Thank you for all you do Kati. I have been listening to your videos for a long time and one of the ones I just watched allowed me to bring up a very challenging thing for me. I avoid the two hardest topics for me which are trauma and grief. My therapist very kindly called me out for trying to avoid the topic of avoiding the challenging topics. Your videos have helped me to put words to things I’ve been through and deal with daily and to find the words to express it to my therapist. I know that upcoming sessions are going to be very challenging but we grow through what we go through and that being uncomfortable in therapy means that you are being challenged to keep moving forward
Thank you for this. I do have a question-I have a lot of trauma from early childhood (witness dv in home, sa when very young into teenage years, issues with relationship with father, etc)....and what i realize is that 1. I do not remember much of my childhood. It comes in spurts and flashes... my younger brother and sister remember so much more about our childhood than I do despite being older. It feels really foggy and even now i have issues recalling things and 2. I hear many people discuss or speak on your inner child or going back to the person before trauma... but i don't remember who that person is... i don't remember anything before trauma and don't rememeber much surrounding the years of trauma... How do I get in touch with my inner child or my "true self" when I never knew who that person was and have issues even remembering anything (good or bad) about my childhood?
I'm struggling with my current therapist. I left therapy after we had an insurance payment dispute. I made sure she was paid and she was but my therapist kept bringing it up every session and I felt like she was blaming me for the fact she didn't know what insurance contracts she had. I came back 3 months later after a crisis and at first she was very welcoming and I felt safe. By the third session I felt like she didn't like me, didn't want me in there, like I was inconveniencing her. It made me feel terrible and triggered a bunch of wounds.
One of the best sessions I ever had was when I "broke my therapist." When I first showed up, one of my issues was that I felt broken (PTSD). We were doing a progress check and I blurted out that I don't feel broken any more (tearing up while typing right now). I started crying and my therapist couldn't hold back, she started crying too. She kept apologizing for losing it, but she was so happy for me. I am currently in my Senior year of my BS in psychology about to start my Masters to become a therapist myself.
Hello good afternoon or morning everyone wherever you are in the world 🌎 so good to be here in the comments again i hope people are ok and that they are getting the help and support they need snd deserve care +love and prayers to everyone 🙏🏻❤😊
Hi Nicky, thanks for your lovely and encouraging comment. I am doing well today. I hope you're getting the care and support you need as well. I'm sending hugs your way. 🤗
@@LL-yy6mn hello and thank you for your reply back nice to meet you I'm glad my comment was helpful also thank you for saying hope I am getting the help and support I need sadly I am Not I haven't been in therapy for over I think about 2 years and I don't have a part time therapist or psychologist all I have is my medication for my depression and social anxiety x
I actually can work a lot better with a therapist of the opposite sex - even / especially on those sensitive topics. Plus, I prefer it if she's around my age yet in the end it's more important that we click on a therapeutic level and she's good in treating people like me (which is not easy I guess).
Hey Kati! I hope you see this. I just had a question. What do you do when your therapist is your Favorite Person? I can give you some background information, but I'm guessing you can assume at least one diagnosis from my question.
We definitely don't have firm client boundaries like we should. I bring her coffee and we exchange gifts during holidays. I view her not just as my therapist, but more as a mother/sister/best friend all wrapped into one. I know this is wrong and horrible. I know I shouldn't do this. But, on the flip side, she is one of the only reasons I'm still alive. The other reasons are my two cats. But I know she will be retiring soon, within the next 5 years. And I will also be losing my cats before that because they are both ill with kidney disease and don't have long left. I can't handle both. And I don't want another therapist. I can't go through everything with another therapist. I've been pushing her away, and she knows why. But it's so hard to leave my FP. It's for her own good, though. What should I do about this? What happens? My therapist before her was also my FP and she left me without a word, without saying anything, and I don't know why. It still hurts and triggers me to this day. I just don't want to lose her. But I feel that's the best for her. Thank you for everything you do if you do ever end up reading this. You are amazing.
