I left the Hasidic community. This was my experience. “The Gett”

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  • @latinagringa
    @latinagringa 10 місяців тому +804

    Frieda, this was absolutley one of the most poignant and moving videos I have ever seen. You were able to convey such pain, strength, vulnerability and hope all at the same time. Please know this really touched my heart and I know a lot of people like me will relate deeply... you are truly helping to make a community that seems so foreign to most people relatable through your work and your words here in this essay. Thank you!!

    • @karajarvis2254
      @karajarvis2254 9 місяців тому +26

      I can't agree more.
      I know the pain is real. I, too, had a divorce 😢

    • @karenoquinn4702
      @karenoquinn4702 9 місяців тому +47

      Thank you for sharing such a personal aspect of your life in such a beautiful monologue. You are a brave and courageous woman, following your life’s journey on your own terms. Mazel Tov Frieda .

    • @jacccaro
      @jacccaro 9 місяців тому +28

      Frieda, your essay and presentation touched my heart. So heartfelt and honest. Shalom.❤

    • @VioletACordy
      @VioletACordy 9 місяців тому +1

      🩵💙🌳🌳🌈🔆😇@@karajarvis2254

    • @VioletACordy
      @VioletACordy 9 місяців тому +1

      🩵💙🌳🌳🌈🔆😇@@karenoquinn4702

  • @HK-Light
    @HK-Light 9 місяців тому +152

    This made me cry. People really don't understand the pain. Not all marriages end in misery of abuse like the media wants you to believe. Some end in the misery of abandonment filled with love. So much love to you sister.

    • @rhonakurka1041
      @rhonakurka1041 День тому

      Very well said ❤
      I could not have said it better!

  • @christinas8071
    @christinas8071 9 місяців тому +279

    Frieda, your words have touched me so deeply. I'm sitting here in bed, on the other side of the world in Australia, coffee in hand before the work day begins and suddenly i have tears, silent tears trickling down my face and without realising it, i am holding my breath, transfixed by your words. This was simply so beautiful - i thank you for sharing.

    • @debstanyer812
      @debstanyer812 9 місяців тому +8

      I'm in Australia also and this gabbed my heart also

  • @CK1000ism
    @CK1000ism 9 місяців тому +252

    So beautifully relayed. The line about the Rabbi and his "acknowledgement of my presence" being seen as an act of kindness speaks volumes.

  • @agarfinkel
    @agarfinkel 9 місяців тому +80

    That’s not an essay, it’s a poem. And it’s beautiful. ❤❤

  • @isaacf1055
    @isaacf1055 9 місяців тому +433

    As a Hasidic husband myself, I understand more than others what you went through.
    חזק ואמץ! ס׳וועט נאך קומען גוטע צייטן.
    איר זענט א הייליגע און לויטערע נשמה.

    • @kippykate9905
      @kippykate9905 9 місяців тому +32

      Beauty from ashes.

    • @tecora7419
      @tecora7419 9 місяців тому +9

    • @lesaym5871
      @lesaym5871 9 місяців тому +4

      ❤💯%

    • @boropark12
      @boropark12 9 місяців тому +18

      💯!! Very touching to hear you say that!

    • @Aham-Na
      @Aham-Na 9 місяців тому

      Oy vey do you look at ALL as pure and holy souls, … ???

  • @JW-yt7lr
    @JW-yt7lr 3 місяці тому +149

    Frieda , so many of us who sought divorce shared your feelings . So many of us , like you , were stubborn women . We stayed stubborn, we made our way , sometimes stumbling, but it was our way . Stay stubborn Frieda , and all the women who have chosen that path . Stay stong .

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  3 місяці тому +29

      ❤️❤️💕💕 I’m staying stubborn and sending love

    • @charlenenelson16
      @charlenenelson16 2 місяці тому +6

      I don’t see any of you as stubborn or willful. You are simply souls answering the call to freely express yourself. Determined and strong. Your passion is not a detriment. It and you are an asset. Thank you for sharing what so many of us need to hear.

