Living with Loss Series: Loneliness

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  • @WeepingWidowSueAna
    @WeepingWidowSueAna 2 роки тому +46

    I lost my beloved husband last month and it has been the worst pain and devastation I have ever been through in my whole life... and I have been through a LOT. There is nothing as unbearable as losing the one you love and became one with. It leaves you feeling dead and all of your dreams died along with them.

    • @clarencehogrefe1220
      @clarencehogrefe1220 2 роки тому +5

      Ann, i totally agree with what you wrote, the Dreams and hopes. Just Everything, God Bless you and your Family.

    • @WeepingWidowSueAna
      @WeepingWidowSueAna 2 роки тому +2

      @@clarencehogrefe1220 Thank you Clarence. God bless you and yours as well.

    • @marybutcher9511
      @marybutcher9511 2 роки тому +5

      I lost my husband last summer. The emotional pain was and is unbearable. My husband was my other half. Half of me was torn away.

    • @WeepingWidowSueAna
      @WeepingWidowSueAna 2 роки тому +2

      @@marybutcher9511 I am so sorry Mary. I feel the exact same way. It's like the pain gets worse and worse instead of better. I am so truly sorry that you are going through this too. :(

    • @WeepingWidowSueAna
      @WeepingWidowSueAna 2 роки тому +4

      @@marybutcher9511 I am so, deeply sorry Mary. I feel the pain in your words and I feel the same way. It is just unbearable. My husband was my better half and he was a part of me like no one else has ever been. I feel like my soul has been ripped into pieces. It's just unreal pain. Hard to even breathe most days and the agony is just unable to be described in words. I am truly sorry you are walking this terrible road too.

  • @deborahmccall5617
    @deborahmccall5617 7 місяців тому +2

    The way you ecspress your loss and share your grief ....helps me to move through my day...Will listen to this often...Lost the love of my life March 8 2024....its still very raw 🙏 🌹

  • @wynettegreer3812
    @wynettegreer3812 3 роки тому +14

    There are no more holidays just days very long days

    • @jeanroberts5101
      @jeanroberts5101 8 місяців тому

      Thank you beautiful it’s so hard being alone so many tears. Memories not coping ❤️❤️great video so meaningful bless you ❤️❤️❤️

  • @wandasewell4501
    @wandasewell4501 2 місяці тому +2

    After my husband died, I stayed with my daughter, her husband, and my grandchildren, and I still felt alone.
    Everywhere I go, I feel alone.
    Hopefully, the saying: "Time heals all wounds" is true.
    I just need time.

  • @fembot521
    @fembot521 3 роки тому +13

    Lonely in a crowd is exactly what it’s like. Their presence doesn’t make up for the a sense of that person you lost.

    • @africaafrican8931
      @africaafrican8931 3 роки тому

      You said it all,I lost my grandma/mama I even talked about it
      ua-cam.com/video/oFZztgwFdjA/v-deo.html

  • @babiryewinnifred2079
    @babiryewinnifred2079 3 роки тому +12

    I am praying that I can be able to bear solitude. I am working on being okay on my own. I think what I need is to be able to be alone without being lonely. I want to be comfortable with myself.

  • @katec9893
    @katec9893 Рік тому +3

    I lost my father, five aunties and uncles, my wonderful volunteer job that helped me manage depression, and my fantastic, beloved cat who was my best friend and daily companion, in the space of a year and a half. I've never felt so lost in life, I feel so disorientated. I don't have a partner or any children. The life I had, a lot of it has crumbled away. I'm struggling with depression, loneliness and motivation to keep going. I was coping well with everything until my cat died because she was an incredible soul and she helped me to cope with all the other losses. I'm grateful for this UA-cam channel, I'm finding it one of the few channels that really understand grief.

  • @ladyluck5248
    @ladyluck5248 3 роки тому +46

    Losing a spouse you loved dearly leaves a void in your heart that can never be repaired. People say some stupid things too. I think people run away because it’s hard to be a friend to a grieving person. I was abandoned and betrayed. I made new friends who have gone through hardship and they are the best friends not phoney like the others.

    • @africaafrican8931
      @africaafrican8931 3 роки тому +1

      Yes it does,I lost my grandma/mama and I lost it.
      ua-cam.com/video/oFZztgwFdjA/v-deo.html

    • @AnhTran-ek6cx
      @AnhTran-ek6cx 3 роки тому +2

      I am so sorry for your loss Eileen. I lost my husband 2yrs ago .

