Responding to criticism of my “immodest” clothing

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  • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
    @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +114

    I want to share with you here a sweet moment from Hasidic Williamsburg - an elderly man commenting on my wearing red. It's a bit of loving teasing.
    ua-cam.com/video/L5vrGtSAQzA/v-deo.htmlsi=t_MbopBznPa-VVi_
    And to those who asked, here's again the link to the post with the Belgian model: friedavizel.com/2019/05/24/a-naked-playboy-model-in-hasidic-williamsburg/

    • @Zelde-M
      @Zelde-M 7 місяців тому +5

      Love the first vid in the Red!!!

    • @raizellanda8190
      @raizellanda8190 7 місяців тому +15

      The kindness and caring that you experience in Wlliamsburg is what is called CHESED. Our father Avraham Avinu was known for this trait of Chesed. Anyone who is Jewish and therefore also a descendent of Avraham Avinu, hopefully

    • @raizellanda8190
      @raizellanda8190 7 місяців тому +2

      Rries this trait too.

    • @hershyd3862
      @hershyd3862 7 місяців тому +2

      ​@@Zelde-M ain't nobody like Mr tiv tov 😅

    • @michelleyanche1706
      @michelleyanche1706 7 місяців тому +5

      So sweet!

  • @JohnHarvey_UK
    @JohnHarvey_UK 7 місяців тому +995

    The following quote by Flemming Rose comes to mind: "When I visit a mosque, I show my respect by taking off my shoes. I follow the customs, just as I do in a church, synagogue or other holy place. But if a believer demands that I, as a nonbeliever, observe his taboos in the public domain, he is not asking for my respect, but for my submission. And that is incompatible with a secular democracy."

    • @joyfairclough4686
      @joyfairclough4686 7 місяців тому +51

      Right; should we be expected to wear sleeves and long dresses in Brooklyn? The streets, the corner shops, are they holy places?

    • @happycrabknits9109
      @happycrabknits9109 7 місяців тому +26

      This is very well said and agree

    • @sunbeam8161
      @sunbeam8161 7 місяців тому +38

      This video, once again, shows what a beautiful person you are Frieda❣️You showed yourself very open, honest and vunerable❤You are such a soft-spoken, respektful and kind person. You have shown that over the years in your videos... and the people you deal with on a personal level experience your respectful attitude, your deep rooted knowledge of this way of life that you used to be a part of. I also sense a deep gratitude for your family and the way you were raised. The people you meet can feel all of these qualities, that are far above and beyond the (non-offensive, non- provocative) clothing that you wear. You have such a deep understanding of your roots and your identity now. People feel that, people respect that Frieda. Everyone wants to be liked /loved for who they really are - and I applaud you for the courage of showing your true colors - to the community and to everyone watching your videos🎉

    • @mountainair
      @mountainair 7 місяців тому +13

      Well said- we eventually need to converge upon a set of customs and values that transcend culture and religion.

    • @kristinesharp6286
      @kristinesharp6286 7 місяців тому +42

      The sidewalk is not their place of worship. The sidewalk is not a holy place.

  • @hershyd3862
    @hershyd3862 7 місяців тому +358

    As a chassidic jew from williamsburg i can tell you that you are very respectful and mindful of not offending anyone in the community. The sights we see on an almost daily basis have no one batting an eye lash. You dress like a rebitzin in comparison.
    Ignore the critics and keep up your great work! We love your videos.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +43

      איך אפרישיעט זייער שטארק אייער קאמענט! א גרויסע דאנק

    • @David99356
      @David99356 7 місяців тому +9

      Isn’t there a Yiddish word for appreciate? 😂

    • @hershyd3862
      @hershyd3862 7 місяців тому +5

      איך בין מכיר טוב. Not yiddish but commonly used

    • @markdavid1208
      @markdavid1208 7 місяців тому

      @@David99356 אָפּשאַצן

    • @debbie9955
      @debbie9955 7 місяців тому

      @@David99356A dank

  • @MsBoujeevalentía
    @MsBoujeevalentía 7 місяців тому +135

    As a young black woman who happens to be Jewish. Freida Never argue with fools. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience. Love your work ❤

    • @juliegoldman411
      @juliegoldman411 7 місяців тому +13

      Good point!

    • @kham6006
      @kham6006 2 місяці тому +3

      That’s good!!

    • @teacheschem
      @teacheschem 27 днів тому +3

      Excellent!

    • @vblake530530
      @vblake530530 15 днів тому +1

      I’m also a Jew , who happens to be Black and male. You took the words right out of my mouth.

  • @mweiss505
    @mweiss505 7 місяців тому +267

    As a hasidic jew I can tell you, you are very respectful, to the hasidic community!!

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +26

      I appreciate it my friend.

    • @deborahknoll4880
      @deborahknoll4880 7 місяців тому +11

      I'll agree!

    • @extanegautham8950
      @extanegautham8950 7 місяців тому +10

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn i agree also!!! this is so much more interesting and informative than the midwestern gentile videos showing a fake insiders view....i love the Gottleib's episode!

    • @moshkhal2637
      @moshkhal2637 6 місяців тому +3

      Absolutely!!!! Extremely disrespectful!!

