How to Get Her Back | Why Being “Untethered” is Crucial to Save Your Marriage
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- HOW TO GET HER BACK | WHY BEING “UNTETHERED” IS CRUCIAL TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE
Are you struggling to reconcile with your partner and don’t know how to get her back? Or are you trying to figure out the best way and how to get her back?
If so, this video will show you why being non-attached to the outcome is crucial in the steps to figuring out how to get her back and ultimately saving your marriage.
You will learn what being non-attached to the outcome looks like and how you can attain this to get her back.
I will also show you how my clients have learnt the processes from my program to stop being needy, and embraced the right ways to get her back and save their marriage from falling apart.
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Hi Geoffrey, I have no Facebook but I would really like to schedule a personal session with you. Hope you see my message. I am struggling and I need guidance.
your video made me cry, how much i misunderstood my ownself for so long, i appreciate u so much, with tears in my eyes,, i appreciate u man
You know it was like a coming to Jesus moment 😢I didn’t realize how much I was a victim and was having so much anxiety with many things my business created a lot of anxiety and feeling irritated all the time
Relatively new to this your videos are amazing in a short period of time my whole prospective at looking at things has changed. Im really enjoying the process of becoming a better part of me. You do incredible things for people and helping them evolve
Hey KB,
Happy that you found this video insightful!🙂
Changing your perspective is crucial to becoming the best version of yourself…
Thank you!
Really struggling to be untethered with my recently separated wife as we live together due to having young twins. I successfully applied the process but I was too focused on the outcome and got emotional when my wife said she wanted to continue to be on dating apps after she had invited me back into the bed. I told her I couldn’t share a bed whilst she was speaking to other people. She said I’m being manipulative and I fumbled an opportunity.
I am at a cross road. I want the relationship to work but I can’t seem to make permanent progress whilst I’m so focused on the outcome. How do I do that whilst living under the same roof and seeing her every day
Hi Dicerevo,
To become untethered & save your relationship requires that you do the work to make the massive internal and external changes… You will not be able to save your relationship from falling apart with the same knowledge that led you to the situation you are currently in… You have to BECOME someone different…
Of the 1000+ clients that we enrol annually all have experienced life changing results that have empowered them with the skills and knowledge to rescue their relationship from situations that seemed hopeless.
You should join the free masterclass to learn the processes you will need to follow. At the end you will have the opportunity to enrol in the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
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Client Review Screenshots:
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Why do I keep getting like a wakeup feeling every time I see your videos man??? I need that program man I'm pretty sure I need to get on it now.
I’ve gotten more out of the few videos I’ve watched of yours than I’ve gotten out of all counseling I’ve ever gotten. Keep it up! You’re saving marriages and maybe lives. God bless you!
I'm in a dire situation ...I just wish I could afford I need to save my family.....
How are you now, brother?
How??? How do you untether when the pain and feeling of hopelessness is so strong? I believe in your videos, but im an emotional mess every time i talk to my wife.
My wife and I are going thru things
I have been able to create some safety and then she’s gets upset
And says oh don’t try because is not going to happen or brings up a situation where I hurt her
Then I stay calm
Listen
Then she tells me why are you trying if Im mean
And usually I tell her because you are worth it and it makes her more mad. What would I say when I’m she’s asking why I am putting up with an angry wife…
Real question here. If my partner that I'm separated from keeps telling me she wants to be single, while I'm completely willing and ready to wait, improve and work on myself, do I myself go on dates/bar/flirt? I feel very conflicted with the thoughts between wanting me make sure to hold out for her to one day come back and not have to worry about those dates being the reason why she won't come back because I 'went behind her back' vs. going on dates to improve upon myself, learn to communicate easier with people I general, and being seen that I'm not 'still stuck/attached' to my ex whom I would obviously love to get back together with and work things out.