@@BriannaElmore-n7y mine broke confidentiality so I knew a year in advance during covid and she’d show me recording our sessions on her phone🫠 low key was actually mean to me looking back too
Needed this so much 😭 I most likely have impending doom disorder I know people in my family have it worse but I often do lose hope when it all gets to overwhelming
It doesn't matter if others have it worse. Your feelings are still valid and you matter just as much as them. Their experience is theirs and your experience is yours.
Can you please make a video addressing family’s of people with complex ptsd & why & how they can’t just get over it & how it’s not necessarily the emotions/memories but how it impacts every aspect of your life & how they’re only making it worse & like the type of shit you don’t say to them & why or that they’ll have to set a boundary & remove them from your life. I’m a trafficking survivor, i have stockholm syndrome & all sorts of shit going on & my entire family is fucked up & im so sick of it but im so alone idk what else to do i have absolutely no support system & my entire family is constantly just nagging me on shit they know nothing about & arent capable of communicating or understanding & force me more into isolation because of the invalidation & being so misunderstood it’s all in my head i just need to go work & get over it & im immature & want attention im over dramatic & i have nothing to heal from or im healing wrong i’ve got my shit together except a license & car & it’s never fucking good enough for them so & when i get put on meds im a junky & now ive finally fucking had enough & im going to psych hospital tuesday & not telling anyone im leaving or contacting anyone while im in there this time & it’s gonna be a whole ordeal when i get out but idk what else to do i can’t handle it anymore & give it everything i got, this will be my 4th impatient stay since i was 18 & i honestly don’t know what im even fighting for anymore when everyone fights everything i do & treats me like a child or like im fucking worthless or incompetent for not being able to function the way the want me to or even i want to.
@XyzXyz-cd3kl. Hello I'm Nikki and I like meeting and chatting to new people in the comments I agree this podcast was just at the right time for me too😊
Toxic independence,,, isn’t it realistic for some people? You r so right that we don’t believe there will be someone show up for us. But if this is someone s life that people didn’t show up in their serious vulnerable moments…. ?
Hi Kati. Can you explain what emotional dysregulated means in mental health? Not sure if this pertains to my usual low moods (personality). Or does it pertains to a person extreme mood changes such as Bipolar Disorder? Thank you!
@katimorton. Hello good afternoon from Nikki this AKA podcast was right on time for me i always need to hear your soft calming voice kati and always good to see you i can definitely understand and relate to some people s questions you always have such good and supportive caring advice in your answers to people s questions you look beautiful aswell ❤😊🙏🏻
I cried during a celebration party with my Coworkers, when they wanted me to dance in front of everyone and a camera. I told my psychologist about it hoping to find the root cause, instead she kept telling me I should tell someone that I don't feel well and I don't want to participate. I told her I didn't feel unwell, or anxious, I felt dread instead and she said the same thing. I think I might stop seeing her soon.
I'm new to this channel and recently started to seek out mental health. I'm 62yo and thought I had all the marbles in one place. After a recent event, I feel like the marbles scattered everywhere. I have an appointment with a Psychologist in a week. This will be the first time I ever sought out help. I'm kinda nervous and not sure what to do or say.
I am hopeless because I was brought up in a hopeless and negative environment. The people I have around me right now offer very little support which led to my hopelessness.
Some good news after getting mad at my mom enough times and today the baby lost his mind when my mom was in the bathroom with her so I told her she only gets to blame herself I told her how he refuses to drink in order to avoid the bathroom and how he acts totally fine when he goes alone I called her a stoopid fa at the end of the text because that works better then screaming in my case She finally let the baby go alone but in the front door walks in my stoopid sister and ruins it by entering the bathroom but at least she called him a good big boy and how proud it made her Hes the size of a 4 year old and shes afraid he will fall into the toilet or something stoopid like that It seems like they will start letting him go alone like he wants my dad got it to this point by saying the baby acted totally fine when he went alone with him My dad stayed in the room over so the baby could always hear his voice when needed My getting mad seems like it finally got through a bit and the baby deciding to find ways to show his anger by throwing things or his newest to play with the toilet over use it so when my mom put him on it he tried to flush it or something over using it Thats what made my mom listen to me he never tried that tactic
My friend won’t tell anyone about what’s actually going on and how unstable they are and feel. How do I aid them seek help when they don’t want to be locked away?
