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FJ...I am so excited to sport your merch!! You should continue making it!! You are the best of the best. (There's your confidence for the day. ❤️) Thanks for always giving me a smile at the start of my day. Looking forward to your next video. ❤️
my problem is that people around me think I am doing great when they see what I've accomplished and what I've been up to - but I don't! even when others think you're doing great, confidence must come from you and that's the difficult part
Give yourself some credit brah. Positive affirmations people! Look in that mirror and tell yourself you are killin' it. Give yourself some smooches, pad your back and enjoy it!
Fear of failure is difficult, I feel that. Try to phrase failure as a way to then get better and meet your high level of (often too high) expectations. :)
It’s helped mine too! I got to know and accept myself without judgment, and learn to grow with my strengths and recognize my weaknesses. I don’t allow my weaknesses to define or depress me but to grow with the weeds.
@@christietrumb7807 your personality isn't fixed, in fact in the course of the time It could change, not radically but at least It will change. However knowing your strenghts and weakness without judging is part of the process.
Simone Greco 👍🏼 yep, I changed from ENTP to INTJ. You want to be an IxxJ you gonna have to sacrifice time to be alone. You want to be an ENFJ you’d have to start valuing people more And being out more.
@@mbtisocialclub sorry but i think this is a dumb way to approch changes in the life. You make your choices but at the last the point is that you have to feel better with yourself and with others. It's not like that: i won't wake up tomorrow with the aim to judge people more, or force myself to be alone. It could be a consequence, maybe because i'll study more, or i find a good job but it's individual
Simone Greco i think you are jumping to conclusions. What you pretty much just said is my point. What I tried to point out is that when my lifestyle changed so did my outlook on life and my personality. You know how some people say that they wish they were a different type? Well they can change their type but it would mean they’d have to change fundamental things about themselves and I only gave u general ways to change type. Each type just tells you how you like to live your life. If you are an outgoing person and then stopped going out, after some time your type will change, but most people do not want to change therefore they will not change.
I'm an INFJ. I was not confident, until finally I learned to love myself by accepting myself fully. After I mastered it, there wasn't much to worry me anymore and I rarely thought too much. My life became peaceful and I'm confident.
I still can't. I can write thousands of "I am good enough"-stickers and glue them to every wall on all my rooms, but it still does not work. I can write it down dozens of times daily, does not work.
@@emanuelmayer Look up shadow work/inner child work. You likely have core beliefs that you need to understand and work on. For many years, the "I love you talk" to myself just felt cringe and pointless, but as I grew emotionally, it started to actually bear weight. These days I tell myself daily that I love myself, think I'm cool, doing good, etc, and it's not forced at all.
The origin of the word confidence is 'confidere' - which means 'trust' This is the best definition I've come across. Trust. To fully trust is to be here in the moment without doubt. Trust in life. Trust that everything will be ok
the thing is i trust (and am confident enough) myself, i just couldnt trust other people, and it may seem and they usually think like i dont care, so when i do things that makes me feel good, it scares them away,.but the truth is i do care a lot, and thats kinda frustrating,the reasonwhy when they feel good with a particular thing that im doing, i somehow feel good about myself too because doing that particular thing(especially when its something that i love doing), kinda builds a bridge between me and the other people. Probably boils down to "bridge=connection" that i long for.
How to build your confidence 1.Don't let feelings of inferiority boss you around. 2. Coose an interest and commit to working on it. 3. Do everything step by step and little by little, don't just see the bigger picture. 4. Get something that motivates you. 5. Think positively, you are the only one who could free your mind from these sick thoughts. 6. Get your shit together and stop caring about people's opinions anymore. 7. You're infj. You're unique. Celebrate it.
nah Frank, your older videos are also great, those videos also have a lot of insightful observations which is the primary reason why i liked your channel in the first place
I agree with PT... your videos back then were great as we could see your vulnerability which called our own vulnerability too... and how you progressed, inspires others ... progress and improvement is possible, is real!! We just gotta do the job on ourselves... Thank you... what you did back then is very beautiful and inspiring in many ways! You are now up a notch now 😂 and that is SO cool!!
“Don’t care about other people. Who needs them? Ok, I do!” 😂 I love that you acknowledge your humanity. I’ve seen some of your older videos and......this hair is the best by far.....😅
@@zsemma6599 I think it has a lot to do with acceptance, knowing yourself & how you understamd & define things. My ultimate thought is that I know it doesn't make sense to consider myself as not enough but there's a lot of work, history & thought processes connected to that.
You can be sensitive and compassionate with confidence, I used to believe that I couldn't and that I had to abuse myself to make myself feel like I wasn't so "high and mighty" and that I was "relatable around others" nah, it actually bred resentment when I felt I had to do that to myself and I see the value of love now that I love myself, the real value, not the preconceived notion I had of it.
Yes!! Confidence definitely shouldn’t be dependent on how others judge you. It’s taken me years to internalize that and it’s a work in progress, along with shoring up my sense of well-being in the face of adverse circumstances. I love your old stuff, it’s a part of you and it’s also important and beautiful in its honesty. I’m enjoying going through them, and I’ve gotten so much out of them. It’s so important to embrace all our old selves, however tattered or broken they appear. They did the heavy lifting to get us where we are.
I had no confidence at all until I was 15... I was just an outcast in every way. But I was inscribed into a music school, and after my audition, my teacher told me that she had not heard a voice like mine, ever. I went into an anxiety attack because people were watching me when she said it. She made me sing in front of the entire music school to prove that I was what she was saying I was... all the kids loved it. After that day, I have never been the same. Singing became my safe-extrovert-spot and mask. As an adult, I was very lucky 🍀 to have an amazing visionary boss on my first job, that immediately saw that I had a “talent” for Human Resources. It made me have a “jump” ahead on my own like and career. I’m forever grateful to her because I had no clue on what I could do. Frank, appreciate you and all of the channel followers’ so much! 💙
Wow, congratulations on those things 💙 I'm 19, never had much confidence, utterly lost it at age 10 when I got my social phobia & around graduation I started losing it again. I've been working on getting it back up but I think I'm currently in one of my greatst lows ever. Hope to encounter such sparks as you had soon.
Morning Frankie! It is hard for INFJ's to have a lot of confidence, but having a good support system and good group of friends helps as well. We need to have that positive reinforcement or we can spiral down a pit of despair. But I am liking that you are doing videos like this again
As an ENFJ, my first function is extraverted feeling and last function is introverted thinking. So let's just say I can relate to having confidence swings 😅
Your old videos are also good, FJ. Deep and insightful. Not only good for fellow infj but also for us non-infjs. But recently when you make those so funny and attractive sketches, your channel become much much more attractive. Your awesome acting skill and great sense of humor are killing.
