The Power of 'No'
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- Опубліковано 17 чер 2020
- It’s a short simple word: ‘no’.
But for some people, it’s extremely difficult to use nonetheless. Especially so-called ‘people pleasers’ have difficulties saying ‘no’ to the people they intend to please. Which is a shame, because the ability to say ‘no’ not only helps us to not do things that we don’t want to do; it’s also a deciding factor whether or not we’re able to commit to a task and to achieve certain goals. Moreover, the word ‘no’ helps us to stick with our values and principles.
In the word ‘no’ lies great power. And in order to wield this power, it’s essential to see the workings of ‘no’ and how applying ‘no’ more frequently and in the right ways can make our lives better.
This video explores the power of ‘no’.
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"Just because someone gets angry when you say 'no' doesn't mean you should've said 'yes'"
very powerful.
@Myballsitchsomethingfierce lol
How do you react when people get angry?
@@JC-ce8uw ideally you disengage but your action is going to depend completely on the circumstances. How you will handle a non violent person getting angry will obviously differ heavily from how you handle a violent person who is now angry. And how you handle a stranger getting angry will differ from how you handle a roommate or family member you live with getting angry, etc. It will also depend on if the person is able to calm down and have a logical conversation later and is able to handle any form of constructive criticism. So yeah i think, your response, has to take into account the specifics about the individual you're dealing with.
@@mafe4840 So true.
Finally, someone who understands that one's own freedom is just as sacred as other things considered so.
most sacred.
And I am no subjugated by your socialists ideology
Thank you all for the 500k! I'm going on a short vacation, and will be back shortly with (hopefully) more inspiring content. Thanks you for all the likes, shares, donations, comments, and kind emails! Very much appreciated.
Einzelgänger I just noticed the 500k. Congrats you deserve it, your content is inspiring, thought-provoking and motivating. This video title is a great word play on the book title by Eckhart Tolle! Nonetheless, the word no has incredible power that is so often underestimated and misunderstood. Have a great vacation. Looking forward to the 1 million subscribers next 🙏🏼👍🏼
Are you going to Indonesia? Is that why it's on the video?
Have a good break. I adore your voice !!
Bon voyage! I am looking forward to future videos. They give me very much emotional support while I am learning for my exams. Every time I start a learning session I try to tell myself that I can only focus on the task, the result is not up to me. I say YES to your videos:) Keep it up!
Congratulations! Supported you when you were only 200k and I’m happy for your success! Keep up the good work. You always make me smile and your explanations has gave me a better meaning in my life. You keep safe and have fun on your vacation. Xoxo 😘
“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”
― Oscar Wilde
Yes.
and No
yeah...
nah
"that's Sounds gay " __Ricky Gervais
This happens a lot.
How many of us found accounts like this one because we messed up our lives by not saying no?
Yes
Oh hi lol
This will help you correct it.
Go to School of Life, Persuit of Wonder, Charisma on Command
No.
“I can't give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time.”
― Herbert Bayard Swope
No.
Ironically, people will respect you more if you tell them no as opposed to being a people pleaser. They won't trust you if they know you're that averse to confrontation.
That is correct.
Not everywhere. In Italy, especially at work, if you say no you're basically a troublemaker that the company can't exploit. And since it's hard to get hired full time, you will be less likely chosen even for a second call.
No.
Interesting. I'd never thought of it that way...makes sense!
They just wont accept "no" as an answer. They will continue friendship mobbing no matter what you say. You can tell "no" 100 times and they'll still keep asking. Shameless brats.
"If I don't sacrifice for the things I want -- the things I want will be my sacrifice."
Just writing this for myself so I can view it on top.
This line stuck with me the most
Resonates a lot.
" Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most "
yea, this one is huge. I'll add it to my desktop.
Awesome reminder
The more you say it, the easier it gets. Practice is key. Good stuff.
Do you want to commit tax fraud with me?
No.
Can I say no to BLM?
@@Loafy01 Yes
Practice makes mans perfect
"If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice." -HOLY SHT. I am already waking up to life but this line served as my coffee today. THANK YOU, EINZELGANGER!!
No.
🙌🏽 blew my mind
“No" is a complete sentence.”
― Annie Lamott
Books In Review no
@@mjolninja9358 no u
Love it. That's my second favourite quote.
It’s funny, I’ve always been raised saying things like “sorry I can’t do that.” Etc. Until a few years ago I always added an apology when saying no but people always saw this as an opening to argue with me. When I started saying “no” matter of factly with no apology the arguments stopped. At work instead of “sorry I can’t do cash jobs” I say “no, you have to have an account with our head office to have work done.” It works like a charm. Don’t be sorry for saying no, don’t be a dick about it either.
