No wife would happily agree to intimacy at night if the husband has been rude/abusive the whole day. Having intercourse with a man who only hurts your feelings and doesn't treat you any better than an appliance is torture itself. I hope none of my sisters (and brothers) have to be stuck in a torturous marriage of such kind.
The more I read on the comments section the more I worry for the wives and would be wives represented here. You are so right in your comments. Imagine the hell some of these women put up with, because of the fear of being cursed by angels, or beaten because the husband FEARS she might disobey him. Just because they really don't feel like being USED that night. Imagine the trumped up imaginary superiority the men must feel because of these verses and hadiths. One person just told me this hadith and it made me feel like I was looking into partner abuse. *The husband is your heaven or hell (Authentic hadith)* OUCH! The you have this one: FIFANATICS 11 days ago Understand that it's obligatory, not optional, for wife to do that. Why do women in Islam marry at all? Then there is this guy: Wish Princess Charming Was Real 11 days ago @FIFANATICS You should be kind to your wife and respect her as well. You can present things in a polite way. Thank heavens, there might be some Muslim males worth marrying out there for these girls.
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a: The Prophet said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day." Sahih Bukhari 7:62:132 Well that says it all doesn't it.
I am in the process of a divorce now, because my husband is slightly better than an animal. He has "needs" several times a day. He curses me all day, is rude to me, is horrible to me, and yet wants me to give in multiple times a day. Despite the fact that I have been at work all day and dealing with our children all night. I am praying this divorce comes soon and he leaves.
I raped my girl one time because she said no, well she went to her mothers house and came back with great news that she was pregnant and after check up they said it was a son, well I was happy because I had daughter before my son, and my clans legacy will be passed through to my son atleast I hope he doesnt go kafir cause that would drop him out of my clan... either way I heard in hadith that if a husband requests his wife to come to bed and she refuses angels will curse on her.. so you shouldnt say no and allow your husband as you will have fun and he also doing it and it will unload alot of stress for both of you, maybe make him even chicken wings for him to go another round,well my wife does that and it is better than viagra lol... well here is my son and my name till faqi umar the son of sultan muhammed shamsudin of yemen under caliphate, faqi umar defeated the ethiopian king that was harassing the people and muslims there and became a sultan there... 'abdallah: 'abdallah Mursal Xuseen Mursal Cali Axmed Cabdi Cumar Cabdi Shiikhow Amiin Maad muxamed (baa Xasan Cismaan Faqi Cumar Aalu Sheekh.
I raped my girl one time because she said no, well she went to her mothers house and came back with great news that she was pregnant and after check up they said it was a son, well I was happy because I had daughter before my son, and my clans legacy will be passed through to my son atleast I hope he doesnt go kafir cause that would drop him out of my clan... either way I heard in hadith that if a husband requests his wife to come to bed and she refuses angels will curse on her.. so you shouldnt say no and allow your husband as you will have fun and he also doing it and it will unload alot of stress for both of you, maybe make him even chicken wings for him to go another round,well my wife does that and it is better than viagra lol... well here is my son and my name till faqi umar the son of sultan muhammed shamsudin of yemen under caliphate, faqi umar defeated the ethiopian king that was harassing the people and muslims there and became a sultan there... 'abdallah: 'abdallah Mursal Xuseen Mursal Cali Axmed Cabdi Cumar Cabdi Shiikhow Amiin Maad muxamed (baa Xasan Cismaan Faqi Cumar Aalu Sheekh.
This is not a very huge problem because Muhammad (SAW) said, "The best of you are those who are best to your wives." He also said " True Muslims are those from whose hands and tongues others are safe."
@@b265In reality Both should try to understand each other and make a good family instead of demanding toooooo much. If they followed their duties they would not have this and that.
@@saimonnaherchowdhury6903 bruh sisters want tall, handsome, successful men who only takes one wife and quack quacks for them. But if a man just asks his basic rights it’s too much 😔I think marriage is no longer option for me with women's role becoming negotiable depending on her mood and whim. While mens roles stay the same.
@@ibrahimorton93200998 Allah knows best. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said: اَلْخَبِيْثٰتُ لِلْخَبِيْثِيْنَ وَا لْخَبِيْثُوْنَ لِلْخَبِيْثٰتِ ۚ وَا لطَّيِّبٰتُ لِلطَّيِّبِيْنَ وَا لطَّيِّبُوْنَ لِلطَّيِّبٰتِ ۚ اُولٰٓئِكَ مُبَرَّءُوْنَ مِمَّا يَقُوْلُوْنَ ۗ لَهُمْ مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَّرِزْقٌ كَرِيْمٌ "Wicked women are for wicked men, and wicked men are for wicked women. And virtuous women are for virtuous men, and virtuous men are for virtuous women. The virtuous are innocent of what the wicked say. They will have forgiveness and an honourable provision." (QS. An-Noor 24: Verse 26) So I think if we trust Allah we don't have to worry that much. * Via Qur'an English quran-en.com
Yeah forcing is never allowed. It's a sin. However, sometimes men need to lower their ego and communicate properly. It won't make them look desperate. Rather it will help the relationship.
@@designcalligraphy7395 Lol you are right about the however part. However, I didnt mean to bash any one. Least of all men. In fact, women have the right to refuse and men have the right to marry more than once if they wish to. But forcing wife for this is a strong NO NO.
I was talking about the fact that men may feel angry at the refusal. But their ego doesn't let them communicate their feelings properly. Because they feel they will appear desperate. So they keep getting angry inside and the wife sometimes even doesn't have a clue what is happening.
A Muslim brother made the following comments on what a wife is: "A wife is not just meant for desires. She is a companion, a homemaker, a mother. She has other duties too apart from fulfilling her husband's request. The request shouldn't be frequent, shouldn't cause harm or inconvenience. It shouldn't interfere with other obligations like praying. So even though men have right, they should exercise such right with caution and fairness. They should be considerate as well. I think this will help in a relation because a wife who feels valued will never disappoint. Happy wife is a happy life." There is no doubt in my mind that all honorable, respectable, right-thinking married Muslim men would agree with these comments. (If Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) were to read them, I believe he would agree, too.) Sadly, a Muslim brother disagreed with this, accusing the brother who made the comments of encouraging women to refuse their husbands for sexual intimacy! What the hell! And these idiots all insist that the Prophet is their role model on how to treat women, wives in particular! They lie! I am convinced these foolish Muslim men are secretly jealous of the Prophet because they know Muslim women defend him, and they don't like it. So they, very subtly, manipulate and twist hadiths, (especially the "angels cursing the wife" hadith), and Qur'anic ayats (especially 4:34, the "beating" verse) to promote male supremacy and misogyny, which the Prophet never, ever did. These idiot Muslim men push legalized prostitution, not marriage/sexual intimacy: Men put out the money; wives put out the sex! And they abuse the exemplary character of the Prophet while doing so! Gross! Excuse the man. Blame the woman. It never fails. May Allah help this Ummah!
Thank you soo much for this whole information . Your right husband wife reaction is really pure they are each others soulmate . They should understand each other love,respect and care for each other . But sadly our society is like men provide money for everything wife provide s##, baby , chores etc which is a disgusting thought . Marriage is not something like that . This bond was made in heaven but nowadays generation is ruining this concept and non Muslims are spreading fake things about Islam 😢😢
@@misscreative68651. Allah ordered the prophet to not give fatwa about women, everything regarding women is already written in the Quran. There’s a clear verse stating this. 2. IF that was true then the same goes for men! If a man refuses the angles will curse him. BUT, it’s a right to be earned. You have to be a good partner that has human decency in order to expect anything physical.
@@omaima99999 so you disagree with the hadith? Hadith is another form of revelation from Allah (Surah Najm, Surah Haqqah, etc) So hadith is basically Allah's law
@@aatif7518 this is the belief that messed up with our ummah. There are many falsified “hadiths” that were falsely attributed to the prophet that he never said and they don’t agree with the Quran. I can’t fathom how many people believe so many hadiths that are against God’s words and law of (there is no force in religion)
1.Many of the men don't even do proper foreplay. And if they finish first they don't help their wives to orgasm either. Stop being selfish during intercourse. 2. I've read about many women wanting intimacy but the husbands deny it, or have early ejaculation problems but refuse to get help from doctors due to ego. They forget women want to be satisfied too. Why be so selfish? You're only seeking your pleasure while neglecting your wives. Be co-operative, understanding while being together. And those guys whining about multiple marriage and wives. Like dude you can't even satisfy one wife to have intercourse with you. What makes you think you're going to be able to satisfy multiple women? Not to mention, if you're not allowed to have multiple wives unless you can treat them equally. You can't even treat one right, how are you supposed to treat multiple wives equally? Just have sabr and ask for Allah's guidance. Be kind to your wives. Stop treating your wife like an object.
I don't think it's the right thing to say, because you can treat your wife/husband like a queen/king and there's gonna be a time when they are gonna say no to that, not because they don't have a good time doing it with you but just because they don't want to and it's a normal thing that you should respect and still treat them the same.
@@desperatdarling8144 i totally agree...but some people in this comment section are so one sided...they just want the wife to obey the rules and not DARE to say no to husband. So i was making a point that if you want ur wife to never say no to you then do some efforts yourself as well..cuz a healthy relationship requires efforts from both sides.
@@desperatdarling8144 The Hadith is pretty clear, a woman who refuses her husband to do intercourse(without a reason, like being sick or menses) is sinful (that is if the husband is angry, which happens most of the time), the angels CURSE her till morning and Allah is displeased with her. Nowadays most of these "muslim" women, who like to behave little bit like rebels to their husbands (cause of the influence of the west,satan and their own nafs) even go as far as taking half of the mans wealth in case of divorce (that money to her is like fire and whatever she eats from that fortune is fire to her belly). Look, if you are a muslim, fear Allah, YOU and everyone of us will be questioned. If you are not a muslim or a "nice" muslim a modern muslim...then trust me you are better without Islam, Allah doesn't even need the worship of the Angels and the Prophets combined, and Allah surely doesn't need our half-assed worship (the muslim nowadays).
@@desperatdarling8144 I dunno much but I do know if we are to talk of equality and as a man I have to do certain things without my liking for ''Her'' liking, then it should be the same for her....
Our society is so uncomfortable with the concept of marital rape because we have internalized this very belief that if a husband forces himself on his wife, it must be allowed. And one time forced intercourse isn't an isolated event, it will spoil the relationship. At least for me it would, I wouldn't be able to forgive my husband for it ever and probably never love him either. I remember trying to discuss it with my mother and she just laughed at it and said ''Well then a wife shouldn't say no'' which is true. However, there are circumstances when maybe the wife is feeling not well, shouldn't the husband care a little about her wellbeing? Also, I wish men would be taught about 'foreplay' as well. If only they would entice their wife into intimacy then nobody would have to toss and turn.
@@acidmana7920 Any man, Muslim or non-Muslim, who believes he has to use physical, brute force on his wife if she refuses sexual intimacy, endorses legalized prostitution and rape, not sexual intimacy. For a man to resort to either or both horrific behaviors in order to get some sexual play from his wife means that something is not going right in the marriage.
Wife has the right to demand physical intimacy from her husband at any moment too, if he is not providing proper intimacy and only satisfying his own needs, that is ground for divorce
What a beautiful religion. But we are deprived of seeing it because we are indulged in ignorance. May Allah(s.w.t) light our minds and open our chest to Islam and hidayat
Little platitudes to conceal his bullshit. "If a woman does not answer her husbands call to bed, and he gets angry with her, the angels curse her from dawn till next dusk". Bad attempt, dawahgandist.
We captured some of the women as prisoners, and the long separation from our wives was pressing us hard and we wanted to release sperms outside of the women (coitus interruptus). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) whether it was permissible. He said, "It is better for you to release sperms inside." Sahih al-Bukhari 2542
@@takiyaazrin7562 "it is better to release your sperms." Hahaha. Don not be decieved. Research before you post anything. Do not become an uneducated enemy of Islam. You will just strengthen our faiths nothing else. Educate yourself and then misguide us. IN SHAH ALLAH when you educate yourself you wont feel the need to fight us.
Good, constructive and matured discussions here. One thing I find missing is that conjugal rights belong to both. The term ‘fulfilling the desires’ is projected in such a way that it appears to fulfill only ‘husband’s desires’ as if the wife has none. The fact is, both spouses’ desires are fulfilled in the act when done mutually and lovingly, both get satisfied. Also, even the husband may refuse due to valid reason (e.g. being too tired or not in the right mind). But this aspect is rarely talked about due to the stigma of being called not a man enough. The act of intimacy without love, affection and passion for each other, merely remains just an act, a physiological/mechanical one. The relationship of a married couple is based on love, trust, understanding and respect for each other’s feelings. When these things are present, the question of who is being fair or unfair to the other would not arise at all. None should take for granted the other. I recall here one saying that when two people fight/argue, they raise their voice, shout at each other even if they are in close proximity because their hearts are far away. But when two people’s hearts are very close, even a look into each other’s eyes reveal what the other is saying.
"the husband may refuse due to valid reason (e.g. being too tired or not in the right mind). But this aspect is rarely talked about" -- EXACTLY WHAT I'M SAYING 💯 But I'm yet to find any answers about this
Forcing someone into intimacy is abuse/rape. Also when you are married. Marriage doesn’t allow you to do with the other persons body what you want because you want it. That is just horrible.
no means no. forcing your wife or husband into intimacy is a sin. It's a sign of abuse. at the same time, you shouldn't also weaponize intimacy in the long term. Also unless either person is ill it's very unlikely they wouldn't want to be intimate. if these problems occur ask yourself this: am I making intimacy enjoyable for my spouse? am I doing foreplay correctly. have I done something wrong to make them angry more? intimacy won't solve any extra argument you have with each other. Solve them first then move on to intimacy. there is also a matter of a person being asexual but thats a different topic lastly, intimacy is a RIGHT of BOTH spouses. both have needs. solve the issue first, go to marriage counseling in a happy and safe environment, and ask an imam. now if all matters fail then you have the right to leave one another with good intentions.
@King Sultan wrong the only sin is if both people weaponising intimacy. It’s not a sin to say no that your culture talking . And before you talking about the hadith Mohammed hijab has said it refers to both genders so stop being a clown.
I think The solution of this is to have better and mature communication with your spouse. Husband and wife both have to be merciful to each other. May Allah grants us all a righteous and understanding spouse. Ameen
I am a woman too but the comments “when a woman denies there is a reason” make me angry, my sisters there are bad women, narcissistic women, problematic women who deny just to make a man angry for no reason so let us not make women like angels. Yes this problem is mostly caused by men but not all the time
It’s true sex tends more important for men compared to women, you are really mature for pointing out that both gender can be selfish. I have always hated these gender wars, you get nothing but just more hate from the opposite gender.
And that's the reason Majority of marriages in the west are sex less , because Women are not aroused quickly as Men and so they tend to deny Husband's rights and Husband's remains miserable and sexually frustrated
Women tend to also treat having intimacy as a chore that they have to do. Which is completely wrong. You're rewarding yourself and your husband. Make him happy, and you'll be happy too.
@@Adel508Tkdtbh if intimacy feels like a chore then something is wrong. if your husband makes you happy it wouldn’t feel like a chore to have sex. not saying it’s always the man’s fault, it might be that the woman is discontent bc of something she is doing too but if sex feels like a chore they need to communicate and figure out why.
It's sad how some muslim men try to normalize martial rape by manipulating ayats and Hadith.They also say it's femininism that wives don't want to be forced upon by their husbands like wth bro???? One of my guy friend believes that there's no such thing as martial rape (jokes on him) I was so disappointed in him. Once a husband forces himself upon his wife, trust me,things will never ,ever be the same for her.she will never be able to love ,respect and support her husband like before. The value of her husband and marriage for her will go down by A LOT. It's absolutely disgusting how some muslim men try to normalize it.
This is what happens when you learn Islam from a European scholar that changes Hazrat Ayesha age you do not really have the knowledge of hadees you only have the knowledge of how to please European come to another country or to south east asia I learn through Islam loser
The word martial "rape" is ridiculous and outrageous ! Yes, respect and acceptance is foremost while approaching your woman. If a man not follow it, he's forcing himself on her, loosing respect infront of his woman and Allah but it's not a sin ..... Let alone a "rape" ! It's a pure Western and feminist term .... In Islam after marriage there's no such thing as "zina" or "rape" in a couple.
@@nimomemre6550 he's forcing her,meaning he doesn’t have her consent but he's doing it anyway cz he wants it. Learn about the definition of rape first. Rape isn’t about gender or the relationship between you and the person who's raping you. It's about CONSENT. But if u are a man and talking like this,then I understand. We don’t expect anything better from y'll anyway
@@truebeliever1516 but now a days women is out of control I don't think it's worth to put yourself in trouble to just get a benefit of marriage in your 60s because no one knows we can ever reach that age or not.
