I'm so glad I came across this video. It's midnight and I'm all alone and having a grief attack. Nine months ago, my husband went into the kitchen. It was his birthday and I didn't hear him after a minute so, I went to see what he was doing. I found him on his knees unable to talk. He was trying with all his might to pull himself back up. I laid him on the floor and I did not know what was happening. His eyes were huge and blue and I think he knew what was happening. I said I love you. He mouthed, I love...and, he died with my hands on his chest. For some reason, nobody came. It took me weeks to borrow enough money to have him cremated. My family has just stayed away. I'm 56 years old and I had him for 23 years. The first two months, I was so numb and I couldn't eat. I lost 30 lb. I stayed in the smallest room of my house for 22 hours a day. I wasn't even able to cry because I could not mourn alone. I've only been able to cry in the last month. I had a tooth pulled a couple of days ago and I ended up having a fever. I was so nauseous and dizzy afterwards. My husband would have taken care of me. Now, there is no more love. We used to talk constantly. He still fascinated me and I miss him calling me darling. My only friend is God now and I know he always has been. All I can do is pray and talk to Jesus for hours at a time. I never thought I would be alone. If you are still reading, thank you. I trust God. He knows how much pain I'm in and I pray that God bless you and may you find some peace. If you believe in God, will you please ask him to send me a friend. Sincerely, Carly 💜
@@deboradavidson9123 Thank you Debora for writing to me. I feel so alone and I don't have a partner to help me make decisions and to hold my hand and laugh with. Now the month of October is coming and I'm afraid I'm going to lose the roof over my head. I've just been eating a tablespoon of peanut butter for breakfast and one for lunch and something small for dinner. I lost 50 lb. I have nothing left to do except to sell my engagement ring. It's 7 a.m. and I haven't been able to sleep. I am thinking about you too. I know that when my husband died, my dog Charlie became my only friend. It was a cold winter in the house because I couldn't afford keep it warm and she started jumping up in bed and getting as close to me as she could. If I reached my arm out toward her she would wrap her paw around my wrist and pull me toward her. I know you must be in so much pain from losing your friend who served you and helped you. I believe in miracles and I'm praying for one now. My heart goes out to you. Sincerely, Carly
Seemed like a Heart Attack Your Husband had. I am grieving the death my Parents 5 years apart. My Mom was 2019 sudden Massive Heart Attack. Dad was C.H.F. due too Kidney Faulure. GOD BLESS YOU. JESUS IS MY ANSWER TOO. JOHN 3:16&17 MY CONDOLENCES
I'm sorry about your loss and everything else you had to go through alone. I am 37 years old and my husband passed away unexpectedly two months ago. I thought he was sleeping and when I found him he have been dead for hours. My heart is completely broken and I feel a hole in my soul. I lost my faith in God and the only thing that has me going is our daughter.
Thank you for sharing your experience with grief. I lost my husband of 49 yrs. 11 months ago. I am having quite a few “ grief attacks.” It hurts so much. But, slowly, I’m better today. I know waves of grief will hit me often, but I also know that I’m not alone. The Lord is my Shepherd. He is with me in the valley of the shadow of death. His light leads me through and out of that place. I’m so very grateful for His faithfulness to me.
I just lost my beloved wife three days ago. She died very unexpectedly of a massive brain stroke. We had 36 beautiful years together, and now she's gone. I am so numb, so very dead inside. Trying to make a ritual out of everything to push back against the horrible pain in my chest, in my heart, and in my soul. I know I have to keep it together for our two sons, but it's hard. I see her everywhere. I can go to her, but she will never be coming back to me. Hell, I'm breaking down crying while typing this. I wish for every person who typed a response to this very good video a very deep peace and calm and comfort for their losses. God, this is so hard.
I can feel your pain. My deepest sympathy and prayers for you. May you find comfort in the presence of a loving God....just pray whenever you feel sad and alone..Godbless you.
Jon Roth, I’m so sorry for your loss and heartache as I’m feeling the depths and deep ocean waves right now. I’m slipping into such a dark place I don’t even want to be here anymore. Father’s Day and my grandmother’s passing anniversary this past weekend has taken an emotional toll on me four years since my grandmother passed and seventeen since my dad. On top of that losing other adopted aunts and two friends even, profound loss at its finest. I just feel fed up with life and really am ready to leave and quit....💔😔😢😔💔
Thank you for introducing me to " grief attack" .... I experience it periodically 15 months after my husband's death. We had been married for 63 long years so to bounce back to normal life need a lot more time if it's possible in my lifetime. When I'm attacked by grief, I cry, talk to him and ask him to be with me. Then, I feel his presence next to me! Thank you for your message! mtm
Sir you are better than my therapist. Thank you for this video. I lost my husband almost 4 months now. And my grief is so deep. I am devastated and heartbroken. I feel grief is like roller coaster sometimes im okay and sometimes im not. I get irritated at little things. I have grief attacks and cry. I don't cry everyday anymore. I miss him so much.
I lost my husband 3 months ago, and understand how you are feeling. I know how deep that grief can be. I am also going through it. I just said a healing prayer for you. Hope things get better for you soon. God bless.
I can't make a whole meal for myself. I grab at food, not cook for an hour. It is so painful to stand in the kitchen and cry out my husband's name-- I just want him to walk out of his study and ask me why dinner is so late. I miss him. Miss his friendship. His humor. He joked when he was dying. It was so sudden, Pancreatic cancer. We found out in November and he died in January. I was teaching him how to cook. I cry when I cook and when I wash dishes. I remember my sweet man. It has been 16 months. I keep telling myself it is OK. Just get my chores done. Take care of the chickens, cats and my self. He wouldn't want me to despair.. .he'd want me to live. He came in the kitchen and asked me to promise not to follow him immediately.. not let the loss destroy me. He knew me so very well.
How are you doing now Kathleen? I know it's probably still really hard and lonely ... just hoping that you have found some peace even if it's just small glimpses. I lost my beloved husband last month and it has been the worst experience of my life and one that changed my life forever. Every dream and plan we had - gone in a moment. Feels like my entire life is over. He was my whole world. I miss everything about my husband. He died suddenly and it was a shock. He had Acute Myeloid Leukemia (cancer) and it took him down in a matter of days. It was so sudden and shocking. My husband thought he just had poison ivy because he worked around poison ivy plants - the first symptom was chicken pox type bumps all over him that itched like crazy. If we had known that was a symptom of leukemia then maybe we could have caught it sooner and saved him. But he didn't make it - died in just a little over 2 weeks and was on a ventilator most of that time, unable to talk to me anymore. It was just awful. I have cats to take care of too. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am here because I respect Dr. Bill Webster and his practical advice; and because this is a safe space to unload. The emotional impact of losing your spouse is profound and can not be described. Sometimes being with others talking about things helps but that is only a band-aid because at the end of the day, at home, meal times, and looking around seeing what used to belong to him, you realize you are there without him...and you carry on...
Dear beautiful souls. I just lost my baby little boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache pain to the very depths of the core of my soul💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜
God bless you. I have lost two husbands so I know the grief. God loves you and wants to be your source of comfort. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have real lasting hope and peace. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
I came across this video and what a wealth of information for me. My husband died suddenly 3 1/2 months ago. These videos help me in internalizing what I am feeling and the highs and lows I am feeling are normal
Wave Apon Wave Apon Wave of Grief Attacks ,,15mths Later 😔 I miss my Beloved Husband so very much 😔❤️😔 Thease Vidios have helped me , understand my Grief Journey 😔 Thank you Bill,,and God Bless you ❤️👼❤️
@@ruth-annstewart1735 Ruth -Ann its helpfull to attend Bill Websters Groups. I went for my brothers death first death in the Family then I went to his groups for my grandmas death I havent been for my dads death 2014 my moms in 2019. not ready I watch mr. websters videos helps me.
@@sharileeengle5204 ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I lost my husband/best friend in August 2021. We had 59 years together, years I would do again. Also, in the last 6 months I have had a total of seven losses. It’s one day at a time. Your words were so helpful! Thank you.
God bless you! 7 losses! That is heartbreaking, but God is there and wants to be your source of comfort. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have real lasting hope and peace. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
It's been 3 years since my Dad died and although I'm better I still struggle. I love to listen to these videos to remind myself my grief episodes are normal. I do also feel very lonely and came across one of his videos and it helped me to know I am not the only one who feels so lonely in the loss of a loved one.
@@mkf628 I just losy my dad too he was so amazing i cant put into words i feel guilty as i wasnt there during his decline yet id looked sfter him for years just before all i feel is what i didnt do not all i did. My god this loss is unbearable 💔 love n light to you all you are certainly not alone!
I empathize & understand all your feelings as I just lost my hubby of 29 years on 3/4/21. I have learned a very important lesson: people do not know how to help the grieving, neither family &/or friends whether highly educated or not. The 1st lesson people need to learn in order to "help" is to "shut up", ask no questions & just LISTEN if the grieving one wants to talk!! Otherwise, just "be there" & freeze food for MONTHS AHEAD so the one in pain does not have to cook, go out grocery shopping, etc!
God loves you and wants to be your source of comfort. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have real lasting hope and peace. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
What was relevant in 2012 is still relevant in 2022. 10 years of people passing. You mark special occasions by increments of 10 years, 5 years, maybe 25 years. Right now I mark my grief in days and when it gets bad hours. I miss my wife so much. 43 years together. How do you just stop after 43 years? It’s impossible.
Thank you so much, I'm 13 weeks out, my soulmate of 29 years... I'm so grateful for the time we shared, thank you for this amazing insight. God bless us 1 & all‼☮💙
Thank you for sharing your journey of grief. I have watched half way through and with tears rolling down my face I will have to come back to the rest. I have had counselling and been stuck in the depression stage as one told me. It is not an illness or pull yourself together it is a personal journey. Ive realised that the love you share with someone relates into the grief you have. |There are memories everywhere, and Ive just come back from the shops and see things my beautiful passed over family would love. Triggered me. I am so pleased I did not choose to zzone our, but insteard of rejecting feeling I found your channel that helped me. Thank you I will be back. Love to all in their losses. x
MY CONDOLENCES TO EVERY ONE WHO COMES ACROSS THESE VIDEOS. GOD BLESS YOU ONE DAY AT A TIME. PEACE BE WITH YOU AND ME. I like the Quote at the End Psalm 46 : 1. Thank you Mr. Bill Webster. When will your next Presention be ? When ? Location ?
@@ickiedeer-lamb7282 Brand New Year 2022 with Good Health, Hope, Peace, Success, Love, Gratitude, Healing , Wellness, Give your self permission to be GOOD TO YOUR SELF😎👍👍👍🍾🥂🍾🥂✝️🙏🕯🕯🕯🕯🇨🇦🤍❤🤍❤🤍
I am so glad i have come across this video. I have recently lost my wife, and im going through all this. I can't thank you enough for posting these videos.