    • @plainandsimple2576
      @plainandsimple2576 2 місяці тому +3

      Tears are flowing , streaming down my face. I understand, though I’ve never been there… I am Widowed 4 years, stubborn to the core! Hugs❤

    • @JW-yt7lr
      @JW-yt7lr 2 місяці тому +3

      ​@plainandsimple2576 Stay strong sister ... I've been where you are now and it wasn't easy , but every day is a chance to get up and push forward . It's a cliche but , one day at a time worked for me .

    • @plainandsimple2576
      @plainandsimple2576 2 місяці тому +2

      @@JW-yt7lr I try.. G. D is with me daily♥️

  • @hindapally7969
    @hindapally7969 9 місяців тому +79

    Frieda, I went through the GET experience many years ago, and even though I’ve moved on just like you did, your essay put me right back into the dreary basement room where the “ceremony “ took place and I got the chills. You’re smart, strong and beautiful and I wait for your videos every week. Love your courage. Hinda

  • @wendi2819
    @wendi2819 7 місяців тому +27

    Lovely, sweet Frieda, your essay is so authentic and beautiful. If i were Jewish, I would now be an old Bubby and I want to wrap you in my arms, ease this heartache and give you a little extra current that has ran throughout womanhood since our complicated beginning!❤❤❤ I'm so happy time has passed and the talented entrepreneurial life you have forged is proof of the strength the Rabbi knew God had given you. Even if he could not openly tell you so.❤❤❤❤✡️🕎

  • @kindnessmatters604
    @kindnessmatters604 9 місяців тому +208

    Dear Dear Frieda, I was moved the first time you posted this. I am so happy you are sharing this to the wider group as well. You, my dear, are a writer. A beautiful writer. I can feel every second of this.

  • @johngrund3206
    @johngrund3206 10 місяців тому +179

    Remarkable, Frieda…I cried…and I was comforted

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  10 місяців тому +24

      Thank you so much John.

    • @VioletACordy
      @VioletACordy 9 місяців тому +1

      🩵💙🌳🌈🔆😇🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵💙🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn 💙💙💙

  • @ambergoulet
    @ambergoulet 8 місяців тому +23

    That was so very beautiful. You have honored the world by sharing it. Thank you.

  • @kevinbentley3790
    @kevinbentley3790 9 місяців тому +61

    I'm moved by how poetically and vividly you describe your pain and sadness, and even more so that you do this without rancor or animosity. It shows your goodness, and is an example to me.

  • @Time.for.tea.
    @Time.for.tea. 7 місяців тому +15

    Wow. That was powerful. I needed a few minutes of silence when the video ended to process it. It touched my soul. Thank you for sharing.

  • @brianlawson363
    @brianlawson363 9 місяців тому +108

    I am honored that you chose to share something so personal with me and the others on this channel who follow you. Your kind and endearing spirit are what keep me looking forward to each and every time you post. Thank you for sharing. Peace, happiness and blessings to you.

  • @shimmysertin
    @shimmysertin 9 місяців тому +69

    Unreal 💔😪 going through this struggle in my hasidic marriage right now, too.
    It's scary how the feelings are so well expressed.
    It felt like this presentation was a personal gift.

    • @kellyfeltzer5402
      @kellyfeltzer5402 6 місяців тому

      How are all of you Hasidic Jewish ppl seeing and responding to this? I thought you were not supposed to have access to the internet?

  • @myriamlip1198
    @myriamlip1198 5 місяців тому +57

    Your honesty and without putting anyone down is on another level. You're so genuine. I wish for you to find your place and be happy.

  • @donnamarshall8349
    @donnamarshall8349 9 місяців тому +81

    Oh heck - that was truly heartbreaking 💔. Your bravery in presenting this to the outside world is immense. Much love from an English Christian 💕💕

  • @SharonPerp
    @SharonPerp 9 місяців тому +192

    How could we be anything *but* gentle? This is stunningly beautiful and I think you for sharing it.

    • @rileyfox4001
      @rileyfox4001 9 місяців тому +6

      He must have been a fool!

