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In this episode Joel and Antonia dive deep into the needs and desires of the INFJ personality type.
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In this podcast on the INFJ Personality Type you’ll find:
-This podcast episode talks about the INFJ personality type
-We have an unusually high number of INFJs represented in Personality Hacker
-INFJs have the tendency to feel very misunderstood.
-2 important components to understand INFJs:
-Their mental process is called ‘Perspectives’. They’re actually watching their own mind work and form patterns. Because this isn’t something verifiable, other people just don’t believe them or reject what they radiate.
-INFJs pair Perspectives with Harmony. When a person with the INFJ personality type tries to figure out what to do, the first thing that pops in their mind is, “how do we make sure everybody’s needs are met?”
-This process is in tuned with unspoken social contracts that we accept.
-INFJs are very sensitive to the emotions of other people that they end up absorbing them.
-The more sensitive they are, the more they have the tendency hiding.
-The less expressive they get, the more pain they experience.
-It’s difficult for the INFJ personality type to build intimacy with another person.
-INFJs who are developed and growth oriented don’t retreat to coldness. They’ve taken the harmony process in order to understand and create healthy boundaries.
-INFJs are also able to see how things will play out in the future and this is one of the reasons why they are hesitant to build intimacy with other people.
-Because they are so aware of what’s going on with the other person, they end up having one-sided relationships.
-Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr were probably INFJs.
-INFJs are not in the receiving end in victimization. They have extraordinary capabilities within them.
-If you are an INFJ personality type or know someone who is, here are a few things you need to note:
-You don’t have to absorb other people’s emotions and have it stay there. You need to develop techniques to let it go.
-Words have power and the way you describe yourself will become your reality. Change the way you talk about yourself and think of ways of being a co-creator. Create a reality that’s positive to you. If you change the word use, you can change reality.
-When getting everybody’s needs met, you’re basically part of everybody. Getting your needs met means you take care of yourself.
-Get sensitive to what those needs are in real time.
-Honor what you need in the moment and be willing to take care of it.
-This will help you get other’s needs met.
-Continue to look for people who understand you. Allow yourself to be understood and form the relationships you’ve been desiring.
-You can’t change that you’re going to absorb people’s emotions.
-Manage and learn strategies that will help you figure out a way to let the energy come in and go out.
-Do what you can to see yourself as a person who has positive things to contribute to the world. Focus what you got as gift and not as a burden to others.
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I very much enjoyed your podcast on INFJ's. I posted it on Facebook, so others can learn more if this amazing & unique personality type. I'm an INFJ. I'm very much the type of person that is proactive in working through my issues & taking care if the whole me. My biggest is due is bringing healthy people in my life, so I can eventually call someone a friend. I struggle with shutting myself away from physical society. My mom passed away last August & I m basically dealing with it on my own. I realize that many people me an well. I cannot take on thier pain & struggles. Which us usually the case when I reach out. My gift to society is posting all my genuine encouragement, love & kindness on Facebook & Instagram. It brings me do much joy that others are growing & healing from my thoughts, words & posts. 💓😃💞
My God listening to this made me feel so understood for once. Thank you 😍
@@wr3kandrewwillis635 😌 It helped so much. I was starting to think I needed lifelong therapy. Everyone who knows me thinks I'm a bit off lol 🙈
How many times is the woman gonna call holistic and eastern ideas 'woo woo' though. Certain things have taken over the world as 'better' but everyone knows louder and stronger doesn't necessarily equal balanced and healthy. Yoga, meditation, reiki, these are all things considered yin/feminine; let's stop over-valuing the yang/masculine please.
I listened to this full video carefully, Hi antonia I just wanna say my opinion and I hope you understand me and I respect your opinion and views about this INFJ personality tbh I think Im an infj, one thing I only disagree is your telling that jesus is probably an INFJ. But how can you include him in all these 16 personalities if each of these personalities have their own weaknesses. I believe jesus is perfect and he has no weaknesses.
Anyway I really wanna thank you for this video, it is one of the good ways for us to understand ourselves godbless you
The hardest thing about infj, is learning to love themselves.
And giving themselves as much or more compassion as they automatically give to others.
@@kennaroundtree2548 I have no idea why it took so long, but this is my most recent epiphany.... Physician heal thyself!!! I have to learn how to harness some of that amazing empathy for myself. I was resigned to the notion that due to my 'outlier' status I would have to forgo certain requirements in relationships. Giving myself the same compassion I give to others, is proving to be the greatest challenge for me to date. And I have a pretty impressive resume of challenges😒
thats ryt
I'm 19, I know I have to love and forgive myself to live a happy life, to not take life so seriously so that I may get out of it alive, but I find it difficult to do so at times. Often times when I TRY to just "let go" or "go with the flow" and I make a social mistake that I notice straight away or fail, my inner voice tells me " you're a piece of shit, leave, you fucked up, never come back, don't do this again" in that order. I think I over anylize every interaction in my life to be perfect.
LETS BE FRIENDS =)
As an INFJ sometimes I just have to tell myself: oh stop being so serious, just breathe!
Yesss😊 i tell myself this a lot im soo serious!!
Yes we can get to focused on 1 thing
sometimes? I do this everyday
Yes... Everything always have to be so deep, nothing shallow ever 😃
Same here 🙋
You get a lot of us INFJ because we want to know ourselves better. We feel like aliens and it's so nice to see others that are like us.
Exactly! 💗
Yes!
Finding out about this and being able to finally define myself (kind of) has been extremely eye-opening.
I've always been able to fit into different groups of people very easily, but then I feel like I don't fit in. I always thought it was just me, it's just insane to hear other people describe me.
Totally I feel like a complete alien 😂
ditto
As an INFJ, my advice to everyone is to reduce x10 the time you're doing your two favorite things in the world which is self-reflection and wasting your life online, and go out there and start experiencing the tangible side of life. Whatever it may be: learn new profession, grow some muscle, improve communication skills, find dependable and loving partner, learn to drive, travel - anything that you feel you might be lacking. Create a simple actionable plan based on priorities, and do one thing at a time. Don't be afraid of mistakes, embrace them, learn from them and continue moving forward. This is a lifetime journey.
i need to do more
Life changing.... I'm grown ass man.... but I'm sitting here bawling😭 like a 8 school girl. I really thought I was the only one I don't feel so lonely no more
Yes, I cried too. I really thought I had some psychological problem. Turns out I'm just an INFJ and I can work to improve my weaknesses.
I cried as well! It was such an emotional relief to hear this program, and I can’t tell you how much it has helped me! Then I read the comments and you said you bawled, that made me bawl again...I feel the same way as you, thank you!
I cry every day...but im a proud old soul. I just learned what my purpose is, I incarnated to Earth to help raise awareness. Most likely it's your purpose to. And that's what I intend on doing I recently went through a very bad Spiritual Awakening but to be alive right now and on this planet is a very special time we are moving into the age of Aquarius moving our vibration levels up. If you're an infj and you're crying a lot you are probably going through the same thing. It's a wonderful experience but you're special and you have special qualities and abilities that most people on the planet to not I'm extremely intuitive I'm clairvoyant I can see a lot of things that are going to happen before they happen good and bad. So hang in there you're feeling the connection we all have is one when you come out of it you will be extremely happy just take it slow stay in the moment and the universe will take over and guide you to your purpose much love bill oh and one other thing I'm 51 years old
bilgib g Oh there it comes the ”Spiritually awakened starseed indigo children”. I knew this INFJ thing was somehow attracting to the lsd-popping tranceheads and nicelooking stones- collecting ” unicorn crystal healers ” . Don’t try to brainwash this youngster! Wake up from your psychosis and hop down from your pink fairytale-based cloud castle. Btw I am 27. Had this ”Spiritual awakening” while using meth and psychedelics about 8 years ago. Now couple years of sobriety counting off couple off slips. Kind of secretly regret quitting drugs, life was more ”interesting” back then with all these hallucinations and delusions that were fed and even more aggressively driven by this new age hippie bullshit.