My wife passed away on February 25, she was set to retire on April 30, she was a communication supervisor with the Mass. State Police for 35 years she wasn't feeling well I brought her to the hospital we both walked in she gave the woman at the desk all her information because of covid I could not go with her I gave her a kiss on the cheek told her I would call her later....I got a phone call later that night they moved her to the Boston Hospital bigger hospital more serious my wife called me the next morning she was not 100 percent but we talked I received a phone call at 1:34 AM from the nurse saying she wasn't going to make it our immediate family went to see her in the ICU the next day she had a tube in her mouth just days earlier we were at a restaurant eating pizza we had plans to move to Florida.............it's just gut wrenching I really would give my left arm to have her back I'm a tough guy but when I see her cell phone, her sneakers she wore to the hospital, her pocketbook I just lose it yes I will be getting her pension $ etc, but who cares just wanted to say I know what all of you are going through.
I am so sorry about your loss.... I have nightmares about my husband dying in the ICU. It was a sudden and shocking thing to go through and so unexpected. My husband was on the ventilator too and just days before we had been having a movie day just like normal... it was crazy and so shocking. I would give anything to have him back. It's absolutely gut wrenching.
This is really a nice video I look at it this morning and I send it to two people going through a loss like myself. I am glad I met up with this program ❤.
Thank You, MR BILL WEBSTER, YOU GAVE ME A LITTLE PEACE, IN MY HEART!, YES MY LIFE HAS CHANGED, IT NEVER WILL BE THE SAME! BUT WITH FAITH IN GOD, AND IN TIME, IT MIGHT HELP ME HEAL! I AM GLAD TO HEAR YOUR TALK! THANK YOU , ROSE BARRERA
I LOST MY BEST FRIEND,MY SOULMATE N LOVE OF MY LIFE,MY EVERYTHING FOR 50 YEARS,SUDDENLY TO CANCER.SHE WAS DIAGNOSED N DIED WITHIN 1 MONTH.I AM STILL DEVESTATED,ITS BEEN ONLY 5 MONTHS ,BUT IT SEEMS LIKE YESTERDAY.I CRY EVERYDAY FOR HER,I LOVE HER SO MUCH,N I MISS HER SO VERY MUCH.I KNOW SHES IN GODS HANDS IN HEAVEN,BUT THE LONENENEST IS SO PAINFULL.THE ABSENCE OF HER PRESENCE IS KILLING ME.I KNOW SHES IN PARADISE WITH ALL OUR FAMILY MEMBERS N FRIENDS,BUT IT IS STILL INCREDIBLY HARD TO GO ON.I PRAY FOR ALL WHO GREIVE TO GET HEALED EVENTUALLY BY THE LORD.BUT FOR ME I JUST TAKE IT 1 HOUR AT A TIME.WE WERE INSEPARABLE N DID EVERYTHING TOGETHER.PLEASE PRAY FOR ME N MY GIRLS.MY WIFE PATTY WILL BE ETERNALLY LOVED BY ME EVERY SECOND OF EVERY MINUTE OF EVERYDAY I LIVE.GOD BLESS YOU ALL N KEEP THESE HELPFUL VIDEOS COMING.THANK YOU N GOD BLESS YOU N YOURS.MIKE
It's been 3 months since the love of my life left this world. This is something that I find hard to believe. I am numb .It was unreal when "we became me" . I relate to everything you said and pray you get through this journey called grief.
THANK YOU N I LL PRAY FOR U ALSO.AGAIN TWICE ALREADY TODAY I VE CRIED.THE PAIN IS UNBEARABLE EVERYDAY,BUT I ASK THE LORD JESUS TO HELP US ALL WHO ARE GREIVING AND PLEASE EASE,JUST A LITTLE THIS TERRIBLE PAIN AND ANGWICH.I MISS MY WIFE TERRIBLY.GOD BLESS ALL OF US WHO ARE GREIVING,BECAUSE IT REALLY IS THE INCREDIBLE LOVE INSIDE US FOR OUR BEST FREINDS,SOULMATES,LOVERS,COMPANIONS FOR LIFE THAT WE JUST LOVE SO MUCH N ALWAYS WILL.
Mike, I pray that somehow that even a tiny bit of your pain has eased. My husband passed away 18 months ago. On a good day, I don't cry. On a bad day, well... I call it a small nervous breakdown. May God bless you with a peace that is beyond our understanding. With all my heart, Carly
My wife died 2 weeks ago. I came down with covid 4 days ago. One day ago I experienced what you describe as a grief attack. I am at square one, but it's on a game board I've never played before.
I am so sorry Jerome... I am going through unbearable grief too. My husband died last month. I feel like I got knocked all the way back beyond Square 1. I am so sorry you have to go through this too.
@@mb19873 So very kind of you to ask, thank you. I am unfortunately doing much worse right now.. it has gotten a lot harder for me. It gets harder and harder for me with time. But I am still doing all I can to keep pressing on through the pain. Thanks again for asking. God bless.
Thank you. I'm grief stricken daily. Lost both my parents in the space of two months recently 💛🌿💚 I will never get over nor accept how I lost them both. Because they didn't need to die when they did nor how they did. Miss them so bad. Cannot accept it. Do not ever want to accept it or come to terms, because I don't want to NOT feel them in my life. Angry and regretful too. Grief is a daily discomfort and sheer inner, personal agony. I exist. I act, to get through the day seemingly able to cope. Inside I'm feeling tortured. Lost all meaning, purpose and joy. Love you so much mum. Love you so much dad. 💚💙 Your perennial, grateful daughter
My present loss is that of my mom, who died on January 15th 2019, 9 months ago. I live in a nursing home and am only in my 50s. Just today the social worker told me not to cry too much: followed by don't cry, then you shouldn't cry in an electric wheelchair. Uh, pardon me, but what does crying from grief of losing my mom have to do with being in my power wheelchair? I'm hurting. My mom has died. It's yet another loss in the many I've had in the past. I feel like I've lost it a lot of times. When my husband Ken died in 2007, it was so bad I wrote a manuscript called "I'm not crazy, I'm grieving ". What I hate is people trying to set a time limit for when my grief should be over. Mom's death has triggered many other losses I've had in the past, my dad 10 years ago, my 1st husband 12 years ago, my second husband 10 years ago, even losses I experienced 30 years ago or more. What gets me is while I'm trying to work through moms loss, people are coming at me with their thoughts of when they think I should "get better". Grief is NOT an illness. Any realistic thoughts on how to let these people know you appreciate kindness but not their judgement? My condolences to anyone grieving the loss of your mom, or anyone close to you. Thank you for this series.
I see my parents illnesses and know they will be gone soon and I also feel so many deep and difficult feelings. And it seems it goes on and on. The smallest memory ignites a flood of emotion. You are more than okay to grieve. In fact even the bible speaks of this reality. No one can know your heart and no one should judge it.
Ask for Human Resources or Id go down there for our if werent for this CV19 - and I would. You let it out, and I dont care of where your at with God, but if doable get on your knees And Let It Out for him to help you with it...I wished you were not in nursery home, for someone being in 50, but I know life's bs...even though Ive paused from God on m sweet, pretty Gf whom recently passed, I will mention you to him before bed, when I talk - not pray to him.
Grieving my mom so I relate to your message so much. I don't want to put a timetable on my grief. It was sudden and horrible. Praying for your protection during COVID in the nursing home.
My son's 2 yr death anniversary coming up May 4th and I'm going through a wave of grief.What makes it,so hard is he took his own life and I feel like there's no closure.I can really relate with you. Thank you so much for your help with me going through this.
I am crying for a young man that was shot and killed last week. He was 18 ! He lived in my neighborhood I didn’t know him personally! But seeing his mom’s painful posts on FB got me shook . My son is 18 . I can’t imagine losing him!
On June 4th of this year my 48 year daughter was killed by the person she loved most in this world: her fiance. After 4 days on life support she was declared brain dead and I made the decision to remove the machines. Every time I have to talk to a medical professional, an attorney, or law enforcement official they tell me the same thing, "You sound very intelligent/wise/strong/etcetera, etcetera." These people aren't grief counselors so it wouldn't make sense to start crying and getting upset when I'm trying to listen for answers to my questions. I save my tears for private times. When I was young I wondered what it would be like to experience grief. I will be 75 in September and now I know. I have lost my parents, many friends, some beloved cousins, a husband, two sweet dogs, and now my daughter. I have come to see that as we age all of life is about loss; loss of others, loss of health, possessions, maybe hearing or eyesight or mobility, until finally we lose our own lives to death. It's all a prolonged rollercoaster ride. I am beginning to learn to enjoy the good times while they last and grieve for my losses with grace and faith. Nothing on this earth lasts forever, nor was it meant to. In the words of the artist and poet William Blake, "He who binds to himself a joy Does the winged life destroy; But he who kisses the joy as it flies Lives in eternity's sun rise."
How strange----William Blake's poem that you just quoted...I have had that taped on the corner of my bathroom mirror for many years now. (cut out from a magazine) What you said about aging being all about losses...so true. I don't believe in "the golden years". This time in life is when we face our toughest trials.
Thank you for this video.I lost my husband of 30 years 3 months ago, and am grieving him terribly. No family or friends to speak of, so it's been difficult. Your videos do help.
Things like pictures and other items are not always helpful to me it brings the pain back and the memories of what was once and now it's gone forever 💔 😢 it only triggers and reminds me of it!!!
I like his comparison to huge waves crashing in. I've had a lot of deaths in the past 3 years, starting with mom 2 weeks after her new years day birthday, and many people in my life. Christmas is very hard because Christmas and new years go hand in hand. I used to call my mom at the time she was born, 12 am on new years day and wish her happy new birth year day. She enjoyed it and I had fun doing it. The last time I got to do this she was in I u on a ventilator. The nurses were great and I was able to do this for the last time. She died 14 days later. As Christmas 2021 is only about 2 wrrks away, I'm having a lot of grief attacks which turn into anxiety attacks. His description of grief and the feeling of craziness comforts me. God bless all reading this and may we l find comfort at this joyous but difficult season.
I lost my Mother in Law a month ago .She was like a Mother to me .I loved her so .She lived with us . I cant brace the thought of not ever seeing her or , talking with her .its so hard .Thank you fir this video .
What a great guy you are for caring and helping people,and im sure your wonderful parents would be proud of you,so thank you and id like to say,your heart is in the right place along with your wisdom 😊very well explained and all the best ✌👌
So many ideas in this video which I have experienced since loosing my wife. I had to put all her coats in the wardrobe. Including her slippers. They all reminded me of the fact she wasn't ever going to need them again. Her special food likes in the freezer i gave to the birds. Putting all these things away helped enormously. I keep a huge beautiful picture of her where I can speak to her daily. There are no grief triggers in the house now. I don't even sleep in our bed. I had NEVER slept in that bed without her and its much easier not to. When people ask how I am I say 'NOT fine but coping' Being honest is helpful to others. Some people simply avoid you. They do not know what to say.
I watch this sometime ago and brushed it off as too trendy. However, lve stumbled across this today and it has become a revelation and more meaningful. I lost my dear wife in 2021 and l still grieve and it is true grief comes in waves. I have good days, bad days and ocasionally really bad days.