@@truebeliever1516 well my nature is very dominant and I am a little bit angrier type of guy but the problem is I don't think women would love a guy like me so that's the reason I am afraid of Marriage because if she denied me to have Intercourse with her I don't think I can control myself in that situation.
I have had a forced arranged marriage a year ago wihh my cousin, from my mom and relatives. I wasn't ready to get married, but they insisted that I get married coz my age is increasing and I will have problems with conceiving later. They did even give me the choice to choose a spouse of my own. They forced to marry my cousin itself. Ppls words were so hurtful and traumatic to me. They manipulated me into getting married to him. And now even afteer marriage I don't really feel like getting intimate with him much. He is understanding, but I am not even able to turn it down when he asks for it. Also ppl were advising me to just let him if he wants, bcoz that's the way we can keep them in control, or else they will seek somewhere else. I have been thru this and many I used to get so depressed after tht. It isn't even a pleasant experience for me either, bcoz I was forced into this, and don't have feelings for him like tht either. It really hurts, affects our mental healht too.
We captured excellent women for ransom. We decided to have sex with them but by observing 'azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid-conception). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), and he said: It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born. Sahih Muslim 1438a
@@ayeshasamrin299 dear sister ,if your husband is a good person (he seem to be one because he don't force u to do deed) then u must let him do what he want ,try to talk to him ,know more about his like and dislikes ,it will help u forget that u were force into this marriage ,now u are in this relationship ,try to normalize it ,one of my czn was forced to marry her brother in law after her sister's death ,she did not allow him to touch her for years ,it took her 4 years to let things become normal and have a child ,her husband passed just after she give birth to her first child,now she is single for more then 12 years and regret for wasting most beautiful years of her life with her husband,I advice u to not waste your time over delusional thoughts of force marriage try to make your husband happy with you ❤
Quran 41.46-- Whoever does RIGHTEOUS - it is for his [own] SOUL; and whoever does EVIL [does so] AGAINST it. And your Lord is not ever UNJUST to [His] servants
I have been victimized to this. I didn’t known who I could go to get help from because it was too much to tell. My marriage is basically done and we don’t even live together but, I suffer from what was done to me.
I'll pray for you sister . Inshallah you'll be rewarded in the hereafter for your patience. And i pray Allah helps you get over it and see the better days.
I am so sorry for you. May Allah heal you from your trauma. Never let again anyone abuse you in the name of anything and especially not in the name of Allah who is the most Merciful.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real umm sir if a man 10x times bigger and stronger than you grabs you and shove his 🍆 inside you and you physically can't fight cuz he's stronger and he'll beat you up if you do you still wouldn't call it force? Sounds like a rapist who would say she enjoyed it 🤮
To sum it up yes women can say no to intimacy . However they shouldn’t weaponise intimacy neither can the guy. You’ll see a lot of Muslim men who follow isis in the comments saying raping your wife is allowed . It’s not they’re all gonna burn on judgment day for spreading wrong information and encouraging others to sin
@@dailydeen5742 what makes you think a women would let you get another wife 😂 she will have it written in her contract beforehand so all you can do Is divorce which she’ll benefit as she’s keep her mehr
@Healing Misogynist Don't! The goal isn't about controlling someone . It's to aid each other in getting to Jennah. Islam offers options for those with big intimacy appetite. Anytime your peace, happiness and Taqwa of Allah is threatened, seek mediation. If your condition doesn't improve. لا قوة و لا حولا إلا بالله
@Healing Misogynist Have to recognize that your in a relationship, that expects that of you. Otherwise, your husband will seek to fulfill his desires elsewhere. It doesn't warrant taking by force. It highlights that it is transgression of duties. Similar, to the man that abandons his responsibilities, as mentioned regarding safety etc. earlier in the video. How can safety be a responsibility of mine, and then I justify raping you I.e. making you feel unsafe?
How can any man force his wife to do something like this? She’s a human being. Not your chattel. Secondly why would you need to force her? If you love her and treat her right, I don’t see why you would have to do this
Polygamy marriages are corruption... """And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance. To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire. In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire. Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.) Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it. This verse reminds us of the danger! Polygamy marriages come under desires!
@@narcissistlovepolygamy6221 there is no way you can't see how dumb and contradictory you sound 😂 "tbis verse shows the danger of polygamy" yet allah has also permissed polygamy "marry what you desired of women, two three or four", you can't interpret quran to discredit quran, that's illogical
Excerpts taken from the article "Honor Code of Death" by Donna Abu-Nasr, Associated Press, Atlanta Journal-Constitution, Section C, Sunday, July 2, 2000: " 'Men worry about their honor and dignity as if women had none' ", said Azza Suleiman, an activist at the Center for Egyptian Women's Legal Assistance. "They stripped us of our honor and appointed themselves its protector". "Women have been shot, burned, strangled, stoned, poisoned, beheaded or stabbed for being friendly to a brother-in-law sitting next to a man on a bus, falling in love with the wrong person, talking to a man on the phone or even for being raped". "In Yemen (recently), a man shot his daughter dead on her wedding night after her husband said she was not a virgin. At the mother's insistence, the daughter was examined by a doctor--and was found to have been a virgin, said people familiar with the case. It turned out the husband was impotent and knew his problem would have been exposed because he had to display a bloodied rag as proof of his bride's virginity. He lied to protect his honor." There are Muslim men who abuse and manipulate hadiths, (such as the "angels cursing the wife" hadith), and Qur'anic ayats (such as the "beating verse", 4:34) to promote and justify male supremacy and misogyny. Their objective is to always protect and defend men's honor and dignity at all times and at all costs--even if that means destroying or denigrating women's honor and dignity. Tragic! Excuse the man. Blame the woman. It never fails.
It will be really good of the man doesn't ask for intimacy after an argument That will fix everything If u love your wife you wouldn't ask her her such thing after a fight
As a girl, I'd say life is not always about intiacy and physical relationships. It's about understanding each other, their patterns and emotions too. Men simply cannot force women to fo whatever they want. Honestly, guys in the comment section are making marriage sound like it's scary all because of their ego!!
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real to take care of the kids to help each other. Did you ever heared the word "romantic" Sex is inside a couple but it is not the only thing inside it. You're totally wrong if you think it's the only thing that makes a marriage important and worth it
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real who said I was Muslim? Having a girlfriend doesn't forcefully mean having sex that the thing you didn't understand, having a girlfriend mean going together to understand each other and to see if the other match us
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real That mean that your comprehension of what a relationship is is very limited and think that the major party of it is sex every night and everytime
I don't understand how this is fair. How dows Going to work to provide to your wife and yourself compare with having sex? You can't be in the mood for sex if you just had an argument, if you are sad etc. Sex isn't a practical job, it's phycological. Mood for sex comes from your mind
@@designcalligraphy7395 you are obligated to go to work because they will fire you. A wife that isn't working, must cook and clean or else they won't have food to eat and of course take care of the kids! It's not her choice. Both have their jobs and they are equally important, so the wife doesn't owe sex to her husband because he works. Both should enjoy it and do it for fun not as an obligation
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real I don't reply to someone who comments under everyone that marital rape is good. Working for momey is as hard as cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, taking care of your children. I remember when I was a kid my mother always had something to do.
@@i.8885 Nobody said she owns the husband sex because he works, The comparison is about how mood should not prevent the husband from having his right just like mood doesn't prevent him from working to provide for the wife.
If a husband's leadership in the household stinks, why should he still expect his wife to come to the bed when called? The marriage tie is in the hands of husbands, not wives. Husbands can very easily abuse their power over their wives, if they're not careful. So, if husbands "can't get some" from their wives, wives don't eat? Who is gonna cook the food--husbands?? If there are children in the home, they will notice something is wrong if Mama is not eating, and they and Daddy are. How will men explain that to them? If wives have earning power outside the home, will husbands intentionally go to their wives' places of employment, intending to get them fired, insisting they have the right to do that? Will husbands kick their wives out of the house if they "don't get some" from them and not give a damn what happens to them? Money does strange things to a lot of men out there! Too much power!
I never think of my rights which I have over her, I only think of her rights she have over me.. if she denied me of whatever I ask of her, I don't get mad at all, though I felt a bit dispirited, I've never denies her request if it is within my power to provide her of what she need, I'm happy to oblige. my marriage philosophy is simple, we are bound with contract, do what you must to uphold your side of bargain, do your best and if the other party fail to uphold theirs no harm are to befell upon you.. it simply reflect your leadership quality as you can handle mistreatment and yet still I can treat you with compassion.
But when a women is pissed at her husband she really can't have intercourse with him. Forcing herself would feel digusting. So men have to treat their wife correctly before asking for intimacy
And if a man refuses to feed his wife, to go to work, to fail to protect her honour, is it justice for him to claim his wife doesn't please him enough and so he can abstain from his duties?
Comments from another Muslim man speaks volumes: "A wife is not just meant for desires. She is a companion, a homemaker, a mother. She has other duties too apart from fulfilling her husband's request. The request shouldn't be frequent, shouldn't cause harm or inconvenience. It shouldn't interfere with other obligations like praying. So even though men have right, they should exercise such rights with caution and fairness. They should be considerate as well. I think this will help in a relation because a wife who feels valued will never disappoint. Happy wife is a happy life." No doubt, Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) would agree with these comments if he read them. Now, I know that there are those Muslim men who would deliberately twist these words to make it look like I am lying on the Prophet. No problem. I'm used to it. Another Muslim man objected to those comments, and told the brother not to justify wives refusing. What the hell!
Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) knew how to command the respect and trust of women. There are Muslim men out there who don't have a clue how to do that. Why do they think women love, respect, honor, and trust him, even unto this day? He feared Allah. Nuff said.
I hope all the Muslim men commenting know that Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) never had a narcissistic, superfragile male ego problem. He knew how to command the respect and trust of women, especially his wives. He was always secure in his manhood. I don't care what problems arose in his marriages. He handled them well. Above all, he always obeyed Allah. And his wives knew that. Now, if any of you men are married, I truly sympathize with your wives!
Subhanallah the fact that some so called muslim men need to be reminded or tought about this is very sad and proves their ignorance and ego..no offence to any men but many muslim men use their cultures or traditions they were raised in their country as if this is islam..islam and culture are two different things and many make mistakes of mixing these two..subhanallah i know many women very unhappy in their marriages and it makes you wonder whats going on in their homes..plz be kind to your wives and be good examples to your sons...
It just makes me angry because of the fact women feel pain Not men. It's never them feeling the pain during intimacy yet there's still some of them in the comments saying it's okay to force your wife. Which inflicts physical pain and traumatizes which is haram. So evil. Yet this is what Allah has prescribed for us how merciful..😒
And they say "yOu cANt cHanGe IslAm yOu FeMiNist" while shoving their most disgusting and selfish desires from their culture unto other throats. I know these men dont have taqwa nor do they love Allah. Theyre just a bunch of control freaks.
@@Ils1822 the best man is the one who is best to his wife according to our prophet. So if you see that a lot of men mistreat and disrespect women, just know that Allah s.w.t is sending you signs to stay away from them.
@@Ils1822 and let Allah do justice. You know when Allah wants to curse someone, He lets them do whatever they want in this dunya because He knows what is waiting for them on judgment day.
Assalamu Alaikum, Jazakallah so much brother, this has cleared up the misunderstanding I had about these hadiths and if rape in marriage was allowed in Islam. Please continue to do videos like these, they really do increase my imaan.
A man's duty is to provide, a woman's duty is to fulfill. If he denies provision, whom would she seek? If she denies intimacy, whom would he seek? We got no one else, except each other. If it is always about the mood, the men feel lazy/tired/angry, yet they still go to work, because their obligation is to provide. But if they fall sick, or meet with an accident, they wouldn't go. Similarly, the only reason for the women to deny intimacy is sickness, mensuration or an accident. The Prophet had 11 wives, if one wife denies, he would have another to ask, if she denies, he got another, and so on. But most women oppose polygamy, and a man only has his one wife.
@@dailydeen5742 no, the job of a woman isn’t to satisfy men, it’s to care for the house, and she should be doing it if not sick or have a reason, same thing with men providing, but if a woman wasn’t in the mood, he never and will never have the right to touch her
The video is very clear. The only issue I am seeing is women and men commenting about women saying means no. This is not what the video says. You can not refuse intimacy without a valid excuse. Just not wanting is not the reason as her temporary unease and discomfort is less than the harm that would occur. Your husband might start seeking another relationship or go into porn. Don't weaponize the intimacy.
Though forced intimacy is an emotional trauma, why is the woman not allowed to refuse if she is not okay with that? Why is she being cursed? It confuses me and makes me sad a lot. I believe Allah honours and loves women. I wanted to stick on to Him for life. I feel like things like this are a bit confusing. The same I feel about Iddah too. Can anyone make me clear? May Allah Almighty bless this Ummah...Ameen
Where do you think the man should fulfill his desires ? The man has rights, we all the time talk about women rights in marriage If the woman didn’t have a legitimate excuse but still refused then who’s gonna fulfill the man’s right ? Also, who said forcing is allowed ? It’s not but the point of the hadith of the malaekah is that women should do it if they had no legitimate excuse
Well, here we speak about a valid reason to refuse, if she is sick, she just had an argument with a friend, or in trouble at her job (in those cases she would be smart to explain it to her husband because he is not mindreader 😅) that's a thing that the husband has to take in consideration. But on other cases, like i don't want but... there's no reason, i want to watch a TV show. That's not fair, because in a couple you have to understand the other and make effort. A man is a man, with all his desires. Imagine you in his feet, you restrain yourself, you wait for marriage to fulfill your desires in the way Allah wants to, and everytime you want to make love you have to struggle, to negociate... what is the consequence ? frustration. The man will go see somewhere else. But Yeah a man that each time he sees his wife wants to have sex is a bit too much to handle for a wife, so she need to explain to her husband so they can find a compromise, BOTH need to make efforts. For the couple's sake.
Firstly, I have my doubts concerning the accuracy of hadiths. At the end of the day, Allah (SWT) knows the best. I'm just gonna explain as per my limited knowledge and understanding of the situation. May Allah guide us to the right path. If a woman is tired or feels drained in some way, I don't think it'd be invalid for her to not want to engage in sexual activities. A marriage is supposed to be fulfilling for both spouses. It's not a sole prerogative of the husband. If the wife is in a mental or physical state that makes it difficult for her to get intimate with her husband, I don't see any reason why it wouldn't be counted as a valid reason. Allah doesn't intend to make religious practices harsh or difficult for us. With that being said, if someone's spouse continues refusing to engage in sexual intercourse with their partner for no valid reason whatsoever, it's unfair from every perspective. As far as Iddat is concerned, the medical science back then wasn't as advanced as it is today. When these rules were ordained, the identity of the father played a pivotal role in determining how the child would be regarded in the society. Therefore, the period of Iddat helps avoid any such confusion regarding the child's lineage.
No one is entitled to physical intimacy if the marriage is abusive, broken and painful. Intimacy is something to be nurtured, invested in and balanced.
Holy Quran 31.17---“O my dear son! Establish Prayer, Encourage what is GOOD and Forbid what is EVIL, and Endure Patiently whatever Befalls You. Surely this is a resolve to aspire to.
wow wow Subhan Allah.. Alhamdulillah... Your this explanation has given me my answers cause in our society.. Bangladesh, Our local scholars always state the half things.... and by that they are making islam looks like bad infront of others even if they Don't intend to...
aside from religion I’m a doctor and forcing someone to have sex will make them Sick both emotionally and physically, and for the men in comments put yourself in a women shoes , you worked all day and are so tired and your husband asks for intimacy , y refuse , he forces himself on you , believe me you will hate intimacy and your husband for that and if the situation repeats many times the relationship won’t be healthy anymore and it will end with divorce so please try to be gentle with your wifes and please don’t use intimacy as a weapon against your husbands and refuse every Time 😇
so why doesn't that woman leave and find a guy with Erectile dysfunction or become a lesbian all together. After that she won't have any issues with intimacy, kindness, relationship, cleaning the house or ending up in Jahannum all together.
