Top 5 Signs Of High Functioning Depression
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Identifying the problem is only half the battle. Figuring out how you're going to pay for treatment is the other half. Insurance companies aren't keen on paying for mental health care and qualified professionals cost too much to pay for out-of-pocket.
Hi, I live in India... I'm struggling since 9years with depression and anxiety, 2years back I got the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder... It feels like I'm never gonna be healthy again and it feels like I'll kill myself one of these days... I have tried so many doctors probably 10-12, If you could give me consultation at reasonable price i would really appreciate it...
@@varunacp5361
You rarely get more than you pay for.
If you pay little, don't be surprised when you get little in the way of 'quality'.
Have you even checked this person's credentials?!
Anyone on YT can SAY they're a 'doctor'.
There are MANY 'types' of 'doctor' - eg 'Doctor of Philosophy'; 'Doctor of Computer Science'.
Be VERY careful who you deal with online.
Which do you value more - your health or your money?!
Hi julie whats the music playing in the background of this please? ❤
5: showering once per week in stead of 3 times per week; 4: bought gym memebership 2 months ago, haven't been yet; 3: small business owner, year -end due tomorrow, started working on it today; 2: only negative thoughts and recrimminations get me out of bed in the morning; 1: No goals, *nothing* intrigues or incites anymore.
casually eats a popsicle while getting progressively more concerned for myself for each sticky note
popsicles or anything with a lot of carbs
MEEEEEEE
I already knew this was an issue, so no increase of concern here. I could use a popsicle.
You can afford popsicles? I ran out of sugar...
Eating a spoonful of funfetti frosting while reading abt you eating a popsicle…….. 🥲
Don't call me out like that, Dr Julie
Yeah
Oh my gosh exactly what I was thinking 😂
🙋♀️🥲
Yeah
My exact thought halfway through this video...
My depression has lowered only because im keeping my self busy and some times i actually realise that im being genuinely happy and actuallly acting like myself but sometimes you feel like you're worthless and i start pointing out all of the bad stuff about me
Excellent list. I have suffered from depression for 40 years and this makes so much sense.
Welp, I didn’t expect to be called out in every possible way, but here we are-
Exactly!! 😮.
Same here man, we must stay strong
Me neither 😭
Exactly, i couldn't help but think these 5 things describe me
Same here😭😓
I’ve been stuck in this cycle for years. Hope I will be able to break free one day.
Yeah. Good luck.
I'm same..
Me too
Same.
Maybe talking to a professional like Dr julie might help. Sure did for me. Probably saved my life tbh.
Yep. Spot on. Sending prayers and love to everyone else this speaks to. ❤🙏
Or you could do something that actually helps instead of useless, illogical ‘praying’
You know what would help someone with depression? Just being there for them, listening, not judging or planning your next response or trying to ‘solve it for them’, do t you think we’ve bloody tried already?
And keep your stupid religious bullshit as far away as possible, the LAST thing anyone suffering from CD needs is the institutionalized guilt and judge mental ‘holier than thou’ haughtiness of religious pandering.
Thank you, right back at you
Good luck, it’s a lot to count 😏
This is also happens to people who have a habit to overwork, and people who are exhausted. You don't have to have depression to experience this. Sometimes it's about learning how to take care of your needs and balance your life. Exhaustion and overworking can lead to several health issues including anxiety.
And depression. I didn't think I have it when it was diagnosed, but yeah, now, 10+ years later... These are definitely symptoms of depression.
Thank you for mentioning this! 👍
@slow.and.hot717 I didn't feel this way when I experienced depression, only when I experienced anxiety from overworking and stress. I know a lot because I decided to do therapy for years and have seen other people experiencing similar things and have done my own research. I think the point is that depression and anxiety are not the same, and people are often misdiagnosed.
For the person reading this message I hope you are doing good, I want to share this in a lot of comment sections so it can reach everyone possible including you so please read until the end:
God loves you a lot and he wants you to be saved and happy, nothing in this world like money, fun or popularity can fill the emptiness in your heart, only his son Jesus who died for you can fill you who might not nothing know about him. He knows you more than yourself. You who turned your back to him, he is still waiting for you with his arms open to receive you again. You who fought against him and have done things that are unforgivable in your eyes, he will always see you as his son and he already paid the price for all your sins. Even if the world doesn’t forgive you, all that you need is God and everything will be alright, so trust God and no one else. Repent from your sins and never go back to them, and the most important thing is that you accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and savior with your voice and your heart, when you do all these things, pray to God and read the Bible(Christian Bible not a Catholic since the Catholic one might’ve changed the word of God to something that it is not God’s word but men’s, so read a christian Bible) so that you get to know God. Follow it’s word completely, because some people might say that the times and things have changed, but God never changes, the Bible says that the heavens and earth will pass but his word will never pass and that means that the things God didn’t like back then he still doesn’t like today. So don’t let anyone tell you that now you can have sex before marriage or something like that just because everyone does it, because the Bible says that wide is the path to destruction and many walk through it. When you pray, ask God to guide you so that you always walk in his righteousness and so that he gives you strength so you don’t fall to sin, and don’t just say I am a Christian and never read your bible or end up not praying because being a follower of God means building a father and son-daughter relationship with him. Fast and pray and be his son not only in words but also in your actions.