Hmm. A grief attack is a sign that our system is ready to cope with a bit more of the pain. Yes. This is brilliantly helpful. Also, the presentation about dealing with guilt or remorse is very helpful, too. You're right on ... and I am very, very grateful for the help.
I am so blessed to have come across this video it's exactly what I have been feeling but I never heard it explained like this before it's definitely attacks.Thank you for the video.
Its the 9th year of the passing of my son. You have days even weeks when you are coping and carrying on with life like everyone else but then something will send you into the depths of despair and guilt of the empty space left behind by my son. It rips you apart. Anything can trigger the pain of grief. I hope like me you try and cope with this grief that you carry with you till you pass and meet up once again to be together again. I have other children who keep me going and I have to be strong for my wife who needs support from me. I know my son would want me to be the best Dad I can be to for my family. I do it for him and them however tough it is. I hope this helps
Simply me you are me. I went through it all when my daughter passed away. I still talk to GOD all day and pray. The memories are overwhelming. It is true that the pain goes up and down.
I’m feeling the depths and deep ocean waves right now. I’m slipping into such a dark place I don’t even want to be here anymore. Father’s Day and my grandmother’s passing anniversary this past weekend has taken an emotional toll on me four years since my grandmother passed and seventeen since my dad. On top of that losing other adopted aunts and two friends even, profound loss at its finest. I just feel fed up with life and really am ready to leave and quit....💔😔😢😔💔
im sorry for your losses. i know how u feel. please read this. it may help. my Granny, who was like a mom to me, passed away 3 and a half months ago. she raised me as much as my mom did and i lived right next door to her since 23 years ago. not a day went by that i didnt spend time with her. now its just an empty house with her porch light shining in my window every night. almost all the love i felt came from her. it still hurts so much. ive felt like giving up too bcuz on top of this, my grandpa is fading away in a nursing home, i have no good connection with my mom who doesnt want to talk to anyone most of the time, and i have bad depression, anxiety and ocd and am thinking of letting go of a 4 year relationship with someone emotionally abusive, but i dont want to hurt my mom by leaving by taking my life. i know there is always hope. im still here so i think u can, too. im not a very strong person but im still here. it starts feeling better, there are bad days, but it does get easier and i dont think the people u lost, or ones in your life now, would want u to give up. there is still a lot of good in everyone to share. u can honor lost loved ones by staying and making the best of any situation, being good to yourself and to others. but be patient with yourself so u dont become so discouraged. ur precious to God and still have a lot of good in u to share. pray and stay close to Christ. when i do, i have a peace i cant explain. sometimes i mess it up by not trusting in Him and not following Him as closely as i should sometimes, and maybe by inadvertently punishing myself for little disagreements, regrets that everyone has, so i feel upset at myself and it gets in the way of healing. learn to let certain bad thoughts go, like drifting clouds. u dont have to cling to them, making u more depressed. and maybe make even just super small goals, even just one small goal every day or one about every couple of days or just start something positive and carry on the love from your lost loved ones, share it so they live on also thru u and honor them by being kind to yourself and being positive as im sure they would want u to be. and maybe talk to a doctor and work on coping skills. i hope u answer to let me know if u are ok. and i hope this helps.
My name is AnitaS. I'm writing from Barberton South Africa. I lost my partner 13 days ago due to a Stroke...sudden and deadly. I get a lot of Grief Attacks and my heart is broken. Thank you for your informative talk. I am going to make a memory box to help me through this very painful period. God bless
I wonder if you are still around Bill? All the comments here are from atleast a year ago. I am glad I finally went on here to check out videos. It just helps to confirm that I am not crazy or week, just sad. I love when you said the absence of his presence. Thats totally it!! I miss having him here, even if we are not talking. And yes, bedtime is tough because he was so in to going to bed at the same time as me even though sometimes I had wanted a little space alone at the end of the day. Now I would do anything to have him beside me. Grief is a bitch!!! Whoops here comes a grief attack.
My husband passed two years ago after 60 years together and it left me broken. But my faith in God picked me up and put me back together to appreciate the love we had for one another and lots of memories of happiness. RIP my beloved Pete!
☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Thank you so much. I've only just come upon your video. All in Father God's timing. My wonderful husband of forty two years died suddenly. It is almost four years ago now and the way is very hard. Listening to you as been very helpful. Having my faith holds me up.
Pauline, how are you living 4 years later? Is pain still there? I am grieving because my husband past away three weeks ago and I am not living but just existing ..
@@laram5104 Bless you Lara, I am deeply sorry you are in this valley. Words are inadequate, but I put my arm around you and have some understanding, although I know our experience is a private one and I want to tread softly. I hope you can know the love Father God has for you, He is our comforter and understands completely. With love Pauline.
Thank you. I had no idea I was having grief attacks. I finally started to figure out I’m grieving and not just dealing with an anxiety disorder. I’ve been so caught up in trying to figure out and fix my anxiety disorder that I haven’t just let myself grieve what’s really in there. I’ll have horrible anxiety attacks for a week and realize that I’ll just cry and say I miss my (stolen by other parent) daughter. It’s been 2 years and I will go up and down and nobody understands. I just thought I was losing it. When I start to cry I stop it and then get awful anxiety. I think I’ve been so focused on fixing my anxiety that now my relationship is ending after my partners father has died. We are both grieving so differently but I want so bad to connect and heal with my partner. It’s so overwhelming. I don’t know how to honor all the horrible things I feel and work and be a parent and go on alone.
Thank you so much for sharing. I'm suffering after the loss of my mother and basically, my whole life. I think there is a difference between anxiety and grief attacks. They are somewhat similar. I hope you find your way. Stay strong.
Recently I lost my only grandma due to cancer. Thank you for helping me understand grief attacks, because I’ve been struggling with this for quite a while now.
Thank you. October 21 was our anniversary. We missed what ended up being our last one, our 35th. I thanked my husband before he died for sharing his life with me. May God bless you for your ministry. I know what I will do the rest of my new life, I just don't know when yet.
Found this so helpful, I support those who have lost and at the present time I too myself have had a loss, this has grounded me to something I try and get everyone else through. Thank you
I lost my mother a year ago and have been struggling with my thoughts I miss her so much and this video helped me to know that it is ok to grief and that it is normal to be like this I have no regrets with my relationship with her I had a beautiful time with her by my side I wanted to say to everyone that is going through this that it's a beautiful thing that people love there loved ones as much as I do mine and I always will.
I had difficult relationship at times with my mom. 3 years my mom didnt want to see me nor forgive me. then my mom died suddenly 2019 Nursing Home with MASSIVE HEART ATTACK. My Condulces to you ! Glad you had a Good Relationship with Your Mom.
I lost my husband eleven weeks ago and all I seem to do is cry as I meet people I will never get over my husband we were together 54 four years and we have been married nearly 52 years I don’t thing I will ever get over my loss death is so final no turning back the end Margaret bristol
I lost my only beloved son Melvin Gilbert on 18.8.2020.Now we are alone. It was a big shock. We can't accept he is no more. We have only one son. He is my only prince. How can we accept he is no more. No I can't imagine. I can't able to sleep in the night. My son smiling face is before me. God took my son so soon. Now we are alone. Feeling so painful. Everyday we were waiting for him. Without my son no hope, courage, confidence. My hope is gone away. My body only present. My soul is gone. It is very terrible to live without him. 😰😭😭😭
I feel the exact same i lost my daughter in November and all i can think about is will I see her again it terrifies me to think we will never be together again , I am so sorry for your loss and pain
I just had one 3 days ago..I lost my brother unexpectedly on Feb 4 2018..all of the sudden started crying couldn't stop..was making my plans for Thanksgiving and I lost it..🙏🙏
I lost my mentor and I felt shock it was emotional roll coaster I’m still on it comes and goes in intensity . I still miss him very deeply. There are definitely moments I want to talk to him and it makes me miss him even more. This is a really good video thank you for it.
Thank you Sir for this inspiring video. I lost my Grandbaby Julie on December 10 2021. I am experiencing this Grief Attacks. I just didn't know by then. May the Almighty God heal each and every one of us who are grieving. Shalom 🙏🙏
I lost my wife of 36 years in January 2024 to ovarian cancer. It’s now been about 5 months, and these grief attacks are very real to me. My grief councilor tells me I’m doing as well as could be expected at this point, but this roller coaster ride is very tiring. I miss my Cheri so much!
☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
This video series has been a Godsend for me the past 3 months. My wife died suddenly on 03-12-2023, and with today being the literal 3-month mark, this is such a reassuring video to see today. As painful as this all is, feeling understood makes it bearable.
Thank you Bill for these videos. I've been through a lot within the last couple years but especially losing my sister on 10/21/18 brought me to rock bottom. Your channel has helped me with comfort and healing. Thanks for all you do for us.
Iam uncle Angelo I raised a little 2 yrold girl not my blood from 2 yrs old to 13 yrs old then she went to her sister's house and she went wild she passed away 1 year ago at 17 yr old I have persistent complex bereavement disorder alls I do is cry but now it's me and my godaughter Sara James crossley spirit and god and Jesus one hour at a time bless us all 💖🙏🙏💞
Thanks for this talk. My husband passed on 1 1/2 years ago and I thought I was over it. But this month some grief attacks are coming and going. What is important for me is my awareness that it is there so I'll find a way to cope with it. One important coping method I do is prayers. Even if I have grief attacks with prayers I remain calm and peaceful. I remain in touch with reality.
So very true. I lost my Mother at 87 in October 2020 after looking after her 24/7 for over 3 years. These "grief attacks" explain perfectly what I am experiencing now
I hate feeling like this. I've never felt such despair in my life. I want my baby back and since I can't have him idk how to move forward. Hell I DON'T EVEN WANT TO. I'm too scared. I'm scared to take on life without my son.
I would get panic attacks when I'd look to the future because I coudldn't imagine a future without her. The only thing that helps me is to take one miserable, sad day at a time but hopefully if you do the fear won't be as bad. I feel that your baby knows you are strong and you can do this. His love will sustain you. Many fires cannot quench love, it is as strong as death. I hope you find some comfort.
Thank you @Elizabeth. My condolences to to you and everyone. My moms bday wa 12am new years day tomorrow is new years and yes I'm again struggling. In lickdown for tge 2nd Christmas season and that's exacerbating my grief attacks. Thanks Dr. Webster.
I am going thru the one year anniversary of my brother’s unexpected passing. And , it’s been five months since I lost my beloved service dog.. - The holidays are coming up - on Thanksgiving I lost my dad, on Christmas I lost my mom, on New Years I lost my husband of 20 years & my godmother of 20 years. I don’t talk to Jesus .. I simply allow the pain to come & go. I trust the process.. As for replacements , who can replace these beloved ?
I don't know if you get a chance to see or read our comments. I just wanted to say thank you for your ministry of restoration. I'm so glad I found your channel.
