Why We Feel Guilty When Our Pet Dies And Something That Helps
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WHY WE FEEL GUILTY WHEN OUR PET DIES AND SOMETHING THAT HELPS // In this video I talk about why we feel guilty when our pet dies, how feeling guilty when our pet dies makes grief even worse, why we should not feel guilty when our pet dies. I show you a tapping technique especially for dealing with grief when your pet dies, whether it is your dog that has died, your cat that has died, or any other animal that has died. Tapping to relieve guilt is a safe and easy way to help you with pet grief guilt.
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Julie.
I lost my pet. I didn't know how sick he was I thought he was going to be ok. I waited too long I could have done more. It's my fault he's not here anymore. I am full of guilt and regret. He loved me he trusted me and I didn't do enough to help him. I would give anything for a chance to do things differently but I can't. I have to live with this and I don't know how I'm going to do that.
You are feeling like this because you love him so much.
You did not deliberately deny him treatment, unless you are a vet or an animal expert how could you have known?
He wouldn't want you to feel this way.
Thank you for helping people trying to cope with and understand their loss.
felt like i wrote this comment, I know its my fault, i killed my best friend because im so stupid. i know its bad but i feel jealous of the guy from the Uvalde shooting who had a heart attack after his wife was shot and killed, i wish i could die. i do not deserve to eat, he doesnt get to. do not think i will ever smile again
Joseph… I am going through the same exact thing right now and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through. I’ve been spending the last few days searching online for answers on if I would have taken him to the vet would he still be alive. The guilt is worse than the grief. I feel responsible for his death. My cat has been sick for over a month and I thought he would heal with time. I took a 2 week vacation and left them at home with my dad. When I came back he was in way worse condition and hasn’t eaten in days. I still didn’t do anything. After a couple days I finally decided to schedule an appointment with a vet. The appointment wasn’t for another 2 weeks. I didn’t want to wait that long but I didn’t think too much of it. The same day that I scheduled the appointment, my cat walked to the door, asking to be released. I did not realize the moment I let him walk away from my sight is the moment I subconsciously made the decision to let him wander off to die. I never even got the chance to figure out what was wrong with him or see if there was a cure. Im just stuck in the unknown. All these what ifs flooding my mind. I should have gotten a kennel and taken him to the emergency vet. But I had never gone through this before and I didn’t know he was dying so soon. I didn’t know what to do. Knowing that I am not alone in this helps more than people think.
This is exactly how I feel after my puppy passed away.
I lost my pet about 36 hours ago. The guilt is the worst. she was 15 years old, her heart was failing and she was breathing hard. I took to emergency and they came and told me everything they wanted to do to get and the bill could go to $6,500 dollars by the end of Sunday. There was no way, she was 15, at the end of her natural life. I’m the one that brought up euthanasia. I feel guilt because maybe I should tried to save her and that I was the one that even brought it up. But I’ve been thinking a lot about it, I think we spend their whole lives caring for them, nourishing them, making sure they’re happy and well. And letting them die or helping them die, feels like the most un natural thing in the world.
I'm sorry for your sad news.
I also see clients who feel guilty because they have put elderly or ill animals through numerous operations, and in the end, they passed away anyway.
Guilt is a natural part of grief, and sometimes it's worse where a pet is involved because we are the ones that need to make the difficult decisions.
It sounds as though your little one lived her life surrounded by love, and I'm sure she wouldn't want you to feel so bad.
I was taking care of my 19 year old cat the best way I knew when a neighbour I barely know from down the hall started sending the most horrid rapid fire texts telling me
“No sorry....don't let her suffer Barb. It's a tough decision you are prolonging the inevitable and the vets are benefiting from your pain”...”You are not helping her by putting her through all of these tests “...”You are cruel for allowing the suffering”...”The vets don't care $$$$$$$"....”Just saying”.......”I grew up on a farm and the things we had to do and the decisions we had to make. It was painful but it was necessary”...”You know what you have to do. It's not easy it's horrible but she cannot continue being in pain and going through all of these tests and being poked and prod and that's not fair.”.... all this from a woman I barely know and does not know my cat or had even seen my cat for months. What tests is she even talking about??! She knew nothing. 🤯. All this as I am grieving. What is wrong with people like this. Now on top of my grief I was so angry, livid . Just to add poison to the situation. 🤬😱🤯😭
I had to block her to make it stop.
I commented on here 5 months ago when Bully passed. Thank you, Julie, for your encouraging words. It still hurts to know that he's gone but I believe he's in a better place now and I have genuine peace :)
I'm glad it helped a little.
This helped me so much. Thank you!
@@bageluserky Thank you, I'm glad it helped.
Thank you 🙏 xx
I lost mine 2 weeks ago. I dont feel guilty im just miserable. I miss her so much. Comeing home to an empty house. She was my everything.
Sorry for your sad news. Your house might be empty, but I'm sure your heart is full.
Grief is a natural reaction to loss. You are bound to miss her.
Thank you.
It's the hardest part of all; seeing every corner they occupied and feeling the absence. I hope the pain has become a little more bearable🙏🌈💖
Me Too... On the 15th,.. I lost the best friend I ever had. She was in pain from an accident getting into the car 2 weeks prior. she seemed ok so I thought she was gonna be ok, till the 12th. she was all of a sudden in pain...and I wanted to help her but she was too big to get back in the car and get out at the vets. it would have caused more injuries.. so i had to do the euthanasia here at home. but now I see her everywhere. It hurts so bad...I can't take it.
@@wildbillo68 oh Gosh I'm so sorry! 💔
The pain really is quite bad to say the least. I wish I could give you a hug
My pet got sick and died recently
Every time i think about him i start crying
I feel guilty that sometimes i didnt spend more time with him
Now i wish i could turn back time to spend all the time with him
Im in grief right now Is so painful
Hey be strong.. It's painful but what can we do😭🌸they are safe in hand of God.. I too lost my cat on 7/72021.its really so painful
I feel like you do. I lost my girl a month ago, and my grief is profound. I’m sad for you x
i lost my husky drax the other day. I feel worse day by day.
@Gale so sorry for you too. I’m confused and guilty, angry then sad. And on it goes. You’re not alone x
@Gale thank you. My Dog Bella was my baby. She was born into the palm of my hand. The world just doesn’t feel right anymore. Thanks for writing back to me. I’ll send you healing through the ether if you will me. 🙏
I lost my senior cat recently and I feel the same way. I am feeling guilt and sadness. The house is so empty. In the moment when I made the decision he was in pain and I didn't want him to suffer. But now I can't stop the feeling of I should have tried harder or did something more.
We always wonder if we did the right thing. In the end, you put ending his pain before your own feelings. That is an act of love. ❤️
The day i buried my baby i buried everything that gave life joy.
Remember the joy they gave you. I'm sure you wouldn't have missed out on that for the world. Sending you all the strength you must need.
I needed to hear this. Thank you. My dog passed away today while she was boarded when I was on vacation. I keep blaming myself for going on vacation and the animal hospital for not taking well enough care of her. It hurts so much but like you said our pets wouldn’t want us to feel this way.
I feel awful for scolding my cat for bad behavior throughout her life and then not taking her to the vet sooner when I noticed she was losing weight. I feel like she just didn't want to live anymore. My heart is broken and I can't stop crying everytime I see her food bowl.
I'm sure she knew that you loved her. Cat's are very resourceful, and if she felt uncared for I'm sure she would have wandered off and made herself at home somewhere else.
Be kind to yourself.
I hope you are feeling better and have peace in your heart. I believe they are in our lives to help us with our journey here, and though that journey can be rough at times, Love is eternal and Love is beyond an earthly experience. She is loving you right now... Turn your guilt into gratitude for her friendship and tap into the love she's still sending you. I'm sending you some too! Meow!
My story ,had to lose my baby yesterday , I want to die , 😫 such pain, it's so hard, crying each minute ! I feel as you described such guilt that I should have done more , I'm broken 💔 😔
@@Maddie-5 I'm with you, the pain of everyday without my furbaby is unbearable, can't stop crying. 💔 I hold my arms out to you in comfort.Bless you .
