the way American society has mistreated one of its minorities.

  • @ednagreen62
    @ednagreen62 9 місяців тому +33

    Everyone deserves humanity. You don't have to like someone or agree with them. But as the saying goes "No man is an island."

  • @tartantexan007
    @tartantexan007 9 місяців тому +15

    I applaud your commitment to finding these graves for yourself and others. I’m not gay myself, but have many gay friends/ acquaintance’s. A school friend of mine took his own life back in the 80’s because he was forced to come out by a spurned boyfriend. We lived in a small town and although it was quite accepting of most, his Asian family could ‘t accept it. I often think of him. We weren’t close friends, but he also worked with my best friend after he left school and became a hairdresser. It makes me so sad that people put so much effort into hate, when it’s much easier to love. ❤

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +6

      Hi Tartan, thank you for sharing the memory of your friend / acquaintance with us and helping to keep his memory alive. It’s extra sad to me when families reject their own children. Now THAT should be illegal! 🥲

  • @SuperYooshii
    @SuperYooshii 8 місяців тому +4

    As a 32 year old closeted gay teacher at a high school, this video brought me to tears. I was just thinking about how tired I am and how life has just been so hard. Being a teacher these days is rough, but I would like to think I’m making a positive impact even if there is no validation at this point.
    I often have passing thoughts of, “If I die today, would anyone visit my grave? I don’t have a spouse, children of my own, and my parents are getting along in their years.”
    Seeing you visit your teacher’s grave, even 50 years later, has really given me a feeling of peace and reassurance. I just need to do the best I can today and not take anything for granted.
    Thanks for sharing your story and being a light in today’s world.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  8 місяців тому +3

      Thank you for sharing this with us YS. I’m sad to hear that in 2024, teachers still need to stay in the closet for their own safety. 🙁 i’m sure you are touching and changing the lives of many of your students, in positive ways, that you may never know about. 😊👍

  • @donnerdonner315
    @donnerdonner315 9 місяців тому +15

    This is WONDERFUL Steve! Such a great tribute to remind everyone we all had a gay teacher in our life...whether you knew it or not! And guess what....they were usually the BEST teacher you had! Mine sure was...God bless you Mr. Titone...Las Palmas Junior High Social Studies teacher 1976-1977 in Covina CA! He was the most fun, creative, and engaging teacher I ever had! I heard years ago he passed away, I believe during tbe AIDS pandemic in the 80's....very heartbreaking! I've never forgotten him. Thank you Steve for reminding us all that we as humans need to really show kindness to one another! Straight, Gay, Black, White, Male, Female, or however you identify....a human life is precious and should be celebrated!
    🏳️‍🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +2

      So beautifully said Donner! Thank you for sharing the memory of your teacher with us. it sounds like you were very lucky to have known him and had him as a teacher! I wonder if he’s buried at forest lawn in Covina Hills? 💙🏳️‍🌈

    • @donnerdonner315
      @donnerdonner315 9 місяців тому +2

      @steveinpalmspringsca I am not sure...anything is possible. I never thought to look him up. I should do that someday. I still trip out how we both grew up in the San Gabriel Valley area (you in Whittier and me in Covina) only a decade apart. It's a small world after all! 😆 Have a great weekend Steve...and say Hi! to Jim too!

    • @auraterry3548
      @auraterry3548 5 місяців тому

      So true❤

  • @RosemarieVillarreal-wh5kz
    @RosemarieVillarreal-wh5kz 9 місяців тому +17

    So horrible. I'm sorry you had to live like this. Much love.