My best friend, my son, died from covid-19 on Dec 14, 2021. He had severe RA and begged his co-worker to put on a mask. She was coughing and very ill. She laughed and said "covid is just the flu!" By the time I arrived at the hospital he was gone. I went into shock and scream cried. My heart is breaking. When someone tells me 'he's in a better place or be strong' I want to tell them to shut up. Please just tell me you are sorry for my pain; that you will keep me and John in your prayers. Give me a gentle hug to let me know I'm not alone. God bless everyone of you living in grief. Until you experience the loss of someone you love with your heart and soul you can't possibly know the true depth of pain.
The loss of a child is like no other. My daughter was killed less than 4 weeks ago. No one can understand what that pain is like except another parent. God bless you.
Amen ... it is a depth of pain that no one can know or imagine unless they have been there... I am so sorry you have a broken heart too. It is so infuriating when people say to be strong or "just be glad he's not suffering anymore". You can tell they don't have a CLUE and have not lost someone close to them because those things are NOT helpful. I am truly SO sorry for your pain. I lost my husband, my best friend, my caretaker, and my soulmate all in one last month and the pain is beyond words horrible.
I lost my Wife 3 months ago. Still going through waves of emotions. I still find myself in a fog. I can't believe it somedays. Somedays i'm okay then minutes later i have this deep pit in my chest and stomach. Sometimes i just want to meet her in Heaven earlier than my time. Dr. Bill is very helpful. God bless all those left behind to grief the lost of a loved one.
NL - I just lost my beautiful wife of 36 years. She died very unexpectedly three days ago and the pain is just unbearable. It's just now starting to hit me that I'm never going to see her again on this earth. I've been sitting in the same place. I'm trying so hard to deal with it, but it's hard. Very hard. Just typing this to you I broke down crying. I don't know what I'm going to do without her. I feel utterly, horribly lost, confused, and scared, but I know I've got to keep it together for myself and my two sons. I don't know you, but I'm right in there with you. God bless you and keep you and give you strength for each day. I, too, cling to the hope of seeing her one day in Heaven. Hold on to that hope, brother. If you need to talk or just need a shoulder to lean on, I am here.
@@jonroth9656 hey brother, so sorry to hear about your wife. You will get through this. I'm still Grieving everyday but the pit feeling has been less. I try to believe she wants me to be happy and not cry in horrible pain everyday. I tell you no easy task brother. Your in the beginning of this, so I know it really sucks the life out of you. Please try to keep your head up 🙏. If you wanna talk further let me know.
@@nl3131 - Thank you, my friend. No doubt in the days and weeks ahead I'll be dropping you a few lines to talk, chat, whatever. Thank you for your response and you hang in there, too. Eventually, the pain will subside for both of us I'm sure.
@@jonroth9656 hey, yeah I'm here. I didn't have anyone to talk to about this when everything happened. So I'm open ears when you need to vent. God bless you and your family. Talk soon.
@@nl3131 - Been almost two months now. I sit in my van and still stare out over the landscape and the sky. I suppose I'm coming to terms with the fact that she's gone. I still have my moments when I just break down and cry. It's amazing how much of a set routine you make of your day-to-day life in order to cope with the loss. I hope you are doing well. I really do. She's always going to be there my friend. I guess at some point we're just going to have to let them go, though. But they're always going to be with us. Again - I sincerely hope you are well and doing well. In my thoughts.
Looking back over it doesnt help. Our house burnt down five dearly beloved pets got killed, all our clothes hundreds of books loads of art equipment and dizens of paintings jewellery guitars electronic keyboard endless things, no insurance, pensioners on low pension. We are being helped by family otherwise we would be homeless, but I am inconsolably depressed taking loads of drugs but having very bad days, attacks as youd say. Daily we go to the ruins to clear up, its terrible. People have been brilliant collected a lot of money for a repair of the house, it cant bring the animaks back. I have lyme, was depressed before the fire. I cannot face recalling, its torture, how long wil this go on? It was five weeks ago
My partner of 7.5 years passed away Thursday night unexpectedly. He was only 33. We had so many years left together I thought. We were going to grow old and be together forever. We weren’t married yet, we were engaged, but we thought of each other as husband and wife. We thought there was plenty of time to get married. I have had a hard time realizing that he is gone even though I was there. I saw it happen. I woke up this morning feeling as though I might die of the pain in my body’s realization that he is gone. I feel physical intense pain. I am so scared of what is to come. I’m afraid I won’t be able to handle this. He was everything to me, he was a big purpose to my life. I am lost and it’s only been a couple of days. Lord please help me.
Stephen, my husband passed away nine months ago on his birthday. We were each other's lives. We spent everyday together. I'm all alone now. A 56 year-old Widow and nobody has come to help me grieve. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that there's someone that you can talk to about your feelings. My husband and I would talk for hours on end. After 23 years, he still fascinated me. I don't know how I'm going to do this all alone. I never learned to drive. I feel like I'm trapped with no one to hear me crying for help. People say, go find a therapist. Why don't you find a support group. I can barely feed myself because life without my husband isn't life anymore. I apologize if this was an intrusion into your pain and grief. It's just past midnight and I know I have hours ahead that I'm going to be awake. The nights are so long. I thank you for listening if you read this. Sincerely, Carly
@@simplyme7821 God bless you. I feel exactly the same as my mother died after my brothers took her from her beloved home under my care while she was thriving. Their neglect of her diet and needs she died 2 1/2 years later basically declining the moment they basically tricked her for going for a visit and never brought her back home. Then they sold her home and split her savings accounts and half million from her home between themselves. Within months from that day, she became demented and only could say to me the one time I saw her again, "Sheil, I'm so lost and confused." Although I had notified the authorities so many times as they abused the both of us there over and over again, the police and social services did not help as we both alerted them what was going on. They didn't even place her in her family plot, cremated her against her wishes,, as well as then after her insufferable neglect and mental incapacity she passed,, they proceeded to steal my inheritance. They wouldn't even let her speak to me or mention my name and when I finally found where she was, Country Gardens, the awful staff wouldn't even put the phone up to her ear for me to say my goodbyes. This the result of my brothers and their wives greed, the social safety net inadequate and this government not addressing elder financial fraud which is the number one crime in the state of California. I found evidence of their fraud and sloppy crime of forgery and embezzlement of all her hard earned assets and emptying of her bank accounts and await to see if these same agencies go after my brothers and wives of their complicity to rob her blind and simply cremated her on the cheap without notifying me or her friends and relatives for their illicit gain. They, like so many, when it comes to money, even though they're rich, they have no shame nor conscience. And I have no closure, no peace and lost my home due to their swindling of me as well as my mother. They are simply criminally minded, creepy thieves who've lived beyond their means exorbitantly while taking as much as they could from us. God knows truly who they are and what they've become. Mother's favorite phrase was my prayers have been answered. I pray for them to be indicted and that my mother can then finally REST IN PEACE ✌ and justice will win out soon. AND THEN, I WILL LOOK UPWARDS AND SAY TO MY MOTHER, "MA, MY PRAYERS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED" and to myself, "JUSTICE MATTERS."
@@sheilascanlon4928 my husband's sister is a millionaire and owns two homes. She very reluctantly sent her brother $100 a month so that I could feed him. When he died she didn't want to chip in for his burial. She said she was all tapped out. I will always remember that. My husband and I gave away a total of $60,000 to people who needed it and that was everything we had. When he died there was $17 in his wallet and that's all I had. I've been eating peanut butter for 2 meals a day. and then she took care of the will and said that her daddy said that when my husband's father died she could keep the one account that had a hundred thousand in it. Because someone who's a millionaire needs more money. Anyway, you can't take one Thin dime with you. All you take with you is love. And that's what you will have with you now and that's what you'll have when you hug your mother again in heaven. God will take care of his Vengeance in his time. I'd rather have someone sue me and fail then have to stand in front of God and be judged to be a bad person who has to go to hell. God bless you. I found out I have cancer. I'm in the hospital alone and I don't know how much longer I have but, I'm not alone because Jesus never leaves me. God bless you. Love, Carly
hey--- quit saying 'died' abut a loved one. They are still alive. They have just passed from this world to another. Their body that gave them ability to function in this world has ceased to function-- but they--who they were here-- is still alive.
That's a pretty callous thing to say, bud. My wife is gone. Can you truly relate? Half of my heart was ripped from me and I lost the only person who really understood me. She was my best friend and soul mate for 28-years. Your explanation is too simplistic. I say again, do you relate to this personally?
I'm so glad I came across this video. It's midnight and I'm all alone and having a grief attack. Nine months ago, my husband went into the kitchen. It was his birthday and I didn't hear him after a minute so, I went to see what he was doing. I found him on his knees unable to talk. He was trying with all his might to pull himself back up. I laid him on the floor and I did not know what was happening. His eyes were huge and blue and I think he knew what was happening. I said I love you. He mouthed, I love...and, he died with my hands on his chest. For some reason, nobody came. It took me weeks to borrow enough money to have him cremated. My family has just stayed away. I'm 56 years old and I had him for 23 years. The first two months, I was so numb and I couldn't eat. I lost 30 lb. I stayed in the smallest room of my house for 22 hours a day. I wasn't even able to cry because I could not mourn alone. I've only been able to cry in the last month. I had a tooth pulled a couple of days ago and I ended up having a fever. I was so nauseous and dizzy afterwards. My husband would have taken care of me. Now, there is no more love. We used to talk constantly. He still fascinated me and I miss him calling me darling. My only friend is God now and I know he always has been. All I can do is pray and talk to Jesus for hours at a time. I never thought I would be alone. If you are still reading, thank you. I trust God. He knows how much pain I'm in and I pray that God bless you and may you find some peace. If you believe in God, will you please ask him to send me a friend. Sincerely, Carly 💜
Simply Me My heart goes out to you. Please know that I am thinking about you. I know this was posted two months ago but that is no time at all...
@@deboradavidson9123 Thank you Debora for writing to me. I feel so alone and I don't have a partner to help me make decisions and to hold my hand and laugh with. Now the month of October is coming and I'm afraid I'm going to lose the roof over my head. I've just been eating a tablespoon of peanut butter for breakfast and one for lunch and something small for dinner. I lost 50 lb. I have nothing left to do except to sell my engagement ring. It's 7 a.m. and I haven't been able to sleep. I am thinking about you too. I know that when my husband died, my dog Charlie became my only friend. It was a cold winter in the house because I couldn't afford keep it warm and she started jumping up in bed and getting as close to me as she could. If I reached my arm out toward her she would wrap her paw around my wrist and pull me toward her. I know you must be in so much pain from losing your friend who served you and helped you. I believe in miracles and I'm praying for one now. My heart goes out to you. Sincerely, Carly
Seemed like a Heart Attack Your Husband had.
I am grieving the death my Parents 5 years apart.
My Mom was 2019 sudden Massive Heart Attack.
Dad was C.H.F. due too Kidney Faulure.
GOD BLESS YOU.
JESUS IS MY ANSWER TOO. JOHN 3:16&17
MY CONDOLENCES
I'm sorry about your loss and everything else you had to go through alone. I am 37 years old and my husband passed away unexpectedly two months ago. I thought he was sleeping and when I found him he have been dead for hours. My heart is completely broken and I feel a hole in my soul.
I lost my faith in God and the only thing that has me going is our daughter.
@@The1morningstar DO you feel as though God took him away from you?