Kati, you always talk about how we FEEL abandoned, or we FEEL unwanted, but what if its more than that? What if we actually WERE abandoned? What if we were TOLD we were unwanted? What if we wwre TOLD we were a burden? Can you talk on that instead of FEELING like we were unwanted?
At question 1 you forgot the most logical things: clients don't want to cry in therapy (at least the intensely version... so really crying), because some of the clients like me did this the last time, when I was fearing for my life, literally. Crying really badly is just a trigger of a flashback that I am likely going to die/get murdered... or it could be an a little weeker but still horrible flashback about when the client was crying the last time really bitterly. There was an other video where you also forgot completely the tough cases and were wondering why clients harm themselves after they got a positive compliment from a therapist.
The most common thing for males cis straight to wear silk female underwear i dont know why other then they say it keeps their stuff in place the best but i dont know why that is It might go back to the shakespear play stuff when males needed to play the female characters This came up on jimmys podcast once and most males said female silk underwear for the ones that comfyballs doesnt work for (a brand of male underwear)
I am the exact same way. I've been struggling since covid started. I am taking my meds, revisiting the tools my counselor taught me. However I can not come out of this worthless, hopelessness and panic attacks. I don't care to self help, exercise, etc. I could care less if I'm here or not.
@alli.mcdonald 3 steps forward 2 steps back my family extremely stoopid One of my cousins needed to redo a project a lot of times because her dad said something like if that were my project I would do it x way (the way she planned on doing it) since he said that she changed how she was going to do it Took her all night before she realized she should have stuck to what she orginally wanted to do and ignored that her dad was on the same page as her The abuse I also needed to put up with and without making that baby my responsibility I am trying to keep him from the trauma that happened to me
The baby is akso trying to figure out doors to be able to take himself but he cant quite figure out the door knobs yet or the locks Probably for the best at his age I knew how to pick them Open close and unlock the locked doors with different types of door locks as well (I think he turned 3 resently) I showed the lock picking to my sister as a prank at 4 but around 2-3 I started to play around with the doors and picked the locks pretty quickly with lollipops The doors at the vacation house my grandparents owned I also showed my cousins using a white key for that lock (it went to some zoo game) Pank ended up badly due to my oldest cousin I showed it to thinking pranking whoever went into that bathroom a good idea it was my dad) me and her ended up in tears I got blamed even though I was the youngest and nobody knew I showed the lock picking (the oldest cousin with the keys) She ended up in tears because I got blamed and the yelling that happened
@@alliwantisquiet you will find them they might be hidden behind bookshelves or something Never give up also try using a window as a door and think outside the box
We should be able to cry man or woman ‼️. We're supposed to be tough n eat shit n like it‼️‼️‼️‼️. Especially like when we're kids. Don't ever show weaknesses
Thank you for all you do Kati. I have been listening to your videos for a long time and one of the ones I just watched allowed me to bring up a very challenging thing for me. I avoid the two hardest topics for me which are trauma and grief. My therapist very kindly called me out for trying to avoid the topic of avoiding the challenging topics. Your videos have helped me to put words to things I’ve been through and deal with daily and to find the words to express it to my therapist. I know that upcoming sessions are going to be very challenging but we grow through what we go through and that being uncomfortable in therapy means that you are being challenged to keep moving forward
Thank you for this. I do have a question-I have a lot of trauma from early childhood (witness dv in home, sa when very young into teenage years, issues with relationship with father, etc)....and what i realize is that 1. I do not remember much of my childhood. It comes in spurts and flashes... my younger brother and sister remember so much more about our childhood than I do despite being older. It feels really foggy and even now i have issues recalling things and 2. I hear many people discuss or speak on your inner child or going back to the person before trauma... but i don't remember who that person is... i don't remember anything before trauma and don't rememeber much surrounding the years of trauma... How do I get in touch with my inner child or my "true self" when I never knew who that person was and have issues even remembering anything (good or bad) about my childhood?