My eyes welled up and I got a lump in my throat. I thought I was all alone... I use it hate myself for being the way I was.. time to let the healing begin.
I wish everyone I care about would watch this video just once...play this at my funeral so everyone would be like oooohhh! Lmbo
lol real talk
Exactly how I feel. I have never wanted to be the center of attention. But I feel the need to share this with my loved ones because I want them all understand me so bad
OMG yassss! TY. A fantabulous idea. I’m gonna hv this given to everyone at my wedding and funeral! If only to encourage all my attending guests to take the Myers Briggs test ! Cheers!
Yes yes yes, a thousand times YES
@Todd Smith my mom told me my entire life that I marched to the beat of my own drum and that I lived with my head in the clouds. Glad to know there's a reason.
This is the first time ever that listening to a podcast made me cry. I’m an INFJ, and I’m still listening right now typing this....I’m absolutely blown away. Thank you SOO much. I know this sounds strange, but a podcast CAN change someone’s life.
Entp here! I love your comment! Infj's are the best
I had the same reaction, tears flowing, this video was the first time I ever felt like there were others who think the way I do. I still send it to people who want to understand me better. Such valuable content.
So true. I have had people tell me their life story at the bus stop even when I try to be aloof!
A yaa ...o yes.
And ... on dating sites - it’s a boatload of psych couches with people who are truly not ready to date.
Omg!¡ How about being on a 4.5hr flight with smeone who never shutup about there broken marriage and how there husband has been cheating on them the whole 20 yrs of marriage an your only à 17yr old gng to be gng into her SRyr of HS...
Me to
All on point. I'm INFJ and have two INFJ daughters. I remember as a child I stopped talking because it was too painful being misunderstood and dismissed over and over again. People do frequently tell me their problems in line at the grocery store. I feel like I have 16 antennas while everyone else has only two. Purging is critical. Positive self-talk is life. Get healing. Boundaries have been a big factor in my growth because my husband is a reformed "bull in a china shop." We are not alone as INFJs because we all understand one another. I know that I was purposefully created this way for a very good reason and my life has been an adventure in finding out why. Blessings to all!
Nicely said, I agree!
Yes I ended up just not talking in school too! People would ask me if I could talk. And I just didn’t want to be misunderstood and not disturb the peace ❤️
Your daughters single lol ? Jk .._..Infj m 27
no my dude, just no... @89gymratt, you know better.
Yes, boundaries are so important as an INFJ. I have somehow developed a buffer zone (probably because of living with people with mental illness in the past). I generally am able to buffer out other people's emotions and only let in emotions when I choose. I am an energy practitioner; so when I work with clients, I can "turn on" that empathic part of me, realizing the emotions that come up are the client's, and then quickly release what's not mine and close the door when the session is over.
My husband is an ENFP and is more outwardly emotional than I am. We are so in sync, I often feel his emotions well up before he ever shows it outwardly... which is super fast. He's one of the few people in my life I've ever had that thin of a buffer zone with. But I trust him explicitly because he goes to such great lengths to understand, value and celebrate me.
My INFJ Coping strategy. Steps: Notice the emotion, let it breathe, let it run its course, then notice when it’s time to let it go. Mindfulness meditation. Cry when it all gets stuck, use a sad movie if needed. Get a pet, let them soak some of it up. Spend time in the great out outdoors. Spend time being grateful daily
Thank you. I was hoping more time would have been spent on the practical methods of letting go. I'm not familiar with reiki, but your examples help me understand how the letting-go happens.
Before I knew what this was, we had a friend that was very sick. He was the first, longest person who lived life without kidneys . 11 years +, and he would tell me everything, his care, lack of girl friend, and/or social life. He was a super great guy, but he became a vampire type person, and would drain me. I would take his pain and hurt, and suck the life outta me. I started finding where if I could talk to him, but had to back off when it started to get too much.
Lol...this is my exact method of coping too. It works folks, immensley.
ayahuasca helped me cleaned a lot of stuck emotions, and I watched a lot of Disney movies alone to help me cry and express negative emotions.
Mindfulness meditation is one of the only things I can do to be normal like everyone else as an INFJ. So right on!
This explains so much about me. I felt like a weirdo all my life but now, I can except my weirdness and embrace it. Knowledge opens a whole new perspective.
I feel like I can finally have peace🙌 So nice to know there are others. Sigh
World peace. Be yourself. Create a dimention.
Being an INFJ can be difficult when we are young. Finding our place in the world is difficult in this connected world. However the ability to be truly entertained by the little things. Seeing how small kindnesses matter to people. Understanding the connections and needs between people is great. For me it was getting over that I have no obligation to change the world for better. I enjoy helping people and genuinely want good things for others. As you get older you find how rare this is, and it feels isolating.
I have never heard non INFJs talk so accurately about what it is to be this type of personality 👍
It's impressive
It's because ENTPs are great at objectively defining things, and that is an objective truth! I'm an ENTP btw ;)
Having learned that I'm an INFJ has been such a double edged sword. I've always felt I'm too good for my own good and wished I could be a bit of a bitch because it's so exhausting being used by everyone and people just see me as being strong and not needing anyone myself. So now I better understand myself, but still it doesn't change how exhausting it is living in such a selfish and heartless world. And raising boys alone on top of it. Also, could you guys do a talk on an INFJ that's raised by a narcissist and endured abuse/trauma please.
Carmen Jason some days infj is the result of that upbringing
This may be my own personal opinion, but no personality is all good. To say that one's personality is too good for its own good is an oversimplification. i believe personality typing was intended to better understand processes of the mind, not to obsolve oneself of guilt or the responsibility one has to the world. Where the INFP, for instance, mirrors emotions and studies people that way, the INFJ looks for patterns and feels emotions. These are all just ways to navigate the world we live, gifts we've been given. I recently saw an INFJ claim he had noticed INFJs don't experience much jealousy. Rather than hold your head up and portray your personality as one that feels somewhat exempt from certain flaws, it's more important to try to understand the perspective of someone who is feeling jealous and to help them find the key to unlocking the root of the issue and then moving forward. No human being is "good". We all need to work together, using the gifts we are given, to make the world a better place.
Something I'd like to add, an important point from this podcast was that we have the choice to give approval or disapproval just as anyone else has. In other words, having received abuse myself growing up, so much of who I was revolving around the moods of the one doing the abusing, learning that we are not the victims of our circumstance girchs us the power to teachothers they have the power to change their outlook by simply changing what they think, what worlds they use to describe themselves, and how they perceive themselves.
I’ve spent my entire life managing other people’s emotions or as I say balancing the room. I’m tired of it. I’ve pretty much secluded myself. I want to manage my own but I can’t because I feel yours. Doomed to the paradox
So annoying. I'm beginning to learn to manage my own but... well 🤷🏿♂️
Same for me it’s hard
yup!
All INFJ's should meet up and take care of one another
One should really learn how to manage yourself then you quit being so impacted by everything around you. When I say manage it means to learn yourself in such a way that you recognize the difference between what is your energy and what is someone else's energy.
"I don't know how I know, I just know" 100% accurate and yes 99% of the time I'm right and I can't explain how this works but now I'll have this to share!!!
Something I like to say is. "I am that sensitive I can feel you misunderstanding me and that is amplified"
cj
Maybe we can meet halfway....
Yep I know when ppl jealous or prejudice d against me. I literally feel it in the room. I am currently looking for an online job as retirement because ppl either hate or like me but mostly even if we start out ok they can change and dislike me.
well said! thank you!
Profound...yes, that's how we think.
So true.
I listen to this podcast while crying on my bed
FINALLY someone understand me
Why do I pick up random strangers’emotions everday?
I know this reply comes late, and I might be completely off base, but I postulate that you are a nurturing person by nature. You passionately strive to care for and love people. You would gladly "take on" their pain and sorrow if it would help to make them be better....