God bless everyone who's is facing any kind of loss🥺🙏
Thank you for sharing your experience with grief. I lost my husband of 49 yrs. 11 months ago. I am having quite a few “ grief attacks.” It hurts so much. But, slowly, I’m better today. I know waves of grief will hit me often, but I also know that I’m not alone. The Lord is my Shepherd. He is with me in the valley of the shadow of death. His light leads me through and out of that place. I’m so very grateful for His faithfulness to me.
I just lost my beloved wife three days ago. She died very unexpectedly of a massive brain stroke. We had 36 beautiful years together, and now she's gone. I am so numb, so very dead inside. Trying to make a ritual out of everything to push back against the horrible pain in my chest, in my heart, and in my soul. I know I have to keep it together for our two sons, but it's hard. I see her everywhere. I can go to her, but she will never be coming back to me. Hell, I'm breaking down crying while typing this. I wish for every person who typed a response to this very good video a very deep peace and calm and comfort for their losses. God, this is so hard.
I can feel your pain. My deepest sympathy and prayers for you. May you find comfort in the presence of a loving God....just pray whenever you feel sad and alone..Godbless you.
Jon; how are you doing 3 m later? I lost my beloved husband 3 weeks ago and grief I am experiencing just killing me.
Jon Roth, I’m so sorry for your loss and heartache as I’m feeling the depths and deep ocean waves right now. I’m slipping into such a dark place I don’t even want to be here anymore. Father’s Day and my grandmother’s passing anniversary this past weekend has taken an emotional toll on me four years since my grandmother passed and seventeen since my dad. On top of that losing other adopted aunts and two friends even, profound loss at its finest. I just feel fed up with life and really am ready to leave and quit....💔😔😢😔💔
I do know how you feel as I lost my wife of 55 years in a head on collision 7 years ago-my heart goes out to you.
My condolences to you 😢
Even my Doctor doesn’t get how bitter grief can be. I nursed my husband of 45 years at home. He died 4 months ago.
Thank you for introducing me to " grief attack" .... I experience it periodically 15 months after my husband's death. We had been married for 63 long years so to bounce back to normal life need a lot more time if it's possible in my lifetime. When I'm attacked by grief, I cry, talk to him and ask him to be with me. Then, I feel his presence next to me! Thank you for your message! mtm
Sir you are better than my therapist. Thank you for this video. I lost my husband almost 4 months now. And my grief is so deep. I am devastated and heartbroken. I feel grief is like roller coaster sometimes im okay and sometimes im not. I get irritated at little things. I have grief attacks and cry. I don't cry everyday anymore. I miss him so much.
I lost my husband 3 months ago, and understand how you are feeling. I know how deep that grief can be. I am also going through it. I just said a healing prayer for you. Hope things get better for you soon. God bless.
I can't make a whole meal for myself. I grab at food, not cook for an hour. It is so painful to stand in the kitchen and cry out my husband's name-- I just want him to walk out of his study and ask me why dinner is so late. I miss him. Miss his friendship. His humor. He joked when he was dying. It was so sudden, Pancreatic cancer. We found out in November and he died in January. I was teaching him how to cook. I cry when I cook and when I wash dishes. I remember my sweet man. It has been 16 months. I keep telling myself it is OK. Just get my chores done. Take care of the chickens, cats and my self. He wouldn't want me to despair.. .he'd want me to live. He came in the kitchen and asked me to promise not to follow him immediately.. not let the loss destroy me. He knew me so very well.
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How are you doing now Kathleen? I know it's probably still really hard and lonely ... just hoping that you have found some peace even if it's just small glimpses. I lost my beloved husband last month and it has been the worst experience of my life and one that changed my life forever. Every dream and plan we had - gone in a moment. Feels like my entire life is over. He was my whole world. I miss everything about my husband. He died suddenly and it was a shock. He had Acute Myeloid Leukemia (cancer) and it took him down in a matter of days. It was so sudden and shocking. My husband thought he just had poison ivy because he worked around poison ivy plants - the first symptom was chicken pox type bumps all over him that itched like crazy. If we had known that was a symptom of leukemia then maybe we could have caught it sooner and saved him. But he didn't make it - died in just a little over 2 weeks and was on a ventilator most of that time, unable to talk to me anymore. It was just awful. I have cats to take care of too. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am here because I respect Dr. Bill Webster and his practical advice; and because this is a safe space to unload.
The emotional impact of losing your spouse is profound and can not be described. Sometimes being with others talking about things helps but that is only a band-aid because at the end of the day, at home, meal times, and looking around seeing what used to belong to him, you realize you are there without him...and you carry on...
Dear beautiful souls.
I just lost my baby little boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache pain to the very depths of the core of my soul💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜
I'm so sorry Bonnie, sending you love. ❤️🙏❤️
I am so so sorry. It has to be so painful. Look to Jesus.
I don't think ill ever come to terms with what happened recently to me. This feeling is too much.
I just lost my wife of 22 years, 2 days ago. This program has already helped me. Thanks so much.
God bless you. I have lost two husbands so I know the grief. God loves you and wants to be your source of comfort. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have real lasting hope and peace.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
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I just wanted to ask you. How are you doing now? I pray you have found a little peace. I just lost my husband two months ago.
I came across this video and what a wealth of information for me. My husband died suddenly 3 1/2 months ago. These videos help me in internalizing what I am feeling and the highs and lows I am feeling are normal
Hello Judy
How are you doing today?
Wave Apon Wave Apon Wave of Grief Attacks ,,15mths Later 😔
I miss my Beloved Husband so very much 😔❤️😔
Thease Vidios have helped me , understand my Grief Journey 😔
Thank you Bill,,and God Bless you ❤️👼❤️
Ps ,this Video is Absolutely right on ,this is exactly what happens to me 😔❤️😔👼
HI Christine. I am 7 months into it. HOw are you now a year later? I guess I need some hope that this will pass.
@@ruth-annstewart1735 Ruth -Ann its helpfull to attend Bill Websters Groups. I went for my brothers death first death in the Family then I went to his groups for my grandmas death
I havent been for my dads death 2014 my moms in 2019. not ready I watch mr. websters videos helps me.
Lost my husband 2 1/2 yrs ago. Was married 58 yrs. I call it a Tsunami, because it sneaks up on you unexpected. Now I’m alone.
@@sharileeengle5204 ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I lost my husband/best friend in August 2021. We had 59 years together, years I would do again. Also, in the last 6 months I have had a total of seven losses. It’s one day at a time. Your words were so helpful! Thank you.
God bless you! 7 losses! That is heartbreaking, but God is there and wants to be your source of comfort. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have real lasting hope and peace.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
ua-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/v-deo.html
It's been 3 years since my Dad died and although I'm better I still struggle. I love to listen to these videos to remind myself my grief episodes are normal. I do also feel very lonely and came across one of his videos and it helped me to know I am not the only one who feels so lonely in the loss of a loved one.
I can relate
@@mkf628 I just losy my dad too he was so amazing i cant put into words i feel guilty as i wasnt there during his decline yet id looked sfter him for years just before all i feel is what i didnt do not all i did.
My god this loss is unbearable 💔 love n light to you all you are certainly not alone!
@@sapphire6769 ♥♥♥
Thank you...a beautiful message about grief.
I empathize & understand all your feelings as I just lost my hubby of 29 years on 3/4/21. I have learned a very important lesson: people do not know how to help the grieving, neither family &/or friends whether highly educated or not. The 1st lesson people need to learn in order to "help" is to "shut up", ask no questions & just LISTEN if the grieving one wants to talk!! Otherwise, just "be there" & freeze food for MONTHS AHEAD so the one in pain does not have to cook, go out grocery shopping, etc!
God loves you and wants to be your source of comfort. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Not because I am trying to compare tragedies with anyone else but because she explains how to have real lasting hope and peace.
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
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What was relevant in 2012 is still relevant in 2022. 10 years of people passing. You mark special occasions by increments of 10 years, 5 years, maybe 25 years. Right now I mark my grief in days and when it gets bad hours. I miss my wife so much. 43 years together. How do you just stop after 43 years? It’s impossible.
Thank you so much, I'm 13 weeks out, my soulmate of 29 years...
I'm so grateful for the time we shared, thank you for this amazing insight.
God bless us 1 & all‼☮💙
Thank you for sharing your journey of grief. I have watched half way through and with tears rolling down my face I will have to come back to the rest. I have had counselling and been stuck in the depression stage as one told me. It is not an illness or pull yourself together it is a personal journey. Ive realised that the love you share with someone relates into the grief you have. |There are memories everywhere, and Ive just come back from the shops and see things my beautiful passed over family would love. Triggered me. I am so pleased I did not choose to zzone our, but insteard of rejecting feeling I found your channel that helped me. Thank you I will be back. Love to all in their losses. x
MY CONDOLENCES TO EVERY ONE WHO COMES ACROSS THESE VIDEOS. GOD BLESS YOU ONE DAY AT A TIME. PEACE BE WITH YOU AND ME. I like the Quote at the End Psalm 46 : 1. Thank you Mr. Bill Webster. When will your next Presention be ? When ? Location ?
Thank you and God bless you for working kind words.
@@ickiedeer-lamb7282 Brand New Year 2022 with Good Health, Hope, Peace, Success, Love, Gratitude, Healing , Wellness, Give your self permission to be GOOD TO YOUR SELF😎👍👍👍🍾🥂🍾🥂✝️🙏🕯🕯🕯🕯🇨🇦🤍❤🤍❤🤍
Thank you so much. God bless. I need it.
@@allisongriffiths2546 Hi thinking of you, sending love and blessings
@@allisongriffiths2546 Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
I am so glad i have come across this video. I have recently lost my wife, and im going through all this. I can't thank you enough for posting these videos.
My wife passed away on February 25, she was set to retire on April 30, she was a communication supervisor with the Mass. State Police for 35 years she wasn't feeling well I brought her to the hospital we both walked in she gave the woman at the desk all her information because of covid I could not go with her I gave her a kiss on the cheek told her I would call her later....I got a phone call later that night they moved her to the Boston Hospital bigger hospital more serious my wife called me the next morning she was not 100 percent but we talked I received a phone call at 1:34 AM from the nurse saying she wasn't going to make it our immediate family went to see her in the ICU the next day she had a tube in her mouth just days earlier we were at a restaurant eating pizza we had plans to move to Florida.............it's just gut wrenching I really would give my left arm to have her back I'm a tough guy but when I see her cell phone, her sneakers she wore to the hospital, her pocketbook I just lose it yes I will be getting her pension $ etc, but who cares just wanted to say I know what all of you are going through.
I am so sorry about your loss.... I have nightmares about my husband dying in the ICU. It was a sudden and shocking thing to go through and so unexpected. My husband was on the ventilator too and just days before we had been having a movie day just like normal... it was crazy and so shocking. I would give anything to have him back. It's absolutely gut wrenching.