As a guy, first if you have a sexual drive, refrain yourself, your wife isn't a tool. Now if this hadith is authentic 100% Allahu a3lam. I see this as sketchy, because sex for woman isn't as stimulating for men and it can be painful. I believe the woman whether if she just doesn't want to because she doesn't want to go through the pain it's fine. I personally feel whilst having sex if the woman is doing purely out of requirement, instead of love and pleasure, that would make me uncomfortable and her. As a Muslim you shouldn't be a dog, whether if you are naturally tempted often, have self control and be able to control your lust and desires. I would rather see my wife asking or be GENUINELY willing for her sake and my sake, than her saying yes because she has to. That's just not according to Islamic teachings, and I believe that strays you further from your iman whether it is true or not, woman are not flashlights. Now I am no feminist, don't get me wrong I believe in traditional masculinity and femininity living according to eachother, but in no way would my wifes by law requirement by Allah, is just please your husband when he wants you to, so you can have a home and food. What's the difference between that and a prostitute, they do the same thing, they have sex whether they like it or not, so they can keep a roof over themselves. Prostitution I see it as one if the biggest sins, so in no way would I have my wife be pressured and having to be mentally forced to hsve sex, solely for my sake. Where is the Deen in that? Just because we have the title of wife and husband in Islam, doesn't mean we, or I should be asking for sex when she doesn't want to. Now I personally don't believe this hadith is true, I could be ignorant and fatwa shopping, Allah a3lam. But I just see this not in accordance to true Islamic teachings. This is like when children use "Mohammed said you have to give food when you look at it as a childish excuse to get free candy. When my wife doesn't want to have sex, it is mentally damaging and would make her have a subconscious hatred for Deen, and especially sunnah, thinking "why would Allah make me do this?" (If there is alot of typos, it's because I wrote alot and typed fast, I'm not going to check over it and fix it lol.)
My brother, you make excellent points which I agree with. I believe you are one of the very few Muslim brothers in this comments section who don't abuse this hadith to the point where it makes our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) look like a misogynistic womanizer addicted to sex. For these Muslim men to even think Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) is their role model on how to treat women is both a joke and and an insult to his noble and exemplary character. Your wife is a blessed woman. I pray Allah grant you both all the happiness in the world!
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Did you have to insult Brother Asaad like that? He makes excellent points which makes a lot of sense. Too damned callous and insensitive toward his wife! Allah forbid!!
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Strong women scare weak men! I will continue to be very hard on weak Muslim men. No sympathy! No pity! No apology! Attack whatever or whomever you want. Peace.
Society expects men to sacrifice their time and energy to provide for their families, but when it comes to their needs, everything is considered haram. What is this term "marital rape"? If a wife is sick, she can refuse; during her period, she can refuse. But if there's no excuse, why would she refuse? Does she not care about her husband? He controls himself his whole life, works really hard to afford a marriage, and she's the only woman in his life, yet she refuses to have sex with him. This could lead to zina and possibly a second marriage if he can afford it. That's the reason angels might curse her!
simp imams are the worst thing that happened to the ummah. The simp imam basically tells you: A man must provide for her queen no matter what, no matter how sick he is - HE MUST PROVIDE NON STOP.. but a women is free to refuse any kind of intimacy. new day new slay girl go girl. The world has to be given to you because you are a women. Man too much simps in the ummah. May Allah put him and his sons in the same situation many brothers are facing with their wives. Allahumma ameen.
Refusing to sex just because of mood is same as a man saying I will provide for 25 days a month cuz I am not in the mood to provide for the rest 5 days you go starve and ware nothing or even don’t live under a roof cuz I am not in the mood. You will be homeless every time I am not in mood to provide.😂
@@Pain-Addictonly if Muslim men knew how to give orgasm and not just receive them, maybe women won't be so aversed to sex. No women would deny orgasm but alas Muslim men don't know how to satisfy just use their women to satisfy their urges
@@Pain-AddictThe best idea is to marry a very old man who has 4 wives the wife will only have to do it once in 4 days . And when the hus band passes away she can enjoy the wealth no need to have s6x anymore live in luxury without any pain.
I know a woman who kept refusing her husband bed because he never satisfied her in bed and he is not able/willing to improve .And because she did not want to be cursed by angels,asked for divorce but husband did not want because of the complications that will come with it(children,his love for her ..etc)So he accepted the situation.Interesting,right?But the hadith said "...if he IS ANGRY....the woman will be cursed" So ,him accepting the situation does not mean he is not angry anymore.Which means the wife is still cursed I suppose.So the wife is thinking to divorce anyway because is his ANGER that brought curse upon her and is known that people can only control actions but not feelings .Any thoughts on that? (The man does not want his wife to be cursed,but he can t be "not angry"with the situation.)
Its only if he is angry, but you have to ask yourself why men settle for so little these days, and not care about their own RIGHTS, is it because feminism has won?
@@razamughal9095 Well for centuries patriarchy was the norm. How much did women suffer over the centuries? What about your mom or the women in your family? Why don't you ask why did feminism start even in muslim countries?
@@absolutelynobody3837 having sex with someone without their consent whether you are dating them married to them they are drunk they are sex workers still RAPE
All of you in the comment section, please dont argue with each other .If you are not happy with your spouse then just leave eachother and dont spoil each others life and avoid social pressure Its your life
Holy Quran 2.280---And if someone is in HARDSHIP, then [let there be] postponement until [a time of] EASE. But if you give [from your right as] CHARITY, then it is Better for you, if you only knew.
Holy Quran 4.6---And Test the ORPHANS [in their abilities] until they reach Marriageable age. Then if you perceive in them sound judgement, release their property to them. And do not consume it excessively and quickly, [anticipating] that they will grow up. And whoever, [when acting as guardian], is self-sufficient should refrain [from taking a fee]; and whoever is poor - let him take according to what is acceptable. Then when you release their property to them, bring witnesses upon them. And sufficient is Allah as Accountant.
I have a few questions: 1. What if the woman asks and the husband refuses? Why doesn't any Islamic teacher address this COMMON issue? 2. Can refusal be allowed if it's due to mental harm? (severe trauma, suicidal thoughts, extreme stress, etc) Edit: My second question was SOMEWHAT answered later, because forced sex can cause psychological trauma. But, my question still remains. Can she refuse because sex causes her psychological trauma? Also, that's so weird to abandon her in her bed as "punishment" because that's giving her what she wants lol🤣 3. Another question. If a husband really loves and cares about his wife, why would he want her to suffer by doing something which causes her stress? If he wants her to do something for his desires, which is harmful to her, isn't this being inattentive to HER needs?
I base my answer on the authentic ahaadith and the Book of Allah. 1. The husband should accept the wife's advances, as intimacy is an integral part of marriage. But it is not her right over her husband to ask this of him, rather the husband has that right over her. A wife's right upon her husband is explained in her video, which is safety and provision and other forms of caretaking. Again, while the husband should do as his wife asks of him in this situation, the Law does not obligate him to do so. 2. No, if intercourse causes her psychological trauma, she should instead find a husband who does not seek intimacy. Because intimacy is an obligation upon a woman to give to her husband so long as the husband provides for her needs. 3. I'm not a psychologist, and this question looks disingenuous to me though I try not to assume your intentions.
Well if sex causes trauma and stress, husband can solve this issue by divorcing 😂. No sex ever again 😂. Or woman should accept the second wife, which is impossible in this age.
1. For wife its a sin if she refuse the husband desire, but for husband it doesnt (he can accept/refuse) but remember one of the husband role is provide the wife,and provide is wide it can be financial,protection,biology,etc Thats mean when husband refuse there will be consequence ,like cheating,became mad/angry/sad etc. The good husband is the one who understand teaching in islam. The right its different but the way to get that right is same 2. No, its almost like point number 1 or brother/sister @decade0240. 3. Just divorce, ur case its too one sided on the wife The household will harmony if the husband and wife fullfil their role, ur case is a jerk husband no need take this and that ,just divorce it The wife not gonna feel forced if the husband fullfil what she need, and vice versa. If its too one sided than there is wrong in it(husband/wife) Husband right have their ayat, and the wife right have their ayat, but ppl too focus on opposite role ayat which mean not their own ayat , like husband use wife ayat to justify the "obey thing" meanwhile the husband forget their ayat about provide,lead, etc / vice versa. And thats why like ur case will happen. In alquran maybe Sound like "husband sided" but if u reall really understanding it,actually it for husband and wife , they have same right Thats why in islam there is 4 reason to marriage : 1.Understanding religion ( priority) 2.wealth 3.beauty 4.noble family/lineage Point 2-4 its have diadvatage like 2&3 its temporary (wordly) it not permanent weatlh can be bankrupt anytime,beauty will fade when the age come, noble family (royal family/prophet muhammad descendent/child of sultan etc) only a few percent in this word. But for religion its permanent either on this world/hereafter(akhirat(paradise)), u master when it come religion u have guarantee to have harmony/happy marriage. Marriage bcs Love only on hollywood/marvel/disney, love will come from allah and will be given to husband and wife close to allah or keep on straight path (siratal mustaqim) ,practice the obligation/law & avoid the prohibited (haram). Dont forget to shalat and practice zakat/infaq (charity),May us keep on the straight path ❤
@@wokestTurtle ? 😀🔪 ur so rude……😤 sorryyyy my emotions took over but anyway you should also respect trauma ya know ? and let the person heal with love and compassion not forcing them right away …..
No. If she is not holding her end of basic rights, then he should either work on fixing that marriage or divorce and get another wife. A second wife is NEVER a solution to a bad relationship with the first. You'll only mess up the first marriage even more and potentially the second through that.
@@4c_Hijabi Notice how you emphasize that the man should be the one fixing the marriage and not both or the woman. I do agree with you saying that he should leave her for a woman that is willing to fulfill the husband’s right: intimacy.
Then again we also don't have a choice because we are more at risk of being stalked, kidnapped and r*ped. That's how messed up it is. We literally have no choice but to marry.
Well since intercourse is not allowed before marriage, then such a situation cannot be known. And also, sometimes a woman who is in a loving marriage might not feel in the mood or have an excuse as to why she doesn’t want to engage in intercourse at the moment.
If a man wants to have sexual intimacy with his wife and, for some reason, she give him a blunt no on more than one occasion, he must be doing something wrong. I doubt very seriously a wife says no with a smile on her face, thinking it is cute or funny, when it's not.
@@shafeeqahsmith6999 if any man or women never wants to have sex with his wife or her husband then why he/she should even marry? The purpose of marriege is to love each other and have kids so if u Don't want these then Don't marry its simple
Really sad how this information was hidden and misused during my moms and her female relatives times. This is why there are so many narcissistic moms who suffer from post natal depression, hate there children all because they were force to have so many children. Practically every year pregnant I hope and pray be Male of the new generation married have the care and consideration to use birth control and ask for intimacy not forced. A sis is literally huge due to meds’ all cuz the husbands want to raw it. Poor wife
We captured excellent women for ransom. We decided to have sex with them but by observing 'azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid-conception). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), and he said: It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born. Sahih Muslim 1438a
How does it get to the point where a husband or wife has to force themselves on one another? I’m really curious because it’s sad and hard to think about.
Let's not stretch the topic keep it simple.... ☝️ Straight to the point - In and only 2 situation a wife refuse to intimate...... *1- Physical problems ( i.e. related to body yeah u got it) *2- Emotional problems ( this one has high chances, always critical and covers many reasons like.. Stress, tiredness, forced marriages and last but not least she doesn't like u ) So if she has #1problem than husband has no right to intimate and even it can be considered haram in some cases. But if she has #2problem and husband is righteous enough to listen but she isn't telling her than its her fault because no man will try to have sex after knowing her wife's emotions rather he will try to calm and solve her problems only an animal will force her to get in the bed. Matter solved 👍🏻
So if have I have emotional problems I can stop paying the bills ?? So a woman is also an animal if she asks her husband for provision because he is stressed, tired or doesn’t like his wife) ?? I agree with the forced marriage part though.
@@ibrahimorton93200998 So u r comparing intercourse with paying her bills i.e. needs or we can say money, so my answer is if u can pay for ur provisions,needs etc when u r stressed or tired then u r wrong my brother why not for her, because i m damn sure that when she is tired, stressed or emotionally unfit she will not have intercourse even if most handsome men of 2022 offers her, she will not even look at him but u my brother paying ur bills even when u r broke than why not for her... I have a question for you " Will u be happy if you r making out with a woman but she doesn't have any feelings...will u be able to enjoy that kind of intimacy? If yes than ur lust has taken over ur senses. Hope you got my point , GUDLK 👍🏻.
@@mydad4216 oh yeah Of course I’m comparing it. And I can even give more examples like if a someone breaks in to the house and tries to rape her or assault her I’m supposed protect her even if it costs me MY LIFE, but according to your logic I can say "honey you know work has been stressful lately so you handle it on your own this time, go out there and deal with intruder because you’re a strong woman😃" Why ?? because screw you (not you personally) I’m not providing and protecting a woman who fails to fulfill her duties without a valid reason and no being" stressed "or "having an argument with your friends" or "workplace problems" (I’m not gonna let even 1 of wives work anyway outside of the house) isnt a valid excuse. I fulfill my duties even zhen I’m stressed or not "in the mood" or feeling depressed and I expect the same from my wives. Of this kind behavior occurs in relationships of course I’ll try advice her to change first but she insists I’ll give her divorce and that’s gonna be it. Bruh basically you expect men to fulfill your needs while you fail fulfill his needs for no legitimate reason. 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️the hypocrisy. And lastly YESSS it’s always better get connected, enthusiastic sex but Allah has given us men the ability fulfill our sexual desires and have a release with a woman’s body without having feelings for her or her having feelings for us.
@@ibrahimorton93200998 One thing which almost every modern women does is that she earns by herself. She is self suffient enough to fullfill her requirements. So, your argument is flawed and invalid for the most. You share the same name as our beloved Prophet Ibrahim, however you lack basic behavioural and conversational etiquettes required of a muslim man. No women likes or wants to be near such aggressive and imposing men.
@@sunnysparkle9950 one MAJOR thing that you overlooked that even if a modern women is self sufficient(btw which she isn’t at all, they still rely on men general for everything but that’s an argument for another day), she still expects her man to pay the bills so your argument is invalid, secondly sorry to disappoint you but most women are biologically aroused( not "attracted" but aroused which even stronger then attraction) by agressive, assertive men. Like they can’t even control it. Second of all your S.I.GN language (shame, insult, guilt or the need to be right) has no use against me. I never compared myself to Ibrahim (as) nor did I choose to share his blessed name but it’s quite funny 🤣 to listen someone who calls himself sunny sparkles(is that even your real name??) try to shame others for their name. 😪what a clown world.
Women should never be forced but if a men slacks off from one of his duties then he is blamed for it 100% and is also never allowed to give a explanation
Still, he cannot force himself on her.. forcing himself is pain on another level.. yes men are blamed and all that even then you cannot sexually force yourself on her..
@@birdangel91 Yes you are right forcing (sorry my first language is not english) is not allowed or a good thing but women also need to understand men. How is it like to get denied so many times of just a stupid thing called I am not in the mood. Still not allowed to force yourself over her. But is also his feelings who are getting hurt. Brother you know that there many evils sins but nudity more in western society and all over the world that the men had to keep his gaze low from. We know that all men do not commit zina but we all also know that all men also don't force themselves on the women. Just feel the way if he is constantly denying you how would you feel about that. Anyways if I said anything wrong that may offend you or hurt you then I am sorry. Have a nice day 😃🙏
Literally same. Simply pathetic. Like how could you speak of women as simply an object of pleasure? they're twisting the words of the sharia and Allah to their sick intentions. Simply pathetic I tell you. And they genuinely think they're being slick about it.
@@Holdyourhandwhiledancing They think we're dumb and stupid, like we can't peep game. If these men are not married, they don't deserve wives. They deserve prostitutes. If they are married, I sympathize with their wives. May Allah help this Ummah! Ameen!
the amount of ignorant muslims in comments is insane . Let me say one thing : If a man forces himself on his wife , it will be considered zina . rape and it is haram and then Allah will punish you on the day of judgement. If your wife does not want intimacy, just sit down with her and talk , sort out your problems nicely . Fear Allah always . Nobody will be able to save you from him. Just think about it, how would you even run from judgement of Allah. I pray that Allah guides our Ummah on the right path , Ameen.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real bruh, it is still rape , the punishment is a 100 whips and on the day of judgement, it will be even worse , u cannot force any person to do anything for you except for when teaching your kids about namaz
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real bro, i continously learn fiqh from quran and authentic hadiths , and i agree it was my mistake that i said whips , stoning but the problem is that u cannot force anyone
Yes you are right, Marital Rape is forbidden according to Islam. But my brothers, guess what is not forbidden? P O L Y G A M Y Go get yourself another elegant wife, thereby you have multiple options for the night. If one wife denies, the other may accept by chance.