Frank i love these videos that give advice for INFJ's to better themselves, I feel like theres alot of videos explaining why things are the way they are but not on how to improve on the weaknesses or maximize the strengths. Keep it up man! :)
You can see how analytical you are in your eyes.. someone could easily read you if they just looked into them. But yet you’re a hard read to most people. It’s because they can’t see how multifaceted you are. It throws people off. This was a great video. You’re really good at explaining things. Thank you ☺️
Absolutely! If your confidence is rooted in other peoples opinions of you then you’re grounded by their opinions. Be free BELIEVE IN YO SELF! Does that make sense? Who knows!
I love your videos from when you first started your channel. Please don’t hate on your early stuff or on Frank with his iPhone setup and his “stupid” cherry lips. He is a part of all of our journeys, with you. Yeah, you seemed depressed, but your vulnerability made me care about you and about what you had to say. The ego needs and is attracted to confidence, but vulnerability appeals to the heart. Humility and struggle are profoundly relatable to an audience and watching you go from 1 Jan 2017 to now is wonderful and encouraging. I hope you find yourself good enough and successful, on your own terms.💖
Your progression in speaking ability is great to see! Red, is Your color. I stumbled on you 2 years ago, or so, now look at you. Master of INFJ Ceremonies. Go***FJ***! PS: (for what it's worth, I felt successful when I beat the pro at the Tennis club).
INFJ here, I’ve seen your videos since you started and just a bunch of INFJs used to watch you and I do see a difference in you. I see a happier Frank James. Also I think alike. For me confidence comes from feedback mostly.
No, you're successful. you are the most successful youtuber who's doing the 16 personality types, your videos are educating ,inspiring and entertaining. You also quadrupled your subscribers in the past 6 months iirc. You are the sun FJ, You shined sunlight to the depressed folks like us, and brightened our days :) oh btw, you're very handsome
I'm on the verge of crying any second now it's just a matter of when... It's just nice and validating hearing the same things I try to tell myself but don't yet fully believe
Knowing my personality type has helped me to build my confidence because know who I am and how I react to things helps me to understand my "weirdness" and has helped me to love who I am and accept me for who I am. I still feel everyone is constantly judging me.
I will never stop watching the old videos, playa. 👿 Those have kept me company on many a late-night grading sesh. Yeah I definitely get my confidence from feedback from others when it comes to work in particular. I’m like Tinkerbell - if I don’t get positive feedback/attention at work, I kinda die inside. 😵 Rough way to live when most of the feedback you get is from teenagers who you’re telling to do stuff they don’t wanna do. Last school year was an absolute nightmare for my self-esteem (as u know). This year, I still feel like I’m looking over my shoulder all the time even though it’s been much better, but the actual internal confidence is building...I think.
Teenagers....uh! I think you're amazing to even work with them! I have a 19 and 17 yr old....don't expect positive feedback in any watch....all you get is what you haven't done for them! Have to just know you've done all you can, with the right intentions and make sure you fill your internal cup by doing what you love, for you!
Confidence is learning to trust yourself They way you get it is to gradually try new/more things. The more you succeed, or try things that seem scary at first but don’t result in the sky falling in, the more you are willing to “go for it” the next time.
I found out about the INFJ stare through your videos. I think I unconsciously avoid eye contact or even looking at people just to make them feel comfortable and avoid any awkwardness haha
Hi, FJ! just want u to know that I need this so much right now and it's perfect timing that you uploaded it. I agree with you. When I was in school, I felt more confident and hopeful. Probably that's the reason why I like studying and took another 1 and a half years studying certificate courses after graduating college. Now that I finished those certificate courses and am faced with the prospect of changing careers, I feel more insecure and unprepared and not ready to pursue my dreams. At the beginning of this year, I said I will develop my confidence. But I'm not sure if I'm improving in that aspect even just a little bit. More recently, I've been worried and anxious and I feel less confident with myself and what I can be.... The other day, my ESFJ friend visited me and gave me a pep talk and I realized I just needed affirmation from others. It somehow put me out of slump. But I cant always be miserable and wait for a long time for somebody to cheer me up. I will go ahead and try to cheer myself up and not to be too hard on myself. thank you for this video 😭
I'm an INFJ, and I've been living on my own for a good chunk of time now, and want to say I have found living on my own to be really helpful in this (other than specifically with my career). When you are on your own, you are the only person by which to gauge your success...so you have to learn to determine what success looks like to you yourself, and when you get there, realize it's what you did on your own and you are living the way that works FOR YOU (just like you said, FJ!). This has been a huge confidence builder for me.
I really needed this a year ago!! The people in my work environment at the time made me feel like I was useless, but then went back to previous work environment and was told I was so good at my job.... same me, same role... but how people perceived me really influenced how I saw myself.
I'm crying over the "I give you the permission to be good enough" part... Like I never knew that these are the words I needed to hear the most until I heard them. Thank you FJ.
I’ve just gone and purchased one of your groovy pink T-shirts. Nice work on the design. People may think i’m an illuminati now and that’s okay with me. 👌
I found your channel just a couple weeks ago: came for the humor, subscribed for the INFJ insight. It's great to hear someone else gets how I live. Thanks for your videos!
I'm an ISFJ and I really needed to hear this. Thanks for making this video. I am constantly worrying about what other people are thinking of me and then I don't think properly and make stupid mistakes and it just pulls my confidence down since I feel like I am being judged by others.
Oh the lengthy and existential conversations myself and a fellow day one FJ follower have had over your older videos... We still reference em like, “....remember the forest and the trees man...” We appreciate you Frank, you have no idea ❤️
...I never needed anybody's help in any way. This is the quality content for which you, Frank, are the one and only youtuber I have chosen to follow. When I watch this type of video, I always feel very uncomfortable in a good way, because you slam to my face a truth that belongs to me intimately, a truth that I always try to avoid every day of my life, in the most disparate ways, but I know well it's there. You have no idea how much you put me in front of myself, with no way out, and how much you helped me to understand myself deeply and to feel less alone in this sad world. On the sidelines, I loved and still am in love with your old videos... I follow you almost from the dawn of your channel, and I won't deny that I really miss the old Frank, he was my favorite. You welcomed me every night in your historic bedroom, with a black coffee or a coke zero, and you kept me company during my sleepless hours, talking only about quality content. You may not fully realize how much you have helped me. Me and many other frisky ponies, I am sure of that. And given that some things are always taken for granted in life, I want to say... thank you. Thanks for everything, F-boi. 💜🐈
Oh, geez. I didn't know I needed to hear this today, but my happy tears are telling me I did. My confidence has been at an all-time low these past few years, so the reminder that it's okay to be "good enough" just did wonders for helping me feel a little better. Thank you, Frank! 💕
I'm off work for Christmas, so I can actually view your videos early for once! - I really liked how you explained that confidence comes in waves. I really needed to hear that. I think we all put too much pressure on ourselves to have high self esteem and high self confidence all the time when its perfectly okay to not have it 24/7. I always viewed myself as a person with low confidence but when I look back throughout my life, there are many times when I did feel confident in myself.