I am going through from the loss of my soul mate ,who passed on three weeks ago,I found this video very helpful indeed-----------------
Sending you my sympathy
Me too. 😞
I feel you my baby mother passed away a month after she gave birth to my 1st born he was born may 31 2021 she passed away July 8 2021
This is really a nice video I look at it this morning and I send it to two people going through a loss like myself. I am glad I met up with this program ❤.
Thank You, MR BILL WEBSTER, YOU GAVE ME A LITTLE PEACE, IN MY HEART!, YES MY LIFE HAS CHANGED, IT NEVER WILL BE THE SAME! BUT WITH FAITH IN GOD, AND IN TIME, IT MIGHT HELP ME HEAL! I AM GLAD TO HEAR YOUR TALK! THANK YOU , ROSE BARRERA
IT will help me HEAL!
I LOST MY BEST FRIEND,MY SOULMATE N LOVE OF MY LIFE,MY EVERYTHING FOR 50 YEARS,SUDDENLY TO CANCER.SHE WAS DIAGNOSED N DIED WITHIN 1 MONTH.I AM STILL DEVESTATED,ITS BEEN ONLY 5 MONTHS ,BUT IT SEEMS LIKE YESTERDAY.I CRY EVERYDAY FOR HER,I LOVE HER SO MUCH,N I MISS HER SO VERY MUCH.I KNOW SHES IN GODS HANDS IN HEAVEN,BUT THE LONENENEST IS SO PAINFULL.THE ABSENCE OF HER PRESENCE IS KILLING ME.I KNOW SHES IN PARADISE WITH ALL OUR FAMILY MEMBERS N FRIENDS,BUT IT IS STILL INCREDIBLY HARD TO GO ON.I PRAY FOR ALL WHO GREIVE TO GET HEALED EVENTUALLY BY THE LORD.BUT FOR ME I JUST TAKE IT 1 HOUR AT A TIME.WE WERE INSEPARABLE N DID EVERYTHING TOGETHER.PLEASE PRAY FOR ME N MY GIRLS.MY WIFE PATTY WILL BE ETERNALLY LOVED BY ME EVERY SECOND OF EVERY MINUTE OF EVERYDAY I LIVE.GOD BLESS YOU ALL N KEEP THESE HELPFUL VIDEOS COMING.THANK YOU N GOD BLESS YOU N YOURS.MIKE
It's been 3 months since the love of my life left this world. This is something that I find hard to believe. I am numb .It was unreal when "we became me" . I relate to everything you said and pray you get through this journey called grief.
THANK YOU N I LL PRAY FOR U ALSO.AGAIN TWICE ALREADY TODAY I VE CRIED.THE PAIN IS UNBEARABLE EVERYDAY,BUT I ASK THE LORD JESUS TO HELP US ALL WHO ARE GREIVING AND PLEASE EASE,JUST A LITTLE THIS TERRIBLE PAIN AND ANGWICH.I MISS MY WIFE TERRIBLY.GOD BLESS ALL OF US WHO ARE GREIVING,BECAUSE IT REALLY IS THE INCREDIBLE LOVE INSIDE US FOR OUR BEST FREINDS,SOULMATES,LOVERS,COMPANIONS FOR LIFE THAT WE JUST LOVE SO MUCH N ALWAYS WILL.
@@mikesavo6666 cry when you have to. Yes when we talk to Jesus he comforts us . Praying that tomorrow will be a little easier for you.
Mike, I pray that somehow that even a tiny bit of your pain has eased. My husband passed away 18 months ago. On a good day, I don't cry. On a bad day, well... I call it a small nervous breakdown. May God bless you with a peace that is beyond our understanding. With all my heart, Carly
My wife died 2 weeks ago. I came down with covid 4 days ago. One day ago I experienced what you describe as a grief attack. I am at square one, but it's on a game board I've never played before.
I am so sorry Jerome... I am going through unbearable grief too. My husband died last month. I feel like I got knocked all the way back beyond Square 1. I am so sorry you have to go through this too.
@@WeepingWidowSueAnahow are you doing now?
How are you now Jerome?
@@mb19873 So very kind of you to ask, thank you. I am unfortunately doing much worse right now.. it has gotten a lot harder for me. It gets harder and harder for me with time. But I am still doing all I can to keep pressing on through the pain. Thanks again for asking. God bless.
Thank you. I'm grief stricken daily. Lost both my parents in the space of two months recently 💛🌿💚 I will never get over nor accept how I lost them both. Because they didn't need to die when they did nor how they did. Miss them so bad. Cannot accept it. Do not ever want to accept it or come to terms, because I don't want to NOT feel them in my life. Angry and regretful too. Grief is a daily discomfort and sheer inner, personal agony. I exist. I act, to get through the day seemingly able to cope. Inside I'm feeling tortured. Lost all meaning, purpose and joy. Love you so much mum. Love you so much dad. 💚💙 Your perennial, grateful daughter
My present loss is that of my mom, who died on January 15th 2019, 9 months ago. I live in a nursing home and am only in my 50s. Just today the social worker told me not to cry too much: followed by don't cry, then you shouldn't cry in an electric wheelchair. Uh, pardon me, but what does crying from grief of losing my mom have to do with being in my power wheelchair? I'm hurting. My mom has died. It's yet another loss in the many I've had in the past. I feel like I've lost it a lot of times. When my husband Ken died in 2007, it was so bad I wrote a manuscript called "I'm not crazy, I'm grieving ". What I hate is people trying to set a time limit for when my grief should be over. Mom's death has triggered many other losses I've had in the past, my dad 10 years ago, my 1st husband 12 years ago, my second husband 10 years ago, even losses I experienced 30 years ago or more. What gets me is while I'm trying to work through moms loss, people are coming at me with their thoughts of when they think I should "get better". Grief is NOT an illness. Any realistic thoughts on how to let these people know you appreciate kindness but not their judgement? My condolences to anyone grieving the loss of your mom, or anyone close to you.
Thank you for this series.
Just say 'ah thanks, yes, absolutely' whilst knowing inside that you completely ignore their ignorance
I see my parents illnesses and know they will be gone soon and I also feel so many deep and difficult feelings. And it seems it goes on and on. The smallest memory ignites a flood of emotion. You are more than okay to grieve. In fact even the bible speaks of this reality. No one can know your heart and no one should judge it.
Ask for Human Resources or Id go down there for our if werent for this CV19 - and I would. You let it out, and I dont care of where your at with God, but if doable get on your knees And Let It Out for him to help you with it...I wished you were not in nursery home, for someone being in 50, but I know life's bs...even though Ive paused from God on m sweet, pretty Gf whom recently passed, I will mention you to him before bed, when I talk - not pray to him.
And screw that social worker, may all of Life's Hell become upon them soon.
Grieving my mom so I relate to your message so much. I don't want to put a timetable on my grief. It was sudden and horrible. Praying for your protection during COVID in the nursing home.
My son's 2 yr death anniversary coming up May 4th and I'm going through a wave of grief.What makes it,so hard is he took his own life and I feel like there's no closure.I can really relate with you. Thank you so much for your help with me going through this.
Hello Carol
How are you doing today?
I am crying for a young man that was shot and killed last week. He was 18 ! He lived in my neighborhood I didn’t know him personally! But seeing his mom’s painful posts on FB got me shook . My son is 18 . I can’t imagine losing him!
maybe you can imagine, that's why you empathise..
On June 4th of this year my 48 year daughter was killed by the person she loved most in this world: her fiance. After 4 days on life support she was declared brain dead and I made the decision to remove the machines. Every time I have to talk to a medical professional, an attorney, or law enforcement official they tell me the same thing, "You sound very intelligent/wise/strong/etcetera, etcetera." These people aren't grief counselors so it wouldn't make sense to start crying and getting upset when I'm trying to listen for answers to my questions. I save my tears for private times.
When I was young I wondered what it would be like to experience grief. I will be 75 in September and now I know. I have lost my parents, many friends, some beloved cousins, a husband, two sweet dogs, and now my daughter. I have come to see that as we age all of life is about loss; loss of others, loss of health, possessions, maybe hearing or eyesight or mobility, until finally we lose our own lives to death. It's all a prolonged rollercoaster ride. I am beginning to learn to enjoy the good times while they last and grieve for my losses with grace and faith. Nothing on this earth lasts forever, nor was it meant to.
In the words of the artist and poet William Blake,
"He who binds to himself a joy
Does the winged life destroy;
But he who kisses the joy as it flies
Lives in eternity's sun rise."
How strange----William Blake's poem that you just quoted...I have had that taped on the corner of my bathroom mirror for many years now. (cut out from a magazine)
What you said about aging being all about losses...so true. I don't believe in "the golden years". This time in life is when we face our toughest trials.
Thank you for this video.I lost my husband of 30 years 3 months ago, and am grieving him terribly. No family or friends to speak of, so it's been difficult. Your videos do help.
Please reach out to me.. I lost my husband Gary June 14 2022. Maybe we can help each other. God bless you
I hope you’ve found peace and happiness again after going through such?
Things like pictures and other items are not always helpful to me it brings the pain back and the memories of what was once and now it's gone forever 💔 😢 it only triggers and reminds me of it!!!
I like his comparison to huge waves crashing in. I've had a lot of deaths in the past 3 years, starting with mom 2 weeks after her new years day birthday, and many people in my life. Christmas is very hard because Christmas and new years go hand in hand. I used to call my mom at the time she was born, 12 am on new years day and wish her happy new birth year day. She enjoyed it and I had fun doing it. The last time I got to do this she was in I u on a ventilator. The nurses were great and I was able to do this for the last time. She died 14 days later.
As Christmas 2021 is only about 2 wrrks away, I'm having a lot of grief attacks which turn into anxiety attacks. His description of grief and the feeling of craziness comforts me. God bless all reading this and may we l find comfort at this joyous but difficult season.
I lost my Mother in Law a month ago .She was like a Mother to me .I loved her so .She lived with us . I cant brace the thought of not ever seeing her or , talking with her .its so hard .Thank you fir this video .
What a great guy you are for caring and helping people,and im sure your wonderful parents would be proud of you,so thank you and id like to say,your heart is in the right place along with your wisdom 😊very well explained and all the best ✌👌
Both my parents passed away in 2018. This is the roughest Rollercoaster ride I've ever been on. I so glad I came across this video today. Thank you..
GOD BLESS YOU. Pastor David Lynn from christsforgiveness.com tune in
My condolences to you and your family.
I lost my mom and dad on January 2021 the same week. My grief comes and goes like a roller coaster.
Oh my goodness, both parents and so close together. I’m so very sorry. Sending love, hugs and best wishes ❤️
So many ideas in this video which I have experienced since loosing my wife.
I had to put all her coats in the wardrobe. Including her slippers. They all reminded me of the fact she wasn't ever going to need them again. Her special food likes in the freezer i gave to the birds. Putting all these things away helped enormously. I keep a huge beautiful picture of her where I can speak to her daily.
There are no grief triggers in the house now.
I don't even sleep in our bed. I had NEVER slept in that bed without her and its much easier not to.
When people ask how I am I say 'NOT fine but coping' Being honest is helpful to others. Some people simply avoid you. They do not know what to say.
This is a very good video on grieve, I've experienced almost everything he has said.