  • @ladyd8800
    @ladyd8800 7 місяців тому +170

    Hi Frieda! I'm an African American who knows nothing about the hasidic community and I have no idea how your videos popped up on my feed...I find you to be extremely respectful and professional during your videos..I've learned soon much about this rather insular religious group. I cannot even imagine how difficult it must have been leaving a lifestyle & culture you have known most of your life and commend your courage & strength Thank you! for sharing your wide breadth of knowledge and insight.. May God bless & keep you.. 🙏❤

    • @extanegautham8950
      @extanegautham8950 7 місяців тому +4

      May God bless and keep you , too, @lady8800 you tube is pretty clever!

    • @ladyd8800
      @ladyd8800 6 місяців тому +3

      @extanegautham8950 Yes it is,.

    • @shevalazaros4427
      @shevalazaros4427 Місяць тому

      amen

    • @eagle-eye29
      @eagle-eye29 17 днів тому +1

      I found your explanation very interesting. Information is a bridge to understanding. Thank you

  • @AnaFernandez-jp5uh
    @AnaFernandez-jp5uh 7 місяців тому +53

    Frieda, you are very polite and dress for who you are. You still dress more conservative than most westerners. You should be treated with the same respect and empathy that you provide. You have helped so many understand such a secret society.

  • @EvinMA
    @EvinMA 7 місяців тому +217

    Oh my gosh Frieda! There is NO reason for you to explain. I totally learn SO much watching what you offer. Thank you for everything you share with us.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +33

      Thank you! For a long time I felt there was no reason to explain. I still feel that I shouldn't have to justify such a complicated and personal decision. But thought perhaps to those who won't judge, it will be illuminating.

    • @VioletACordy
      @VioletACordy 7 місяців тому

      🌳🩵💙😊🩵💙💜❤🌳🌳🌲🌳FRIEDA ~ G-D LOVES YOU VERY MUCH🩵💙🌳🌳🌳🌲🌳🌳🌳🌲🌳🌳💕💕💕💕💕@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn 🌈🌈🌈🔆🔆

    • @Jverburgh
      @Jverburgh 7 місяців тому +6

      I believe that the only person who is allowed to judge is God, himself@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn .

    • @roxalavista4917
      @roxalavista4917 7 місяців тому +6

      Dear Frieda, I am a person with very little former knowledge of the Hasidic community and no exposure whatsoever. I have learned so much from you, and this includes developing a respect for the customs and culture of the community. I can only imagine the nuanced path you traveI as you work to educate your viewers. I appreciate your honesty. Though you are under no obligation whatsoever to provide any explanations, you have helped me to further my understanding, and I thank you and appreciate your work and wisdom.

    • @cattymajiv
      @cattymajiv 14 днів тому +1

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn It was! Very much so! This is the first of your videos I've seen, so I'm not familiar with any of the issues, but my impression is that you are are a VERY caring, very intelligent, and very respectful person who cares enough to have chosen to try to explain the Hasidic community to others. That's a wonderful thing! And my first impression is that you do a wonderful job. Your words were so very well thought out. That alone shows a great deal of respect to the community.
      I've travelled a little, so of course I've entered churches, synagogues, and mosques, and I did try to dress respectfully there and in public places, but I hadn't thought the issue through in depth. What you said about how the need to be respectful doesn't mean you need to dress the same as them really struck me. Of course it doesn't. I'm sure most of them understand it. The might prefer it if we all did dress as they do all of the time, but they probably are realistic enough to know it won't happen, so are probably reasonably content to see that a person has made an effort to avoid being really offensive to them. I think That's how most reasonable people are, and there's no reason to think they are any different. Thank you for going further and explaining how your situation is different than mine as a gentle.
      I admit that as an atheist I do have some prejudices against all organized religions, but they don't extend to the people who I see as being caught up in them. I believe nearly all people of all backgrounds are good. I like people in general, and I'm interested in what makes them tick. That naturally includes the Jewish faith, and the people in it who have endured so much, and still continue to do so. I will watch more of your videos, and hopefully learn more about them. You have sparked a stronger interest in me. So many things compete for our time, but I will gladly spend some of it with you. Thank you very much for your amazing insight!

  • @alexandersasson2107
    @alexandersasson2107 7 місяців тому +68

    Frieda, never compromise on your values just to please others.You have enlightened and educated the masses with your eye-opening and relevant vignettes on the Ultraorthodox Jewish community. Never complain, never explain. Much respect!

  • @debbiestarks4975
    @debbiestarks4975 7 місяців тому +170

    You are so far from disrespectful. Your videos never disrespect anyone. Keep sharing with us and try not to let the haters get to you.

  • @michelleyanche1706
    @michelleyanche1706 7 місяців тому +70

    So beautifully said. Your integrity and generous spirit shine so bright in this. You brought tears to my eyes.

    • @judithnicholais1492
      @judithnicholais1492 5 місяців тому +3

      That's it exactly -- you put into words what I struggled to do. Thank you

  • @lauranoble2256
    @lauranoble2256 7 місяців тому +373

    You do a wonderful job of treating the Hasidic community respectfully.

  • @jeannelynskey6946
    @jeannelynskey6946 7 місяців тому +66

    You are not disrespectful, you are sharing the culture that most people are not familiar with.