This is so true. We get self confidence by seeking our own approval rather than the other's (I think not just us infjs but all of us). Like for example, if you are going to do something because you really want to do it, a surge of confidence will come to you. Now if you are going to do something because that is what the people want/like, then you will be anxious because you are trying to meet the standards/approval of the people rather than yourself. That is why it is so important to listen to ourselves and do things that we really want, and by doing this, motivation and self confidence will come. Yes we need people’s approval, but it's because we dont want to disappoint people (especially infjs). I think the solution to this is to align both of them, follow your approval (what you want) and at the same time your shit must not disappoint people (not in a sense you follow their standards, but in a sense you follow your own morals). About the sensory thing (facts of accomplishment), yes, it would feel good that you did something successful and the people like it, but there is still this subtle dissatisfaction inside you and still you feel kinda anxious (yeah because you are trying to meet the approval of the people instead of yours). Normally i feel anxious commenting, but since i sensed the authenticity of your vulnerability, im fucking motivated to help you fj despite of the consequences (self confidence = coming from yourself).
Hey! A fellow INFJ here. I don’t necessarily think that confidence has to be correlated with external factors such as success. It’s a self-assurance in your uniqueness, the things that make you the person you are- whether it be qualities, abilities, etc. It is a form of self-love that everyone should engage in regardless of “the facts” because those external variables are always fluctuating so it should come from inside not out. I know it’s definitely easier said than done !
I began learning this hard lesson this year. I asked someone at work whether I was meeting expectations & they told me that I should throw that out the window & measure myself up against my own progress. I never had been given that permission until then. I felt like I could finally put my guard down for once. That feeling & encouragement is life changing in some ways. You’re doing the same for many others in this video, Frank. 👍👍
I am coming across this video at the right time as I coming into my own an healthier INFJ. Since I found this channel and a few others I have realized that I'm a people pleaser to a fault. I never pursued my own endeavors because others wouldnt support my vision. I felt isolated. My growth has come from not wanting to be liked so bad and its not easy at first. I am becoming more and more comfortable with my retreat from people and using that time to do things only I find important. My confidence comes from what I do when Im alone. Before this channel I never really consciously used my ppl hiatuses to define what I want and do what I like. It didnt just make me more confident but more assertive. I dont shy away from conflict and dont get ran over ( as much lol ) because I have me and what I need defined. Your videos and other channels shown me that we our weirdness doesnt have to be a curse we just have to be willing to accept ourselves and find joy when no one is around. That is the confidence I got from your videos. Thank you for your channel Frank.
I’ve been watching a lot of your infj specific videos lately and I’m continually surprised to hear someone speaking my language so fluently. I feel so understood! I don’t think anyone has ever been an advisor to me before -that’s always my job. But these videos are making me feel well advised and encouraged to grow through the things that are causing me pain at the moment. Lack of confidence being a big one. Thanks FJ!
I love the progression we see in you through the years in your videos, Frank. This is a good addition to your old school videos. (Repetition + time)/feedback = self confidence. By late 30’s/early 40’s this seems way easier, I guess because as FJ explains, added time and repetition helps.
Boy you got all that confidence with that hair looking like god just created it. And damn dude you're seductive without even trying to be. This is such a weird comment/compliment but I guess I was feeling confident 😝 love you, love your message, love your hair, bye.
As a fellow INFJ your videos have been key to understanding myself. Particularly your video about why INFJs tend to be single and why I bail on relationships so fast.
I’m ENFP and I totally agree! I naturally put myself out there and “do stuff” and I gain more confidence through that. You gotta do important things to feel important my babies 💞
This dude is reading my mind lately. Just got a 4.0 this semester and the highest grade on every test I had in each class, yet I feel like there’s no way I can possibly be successful. Was thinking this over and determined that no professor has given me praise, so they must not see some sort of spark in me despite my grades. I feel like an imposter somehow? Gah.
I'm an INFJ and I'm STRUGGLING with this hard. I know (in my head) what it means to love/accept myself, but I can't find a way to put it into action, and I feel like it's really cratered my confidence in social settings. The worst thing is when I try to convince others that I know what I'm capable of, my lack of confidence in myself betrays me, and people start to believe the opposite. The worst feeling is spending the second half of the interview trying to convince the other person that I'm qualified for the position, and it feels like an uphill battle.
What?!? Your videos have always been awesome. The first ones had a different quality but they are what built your following, gained our trust, no? Don’t knock em
FJ I've been here since 10000 subscribers so when you revealed your merch I literally screamed and instantly bought a red hoodie!! I'm honestly so proud and I've always loved watching your videos it's amazing to see the transformation of your channel and I just wish you the best in this new year. As an infj i resonated with a lot of your content and you've really helped me through some challenging times this year. I just want to thank you for all you do!! Much love! ❤
It's most of the time just about going out there, showing up for yourself and doing it! You have to take that leap. There is no other way. In order to do something worth doing, you have to risk doing it badly in the beginning. That's the only way you can grow and learn. I am an opera singer, and there was a lot of work I had to do to get to where I am today. Mostly, the work was internal. When you go on stage, it's the same feeling like walking out naked in front of a hall of people. Sometimes showing up and sharing yourself with the world is such a vulnerable and intimate act. But you have to do it. The rewards are so much greater than the fear of judgement or failure. Yes, I have been judged and criticized. But you know what, I am grateful to everyone and everything, to all my failures and lessons, to all the people that judged me. They made me grow a thicker skin, become more loving and kind to others and most importantly to myself. Go out there guys and be you and do you!!!! We need you no matter what.
When I found you, I immediately went back to your first videos and caught up to that day, getting to know you. While you were working through things back then, you were honest, open, vulnerable, in a word - relatable to so many of us. So, while that might not have communicated strong confidence, it spoke to our hearts. The basic premises of this video, as you shared them here today, are the common threads throughout your posts and what we love about you and what resonates with us, no matter where we find ourselves on any given point on any given day on the Confidence Spectrum. God bless you, Frank, and may your Christmas be merry and bright.
This explains a lot. I too was very social (in highschool) and then was alone after my first daughter was born. I was alone for a while then I got some close friends who we just moved away from. I hate that I need people. It's so painful to have people in your life that are suddenly not there anymore. In an unrelated note, I like your Thin Man picture, it's a good movie.
hey i wanna boost the confidence of your past self and say that i really really like your older videos as well. even then you were relatable, funny, and very human. watching your videos made me think about new things and feel understood
Your old videos are also so insightful as they are now!! I appreciate that the old parts of your channel haven’t been purged (therefore I can get the whole FJ School for INFJs experience-old and new, lol)
Thanks FJ. You are the best. I like how you tied finding confidence to working on our inferior functions. Self confidence can be built by weighing the facts objectively. That is using Ti and Se. I don't think we INFJs give ourselves enough credit. We are too focused on what we haven't achieved perfectly an how other people who have their own shortcomings view us. When we learn to objectively focus on all the gifts we have and all we have achieved, we will start to bubble with self confidence. Loved the video. Great job.