  • @RockinStacy
    @RockinStacy 9 місяців тому +21

    Steve, you brought back some memories that I honestly forgot about. I had a gay female teacher in high school. And she took an incredible amount of harassment from the students. Her and her partner's house would get a barrage of sh*t on Hollows Eve. She of course never admitted that she was, for the same reasons as your teacher.
    I had her 9th and 10th grade. I remember her being under 5ft and she did have an attitude. But can you blame her? I know what it was like for her just from the dumb sh*t the students would pull on her. I don't know what it was like for her as far as the faculty situation went.
    It's sad to think of these things of the past. Unfortunately like you said, even today there's harassment towards gay people. Just look at the stories I've told you about my nephew alone.
    I just can't wrap my head around the injustices Steve. If you don't like something or someone in life, that's fine, that's your God given right. But don't hate and slander what or who you don't like. I honestly can't stand all this enraged hatred today.
    And thank you Marsha, for your help in this situation. Peace...

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +7

      Thank you for sharing this with us Stacy! Sadly there are just way too many stories like this out there from the past. And I’m sure there will continue to be stories like this until the end of time. Haters never stop hating. Boys never stop bullying. They just grow up and I get jobs where they can legally bully people! These days it seems like most of the boys become politicians! 😩

  • @chadglasner4755
    @chadglasner4755 9 місяців тому +11

    I knew punishment was severe up until the 1960's. I didn't realize it was that severe Steve. That's horrible! And I'm glad you're keeping his memory alive.

  • @ashleysadventures
    @ashleysadventures 9 місяців тому +10

    Saying a prayer for Daniel Littlefield. Thank you for sharing this man’s story ❤

  • @eileendaly13
    @eileendaly13 9 місяців тому +18

    In my youth one of my older work colleagues was obviously gay and a lived a quiet life with his mother.A lovely person but disliked by management for effeminate ways.He was sacked for a minor infringement.Ashamed to tell his mother he left for work at his usual time and went to a local park were he overdosed. I am so glad things have improved since then

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +4

      Thank you for sharing the story Eileen, and for keeping his memory alive. So many unnecessary tragedies like this caused by hateful people. 🥲💙

  • @Linda-in9ns
    @Linda-in9ns 9 місяців тому +14

    Thanks for your story. Have a great weekend Steve! ❤🙋🏼‍♀️

  • @Kimteach2011
    @Kimteach2011 9 місяців тому +6

    I really enjoyed this adventure. I'm sure your beloved teacher is smiling down on you. Thank you for sharing.

  • @andytaylor5476
    @andytaylor5476 9 місяців тому +7

    So sad and tragic. Thanks, Steve, for keeping the narrative/history alive about what it was like growing up gay in the 50's, 60s, 70s. I am your age, so I know, but it is good to be reminded. We can't afford to be complacent about our advances, and as you said, it seems like those who fight us are gaining traction and it's true. We cannot return to the days of living invthe closet. Anyway, nice that you were successful finding your teacher after all these years. Thank you

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +4

      Thank you Andy. Sadly most young gay people have no clue what it was like back then and take their freedoms for granted. Sadly those freedoms will probably be lost because when you don’t know or remember your history it just gets repeated! sadly, hateful people never stop hating. 🥲💙

  • @janetslicer3637
    @janetslicer3637 9 місяців тому +9

    You are very kind Steve. Such a merciless way to end his life with probably no one he could reach out to. Suicide is so devastating, I know, I am living it. I am very sorry. ♥️🙏🕯️

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +4

      Hi Janet, so sorry you are having to deal with this in a personal way. 🥲💙

  • @jackeason1537
    @jackeason1537 8 місяців тому +1

    This was strangely moving for me. I felt as if I came in touch with our Legion of the Lost from more difficult times. Thank You.

