Frieda, what an emotional video. Im a 67 year old woman who was trapped in a pre Vatican sect with a husband who refused to let me have my voice. Veils on heads and dresses down to the calves. Baby after baby, because birth control was forbidden, I tried my best to keep up with my duties to my husband and my children, keeping my eyes on God convinced that having a large family was a good sign of my devotion During the birth of our 14th child, I went into cardiac failure of an undiagnosed condition called paripartum cardiomyopathy. I was sent to the ICU, newborn ɓaby lifeflighted to a large city. It was then I realized I was in the fight for my life, in more ways than one. I refused unprotected sex because my 3 cardiologists warned us my heart wouldn't survive another pregnancy. That was the beginning of the end. My standing up for myself for the first time instantly branded me a "disobedient" wife. 3 years later, I finally got the strength & filed for divorce. Many years later, i married an amazing man who loves me and, most of all, the children ( who are now all adults), and life has been pretty wonderful. ❤
What a powerful story! My good friend almost died from that after having her 8th. She's always looking for observant Jewish women who had that condition. Why? Because she wants a support network that understands her child-centric outlook. She did cardiac rehab, lost a bunch of weight & actually had another baby a few years later. Glad you're happy & found someone reasonable.
Thank you for sharing your story. Please keep sharing your truth. The world needs to know about your experience. I’m happy for you that you found someone to love and love you with the respect and care you deserve. Be well. 💚
This made me cry. People really don't understand the pain. Not all marriages end in misery of abuse like the media wants you to believe. Some end in the misery of abandonment filled with love. So much love to you sister.
Frieda, this was absolutley one of the most poignant and moving videos I have ever seen. You were able to convey such pain, strength, vulnerability and hope all at the same time. Please know this really touched my heart and I know a lot of people like me will relate deeply... you are truly helping to make a community that seems so foreign to most people relatable through your work and your words here in this essay. Thank you!!
Thank you for sharing such a personal aspect of your life in such a beautiful monologue. You are a brave and courageous woman, following your life’s journey on your own terms. Mazel Tov Frieda .
Frieda , so many of us who sought divorce shared your feelings . So many of us , like you , were stubborn women . We stayed stubborn, we made our way , sometimes stumbling, but it was our way . Stay stubborn Frieda , and all the women who have chosen that path . Stay stong .
I don’t see any of you as stubborn or willful. You are simply souls answering the call to freely express yourself. Determined and strong. Your passion is not a detriment. It and you are an asset. Thank you for sharing what so many of us need to hear.
@plainandsimple2576 Stay strong sister ... I've been where you are now and it wasn't easy , but every day is a chance to get up and push forward . It's a cliche but , one day at a time worked for me .
Frieda, your words have touched me so deeply. I'm sitting here in bed, on the other side of the world in Australia, coffee in hand before the work day begins and suddenly i have tears, silent tears trickling down my face and without realising it, i am holding my breath, transfixed by your words. This was simply so beautiful - i thank you for sharing.
Frieda, I went through the GET experience many years ago, and even though I’ve moved on just like you did, your essay put me right back into the dreary basement room where the “ceremony “ took place and I got the chills. You’re smart, strong and beautiful and I wait for your videos every week. Love your courage. Hinda
Lovely, sweet Frieda, your essay is so authentic and beautiful. If i were Jewish, I would now be an old Bubby and I want to wrap you in my arms, ease this heartache and give you a little extra current that has ran throughout womanhood since our complicated beginning!❤❤❤ I'm so happy time has passed and the talented entrepreneurial life you have forged is proof of the strength the Rabbi knew God had given you. Even if he could not openly tell you so.❤❤❤❤✡️🕎
I'm moved by how poetically and vividly you describe your pain and sadness, and even more so that you do this without rancor or animosity. It shows your goodness, and is an example to me.
I was able to slip away from my Chassidic background because I was untethered, but in that lack of tethering, I was able to avoid, rather than face, my decisions. And while that spared me the immensity of feelings and sadness that you expressed here, it also robbed me of the courage and clarity of facing and expressing them. Thank you for sharing this.
Dear Dear Frieda, I was moved the first time you posted this. I am so happy you are sharing this to the wider group as well. You, my dear, are a writer. A beautiful writer. I can feel every second of this.
I am divorced, too, and I have carried the guilt of the divorce for almost 40 years. I have since remained, and I am happy. I'm Jewish, so the guilt is real. I applaud your honesty and fragility. I don't know any Hassidics, but I know how a cloistered community can be.
Unreal 💔😪 going through this struggle in my hasidic marriage right now, too. It's scary how the feelings are so well expressed. It felt like this presentation was a personal gift.
As a Hasidic husband myself, I understand more than others what you went through. חזק ואמץ! ס׳וועט נאך קומען גוטע צייטן. איר זענט א הייליגע און לויטערע נשמה.
I am honored that you chose to share something so personal with me and the others on this channel who follow you. Your kind and endearing spirit are what keep me looking forward to each and every time you post. Thank you for sharing. Peace, happiness and blessings to you.