@@juliecavanagh7399 Thank you so much for the words, this is what I am feeling right now. for putting him to sleep not soon enough, for force feeding him and giving him medicine at the end when he did not want to, for not noticing him being sick sooner. My heart is aching. I put him to sleep today. Miss him so much.
My dog died 2 months ago, I saw her struggling at around 2 am and said we’d go to the vet the next day but when that day came I thought she got better and decided to just observe things for a while. She was in pain, and I told her to hang in there but I was so stupid to think she was getting better when I should’ve gone to the vet right away. Whether or not it would’ve helped her, at least it would have helped her more. I feel like by deciding to observe first, I gave up on her. I still cry about that. It was such a lesson learned the hard way. She’s the sweetest 🥺
Because we are responsible for the decisions we take for our animals we tend to feel guilty no matter what we do. Even if you had taken the decision to euthanize your little one sooner you probably would have felt guilty and wondered if you should have given her longer.
As long as you made the decision out of love you have nothing to feel guilty about.
Your dog wouldn't want you to feel bad.
I had same thing. My dog died of pancreatitis. He was only 7. Pretty sure it was the steroids he was pescribed for ear infection that caused it. Intensive care for a week and when he finally got home he died 2 days later. So many ifs and maybes. Did i cause it? Should i have took him back to vets? He died in pain and i blame myself. Il always beat myself up. I wish i just had to deal with loss instead of the extra emotions.
@@hiphoppacmotion its been 4 weeks since he died. Today is my birthday. Miss him more than ever. Especially today. Thanks for your words
I have a similar experience 😢I’m riddled with guilt
I could relate to you. My furbaby died two weeks ago. So suddenly. 💔😭
Everyone's comments are so raw and honest. Thank you to everyone who shared because it makes me feel less alone about my guilt. I have analyzed this every way possible. My dog got HGE from something she ate. We had been traveling for year and both very very tired. I was so tired and I had wanted a day off and I was going to take her to dog sitter. I ended up not going there and got a nice hotel, ordred thai food and got her new dog food. I mixed it with her old dog food and her new food. She ate it and we both fell asleep at 7:00pm. That night she pooped on the carpet. I was so tired. I put her in the bathroom so she can finish her business bc Iwas too tired to go downstairs and take her for a walk. I passed out again, she was still in the bathroom. I woke up, washed her in the shower and then put her in her bed and apologized for being lazy and comforted her. I cleaned the bathroom and realized that was more work than going downstairs. The next day she seemed weird. She ate a tiny piece a chicken. That was her last meal. By the evening, she was pooping bloody poop. By 1:00am she was pooping straight blood and jelly like poop. I was anxious but decided to get her ice chips and then wait until a regular vet opened up. I didn't want the emergency vet bill and I did not trust them. She was dehydrating rapidly. I went to regular vet, I kept asking for fluids and he kept talking. iwas confused, distraught, and lost. After two hours, she got subco fluids and not intravenous fluids. She did not get the proper treatment. Most pets survive HGE. We left the vet and Iwent to the beach to monitor her and chill for a second. I was lost. I felt too weak to drive. She appeared worst and frozen. She was in shock and I did not know what I was looking at. Eventually I realized she is not coming back. I set us up on the beach and she passed away in my arms. DId I let this happen? Why didn't I rush to the next ER vet. Why did I wait to take her in. She was my angel and is my soul dog. Why did I wait? I feel she did not need to die.
I'm sorry for your sad news.
You say you didn't trust the emergency vet, so if you took your little one there, and then she passed away, you would still be blaming yourself.
You clearly loved her very much and gave her a life surrounded by love ❤️
Thank you for your reply. I have thought of that too. I still did not give her a fighting chance. I didn't want her to pass away in a hopsital. And her condition has a 95% percent rate. I am a fault for the stress, the lifestyle, and then I didn't get her the proper treatment.
@@juliewood7845
I would give you the biggest, longest hug if I could. I feel your pain. I question every single choice I made in the last 8 months as our sweet 14 year old GSD declined from his IBD and potentially cancer. And when my last dog passed, I let her go naturally and continued to torture myself for not taking her to an ER vet, but it was 2 am, I was unable to drive due to medication I had taken for sleep, and the two ER vets we called never answered. I kept thinking later that I should have drove anyway! I was afraid she was scared since she hated vets, I was afraid she would soil the car. I did what I thought was best at the time. When we are shocked and worried we don't always pick the most perfect thing, but just know you did your best. We all did. Because we loved them.
I'm feeling immense guilt for not being there for my JoJo. We took her to the vet expecting her to come home. She would have to spend the night at the vet while they gave her medicine and to be monitored. The next day she wasn't better but not worse and the vet wanted to try and take fluid off from around her lungs. She died shortly after the procedure and I never got to see her and or let her know I didn't abandon her, she passed away before I could get there in that strange place surrounded by strange animals and people. I was fully expecting to take her home after the procedure or at least see her. I feel like I let her down and can't shake the guilt. It's tearing me apart inside for 4 almost 5 weeks now since she passed.
It sounds as though Jo Jo lived a life surrounded by love.
She would have known that she wasn't abandoned.
Be kind to yourself. Jo Jo would not want you to feel like this. You made the best decisions that you could at the time.
Thank you.
@@juliewood7845 My cats name is also jojo. I put her to sleep yesterday June, 20 2022. I took her in to have fluid removed from her lungs so she could breathe. It was not my plan to put her to sleep. While there the vet told me they think it's best to put her down because she was loosing weight, not eating. She was dehydrated also. I didn't want to make the decision. It felt so sudden. Like I ambushed her and myself. I decided to let her go but the process felt long because she fought the drugs. I feel devastated. I'm regretful, I feel guilty and I'm totally heart broken. I stayed with her till the very end because I wanted her to feel my presence, my love for her. Finding this post makes me feel like jojo is communicating with me to say I made the best decision I could. The guilt is still here, the sadness immense, but i believe I was meant to see this post. I love you Jojo, and I will continue to honor your memory ♥.
I'm so sorry for your lost. The pain is unbearable but I hope you've managed to find some peace.
@@memimc86 sorry for your sad news. Jojo would have known that you loved her. You didn't ambush her, you releases her from suffering. Xx.
My guilt is so heavy because of an accident cost my cat Amber her life. Even though everyone says it was an accident. It doesn't make the guilt go away it hurts so much that she died because of a stupid mistake.
Guilt is often a part of grieving for a pet that we loved. Amber wouldn't want you to feel so bad. It sounds like you loved her very much xx.
You hit every point about euthanizing my cat Margarita. I am racked with guilt, thinking it could have been different or I should given her a chance to get better. This video has really helped me. I have cried everyday multiple times a day since this past Monday. I try to tell myself that even if I made the “wrong” decision euthanizing her, she is with God or at peace. It is just so difficult. The missing her, the regret. Thank you for helping me to have a health way to cope and heal.
I'm glad the video helped you, and I'm sorry for your sad news xx.
Feel the same way. I just put down my little buddy Snowball yesterday and I have been asking myself did I do the right thing or could I have done more for her.
Always thinking ..if only I'd done this or that ..yes grief can be overwhelming
Leo knew you loved him, so did Panda. Xx.
My dog died yesterday while I working and I can't stop crying, I can't shake the guilt of him dying suddenly and alone. I will miss him every day and I will regret not being there in his final moments. I will always love you Frosty and I will miss you always.
I'm sorry to read about Frosty.
You said his death was sudden, so you could not have known what was going to happen.
You clearly loved him very much, and I expect he had a lovely life. I'm sure he would not want you to blame yourself.
@@juliewood7845 Thank you, I think what bothers me most is that he died alone. That really breaks my heart, but there's not much I can do about it. I will try to remember him in a positive light.
