Top 5 Signs Of High Functioning Depression

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  • @DrJulie
    @DrJulie  Рік тому +260

    Hi I'm Dr. Julie subscribe & follow me for lots more videos on mental health and psychology.
    For more on this see my new no.1 bestselling book - Why has nobody told me this before?
    👉 linktr.ee/drjuliesmith

    • @InnaGottaDavida
      @InnaGottaDavida 10 місяців тому +12

      Identifying the problem is only half the battle. Figuring out how you're going to pay for treatment is the other half. Insurance companies aren't keen on paying for mental health care and qualified professionals cost too much to pay for out-of-pocket.

    • @varunacp5361
      @varunacp5361 10 місяців тому +4

      Hi, I live in India... I'm struggling since 9years with depression and anxiety, 2years back I got the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder... It feels like I'm never gonna be healthy again and it feels like I'll kill myself one of these days... I have tried so many doctors probably 10-12, If you could give me consultation at reasonable price i would really appreciate it...

    • @trueaussie9230
      @trueaussie9230 10 місяців тому

      ​@@varunacp5361
      You rarely get more than you pay for.
      If you pay little, don't be surprised when you get little in the way of 'quality'.
      Have you even checked this person's credentials?!
      Anyone on YT can SAY they're a 'doctor'.
      There are MANY 'types' of 'doctor' - eg 'Doctor of Philosophy'; 'Doctor of Computer Science'.
      Be VERY careful who you deal with online.
      Which do you value more - your health or your money?!

    • @Wearethewingmakers
      @Wearethewingmakers 9 місяців тому

      Hi julie whats the music playing in the background of this please? ❤

    • @moreygloss9248
      @moreygloss9248 9 місяців тому +6

      5: showering once per week in stead of 3 times per week; 4: bought gym memebership 2 months ago, haven't been yet; 3: small business owner, year -end due tomorrow, started working on it today; 2: only negative thoughts and recrimminations get me out of bed in the morning; 1: No goals, *nothing* intrigues or incites anymore.

  • @StewartFletcher
    @StewartFletcher Рік тому +4561

    Don't call me out like that, Dr Julie

  • @azoo90o1
    @azoo90o1 Рік тому +10319

    casually eats a popsicle while getting progressively more concerned for myself for each sticky note

    • @NowIAmAwake
      @NowIAmAwake Рік тому +134

      popsicles or anything with a lot of carbs

    • @Cheddar-the-Chaos-Editor
      @Cheddar-the-Chaos-Editor Рік тому +46

      MEEEEEEE

    • @munk_ken
      @munk_ken Рік тому +104

      I already knew this was an issue, so no increase of concern here. I could use a popsicle.

    • @recoveringsoul755
      @recoveringsoul755 Рік тому +24

      You can afford popsicles? I ran out of sugar...

    • @mkjolee
      @mkjolee Рік тому +46

      Eating a spoonful of funfetti frosting while reading abt you eating a popsicle…….. 🥲

  • @Tierneycristian
    @Tierneycristian 2 дні тому +65

    I was having so much suicidal thoughts 10 years ago as a teenage, also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. I got diagnosed with bipolar, spent my whole life fighting bipolar. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.

    • @gusna82266
      @gusna82266 2 дні тому

      I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.

    • @ErnestoHorner88
      @ErnestoHorner88 2 дні тому

      Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏

    • @CathieGomez-mp8sk
      @CathieGomez-mp8sk 2 дні тому +2

      YES sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. Mushrooms literally got me off my feet and turned my whole life around. I am currently a housing manager for a recovery program. I wouldn't have been able to do that shit without psilocybin.

    • @canerbakar-jv2si
      @canerbakar-jv2si 2 дні тому

      I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.

    • @LouisaDellert-r9i
      @LouisaDellert-r9i 2 дні тому

      Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google

  • @Simply_Barbie
    @Simply_Barbie Рік тому +1289

    Welp, I didn’t expect to be called out in every possible way, but here we are-

    • @TheGoldenBone
      @TheGoldenBone Рік тому +8

      Exactly!! 😮.

    • @more2hate
      @more2hate Рік тому +11

      Same here man, we must stay strong

    • @FinneyJacobp
      @FinneyJacobp Рік тому +4

      Me neither 😭

    • @Talalx17
      @Talalx17 11 місяців тому +10

      Exactly, i couldn't help but think these 5 things describe me

    • @alisi.starsun
      @alisi.starsun 11 місяців тому +2

      Same here😭😓

  • @swatzzz
    @swatzzz Рік тому +1605

    I’ve been stuck in this cycle for years. Hope I will be able to break free one day.

    • @shuchipareek4315
      @shuchipareek4315 Рік тому +16

      Yeah. Good luck.

    • @Joshualuv13
      @Joshualuv13 Рік тому +24

      I'm same..

    • @safiyasola839
      @safiyasola839 Рік тому +20

      Me too

    • @lelel964
      @lelel964 Рік тому +16

      Same.

    • @wango556
      @wango556 Рік тому +21

      Maybe talking to a professional like Dr julie might help. Sure did for me. Probably saved my life tbh.

  • @arabellamaelily
    @arabellamaelily 6 місяців тому +36

    The one about junk food really applies to me. I don’t find pleasure in anything anymore, I feel lonely and tired and stressed all the time and I am so terrified of socializing or getting things dirty. My friends have all left me and even my family are getting tired with my meltdowns (I have autism) and it’s so difficult but I want others to know that they’re not alone and there’s others out there like them. We can support each other 😊

    • @marilynnschultz3388
      @marilynnschultz3388 5 місяців тому +1

      If school didnt exist, i would the happiest girl on earth.

    • @johnmackenzie2695
      @johnmackenzie2695 26 днів тому +1

      I gree I was depressed before but middle school has made super depressed

    • @MeAndAnima
      @MeAndAnima 3 дні тому

      ​@johnmackenzie2695 SAME THO MIDDLE SCHOOL RUNED MY LIFE THE only thing that can keep me going is my friend and when people are nice to me and God of course

  • @QuietQuakerASMR
    @QuietQuakerASMR Рік тому +1182

    I am extremely beyond this point tbh. I have no friends, all I do is work, spend all my time alone. Life feels pretty... hopeless lately.

    • @dking1362
      @dking1362 Рік тому +73

      I'm so sorry you are hurting this deeply. I resisted medicine - but it DOES help. I didn't realize EVERYONE felt as terribly as I did - until one day I wondered; took everything I had to make a phone call and then walk into a counselor's office. The RIGHT counselor can help tremendously - it can take time and more than one try to find that right one, though. I am kind of in a "down" period right now, although not at my worst, but I have some strategies that help, I know some actions to take that do help, and I (usually) know when it's time to get more help. There IS hope. You can certainly have brighter days, even if (like me) you have to accept that your depression is with you for life. May God bless you and give you strength for your journey to healing...

    • @jarcha4200
      @jarcha4200 Рік тому +34

      You are not alone in this struggle. Medication helps me as well as forcing myself to see a counselor, participate in a positive activity weekly, more eat nutritious food and go for a walk every day. When the hopeless and helpless thoughts come, I have to remind myself it is the depression talking, not the world and not the real me. It doesn’t solve the problem, but helps me keep some perspective on having this illness.

    • @dking1362
      @dking1362 Рік тому +5

      @@jarcha4200 Excellent perspective and actions that are simple but DO help. I like the self-talk you use.

    • @dking1362
      @dking1362 Рік тому +5

      Continuing to wish you strength on your journey. There are some suggestions and encouragement here that I hope you find helpful.

    • @MS-ks2fg
      @MS-ks2fg Рік тому +1

      Same

  • @ShonaMcCarthy
    @ShonaMcCarthy Рік тому +884

    This was me a few months ago. I started to learn to say no, and started being more honest about the way I feel. Now my body and mind is healing.

