I'm an Aries and in my younger years I read that our tendencies are to respond to hastily without thinking which may not work out in our favor so I trained myself not to be quick to respond. It has made me an even more quiet person as I also have no friends, I prefer it that way. It has gotten me through some situations though as I have been challenged in the past when I went out at night and just didn't respond to some people picking a fight on a few occasions that they just left around me probably because they thought I was crazy when I didn't respond but yet stayed there😮, it has its downsides though as I've been told stuff sometimes and really thought before I responded but in the end didn't and afterwards wished I said the first things that were on my lips...smh
I believe in most cases it is right to be silent in hasty situations to give yourself time to think. But this silence thing is trending because social interactions are not healthy at the moment. Narcissistic behavior is rising and spreading due to conditioning most people are not aware of.
If you are reading this, I want to tell you that everything will be fine. You are incredible, you are unique, you can face anything in your life, you have the strength within yourself to overcome any obstacle, loss, or situation. You are not alone, you are loved, you have the right to feel bad and good, you have the right to feel. Be blessed by these positive vibes and live your life to the fullest. I am sending my love to the universe so that I can reach you.
I grew up with this from my father, when I was young I thought he is weak and scared not to react.. But now at 47 I realised how strong he is and how well he teaches me by his example.. He always said :Leave it to God, HE knows better to deal with this... Thank you DAD😍🤗😘❤️🇷🇴
A similar experience here. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
Right now my life is surrounded by difficult situations and intense changes. Lots of obstacles and difficult decisions. But I've been meditating for years and take cold showers every morning. I also read sacred Pali texts and also listen to Pali chants online. I see my difficulties as challenges. They barely bother me. It is what it is. Rather, my difficulties have motivated me to meditate deeper and longer. That's all you can do. Everything works out in the end. In this life or in the next. Breathe. Be still. Be grateful.
I'm 63 and have overcome many obstacles as have most who reach this age. I don't meditate, I go for a coffee and speak to quiet, thoughtful people. It's helpful.
@@montesa9136 I choose to believe it. Just as energies and matter in nature never die but become new energy and life, I think this applies to humans. We die and are reborn. How it looks and how it will be, I don't know. But energy and matter can never really die out in my opinion. It arises into something new. Hinduism and Buddhism have been talking about this for thousands of years. Many natural scientists and religion skeptics (e.g. Carl Sagan) approve of these philosophies
Trust me.. Dont't control your emotions always. Sometimes you have to express how you feel about someone or somebody to get them improved. Sometimes controlling your emotions can hurt you extremely
@@sossiepie2243 fear is another emotion similar to anger... Anyways fantastic response! Ignore is good too but some have egos that are too big to allow them respite.
@@332ndcompany5 Anger is often a secondary emotion fueled by other emotions such as sadness, embarrassment, insecurities, anxiety, etc. It is crucial to provide attentive listening to those who express anger in order to find out if their anger is just anger, or anger masking another emotion. Check out something called the Anger Iceberg. Wishing you many blessings on your journey friend!
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I agree with you. How about reading my comment. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
@@buddhaexhumed9922I didn't read it all, but I just wanna say that Buddha only means Enlightened. And Buddhism, Enlightenment. People think Siddhartha Gautama is The Buddha, when he was "just" one among many others, like Jesus, Krishna, etc. Namaskaram 🙏
The only way to practice is thru meditation. I have been practicing meditation about 10 years now and I agreed that sometime I got mad , I noticed and recognized my anger and be able to redirect it to cool down. Before that when I didn’t do meditation I would snap back right away with a madness attitude. Meditation has changed me to a different person with mindfulness that I learned.
Meditation 🧘🏽♂️ is all day long , not just in the quiet moments.. who can keep there head during stressful, turbulent times , the ones who found time to meditate during turbulent , and normal quiet times .. 😳🤔 not my words .. . I was somewhere doing exercise and meditation, a person near me was doing the same , we finished, had a chat , as we parted , other persons friend arrived . Immediately started with a whole negative story , complaining etc . Person who composed while meditating whole demeanour changed , understandable.. but that is the moment when this person needed? , to be in meditative state , .. not just when it’s peaceful, calm , ideal … . Just saying …
We really do decide how to respond, so we really have to ask ourselves, why do I choose anger, depression and sadness. There’s something in us we need to resolve if those are our go-to responses. ✌️ ❤
@@carlodefalco7930 you went deep on me however I do understand what you are saying because I am becoming mindful/ meditating all day these days and being aware of the ups & downs. Thank you for your input.
I’m 18 and no one believes that I’ll be anything in life because I don’t do too good in school but I’ll prove them all wrong. I can feel it. I know I will be rich and free
You will and you have a bright future ahead of you. Keep hope for the next chapters of your life because you have a purpose. It's not about what the world sees as success, what does success mean to you. Live a life that pleases God. Start there. Bless you. You got this.
I face challenging situations at my office everyday. The work politics, the narrow minded colleagues, the selfishness and so many irritating situations used to frustrate me a lot. But then I realized it's actually doing me harm, no one else. So I started controlling my reaction to the situation. I can't change people. But I can change the way I react.
It was nice reading your experience. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
This is a powerful attribute. Although not everyone will find it easy to acquire. What I can share on this topic is this: You are not your emotions. Let what you feel just go through your body. You are the observer of what you feel. You do not need to act on them. You will see that they too shall pass.
@@mandarchitnis5984Oh, I did not create this video here. 😊 But I appreciate it as much as you. At this time I am only able to create shorts in my channel for quick inspiration and motivational needs.
As you read this, I want to remind you that everything will turn out just fine. You possess a rare strength, an inner power that can conquer any challenge life brings your way. Remember, you are never truly alone; you are deeply valued and loved. It's perfectly okay to experience both the highs and lows-every feeling you have is important. Embrace the positive energy around you and live each day with purpose and joy. I'm sending out a wave of love, hoping it reaches you wherever you are. ❤
Don't hold anger, better express your manner in more classified manner. Insteading of hurting to others. Immediate express of anger leads to hurt others.
When you express immediate anger, you hurts yourself rather than others. But when you control your emotions, you can think very clearly & respond positively.
If you’re reading this, know that you’re stronger than you think, and everything will be okay. You’re unique, loved, and capable of overcoming any challenge. Embrace your feelings, stay true to yourself, and live fully. Sending positive energy your way.
This is so true. I faced this situation a lot of times. My family would actually use my reactions as a tool to shift the blame for what ever wrong they did. It happened for almost 22 years. If a plate broke in the kitchen while they were arranging, it was not their fault for dropping it but my fault for keeping it there. These small small things used to bother me so much and I would react furiously. And they used to take advantage of it and the actual mistake gets erased. While my reaction becomes the biggest mistake. This happened for 20 years. And one day I started playing a deaf year to what ever they were saying. Internally it was hurting me. But I stood silent and listened. They were shocked and they even went to an extent of asking me why was I not reacting. Still I was not reacting. It save lost of your energy lot drama and you will be at peace. Now I became a master at being a poker face.