Thanks for this it was really helpful. My cat swiper died this morning. I sat with her by the fire the last 3 nights and this morning got up early as heard her miowing. I sat with her rubbing her and she died at 12 o clock. I've been so sad and wished I spent that time with her when she was healthy and well. She was 14 and a few years ago started wandering off when we got a second cat. She would always return but 6 months ago I noticed she had lumps on her stomach so brought her to the vet and she had surgery for cancer which came back.
I feel so guilty as I often left her out in the shed and wouldn't always let her in as she tended to jump up on the counter to pee but in the last few months she slept in the back hall. She went down so quickly in last few days and I wish I'd known last week was her last Week and I feel guilty for not being kinder and rubbing her more as she purred so loudly when rubbed. I'd do anything to go back in time and give her more love instead of often putting her outside 😔💔
Sorry for your sad news. I'm sure she would not want to feel regrets, but to remember the happy times you had with her. You were with her to comfort her at the end. She will have known you loved her.
@@juliewood7845 thank you 🥰 I will miss her and I'm so glad I had the last days with her. Thanks for the video it's helping so many people x
My dog passed today and i honestly can't get the image out of my head of her small defenceless body shutting off and being buried
It's so sad when our pets die. Unfortunately it's a natural part of grief to focus on the final moments during the early stages.
As time goes on you will be able to think about the happier times.
A good way to get yourself into that headspace is to make an album (or create a screen saver) of photos of your dog during happier times and celebrate her life.
I hope this helps. X.
It's same for me today 😭😭 her eyes was so beautiful, she was looking at me while dying. I can't handle the pain. She is in my mind all the time ❤️❤️ her name is jimmie
@@fighterinmkiwiscience3517 she got all the love a doggie could get. im sorry for ur loss
@@Alex-jv4hd she was only 3 month old we were getting treatment of parvo virus but it was unsuccessful 😭😭
I've held 2 of my beloved cats while they were put to sleep and felt them slip away. I had to be the one holding them. I have lots of regrets around not spotting the start of their problems but I did the best I could to care for them. I love them and always will. I realise the pain is the hurt of being separated. I want them back which can't happen.
@@user-rj1vj5wk9f You obviously loved them very much. It's natural to miss them.
I felt terribly guilty over my cat,who died recently.for not noticing her suffering sooner.I felt guilty because i saw her hiding at the corner while looking depressed and her poop all over her halfbody so i decided to wash him a cold water.and buy her something that she wants to eat.but just when i thought she is getting better i found her rapidly breathing and not moving under my bed in the morning while her eyes were open.i am so depressed that i thought i would die..please someone help me how can i get over with this.i think she dies because i wash half of her body even though i know she's having a diarrhea..help it's too painful I love that cat so much and i can't sleep thinking about her.i can't even openly breakdown my emotions here because someone might think im insane.im dying inside..it so painfulll.helpp😭😭😭😭😭
You mustn't blame yourself. You couldn't leave her with all the poop on her. You did what you thought was the best for her at the time.
You even bought her something to special to encourage her to eat.
She would have known how much you loved her.
I feel so guilty too, when the decision was made due to a tumour, I wonder if I should have let her go , I cry for her every day, but I know she was ill, stopped eating and drinking.....my heart is shattered, I miss my fur baby so much 😢 💔
@@terrikietzmann3684 you didn't want her to suffer. That is an act of love ❤️ Euthanasia is not something we do TO our fur babies, it's something we do FOR them. As long as your decision was made out of love you have nothing to feel bad about.
You will always miss her, but as time passes you will remember the happier times.
Today a week ago my 17 yr old poodle passed on and I felt guilty because I couldn't help her,
I am disturbed due to the way she died
CF, I'm sorry I missed your comments. That's so sad about your poodle. I hope some of the videos have helped.
thank you for this. the guilt, self-blame, and questions that can never be answered in this life have been weighing so heavily on me since my special girl Agnes, one of my hens, passed suddenly and without warning. i keep thinking if i hadn’t slept in so late, if i had went outside to check on her one second sooner, if i had done one thing different, she might still be here. not knowing why or how she died makes it so much more painful because i can’t rationalize, and it feels so senseless and preventable. she was my best friend. i would do anything to bring her back. finding her and making desperate attempts to bring her back traumatized me without a doubt. i love her so much. our family will never be the same with her gone. it just hurts so much. i wish i didn’t blame myself and i wish i didn’t feel this guilt. everyone keeps telling me it wasn’t my fault but i can’t shake the feeling, the what ifs and the unanswered questions. i would have done anything for her. i’ve been through so many life-ruining, terrifying, disturbing, traumatizing things in this life but nothing has broken my heart like this. i will love that bird forever 🤍
and i feel so guilty that i wasn’t by her side when she passed. i know she wouldn’t want me to feel this way but the feeling is so pervasive and the pain runs so deep. my parents were abusive and didn’t get our pets adequate vet care growing up, so my animals were my best friends, and every time i lost one, especially if i felt like something could have been done, it crushed my world and traumatized me. i know i carry that into adulthood when it comes to pet loss. me and my partner have been together for ten years and we had our chickens for four of those years. this is the first loss we’ve had together. they were like our babies. its like we’ve lost a child, even though most people would call that silly. i keep feeling like if i had done one small thing different she could still be here, happy and foraging in the yard, sun bathing and spending time with her sisters, sitting in my lap and being loved on. the hurt is so overwhelming. its worse than anything i’ve ever felt. the grief would be too much to bear on its own, but the guilt that comes with it makes it immeasurably worse.
@harlancarroll114 Sorry to read of the sad news about Agnes. It's possible that her death has brought back feelings from the past that you thought you had come to terms with. (For instance, perhaps if you were determined to look after your animals better than your parents looked after their's, and now you feel you haven't.)
It's important to know, too, that an animal's instinct is often to die on their own. This is an evolutionary thing. Sometimes, if they are unwell they will go off and hide, but sometimes, they just wait until they are by themselves to pass away.
Agnes will have known she was loved.
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Losing someone you love is painful and losing someone coz of your mistake is terribly shattering into pieces. I took my cat Lucky to a vet due to her abnormal breathing. Though she was eating and moving around. The vet said she's got severe lung congestion. Lucky was difficult to be handled by anyone, wouldn't let anyone touch her. The vet and 3 other staff kept holding her from all sides for blood test. She struggled. After the reports he decided to give 3 injections. Again they all held her from all sides she fought she struggled. After the first injection she couldn't take this fight further and gave up. I lost her. I am now living in guilt, under depression that why didn't I stopped them, why didn't I take her to better place, why didn't I opened my mouth and said that stop this. Her eyes and her struggle is horrifying my days and nights. I'm losing my mind. This guilt makes me feel I'm good for nothing. I could have saved her. My silly mistake caused her life. This is end of my happiness...nothing makes me happy now. Just 3 days passed and I feel I was better off dead.
I'm so sorry for your sad news.
You clearly loved your cat very much. You did the best you could with the information you had at the time. You took the advice of the vets, and have nothing to blame yourself for.
Be kind to yourself.
It was not your fault. She probably might of struggled with any vet . I hope your feeling better now .
I had tests done before finallly making the right thing. Ultrasound, blood work, xray, etc. All showed she was in renal failure. Still did not accept. Then finally one Sunday morning had to bring her in. Another blood test showed off the charts. She was so ill by that time, and I could see the only thing I could do was to let her go. That was 3 weeks ago, and I'm in such emotional and physical pain. I was not a day without her for 14 years, never left her for any length of time outside of a few hours. And even then feel guilty for that. She was such a big part of my life. She made it into her 15 year, a long life after serious health issue, herniated disc requiring extensive surgery at 7 years old, giving her 7 more years. I was with her until the final moment, ensuring she heard my voice and that she knew she was loved until she passed over. Still, the pain of this loss will take a very long time. I've been through it before as a young widow 20 years ago. Now at 77, I look forward to crossing over myself one day to see her and my late husband again.
You clearly loved her very much and did everything you could.
It's possible that the grief from your little one is bringing back grief from the past too.