  • @cookingartguy2170
    @cookingartguy2170 9 місяців тому +7

    You can probably X this story by the tens of thousands. So tragic. So many lives ruined. Yes it was quite common back then to be totally harassed and I have had many friends who are a bit older than myself tell me exactly that. Very kind of you to honor and remember your teacher. Not completely related, but anybody who hasn't watched "The Times Of Harvey Milk" needs to see it, it won the Oscar as best documentary for that year. They touch upon this subject in that film.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +3

      Thanks for mentioning the documentary. It is excellent and I highly recommend it too! 👍

  • @NormaHird
    @NormaHird 9 місяців тому +7

    Steve.... as always this video has a very hidden, deep meaning. Whe I lived in Salt Lake City I marched in the first Stonewall Parade. All of my gay friends wore big hats and very large sunglasses. Well I marched behind the gay motorcycle gang. I carried a huge sign that said GAY AND PROUD. Although I am not gay I do respect every person to live free of harassment. Well, the next years parade had Nazis protesting. I wore tshirt that had the Israeli flag on it. To say the least my motorcycle friends assisted me in putting the Nazis in place.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +1

      Wow, Norma, you are awesome and very brave! Thank you for sharing this with us and for being such a wonderful person! 😊👍

  • @ChrisW-17
    @ChrisW-17 9 місяців тому +5

    Thank you Steve for sharing this personal story. Love how you intertwine your personal search for a gravesite with LGBTQ history and how this affected your teacher's life and tragic death. ❤️

  • @lesliecarter1986
    @lesliecarter1986 9 місяців тому +3

    I am horrified Steve that people were treated so badly for no good reason. I never have understood what difference it makes/made what a persons sexual orientation was/is! Love is love no matter what or who you are! Thank you for bringing these injustices to all of our attention! I enjoy your videos so much, so please keep them coming.

  • @sharonobryan9713
    @sharonobryan9713 9 місяців тому +7

    You're right. He probably would have lost his livlihood by that arrest. It was a sure be that if people found out you were gay, you would be persecuted and probably prosecuted. I was a little girl, but remember, we were taught to be so afraid of gay people. Always seemed unreasonable. Still does.
    It's heartbreaking to think we all lost this man, who was probably a great positive influence on so many young people, for such stupidity.

  • @RosemarieVillarreal-wh5kz
    @RosemarieVillarreal-wh5kz 9 місяців тому +10

    You will never be forgotten.

  • @sallykohorst8803
    @sallykohorst8803 9 місяців тому +7

    Yes finding graves seems so hard to find them. You sure have alot of patience enjoy your videos alot.

  • @jackiemarx3312
    @jackiemarx3312 9 місяців тому +2

    Thank you for trying to keep his memory alive. God Bless you, Steve ❤

  • @wandahall4435
    @wandahall4435 9 місяців тому +8

    Thanks for posting ❤❤❤ 😮😮😮😊😊😊 Steve

  • @bethtyree6346
    @bethtyree6346 9 місяців тому +9

    Thank you for telling his story

  • @dsinavich5141
    @dsinavich5141 9 місяців тому +2

    Hi Steve...so sad your teacher had such a sad life with discrimination against him. Glad you found him and paid your respects. I am sure you were his favorite student and he knows you grew up to be the kind , generous, man that you are . Take care. Deborah 🇨🇦🙏❤️

  • @pegschwalbach2500
    @pegschwalbach2500 9 місяців тому +2

    I'm so happy for you that you found him. And I'm so proud of you for making his "find a grave" entry. God bless you, my friend.❤😊

  • @bwkeve3876
    @bwkeve3876 8 місяців тому +1

    My dad did the funeral of the Jenny Jones murder victim after the people in his church refused, and he is buried actually very close to my parents in the same cemetery. I’m glad you were able to find your teacher.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  8 місяців тому +2

      Thanks for sharing this with us Eve. There are so many awful people in this world who pretend to be religious! 🥲

  • @DorisVoerster
    @DorisVoerster 9 місяців тому +4

    Bless you, Steve. You are a thoughtful, caring man 💜

  • @shosmyth1454
    @shosmyth1454 9 місяців тому +4

    Steve you Always have the Best Stories! And I noticed your teacher’s grave only says Son? Not Husband and Father. May he rest in eternal Peace!! 🌺🙏

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +1

      I noticed that too Sho! I’m glad to know that his parents cared about him! 👍

  • @ilanarhian
    @ilanarhian 9 місяців тому +9

    And I just left a flower on his new Findagrave memorial.