My parents or relatives first hurt me with their actions and I will get furious. Then they will make it my fault for reacting like that and they tell me to think positive!!!!!!! If I act like they did, they will have the whole village to support them but for me they say to stay positive
An inspiring reminder that mastering our reactions, rather than letting them control us, is key to inner peace and better relationships. Mindfulness truly transforms lives
Easier said than done. Change like that requires a whole rewiring of your mind. But with time and practice, you won't react negatively as often. I've been trying to tame my emotions and even through I still get upset/angry, I actively try to control my reaction to situations that trigger those negative feelings. In the end, you're mostly hurting yourself because you're the one walking around, burdened with all that negativity while the other person is enjoying their life.
I totally agree with you. There should be some ways some how that we can express our upsetness and angriness without harming any relationship that we have and get frustration out of our chest.
You are right it is hard to get the balance and the right outlet. I know I'm 'very good' at not reacting to things, but I forget the outlet part. Talking to a friend, therapist ir anyone really expressing (telling) how I feel really helps.
It's not easy, but it can be practiced. It took me years... I know from experience, and I can vouch for it, that not reacting is the most wonderful release ever! You feel like a particle in the air, floating around freely when you finally achieve it. It's not that I don't get angry, or feel immune to the situation, but I feel my anger cannot fix what's done, and could make it only worse. If it would make you feel any better, I'll share this too. If someone stirred your emotions and pushed your mind into calamity, when you don't react, they will be stewing inside waiting for your reaction... And their wait will be the true excruciating punishment 😅
@@MouzzamAhmadNever pray to a deity, that is just to pollute your mind to ancient con artists. Being in control of your OWN mind is the key, not living after a set of rule someone else have laid out for you to follow after their own needs and desires like many religions have done...(except the more spiritual ones like buddhism...)
To all who are watching this video 🌞, don’t you feel everything around you lightening up as you listen to these teachings? This channel really provides such a beautiful source of inspiration and comfort. Thank you for spreading this light into our lives.
As a too emotional person i have faced very difficult situation in my life and i can't tolerate that a little thing can hurt me very badly and i start cry but the most important thing is i never stop trying to control my emotions and i believe one day i will definitely control my emotions and my mind will be peaceful 😊
Same happens to me ,,after every words and actions I felt bad and guilty ,,being an impulsive I blame myself ,,but everytime I want to change myself and this journey is continued 😊
you’re not too emotional. too many people these days lack real emotion, emotional people are few and far between. you are thoughtful and sensitive and those are fantastic traits to have, you just have to use them to your advantage and do good with them. i am still learning this myself. big hugs to you x
My Mum explained it to me growing up as acting vs reacting. Acting was being mindful, understanding the information at hand, evaluating and delivering a deliberate action to it. Reacting is allowing 100% emotional response with zero filters assessing anything else at hand. I've never known anything else. Super valuable lesson I taught to my daughter. Sadly it comes across as cold to people who don't know me and I'm not. I am the person people want around in a crisis though.
I've been honing my emotional control for over 3 years now, and the results have been absolutely amazing. When anger arises, I take a deep breath and pause for 10 to 15 seconds. This simple practice has helped me avoid unnecessary conflicts. I no longer react impulsively to frustrating situations, such as employees arriving late, or engage in petty arguments during project execution. Thank you for sharing this video with everyone.
Yeah, no one should be held accountable (or even inconvenienced) for mistreating or abusing other people. It's always their own fault, in particular if they feel unhappy about it. (Sarcasmn alert!)
3 biggest lessons I learn from this video are: 1/ The Power of Reaction: Our reactions, not the events themselves, shape our experiences. By controlling our reactions, we can significantly influence our emotional state and overall well-being. 2/ Mindfulness and Awareness: Practicing mindfulness helps us become more aware of our thoughts and emotions. This awareness allows us to respond to situations more thoughtfully and reduce impulsive reactions. 3/ The Importance of the Present Moment: Focusing on the present moment prevents us from dwelling on past regrets or future anxieties. By living in the now, we can find greater peace and happiness. Thank you so much for the meaningful video
Feelings are part of being human. I used to label some feelings as good or bad and avoided the 'bad' --thinking that I was bad for having 'bad' emotions. It was when I learned how to see them all as natural and neutral-neither good nor bad, just an emotion, that I was able to allow myself to experience ALL of them. Experiencing an emotion is not the same as reacting from it. Power comes when we learn to recognize, name, and understand where the emotion is coming from and why. What just happened that triggered that emotion? Oftentimes we don't even know how to name an emotion so the frustration leads us to name it as anger, but underneath the anger if we're willing to look ...is the real emotions. Practice asking yourself, "What else?" several times when you are experiencing emotions. The more you can articulate the feelings you are feeling, the more you can understand yourself. The time spent being mindful gives you time to separate from the emotion, process it and DECIDE what to do next. Give yourself permission to sit in an emotion or emotions, especially before quickly reacting. Reacting is often quick, but responding is after you've had time to think. The Bible has been very helpful for me to learn wisdom and see examples of how to handle all sorts of situations. Two other insightful books: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Thank you very much for your valuable words and message. There were a few things that resonated deeply with me. Firstly, the importance of being gentle, loving, and letting go no matter what. This practice is truly essential in daily life. Secondly, your emphasis on the significance of being alive struck a chord with me. It reminds me to cherish life, prioritize health, and continue learning and sharing with others. Your insights are beautifully articulated, and I appreciate them greatly. Thank you for sharing such wisdom. Lots of love to you. May you always be happy, peaceful, and joyful. ❤
Wow, what an amazing convincing story! The king was told not to react and control his emotions, so, he stopped reacting and started controlling his emotions. Thank you for this insightful story.
Actually I realized and applied this in my therapeutic journey. I still get affected by things but don’t react poorly. Now I’m in such a good place mentally; by habit I generally react with humor, often including sarcasm or satire. Super chill mind. ;-)
It's a good video that you made. Meditation involves cultivating a non-judgmental and compassionate awareness. Through regular practice, it helps to soften your edges, increase empathy, and reduce the likelihood of reacting to situations with anger. I always suggest this to my community through my own videos. Keep up the good work
Whoever is reading this, I pray for you: a heart free of sorrow, a mind free of worries, a life filled with joy, an abundant source of financial wealth, a body free of disease disability and a day filled with God's blessings
I agree in the power of controlling emotional reactivity, but sometimes you need to light a fire under yourself, and speak your truth and stop keeping it all in!!!!
Watching this has inspired me to start practicing the art of not reacting impulsively. The wisdom shared here is so relevant for managing emotions effectively. Thank you!