I hope you’ve found peace and happiness again after going through all the?
I watch this sometime ago and brushed it off as too trendy. However, lve stumbled across this today and it has become a revelation and more meaningful. I lost my dear wife in 2021 and l still grieve and it is true grief comes in waves. I have good days, bad days and ocasionally really bad days.
Hmm. A grief attack is a sign that our system is ready to cope with a bit more of the pain. Yes. This is brilliantly helpful. Also, the presentation about dealing with guilt or remorse is very helpful, too. You're right on ... and I am very, very grateful for the help.
I hope you’ve found peace and happiness again?
Thank you! I have a better understanding of what has been happening to me. It's good to know that I am not alone.
Hello Karen
How are you doing today?
I am so blessed to have come across this video it's exactly what I have been feeling but I never heard it explained like this before it's definitely attacks.Thank you for the video.
Its the 9th year of the passing of my son. You have days even weeks when you are coping and carrying on with life like everyone else but then something will send you into the depths of despair and guilt of the empty space left behind by my son. It rips you apart. Anything can trigger the pain of grief. I hope like me you try and cope with this grief that you carry with you till you pass and meet up once again to be together again. I have other children who keep me going and I have to be strong for my wife who needs support from me. I know my son would want me to be the best Dad I can be to for my family. I do it for him and them however tough it is. I hope this helps
Simply me you are me. I went through it all when my daughter passed away. I still talk to GOD all day and pray. The memories are overwhelming. It is true that the pain goes up and down.
Yes my daughter passed in November and it’s like waves, sometimes it hurts so much I just want to die so sorry for your loss
I’m feeling the depths and deep ocean waves right now. I’m slipping into such a dark place I don’t even want to be here anymore. Father’s Day and my grandmother’s passing anniversary this past weekend has taken an emotional toll on me four years since my grandmother passed and seventeen since my dad. On top of that losing other adopted aunts and two friends even, profound loss at its finest. I just feel fed up with life and really am ready to leave and quit....💔😔😢😔💔
im sorry for your losses. i know how u feel. please read this. it may help. my Granny, who was like a mom to me, passed away 3 and a half months ago. she raised me as much as my mom did and i lived right next door to her since 23 years ago. not a day went by that i didnt spend time with her. now its just an empty house with her porch light shining in my window every night. almost all the love i felt came from her. it still hurts so much. ive felt like giving up too bcuz on top of this, my grandpa is fading away in a nursing home, i have no good connection with my mom who doesnt want to talk to anyone most of the time, and i have bad depression, anxiety and ocd and am thinking of letting go of a 4 year relationship with someone emotionally abusive, but i dont want to hurt my mom by leaving by taking my life. i know there is always hope. im still here so i think u can, too. im not a very strong person but im still here. it starts feeling better, there are bad days, but it does get easier and i dont think the people u lost, or ones in your life now, would want u to give up. there is still a lot of good in everyone to share. u can honor lost loved ones by staying and making the best of any situation, being good to yourself and to others. but be patient with yourself so u dont become so discouraged. ur precious to God and still have a lot of good in u to share. pray and stay close to Christ. when i do, i have a peace i cant explain. sometimes i mess it up by not trusting in Him and not following Him as closely as i should sometimes, and maybe by inadvertently punishing myself for little disagreements, regrets that everyone has, so i feel upset at myself and it gets in the way of healing. learn to let certain bad thoughts go, like drifting clouds. u dont have to cling to them, making u more depressed. and maybe make even just super small goals, even just one small goal every day or one about every couple of days or just start something positive and carry on the love from your lost loved ones, share it so they live on also thru u and honor them by being kind to yourself and being positive as im sure they would want u to be. and maybe talk to a doctor and work on coping skills. i hope u answer to let me know if u are ok. and i hope this helps.
I'm so sorry 😞
My name is AnitaS. I'm writing from Barberton South Africa. I lost my partner 13 days ago due to a Stroke...sudden and deadly. I get a lot of Grief Attacks and my heart is broken. Thank you for your informative talk. I am going to make a memory box to help me through this very painful period. God bless
I wonder if you are still around Bill? All the comments here are from atleast a year ago. I am glad I finally went on here to check out videos. It just helps to confirm that I am not crazy or week, just sad. I love when you said the absence of his presence. Thats totally it!! I miss having him here, even if we are not talking. And yes, bedtime is tough because he was so in to going to bed at the same time as me even though sometimes I had wanted a little space alone at the end of the day. Now I would do anything to have him beside me. Grief is a bitch!!! Whoops here comes a grief attack.
He is. I looked him up on Facebook
Am so happy I hv come across this video God bless the Director of this program
This recording and it's message is brilliant, comforting and very reassuring. Thank you.
My husband passed two years ago after 60 years together and it left me broken. But my faith in God picked me up and put me back together to appreciate the love we had for one another and lots of memories of happiness. RIP my beloved Pete!
☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I have grief attacks many times all through the day and all through the night.
Hope you’ve found peace and happiness again?
This is so insightful. I am glad I found it.
Thank you so much. I've only just come upon your video. All in Father God's timing. My wonderful husband of forty two years died suddenly. It is almost four years ago now and the way is very hard. Listening to you as been very helpful. Having my faith holds me up.
Pauline, how are you living 4 years later? Is pain still there? I am grieving because my husband past away three weeks ago and I am not living but just existing ..
@@laram5104 Bless you Lara, I am deeply sorry you are in this valley. Words are inadequate, but I put my arm around you and have some understanding, although I know our experience is a private one and I want to tread softly. I hope you can know the love Father God has for you, He is our comforter and understands completely. With love Pauline.
Thank you. I had no idea I was having grief attacks. I finally started to figure out I’m grieving and not just dealing with an anxiety disorder. I’ve been so caught up in trying to figure out and fix my anxiety disorder that I haven’t just let myself grieve what’s really in there. I’ll have horrible anxiety attacks for a week and realize that I’ll just cry and say I miss my (stolen by other parent) daughter. It’s been 2 years and I will go up and down and nobody understands. I just thought I was losing it. When I start to cry I stop it and then get awful anxiety. I think I’ve been so focused on fixing my anxiety that now my relationship is ending after my partners father has died. We are both grieving so differently but I want so bad to connect and heal with my partner. It’s so overwhelming. I don’t know how to honor all the horrible things I feel and work and be a parent and go on alone.
Thank you so much for sharing. I'm suffering after the loss of my mother and basically, my whole life. I think there is a difference between anxiety and grief attacks. They are somewhat similar. I hope you find your way. Stay strong.
Recently I lost my only grandma due to cancer. Thank you for helping me understand grief attacks, because I’ve been struggling with this for quite a while now.
Thank you. October 21 was our anniversary. We missed what ended up being our last one, our 35th. I thanked my husband before he died for sharing his life with me. May God bless you for your ministry. I know what I will do the rest of my new life, I just don't know when yet.
Thinking of you. So sad. I miss my mother.
I hope you’ve found peace and happiness at the end?
Found this so helpful, I support those who have lost and at the present time I too myself have had a loss, this has grounded me to something I try and get everyone else through. Thank you
I lost my mother a year ago and have been struggling with my thoughts I miss her so much and this video helped me to know that it is ok to grief and that it is normal to be like this I have no regrets with my relationship with her I had a beautiful time with her by my side I wanted to say to everyone that is going through this that it's a beautiful thing that people love there loved ones as much as I do mine and I always will.
So sorry for your loss. I miss my mother too.
My mom died 2019. I miss my dad and mom and brother and grandma. my moms death is the 4th death in the family. My Condulences to everyone.
Thank you for this Ana.
I had difficult relationship at times with my mom.
3 years my mom didnt want to see me nor forgive me.
then my mom died suddenly 2019 Nursing Home with MASSIVE HEART ATTACK.
My Condulces to you !
Glad you had a Good Relationship with Your Mom.
I lost my husband eleven weeks ago and all I seem to do is cry as I meet people I will never get over my husband we were together 54 four years and we have been married nearly 52 years I don’t thing I will ever get over my loss death is so final no turning back the end Margaret bristol
I lost my only beloved son Melvin Gilbert on 18.8.2020.Now we are alone. It was a big shock. We can't accept he is no more. We have only one son. He is my only prince. How can we accept he is no more. No I can't imagine. I can't able to sleep in the night. My son smiling face is before me. God took my son so soon. Now we are alone. Feeling so painful. Everyday we were waiting for him. Without my son no hope, courage, confidence. My hope is gone away. My body only present. My soul is gone. It is very terrible to live without him. 😰😭😭😭
I feel the exact same i lost my daughter in November and all i can think about is will I see her again it terrifies me to think we will never be together again , I am so sorry for your loss and pain
Thank you for taking time to help others through your beautiful programs🙏
I just had one 3 days ago..I lost my brother unexpectedly on Feb 4 2018..all of the sudden started crying couldn't stop..was making my plans for Thanksgiving and I lost it..🙏🙏
Praying for you
I lost my mentor and I felt shock it was emotional roll coaster I’m still on it comes and goes in intensity . I still miss him very deeply. There are definitely moments I want to talk to him and it makes me miss him even more. This is a really good video thank you for it.
Thank you Sir for this inspiring video. I lost my Grandbaby Julie on December 10 2021. I am experiencing this Grief Attacks. I just didn't know by then. May the Almighty God heal each and every one of us who are grieving. Shalom 🙏🙏
I lost my wife of 36 years in January 2024 to ovarian cancer. It’s now been about 5 months, and these grief attacks are very real to me. My grief councilor tells me I’m doing as well as could be expected at this point, but this roller coaster ride is very tiring. I miss my Cheri so much!
I’m sorry Allister. I wish I could go back to 2012 and change things. That year was a crossroads. I love you you always and forever, mom ❤️
Thanks for your video ,lost hubby 7 years ago God has help me and gave me strength
☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Thank you Dr. Webster
May God Bless you. Hope that you are feeling better now.
This video series has been a Godsend for me the past 3 months.
My wife died suddenly on 03-12-2023, and with today being the literal 3-month mark, this is such a reassuring video to see today.
As painful as this all is, feeling understood makes it bearable.
How are you doing now??
Thank you,,it helps me,with the loss of my husband.I hope he is with me.
Hope you’ve found peace and happiness again?
I lost my husband 6 months and i have those wave of grief. Thank you. God bless you as he is blessing all who have lost.💗💖😇
Joey, God bless you. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Thank you Bill for these videos. I've been through a lot within the last couple years but especially losing my sister on 10/21/18 brought me to rock bottom. Your channel has helped me with comfort and healing. Thanks for all you do for us.
Iam uncle Angelo I raised a little 2 yrold girl not my blood from 2 yrs old to 13 yrs old then she went to her sister's house and she went wild she passed away 1 year ago at 17 yr old I have persistent complex bereavement disorder alls I do is cry but now it's me and my godaughter Sara James crossley spirit and god and Jesus one hour at a time bless us all 💖🙏🙏💞
Thanks for this talk. My husband passed on 1 1/2 years ago and I thought I was over it. But this month some grief attacks are coming and going. What is important for me is my awareness that it is there so I'll find a way to cope with it.