That’s where I’m at! Thank you. I’m getting ready to venture out and I’m being so critical on myself I’m not getting outside feed back. Now to take the steps... the to open my bizz
magic. Cultivating more self-confidence was on the mental agenda the moment I woke up this morning & then *this* . Thanks Frank. I appreciate your acknowledgement of the ebb & flow of confidence. Your rise from the early days is definitely inspirational. I need them, too. haha
I've been depressed for a week because of an outsider's inability to see my worth. Ridiculous! I love this video. My own view is I'm fantastic and amazing! I did this job in 2000, 2010 and now. I know I did well working with men. This woman is demeaning. I out so much pressure on myself that my eye retina separated!
i've been struggling with this issue for some time now, i'm 22, infj. Today i've been wondering about this subject and now, thanks to you, i have a base to start with, so thank you very much
thanks Frank. I've found literally all you videos useful and enlightening. even the old ones! I think most infjs vary in confidence based on our exp. I have people tell me they think I'm extrovert. all the time. im social but it's just way exhausting and I always felt I had to be a different person nearly everywhere I went. I couldn't keep up with everyone's image of me.
Dear reader, if you happen to be here breathing on earth since day one, that means you've been approved by Life, by God, to live and to be, to love and to rejoice. Your worth as a human being isn’t dependent on others' approval, nor should it fluctuate depending on your external successes or failed attempts. Hey, you've been given this amazing body with the breath of life to exist and experiment this sphere of reality for just a little time in comparison to eternity! Let nothing or no one take that from you, but be thankful. Know, believe, and trust that Life is on your side, and always seeks your growth, even when it’s dark, scary and lonely. Lastly, I really love the earlier videos because they are so authentic and disarming. You, FJ, have captured something inherent to our human experience, and many can relate to that. Perhaps they don’t have as many views to measure their 'success', but I have no doubt their positive ripple effect extend far greater than what can be calculated.
I'm glad I have found that I'm an INFJ-A cause I have always felt different and didn't get it and I truggle with confidence and stress.your videos are really helpful thank you.
I wish i could like this video more than once because it's amazing ! From the british accent in the intro to the great advice that i needed the most..i can't thank you enough Frank
Hey, thank you for providing me with the answers I have been asking myself for years. This enlightenment and emergence from chaos gives me a solid basis for working on myself. This is relief and finally awareness: Hey, you act differently, your brain is okay, you can make use of it. It's a long way ahead of me, but at least now I'm standing and I'm not floating. At least for now. Thank you.
At one point in my life I started seeing "good enough" as good enough but, perhaps being an INFJ, I was focused more on being "good enough" by other people's standards -- not my own. Even though their standards turned out to be much lower than mine. In other words, I basically lowered my standards to other people's, which led me to feel "good enough." Part of that was beneficial because it humbled me to accept people as they are without judgment. Another part was harmful because my confidence became an offshoot of meeting lower standards (smh). Since then, I've tried to find a balance btwn super high & low standards. This has been a struggle since INFJs tend to shift from one extreme to another. And I've noticed a strange pattern -- the higher the standards, the lower the confidence. Maybe you could talk about this in one of your videos if you have insight on the subject (relationship btwn standards & confidence).
You are proving the power of positive thinking Frank - easier said than done, yet you are killing it! So proud 😊 My very fav video of yours (INFJ brutality) is old now...but totally worth the watch. Think of it like the Beatles...their music changed over time, but the old stuff is still cool AF. 😉
I saw your first video when I joined your channel and your progress surprised me. We need to be good enough as a perfectionist but step by step. Thanks for great video 🙏🌷
I developed that confidence I needed once I left the place where I grew up, as they were disciplining me with an structure that i don't belong. Living abroad (13 countries) proofed I was right, so many times but not always, the perspectives are so different, so many people will support you so many no, I know there are going to be people supporting me from another country, when I'm doing something that in the country where I currently am take it wrong. But I respect every single perspective, I don't provocate people, they are right in their mind as the same way I'm right in my mind too. We are free to follow our instincts.
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Are you wearing the red hoodie merch? It looks good. I wanted to buy it, but I'm broke. :'(
Great video! Thank you.
FJ...I am so excited to sport your merch!! You should continue making it!! You are the best of the best. (There's your confidence for the day. ❤️) Thanks for always giving me a smile at the start of my day. Looking forward to your next video. ❤️
You’re out here saving lives, I hope you know that. Truly mind blowing stuff to me right now. How, at 26, am I just finding out about this.
I want that red hoodie!!!
my problem is that people around me think I am doing great when they see what I've accomplished and what I've been up to - but I don't! even when others think you're doing great, confidence must come from you and that's the difficult part
Same here and this make me feel bad and depressed
Confidence always has to come from within. Totally agree.
Yep, and it is powerful when you start tapping into becoming more confident from within!! You can make it!!
Oh my goodness.... Me too, I'm so bad at that. My friends could be super supportive but I just can't get out of my head
Give yourself some credit brah. Positive affirmations people! Look in that mirror and tell yourself you are killin' it. Give yourself some smooches, pad your back and enjoy it!
I’m an INFJ and I’m afraid to do lots of stuff cause I think I’ll fail.
It sounds like you may have to try to expand your extroverted feeling a bit. That's what FJ has been saying for that area I think
Fear of failure is difficult, I feel that. Try to phrase failure as a way to then get better and meet your high level of (often too high) expectations. :)
Same.. I feel so stuck at times 😔
I am mostly disappointed by the lack of feedback or success. So I usually give up after several (long) tries.
@@emanuelmayer exactly same here..
" give yourself permission to be good enough for yourself " 👍👏👏
How INFJs can build confidence: hair care products.
This is exactly what I do and it works
im not me w/o em
And if you're bald?
Yes, cutting and dying it too lol
@@silvergreylion Use ni and think some hair to cover the baldness.
Honestly I think MBTI has helped my self confidence.
It’s helped mine too! I got to know and accept myself without judgment, and learn to grow with my strengths and recognize my weaknesses. I don’t allow my weaknesses to define or depress me but to grow with the weeds.
@@christietrumb7807 your personality isn't fixed, in fact in the course of the time It could change, not radically but at least It will change. However knowing your strenghts and weakness without judging is part of the process.
Simone Greco 👍🏼 yep, I changed from ENTP to INTJ.
You want to be an IxxJ you gonna have to sacrifice time to be alone.
You want to be an ENFJ you’d have to start valuing people more And being out more.
@@mbtisocialclub sorry but i think this is a dumb way to approch changes in the life. You make your choices but at the last the point is that you have to feel better with yourself and with others. It's not like that: i won't wake up tomorrow with the aim to judge people more, or force myself to be alone. It could be a consequence, maybe because i'll study more, or i find a good job but it's individual
Simone Greco i think you are jumping to conclusions. What you pretty much just said is my point. What I tried to point out is that when my lifestyle changed so did my outlook on life and my personality.