There is something universal in your sentiments. The loss, the fear, the sadness, yet perhaps the relief. How frightening and profoundly sad it is when we become a stranger to someone. Beautifully written.
"They don't know how far I've come with your support, only to come too far." So beautiful and so gut-wrenching to hear. It's clear that your son's father is a good person who helped you to flourish and supported you as far as he felt he could. To leave such a sheltered community for the complete unknown just isn't an option for everybody - not everyone can go on that journey knowing it's taking them away from the only way of life they've known. It sounds like you've made peace with that and built a new relationship with the community which is much healthier and more rewarding.
Im not jewish but i had the same feelings when my husband divorced me. I wasnt told about the court date. I just received a document in the mail. I can still feel the emptyness and hear the silence that enveloped me. That was 30 years ago.
@@lifeinaditchI'm in the US and that is how it works in my state. With no-fault divorce, if you are not the person who files, you don't know anything until you get a letter saying you are divorced. It's not even a copy of the official court document. I had to pay to get a copy of that.
Seriously, you need that simple typo explained? I thank (😊) it wasted both our time, lol, but then again I didn't need to answer so that's on me.@@rileyfox4001
I am not Jewish but this transcends that difference. Your words reach out to each person who has gone through a personal heartbreak of whatever nature. If I were with you in person I think the only response to this would be to sit in silence letting our hearts feel the hurt and the healing together.
Your pain and aloneness came through the screen and left me teary eyed. It's the price you paid for not being able to conform to a path laid out before you. I think you have since grown and found satisfaction and happiness. I have enjoyed your pursuits on video. Much success and love to you in your life ahead.
This essay is just as poignantly beautiful, thematically complex & thoughtfully laid out as I find ALL of your interviews and docu / stories. What a generous gift you have shared Frieda. Thank you
U are a woman with deep core values and sensitivity. The way u expressed the happenings to you during the divorce echoes many other women who have been thru it also no matter what background. U gave them a voice and expressed so poignantly what they physically and emotionally went thru. Thank you . 😢
I feel sad for both you and your ex-hubby. When couples grow apart, it doesn't make one person right or one person wrong but it does cause such sadness in both people in dealing with the changes. I hope both of you have been able to heal and have happy lives.
“I’m not alone…” You’re right Frieda, and you never will be…much love to you and thank you for sharing such a raw time in your life with all of us. Shalom 🕊️🤍
My heart broke with yours Frieda. You're such a strong woman. I applaud your courage in taking such a difficult step alone, and thank you so much for sharing it with us. I pray that love has or will find you again xx
What a stunning piece of writing. So brilliantly sharing the intimate alienation of a painful, powerful moment in your past. I'm sure that it remains not just in the past but in the fabric of 'you'. Freida, you are dazzlingly intelligent but have a wonderful gift of emotional intelligence too. Thank you for sharing, universally, for all of us stubborn but not bullish souls who feel it all but have to do it anyway. ❤
That essay absolutely penetrated my heart. I’ve watched your videos with other folks who are OTD, like yourself but this is the first time I’ve ever heard something that captures the contemporaneous experience as one makes their exit. It’s so achingly human. Thank you for publishing something so personal.
Hugs! You are a strong woman, my dear. There are so many things we aren't sure we can endure without dying!!!! And you did, you survived, and endured, as painful as it was, and thrived. You're an excellent writer.
Divorce is so heartbreaking no matter how it happens. Mine was fraught with so many court proceedings and was drawn out for years. But the death of a partnership and dream is always so painful. I have flourished and moved on, and it seems as though you and your son have done the same. Many prayers and blessings to you!! ❤
Wow, Frieda...my eyes are filled with tears of understanding as you recited this profound, magnificent piece. I am filled with gratitude to have heard these words, coming from your beautiful, authentic heart. Thank you for being so courageous and for sharing your soul.
Thank you for sharing this painful and intimate moment with us. And in a manner that is very you - I remember you saying you always liked writing and poetry as a child and teenager.
The raw emotion and gut level honesty is remarkable. What strength you have. May you continue to rebuild your life even as you poignantly share your story. All good wishes to you.
I applaud your bravery in posting this. It is difficult to share our most heart felt feelings with the public , and this is exactly what you did. I applaud you.
This here is what makes your work SO important, it humanizes and universalizes the experiences of a community many do not know enough about, and therefore, may struggle to feel for. But anyone who has ever lost a bond with a loved one can relate to what you speak of here. Empathy heals, and you spread empathy. Thank you so much. ❤
Absolutely beautiful essay! ❤ my heart breaks for the pain you went through and I’m so happy you found your way and are thriving. Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal story. It is truly compelling.