  • @TheNostalgicKitchen
    @TheNostalgicKitchen 7 місяців тому +148

    My goodness, I’m so sorry you get those kinds or reactions Frieda! As someone who has also left a faith (not the Jewish faith but Islam) I find that you are INCREDIBLY respectful. Especially the first couple of years after I left my faith I really couldn’t muster up the strength to be respectful of that faith that had hurt me so much.
    The fact that you show us all facets of Hasidism with such enthusiasm and respect amazes me. I’ve never felt you were disrespectful at all.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +26

      Thank you so much! I appreciate that you can understand. ❤️

    • @jasminescloset2021
      @jasminescloset2021 7 місяців тому +13

      @philomenaSK I feel like its often the ppl in the religions that create issues as opposed to the religion itself. Those that discriminate against us often are far from perfect themselves and try to project their negativity on to others to hurt them. This is not a religious issue its a community issue withon the religion.

    • @TheNostalgicKitchen
      @TheNostalgicKitchen 7 місяців тому +2

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn❤

    • @TheNostalgicKitchen
      @TheNostalgicKitchen 7 місяців тому +1

      @@jasminescloset2021I think it might be both, either way it’s so sad!

    • @VioletACordy
      @VioletACordy 7 місяців тому

      🌳🩵💙😊🌈🔆😊@@FriedaVizelBrooklyn

  • @kindnessmatters604
    @kindnessmatters604 7 місяців тому +118

    Another great video. I so appreciate your point of view and the gentle way you approach these subjects. Thank you, Frieda.

  • @szeevster5767
    @szeevster5767 7 місяців тому +47

    You struck a perfect balance here. And in your life. Well done, Frieda.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +5

      Thank you friend.

    • @szeevster5767
      @szeevster5767 7 місяців тому +3

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn - I will be joining you channel. Sorry that I haven’t until now.

  • @Derf56
    @Derf56 7 місяців тому +41

    Frieda - I have learned so much from your videos and have always been impressed by how RESPECTFUL you are toward people you disagree with. Don’t stop being yourself!

  • @L83000
    @L83000 7 місяців тому +54

    Frieda you are a decent honorable woman who deserves to express yourself wearing whatever you want !

  • @jennyhugo7531
    @jennyhugo7531 7 місяців тому +20

    Dearest Frieda, you have brought alive a culture few of us have seen and respect . Whilst in NY because of your channel, I asked my son in law to take me to Williamsburg for a bagel. My son in law, an American, was amazed. I could explain to him certain things he saw because of your channel. I’m from South Africa and going to Williamsburg was something on my bucket list. That would never have been without your channel. Btw the bagel at Williamsburg Bagel was everything I could imagine. The lox and cream cheese sublime. Please continue with the work you do. We so appreciate you and the kind, respectful way you inform us. 😊

    • @Faigyfeig
      @Faigyfeig 7 місяців тому +2

      Love South Africa! I have the best memories from there.

  • @trooper190
    @trooper190 7 місяців тому +18

    YOU ARE NOT DISRESPECTFUL!!!! You are still tastefully dressed and modest.
    I think you're amazing in showing us and sharing the ways of the Hasidic community and helping to bring understanding to all of us and love for the Jewish people.
    As an Afro-American, Christian woman I say, " KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING!"

  • @pedinurse1
    @pedinurse1 7 місяців тому +25

    Frieda I accept you just the way you are. You are doing just fine. If anything I see you as being so respectful, good for you. I understand your heart. Keep up the great work😊

  • @lyndaalterio1027
    @lyndaalterio1027 7 місяців тому +37

    How are you disrespectful??? What kind of nonsense is that!! You are such a good person and have done nothing wrong, my dear Frieda! Don't let those rude people get to you - you look great and your videos are very, very tasteful! You are not disrespectful at all! You keep doing what you do, and you do such a great job. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @tanya2660
    @tanya2660 Місяць тому +9

    What a well reasoned argument. Thank you.

  • @jasminescloset2021
    @jasminescloset2021 7 місяців тому +57

    Frieda i love your channel, as jews we get criticism from our own community and from outside our community and you just have to disregard any negativity because only Hashem has the right to judge us ❤ if the Torah had been written in 2024 it would be very different and ppl would still have problems with it and criticise us 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @Tali5899
      @Tali5899 7 місяців тому +3

      😂What makes you think if the Tora was written in 2024 it wld be very different? Some are still keeping the ancient laws perfectly happily and many who haven't are deciding to start doing so now and some non Jews are even converting to be Able to have the privilege of keeping those ancient laws!!

    • @junjunjamore7735
      @junjunjamore7735 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@@Tali5899 how many people have you stoned for breaking the shabbath recently?

    • @NEMO-NEMO
      @NEMO-NEMO 4 місяці тому +1

      @@Tali5899don’t make the laws more important than the faith in Hashem.
      There are only 10 laws and those are the Commandments. Everything else is commentary.
      What ever God creates is good, He said it himself.
      He gave us the 10 Commandments, He felt 10 was good.
      Complicating a thing doesn’t make it better.
      I notice more and more people, each year, walking away from strict religious communities such as;
      Amish
      Catholic
      Hasidic
      Orthodoxy of any kind
      And even some Protestant communities.
      Needing to belong is one thing but most of the time groups manipulate members into submission.
      If there were no one wanting to speak to Ms. Freida then she would move on, but as you can see, Ms. Pearl has lots to say.