You know how some people say that they wish they were a different type?
Well they can change their type but it would mean they’d have to change fundamental things about themselves and I only gave u general ways to change type.
Each type just tells you how you like to live your life. If you are an outgoing person and then stopped going out, after some time your type will change, but most people do not want to change therefore they will not change.
I'm an INFJ. I was not confident, until finally I learned to love myself by accepting myself fully. After I mastered it, there wasn't much to worry me anymore and I rarely thought too much. My life became peaceful and I'm confident.
Omg how? 😍
How did you achieve this impossible thing 😧 ?
I still can't. I can write thousands of "I am good enough"-stickers and glue them to every wall on all my rooms, but it still does not work. I can write it down dozens of times daily, does not work.
Looking forward to ❤️
@@emanuelmayer Look up shadow work/inner child work. You likely have core beliefs that you need to understand and work on. For many years, the "I love you talk" to myself just felt cringe and pointless, but as I grew emotionally, it started to actually bear weight. These days I tell myself daily that I love myself, think I'm cool, doing good, etc, and it's not forced at all.
The origin of the word confidence is 'confidere' - which means 'trust'
This is the best definition I've come across. Trust.
To fully trust is to be here in the moment without doubt. Trust in life. Trust that everything will be ok
Kevin Groves I really like this definition, thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you for this😊
In german, the word for confidence is "Selbstvertrauen", which literally means self-trust. I think that describes it pretty well.
the thing is i trust (and am confident enough) myself, i just couldnt trust other people, and it may seem and they usually think like i dont care, so when i do things that makes me feel good, it scares them away,.but the truth is i do care a lot, and thats kinda frustrating,the reasonwhy when they feel good with a particular thing that im doing, i somehow feel good about myself too because doing that particular thing(especially when its something that i love doing), kinda builds a bridge between me and the other people. Probably boils down to "bridge=connection" that i long for.
Love that
FJ: "I give you permission to be good enough"
My confidence: 50/100 -------> 90/100
How to build your confidence
1.Don't let feelings of inferiority boss you around.
2. Coose an interest and commit to working on it.
3. Do everything step by step and little by little, don't just see the bigger picture.
4. Get something that motivates you.
5. Think positively, you are the only one who could free your mind from these sick thoughts.
6. Get your shit together and stop caring about people's opinions anymore.
7. You're infj. You're unique. Celebrate it.
nah Frank, your older videos are also great, those videos also have a lot of insightful observations which is the primary reason why i liked your channel in the first place
you are 110% right! 👍
yep, agree !
Yep!
Yeah senpai, you've never changed, except for the better, speaking of which, thanks for introducing me to mbti humor.
I agree with PT... your videos back then were great as we could see your vulnerability which called our own vulnerability too... and how you progressed, inspires others ... progress and improvement is possible, is real!! We just gotta do the job on ourselves... Thank you... what you did back then is very beautiful and inspiring in many ways! You are now up a notch now 😂 and that is SO cool!!
Self confidence is a tough one when you’re putting something out there that can be judge by others 🤷♀️
Well, you had enough confidence to talk about this. And that means other INFJ's can as well.
“Don’t care about other people. Who needs them? Ok, I do!” 😂 I love that you acknowledge your humanity. I’ve seen some of your older videos and......this hair is the best by far.....😅
Love his hair 😍
That really was the best part: acknowledging your humanity, illuminating the struggle of don't care and do. And in the best way, with a laugh
The fact that we're all gonna die anyway gives me a lot of confidence
Marcelina I felt this
Memento mori.
Same
@@lextor4712 Persona fan?
@@Quetzalcoatl-Dragon_97 nope...but I know about the game - as far as I know very time consuming. It was a stoic expression.
“Give yourself permission to be good enough”
~ FJ
Made me cry. This is a thing I can not do. Don't know how, I'm serious.
@@zsemma6599 I think it has a lot to do with acceptance, knowing yourself & how you understamd & define things. My ultimate thought is that I know it doesn't make sense to consider myself as not enough but there's a lot of work, history & thought processes connected to that.
Is Frank an INFJ? Or is he using “we” rhetorically?
@@clarkesummers1188 He's an INFJ.
One of the things that has noticeably changed is FJ hair. Just saying.
PurpleBunny 131 and it’s getting really hot in here
seems to be gaining height, those hair follicles
Frank:Please don't check the early videos.
me:goes to find oldest video
Twas a clever ploy.
A lack of confidence is generally a pain, but it’s also a source of sensitivity, compassion and understanding.
You can be sensitive and compassionate with confidence, I used to believe that I couldn't and that I had to abuse myself to make myself feel like I wasn't so "high and mighty" and that I was "relatable around others" nah, it actually bred resentment when I felt I had to do that to myself and I see the value of love now that I love myself, the real value, not the preconceived notion I had of it.
Yes!! Confidence definitely shouldn’t be dependent on how others judge you. It’s taken me years to internalize that and it’s a work in progress, along with shoring up my sense of well-being in the face of adverse circumstances.
I love your old stuff, it’s a part of you and it’s also important and beautiful in its honesty. I’m enjoying going through them, and I’ve gotten so much out of them.
It’s so important to embrace all our old selves, however tattered or broken they appear. They did the heavy lifting to get us where we are.
I had no confidence at all until I was 15... I was just an outcast in every way. But I was inscribed into a music school, and after my audition, my teacher told me that she had not heard a voice like mine, ever. I went into an anxiety attack because people were watching me when she said it. She made me sing in front of the entire music school to prove that I was what she was saying I was... all the kids loved it. After that day, I have never been the same. Singing became my safe-extrovert-spot and mask. As an adult, I was very lucky 🍀 to have an amazing visionary boss on my first job, that immediately saw that I had a “talent” for Human Resources. It made me have a “jump” ahead on my own like and career. I’m forever grateful to her because I had no clue on what I could do.
Frank, appreciate you and all of the channel followers’ so much! 💙
Wow, congratulations on those things 💙 I'm 19, never had much confidence, utterly lost it at age 10 when I got my social phobia & around graduation I started losing it again. I've been working on getting it back up but I think I'm currently in one of my greatst lows ever. Hope to encounter such sparks as you had soon.
That's so freaking inspiring.
I am so happy that you got the nurturing that you deserve. 💕
Knowing the fact that INFJs are perfectionists gave me confidence🙂
I really watch infj to help me understand my daughter, and you're helping me so much! Diggin the hair😏
That's so awesome. I try to find out the mbti of my friends and family so that we can get along and communicate better as well. :)
@Varshinirao Mutyala thank you ❤️
@Sarah Ali aww thank you so much ❤️
Finding you on UA-cam is one of the best thing of 2019 for me.