I’m not going to even watch this, I’ll make it easy for anyone thinking about watching this. It’s not acceptable to force your wife to have intercourse. That being said, as a wife you have a responsibility to your husband and should you deny him that right for reasons (other than not feeling well) such as spite, then you will be responsible for paying the price of that decision and Allah does not look kindly onto this. Husbands - you have rights and responsibilities and it’s your responsibility to be the best to your wives. Don’t abuse your rights and remind your wife of her responsibilities. Its really Simple
Mash'allah sister, what a wonderful summary. I still can't believe you haven't watched this video. If you are married, May Allah S.W.T make your marriage Mubarak, and bless your marriage, and may Allah S.W.T protect your marriage from Evil eyes and envy people. And I wish the same to all Married Muslim households. Wallah your husband is a lucky person and should hold firm unto you because you've understood the basic principle of marriage pretty well. If you are not married, I pray to Allah S.W.T. to gift you a respectable, god-fairing Muslim man, who will treat you as the queen you are. And I wish the same to all single Muslims and Muslimahs myself included.
This video seems to be very biased towards women on not holding them accountable for their mistreatment to their husband and trying to make women believe that there is very minimum accountability to refusing to oblige with her wifely duties. And the way it's trying to hold the man accountable for every duty he is required to do for any shortening in it he will have made a grave mistake. I think this post should've taken an unbiased approach towards them both equally and fairly while explaining each to their duties and what's really wrong about it when one refuses to comply, not just the man. And also for women reading this... don't treat having intimacy with your husband as if it is some kind of a chore. Treat it like a reward for both of you.
Alhamdulillah, in my case my wife force me everytime, lol. And I beleive it's because of I'm strictly following the bedroom and intimacy etiquettes taught by the messenger of Allah. Masha Allah.
Simple... It there will b harm physically to Women to her body Then She can Deny , and also man has to think as she is his wife....But if there is no harm or anyissue to her body She can't Deny then....She can't said that she has no will or other secondry cause..... She should b happy that Her Hubby will not b involved in Sins...And they will b successful in Aakhirat also.... May Allah Guid all of us
Guys to prevent this situation in the early stage of knowing a girl asks her "how many times you want to do it per week" If her number is not similar to yours (less or greater than yours) just leave her and find a new girl. It is better to find a partner that has clear mind on certain topic and this is one of them. The other topics are: Level of Islam (how many prayers she does in a day, hijabi or nah, level of faith), Family oriented girl (she wants more to grow her children) or business oriented girl (she wants to dedicate her power in doing jobs and leaving the children to the grandparents) does she wants babies (and how many) or nah or just want to adopt them. These are important questions. If one of the requirements are not there don't waiste her time and importantly your time. In later stage of knowing her you will know her character and if all is good then do get married. Marriage is a contract, this means that even if you dont feel to do a thing you have to do them anyway cos it is like a duty, love comes after nikah, remember it.
As a Muslim girl, if a guy asked me that question of "how many times" how am I supposed to know? Maybe if you've been married before then you would, but if you haven't you don't really know. Also it's the most awkward thing ever and most girls would feel really embarrassed and weird to answer that :)
@@emibud1055 you are supposed to know by the feeling your body gives you. By how much libido yuo think you have. And these things you will figure them out by time. Anyway, it is better to be embarrassed early but responding to the question than crying later and accusing your husband of "abuse"
This sounds like the best thing to do! Idk why everyone in this comment section is arguing over consent. It’s just sad really. Discussing these things and being open is so important so that it isn’t a shock to the girl or guy after marriage.
@@meenafarah exactly, if you dont open up to your future partner on your needs to whom you will be talking? To friends who cannot do anything about it? This is why these conversations are the keys to have a healthy marriage. Thank you, you are the first Muslim girl on YT who agrees with me. I already had these talks and girls I met never became embarrassed so I think that they are embarrassed only on UA-cam 😂 Jazakallah Sister
Nowadays it seems to be already normal that the guy forces the woman to have intercourse if she says no. The insane thing is here, that under any circumstances, if she doesn't want to, there is this guilt trip, explained very much in this video. If the woman doesn't want to, she will face the wrath of angels, they curse her.... like wtf. Guilt shaming at it finest. Yes, "Marriage is based on love", true, but whole video is more like "Marriage is based on sex", that is what it more sounds. If you love, doesn't mean you have to engage into sex, but men just don't want to understand this, they want to take what is their "right", they think they are right, but they aren't. And, angels are definitely not here to punish anyone, I can guarantee you in that.
most of the Muslims have arrange marriage where love doesn't happen until kids. Your spouse dies and you get a new one after iddah period. That's how life is is many many Muslim countries.
Tell me one thing then, Shouldn't I be sad why Quran obligated for me to be a protector of my wife and earn for her and give her the best life I can in my income? Why hadith doesn't force wife to go out and earn while men can sit at home do Netflix and chill all day?
@@Maxwell_V Are you really implying here that a wife with kids has nothing to do at home? Do you really think that a woman is just chilling at home? Do you have any idea how much work it is to look after kids and do household and taking care of the husband? It is a 24/7 job, without a break. And on top of that Quran might not force women to work (it also doesn't force men to work), but nowadays men and women have to work because everything is so extremely expensive. Most women have to put themselves so much back, just for the sake of the husband and the children.
@@mizulightblue sweetie,quran makes it an obligation for men to comply on financial needs aka working. a wife with kids have alot to do at home (the house downplaying housewife is insanity ngl) a specific role given to oneanother, but islam also makes it an obligation for men to comply for a woman's sexual needs as well (one can refuse if its harming to their body or themselves)
intimacy is a right which both have husband and wife. The idea of marriage is to avoid zina thats why both are obligated to satisfy their needs. If the marriage is good and both happy there will be no reasons for deny. If there problems then husband/wife will deny and then they should communicate.
What about woman that get denied. My ex husband spent 16 years from almost the get go in a seperate bed. He'd only come to bed when he wanted to get his rocks off. İ was very miserable in that marriage. Alhamdulillah I'm out of it. İ was brought up to believe that sex is something women shouldn't be craving if you do it's slutty and unladylike. İ did crave it and I'd tell him. Sometimes he'd fulfil most times he was too busy ignoring me for childish arguments to be bothered doing looking at me let alone sleeping with me. İ don't why exactly why Allah made our paths cross or for me to be so silly to waste 18 years of my youth with him.
@@dailydeen5742 İ wanted to marry a African man my mum kept saying no he must be Muslim and from our race and culture. Bla bla so when İ met a guy that was relatively handsome polite Muslim and same colour and ethnicity as me İ said yes. My own fault.
Assalamualaikum, brother/sister who makes the channel I would like to tell you that next time in a video please use another animation of a woman. I have noticed that the girl in the video you have used is a bit sexualised, like the tight clothing and the heels.This is not how we as Muslim women wear things, it is not the hijab Allah has told us to do. Using images like that might influence/normalise the hijab which isn’t correct. Jazakkalah I loved the video❤️
Men is not a criminal or animal I can say it by my experience of men's I have around me or I have interacted with there is some exceptions in every thing in the world 🌎 Allah made women for men and men for women both are amazing creations of Allah Subhanahu wa Taala may Allah bless us all and bring all of us on straightpath in the light of Islam.
Man should learn to Control their desirees. All Problem arises from this. Were they never singel prior? How did they even lived before marriage I am asking my self. This ist pathetic. If shee says No than there is a reason. ;) Man uppp man uppp man uppp. And try celebecy for a few Weeks IT will only make you Stronger ...why dont men know this:(((( IT makes me more than sad.
Allah gave both men and women minds with which to think, reason, and exercise self-control. Men expect women to maintain their composure (exercise self-control) at all times, while they think that because they are men, they can just go buck wild and crazy and get out of control anytime they please, and still demand wives to get out of their clothes and come to the bed when called! And when wives don't do that, those very same men already know about those angels! Gross!
Also men has the right to say no .... Just don't come to him if doesn't want to talk , don't want you to touch , sit with him also ...it's also his freedom
Brothers and sisters : Please stop arguing. Please gain complete knowledge from the ahadeeth. Don't be selective. The video explains it from both perspectives. Brothers : You need to provide for your wife and you cannot force yourself on your wife whatsoever. Sisters : You cannot deny your husband unless you have a seriously Valid islamic reason. And if you do deny be ready to accept the curses and punishment as mentioned.
To all the Muslim men in this comments section who quote hadith ad nauseam, especially the "angels cursing the wife" hadith, and who read and criticize my comments (you know who you are!) about our beloved Prophet Muhammad and his wives, our Mothers of the Faithful (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him), I just want you all to know this: No honorable, respectable, right-thinking Muslim man (especially if he is married) would find fault with those comments. None. All of you have minds with which to think and reason. It's up to you all to figure out what I just said. Muslim women do not need to be educated about them. We are NOT dumb in the Deen! We already know that our beloved Prophet and his wives (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon them) would agree with my comments. Hands down. Oh, last time I checked, money, sex, and testosterone don't rule or dominate marriages. Only Allah the Most High does. And he always will. Just thought y'all should know that. Another thought: Y'all sure y'all don't follow ISIS?? Someone made a comment that there are Muslim men in the comments section who follow ISIS who says raping wives is allowed in Islam. And they still say Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) is their role model on how to treat women, wives in particular. You mean, y'all hate him that bad that y'all have to lie on him?? Astaghfirullah! Yall must have serious manhood and/or testosterone issues to take your revenge out on Muslim women in this comments section. No wonder y'all hate women!
DAILY DHIKR TO REMEMBER ALLAH (SWT) SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme) Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One." [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:67, Sahih Muslim, #4:2071] 2. Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:168, Sahih Muslim; #4:2071] Abu Dharr reported that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said, "Shall I tell you the words that Allah loves the most?" I said: "Yes, tell me, O Messenger of Allah." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The words dearest to Allah are: subhanAllah wa bihamdihi”. [ Muslim and at-Tirmidhi.] 3. La Hawla wa la Quwatta illa Billah (There is no Might or Power except with Allah) [the above is] a treasure from the treasures of Paradise.[Sahih al-Bukhari; al-Fath al-Bari #11:213, Sahih Muslim #4:2076] 4.SubhanAllah, walHamdulilah, wa La illaha ilAllahu, waAllahu Akbar (Glory be to Allah, All Praise is for Allah, There is No God but Allah, Allah is the Greatest) The above are mentioned as the four most beloved words to Allah. It does not matter with which one of them is begun.[Sahih Muslim; #3:1685] Abu Sa`id (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said, "Perform the enduring goods deeds (al-baaqiyaat al-SaliHaat) more frequently." They asked, "What are these enduring good deeds?" The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied: Takbir [Allahu Akbar], Tahlil [la ilaha illallah], Tasbih [Subhan'Allah], alhamdulillah, and la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah. 8
No wife would happily agree to intimacy at night if the husband has been rude/abusive the whole day. Having intercourse with a man who only hurts your feelings and doesn't treat you any better than an appliance is torture itself. I hope none of my sisters (and brothers) have to be stuck in a torturous marriage of such kind.
Understand that it's obligatory, not optional, for wife to do that
@@FIFANATICS imp, having tension between them and bad energy in general is a valid reason for her not to do it.
@@Humpbackrue not really.
The more I read on the comments section the more I worry for the wives and would be wives represented here.
You are so right in your comments.
Imagine the hell some of these women put up with, because of the fear of being cursed by angels, or beaten because the husband FEARS she might disobey him. Just because they really don't feel like being USED that night.
Imagine the trumped up imaginary superiority the men must feel because of these verses and hadiths.
One person just told me this hadith and it made me feel like I was looking into partner abuse.
*The husband is your heaven or hell (Authentic hadith)*
OUCH!
The you have this one:
FIFANATICS
11 days ago
Understand that it's obligatory, not optional, for wife to do that.
Why do women in Islam marry at all?
Then there is this guy:
Wish Princess Charming Was Real
11 days ago
@FIFANATICS You should be kind to your wife and respect her as well. You can present things in a polite way.
Thank heavens, there might be some Muslim males worth marrying out there for these girls.
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'a: The Prophet said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day."
Sahih Bukhari 7:62:132
Well that says it all doesn't it.
I am in the process of a divorce now, because my husband is slightly better than an animal. He has "needs" several times a day. He curses me all day, is rude to me, is horrible to me, and yet wants me to give in multiple times a day. Despite the fact that I have been at work all day and dealing with our children all night. I am praying this divorce comes soon and he leaves.
I hope you re doing better now
I raped my girl one time because she said no, well she went to her mothers house and came back with great news that she was pregnant and after check up they said it was a son, well I was happy because I had daughter before my son, and my clans legacy will be passed through to my son atleast I hope he doesnt go kafir cause that would drop him out of my clan... either way I heard in hadith that if a husband requests his wife to come to bed and she refuses angels will curse on her.. so you shouldnt say no and allow your husband as you will have fun and he also doing it and it will unload alot of stress for both of you, maybe make him even chicken wings for him to go another round,well my wife does that and it is better than viagra lol...
well here is my son and my name till faqi umar the son of sultan muhammed shamsudin of yemen under caliphate, faqi umar defeated the ethiopian king that was harassing the people and muslims there and became a sultan there...
'abdallah: 'abdallah Mursal Xuseen Mursal Cali Axmed Cabdi Cumar Cabdi Shiikhow Amiin Maad muxamed (baa Xasan Cismaan Faqi Cumar Aalu Sheekh.
I raped my girl one time because she said no, well she went to her mothers house and came back with great news that she was pregnant and after check up they said it was a son, well I was happy because I had daughter before my son, and my clans legacy will be passed through to my son atleast I hope he doesnt go kafir cause that would drop him out of my clan... either way I heard in hadith that if a husband requests his wife to come to bed and she refuses angels will curse on her.. so you shouldnt say no and allow your husband as you will have fun and he also doing it and it will unload alot of stress for both of you, maybe make him even chicken wings for him to go another round,well my wife does that and it is better than viagra lol...
well here is my son and my name till faqi umar the son of sultan muhammed shamsudin of yemen under caliphate, faqi umar defeated the ethiopian king that was harassing the people and muslims there and became a sultan there...
'abdallah: 'abdallah Mursal Xuseen Mursal Cali Axmed Cabdi Cumar Cabdi Shiikhow Amiin Maad muxamed (baa Xasan Cismaan Faqi Cumar Aalu Sheekh.
inshallah
ربي يرزقكِ بالرجل الصالح الذي يخاف ربه و يعوضكِ.
This is not a very huge problem because Muhammad (SAW) said, "The best of you are those who are best to your wives."
He also said " True Muslims are those from whose hands and tongues others are safe."
yes it is.
just because the prophet saw said it doesnt mean people are following it.
get a reality check
@@b265In reality Both should try to understand each other and make a good family instead of demanding toooooo much. If they followed their duties they would not have this and that.
What you said is really beautiful but scroll down and read some of our sisters comments. Its kinda concerening.
@@saimonnaherchowdhury6903 bruh sisters want tall, handsome, successful men who only takes one wife and quack quacks for them. But if a man just asks his basic rights it’s too much 😔I think marriage is no longer option for me with women's role becoming negotiable depending on her mood and whim. While mens roles stay the same.
@@ibrahimorton93200998 Allah knows best. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said:
اَلْخَبِيْثٰتُ لِلْخَبِيْثِيْنَ وَا لْخَبِيْثُوْنَ لِلْخَبِيْثٰتِ ۚ وَا لطَّيِّبٰتُ لِلطَّيِّبِيْنَ وَا لطَّيِّبُوْنَ لِلطَّيِّبٰتِ ۚ اُولٰٓئِكَ مُبَرَّءُوْنَ مِمَّا يَقُوْلُوْنَ ۗ لَهُمْ مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَّرِزْقٌ كَرِيْمٌ
"Wicked women are for wicked men, and wicked men are for wicked women. And virtuous women are for virtuous men, and virtuous men are for virtuous women. The virtuous are innocent of what the wicked say. They will have forgiveness and an honourable provision."
(QS. An-Noor 24: Verse 26)
So I think if we trust Allah we don't have to worry that much.
* Via Qur'an English quran-en.com
Yeah forcing is never allowed. It's a sin. However, sometimes men need to lower their ego and communicate properly. It won't make them look desperate. Rather it will help the relationship.
Sounds fair.
The 'however' doesn't make any sense in your comment since both parts are bashing men lol.
@@designcalligraphy7395 Lol you are right about the however part. However, I didnt mean to bash any one. Least of all men. In fact, women have the right to refuse and men have the right to marry more than once if they wish to. But forcing wife for this is a strong NO NO.
I was talking about the fact that men may feel angry at the refusal. But their ego doesn't let them communicate their feelings properly. Because they feel they will appear desperate. So they keep getting angry inside and the wife sometimes even doesn't have a clue what is happening.