  • @martythomasg
    @martythomasg 7 місяців тому +23

    Frieda thank you for sharing. I feel your insights may be helpful in many situations. I wish more people participated in introspection before they acted or spoke.

  • @michelemarie4128
    @michelemarie4128 7 місяців тому +74

    Don't let the trolls drag you down or make you second guess yourself. Haters gonna hate.

  • @Sharon181818
    @Sharon181818 7 місяців тому +9

    Dear Frieda- once again you educate and then allow yourself to be vulnerable on camera so that your viewers can understand your personal point of view. What a Kiddush HaShem those in the community perform when they accept you as you are now and show that they care for you as a person! I agree with you that education and discussion is key to understanding the differences that people have. If the Hasidic community cannot do this from within, then it needs you- who know both sides so well- to educate. Thank you again for the wonderful work you do.

  • @alnibodycare
    @alnibodycare 7 місяців тому +17

    You are doing a a beautiful service educating folks about a community that is very much sheltered. Especially now with everything going on and the hatred towards Jews, this work is more important than ever; people must learn about the Jewish faith including all sects. I am lucky I have some exposure having grown up in New York, and not until I left did I realize how much less exposure the rest of the country has to Jewish heritage and traditions! I think you are very respectful. 💜

  • @adelenehaberkorn4703
    @adelenehaberkorn4703 7 місяців тому +20

    You have such a way of speaking your heart. You bring tears to.my eyes. God bless and keep you. Thank you for your insight. Loved Pearls interviews. She to has a heart for God.

    • @ruchie8933
      @ruchie8933 7 місяців тому +4

      A heart bof gold!!!

  • @valhenning1504
    @valhenning1504 7 місяців тому +15

    You know better than we do, what is respectful and what is not. Thank you so much for your videos and helping us learn about this community. Especially those of us who may never get to Brooklyn. I truly believe that if all people would learn about others there would be more understanding in this world. You do a wonderful job, Thank you so much.

  • @bkriszti
    @bkriszti 7 місяців тому +14

    Frieda, you are the epitome of how to treat others with respect. I also witnessed this when we joined your tour. You have nothing to feel bad about! I wish more people would be like you❤

  • @MadameEster
    @MadameEster 7 місяців тому +17

    This warms my heart and my soul. Oh we all are in need of a Frieda in our life.

  • @articufixrubin3106
    @articufixrubin3106 7 місяців тому +8

    Your kindness and respect shine through in every word you speak. Clothing is a uniform of identity that allows you to express where you would like to belong. As an orthodox Jewish woman I was told by friends in Kiryas Joel that no one would ever think I was a part of the community - no matter what I wore. Love your channel ❤

  • @laurameisenhelter9186
    @laurameisenhelter9186 7 місяців тому +12

    This is one of your best videos ever. Thank you for sharing your truth. Thank you for calling out true disrespect and teaching what real respect is. You are a gift, Frieda.

  • @katecoletti4662
    @katecoletti4662 7 місяців тому +8

    Thank you for your candor. You are so lovingly honest when you approach difficult, personal subjects on your channel. I've been watching you for about a year now, and I have to say that I have so much respect for you, what you do, and the way you do it.

  • @Victorialmeyer
    @Victorialmeyer 7 місяців тому +10

    Oh my! You are incredibly respectful! You have a beautiful heart and soul that glows! Your honest perspective and the way you tell your story builds bridges.

  • @beverlybrown4398
    @beverlybrown4398 7 місяців тому +16

    I’m sorry you have received such responses. I am so thankful that I found your channel. I’ve learned so much and I admire your ability to share your experiences in such a kind and positive way. Thank you.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +4

      It’s been a really meaningful experience for me and I’m glad you’re here to join me for it.

  • @tishleigh7026
    @tishleigh7026 7 місяців тому +7

    You are the most respectful person I have encountered on UA-cam and in real life ! You are very very respectful ! It is so refreshing to see and listen to you and you are very modest !!!❤ I see you as a very intelligent kind and respectful woman with dignity and class .I would be so proud of you if you were my daughter or a daughter in law. It would wonderful if people were more like you Frieda .I am sure your dear son is very proud of what a wonderful woman, person and mother you are! Your son is a wonderful young respectful gentleman. I look at you as a very godly kind, modest and virtuous woman. ❤ I am so happy to see your kindness and UA-cam videos.So glad you are on here !!! We love you Frieda !!!😊💖

  • @karengeary9526
    @karengeary9526 7 місяців тому +6

    You bring such joy, clarity and a marvelous perspective on life. Thank you for sharing. I have learned much applicable to my life!

  • @Zelde-M
    @Zelde-M 7 місяців тому +17

    Punkt! I applaud that your work comes from love, passion, insight, critical thinking & Integrity. The integrity to be genuine! Shkoyakh!

  • @Cosette2022
    @Cosette2022 7 місяців тому +6

    You honor this community, and give them great respect. I come here to learn and you’ve been a great teacher. Thank you ❤

  • @simonewoodwell7354
    @simonewoodwell7354 7 місяців тому +22

    So sorry that you get these emails. Why do they watch? You are not disrespectful.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +5

      Some of them say they want to watch my videos but can’t because of my clothing.