Today God has showed grace to you who might be depressed, empty, are being hated or hates, or maybe you don’t receive genuine love this is even for you who enjoys or is comfortable with your current life. Whoever you who is reading this is, know that God is calling you to give you a future and a hope in this life and in the eternal life. Trust him, because he loves you so much that is beyond understanding, and the time is short.
After you finish reading this message you might die or Jesus might return, so be ready and follow him, for today he stretched his hand to you because he loves you and cares for you and he doesn’t want you to go to hell, so please go to him, it will be hard because living for God means denying yourself and the things that you might like, but it will be the best decision you will make in your entire existence and I promise you it will be worth more than any of the things that you don’t want to let go of. Make the right choice, because today God has stretched his hand to you who he loves so much that he even died for knowing all the bad things you have done. That is how much love he has and will always have for you.
I don’t know you but you might be going through hard times, so keep these words in mind that God gives hope to the hopeless and he heals any wounds including the ones from the heart, and he can do the same for you regardless of anything. Thank you for reading, God bless you always❤️
Symptoms overlap in mental health the same way it does in our physical health. That's why we cannot self diagnose using videos like this. It brings awareness but ultimately we must speak with a doctor and get a personalized assessment. @@angellight5040
I am extremely beyond this point tbh. I have no friends, all I do is work, spend all my time alone. Life feels pretty... hopeless lately.
I'm so sorry you are hurting this deeply. I resisted medicine - but it DOES help. I didn't realize EVERYONE felt as terribly as I did - until one day I wondered; took everything I had to make a phone call and then walk into a counselor's office. The RIGHT counselor can help tremendously - it can take time and more than one try to find that right one, though. I am kind of in a "down" period right now, although not at my worst, but I have some strategies that help, I know some actions to take that do help, and I (usually) know when it's time to get more help. There IS hope. You can certainly have brighter days, even if (like me) you have to accept that your depression is with you for life. May God bless you and give you strength for your journey to healing...
You are not alone in this struggle. Medication helps me as well as forcing myself to see a counselor, participate in a positive activity weekly, more eat nutritious food and go for a walk every day. When the hopeless and helpless thoughts come, I have to remind myself it is the depression talking, not the world and not the real me. It doesn’t solve the problem, but helps me keep some perspective on having this illness.
@@jarcha4200 Excellent perspective and actions that are simple but DO help. I like the self-talk you use.
Continuing to wish you strength on your journey. There are some suggestions and encouragement here that I hope you find helpful.
Same
This was me a few months ago. I started to learn to say no, and started being more honest about the way I feel. Now my body and mind is healing.
God said unless you're born again spiritually u will not enter the kingdom of heaven also God doesn't judge us by our good works he's judging us by our sins Gods standards are so high he's that HOLY saying oh my God is using Gods name in vain it's called blasphemy ❤
To get to heaven you must believe with all your heart that Jesus died and rose again paid full price for your sins repent and receive his Holy spirit.
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Impact videos ministries
David diga Hernandez
IsaiahSaldivar
Mapalo
DLM christian lifestyle
Billy garham
Danial adams
Living waters
Okay now pray this to be saved and to get to heaven pray out loud
Jesus I confess that you are my lord and savior
I believe in my heart that God raised him from the dead by faith in your word I receive salvation now
Thank you for saving me! I am now reborn a christian a child of almighty God I am saved thank you Jesus! *Be genuine when praying this*
Watch videos on how to receive Gods holy spirit on YT
God creates Jesus redeems The holy spirit changes
Now our good deeds and works we think are good are like filthy rags in the eyes of God
Things to get rid of in your home
1sage
2dream catchers
3crystals
4crystal ball
5ouija board
6 tarot and angel cards
7religious statues
8demonic movies music or video games
9soul ties items
10pornography
Now like a theif robbing a store, demons won't make it obvious they are there unless they have to.
Now know you can't save yourself Jesus said I am the way the truth and the life
You have insurance on your house if it ever caught on fire which rarely happens but when it comes to your soul, you play with it like you have forever to make your choice which you don't
150k+ people Die everyday and you never know when it may be you
God spent 9 months shaping and forming you before you were born but only 7 days on earth you're fearfully and wonderfully made beautiful in the eyes of God❤
Don't waste time Hearts are deceitful above all things ask God for wisdom and understanding we are just tiny humans with a 3 pound brain and our imaginations cannot go beyond what we already know❤
Your souls is so valuable both Satan and God want it but it's your choice who you will serve
You serve the devil when you
Lie
Hate
Blasphemy
Disobey
Lazy
Gossip
Gluttony
Wanting what others have cause what God has for you is for you he will never deliver your male to someone else's house
Hate
And unforgivness
And cussing murder and more
And once you die, you're locked with your choice of where you're spending eternity God doesn't care about you doing more good then bad cause he's not judging that God never said that's the way to heaven
So who's lying you or God? Be serious about this❤
God is holy and righteous God is love
So either you would play around because you don't believe hell exist or you don't believe you're going there but the bible makes it very clear
The path to destruction is wide and easy many are on it the path to eternal life is hard and nerrow very few find it and to get into heaven u can only enter through the nerrow gate❤
You dont have to wait until you die to know if youre going to heaven you can know right now 100% where youre going❤
Satan doesnt rule hell this is a myth when lucifer known as satan now became prideful and rebelled against God he took many angels with him Demons are fallen angels we live in a spirital and physical world so hell was made for punishment for satan and his angels and the reason why people go there is because they Align themsleves with the devil in SIN!