    • @SharonPerp
      @SharonPerp 9 місяців тому

      Seriously, you need that simple typo explained? I thank (😊) it wasted both our time, lol, but then again I didn't need to answer so that's on me.@@rileyfox4001

    • @anonymousanonymous-qx7mv
      @anonymousanonymous-qx7mv 9 місяців тому +10

      No he wasnt. She decided to change the course of her life and no longer be religious. He does not have to hop on a ride away from his faith...

    • @Walid-bn6ih
      @Walid-bn6ih 7 місяців тому

      ​@@anonymousanonymous-qx7mv🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @ArianaPinheiro
    @ArianaPinheiro 8 місяців тому +27

    😭 this was so intense... I could picture the whole scene in my mind... very emotional and at the same time so powerful!!

  • @bethowens8863
    @bethowens8863 9 місяців тому +80

    "They don't know how far I've come with your support, only to come too far."
    So beautiful and so gut-wrenching to hear. It's clear that your son's father is a good person who helped you to flourish and supported you as far as he felt he could. To leave such a sheltered community for the complete unknown just isn't an option for everybody - not everyone can go on that journey knowing it's taking them away from the only way of life they've known. It sounds like you've made peace with that and built a new relationship with the community which is much healthier and more rewarding.

  • @leviadelman
    @leviadelman 8 місяців тому +14

    I was able to slip away from my Chassidic background because I was untethered, but in that lack of tethering, I was able to avoid, rather than face, my decisions. And while that spared me the immensity of feelings and sadness that you expressed here, it also robbed me of the courage and clarity of facing and expressing them. Thank you for sharing this.

  • @maryschmertz6561
    @maryschmertz6561 10 місяців тому +83

    So heartbreaking, so
    powerful. You express yourself beautifully.

  • @katherinemcmahon509
    @katherinemcmahon509 9 місяців тому +170

    Im not jewish but i had the same feelings when my husband divorced me. I wasnt told about the court date. I just received a document in the mail. I can still feel the emptyness and hear the silence that enveloped me. That was 30 years ago.

    • @chanieweiss4288
      @chanieweiss4288 9 місяців тому +5

      @katherinemcmahon509 Did you not have warning? I hope things worked out well for you.

    • @willsmom93
      @willsmom93 9 місяців тому +9

      That is how I felt the day my husband left.

    • @lifeinaditch
      @lifeinaditch 7 місяців тому

      What country do you live in? Certainly not the US.

    • @hollywebster6844
      @hollywebster6844 6 місяців тому

      Yes. Same.

    • @hollywebster6844
      @hollywebster6844 6 місяців тому +8

      ​@@lifeinaditchI'm in the US and that is how it works in my state. With no-fault divorce, if you are not the person who files, you don't know anything until you get a letter saying you are divorced. It's not even a copy of the official court document. I had to pay to get a copy of that.

  • @kerrymonroe4888
    @kerrymonroe4888 8 місяців тому +7

    This is astonishingly well crafted. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope you are able to share it with even wider audiences.

  • @loridocter2144
    @loridocter2144 9 місяців тому +35

    I am divorced, too, and I have carried the guilt of the divorce for almost 40 years. I have since remained, and I am happy. I'm Jewish, so the guilt is real. I applaud your honesty and fragility. I don't know any Hassidics, but I know how a cloistered community can be.

  • @RielLis
    @RielLis 9 місяців тому +69

    "The same heart..." this was deeply moving and meaningful to share. It is received with respect and compassion!

  • @shanedraney7667
    @shanedraney7667 9 місяців тому +14

    Beautiful, melancholy, sad, but filled with love, acceptance, and hope.

  • @joeyjoy7829
    @joeyjoy7829 9 місяців тому +61

    What a stunning piece of writing. So brilliantly sharing the intimate alienation of a painful, powerful moment in your past. I'm sure that it remains not just in the past but in the fabric of 'you'.
    Freida, you are dazzlingly intelligent but have a wonderful gift of emotional intelligence too.
    Thank you for sharing, universally, for all of us stubborn but not bullish souls who feel it all but have to do it anyway.