    • @boathousejoed1126
      @boathousejoed1126 7 місяців тому +2

      Exactly! If the haters are on UA-cam, they need to evaluate their own belief and practice.

    • @carolinecastiglione9075
      @carolinecastiglione9075 7 місяців тому +1

      Don't carry someone's cult luggage.

    • @_wesleyhome_
      @_wesleyhome_ 7 місяців тому

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn if they're so heilige they're not watching videos to begin with. So I would take that claim with a pound of salt.

  • @sisuriffs
    @sisuriffs 19 днів тому +5

    Whenever I hear about “modest” dress, especially when people showcase their own modesty, I think of the man who lost his humility medal because he wore it.

  • @RScesium
    @RScesium 7 місяців тому +14

    Respect is in the heart, not over the skin.

  • @peterdalyy3542
    @peterdalyy3542 7 місяців тому +6

    Dear frieda even though I live in a very closed hasdic sect ,I think as I have told you many times that your channel is fantastic, and you are a very open and honest person I love your videos my wife and I enjoy your content very much you most certainly are not disrespectful in anyway, keep up your good work koll tov

  • @nathanrosen
    @nathanrosen 7 місяців тому +9

    In my opinion, you are educational , informative, well informed, and treat the community with sincere sensitivity. I enjoy your videos. Keep up the great work. Kol Hakavod!

  • @robertcoughlin4961
    @robertcoughlin4961 7 місяців тому +7

    You are so respectful! I am so impressed with the respect you give to the community and to all who you interview and encounter. You are a fine person. Keep up the good work. I appreciate the work you do more than words can say.

  • @lakesq2056
    @lakesq2056 7 місяців тому +10

    you are such a brave, thoughtful, and articulate teacher of the importance of truth.

  • @10BE11
    @10BE11 7 місяців тому +13

    As a satmar chusid, who grew up in Bklyn and who's currently living in the 10950 zip code...
    I appreciated your videos. I relate so much to your vidoes.
    I love my life and my community. And it's so fun to watch it thru your eyes! I don't see disrespect at all. Coming to the community dressed appropriately modest doesn't mean wearing the full chassidish style.
    Showing extensive cleavage and shorts w tank is inappropriate imo.
    But you always look very appropriate in your videos.
    Keep up the work. My friends and I REALLY enjoy it.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +3

      Thank you thank you thank you. Especially appreciate hearing from the one and only 10950 zip code.

    • @maril1379
      @maril1379 7 місяців тому

      Hello I think this is Monroe. Question I see you are Satmar.
      I an guessing you access the internet in private? I have been in Williamsburg and met Satmar in upstate NY
      Just curious because of my reading of and interaction with Satmar women who generally avoid the internet. Thank you

    • @Tali5899
      @Tali5899 7 місяців тому

      ​@@maril1379And you are G-ds policeman?

  • @suzimilford7921
    @suzimilford7921 7 місяців тому +11

    This was such an interesting video.
    I feel you’ve always been very respectful with everything you do and say.
    People on the community wouldn’t communicate with you if they thought you are in anyway disrespectful.
    I acknowledge people will think differently and I praise you for making this video to recognise these people.
    But it feels to me like people are being picky and trying to go out of their way to find fault.
    You found kindness and love as you said in this video.
    Hold onto that and not the ‘keyboard worriers’ who only make themselves feel good by finding flaws in others.
    You warm my heart with every video, and I always look forward to seeing the next edition.
    You are doing an amazing job and in my eyes you pull it if perfectly.
    So much love and respect to you,
    From Suzi xxxx
    UK

  • @gaetane-dianeforget1252
    @gaetane-dianeforget1252 7 місяців тому +9

    You are awesome. Please continue to be yourself.
    You make is friendly and easy to appreciate and understand this community

  • @karenkingrey6142
    @karenkingrey6142 7 місяців тому +5

    I find you are very respectful & still informative which i appreciate. How will we ever learn anything about different communities/beliefs if not for people like you!

  • @sarahgraves7860
    @sarahgraves7860 7 місяців тому +4

    This is an example of the very thoughtful and sensitive vlogs that bring so many to your channel.

  • @cynthiacrumlish4683
    @cynthiacrumlish4683 7 місяців тому +11

    You are courteous, kind, wise, respectful. I love your interactions with Pearl!

  • @MsHannahFlower
    @MsHannahFlower 7 місяців тому +4

    Freida, you are an absolute shining soul. I identify with you, coming from a Yeshivish family and figuring out my path and values. You have never once seemed disrespectful to me, in fact quite the opposite. You foster kindness and understanding in a thoughtful, gentle way. What a role model you are! Keep being you, and the fruits will continue to blossom.

  • @coribellanoche
    @coribellanoche 7 місяців тому +4

    Once again, you have proven yourself to be beautifully articulate, remarkably sensitive and most of all soul-full in your reflection. Being an insider versus an outsider is seen in many aspects and dimensions in our society. You mentioned the experience of a nurse being identified by her uniform. I have recently retired as a neonatologist where people in the hospital identified me for who I was by my scrubs "uniform with a stethoscope around my neck." How very different it is now when I visit my former intensive care unit out of uniform. I appreciate your thoughtful candor and your emotion. Yes, I think we all code switch to a degree when the situation calls for it, not with maliciousness or pretensiousness rather, out of respect and dignity. Thank you again for a beautiful and meaningful video. Greetings from Rapid City, South Dakota. Kol Hakavod.