    • @ChrisW-17
      @ChrisW-17 9 місяців тому +3

      Same here. Everyone deserves to be remembered.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +2

      Thank you Ileana. That is so sweet of you! 😊👍🌹

    • @ilanarhian
      @ilanarhian 9 місяців тому +2

      @@ChrisW-17 Definitely! I do that sometimes after listening to true crime podcasts, I look up the victim and if they are on there I leave a flower.

  • @danielday100
    @danielday100 9 місяців тому +2

    it's so sad
    What an unfair world
    You really moved me, what a nice gesture on your part
    I'm not a religious person but I believe he knows you're thinking about him and you came to visit him ❤️
    Thank you

  • @bethtyree6346
    @bethtyree6346 9 місяців тому +8

    You are a sweet guy Steve learn so much from you

  • @sallywilliams5444
    @sallywilliams5444 9 місяців тому +2

    What a terrible tragedy. I am glad you remembered him and will create a memorial for him. I have done that for several classmates.

  • @brianb9544
    @brianb9544 5 місяців тому

    So glad you found your teacher’s grave ! Also glad his parents placed a headstone. Thanks for honoring him. Summer of 69 was scary for this 13 year old with all that Manson mess happening . I hope your teacher is at peace .

  • @thejesser501
    @thejesser501 9 місяців тому

    Heart of Gold! Keeping his memory alive is an awesome! Thanks for sharing this heartleft video. I'm sure your teacher is happy you remembered and visited him. ❤

  • @danielmkubacki
    @danielmkubacki 8 місяців тому +2

    That was so sweet of you to visit him.

  • @pattibrooks1907
    @pattibrooks1907 9 місяців тому +1

    Happy you found your teachers grave Steve ! I need to get caught up on my videos as I am way behind and will be more behind as I want to lie down by 1PM and it is 12.31 PM

  • @danideesh
    @danideesh 9 місяців тому +2

    Hi Steve, how are you? Very sad story about your teacher. I feel so bad about what happened to him. I’m glad you were able to find him.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +1

      Thanks Dani!

    • @danideesh
      @danideesh 9 місяців тому

      ⁠it’s funny that you should call me Dani. That’s my nickname. You may address me as that, anytime. As you know, Dani is short for Danielle. That’s my actual name. Much love to you, Steve.

  • @lauracaldwell3243
    @lauracaldwell3243 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for telling his story. He would be so honored to know that he is still remembered today.

  • @aprilwine9157
    @aprilwine9157 9 місяців тому +1

    Steve this video definitely speaks to your compassion,honour and well...sweetness of your charactor. Sounds like he was a great teacher and now is recognized for it. For the most part it would have never occurred to my generation to discriminate against race, same-sex relationships or religion. I m confident I instilled these thoughts in my children. However it s sad to see hate is infecting society once again even in my country. Are we moving backwards? Let's all move forward with inclucivity and acceptance :) love your videos

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Thank you so much April. And thank you for your positive thoughts and attitude. The world could definitely use more people like you in it! 😊👍

  • @sjrrhd
    @sjrrhd 8 місяців тому

    Thanks you & bless for this effort. It is so important that we remember our Martyrs who suffered from homophobia.

  • @shosmyth1454
    @shosmyth1454 9 місяців тому +1

    Steve I sure hope Marsha gets certified in Genealogy. That has always interested me but I don’t know where to even begin? Thank you again for your hard work. 🌺

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      I hope so too Sho. She is very good at it. You definitely need a lot of patience, because it can be very frustrating trying to track down some of this information.