And you do!
Yet, oddly enough, the experience also sort of solidifies your own inner feelings of loneliness. You feel so misunderstood, so alone and unloved so very often. I know.
It is so overwhelming. The internal struggles between the contradicting feelings of wanting to love and be loved, of being accepted and understood, and yet, at the same time, becoming disparaged by those around you. Mostly because, they just don't get it.
It seems that it is most often the troubled and downhearted that gravitate toward you. It makes you literally ill and distressed. It leaves you feeling drained and depressed. Sometimes even bewildered and confused.
I can only encourage you to diligently try your very best to accept and love yourself better.
Learn to know and understand who you are, and that it is OK to be who you are. Too often, you are your own worst critic.
Be vigilant in only holding onto (or holding out for) positive, healthy relationships.
Safeguard yourself from toxic people.
Develop boundaries And enforce them.
Try, at every occasion to ask yourself "to whom do these feelings belong"?
That last simple little tidbit will go a long way toward achieving balance and harmony. It will help to discern what's going on in and around you.
I hope to have provided some guidance in regards to your (perhaps rhetorical) question, at least in part, and may you be blessed exceedingly. Peace be to you my friend.
Any other infj nursing students? Also I've noticed a lot of INFJs come from childhood family trauma or abuse.
Male INFJ who suffered narcissistic abuse, now a Firefighter/EMT
INFJ, who is also asperger and was bullied in school for years.
Not a nurse but studying to become a doctor :) and yes, I experienced a traumatic childhood as well...
Here too bud. Ni and Ti saved our lives. I was both my parents sounding board even when I was a kid kid, but they had no idea how much damage they did when they never listened to me about my abuser, when I didn't understand the abuse that was happening to me. If I listen to mommy cuss about daddy, if I can provide her with any comfort I can, maybe I can make her happy, maybe she would even see me as someone to be loved. I work for a company that provides support for families with children with special needs. There are tons of children whose disability is that they have PTSD, and it breaks my heart. They too deserve a bright future.
Traumatic childhood here as well then an abusive marriage also a sexual assault survivor
23yr old male INFJ.. I’m in tears at the fact I’ve never been understood my entire life until now... I just took the test last night and have Dove in head first over the last 15 hours. Read multiple articles and this is my first of many “binge learning” podcast of today. I don’t binge watch Netflix as an INFJ... I quite literally have a starving desire to learn every thing possible.. especially about myself
Going at it alone and having others tell me that I'm a "lone wolf" is the story of my life but I don't want to be a loner. I crave connection with others but again trying to find the right vernacular to explain how I feel or how I see something is so incredibly difficult. I often have experienced not being taken seriously when I intuitively saw something coming and then when It came into fruition, being isolated because I was weird. It's all about patterns. It's not a party trick, just patterns.
Weirdness. People make us feel weird for being intelligent and honest and deeply compassionate. That is what is weird. I try to remind myself that when I feel someone going from uncomfortable to wary to genuine dislike, I see in this that they have something to hide or don't like about themselves, especially when they feel less in some way than you so they go on the defense. Alot, and I mean alot, of people are petty bitches.
Another thing to consider is their comfort of depth. We exist in our minds within the deepest oceans of emotions and experiences and some people? They're land people. They care about the sun and the ground but little more. Some play in the waves but are afraid of the depths of the ocean. Not to be "weird", but like in Moana her entire village felt safe and happy existing on the island, like that is all that you need to be happy. But Moana longed deeply to go experience the depths of the ocean. She spent most of time talking with her pet pig too which both cute and sad for people like us lol too close to home Disney!!
I feel that
I understand you. I try my best to shut down in my head with some sport mostly cycling seems I can learn how to turn on/off my personality ! I've noticed that my emotions are very detached now and try to stay focused on the bigger picture. We need friends to better improve our selves and help the world because I feel like it's our duty as an INFJ ! Find to control and show the world how powerful you are and fuking own it !
Just know and accept that you are special. Most people are not at your level of perception. Just know it in your silent authority. That will shut people up. Just know that it is u. You dont need validation from others. You are whole and complete. The universe is with you. Thats your closet companion. Enjoy your solitude.
@@carmenchandler8336 yep most people suck. People love hearing pretty lies. They cling tightly to them so afraid to let go.
We are candles that light up the world while our wax is constantly being drained
g-liven13 So you could say your a woman that beams the white light of his Holiness over us. You don't make Darkness your candle. (until you learn to see in the dark.) lol
g-liven13 Awesome explication
Yes, that is true though there are so few of us and that light is getting dinner and dimmer. We are out numbered here, you can see it all around you. You can FEEL CHANGE is coming and it doesn't look good for us!
g-liven13 beautifully put ❤️
g-liven13 deep wells that everyone fills their cup with, but never consider how much they’ve taken or ask when it will be empty.
Self care is so important for INFJ personality type
How in the hell does an ENTP break us down so expertly? I’m blown away. Girl - you good. -INFJ
i have to retreat to my "nest" quite often, i seem to be a magnet for extroverted energy vampires.
Narcissists ate exhausting to deal with and my arrogant director is #1 on my sh%t list!
Yes dude! Leave me alone. I was sitting alone, I'm happy alone. I don't need a friend, or someone to talk to. By all means though pour your heart out to me. I guess I'll listen.
Sorry, I vented a bit.
Wondering how can you tell when someone is a vampire or narcissist?
@@ViivalajessThe narcissist traits! #1.They only care about themselves. #2. They are always better than everyone else at everything in their own minds. 3. They tend to sabotage themselves and blame it on others. #4. They tell exaggerated fictional stories about themselves all of the time. People tend to believe them as they are excellent liers and very charismatic in nature. And if someone else tells a story about themselves they have to one up them to be the center of attention. #5. They will lie about everything and when called out on said lies they will not believe anyone and insist that they are not lying. #6. They don't feel or understand remorse for the awful things they do but they will continually tell you they are sorry just to get you to forget what they have done so they can continue on in their hideous behavior! #7 and this is important, if they are backed into a corner and can't get out of a bad situation they will quickly escalate to violence until they are left alone! I hope this helps! 🙂
@@Viivalajess The Emotional vampire! #1 Always have some sob story about their lives and will ask you for help with their problems. Even though they have little to no intention of fixing these problems. The more you help them the more of a leach they will become sucking the life out of you! #2. They are a very needy creature and will want to be with you at all times, yet they only want to do things they enjoy and don't generally care about you or what you like. #3. They like for you to listen to them but rarely will they listen to anything you say and will cut you off mid sentence so they can talk again. #4. They usually are really good at mooching off of you and others because they are artists at making other people feel sorry for them! Again I hope this helps give a little insight into these types of individuals!🙂
I’m crying while listening to this Podcast. I have learned how to shut my mouth and not raise my opinions for a long long time. I show no emotions and expect no one to understand me. All the painful experiences came back to me but I’m happy that at least some people like you two understand and spreading awareness about INFJs. Thank you so much!
You are beautiful dear one...believe that.
vy lam you aren’t alone ❤️
Yeah i agree
vy lam, same! Except I show anger and rage because of 44 years of no one understanding, not even knowing anyone like me. This podcast is nailing it for me!
Plus us ENFJ’s get it a little bit too
It's cool being an INFJ because I always know stuff magically ♥️ yesss people are always talking to me🤯 people I don't even know 😩
Nice ..
What's behind the smoke and mirrors tho? What happens when they see what's behind the curtain? Dump em find a new one?
I am 57 and newly discovered that I am an INFJ. One aspect that is not mentioned in your podcast is dealing with gratitude. I think that INFJ's want to thank those who have helped along the way, but often the gratitude is not accepted or worse, which leaves the INFJ feeling horrible for showing the appreciation. That has been a particularly difficult paradigm to figure out.
Great point.