    • @ladyluck5248
      @ladyluck5248 3 роки тому +2

      @@AnhTran-ek6cx I’m sorry for your loss. It gets a little easier each passing year ……. I try to be grateful for what I do have ….

    • @AnhTran-ek6cx
      @AnhTran-ek6cx 3 роки тому +3

      @@ladyluck5248 It has been two years and I still feel like yesterday. i have so many grief attack every time i see something that reminded me about him. I heard people said time heal but myself the pain even more intense this second year specially around this time, when autumn leaves start to fall. Thanks for your condolence i really appreciated it.

    • @bahikian
      @bahikian 2 роки тому +2

      I lost my husband for 39 years, and my best friend, I don’t accept his loss.😓this is his computer that I am using.

  • @angiesandovalzuniga7220
    @angiesandovalzuniga7220 2 роки тому +17

    I can relate to every single one of these stories old or young. Searching, going to town then wanting to be home, the empty chair, walking by birthday cards for husbands is especially hard for me.
    Thank you for this video.

    • @carolmusselman8859
      @carolmusselman8859 2 роки тому +2

      I'm grieving the loss of my Mom, she passed away 5/1/22, she was 88, I miss her so much, I lived with her

    • @angiesandovalzuniga7220
      @angiesandovalzuniga7220 2 роки тому +2

      @@carolmusselman8859 I’ll be praying for you, I think that’s the only thing getting me through sometimes is a strong support from everyone in my church and family members. Some days I wonder how I’m coping. So very sorry for your loss. 🤍

    • @carolmusselman8859
      @carolmusselman8859 2 роки тому

      @@angiesandovalzuniga7220 Was it your Husband that passed away?

    • @angiesandovalzuniga7220
      @angiesandovalzuniga7220 2 роки тому

      @@carolmusselman8859 yes

    • @michaeld.williamsiii9026
      @michaeld.williamsiii9026 2 роки тому +1

      I feel very much abandoned and alone since losing my adopted mom just before Christmas and it’s hit me like a ton of bricks. 💔 I used to love Christmas no longer it is one of the most painful indeed reminders of losing my mom and not having much biological family. To go from being abandoned by my biological mom, to losing my dad as a teen, now the only mother I’ve known, the mother I never had is gone.😥😔😰 People get tired or feel burdened by you, because you don’t feel how they think you should. The stigma of grief I feel that even more heart wrenching or lonesome I wish and feel like oftentimes lately simply disappearing.😪 My sincerest condolences to you, @Angie along with you as well @Carol I’m sincerely sorry for your losses, grief can feel very much isolating in such a fast paced society and world that at times the people in it can be desensitizing and cause the stigma of grief even more.🥀 I still have days I can’t even leave the bed or want to interact with others like I’d rather suffer in silence. My faith and personal relationship with God has even been somewhat damaged. I don’t understand why my life’s journey has had to be this way, and the amount of holes/unanswered questions even. If God truly loved me or cared for me why so many losses abandoned and lack of parents if not adoption/foster care. I feel that even God, has abandoned me. 😞😔😞 I know my comment is extremely lengthy just being expressive and open as possible.

  • @chaddowns4680
    @chaddowns4680 5 років тому +48

    I lost my wife and 8 month old son in a car accident in jan 27th 1998..Its just as fresh as the day it happened. Smells songs tastes places etc. Brings it all back. You can't escape yourself.

    • @antoniosciara7322
      @antoniosciara7322 3 роки тому +1

      jesus. Sorry to hear about your loss. Makes my breakup with my gf seem so small. Are you able to experience any happiness at all?

    • @uhuramullens5479
      @uhuramullens5479 3 роки тому +1

      Chad, even though your comment is a year old,still touch's my heart and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Herb Martin
      👍🙏🙏🙏

    • @upstatenewyork
      @upstatenewyork 3 роки тому +2

      My heart goes out to you. Peace and caring being sent your way.

    • @bluediamondkittens9658
      @bluediamondkittens9658 3 роки тому +1

      Prayers and warm hugs to you

    • @carmenburnham1088
      @carmenburnham1088 Рік тому

      Oh my goodness so sorry. I can’t imagine. How have you come through to now?