Controlling our emotions doesn't mean that we become pokerface and that others cannot read our emotions any more. This also leads to conflicts. Cause others need to be able to recognize our emotions for their own safety. But controlling the emotions means that we aren't victims of our emotions but that we master our reactions by speaking about our emotions that are there just in the moment. I think this is important. The only emotion we are allowed to let float free is happyness and sometimes sadness. But never angryness or fear.
@@Kuba-rc7wx There are different definitions. Some say emotions are the basics. Anger, sadness, happiness, fear. And they also say that feelings are more specific. I feel bad, I feel comfortable, I feel ashamed...
Such a powerful and insightful story! Buddha's teachings on mastering emotions are truly life-changing. Thank you for sharing these valuable lessons to help us stay calm and in control. Definitely a must-watch! I am certain that many people will feel motivated by the stories you share.
I just turned 46 years old, and I really have a short fuse, and it just seems like I react to everything I have not been in the best place for quite some time in my life, but I found this video to really help me understand and recognize that I need help
I can totally relate. I had such short fuse and was angry so very often that it seems to me that the world was out to get me. I decided that I needed to change..for me..tired of fighting all the time...being rude to people...horrible. I practice meditation and learned to practice gratitude for everything. Little by little..being nice to myself...practice in front of the mirror...for 1 week I promised only to say nice things to everyone I encountered. ..now it became a habbit..I appreciate myself...I appreciate others...I love life..I love people .I love myself. ❤❤❤
if we always think that aren't we hurting others then i guess its not possible because you are hurting yourself to be nicer when even there is no need of it.....#justarandomopinion
@@tygerlillee If you're enjoying for being angry by yourself and you may think it's unharmful but truth is you're hurting yourself and you're losing the ability to tolerate in difficult situations.
If a certain emotion can be invalid or incorrect for a given situation then by default it means that not all emotions are valid. Are emotions real? Yes. Are they all correct? No.
To be in control doesn't necessarily mean your suppressing your emotions, it just means you allowing yourself to be the one who feels the emotions and not the one who acts out of emotions, its easy to get out of hand or say/do things we may genuinely not do under normal circumstances, and here comes in the important factor time, being in control entails giving yourself time to process and digest so that whatever action is taken from their is healthy even for the decision maker, the opposite would mean their frustrations cause if we keep on acting out of our emotions we end up doing the things we ourselves feel are unpleasant to us, and the end emotion is we feel like we cany control our emotions, controlling emotions means we acknowledge that we are not our feelings cause if we are then what is that feels them
I am on a quest for videos like these..I have recently realised that reacting to things that irk you or to people who make you react..you are actually giving them what they want, the importance. In one way you are actually letting them control you..
During my healing journey I realized that impulsive reactions come from triggers - from unhealed wounds. For example, I got triggered very easily when people try to feel good about themselves at others expenses. In a work enviornment it would be comething like "I dont want to put in the effort of doing things correctly and idc who that affects". I then realized that my trigger came from childhood. There was a specific situation, where i was happily playing with my friends and my mother angrily pulled me away from then - when she realized that i was not happy about it, but sad that i couldn't play anymore, her anger turned towards me. She took me home to then madly ignore me the rest of the day. As I healed the wounds, I was no longer blindly reacting. Rather, I found that I was able to more clearly descern why I was feeling bad about a situation. And then decided how to react to it. Sometimes this meant to let it go. Other times it meant to clearly and calmly call peoples behaviour out. I guess thats what it really means to control emotions vs suppressing them... Suppressing is like grinding your teeth together and not letting big emotions show, while control comes from a position of inner peace.
Great advice! Just shut up and don’t react negatively! Peace is what I need! To change my attitude in life! Yes god wants us to control! Awareness is everything! And self control is everything! That’s my hardest skill!
Detachment from situation which is out of our control is such a liberation. It has brought down my anxiety level. I trust God and all I know is i should be concentrating on what is there in my hands. Do my part of work with sincerity and rest leave to God. 🙏
For me, emotions and it's reaction had been hard coded into human beings to look ‘logical'. You can't say like when you suddenly overwhelmed with anger and rage, you divert and control your reaction to suddenly become hungry and walk to nearby KFC and eat a lot of chicken! That's not normal at all! 🤣🤣🤣 People will say there's something wrong with his head!!
@@chibiitachi7828 What does being angry have to do with being hungry? When I'm angry, i let myself feel anger until it passes, and it sure will pass because every emotion eventually does. I cannot turn it off and suddenly not be angry but I can control my reaction to it. I can choose to let myself calm down before doing or saying anything, instead of going on a rampage, for example. Emotions aren't logical or rational but our reactions can be.
Emotion control is not just a skill in maintaining physical and mental health. It also plays a decisive role in each person's growth and success in life ❤❤❤
One thing that has helped me is letting go of my past! Because a lot of people with anger issues is from the past. Letting go of the past helps to change the perspective! Also knowing that nothing is that serious. It has helped me a lot!
I’m not sure with the “nothing is that serious” part. When you’ve been previously emotionally abused and it took you a while to get out, I don’t think that’s something “nothing serious”
The most important part of not reacting is that then it is their gift. Most importantly, though, if someone is manipulating or controlling you, you must say this manipulation and controlling must stop. I feel that your manipulating and attempting to control me and this must stop.
I think its fair enough to ask for new soup when a fly is in it. Also sometimes when someone continuously upsets you and they are part of a group that you must be involved in, then its important to stand up to someone like that and sometimes you need all the anger you can conjure to do that and stop their behaviour. I think sometimes feeling angry and reacting is appropriate to deal with a situation. People often dont get it until they see a reaction. You can sit back and think about it and deal with it in a refined state but some people wont get it and wont stop until you stand up to them in a way that sends them a message.
@@mi10ngaming16 In my experience, I have reacted to certain people in a 'non' angry way and they continue to try to upset me. I find these people do not comprehend thoughtful and respectful communication. So then I have responded in a more up front and confrontational manner and it seems to be a lot more effective. With some people, the more respectful and pleasant you are to them, the more they think they can walk over you and treat you like rubbish, its just their nature and the way they were raised unfortunately. This is particularly true in business's where there is not much regulation and there is money and power involved.
The point is not to let your anger get the best of you. It is one thing to be firm with someone who is disruptive or to firmly demand a new bowl of soup, it’s another thing to get so angry about something that you loose control of yourself and do or say things you will regret later.
Yeah, you haven’t learned the lesson if you don’t understand the need to respond not in anger but with calm confidence derived “for me” through meditation.
Reacting to situations without thinking can be impulsive, but acknowledging and expressing emotions can be healthy. It's important to find a balance that allows for thoughtful responses while honoring your feelings.
Meditation is practicing non-judgmental compassionate awareness. As your practice this, it softens your edges you feel more empathy and you are more likely not to be reacting to situations with anger. You can recognize the sensation of anger building so you quietly do breathing to regain emotional control. You are more balanced with not being too high or too low. You recognize that you are emotionally angry but you don't have to react with anger. Angry words don't create value in the world. Better to be silent with intentional foucus on breathing and awareness of your anger, thoughts can be witnessed with the same awareness as watching a storm pass by...