  • @deniseholt2198
    @deniseholt2198 9 місяців тому +1

    Such a sad story 😢 Thank you for sharing Steve

  • @lee-annelandownunder4731
    @lee-annelandownunder4731 9 місяців тому +1

    Omg Steve what a tragic story he must have felt so alone - thank you for honoring him xxx

  • @teresapaskell5459
    @teresapaskell5459 9 місяців тому +2

    A very heartfelt video. Thankyou ❤️

  • @meghananderson279
    @meghananderson279 8 місяців тому

    Very heartbreaking story. I am so glad you were able to tell us about him and find his grave ❤️

  • @mariaday712
    @mariaday712 9 місяців тому +2

    I'm glad you found your teacher. I had to laugh at the hair styles in your yearbook. I think they call it "Helmet Hair" Thank you for sharing your story. I wish things could have been different for your teacher. Take care.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      I know, right? It’s hard to believe that hair styles like that were considered fashionable! 😳😄 on the other hand, some of the hairstyle today is our even more out there and hard to believe lol! 😆

  • @dennisleporte2327
    @dennisleporte2327 8 місяців тому

    I'm glad I stumbled across your blog. I'm trying to learn who to find people I remember from awhile ago that have passed 5 0 yrs plus. I too am gay out for about 30 yrs. This sort of thing can give you closure. Thanks for everything ! I've subscribed ! xo

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  8 місяців тому +1

      I’m glad you found my channel too Dennis. Thanks for subscribing and I hope the video was helpful. 👍

  • @brstoffel
    @brstoffel 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for your moving tribute, Steve. And thank you for creating a memorial for Daniel on Find a Grave. You are very kind.

  • @alichtenwalter
    @alichtenwalter 9 місяців тому

    I am glad that you found the grave. Thank you for the time you are looking for graves. The dead need to be remembered .

  • @andreahoffman2449
    @andreahoffman2449 6 місяців тому

    Wow! This hit hard & so beyond sad! But, Im so glad u found your teachers grave. Really chilling what he went thru . I can only imagine! It brought me to tears😭
    Seriously.
    Your videos are really so so good! ❤❤

  • @melissareid640
    @melissareid640 9 місяців тому +1

    I am so sorry for your loss Steve and for the loss of so many beautiful souls so needlessly. May they Rest In Paradise! To be found again loved and remembered. Prayers for him and his family.

  • @1aikane
    @1aikane 9 місяців тому

    Thanks for such a thoughtful narration and respectful discussion. I hope this fellow can know of your visit

  • @ernestgutierrezjr4149
    @ernestgutierrezjr4149 9 місяців тому

    Like my Dad use to say LIVE and LET LIVE. I will always remember this. Great that you keep his memory alive! Great job Steve.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Thanks Ernest. If everyone lived by that motto the world would be a much better place! 😊👍

  • @grandmama05
    @grandmama05 9 місяців тому +2

    So glad you found your high school teacher Steve.❤

  • @jaimemontes3775
    @jaimemontes3775 9 місяців тому

    This was a very touching segment. I thank you for all your information...

  • @conniephillips8217
    @conniephillips8217 9 місяців тому +2

    Oh steve, how well I remember those days! Well it was something that was not spoken of, even suspecting someone was gay could be a death sentence. While living in a small town, a young man all of a sudden disappeared. While the family and loved ones feverishly searched for him , he was never found. Absolutely no one else even bother to search for him. Years later, I found out that he was accused of being gay. By just being accused of such a thing was enough for a death sentence. Both of his parents passed away within a couple years and I'm sure it was from a brokenheart!