  • @JayP-kd5rc
    @JayP-kd5rc 3 роки тому +20

    Thank you for this video. It gives me hope. My husband passed this past Jan. 5 2021, So a bit more than 3 months ago, and I feel lost. I miss his presence so much. With the virus on now, it makes it even more difficult to go anywhere, or meet other people. I don't have family, so it can be very lonely at times. I am 72, and we were together for 30 yrs. Praying it will get better.

    • @TJ-kk5zf
      @TJ-kk5zf 2 роки тому +1

      where are you now?

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @stephendare942
    @stephendare942 4 роки тому +14

    loneliness is a crowded room.

  • @maryspiteti122
    @maryspiteti122 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for a very comforting advice, and after watching the video and saw that I was not alone with this yearning to be again with my late wife having being married for 52 years, but the sadness and grief and the void that' is unbearable.

  • @robinfrances8409
    @robinfrances8409 2 роки тому +7

    This video explores a very important topic especially for seniors who don’t have the same type of social activity as younger widows/widowers. Isolation increases the pain of grief - in my personal experience. This video hit a lot of the topics that are important for those who are grieving to hear verbalized.

  • @jacquelinesch3795
    @jacquelinesch3795 6 років тому +14

    This is so good and true, Dr. Bill. This December 25th will be 1 yr without my husband. Thank you for explaining things so well. It makes me feel better to know I'm not alone with my feelings.

  • @michaelnewsomegreen5500
    @michaelnewsomegreen5500 2 роки тому +2

    You have no idea how helpful this vid is for me. My wife died 12 years & 9 months ago and I have spent every minute of every digging myself out of the same hole.

  • @marniefriedman879
    @marniefriedman879 3 роки тому +20

    I lost my husband at the beginning of the pandemic. I have now spent 14 months isolating. Lonely? You have no idea!

    • @angiesandovalzuniga7220
      @angiesandovalzuniga7220 2 роки тому

      I’m sorry that must have been so very hard 😔 praying for you.

    • @clarencehogrefe1220
      @clarencehogrefe1220 2 роки тому +1

      The loneliness will be with us forever, my Beautiful wife Jan is waiting for me in Heaven. God Bless your Husband, you and your Family

  • @jillm7239
    @jillm7239 5 років тому +55

    I lived with my mother and in recent years became her full time carer my life revolves around caring now she’s gone I’m lost not just missing her presence but my role as her carer I was never alone as a carer now the loneliness is killing me

    • @ELizabeth_Beeza
      @ELizabeth_Beeza 4 роки тому +4

      Jill, Question is Who will look after you ?
      I always had this question on my mind when looking after my Parents.

    • @donnar9864
      @donnar9864 4 роки тому +5

      Same here...my mom passed away on February 21, 2020..not even 3 weeks yet...I'm blessed to have my son though,but I don't want to depend on him to keep me company because he's only 27.

    • @jchambers5668
      @jchambers5668 4 роки тому +1

      This series is so helpful! Thanks so much!

    • @ji5055
      @ji5055 4 роки тому +6

      old Jill you poor thing. Tears rolling down my face for you. You're a good daughter. I used to love my grandparents a real lot and I used to help take care of them Till they died. And I added up working in nursing homes where I was around back of grandma's and grandpa's it made me feel a little bit better. Because I feel like they were the only ones that really loved me. I pray and I'll pray for you not to cry if you do. There's nothing worse than that panic a realization. I can't believe I'm still here. I won't be able to stay on this channel because my heart is breaking more for everyone here who suffers. There's a song by Mara Justine called the Sparrow I know he watches me. I listen to that and I feel better. Maybe you can find it too. The only peace I get is knowing that my family is with Jesus. So I know they're safe. And I know that I will see them again because of Dr Chuck Missler explaining heaven. I disappear from the face of the planet when I'm scared. And I shut people out and I don't even go outside. I know how you feel about feeling lost. I have dreams that I get to visit my father again at that I wake up and I wish it was true. Are we have is prayer with that nothing to lose. I pray for peace I pray for my sanity I pray for me to have enough money to support myself and God definitely is taking care of me I got my Social Security disability because of my bad migraines and blindness and asthma. But it's no fun anymore here. The way that man talks about heaven sounds like Hawaii and I like the part where there's no more sorrow or tears. I'm sending you a hug and know that someone out there on the other side of the world is praying for you to smile. And do your favorite things and look pretty and get your nails done. Hugs