We know how to connect the dots. Ten steps ahead of the game. 😂
😋
It Can't Rain Forever perfect description 👌🏼
But they'd think we're just being a smart ass.
Why did this make me laugh so much 😂😂😂 so true
yeah, you're right. it's the intuition, that inner voice.
I get it. I'm a INFJ and this is how I do it. If I have something that is overly painful I make a painting of it turning it into something beautiful, Then I give it to someone that needs it turning it now into a act of love. It is like recyceling .
Ken Beaubien :
That's really a good way to channeling out negative energy, Sir!
Young INFJs should learn this as well, so that we won't get depressed by our own "busy traffic" mind 😄
Same here if feeling hurt i get my books and read or making my garden beautiful, it's like i do want busying my self and I'm feel better soon..
Hyu I listen to very “sad music” (as stated in the video) as I tend to get lost in their emotion and forget the previous ones. Is this the reason why some people tend to take drugs? To forget their emotions? Is this why it makes us special as INFJs as we don’t need drugs? (Sorry this is totally random but I was just thinking about it)
Advice is a form of nostalgia
dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off
painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth. Baz Luhrmann - Everybody's free (to wear sunscreen).
Brother Ken, that's a great idea! I wish I knew how to paint! :-)
I have never heard such a thorough, in-depth, accurate description of my life. I feel so completely validated, explained, and understood. Thank youuuuu! For all the other INFJ's out there...hello! And high 5!
This is ME! Every word felt like I was being described internally and externally - exposing my life story & my struggles.
As an INFJ, the pain I feel is such a strength and blessing because if I didn't have it...
I'd be a sociopath/psychopath!
Ace Jacob same
Spot on.
True
Wh..... why is this comment so accurate???
Maybe serial killers are INFJ's that just lost it and killing people was their only way to feel like their life has purpose and helped stop the pain? 🤔
I could never figure out why random people would come up to me, or sit next to me and proceed to tell me the most horrific and embarrassing personal things out of no where, in my head I'm thinking "Man, I'm just trying to read this book and you're telling me your entire life story, Uh... Who is this guy anyway?" Never figured it had to do with the fact that I'm an INFJ or that was part of my life mission.. I have to try finding a way to get out of this hole that I've dug myself into and get on with my true purpose.
LohTek !!! OMG! Same here. As a teen I took the city bus a lot with a couple of friends and people would single me out and tell me personal things and I would always try to be polite and smile, it was SO uncomfortable...still is. So glad someone understands.
INFJ,... Right of passage?
Lol,.. I dunno ~
Step right here Ladies &Gents!
Spill your guts no answers yet!
But, maybe you'll feel better?
Who's to say?
If nothing else,..
Pass the Kleenex,..
You have yourself,..
a good rest of your day now
Ok?
Exactly! I once had a total stranger share about her meds and constipation in a grocery store!
LohTek u know... it happens...
Because you are an empath, that’s why
I am a grade 12 student and what i love about being an INFJ is how i can help those around me as well as manage to take control of my emotions without having to look to another to vent my feelings.
@Nickeshan Naidu - I am glad that you feel balanced.
Don't be surprised, though, that as you get older, if the needy persons around you siphon more and more emotion and energy from you. You may have to learn how to say no, if not to others out loud, than at least to yourself when you are tempted (once again!) to put your life on hold while you try to save another person who cannot or will not save themselves.
I have always felt different .
I've never heard of INFJ personality type.
I resonate with most of what you said. Now things are falling into place and making sense. I don't know anybody else like me. I'm happy I'm not as alone as I thought I was. I was wondering if I came from another dimension. Lol
Love and blessings to all INFJ’s.
Thank you for the info..
Omfg!!! Im in tears here, I've been trying to explain this for years but couldn't articulate.
mike mitchell Awe...put your head on my shoulder🤣🤣🤣🤣get help dude
I am an INFP HSP. I have found Elaine Aaron’s work on Highly Sensitive People (HSP) (books and the movie Sensitive) helpful. Building a rock-solid self-care routine: scheduled, task analysis. Yoga, meditation. Boundaries by Anne Katherine and Boundary Power. Codependents Anonymous meetings, Re-evaluation Co-counseling, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). I hear promising things about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Me, too, mike. Tears of recognition and relief!
mike mitchell I know that feeling very well.
tears run down my cheeks too
This is GOLD. All infjs should listen to this.
I completely agree! At 47 years old, I'm finally on a path of using my personality to full potential. It's almost like solving a really hard puzzle. But once you solve it, it all makes sense, you feel relief and you're ready for a bigger challenge.
Alda Capuchino how long have you known your an INFJ?
I was your 100th like 👍
I just found out I'm an INFJ female, and I find the real problem isn't so much *giving yourself* permission to "pamper" or take time for yourself when you finally figure out you really need to. It's that others around you are not used to you doing so and take it personal and even take offence. Or sometimes they don't understand WHY you have to, and don't believe you when you try to explain. That hurts in so many ways.
Edit: I never exactly knew why I did, but now I finally do: I tend to vent stuck negative emotions that I can't share or let go otherwise, my own or from others, by watching certain video's here on YT. Sometimes to laugh, sometimes to cry, sometimes just to get annoyed or even angry! THEN I can let it out. Works very well! :D
💯💯💯
Sensitive? I can literally feel when a person had died in a place. Explain that.
Paul Brake believe it or not, INFJ types are extremely hyper observant much like Sherlock Holmes or even Dr. House from fiction. There are sometimes signs of someone passing in a home. Our observations build our understanding and we can feel when something has happened even not being present for it.
@@SurvivalSpec That has nothing to do with observation or the five physical senses. It is spiritual in nature, and it is a spiritual gift that INFJ's have, which is why all the Prophets in the Bible, and the Lord Jesus Christ himself, were INFJ.
Me too! I can literally feel everything and see everything , how and where a person died. Even by looking at a missing person’s picture i can tell if they passed or they are kidnapped.
@@PaulBrake I'm a Christian and believe in the prophetic. It's something that I have had to learn to guard (as in my heart), because I can walk past a person and get an instant physical manifestation in my body of stress they are going through. I've had to learn to just release it to Christ Jesus... Because it can mess up a day or even mess with your head.
It's an energy thing. I'm an old INFJ. After a while you just go with the flow of it all. There are a collective of paradoxes that are part of you that help sort things out. Try not to hide out for too long. There's a beauty in it that is meant to be shared.
As an INFJ I made peace a long time ago with the burden of knowing things that cannot be said because no one will understand where I'm coming from. Even when I've shared some insight or prediction and it was proven right, it still doesn't matter because the prediction was so far ahead of what others were thinking or talking about it didn't fit into the conversation. They forgive me and get on with their conversation, and what I said is forgotten.
So I made peace with the fact that I know things others just haven't thought of yet, and sharing it isn't useful, but I can prepare myself accordingly. And sometimes I can help prepare others even though they don't know it!
mjinba07
I so identify with what you said. You say something about the way things will turn or should be and it's soon forgotten, mainly passed off as idealistic. Then years later when it happens it's either a complete surprise, or they came up with the idea to do it last week. I don't even bother shaking my head anymore.
IKR?! lol
mjinba07 :
Yeah.. Our mind are always think very deep on something, then we conclude/judge the result of that particular event, and mostly becomes true!
I feel ya
mjinba07 INFJ here. Could you elaborate on these types of predictions so maybe I can understand what you mean?
He's so right...we can see out the entire relationship from the first meeting to the long term end and if it's never gonna end well, why bother......and always in a 1-sided, often codependent, relationship...bummer. Never alone , but alone all the time.