No.
Well said. I need to start doing that more too. I also have the problem where I feel like I owe it to people to say yes so I have to apologize if I don't. But that is really not serving me and is disrespecting myself so I need to start doing what you're doing and not apologize for saying no.
People stay in abusive relationships because they believe and think the abuser loves them.. Which is so far from the truth. abusers only love one thing. Themselves
Im not afraid to say "No." I was taught to specifically say no to those I was taught to trust. My parents were drug addicts and fools, they wanted their children to take care of them. I chose "No."
Gooooooooooood!!!!!
The person who told you that is very wise!
*You have to take care of yourself first*
Kk brother
"If I don't sacrifice for the things I want -- the things I want will be my sacrifice."
“Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.”
- Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
No.
@@jeskodrews5796 lol, your profile pic
When you heal yourself and learn to love yourself, saying no becomes an act of love for yourself and for others.
Much love to everyone reading ❤️🙂
No can’t exist without yes and yes can’t exist without no. They give each other power. Great video as always
@mateas786 - Yin & Yang isn't a theory, is a concept in Chinese philosophy, a concept of dualism but dualism has been portrayed in almost any philosophy or religion.
I agree. In fact this video felt empty to me because it produced an illusion that no can bring resolution or an absolute control. In reality no such thing exists.
"Why should we put others in charge of the one and only thing that’s in our power?"
Very interesting idea! I love it!
We all have to learn to say no! Don’t be a people pleaser 💪🏼
I declined an offer of friendship yesterday, she didn't like it so she blocked me. I'm okay with that.
If she behaved like that then you dodged a bullet!! 😁👍🏾
Well you are saved from this blocking unblocking game in future.
@@Henilegasp She was hurt.
*"If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice"* - A wise unknown.
Pretty cool seeing some vintage videos of my country. Hello from Indonesia :D Thank you for the great video as always, Einzelganger!
Glad to hear! I always love visiting Indonesia and seeing the progress your country is making. Greetings back 👍
The power to say no is a primary driver that caused me to start my consulting business. Being the ultimate authority in my own work life and being able to say no to anyone without risking my livelihood is powerful. Yes I have clients that could fire me from a job if I chose not to cooperate, but I have multiple clients and if one doesn't respect my schedule, or advice or ethical stance, there are others that do and I am free to focus on them. I think part of the draw of hiring an "outsider" like me is that I have no compunction to swallow objections and go with the herd. My opinions are generally better respected after I am able to deliver my first (well reasoned and respectful) "no" to a client.
No.
What do you do consult? You mean you tell the truth. Honesty has hurt me.
“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say “no” to almost everything.”
Counterargument:
> Silicon Valley Disruptors
> Elon Musk
They said no to a lot of things before focusing on chosen few they persuaded
Excellent brother
I'm just fascinated by this footage.
I actually cried listening to this remembering past control over my life but they were tears of joy at how I overcame controlling people by studying the teachings of Buddha. Thanks for this eizenganger . Your voice is the best 😍
2:48 "If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice." BRILLIANT!!!
ur easily impressed
this video just came to me in the right moment... maybe i have to tattoo myself a "NO" in my middle finger so i can remember it every f***ing day... Thank you for your work
Jeff why not, go head do it ❣️👍🏻
Yes.
Chad
The ability to say no is liberation from just one of the self made traps we have found ourselves stuck in.
My willingness to be honest with myself. Finding my courage.
Beautiful video. You've put words to emotions that I've experienced and struggle to express. Thank you 🙂
No is powerful, but not feeling you have to even say anything is even more powerful. No answer IS and answer
Profound.
Thank you... - sent from Indonesia
This reminds me of this book: 'The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness, by Ichiro Kishimi', have you read it?
Yes! Such a great book.
No
Yes. It's a great book.
I love how the book was written as a conversation. Totally recommend the book.
NO.
A lot of love to all the ones in charge of this video and the comments! You're making a huge difference for a better world!
I appreciate the frankness of the statement; "'no' is a complete sentence".
Great job. "If you can't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice" best quote.
In order to wield the Sword of Yes, one has to take up the Shield of No. Great video, mate. Cheers
Thank you! I have worked hard on this! So rewarding to learn to give myself permission to say "no", sometimes in a kind way, and other times firmly when necessary. "If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be your sacrifice." So very true!! Thank you!
Great reminder. I am going to tag this video so I can watch it everytime that I don't say no when I want to 🙏
I once heard, in response to the idea of "free will", that perhaps we instead have "limited will and free won't".
Keep up the good work!