    • @crummybunny777
      @crummybunny777 Рік тому

      God said unless you're born again spiritually u will not enter the kingdom of heaven also God doesn't judge us by our good works he's judging us by our sins Gods standards are so high he's that HOLY saying oh my God is using Gods name in vain it's called blasphemy ❤
      To get to heaven you must believe with all your heart that Jesus died and rose again paid full price for your sins repent and receive his Holy spirit.
      UA-camrs I recommend
      Impact videos ministries
      David diga Hernandez
      IsaiahSaldivar
      Mapalo
      DLM christian lifestyle
      Billy garham
      Danial adams
      Living waters
      Okay now pray this to be saved and to get to heaven pray out loud
      Jesus I confess that you are my lord and savior
      I believe in my heart that God raised him from the dead by faith in your word I receive salvation now
      Thank you for saving me! I am now reborn a christian a child of almighty God I am saved thank you Jesus! *Be genuine when praying this*
      Watch videos on how to receive Gods holy spirit on YT
      God creates Jesus redeems The holy spirit changes
      Now our good deeds and works we think are good are like filthy rags in the eyes of God
      Things to get rid of in your home
      1sage
      2dream catchers
      3crystals
      4crystal ball
      5ouija board
      6 tarot and angel cards
      7religious statues
      8demonic movies music or video games
      9soul ties items
      10pornography
      Now like a theif robbing a store, demons won't make it obvious they are there unless they have to.
      Now know you can't save yourself Jesus said I am the way the truth and the life
      You have insurance on your house if it ever caught on fire which rarely happens but when it comes to your soul, you play with it like you have forever to make your choice which you don't
      150k+ people Die everyday and you never know when it may be you
      God spent 9 months shaping and forming you before you were born but only 7 days on earth you're fearfully and wonderfully made beautiful in the eyes of God❤
      Don't waste time Hearts are deceitful above all things ask God for wisdom and understanding we are just tiny humans with a 3 pound brain and our imaginations cannot go beyond what we already know❤
      Your souls is so valuable both Satan and God want it but it's your choice who you will serve
      You serve the devil when you
      Lie
      Hate
      Blasphemy
      Disobey
      Lazy
      Gossip
      Gluttony
      Wanting what others have cause what God has for you is for you he will never deliver your male to someone else's house
      Hate
      And unforgivness
      And cussing murder and more
      And once you die, you're locked with your choice of where you're spending eternity God doesn't care about you doing more good then bad cause he's not judging that God never said that's the way to heaven
      So who's lying you or God? Be serious about this❤
      God is holy and righteous God is love
      So either you would play around because you don't believe hell exist or you don't believe you're going there but the bible makes it very clear
      The path to destruction is wide and easy many are on it the path to eternal life is hard and nerrow very few find it and to get into heaven u can only enter through the nerrow gate❤
      You dont have to wait until you die to know if youre going to heaven you can know right now 100% where youre going❤
      Satan doesnt rule hell this is a myth when lucifer known as satan now became prideful and rebelled against God he took many angels with him Demons are fallen angels we live in a spirital and physical world so hell was made for punishment for satan and his angels and the reason why people go there is because they Align themsleves with the devil in SIN!
      Sin separates us from God and the wages of sin is death if youre found guilty with one sin on judgment day you will not enter the kingdom of heaven so the thing is We us humans broken Gods law and jesus paid the fine! So the good news is you dont have to go to hell if you accept him as your lord and savior!
      God offered us eternal life as a free gift and you receive it by faith! You dont have to work for it you dont have to pay all you have to do is receive it by faith❤
      Don't expect Gods best when you always give him your least don't reject him anymore let him come in and change your life❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @SiennaG013
      @SiennaG013 Рік тому +7

      That’s great for u!!❤️

    • @Taylor-zg2yo
      @Taylor-zg2yo 11 місяців тому +3

      Yay!

    • @Taylor-zg2yo
      @Taylor-zg2yo 11 місяців тому +2

      That's great

    • @StillNobody235
      @StillNobody235 11 місяців тому +1

      How

  • @SOPHIAFLYGIRL
    @SOPHIAFLYGIRL 4 місяці тому +75

    Excellent description. It's often difficult for people to differentiate between symptoms and sadness. I think a lot of people dismiss genuine mental health concerns because their lives are busy and they don't want the stigma of being mentally unhealthy.

  • @belle173
    @belle173 Рік тому +203

    Sadly, EVERYONE of these resonated! Hearing them out loud is rather heart wrenching. Strength to all of us going through this heavy journey ♥️

    • @rosavisser5764
      @rosavisser5764 7 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @hazeboy8981
      @hazeboy8981 7 місяців тому +1

      Not your fault being here just remember be fine😊

    • @ideal5535
      @ideal5535 7 місяців тому

      For the person reading this message I hope you are doing good, I want to share this in a lot of comment sections so it can reach everyone possible including you so please read until the end:
      God loves you a lot and he wants you to be saved and happy, nothing in this world like money, fun or popularity can fill the emptiness in your heart, only his son Jesus who died for you can fill you who might not nothing know about him. He knows you more than yourself. You who turned your back to him, he is still waiting for you with his arms open to receive you again. You who fought against him and have done things that are unforgivable in your eyes, he will always see you as his son and he already paid the price for all your sins. Even if the world doesn’t forgive you, all that you need is God and everything will be alright, so trust God and no one else. Repent from your sins and never go back to them, and the most important thing is that you accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and savior with your voice and your heart, when you do all these things, pray to God and read the Bible(Christian Bible not a Catholic since the Catholic one might’ve changed the word of God to something that it is not God’s word but men’s, so read a christian Bible) so that you get to know God. Follow it’s word completely, because some people might say that the times and things have changed, but God never changes, the Bible says that the heavens and earth will pass but his word will never pass and that means that the things God didn’t like back then he still doesn’t like today. So don’t let anyone tell you that now you can have sex before marriage or something like that just because everyone does it, because the Bible says that wide is the path to destruction and many walk through it. When you pray, ask God to guide you so that you always walk in his righteousness and so that he gives you strength so you don’t fall to sin, and don’t just say I am a Christian and never read your bible or end up not praying because being a follower of God means building a father and son-daughter relationship with him. Fast and pray and be his son not only in words but also in your actions.
      Today God has showed grace to you who might be depressed, empty, are being hated or hates, or maybe you don’t receive genuine love this is even for you who enjoys or is comfortable with your current life. Whoever you who is reading this is, know that God is calling you to give you a future and a hope in this life and in the eternal life. Trust him, because he loves you so much that is beyond understanding, and the time is short.
      After you finish reading this message you might die or Jesus might return, so be ready and follow him, for today he stretched his hand to you because he loves you and cares for you and he doesn’t want you to go to hell, so please go to him, it will be hard because living for God means denying yourself and the things that you might like, but it will be the best decision you will make in your entire existence and I promise you it will be worth more than any of the things that you don’t want to let go of. Make the right choice, because today God has stretched his hand to you who he loves so much that he even died for knowing all the bad things you have done. That is how much love he has and will always have for you.
      I don’t know you but you might be going through hard times, so keep these words in mind that God gives hope to the hopeless and he heals any wounds including the ones from the heart, and he can do the same for you regardless of anything. Thank you for reading, God bless you always❤️

    • @EKeckler
      @EKeckler Місяць тому

      Thank you ❤❤❤

  • @isabeladunlap5866
    @isabeladunlap5866 Рік тому +708

    I think i’ve felt like this my entire life. I thought this was just how everyone feels. I don’t think i’d be able to change even if I want to

    • @mizbarehana5498
      @mizbarehana5498 Рік тому +42

      That was my sister until she tried therapy.. It's been a year and she's seen some change. You should try it if you can. Good luck! X

    • @afshanusman9333
      @afshanusman9333 Рік тому +33

      Exercise helps.. having said that.. starting exercise is the hardest 😢

    • @izabelazielak8963
      @izabelazielak8963 Рік тому +2

      Amazing how You manage to speak to nobody about nothing 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @isabeladunlap5866
      @isabeladunlap5866 Рік тому

      amazing how you wanna spend time being weirdly rude to people on the internet lmao @@izabelazielak8963

    • @annemettefrederiksen7751
      @annemettefrederiksen7751 Рік тому +33

      Excatly, even as a child , always this feeling of those happy feelings never really being "real " or lasting, always this being happy when we are expected to be, but never actually feeling it on the inside..

