Grief is a roller coaster ride. Up and down and all around. First year I was numb. Second year I realized they weren’t coming back. Third year now, not sure what to call it. I was with them when they died suddenly and unexpectedly. Both horrible and wonderful at the same time cause I got to be with them. They knew I was there. Second year also I realized that I had gone through an emotional trauma. Developed PTSD because of it. That probably made it worse? The silence if deafening. Sometimes you want to just melt onto the floor and dissipate into nothingness. Other times I’m good. You can get scared that you are forgetting them. Forgetting their face, voice, etc. Sometimes you have to watch a video of them just to know they really did exist. If you were truly close to them, it changes you. I don’t think others really want to listen when you want to talk about it. They want it to go away. Your story needs to be heard. It helps to talk about it with others who understand and acknowledge it. Sometimes I just talk about it, tell the story out loud to myself at my house when I’m alone. That helps as well.🕊
Dr Bill Webster, I lost my mother & brother in a span of 9 days. Its been 9 months now. This talk is so well timed from where I stand now. Your calm, resonable & insightfull talk has brought me much solace. I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏
Dr. Bill Webster, After many weeks of research on this this topic, I found this beautiful YT channel with a lot of valuable information and advice on understanding and coping with the grieving process. Thank you so much. God bless you.
Thanku Dr Bill Webster., I am so sorry for your tragic loss. You are doing a wonderful job in bringing healing and comfort to many .I am going through a grief journey through the loss of my angelic and selfless wife Maria .Listening to all your talks comforts me . May God bless your noble work.
As a man & raised fatherless my grief 4 my wife of 15 1/2 yrs who prematurely died 34 months ago has been very challenging 4 me in dealing with the emotions that are involved in grieving especially in being a only child & no family support whatsoever!
I read you. me too. no family nor much friends understand. nor support.. GUESS WHAT...ONE DAY YOU WILL BE FEELING ALOT BETTER THOSE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO CRUSH ROCK BOTTOM. THEY MIGHT EVEN CALL YOU UP OR KNOCK ON YOUR DOOR. GOD BLESS YOU !! MY CONDOLENCES TO YOU.
You are not alone. I was closest to our Mother when she passed. The other siblings have moved on. I am swimming in the sea of sorrow daily. It’s the worst event if my life. All I do is cry 😢 alone in my grief.
I think you hit on another important point: chocolate... ;) More seriously though, I am listening to all these videos multiple times... They are helping me more than anything in the past five years!!!
Anticipatory grief is hard, but still nothing like the grief you feel after the death. You realize you can never be prepared for their absolute Abscence. I was “strong” to the outside world through my husbands terminal illness and I just kept going. After he died , everybody ran when the grief hit me like a tank. It’s been almost 8 years and when I think off the days after he died I can still cry on a dime. It physically still makes me sick to my stomach.
@@upstatenewyork are you doing better now ? It takes time. Me, I feel like I’m just going through the motions of life now rather than feeling the “joy” in it that I used to feel. It is very “vanilla” now whereas everyday uses to be a banana split kind of feeling. Lol. I’ll say a prayer for you. I hope you’re well.
@@ladyluck5248 I am doing much better now than I was. I will never forget that time in my life. Complete fear and terror in the morning. Thank God for the medication. It helped set me on the road to getting through that very dark time. But it was not all peaches and cream. I was still suffering, medication or not. I know what you mean about going through the motions. I have many times experienced life as though I was surviving every day life compared to thriving every day life.
I did get physically ill from the deaths I experienced. My grief felt like an illness. I had to grieve alone. There was no one there to “hold me close” as my heart felt like it had blood pouring out of it. No one. Not even the Almighty.
Is it worse to lose a parent or a pet? It depends on the strength of an attachment to a person, on a connection with that person. From my personal experience.
Grief is a roller coaster ride. Up and down and all around. First year I was numb. Second year I realized they weren’t coming back. Third year now, not sure what to call it. I was with them when they died suddenly and unexpectedly. Both horrible and wonderful at the same time cause I got to be with them. They knew I was there. Second year also I realized that I had gone through an emotional trauma. Developed PTSD because of it. That probably made it worse? The silence if deafening. Sometimes you want to just melt onto the floor and dissipate into nothingness. Other times I’m good. You can get scared that you are forgetting them. Forgetting their face, voice, etc. Sometimes you have to watch a video of them just to know they really did exist. If you were truly close to them, it changes you. I don’t think others really want to listen when you want to talk about it. They want it to go away. Your story needs to be heard. It helps to talk about it with others who understand and acknowledge it. Sometimes I just talk about it, tell the story out loud to myself at my house when I’m alone. That helps as well.🕊
Dr Bill Webster,
I lost my mother & brother in a span of 9 days. Its been 9 months now.