I had watched a number of your "Hasidic-tour-guide" videos (as I call them) and wondered about your relationship to this community that you were a part of. I always felt that you knew exactly what the people you were interviewing were talking about and that you could have answered your own questions. But I understood that you were presenting material for people - Jews and non-Jews - who weren't connected to this community and who wanted to learn more. This essay was truly moving, and I give you a lot of respect for telling your story in such an open and public way. It couldn't have been easy for you, and I'm thinking that your leaving the community was not a choice you wanted to make as much as it was a situation where you didn't feel as if you had a choice. Continued success in your endeavors. You present a non-exploitive look at the Haredi community, and as a secular Jew (I've done some volunteer English tutoring for Footsteps), I appreciate your content.
Thank you for this comment. I feel like you understood me. Life sometimes has a way of making choices for us more than we realize… I’m grateful to have been supported along the way of a very difficult journey.
I almost feel ashamed to have such personal feelings given to me! it does give me a window into your life. you tugged at my Heart Strings today, The loss of a Child is very Painful and a lifelong struggle, grieving for a child is forever. Thank you for helping me know you!
My heart felt your pain and my heart also knows she did the best thing for yourself and I'm so amazed and honored to have watched this video and get to know you a little bit. I've just recently found your UA-cams and for me It was a miracle like a gift from Hashem. It takes a lot of courage to open up like this
This is so moving, so powerful, so poignant. Strenght and vulnerability into one. You are a very talented courageous woman. Thank you for sharing this with us. Sending hugs. 😢
You are a gifted writer, truly. This heart-wrenching essay will stay with me for a while. Thank you for having the courage to share something so painful and having the courage, overall, to be authentic.
Thank you for sharing Frieda. Your depth of feeling and beautiful expression has moved us all to tears. We cry with you, and alongside you. You beautiful, stubborn, creative and brave satma girl. The glimpses you give me into your heart and into your world somehow break my heart and delight my soul. You are an artist of great tenderness and fragility. We in the world and of the world needed you. We still need you.
Oh Frieda, my heart aches for the pain you were feeling on this fateful day. Your prose is heartbreakingly beautiful You were brave beyond measure to take this journey. I so hope you have found peace and joy in your new life. You have more than earned it.
I don't often comment on videos, but wanted to tell you how heartbreakingly beautiful this was. May your tender soul find every happiness in life. Thank you so much for sharing.
you are an absolutely genius writer. Truly the emotions in the piece made it so startlingly clear, I felt I was there with you in the room as you spoke to the rabbi, to your former husband, as you watched what went down. I cried.
Gosh, this was powerful. I'm in awe of your honesty and ability to put words to those feelings. I got married and divorced young as well and I don't think I've ever acknowledged the emotions as clearly as you did here.
Dear dear Frieda, you have expressed so beautifully the heartache many of us have felt in having to leave someone deeply loved and cherished because of the comfort that was once enough but no longer is enough. I express it poorly but you have expressed it poignantly and honestly. I am truly sorry our had to experience the pain of the end of your marriage. The Hasidic traditions you share with us truly speak to human experience so very deeply. ❤
"They don't know how far I've come with your support, only to come too far, beyond the territory you wanted to support." What a stunningly beautiful way to speak of the complications of outgrowing something we love. To never, ever, ever, want to leave, but to know you must. Thank you for bringing me these healing tears today.
Dearest Frieda What you're saying and in the way you're saying it is heartbreaking, heartwrenching, beautiful and so full of feelings and pain. Tears welled in my eyes as I listened to you read your essay. You're an amazing person. I've seen so many of your videos, and I love them all. Thank you for this video, The Get, where you bear your heart, which resonates with me. For a different reason, I've been there.
Frieda thank you for always showing honest , objective , and moving videos that show Judaism in a positive light and sharing personal things about yourself!
Oh Frieda! I can only imagine how hard it was for you to speak this all in front of the camera, sharing, and baring your feelings to help us understand the depth of what you went through. You are brave, kind, gentle, and brilliant. Many others here have expressed more eloquently than I can how you have touched our souls today and how much we appreciate you and your channel. Thank you for your willingness to share all aspects of Hasidic life with us. You are a blessing to us and a real Mentsch. I know what it’s like to be stubborn, too, and leave behind family, friends, and religion. Now here I am all these years later converting to Judaism. Thank you again, dearFrieda. 💖🇮🇱❤️🩹
I felt such anguish for you while watching this video. I have no words except I send peace and love and admiration and hugs. What a strong woman you are!
So beautifully written, articulated. Your video just popped up in my feed. I know next to nothing about Hasidic Judaism but I align myself with your divine right to be a whole woman. Thank you.
Frieda, thank you for sharing such a deep and personal part of your journey. It caused me to feel such sadness for you at that moment in time but also happiness knowing that you were following your heart. I have been a subscriber of yours since the first day I saw you on this platform. I love your work and even though I know nothing of the Hasidic community, your work makes it a little more relatable to this once-Christian man. Thank you again
Words cannot adequately express my amazement and tears for you for your vulnerability, openness, and courage. You expressed pure humanity and interconnectedness of humans. I can feel your ambivalence, sadness, and determination.