  • @Adrianaterragrace
    @Adrianaterragrace 7 місяців тому +10

    You radiate warmth and kindness wherever you go, brightening the lives of those around you with your genuine smile and compassionate heart. Your resilience in the face of challenges is inspiring, and your determination to spread positivity is truly admirable. Your creativity knows no bounds, as you constantly find innovative ways to express yourself and bring joy to others. Your presence is a gift, uplifting those lucky enough to know you and leaving a lasting impression of goodness wherever you go.

  • @Nour938
    @Nour938 10 місяців тому +345

    My depression has lowered only because im keeping my self busy and some times i actually realise that im being genuinely happy and actuallly acting like myself but sometimes you feel like you're worthless and i start pointing out all of the bad stuff about me

    • @tyle_2860
      @tyle_2860 5 місяців тому +19

      I spend hours a day pursuing my goals and working out and still my depression gets worse every day
      And no I’m not just a edgy teenager, I suffer from anxiety overthinking and hopelessness.

    • @victoria_m13
      @victoria_m13 4 місяці тому +8

      my depression is in remission rn. i think, you can’t beat depression without help. all those anti-depression techniques (new thinking patterns that you develop) are hard to perform in active phase, so it’s crucial to be under professional’s guidance

    • @habadini
      @habadini 4 місяці тому +4

      I thought that I've done with my depression and just realized after watching this video that I have all the signs.
      I did so many things today and kept myself busy doing whatever i could. And I just realized that i feel so restless and want to do nothing..
      Can't sleep well, don't have any appetite to eat, often forget that i haven't eaten yet.

    • @corinnarose99
      @corinnarose99 3 місяці тому

      Thank you so much

    • @JerseeThatcher-t3n
      @JerseeThatcher-t3n 3 місяці тому

      Same here

  • @gaghhuh2943
    @gaghhuh2943 Рік тому +343

    Most of the people with depression are functioning. As a person who spent two years in my room unable to eat/sleep/shower and barely able to go on a toilet- This always starts with the functioning phase. You give it all to be able to go to school/work and pretend like you can do it and then your energy runs out and youre too deep in it that you dont have enough strenght to get help so you end up barely existing. If you want to get better you have to do it in the functioning stage because once you get into 'real depression' its too late for anything (thats what I always told myself- that when Im functioning Im not depressed). Its bullshit and deep down you know you really need help

    • @Felineintuition
      @Felineintuition Рік тому +13

      That was me for a looong time (high functioning), then when the major depressive episode came... I honestly don't know how I came out at the other end of it. And then, it was back to high functioning until I started therapy.
      I think it just became the norm for a long, long time. Even now, when I'm much better (after almost 4 years of on and off therapy), there's still something missing. Maybe I am scared to let go of this friend of mine called depression. Who would I be without it? It's been by my side for so long now, keeping me safe and small, reinforcing the avoidant attachment style I apply in my relationships.
      I'm in my 30's now and I'm thinking of trying therapy and treatment but it's hard to take that leap. It's the "devil you know" mentality. The unkown of who I could be scares me 🙂

    • @noandyesandupanddown5905
      @noandyesandupanddown5905 Рік тому +14

      The scary part is that some people have a higher chance to become depressed again after a single episode or are impacted in a way that they will never become the person they were before their depression started. I am high functioning as well and was very close to slip into a worse form of depression. In my worst time even eating was exhausting and i bought throw-away-plates because i had no energy to wash dishes, if i had days off i didn't wash myself until the day i had to work again, all i did on my days off was laying in bed either scrolling on social media, daydreaming or crying and hating myself. I missed deadlines, couldn't concentrate on tasks and was late all the time. I was so close to throw everything i worked for away. thank god i didn't in the end. I barely "escaped" an even worse mental state with the help of a friend of mine and i will forever be greatful. I am feeling better than before. But the scary part to me is that my endurance is waaay lower than before. I need to be super careful now, not overwork myself and actually look after myself to not slip again. It is as if a lot more energy is needed than before to do my daily tasks. I can do less now than when my high functionating depression started. It is a scary feeling to realise how weak you have become mentaly. I know i need help but were i live it is so hard to even get an appointment for the first evaluation with an psychartrist. The waiting lists for therapy before the pandemic were already 5-6 months long. Now it is longer and you would need to call all the time to have a chance. All i can do for now is to not overwork myself, get enough rest and to take care of myself as much as i can. It sucks. I envy my past self so much.

    • @gaghhuh2943
      @gaghhuh2943 Рік тому +11

      @@noandyesandupanddown5905 yeah for more than ten years I feel like the only thing my life is about is trying to make it through every day... Even when I'm 'doing good'

    • @Felineintuition
      @Felineintuition Рік тому

      @@noandyesandupanddown5905 Hear me out... maybe it's a good thing?
      People are not meant to be "ON" all the time. We are not meant to keep charging full steam ahead. Our bodies need care, too. That's not weakness. It's the way we are.
      It's great that you know your queues now, the line that must not be crossed. It might be tempting to hold yourself to a standard you wouldn't wish upon others, to demand more of yourself, maybe because you don't believe you can rely on others... but, at the end of the day, you are *human* and we all have our limits.
      Take care of yourself, both mind and body, because no one else will do it better than you. And keep pushing for that appointment. Go to your GP, go to a specialist, seek out some therapy in the meantime, start journaling... anything to keep you on track. Don't give up. If there's anything our dear friend depression has taught us is that we'll take its hand and keep going even if the bastard is dragging its feet!
      🤗

    • @Sunshine_Daydream222
      @Sunshine_Daydream222 Рік тому +5

      Have you considered digital detox and actually grounding in nature? Its magical, promise.

  • @puseletsoish
    @puseletsoish 5 місяців тому +8

    I have energy to do energy. I drag myself to work and hate being around people. When I am around people, I pretend to be okay and just smile and be kind just to get through the day. All I want to do is just sleep all day.