    • @j.e.7028
      @j.e.7028 3 роки тому +4

      This is my situation now,I've no family either..where does one begin

  • @uhuramullens5479
    @uhuramullens5479 3 роки тому +11

    Herb here. From an American Cousin, you are a God send brother. Lost my wife this past Friday after 24 yrs of being together. This program is helping SO much. 👍🙏❤

    • @africaafrican8931
      @africaafrican8931 3 роки тому

      My condolences dear I lost my grandma/mama and I lost it. I talked about it
      ua-cam.com/video/oFZztgwFdjA/v-deo.html

  • @phyllismiller134
    @phyllismiller134 3 роки тому +6

    Not something one gets over something you get through . Always with you . Know one understand a void space . Can’t not be filled .

    • @africaafrican8931
      @africaafrican8931 3 роки тому +1

      I feel the same way I lost my grandma/mama I even talked about it. ua-cam.com/video/oFZztgwFdjA/v-deo.html

  • @jillmontgomery4856
    @jillmontgomery4856 5 років тому +35

    thank you... it has been one year since my husband died and the deep sadness still holds me tightly. we were married for 50 years. i miss him so very much.

    • @moonbeam5188
      @moonbeam5188 5 років тому +11

      I'm going through the very same thing as I type. I buried the love of my life Aug 2 2019 . WE had been together for 36 years and she had a stroke at 63 years of age while taking care of an 87 year old man at his home. She was a caregiver as her occupation. She had the stroke and never survived. So young and I miss her so badly . I would never have thought she would die before me. I'm 70 . God Bless you and anyone going through this! .

    • @jillmontgomery4856
      @jillmontgomery4856 5 років тому +8

      thank you..it helps to know that others are there. The hardest part is not being able to see a future.
      J

    • @marciakeichel3990
      @marciakeichel3990 4 роки тому +7

      Jill Montgomery. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. I know how hard it is as I lost my husband of 52 years on November 21, 2017. It is a terribly lonely time even though my 2 grown daughters live with me. I knew my husband for 67 years as we were both raised on the same street. He is the only one I have ever dated so the loss is tremendous. I am glad to get through each day as the loneliness is terrible. May the Lord help you through this terrible time.

    • @JayP-kd5rc
      @JayP-kd5rc 3 роки тому +2

      50 years is a very long time. I'm so sorry that you lost him. I hope you are doing somewhat better now, as it is now a year since you posted. Praying for you as I type this.

    • @carolc4372
      @carolc4372 2 роки тому +2

      @@moonbeam5188 I am 64 and I lost my husband at age 57. I never would have thought he would die before me either. We had all are travel plans in our later life that will never be. So I totally understand and I miss him so much. I realize I am a late poster to your comment. I pray your life is getting better and mine will too.

  • @gabkoost
    @gabkoost 9 років тому +20

    Alone... But with kids and a reason to live.
    My parents will be gone soon and i will be alone with no family and without the only people that ever loved me.

    • @marifanapin3669
      @marifanapin3669 4 роки тому +1

      hello Gabkoost...looks like you made this comment 4 years ago. I want to introduce you to my Savior Jesus Christ. He loves you dearly because He died on the cross for your sins and mine because He wants to have a relationship with u s. He can be your faithful friend to the end. Call His name today and He will come and forgive your sins and walk with you. He is coming back soon to take us people to heaven. You will go to if you ask Him into your heart. I hope you do.

    • @dondressel452
      @dondressel452 3 роки тому +3

      Your loved ones will be waiting for you in Heaven
      I know because I lost my wife to cancer in 1989
      She was only 31
      Before she died she had a NDE and came back and said Heaven was a beautiful place and God let her come back to say goodbye to our young kids
      After she said goodbye to our kids she passed the next morning
      This is not a message pushing religion on you
      I’m sure you have your own beliefs
      I’m just trying to give you some comfort
      Your not alone
      Many of us have experienced what you are experiencing
      I know it’s been 5 years since you posted this and I hope things are better for you now but you never get over a loss like you did you just find peace some times
      Take care ❤️

  • @vernaharris4700
    @vernaharris4700 2 роки тому +4

    There are few words to describe pain and overwhelming sadness of loneliness. I am so thankful for the hope of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and the comfort of the Holy Spirit.
    By the way, this video is helping me to appreciate my family even more.