  • @judithnicholais1492
    @judithnicholais1492 8 місяців тому +8

    This essay is just as poignantly beautiful, thematically complex & thoughtfully laid out as I find ALL of your interviews and docu / stories. What a generous gift you have shared Frieda. Thank you

  • @InMyCups
    @InMyCups 8 місяців тому +11

    Your words left me breathless. Thank you for sharing.

  • @cdewey5115
    @cdewey5115 9 місяців тому +13

    Your ability to capture emotions with your writing and sharing your life is a wonderful gift you have been given!

  • @ohgrammy48
    @ohgrammy48 9 місяців тому +53

    Oh sweet, Frieda! My heart breaks for you. I have felt your pain. I understand. How beautifully you presented your feelings. ❤️🙏🏻😢

  • @collettefassettschmidtke9582
    @collettefassettschmidtke9582 2 місяці тому +35

    That was beautiful and heartbreaking. I can’t imagine the strength that took you to do that.

  • @joycerapp2583
    @joycerapp2583 9 місяців тому +42

    U are a woman with deep core values and sensitivity. The way u expressed the happenings to you during the divorce echoes many other women who have been thru it also no matter what background. U gave them a voice and expressed so poignantly what they physically and emotionally went thru. Thank you . 😢

  • @randivansack9482
    @randivansack9482 9 місяців тому +48

    Wow, Frieda...my eyes are filled with tears of understanding as you recited this profound, magnificent piece. I am filled with gratitude to have heard these words, coming from your beautiful, authentic heart. Thank you for being so courageous and for sharing your soul.

  • @AnnieEpstein-f7k
    @AnnieEpstein-f7k 9 місяців тому +43

    My heart broke with yours Frieda. You're such a strong woman. I applaud your courage in taking such a difficult step alone, and thank you so much for sharing it with us. I pray that love has or will find you again xx

  • @coucoumme
    @coucoumme 9 місяців тому +19

    There is something universal in your sentiments. The loss, the fear, the sadness, yet perhaps the relief. How frightening and profoundly sad it is when we become a stranger to someone. Beautifully written.

  • @bailatwerski2951
    @bailatwerski2951 25 днів тому +6

    My heart felt your pain and my heart also knows she did the best thing for yourself and I'm so amazed and honored to have watched this video and get to know you a little bit. I've just recently found your UA-cams and for me It was a miracle like a gift from Hashem. It takes a lot of courage to open up like this

  • @loriloristuff
    @loriloristuff 9 місяців тому +31

    Hugs! You are a strong woman, my dear. There are so many things we aren't sure we can endure without dying!!!! And you did, you survived, and endured, as painful as it was, and thrived.
    You're an excellent writer.

  • @TravelinJenB
    @TravelinJenB 10 місяців тому +37

    Frieda you have such a way with words, and none moreso than with this baring of your soul. I would enjoy hearing more personal essays in the future.

  • @PossumLover1111
    @PossumLover1111 7 місяців тому +15

    That was deeply moving and brought me to tears. I really felt it. I hope your life now is filled with joy, beauty, and lots of love.

  • @martak8933
    @martak8933 10 місяців тому +32

    That was beautiful Frieda! You are very brave for sharing such a personal piece.
    Would love to listen to any other of your essays in the future!

  • @donnahibbard1774
    @donnahibbard1774 9 місяців тому +19

    I heard your pain, I felt it, and I cried. You are valued and appreciated. ❤

  • @PoppyOak
    @PoppyOak 9 місяців тому +40

    Absolutely beautiful essay! ❤ my heart breaks for the pain you went through and I’m so happy you found your way and are thriving. Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal story. It is truly compelling.

  • @boathousejoed1126
    @boathousejoed1126 9 місяців тому +32

    There are instances when words fall short, sending a virtual hug..

  • @pqlasmdhryeiw8
    @pqlasmdhryeiw8 9 місяців тому +10

    Thank you for sharing this painful and intimate moment with us. And in a manner that is very you - I remember you saying you always liked writing and poetry as a child and teenager.