Morning Frankie! It is hard for INFJ's to have a lot of confidence, but having a good support system and good group of friends helps as well. We need to have that positive reinforcement or we can spiral down a pit of despair.
But I am liking that you are doing videos like this again
Yes 🙌🏻 I know I could use this or distance so much but I can't get either :'D
As an ENFJ, my first function is extraverted feeling and last function is introverted thinking. So let's just say I can relate to having confidence swings 😅
Your old videos are also good, FJ. Deep and insightful. Not only good for fellow infj but also for us non-infjs. But recently when you make those so funny and attractive sketches, your channel become much much more attractive. Your awesome acting skill and great sense of humor are killing.
Frank i love these videos that give advice for INFJ's to better themselves, I feel like theres
alot of videos explaining why things are the way they are but not on how to improve on the
weaknesses or maximize the strengths. Keep it up man! :)
You can see how analytical you are in your eyes.. someone could easily read you if they just looked into them. But yet you’re a hard read to most people. It’s because they can’t see how multifaceted you are. It throws people off.
This was a great video. You’re really good at explaining things. Thank you ☺️
Absolutely! If your confidence is rooted in other peoples opinions of you then you’re grounded by their opinions. Be free BELIEVE IN YO SELF! Does that make sense? Who knows!
I love your videos from when you first started your channel. Please don’t hate on your early stuff or on Frank with his iPhone setup and his “stupid” cherry lips. He is a part of all of our journeys, with you. Yeah, you seemed depressed, but your vulnerability made me care about you and about what you had to say. The ego needs and is attracted to confidence, but vulnerability appeals to the heart. Humility and struggle are profoundly relatable to an audience and watching you go from 1 Jan 2017 to now is wonderful and encouraging.
I hope you find yourself good enough and successful, on your own terms.💖
"Stupid" cherry lips? .-. I think they're hot.
I needed this, as an INFJ-T it can be rough finding that level of confidence. Thanks, FJ! You’re the best!
Your progression in speaking ability is great to see! Red, is Your color. I stumbled on you 2 years ago, or so, now look at you. Master of INFJ Ceremonies. Go***FJ***!
PS: (for what it's worth, I felt successful when I beat the pro at the Tennis club).
I am an infj. This is sooo helpful.I knew I was vulnerable to criticisms! I will never be like that again.👍💖
If your older videos weren't exactly as they were, we probably wouldn't be here by now. Also, love the humour!
Proverbs 28:1 The wicked run when no one is chasing them, but an honest person is as brave as a lion.
Yes!
Omg that reminds me of heart of a lion by kid Cudi love that song♥️🦁 thanks for the reminder
INFJ here, I’ve seen your videos since you started and just a bunch of INFJs used to watch you and I do see a difference in you. I see a happier Frank James.
Also I think alike. For me confidence comes from feedback mostly.
No, you're successful. you are the most successful youtuber who's doing the 16 personality types, your videos are educating ,inspiring and entertaining. You also quadrupled your subscribers in the past 6 months iirc. You are the sun FJ, You shined sunlight to the depressed folks like us, and brightened our days :) oh btw, you're very handsome
I'm on the verge of crying any second now it's just a matter of when... It's just nice and validating hearing the same things I try to tell myself but don't yet fully believe
"Give yourself permission to be good enough" Yesssss
Knowing my personality type has helped me to build my confidence because know who I am and how I react to things helps me to understand my "weirdness" and has helped me to love who I am and accept me for who I am. I still feel everyone is constantly judging me.
I will never stop watching the old videos, playa. 👿 Those have kept me company on many a late-night grading sesh.
Yeah I definitely get my confidence from feedback from others when it comes to work in particular. I’m like Tinkerbell - if I don’t get positive feedback/attention at work, I kinda die inside. 😵 Rough way to live when most of the feedback you get is from teenagers who you’re telling to do stuff they don’t wanna do. Last school year was an absolute nightmare for my self-esteem (as u know). This year, I still feel like I’m looking over my shoulder all the time even though it’s been much better, but the actual internal confidence is building...I think.
Teenagers....uh! I think you're amazing to even work with them! I have a 19 and 17 yr old....don't expect positive feedback in any watch....all you get is what you haven't done for them! Have to just know you've done all you can, with the right intentions and make sure you fill your internal cup by doing what you love, for you!
Confidence is learning to trust yourself
They way you get it is to gradually try new/more things. The more you succeed, or try things that seem scary at first but don’t result in the sky falling in, the more you are willing to “go for it” the next time.
I found out about the INFJ stare through your videos. I think I unconsciously avoid eye contact or even looking at people just to make them feel comfortable and avoid any awkwardness haha
Hi, FJ! just want u to know that I need this so much right now and it's perfect timing that you uploaded it. I agree with you. When I was in school, I felt more confident and hopeful. Probably that's the reason why I like studying and took another 1 and a half years studying certificate courses after graduating college. Now that I finished those certificate courses and am faced with the prospect of changing careers, I feel more insecure and unprepared and not ready to pursue my dreams. At the beginning of this year, I said I will develop my confidence. But I'm not sure if I'm improving in that aspect even just a little bit. More recently, I've been worried and anxious and I feel less confident with myself and what I can be.... The other day, my ESFJ friend visited me and gave me a pep talk and I realized I just needed affirmation from others. It somehow put me out of slump. But I cant always be miserable and wait for a long time for somebody to cheer me up. I will go ahead and try to cheer myself up and not to be too hard on myself. thank you for this video 😭
I'm an INFJ, and I've been living on my own for a good chunk of time now, and want to say I have found living on my own to be really helpful in this (other than specifically with my career). When you are on your own, you are the only person by which to gauge your success...so you have to learn to determine what success looks like to you yourself, and when you get there, realize it's what you did on your own and you are living the way that works FOR YOU (just like you said, FJ!). This has been a huge confidence builder for me.
I've found the same to be true!
I really needed this a year ago!! The people in my work environment at the time made me feel like I was useless, but then went back to previous work environment and was told I was so good at my job.... same me, same role... but how people perceived me really influenced how I saw myself.
I'm crying over the "I give you the permission to be good enough" part...
Like I never knew that these are the words I needed to hear the most until I heard them.
Thank you FJ.
I’ve just gone and purchased one of your groovy pink T-shirts. Nice work on the design. People may think i’m an illuminati now and that’s okay with me. 👌
I found your channel just a couple weeks ago: came for the humor, subscribed for the INFJ insight. It's great to hear someone else gets how I live. Thanks for your videos!
I'm an ISFJ and I really needed to hear this. Thanks for making this video. I am constantly worrying about what other people are thinking of me and then I don't think properly and make stupid mistakes and it just pulls my confidence down since I feel like I am being judged by others.
Oh the lengthy and existential conversations myself and a fellow day one FJ follower have had over your older videos...
We still reference em like, “....remember the forest and the trees man...”