  • @navamorris3478
    @navamorris3478 7 місяців тому +3

    When I watch your videos, I am struck by your honesty, integrity, awareness, and sensitivity. I have yet to see or hear anything that I would say is a chutzpa. I have wondered about your wearing pants when in the community, but only because it seems incongruent in light of your having grown up there. I am Chareidi in Israel (not Chassidish), and I have three girls "on their own path". In the beginning, when my oldest started dressing immodestly, I wondered how she could feel comfortable exposing herself as much as she did. Doesn't it feel strange? But I guess it feels liberating, both figuratively and physically. Wow, there is so much to each person's story and the story of each family, and really, everyone is doing their best, whether or not it looks like it.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +3

      I appreciate you sharing a bit of yourself. I know as a parent that it’s not easy always letting kids take their own paths. Kudos to you. I think some people are more comfortable baring skin than others, for whatever reason.

  • @jagel5809
    @jagel5809 7 місяців тому +4

    I absolutely appreciate, admire, and respect you in every way. You are a very brave, articulate, and wonderful human. Keep doing you. You are great!

  • @joycebaker3798
    @joycebaker3798 6 місяців тому +6

    Thank you for taking the time to speak openly about respect vs. imitation. You are right not to dress just like the Hasidic women. But to show respect by not violating the rules for outsiders. They are showing respect by explaining what is expected. I always explained to my children the expectations of behavior/dress for any place we went.

  • @dloveofgod8269
    @dloveofgod8269 7 місяців тому +5

    Thank you Frieda. I started watching your videos a year ago & enjoy them as they are every informative and educational. I grew up in Brooklyn as a teen was very aware of Hasidic community though did not understand it until later in life having Jewish friends & family. I was raised Catholic & also wasib all girls classes when young. Clothing does speak volumes about the person. It's a shame that many don't have respect for others. I truly think the companies of bus tours are in error not informing those who visit as a 'tourist ' how to dress in being respectful to the community. Tourism obviously helps the community financially & there's the downside. I wish you well in your journey. May you stay safe & blessings to you and your wonderful son.

  • @shellygauvreau399
    @shellygauvreau399 7 місяців тому +30

    I live in Canada and am trying to think of a logical enough reason for me to come to NYC so that I can take one of your tours. You seem to have such a beautiful relationship with many many members of the community that you visit. You have obviously made a huge impact on others that you may have been unaware of but that silent impact is so much more authentic than the impact that is made by the biggest explosion. I love your story telling whether it be with Pearl or the shop keeper selling his wares to you.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +2

      Aww, thank you. Come down sometime. NYC is a wonderful place to visit, well worth it. I’m biased maybe.

    • @aggieglitter
      @aggieglitter 7 місяців тому +3

      Lol I'm the same. When they have run out of the Eskal pickles here in Sydney which are kosher and from Israel I'm always thinking "if I just catch a flight to Brooklyn I bet they'll have some". You don't need a logical reason. If I was childless, and didn't have responsibilities, the pickles would be good enough reason for me to go .

  • @RachG
    @RachG 7 місяців тому +5

    Thank you for sharing this.
    You’re so right about the importance and freedom of being your authentic self, as much as possible. I’m so glad that you have been able to build relationships and be accepted and appreciated as YOU. How much more special and meaningful that is. I also like how you turned around people somewhat negative comments into a positive story of the goodness of people. ❤

  • @osterreich100
    @osterreich100 7 місяців тому +6

    Frieda, you are kind, respectful, and beautiful..Your videos are always enlightening. I love watching your videos.

  • @jasminescloset2021
    @jasminescloset2021 7 місяців тому +12

    sorry frieda had to add another comment, just to say THANK YOU to you❤ i did mention it previously under another video but it's in part because of your channel that I returned to Judaism because I started to see the beauty in our culture / religion. This is thanks to you and your channel, and im sure there are also other jews who have felt a feeling of joy and reconnected to judaism through your channel ❤Hashem always leads us where we need to be ☺️

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +6

      Thank you so much for sharing this, I am so moved. Much love on your journey. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @RebbeClips
      @RebbeClips 7 місяців тому +3

      Frieda has a powerful soul that has the power to affect many.

    • @jasminescloset2021
      @jasminescloset2021 7 місяців тому +1

      @@RebbeClips ☺️🙌🏽

    • @chasidance
      @chasidance 7 місяців тому

      @@FriedaVizelBrooklyn And for that my dear you deserve a special gan eden. A gan eden for women in pants...