  • @TristouMTL
    @TristouMTL 9 місяців тому +24

    You brought me to tears, and I have nothing but love and respect and thanks for your stubbornness and your intelligence and your ability to write.

  • @danaloudenslager1182
    @danaloudenslager1182 9 місяців тому +19

    That essay absolutely penetrated my heart. I’ve watched your videos with other folks who are OTD, like yourself but this is the first time I’ve ever heard something that captures the contemporaneous experience as one makes their exit. It’s so achingly human. Thank you for publishing something so personal.

  • @susanjoyce8053
    @susanjoyce8053 8 місяців тому +13

    Frieda, you’ve touched my heart and brought me with you during such a painful time. Go in peace. Find happiness.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  8 місяців тому

      Ha ha, בני יואל had rebbetzin alte feige for years!

  • @nielsvandam1850
    @nielsvandam1850 9 місяців тому +33

    Frieda what a beautiful video! You are a fantastic woman.

  • @aboutdawntoday
    @aboutdawntoday 9 днів тому +1

    I am crying tears of bittersweet joy. You are not stubborn you are resolute. That was beautiful.

  • @AllisonDossett
    @AllisonDossett 9 місяців тому +8

    That is heartbreakingly beautiful

  • @shulamitkalish3060
    @shulamitkalish3060 9 місяців тому +32

    This is the most heartbreakingly beautiful piece. Frieda you have such a unique capacity to see life, Judaism, culture through all its facets.

  • @martinelanglois3158
    @martinelanglois3158 9 місяців тому +24

    This is so moving, so powerful, so poignant. Strenght and vulnerability into one. You are a very talented courageous woman. Thank you for sharing this with us. Sending hugs. 😢

  • @JulieReyes67
    @JulieReyes67 8 місяців тому +9

    This is heartbreaking and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your soul.

  • @toniclarke118
    @toniclarke118 2 місяці тому +10

    Rare and brutally honest spoken with such dignity. It’s not easy listening to someone’s personal heartbreak. Thank you.

  • @ladyrose3338
    @ladyrose3338 9 місяців тому +9

    “I’m not alone…”
    You’re right Frieda, and you never will be…much love to you and thank you for sharing such a raw time in your life with all of us. Shalom 🕊️🤍

  • @sophiemorrison9820
    @sophiemorrison9820 8 місяців тому +15

    Your pain and aloneness came through the screen and left me teary eyed. It's the price you paid for not being able to conform to a path laid out before you. I think you have since grown and found satisfaction and happiness. I have enjoyed your pursuits on video. Much success and love to you in your life ahead.

  • @isaacwolowik
    @isaacwolowik 8 місяців тому +6

    OMG!! I just cried when I heard this. So vulnerable, so deeply painful and so overwhelming. Bless your strength.

  • @mariereilly2084
    @mariereilly2084 8 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for your generosity of spirit. Your truth frees my heart. Incredible writing. I feel blessed to have found this.

  • @rabeksmom
    @rabeksmom 9 місяців тому +15

    I'm honored that you opened up to share this with us. It's so profound. thank you.

  • @mrsk4343
    @mrsk4343 10 місяців тому +39

    Oh my word. Poignant and tragic and beautiful.

  • @ThildasBeinhaus
    @ThildasBeinhaus 9 місяців тому +8

    It's so moving how you could discribe your pain in such beautiful words. You have the spirit of a poet and a big heart ❤

  • @Savti1015
    @Savti1015 6 місяців тому +11

    The raw emotion and gut level honesty is remarkable. What strength you have. May you continue to rebuild your life even as you poignantly share your story. All good wishes to you.

  • @Mama24loves
    @Mama24loves 9 місяців тому +7

    This has broken my heart and made things in my life clearer to me. Thank you for sharing this with us.

  • @GuruishMike
    @GuruishMike 7 місяців тому +5

    Thank you for this. You risking the vulnerability to share this essay is a gift for us.