We appreciate you Frank, you have no idea ❤️
...I never needed anybody's help in any way.
This is the quality content for which you, Frank, are the one and only youtuber I have chosen to follow. When I watch this type of video, I always feel very uncomfortable in a good way, because you slam to my face a truth that belongs to me intimately, a truth that I always try to avoid every day of my life, in the most disparate ways, but I know well it's there. You have no idea how much you put me in front of myself, with no way out, and how much you helped me to understand myself deeply and to feel less alone in this sad world. On the sidelines, I loved and still am in love with your old videos... I follow you almost from the dawn of your channel, and I won't deny that I really miss the old Frank, he was my favorite. You welcomed me every night in your historic bedroom, with a black coffee or a coke zero, and you kept me company during my sleepless hours, talking only about quality content. You may not fully realize how much you have helped me. Me and many other frisky ponies, I am sure of that. And given that some things are always taken for granted in life, I want to say... thank you. Thanks for everything, F-boi. 💜🐈
Oh, geez. I didn't know I needed to hear this today, but my happy tears are telling me I did. My confidence has been at an all-time low these past few years, so the reminder that it's okay to be "good enough" just did wonders for helping me feel a little better.
Thank you, Frank! 💕
I feel confident when I make people rely on me and actually succeed on helping them.
I'm off work for Christmas, so I can actually view your videos early for once!
- I really liked how you explained that confidence comes in waves. I really needed to hear that. I think we all put too much pressure on ourselves to have high self esteem and high self confidence all the time when its perfectly okay to not have it 24/7. I always viewed myself as a person with low confidence but when I look back throughout my life, there are many times when I did feel confident in myself.
This is so true. We get self confidence by seeking our own approval rather than the other's (I think not just us infjs but all of us). Like for example, if you are going to do something because you really want to do it, a surge of confidence will come to you. Now if you are going to do something because that is what the people want/like, then you will be anxious because you are trying to meet the standards/approval of the people rather than yourself. That is why it is so important to listen to ourselves and do things that we really want, and by doing this, motivation and self confidence will come. Yes we need people’s approval, but it's because we dont want to disappoint people (especially infjs). I think the solution to this is to align both of them, follow your approval (what you want) and at the same time your shit must not disappoint people (not in a sense you follow their standards, but in a sense you follow your own morals). About the sensory thing (facts of accomplishment), yes, it would feel good that you did something successful and the people like it, but there is still this subtle dissatisfaction inside you and still you feel kinda anxious (yeah because you are trying to meet the approval of the people instead of yours).
Normally i feel anxious commenting, but since i sensed the authenticity of your vulnerability, im fucking motivated to help you fj despite of the consequences (self confidence = coming from yourself).
Many INFJ do not comment or even delete their comment after posting due to fear of judgement. Keep going your doing great.
Hey! A fellow INFJ here. I don’t necessarily think that confidence has to be correlated with external factors such as success. It’s a self-assurance in your uniqueness, the things that make you the person you are- whether it be qualities, abilities, etc. It is a form of self-love that everyone should engage in regardless of “the facts” because those external variables are always fluctuating so it should come from inside not out. I know it’s definitely easier said than done !
you're expressing exactly what i thought aswell, when watching the video!
Great vids Frank!
Confidence is not a personality trait. Confidence is in the doing, it’s an action, and a state of being. 😌
Frank James just defined confidence in a practical way for me as an infj. Frank must be confident in defining confidence for infjs
I began learning this hard lesson this year. I asked someone at work whether I was meeting expectations & they told me that I should throw that out the window & measure myself up against my own progress. I never had been given that permission until then. I felt like I could finally put my guard down for once. That feeling & encouragement is life changing in some ways. You’re doing the same for many others in this video, Frank. 👍👍
I am coming across this video at the right time as I coming into my own an healthier INFJ. Since I found this channel and a few others I have realized that I'm a people pleaser to a fault. I never pursued my own endeavors because others wouldnt support my vision. I felt isolated. My growth has come from not wanting to be liked so bad and its not easy at first. I am becoming more and more comfortable with my retreat from people and using that time to do things only I find important. My confidence comes from what I do when Im alone. Before this channel I never really consciously used my ppl hiatuses to define what I want and do what I like. It didnt just make me more confident but more assertive. I dont shy away from conflict and dont get ran over ( as much lol ) because I have me and what I need defined. Your videos and other channels shown me that we our weirdness doesnt have to be a curse we just have to be willing to accept ourselves and find joy when no one is around. That is the confidence I got from your videos. Thank you for your channel Frank.
I’ve been watching a lot of your infj specific videos lately and I’m continually surprised to hear someone speaking my language so fluently. I feel so understood! I don’t think anyone has ever been an advisor to me before -that’s always my job. But these videos are making me feel well advised and encouraged to grow through the things that are causing me pain at the moment. Lack of confidence being a big one. Thanks FJ!
Frank your older videos were the best and really helped me! Sad some of them are gone now like Obsessive Thoughts :/
I love the progression we see in you through the years in your videos, Frank. This is a good addition to your old school videos. (Repetition + time)/feedback = self confidence. By late 30’s/early 40’s this seems way easier, I guess because as FJ explains, added time and repetition helps.
Boy you got all that confidence with that hair looking like god just created it. And damn dude you're seductive without even trying to be. This is such a weird comment/compliment but I guess I was feeling confident 😝 love you, love your message, love your hair, bye.
As a fellow INFJ your videos have been key to understanding myself. Particularly your video about why INFJs tend to be single and why I bail on relationships so fast.
“You can’t think your way into confidence”
Hits too hard
I’m ENFP and I totally agree! I naturally put myself out there and “do stuff” and I gain more confidence through that. You gotta do important things to feel important my babies 💞
This dude is reading my mind lately. Just got a 4.0 this semester and the highest grade on every test I had in each class, yet I feel like there’s no way I can possibly be successful. Was thinking this over and determined that no professor has given me praise, so they must not see some sort of spark in me despite my grades. I feel like an imposter somehow? Gah.
"You can't think your way into confidence" This is a really good advice
I'm an INFJ and I'm STRUGGLING with this hard. I know (in my head) what it means to love/accept myself, but I can't find a way to put it into action, and I feel like it's really cratered my confidence in social settings. The worst thing is when I try to convince others that I know what I'm capable of, my lack of confidence in myself betrays me, and people start to believe the opposite. The worst feeling is spending the second half of the interview trying to convince the other person that I'm qualified for the position, and it feels like an uphill battle.
What?!? Your videos have always been awesome. The first ones had a different quality but they are what built your following, gained our trust, no? Don’t knock em
FJ I've been here since 10000 subscribers so when you revealed your merch I literally screamed and instantly bought a red hoodie!!
I'm honestly so proud and I've always loved watching your videos it's amazing to see the transformation of your channel and I just wish you the best in this new year.