One important coping method I do is prayers. Even if I have grief attacks with prayers I remain calm and peaceful. I remain in touch with reality.
So very true. I lost my Mother at 87 in October 2020 after looking after her 24/7 for over 3 years. These "grief attacks" explain perfectly what I am experiencing now
You saved me with your wisdom thank you 🙏
Colin Wilson
My mother in law died this 10th January 2020,at 8.15 pm
I hate it. Going through grief ,sadness. She was a wonderful Lady all her life.
Thank you so much. Yes grief attacks come when it is least expected.
It helped me to understand what is happening with me.
Thank you so much.
Thank you, such wonderful video.
I hate feeling like this. I've never felt such despair in my life. I want my baby back and since I can't have him idk how to move forward. Hell I DON'T EVEN WANT TO. I'm too scared. I'm scared to take on life without my son.
I would get panic attacks when I'd look to the future because I coudldn't imagine a future without her. The only thing that helps me is to take one miserable, sad day at a time but hopefully if you do the fear won't be as bad. I feel that your baby knows you are strong and you can do this. His love will sustain you. Many fires cannot quench love, it is as strong as death. I hope you find some comfort.
This video helped me very much I’m saving it so I can go through it again
I hope you’ve found peace and happiness at the end?
Thank you @Elizabeth. My condolences to to you and everyone. My moms bday wa 12am new years day tomorrow is new years and yes I'm again struggling. In lickdown for tge 2nd Christmas season and that's exacerbating my grief attacks. Thanks Dr. Webster.
I am going thru the one year anniversary of my brother’s unexpected passing. And , it’s been five months since I lost my beloved service dog.. - The holidays are coming up - on Thanksgiving I lost my dad, on Christmas I lost my mom, on New Years I lost my husband of 20 years & my godmother of 20 years.
I don’t talk to Jesus ..
I simply allow the pain to come & go. I trust the process..
As for replacements , who can replace these beloved ?
I don't know if you get a chance to see or read our comments. I just wanted to say thank you for your ministry of restoration. I'm so glad I found your channel.
Love t u all.who r lonely and grieving
My best friend, my son, died from covid-19 on Dec 14, 2021. He had severe RA and begged his co-worker to put on a mask. She was coughing and very ill. She laughed and said "covid is just the flu!" By the time I arrived at the hospital he was gone. I went into shock and scream cried. My heart is breaking. When someone tells me 'he's in a better place or be strong' I want to tell them to shut up. Please just tell me you are sorry for my pain; that you will keep me and John in your prayers. Give me a gentle hug to let me know I'm not alone. God bless everyone of you living in grief. Until you experience the loss of someone you love with your heart and soul you can't possibly know the true depth of pain.
The loss of a child is like no other. My daughter was killed less than 4 weeks ago. No one can understand what that pain is like except another parent. God bless you.
Amen ... it is a depth of pain that no one can know or imagine unless they have been there... I am so sorry you have a broken heart too. It is so infuriating when people say to be strong or "just be glad he's not suffering anymore". You can tell they don't have a CLUE and have not lost someone close to them because those things are NOT helpful. I am truly SO sorry for your pain. I lost my husband, my best friend, my caretaker, and my soulmate all in one last month and the pain is beyond words horrible.
Thank you,Thank you,Thank you.
I lost my Wife 3 months ago. Still going through waves of emotions. I still find myself in a fog. I can't believe it somedays. Somedays i'm okay then minutes later i have this deep pit in my chest and stomach. Sometimes i just want to meet her in Heaven earlier than my time. Dr. Bill is very helpful. God bless all those left behind to grief the lost of a loved one.
NL - I just lost my beautiful wife of 36 years. She died very unexpectedly three days ago and the pain is just unbearable. It's just now starting to hit me that I'm never going to see her again on this earth. I've been sitting in the same place. I'm trying so hard to deal with it, but it's hard. Very hard. Just typing this to you I broke down crying. I don't know what I'm going to do without her. I feel utterly, horribly lost, confused, and scared, but I know I've got to keep it together for myself and my two sons. I don't know you, but I'm right in there with you. God bless you and keep you and give you strength for each day. I, too, cling to the hope of seeing her one day in Heaven. Hold on to that hope, brother. If you need to talk or just need a shoulder to lean on, I am here.
@@jonroth9656 hey brother, so sorry to hear about your wife. You will get through this. I'm still Grieving everyday but the pit feeling has been less. I try to believe she wants me to be happy and not cry in horrible pain everyday. I tell you no easy task brother. Your in the beginning of this, so I know it really sucks the life out of you. Please try to keep your head up 🙏. If you wanna talk further let me know.
@@nl3131 - Thank you, my friend. No doubt in the days and weeks ahead I'll be dropping you a few lines to talk, chat, whatever. Thank you for your response and you hang in there, too. Eventually, the pain will subside for both of us I'm sure.
@@jonroth9656 hey, yeah I'm here. I didn't have anyone to talk to about this when everything happened. So I'm open ears when you need to vent. God bless you and your family. Talk soon.
@@nl3131 - Been almost two months now. I sit in my van and still stare out over the landscape and the sky. I suppose I'm coming to terms with the fact that she's gone. I still have my moments when I just break down and cry. It's amazing how much of a set routine you make of your day-to-day life in order to cope with the loss. I hope you are doing well. I really do. She's always going to be there my friend. I guess at some point we're just going to have to let them go, though. But they're always going to be with us. Again - I sincerely hope you are well and doing well. In my thoughts.
My grief comes n goes,6month i loss my teenage son 19yrs old,grief ..painn
Looking back over it doesnt help. Our house burnt down five dearly beloved pets got killed, all our clothes hundreds of books loads of art equipment and dizens of paintings jewellery guitars electronic keyboard endless things, no insurance, pensioners on low pension. We are being helped by family otherwise we would be homeless, but I am inconsolably depressed taking loads of drugs but having very bad days, attacks as youd say. Daily we go to the ruins to clear up, its terrible. People have been brilliant collected a lot of money for a repair of the house, it cant bring the animaks back. I have lyme, was depressed before the fire. I cannot face recalling, its torture, how long wil this go on? It was five weeks ago
My partner of 7.5 years passed away Thursday night unexpectedly. He was only 33. We had so many years left together I thought. We were going to grow old and be together forever. We weren’t married yet, we were engaged, but we thought of each other as husband and wife. We thought there was plenty of time to get married. I have had a hard time realizing that he is gone even though I was there. I saw it happen. I woke up this morning feeling as though I might die of the pain in my body’s realization that he is gone. I feel physical intense pain. I am so scared of what is to come. I’m afraid I won’t be able to handle this. He was everything to me, he was a big purpose to my life. I am lost and it’s only been a couple of days. Lord please help me.
I lost my wife 3 months ago and I'm having trouble coming to terms with it.
I lost my wife 2 weeks ago.
Stephen, my husband passed away nine months ago on his birthday. We were each other's lives. We spent everyday together. I'm all alone now. A 56 year-old Widow and nobody has come to help me grieve. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that there's someone that you can talk to about your feelings. My husband and I would talk for hours on end. After 23 years, he still fascinated me. I don't know how I'm going to do this all alone. I never learned to drive. I feel like I'm trapped with no one to hear me crying for help. People say, go find a therapist. Why don't you find a support group. I can barely feed myself because life without my husband isn't life anymore. I apologize if this was an intrusion into your pain and grief. It's just past midnight and I know I have hours ahead that I'm going to be awake. The nights are so long. I thank you for listening if you read this. Sincerely, Carly
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God bless you.
I feel exactly the same as my mother died after my brothers took her from her beloved home under my care while she was thriving. Their neglect of her diet and needs she died 2 1/2 years later basically declining the moment they basically tricked her for going for a visit and never brought her back home. Then they sold her home and split her savings accounts and half million from her home between themselves. Within months from that day, she became demented and only could say to me the one time I saw her again, "Sheil, I'm so lost and confused."
Although I had notified the authorities so many times as they abused the both of us there over and over again, the police and social services did not help as we both alerted them what was going on.
They didn't even place her in her family plot, cremated her against her wishes,, as well as then after her insufferable neglect and mental incapacity she passed,, they proceeded to steal my inheritance.
They wouldn't even let her speak to me or mention my name and when I finally found where she was, Country Gardens, the awful staff wouldn't even put the phone up to her ear for me to say my goodbyes.
This the result of my brothers and their wives greed, the social safety net inadequate and this government not addressing elder financial fraud which is the number one crime in the state of California.
I found evidence of their fraud and sloppy crime of forgery and embezzlement of all her hard earned assets and emptying of her bank accounts and await to see if these same agencies go after my brothers and wives of their complicity to rob her blind and simply cremated her on the cheap without notifying me or her friends and relatives for their illicit gain. They, like so many, when it comes to money, even though they're rich, they have no shame nor conscience.
And I have no closure, no peace and lost my home due to their swindling of me as well as my mother.
They are simply criminally minded, creepy thieves who've lived beyond their means exorbitantly while taking as much as they could from us. God knows truly who they are and what they've become.
Mother's favorite phrase was my prayers have been answered. I pray for them to be indicted and that my mother can then finally REST IN PEACE ✌
and justice will win out soon. AND THEN, I WILL LOOK UPWARDS AND SAY TO MY MOTHER,
"MA, MY PRAYERS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED"
and to myself,
"JUSTICE MATTERS."
@@sheilascanlon4928 my husband's sister is a millionaire and owns two homes. She very reluctantly sent her brother $100 a month so that I could feed him. When he died she didn't want to chip in for his burial. She said she was all tapped out. I will always remember that. My husband and I gave away a total of $60,000 to people who needed it and that was everything we had. When he died there was $17 in his wallet and that's all I had. I've been eating peanut butter for 2 meals a day. and then she took care of the will and said that her daddy said that when my husband's father died she could keep the one account that had a hundred thousand in it. Because someone who's a millionaire needs more money. Anyway, you can't take one Thin dime with you. All you take with you is love. And that's what you will have with you now and that's what you'll have when you hug your mother again in heaven. God will take care of his Vengeance in his time. I'd rather have someone sue me and fail then have to stand in front of God and be judged to be a bad person who has to go to hell. God bless you. I found out I have cancer. I'm in the hospital alone and I don't know how much longer I have but, I'm not alone because Jesus never leaves me. God bless you. Love, Carly
@@simplyme7821 thank you ... Carly you are in my thoughts, prayers and heart.
This is good.
hey--- quit saying 'died' abut a loved one. They are still alive. They have just passed from this world to another. Their body that gave them ability to function in this world has ceased to function-- but they--who they were here-- is still alive.
That's a pretty callous thing to say, bud. My wife is gone. Can you truly relate? Half of my heart was ripped from me and I lost the only person who really understood me. She was my best friend and soul mate for 28-years. Your explanation is too simplistic. I say again, do you relate to this personally?
@@ronaldrobertson2332 What he said was true; not callous.
@@lindalai9092 Your definition of grief and mine, apparently, are two different animals.
It is callous. Just bc you believe in an afterlife doesn't mean compassion goes out the window.