You might find this video useful. I hope they help. ua-cam.com/video/TXx92KtY9pY/v-deo.htmlsi=4HM504sbMWn2DXN8
I had to put my dog to sleep on Monday. I'm overwhelmed with guilt and grief. I loved him so much. I'm heart broken 💔😭
That's so sad. He must have had a wonderful life, because you loved him so much. He wouldn't want you to feel so bad. Guilt is a natural part of grief, especially when we have to take difficult decisions.
I did the same on Tuesday, and feel like you do.
I can't seem to get over my guilt, and sometimes it's blame. 1st is was everyone else's fault, then mine, then I think I've made my peace with it, and something triggers me. I've been up 2 days straight going over what I fed him because I learned a certain food ingredient leads to cancer. I went though receipts and pictures and called people to try to figure out what I was feeding him before he got sick. Why can't I just remember? Before that, I went though all his medical records to ascertain if any medication caused it. I even had a meltdown once, thinking it was the water I gave him. It feels never ending.
He was so precious, so beautiful. Why didn't I take better care of him? I just got a new cat. She's feral like my precious Bugz was, before I tamed him. She hates me. Lol. She's coming around. But, I'm a master sergeant when it comes to her nutrition, as I don't want her to get cancer like Bugzie got. She only gets fed the best foods and at certain times. And I think, why didn't I do this for Bugz? Did I do this for Bugz? I seem to have blocked out so much.
I also think, why didn't I do more research on nutrition? I know I did some stuff, but it wasn't enough, as he died.
He was everything to me, and I was SO protective of him. Why didn't I know a food additive causes cancer?? It's all over the internet. I'm stupid and lazy, and while I loved him more than life itself, he deserved better than me.
Thanks for letting me rant. It's like, afterwards, you are enlightened as to everything you should've done. And, his death was so recent, I can almost touch him and fix it. But, no, I can't. Now, I can't.
Hi. Guilt is a natural part of grief, and so is searching for answers. You clearly loved your little one. If you are not a vet or a food scientist it's unlikely you will ever know the cause of the cancer, and sometimes not knowing makes the feeling worse.
It makes us doubt ourselves.
It's wonderful that you have room in your heart for another cat. Make sure you enjoy your life together instead of being consumed by fear of their death.
Take care.
Gosh I know exactly how you feel, why I'm here searching how to deal with guikt and regret...its like a cancer eating away at you...and worst part for me is I'm a vet technician worked with animals for over a decade and I know lots of vets I could've called at wee hours of the morning when my baby wasn't breathing well tongue turning blue...but I sat and thought it's too late no one will answer and no one will see her...i.presumed my child to death...
She had chronic bronchitis and always would cough and it'll ease up...thought u would be lucky and it'll be one of those episodes but it wasn't it was the end...I had the power to Make the call and perhaps extend her life a bit longer and ease the suffering but I made a wrong judgment and now I'm.in pieces...had her for 12 yrs and I loved her with every bit of me....but yet I failed her...the feeling of grief mixed with regret is a killer potion I am praying for strength
❤ Thank you ❤ a useful technique
Thank you, so very much.
Wow the points were tender to the touch when tapping, especially the collarbone
Thank you ❤ Blessings from Germany
Kuki, I love you so much. I hope you forgive me for the things I wasn't able to do, and the things I did that caused you pain. I miss you every single second of everyday. I will see you again when it is time.
My bulldog had bladder stone surgery she came thru surgery I was concerned about having to put her to sleep.vet wanted to keep her for couple more days but we ran out of money and brought her home. Her heart gave out 4 hours later.im sick with guilt. Only thing I can think is at least she was home
I'm sorry for your sad news.
We can only do the best we are able to do at the time. You clearly loved her, and she would have known that.
I feel guility and it's all my fault!I just let him outside even that he was a bit sick and I try look for him but I didn't found him, next day we found it but I found out he ate something poisoned,now I wait my parents to come home and tell me yhe news It's all my fault😢😢😢😢
I'm sorry for your sad news. If he was sick when he went out it's possible he hid away to die in private. Animals often do that. You could not have known that would happen.
I found a feeldling baby Robin bird in my backyard ... I was worried for the baby bird 🐦, because my dog in backyard and hot summer elements.
So youtube how rescue wild baby bird .
So I got a open shoe box placed bird back in tree thinking mother bird would nurture it but I went to check on it I found it dead in the shoe box in the tree..
I feel guilty I'm responsible for it passing away.😪😭 I buried the bird 🐦 feeling like crap last 2 days
You were trying to help the baby Robin. You did it with the best of intentions, and went to the trouble of researching the best thing to do.
I doubt the bird would have survived anyway.
You did the best for it, which shows you have a good heart.
I feel very guilty my snow die at trainer house why we sent them in training
You must feel devastated. You were not to know what would happen.
I'm sure one of the reasons you sent Snow for training is so they would be safer in the wider world.
You mustn't blame yourself.
My beautiful Boxer developed Kidney disease and lost 15 pounds in 8 days. She was wasting away before my eyes. Even then she tried to show her love and affection for me. I was on a fixed income and couldn't afford the $1833.00 just to tell me what was wrong. I finally found a very generous Vet that checked my dog out for no cost. But it was bad news and my baby was suffering bad. Starving and would not eat. The vet said she could not be saved. She was dying a painful death. She said the best I could do for the love of my dog was to end her pain. I agreed but cried my ass off. My beautiful Female boxer was my best friend and loving loyal companion. I feel so guilty for agreeing to kill her. I don't know if I can forgive myself. I hope God does.
As long as you did out of love - and it sounds like you did (to end her suffering) she would understand, and so would God.
I want to go be with my little girl. I wanted to die with her at the time. I can't wait to see you again, Olivia.
My 19-year-old cat passed away peacefully. I was as prepared as I could be. Five days later, my son came over to take me out for dinner. He brought his elderly dog with him. His dog had been having some bowel issues so even though I suggested we go to a restaurant that allows dogs my son thought it would be better to leave his dog at home with the back door open. We had a camera on the back door and watched him go in and out a few times. We don’t know how old he was, he was a rescue that my son adopted at the beginning of the pandemic. So he had him for four years. He may have been about 10 or 11. He was having some issues with his hips and possibly dementia. When we returned one hour later, we could not find him. We finally found him, he had fallen into our swimming pool and drowned. I feel responsible . There were steps all around the corners of the pool, I don’t know why he didn’t try to get out. There’s so many things I should’ve done differently. I don’t know why I didn’t think he might fall in because he had fallen in once before. I don’t know how I’m gonna get over this. My poor son, here he came to comfort his mother and had to leave with his own grief. It’s two weeks today since this happened. I’m searching for answers, but I don’t feel there really are any. My whole life has changed. My cat was my last pet. I was going to help my son with his dog, now he’s gone too. What can I do?
@@nancygibbons5653 That's such sad news for both of you. I'm sorry you are going through so much. You both made the decision about your son's dog to keep him as comfortable as possible. You could not have known that he wouldn't be able to find the steps if he went into the pool.
You clearly loved your cat and your son's dog very much, and they would have known that.
@@juliewood7845 Thank you, Julie, for your kind and comforting words. I am trying your tapping daily. I hope it helps me cope with the way I am feeling. Thank you for doing what you do. It is greatly needed and I appreciate you. Take care, Nancy
@nancygibbons5653 thank you. Stay strong.
I lost my angel "Tinni" last night.. She met with an accident last month and was recovering.. Then about a week ago, she stopped eating or drinking and she had to be admitted again least I knew this time she is never going to come home alive 💔😭
Doctor says she ate some toxic insects and we couldn't detect it earlier else she could have been saved.. I used to use cockroach spray to kill ever increaaing cockroaches in my home but i used to clean up once I would use it. It seems she accidently ate one of those poisoned dead cockroaches but I never realized it and there was no way for me to detect it. She started coughing a week back and consulted her vet but he also thought its a regular cough. I feel that's where the blunder happened. Had I taken her to vet when she started coughing, she would have survived. This leaves me in deep remorse and regret 💔 I am unable to overcome it.. 😭
@user-vv6yq7rp3y I'm sorry for your sad news. Tinni would have known how much you loved her.