As an infj i resonated with a lot of your content and you've really helped me through some challenging times this year. I just want to thank you for all you do!!
Much love! ❤
It's most of the time just about going out there, showing up for yourself and doing it! You have to take that leap. There is no other way. In order to do something worth doing, you have to risk doing it badly in the beginning. That's the only way you can grow and learn. I am an opera singer, and there was a lot of work I had to do to get to where I am today. Mostly, the work was internal. When you go on stage, it's the same feeling like walking out naked in front of a hall of people. Sometimes showing up and sharing yourself with the world is such a vulnerable and intimate act. But you have to do it. The rewards are so much greater than the fear of judgement or failure. Yes, I have been judged and criticized. But you know what, I am grateful to everyone and everything, to all my failures and lessons, to all the people that judged me. They made me grow a thicker skin, become more loving and kind to others and most importantly to myself. Go out there guys and be you and do you!!!! We need you no matter what.
When I found you, I immediately went back to your first videos and caught up to that day, getting to know you. While you were working through things back then, you were honest, open, vulnerable, in a word - relatable to so many of us. So, while that might not have communicated strong confidence, it spoke to our hearts. The basic premises of this video, as you shared them here today, are the common threads throughout your posts and what we love about you and what resonates with us, no matter where we find ourselves on any given point on any given day on the Confidence Spectrum. God bless you, Frank, and may your Christmas be merry and bright.
This explains a lot. I too was very social (in highschool) and then was alone after my first daughter was born. I was alone for a while then I got some close friends who we just moved away from. I hate that I need people. It's so painful to have people in your life that are suddenly not there anymore. In an unrelated note, I like your Thin Man picture, it's a good movie.
hey i wanna boost the confidence of your past self and say that i really really like your older videos as well. even then you were relatable, funny, and very human. watching your videos made me think about new things and feel understood
Your old videos are also so insightful as they are now!! I appreciate that the old parts of your channel haven’t been purged (therefore I can get the whole FJ School for INFJs experience-old and new, lol)
Thanks FJ. You are the best. I like how you tied finding confidence to working on our inferior functions. Self confidence can be built by weighing the facts objectively. That is using Ti and Se. I don't think we INFJs give ourselves enough credit. We are too focused on what we haven't achieved perfectly an how other people who have their own shortcomings view us. When we learn to objectively focus on all the gifts we have and all we have achieved, we will start to bubble with self confidence. Loved the video. Great job.
You're doing a great job FJ, and you're so damn cool and attractive. You give us INFJs hope!
That’s where I’m at! Thank you. I’m getting ready to venture out and I’m being so critical on myself I’m not getting outside feed back. Now to take the steps... the to open my bizz
magic. Cultivating more self-confidence was on the mental agenda the moment I woke up this morning & then *this* . Thanks Frank. I appreciate your acknowledgement of the ebb & flow of confidence. Your rise from the early days is definitely inspirational. I need them, too. haha
Frank you're a wonderful entity ty & much respect.
I've been depressed for a week because of an outsider's inability to see my worth. Ridiculous! I love this video. My own view is I'm fantastic and amazing! I did this job in 2000, 2010 and now. I know I did well working with men. This woman is demeaning. I out so much pressure on myself that my eye retina separated!
Always love your videos! Thanks!
i've been struggling with this issue for some time now, i'm 22, infj. Today i've been wondering about this subject and now, thanks to you, i have a base to start with, so thank you very much
thanks Frank. I've found literally all you videos useful and enlightening. even the old ones!
I think most infjs vary in confidence based on our exp. I have people tell me they think I'm extrovert. all the time. im social but it's just way exhausting and I always felt I had to be a different person nearly everywhere I went. I couldn't keep up with everyone's image of me.
Dear reader, if you happen to be here breathing on earth since day one, that means you've been approved by Life, by God, to live and to be, to love and to rejoice. Your worth as a human being isn’t dependent on others' approval, nor should it fluctuate depending on your external successes or failed attempts. Hey, you've been given this amazing body with the breath of life to exist and experiment this sphere of reality for just a little time in comparison to eternity! Let nothing or no one take that from you, but be thankful. Know, believe, and trust that Life is on your side, and always seeks your growth, even when it’s dark, scary and lonely. Lastly, I really love the earlier videos because they are so authentic and disarming. You, FJ, have captured something inherent to our human experience, and many can relate to that. Perhaps they don’t have as many views to measure their 'success', but I have no doubt their positive ripple effect extend far greater than what can be calculated.
That's so deep and true. Thank you!
Frank, you're so good at what you do that types that aren't infj regularly watch your videos!
Bam, confidence boosted (hopefully).
I'm glad I have found that I'm an INFJ-A cause I have always felt different and didn't get it and I truggle with confidence and stress.your videos are really helpful thank you.
I wish i could like this video more than once because it's amazing ! From the british accent in the intro to the great advice that i needed the most..i can't thank you enough Frank
Hey, thank you for providing me with the answers I have been asking myself for years. This enlightenment and emergence from chaos gives me a solid basis for working on myself. This is relief and finally awareness: Hey, you act differently, your brain is okay, you can make use of it. It's a long way ahead of me, but at least now I'm standing and I'm not floating. At least for now. Thank you.
Really important message to judge success on your own terms. Thank you.
At one point in my life I started seeing "good enough" as good enough but, perhaps being an INFJ, I was focused more on being "good enough" by other people's standards -- not my own. Even though their standards turned out to be much lower than mine. In other words, I basically lowered my standards to other people's, which led me to feel "good enough." Part of that was beneficial because it humbled me to accept people as they are without judgment. Another part was harmful because my confidence became an offshoot of meeting lower standards (smh).
Since then, I've tried to find a balance btwn super high & low standards. This has been a struggle since INFJs tend to shift from one extreme to another. And I've noticed a strange pattern -- the higher the standards, the lower the confidence. Maybe you could talk about this in one of your videos if you have insight on the subject (relationship btwn standards & confidence).
Couldnt agree more..
Thanks Frank for these kind of videos on INFJ. I would love to see more.
You are proving the power of positive thinking Frank - easier said than done, yet you are killing it! So proud 😊
My very fav video of yours (INFJ brutality) is old now...but totally worth the watch. Think of it like the Beatles...their music changed over time, but the old stuff is still cool AF. 😉
I saw your first video when I joined your channel and your progress surprised me.
We need to be good enough as a perfectionist but step by step.
Thanks for great video 🙏🌷
I developed that confidence I needed once I left the place where I grew up, as they were disciplining me with an structure that i don't belong. Living abroad (13 countries) proofed I was right, so many times but not always, the perspectives are so different, so many people will support you so many no, I know there are going to be people supporting me from another country, when I'm doing something that in the country where I currently am take it wrong. But I respect every single perspective, I don't provocate people, they are right in their mind as the same way I'm right in my mind too. We are free to follow our instincts.
This is my favourite video I've seen to help me as an INFJ. Thank you 🙏