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Omg Connie, how awful. Thank you for sharing his story and his memory with us here. 🥲💙

  • @shayevondekempt8566
    @shayevondekempt8566 9 місяців тому

    Steve i didn't know you had another channel. I am so happy this popped up in my feed. I love the graveyard channel. I so enjoy you and your videos. 😊☺👏

  • @tomterrific4377
    @tomterrific4377 9 місяців тому +1

    I was a high school senior in 1969 and I came out 2 years later. I was in several NY rights marches. People don’t realize there were Gay Rights demonstrations beginning on July 4th 1965. It was a small group of women and men in front of Independence Hall in Philadelphia. They were there every year at least until 1969. There’s a PA state historic marker across the street commemorating it. Most of my Gay friends who have passed away chose to be cremated. Some of them had their urns buried in their parent’s graves. Since they had no descendants they didn’t see the need for a marker. One friend from Colorado had his ashes scattered in the Rocky Mountains as did his parents and brothers. As for your friend being buried alone the reason may be religious. If his family were Catholic or several other Christian denominations committing Suicide would have barred him from being buried in consecrated ground where his family would be. I’m pretty sure that’s no longer the case but this was 50 years ago.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Hi Tom, thanks for the reminder about those very early gay rights pioneers. And thanks for sharing about your friends choices too! 👍

  • @Mmoose712
    @Mmoose712 5 днів тому

    I'm sorry for what your teacher had to go through. I must say, I'm very happy to hear you have a daughter and it sounds like you both have a good relationship.

  • @dan56273
    @dan56273 9 місяців тому +3

    I looked up the memorial you created on Find A Grave and noticed you still go by your old channel name "Visiting Gravesites with Steve" so what made you change to "The Graveyard Channel'? on You Tube?

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +1

      Hi Dan, I need to change that. Thanks for the reminder. The reason I change the channel name is because now that I am retired and much older, i’m not visiting grave sites as much as I used to. Sometimes I just do tributes on my graveyard channel, not gravesite visits. And at some point I’m sure I won’t be able to visit gravesites at all, but I can always still share video tributes and other related videos they don’t involve actually visiting the gravesites myself. So I guess I was just planning ahead. 👍

  • @rextrek
    @rextrek 9 місяців тому +7

    6st Good Morning Steve ......Thanks for the story - tho very sad..... I like you growing up in the 60's/70's knew I was gay as well..and yes, didn't know -WHat it was- just knew I was different.... xo ;) ....as far as nowadays ... as a Gay Boomer I could Give an F what people think.....they can go to Hell

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Hi Rex, I agree and if there is one that’s definitely where they are going for purposely tormenting so many truly decent people Who were just minding their own business and who wanted to live their true lives!

  • @joshuawaltz9484
    @joshuawaltz9484 8 місяців тому

    I've always hated bigotry and homophobic types of people. My great uncle came out years ago and I've always supported his choice. Glad you found him Steve. Such a great story.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  8 місяців тому

      Hi Joshua, it sounds like your uncle is lucky to have you and vice versa! 😊👍

  • @sylviamiller9047
    @sylviamiller9047 8 місяців тому

    😢 thanks for the video and sharing this wonderful man and his story ❤️

  • @KarenBaker616263
    @KarenBaker616263 8 місяців тому

    Someone is taking good care of his headstone. It is either new or has been refurbished and sealed. Our loved ones live on in our hearts. RIP Daniel

  • @loristone6493
    @loristone6493 9 місяців тому

    Steve thank you for sharing this story about your teacher. And when you found his grave site hearing it your voice gave me chills. I agree with you a 100% that we seem to be going backwards in time regarding the rights for the gay community and with Roe VS wade being reversed is an incredibly scary time for women. Thank you again Steve

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому +1

      It’s beyond shocking what has happened to our country when it comes to women and minorities. When I listen to the news it sounds like they are referring to Afghanistan, not the USA! 😳🥲

  • @jefflowry4896
    @jefflowry4896 8 місяців тому

    Glad you were a le to find him. Thank you for sharing it with us.
    My 8th grade English teacher was Ken Eaton. You can look his story up.😊

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  8 місяців тому +1

      Hi Jeff, I just looked him up. I had never heard about his story before. Thank you for sharing his memory with us. I’m glad his two killers got life sentences. That must’ve been pretty shocking for you as an eighth grader. 🥲

    • @jefflowry4896
      @jefflowry4896 8 місяців тому

      @steveinpalmspringsca
      Thanks for the reply Steve. Years ago, I walked into the living room where my wife was watching Oprah. Mr. Eston's dsughter was the guest - sharing his story. I had him 9 years befor he was killed. He and his wife were just getting their divorce. One day his wife brought her to v8sit him . She wouls have been about eight then. His was my last class of t he day.