ENTP here. The problem is you guys often lack the "big picture" mentality and miss the potential for opportunities in your relationships. You are right, you guys are very good at "predicting" how relationships will pan out BUT you are only able to predict based on your own outward projections towards the other person. You expect idealistic standards of other people and when they fall short (which they always do) you write people off. The key here is to accept that everybody is different and you can not control their thoughts and actions. You simply need to learn to LET GO and allow people to just BE. What you CAN control is what YOU do and how you respond/behave. The only reason a relationship would have negative consequences is because you have given that other person the power to affect you negatively. Just accept people for what they are. Admire their positive traits whilst understanding their negative traits. By being aware of the negative, you can plan accordingly and allow it to not affect you whilst still having a good relationship with that person.
David Sean Thompson wow even though that paragraph wasn’t for me I really needed that thank you .
Well said I feel your pain
David Sean Thompson Thank you for that comment! I an INFJs, and i cannot foresee the future of a relationship. I had an ex, who seemed perfect at first, but it didn’t turn out the way i expected. Now i‘m with a wonderful ESFJ, never thought it would work out so well, because it was he, who saw our potential at the beginning that i didn’t see, and he courted me, until i gave in.
After half a year into our relationship, i realized that i was wrong. This taught me modesty and openness about other people’s intuition which can be precise, too. He can’t give me full understanding for my inner thoughts, instead he puts things into action. I need exactly this for my survival: a reliable, very sociable and kind partner, who is grounded in reality. 😍
@@incisiveshadow5593 Wow. I just did that with an ENTP who I was really hoping for something worthwhile with. I expressed that I realize that we are at different places in our lives and that's perfectly okay. Doesn't make them a bad guy. It's hard for them to understand us going cold turkey but I can't really keep them around if I'm going to move on.
Spot on! No one has explained an INFJ better than both of you. I'm hooked on this podcast.
It’s unavoidable to cut those conversations with strangers, they simply feel heard and it’s something that everyone really needs.
Nailed my life's experiences. Intimacy issues, strangers inexplicably telling me their life story, one-sided relationships, the odd feeling of "feeling" the future. I'm 57 and have a good life, but its been a struggle. Persevere fellow INFJ!
Serving 11 years in the Marine Corps as an INFJ was an interesting experience.
WOW.
Yeap. After 6 years in the Army, I Couldn’t do it anymore
This is a wonderful podcast for us INFJs. My experience is that we have to love and accept ourselves totally. Be authentic but remember to not take ourselves too seriously. When overwhelmed by others emotions or problems, I step back, breathe or remove myself from the situation, its okay to do this. We must accept and make healthy boundaries for ourselves. This is a very important part of being an INFJ. Yes, we love to help others but like they stated we have to take care of us first. I use to put other people problems before my own and it was draining and hurtful, because most people did not give me affirmation for my generosity or kindness; especially family members. I finally learned to say no and it feels great. Self protection is crucial for being a healthy human being period, and especially for being a healthy INFJ. BTW I was always feeling out of place with everyone throughout my life, but now I know who I am and where I belong; The like-minded INFJ matrix tribe. :)
This feels so good to hear, as an infj before i heard about mbti i was very lonely, i hated myself and that... Was because i felt like i was an alien no joke, i felt so different to other people always becoming self destructive like "why am i not normal" or" why am i like this" and i felt so misunderstood for a while until i discovered mbti, when i did it all made sense, it was a mix of feelings, i had seen that this type was rare and i thought to myself "OH this is why i feel so weird or uncommon" and reading, seeing that people coule describe me so precisely made me so happy to feel that theres other people like me :)
No, my tribe we are not alone!! We are amazing people with amazing gifts. We see more and feel more because you were born tuned in. Love your light my friends by doing you and being your authentic self.
One of my favorite sayings is
"A candle loses nothing of itself, in lighting another candle!"
🔥🔥🙌
And Jessica Ray demonstrates the compassionate humor and charm that we all possess!
Ty
@@Frogluv64 love this, thank you for sharing.
Found out i was an infj 2 years ago, took the test. Didn't know what it meant . Did more research, and was amazed how perfectly i fit into this category . I always see both sides of every coin, always try to look at situations from every perspective, i have complete conversations using every variable possible outcome by myself, then when that conversation happens with someone. I already know how i will explain or defend myseld
Ive always been able to put people ive met into my own categories. Most people i can file in maybe a dozen different catagories, then there are like subsections of each, like what the person went through to get to be in that file. Multiple routes to become that same type of person
I see both sides of the coin as well so why do people tell me that I'm being one-sided? My intuition tells me that THEY are the ones being one-sided.
I ended up taking Meyer Briggs for a college psych prerequisite and was offended at the result at first. I was like Introverted? Judging? what does THAT mean. And so the knowledge rabbit hole started..
Exactly! Comes naturally
Years ago, after taking the personality test, I listened to this podcast and I remember just sobbing over hearing the words that perfectly explained myself on every level , to be understood- finally! Its making me cry even now...
hello,
I feel so blessed to have come across your pod cast. I am a male INFJ Type A. I for most my life knew nothing about any personality types. All I knew is I had a huge purpose in life, I acted unlike any person I knew, I would see visions and feeling ups and downs unwarranted depressive thoughts and feelings. Basically I was a person that did not know he had a personality that was so rare. Well today I look back and see it so clearly that I am An INFJ and accept and embrace who I am heck finding out the well label I began to heal to the point I left a 7 year marriage to a PSYCHOPIC NARCISSIST and under that roof we lived in were 2 other Heavy NARCISSIST S. ya can you imagine how sick and I felt destroyed everyday being a Type an INFJ? See I didn't know I who I was, identity crisis and I thought I had scitzophrenia and tried to kill myself all the time. I heard voices and seen ghosts, had visions. see that was a daily thing for me, but through all that and finding out that I'm rare and that all these other wonderful people 2% are not understood, hence depression, loneliness, awkwardness. I just felt I wasn't alone and no wonder my mom wanted me to take medication. SEE I'm not crazy I'm just a unique person that cares for people so much I stayed around abuse for seven years because I wanted to help someone that really was a covert PSYCHOPIC NARCISSIST. I am PROUD TO. Say I'm happier than ever. I really do see spirits and I welcome those also and I'm a healer and a helper. I'm An Clairvoyant INJF. IM not crazy, lazy or a pushover. I choose to help the problem and not creat one for someone else.
well thank you for allowing me to message and open up.
Oddest thing. INFJs had no voice. No one understood. Now with Myers Briggs, they're flocking in to be heard and understood. I wish I was more a sensory person - one of those who feel at home in this world. But my mind keeps going on and on and on and on. Its hard being and INFJ and I'm tired of the upkeep for "harmony" and issues not of this world. I just wish I didnt care. But its rooted very deeply - almost a survival instinct. Knowing distress and recognising it in others - one weeps! One of the hardest types of all
I feel you :( all my life I wanted to be like an ESXX. They seem to fit in so well with everyone. My thought process has also been criticized by an ISFP because my advice giving has no prior experience so there’s no way what I’m giving out is true. This video really validated myself even if others don’t :’)
Alice Edmunds, seeking support from like minds and entertaining other personality types who may seem ham handed in their handling of us INFJs has been crucial to turning my situation around and using the incredible powers of our type to some point or advantage. Easy in the telling, I learned that all the little compartments I made to cordon myself off from friends, users, and abusers could be placed in a mega-INFJ compartment, mostly by stopping staring at the problems and horrors of others and staring back at a Loving, Smiling Countenance that is ever present and was in fact the source of my rather strange gifts, realizing I was given this “gift” for some purpose that reveals itself daily, discovering this Being is too vast for even my large capacity for taking in another creature’s essence. Easy does it, and look upwards not downwards. Feel free to take my advice, I frequently don’t use it myself but I can at least breathe most days. Peace and ♥️
Don't discount the rich inner life we live though ...extroverts would kill for this and it's part of the reason for the expansion and growth of a drug culture. A lot of people pay a kings ransom in addictions to have an experience you can acquire simply by closing your eyes. You are right though the key is finding balance between the sensory/physical real world and our intituitive spiritual one.