  • @J_Waffles
    @J_Waffles Рік тому +539

    I experience these almost everyday and I’m too shy to tell anyone about because I’m afraid they would just say “oh it’s just a phase” and “oh your just stressed” It’s taking me a lot of courage just to tell y’all

    • @theweirdestfish9962
      @theweirdestfish9962 Рік тому +24

      well done for getting it out in the world somewhere!! Your struggles are real and valid, and you're doing so well at dealing with it!
      I believe in you to have the courage to tell people irl you've been struggling, when you feel ready to

    • @chloewhatley_
      @chloewhatley_ Рік тому +11

      I have a high heart rate and ik it's not the same but everyone keeps saying I'm stressed or being dramatic like my heart falls 120-140 & my restating heart rate is 90-100 and idk why but it's so annoying when ppl say your js stressed or being dramatic

    • @FruityHachi
      @FruityHachi Рік тому +12

      I actually did share some of what I'm feeling to parents and my self-harm fantasies to a therapist but nobody cared
      parents just pretend they didn't hear it and therapist just brushed it off and just kept inquiring how can I help myself
      it's completely meaningless to tell anyone anything, just read some self-help books and learn to deal with things on your own because nobody cares

    • @theweirdestfish9962
      @theweirdestfish9962 Рік тому +11

      @@FruityHachi aw man that's terrible :(
      However, just because parents and therapist don't appear to care, that doesn't mean no one does. Do you have any close trusted friends or anyone you can talk to? Because I can guarantee there's someone in your life who cares at least a bit.
      If not, I'd be happy to continue talking with you about it if you want, and I can at least assure you that right now through these few comments, I care about you and your wellbeing. Though I haven't met you, I want things to get better for you.
      I at least partly understand how you feel, I've had a similar experience with telling my mum about having suicidal thoughts and she just kind of disregarded me and never spoke of it again (but I'm not having suicidal thoughts anymore!!), and I used to want to self harm quite often and did a number of times (again, not anymore. See? Living proof it can get better)
      With that being said, DON'T self harm. Your health is way more important than that. If you get a strong urge to do something like that, maybe try externalising it in some way like destroying some paper, for example? Or some other way that you think might work for you.
      But yeah, you're really strong for dealing with all that. I know how that sort of thought pattern feels, and I know it sucks, but I also know that you're stronger than it.
      Good luck in the world, continue being amazing, and find people who care about you because there are some!!!

    • @FruityHachi
      @FruityHachi Рік тому

      @@theweirdestfish9962 no, don't have any friends or anyone to talk to
      and lately during an argument my parents told me that I have no one, it cut deep
      yeah when I was small I used to externalize my hurt by destroying a plant or slamming the door to my room, got shamed for it because my parents don't want me to express my anger but they feel completely justified in taking their anger out on me, and they value material things over me
      I did buy myself boxing gloves particularly for externalizing anger, forgot about it when I self-harmed, but my parents constantly criticize me when I make some mess or make any loud sound so I'd have their voice in my head when I try to externalize my anger, guess that's why I grabbed scissors to hurt myself because it's quiet
      I did once destroyed some paper then hurried to quickly clean up the mess before my parents arrived, it brought me more anxiety than relief so that's why I no longer use this technique

  • @anulkaaw
    @anulkaaw Рік тому +139

    I used to be a high-functioning depressed person but some years ago even that stopped working for me. I do everything the world asks of me but I struggle to do things for myself. I'm currently unemployed, my health is failing, I procrastinate in nearly all aspects of my personal life. It's hard. My advice would be not to let it go as far and start some form of a treatment bcs it might get a bit better but it won't go away on its own...

    • @terhisomersalo8588
      @terhisomersalo8588 10 місяців тому +10

      I hope help reaches you soon 🖤🖤🖤

    • @ManifestbyDestiny
      @ManifestbyDestiny 10 місяців тому +2

      💕💕💕

    • @KOZMOGRAFX
      @KOZMOGRAFX 9 місяців тому +14

      Exact same boat here. It just occurred to me that high functioning depression is like being a boxer who keeps fighting a match in spite of the realization that the hits are taking a toll and the energy reserves are now critically too low to continue much longer. I'm past this point, but my current stumbling block is the belief that treatment options are little more than just calling a boxing time-out in order to get a bandaid applied over a cut... just to go back in the ring and continue taking a beating. You might say "Well, just quit boxing"... yes, but how the heck do I pay the rent and the bills during the lengthy time required to let my brain and body heal well enough to move into some other line of work... that is... if I can even get my brain and body healthy enough at all?

    • @babycakes8434
      @babycakes8434 9 місяців тому +5

      I hope you find job soon. Looking for a job sucks.

    • @Nesquik908
      @Nesquik908 7 місяців тому +2

      @@babycakes8434 working sucks too but hey, even non depressed people feel like that about their job 😂😂

  • @Aaron-y1x3s
    @Aaron-y1x3s 8 місяців тому +29

    Dr. Julie, you are completely right about everything. I do eat at night while watching TV because well I can't deal with my depression and it helps tremendously

  • @lt827
    @lt827 10 місяців тому +153

    Excellent list. I have suffered from depression for 40 years and this makes so much sense.

    • @nehanandi6959
      @nehanandi6959 5 місяців тому +4

      Will pray for you.. May God give you all the happiness in the world❤

    • @CrisTina-tp2jg
      @CrisTina-tp2jg 4 місяці тому +4

      Me too, 40 years!

    • @Callummullans
      @Callummullans 4 місяці тому

      Read psalm 23. May you be restored

    • @shatteredstarss
      @shatteredstarss 4 місяці тому

      ​@@Callummullansshut up

  • @giladfadel5920
    @giladfadel5920 Рік тому +365

    I feel exposed😬
    Girl just described my whole life in 5 sticky notes

  • @guitarguy2494
    @guitarguy2494 Місяць тому +1

    As someone who struggles with all of these items listed, someone who struggles with BPD everyday as well, and also somone who loves this song, i appreciate you.

  • @animilovich9563
    @animilovich9563 Рік тому +202

    Your videos helped me help my husband get the help he needed for his depression. We knew 100% he had adhd, but we were both in shock when he was diagnosed with major depressive disorder. But after looking back through your videos, I started noticing the symptoms. He’s got help, and everyone has noticed. His energy doesn’t feel forced anymore, and he now smiles more genuinely. Something in our 8+ years of being together that I have never seen. He now sees everything more clearer and we are trying to get his older brother the help he needs. He’s a bit more stubborn though. 😢

    • @GGGG_3333
      @GGGG_3333 Рік тому +2

      You are not my brother's wife are you? 👀
      😂
      This would describe me and my brother perfectly 😅.

    • @Sunshine_Daydream222
      @Sunshine_Daydream222 Рік тому +2

      Medication was the answer?
      You know theres medications for the side effects of medications now? I recently heard about this and it was only a matter of time. 😢

    • @animilovich9563
      @animilovich9563 Рік тому +2

      @@Sunshine_Daydream222 unfortunately it seems that way. He went so long without it and it was harming him mentally. He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist though through therapy.

    • @animilovich9563
      @animilovich9563 Рік тому +1

      @@GGGG_3333 omg! No, I don’t think I am 😅 that’s so weird though!

    • @richardnaylor910
      @richardnaylor910 Рік тому

      can you handle one more husband?

  • @angellight5040
    @angellight5040 10 місяців тому +113

    This is also happens to people who have a habit to overwork, and people who are exhausted. You don't have to have depression to experience this. Sometimes it's about learning how to take care of your needs and balance your life. Exhaustion and overworking can lead to several health issues including anxiety.

    • @slow.and.hot717
      @slow.and.hot717 8 місяців тому +5

      And depression. I didn't think I have it when it was diagnosed, but yeah, now, 10+ years later... These are definitely symptoms of depression.

    • @raea6803
      @raea6803 8 місяців тому +3

      Thank you for mentioning this! 👍

    • @angellight5040
      @angellight5040 7 місяців тому +3

      @slow.and.hot717 I didn't feel this way when I experienced depression, only when I experienced anxiety from overworking and stress. I know a lot because I decided to do therapy for years and have seen other people experiencing similar things and have done my own research. I think the point is that depression and anxiety are not the same, and people are often misdiagnosed.