Hi Kevin Causby,
I can't answer that. You just have to ask yourself if I am willing to do the work of becoming the best version of yourself regardless of if your partner chooses to return. If you answer is no, then you are telling your partner everything she needs to know.
ua-cam.com/video/hwzvQEm6YAU/v-deo.html
My sitch is exactly how you describe @kevencausby5964 ..
Did you end up finding a way?
Push past the burn. Love it.
There is no advice even remotely as good as this out there.
I didn't know why I loved my gf because there was just so much we were basically best friends. I didn't know I needed to name a bunch of stuff so that they felt safe.
Yeah Spooky Boi, most of us don't. I was one of those myself. That's why now I teach men and women the right skills and the right mindset to not only survive in a relationship but to thrive.
Always on the right time!!
Hi Rodney,
Thank you!
Appreciate it…
Really enjoyed this video. My fiancée is staying disconnected and ask that I don’t call or text her. Working in me to get her back. I have been watching your videos.
I'm going through the same thing, bro. Do you have any updates?
I want to enroll so badly!! but the cost is killing me with a split income household. 😔
Have you enrolled in our free class that is 90 min long?
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Does this also apply to long-term relationships? I'm guessing it does but just wanted to make sure!
Hi Cartoonz,
It absolutely does! The principles are universal and applicable to all relationships.
@Geoffrey Setiawan does this work if your wife has been out the house for more than 4 months?
Meet Jason, who's wife purchased another home and was involved with another man for a year.
ua-cam.com/video/FoxjQ_NCuVo/v-deo.html
How often should I consume videos like this. When is over consumption apparent?
Hi. Did the free facebook group go away? I can't access it using the link above....
Geoffrey what is your take on having hope for certain events to turn out a certain way or hoping for some things to happen because I feel like hope keeps us tethered what do you think ?
Thank you for the link to think video from another one! My real name is Logan, and my girlfriend and I have been together for over 2.5 years, not lived together, and about 1.5 hours apart. We just broke up/on a break for a few days/week now, and it had been so hard not messaging and wanting to talk to her. I know she needs the space to think and see my actions more than just the words of me changing. She does message every so often and I answer, but it is hard not messaging first. I know I should not message first and let her talk if she wants to talk. Will working on myself in a sense prove to her that I can be better and change for her?
Hi Logan,
Working on yourself and becoming the best version is the only way to make the real, meaningful, massive and permanent changes she is looking for.
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@Geoffrey Setiawan thanks for getting back, I just attended the master class but unfortunately I am unable to set a meeting time due to my schedule. In the class you mentioned about how the no contact rule doesn't work. We don't see each other at all because of our long distance and the schedule issues. Will messaging her to set up a time to meet and show her I've changed be a good idea?
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Hey Geoffrey,can I get her back even if she saying lets be friends for the sake of the kids
Hi Gilbert,
You definitely can!
Once you do the work to genuinely change the way you interact and communicate, she will notice and naturally gravitate towards you.
this is exactly what im in right now
Thank you very much!
Greetings from Germany!🇩🇪
I'm going to do it, this I'd yoing to be hard but I know uts the only way I'll achieve what I want.
Master class: Is this a video series type format? Btw, I love your videos.
Bulletproof and untethered, what is the difference ?
but shes in Limerence for someone else 😔💔
Hi I'm new here but like the advise I've been hearing I've been in a marriage for 6years now everything was going great I had en accident and can not work I'm stuck at home wife started new job works night and it's been 8months now and everything is going wrong I feel in to depression feel like wife is no longer in the relationship despite all my efforts I feel like I'm pushing her further away I ask alot of qestion I'm insecure I need some edvice please
I think she seeing some else any updates
doesn't make sense... untethered but you are looking for an outcome or result. shouldn't we just be outcome independent?
As we always talk about in a lot of our other videos, people have a hard time embracing middle ground. Seems like you're struggling with this as well. It's okay to WANT something, but not NEED something. It's okay to WANT an outcome and use it as a way to define the processes, but your ultimate tetheredness should be to the process. Outcome independence does not mean the extreme of never looking or even wanting or desiring anything. Again, the answer never lies in the extremes.