Frieda, you have an incredible gift of writing and sharing your thoughts. I was so drawn into the story you were telling, of the end of your marriage, that I felt like I was there with you. I was shocked when it ended because you had my full attention and focus. My heart aches for you and the pain you felt. I have such admiration for you finding your strength and for giving up the life you had for the life you wanted. Thank you so much for sharing your Gett and allowing others to understand what you experienced. Bless you!❤
Such a quiet power... I am sure you have many women like myself watching this. You have taken us on your journey. Now we are reliving ours, each so different, yet the pain, the inevitability, the confusion, the remembrance of all those small details, a feathered pen, a coat loving bought by two, the feeling of someone once beloved becoming alien, all these mirrored variously are still incredibly clear, so sharp with unfettered focus. It is a quiet Saturday night here outside Boston, and the poems will spill into the dark and on to pages as I wish you blessings on your life.
i admire you so much Freida even though your journey was very difficult you were able to follow your heart and you have created a wonderful life for yourself
I cried thru this entire essay as it is so beautiful and heartbreaking and a life I know. I wish I had these words to keep and treasure. Thank you for sharing your heart. You write so brilliantly.
Thanks so much, Frieda. You have an incredible neshama. I've had two divorces that I didn't want and the death of my last spouse after 30+ years of marriage. None of it was easy. I can't say that having some kind of structure to this for you made it any better, because the hole in your life left by losing someone that close can barely be touched by anything outward. Each of these three experiences I lived required existing in a warped sense of reality where I was never really myself for at least a year, the last time for now 4 years. At least I think I'm coming out. I should think leaving a community in which you had grown up as well had to make that experience that much more alienating, disorienting, frightening, and challenging. Being the descendant of the "Stiff Necked People" had to stand you well. I must say, you speak your heart well and given when your video was made you likely always have. You faced what they demanded of you very bravely. However, this is entirely your experience of "the get", how did that relate to leaving the Satmar Hasids? I can guess, but I'd prefer not to. And, PLEASE, if what I'm asking is too difficult, please ignore this request. If I'm around in a few years perhaps, I'll ask again.
😢 heartbreaking! Thanks for sharing such an intimate moment. It is as sad as poetically beautiful. You are an amazing person! Thanks for this beautiful channel!!
That was beautiful, thank you for expressing it in such a way. I think any divorce is a rending (speaking from experience) that it takes a very long time to get past and move on with any kind of sense of normalcy or goodness, but I had the support of my family and even his father I had to push away to support his son instead because we were very close. I cannot imagine the strength and love for yourself and your son it took to leave. I admire and respect you so much.
Frieda, what an emotional video. Im a 67 year old woman who was trapped in a pre Vatican sect with a husband who refused to let me have my voice. Veils on heads and dresses down to the calves. Baby after baby, because birth control was forbidden, I tried my best to keep up with my duties to my husband and my children, keeping my eyes on God convinced that having a large family was a good sign of my devotion During the birth of our 14th child, I went into cardiac failure of an undiagnosed condition called paripartum cardiomyopathy. I was sent to the ICU, newborn ɓaby lifeflighted to a large city. It was then I realized I was in the fight for my life, in more ways than one. I refused unprotected sex because my 3 cardiologists warned us my heart wouldn't survive another pregnancy. That was the beginning of the end. My standing up for myself for the first time instantly branded me a "disobedient" wife. 3 years later, I finally got the strength & filed for divorce. Many years later, i married an amazing man who loves me and, most of all, the children ( who are now all adults), and life has been pretty wonderful. ❤
What a powerful story! My good friend almost died from that after having her 8th. She's always looking for observant Jewish women who had that condition. Why? Because she wants a support network that understands her child-centric outlook. She did cardiac rehab, lost a bunch of weight & actually had another baby a few years later.
Glad you're happy & found someone reasonable.
I am so glad you were able to find freedom. Your strength brought you to this place.
Thank you for sharing your story. Please keep sharing your truth. The world needs to know about your experience. I’m happy for you that you found someone to love and love you with the respect and care you deserve. Be well. 💚
This made me cry. People really don't understand the pain. Not all marriages end in misery of abuse like the media wants you to believe. Some end in the misery of abandonment filled with love. So much love to you sister.
Very well said ❤
I could not have said it better!
Frieda, this was absolutley one of the most poignant and moving videos I have ever seen. You were able to convey such pain, strength, vulnerability and hope all at the same time. Please know this really touched my heart and I know a lot of people like me will relate deeply... you are truly helping to make a community that seems so foreign to most people relatable through your work and your words here in this essay. Thank you!!
I can't agree more.
I know the pain is real. I, too, had a divorce 😢
Thank you for sharing such a personal aspect of your life in such a beautiful monologue. You are a brave and courageous woman, following your life’s journey on your own terms. Mazel Tov Frieda .
Frieda, your essay and presentation touched my heart. So heartfelt and honest. Shalom.❤
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Frieda , so many of us who sought divorce shared your feelings . So many of us , like you , were stubborn women . We stayed stubborn, we made our way , sometimes stumbling, but it was our way . Stay stubborn Frieda , and all the women who have chosen that path . Stay stong .