  • @georgeheron8341
    @georgeheron8341 Рік тому +1

    i lost my wife in january this year after 56 years good years some ups and downs but a 100 ups to 1 downs ,life is a living hell without her now

  • @mightymouse2098
    @mightymouse2098 2 роки тому +3

    If you are lucky enough to have family close by the loneliness is minimal. But if you have no children or family then the grief and loneliness is long and very difficult. I found that living in a foreign country very few people stand up and help you. Some even abandon you because they don't want to hear you. Take heart, Jesus Christ isn't going to abandon you ever.

  • @TheYazmanian
    @TheYazmanian 5 місяців тому +1

    People really do say ignorant things in a desperate attempt to try to somehow create a silver lining for us and it often doesn't resonate. For example when people told him at least he has his boys and he won't be lonely. How naive and ignorant for someone to say that and not realize there is a complete difference between the love of a father and his children and the love between his wife and himself. A child can never replace a spouse.

  • @sand0077
    @sand0077 4 роки тому +15

    These videos have been immensely helpful from the Nov 9, 2020 loss of my wife Julianna. Now I'm aware between the difference between loneliness and aloneness and feel enlightened. The house feels so very empty without her presence and now I live totally alone. Dealing with my loss has been difficult and must commend Dr. Webster for offering these resources to those of us suffering. Thank you Dr. Webster!

    • @WeepingWidowSueAna
      @WeepingWidowSueAna 2 роки тому +1

      I am so very sorry for your loss. I know this pain so well and it is just unbearable. The house feels so empty without your soulmate and the loneliness is just awful.

    • @sand0077
      @sand0077 2 роки тому +1

      @@WeepingWidowSueAna Your condolences most appreciated, thank you!

  • @carmenburnham1088
    @carmenburnham1088 4 роки тому +11

    Lost my husband to a sudden heart attack 22 months ago after 41 years of marriage. The first year was very hard. I miss him so much. I have been ok being alone. I miss his presence. He was bigger than life to me. My hero. Thank God, He has brought me this far. Thank you for these series. God bless you. So wondering where you are today? Did you never marry again? I will never remarry. No one can take my husband’s place. But I have noticed men often remarry. And maybe younger widows. My heart goes out to those who have young children to take car of.

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому +1

      I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

    • @carmenburnham1088
      @carmenburnham1088 Рік тому

      Thank you again for this series. It did help during my darkest days. For anyone suffering the loss of a loved one, I know the pain and have the deepest compassion for you. Try not to be alone. Pray for the Lord’s help and grace. Invite Him into your pain. He will walk with you. Find a group or support system. My church has a grief share group for people who have suffered loss. You don’t get over it you continue to walk through it. It is 4/12 years now and I am doing so much better. I still miss my husband deeply. At 72 I am very content with my busy life have a very active life with friends but I am not interested in a relationship at all. However, to each his or her own. Life after loss is possible.

  • @bravesoul5743
    @bravesoul5743 4 роки тому +14

    I am grieving... I lost my loved one that I love so much who passed away 3 days ago that was sunday. I am devastated and don't know what to do with this mourning. I don't like a dark house. I turned all lights on in my house. I'm afraid of any dim light, cause I feel more lonely. For 3 days I don't sleep turning off my lights.

    • @laram5104
      @laram5104 4 роки тому +6

      When you have somebody living with it s different but when you at this empty house without anybody to talk to it s so hard. It s been 3 weeks I lost my dearest husband . I am grieving and it is not going away at all.

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      @@laram5104 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @millelucas8083
    @millelucas8083 6 років тому +13

    Thank you for this series it helps. My husband of 40 years completed suiside after years of depression anxiety panic attacks and a chemical depedancy. I feel incredibly hollow and lost.

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @nickdiaz3737
    @nickdiaz3737 Рік тому +1

    Not only loosing someone you love hurts.
    But how they died
    My wife suffered with cancer and went through chemo and radiation transfusions
    Operations and that helpless feeling and not able to help get better
    And knowing it won't get better ..