Good video
Hi Adrain,
Thank you brother!
Appreciate it.
Excellent set of videos.
Thank you Boss
Okay Geoffrey, im sure you recognize my comment because I commented a ton already but i finally got the chance to talk to my girlfriend. I emotionally cheated on her and i confessed to her and im scared she will never trust me again and that the relationship will ever repair. People on other youtube videos keep saying once its over it's over.
Hey Simplicity,
Rebuilding trust & safety with her will take time…
Once you follow the right processes to regain that trust she will naturally gravitate towards you.
Other videos will have a different perspective, but all my clients have followed the processes in my program and got massive results. You should join the free masterclass and learn more about the processes.
@@GeoffreySetiawan will do Geoffrey, I'll join the masterclass today and Facebook group. Your content so far did help me a lot but i need to know the step by step exavt process. Also my girlfriend is bashing the hell out of me damn near insulting my character and everything about me. Im not giving in and becoming defensive i know its confirmation bias. I DO have to CHANGE a lot about myself which I'm willing to do one thing at a time
I want in
Hi Tyson Minavio,
Thanks for watching my video. Before you decide if my program is right for you I invite you to sign up for my free 90min Master class. To see for yourself if you think I can help you and your situation.
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I totally screwed things up. Girlfriend is pulling away. From heavily in love to her wanting to move away from me completely. We still met but sexual attraction is lacking
Before:
I didnt provide her with safety and that caused her to lie about other guys to me.
Sleeping with other guys, in seperate beds.
I had set a boundary to not see other guys one on one and caught her in the act (we live seperately but in the same appartmentcomplex)
I got furious and said I wanted to break up.
After seeing some videos:
We talked and she said she wanted to stay together and explained the struggles and that the guy is just a friend.
She also explained why she wanted to be with me and still talks about our future (house and kids etc)
I lifted all the set boundaries and told her that I didnt want to change her or let her feel trapped
I used some new ways from Geoffrey to open her up and we discovered some problems and solutions.
I know there is still more to dig and Im taking the masterclass this afternoon.
I know she is still not being honest to me, either to protect herself or to protect the relation.
Im just filled with anxiety, fear of seeing her with another guy especially because I know she doesnt speak the truth to me.
She is spending 1 day of the week with me, occasionally texts me ( I will now respond instead of reply, looking on my phone 3 times a day as suggested)
But also now I understand where this is coming from.
I feel sad, depressed, have a hard time to sleep and Im haunted by the horrible image of seeing her with someone else.
However I understand that this is caused by her lack of safety and trust.
She told that her fantasy of the perfect relationship is to completely know and trust eachother.
So thats the work I have to do. Asking the right questions, digging deeper and finding understanding and solutions. I need to become emotionally bullet proof and decorate my house
It will take a lot of time, Im heartbroken right now and feel hopeless as she is pulling more and more away from me, caused by my behaviour in the past
Coz all the things she does in terms of kisses and texts I dont trust anymore because of her lying. Its a downwards spiral where I have to break through
But I know in my head; she doesnt feel save and understood, therefore she will spend time with other people
Just wanted to share this
Hi Ruben, i see what you're going through. My GF just broke up with me due to my lies and stuff, she didn't saw progress despite i've changed a bit. You're my gf in this situation, and i know how she felt, it is hard to deal with our lies. You're right when you say that's lack of safeness, but also it isn't an excuse to lie, you know?
You should help her telling you the truth, but my experience is that is extremelly hard to tell the truth when we know the person will overeact and we might lose her.
While you should try to don't overeact, you also need to tell her how it feels for you to imagine her with other people. That's not just your job to make her feel safe, but she also have to work on that so the relationship can work.
Right now i am trying really hard to build safety in my ex. She's repeatedly saying she won't come back, things are done, it's too late now, and she doesn't want anything, but i can feel that's pain to all that has happened between us. Hope it all goes well and i can actually change myself and show that change to her so she can feel safe to be with me.