Everything is psychological and stems from your way of thinking. How you perceive something will determine how you feel about it. You can make things positive or negative instantly. You can think of eating chips or candy as something that will make you happy, but you can also think that if you eat the desert, then you will become unhealthy or that you'll have to spend an hour on the treadmill exercising. Just take a moment to think before you act or speak. The brain is so powerful that it literally takes milliseconds to change the outcome.
So if I pick up a piece of dogshit and pretend it's a Snicker's bar and eat it but it still doesn't taste like a Snicker's bar no matter how much I use my mind to convince myself otherwise, it still tastes like dogshit what do I do should I follow up with a nice glass of Labrador lemonade?
@@TheVideoSlick some people like the taste of things that others perceive to be gross or inedible. At times, it could be an acquired taste, sometimes it's also seen as deranged by others like eating animals or humans. Also, choosing to invest that poop is your choice, unless you're forced to do it. You'd have to break through that mental barrier if you're trying to compete in those shows or contests that reward you for eating grotesque items if you want to win the prize
I found that after I socially isolated, almost the entirety of all emotions are stimulated by humans. Without humans in my life, I experience few emotions. It is all for the better. Emotions serve little purpose.
What a valuable lesson I’ve been hyper-vigilant, prone to irritability and a bad temper when believing I was pushed too far. I will control these negative emotions, moving forward. 🙏💙😌
Bought up knowing an angry father taught me unfortunately to react to others in the same way, it’s just learnt behavior. It’s taken me many years to understand that it didn’t have to be that way and that I am responsible for my own reactions. Love this video, thank you. ❤
Negative 👎! That's the parents job. And what is it with you everything should be taught in school 🏫 people. Y'all say the same nonsense about finances when mostly everything is basic arithmetic and good sense. Not to mention, just because it is taught doesn't mean it will be learned and put into practice. 😶
One word... "character " silence until completely, attacked. Then, only then, your great patience behavior controls everything, going forward.. ❤ when others temp.. and those around a situation will side with the Temps. STILL BE . YOU!! RESULT. ,, THOSE AROUND U WILL BE WITH U. ❤
I'm the most tolerant person I know. I never react with anger even if I hurt myself or break something, I don't react at all or laugh about it. Other people cannot upset me because I love unconditionally. I've lived like this for many years and I feel like an alien. The biggest problem is always that other people don't feel that I take them seriously because I don't want to share their anger with something. Then I always have to wait until they have calmed down their injured ego and want to live peacefully next to me again. 🙂 💕☀️
Silence is power, and people hate it when they can’t get to you, never give up your power (silence)
silence is power
Silence need to be placed at the right moment to be powerful.😆😆😆
I'm an Aries and in my younger years I read that our tendencies are to respond to hastily without thinking which may not work out in our favor so I trained myself not to be quick to respond. It has made me an even more quiet person as I also have no friends, I prefer it that way. It has gotten me through some situations though as I have been challenged in the past when I went out at night and just didn't respond to some people picking a fight on a few occasions that they just left around me probably because they thought I was crazy when I didn't respond but yet stayed there😮, it has its downsides though as I've been told stuff sometimes and really thought before I responded but in the end didn't and afterwards wished I said the first things that were on my lips...smh
so make people hate you by being silent?
I believe in most cases it is right to be silent in hasty situations to give yourself time to think. But this silence thing is trending because social interactions are not healthy at the moment. Narcissistic behavior is rising and spreading due to conditioning most people are not aware of.
If you are reading this, I want to tell you that everything will be fine. You are incredible, you are unique, you can face anything in your life, you have the strength within yourself to overcome any obstacle, loss, or situation. You are not alone, you are loved, you have the right to feel bad and good, you have the right to feel. Be blessed by these positive vibes and live your life to the fullest. I am sending my love to the universe so that I can reach you.
Yes
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❤thank you
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You don’t control emotions, only reactions. Important difference.
That’s what the video is about…
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What are emotions according to you by the way
e(=outward)motion(=movement) is a reaction to a feeling or thought.
@@coeusm very interesting, thank you.
I grew up with this from my father, when I was young I thought he is weak and scared not to react.. But now at 47 I realised how strong he is and how well he teaches me by his example.. He always said :Leave it to God, HE knows better to deal with this... Thank you DAD😍🤗😘❤️🇷🇴
A similar experience here. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
Right now my life is surrounded by difficult situations and intense changes. Lots of obstacles and difficult decisions. But I've been meditating for years and take cold showers every morning. I also read sacred Pali texts and also listen to Pali chants online. I see my difficulties as challenges. They barely bother me. It is what it is. Rather, my difficulties have motivated me to meditate deeper and longer. That's all you can do. Everything works out in the end. In this life or in the next. Breathe. Be still. Be grateful.
I'm 63 and have overcome many obstacles as have most who reach this age. I don't meditate, I go for a coffee and speak to quiet, thoughtful people. It's helpful.
@@carlranger8060 I can't live without coffee. Going to have a cup now.
@Lexthebarbarian - What makes you think there's a next life?
I like your intake on difficult situations. ‘’ everything works out in the end’’ mentality is what I should adopt
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I choose to believe it. Just as energies and matter in nature never die but become new energy and life, I think this applies to humans. We die and are reborn. How it looks and how it will be, I don't know. But energy and matter can never really die out in my opinion. It arises into something new. Hinduism and Buddhism have been talking about this for thousands of years. Many natural scientists and religion skeptics (e.g. Carl Sagan) approve of these philosophies
Trust me.. Dont't control your emotions always. Sometimes you have to express how you feel about someone or somebody to get them improved. Sometimes controlling your emotions can hurt you extremely
You need to feel your emotions and create a good response. For instance if you are sad, you'll need to cry that hour or later that day.
@@sossiepie2243 fear is another emotion similar to anger... Anyways fantastic response! Ignore is good too but some have egos that are too big to allow them respite.
Agreed, man with experience...❤
@@332ndcompany5 Anger is often a secondary emotion fueled by other emotions such as sadness, embarrassment, insecurities, anxiety, etc. It is crucial to provide attentive listening to those who express anger in order to find out if their anger is just anger, or anger masking another emotion. Check out something called the Anger Iceberg.
Wishing you many blessings on your journey friend!
only a weak man cannot control emotion
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I’m back, thank you
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I agree with you. How about reading my comment. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
@@buddhaexhumed9922I didn't read it all, but I just wanna say that Buddha only means Enlightened. And Buddhism, Enlightenment.
People think Siddhartha Gautama is The Buddha, when he was "just" one among many others, like Jesus, Krishna, etc.
Namaskaram 🙏
Practice silence in tough situation and see yourself winning at life😊
The only way to practice is thru meditation. I have been practicing meditation about 10 years now and I agreed that sometime I got mad , I noticed and recognized my anger and be able to redirect it to cool down. Before that when I didn’t do meditation I would snap back right away with a madness attitude. Meditation has changed me to a different person with mindfulness that I learned.