Sin separates us from God and the wages of sin is death if youre found guilty with one sin on judgment day you will not enter the kingdom of heaven so the thing is We us humans broken Gods law and jesus paid the fine! So the good news is you dont have to go to hell if you accept him as your lord and savior!
God offered us eternal life as a free gift and you receive it by faith! You dont have to work for it you dont have to pay all you have to do is receive it by faith❤
Don't expect Gods best when you always give him your least don't reject him anymore let him come in and change your life❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
That’s great for u!!❤️
Yay!
That's great
How
I wouldn't wish this for my worst enemy but I'm also glad that I'm not the only one feeling like this, that many people also barely surviving
I'm definitely not on the high functioning end. More like dragging my butt through everything, and very slowly, just barely getting essentials done. I'm not able to hide it much either. Except briefly in casual encounters like shopping. I'm smiling, pleasant and go out of my way to be kind to everyone, because why not put a bit better out in the world and try and make someone elses day brighter, whenever possible.
I think i’ve felt like this my entire life. I thought this was just how everyone feels. I don’t think i’d be able to change even if I want to
That was my sister until she tried therapy.. It's been a year and she's seen some change. You should try it if you can. Good luck! X
Exercise helps.. having said that.. starting exercise is the hardest 😢
Amazing how You manage to speak to nobody about nothing 🤷🏼♀️
amazing how you wanna spend time being weirdly rude to people on the internet lmao @@izabelazielak8963
Excatly, even as a child , always this feeling of those happy feelings never really being "real " or lasting, always this being happy when we are expected to be, but never actually feeling it on the inside..
Sadly, EVERYONE of these resonated! Hearing them out loud is rather heart wrenching. Strength to all of us going through this heavy journey ♥️
Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Not your fault being here just remember be fine😊
For the person reading this message I hope you are doing good, I want to share this in a lot of comment sections so it can reach everyone possible including you so please read until the end:
God loves you a lot and he wants you to be saved and happy, nothing in this world like money, fun or popularity can fill the emptiness in your heart, only his son Jesus who died for you can fill you who might not nothing know about him. He knows you more than yourself. You who turned your back to him, he is still waiting for you with his arms open to receive you again. You who fought against him and have done things that are unforgivable in your eyes, he will always see you as his son and he already paid the price for all your sins. Even if the world doesn’t forgive you, all that you need is God and everything will be alright, so trust God and no one else. Repent from your sins and never go back to them, and the most important thing is that you accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and savior with your voice and your heart, when you do all these things, pray to God and read the Bible(Christian Bible not a Catholic since the Catholic one might’ve changed the word of God to something that it is not God’s word but men’s, so read a christian Bible) so that you get to know God. Follow it’s word completely, because some people might say that the times and things have changed, but God never changes, the Bible says that the heavens and earth will pass but his word will never pass and that means that the things God didn’t like back then he still doesn’t like today. So don’t let anyone tell you that now you can have sex before marriage or something like that just because everyone does it, because the Bible says that wide is the path to destruction and many walk through it. When you pray, ask God to guide you so that you always walk in his righteousness and so that he gives you strength so you don’t fall to sin, and don’t just say I am a Christian and never read your bible or end up not praying because being a follower of God means building a father and son-daughter relationship with him. Fast and pray and be his son not only in words but also in your actions.
Today God has showed grace to you who might be depressed, empty, are being hated or hates, or maybe you don’t receive genuine love this is even for you who enjoys or is comfortable with your current life. Whoever you who is reading this is, know that God is calling you to give you a future and a hope in this life and in the eternal life. Trust him, because he loves you so much that is beyond understanding, and the time is short.
After you finish reading this message you might die or Jesus might return, so be ready and follow him, for today he stretched his hand to you because he loves you and cares for you and he doesn’t want you to go to hell, so please go to him, it will be hard because living for God means denying yourself and the things that you might like, but it will be the best decision you will make in your entire existence and I promise you it will be worth more than any of the things that you don’t want to let go of. Make the right choice, because today God has stretched his hand to you who he loves so much that he even died for knowing all the bad things you have done. That is how much love he has and will always have for you.
I don’t know you but you might be going through hard times, so keep these words in mind that God gives hope to the hopeless and he heals any wounds including the ones from the heart, and he can do the same for you regardless of anything. Thank you for reading, God bless you always❤️
i started crying at the end of this 😢
Me on the 3d note...hoping 4 and 5 to not aply to me, but unfortunately not true 😢
@@holtal3332i relate to all of those and im surrounded by toxic people
who insult me for being a girl and insult my nationality , they r even being racist
And I can do nothing but ignore and when I try to ignore they call me deaf
Like I can't escape it I tried su!c!de many times but I still survived I'm still 12 but I have to endure this shit
I thought that something like
A '"""""friend"""""" was not real I still think the same cause all who I thought were my friends betrayed me
Me too, it feels like our secret shame
@@user-dn4tg1cj4l
I just saw a vid of kurzgesagt
on loneliness
And we cant avoid it but we can avoid being mean and spend time with people close to us
We can make someone's day better
We can make new friends
If there r 8 billion people and we still feel lonely then maybe we r trying to feel lonely
The only thing we can do is try being as friendly as possible and maybe people will be friendly to you
Dr. Julie, you are completely right about everything. I do eat at night while watching TV because well I can't deal with my depression and it helps tremendously
I feel exposed😬
Girl just described my whole life in 5 sticky notes
You are not the only one bro.. i feel the same😢
Ugh
Dude, most people who eat shit are exhausted and depressed.