You were not to know what was going to happen. Don't blame yourself.
Hi mam please help my heart broken again 💔
It's so sad when our little ones pass away.
Some of the other videos might help you, or if you need more than that you can book onto a Pet Grief and Bereavement Therapy session.
Mine is “Why did I leave for a New Year’s Eve trip and leave him?” So much guilt. That was 2 days ago. In 2016 I lost my 14 yr old pup and this pup who just passed helped me through that. I had 15 months of therapy. Over my pup. Now I’m devastated. He was 16. That’s a long time.
That is a long time, and a lot of love.
You could not have known what was going to happen.
If he helped you with the passing of your earlier pup, he wouldn't want you to feel that sort of pain for him.
my furry baby just left 12 hours agoI have much guiltI felt bad having to put her downjust before she was going to be put down she opened both of her eyes looked into the camera and let the nurse take a picture14 years I'm so sorryI had to send you away likethat my deepest regret is when my kittyhad her babieswe could not keep them so we took them to the Humane Society she looked everywhere for her babies I'm so sorry I took yourbabies away from you I'm so sorry
I'm sorry for your sad news about your fur baby. We all do what we think is the best at the time. Your little one would have known how much you loved her.
My cat died last week while I was away visiting my family in my home country. She was well looked after but just got so sick. We had to make the decision to put her down without being here for her. The pain and guilt I’m feeling is incredible, especially now that we’ve returned home and she is not here. I keep thinking what if I had fed her better food. What if I would’ve spent more time with her. What if I never treated her how she deserved to be treated. I would give so much to have a second chance to make it right for her. So so painful.
@joannap6791 sorry for your sad news. We often wonder what would have happened if we had done things differently. We question ourselves and put ourselves through hell.
You obviously loved her very much and it sounds like you gave her a wonderful life. Hold onto that.
I just found out my dog was shot. And I feel so guilty about it. My dog was causing problems at my house, she kept jumping over the fence to the neighbors so we got in trouble by our landlord and had to make the difficult decision to rehome her. My parents volunteered to take her that way she was still close and not with a stranger. The other day I went to visit my parents and my dog wasn’t there. I asked where she was and they said she bit my dad and was attacking my parents dogs so they gave her to a ‘family friend’ with a farm a week prior. Something wasn’t sitting right with me, I felt terrible about it and was scared she wasn’t being treated correctly. And I wondered why they wouldn’t tell me before they rehomed her. One day something told me something was wrong so I made my mom tell me what really happened. She told me that her neighbors shot my poor dog because she kept going to their property. She didn’t deserve that. I shouldn’t have given her up. I can’t deal with the guilt and how terrible I feel for her
Hi. You could not possibly have known that this was going to happen. You thought you were doing the kindest thing by letting your parents have her. You are not responsible for her death. It's natural to grieve but please don't blame yourself.
Why does this work??? I tried your tapping technique and followed along with you in the video and it really helped. THANK YOU!!!!
It works in a similar way to acupuncture, but without the needles.
I'm glad it helped.
My cat died 3rd January 2024 , I have mixed feelings of guilt and sadness i don’t know if we could’ve saved her or if it was too late 😢
This is often the case when our animals pass away. We often wonder if we did the right thing. I believe that as long as you did what you thought was the best thing at the time, and that you loved her throughout her life, then that's what's important now.
@@juliewood7845 Thank you 🙏
I had to say goodbye to my best friend and baby of 13 years this week. I adopted her when she was 3 years old and she almost made it to 17 years. I miss her terribly and I’m racked with guilt. This video helped me so much. Thank you!
@@bageluserky It sounds like you gave her a life filled with love. Hang on to that.
I feel so much guilt because during hot weather I let my cat sleep outside & a predator Coyote or an owl took her right off my front porch I woke up to a thud & banging noises & opened the front door but it was too late 😢 my beautiful cat I had for 11 years never to be seen again ! I miss her so much , my heart is broken 💔
@@Kwood10 I'm so sorry to hear that. You could not have known that was going to happen. You clearly loved her very much.
Thank you… What if it was mainly your vets fault? Wrong diagnosis and wrong medication led my kitten to death today, i cant stop thinking about it and how fast his health dropped
@laracroft369
Sorry for your sad news.
It's a very difficult situation. Anger is a natural part of grief. Do you know for certain the vet was to blame, and would proving it make you feel any better?
Sometimes we can get so caught up in our anger, it can completely swamp the loving memories we have of our little one.
My beloved cat died today. I noticed him loosing weight but he still ate his food somewhat. I promised myself I would take him to the vet on tuesday as it was a long weekend (holiday today). He didn't make it. He loved me dearly and always cuddled to sleep next to me. I let him down and wasn't there to help him.
@nvr5490 sorry for your sad news.
You clearly loved him and gave him a life surrounded by love.
It would probably not have been your usual vet over a holiday weekend, and you could have put your little one through loads of stress, and he may have passed away anyway.
We can only do what we think is the best at the time.
My 3 lil yorkies a couple of weeks ago. And am devestated
I'm sorry to hear about your sad news. Allow yourself some time to grieve if you can.
List mine 8 days ago. Feel like I missed the boat all the way around. Yes I let him down - he trusted me but I was fighting cancer and so was my husband. He never missed a meal and I took care of him as best I could. I didn’t pick up on symptoms as quickly as I should have but treated it as best I could. He seemed so happy for up to the last day. I made him special foods and all. I miss him so much 😢
It's clear that you loved him very much. You said yourself he was happy, and you made him special food.
He would have known how much you loved him.
I miss my little girl Lily. She was my world, my little baby. She was so brave and I am so proud of her. I feel immense guilt for not seeing the signs of her health but she loved and loved and loved, even through the pain. She taught me something even on her last breath, to keep fighting for those you love. It’s been 4 days and my world just feels dark without her shining eyes. Thank you for this video, I feel some peace knowing others understand this pain.
She will have known you loved her too.
It was my fault my four year old died. He was off his food and I thought he was being fussy. I was very ill. He came to me as a kitten. I was less ill and hoped to get better but I didn’t. I didn’t notice the signs. I had to get a stranger to take him to the vet. He deteriorated very quickly after I had arranged this. They worked on him for 24 hours and he died while they were doing so. He was panicking because his breathing was affected and I wasn’t with him at any time.
Hi Helen
You mustn't blame yourself.
You could not help being ill.
Animals are often fussy about their food too. You could not have known what was going to happen.
The main thing is that you loved him - and you must have, otherwise you wouldn't feel so bad now.
Be kind to yourself.
I left my senior dog at home when I went to visit my daughter gif a week. She stayed home with my roommate and her dog who was her playmate, so I figured she would be fine. Apparently she cried a lot, and I decided next trip I would bring her. She died from heart failure 2 days after I got back. I keep wondering if the stress of me being gone is what did it. Realistically she was elderly and had a good life and it was probably her time to go, but the guilt still haunts me.
Sorry for your sad news. We always wonder if making a different decision would have made a difference. In your heart of hearts you know it probably wouldn't have, and she would have known that you loved her very much.
I feel really guilty because my cat had cancer and he had days where he was fine and days when he wasn’t. On his last day he was sick like he had been in the past. Usually he would vomit and then he would be fine the next day. I tried to get him to vomit by giving him cat laxatives. He got sicker during the day. When he was starting to lay down about to pass I panicked and picked him up roughly. I was holding him and he urinated on me. He stopped breathing and we hopped in the car to go to the vet. I held him the entire way. I feel guilty because he was in pain. I wish i could have had him put down peacefully.
It's very difficult when our pets are ill and we don't know what to do for the best. Sometimes we act in panic or lose patience.
You obviously loved him very much (or you wouldn't be upset).
Take comfort that he lived his life full of love.