You are so right I find myself enjoying quietness now so anytime I have an opportunity I embrace it.
Meditation 🧘🏽♂️ is all day long , not just in the quiet moments.. who can keep there head during stressful, turbulent times , the ones who found time to meditate during turbulent , and normal quiet times .. 😳🤔 not my words .. . I was somewhere doing exercise and meditation, a person near me was doing the same , we finished, had a chat , as we parted , other persons friend arrived . Immediately started with a whole negative story , complaining etc . Person who composed while meditating whole demeanour changed , understandable.. but that is the moment when this person needed? , to be in meditative state , .. not just when it’s peaceful, calm , ideal … . Just saying …
We really do decide how to respond, so we really have to ask ourselves, why do I choose anger, depression and sadness. There’s something in us we need to resolve if those are our go-to responses. ✌️ ❤
@@carlodefalco7930 you went deep on me however I do understand what you are saying because I am becoming mindful/ meditating all day these days and being aware of the ups & downs. Thank you for your input.
@@DaveGfrom3 you are right!! an until we deal with those emotions first we won’t understand what’s happening first hand knowledge. Thank you Dave
"Letting go of rejection and seeing it as redirection is such a game-changer! This video has really opened my eyes."
I’m 18 and no one believes that I’ll be anything in life because I don’t do too good in school but I’ll prove them all wrong. I can feel it. I know I will be rich and free
You can do what you think *live the life happily*💕
You will and you have a bright future ahead of you. Keep hope for the next chapters of your life because you have a purpose. It's not about what the world sees as success, what does success mean to you. Live a life that pleases God. Start there. Bless you. You got this.
estamos igual amigo!! saludos desde latinoamerica los queiro amigos anglos!!
Start watching and studying stuff from Bob Proctor. Read "think and grow rich" "Psycho-cybernetics " and "the power of your subconscious mind" ✌️❤😊
That kind of motivation is what often makes a success story.
This video speaks volumes without saying much. It’s a reminder of the peace we can find within ourselves. Thank you!
I face challenging situations at my office everyday. The work politics, the narrow minded colleagues, the selfishness and so many irritating situations used to frustrate me a lot. But then I realized it's actually doing me harm, no one else. So I started controlling my reaction to the situation. I can't change people. But I can change the way I react.
It was nice reading your experience. Please allow me to interrupt. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. In Pidhauli (Vaishali) the local deity is Bardiha Baba. Bardiha means the Baba who didn't allow us to stay where he was staying. Bardiha Baba is the Buddha no doubt because he didn't allow the crowd of Lichavies to stay with him in Bandagama. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to Buddhists.
This is a powerful attribute. Although not everyone will find it easy to acquire. What I can share on this topic is this:
You are not your emotions. Let what you feel just go through your body. You are the observer of what you feel. You do not need to act on them. You will see that they too shall pass.
Thanks for making this video
@@mandarchitnis5984Oh, I did not create this video here. 😊 But I appreciate it as much as you.
At this time I am only able to create shorts in my channel for quick inspiration and motivational needs.
This helps a lot, thank you
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Yes bro,That is mindfullness described in Buddhism
As you read this, I want to remind you that everything will turn out just fine. You possess a rare strength, an inner power that can conquer any challenge life brings your way. Remember, you are never truly alone; you are deeply valued and loved. It's perfectly okay to experience both the highs and lows-every feeling you have is important. Embrace the positive energy around you and live each day with purpose and joy. I'm sending out a wave of love, hoping it reaches you wherever you are. ❤
This is what my parents have taught me, to never hurt anyone's feelings and always remain calm. Trust me, you will have a wonderful life then ❤
“Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”
Don't hold anger, better express your manner in more classified manner. Insteading of hurting to others. Immediate express of anger leads to hurt others.
Why Drink poison in first place is the question? Second if you drank it why should others receive that from u?
Holding emotion is dangerous
When you express immediate anger, you hurts yourself rather than others. But when you control your emotions, you can think very clearly & respond positively.
@@JaiiDesaiibecause it’s an example
If you’re reading this, know that you’re stronger than you think, and everything will be okay. You’re unique, loved, and capable of overcoming any challenge. Embrace your feelings, stay true to yourself, and live fully. Sending positive energy your way.
This is so true. I faced this situation a lot of times. My family would actually use my reactions as a tool to shift the blame for what ever wrong they did. It happened for almost 22 years. If a plate broke in the kitchen while they were arranging, it was not their fault for dropping it but my fault for keeping it there. These small small things used to bother me so much and I would react furiously. And they used to take advantage of it and the actual mistake gets erased. While my reaction becomes the biggest mistake. This happened for 20 years. And one day I started playing a deaf year to what ever they were saying. Internally it was hurting me. But I stood silent and listened. They were shocked and they even went to an extent of asking me why was I not reacting. Still I was not reacting. It save lost of your energy lot drama and you will be at peace.
Now I became a master at being a poker face.
Congratulations 🎊 👏
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Now I’m in this situation can u words halp me?🙏
Same as my friend
My parents or relatives first hurt me with their actions and I will get furious. Then they will make it my fault for reacting like that and they tell me to think positive!!!!!!! If I act like they did, they will have the whole village to support them but for me they say to stay positive
do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace
An inspiring reminder that mastering our reactions, rather than letting them control us, is key to inner peace and better relationships. Mindfulness truly transforms lives
"I'm grateful for the reminder to focus on the present moment in life."
Michael’s story really hit home. Mindfulness truly changes the way we live 3:17
Mind is like water
When it's turbulent difficult to see
If it's calm everything becomes clear 😇😇😇🙏
-master oogway
This is a must-watch for anyone looking to improve their emotional resilience. Your storytelling combined with Buddha's wisdom is truly impactful
do not have any feeling for anyone or anything , do not need to feel good or feel bad. nothing will affect u. live in peace
Easier said than done. Change like that requires a whole rewiring of your mind. But with time and practice, you won't react negatively as often. I've been trying to tame my emotions and even through I still get upset/angry, I actively try to control my reaction to situations that trigger those negative feelings. In the end, you're mostly hurting yourself because you're the one walking around, burdened with all that negativity while the other person is enjoying their life.
I totally agree with you. There should be some ways some how that we can express our upsetness and angriness without harming any relationship that we have and get frustration out of our chest.
You are right it is hard to get the balance and the right outlet.
I know I'm 'very good' at not reacting to things, but I forget the outlet part. Talking to a friend, therapist ir anyone really expressing (telling) how I feel really helps.
It's not easy, but it can be practiced. It took me years...
I know from experience, and I can vouch for it, that not reacting is the most wonderful release ever! You feel like a particle in the air, floating around freely when you finally achieve it.
It's not that I don't get angry, or feel immune to the situation, but I feel my anger cannot fix what's done, and could make it only worse.