This talk is so well timed from where I stand now. Your calm, resonable & insightfull talk has brought me much solace.
I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏
Bingo! When the shock wears off, the mourning begins. And wow, it’s severe.
Dr. Bill Webster,
After many weeks of research on this this topic, I found this beautiful YT channel with a lot of valuable information and advice on understanding and coping with the grieving process. Thank you so much. God bless you.
Bill Webster, Hope you will continue in doing Grief Teachings and Healing. Your an Excellent Coach/Speaker 😎👍👍👍📖📖📖🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦🌟⭐🌟⭐🌟⭐🌟⭐🌟⭐🌟⭐🌟
One of the best explanations I’ve found. Grief is the cost of love. So true. Thank you 🙏🏻
Thanku Dr Bill Webster., I am so sorry for your tragic loss. You are doing a wonderful job in bringing healing and comfort to many .I am going through a grief journey through the loss of my angelic and selfless wife Maria .Listening to all your talks comforts me . May God bless your noble work.
As a man & raised fatherless my grief 4 my wife of 15 1/2 yrs who prematurely died 34 months ago has been very challenging 4 me in dealing with the emotions that are involved in grieving especially in being a only child & no family support whatsoever!
I read you. me too. no family nor much friends understand. nor support..
GUESS WHAT...ONE DAY YOU WILL BE FEELING ALOT BETTER THOSE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO CRUSH ROCK BOTTOM.
THEY MIGHT EVEN CALL YOU UP OR KNOCK ON YOUR DOOR.
GOD BLESS YOU !!
MY CONDOLENCES TO YOU.
You are not alone. I was closest to our Mother when she passed. The other siblings have moved on. I am swimming in the sea of sorrow daily. It’s the worst event if my life. All I do is cry 😢 alone in my grief.
@@raew5263 me too.my sibling busy with their own life career families 👪 I m unmarried was her caretaker missing her a lot ...
I think you hit on another important point: chocolate... ;) More seriously though, I am listening to all these videos multiple times... They are helping me more than anything in the past five years!!!
I agree !
I am grateful to have come across you
Thank you.
Anticipatory grief is hard, but still nothing like the grief you feel after the death. You realize you can never be prepared for their absolute Abscence. I was “strong” to the outside world through my husbands terminal illness and I just kept going. After he died , everybody ran when the grief hit me like a tank. It’s been almost 8 years and when I think off the days after he died I can still cry on a dime. It physically still makes me sick to my stomach.
You said when you think of the days after he died, you get physically sick. I believe you because I experienced something similar.
@@upstatenewyork are you doing better now ? It takes time. Me, I feel like I’m just going through the motions of life now rather than feeling the “joy” in it that I used to feel. It is very “vanilla” now whereas everyday uses to be a banana split kind of feeling. Lol. I’ll say a prayer for you. I hope you’re well.
@@ladyluck5248 I am doing much better now than I was. I will never forget that time in my life. Complete fear and terror in the morning. Thank God for the medication. It helped set me on the road to getting through that very dark time. But it was not all peaches and cream. I was still suffering, medication or not. I know what you mean about going through the motions. I have many times experienced life as though I was surviving every day life compared to thriving every day life.
Anticipatory grief was worse for me as far as anxiety goes.
I did get physically ill from the deaths I experienced. My grief felt like an illness. I had to grieve alone. There was no one there to “hold me close” as my heart felt like it had blood pouring out of it. No one. Not even the Almighty.
Grieve price for your love
i am so sad briken after loss of j r the one i loved 24 yeas it so hard to lose such loveing wonderful person who love me and i him
Thanks again
So true.
Is it worse to lose a parent or a pet? It depends on the strength of an attachment to a person, on a connection with that person. From my personal experience.
pets are with us ..more... on a day to day basis . pets absense is felt constantly and reminders are everywhere
So true
I Ike his videos.
I wish you were my therapist after my husband passed
Yes
I agree totally
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