@@Learning_9000 saying forcing wife to bedding is no no. Is the same as saying forcing husband to provide is no no 🤣
A Muslim brother made the following comments on what a wife is:
"A wife is not just meant for desires. She is a companion, a homemaker, a mother. She has other duties too apart from fulfilling her husband's request. The request shouldn't be frequent, shouldn't cause harm or inconvenience. It shouldn't interfere with other obligations like praying. So even though men have right, they should exercise such right with caution and fairness. They should be considerate as well. I think this will help in a relation because a wife who feels valued will never disappoint. Happy wife is a happy life."
There is no doubt in my mind that all honorable, respectable, right-thinking married Muslim men would agree with these comments. (If Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) were to read them, I believe he would agree, too.) Sadly, a Muslim brother disagreed with this, accusing the brother who made the comments of encouraging women to refuse their husbands for sexual intimacy! What the hell! And these idiots all insist that the Prophet is their role model on how to treat women, wives in particular! They lie!
I am convinced these foolish Muslim men are secretly jealous of the Prophet because they know Muslim women defend him, and they don't like it. So they, very subtly, manipulate and twist hadiths, (especially the "angels cursing the wife" hadith), and Qur'anic ayats (especially 4:34, the "beating" verse) to promote male supremacy and misogyny, which the Prophet never, ever did.
These idiot Muslim men push legalized prostitution, not marriage/sexual intimacy: Men put out the money; wives put out the sex! And they abuse the exemplary character of the Prophet while doing so! Gross!
Excuse the man. Blame the woman. It never fails. May Allah help this Ummah!
Thank you soo much for this whole information . Your right husband wife reaction is really pure they are each others soulmate . They should understand each other love,respect and care for each other . But sadly our society is like men provide money for everything wife provide s##, baby , chores etc which is a disgusting thought . Marriage is not something like that . This bond was made in heaven but nowadays generation is ruining this concept and non Muslims are spreading fake things about Islam 😢😢
so what we can say in reply to "angels cursing the wife" hadith plz tell me
@@misscreative68651. Allah ordered the prophet to not give fatwa about women, everything regarding women is already written in the Quran. There’s a clear verse stating this.
2. IF that was true then the same goes for men! If a man refuses the angles will curse him. BUT, it’s a right to be earned. You have to be a good partner that has human decency in order to expect anything physical.
@@omaima99999 so you disagree with the hadith?
Hadith is another form of revelation from Allah (Surah Najm, Surah Haqqah, etc)
So hadith is basically Allah's law
@@aatif7518 this is the belief that messed up with our ummah. There are many falsified “hadiths” that were falsely attributed to the prophet that he never said and they don’t agree with the Quran. I can’t fathom how many people believe so many hadiths that are against God’s words and law of (there is no force in religion)
1.Many of the men don't even do proper foreplay. And if they finish first they don't help their wives to orgasm either. Stop being selfish during intercourse.
2. I've read about many women wanting intimacy but the husbands deny it, or have early ejaculation problems but refuse to get help from doctors due to ego. They forget women want to be satisfied too. Why be so selfish? You're only seeking your pleasure while neglecting your wives. Be co-operative, understanding while being together.
And those guys whining about multiple marriage and wives. Like dude you can't even satisfy one wife to have intercourse with you. What makes you think you're going to be able to satisfy multiple women? Not to mention, if you're not allowed to have multiple wives unless you can treat them equally. You can't even treat one right, how are you supposed to treat multiple wives equally?
Just have sabr and ask for Allah's guidance. Be kind to your wives. Stop treating your wife like an object.
well said brother well said
Islamic culture doesn't recognise women's satisfaction
@@DownShifted and how do u know
@@Coolrubs source of your statement ??
THANK YOU!!!! we srsly need a more open discussion about that womens sexual rights are barely ever fulfilled
It's never halal to force women.
no its allowed! pls learn islam
@@bullseye9723 what is allowed exactly? A wife needs to obey her husband, true... as long as the husband is worthy of his wife.
Marriage should be based on love , not law. So if there is love, he will not insist on it.
@@bullseye9723 give the reference please..
@@salouali6899 if she is his wife, what else will make him worthy, thors hammer. 🤣
TREAT YOUR WIFE SO LOVINGLY THAT SHE WOULD NEVER EVEN WANT TO SAY NO TO YOU FOR INTERCOURSE...MAKE HER ENJOY THOSE MOMENTS AS WELL
I don't think it's the right thing to say, because you can treat your wife/husband like a queen/king and there's gonna be a time when they are gonna say no to that, not because they don't have a good time doing it with you but just because they don't want to and it's a normal thing that you should respect and still treat them the same.
@@desperatdarling8144 i totally agree...but some people in this comment section are so one sided...they just want the wife to obey the rules and not DARE to say no to husband. So i was making a point that if you want ur wife to never say no to you then do some efforts yourself as well..cuz a healthy relationship requires efforts from both sides.
@@sour462 Yes of course, I understand what you tried to say
@@desperatdarling8144 The Hadith is pretty clear, a woman who refuses her husband to do intercourse(without a reason, like being sick or menses) is sinful (that is if the husband is angry, which happens most of the time), the angels CURSE her till morning and Allah is displeased with her.
Nowadays most of these "muslim" women, who like to behave little bit like rebels to their husbands (cause of the influence of the west,satan and their own nafs) even go as far as taking half of the mans wealth in case of divorce (that money to her is like fire and whatever she eats from that fortune is fire to her belly).
Look, if you are a muslim, fear Allah, YOU and everyone of us will be questioned.
If you are not a muslim or a "nice" muslim a modern muslim...then trust me you are better without Islam, Allah doesn't even need the worship of the Angels and the Prophets combined, and Allah surely doesn't need our half-assed worship (the muslim nowadays).
@@desperatdarling8144 I dunno much but I do know if we are to talk of equality and as a man I have to do certain things without my liking for ''Her'' liking, then it should be the same for her....
Our society is so uncomfortable with the concept of marital rape because we have internalized this very belief that if a husband forces himself on his wife, it must be allowed. And one time forced intercourse isn't an isolated event, it will spoil the relationship. At least for me it would, I wouldn't be able to forgive my husband for it ever and probably never love him either.
I remember trying to discuss it with my mother and she just laughed at it and said ''Well then a wife shouldn't say no'' which is true. However, there are circumstances when maybe the wife is feeling not well, shouldn't the husband care a little about her wellbeing?
Also, I wish men would be taught about 'foreplay' as well. If only they would entice their wife into intimacy then nobody would have to toss and turn.
@@acidmana7920 Any man, Muslim or non-Muslim, who believes he has to use physical, brute force on his wife if she refuses sexual intimacy, endorses legalized prostitution and rape, not sexual intimacy. For a man to resort to either or both horrific behaviors in order to get some sexual play from his wife means that something is not going right in the marriage.
I agree, no man with real love for his wife should want to make his wife have sex with him when she doesnt want to.
And that's when women starts using their husband s needs as weapon @@izzyaddis
The wife will cursed by angels all night if she say no to intercourse without any valid health related reason
Wife has the right to demand physical intimacy from her husband at any moment too, if he is not providing proper intimacy and only satisfying his own needs, that is ground for divorce
What a beautiful religion. But we are deprived of seeing it because we are indulged in ignorance. May Allah(s.w.t) light our minds and open our chest to Islam and hidayat
You can't see it cuz most Muslims don't follow the rules and as outsiders you only see what they do not what's written in the rules
Little platitudes to conceal his bullshit.
"If a woman does not answer her husbands call to bed, and he gets angry with her, the angels curse her from dawn till next dusk".
Bad attempt, dawahgandist.
We captured some of the women as prisoners, and the long separation from our wives was pressing us hard and we wanted to release sperms outside of the women (coitus interruptus). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) whether it was permissible. He said, "It is better for you to release sperms inside."
Sahih al-Bukhari 2542
@@takiyaazrin7562 you must feel really good about yourself spreading misinformation. Its clearly writtem in the hadith that they should not do so.
@@takiyaazrin7562 "it is better to release your sperms." Hahaha. Don not be decieved. Research before you post anything. Do not become an uneducated enemy of Islam. You will just strengthen our faiths nothing else. Educate yourself and then misguide us. IN SHAH ALLAH when you educate yourself you wont feel the need to fight us.
Good, constructive and matured discussions here. One thing I find missing is that conjugal rights belong to both. The term ‘fulfilling the desires’ is projected in such a way that it appears to fulfill only ‘husband’s desires’ as if the wife has none. The fact is, both spouses’ desires are fulfilled in the act when done mutually and lovingly, both get satisfied. Also, even the husband may refuse due to valid reason (e.g. being too tired or not in the right mind). But this aspect is rarely talked about due to the stigma of being called not a man enough. The act of intimacy without love, affection and passion for each other, merely remains just an act, a physiological/mechanical one. The relationship of a married couple is based on love, trust, understanding and respect for each other’s feelings. When these things are present, the question of who is being fair or unfair to the other would not arise at all. None should take for granted the other.
I recall here one saying that when two people fight/argue, they raise their voice, shout at each other even if they are in close proximity because their hearts are far away. But when two people’s hearts are very close, even a look into each other’s eyes reveal what the other is saying.
"the husband may refuse due to valid reason (e.g. being too tired or not in the right mind). But this aspect is rarely talked about" -- EXACTLY WHAT I'M SAYING 💯
But I'm yet to find any answers about this
Forcing someone into intimacy is abuse/rape. Also when you are married. Marriage doesn’t allow you to do with the other persons body what you want because you want it. That is just horrible.
No it is not
They are married and It is his right
@@imanahmed185 I think you should take a secound, and a third and maybe a fourth look to grasp the thruth of this lecture.
@@imanahmed185 forced intercourse even in marriage is considered Zina on the man. There's a hadith about it go read.
@@rani_3133 Could please tell me the hadith name and number.
no means no. forcing your wife or husband into intimacy is a sin. It's a sign of abuse. at the same time, you shouldn't also weaponize intimacy in the long term. Also unless either person is ill it's very unlikely they wouldn't want to be intimate. if these problems occur ask yourself this:
am I making intimacy enjoyable for my spouse? am I doing foreplay correctly. have I done something wrong to make them angry more? intimacy won't solve any extra argument you have with each other. Solve them first then move on to intimacy. there is also a matter of a person being asexual but thats a different topic
lastly, intimacy is a RIGHT of BOTH spouses. both have needs. solve the issue first, go to marriage counseling in a happy and safe environment, and ask an imam. now if all matters fail then you have the right to leave one another with good intentions.
@King Sultan wrong the only sin is if both people weaponising intimacy. It’s not a sin to say no that your culture talking . And before you talking about the hadith Mohammed hijab has said it refers to both genders so stop being a clown.
@King Sultan and assim al hakeem is a liar a racist and a marital rpe defender 😂 you call him a sheikh is the funniest sht ever wahabis make me laugh
@King Sultan man this btch really quoted the racist assim al hakeem 😂 take this ratio bozo.
@King Sultan man really dismissed Mohammed hijab and quoted assim al hakeem the biggest munafiq freak on this platform . Very ironic
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I think The solution of this is to have better and mature communication with your spouse. Husband and wife both have to be merciful to each other.
May Allah grants us all a righteous and
understanding spouse. Ameen
Jazakallahh.. This is something we need to throw some more light on.
I am a woman too but the comments “when a woman denies there is a reason” make me angry, my sisters there are bad women, narcissistic women, problematic women who deny just to make a man angry for no reason so let us not make women like angels. Yes this problem is mostly caused by men but not all the time
It’s true sex tends more important for men compared to women, you are really mature for pointing out that both gender can be selfish. I have always hated these gender wars, you get nothing but just more hate from the opposite gender.
And that's the reason Majority of marriages in the west are sex less , because Women are not aroused quickly as Men and so they tend to deny Husband's rights and Husband's remains miserable and sexually frustrated
"Mostly caused by Men". Feminist Detected Opinion Rejected!
Women tend to also treat having intimacy as a chore that they have to do. Which is completely wrong. You're rewarding yourself and your husband. Make him happy, and you'll be happy too.
@@Adel508Tkdtbh if intimacy feels like a chore then something is wrong. if your husband makes you happy it wouldn’t feel like a chore to have sex. not saying it’s always the man’s fault, it might be that the woman is discontent bc of something she is doing too but if sex feels like a chore they need to communicate and figure out why.
It's sad how some muslim men try to normalize martial rape by manipulating ayats and Hadith.They also say it's femininism that wives don't want to be forced upon by their husbands like wth bro???? One of my guy friend believes that there's no such thing as martial rape (jokes on him) I was so disappointed in him. Once a husband forces himself upon his wife, trust me,things will never ,ever be the same for her.she will never be able to love ,respect and support her husband like before. The value of her husband and marriage for her will go down by A LOT. It's absolutely disgusting how some muslim men try to normalize it.
This is what happens when you learn Islam from a European scholar that changes Hazrat Ayesha age you do not really have the knowledge of hadees you only have the knowledge of how to please European come to another country or to south east asia I learn through Islam loser
Nikkah means contract of sexual intercourse. No marital rape in islam
The word martial "rape" is ridiculous and outrageous !
Yes, respect and acceptance is foremost while approaching your woman.
If a man not follow it, he's forcing himself on her, loosing respect infront of his woman and Allah but it's not a sin .....
Let alone a "rape" !
It's a pure Western and feminist term .... In Islam after marriage there's no such thing as "zina" or "rape" in a couple.
@@nimomemre6550 he's forcing her,meaning he doesn’t have her consent but he's doing it anyway cz he wants it. Learn about the definition of rape first. Rape isn’t about gender or the relationship between you and the person who's raping you. It's about CONSENT. But if u are a man and talking like this,then I understand. We don’t expect anything better from y'll anyway
@@naveedinamullah6850 so marriage is all about having intercourse? Talked like a "real" man didn’t you🤡
After reading all those comments peoples are just clashing with each other in the matter of intimacy so I think I can remain single forever.
No benefit of remaining single . You might think its ok now but when you are gonna reach your 50s 60s thats when your gonna regret it.
@@truebeliever1516 that's the only reason I have in my mind for marriage. We need to survive in this world 😔😔
@@truebeliever1516 but now a days women is out of control I don't think it's worth to put yourself in trouble to just get a benefit of marriage in your 60s because no one knows we can ever reach that age or not.
@@ahmedraza7749 Yes, they are out of control for normal men. If you can increase your value and become dominant they won,t be out of control from you.
@@truebeliever1516 well my nature is very dominant and I am a little bit angrier type of guy but the problem is I don't think women would love a guy like me so that's the reason I am afraid of Marriage because if she denied me to have Intercourse with her I don't think I can control myself in that situation.
I have had a forced arranged marriage a year ago wihh my cousin, from my mom and relatives. I wasn't ready to get married, but they insisted that I get married coz my age is increasing and I will have problems with conceiving later. They did even give me the choice to choose a spouse of my own. They forced to marry my cousin itself. Ppls words were so hurtful and traumatic to me. They manipulated me into getting married to him. And now even afteer marriage I don't really feel like getting intimate with him much. He is understanding, but I am not even able to turn it down when he asks for it. Also ppl were advising me to just let him if he wants, bcoz that's the way we can keep them in control, or else they will seek somewhere else. I have been thru this and many I used to get so depressed after tht. It isn't even a pleasant experience for me either, bcoz I was forced into this, and don't have feelings for him like tht either. It really hurts, affects our mental healht too.
We captured excellent women for ransom. We decided to have sex with them but by observing 'azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid-conception). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), and he said: It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born.
Sahih Muslim 1438a
@@takiyaazrin7562 I didn't get you
@@ayeshasamrin299 dear sister ,if your husband is a good person (he seem to be one because he don't force u to do deed) then u must let him do what he want ,try to talk to him ,know more about his like and dislikes ,it will help u forget that u were force into this marriage ,now u are in this relationship ,try to normalize it ,one of my czn was forced to marry her brother in law after her sister's death ,she did not allow him to touch her for years ,it took her 4 years to let things become normal and have a child ,her husband passed just after she give birth to her first child,now she is single for more then 12 years and regret for wasting most beautiful years of her life with her husband,I advice u to not waste your time over delusional thoughts of force marriage try to make your husband happy with you ❤
@@sabcoachde she doesn't love him, do you not understand that part?
@@sabcoachde yes you explained it to get right❤
It is just like a normal couple but you can't neglect his needs and you can't force her either.
Which one of you are watching this video who aren't married yet
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the entire comment section bruhh
@@Maxwell_V 🤣🤣🤣
Wife is not a slave to husband. Same as husband is not a slave to wife.
Exactly. The best man is the one who is best to his wife.
Quran 41.46--
Whoever does RIGHTEOUS - it is for his [own] SOUL; and whoever does EVIL [does so] AGAINST it. And your Lord is not ever UNJUST to [His] servants
Everybody talks about rights of whether men or women but neither of them ready to take their Responsibility!
True!
Yeah. Are you?? Are you willing to be a proper husband just to deserve a good wife? Do first, talk later.