  • @mrs.brunke443
    @mrs.brunke443 9 місяців тому +28

    I am not Jewish but this transcends that difference. Your words reach out to each person who has gone through a personal heartbreak of whatever nature. If I were with you in person I think the only response to this would be to sit in silence letting our hearts feel the hurt and the healing together.

    • @chanieweiss4288
      @chanieweiss4288 9 місяців тому +3

      @MrsBrunke You sound quite poetic yourself.

  • @annbellfeinstein
    @annbellfeinstein 9 місяців тому +29

    Very emotional and powerful. Amazing

  • @luiscastellanos660
    @luiscastellanos660 9 місяців тому +4

    😢 heartbreaking! Thanks for sharing such an intimate moment. It is as sad as poetically beautiful. You are an amazing person! Thanks for this beautiful channel!!

  • @bkriszti
    @bkriszti 9 місяців тому +7

    This essay and you reading it out loud was so touching, so moving and so heartfelt. I'm lost for words.

  • @barbaraketchum8287
    @barbaraketchum8287 9 місяців тому +16

    Divorce is so heartbreaking no matter how it happens. Mine was fraught with so many court proceedings and was drawn out for years. But the death of a partnership and dream is always so painful. I have flourished and moved on, and it seems as though you and your son have done the same. Many prayers and blessings to you!! ❤

  • @laurameisenhelter9186
    @laurameisenhelter9186 9 місяців тому +20

    Frieda, thank you for sharing something so deeply personal. You are brave to share your story. You are brave to remain true to yourself. Thank you.

  • @bettymaines6305
    @bettymaines6305 9 місяців тому +14

    I applaud your bravery in posting this. It is difficult to share our most heart felt feelings with the public , and this is exactly what you did. I applaud you.

  • @kaynewling3455
    @kaynewling3455 9 місяців тому +10

    Unbelievably moving. I admire your courage, your honesty with yourself and others, and your deep thinking.

  • @beeswan9775
    @beeswan9775 9 місяців тому +6

    Thank you for this gift you have given to all of us, in your own voice, from your own memories, and from the deep places of your heart and soul.

  • @MsSherryjh
    @MsSherryjh 9 місяців тому +8

    Oh Frieda. How beautiful and how sad.
    Two things can be true at the same time. Thank you for sharing your two truths with me, with us. Keep writing, I know you have. Your words are heart felt, heart shared.

  • @bobanddaly
    @bobanddaly 8 місяців тому +4

    You just left me with my eyes full of tears, you are a great and strong woman, I admired you! Hugs

  • @maryrivers1502
    @maryrivers1502 9 місяців тому +9

    Wow! That was powerful. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and willing to share that with us!

  • @julesanaplans4162
    @julesanaplans4162 9 місяців тому +6

    Lovely. Very discriptive and sad, yet hopeful.

  • @chaviweiss9882
    @chaviweiss9882 9 місяців тому +8

    Dearest Frieda What you're saying and in the way you're saying it is heartbreaking, heartwrenching, beautiful and so full of feelings and pain. Tears welled in my eyes as I listened to you read your essay. You're an amazing person. I've seen so many of your videos, and I love them all.
    Thank you for this video, The Get, where you bear your heart, which resonates with me.
    For a different reason, I've been there.

  • @catclelland2447
    @catclelland2447 9 місяців тому +7

    Thank you for being so brave to share this with us. I’m so touched by your honesty and willingness to open up about your former life. Much love

  • @peterboyle6229
    @peterboyle6229 9 місяців тому +9

    Thank you Frieda, we feel your pain so well expressed in your essay. This is beautiful poetry.

  • @gloriouslyimperfect
    @gloriouslyimperfect 9 місяців тому +6

    Thank you for sharing your most vulnerable moment with us. This was stunningly beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time

  • @berteisenbraun7415
    @berteisenbraun7415 9 місяців тому +14

    I almost feel ashamed to have such personal feelings given to me! it does give me a window into your life. you tugged at my Heart Strings today, The loss of a Child is very Painful and a lifelong struggle, grieving for a child is forever. Thank you for helping me know you!