John Gallagher it took me 5 times to read your paragraph, but I pieced it together and it makes lots of sense. What do you mean by extroverts wanting what we have? And what do you mean by others needing drugs while we don’t? What is it we have that they don’t? (Other than INFJ personality type)
@@snowframe2995 I mean there is a large percentage of the population who pay a small fortune on different types of drugs (eg weed, halucogenics, perqs, alcohol etc) to experience and reach levels of inner growth and mystical spirituality that we INFJs can reach through simple meditation and our imagination. With a little practice INFS are almost able to use their mind like a time machine as they can travel through time and space. This has really helped me at times deal with grief as I can communicate and visit with lost loved ones at any time. The key for INFJs is to remember that there is a real physical world with physical experiences they need to explore along with exploring this rich inner world that they often naturally prefer.
A perfect example for me is music. When I listen to the song I cannot if my life depended on it process music in an extraveted manner processing it through beat or movement. However I can take the artists words and vividly imagine the world and message they are creating. What this means is that while I would love to learn how to dance I cannot process information physically so for someone like me and probably other INFJS will attest to this, getting our groove on is not in the cards.
Hope that helps ...much love and if you have any other questions ...fire away.
INFJ here. I love you guys, and I must've listened to this podcast 4 -5 times already. In listening to a lot of INFJ videos, I've found that sometimes the non-INFJ presenters do a better (definitely more concise!) job of explaining us. I always gain a new perspective when checking Personality Hacker videos. Thank you for uploading.
I know it’s hell to connect. I just don’t do shallow honestly well, and real - creeps people out. Thanks, I don’t feel like a heart broken freak so much. 💕
As an INFJ myself I find it hard to give the love I so freely give to others to myself. It's been a big lesson to remember to fill my cup first then whatever overflows from that I can give to others, it helps a lot.
After 56 years I took the test and finally found out I was INFJ! Never felt I belonged even in my family. I was a school Occupational therapist and couldn't take it after 23 plus years. I dulled pain of empathy with alcohol. I don't have a BFF. If my hubby ever dies I'll be completely alone. Ppl either hate or love me. I have become too sensitive to the point of disability. I love ppl but can't stand them. My husband says complete strangers will talk to me, but no one will listen to me so I don't tell friends how I really feel anymore! Also forget stupid small talk that will set me off! No oral diarrhea!
K M please look into the demartini method. It’s helped me tremendously
And my hope is that it helps you as well
INFJ all the way. Have not found my soulmate yes you start feel jaded. Its hard.
Found mine when I wasn't looking! It was only after I decided that I was Happy, really content with my life ( and therefore myself). Try it! xxx
Well I have good news for you. As an INFJ most have come from some type of childhood trauma from the mildest to the hardest because of our sensitive, psychic empathetic nature so we are forced into these karmic type of families to learn more about our inner power and greatness and to also find unconditional love from within because we then find it from others.
We are the ones with twin flame/soulmate positions the most when studying astrology and patterns but the trick is accepting yourself FIRST and within a short period you will manifest your twin flame/soulmate
Thank you guys for the compassion for our personality. Been denying and toning down my “sensitive” all my life. Should be more info out there like yours so we can manage and learn to live in our own skin.
I have like two moods:
1) Sunshine Rainbows Love Happiness.
2) Crippling depression.
"Idk how I know, I just know." Story of my life. And yes, I rarely share my observations, unless asked or if I can phrase it in a non-woo woo way. Your podcasts are incredibly helpful!! Keep doing them forever. 💘
I found an INFJ and I find being INTP I'm able to take the information the INFJ is trying to convey and conform it in a way that means our conversations are mostly just half sentences and a few words, yet convey a deep and meaningful understanding.
It's also been useful because I get thrown down rabbit holes that just revolutionise or galvanize my worldview... things that were just probabilities become more solid.
I know it is a highly unlikely match but INTPs aren't really afraid of their feelings... we just don't understand them as well.
And I know what I don’t know, and palms up about saying that
This is me, omg, someone understands me.... first time in my life, I;m 55
Michelle with Buddy . :
It's crazy that we are so overjoyed knowing someone out of the Earth's 7 billion population finally understand us..😂
Yesyurun Wahyu I cried after hearing this I was so full of joy. I'm 36 just "woke up" and was inspired to make some videos. There INFJ moms did a great job with both of them. That's got to be an interesting dinner party on holidays..
michelle raven,...
Got 3 yrs ON me Michelle!
Makes ya feel better hu? Lol
I could've known sooner!??
BUT N~oo!
I Took the test in fresh yr of college,. 1979-80 (no internet,.. fb or gobs of info easily avail. All over the place) I def. wouldve been lost in the internet by puberty,.
I could barely make it from one library aisle to the next!
And tho? ,..
I couldn't consume ENOUGH! OTHER kinds of complicated material,. Ha!
Woo woo!
I looked at my results & thought?,.. NO WAY!
ONE more thing to TELL me, I'm weird,. No! Nope Nu uh!
Hey! I worked on this,.
I Rationalized,..
"oh EVERYONE wants to fit in!" Right?
Thats why I feel weird,..RIGHT?
Uh? LOOK I'm NOT special!
Its just,.. ??? (fill in the blank)
New reason every couple yrs or so?
Just depending which? -
woo woo subject I was reading at the time,..
I REFUSE to believe THIS is Just me! C'mon! (xxxx)
HOW? DID I know that?
Ok? I'll Not listen to me!
That'll HELP!
[Bad idea]
So not talking?
IS Getting me tooo much ATTENTION!
Ok? I'LL TALK! I'll talk!
Every &any which/way I Could!
Just to get around this!
(ehem oh ha yeah I mean? Ha- get around me)
Ah funny! Uh,... No!
Took test again in my 30's,..
But now?
Whoa way too busy! Besides?
Everyone needs something &plus now I have My Babies!
MuchToo busy!
Cause Now? Im trapped in elevators w/some sobbing person in small space w/stroller in tow!!
Miss? I'm claustrophobic!
Really? I'm?? No seriously!
Nursing baby in the Ladies room! Uhm?
line forms to the left,..?
My girlfriend is giving me the eye, ok? She wants to finish shopping? In fact,? we are all getting kinda well quite sick of this ok??? Sorry... uh- kleenex?
Dam,...
All those yrs?
I could've just KNOWN!
IE,.. Name it!
Have legitimate confirmation!
THE ROAD LESS TRAVELED
Can be?
The long way around,...
Who knew?
Oh ya,.. funny Ha ha ,..
Turns out? I did!
♡♡♡
LOVE this show,... you TWO!
You Get THAT right?
I wish we could talk! I just found out at 56! Relief and sad at the same time!
O.K. Me too. I'm 55 finding this out too. I'll be 56 in just 13 days on October 3rd. I must admit, I had to take this test in 1988 when I returned to college as the college used it as a tool regarding career path choices. Unfortunately, when mine came out to be I not E I reviewed my answers and changed some to mis-type myself. I became an ENFP. I didn't remember the test or what it stood for until this year. I missed the opportunity of understanding my true results because I was more concerned about the people who were needing me to present as an E. How's that for being a true INFJ? Irony at its finest.
This definitely hits me rock solid. Thank you guys for sharing this to the world. For all INFJs out there that feels so much pain, you're never alone and remember that what doesn't kill you should make you stronger. I think it's not bad to include yourself on that 'better place' that you always wanted.
I’ve been going to therapy/counseling since I was 7 so I’ve learned to cope and almost “turn off” my “tracker”. The biggest thing that changed my thinking was that in order to help others I have to help myself. If you don’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of others. I live by that rule and I’m doing great now. If you can’t control your empathy, I would recommend trying to distract yourself. Personally, I like to watch TV or draw to distract myself. Cooking is also a really great way to almost “numb” your mind. I also recommend writing down your feelings or what someone else’s feelings you feel. Our conversations and relationships are one sided, as they said, and a journal can help supplement that need to be heard or counseled. I find I start to counsel myself when I write. Anyway, take care of yourselves INFJ
This is so totally on the mark...can't even tell you...this is my whole life. I am societies Help Desk....but I rarely get any reciprocal attention...but even if I did...most people do not understand me. And being around people really drains me...I prefer to be alone....very good video though....thank you!!