@@SeaShellsSeaShells89 Are you his wife?
@@SeaShellsSeaShells89 yes "GOOD MENS ARE FOR GOOD WOMENS AND GOOD WOMENS ARE FOR GOOD MENS" Qur'an 24:26
@@afiemon lol XD
I have been victimized to this. I didn’t known who I could go to get help from because it was too much to tell. My marriage is basically done and we don’t even live together but, I suffer from what was done to me.
I'll pray for you sister . Inshallah you'll be rewarded in the hereafter for your patience. And i pray Allah helps you get over it and see the better days.
I am so sorry for you. May Allah heal you from your trauma. Never let again anyone abuse you in the name of anything and especially not in the name of Allah who is the most Merciful.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real whats youe point?
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real umm sir if a man 10x times bigger and stronger than you grabs you and shove his 🍆 inside you and you physically can't fight cuz he's stronger and he'll beat you up if you do you still wouldn't call it force? Sounds like a rapist who would say she enjoyed it 🤮
I'm so sorry to hear that. May Allah SWT bless you and hope you'll recover from the trauma. (Ameen)
To sum it up yes women can say no to intimacy . However they shouldn’t weaponise intimacy neither can the guy. You’ll see a lot of Muslim men who follow isis in the comments saying raping your wife is allowed . It’s not they’re all gonna burn on judgment day for spreading wrong information and encouraging others to sin
Women can say no to intimacy and its not a Sin,right?
@@muslimboyilyas775 that's Right.
@@Ils1822 r u muslim?
@@hasibabdullah3463 exactly, constant denial= second wife.
@@dailydeen5742 what makes you think a women would let you get another wife 😂 she will have it written in her contract beforehand so all you can do Is divorce which she’ll benefit as she’s keep her mehr
You addressed the issue perfectly! JazakAllah
لَآ إِكْرَاهَ فِى ٱلدِّينِ ۖ
Let there be no compulsion in deen (surat Al-Baqarah 256)
@Healing Misogynist
Don't!
The goal isn't about controlling someone . It's to aid each other in getting to Jennah.
Islam offers options for those with big intimacy appetite.
Anytime your peace, happiness and Taqwa of Allah is threatened, seek mediation. If your condition doesn't improve. لا قوة و لا حولا إلا بالله
@Healing Misogynist Not according to the video, the Quran, the Sunnah or law of most lands, today.
@Healing Misogynist Have to recognize that your in a relationship, that expects that of you. Otherwise, your husband will seek to fulfill his desires elsewhere.
It doesn't warrant taking by force. It highlights that it is transgression of duties. Similar, to the man that abandons his responsibilities, as mentioned regarding safety etc. earlier in the video.
How can safety be a responsibility of mine, and then I justify raping you I.e. making you feel unsafe?
It’s clear in surah Nisa, 3 steps . No woman or man would end up fighting if love exists.
How can any man force his wife to do something like this? She’s a human being. Not your chattel. Secondly why would you need to force her? If you love her and treat her right, I don’t see why you would have to do this
If either spouse doesn't want to be intimate for long periods of time, there is a big issue here and they need to discuss it
Easy solution talak talak talak and then marriag a new girl
@@themousekiller8959 fixing the existing issue is probably less pain in the head and less cost
Polygamy marriages are corruption...
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires!
@@themousekiller8959 wow yet another false flag (except it's a sarcasm).
@@narcissistlovepolygamy6221 there is no way you can't see how dumb and contradictory you sound 😂 "tbis verse shows the danger of polygamy" yet allah has also permissed polygamy "marry what you desired of women, two three or four", you can't interpret quran to discredit quran, that's illogical
Excerpts taken from the article "Honor Code of Death" by Donna Abu-Nasr, Associated Press, Atlanta Journal-Constitution, Section C, Sunday, July 2, 2000:
" 'Men worry about their honor and dignity as if women had none' ", said Azza Suleiman, an activist at the Center for Egyptian Women's Legal Assistance. "They stripped us of our honor and appointed themselves its protector".
"Women have been shot, burned, strangled, stoned, poisoned, beheaded or stabbed for being friendly to a brother-in-law sitting next to a man on a bus, falling in love with the wrong person, talking to a man on the phone or even for being raped".
"In Yemen (recently), a man shot his daughter dead on her wedding night after her husband said she was not a virgin. At the mother's insistence, the daughter was examined by a doctor--and was found to have been a virgin, said people familiar with the case.
It turned out the husband was impotent and knew his problem would have been exposed because he had to display a bloodied rag as proof of his bride's virginity. He lied to protect his honor."
There are Muslim men who abuse and manipulate hadiths, (such as the "angels cursing the wife" hadith), and Qur'anic ayats (such as the "beating verse", 4:34) to promote and justify male supremacy and misogyny. Their objective is to always protect and defend men's honor and dignity at all times and at all costs--even if that means destroying or denigrating women's honor and dignity. Tragic!
Excuse the man. Blame the woman. It never fails.
It will be really good of the man doesn't ask for intimacy after an argument
That will fix everything
If u love your wife you wouldn't ask her her such thing after a fight
Good point, dear sister!
This.
It's extremely manipulative and disgusting to ask for intimacy even though you know s/he still angry with you.
As a girl, I'd say life is not always about intiacy and physical relationships. It's about understanding each other, their patterns and emotions too.
Men simply cannot force women to fo whatever they want.
Honestly, guys in the comment section are making marriage sound like it's scary all because of their ego!!
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real to take care of the kids to help each other.
Did you ever heared the word "romantic"
Sex is inside a couple but it is not the only thing inside it. You're totally wrong if you think it's the only thing that makes a marriage important and worth it
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real
What ???😂
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real you look like someone who never had a girlfriend 😂or be with someone that you fell in love with.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real who said I was Muslim?
Having a girlfriend doesn't forcefully mean having sex that the thing you didn't understand, having a girlfriend mean going together to understand each other and to see if the other match us
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real
That mean that your comprehension of what a relationship is is very limited and think that the major party of it is sex every night and everytime
I don't understand how this is fair.
How dows Going to work to provide to your wife and yourself compare with having sex? You can't be in the mood for sex if you just had an argument, if you are sad etc. Sex isn't a practical job, it's phycological. Mood for sex comes from your mind
Well going to work can be based on mood as well. A man can wake up one day and not feeling work at all, But he has to because of his family.
@@designcalligraphy7395 you are obligated to go to work because they will fire you. A wife that isn't working, must cook and clean or else they won't have food to eat and of course take care of the kids! It's not her choice. Both have their jobs and they are equally important, so the wife doesn't owe sex to her husband because he works. Both should enjoy it and do it for fun not as an obligation
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real I don't reply to someone who comments under everyone that marital rape is good. Working for momey is as hard as cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, taking care of your children. I remember when I was a kid my mother always had something to do.
@@i.8885 Nobody said she owns the husband sex because he works, The comparison is about how mood should not prevent the husband from having his right just like mood doesn't prevent him from working to provide for the wife.
If a husband's leadership in the household stinks, why should he still expect his wife to come to the bed when called?
The marriage tie is in the hands of husbands, not wives. Husbands can very easily abuse their power over their wives, if they're not careful. So, if husbands "can't get some" from their wives, wives don't eat? Who is gonna cook the food--husbands?? If there are children in the home, they will notice something is wrong if Mama is not eating, and they and Daddy are. How will men explain that to them?
If wives have earning power outside the home, will husbands intentionally go to their wives' places of employment, intending to get them fired, insisting they have the right to do that?
Will husbands kick their wives out of the house if they "don't get some" from them and not give a damn what happens to them?
Money does strange things to a lot of men out there! Too much power!
I never think of my rights which I have over her, I only think of her rights she have over me.. if she denied me of whatever I ask of her, I don't get mad at all, though I felt a bit dispirited, I've never denies her request if it is within my power to provide her of what she need, I'm happy to oblige. my marriage philosophy is simple, we are bound with contract, do what you must to uphold your side of bargain, do your best and if the other party fail to uphold theirs no harm are to befell upon you.. it simply reflect your leadership quality as you can handle mistreatment and yet still I can treat you with compassion.
Mashallah 😍 Your mentality is on point, brother. May ﷲ bless you with a loving pious spouse inshallah.
But when a women is pissed at her husband she really can't have intercourse with him. Forcing herself would feel digusting. So men have to treat their wife correctly before asking for intimacy
Exactly my Sister !
While she's aware of the hadith that she is cursed by the angels if she refuses the bed?
Women should know this
@@aatif7518 it's between her and the lord
@@mamewedjisylla7991 of course
My point is that it's a serious and grave matter for the wife to refuse the bed without valid reasons
And if a man refuses to feed his wife, to go to work, to fail to protect her honour, is it justice for him to claim his wife doesn't please him enough and so he can abstain from his duties?
Comments from another Muslim man speaks volumes:
"A wife is not just meant for desires. She is a companion, a homemaker, a mother. She has other duties too apart from fulfilling her husband's request. The request shouldn't be frequent, shouldn't cause harm or inconvenience. It shouldn't interfere with other obligations like praying. So even though men have right, they should exercise such rights with caution and fairness. They should be considerate as well. I think this will help in a relation because a wife who feels valued will never disappoint. Happy wife is a happy life."
No doubt, Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) would agree with these comments if he read them.
Now, I know that there are those Muslim men who would deliberately twist these words to make it look like I am lying on the Prophet. No problem. I'm used to it.
Another Muslim man objected to those comments, and told the brother not to justify wives refusing. What the hell!
but wives refusing without valid excuse is haram! Go read Hadith and Quran god dammit!!!
@@Maxwell_Vfalsified falsified falsified, go ask God for forgiveness for having a r””””py mindset
Love your wife, treat her well and with kindness and gentliness, and she will feel loved, thus, develop the desire for intimacy. Simple as this 🌷
The Prophet of Islam did not need to force any woman, when many are guided by him......
Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) knew how to command the respect and trust of women. There are Muslim men out there who don't have a clue how to do that. Why do they think women love, respect, honor, and trust him, even unto this day? He feared Allah. Nuff said.
BarakaAllahu feek ya Shiekh!
Holy Quran 17.7--
"If you do GOOD, you do GOOD for YOURSELVES; and if you do EVIL, [you do it] to YOURSELVES."
I wish someone told me this before. My female teacher was wrong. Every feelings I felt that day was a test. Alxamdulillah anyway.
Wait really? What did she say?
Your teacher said what lol
@@jhsemoxitha3821 judging by the title i think she probably said marital r.pe is halal
I hope all the Muslim men commenting know that Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) never had a narcissistic, superfragile male ego problem. He knew how to command the respect and trust of women, especially his wives. He was always secure in his manhood. I don't care what problems arose in his marriages. He handled them well. Above all, he always obeyed Allah. And his wives knew that.
Now, if any of you men are married, I truly sympathize with your wives!
As always comparing man to be like prophet pbuh which is good but not women to be like the wives of prophet pbuh .
Poor six year Ashia with that pedo. Should never happen!
May God's wrath fall upon all who justify pedos.
How can you compare us to ths Best of man? Thats like comparing you to any of his wives.
@@truebeliever1516 Really?
@@r.i2007 Really?
Subhanallah the fact that some so called muslim men need to be reminded or tought about this is very sad and proves their ignorance and ego..no offence to any men but many muslim men use their cultures or traditions they were raised in their country as if this is islam..islam and culture are two different things and many make mistakes of mixing these two..subhanallah i know many women very unhappy in their marriages and it makes you wonder whats going on in their homes..plz be kind to your wives and be good examples to your sons...
Well said! Alhamdulillah!
It just makes me angry because of the fact women feel pain Not men. It's never them feeling the pain during intimacy yet there's still some of them in the comments saying it's okay to force your wife. Which inflicts physical pain and traumatizes which is haram. So evil. Yet this is what Allah has prescribed for us how merciful..😒
And they say "yOu cANt cHanGe IslAm yOu FeMiNist" while shoving their most disgusting and selfish desires from their culture unto other throats. I know these men dont have taqwa nor do they love Allah. Theyre just a bunch of control freaks.
@@Ils1822 the best man is the one who is best to his wife according to our prophet. So if you see that a lot of men mistreat and disrespect women, just know that Allah s.w.t is sending you signs to stay away from them.
@@Ils1822 and let Allah do justice. You know when Allah wants to curse someone, He lets them do whatever they want in this dunya because He knows what is waiting for them on judgment day.
Assalamu Alaikum,
Jazakallah so much brother, this has cleared up the misunderstanding I had about these hadiths and if rape in marriage was allowed in Islam. Please continue to do videos like these, they really do increase my imaan.
A man's duty is to provide,
a woman's duty is to fulfill.
If he denies provision,
whom would she seek?
If she denies intimacy,
whom would he seek?
We got no one else,
except each other.
If it is always about the mood,
the men feel lazy/tired/angry,
yet they still go to work,
because their obligation is to provide.
But if they fall sick, or meet with an accident, they wouldn't go.
Similarly, the only reason for the women to deny intimacy is sickness, mensuration or an accident.
The Prophet had 11 wives,
if one wife denies,
he would have another to ask,
if she denies, he got another,
and so on.
But most women oppose polygamy,
and a man only has his one wife.
@@dailydeen5742 no, the job of a woman isn’t to satisfy men, it’s to care for the house, and she should be doing it if not sick or have a reason, same thing with men providing, but if a woman wasn’t in the mood, he never and will never have the right to touch her
@@hopebby4389 Why touch when we can divorce? 😂
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real did you really ignore his first comment?
@@dailydeen5742 bro, you made a perfectly BALANCED comment yet they still can't comprehend it. Man these women only think about themselves.
The video is very clear. The only issue I am seeing is women and men commenting about women saying means no.
This is not what the video says.
You can not refuse intimacy without a valid excuse. Just not wanting is not the reason as her temporary unease and discomfort is less than the harm that would occur.
Your husband might start seeking another relationship or go into porn.
Don't weaponize the intimacy.
Though forced intimacy is an emotional trauma, why is the woman not allowed to refuse if she is not okay with that? Why is she being cursed?
It confuses me and makes me sad a lot. I believe Allah honours and loves women. I wanted to stick on to Him for life. I feel like things like this are a bit confusing.
The same I feel about Iddah too.
Can anyone make me clear?
May Allah Almighty bless this Ummah...Ameen
Where do you think the man should fulfill his desires ?
The man has rights, we all the time talk about women rights in marriage
If the woman didn’t have a legitimate excuse but still refused then who’s gonna fulfill the man’s right ?
Also, who said forcing is allowed ? It’s not but the point of the hadith of the malaekah is that women should do it if they had no legitimate excuse
Well, here we speak about a valid reason to refuse, if she is sick, she just had an argument with a friend, or in trouble at her job (in those cases she would be smart to explain it to her husband because he is not mindreader 😅) that's a thing that the husband has to take in consideration. But on other cases, like i don't want but... there's no reason, i want to watch a TV show. That's not fair, because in a couple you have to understand the other and make effort. A man is a man, with all his desires. Imagine you in his feet, you restrain yourself, you wait for marriage to fulfill your desires in the way Allah wants to, and everytime you want to make love you have to struggle, to negociate... what is the consequence ? frustration. The man will go see somewhere else. But Yeah a man that each time he sees his wife wants to have sex is a bit too much to handle for a wife, so she need to explain to her husband so they can find a compromise, BOTH need to make efforts. For the couple's sake.
Firstly, I have my doubts concerning the accuracy of hadiths. At the end of the day, Allah (SWT) knows the best. I'm just gonna explain as per my limited knowledge and understanding of the situation. May Allah guide us to the right path.
If a woman is tired or feels drained in some way, I don't think it'd be invalid for her to not want to engage in sexual activities. A marriage is supposed to be fulfilling for both spouses. It's not a sole prerogative of the husband. If the wife is in a mental or physical state that makes it difficult for her to get intimate with her husband, I don't see any reason why it wouldn't be counted as a valid reason. Allah doesn't intend to make religious practices harsh or difficult for us. With that being said, if someone's spouse continues refusing to engage in sexual intercourse with their partner for no valid reason whatsoever, it's unfair from every perspective.
As far as Iddat is concerned, the medical science back then wasn't as advanced as it is today. When these rules were ordained, the identity of the father played a pivotal role in determining how the child would be regarded in the society. Therefore, the period of Iddat helps avoid any such confusion regarding the child's lineage.
Is the man allowed to say, "Meh, I don't feel like working today. Go beg in the streets for dinner"?