  • @mary-kittybonkers2374
    @mary-kittybonkers2374 9 місяців тому +6

    Dear Frieda, thank you so much for sharing this intimate, powerful and heartbreaking glimpse into this most seminal moment in your life. You have such a beautiful way with words. You describe even the emotionally painful, jarring moments and the finality of the ‘Get’ so poetically, and with such dignity. Thank you again for sharing yourself at your most vulnerable and at this moment of aloneness and exile. Regards, Mary x

  • @sabineottala3588
    @sabineottala3588 9 місяців тому +10

    Gosh, this was powerful. I'm in awe of your honesty and ability to put words to those feelings. I got married and divorced young as well and I don't think I've ever acknowledged the emotions as clearly as you did here.

  • @7ennifer
    @7ennifer 2 місяці тому +3

    You are a gifted writer, truly. This heart-wrenching essay will stay with me for a while. Thank you for having the courage to share something so painful and having the courage, overall, to be authentic.

  • @bettymaines6305
    @bettymaines6305 9 місяців тому +11

    Oh Frieda, my heart aches for the pain you were feeling on this fateful day. Your prose is heartbreakingly beautiful You were brave beyond measure to take this journey. I so hope you have found peace and joy in your new life. You have more than earned it.

  • @hannahyoung3533
    @hannahyoung3533 9 місяців тому +15

    I feel sad for both you and your ex-hubby. When couples grow apart, it doesn't make one person right or one person wrong but it does cause such sadness in both people in dealing with the changes. I hope both of you have been able to heal and have happy lives.

  • @susanshostak1139
    @susanshostak1139 9 місяців тому +6

    So powerful. I like that you were able to be vulnerable and respectful at the same time.

  • @katerichards
    @katerichards 9 місяців тому +8

    That was beautiful, thank you for expressing it in such a way. I think any divorce is a rending (speaking from experience) that it takes a very long time to get past and move on with any kind of sense of normalcy or goodness, but I had the support of my family and even his father I had to push away to support his son instead because we were very close. I cannot imagine the strength and love for yourself and your son it took to leave. I admire and respect you so much.

  • @AnnieEpstein-f7k
    @AnnieEpstein-f7k 9 місяців тому +10

    I am so moved by this Frieda. How tough that was for you and how brave you were. I really feel your pain and sense of loss. Thank you so much for sharing something so intimate but difficult with us xx

  • @JL0ndon
    @JL0ndon 9 місяців тому +4

    This was beautifully written. It’s so vulnerable and it gives such a vivid picture of your grief. Thank you for sharing

  • @victoriaastrida
    @victoriaastrida 2 місяці тому +4

    Such a quiet power... I am sure you have many women like myself watching this. You have taken us on your journey. Now we are reliving ours, each so different, yet the pain, the inevitability, the confusion, the remembrance of all those small details, a feathered pen, a coat loving bought by two, the feeling of someone once beloved becoming alien, all these mirrored variously are still incredibly clear, so sharp with unfettered focus. It is a quiet Saturday night here outside Boston, and the poems will spill into the dark and on to pages as I wish you blessings on your life.

  • @Weezie1957
    @Weezie1957 9 місяців тому +5

    Incredibly moving and so beautifully written. You have shared pain we all felt when having to leave. Your stubbornness ( although I prefer tenacity) has erred you well. You broke my heart when you talked of removing your wedding band.

  • @sharpfocus5
    @sharpfocus5 9 місяців тому +16

    Brava Frieda. That was a brave thing to do and you did it beautifully.

  • @frangordon2790
    @frangordon2790 9 місяців тому +6

    Words cannot adequately express my amazement and tears for you for your vulnerability, openness, and courage. You expressed pure humanity and interconnectedness of humans. I can feel your ambivalence, sadness, and determination.

  • @ruchamawiesenfeld9302
    @ruchamawiesenfeld9302 9 місяців тому +8

    How beautifully written and heartbreakingly painful.

  • @jeffbarr1
    @jeffbarr1 9 місяців тому +6

    Frieda thank you for always showing honest , objective , and moving videos that show Judaism in a positive light and sharing personal things about yourself!