I feel your pain ( no pun intended.) I find myself sitting quietly at parties unless an INTERESTING subject catches my attention. For the most part, I tend to seek a quiet peaceful haven away from the cacophony.
Gotta a little swelled up there when you said you're both E's and while you will never experience what it's like to be an INFJ you get what we are going through. Lol ...this got me a little choked up because I don't think I've ever actually heard anyone say this before .. lol ..very touching ..much thanks and ❤
See, John?...aren't we wonderful! Just re-read your words...Lovely.
They get it because they both have INFJ mums which is a significant and strong connection in everyone’s life.
Extroverted feeling is great for relationships but it also makes it hard because we kind of believe that others can sense our emotions in the same way and we’re not used to be overly clear and putting our own emotions into words if we’re even lucky enough to be able to tell wtf we’re feeling.
I loved that you brought up the fact that random strangers just gravitate towards us. As an addition to the stray dogs venting about their life we attract people simply because they find us interesting or mysterious or attractive.
I wouldn’t say I’m prickly but I am always surprised because I would have percieved myself as very unapproachble. Headphones on, hoodie up, walking fast and avoiding eyecontact. But I never feel irritated by this phenomena, I am very humbled by and thankful for my energy to be disarming, mysterious yet safe to others.
I'm an INFJ and this was very spot on. Exercise has been a great tool to release a lot of unwanted energy. Now I'm a spin instructor as well. So I use my positive energy and inspire others to do the same.
Good for you. Hobby work best.
I only recently found out that I am an INFJ and it really does explain a lot of why I have always felt a little different. I was the child that went unseen, the one that learned from my siblings mistakes, and would cry when they cried! I the one that wanted to join in, but never be in the center, the one that always wanted to say "why can't we all just get along", I just wanted to be loved, but left alone to do my thing! I was a tomboy, building tree houses, digging tunnels, collecting bugs! I learned early how to hypnotize lizards and horned toads. I have visited places and felt I'd been there before.
As a child, when trying to think of a word, it would come to me sometimes even before I knew the meaning. I was accused falsely sometimes because I would feel one of my siblings guilt, and I would look guilty! The teachers called me a daydreamer.
As an adult I've only gotten more sensitive. And it is hard cause people tell me things that they have never told anyone else.
I've been grieving the past couple of months for someone close to me who only recently decided to tell me that they were raped as a child. I am angry at the adults who let it happen, but I am also angry because this person told me , because it's hard to let go of it!
It's like the poem "Who will cry for the little boy" I do!!!
Hey love you. ♡ I'm real sensitive too, was always like this since young. I was devastated when my mom cooked a lobster and fish that were alive. I begged her not to. I was in tears. Oldest but my other siblings weren't like that. When I was 5 and people we were living with were trapping mice. I just felt deeply sad and confused as to why they could do that to these cute little creatures. My first dog cost more than my car. I knew she was mine the second I saw her. When she died I was so devastated. It took me 8 years to feel a lot better, but there was a hole in me for quite some time. I help people all the time, and I love it but some use me. I'd write people's papers all the time in college. I even help people with tests before I do my own. It just feels right to help. I finally learned boundaries at 34 years old. I still like helping, but I know when to shut the door when I need to.
This is so me 😥😢
INFJ here it's not easy to live in this world & being misunderstood is the norm for me ... I've just learned to embrace my quirks and differences then beat my self up for being so different from most
Dani M I feel you.. Keep your chin up : )
Funny, at the start listening I thought to myself that Antonia sounds like she's had frustrating experiences with infj's lol I was right when she spoke about intimacy issues, this is true but it's usually because getting too attached can mix up our system so we cannot process the world as well. It's like giving up the gift for someone else, then the question becomes, surely the right person for me is someone who steps inside but also takes a willing step back to give us space to process because only then will we be at our best. This is true. The person who clings to us is the ones we re wary of.
The more different you are in this world the better you are dontcha think? Jesus was an infj!! Ghandi! Whoot whoot!
I found that Buddhism and other eastern beliefs helped me. I have also been on depression medication for a while now so it helps too.
You are not alone! I am also an INFJ. Be strong and confident. Accept you are gifted and You can help lead others to learn themselves. It has taken me half my life to finally understand that my difference is a gift and not a curse. I too am still learning to use this gift better even if it is helping one person / friend at a time. Best of luck but dont beat yourself up. A true friend will work to understand you.
The level of attack I received during this podcast🤣, I love it. Right when you guys mentioned "Infj's listening are going yes" You were exactly right.
As an older guy who only took 2 recent online MBTI tests, I must say the INFJ type not
only fits well but explains so many of my tendencies, many of which I'd always
considered to be imperfections.
But this new approach has provided real solace and
new avenues to self compassion, reliance and understanding.
I'd like to say that being misunderstood may be one of the hallmarks for this type, but
I've come to the conclusion that true understanding is a rare gift in this world of
personality manifestation...regardless of type.
"Being on a mission" as you put it was an attitude I entertained for a while in my youth.
Now it seems the incognito approach can be more fulfilling, for all concerned. And mixing
someone on a mission with others having undeveloped egos usually results in a toxic brew.
Your comparison of INFJ with a human dialysis machine did ring true for me, as well as
the importance of avoiding the victimhood/self pity traps.
Thank you for posting this podcast. It was helpful.
I feel like you guys have been squatting in my brain 4-ever and you actually understand me...its real emotional
It's quite uplifting how a video on UA-cam has helped us understand who we are and being able reach out to others like us. I literally cried after seeing these uploads. I told my friend I'm not a weirdo. The fact that I have a label, in this instance, is quite reassuring.
I finally found my tribe. Lol
Like my instruction manual finally got here. I always tell people im a loner that doesn't like to be alone. It's overwhelming and scary too. Thank you.
Don’t usually comment on videos but thank you for this, I’m actually in tears
Comment more, the world needs your truth. I let go of needing approval from others, we know what we know and we are right.
I know how you feel, I felt the same way years and years ago, I thought I will never meet anyone like myself but then finally God show me the video of the tribes, people that are just like me, I started to cry because of joy and happiness that I found my family. You might feel lonely all the time but Jesus is always there with you. Be proud of who you are and keep loving and help people, it's our called. Love you and God bless you and your family!!!
Oh man. I'm an infj and probably one of my favorite sayings is "it's all about the perspective" not even thinking about it being my personality type putting me in the different perspectives.
Only 7 minutes in let's see what else I get excited about
I think INFJ’s are probably more active than most in the community because they feel so misunderstood. Finding people who understand me or at least understand the basis of how I work is very therapeutic, because I don’t know any INFJ’s in my life. It’s comforting to see other people think like me
The reason for so much "victim" talk, in this current era is a direct result of the concentrated negativity that is being promoted and supported by our society and pop culture..trust me! It's relentless!!
Chris Olsen, I know, right? How do you turn off the entire world, cuz the world fucking sucks right now. Can’t even talk about the weather, cuz of climate change and/or the government is controlling it! 😁
Gosh, I'm not INFJ, and all the negativity swirling around in our culture is even making me feel ill. If it's that bad for me, how much worse must it be for all of you? T_T Makes me wish I could channel love and peace and positivity to all of you to give you some respite.
Antonia & Joel, I would like to personally thank you. I’m an INFJ. You two are the first people in my life, who I feel have ever tried to get to know me. I’m 21 years old, and this is the first experience I have had where someone else put in some effort to try and understand. This video made me cry a lot because it finally put into words the things I’ve wrestled and struggled with for so long. I shared this with my girlfriend because sometimes I feel like even after 4 years of dating, she still doesn’t know me or understand me (even remotely). Earnestly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for making this podcast. You touched my life in a way you probably will never know.