I experience these almost everyday and I’m too shy to tell anyone about because I’m afraid they would just say “oh it’s just a phase” and “oh your just stressed” It’s taking me a lot of courage just to tell y’all
well done for getting it out in the world somewhere!! Your struggles are real and valid, and you're doing so well at dealing with it!
I believe in you to have the courage to tell people irl you've been struggling, when you feel ready to
I have a high heart rate and ik it's not the same but everyone keeps saying I'm stressed or being dramatic like my heart falls 120-140 & my restating heart rate is 90-100 and idk why but it's so annoying when ppl say your js stressed or being dramatic
I actually did share some of what I'm feeling to parents and my self-harm fantasies to a therapist but nobody cared
parents just pretend they didn't hear it and therapist just brushed it off and just kept inquiring how can I help myself
it's completely meaningless to tell anyone anything, just read some self-help books and learn to deal with things on your own because nobody cares
@@FruityHachi aw man that's terrible :(
However, just because parents and therapist don't appear to care, that doesn't mean no one does. Do you have any close trusted friends or anyone you can talk to? Because I can guarantee there's someone in your life who cares at least a bit.
If not, I'd be happy to continue talking with you about it if you want, and I can at least assure you that right now through these few comments, I care about you and your wellbeing. Though I haven't met you, I want things to get better for you.
I at least partly understand how you feel, I've had a similar experience with telling my mum about having suicidal thoughts and she just kind of disregarded me and never spoke of it again (but I'm not having suicidal thoughts anymore!!), and I used to want to self harm quite often and did a number of times (again, not anymore. See? Living proof it can get better)
With that being said, DON'T self harm. Your health is way more important than that. If you get a strong urge to do something like that, maybe try externalising it in some way like destroying some paper, for example? Or some other way that you think might work for you.
But yeah, you're really strong for dealing with all that. I know how that sort of thought pattern feels, and I know it sucks, but I also know that you're stronger than it.
Good luck in the world, continue being amazing, and find people who care about you because there are some!!!
@@theweirdestfish9962 no, don't have any friends or anyone to talk to
and lately during an argument my parents told me that I have no one, it cut deep
yeah when I was small I used to externalize my hurt by destroying a plant or slamming the door to my room, got shamed for it because my parents don't want me to express my anger but they feel completely justified in taking their anger out on me, and they value material things over me
I did buy myself boxing gloves particularly for externalizing anger, forgot about it when I self-harmed, but my parents constantly criticize me when I make some mess or make any loud sound so I'd have their voice in my head when I try to externalize my anger, guess that's why I grabbed scissors to hurt myself because it's quiet
I did once destroyed some paper then hurried to quickly clean up the mess before my parents arrived, it brought me more anxiety than relief so that's why I no longer use this technique
I used to feel this way. Didn’t have clinical depression, but I do think I was depressed. Right now is the happiest I've been so don’t loose hope!! Sending love to people who are struggling. ❤
Lose*
This totally describes my situation, I have each one of them, and trying to get better through therapy, is surprising how normal being highly functioning depressed in the military.
I used to be a high-functioning depressed person but some years ago even that stopped working for me. I do everything the world asks of me but I struggle to do things for myself. I'm currently unemployed, my health is failing, I procrastinate in nearly all aspects of my personal life. It's hard. My advice would be not to let it go as far and start some form of a treatment bcs it might get a bit better but it won't go away on its own...
I hope help reaches you soon 🖤🖤🖤
💕💕💕
Exact same boat here. It just occurred to me that high functioning depression is like being a boxer who keeps fighting a match in spite of the realization that the hits are taking a toll and the energy reserves are now critically too low to continue much longer. I'm past this point, but my current stumbling block is the belief that treatment options are little more than just calling a boxing time-out in order to get a bandaid applied over a cut... just to go back in the ring and continue taking a beating. You might say "Well, just quit boxing"... yes, but how the heck do I pay the rent and the bills during the lengthy time required to let my brain and body heal well enough to move into some other line of work... that is... if I can even get my brain and body healthy enough at all?
I hope you find job soon. Looking for a job sucks.
@@babycakes8434 working sucks too but hey, even non depressed people feel like that about their job 😂😂
Most of the people with depression are functioning. As a person who spent two years in my room unable to eat/sleep/shower and barely able to go on a toilet- This always starts with the functioning phase. You give it all to be able to go to school/work and pretend like you can do it and then your energy runs out and youre too deep in it that you dont have enough strenght to get help so you end up barely existing. If you want to get better you have to do it in the functioning stage because once you get into 'real depression' its too late for anything (thats what I always told myself- that when Im functioning Im not depressed). Its bullshit and deep down you know you really need help
🙌🏻🙌🏻💪🏻🥲🥲
That was me for a looong time (high functioning), then when the major depressive episode came... I honestly don't know how I came out at the other end of it. And then, it was back to high functioning until I started therapy.
I think it just became the norm for a long, long time. Even now, when I'm much better (after almost 4 years of on and off therapy), there's still something missing. Maybe I am scared to let go of this friend of mine called depression. Who would I be without it? It's been by my side for so long now, keeping me safe and small, reinforcing the avoidant attachment style I apply in my relationships.