Actually men will also get cursed if he refuse without any legitimate reason this hadith is for every one
No one is entitled to physical intimacy if the marriage is abusive, broken and painful. Intimacy is something to be nurtured, invested in and balanced.
your 100% right but we are talking about women who refuse intimacy for no reason just like I'm not in mood or any thing else
Holy Quran 31.17---“O my dear son! Establish Prayer, Encourage what is GOOD and Forbid what is EVIL, and Endure Patiently whatever Befalls You. Surely this is a resolve to aspire to.
wow wow Subhan Allah.. Alhamdulillah... Your this explanation has given me my answers cause in our society.. Bangladesh, Our local scholars always state the half things.... and by that they are making islam looks like bad infront of others even if they Don't intend to...
With this comment section, permanent singledom sounds more appealing.
Same here bruhh
aside from religion I’m a doctor and forcing someone to have sex will make them Sick both emotionally and physically, and for the men in comments put yourself in a women shoes , you worked all day and are so tired and your husband asks for intimacy , y refuse , he forces himself on you , believe me you will hate intimacy and your husband for that and if the situation repeats many times the relationship won’t be healthy anymore and it will end with divorce so please try to be gentle with your wifes and please don’t use intimacy as a weapon against your husbands and refuse every Time 😇
so why doesn't that woman leave and find a guy with Erectile dysfunction or become a lesbian all together. After that she won't have any issues with intimacy, kindness, relationship, cleaning the house or ending up in Jahannum all together.
@@Maxwell_V, why men need to marry anyways if they cannot be righteous husbands
@@Maxwell_Vlol
As a guy, first if you have a sexual drive, refrain yourself, your wife isn't a tool. Now if this hadith is authentic 100% Allahu a3lam. I see this as sketchy, because sex for woman isn't as stimulating for men and it can be painful. I believe the woman whether if she just doesn't want to because she doesn't want to go through the pain it's fine. I personally feel whilst having sex if the woman is doing purely out of requirement, instead of love and pleasure, that would make me uncomfortable and her. As a Muslim you shouldn't be a dog, whether if you are naturally tempted often, have self control and be able to control your lust and desires. I would rather see my wife asking or be GENUINELY willing for her sake and my sake, than her saying yes because she has to. That's just not according to Islamic teachings, and I believe that strays you further from your iman whether it is true or not, woman are not flashlights. Now I am no feminist, don't get me wrong I believe in traditional masculinity and femininity living according to eachother, but in no way would my wifes by law requirement by Allah, is just please your husband when he wants you to, so you can have a home and food. What's the difference between that and a prostitute, they do the same thing, they have sex whether they like it or not, so they can keep a roof over themselves. Prostitution I see it as one if the biggest sins, so in no way would I have my wife be pressured and having to be mentally forced to hsve sex, solely for my sake. Where is the Deen in that? Just because we have the title of wife and husband in Islam, doesn't mean we, or I should be asking for sex when she doesn't want to. Now I personally don't believe this hadith is true, I could be ignorant and fatwa shopping, Allah a3lam. But I just see this not in accordance to true Islamic teachings. This is like when children use "Mohammed said you have to give food when you look at it as a childish excuse to get free candy. When my wife doesn't want to have sex, it is mentally damaging and would make her have a subconscious hatred for Deen, and especially sunnah, thinking "why would Allah make me do this?" (If there is alot of typos, it's because I wrote alot and typed fast, I'm not going to check over it and fix it lol.)
My brother, you make excellent points which I agree with. I believe you are one of the very few Muslim brothers in this comments section who don't abuse this hadith to the point where it makes our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) look like a misogynistic womanizer addicted to sex. For these Muslim men to even think Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) is their role model on how to treat women is both a joke and and an insult to his noble and exemplary character.
Your wife is a blessed woman. I pray Allah grant you both all the happiness in the world!
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real that means you will rape your wife?
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Your problem, brother.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Did you have to insult Brother Asaad like that? He makes excellent points which makes a lot of sense. Too damned callous and insensitive toward his wife! Allah forbid!!
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real Strong women scare weak men! I will continue to be very hard on weak Muslim men. No sympathy! No pity! No apology! Attack whatever or whomever you want. Peace.
Society expects men to sacrifice their time and energy to provide for their families, but when it comes to their needs, everything is considered haram. What is this term "marital rape"? If a wife is sick, she can refuse; during her period, she can refuse. But if there's no excuse, why would she refuse? Does she not care about her husband? He controls himself his whole life, works really hard to afford a marriage, and she's the only woman in his life, yet she refuses to have sex with him. This could lead to zina and possibly a second marriage if he can afford it. That's the reason angels might curse her!
simp imams are the worst thing that happened to the ummah. The simp imam basically tells you: A man must provide for her queen no matter what, no matter how sick he is - HE MUST PROVIDE NON STOP.. but a women is free to refuse any kind of intimacy. new day new slay girl go girl. The world has to be given to you because you are a women. Man too much simps in the ummah.
May Allah put him and his sons in the same situation many brothers are facing with their wives. Allahumma ameen.
Refusing to sex just because of mood is same as a man saying I will provide for 25 days a month cuz I am not in the mood to provide for the rest 5 days you go starve and ware nothing or even don’t live under a roof cuz I am not in the mood. You will be homeless every time I am not in mood to provide.😂
@@Pain-Addictonly if Muslim men knew how to give orgasm and not just receive them, maybe women won't be so aversed to sex. No women would deny orgasm but alas Muslim men don't know how to satisfy just use their women to satisfy their urges
@@Pain-AddictThe best idea is to marry a very old man who has 4 wives the wife will only have to do it once in 4 days . And when the hus band passes away she can enjoy the wealth no need to have s6x anymore live in luxury without any pain.
@@Pain-Addict women are way more emotional if she feels bad she won't fulfill your needs and if she feels good she won't
I know a woman who kept refusing her husband bed because he never satisfied her in bed and he is not able/willing to improve .And because she did not want to be cursed by angels,asked for divorce but husband did not want because of the complications that will come with it(children,his love for her ..etc)So he accepted the situation.Interesting,right?But the hadith said "...if he IS ANGRY....the woman will be cursed"
So ,him accepting the situation does not mean he is not angry anymore.Which means the wife is still cursed I suppose.So the wife is thinking to divorce anyway because is his ANGER that brought curse upon her and is known that people can only control actions but not feelings .Any thoughts on that?
(The man does not want his wife to be cursed,but he can t be "not angry"with the situation.)
Tell that man to get help from a doctor.
He also has to please her otherwise let her go.
Its only if he is angry, but you have to ask yourself why men settle for so little these days, and not care about their own RIGHTS, is it because feminism has won?
@@razamughal9095 Well for centuries patriarchy was the norm. How much did women suffer over the centuries? What about your mom or the women in your family? Why don't you ask why did feminism start even in muslim countries?
@@razamughal9095 Why do you cry about feminism so much?
All those who give a lie on islam must and will answer to God
"Psychological torture, harm, irritation, nuisance.."
Why don't you call it what it is - rape - instead of using euphemisms.
No rape in marriage.
Because some men don't understand what's wrong about forcing your wife to have sex
Exactly
@@absolutelynobody3837 having sex with someone without their consent whether you are dating them married to them they are drunk they are sex workers still RAPE
@Wish Princess Charming Was RealRAPE.
All of you in the comment section, please dont argue with each other .If you are not happy with your spouse then just leave eachother and dont spoil each others life and avoid social pressure Its your life
It's sad that people need to be educated on this topic.
Please don't call it forced intimacy its called rape.
Holy Quran 2.280---And if someone is in HARDSHIP, then [let there be] postponement until [a time of] EASE. But if you give [from your right as] CHARITY, then it is Better for you, if you only knew.
Holy Quran 4.6---And Test the ORPHANS [in their abilities] until they reach Marriageable age. Then if you perceive in them sound judgement, release their property to them. And do not consume it excessively and quickly, [anticipating] that they will grow up. And whoever, [when acting as guardian], is self-sufficient should refrain [from taking a fee]; and whoever is poor - let him take according to what is acceptable. Then when you release their property to them, bring witnesses upon them. And sufficient is Allah as Accountant.
I have a few questions:
1. What if the woman asks and the husband refuses? Why doesn't any Islamic teacher address this COMMON issue?
2. Can refusal be allowed if it's due to mental harm? (severe trauma, suicidal thoughts, extreme stress, etc)
Edit: My second question was SOMEWHAT answered later, because forced sex can cause psychological trauma. But, my question still remains. Can she refuse because sex causes her psychological trauma? Also, that's so weird to abandon her in her bed as "punishment" because that's giving her what she wants lol🤣
3. Another question. If a husband really loves and cares about his wife, why would he want her to suffer by doing something which causes her stress? If he wants her to do something for his desires, which is harmful to her, isn't this being inattentive to HER needs?
same question here I have some kind of trauma and the thought of potential future intercourse gives me shivers
I base my answer on the authentic ahaadith and the Book of Allah.
1. The husband should accept the wife's advances, as intimacy is an integral part of marriage. But it is not her right over her husband to ask this of him, rather the husband has that right over her. A wife's right upon her husband is explained in her video, which is safety and provision and other forms of caretaking. Again, while the husband should do as his wife asks of him in this situation, the Law does not obligate him to do so.
2. No, if intercourse causes her psychological trauma, she should instead find a husband who does not seek intimacy. Because intimacy is an obligation upon a woman to give to her husband so long as the husband provides for her needs.
3. I'm not a psychologist, and this question looks disingenuous to me though I try not to assume your intentions.
Well if sex causes trauma and stress, husband can solve this issue by divorcing 😂. No sex ever again 😂. Or woman should accept the second wife, which is impossible in this age.
1. For wife its a sin if she refuse the husband desire, but for husband it doesnt (he can accept/refuse) but remember one of the husband role is provide the wife,and provide is wide it can be financial,protection,biology,etc
Thats mean when husband refuse there will be consequence ,like cheating,became mad/angry/sad etc.
The good husband is the one who understand teaching in islam. The right its different but the way to get that right is same
2. No, its almost like point number 1 or brother/sister @decade0240.
3. Just divorce, ur case its too one sided on the wife
The household will harmony if the husband and wife fullfil their role, ur case is a jerk husband no need take this and that ,just divorce it
The wife not gonna feel forced if the husband fullfil what she need, and vice versa. If its too one sided than there is wrong in it(husband/wife)
Husband right have their ayat, and the wife right have their ayat, but ppl too focus on opposite role ayat which mean not their own ayat , like husband use wife ayat to justify the "obey thing" meanwhile the husband forget their ayat about provide,lead, etc / vice versa. And thats why like ur case will happen.
In alquran maybe Sound like "husband sided" but if u reall really understanding it,actually it for husband and wife , they have same right
Thats why in islam there is 4 reason to marriage :
1.Understanding religion ( priority)
2.wealth
3.beauty
4.noble family/lineage
Point 2-4 its have diadvatage like 2&3 its temporary (wordly) it not permanent weatlh can be bankrupt anytime,beauty will fade when the age come, noble family (royal family/prophet muhammad descendent/child of sultan etc) only a few percent in this word.
But for religion its permanent either on this world/hereafter(akhirat(paradise)), u master when it come religion u have guarantee to have harmony/happy marriage.
Marriage bcs Love only on hollywood/marvel/disney, love will come from allah and will be given to husband and wife close to allah or keep on straight path (siratal mustaqim) ,practice the obligation/law & avoid the prohibited (haram).
Dont forget to shalat and practice zakat/infaq (charity),May us keep on the straight path ❤
@@wokestTurtle ? 😀🔪 ur so rude……😤 sorryyyy my emotions took over but anyway you should also respect trauma ya know ? and let the person heal with love and compassion not forcing them right away …..
If a woman denies intimacy for no legitmate reason then the man should really consider getting a 2nd wife.
No. If she is not holding her end of basic rights, then he should either work on fixing that marriage or divorce and get another wife. A second wife is NEVER a solution to a bad relationship with the first. You'll only mess up the first marriage even more and potentially the second through that.
Erec absolutely right
@@4c_Hijabi Notice how you emphasize that the man should be the one fixing the marriage and not both or the woman. I do agree with you saying that he should leave her for a woman that is willing to fulfill the husband’s right: intimacy.
Tell me you're single without telling me you're single.
@@Souchi-ito tell me ur wife withholds you from intimacy without telling me
Maybe in this context marriage should not happen 🧍🏾♀️ or am I tripping because if she's constantly saying no there's underlying issues .........
Then again we also don't have a choice because we are more at risk of being stalked, kidnapped and r*ped. That's how messed up it is. We literally have no choice but to marry.
Well since intercourse is not allowed before marriage, then such a situation cannot be known. And also, sometimes a woman who is in a loving marriage might not feel in the mood or have an excuse as to why she doesn’t want to engage in intercourse at the moment.
@@chanbaekistic but she had to engage when his man needs him .
If a man wants to have sexual intimacy with his wife and, for some reason, she give him a blunt no on more than one occasion, he must be doing something wrong. I doubt very seriously a wife says no with a smile on her face, thinking it is cute or funny, when it's not.
@@shafeeqahsmith6999 if any man or women never wants to have sex with his wife or her husband then why he/she should even marry?
The purpose of marriege is to love each other and have kids so if u Don't want these then Don't marry its simple
Really sad how this information was hidden and misused during my moms and her female relatives times.
This is why there are so many narcissistic moms who suffer from post natal depression, hate there children all because they were force to have so many children.
Practically every year pregnant
I hope and pray be Male of the new generation married have the care and consideration to use birth control and ask for intimacy not forced.
A sis is literally huge due to meds’ all cuz the husbands want to raw it. Poor wife
We captured excellent women for ransom. We decided to have sex with them but by observing 'azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen to avoid-conception). We asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), and he said: It does not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born up to the Day of Resurrection will be born.
Sahih Muslim 1438a
If the husband tosses back and forth angry than the angels are gonna curse. Where is the source of this hadith?
How does it get to the point where a husband or wife has to force themselves on one another? I’m really curious because it’s sad and hard to think about.
Let's not stretch the topic keep it simple....
☝️ Straight to the point - In and only 2 situation a wife refuse to intimate......
*1- Physical problems ( i.e. related to body yeah u got it)
*2- Emotional problems ( this one has high chances, always critical and covers many reasons like.. Stress, tiredness, forced marriages and last but not least she doesn't like u )
So if she has #1problem than husband has no right to intimate and even it can be considered haram in some cases.
But if she has #2problem and husband is righteous enough to listen but she isn't telling her than its her fault because no man will try to have sex after knowing her wife's emotions rather he will try to calm and solve her problems only an animal will force her to get in the bed.
Matter solved 👍🏻
So if have I have emotional problems I can stop paying the bills ?? So a woman is also an animal if she asks her husband for provision because he is stressed, tired or doesn’t like his wife) ??
I agree with the forced marriage part though.
@@ibrahimorton93200998 So u r comparing intercourse with paying her bills i.e. needs or we can say money, so my answer is if u can pay for ur provisions,needs etc when u r stressed or tired then u r wrong my brother why not for her, because i m damn sure that when she is tired, stressed or emotionally unfit she will not have intercourse even if most handsome men of 2022 offers her, she will not even look at him but u my brother paying ur bills even when u r broke than why not for her...
I have a question for you " Will u be happy if you r making out with a woman but she doesn't have any feelings...will u be able to enjoy that kind of intimacy?
If yes than ur lust has taken over ur senses.
Hope you got my point , GUDLK 👍🏻.
@@mydad4216 oh yeah Of course I’m comparing it. And I can even give more examples like if a someone breaks in to the house and tries to rape her or assault her I’m supposed protect her even if it costs me MY LIFE, but according to your logic I can say "honey you know work has been stressful lately so you handle it on your own this time, go out there and deal with intruder because you’re a strong woman😃"
Why ?? because screw you (not you personally) I’m not providing and protecting a woman who fails to fulfill her duties without a valid reason and no being" stressed "or "having an argument with your friends" or "workplace problems" (I’m not gonna let even 1 of wives work anyway outside of the house) isnt a valid excuse. I fulfill my duties even zhen I’m stressed or not "in the mood" or feeling depressed and I expect the same from my wives. Of this kind behavior occurs in relationships of course I’ll try advice her to change first but she insists I’ll give her divorce and that’s gonna be it. Bruh basically you expect men to fulfill your needs while you fail fulfill his needs for no legitimate reason. 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️the hypocrisy.
And lastly YESSS it’s always better get connected, enthusiastic sex but Allah has given us men the ability fulfill our sexual desires and have a release with a woman’s body without having feelings for her or her having feelings for us.
@@ibrahimorton93200998 One thing which almost every modern women does is that she earns by herself. She is self suffient enough to fullfill her requirements. So, your argument is flawed and invalid for the most. You share the same name as our beloved Prophet Ibrahim, however you lack basic behavioural and conversational etiquettes required of a muslim man. No women likes or wants to be near such aggressive and imposing men.