  • @michaeld.williamsiii9026
    @michaeld.williamsiii9026 2 роки тому +2

    I feel very much abandoned and alone since losing my adopted mom just before Christmas and it’s hit me like a ton of bricks. 💔 To go from being abandoned by my biological mom, to losing my dad as a teen, now the only mother I’ve known, the mother I never had is gone.😥😔😰 People get tired or feel burdened by you, because you don’t feel how they think you should. The stigma of grief I feel that even more heart wrenching or lonesome I wish and feel like oftentimes lately simply disappearing.😪

  • @mrafard
    @mrafard 4 роки тому +6

    inside all people there is an infant that feel death anxiety when being left alone

  • @MR-ho3mo
    @MR-ho3mo 3 роки тому +6

    You need to learn to recognize your own special presence and find comfort within yourself. This only comes after being alone and developing this "skill". No one else can fill this space, ever. It's your job.
    it's not easy, but it's worth it.

  • @geoffringham1051
    @geoffringham1051 5 років тому +7

    BEREAVEMENT & LONELYNESS.
    NO ADVICE on this thread will ever solve the problem. People are't stupid. Do you not think they've searched in their own minds what they could do to combat their lonelyness? You could have a dozen friends during the day. Even go to a shitty clicky club once a week. BUT its late evenings. Early morning's where the one you were closest to is missing. No one to have casual conversation with knowing they were once some where in the house and in my case somewhere in my heart. Painfully this situation is insoluble. You cannot escape it. It's there for the rest of your life. That's the price we have to pay for loving some one. It's a measurement of the love and commitment we gave to our soul mate before they were taken. Theres a wise Saying. " No one can teach anybody anything. People have to decide to learn.".

  • @marshabowlin1757
    @marshabowlin1757 Рік тому +1

    Yes, it has been a year for me we were married 51 years and I became a widow at 72 I need him more than ever now in my life it was sudden and I was left alone I wanted to die with him , no one knows what to say so they avoid you, this is a pain that is so bad a broken heart 😢

  • @ELizabeth_Beeza
    @ELizabeth_Beeza 5 років тому +4

    DR. BILL WEBSTER YOUR RIGHT. ONCE I GET TO THE PLACE OF ACCEPTING MYSELF SELF CONFIDENTS SELF ESTEEM SELF WORTH. I say to myself IM GOING TO BE OK.

    • @ELizabeth_Beeza
      @ELizabeth_Beeza Рік тому

      Hello Ronaldo,
      I'm ok. In 2022 November had to experience my basement Unit flooded. I'm dealing with that Crisis.
      How are you???

  • @mightymouse2098
    @mightymouse2098 Рік тому

    I wish people would visit the widows/widowers even a phone call is great especially in the morning to remind them they are not alone.

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 Рік тому

    I lost my wife in June 2022 but my grieving is different. She had MS for 26 years. We were married 51 years and she could not ambulate the last 15 years. I cared for her for 23 years. But I have already adjusted to living alone these last three years when she was in a local nursing home. Its really good she isn't suffering anymore. I have very few friends and I see very little of my family even though they live fairly close. There are other reasons why I have so few friends that is not of my doing.

  • @umaranirethinavelu5812
    @umaranirethinavelu5812 3 роки тому +7

    Thank you so much . I lost my darling husband on January 15 2021 suddenly within 27 days of him in hospital. I thought I was the only one feeling the grief as you have explained even the lights. Now I know I am not alone. With Covid ref zone its been even difficult to fight loneliness. I am searching to share and converse but find it difficult who do not share the same as the grief I am going through. Do you have a zoom or google meet support group or any of that kind we can have discussions to reach out and help each other. That be wonderful

    • @JayP-kd5rc
      @JayP-kd5rc 3 роки тому +1

      I lost my husband Jan. 5 2021, and understand how you are feeling. Try googling the Samaritans. They have groups like that that you can join. They do zoom also because of this virus.

    • @ickiedeer-lamb7282
      @ickiedeer-lamb7282 2 роки тому +1

      My condolences to you.

  • @ruth-annstewart1735
    @ruth-annstewart1735 5 років тому +22

    Are you books still available? I lost my husband 7 months ago and I am often grieving. I realize now that I need some kind of support group or to be around others who have had the same experience. Others do not understand.