❤️❤️💕💕 I’m staying stubborn and sending love
I don’t see any of you as stubborn or willful. You are simply souls answering the call to freely express yourself. Determined and strong. Your passion is not a detriment. It and you are an asset. Thank you for sharing what so many of us need to hear.
Tears are flowing , streaming down my face. I understand, though I’ve never been there… I am Widowed 4 years, stubborn to the core! Hugs❤
@plainandsimple2576 Stay strong sister ... I've been where you are now and it wasn't easy , but every day is a chance to get up and push forward . It's a cliche but , one day at a time worked for me .
@@JW-yt7lr I try.. G. D is with me daily♥️
Frieda, your words have touched me so deeply. I'm sitting here in bed, on the other side of the world in Australia, coffee in hand before the work day begins and suddenly i have tears, silent tears trickling down my face and without realising it, i am holding my breath, transfixed by your words. This was simply so beautiful - i thank you for sharing.
I'm in Australia also and this gabbed my heart also
Frieda, I went through the GET experience many years ago, and even though I’ve moved on just like you did, your essay put me right back into the dreary basement room where the “ceremony “ took place and I got the chills. You’re smart, strong and beautiful and I wait for your videos every week. Love your courage. Hinda
That’s not an essay, it’s a poem. And it’s beautiful. ❤❤
Lovely, sweet Frieda, your essay is so authentic and beautiful. If i were Jewish, I would now be an old Bubby and I want to wrap you in my arms, ease this heartache and give you a little extra current that has ran throughout womanhood since our complicated beginning!❤❤❤ I'm so happy time has passed and the talented entrepreneurial life you have forged is proof of the strength the Rabbi knew God had given you. Even if he could not openly tell you so.❤❤❤❤✡️🕎
So beautifully relayed. The line about the Rabbi and his "acknowledgement of my presence" being seen as an act of kindness speaks volumes.
I'm moved by how poetically and vividly you describe your pain and sadness, and even more so that you do this without rancor or animosity. It shows your goodness, and is an example to me.
I was able to slip away from my Chassidic background because I was untethered, but in that lack of tethering, I was able to avoid, rather than face, my decisions. And while that spared me the immensity of feelings and sadness that you expressed here, it also robbed me of the courage and clarity of facing and expressing them. Thank you for sharing this.
Wow. That was powerful. I needed a few minutes of silence when the video ended to process it. It touched my soul. Thank you for sharing.
Dear Dear Frieda, I was moved the first time you posted this. I am so happy you are sharing this to the wider group as well. You, my dear, are a writer. A beautiful writer. I can feel every second of this.
I am divorced, too, and I have carried the guilt of the divorce for almost 40 years. I have since remained, and I am happy. I'm Jewish, so the guilt is real. I applaud your honesty and fragility. I don't know any Hassidics, but I know how a cloistered community can be.
Unreal 💔😪 going through this struggle in my hasidic marriage right now, too.
It's scary how the feelings are so well expressed.
It felt like this presentation was a personal gift.
How are all of you Hasidic Jewish ppl seeing and responding to this? I thought you were not supposed to have access to the internet?
That was so very beautiful. You have honored the world by sharing it. Thank you.
😭 this was so intense... I could picture the whole scene in my mind... very emotional and at the same time so powerful!!
thank you ❤️
Your honesty and without putting anyone down is on another level. You're so genuine. I wish for you to find your place and be happy.
Thank you. Amen.🙏
As a Hasidic husband myself, I understand more than others what you went through.
חזק ואמץ! ס׳וועט נאך קומען גוטע צייטן.
איר זענט א הייליגע און לויטערע נשמה.
Beauty from ashes.
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💯!! Very touching to hear you say that!
Oy vey do you look at ALL as pure and holy souls, … ???
Frieda, you’ve touched my heart and brought me with you during such a painful time. Go in peace. Find happiness.
Ha ha, בני יואל had rebbetzin alte feige for years!
I am honored that you chose to share something so personal with me and the others on this channel who follow you. Your kind and endearing spirit are what keep me looking forward to each and every time you post. Thank you for sharing. Peace, happiness and blessings to you.
Your ability to capture emotions with your writing and sharing your life is a wonderful gift you have been given!
There is something universal in your sentiments. The loss, the fear, the sadness, yet perhaps the relief. How frightening and profoundly sad it is when we become a stranger to someone. Beautifully written.
"They don't know how far I've come with your support, only to come too far."
So beautiful and so gut-wrenching to hear. It's clear that your son's father is a good person who helped you to flourish and supported you as far as he felt he could. To leave such a sheltered community for the complete unknown just isn't an option for everybody - not everyone can go on that journey knowing it's taking them away from the only way of life they've known. It sounds like you've made peace with that and built a new relationship with the community which is much healthier and more rewarding.
Im not jewish but i had the same feelings when my husband divorced me. I wasnt told about the court date. I just received a document in the mail. I can still feel the emptyness and hear the silence that enveloped me. That was 30 years ago.