I lost my best friend this afternoon, she was 16 and had dementia and some other health issues, she wasn't herself for a while. I had a vet and nurse come to my home and l held her while they administered the medication. She went peacefully but l am wracked with grief and guilt, l feel l should have done more. She was the best dog/friend anyone could wish for, she was always there for me and loved me unconditionally, she was an angel. I honestly didnt deserve her 😔. Im burying her in the garden in the morning 😢. I will save this and do the tapping, thank you 😭 x
I'm sorry for your sad news.
You obviously loved her very much and did the kindest thing for her, even though it was a difficult thing for you.
I hope you don't mind if I make a suggestion?
If you haven't already, snip a little bit of her fur off to keep. If you ever have to move house you will need to leave her iin the garden, but at least you'll have something to take with you, along with your memories.
@@juliewood7845 thank you for the suggestion, l will do that. I've taken a paw print 🐾 ❤️
My dog, Fiona. She died December 2021 and I feel awful. I left my dog on my bed for a little bit, and I came back down stairs to get her and I saw that she had pooped on my bed. I scolded her, and when I tried to get her off the bed, her back legs wouldn't work. Worst part out this, is she looked terrified and just extremely sad when I scolded her. I can't this dogs look out of my mind. She died less then 4 hours later.
I feel terrible because Fiona was always there for me during the pandemic. I struggle with mental health and the pandemic really hit hard, but she was always there to keep me going. I was working online for a while, so I would play with her as I worked and she would always walk onto my desk, sit with me, play with me and just... be my pal when nobody else was. Except, when I went back to in person work, she was in her crate most of the day and when I came home, I was exhausted and didn't give her as much attention as she needed.
I want to give her the love and affection she deserves but I can't do that when she's been cremated. I can't, I just can't.
it's been almost 2 months at this point, and I still feel as sad as I felt when she first died. I feel guilty I couldn't be there for her, even in her last days, and that I couldn't do anything to prevent her painful demise. I at least wish I could've known she was in pain, so I could've at least helped her.
R.I.P. Fiona (2017 - 2021)
Fly high, little angel.
It's natural to blame yourself. Guilt is part of grief, especially when we are grieving for animals. It sounds as though Fiona lived a life surrounded by love. Focus on that. You made her life better by being in it.
My baby died on Dec 24th, a day before my birthday, and we'd been though a lot together too. My guilt is infinate.
I promised myself I won't cry. I kept my promise. I was very sad, but my bird used to jump and go around me when it saw me cry. I wanted him to rest. That is why I didn't show my emotions. I feel guilty for not crying when it died next to me...
He wouldn't want you to feel guilty. He would know you loved him whether you showed your emotions or not - however, supressing them is not a good thing. They usually find a way out some how. xx.
@@juliewood7845 Thank you for helping me get over it. I appreciate it a lot!🥲
I wish I was able to hold him and look into his eyes before he passed away he is currently wrapped in blankets and I put him in a suitcase because I didn't know where else to put him I'm not sure what to do now I live alone and I don't want anyone else involved in the process because I'm gonna have a breakdown thank you for letting me share
I don't know where you live, in the UK there are charities and organisations that can help (like the Blue Cross).
My turtle just passed yesterday at 12 years old because she wasn’t eating the right things, I don’t know how I’m I supposed to live with this feeling for the rest of my life 😢
I'm sorry for your sad news. I'm sure if you'd have known, you would have changed her food. You clearly loved her. That's why you feel so bad. Take comfort from knowing she lived her life surrounded by love.
@@juliewood7845 ty so much for making me feel i little bit better :,)
I lost today parvo virus after 3-4 days of treatment 😢 I can't handle the pain
That's so sad. It sounds like you did everything you could and loved them ❤️ loads. They would have known that.
I am crying 😭 pain is to much
Corporal silver kills parvovirus
Crying all day
Hi Sonja, I'm sorry I have just seen your comments. It's so sad about your cat. I hope some of the videos have helped.
Thank goodness for your videos
Stay strong and know you are not alone. I lost my 11 month old dog yesterday. The pain is still really raw. ❤️
I feel guilty because she got stung by a bee. And I thought she’ll be ok. When I got home she was not ok. She was 7 1/2 and I thought I’d have at least 5 more years with her. She was my favorite pet I’ve had. I know it will get better but I can’t imagine getting another dog again 😢
I'm so sorry to read that. You could not have known that the bee sting would have affected her that way. You must not blame yourself. She clearly had a lot of love from you during her life.
My pet is currently on the vet now. I can’t get myself to see him again but my family are with him. I sat with him outside earlier today and he just laid there. I could tell in his eyes he was going to die and I cried to my parents but they said he wouldn’t. I wish I didn’t yell at him for barking at nothing, or for eating all the food he could find. I’d do anything to go back. I miss you Luca, I’ll forever love you.
We often have regrets when our pet dies. We wish we could go back and change things.
Luca would have known how much you loved him.
Thank you for this! I lost my bunny some time ago. She was the most innocent looking, beautiful angel on this planet. And I let her down. I noticed she was breathing differently after her operation, but tought that it might have been like that before. Looking back it was an obvious sign of pain in a rabbit. I didn't take her to the vet. If I could go back in time, I would do everything differently. My main worry is that she was in pain for a long time. She died almost a month after her operation. Her tummy hadn't started working, I think. I should have ended her suffering. I feel so bad, like I am just a bad person that doesn't deserve anything. I try to deal with the overwhelming guilt and get better.
I'm sorry for your sad news. We often feel guilty and regret the things we did or didn't do when our little ones pass away.
Unless you have veterinary training, you would not have known if her breathing was a sign of pain. It's not your fault.
She would have known how much you loved her, and that's the most important thing.
thank you so much for this video ❤️
I lost two cats in the last three weeks, one week apart, and my heart hurts. I feel so guilty knowing that I was the one who made the decision to put them to sleep.
I'm sorry for your sad news.
Guilt is a natural part of grief, and where we have to make difficult decisions, it can feel even worse.
We often doubt ourselves and wonder if we could have done something different.
As long as you loved your little ones, that's the most important thing.
They would have known that.
I just lost mine yesterday . I feel tremendous guilt for not doing enough for him .
@@huiyingtanyayap sorry for your sad news. We often feel that way when our pet passes away. Giving him lots of love would have been one of the most important things ❤️
@@juliewood7845 ❤️
We had a wonderful girl. She was the sweetest soul. After lockdown we had to work extremely long days, we were away from home for 13 hours a day. I got a puppy to keep her company in those long lonely hours we were not there. I thought I was doing good. She hated the puppy. Suddenly she had to share our love and attention and time. No more tug of war, puppy is too strong. No more fetch, puppy is faster. No more quality time, every minute is split between her and puppy. By the time we realised she is not doing well mentally, the damage was done. Two years after we got the puppy, our girl passed away a depressed, sad, unhappy girl, thinking mom and dad abandoned her for another dog. I still hate myself for not seeing it. I cry every night, my heart is shattered and the guilt is all-consuming.
I'm sorry for your sad news. You did what you thought was the best thing at the time. Your sweet girl would have known how much you loved her. She would probably hate to think of you having so many regrets.
@juliewood7845 Thank you for your kind words. It doesn't take the pain away, but it does make it a bit easier.
Through my many losses, guilt is a huge factor but you have to remember your actions came from a place of love.
Her soul is in a place of pure love.
Remember the joyful happy times you had with her & it will bring her close into your heart & soul.
My 3yo rabbit died 2 weeks ago, he was like a son for me. Has been really though since he used to be free in the house and garden. I just walked where he used to have his bed and I could't stop crying. I took him to the vet too late, I told my family that he looked lil suspicious and they thought I was just overreacting. Now I feel guilty of listened to them instead of listening my instincs and haven't stopped crying since he died. Thank you so much for your video
I'm so sorry for your sad news. Please don't blame yourself. He clearly lived a life surrounded by love.