    • @latkagravas986
      @latkagravas986 4 роки тому +1

      Ruth, is this person, Dr. Webster still around?..Im currently in grave conflicted grief...I love all what he saying...

    • @laram5104
      @laram5104 4 роки тому +3

      Yes.. I feel the same. Can talk about it only with people who experienced this grief.. other people do not understand ..

    • @ruth-annstewart1735
      @ruth-annstewart1735 4 роки тому +2

      @@latkagravas986 Hi Joel. I dont know. I found his talk quite helpful. It has been 16 months for me now and I feel like I have finally come out of the grief fog.

    • @ruth-annstewart1735
      @ruth-annstewart1735 4 роки тому

      @@laram5104
      It has been 16 months for me now and it has only been in the past two months that I have come out of the fog. How long has it been for you?

    • @laram5104
      @laram5104 4 роки тому

      Ruth-Ann Stewart only 23 days..

  • @sandranichols1650
    @sandranichols1650 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you so very much for your words, my husband has been gone for two years and listening to you has given me the most comfort and better understanding than anything I have heard or read . 🙏🏼

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @margueriterussell7310
    @margueriterussell7310 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you.I am grieving the loss of my husband.What you said,helps me..Blessings.

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @lozb1631
    @lozb1631 2 роки тому +1

    I needed this. Thankyou

  • @ickiedeer-lamb7282
    @ickiedeer-lamb7282 2 роки тому +2

    Between Christmas and New Years and around Mothers Day are the worst firbmr. Since losing mom 3 years ago, new years, which was her birthday hurts a lot. Since she was the first baby born the year she was born,, she was born exactly at 12am Jan 1. There's no one to call and say happy new birthday year mom. My husband died may 8 2007 which was a mother's day weekend, buried may 11. My dad died may 11, yet another mother's day 2 years later. There are many hard days but these are the few that knock me lower than a snakes belly. I don't want to get up, eat, I just want to go to sleep and stay asleep, forever. But here I am, tomorrow's new years eve, covid-19 is running wild and I'm locked in my room in the nursing home, lonely as heck.

  • @brianmonfre8330
    @brianmonfre8330 3 роки тому +13

    Dr Phil. I lost my partner of 27 years suddenly 2 weeks ago and I feel like I’ll never get through this. We was 100 percent dependent on him. I probably shouldn’t have done that but I did. I’m having problems letting people help me and I can’t speak to people because I literally can’t stop crying. I want to be with Steve so badly. I can’t imagine this getting better. Your thoughts?

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому +2

      I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @dawncordero7760
    @dawncordero7760 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for these comforting and informative videos, and grief and loss. I find such comfort inn the way you present what you went through and how you came to terms with certain things. So I just want to thank you for that because you helped me tremendously. I love watching all your videos. God bless.🙏🥰

  • @gailcrowe727
    @gailcrowe727 3 роки тому +2

    Very well said.

  • @carol622
    @carol622 10 днів тому

    Thank you.

  • @nania992
    @nania992 6 років тому +3

    Thank you .. very much.

  • @DEANHAITANIMUSIC
    @DEANHAITANIMUSIC 9 років тому +4

    Thanks Bill

  • @douglaswerts4936
    @douglaswerts4936 2 роки тому +2

    Good video. Apart from the tinkling piano in the background yet not background enough. What, exactly, is the purpose of this noise? What does it add?

  • @sukhbirkaur7838
    @sukhbirkaur7838 2 роки тому

    Always think positive.god is with u.our real friend is god.god bless u.may god bless u to keep happy

  • @joanneg665
    @joanneg665 Рік тому

    Sending you love throughout this pain.
    Your video is comforting thank you 💜

  • @clew248
    @clew248 2 роки тому

    This video was very helpful. Thank you very much. Char at San Francisco.

  • @misssnuffy
    @misssnuffy 2 роки тому

    Omg the music.. it's disturbing. But thank you for talking about this struggle.

  • @adriennevanstaden9460
    @adriennevanstaden9460 Рік тому

    Yes a very new experience with loss.