If you feel ok to update us, how is your situation going right now?
I get a little worried about how you use the term untethered and not being focused on the outcome along with the term reconciliation. You say that your program is so successful at getting reconciliation but does that mean that becoming a couple again or just getting to an point of mutual understanding?
From this comment, I can tell you are new to my channel. I would encourage you to keep discovering what it means to truly untether, and the 5 pillars that I teach. Getting to a point of mutual understanding must come first (via safety, admiration, alignment, etc...). Only from those foundations can the rest be built.
And here’s all the proof you need about the program. We publish new in-depth interviews every 2 weeks. No one in the industry is able to do this, and I think if you view the client stories, you’ll see why.
If this is not enough proof for you, then I would encourage you to look for something better. But like many of my clients said, they've tried (Some having spent $40,000+).
This first video is a walkthrough of our program.
ua-cam.com/video/LC4LSAEVNWo/v-deo.html
This second video is a response that we made to a fake review thread people have made about us. You will be able to see what this program has done for hundreds of our members in a 6 minute span!
www.loom.com/share/5a9021a157624705819960fc966e3ef2
This third and forth videos are two recent client stories with Liam Rose and Andrew Wade,
ua-cam.com/video/LSs7y0s0gYg/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/xQqRBZLo3Es/v-deo.html
This fifth video is another recent client story of one of my clients, Jason Newman. He quit his high paying job to come work for me, because this program changed his life in ways un-imaginable.
ua-cam.com/video/FoxjQ_NCuVo/v-deo.html
This final link is to our current collection of client stories:
ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
@@GeoffreySetiawan Hi Geoff, No I'm not exactly new & yes I have already seen this generic reply & watch the videos associated with it.
As I said before you seem to always use the term reconciliation, which is not exactly a clear outcome. You very rarely (if ever) use words like "back together". I feel like I'm wrong but I just hope you aren't using the word reconciliation to cover a wide variety of scenarios that are just better than they were before the program.
@@fifis101 We define reconciliation to us in many of our videos & interviews.
I do understand that many other coaches post "reconciliation videos", but it is questionable as to how permanent and real they are.
In my program, we have zero relapses (if someone actually did the work we prescribed).
Note that we have 2,000+ active clients right now, and they see all the interviews I have, and they actually get to meet the people in those interviews.
And they quickly see that these relationships all continue to grow - that the interviews are real reconciliations, not some fake ones and flukes.
I mean, if you looked at those videos I sent you, you will see that ALL of my clients rave about the program. We're talking HUNDREDS who proudly proclaim this explicitly.
Do you think that will happen if they see that the interviews that inspired them to join was not as good as we hyped it up to be?
Hmmm...
I know I make bold promises, but I'm not someone who takes promises and claims lightly. I work hard to ensure that I deliver beyond what I promise.
And FYI - Untethering does not mean you don't care about the outcome. But you untether IF you care about getting to the outcome.
We will discuss this in future videos --
Certain outcomes are STRIVING outcomes, like running faster, etc...
But other outcomes are FALLING outcomes (e.g. Trying to sleep, trying to fall in love, etc...)
Now try to fall asleep by TRYING to fall asleep (From a tethered state of wanting to get to the outcome of sleeping).
You can't...
That's why they call it FALLING ASLEEP.
Why they call it FALLING IN LOVE.
You FALL into it.
And if you don't untether, you cannot FALL into love yourself, and your partner cannot FALL into love as well.
So yeah, I was hoping my comment on your lack of understanding of what it means to untether will help you to think deeper about it, but hope this helps.
@@GeoffreySetiawan Great response to both sides of my "question". Thank you for that. I AM truly greatful I found you & your channel. I have learnt so much, so quickly. I ask questions like this not just for myself but for the greater audience. So I hope you understand I'm not trying to be difficult for the sake of it.