@katherinemcmahon509 Did you not have warning? I hope things worked out well for you.
That is how I felt the day my husband left.
What country do you live in? Certainly not the US.
Yes. Same.
@@lifeinaditchI'm in the US and that is how it works in my state. With no-fault divorce, if you are not the person who files, you don't know anything until you get a letter saying you are divorced. It's not even a copy of the official court document. I had to pay to get a copy of that.
This is astonishingly well crafted. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope you are able to share it with even wider audiences.
How could we be anything *but* gentle? This is stunningly beautiful and I think you for sharing it.
He must have been a fool!
Seriously, you need that simple typo explained? I thank (😊) it wasted both our time, lol, but then again I didn't need to answer so that's on me.@@rileyfox4001
No he wasnt. She decided to change the course of her life and no longer be religious. He does not have to hop on a ride away from his faith...
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I am not Jewish but this transcends that difference. Your words reach out to each person who has gone through a personal heartbreak of whatever nature. If I were with you in person I think the only response to this would be to sit in silence letting our hearts feel the hurt and the healing together.
@MrsBrunke You sound quite poetic yourself.
Oh heck - that was truly heartbreaking 💔. Your bravery in presenting this to the outside world is immense. Much love from an English Christian 💕💕
Your pain and aloneness came through the screen and left me teary eyed. It's the price you paid for not being able to conform to a path laid out before you. I think you have since grown and found satisfaction and happiness. I have enjoyed your pursuits on video. Much success and love to you in your life ahead.
"The same heart..." this was deeply moving and meaningful to share. It is received with respect and compassion!
This essay is just as poignantly beautiful, thematically complex & thoughtfully laid out as I find ALL of your interviews and docu / stories. What a generous gift you have shared Frieda. Thank you
Thank you Judith 🙏
U are a woman with deep core values and sensitivity. The way u expressed the happenings to you during the divorce echoes many other women who have been thru it also no matter what background. U gave them a voice and expressed so poignantly what they physically and emotionally went thru. Thank you . 😢
OMG!! I just cried when I heard this. So vulnerable, so deeply painful and so overwhelming. Bless your strength.
Remarkable, Frieda…I cried…and I was comforted
Thank you so much John.
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Your words left me breathless. Thank you for sharing.
I feel sad for both you and your ex-hubby. When couples grow apart, it doesn't make one person right or one person wrong but it does cause such sadness in both people in dealing with the changes. I hope both of you have been able to heal and have happy lives.
“I’m not alone…”
You’re right Frieda, and you never will be…much love to you and thank you for sharing such a raw time in your life with all of us. Shalom 🕊️🤍
My heart broke with yours Frieda. You're such a strong woman. I applaud your courage in taking such a difficult step alone, and thank you so much for sharing it with us. I pray that love has or will find you again xx
I heard your pain, I felt it, and I cried. You are valued and appreciated. ❤
Thank you ❤️
What a stunning piece of writing. So brilliantly sharing the intimate alienation of a painful, powerful moment in your past. I'm sure that it remains not just in the past but in the fabric of 'you'.
Freida, you are dazzlingly intelligent but have a wonderful gift of emotional intelligence too.
Thank you for sharing, universally, for all of us stubborn but not bullish souls who feel it all but have to do it anyway.
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That essay absolutely penetrated my heart. I’ve watched your videos with other folks who are OTD, like yourself but this is the first time I’ve ever heard something that captures the contemporaneous experience as one makes their exit. It’s so achingly human. Thank you for publishing something so personal.
So heartbreaking, so
powerful. You express yourself beautifully.
Beautiful, melancholy, sad, but filled with love, acceptance, and hope.
Hugs! You are a strong woman, my dear. There are so many things we aren't sure we can endure without dying!!!! And you did, you survived, and endured, as painful as it was, and thrived.
You're an excellent writer.
That was deeply moving and brought me to tears. I really felt it. I hope your life now is filled with joy, beauty, and lots of love.
Thank you ❤️🌹
Divorce is so heartbreaking no matter how it happens. Mine was fraught with so many court proceedings and was drawn out for years. But the death of a partnership and dream is always so painful. I have flourished and moved on, and it seems as though you and your son have done the same. Many prayers and blessings to you!! ❤
Thank you for this. You risking the vulnerability to share this essay is a gift for us.
Oh sweet, Frieda! My heart breaks for you. I have felt your pain. I understand. How beautifully you presented your feelings. ❤️🙏🏻😢
This is heartbreaking and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your soul.
There are instances when words fall short, sending a virtual hug..
Rare and brutally honest spoken with such dignity. It’s not easy listening to someone’s personal heartbreak. Thank you.
Wow, Frieda...my eyes are filled with tears of understanding as you recited this profound, magnificent piece. I am filled with gratitude to have heard these words, coming from your beautiful, authentic heart. Thank you for being so courageous and for sharing your soul.
That was beautiful and heartbreaking. I can’t imagine the strength that took you to do that.
This is the most heartbreakingly beautiful piece. Frieda you have such a unique capacity to see life, Judaism, culture through all its facets.