Today we lost one of our kitten. It was only 17 days old . It was walking around, when my brother step on him. It started bleeding and breathing slowly until it dead tow hours letter.i feel really bad thinking about how it was running around perfectly fine few hours ago
That's so sad. I'm sure it was an accident, but I can understand how upsetting it must be.
Thank you. My cat was hit and killed by a car last night. I’m moving and the fencing that protected her from going in the street was taken down. I’ve been feeling so guilty for letting my friend take it down before relocating my cats to their new home. It’s my job to protect my animals and I let her down.
Please don't think that. You could not have known what was going to happen.
Hi Sonja. I'm so sorry. The same thing happened with my cat one week ago. She was blind and had been accidentally locked out of the house for the night. She unknowingly wandered into the street where she was killed by a car. I'm devastated.
@@sunshine9122 Make sure you allow yourself to grieve. It's such a tough time when this happens.
My 1.5 year old dog just passed away and I’m so much in pain right now😢 I don’t know how to handle this feeling. I can’t eat, do my regular exercise, take a bath and even sleep enough. I feel guilty because it’s because of me she suffers a lot. I brought her to the vet after the day she got seizures because of many internal problems and it’s so painful because she didn’t shows any signs that she’s not ok. She’s still young and I can’t accept that she’s gone now. She’s the sweetest. I don’t know what to do right now. I want to hug and talk to her and say how much I love her. Although I always say that when she’s alive. I just want to have amnesia right now jusy to stop thinking her😢😢😢
Because I love Luchi so much, I can’t resist when she ask food while I’m eating and giving her small amount of table food. The guilt I feel is so strong. I spent a lot on the vet clinic but still she’s not here anymore. I feel that I’m the reason why she suffers kidney problem. I feel crazy thinking everything, I just want to sleep to forget the pain but I can’t get enough sleep. I still think of her everytime I get a snap😢😢😢
I'm sorry for the sad news about your little one. Please don't blame yourself. We do what we think is best at the time. She lived her life surrounded by love, and she would have known how much you cared for her.
@@juliewood7845 thank you for your kind words but I still don’t know how to bear this pain I feel 😔😢 I super miss her 😔
i hope i get over the pain of guilt and thoughts that my pet bird hate me , and i keep thinking that my care wasn't enough, I'll see your videos and they are so helpful thank you so much ❤
You clearly loved your bird very much, and I'm sure they knew that.
@@juliewood7845 you really helped me go through this 🤍 you are the most wonderful and authentic person i hope all the best to you now , now i don't have these crazy thoughts and no mental breakdowns 🤍🥺 such a nice person
I lost my sweet baby girl a 2.5 years shih tzu just yesterday, she got heatstroke, i bring her to the vet, she got better but on day three her condition dropped, and she's gone, i feel so guilty because she looks so happy when she see me, and that's one of the factor that makes her too excited and affected her heart😢, i just, i keep crying, and have a breakdown in the middle of office hour, i feel That i didn't do enough for her😭😢
Hi, I'm sorry for your sad news.
We often blame ourselves when our pet passes away.
You can't help it if your sweet baby girl loved you so much that she was happy to see you.
Be kind to yourself.
@@juliewood7845 thank you for your kind words, I'm grateful that I could spend time with Candy ( my dog name) even though is just a short time, I hope she's happy while she's with me
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Thank you 💕
My dogs paw is bothering him and so I made an appointment for him. At the same day, I also made plans with a friend. I decided to cancel the vet and go with my friend. Now when I tried to schedule and appointment, I have to wait weeks for an opening. I don’t want him to suffer and I feel really bad for not just pushing the thing with my friend. And I overall feel like my family doesn’t put the energy that I do into taking care of him. I feel really bad and now I have to wait for an appointment.
I feel so bad that he passed away alone in the front room. He look at me when I called him so I went back to bed. He died couple of hours later. I wish I would have gone downstairs & laid with him. We knew he was sick he had been throwing up not eating except grass when he went outside. Harley was 13 golden retriever, in February we were going to do a home Euthanasia but it was too hard, I will never get over the loss of our Harley…🐾💔🐾
I'm so sorry to read about Harley.
Pets often wait until they are alone before taking their last breath. It's believed to be an inherited behaviour from their ancestors who lived in the wild. It seems strange to us now, as our instinct is to provide comfort during the final moments of life.
I'm sure Harley knew you loved him.
I had lost my three kitten just by today morning, I was crying hardly. It feels like killing me. Street dogs killed my kittens, just 3 three week born ago. 2 kittens body we found and done all the necessary but the 3rd one we couldn't find still and we don't know where it is. The kitten's mother cat seeing the dead kitten's body..... It really killed me seeing at that moment. I feel to write to overcome this incident. But I didn't. Three kitten lost their life today by morning 7am they were so hungry yesterday night without knowing this the last milk that they tasted. I MISS YOU MY LOVES
Sending you strength at this difficult time. You obviously cared a great deal for them.
Even though they had a short life, you made sure they knew what it was to be loved and cared for.
am I supposed to cry during this.. i started crying
Some people do get very emotional. There is no right or wrong way to grieve xx.
My beloved cat died today. I noticed him loosing weight but he still ate his food somewhat. I promised myself I would take him to the vet on tuesday as it was a long weekend (holiday today). He didn't make it. He loved me dearly and always cuddled to sleep next to me. I let him down and wasn't there to help him.
Yes, the guilt and the what if's. I miss her oh so much! Buddy too! The two greatest loves of my life!! ❤️ ❤️
i lost my baby girl eddie aged 13 5 days ago ive not stopped crying fo 5 days,she was the only thing ive ever loved in my life she was my angel my love,i miss he she was so beautiful ,i love you eddie have a nice sleep.
My cat was my little companion. He always followed me around and reminded me of a dog almost. He lost so much weight all of a sudden so we took him to the vet. Turns out something was in his stomach. My girlfriend and I took it upon ourselves to try some natural remedies for hairballs and worms. We didn’t get the ultrasound that the vet recommended, to truly know what was going on, and before he could make it to the next vet appointment he died painfully at home😢. It’s been so tough to deal with this but I definitely learned a lot from the whole thing.
I'm sure you took the decisions that you did because you loved him. You did what you thought was in his best interests.
I never felt guilt
How did you feel?
I made my dog lose 1 of its tooth on accident and it only has very little left and I'm afraid we're gonna need to put it down because of that
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you can get your dog some help. You mustn't blame yourself if it was an accident.
I lost my cat a few days back, he was about to turn 1 and i can’t stop blaming myself. He used to scream alot at night so I opened the door for him to roam around for a while he didn’t come back but i wasn’t worried as he usually comes back in a day or two, but this time we found him dead in front of my apartment and i can’t stop blaming myself. My chest feels so heavy everytime I think about it… if I hadn’t open the door for him to go out he would’ve been alive
You were not to know. You thought your cat would be unhappy if you kept him locked in. Please don't blame yourself. I'm sure he wouldn't want you to.
Thank you for this i really needed this. ❤️
My dog died a few days ago because she ran into the road after a cat and a car hit her breaking her back ...........I took her lead off way to soon so it was definitely my fault. Can you please give advice I can't take it and can't stop crying
I'm sorry for you sad news.
People often blame themselves, however their pet passed away. You probably didn't know the cat was there. Your dog would not want you to be so distraught. Be kind to yourself, you clearly loved her very much.
@@juliewood7845 they are very kind words thank you so much
my kitten died days ago, i feel guilty everytime i remember his cute furry face and his blue eyes. i treated him like a son. i wish i could bring back time and take him to the vet. i wish i studied more about adopting cat. it feels like im the one who bring him to his death. everytime i watch his video the moment he step in to my apartment is the moment i drive him to his death. it hurt so much seeing his lifeless face that once the cutest face i ever saw.. i regret it when i didn't play with him when he wanted to play. i regret it not taking him to the vet but instead playing my online games. i wasted so much time. i really miss my baby Elso! 😭😭😭😭💔💔💔
It is usual to feel guilt and regret when our beloved animals pass away. We often wonder if we could have done things differently. You clearly loved your little one dearly, and I'm sure he wouldn't want you to be sad.