I'm struggling with my current therapist. I left therapy after we had an insurance payment dispute. I made sure she was paid and she was but my therapist kept bringing it up every session and I felt like she was blaming me for the fact she didn't know what insurance contracts she had. I came back 3 months later after a crisis and at first she was very welcoming and I felt safe. By the third session I felt like she didn't like me, didn't want me in there, like I was inconveniencing her. It made me feel terrible and triggered a bunch of wounds.
One of the best sessions I ever had was when I "broke my therapist." When I first showed up, one of my issues was that I felt broken (PTSD). We were doing a progress check and I blurted out that I don't feel broken any more (tearing up while typing right now). I started crying and my therapist couldn't hold back, she started crying too. She kept apologizing for losing it, but she was so happy for me.
I am currently in my Senior year of my BS in psychology about to start my Masters to become a therapist myself.
Hello good afternoon or morning everyone wherever you are in the world 🌎 so good to be here in the comments again i hope people are ok and that they are getting the help and support they need snd deserve care +love and prayers to everyone 🙏🏻❤😊
Hi Nicky, thanks for your lovely and encouraging comment. I am doing well today. I hope you're getting the care and support you need as well. I'm sending hugs your way. 🤗
@@LL-yy6mn hello and thank you for your reply back nice to meet you I'm glad my comment was helpful also thank you for saying hope I am getting the help and support I need sadly I am Not I haven't been in therapy for over I think about 2 years and I don't have a part time therapist or psychologist all I have is my medication for my depression and social anxiety x
Are you here from the valley
@@ihartevil hello no I am from the united kingdom😊👋
@@nikkimckay860 thought you might be somebody who watches a certain gaming stream filmcow he ends his videos similar to how to typed that
I actually can work a lot better with a therapist of the opposite sex - even / especially on those sensitive topics. Plus, I prefer it if she's around my age yet in the end it's more important that we click on a therapeutic level and she's good in treating people like me (which is not easy I guess).
I hear you.
Hey Kati!
I hope you see this. I just had a question. What do you do when your therapist is your Favorite Person?
I can give you some background information, but I'm guessing you can assume at least one diagnosis from my question.
We definitely don't have firm client boundaries like we should. I bring her coffee and we exchange gifts during holidays. I view her not just as my therapist, but more as a mother/sister/best friend all wrapped into one.
I know this is wrong and horrible. I know I shouldn't do this. But, on the flip side, she is one of the only reasons I'm still alive. The other reasons are my two cats.
But I know she will be retiring soon, within the next 5 years. And I will also be losing my cats before that because they are both ill with kidney disease and don't have long left.
I can't handle both. And I don't want another therapist. I can't go through everything with another therapist. I've been pushing her away, and she knows why. But it's so hard to leave my FP. It's for her own good, though.
What should I do about this? What happens? My therapist before her was also my FP and she left me without a word, without saying anything, and I don't know why. It still hurts and triggers me to this day.
I just don't want to lose her. But I feel that's the best for her.
Thank you for everything you do if you do ever end up reading this. You are amazing.
@@BriannaElmore-n7y mine broke confidentiality so I knew a year in advance during covid and she’d show me recording our sessions on her phone🫠 low key was actually mean to me looking back too
Needed this so much 😭 I most likely have impending doom disorder I know people in my family have it worse but I often do lose hope when it all gets to overwhelming
It doesn't matter if others have it worse. Your feelings are still valid and you matter just as much as them. Their experience is theirs and your experience is yours.