Thank you for sharing this painful and intimate moment with us. And in a manner that is very you - I remember you saying you always liked writing and poetry as a child and teenager.
You brought me to tears, and I have nothing but love and respect and thanks for your stubbornness and your intelligence and your ability to write.
The raw emotion and gut level honesty is remarkable. What strength you have. May you continue to rebuild your life even as you poignantly share your story. All good wishes to you.
I applaud your bravery in posting this. It is difficult to share our most heart felt feelings with the public , and this is exactly what you did. I applaud you.
This here is what makes your work SO important, it humanizes and universalizes the experiences of a community many do not know enough about, and therefore, may struggle to feel for. But anyone who has ever lost a bond with a loved one can relate to what you speak of here. Empathy heals, and you spread empathy. Thank you so much. ❤
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Absolutely beautiful essay! ❤ my heart breaks for the pain you went through and I’m so happy you found your way and are thriving. Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal story. It is truly compelling.
I had watched a number of your "Hasidic-tour-guide" videos (as I call them) and wondered about your relationship to this community that you were a part of. I always felt that you knew exactly what the people you were interviewing were talking about and that you could have answered your own questions. But I understood that you were presenting material for people - Jews and non-Jews - who weren't connected to this community and who wanted to learn more.
This essay was truly moving, and I give you a lot of respect for telling your story in such an open and public way. It couldn't have been easy for you, and I'm thinking that your leaving the community was not a choice you wanted to make as much as it was a situation where you didn't feel as if you had a choice.
Continued success in your endeavors. You present a non-exploitive look at the Haredi community, and as a secular Jew (I've done some volunteer English tutoring for Footsteps), I appreciate your content.
Thank you for this comment. I feel like you understood me. Life sometimes has a way of making choices for us more than we realize… I’m grateful to have been supported along the way of a very difficult journey.
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It's so moving how you could discribe your pain in such beautiful words. You have the spirit of a poet and a big heart ❤
Thank you for this gift you have given to all of us, in your own voice, from your own memories, and from the deep places of your heart and soul.
I'm honored that you opened up to share this with us. It's so profound. thank you.
You just left me with my eyes full of tears, you are a great and strong woman, I admired you! Hugs
I almost feel ashamed to have such personal feelings given to me! it does give me a window into your life. you tugged at my Heart Strings today, The loss of a Child is very Painful and a lifelong struggle, grieving for a child is forever. Thank you for helping me know you!
My heart felt your pain and my heart also knows she did the best thing for yourself and I'm so amazed and honored to have watched this video and get to know you a little bit. I've just recently found your UA-cams and for me It was a miracle like a gift from Hashem. It takes a lot of courage to open up like this
thank you for your kindness Baila
This is so moving, so powerful, so poignant. Strenght and vulnerability into one. You are a very talented courageous woman. Thank you for sharing this with us. Sending hugs. 😢
You are a gifted writer, truly. This heart-wrenching essay will stay with me for a while. Thank you for having the courage to share something so painful and having the courage, overall, to be authentic.
Frieda, thank you for sharing something so deeply personal. You are brave to share your story. You are brave to remain true to yourself. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing Frieda. Your depth of feeling and beautiful expression has moved us all to tears. We cry with you, and alongside you. You beautiful, stubborn, creative and brave satma girl. The glimpses you give me into your heart and into your world somehow break my heart and delight my soul. You are an artist of great tenderness and fragility. We in the world and of the world needed you. We still need you.
Oh Frieda, my heart aches for the pain you were feeling on this fateful day. Your prose is heartbreakingly beautiful You were brave beyond measure to take this journey. I so hope you have found peace and joy in your new life. You have more than earned it.
Thank you for your generosity of spirit. Your truth frees my heart. Incredible writing. I feel blessed to have found this.
Frieda you have such a way with words, and none moreso than with this baring of your soul. I would enjoy hearing more personal essays in the future.
I don't often comment on videos, but wanted to tell you how heartbreakingly beautiful this was. May your tender soul find every happiness in life. Thank you so much for sharing.
That was beautiful Frieda! You are very brave for sharing such a personal piece.
Would love to listen to any other of your essays in the future!
you are an absolutely genius writer. Truly the emotions in the piece made it so startlingly clear, I felt I was there with you in the room as you spoke to the rabbi, to your former husband, as you watched what went down. I cried.
Gosh, this was powerful. I'm in awe of your honesty and ability to put words to those feelings. I got married and divorced young as well and I don't think I've ever acknowledged the emotions as clearly as you did here.
Dear dear Frieda, you have expressed so beautifully the heartache many of us have felt in having to leave someone deeply loved and cherished because of the comfort that was once enough but no longer is enough. I express it poorly but you have expressed it poignantly and honestly. I am truly sorry our had to experience the pain of the end of your marriage. The Hasidic traditions you share with us truly speak to human experience so very deeply. ❤
This has broken my heart and made things in my life clearer to me. Thank you for sharing this with us.