I lost my beloved cat about a week and a half ago. She was my companion for almost 6 years. I will always blame myself that I should have done more even if it meant being homeless. I will never forgive myself and don't even deserve to live either. God, please help me.
Hi Martha. It's so difficult when our much loved animals pass away. We always think we could have done more. Becoming homeless would not have helped either of you.
Your cat would have known how much you loved her. She would not want you to feel this way.
@@juliewood7845Thank you so much Julie for responding to my heartache over the loss of my beloved cat. You have given me more comfort than people I have known for years. I just had to let my feelings be known to anyone who might listen but I never really expected a reply much less such a kind and compassionate one like yours. God bless you. 🙏💕
Thank you for this video
My kitten died yesterday she was in so much pain she got sick yesterday morning my parents weren't home and I called the vet and they said to bring her as soon as possible I told them that my parents weren't home they asked me that they'd send a taxi yet I was afraid to go alone I'm ashamed of myself as a 21 years old I saw her struggle for 8hours and when my parents prepared to go to the vet she passed away I feel guilty for not taking the taxi it's hard to imagine a day without her i'm afraid that my anxiety will increase again she was my best friend she was the kindest and cutest kitten I've ever met I will never find other like her she used put her head on my chest now I feel so cold and lonely she was the queen of our house shade everyone laugh my little Minerva she deserves the best life I wish her the best beautiful and a healthy life in her next life. Baby , you're always my sunshine and my best friend and I hope you can forgive me. I love you forever ❤
Sorry to hear your sad news. You clearly loved your kitten very much and she wouldn't want you to feel sad now.
Its been two days since we had to put my baby boy to sleep. Chibi was my soul mate, I have never and I know I will never feel such a deep bond and love for any person or animal ever again. My beautiful baby boy my life long companion Chibi was with me since I was 17 I'm 30 now, He was going to be 14 this march I miss him so much it hurts, I wasn't ready to let go, I wanted to hold him one last time, kiss his little heart marked head, it was sudden and its been hard. I feel so much immense guilt and regret, I feel like I betrayed him that I failed him that I took the easy way out for him. I feel like I made the worst decision in my life, and its a decision I can't take back, I can never take it back and I hate myself for it. I want to believe he isn't in pain anymore, that he isn't scared or confused, that he doesn't hate me for our decision that he can forgive me. That he will wait for me and his daddy so that we can see his beautiful face again.
Chibi sometime a week or so before suddenly started breathing rapidly and it began to be difficult for him to even walk, we took him to the vet, they did xrays he had a slightly enlarged heart and liquid in his lungs and he had lost weight which worried me, we started giving him medication and he seemed to be getting better he started acting like his usual self again begging for food hogging the bed and making sure he was tucked sideways between me and his daddy so he could touch us both. Then suddenly on the 25th of January 2023 became the worst day of our lives. He started breathing rapidly again, we were getting ready to call the vet as we comforted him when he stopped breathing in his daddys arms. We couldn't believe this was happening he was normal yesterday why WHY all the sudden he just stopped breathing as liquid and blood came pouring out of his mouth and we were terrified traumatized shocked, in disbelief that it was happening. And then his daddy his amazing dad was able to get him to breath again through all of our tears but it was slight it was barely noticable so my s.o jumped in the car with his brother and our little chibi as he was rushed to the vets, the animal hospital was an hour away so we went to the vet, they were able to get him breathing a little bit more to where he was able to see around him. His body was drowning itself, they told us it would keep happening that he would suffer from drowning again, they told us we couldn't take him home in this condition, that they truly think we should say our goodbyes... I wasn't there though I couldnt hold his little paw in my hand and I will regret that and the decision we made everyday for the rest of my life. My amazing s.o let me videocall with him he was barely able to lift his little head he just laid there staring at his daddy. We do believe we did it out of selfless love so he wont suffer anymore, so he would never have to experience the pain he was in the last week or so of his beautiful life, especially the pain of the last hour, that horrible last hour but one I will remember as I pet and kissed his face telling him it was okay, mommy was there before he was gone, truly gone from my life. He was loved, loved so much it physically hurts and will always be loved. But I still think what if.. what if he got better, what if it didn't happen again, what if they are wrong about him.. but that what if was too late the decision was made and my life feels empty my bed feels empty my heart is hurting more and more and I just want to hold my little hotdog baby again. I feel terrible all I can do is sob for the loss and guilt and sorrow I feel, I miss him so much I get sick, it's the worse at night, he was my little heater who snuggled into my side always wanting to be near his mommy. We have two cat babies that I can barely pay attention too, I dont mean to neglect them I just cant make it out of bed most hours, I felt terrible as the next morning I was hoping it was all a bad dream and I felt someone pressed against me, but it wasnt a dream it was one of our other babies, I sobbed into my pillow hoping to not disturb them or my s.o. I will make sure to love them and keep them in line as you did Chibi. I have never had to make that decision for any of my animals before, and the one I did was the one I loved more than life itself, more than the air I breath, my little soul mate who is now in puppy heaven, the bestest boy I have ever had the pleasure of meeting and loving I didn't deserve him but I am a selfish creature and I am so fucking thankful he choose me to love as I choose him.
I love you Chibi, I miss you my baby my son my soul mate, I didn't deserve the love you shared with me, I wont care if you hate me as long as I know you aren't in pain. I just want to know I made the right choice for you, even if it isn't the right one for me or the one I wanted, I will always hold this regret and guilt with me just as I will carry your love and memories with me, and thats okay, I will gladly take it all, just so you will never have to suffer again. Please wait for me and daddy on the other side our little prince.❤❤❤Rest easy now my love March 24th, 2009 - January 25th, 2023
I'm so sorry to read the sad news about Chibi.
What you did was the most caring act of love for him. You could have kept him going, causing him discomfort and distress because you didn't want to let him go - but you didn't. You did the kindest thing in the most difficult of circumstances.
Chibi lived his life surrounded by love. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
@@juliewood7845 Thank you, I appreciate that so much right now
Reading this has me crying so hard. I lost my soul mate - the love of my life - my son - my baby yesterday.
Same exact thing as your baby. Water in the lungs, liver enlargement. He had been diagnosed with diabetes a few days ago and then bounced back- we went for a walk even - and then he stopped eating.m, which was his favorite activity. I took him back to vet and they found masses and the fluid.
I’m so shattered. I can’t breathe sometimes. This is the worst pain I’ve ever felt in my entire trauma pain filled life. Oliver was my heart.
I hope you are finding peace. Thank you for writing what you did because it’s exactly how I feel about my bestest most handsomest boy😢❤
I wrapped his collar around my wrist- I don’t think I’ll ever take it off
I lost my baby girl named selfy 5 days ago . She was just 5 year 11 month old . She just had drooling problem because of summer season.
I took her to the state veterinary hospital. They injected her 12 injection in 3 days without proper checkup .
She started vomiting on 4 th day evening. Then the white vomiting start on 5 th day. I thought that is because of injections they gave. I thought that's a part of healing of process.
I regret that i didn't understand her problem . I regret that i couldn't help her. She died because of high dosage of injections.
Now i am in so much guilt and grief.
I regret my decision of taking her to government hospital. If i didn't took her to that hospital , she were with me today. I feel that she died because of my wrong decision.
I am blaming myself everday. I know nothing is gonna change. She is not coming back.
She died once, and i am dying daily.
I wish ,I could save her.
I don't know if it's normal.or not but i have started feeling suicidal after losing her.💔
@amishasingh8972 I'm sorry for your sad news. You did the best thing that you could at the time. You could not have known what would happen. You put your trust in the veterinary professionals, and you did that because you thought your little one might be uncomfortable with the drool. It may have been a sign of something else.
You clearly loved Selfy. She would not want you to blame yourself.
I don't know what country you are in, but in the UK we have an organisation called The Samaratons who are open 24 hours a day to support anyone with suicidal thoughts. You may have something similar if you are in another country.
www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/