I'm in my 30's now and I'm thinking of trying therapy and treatment but it's hard to take that leap. It's the "devil you know" mentality. The unkown of who I could be scares me 🙂
The scary part is that some people have a higher chance to become depressed again after a single episode or are impacted in a way that they will never become the person they were before their depression started. I am high functioning as well and was very close to slip into a worse form of depression. In my worst time even eating was exhausting and i bought throw-away-plates because i had no energy to wash dishes, if i had days off i didn't wash myself until the day i had to work again, all i did on my days off was laying in bed either scrolling on social media, daydreaming or crying and hating myself. I missed deadlines, couldn't concentrate on tasks and was late all the time. I was so close to throw everything i worked for away. thank god i didn't in the end. I barely "escaped" an even worse mental state with the help of a friend of mine and i will forever be greatful. I am feeling better than before. But the scary part to me is that my endurance is waaay lower than before. I need to be super careful now, not overwork myself and actually look after myself to not slip again. It is as if a lot more energy is needed than before to do my daily tasks. I can do less now than when my high functionating depression started. It is a scary feeling to realise how weak you have become mentaly. I know i need help but were i live it is so hard to even get an appointment for the first evaluation with an psychartrist. The waiting lists for therapy before the pandemic were already 5-6 months long. Now it is longer and you would need to call all the time to have a chance. All i can do for now is to not overwork myself, get enough rest and to take care of myself as much as i can. It sucks. I envy my past self so much.
@@noandyesandupanddown5905 yeah for more than ten years I feel like the only thing my life is about is trying to make it through every day... Even when I'm 'doing good'
@@noandyesandupanddown5905 Hear me out... maybe it's a good thing?
People are not meant to be "ON" all the time. We are not meant to keep charging full steam ahead. Our bodies need care, too. That's not weakness. It's the way we are.
It's great that you know your queues now, the line that must not be crossed. It might be tempting to hold yourself to a standard you wouldn't wish upon others, to demand more of yourself, maybe because you don't believe you can rely on others... but, at the end of the day, you are *human* and we all have our limits.
Take care of yourself, both mind and body, because no one else will do it better than you. And keep pushing for that appointment. Go to your GP, go to a specialist, seek out some therapy in the meantime, start journaling... anything to keep you on track. Don't give up. If there's anything our dear friend depression has taught us is that we'll take its hand and keep going even if the bastard is dragging its feet!
🤗
It is just when no one is looking we realize what we feel truly deep inside because that's when our mind feels safe to express those emotions either in the form of thought or through the solitude around.
100% me. It’s such a relief to watch this and know that what I feel is genuine and someone is there validating my feelings. Thank you Dr Julie. I say to myself “why can’t I just buck up” but it’s not that simple is it, therapy has shown me that too. I have to unpack a ton of stuff still.
Your videos helped me help my husband get the help he needed for his depression. We knew 100% he had adhd, but we were both in shock when he was diagnosed with major depressive disorder. But after looking back through your videos, I started noticing the symptoms. He’s got help, and everyone has noticed. His energy doesn’t feel forced anymore, and he now smiles more genuinely. Something in our 8+ years of being together that I have never seen. He now sees everything more clearer and we are trying to get his older brother the help he needs. He’s a bit more stubborn though. 😢
You are not my brother's wife are you? 👀
😂
This would describe me and my brother perfectly 😅.
Medication was the answer?
You know theres medications for the side effects of medications now? I recently heard about this and it was only a matter of time. 😢
@@Sunshine_Daydream222 unfortunately it seems that way. He went so long without it and it was harming him mentally. He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist though through therapy.
@@GGGG_3333 omg! No, I don’t think I am 😅 that’s so weird though!
can you handle one more husband?
I was high functioning for a couple years but I was deteriorating and then I would try to be functioning again. I finally realized I needed real help after about 8 years when I started taking a bunch of days off work. I work in psychiatric research and I have a degree in psychology so I was aware of my state but taking the first real step towards treatment meant that I could no longer maintain a numb apathy to my life. While things aren’t perfect I finally feel like I have time in my life again and that.
I'm reminded of the Cliffs of Dover. God bless us all🙏
That is literally what I want my parents to know! There is nothing wrong with them. They are not doing anything wrong. It's just that I am not able to meet their expectations. They think I am just being lazy. WHAT AN IRONY! I am becoming a 'disappointment' when I am just depressed. I tried to explain it to them a million times, but they don't just seem to understand. They need a 'valid reason' for me to be depressed. What should I tell them? That I am depressed? They are being the best parents in the world. I don't want to disappoint them. I have my exams in 2 months.. they have a lot of expectations from me ... but I am just being a bad kid. My results are declining and I am not able to focus. I need professional help. But the same thing comes over again. I am not able to express my feelings to them. I don't know what to do...
Your parents are doing something wrong. Please seek help or counseling by reaching out at school & to any other trusted adults in your life.
@@hm2011100 Thank you for your concern.😊 Actually my parents realised something was wrong with me and consulted the best phycologists in our locality. My mental health is getting better now. Unfortunately I won't get 'good marks', but my parents said that it doesn't matter to them. I am trying to do my best but I am still recovering so it takes some time. And there is NOTHING my parents have done wrong. They have thier own problems and thier own perspective and I understand that. I am just sorry for the inconvenience I caused them and will try to do my best after my exams. Once again thanks 😊 I wasn't able to contact anyone on my own but my parents helped me❤❤
Oh my goodness this is me in a nutshell. I thought I might be depressed but I could still do things but felt empty inside doing them. And I love the idea of social events and say yes but I don’t want to go as I get too tired and can’t enjoy it as it really is hard work. I can be in a room full of people and feel completely empty like a shell.