  • @wlwal1
    @wlwal1 9 місяців тому +2

    Such a sad story to hear, a very well known teacher taking his life.
    I remember in the 80's, living in Silverlake, being raided at a Gay bar! The police and fire department had all of us come out and was counted for overcrowding, too many people inside!
    It was all not needed, but wanted to cause harm!

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Thank you for sharing this with us W! So sorry to hear that you were subjected to this, even in the 1980s! 🙁

  • @jackiekonrad859
    @jackiekonrad859 9 місяців тому

    Hi Steve so glad you found his grave ! What a sad story it’s horrible actually and to think he took his life . 😢

  • @CR-ru1kw
    @CR-ru1kw 8 місяців тому +1

    😢💔😞💔Your teacher must be so elated that you even remembered him…such an INJUSTICE 😣💔😣.

  • @shiliela_rhymes_with_delilah
    @shiliela_rhymes_with_delilah 9 місяців тому

    I just looked it up on Find a Grave. Very nice page that you added. 🙂

  • @Ettoredipugnar
    @Ettoredipugnar 9 місяців тому

    Very moving video Steve . Thank you ❤

  • @jeanettedeblois7878
    @jeanettedeblois7878 8 місяців тому

    I am happy you found the grave site. So much stigma for no reason at all.

  • @stevetournay6103
    @stevetournay6103 9 місяців тому

    Good on you, Steve, for retrieving this teacher's memory. (Good choice of first name, too.)😁 Fortunately nothing like what you describe happened to the gay teacher my brother (arrow-straight, BTW) had long ago, who was more or less directly responsible for my brother's eventual choice of a career in music. I sometimes wonder whether I'd have attempted to go more into music myself had I encountered that teacher, but we were several years apart and that teacher started at that school after I left...

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Thanks for sharing this with us Steve. Glad to hear that your brother was fortunate enough to have such a great teacher! 😊👍

  • @SuperBoomtown
    @SuperBoomtown 8 місяців тому

    Hi Steve - I really enjoy your channel and your stories. I was looking up videos re: Presidents on 'President's Day' and found your stories re: Buchanan and Van Buren. You are a good man for looking up and finding your high school teacher.

  • @binkeycole6955
    @binkeycole6955 9 місяців тому +1

    Hi Steve love your channel
    I was married in 1974 and my husband was gay. We divorced after 7 years. He ended up committing suicide. He was a very unhappy man 😢

  • @mnoliberal7335
    @mnoliberal7335 8 місяців тому

    I worked at a newspaper once upon a time. Back in the 60s & 70s newspapers in smallish towns commonly listed names of people arrested and their charges--mostly public intoxication, retail theft and "disorderly conduct, prowling and loitering" as catch all terms.
    Never read an article that listed any charge indicating a homosexuality related morals charge. I have worked in jails (medical in the late '90s) and jail suicides are common among strait and gay prisoners. It was my job to evaluate people for suicide risk and they usually indicated various reasons, but mostly booze and life "totally messed-up," or "f-d up again". Never had anyone say they wanted to do themselves in out of embarrassment over a gay arrest--never even booked anyone into jail for such a charge, but can't rule that out in the '60s where you lived, only for the Midwest.
    A lot of people go w/o a headstone because of the expense but your teacher has a nice-ish stone, which is obviously maintained. That teacher had people who loved him (his folks-and you) enough to memorialize him. Maybe his folks didn't live near or have a family plot. Most don't.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  8 місяців тому

      Hi M, very interesting. Thanks for sharing this with us! I never knew the newspapers listed the names of people for other crimes too. Glad to hear that it wasn’t just gay people being singled out for that kind of treatment. Sounds like that would’ve been a very difficult job.