Thank you for this. A universally relevant topic. You’re changing people’s lives here. Imagine a world where we all focused on bettering ourselves by saying no to other paths in life. We’d say yes to people when we really mean it and want to help others rather than out of hollow obligation. We’d perhaps form fewer relationships with people but stronger ones with more trust.
Thank you Einzelgänger.
Spot on. Thanks for making these.
Love your videos man! Thank you
Thank you.
You can’t imagine how many lives you changed with your videos.
Again, thank you.
I want to thank you for making these videos.
they really speak to my mind!
Those who truly care about us will respect us🔥🔥as a recovering people pleaser, this is so accurate, thank you for this video🙏🏾.
Our refusal to say NO when we want to is what makes us feel emotionally drained, by prioritizing someone else we forget ourselves in the process.
The best youtube channel out there 😁. Thank you for these videos
Thank you, Einzelgänger. It does good to listen to that!
No it's like saying farewell. Just like Madonna said that there's no greater power than the power of goodbye.
Saying no is a power, many people will hate you but stay on your path and you shall see greatness
Our Criminology Professor gave us a lecture on, "Situational Awareness and the Ego". It was largely about establishing personal space, especially in confrontational situation. The susceptible nature of humans was one of the key highlights, the common human condition of not wanting to offend; hence the willingness to go along against all senses of intuition. He used a simple test, "Next time somebody touches you, tell them 'Please don't touch me'", so as to asses their reaction when establishing personal boundaries. What I observed was, it would instantly elevate the ego and could be used as a method of asserting power within a constructive structure.
Thank you for making this video. Thank you for sharing. God bless
Thank you for these videos, you are a profound creator 💫❤️
Thanks! I gathered up enough courage to tell my mom no. I'm being released from the hospital today
Outstanding Message!
Wow! I love you this video! Thank you sir!
Love the wisdom you share in yur videos. Such simple common sense too.
I really needed to hear this tonight. Thank you! Xx
even i am as indonesian does not seeing this documentary of my own nation lol. great content as always tho!
I really needed this. Thanks!
Thank you for this video
This was an awesome video, love from Idaho
Great work my friend. That essay was very powerful. Thank You!
Very, very helpful! Thanks a lot
Thank you so much for these videos sir. You have changed my life for the better.
This reminds me of the time back when I was a junior clerk in an accounts office and the head guy of that office was an aloof nasty man who controlled the money spending protocols. He relished saying NO to people who sought his approval to purchase things that weren’t budgeted for, he would just look at the requisition form and then say NO and he really liked it when the other person asked what do you mean by NO, his reply was simply NO means NO and he then waited for the other person to leave the room bewildered and then he smiled and chuckled to himself.
Thank you so so much for this. Exactly what was needed to reaffirm I'm indeed moving in the right direction. May you be blessed for all the work you do.
I really appreciate this channel! I wish you lots of fortune ahead 😊😊
Excellent video, thanks.
This video just changed my life! Amazing analysis, dhonobad from India.
Thankyou for using Indonesia's historical documentaries. The Power of No to colonialism and imperialism proclaimed by the Indonesian people, led to Indonesia's Independance to this day.
Words of wisdom these video came at the right time thank you.
Big big 'YES' to like, subscribe and share for this guy!
Great video as always
You are truly a gem
Magnificent! No is a complete sentence!
Powerfully elaborated, Thanks for this important reminder 👍♥
Thank you for sharing, my friend.
today trouble is that there is a lot people trying to decide for us, and we become to forget being responsible for our choices
Beautiful video!! This video was in my Watch Later playlist for months and I finally said no to other distractions and watched it!!
I so agree that learning to say No really makes life better. Thank you for sharing.
You’re a pal and a half! I really like your videos :) Keep em coming.
I read your 'unoffendable ' ..just loved it
The power of 'No'... 🍂great 🙏
Dear Einzelganger!!
Listening to your videos is like going to philosophy class, in College 😊
I learned a lot from it, some times it goes over my head so I needed to listen to it three four times. It is that deep. Thank you dear.
Thank you!
No is a complete sentence. I needed to hear that
Thanks! Absolutly necessary, especially in a time where it seems that so many people are seeking a place in an ideology and in the "shelter" and conformity of a collective, not able to say NO, speak their own truth and go their own way.
Great advice
This video was short and sweet. A very powerful message that I wish I would have learned sooner in life. But better late than never.
Completely digging the new retro look.
It's a wonderful thing to see a Dutch and an Indonesian work together, great video.
Great video.
"Mastering ourselves means mastering the power of no.." hmm.. ok, mantap 👍
I need to start saying 'no' more often, and have less remorse about it.