It’s the worse when your putting on a joyful smile for your baby and when they nap … you 😭
😢 I hope you feel better soon. Sending you love 💓
@@FC-eh7ll Thank you ! I am doing better !
One of the most challenging periods in life, you’re doing great ❤
I know this feeling! Mama of two under two here 😅
The one about junk food really applies to me. I don’t find pleasure in anything anymore, I feel lonely and tired and stressed all the time and I am so terrified of socializing or getting things dirty. My friends have all left me and even my family are getting tired with my meltdowns (I have autism) and it’s so difficult but I want others to know that they’re not alone and there’s others out there like them. We can support each other 😊
If school didnt exist, i would the happiest girl on earth.
I haven't gone into depression last year, and that's a huge progress. Thanks for making me realise that my mental health is improving.
For me, sometimes things are great when I'm able to let myself live in the moment with friends, but the moment it ends, I'm left feeling empty inside. Like a soda that's lost all its carbonation. Just, flat, and wrung out. I hate the feeling of coming down from that happy high more than anything, so oftentimes I avoid the high altogether. But then again, I desperately wait for my friend to message me to hang out again, like a frog in a well waiting for the bucket to come down and lift me out again. It sucks.
FINALLY, SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS!!!!!
You're not alone. The annoying bit is when you have a small friend pool and they either leave you or they become too busy for you. So you start the friend search all over again.
Depression is like a boulder laying on top of or obstructing every single aspect of your life. There’s a boulder on top of the bed you need to make, another one in the bathtub, and a giant one in front of the door. You need to move them to get things done, but even your best self would not have the energy. The worst is the one that sinks heavily on your mind-you can ease the pressure and roll it to one side for a bit, but it tumbles back to squash any positivity that may have stemmed from its lightening. Sometimes those boulders can be removed with help, but other times, they are stacks of shortcomings and lacking aspects in your life, ones that can’t be disassembled until the problem that put them there in the first place is somehow resolved or accomplished.
I'm not sure, but that sounds a little like Chronic fatigue. The stimulant meds for ADHD target exactly this: normal things - like rolling out of bed, or showering - stop being impossible, become normal again.
You radiate warmth and kindness wherever you go, brightening the lives of those around you with your genuine smile and compassionate heart. Your resilience in the face of challenges is inspiring, and your determination to spread positivity is truly admirable. Your creativity knows no bounds, as you constantly find innovative ways to express yourself and bring joy to others. Your presence is a gift, uplifting those lucky enough to know you and leaving a lasting impression of goodness wherever you go.
This is pretty accurate. Hit too close to home for someone, referring to myself, that has been diagnosed with depression, by a medical professional, a few years ago.😔
This was me last year. I actually subscribed to this channel last year.
Going to therapy really helped. Now I'm just trying to overcome anxiety, step by step.
Now sometimes I say, I'm happy, you look good, or just laugh with myself.
Glad to say I made it out of this :) if you’re struggling I hope you make it out as well, you’ve got this
High five dude! I did too
It only took cancelling my wedding, changing career and finally reporting my abuser to the police 😅
@@generalbuller88 that’s amazing!!!!
Love the simplicitly of explaining complex situations. Makes one curious to learn more.
Thanks Dr Julie without knowing you are slowly helping me unwrap the mess im currently in forever grateful ❤
I had high functioning depressed until I didn't change anything until I burnt out and nearly committed suicide. After months and months of working on myself I feel much better now. There is still a long journey in front of me, but I've also already gone a king way from where I was
Wow... Best of luck for continued successon your journey! X
@@mizbarehana5498 Thank you ❤️
Waiting for the day I can afford a therapist like you in my budget ❤
The best therapist is completely free of charge. Jesus Christ can and will fix you. If you don't believe me, ask Him...
I'm trying to make more money so I can afford a therapist myself.
If she was really that good of a therapist, she would have given you some answers.
I take care of myself both physically and mentally as part of my routine that I have to do regardless of how I’m feeling. Yet most days I still feel empty. I think it boils down to loneliness and it’s difficult in these times to not feel lonely. Genuine connections just seem nonexistent these days.
Back when I fit that description to the T...I didn't even know. I had no diagnosis. My life has been like that since I remembered. My childhood was a string of depressions. Very little phases in-between were it wasn't as bad, but it wasn't good either.
With the diagnosis in my mid 20s, my life turned upside down. Actually it just started then. But what's how it felt.
Once I had an explanation and someone told me:"No! Not everyone's life is like this. This is NOT normal." it felt sad, hurting and simultaneously so good and such relief.
Very nice video!
I can most certainly relate to this 😔 That being said, I'm on the up, eating more sensibly, started working out again and I've been trying to focus a little on myself, making my hair look nice. It's really is the little things 🤷🏾♀️🙏🏾👌🏾
Keep up the good work❤
More power to you!
@kelvincabrera4517 Thank you soo much for your kind comment 🙏🏾
omg the excessive screen time is so me bro i spend a lot of time on yt
i didnt even realize i was trying to numb myself from feelings until i realized after that i felt close to zero feelings during the entire time i was online, and i started with the usual emotion spikes and mood swings i never got during the time on screen 😅
now with the amount of emotions i feel im quite literally numb until its like a gigantic spike of anger or smt negative like that
These shorts help me know I may be going through something I want a longer video on this
Thank you doctor Julie lot of people need your help!!!❤❤❤
Watching this slapped me in the face, not because i didnt know i was depressed, but because i realized that this isnt my whole existence anymore. Ive gotten better, im good at handling it, at taking care of myself, i enjoy what i do. Im gonna cry 😅
She told me more about myself than I even knew… dang.