My cortisol levels are alarming right now I can’t do this longterm
Can you please make a video addressing family’s of people with complex ptsd & why & how they can’t just get over it & how it’s not necessarily the emotions/memories but how it impacts every aspect of your life & how they’re only making it worse & like the type of shit you don’t say to them & why or that they’ll have to set a boundary & remove them from your life. I’m a trafficking survivor, i have stockholm syndrome & all sorts of shit going on & my entire family is fucked up & im so sick of it but im so alone idk what else to do i have absolutely no support system & my entire family is constantly just nagging me on shit they know nothing about & arent capable of communicating or understanding & force me more into isolation because of the invalidation & being so misunderstood it’s all in my head i just need to go work & get over it & im immature & want attention im over dramatic & i have nothing to heal from or im healing wrong i’ve got my shit together except a license & car & it’s never fucking good enough for them so & when i get put on meds im a junky & now ive finally fucking had enough & im going to psych hospital tuesday & not telling anyone im leaving or contacting anyone while im in there this time & it’s gonna be a whole ordeal when i get out but idk what else to do i can’t handle it anymore & give it everything i got, this will be my 4th impatient stay since i was 18 & i honestly don’t know what im even fighting for anymore when everyone fights everything i do & treats me like a child or like im fucking worthless or incompetent for not being able to function the way the want me to or even i want to.
Can you please do a video explaining imposter disorder? I know it's not in the DSM5, but i really think it leads to needless anxiety
The timing!! Thank you so much. ❤
@XyzXyz-cd3kl. Hello I'm Nikki and I like meeting and chatting to new people in the comments I agree
@XyzXyz-cd3kl. Hello I'm Nikki and I like meeting and chatting to new people in the comments I agree this podcast was just at the right time for me too😊
I honestly love this podcast:)
Toxic independence,,, isn’t it realistic for some people? You r so right that we don’t believe there will be someone show up for us. But if this is someone s life that people didn’t show up in their serious vulnerable moments…. ?
Another great podcast. ❤
Excellent advice ty
@nicolemarie1909. Hello I'm Nikki and I like meeting and chatting to new people in the comments I agree Kati had really good important advice 😊
Hi Kati. Can you explain what emotional dysregulated means in mental health? Not sure if this pertains to my usual low moods (personality). Or does it pertains to a person extreme mood changes such as Bipolar Disorder? Thank you!
Man such a great podcast. Two of these questions could have been easily written by me. I loved the questions and response. Thanks so much.
@katimorton. Hello good afternoon from Nikki this AKA podcast was right on time for me i always need to hear your soft calming voice kati and always good to see you i can definitely understand and relate to some people s questions you always have such good and supportive caring advice in your answers to people s questions you look beautiful aswell ❤😊🙏🏻
I cried during a celebration party with my Coworkers, when they wanted me to dance in front of everyone and a camera. I told my psychologist about it hoping to find the root cause, instead she kept telling me I should tell someone that I don't feel well and I don't want to participate. I told her I didn't feel unwell, or anxious, I felt dread instead and she said the same thing. I think I might stop seeing her soon.
Love you Kati. ❤xxx
Hello! Got a question, so let’s say someone has a plan on when/how to take their own life. How would a therapist usually deal with being told this?
I'm new to this channel and recently started to seek out mental health. I'm 62yo and thought I had all the marbles in one place. After a recent event, I feel like the marbles scattered everywhere. I have an appointment with a Psychologist in a week. This will be the first time I ever sought out help. I'm kinda nervous and not sure what to do or say.
I have bronhitis because of my feelings ,my body response in that way
I am hopeless because I was brought up in a hopeless and negative environment. The people I have around me right now offer very little support which led to my hopelessness.
Some good news after getting mad at my mom enough times and today the baby lost his mind when my mom was in the bathroom with her so I told her she only gets to blame herself
I told her how he refuses to drink in order to avoid the bathroom and how he acts totally fine when he goes alone
I called her a stoopid fa at the end of the text because that works better then screaming in my case
She finally let the baby go alone but in the front door walks in my stoopid sister and ruins it by entering the bathroom but at least she called him a good big boy and how proud it made her
Hes the size of a 4 year old and shes afraid he will fall into the toilet or something stoopid like that
It seems like they will start letting him go alone like he wants my dad got it to this point by saying the baby acted totally fine when he went alone with him
My dad stayed in the room over so the baby could always hear his voice when needed
My getting mad seems like it finally got through a bit and the baby deciding to find ways to show his anger by throwing things or his newest to play with the toilet over use it so when my mom put him on it he tried to flush it or something over using it
Thats what made my mom listen to me he never tried that tactic
My friend won’t tell anyone about what’s actually going on and how unstable they are and feel. How do I aid them seek help when they don’t want to be locked away?