    • @ideal5535
      @ideal5535 7 місяців тому

      For the person reading this message I hope you are doing good, I want to share this in a lot of comment sections so it can reach everyone possible including you so please read until the end:
      God loves you a lot and he wants you to be saved and happy, nothing in this world like money, fun or popularity can fill the emptiness in your heart, only his son Jesus who died for you can fill you who might not nothing know about him. He knows you more than yourself. You who turned your back to him, he is still waiting for you with his arms open to receive you again. You who fought against him and have done things that are unforgivable in your eyes, he will always see you as his son and he already paid the price for all your sins. Even if the world doesn’t forgive you, all that you need is God and everything will be alright, so trust God and no one else. Repent from your sins and never go back to them, and the most important thing is that you accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and savior with your voice and your heart, when you do all these things, pray to God and read the Bible(Christian Bible not a Catholic since the Catholic one might’ve changed the word of God to something that it is not God’s word but men’s, so read a christian Bible) so that you get to know God. Follow it’s word completely, because some people might say that the times and things have changed, but God never changes, the Bible says that the heavens and earth will pass but his word will never pass and that means that the things God didn’t like back then he still doesn’t like today. So don’t let anyone tell you that now you can have sex before marriage or something like that just because everyone does it, because the Bible says that wide is the path to destruction and many walk through it. When you pray, ask God to guide you so that you always walk in his righteousness and so that he gives you strength so you don’t fall to sin, and don’t just say I am a Christian and never read your bible or end up not praying because being a follower of God means building a father and son-daughter relationship with him. Fast and pray and be his son not only in words but also in your actions.
      Today God has showed grace to you who might be depressed, empty, are being hated or hates, or maybe you don’t receive genuine love this is even for you who enjoys or is comfortable with your current life. Whoever you who is reading this is, know that God is calling you to give you a future and a hope in this life and in the eternal life. Trust him, because he loves you so much that is beyond understanding, and the time is short.
      After you finish reading this message you might die or Jesus might return, so be ready and follow him, for today he stretched his hand to you because he loves you and cares for you and he doesn’t want you to go to hell, so please go to him, it will be hard because living for God means denying yourself and the things that you might like, but it will be the best decision you will make in your entire existence and I promise you it will be worth more than any of the things that you don’t want to let go of. Make the right choice, because today God has stretched his hand to you who he loves so much that he even died for knowing all the bad things you have done. That is how much love he has and will always have for you.
      I don’t know you but you might be going through hard times, so keep these words in mind that God gives hope to the hopeless and he heals any wounds including the ones from the heart, and he can do the same for you regardless of anything. Thank you for reading, God bless you always❤️

    • @SL-lz9jr
      @SL-lz9jr 6 місяців тому

      Symptoms overlap in mental health the same way it does in our physical health. That's why we cannot self diagnose using videos like this. It brings awareness but ultimately we must speak with a doctor and get a personalized assessment. ​@@angellight5040

  • @MasterAviator870
    @MasterAviator870 3 дні тому

    I'm a huge fan of videos like this that put seemingly complicated emotions into tangible words

  • @mikailagray
    @mikailagray Рік тому +54

    I was high functioning for a couple years but I was deteriorating and then I would try to be functioning again. I finally realized I needed real help after about 8 years when I started taking a bunch of days off work. I work in psychiatric research and I have a degree in psychology so I was aware of my state but taking the first real step towards treatment meant that I could no longer maintain a numb apathy to my life. While things aren’t perfect I finally feel like I have time in my life again and that.

  • @angelisa368
    @angelisa368 11 місяців тому +89

    Yep. Spot on. Sending prayers and love to everyone else this speaks to. ❤🙏

    • @MacTechG4
      @MacTechG4 10 місяців тому

      Or you could do something that actually helps instead of useless, illogical ‘praying’
      You know what would help someone with depression? Just being there for them, listening, not judging or planning your next response or trying to ‘solve it for them’, do t you think we’ve bloody tried already?
      And keep your stupid religious bullshit as far away as possible, the LAST thing anyone suffering from CD needs is the institutionalized guilt and judge mental ‘holier than thou’ haughtiness of religious pandering.

    • @raynaysride
      @raynaysride 10 місяців тому +2

      Thank you, right back at you

    • @blu_j_1977
      @blu_j_1977 10 місяців тому

      Good luck, it’s a lot to count 😏

  • @RR-wt8vy
    @RR-wt8vy 10 місяців тому +3

    It is just when no one is looking we realize what we feel truly deep inside because that's when our mind feels safe to express those emotions either in the form of thought or through the solitude around.

  • @MaskedViolinist07
    @MaskedViolinist07 Рік тому +31

    Depression is like a boulder laying on top of or obstructing every single aspect of your life. There’s a boulder on top of the bed you need to make, another one in the bathtub, and a giant one in front of the door. You need to move them to get things done, but even your best self would not have the energy. The worst is the one that sinks heavily on your mind-you can ease the pressure and roll it to one side for a bit, but it tumbles back to squash any positivity that may have stemmed from its lightening. Sometimes those boulders can be removed with help, but other times, they are stacks of shortcomings and lacking aspects in your life, ones that can’t be disassembled until the problem that put them there in the first place is somehow resolved or accomplished.

    • @teamtamer
      @teamtamer Рік тому +1

      I'm not sure, but that sounds a little like Chronic fatigue. The stimulant meds for ADHD target exactly this: normal things - like rolling out of bed, or showering - stop being impossible, become normal again.

    • @suededogs9670
      @suededogs9670 2 місяці тому

      I think you explain it very well. I have photographed your message here so I can be reminded of it. I have the boulder on the bed , in front of the door and in the bathroom, and it's like the living room is bricked up completely, I hardly ever go in there.

  • @jonnysmokesmusic
    @jonnysmokesmusic 2 місяці тому +1

    Mastering the art of smiling through the perpetual darkness. I’ve worn a convincing relaxed smile for so long that nobody could possibly understand what is going on behind my mask.

  • @ColourMeHappy3
    @ColourMeHappy3 Рік тому +114

    Oh my goodness this is me in a nutshell. I thought I might be depressed but I could still do things but felt empty inside doing them. And I love the idea of social events and say yes but I don’t want to go as I get too tired and can’t enjoy it as it really is hard work. I can be in a room full of people and feel completely empty like a shell.

  • @kuronekochanII
    @kuronekochanII Рік тому +41

    For me, sometimes things are great when I'm able to let myself live in the moment with friends, but the moment it ends, I'm left feeling empty inside. Like a soda that's lost all its carbonation. Just, flat, and wrung out. I hate the feeling of coming down from that happy high more than anything, so oftentimes I avoid the high altogether. But then again, I desperately wait for my friend to message me to hang out again, like a frog in a well waiting for the bucket to come down and lift me out again. It sucks.

    • @Your_Local_WeirdWeeb
      @Your_Local_WeirdWeeb 10 місяців тому

      FINALLY, SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS!!!!!

    • @sundjinnkari
      @sundjinnkari 10 місяців тому +3

      You're not alone. The annoying bit is when you have a small friend pool and they either leave you or they become too busy for you. So you start the friend search all over again.

  • @scrapironfish
    @scrapironfish Місяць тому +1

    The loss of my mom was bottled up. I was raised that men dont cry, dont be a baby. Finally w years after my mom died, it all cam out in a storm. I got severely depressed, and lost my job. Depression is no joke. I have to work at it every day.!

  • @justandrew7039
    @justandrew7039 Рік тому +42

    This was me last year. I actually subscribed to this channel last year.
    Going to therapy really helped. Now I'm just trying to overcome anxiety, step by step.
    Now sometimes I say, I'm happy, you look good, or just laugh with myself.

  • @Dayspring77
    @Dayspring77 Рік тому +150

    It’s the worse when your putting on a joyful smile for your baby and when they nap … you 😭

    • @FC-eh7ll
      @FC-eh7ll Рік тому +3

      😢 I hope you feel better soon. Sending you love 💓

    • @Dayspring77
      @Dayspring77 Рік тому +3

      @@FC-eh7ll Thank you ! I am doing better !