If it would make you feel any better, I'll share this too. If someone stirred your emotions and pushed your mind into calamity, when you don't react, they will be stewing inside waiting for your reaction... And their wait will be the true excruciating punishment 😅
Pray to Allah. Tell him your problem your burden will be gone inshallah my personal experience
@@MouzzamAhmadNever pray to a deity, that is just to pollute your mind to ancient con artists. Being in control of your OWN mind is the key, not living after a set of rule someone else have laid out for you to follow after their own needs and desires like many religions have done...(except the more spiritual ones like buddhism...)
It takes strength to remain silent but once you have that you have peace in mind. You can overcome any difficulties with a smile
Buddha's teaching are ever green - will stay as long earth is there....
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To all who are watching this video 🌞, don’t you feel everything around you lightening up as you listen to these teachings? This channel really provides such a beautiful source of inspiration and comfort. Thank you for spreading this light into our lives.
As a too emotional person i have faced very difficult situation in my life and i can't tolerate that a little thing can hurt me very badly and i start cry but the most important thing is i never stop trying to control my emotions and i believe one day i will definitely control my emotions and my mind will be peaceful 😊
Can relate to me
Same happens to me ,,after every words and actions I felt bad and guilty ,,being an impulsive I blame myself ,,but everytime I want to change myself and this journey is continued 😊
you’re not too emotional. too many people these days lack real emotion, emotional people are few and far between. you are thoughtful and sensitive and those are fantastic traits to have, you just have to use them to your advantage and do good with them. i am still learning this myself. big hugs to you x
I was like that too but I never saw tears as a bad thing, I saw it as my heart verbalizing, and it made me feel weightless
That was so true or do something we loved doing to it dose help it help me so much in everything and everyway and god ❤❤❤
My Mum explained it to me growing up as acting vs reacting. Acting was being mindful, understanding the information at hand, evaluating and delivering a deliberate action to it. Reacting is allowing 100% emotional response with zero filters assessing anything else at hand. I've never known anything else. Super valuable lesson I taught to my daughter. Sadly it comes across as cold to people who don't know me and I'm not. I am the person people want around in a crisis though.
I've been honing my emotional control for over 3 years now, and the results have been absolutely amazing. When anger arises, I take a deep breath and pause for 10 to 15 seconds. This simple practice has helped me avoid unnecessary conflicts. I no longer react impulsively to frustrating situations, such as employees arriving late, or engage in petty arguments during project execution. Thank you for sharing this video with everyone.
🙏🙏🙏 Sadhu Sadhu ! the great teachings from Buddha ! 🙏🙏🙏
Sweet and soft words. gentle voice. 🙏🏼thank you🌿
🙏🏻It all begins with you and ends with you 🙏🏻 Only you are responsible for your own happiness and peace of mind 🙏🏻 Don't let anyone else control it 🙏🏻
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Yeah, no one should be held accountable (or even inconvenienced) for mistreating or abusing other people. It's always their own fault, in particular if they feel unhappy about it. (Sarcasmn alert!)
So true👌
@@my_dear_friend_ 😂😂😂👍👍 Either way. Reacting or holding it. It your own fault if you being hurt or hurt other😂😂😅😅
hahahaha
This story reminds us that our power lies in how we choose to respond, not in controlling the outside world. 🌱💡
Narrator is the topper of writing long answer type questions!! He can write essays with just 20 words....
3 biggest lessons I learn from this video are:
1/ The Power of Reaction: Our reactions, not the events themselves, shape our experiences. By controlling our reactions, we can significantly influence our emotional state and overall well-being.
2/ Mindfulness and Awareness: Practicing mindfulness helps us become more aware of our thoughts and emotions. This awareness allows us to respond to situations more thoughtfully and reduce impulsive reactions.
3/ The Importance of the Present Moment: Focusing on the present moment prevents us from dwelling on past regrets or future anxieties. By living in the now, we can find greater peace and happiness.
Thank you so much for the meaningful video
Feelings are part of being human. I used to label some feelings as good or bad and avoided the 'bad' --thinking that I was bad for having 'bad' emotions. It was when I learned how to see them all as natural and neutral-neither good nor bad, just an emotion, that I was able to allow myself to experience ALL of them.
Experiencing an emotion is not the same as reacting from it. Power comes when we learn to recognize, name, and understand where the emotion is coming from and why. What just happened that triggered that emotion? Oftentimes we don't even know how to name an emotion so the frustration leads us to name it as anger, but underneath the anger if we're willing to look ...is the real emotions. Practice asking yourself, "What else?" several times when you are experiencing emotions. The more you can articulate the feelings you are feeling, the more you can understand yourself. The time spent being mindful gives you time to separate from the emotion, process it and DECIDE what to do next.
Give yourself permission to sit in an emotion or emotions, especially before quickly reacting. Reacting is often quick, but responding is after you've had time to think.
The Bible has been very helpful for me to learn wisdom and see examples of how to handle all sorts of situations.
Two other insightful books: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
and Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
Thank you for sharing this. Many people live their whole lives never learning what you’ve put down so well.
This was exactly what I needed to hear today! Your wisdom shines through every word. Thank you for spreading positivity!
What great liberation to live with humility, simplicity & compassion. What great fulfillment.
indeed
Một câu chuyện rất hay, cảm ơn bạn đã chia sẽ.
its a strengh and strenghful only the great spirit has sole and only power.
Thank you very much for your valuable words and message. There were a few things that resonated deeply with me. Firstly, the importance of being gentle, loving, and letting go no matter what. This practice is truly essential in daily life. Secondly, your emphasis on the significance of being alive struck a chord with me. It reminds me to cherish life, prioritize health, and continue learning and sharing with others. Your insights are beautifully articulated, and I appreciate them greatly. Thank you for sharing such wisdom. Lots of love to you. May you always be happy, peaceful, and joyful. ❤
Wow, what an amazing convincing story! The king was told not to react and control his emotions, so, he stopped reacting and started controlling his emotions. Thank you for this insightful story.
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AI generated crap. text, illustrations everything. but... almost 800k in one month... talk about idiocracy
😂😂😂true.
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'Respond instead of Reacting' - learnt in school days. Thanks for reminding it.
Actually I realized and applied this in my therapeutic journey. I still get affected by things but don’t react poorly. Now I’m in such a good place mentally; by habit I generally react with humor, often including sarcasm or satire. Super chill mind. ;-)
It's a good video that you made. Meditation involves cultivating a non-judgmental and compassionate awareness. Through regular practice, it helps to soften your edges, increase empathy, and reduce the likelihood of reacting to situations with anger.
I always suggest this to my community through my own videos. Keep up the good work
Nothing lasts forever, the tide must turn, the tables will turn😊😊😊
When I was younger, everything seemed to fall into my lap. Now at my age my good luck has ran out.....lol
@natashasingh6562 - Major Depression last forever
@@montesa9136only if you allow it
why are you waiting for the table to turn ....just go with the flow
That's a hope. Not happens at times.