Kati, you always talk about how we FEEL abandoned, or we FEEL unwanted, but what if its more than that? What if we actually WERE abandoned? What if we were TOLD we were unwanted? What if we wwre TOLD we were a burden? Can you talk on that instead of FEELING like we were unwanted?
At question 1 you forgot the most logical things: clients don't want to cry in therapy (at least the intensely version... so really crying), because some of the clients like me did this the last time, when I was fearing for my life, literally. Crying really badly is just a trigger of a flashback that I am likely going to die/get murdered... or it could be an a little weeker but still horrible flashback about when the client was crying the last time really bitterly.
There was an other video where you also forgot completely the tough cases and were wondering why clients harm themselves after they got a positive compliment from a therapist.
The most common thing for males cis straight to wear silk female underwear i dont know why other then they say it keeps their stuff in place the best but i dont know why that is
It might go back to the shakespear play stuff when males needed to play the female characters
This came up on jimmys podcast once and most males said female silk underwear for the ones that comfyballs doesnt work for (a brand of male underwear)
I thought it got proven that tonsils being removed never stops strep throat (i cant spell)
I’ve not spoken to my therapist in over a month. My mental health is in the toilet. I just don’t care. Whyyyyyyyy????
I am the exact same way. I've been struggling since covid started. I am taking my meds, revisiting the tools my counselor taught me. However I can not come out of this worthless, hopelessness and panic attacks. I don't care to self help, exercise, etc. I could care less if I'm here or not.
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Apparently my mom learnt 0 from the other day he told her to go back out there and she refused to
Sending love❤ you are so strong❤
@alli.mcdonald 3 steps forward 2 steps back my family extremely stoopid
One of my cousins needed to redo a project a lot of times because her dad said something like if that were my project I would do it x way (the way she planned on doing it) since he said that she changed how she was going to do it
Took her all night before she realized she should have stuck to what she orginally wanted to do and ignored that her dad was on the same page as her
The abuse I also needed to put up with and without making that baby my responsibility I am trying to keep him from the trauma that happened to me
The baby is akso trying to figure out doors to be able to take himself but he cant quite figure out the door knobs yet or the locks
Probably for the best at his age I knew how to pick them
Open close and unlock the locked doors with different types of door locks as well (I think he turned 3 resently) I showed the lock picking to my sister as a prank at 4 but around 2-3 I started to play around with the doors and picked the locks pretty quickly with lollipops
The doors at the vacation house my grandparents owned I also showed my cousins using a white key for that lock (it went to some zoo game)
Pank ended up badly due to my oldest cousin I showed it to thinking pranking whoever went into that bathroom a good idea it was my dad) me and her ended up in tears I got blamed even though I was the youngest and nobody knew I showed the lock picking (the oldest cousin with the keys)
She ended up in tears because I got blamed and the yelling that happened
I’m still looking for the doors too
@@alliwantisquiet you will find them they might be hidden behind bookshelves or something
Never give up also try using a window as a door and think outside the box
We should be able to cry man or woman ‼️. We're supposed to be tough n eat shit n like it‼️‼️‼️‼️. Especially like when we're kids. Don't ever show weaknesses
Is physical abuse the worst fear for most people?
@usur-sk8qh2nv5w. I definitely believe it is 😢❤🙏🏻
Nope. Maybe it should be. I don't know. But no.
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This is getting TOO repetitive...
I'llness is seen as a robot with chocolate chip cookies flying into space.
I might hang out with the green jungles of brazil in the next kati morton channel.
I think a jail will be a next mountain topping with a dwarf floating around.
I will be exchanged with a container of shampoo mixed with coconut oil if a demon is spewed out of simba chips.
I will do a setup with a ghost followed by a snow blower.