Oh this is me 💯 life is an uphill grind & battle every day. My daughter (34) doesn't understand at all, i just can't get up & go to social events, she no longer talks to me. I still have to work. I wish i could stay in bed all day, everyday. I have depression, anxiety & panic attacks. What sort of life is this, no quality at all 😢😢
these signs are exactly the ones I felt when I was depressed... and I still struggle with it from time to time if I'm not careful and self-aware of my health
It's good to have a support system if you're going through this and keep away from negative environments. I hope you find what you're looking for.
I think the best way to deal with depression is we should change the way of responding to such depression. In such a way it gives us smooth surface to dealing it like exercises or playing outdoor games or mediation releases stress which in turn helps us to be convenient in dealing with anger, worry etc
Great comment
I agree. I changed a lot of parts of my lifestyle and I am now 4 months free of depression
I suffered for 28 years then started keto diet for weight loss. Now 2 years free of depression as a bonus! 😊
@@gardeninginthedesert, your reaction is a great help for me, so thank you very much! I know from experience that keto works, but couldn't find the energy to take care of my meals. It's late in the evening where I live, but I'll restart on keto first thing in the morning! ❤️🌷❤️
I don't really understand what you mean, can you explain it to me again in different words please? Looking for some ideas/inspiration/help as I'm struggling with this for three years now and broke up school cause of it.
I wondered what I have. I’ve been asked if I’m depressed and said no because I’m still able to work hard and do whatever “the world asks”. Thank you.
So on point! Had to subscribe!
I believe that learning and forming healthy respond habits to these signs can be a start to tackling depression in first stages. Most importantly learning how to feel out our emotions 100% then how to manage the feels
i don't know if you'll see this, but just thank you for letting me know of my condition
everyone in my family is pretty concerned for me,but i thought im ok but now ik.........im not okay
Bruh i relate to this sm and the worst part is i know how to make my life better but i just dont let myself do it because of how risky it is
I know, it’s like “why should I try when I’m going to fail anyway, what’s the point?” So I don’t even bother.
It’s like that old Homerism; “you tried your best, and you failed miserably, the lesson is… never try!”
I don’t think I’ve every been depressed before but recently I’ve been so stressed about everything. I’ve even stopped talking to my family under the disguise that they aren’t impacting me positively for months now. I went to a boarding school so all my “friends” live far away from me and I barely ever see them it’s literally been years. I stopped going out to parties and social gatherings. The person I’m currently seeing and is the only person I’m comfortable with at the moment is planning to leave me because we’ll be around each other for hours and I barely say a word unless he asks a question which is getting frustrating for him. I literally find it super hard to maintain conversations. I literally came home from work today after work trying to self actualize while stress eating and I think I had my first ever hyperventilation I was literally grasping for air for about 5 whole mins
This is just normal in the current world.
good luck for every one of us who feels that way. It sucks, hope it'll get better.
I do slowly coming out of it it happened after twenty years of a nad marriage and a loss of the only person that ever cared about me.
thank you Dr Julie
That sums up my life for many years. I always felt empty, couldn't really find happiness in anything and struggled to keep myself neat and clean outside of work. It was never a problem for me to go to work or do other important things but anything outside of "necessities" was a struggle. Thank goodness I managed to overcome it after finding the root of my depression and alowly fixing it. But it took lots ot hard work to get there.
This is spot on! I'm 46, and I have a family member that just doesn't fcking understand! They look at me like I'm stupid.
Totally resonating. . But how do I fix it.
Ayurveda
Find a good therapist and/or medication.
Shrooms.... Tried it cured it
Thinking the same
It starts with accepting it, and not punishing yourself for it. Then try meditation, nature walks and slowly incorporate more nutrient dense foods and water into your diet. I’d also look into CBT and DBT exercises that can help shift unhealthy thought patterns. Also, finding awe in your everyday can really help according to many studies. A support group may also be helpful. Start slow and take one step at a time and try to look for the small improvements and moments of joy to keep you motivated to go the long haul and have hope for the future. Medication may also be an option to give a bit of rocket fuel to get healing in motion a bit faster if you’re struggling to feel the benefits of lifestyle changes without them. All the best and I hope the cloud is lifted soon 🤲 ❤
I haven't been the same person this year because of how hard depression has hit me. Everything came down to years and many times of betrayal from people i had a strong connection with. Makes you look like a fool when you invest so much in your friendship, only to be taken for granted.
Talking to people and meet new people is my cure to my problems, but it's also the reason i suffer depression when they can turn your back on you any given time.
A few months ago I was living with my grandmother/guardian and her ex husband who she started dating again one day when I was in the car with my dad he told me that my grandma’s ex husband/current boyfriend wasn’t as good as we thought but I forgot that sooner or later then he hit my grandma on the back of the neck my life crumbled from that point on, but now I’m living happily with my grandma (I’m nine years old)
This spoke to me on such a deep level, I love how you present your information
Holy crap I feel called out. Thank you for this.
I am literally every video you post! They are really good though as they can make you think and try and make changes.
