When They Don't Value You
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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
- When They Don't Value You. If you're dating someone who doesn't value you, it will show in all their actions and behavior. It can really hurt to stay in that kind of relationship.
Craig talks about the importance of looking at someone's actions and assessing if they treat you like they value you.
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I realised it wasn’t my ex i was hurting over, it was how my life is. But new man, self empowered, gym, new friends, new activities, new aspirations - this is truly when we stop hurting. Never rely on others for your happiness
The girl is not the problem , he is the problem, its not she does not value him, its he does not value himself, I been to this sort situation where you thinking giving your love and kindness will be appreciated , but some people like for example " avoidant or low self esteem people" will walk down on you when you show them love, you need to reliase nothing you will give or tolerate will change their behaviour , you need to hit the road
YOUR SO CORRECT IAM IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE MY PARTNER KEEP TEXTING GIRLS.. WHEN ALL I DO IS SHOW HIM LOVE
I love how you touched on the fact that internet relationships are fantasy. My ex had an internet relationship with some woman in Egypt for 3 years with plans to go get her. He never did. He decided to be with me instead. He told me he ended things with her when we first started our relationship. I found out last month that he continued talking to her up until September of last year. She knew i was around but didn't care as long they were feeding each other egos. He told her that he wasn't going to go over there anymore but also kept reminding her how beautiful she is and he feels bad that he can't be with her. I feel he placed an imaginary relationship with that woman over ours this entire time. I feel so betrayed.
I’m in no contact, for a long time. At this stage I’m focused on myself. Yet, every now and again I’m overwhelmed by the same feelings I felt at the beginning... the only difference is that I’m more educated now and I would never act out on those feelings by contacting him as I used to... I’m just waiting for those feelings to pass. And they do, but it’s a circle as they keep on coming back. It’s tiring to say the least...
we’ve been together for 14 years which I presume is why I have so much trouble to get over him...
I done this in past too but you learn over and over again that this person does not value you, dont love and dont respect you.You may get some piece of hopes there and than sometimes but the longer you tolerate such person and tolerate your ownself behaviour with such person the less good you feel about yourself and the worst your self esteem goes, you get to a point you feel so low of who you are you can actually start to agree why this person does not give you what you deserve because you are letting yourself down, you are not standing for yourself, you are not respecting yourself so how can someone else?? No , let go and forgive yourself to have gone this low and focus on your life and your needs., it hurt but after few days you realise the negative effect of hoping for someone to love you feel like, when you let go you feel free
Chane B in process!!
Actions speak louder than words. I kept listening to my ex, but his actions never aligned. He had cheated on me, I took him back and he said he was going to change...then I find out he’s on tinder and meet me. I found out that he was on a date with someone when he told me he was at a work meeting. Told me all the girls on his Snapchat are his coworkers when all of them, he met on tinder and meet me. He was such a liar. He was trying to have a one night stand with all of those girls. And he blamed me for going through his phone and never trusting him 😒
thats awful. my ex also always blamed me for his bad behaviour and that i pushed him to the other girl
Look up narcissistic behavior. Sounds like what you’re dealing with. And dive deep in. It’s deeper than you may think/know, and learning could help you! Wishing you the best and I’m so sorry you went through that. Remember to set boundaries and practice self-love and healing to get yourself to a place where those people won’t be able to make you suffer. Sending you loveee
My ex was like this too. They blame you because they are too childish to take responsibility for their actions. These types of people dont deserve happiness
thanks craig. im done w/my x's behavior. 2 people have to value each other!
i always click on Craig's videos with titles such as this one, thinking my situation was worse than i knew. thankfully, i am wrong.
Actions are necessary to ensure what they say is true
"What is the level of crazy?" Craig you are hilarious even when you are describing some very unfortunate situations.
Craig i love to watch you speaking about relations, your anlysis are always genuine and i can tell you always say the truth! It’s a pleasure to watch and you are funny ! Thank you
She's a narcissist & will never change. He should go permanently no contact to save his own life.
@11:41 "What's the level of crazy?....It's off the charts."
Another great informative video, Craig. Thanks.