"They don't know how far I've come with your support, only to come too far, beyond the territory you wanted to support." What a stunningly beautiful way to speak of the complications of outgrowing something we love. To never, ever, ever, want to leave, but to know you must. Thank you for bringing me these healing tears today.
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Dearest Frieda What you're saying and in the way you're saying it is heartbreaking, heartwrenching, beautiful and so full of feelings and pain. Tears welled in my eyes as I listened to you read your essay. You're an amazing person. I've seen so many of your videos, and I love them all.
Thank you for this video, The Get, where you bear your heart, which resonates with me.
For a different reason, I've been there.
Frieda thank you for always showing honest , objective , and moving videos that show Judaism in a positive light and sharing personal things about yourself!
Oh Frieda! I can only imagine how hard it was for you to speak this all in front of the camera, sharing, and baring your feelings to help us understand the depth of what you went through. You are brave, kind, gentle, and brilliant. Many others here have expressed more eloquently than I can how you have touched our souls today and how much we appreciate you and your channel. Thank you for your willingness to share all aspects of Hasidic life with us. You are a blessing to us and a real Mentsch. I know what it’s like to be stubborn, too, and leave behind family, friends, and religion. Now here I am all these years later converting to Judaism. Thank you again, dearFrieda. 💖🇮🇱❤️🩹
Thank you for sharing your most vulnerable moment with us. This was stunningly beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time
I felt such anguish for you while watching this video. I have no words except I send peace and love and admiration and hugs. What a strong woman you are!
So beautifully written, articulated. Your video just popped up in my feed. I know next to nothing about Hasidic Judaism but I align myself with your divine right to be a whole woman. Thank you.
This essay and you reading it out loud was so touching, so moving and so heartfelt. I'm lost for words.
Frieda, thank you for sharing such a deep and personal part of your journey. It caused me to feel such sadness for you at that moment in time but also happiness knowing that you were following your heart. I have been a subscriber of yours since the first day I saw you on this platform. I love your work and even though I know nothing of the Hasidic community, your work makes it a little more relatable to this once-Christian man. Thank you again
Words cannot adequately express my amazement and tears for you for your vulnerability, openness, and courage. You expressed pure humanity and interconnectedness of humans. I can feel your ambivalence, sadness, and determination.
Frieda, you have an incredible gift of writing and sharing your thoughts. I was so drawn into the story you were telling, of the end of your marriage, that I felt like I was there with you. I was shocked when it ended because you had my full attention and focus. My heart aches for you and the pain you felt. I have such admiration for you finding your strength and for giving up the life you had for the life you wanted. Thank you so much for sharing your Gett and allowing others to understand what you experienced. Bless you!❤
Thank you for being so brave to share this with us. I’m so touched by your honesty and willingness to open up about your former life. Much love
Such a quiet power... I am sure you have many women like myself watching this. You have taken us on your journey. Now we are reliving ours, each so different, yet the pain, the inevitability, the confusion, the remembrance of all those small details, a feathered pen, a coat loving bought by two, the feeling of someone once beloved becoming alien, all these mirrored variously are still incredibly clear, so sharp with unfettered focus. It is a quiet Saturday night here outside Boston, and the poems will spill into the dark and on to pages as I wish you blessings on your life.
i admire you so much Freida even though your journey was very difficult you were able to follow your heart and you have created a wonderful life for yourself
I cried thru this entire essay as it is so beautiful and heartbreaking and a life I know. I wish I had these words to keep and treasure. Thank you for sharing your heart. You write so brilliantly.
Thanks so much, Frieda. You have an incredible neshama. I've had two divorces that I didn't want and the death of my last spouse after 30+ years of marriage. None of it was easy. I can't say that having some kind of structure to this for you made it any better, because the hole in your life left by losing someone that close can barely be touched by anything outward. Each of these three experiences I lived required existing in a warped sense of reality where I was never really myself for at least a year, the last time for now 4 years. At least I think I'm coming out. I should think leaving a community in which you had grown up as well had to make that experience that much more alienating, disorienting, frightening, and challenging. Being the descendant of the "Stiff Necked People" had to stand you well. I must say, you speak your heart well and given when your video was made you likely always have. You faced what they demanded of you very bravely. However, this is entirely your experience of "the get", how did that relate to leaving the Satmar Hasids? I can guess, but I'd prefer not to. And, PLEASE, if what I'm asking is too difficult, please ignore this request. If I'm around in a few years perhaps, I'll ask again.
😢 heartbreaking! Thanks for sharing such an intimate moment. It is as sad as poetically beautiful. You are an amazing person! Thanks for this beautiful channel!!
That was beautiful, thank you for expressing it in such a way. I think any divorce is a rending (speaking from experience) that it takes a very long time to get past and move on with any kind of sense of normalcy or goodness, but I had the support of my family and even his father I had to push away to support his son instead because we were very close. I cannot imagine the strength and love for yourself and your son it took to leave. I admire and respect you so much.
So powerful. I like that you were able to be vulnerable and respectful at the same time.