  • @SignalHillHiker
    @SignalHillHiker 7 місяців тому +9

    Fascinating, as always. I love how thoughtfully you speak and the elegant choice of words. You've definitely shown the beauty of the Hasidic community through your videos over the past couple of years. I understand you're just being your authentic self, and showing respect to the level that is expected and appreciated of outsiders. But it still reminds me a little of one of the things my grandmother used to complain about. She was a devout Roman Catholic, and always hated when the priest would face the congregation during mass as she thought that symbolized the priest was representing God to the people. She preferred the old style where the priest would face the altar, the same direction as the congregation, because she thought that symbolized the priest was representing the people before God. There's something similar there with your modern clothing, a sort of visual demonstration of the fact that you're not trying to portray yourself as a representative of the Hasidic community when you guide tours in the neighbourhood. You're there to work, and although you come from the community and have a wealth of insider knowledge, you're there as a representative of the outsiders in your tour group - and you go above and beyond to try to ensure they're able to respectfully visit and gain a small insight into what makes the community so interesting.

    • @FriedaVizelBrooklyn
      @FriedaVizelBrooklyn  7 місяців тому +2

      Yes very interesting analogy. And I can see why people like your grandma would have a problem with the “priest” not be “one of”, as in, my own being a step apart from the “congregation”. However, that distance gives me a kind of intellectual liberty that I wouldn’t otherwise have, so you win some and lose some.

  • @sarahbasse3211
    @sarahbasse3211 7 місяців тому +5

    I believe in honesty too!! And Frieda, you have more than a little chutzpah thank G.od. 😂 This is one of my favorite videos of yours so far. The deep impact of how we dress and what it means to us and our communities is something I’ve become more sensitive to over recent years. Your points really resonate with me! Thank you for everything you do, I can’t wait to see what’s coming next❤

  • @carolinospelt2932
    @carolinospelt2932 7 місяців тому +2

    Thank you Frieda, your videos opened the mind and the heart of so many viewers. You are doing a wonderful job in the most respectful way someone can imagine. Your work is of incredible importance 🙏🏻❤

  • @panno16
    @panno16 7 місяців тому +4

    You are so respectful to those you encounter that it is quite clear these messages were simply out of hatred for all. I have especially been blessed by your interactions with the elder Hasidic community. You would make an excellent teacher of the young. God bless you.

  • @gj6209
    @gj6209 7 місяців тому +3

    Miss Frieda, you be YOU. You worded this video so beautifully. I have seen many, many videos you’ve made and I have never seen you be disrespectful….actually, you are more respectful because YOU KNOW what that community will tolerate. It’s your career! Why would you jeopardize your work to wear a single garment they won’t accept! Please be you…..it’s exactly why you left that world! We love you, respect you and your work here is exceptional! 👍❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @katmother
    @katmother 7 місяців тому +3

    Your vulnerable way is refreshing. You didn’t have to share that and yet you did. I think it’s wonderful and am sure it will help many people.

  • @cathycarney6450
    @cathycarney6450 7 місяців тому +3

    I've taken your tour a few times with friends bc you taught us so many lessons. You are a beautiful kind strong woman we need at this divisive time in the world. Thank you Frieda.

  • @kippykate9905
    @kippykate9905 7 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for sharing your heritage & educating me on a world I would otherwise not know anything about. Guard your heart.

  • @kathleentierney9496
    @kathleentierney9496 7 місяців тому +5

    I appreciate your very thoughtful explanation. And I’m grateful that YT put you in my path. I’ve learned a lot from your channel and always look forward to new videos. Keep doing what you’re doing and focus on the people with big, kind hearts and not the haters!!

  • @catsun90805
    @catsun90805 7 місяців тому +5

    Omg you are the MOST respectful person posting videos like this! Which is why I started following your channel. All the best

  • @joyciejd9673
    @joyciejd9673 6 місяців тому +3

    I love your channel and I appreciate your honesty and candor in all of your videos. You're a strong, sensitive and lovely young woman. Just be you.

  • @stefaniesteinberg3789
    @stefaniesteinberg3789 7 місяців тому +12

    Your reflection was so interesting, I simply loved it…

  • @marsy1480
    @marsy1480 3 місяці тому +1

    Fascinating AND beautiful. Thank you for your insights. You are educating your viewers which, as a Jewish woman in the UK, raised observing a small portion of religious rules is completely enlightening. ❤

  • @agirly1503
    @agirly1503 7 місяців тому +6

    We appreciate you! Always 😊

  • @brucewu3781
    @brucewu3781 11 днів тому

    Frieda, you speak so eloquently. Thank you for your beautiful response. I love your channel!

  • @kaecatalano6113
    @kaecatalano6113 7 місяців тому +4

    This was very well done, Freida! To those who would point a finger to accuse, they simply don't understand that you have thoughtfully addressed your stance or perhaps they are just judgmental. When hearing you speak about your visits after covid, it speaks volumes that people have not 'disowned" you. They care about you and yours! I so enjoy each of your videos. To those who would like to criticize you or your choice in clothing (or presentations) I am reminded of one of my mother's favorite sayings. "It's their problem, not yours!"

  • @chaniekatz9123
    @chaniekatz9123 19 днів тому +2

    Hi Frida, I am not surprised that the Chassidic community treats you well. You have a sweet, kind demeanor and even if you wear pants, you don't dress provocative ly nor do you speak about the religion in an unloving or disrespectful way, even though you have left it. As an orthodox but nonchassidic Jew, I am curious about other religions. I've been watching about people who left the Amish, and there is so much bitterness and hatred on both sides. You are respectful about our religion always, and that comes across loud and clear. Kol hakavod!!