The important thing is to love oneself first, otherwise scenarios such as this one take root
I definitely can relate to this badly, we broke up and then a few days later she was hanging out with a guy/flirting over messages and she told me I need to just shut my mouth and be happy that she's spending time with me. This goes on for a few months(while we pretty much do everything like a couple, I drive her around everyday, and spend almost every night together) yet as soon as we go into a lounge area( university building/where all our mutual friends are) she would tell me not to talk to her in front of people ESPECIALLY when the other guy was in the room. This all started in October flashforward to April I'm still doing everything for her and (truthfully getting upset when she texts her ex in front of me and goes on "friend dates"/then goes to text the other crush guy right in front of me and tries denying she has any feelings for him. Then lord be hold she ends up asking him to hangout (while I'm still in the picture/acting like a couple but with no right to be "jealous") and they hook up together and the worst part is later that night after she's done she calls me at 1am freaking out "regretting what she did" and my dumbass allows her to come over and spend the night even though I already know she hooked up with him....next few days she literally texts him in front of me while at the same time getting mad at me as to why I'm not walking her to class or talking to her the same way...this all coming from the person who got mad anytime I would text any girl in front of her but expected me to be a "supportive friend" throughout this all and always asked why j was so bitter and rude after...move on a few months later I couldnt get over that, arguments everyday about her talking to dudes that are into her and her always saying she missed me but never wanting to come actually visit me (we moved states after graduation) now it's been 2 months without contact and I still miss her everyday but I cant help but feel like this is my fault cause she would say "I still care about you" but why would you do that with someone else if you did wanna be with me still...
I think a trauma bond. They can be mean and rude- anything, but you’ll stay, and sadly they know it and how to manipulate you. Forgive yourself for letting it slide, and losing yourself to someone who used you for their own benefit and nothing else. Hopefully by now you’ve grown and learned to respect yourself and leave someone like that.
Your responses crack me up! Good video, Coach Craig.
Im probably wrong but an internet relationship isnt just a fantasy if they make it real, just because they arent there physically doesnt make it less significant. Theres countless times where the relationship made in a traditional way blows up because they were living in a fantasy of infatuation and then came to realize the reality. Also many times where the internet relationship worked out because they already grew to love the other for their mind and heart and were able to maturely accept the other's habits because it adds to what they already love.
I agree. I hope coach isn't anti LDR cause that's what I'm trying to save. My previous relationship was a successful LDR with a wonderful British man & this recent guy is closer next state down. I don't think calling it fantasy is fair it's too generalizing it's 2022.
Craig~ if we are also one of those people that never had our needs met and are latching on to anyone that promises to meet those needs how do we go about counteracting that? How can we have a successful relationship while keeping that in mind? I'm a little bit confused but feel this is definitely important.
Awesome job
Good video!!
Nice work
Ty coach Craig for teaching us n clarify about on line n Facebook relationship is al projection ...... fantasy....
I’ve been catfished. It blows 💔you don’t know who you’re talking to if you’ve never met them irl.
He was being a doormat!!
You are very good Coach. You are number 1
Thank you :)
Very helpful
Let's just be frank here...they're both know-nothing kids. And yes it is about the age... 19 or 20 year old kids are simply at a different point in life than someone who is at 30 with a myriad of experiences under their belt. And I feel bad for that other girl he's talking to...she's gonna be a casualty of this situation.
i agree, this story sounds like crazy but then again they're only 19. lol
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Good content
Man this is so similar to my situation. It's been 3 months since she left me for a guy she met online after 6 years together. They are all in love now. She changed her number. I messed up and did alot of begging for over a month until I found out the real reason she left. We are 30 and she's just like this girl. I'm not sure if I will ever hear from her again. She broke up with me and got in a relationship with him. He's her best friend also. They knew each other only 6 months before she left me.
Yo, any update? I'm in similar situation.
Bro let her go. She did you a favor bc she let you know how she really was before you had kids and marriage. It happened to me a long time ago and I thank my lucky 🙏 stars I never married her.
Coach Craig I need to talk to you my situation is very bizarre and I need help
Used those words last night on a woman i was dated and i got well i think is the truth from her why she doesn't want to be in my life it really works . When you say i want to be valuable to you . So it's cool i said it and it worked thank you. Wow telling people how you feel about them gets it done thank you partner.
she wasnt willing to value you?
Thanks Craig I learnt so much from your videos.