  • @justinecarter3064
    @justinecarter3064 6 місяців тому

    so glad you found his grave steve, i wonder if the bar is still open

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  6 місяців тому

      Hi Justine, that’s a good question. Maybe somebody watching this video will know and will share with us in the comments. 👍

  • @ldhawthorne
    @ldhawthorne 8 місяців тому

    Steve- he is smiling down on you so much!!! How great would it be if his daughter would someday find this video and reach out to you? ❤❤

  • @sandrawood7565
    @sandrawood7565 9 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing this story.

  • @williambill5172
    @williambill5172 9 місяців тому +3

    So sad...after all that effort I hope you were able to take some time to turn off the camera, forget about us, and have some quiet time with your teacher. Rest in peace, Mr. Littlefield.

  • @SantiagoJuan-o3b
    @SantiagoJuan-o3b 9 місяців тому

    It was so wonderful that you had found Mr.Littlefield grave site, growing up in the 60's were definitely crazy..

  • @Dubyel
    @Dubyel 8 місяців тому

    Back during the 90s, when most of my social group died, one of my friends had his ashes divided among his friends so as they traveled, they could leave a little bit of him in all the places he never got to go.

  • @swartsh83
    @swartsh83 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing your story and the story of your teacher. I grew up with a gay uncle whom I’ve seen the prejudices firsthand. I’m still close to him to this day and he still quite reserved about being gay due to the world still not realizing that gay people are human, their not sub creatures who are out to prey on straight people trying to make them gay, or have some kind of disease you can get. I never understood why people could be so hateful and cruel it breaks my heart. My uncle is the same age as you and still has that mindset of don’t ask don’t tell. I truly believe if my uncle didn’t have the love and support of his siblings and niece and nephews he may of done the same as your teacher who didn’t get to have that privilege of unconditional love. 😢

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  8 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for sharing this with us. It sounds like your uncle is very lucky to have you in his life and vice versa! 👍

  • @Europa1749
    @Europa1749 9 місяців тому +3

    Poor soul. He probably knew he would be outed to everyone, including his employer. Why can't people live and let live. It's the 21st century and there's still a lot of people who are cruel and close minded about those who are not exactly like them.

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Sadly, Hateful people never stop hating. And bullies just grow up and get jobs where they can continue to legally bully people. It seems that most of them now become politicians! 😩

  • @danielguy1963
    @danielguy1963 9 місяців тому

    Pretty cool Steve to be able to look back on your Yearbooks. We don't sort of have Yearbooks in Australia. We usually get just a yearly Class photograph with one or two Teachers on each flank. Maybe some Schools here have them? but I've never seen one during my Son's education. Nice vlog👍

    • @theretiredlifewithsteve
      @theretiredlifewithsteve  9 місяців тому

      Hi Daniel, that’s interesting to know. I just assume that everybody everywhere had high school yearbooks. At least you get a class picture. As always, thanks for sharing this. 👍

  • @lisad476
    @lisad476 9 місяців тому

    Wonderful..I'm glad you found him and rembered him

  • @jenniferasher8807
    @jenniferasher8807 8 місяців тому

    I’m so glad you found him.

  • @louisnealon6811
    @louisnealon6811 8 місяців тому

    What a tragedy! My heart breaks for him. He must have been absolutely terrified. Those were horrible days for gay people then. And it's not so long ago.

  • @gladams55
    @gladams55 9 місяців тому

    Steve thank you so much for telling your teacher’s story. It made me. Ry that we continue to be so cruel to people who just want to live their lifelike everyone else. This story shouldn’t have happened but needs to be remembered so we learn this isn’t who we want to be.

  • @Rotnbully
    @Rotnbully 9 місяців тому

    Great story Steve and good job - little like finding a needle in a haystack !