    • @fc4660
      @fc4660 11 місяців тому

      One of the most challenging periods in life, you’re doing great ❤

    • @susannacalamaio8027
      @susannacalamaio8027 10 місяців тому +1

      I know this feeling! Mama of two under two here 😅

  • @jicalzad
    @jicalzad 2 місяці тому +1

    okay, i'm with you on #1 and #4. I'm not convinced that depression is the causing the remaining 3.

  • @shinydiamonds0458
    @shinydiamonds0458 Рік тому +24

    Glad to say I made it out of this :) if you’re struggling I hope you make it out as well, you’ve got this

    • @generalbuller88
      @generalbuller88 Рік тому +3

      High five dude! I did too
      It only took cancelling my wedding, changing career and finally reporting my abuser to the police 😅

    • @shinydiamonds0458
      @shinydiamonds0458 Рік тому +2

      @@generalbuller88 that’s amazing!!!!

  • @Lemon-mw8tz
    @Lemon-mw8tz Рік тому +11

    It's good to have a support system if you're going through this and keep away from negative environments. I hope you find what you're looking for.

  • @DartmoorPaul
    @DartmoorPaul 6 місяців тому

    100% me. It’s such a relief to watch this and know that what I feel is genuine and someone is there validating my feelings. Thank you Dr Julie. I say to myself “why can’t I just buck up” but it’s not that simple is it, therapy has shown me that too. I have to unpack a ton of stuff still.

  • @VanessaTheWriter
    @VanessaTheWriter Рік тому +27

    I had high functioning depressed until I didn't change anything until I burnt out and nearly committed suicide. After months and months of working on myself I feel much better now. There is still a long journey in front of me, but I've also already gone a king way from where I was

  • @ace_of_cups4096
    @ace_of_cups4096 Рік тому +15

    Watching this slapped me in the face, not because i didnt know i was depressed, but because i realized that this isnt my whole existence anymore. Ive gotten better, im good at handling it, at taking care of myself, i enjoy what i do. Im gonna cry 😅

  • @gregprocter765
    @gregprocter765 9 місяців тому +1

    thanks for the solutions really changed my life

  • @saintejeannedarc9460
    @saintejeannedarc9460 11 місяців тому +12

    I'm definitely not on the high functioning end. More like dragging my butt through everything, and very slowly, just barely getting essentials done. I'm not able to hide it much either. Except briefly in casual encounters like shopping. I'm smiling, pleasant and go out of my way to be kind to everyone, because why not put a bit better out in the world and try and make someone elses day brighter, whenever possible.

  • @ethereal_elayne
    @ethereal_elayne 11 місяців тому +84

    i started crying at the end of this 😢

    • @holtal3332
      @holtal3332 10 місяців тому +2

      Me on the 3d note...hoping 4 and 5 to not aply to me, but unfortunately not true 😢

    • @ethereal_elayne
      @ethereal_elayne 10 місяців тому +1

      ​@@holtal3332i relate to all of those and im surrounded by toxic people
      who insult me for being a girl and insult my nationality , they r even being racist
      And I can do nothing but ignore and when I try to ignore they call me deaf
      Like I can't escape it I tried su!c!de many times but I still survived I'm still 12 but I have to endure this shit
      I thought that something like
      A '"""""friend"""""" was not real I still think the same cause all who I thought were my friends betrayed me

    • @MaryanneVasilakopoulos
      @MaryanneVasilakopoulos 10 місяців тому +1

      Me too, it feels like our secret shame

    • @ethereal_elayne
      @ethereal_elayne 10 місяців тому

      @@MaryanneVasilakopoulos
      I just saw a vid of kurzgesagt
      on loneliness
      And we cant avoid it but we can avoid being mean and spend time with people close to us
      We can make someone's day better
      We can make new friends
      If there r 8 billion people and we still feel lonely then maybe we r trying to feel lonely

    • @ethereal_elayne
      @ethereal_elayne 10 місяців тому +2

      The only thing we can do is try being as friendly as possible and maybe people will be friendly to you

  • @Illsaywhatilikecheers
    @Illsaywhatilikecheers 9 місяців тому

    Thanks Dr Julie without knowing you are slowly helping me unwrap the mess im currently in forever grateful ❤

  • @sharmeenshaikh5892
    @sharmeenshaikh5892 Рік тому +32

    Waiting for the day I can afford a therapist like you in my budget ❤

    • @JohnDoe-xv4rp
      @JohnDoe-xv4rp Рік тому

      The best therapist is completely free of charge. Jesus Christ can and will fix you. If you don't believe me, ask Him...

    • @iwantgoals1566
      @iwantgoals1566 Рік тому

      I'm trying to make more money so I can afford a therapist myself.

    • @jamesspalten5977
      @jamesspalten5977 Рік тому

      If she was really that good of a therapist, she would have given you some answers.

  • @queend9759
    @queend9759 Рік тому +66

    I can most certainly relate to this 😔 That being said, I'm on the up, eating more sensibly, started working out again and I've been trying to focus a little on myself, making my hair look nice. It's really is the little things 🤷🏾‍♀️🙏🏾👌🏾

  • @amandamariemuise
    @amandamariemuise 19 днів тому

    You hit the nail right on the head Dr. I’m in that situation now, stress from work exacerbates it.

  • @mccnbinnie9840
    @mccnbinnie9840 Рік тому +54

    I believe that learning and forming healthy respond habits to these signs can be a start to tackling depression in first stages. Most importantly learning how to feel out our emotions 100% then how to manage the feels

  • @spraveen4177
    @spraveen4177 Рік тому +53

    I think the best way to deal with depression is we should change the way of responding to such depression. In such a way it gives us smooth surface to dealing it like exercises or playing outdoor games or mediation releases stress which in turn helps us to be convenient in dealing with anger, worry etc

    • @michelleamywatt5695
      @michelleamywatt5695 Рік тому +1

      Great comment

    • @mika.mika787
      @mika.mika787 Рік тому +5

      I agree. I changed a lot of parts of my lifestyle and I am now 4 months free of depression

    • @gardeninginthedesert
      @gardeninginthedesert Рік тому +3

      I suffered for 28 years then started keto diet for weight loss. Now 2 years free of depression as a bonus! 😊

    • @NowIAmAwake
      @NowIAmAwake Рік тому +2

      ​@@gardeninginthedesert, your reaction is a great help for me, so thank you very much! I know from experience that keto works, but couldn't find the energy to take care of my meals. It's late in the evening where I live, but I'll restart on keto first thing in the morning! ❤️🌷❤️

    • @brokenprincessofhell4743
      @brokenprincessofhell4743 Рік тому

      I don't really understand what you mean, can you explain it to me again in different words please? Looking for some ideas/inspiration/help as I'm struggling with this for three years now and broke up school cause of it.

  • @thomasstefl2042
    @thomasstefl2042 15 днів тому

    A lot of people don't believe in Mental Health. I'm married to one. They believe it's nothing more than a sign of a weak person. Mental health is real struggle's, like a drug addict who cant help himself. Thank you Dr Julie for offering your time and wisdom. You make a difference.

  • @MrsSciFiGoon
    @MrsSciFiGoon Рік тому +45

    She told me more about myself than I even knew… dang.

  • @elainebezak7158
    @elainebezak7158 Рік тому +188

    Totally resonating. . But how do I fix it.

    • @Sai-xi5ln
      @Sai-xi5ln Рік тому +3

      Ayurveda

    • @cremebrulee4759
      @cremebrulee4759 Рік тому +13

      Find a good therapist and/or medication.