This is so beautifully written...
How're you doing now mate?
@@aggaviriyo790 if I’m being honest, not good. I can’t wait to die and be done with this place. I have no drive, motivation, desire, or ambition. I hope you’re doing better than I am. I appreciate you asking. Peace and blessings to you💙
@@niyoyishura Thank you so much. I hope you’re well, Rosine💙
@@bretkmcginnis I feel this is a common state of being for many of us right now, Bret. Please take care of yourself. Don't let what you're feeling right now determine the future for you. Pain is designed to feel unending, but it will pass. It always does.
Stay strong. My thoughts are with you.
Daily prayer and meditation, writing, and exercise, keeps me going. I find self-structure in my personal life a must.
Hearing this almost made burst into tears... FINALLY hearing someone who understands me. This described my entire being and the feeling was overwhelming.
Any middle-aged MALES here like me?
All my life, for a man, it has been very difficult. It has been a pendulum swing as an empath/HSP in my younger years to not giving a f**k and being practically a hermit (I'd door-slam the world if I could).
The challenge has been the oasis in the middle.
JuandelaCruz001 : Before knowing anything about "INFJ personality" stuffs, I thought I was a psychopath, dude..😂
Yesyurun Wahyu In fact, be careful that you don't become one. Both Hitler and Jesus were thought to be INFJ's. The "sorting hat" could've put Harry Potter in Slytherin house as well, not just Griffindor.
We could go either way. We should choose our paths carefully.
My interests keep me around people like me, at least in the ways reflected by those interests. They keep me in the world and out of my cave. Example: if you like hiking or bird watching, join others who like it. It may not lead to a special relationship, but, for me at least, it gives me the social contact I need.
Good for you!
Andrew C. :
Anyway, do you have problem when it comes to a romance relationship ?
Cos for me I always tend to look for "the one/soulmate", thus it was always so hurt when having a break-up, & to get over it.
“The way out is through”... priceless!
Wow... This podcast jus brought even greater validation to everything I have been feeling, thinking, and experiencing for the past 25 years of my life. I've gained a tremendous amount of understanding and vocabulary about myself through therapy, but this tied it all together in a neatly and nicely wrapped box. It made it easy to open and face all at once. Quite cathartic and healing, thank you! 😊🤗
I’m an INFJ-T and this podcast helped me so so much! I have always thought that something is wrong with me and I am truly grateful for your work here. I honestly had no idea, I just thought that somehow I am able to know and feel things and have upset many people which I very much didn’t want. Please make more podcasts about this if you have more information.
I'm an INFJ and can relate to a lot of things said here. Feeling an extreme emotional pain and being misunderstood is something I've experienced a lot.
If you want to be content: get out of the city, avoid most people, surround yourself with nature and make the shift from thinking and asking questions to becoming purely intuitive.
Wow! It all makes so much more sense to me now. No wonder I never feel like I fit in anywhere. This is so educational and enlightening. Thank you for your support.
Thank you for explaining the INFJ experience and why we function the way we do! This makes complete sense. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Just recently found out that I am an INFJ. After being told I'm too sensitive all my life and being terribly misunderstood it's so refreshing to find out there's a reason I am who I am. I've always found it so difficult to filter out all the pain in the world and as a result I am quite introverted, despite wanting desperately to save all the suffering people and animals in this world and save the planet itself. I'm 30 now and have wasted so much time trying to figure out how I can make the most positive impacts in all these areas at once, with one profession, when I could have been helping in small ways all this time. Would you reccomend a career that would do this? I've thought about investigative journalism recently as I can branch out and help with all of these issues but I've been told it's not a great place for sensitive people as they get too involved in every story...?
Thanks 😊
this is literally me. long thinking with a lot of selfcriticism and insecurity. I think the key is, to just take action and do sth. Learn from it, enjoy it, hate it, be uncomfortable, be yourself but set boundaries and always remind you why you are doing it. To become the best version of yourself.
I've been career law enforcement my entire life-- I've often wondered if journalism would have been a more interesting career path. Best wishes in your endeavors.
You sound like me I love the world and animals k just want to help and I'm a creative im a Photographer but I feel I need to become a travel Photograher that wants to get in non profits . So maybe a career in counseling, veterinarian, humanitarian , who happens to be a life coach as well. Work in all realms of help who you are is needed in the world.
@peace out yes...today's jurnalism is mostly crap. Real news wont even get a chance to be released. 😣
INFJ here. First UA-cam comment ever. Thank you for this. 😢
I am in tears... Thank you so much for sharing your insight. This podcast is extremely helpful. I'm grateful to have had the opportunity to listen, learn, absorb, process and feel understood. Much appreciation.
So much of this podcast has been bombshell revelations. The way you phrased that forward seeing intuition and just knowing how things will happen was perfect. Being able to read other people’s emotions and subconsciously adjust to the room as well.
I am an Infj but my anxiety and depression kind of fogs up my mind and verbal expression lately has been hard for me to express myself.
I get bored easy, I feel like I should be more intellectual but I also have adhd which I think combat a lot of my more intuitive nature with more factual feelings, pop culture etc.
Alexander Schwartz :
You know that I've the same problem, and I'm combating it by learning from Donald Trump's speech, body language, etc to balance my logical mind without ignoring my intuition/feeling.
INFJ’s are a movement type, so we just... go.
Seriously though, try getting into whatever physical activity you can be interested in. Like really active. You’ll engage your Se inferior function, and it’ll help access your subconscious. Which is really good for you. Not to mention it helps work out all the energy and deal with the anxiety and depression.
It’s helped me immensely
I was the same way until I met Jesus and truly gave Him my life, I've been at peace and joy ever since
Alexander Schwartz o u 2. ooo
@@Mixipixyadatzme Yes, Sarah. The Lord has been my kind Shephard...this is Also one of my isolating issues as well, as no one in my family is into "Jesus". Kinda funny.
sometimes I wish I was like everyone else or everyone else was like me.
Me too. Would you like a friend
Same!!
I do
I never wish that
christensen623 yaa / I used to wish I was like my sister... now I AM happyer ...that I am not.. o smoking weed helpings a lot
When you say that it’s nuts to feel others emotions scares me bc that’s my life.
I can not believe I am hearing who I am and what I have tried to change to make myself fit in and never succeeded at explained on the outside of me. I'm totally blown away. It is amazing and like I'm coming to myself. I do not know who figured this out and decided to share it. I am relieved! It has helped me accept myself. Every video validates me. Now I need to learn how to heal from the damage of not being understood being denied self acceptance through lack of knowledge, being misunderstood,mishandled
8:55
"Even if the INFJ is right 99% of the time."
:(
Oh life.
but no one believes 😭
LOL! It's funny too!
INFJ Empath here!
Me as well. I hate it.
Shaun Ballard As a 42 y/o MAN, I can relate. It sucks (all my life) twice for us men because of machismo, competition, ego, etc. Very difficult, especially if I you're an empath.
But it does get better my friend, believe me. Have faith!
Yes, it can be challenging.
Me too! Boy, it’s rough.
Whistle every day… Don’t expect anything from anyone… Make your own way… And also welcome to ANGEL ACADEMY … Most people call it EARTH❤️😍
Thank you for sharing this. I've been told my whole life I was too sensitive and that I took things too seriously, I twisted myself into knots and became unrecognizable to myself and others to be less difficult and displeasing. I was not being authentic, and was being judged on that false version of me! Ugh. I do feel as though I feel/empathize too much sometimes, and I used to unconsciously blame and resent others for being so careless with what they 'made me feel'. It took one extremely cathartic relationship that repeatedly handed all of this to me on a platter to realize what clear and healthy boundaries look like. Not wounded boundaries, but loving boundaries for all parties. Learning what belongs to you and what belongs to other people, as well as what is your business to talk or even think about, and how to communicate respectfully about what you may see in others is so important I think.