Whoever is reading this, I pray for you: a heart free of sorrow, a mind free of worries, a life filled with joy, an abundant source of financial wealth, a body free of disease disability and a day filled with God's blessings
I agree in the power of controlling emotional reactivity, but sometimes you need to light a fire under yourself, and speak your truth and stop keeping it all in!!!!
As long as it’s not interrupted by the filter of your wounds. That would add more heat to the fire rather than putting it out
Such a beautifully crafted video! The teachings are so profound and have a real impact on my life. Keep up the great work
No wiser word spoken!! So true!!
Watching this has inspired me to start practicing the art of not reacting impulsively. The wisdom shared here is so relevant for managing emotions effectively. Thank you!
Controlling our emotions doesn't mean that we become pokerface and that others cannot read our emotions any more.
This also leads to conflicts. Cause others need to be able to recognize our emotions for their own safety.
But controlling the emotions means that we aren't victims of our emotions but that we master our reactions by speaking about our emotions that are there just in the moment.
I think this is important.
The only emotion we are allowed to let float free is happyness and sometimes sadness.
But never angryness or fear.
@@Kuba-rc7wx There are different definitions. Some say emotions are the basics. Anger, sadness, happiness, fear. And they also say that feelings are more specific.
I feel bad, I feel comfortable, I feel ashamed...
concentrating in present moment, that's wise advice
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Learning how to slow down my emotional reactions has changed my entire reality. It's not an east task at all, but it's worth the work.
Such a powerful and insightful story! Buddha's teachings on mastering emotions are truly life-changing. Thank you for sharing these valuable lessons to help us stay calm and in control. Definitely a must-watch! I am certain that many people will feel motivated by the stories you share.
I just turned 46 years old, and I really have a short fuse, and it just seems like I react to everything I have not been in the best place for quite some time in my life, but I found this video to really help me understand and recognize that I need help
You are humble,thanks
Isaiah 35:5,6
I can totally relate. I had such short fuse and was angry so very often that it seems to me that the world was out to get me.
I decided that I needed to change..for me..tired of fighting all the time...being rude to people...horrible.
I practice meditation and learned to practice gratitude for everything.
Little by little..being nice to myself...practice in front of the mirror...for 1 week I promised only to say nice things to everyone I encountered.
..now it became a habbit..I appreciate myself...I appreciate others...I love life..I love people
.I love myself.
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Good luck on your journey! You got this 🤎🤎🙏
Check on your health. Everything else starts there. Bless you brother.
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.
All emotions are valid,as long as we don't hurt other people and of course ourselves...❤️🇵🇭🙏
I enjoy getting angry every so often when I'm all by myself. It's a great way to vent and let go of stress.
if we always think that aren't we hurting others then i guess its not possible because you are hurting yourself to be nicer when even there is no need of it.....#justarandomopinion
@@tygerlillee If you're enjoying for being angry by yourself and you may think it's unharmful but truth is you're hurting yourself and you're losing the ability to tolerate in difficult situations.
If a certain emotion can be invalid or incorrect for a given situation then by default it means that not all emotions are valid. Are emotions real? Yes. Are they all correct? No.
@@alantinoalantonio and who decides what emotion is correct or not? You?
Thanks so much for sharing such a great story.
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To be in control doesn't necessarily mean your suppressing your emotions, it just means you allowing yourself to be the one who feels the emotions and not the one who acts out of emotions, its easy to get out of hand or say/do things we may genuinely not do under normal circumstances, and here comes in the important factor time, being in control entails giving yourself time to process and digest so that whatever action is taken from their is healthy even for the decision maker, the opposite would mean their frustrations cause if we keep on acting out of our emotions we end up doing the things we ourselves feel are unpleasant to us, and the end emotion is we feel like we cany control our emotions, controlling emotions means we acknowledge that we are not our feelings cause if we are then what is that feels them
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I am on a quest for videos like these..I have recently realised that reacting to things that irk you or to people who make you react..you are actually giving them what they want, the importance. In one way you are actually letting them control you..
During my healing journey I realized that impulsive reactions come from triggers - from unhealed wounds.
For example, I got triggered very easily when people try to feel good about themselves at others expenses. In a work enviornment it would be comething like "I dont want to put in the effort of doing things correctly and idc who that affects".
I then realized that my trigger came from childhood. There was a specific situation, where i was happily playing with my friends and my mother angrily pulled me away from then - when she realized that i was not happy about it, but sad that i couldn't play anymore, her anger turned towards me. She took me home to then madly ignore me the rest of the day.
As I healed the wounds, I was no longer blindly reacting. Rather, I found that I was able to more clearly descern why I was feeling bad about a situation. And then decided how to react to it. Sometimes this meant to let it go. Other times it meant to clearly and calmly call peoples behaviour out.
I guess thats what it really means to control emotions vs suppressing them... Suppressing is like grinding your teeth together and not letting big emotions show, while control comes from a position of inner peace.
Great advice! Just shut up and don’t react negatively! Peace is what I need! To change my attitude in life! Yes god wants us to control! Awareness is everything! And self control is everything! That’s my hardest skill!
Detachment from situation which is out of our control is such a liberation. It has brought down my anxiety level. I trust God and all I know is i should be concentrating on what is there in my hands. Do my part of work with sincerity and rest leave to God. 🙏
I obviously appreciated your kindness for the lesson,love from Thailand
You don't have to control your emotions. Simply don't let your emotions control you.
That's why you have to control your emotions! 😆😆😆
@@chibiitachi7828 you really don't. Emotions are meant to be felt, not controlled. You control your reactions
For me, emotions and it's reaction had been hard coded into human beings to look ‘logical'. You can't say like when you suddenly overwhelmed with anger and rage, you divert and control your reaction to suddenly become hungry and walk to nearby KFC and eat a lot of chicken! That's not normal at all! 🤣🤣🤣 People will say there's something wrong with his head!!
@@chibiitachi7828 What does being angry have to do with being hungry? When I'm angry, i let myself feel anger until it passes, and it sure will pass because every emotion eventually does. I cannot turn it off and suddenly not be angry but I can control my reaction to it. I can choose to let myself calm down before doing or saying anything, instead of going on a rampage, for example. Emotions aren't logical or rational but our reactions can be.
Just an example of diverting that emotion.
Emotion control is not just a skill in maintaining physical and mental health. It also plays a decisive role in each person's growth and success in life ❤❤❤
I am becoming more mindful.
This video is a great source of motivation to live more peacefully and happily.
just woke up after workout and watch this video, I'm gonna make this day awesome as much as I can!
TQ..for sharing a good lesson that was I never got in early years. I want to adopt it imy daily life .: NO REACTION. STAY QUIET .NO RESPONSE.SILENCE
You deserve more ❤️😊. This video made my day. 🎉
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Religion is a fairytale that helps no one.