I always thought I was depressed and you have proven it
You always seem to post something that pertains to what’s going on in my life
Thank you for seeing those in this state...❤
I feel judged 😭😭😭. In all seriousness this hit me hard. I struggle a lot with my trauma and PTSD. I've come so far and yet still so much in mental hell. Three years ago I was the closest to taking my life, now I don't want to do that, but each day is so hard to face. For anyone out there feeling like this, you're not alone and even though you don't know me, take comfort in the fact that you are not alone and you are loved ❤.
thanks for the solutions really changed my life
I feel like you are my savior. I have so many mental health problems and it’s not getting better. Your videos help me. Thank you
Dam that hit me dead on
Thank you. I really needed to hear this
Yep, I resemble that! Im 71 years old. I dont remember the last time I had "butterflies" in my stomach and I was so thrilled that i was going somewhere cool such as fishing or to a movie.
I can really relate to 1,2 & 4 .. I've been clinically diagnosed with MDD, anxiety Disorder and panic attacks 3 yrs ago.. and have been hospitalized 3 times.. if you're going through the same.. you're not alone..
You can be healed through Jesus Christ our saviour. He love you and will fix you, just ask.
Ah yes - Jesus healed my husband’s type 1 diabetes! Oh wait… no… he still has that. Damn.
Depression from experience it is the gap between expectation and reality for your life… the burn out from giving too much of yourself to other people or things which drain you. It’s something that you should know YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. You don’t need fixed. Your body is telling you that something is wrong - listen to your body. Love and care for yourself and in time, you will recover by your own power.
I’m suffering with chronic pain and have given up putting on a front. If I seem low and the people around me avoid me because of that without asking how I am then they aren’t worth knowing. It’s exhausting.
I was depressed for the latter half of 2023, and the best way I could explain it to everyone around me was that I was in a high functioning depressive episode. I still worked and talked to people and ran errands, but when I was alone and had time off from work I didn’t take care of myself at all. I’d go several days without a shower or brushing my teeth, binged food and tv, and overslept or under slept every day. I’m working with doctors and a coach now to try and get myself into a better routine. I know I’ll be struggling with this my entire life but I know that I can do better and feel better. The first step is the hardest.
Yes, I know these signs, and I am getting out of here into a better situation. Ty 🙏🏼
Dr Julie is brilliant. Just about every video relates to me. I need to see someone asap
Look for Jesus Christ, He will fix you completely. All you have to do is ask.
This is me... Appreciate for this kind video
This made me cry so much because it's all true and I don't know what to do.
Love that you used Ludovico Einaudi to back this. His music is so meditative and calming for me, especially when I'm struggling.
this basically describes me but my question is, where should i start to pick myself back up? the lack of motivation that i have makes it harder for me to even get out of bed, everyday seems worse and worse...
My adult children in their mid twenties display this and it’s really understandable after studying hard and everything to graduate and begin with their careers we are hit hardest by the loss of 3 close family members and our sweetheart doggy. Now this depression I fear is killing us slowly
ADULT CHILDREN IM DEAD
@@azoo90o1 stay dead then.
@@azoo90o1They're children not because they're young and dependent but because the poster is their parent. How else would they refer to them?
@@leonore3349 IT JUST SOUNDED FUNNY JEEZ
Don't say it's killing you, you could be opening the door to demonic spirits.
Jesus Christ will 100% heal your children from their troubled minds and spirits. If you don't believe me, ask Him yourself.
So true. Now that I think about it I feel that way
Singing my song with his words, killing me softly with her words, killing me softly with her words, telling him my whole life with her words, killing me softly. Oh my God, how one point this woman is like she had a window into my life and she could tell me everything. I go through the day like that I’ve gone through years like that it has been internally hard it has beenlonely it has been miserable. Thank you for bringing that to the forefront for those of us who needed to hear it from somebody else. Future note I have been in therapy and I am working on this problem but I got to tell you it is a difficult thing.
I did not need to be called out on a Tuesday afternoon😂😂
OmG today is also Tuesday 😂 and yeah same lol
Yup that's me. I cry a lot these days
I understand. Be kind to yourself, often others don't understand what you are going through. Life can feel unbearably hard. It may not mean much to you....but I am sending you gentle healing energy🌺🪷🌸🪷🩷
I hope you will have better days.🙏🌱
@@munkyjammin thank you so much 😀
Be happy and be positve and workout or drink coffee or get a snack or journal❤
@@munkyjamminI loved this comment 💎❄️💙💙💙💎❄️💎
Jesus Christ will pull you out of your depression!
God bless you sir.
Ouch. That last one truly struck home.
Seeing this video helped me feel a need to change myself, and my behavior. Thank you Dr. Julie (might give updates)
How do I fix it, please I’m desperate
You have to think positive
Ask your Lord and saviour Jesus Christ, He will fix it for you!
@@minhyuksssmilereally? That’s it? Wow!
@minhyuksssmile if you genuinely think that's the cure, then you have no idea what you're talking about. Take your dumb ideas someplace else
I hope YOU are ok, Julie 🙏🏼❤️
Wow, if that isnt a narcissistic, gaslighting reply, I don’t know what is??
Angry ever Monkey80IIx?
@@whowearereally6494how lmao
Im happy i have come out of this..was relatable few months back😢..thankyou for ur videos..it helped me😊
Thank you for you videos, Dr. Julie. They give some food for thought and are inspiring. You are a beautiful person and a beautiful woman.