@@sunnysparkle9950 one MAJOR thing that you overlooked that even if a modern women is self sufficient(btw which she isn’t at all, they still rely on men general for everything but that’s an argument for another day), she still expects her man to pay the bills so your argument is invalid, secondly sorry to disappoint you but most women are biologically aroused( not "attracted" but aroused which even stronger then attraction) by agressive, assertive men.
Like they can’t even control it.
Second of all your S.I.GN language (shame, insult, guilt or the need to be right) has no use against me. I never compared myself to Ibrahim (as) nor did I choose to share his blessed name but it’s quite funny 🤣 to listen someone who calls himself sunny sparkles(is that even your real name??) try to shame others for their name. 😪what a clown world.
Women should never be forced but if a men slacks off from one of his duties then he is blamed for it 100% and is also never allowed to give a explanation
Still, he cannot force himself on her.. forcing himself is pain on another level.. yes men are blamed and all that even then you cannot sexually force yourself on her..
@@birdangel91 Yes you are right forcing (sorry my first language is not english) is not allowed or a good thing but women also need to understand men. How is it like to get denied so many times of just a stupid thing called I am not in the mood. Still not allowed to force yourself over her. But is also his feelings who are getting hurt. Brother you know that there many evils sins but nudity more in western society and all over the world that the men had to keep his gaze low from. We know that all men do not commit zina but we all also know that all men also don't force themselves on the women. Just feel the way if he is constantly denying you how would you feel about that. Anyways if I said anything wrong that may offend you or hurt you then I am sorry. Have a nice day 😃🙏
Forcing is classed as rape in the uk
Reading all these comments, I'm more convinced than ever to never get married.
Literally same. Simply pathetic. Like how could you speak of women as simply an object of pleasure? they're twisting the words of the sharia and Allah to their sick intentions. Simply pathetic I tell you. And they genuinely think they're being slick about it.
For real. Would be easier to win the lottery than find a decent husband in this comment section. All my hope for love out the window 🤣
@@aikaameya3930 im honestly so scared of men at this point.
@@Holdyourhandwhiledancing They think we're dumb and stupid, like we can't peep game.
If these men are not married, they don't deserve wives. They deserve prostitutes.
If they are married, I sympathize with their wives.
May Allah help this Ummah! Ameen!
Or just have GF and replace her with another GF whenever she decides to breakup..
the amount of ignorant muslims in comments is insane . Let me say one thing :
If a man forces himself on his wife , it will be considered zina . rape and it is haram and then Allah will punish you on the day of judgement.
If your wife does not want intimacy, just sit down with her and talk , sort out your problems nicely . Fear Allah always . Nobody will be able to save you from him. Just think about it, how would you even run from judgement of Allah.
I pray that Allah guides our Ummah on the right path , Ameen.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real when you force her , it is zina and rape
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real bruh, it is still rape , the punishment is a 100 whips and on the day of judgement, it will be even worse , u cannot force any person to do anything for you except for when teaching your kids about namaz
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real bro, i continously learn fiqh from quran and authentic hadiths , and i agree it was my mistake that i said whips , stoning but the problem is that u cannot force anyone
Yes you are right,
Marital Rape is forbidden according to Islam.
But my brothers,
guess what is not forbidden?
P O L Y G A M Y
Go get yourself another elegant wife,
thereby you have multiple options for the night.
If one wife denies,
the other may accept by chance.
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real evidence for what , forcing a women , bruh, u need to give me evidence for saying u can foece a woman
I’m not going to even watch this, I’ll make it easy for anyone thinking about watching this.
It’s not acceptable to force your wife to have intercourse. That being said, as a wife you have a responsibility to your husband and should you deny him that right for reasons (other than not feeling well) such as spite, then you will be responsible for paying the price of that decision and Allah does not look kindly onto this.
Husbands - you have rights and responsibilities and it’s your responsibility to be the best to your wives. Don’t abuse your rights and remind your wife of her responsibilities.
Its really
Simple
The video is saying exactly what you just said
Mash'allah sister, what a wonderful summary. I still can't believe you haven't watched this video. If you are married, May Allah S.W.T make your marriage Mubarak, and bless your marriage, and may Allah S.W.T protect your marriage from Evil eyes and envy people. And I wish the same to all Married Muslim households. Wallah your husband is a lucky person and should hold firm unto you because you've understood the basic principle of marriage pretty well.
If you are not married, I pray to Allah S.W.T. to gift you a respectable, god-fairing Muslim man, who will treat you as the queen you are. And I wish the same to all single Muslims and Muslimahs myself included.
This video seems to be very biased towards women on not holding them accountable for their mistreatment to their husband and trying to make women believe that there is very minimum accountability to refusing to oblige with her wifely duties.
And the way it's trying to hold the man accountable for every duty he is required to do for any shortening in it he will have made a grave mistake.
I think this post should've taken an unbiased approach towards them both equally and fairly while explaining each to their duties and what's really wrong about it when one refuses to comply, not just the man.
And also for women reading this... don't treat having intimacy with your husband as if it is some kind of a chore. Treat it like a reward for both of you.
I’m 28 n my husband is 39. He cannot satisfy me, it’s so frustrating to have sex with him.
Leave him simple
You have the Islamic right to divorce him, just saying
@@Mystic_countess thank you so much for your advise 😌
Without even watching the video it is a big NO! you can't force your wife to do anything ☺️
And vise versa ?
@@DownShifted cmon bro. She can't force you to do anything
@@FIFANATICS she can force him to do his obligations in marriage
Same goes for men right then you can't force you're husband to provide and protect??
Mashallah
Beautifully explained
What about the woman that does not reciprocate the same feelings of intimacy with the husband ,it's a two way street
Alhamdulillah, in my case my wife force me everytime, lol. And I beleive it's because of I'm strictly following the bedroom and intimacy etiquettes taught by the messenger of Allah. Masha Allah.
"forces" you?
Do not minimize sexual assault.
Now where are all the angry comments about female rapists?
This is so upsetting, absolutely not okay! Try to communicate with her about this behaviour
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real You're so much more than your body. I hope one day who realize that...
That is not good!!!!! Get help!!!!!!!!!
This comment section makes me anxious 😂
Me too 😨
Simple...
It there will b harm physically to Women to her body Then She can Deny , and also man has to think as she is his wife....But if there is no harm or anyissue to her body She can't Deny then....She can't said that she has no will or other secondry cause.....
She should b happy that Her Hubby will not b involved in Sins...And they will b successful in Aakhirat also....
May Allah Guid all of us
Guys to prevent this situation in the early stage of knowing a girl asks her "how many times you want to do it per week"
If her number is not similar to yours (less or greater than yours) just leave her and find a new girl. It is better to find a partner that has clear mind on certain topic and this is one of them. The other topics are: Level of Islam (how many prayers she does in a day, hijabi or nah, level of faith), Family oriented girl (she wants more to grow her children) or business oriented girl (she wants to dedicate her power in doing jobs and leaving the children to the grandparents) does she wants babies (and how many) or nah or just want to adopt them.
These are important questions. If one of the requirements are not there don't waiste her time and importantly your time. In later stage of knowing her you will know her character and if all is good then do get married.
Marriage is a contract, this means that even if you dont feel to do a thing you have to do them anyway cos it is like a duty, love comes after nikah, remember it.
As a Muslim girl, if a guy asked me that question of "how many times" how am I supposed to know? Maybe if you've been married before then you would, but if you haven't you don't really know. Also it's the most awkward thing ever and most girls would feel really embarrassed and weird to answer that :)
@@emibud1055 you are supposed to know by the feeling your body gives you. By how much libido yuo think you have. And these things you will figure them out by time.
Anyway, it is better to be embarrassed early but responding to the question than crying later and accusing your husband of "abuse"
This sounds like the best thing to do! Idk why everyone in this comment section is arguing over consent. It’s just sad really. Discussing these things and being open is so important so that it isn’t a shock to the girl or guy after marriage.
@@meenafarah exactly, if you dont open up to your future partner on your needs to whom you will be talking? To friends who cannot do anything about it? This is why these conversations are the keys to have a healthy marriage. Thank you, you are the first Muslim girl on YT who agrees with me. I already had these talks and girls I met never became embarrassed so I think that they are embarrassed only on UA-cam 😂
Jazakallah Sister
@@damurichannel No problem Akhi 🙂
Nowadays it seems to be already normal that the guy forces the woman to have intercourse if she says no. The insane thing is here, that under any circumstances, if she doesn't want to, there is this guilt trip, explained very much in this video. If the woman doesn't want to, she will face the wrath of angels, they curse her.... like wtf. Guilt shaming at it finest. Yes, "Marriage is based on love", true, but whole video is more like "Marriage is based on sex", that is what it more sounds. If you love, doesn't mean you have to engage into sex, but men just don't want to understand this, they want to take what is their "right", they think they are right, but they aren't. And, angels are definitely not here to punish anyone, I can guarantee you in that.
most of the Muslims have arrange marriage where love doesn't happen until kids. Your spouse dies and you get a new one after iddah period. That's how life is is many many Muslim countries.
Tell me one thing then, Shouldn't I be sad why Quran obligated for me to be a protector of my wife and earn for her and give her the best life I can in my income? Why hadith doesn't force wife to go out and earn while men can sit at home do Netflix and chill all day?
@@Maxwell_V Are you really implying here that a wife with kids has nothing to do at home? Do you really think that a woman is just chilling at home? Do you have any idea how much work it is to look after kids and do household and taking care of the husband? It is a 24/7 job, without a break. And on top of that Quran might not force women to work (it also doesn't force men to work), but nowadays men and women have to work because everything is so extremely expensive. Most women have to put themselves so much back, just for the sake of the husband and the children.
@@mizulightblue sweetie,quran makes it an obligation for men to comply on financial needs aka working. a wife with kids have alot to do at home (the house downplaying housewife is insanity ngl) a specific role given to oneanother, but islam also makes it an obligation for men to comply for a woman's sexual needs as well (one can refuse if its harming to their body or themselves)
Brother, I miss that you first have to please your wife. For me, very important. But alhamdulillah, you guys do fantastic work.
this also covers the matter of martial rape...mashallah!!! our religion is perfect!
How is there damage to the marriage if she says no ?
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real but sex is something to be done for mutual pleasure, if she is not in the mood why would she do it?
intimacy is a right which both have husband and wife. The idea of marriage is to avoid zina thats why both are obligated to satisfy their needs. If the marriage is good and both happy there will be no reasons for deny. If there problems then husband/wife will deny and then they should communicate.
Love and understanding is must
What about woman that get denied. My ex husband spent 16 years from almost the get go in a seperate bed. He'd only come to bed when he wanted to get his rocks off. İ was very miserable in that marriage. Alhamdulillah I'm out of it. İ was brought up to believe that sex is something women shouldn't be craving if you do it's slutty and unladylike. İ did crave it and I'd tell him. Sometimes he'd fulfil most times he was too busy ignoring me for childish arguments to be bothered doing looking at me let alone sleeping with me. İ don't why exactly why Allah made our paths cross or for me to be so silly to waste 18 years of my youth with him.
Should've married someon else
@@dailydeen5742 absolutely. He was perfect while we were dating. İ was only 21. And he changed completely after we got married and moved in together.
@@dailydeen5742 İ wanted to marry a African man my mum kept saying no he must be Muslim and from our race and culture. Bla bla so when İ met a guy that was relatively handsome polite Muslim and same colour and ethnicity as me İ said yes. My own fault.
@@MissBehaving888 How old are you now? I'm assuming you are 38
@@dailydeen5742 42 now. İ divorced him in 2019
Assalamualaikum, brother/sister who makes the channel I would like to tell you that next time in a video please use another animation of a woman. I have noticed that the girl in the video you have used is a bit sexualised, like the tight clothing and the heels.This is not how we as Muslim women wear things, it is not the hijab Allah has told us to do. Using images like that might influence/normalise the hijab which isn’t correct. Jazakkalah I loved the video❤️
Men is not a criminal or animal I can say it by my experience of men's I have around me or I have interacted with there is some exceptions in every thing in the world 🌎 Allah made women for men and men for women both are amazing creations of Allah Subhanahu wa Taala may Allah bless us all and bring all of us on straightpath in the light of Islam.
Man should learn to Control their desirees. All Problem arises from this. Were they never singel prior? How did they even lived before marriage I am asking my self. This ist pathetic. If shee says No than there is a reason. ;) Man uppp man uppp man uppp. And try celebecy for a few Weeks IT will only make you Stronger ...why dont men know this:(((( IT makes me more than sad.
Most men masturbate before marriage, and doing masturbations after nikkah when your wife isn't ready... Then why to even get married... 😂
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real ?
@Wish Princess Charming Was Real oh ok
Just asking wdym by passive homosexual?
@@dauodkhan8893 why is this 14 year old in this comment section 😂
Allah gave both men and women minds with which to think, reason, and exercise self-control. Men expect women to maintain their composure (exercise self-control) at all times, while they think that because they are men, they can just go buck wild and crazy and get out of control anytime they please, and still demand wives to get out of their clothes and come to the bed when called! And when wives don't do that, those very same men already know about those angels! Gross!
Holy Quran 4.71---O you who have believed, take your precaution and [either] go forth in companies or go forth all together.
Alhamdulilah for Islam❤️
Also men has the right to say no .... Just don't come to him if doesn't want to talk , don't want you to touch , sit with him also ...it's also his freedom
Absolutely right bro sir . Thanks god someone is also thinking from the men side 👍😃
Brothers and sisters :
Please stop arguing. Please gain complete knowledge from the ahadeeth. Don't be selective. The video explains it from both perspectives.
Brothers : You need to provide for your wife and you cannot force yourself on your wife whatsoever.
Sisters : You cannot deny your husband unless you have a seriously Valid islamic reason. And if you do deny be ready to accept the curses and punishment as mentioned.
To all the Muslim men in this comments section who quote hadith ad nauseam, especially the "angels cursing the wife" hadith, and who read and criticize my comments (you know who you are!) about our beloved Prophet Muhammad and his wives, our Mothers of the Faithful (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him), I just want you all to know this:
No honorable, respectable, right-thinking Muslim man (especially if he is married) would find fault with those comments. None.
All of you have minds with which to think and reason. It's up to you all to figure out what I just said. Muslim women do not need to be educated about them. We are NOT dumb in the Deen! We already know that our beloved Prophet and his wives (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon them) would agree with my comments. Hands down.
Oh, last time I checked, money, sex, and testosterone don't rule or dominate marriages. Only Allah the Most High does. And he always will.
Just thought y'all should know that.
Another thought: Y'all sure y'all don't follow ISIS?? Someone made a comment that there are Muslim men in the comments section who follow ISIS who says raping wives is allowed in Islam. And they still say Prophet Muhammad (Allah's Peace and Blessings be upon him) is their role model on how to treat women, wives in particular. You mean, y'all hate him that bad that y'all have to lie on him??
Astaghfirullah! Yall must have serious manhood and/or testosterone issues to take your revenge out on Muslim women in this comments section. No wonder y'all hate women!
DAILY DHIKR TO REMEMBER ALLAH (SWT)
SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi, Subhan-Allahi 'l-`adheem (Glory be to Allah, and Praise, Glory be to Allah, the Supreme)
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Two words are light on the tongue, weigh heavily in the balance, they are loved by the Most Merciful One." [Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:67, Sahih Muslim, #4:2071]
2. Whoever says SubhanAllahi wa biHamdihi (Glory be to Allah and Praise Him) a hundred times during the day, his sins are wiped away, even if they are like the foam of the sea
[Sahih al-Bukhari; #7:168, Sahih Muslim; #4:2071]
Abu Dharr reported that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said, "Shall I tell you the words that Allah loves the most?" I said: "Yes, tell me, O Messenger of Allah." He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "The words dearest to Allah are: subhanAllah wa bihamdihi”. [ Muslim and at-Tirmidhi.]
3. La Hawla wa la Quwatta illa Billah (There is no Might or Power except with Allah)
[the above is] a treasure from the treasures of Paradise.[Sahih al-Bukhari; al-Fath al-Bari #11:213, Sahih Muslim #4:2076]
4.SubhanAllah, walHamdulilah, wa La illaha ilAllahu, waAllahu Akbar (Glory be to Allah, All Praise is for Allah, There is No God but Allah, Allah is the Greatest)
The above are mentioned as the four most beloved words to Allah. It does not matter with which one of them is begun.[Sahih Muslim; #3:1685]
Abu Sa`id (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) said, "Perform the enduring goods deeds (al-baaqiyaat al-SaliHaat) more frequently." They asked, "What are these enduring good deeds?" The Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) replied: Takbir [Allahu Akbar], Tahlil [la ilaha illallah], Tasbih [Subhan'Allah], alhamdulillah, and la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah.
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