    • @pratikshya2010
      @pratikshya2010 Рік тому +8

      Shrooms.... Tried it cured it

    • @anonymousscott2320
      @anonymousscott2320 Рік тому

      Thinking the same

    • @ShakirahIbaad
      @ShakirahIbaad Рік тому +32

      It starts with accepting it, and not punishing yourself for it. Then try meditation, nature walks and slowly incorporate more nutrient dense foods and water into your diet. I’d also look into CBT and DBT exercises that can help shift unhealthy thought patterns. Also, finding awe in your everyday can really help according to many studies. A support group may also be helpful. Start slow and take one step at a time and try to look for the small improvements and moments of joy to keep you motivated to go the long haul and have hope for the future. Medication may also be an option to give a bit of rocket fuel to get healing in motion a bit faster if you’re struggling to feel the benefits of lifestyle changes without them. All the best and I hope the cloud is lifted soon 🤲 ❤

  • @Youngsheldonismine
    @Youngsheldonismine Місяць тому +2

    I’m been like this for a couple of months… but I’m so young I shouldn’t have it… I can’t get out of it. I try to make people happy, it only sometimes work. I’m falling behind on exercise and stuff like that so when I try I have negative thoughts… I fully shut my feelings away and put people first then me…
    👇🏽 People that care please like

    • @Notes-y4u
      @Notes-y4u Місяць тому

      there’s love for you. I love you and whether you see it or not so does God.

    • @Notes-y4u
      @Notes-y4u Місяць тому

      Hang on to life Avery. If you need free online therapy here are 2
      Churches Care
      Talkspace

  • @yuanzhi7277
    @yuanzhi7277 Рік тому +21

    omg the excessive screen time is so me bro i spend a lot of time on yt
    i didnt even realize i was trying to numb myself from feelings until i realized after that i felt close to zero feelings during the entire time i was online, and i started with the usual emotion spikes and mood swings i never got during the time on screen 😅
    now with the amount of emotions i feel im quite literally numb until its like a gigantic spike of anger or smt negative like that

  • @tickledapathy713
    @tickledapathy713 Рік тому +25

    This spoke to me on such a deep level, I love how you present your information

  • @eesenindran3110
    @eesenindran3110 4 місяці тому +1

    I remember the night where i found out that my grandfather died and it made me think of all the people that have passed in my family that i loved which are my grandparents, my uncle, my cousin, my aunt, my other uncle, my best friend and my other friend. These deaths still makes me cry now and then

  • @dakshajasingh2529
    @dakshajasingh2529 Рік тому +13

    i don't know if you'll see this, but just thank you for letting me know of my condition
    everyone in my family is pretty concerned for me,but i thought im ok but now ik.........im not okay

  • @Belikepro_01
    @Belikepro_01 Рік тому +5

    I can really relate to 1,2 & 4 .. I've been clinically diagnosed with MDD, anxiety Disorder and panic attacks 3 yrs ago.. and have been hospitalized 3 times.. if you're going through the same.. you're not alone..

    • @JohnDoe-xv4rp
      @JohnDoe-xv4rp Рік тому +1

      You can be healed through Jesus Christ our saviour. He love you and will fix you, just ask.

    • @schuylergeery-zink1923
      @schuylergeery-zink1923 Рік тому

      Ah yes - Jesus healed my husband’s type 1 diabetes! Oh wait… no… he still has that. Damn.
      Depression from experience it is the gap between expectation and reality for your life… the burn out from giving too much of yourself to other people or things which drain you. It’s something that you should know YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. You don’t need fixed. Your body is telling you that something is wrong - listen to your body. Love and care for yourself and in time, you will recover by your own power.

  • @janetmckenzie146
    @janetmckenzie146 6 місяців тому +1

    Precisely--and the high-functioning part is what keeps everyone but the very attuned from noticing. When I was depressed, I would always make sure to be up and dressed and generally well put together before my husband came home. Which would not necessarily be a problem, but during the rest of the day I dragged around the house in pajamas, just trying to make it through the day. I didn't eat, I really didn't do anything, until the clock hit 6 pm. A very 'experienced' high-functioning person with depression can go years without anyone noticing. As long as there is enough time to be alone and let go.

  • @OliChildofzion
    @OliChildofzion Рік тому +20

    good luck for every one of us who feels that way. It sucks, hope it'll get better.

    • @sonjakrsmanovic4470
      @sonjakrsmanovic4470 Рік тому +1

      I do slowly coming out of it it happened after twenty years of a nad marriage and a loss of the only person that ever cared about me.

    • @sonjakrsmanovic4470
      @sonjakrsmanovic4470 Рік тому +1

      thank you Dr Julie

  • @jaynepictures9846
    @jaynepictures9846 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for seeing those in this state...❤

  • @renjeshraju856
    @renjeshraju856 6 місяців тому +1

    I always thought I was depressed and you have proven it

  • @Michelle-rf1nf
    @Michelle-rf1nf Рік тому +13

    This is just normal in the current world.

  • @arawatt7355
    @arawatt7355 Рік тому +40

    You always seem to post something that pertains to what’s going on in my life

  • @RyanDCH
    @RyanDCH Рік тому +32

    Holy crap I feel called out. Thank you for this.

  • @andriidanylov9453
    @andriidanylov9453 Рік тому +7

    This is me... Appreciate for this kind video

  • @mallie2057
    @mallie2057 9 місяців тому +2

    This is just called being alive. Not everyone who wants to work hard and doesn't like social events is depressed.

  • @Rahoofa_
    @Rahoofa_ Рік тому +4

    this basically describes me but my question is, where should i start to pick myself back up? the lack of motivation that i have makes it harder for me to even get out of bed, everyday seems worse and worse...

  • @Sarynna
    @Sarynna Рік тому +5

    I did not need to be called out on a Tuesday afternoon😂😂

    • @terhisomersalo8588
      @terhisomersalo8588 10 місяців тому

      OmG today is also Tuesday 😂 and yeah same lol

  • @СергейБаранов-и2э
    @СергейБаранов-и2э 10 місяців тому

    Thank you for you videos, Dr. Julie. They give some food for thought and are inspiring. You are a beautiful person and a beautiful woman.

  • @Shmade0304
    @Shmade0304 Рік тому +31

    Dam that hit me dead on

  • @Ramblingsofajack
    @Ramblingsofajack Рік тому +13

    How do I fix it, please I’m desperate

    • @minhyuksssmile
      @minhyuksssmile Рік тому +1

      You have to think positive

    • @JohnDoe-xv4rp
      @JohnDoe-xv4rp Рік тому +1

      Ask your Lord and saviour Jesus Christ, He will fix it for you!

    • @Scent_Library
      @Scent_Library Рік тому +6

      @@minhyuksssmilereally? That’s it? Wow!

    • @spencethealien
      @spencethealien Рік тому

      ​​@minhyuksssmile if you genuinely think that's the cure, then you have no idea what you're talking about. Take your dumb ideas someplace else

  • @shresthaagarwal9576
    @shresthaagarwal9576 19 днів тому

    The fact that some people know that they have depression but cannot ask for help ,they become hopeless let the time heal them
    Those people are the fighters it takes a lot to bottle up and protecting others from their depressy

  • @Monkey80llx
    @Monkey80llx Рік тому +9

    I hope YOU are ok, Julie 🙏🏼❤️

    • @whowearereally6494
      @whowearereally6494 Рік тому

      Wow, if that isnt a narcissistic, gaslighting reply, I don’t know what is??
      Angry ever Monkey80IIx?

    • @azoo90o1
      @azoo90o1 Рік тому +1

      ​@@whowearereally6494how lmao

  • @Zakky1117
    @Zakky1117 Рік тому +4

    How you you fix this please?