  • @RhonaDavis-lz3qp
    @RhonaDavis-lz3qp 7 місяців тому +3

    I have never found you disrespectful
    You have never pulled anyone down. Keep up your good work.

  • @lauriemandel676
    @lauriemandel676 5 місяців тому +2

    You are a pleasure to listen to and I really enjoy your respectful and insightful interviews. I am a frum Jewish woman and I am very proud of you as a person, woman, mother and your willingness to be honest and vunerable.

  • @DeidresStuff
    @DeidresStuff 18 днів тому +4

    If you're on the public sidewalk, it's no one's business. It's still a free country, for the time being.

  • @gretchenmiller3639
    @gretchenmiller3639 7 місяців тому +5

    I have thought everything you do is respectful. Your entire manner is kind and respectful. You should be proud of what you do.

  • @karicoleman3548
    @karicoleman3548 7 місяців тому +3

    Thank you Frieda, for saying what you certainly didn’t have to say. I admire deeply your ability to be unapologetically yourself. I wish I’d had more of that in my life.

  • @amberhassan1606
    @amberhassan1606 7 місяців тому +3

    I admire you for leaving a community yet you continuously speak very lovingly about the community, sharing with us a wide spectrum of subjects regarding the community and in my opinion very respectfully.
    You always dress lovely and again in my opinion respectfully.
    Thank you for your content, thank you for sharing 🌻

  • @ejeanroh377
    @ejeanroh377 7 місяців тому +3

    You are doing great in educating me in the way others practice their religion. You're not intrusive, you're not judgemental, you're not opinionated one way or the other... you are educating us in the way of others' religious lives.
    Humanity must know about others' way of living to understand, and to let be.
    Thank you for all your videos.
    Blessings.

  • @brendadalton4706
    @brendadalton4706 7 місяців тому +4

    What an amazingly inspirational woman you are, you treat your videos with such respect. You have shown amazing strength of character with this you tube video and I want to say thankyou for it

  • @dorisporch2733
    @dorisporch2733 7 місяців тому +2

    Thank you Frieda for sharing these thoughts. It is good to be reminded that truly, most people are good and kind.

  • @kmair5847
    @kmair5847 7 місяців тому +3

    I think you are doing a wonderful job and never felt you were disrespectful and for sure not confrontational. You bring the human side and information so that there can be understanding of a community that is different but because of you now less strange.

  • @ruthcouch1233
    @ruthcouch1233 Місяць тому +1

    Grateful you posted this. I appreciate that you speak with so much kindness and efforts to increase understanding - It seems you are like Aaron HaCohen.

  • @hi-kb3hb
    @hi-kb3hb Місяць тому +3

    I love how you are so honest and open!!! I am a Frum teen and I just want to point out that the people who confront you about this are doing it out of love. (Some of them don't do it in a politically correct way😆 ). I fully respect you and it is totally your choice how to live your life. Something that helps me dress modestly, is realizing that I am not doing it just because of societies standards. I am doing it out of love for Hashem and the will to follow the halachos and serve Him.

    • @en582
      @en582 29 днів тому +1

      Beautifully said, exactly.

  • @PoppyOak
    @PoppyOak 7 місяців тому +2

    I admire your balance and how well you describe your thoughts and feelings. ❤️👏 You tackle touchy subjects so well and are a good example of respect and compassion towards others❤️ keep up the good work!! 👏

  • @ruchie8933
    @ruchie8933 7 місяців тому +5

    כל הכבוד לך!!!you are sooo nice& understanding!!!we love you!!!(from"the"community!!!)

  • @PKScoop
    @PKScoop 7 місяців тому +3

    I want to thank you for all you do outside the community to help us increase our love and understanding.

  • @wendystephenson407
    @wendystephenson407 5 місяців тому +3

    Disgusting!!! If the “Trolls” are unhappy please don’t watch!!! I’m not of the Jewish faith but soo enjoy watching & listening to you!!! Thankyou from the UK💕💕💕

  • @karenhubler7944
    @karenhubler7944 17 днів тому

    I find your work and your personal history, amazing! You are open, kind, respectful but perceptive. Keep up the great work that you do!

  • @bettymaines6305
    @bettymaines6305 7 місяців тому +6

    I have great respect for you and what you do. It is impossible to please everyone. You strike a good compromise , and are a very brave woman. I am so sorry for any hurt these inappropriate comments have caused you and for emotional pain or discomfort. As an aside, I do think the general NYC community think the Hasidic community is “weird”and there is a lot of antisemitism . Part of this is because there is NO understanding of the community, and you help to bring about a greater understanding of this community, thus YOU have gone a long way to replace antisemitism with understanding. You have helped the Hasidic community more than I suspect you realize . Keep up the good work.

  • @MDWJS
    @MDWJS 7 місяців тому +5

    Beautifully stated. I have learned so much from your little channel. I am half Jewish raised Catholic but always allowed by my Mum who is Catholic to embrace my Jewish side.

    • @raizellouisebarnes6348
      @raizellouisebarnes6348 7 місяців тому +1

      Hi hun , there is no such thing being half jewish , fully jewish though the mother side or jewish connections though your father

    • @MDWJS
      @MDWJS 7 місяців тому

      I consider myself half Jewish thanks for respecting how I identify. @@raizellouisebarnes6348