So true ❤❤❤
Righteous anger is an exception.
I thought of that too. Perhaps controlling your anger would lead to a more effective outcome.
One thing that has helped me is letting go of my past! Because a lot of people with anger issues is from the past. Letting go of the past helps to change the perspective! Also knowing that nothing is that serious. It has helped me a lot!
How do you let go of the past?
Nothing is that serious? Have you thought this sentence through before making it?
let it go and just go with the flow .....everything which had done in our past is just an experience
why would you let go of the past? The past is there to teach you stuff.
I’m not sure with the “nothing is that serious” part. When you’ve been previously emotionally abused and it took you a while to get out, I don’t think that’s something “nothing serious”
The most important part of not reacting is that then it is their gift. Most importantly, though, if someone is manipulating or controlling you, you must say this manipulation and controlling must stop. I feel that your manipulating and attempting to control me and this must stop.
This is so well written. And presented .
In the symphony of life, the most powerful notes are often found in the silence between the melodies, where strength speaks louder than words. ❤😊🙏
I think its fair enough to ask for new soup when a fly is in it. Also sometimes when someone continuously upsets you and they are part of a group that you must be involved in, then its important to stand up to someone like that and sometimes you need all the anger you can conjure to do that and stop their behaviour. I think sometimes feeling angry and reacting is appropriate to deal with a situation. People often dont get it until they see a reaction. You can sit back and think about it and deal with it in a refined state but some people wont get it and wont stop until you stand up to them in a way that sends them a message.
Hell yeah 👊🏻
But should you then stand up and react angry or control your response and react not angry..
@@mi10ngaming16 In my experience, I have reacted to certain people in a 'non' angry way and they continue to try to upset me. I find these people do not comprehend thoughtful and respectful communication. So then I have responded in a more up front and confrontational manner and it seems to be a lot more effective. With some people, the more respectful and pleasant you are to them, the more they think they can walk over you and treat you like rubbish, its just their nature and the way they were raised unfortunately. This is particularly true in business's where there is not much regulation and there is money and power involved.
The point is not to let your anger get the best of you. It is one thing to be firm with someone who is disruptive or to firmly demand a new bowl of soup, it’s another thing to get so angry about something that you loose control of yourself and do or say things you will regret later.
Yeah, you haven’t learned the lesson if you don’t understand the need to respond not in anger but with calm confidence derived “for me” through meditation.
That's where stoicism comes in 💕🥰
I've seen so many video on emotion and feeling but this video is inspired me so much
Reacting to situations without thinking can be impulsive, but acknowledging and expressing emotions can be healthy. It's important to find a balance that allows for thoughtful responses while honoring your feelings.
The narration of the story and the message conveyed is so clear and in simple words. Thank you. Good work💐👍
🕉 Amazing 👏 Adbutham Awesome 👌 msg Thank you Sir 🙏HariOm 🌺🙏🌺
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Meditation is practicing non-judgmental compassionate awareness. As your practice this, it softens your edges you feel more empathy and you are more likely not to be reacting to situations with anger. You can recognize the sensation of anger building so you quietly do breathing to regain emotional control. You are more balanced with not being too high or too low. You recognize that you are emotionally angry but you don't have to react with anger. Angry words don't create value in the world. Better to be silent with intentional foucus on breathing and awareness of your anger, thoughts can be witnessed with the same awareness as watching a storm pass by...
"Angry words don't create value in the world." ❤
Very beautiful and wise words to live by.
Everything is psychological and stems from your way of thinking. How you perceive something will determine how you feel about it. You can make things positive or negative instantly. You can think of eating chips or candy as something that will make you happy, but you can also think that if you eat the desert, then you will become unhealthy or that you'll have to spend an hour on the treadmill exercising. Just take a moment to think before you act or speak. The brain is so powerful that it literally takes milliseconds to change the outcome.
So if I pick up a piece of dogshit and pretend it's a Snicker's bar and eat it but it still doesn't taste like a Snicker's bar no matter how much I use my mind to convince myself otherwise, it still tastes like dogshit what do I do should I follow up with a nice glass of Labrador lemonade?
@@TheVideoSlick some people like the taste of things that others perceive to be gross or inedible. At times, it could be an acquired taste, sometimes it's also seen as deranged by others like eating animals or humans. Also, choosing to invest that poop is your choice, unless you're forced to do it. You'd have to break through that mental barrier if you're trying to compete in those shows or contests that reward you for eating grotesque items if you want to win the prize
Need to speak out when required . Need to react for the situation and define our boundaries...
I found that after I socially isolated, almost the entirety of all emotions are stimulated by humans. Without humans in my life, I experience few emotions. It is all for the better. Emotions serve little purpose.
U just want the right people and they're rare unfortunately
thank you sir for this video. God bless.
What a valuable lesson I’ve been hyper-vigilant, prone to irritability and a bad temper when believing I was pushed too far. I will control these negative emotions, moving forward. 🙏💙😌
Religion is the cancer of humanity!
question of curiosity - are you military or a first responder?
Bought up knowing an angry father taught me unfortunately to react to others in the same way, it’s just learnt behavior. It’s taken me many years to understand that it didn’t have to be that way and that I am responsible for my own reactions. Love this video, thank you. ❤
I treat people the same way I got treated. Opposite to treat people the way you want to be treated 😆😆It works with me! 😁😁
Same with growing up under the rule of a narcissistic parent. It can be grown out of but with great cost and effort.
@@illbeyourmonster3591 im so sorry, it’s a shock when you understand it, then undoing it can be hard work. It has taken many years for me.
I Love the wisdom of the Buddha, Namaste 🌸🙏🏻✨
This should be taught to children in schools
Negative 👎! That's the parents job.
And what is it with you everything should be taught in school 🏫 people.
Y'all say the same nonsense about finances when mostly everything is basic arithmetic and good sense.
Not to mention, just because it is taught doesn't mean it will be learned and put into practice. 😶
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They don't want to be a responsible parent.
And when they're blamed they get defensive.
❤i thank all of you for this message ❤
One word... "character " silence until completely, attacked. Then, only then, your great patience behavior controls everything, going forward.. ❤ when others temp.. and those around a situation will side with the Temps. STILL BE . YOU!! RESULT. ,, THOSE AROUND U WILL BE WITH U. ❤
I'm the most tolerant person I know. I never react with anger even if I hurt myself or break something, I don't react at all or laugh about it. Other people cannot upset me because I love unconditionally. I've lived like this for many years and I feel like an alien. The biggest problem is always that other people don't feel that I take them seriously because I don't want to share their anger with something. Then I always have to wait until they have calmed down their injured ego and want to live peacefully next to me again. 🙂 💕☀️
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You are good people😅
I wish I was like you. I'm the complete opposite
Sharing people's frustrations or being empathetic is important...being too removed doesn't help
you are allowed to show emotion you know...its not weakness....empathy is the key
This will be my new practice moving forward ❤