    • @schuylergeery-zink1923
      @schuylergeery-zink1923 Рік тому

      That’s a good question…
      Some people do well with some medication or other. Personally I haven’t had any good response to antidepressants but like my best friend she is maxed out on meds and it’s the only thing keeping her stable.
      Other tactics: talk therapy, journaling/shadow work, light exercise (yoga, walking, etc) meditation, eating healthy food, getting out in nature, social media/internet detox, cut out toxic people/socialize with helpful people for new perspective, reiki / energy therapy, REST and recharge… I like stacking EBV treatment which really affects my mental health… obvi if my physical health is bad, it’s harder to feel any bit of pleasure from the day. I like doing gentle yoga, then listen to a guided meditation while taking an epsom salt elderberry hot bath. Pet my dog and cats. Cuddle with my husband. Whatever helps that is self caring rather than destructive.

  • @alydakoster7801
    @alydakoster7801 9 місяців тому +1

    This totally describes my situation, I have each one of them, and trying to get better through therapy, is surprising how normal being highly functioning depressed in the military.

  • @mamazoni123
    @mamazoni123 Рік тому +11

    My adult children in their mid twenties display this and it’s really understandable after studying hard and everything to graduate and begin with their careers we are hit hardest by the loss of 3 close family members and our sweetheart doggy. Now this depression I fear is killing us slowly

    • @azoo90o1
      @azoo90o1 Рік тому

      ADULT CHILDREN IM DEAD

    • @mizbarehana5498
      @mizbarehana5498 Рік тому

      ​@@azoo90o1 stay dead then.

    • @leonore3349
      @leonore3349 Рік тому +1

      ​@@azoo90o1They're children not because they're young and dependent but because the poster is their parent. How else would they refer to them?

    • @azoo90o1
      @azoo90o1 Рік тому

      @@leonore3349 IT JUST SOUNDED FUNNY JEEZ

    • @JohnDoe-xv4rp
      @JohnDoe-xv4rp Рік тому

      Don't say it's killing you, you could be opening the door to demonic spirits.
      Jesus Christ will 100% heal your children from their troubled minds and spirits. If you don't believe me, ask Him yourself.

  • @genie674
    @genie674 Рік тому +5

    This is me. How do you get off the merry go round?

    • @joannedavies4958
      @joannedavies4958 Рік тому +1

      I actually accidentally liked your comment when scrolling up. Noticed I had done that as I read your comment, then realised that actually I do resonate with it and started mulling it over.
      I have just dealt with one shitty thing after another for around the last twenty years. I found myself basically hiding away from the world for a few years but started trying to break out last year by joining a book club and this thing called The Rock Project. But I’m still not right and the main issue is my immediate environment. I already had a dog when I took on a Romanian rescue in lockdown. He’s got so many issues and caused me stress, anxiety and ultimately depression I think. Now accepted I need to hand him back but that’s proving less than straight forward and stressful plus I feel guilty and keep swaying between thinking I know I need to hand back for my own sanity and worrying about how the dog will handle it. In a massive pit of depression right now.

    • @angusmorrison9433
      @angusmorrison9433 Рік тому

      @@joannedavies4958best of everything to you. It was very sweet for you to take on the rescue. I hope you are able to find him/her the next loving humans in its life so you can take your next step forward.
      I never know how much to “blame” on depression or anxiety or being introverted but I’m tired a lot and only want to spend time with a couple of really close friends. Currently have no interest in meeting/making new friends. That usually happens unexpectedly rather than planning it out.
      All the best to you.

  • @cookingwhitme6444
    @cookingwhitme6444 8 місяців тому

    Thank you doctor Julie lot of people need your help!!!❤❤❤

  • @missunderstood4246
    @missunderstood4246 Рік тому +22

    Well shoot, I'm all those signs 😅

  • @MrThyten
    @MrThyten Рік тому +12

    Best way to beat depression is to believe it's not real.

  • @FlyingSquell
    @FlyingSquell 2 місяці тому

    Been there, done all that. I’ve now moved on to no longer pretending. Every single thing I do is something I dread doing. I put off any, and every, thing that I can. Nothing brings me joy. Even the thought of simple tasks, like showering & eating, is so overwhelming that it’s exhausting. I’ve given up.

  • @intrinsic.mystic
    @intrinsic.mystic Рік тому +4

    🎯

  • @shaunasugar
    @shaunasugar 10 місяців тому

    I was depressed for the latter half of 2023, and the best way I could explain it to everyone around me was that I was in a high functioning depressive episode. I still worked and talked to people and ran errands, but when I was alone and had time off from work I didn’t take care of myself at all. I’d go several days without a shower or brushing my teeth, binged food and tv, and overslept or under slept every day. I’m working with doctors and a coach now to try and get myself into a better routine. I know I’ll be struggling with this my entire life but I know that I can do better and feel better. The first step is the hardest.

  • @Sassy_Noah
    @Sassy_Noah 4 місяці тому +1

    Gurl summed up my feelings rn 😭

    • @snoobie324
      @snoobie324 Місяць тому +1

      Read bhagwat gita given by God 5000 yrs ago

  • @Bailey-gl2hd
    @Bailey-gl2hd 3 місяці тому +1

    Why is number 2 so relatable…

  • @tomrobins6197
    @tomrobins6197 9 місяців тому

    I am literally every video you post! They are really good though as they can make you think and try and make changes.

  • @lisastenzel5713
    @lisastenzel5713 8 місяців тому

    Back when I fit that description to the T...I didn't even know. I had no diagnosis. My life has been like that since I remembered. My childhood was a string of depressions. Very little phases in-between were it wasn't as bad, but it wasn't good either.
    With the diagnosis in my mid 20s, my life turned upside down. Actually it just started then. But what's how it felt.
    Once I had an explanation and someone told me:"No! Not everyone's life is like this. This is NOT normal." it felt sad, hurting and simultaneously so good and such relief.
    Very nice video!

  • @Geektaard
    @Geektaard 9 місяців тому

    these signs are exactly the ones I felt when I was depressed... and I still struggle with it from time to time if I'm not careful and self-aware of my health

  • @truebluedrew1579
    @truebluedrew1579 7 місяців тому

    This woman is glamourising an emotion. You should be sad and then learn to live with that sadness, its hard but its life.

  • @magicheartable
    @magicheartable 7 місяців тому

    I wondered what I have. I’ve been asked if I’m depressed and said no because I’m still able to work hard and do whatever “the world asks”. Thank you.

  • @kellyk7482
    @kellyk7482 9 місяців тому +1

    So on point! Had to subscribe!

  • @annettehoorn9688
    @annettehoorn9688 8 місяців тому

    There is a moment when you realize that you survived high functioning depression. After 7 years of struggling I can finally say, my depression is no longer ruling my life. It will always be a part of me, but now I love living again. NEVER GIVE UP!

  • @iSleepyi.
    @iSleepyi. 5 місяців тому

    I used to find these kind of videos kinda stupid to be on my fyp but now i really need them and i appreciate them being here since its been rough rn.....

  • @ThePeoplesReflections
    @ThePeoplesReflections 4 місяці тому

    Wishing everyone a blessed and positive start to their weekend
    And always sending my sincerest love and positive vibes ❤️

  • @anyaf4011
    @anyaf4011 9 місяців тому

    There is literally a name for everything. This sounds like LIFE. We are overworked and tired

  • @ShadowofaDistantStar
    @ShadowofaDistantStar Місяць тому

    I cried hearing this and finally feeling a "real" emotion

  • @shoushoumcdaniels9116
    @shoushoumcdaniels9116 5 місяців тому

    THANK YOU DR. JULIE FOR THE GREAT INFORMATION.
    I WONDER WHAT IT WOULD LIKE TO NOT HAVE THOSE FEELINGS. BLESSINGS

  • @schninn
    @schninn 10 місяців тому +1

    I take care of myself both physically and mentally as part of my routine that I have to do regardless of how I’m feeling. Yet most days I still feel empty. I think it boils down to loneliness and it’s difficult in these times to not feel lonely. Genuine connections just seem nonexistent these days.