  • @lesleythompson5377
    @lesleythompson5377 2 роки тому

    Simply put, thank you so,so much ❤️

  • @ELizabeth_Beeza
    @ELizabeth_Beeza 5 років тому +6

    TAKE YOURSELF OUT. I TAKE MYSELF OUT. I LOVE IT. GOD LOVES ME AND YOU. I HAD 4 DEATHS MY FAMILY. MY FAVORITE BROTHER FIRST in 1994 AND THEN MY FAVORITE GRAND MA in 2006 THEN MY DAD in 2014 THEN NOW IN JULY 2019 MY MOM. Jesus is helping me threw the Grief. One day at a time.

    • @icyivy2424
      @icyivy2424 5 років тому +2

      That's too much pain 😥😥😥
      I'm so sorry for your loss.
      I've lost my mother in 2005...
      I was a teenager, it completely destroyed me, I developed clinical depression... I still grief...
      Life didn't get any better
      Stay strong
      Keep fighting though the day
      I wish you healing and peace

    • @latkagravas986
      @latkagravas986 4 роки тому +1

      Elizabeth, you caught my eye with prior death/grief experiences of family various times and mention of God - I have the same of those experiences, but Ive paused from God after that day - for my Marie passing 3/11, was my sweet loving Girlfriend whom was like a wife (for 6yrs), and I notice now at 52(my age) - Im taking this MUCH HARDER...so much so, Im thinking bad thoughts...So I guess Im trying to say now is 'im in my conflicted grief" now and I dont see him helping me now on this 2nd stage. I welcome any reply. Thank you. 😢

    • @marynelltitshaw7866
      @marynelltitshaw7866 3 роки тому +1

      Don't allinate your self from the only one who can help you. You must surrender ALL to the one who loves you most. Jesus Christ loves you so much that he gave His for your salvation. He and He alone can give you life, both now and for eternity. Make the choice to live and not die. It's your decision. Jesus never fails.

    • @ELizabeth_Beeza
      @ELizabeth_Beeza 3 роки тому

      @@icyivy2424 I still Grief, we will always miss our loved ones. I also have clinical depression.

    • @ELizabeth_Beeza
      @ELizabeth_Beeza 3 роки тому

      @@latkagravas986 Joel, question is what helps you??
      Every one's Grief Journey is different.
      Maybe, Meditation helps you? Or being in Nature? Try find what works for You.😎👍👍👍🙂

  • @wynettegreer3812
    @wynettegreer3812 3 роки тому +2

    Very true

  • @jimjohnson6660
    @jimjohnson6660 2 роки тому

    I lost mu wife over 20 months ago and I. Going thru the same thing that you hit on. How can I get out to meet to fill my empty less here. Jim Johnson

  • @joannenascimento9213
    @joannenascimento9213 4 роки тому +2

    Jill.How are you coping now.I'm in exactly the same position.

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @moorlock2003
    @moorlock2003 Місяць тому

    I lost my beloved partner on Christmas Eve 2021. I want nothing to do with Christmas.

  • @cherihausmann
    @cherihausmann 2 роки тому

    Is it really a matter of overcoming... if one is dying and they are surrounded by the living there is loneliness there for the living cannot as of yet relate... and there is an understanding that it is natural and be with this observation.

  • @victorjohnson6699
    @victorjohnson6699 Рік тому +1

    Thelast6yearshasbeentheworsthurtofmylifemywifedied6yearsagoandtheworldissolonelyandemptypeoplearesoheartlessshewasmywholeworldiwasneverlonelywhenshewasherenowlonelyisalliknowdkesitevergetbetter

  • @bonnieharris1811
    @bonnieharris1811 2 роки тому

    Is that booklet still available? My husband recently died....

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @mikebee6633
    @mikebee6633 9 місяців тому

    Do you mean that I just sat here and watched a 30 minute book advertisement? Smh

  • @carolynmcintyre110
    @carolynmcintyre110 3 роки тому +1

    Tomorrow it will be 6 months tomorrow

    • @dainahmiricho5919
      @dainahmiricho5919 2 роки тому

      Am nine months in it after losing my husband of 41 years on 20th April 2021. Loneliness is terrible. I don't know what do but God is faithful. Surrounded by our children and grandchildren but still very lonely

    • @dainahmiricho5919
      @dainahmiricho5919 2 роки тому

      Good to realise am not alone in the loneliness

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Рік тому

      @@dainahmiricho5919 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @debbiekent4986
    @debbiekent4986 3 роки тому +3

    Read your Bible

  • @kolove17
    @kolove17 3 місяці тому

    Music is totally unnecessary here