If I understand correctly she probably wants to get back together after 6 months to have a place to live when she has to go back from abroad....
He behaves more like a youth house father ....but I know how hard it can be to be respectful and nice to yourself first.
52 year old alcoholic texting and seeing exs from 10 years ago forbid me to talk to my ex husband even though we had a special needs child together doesn't want relationship with me because it causes too much turmoil ???
Hi craig thanks for helping us alot.how to reach u.i need to talk to u
I'm in simillar situation. My first girlfriend left me after 5 years of being together (LDR but meeting in person once a month) because "she wants to meet other people, to see how it can be with someone else". I totally don't get it, how you can feel something like this? I turned her off for a while (Of couse, I didn't know about it) and she became cold to me, but I'm willing to repair things, work on myself, our relationship... and she just said that she doesn't want me to do anything. I love her, we were supposed to finish LDR in the next year and she was going to move to my place... I haven't heard from her for 3 months.
Im 38 yrs old and untill now i cant find someone for me..im hopeless now,i wanna be a wife too. I know im not ugly, ugly heart not also because i think other needs first before mine. Its just that im not lucky
My Heart dont ever doubt your beauty
you're pretty, I watched a video on your channel and if that's you, you could definitely be a wife for someone. Also, you look younger than 38 too
What if someone who broke up with you says things like "i love you, but as a friend", "we will NEVER be together", "I don't want you to try and make things better" and this person is cold when you text them (we used to text a week after a break up, now I use "no contant", but still - it happened). Is it possible, that this person doesn't really meant all this things? That she wal overwhelmed or something? We were best friends for 4 years, and a couple for 1.5 year - but now she seems like she doesn't even care if I'm in her life.
I'm pretty upset , I'm being ingored by his gambling n his ex dying ...
His not talking to me , ingores .so I'm in no contact..as far as I know we still in realionship...
Wow,,I so need to speak to you
he Craig me and my galfren broked up actually it was not broke up completely actual I have compromised for her family happiness and she got married with someone else but later now I m in real pain that is too hard too handle myself and ya after she got married we talked in phone she used to call and used to tell me she missed me too and wanted to meet me and it happened too we met and shared some romantic time together and after some daz later she and her husband went for vacation but now she has totally stopped contacting me and I have also not tried to reach her after some days they are coming back here and there is still chances of meeting her again but of-course she will be with her husband its been about a week they left for vacation and this time is being totally hard for me i dont want to ruin her marriage life but at least i want to hear those words filled with so much love for me for long time and want to be around her so that i can feel light and can think about my life too. I told her to call or at least message me so that it ll be atleast easy for me to move on and she said ok too but she is not doing so now m bit upset with her i have scarified my all happiness in sake of her and her family now she is being like a shit to me. now what m i supposed to do next step? how to talk to her when we meet again so that she still give attention to me and showed me those feelings? plz dont say she is married so leave her this answer is not gonna work for me because i dont wanna spoil things to worst i just want little attention from her but the real feelings not fake one so that i can live happy and let her go easily thank you
videos Variety bro that is married you aren't going to sit around wetting for her to get divorced or what bro move on with your life and don't let your life in someone else hands understand your value.
And if it's meant to happen maybe you will find a way back to each other again.
Good luck by the way.
And I'm in the same shoes like you're even worst
The girl in the email is disordered. The guy in the email needs to forget being serious with anyone until he looks at himself and determines what it is in HIM and HIS history that would make him be her doormat. This guy needs to respect himself and get to work on furthering himself in life so he can move out of his parent's home and become a man. I disagree that age isn't an issue here, at this point he's still a boy - hence living with his parents - and has no business being so serious with someone at such a young age. And speaking of his parents... where the hell are they (mentally speaking) - do they not see all this? Are they not advising him in life? Why are they enabling all this allowing some girl to live there?? Very disturbing how idiotic people are allowed to procreate with no thought that GOOD parenting goes way beyond food, clothing, and shelter.
Whats the level of crazy! lol indeed coach :) :)
My boyfriend used me for 6 months so I guess he valued me until he dumped me.
Sad you Never knew my value Men and Woman
I mean well they are 19 , to me this sounds like alll childish
Have to find girls that evaluate us.
I heard that from my EX.....lolllll
The crap people put up with, ugh
couple should've just gone poly