Huge Mistakes Everyone Makes At Fancy Restaurants
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
- A fancy restaurant is the perfect setting to celebrate a birthday, an anniversary, or to spend a special night out. Before you get dressed up and spend the big bucks to treat yourself to a very special night out, there are a few things to consider. Many patrons make common mistakes at fancier eateries without even realizing it. From condiment crimes to incorrect bread etiquette and minding your elbows, fancy restaurants can be a minefield of faux pas. We have compiled a list of behaviors to avoid so you won’t be embarrassed in front of your date and judgmental waiter. Ensure you’ll be the picture of class by avoiding these huge mistakes everyone makes at fancy restaurants.
#Restaurants #Food #Etiquette
Condiment crudity | 0:00
Napkin no-nos | 1:40
Say no to the 'bows | 2:22
The soup minefield | 3:07
That mysterious silverware | 3:49
Reservation rudeness | 4:31
Ignoring the dress code | 5:47
Calling out to your server | 6:51
Noshing bread the wrong way | 7:48
Pre-bussing your own table | 8:31
Fussing over the bill | 9:13
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What's your favorite thing to order at fancy restaurants?
Cocaine
Chips in brown sauce, fantastic
@@michaelk9056 lmao
Mashed,
My favorite dish to order at Sassafraz is "Gemelli pasta" or "Harrison roasted chicken"; both are delicious!
Get Schwifty
“No slurping”..... except in Japanese restaurants. In Japan , slurping soup is good etiquette
Not shaming people is the first rule of etiquette.
*Ooola Fuckin Correct La !!!* Pardong my French 😉
Exactly! The legend has it that when Emily Post hosted a chicken dinner and one guest picked his piece up by hand and ate it, the other guests gasped, until Emily Post saw what was happening and calmly picked up her own chicken to eat it, So everyone else relaxed and did the same. That's supposedly why everyone eats fried chicken with their hands now... Personally, I avoid 'fancy' restaurants. If people have rules like a bunch of trained monkeys, I don't see how anyone can enjoy themselves. I laugh at the ridiculous pomposity.
Actually this is very accurate. unlike the bullshit you see in movies, the vast majority of etiquette practicing people I have known are extremely polite and considerate of others. I have never seen one shame somebody.
@@suesan5111 Asians and Africans also teach their children table manners
Here we go.. smh go back to Steak and Shake
My husband and I always "bus our table" and most of the servers very much appreciate us not leaving everything scattered around the table. It makes them quicker to clear the table and quicker for them to be able to seat other guests. My daughter who used to serve and work any high end establishments around the DC-Richmond area approves of our efforts. It doesn't take much effort or thought to stack the plates and other items appropriately.
As far as I'm concerned, the number 1 rule of etiquette is "Learn the rules of etiquette of the country you are in".
If I'm paying upwards of 50€ for a meal I can damn well drench my creme brulee in mustard if I want.
@markylon *Oool La fuckin La !!!*
@@sio67 *Says the un etiquetted one, who puts Catchup on his Brothers Weiner !!!*
Hear, hear!
A beautiful combination. I'll give it a go! Thx
Good point
Wanna lower the music volume next time? I'm not at a clothing store.
Eh, atleast you can hear what 100% of what she says, so it’s ok, BUT THE DAMN MOVIE OR CARTOON CLIPS, THAT IS NOT OK
Yea my cousin always takes the corn dog off the stick when we are out at fancy restaurants. So embarrassing 😂
@@500z yes a joke is what that is called
@@SilverWalker84 so funny I forgot to lol
Did I miss something about boys wearing hats inside the restaurant? That's a pet peeve of mine. Back in the days when everyone wore a hat outside as part of their outfit, the rule has always been: men take off their hats inside a building whilst women leave theirs on. Personally, I think everyone should take off their hats (especially if it's something casual like a baseball cap) once they enter a building.
Was anything really a "Huge" mistake apart from reservation rudeness?
No. Most of it's pulled-out-of-the-ass. Though Mom did teach me which fork to use. Not that I particularly care. I'm the guy who shows up to weddings and funerals in overalls.
I would say slurping, given it's rude in the western context.
"Never ask for Tabasco in an upscale restaurant". Me: *Laughs in South Louisiana* :)
How uptight do these chefs have to be, to demand that their customers eat how they want them to eat.
copperdaylight it’s not really being uptight . Most of these chefs work over 40+ hours a week and dedicate so much effort into making a dish . It makes sense that they would be upset about condiments on their dishes .
@@alexpiedra24 I still don't get it. for one thing, what the are condiments for? considering the variation of preferences, different people just want to emphasize some flavors over others, which the chef, as a host, must consider. I certainly would not want to eat what my 60-year-old dad want to eat (too salty for my taste), so what if he wants to drown his order with a mountain of cheese or salt? would he be really satisfied, with what the restaurant could offer him if he can't taste it? or would he rather, ask the chef to make the whole stock of soup salty to his liking, ruining the satisfaction of others?
copperdaylight I understand what you’re saying but that’s fine dining , big difference from going out to your local diner . There are certain specks that are part of fine dining a huge one is there is an actual chef that puts his heart and soul into every dish on that menu. You wouldn’t disrespect someone’s work by adding your personal taste to it just because you like it that way . If someone with more experience is making you something you enjoy it ,and if not find some place that will accommodate to you .
@@alexpiedra24 These are Americans you are explaining to. I wish you luck good sir.
When I find something I like I stick with it. From 1973 to 1982 I
ate the exact same lunch every day. Turkey chili in a bowl made out of bread.
Bread bowl, first you eat the chili then you eat the bowl. There's nothing more
satisfying than looking down after lunch and seeing nothing but a table.
My wife and I were having lunch in a New York diner. An American who was leaving stopped at our table and said "Pardon me but you're British aren't you?" I said we were but how did he know. He replied "You're using a knife and fork"
ha I'm calling BS on this 😆 and IF it did happen, It was what you were using the knife and fork on! 🙄🙄🙄 What was it? A burger? 😆 Some foods are meant to be picked up...British people who act so pompously european need to be reminded of how many american fast food chains are in the UK 😆😆😆😆
@@CA-se2hf IHOP. You're going to make fun of someone because of the way they choose to eat that is different from you and call them arrogant? Great way to represent the US and show once again how close minded we are. Shameful! Like most ignorant people such as yourself you probably eat sushi with chopsticks instead of picking it up and have the Japanese think the same thing you just did about us. Bravo jerk.
I absolutely agree with this list other than putting my napkin down on the seat when I leave the table. I put my napkin to the right of my plate. I have no intention of placing a fabric napkin (in which I wipe my mouth) on a chair where hundreds, if not thousands, of people have placed their bottoms.
*I guess napkin on the table means you are done with your meal,* and the bus boy can take the leftover, and napkin on the seat means, you will be back to finish your food, so dont take nuffin,,, Whenever i go to McDonalds and need to use the restroom in the middle of my happy meal, i always put my phone on the table before i go to the bathroom, so the bus boy knows i am not done with my food and doesn't clear my table. All makes Sense 😉
@markylon I thought putting your napkin On the Plate meant, that you are done with the meal. And keeping your utensils on your plate at any orientation during your meal, makes more hygenic sense. All seems more fetish than etiquette or proper hygiene,,,
markylon. Amen! I think if people don’t have manners, the ones who do won’t want to eat there for long.
Germophobe much?
Unless you are buying the dinner or giving it to me for free then don't tell me what to do. Fully appreciate and respect the cancellation thing though.
AMEN!
Stephen Little just don’t sit near me. I am trying to enjoy my meal and my night out.
@@trudidolder6122 You have to admit some of the rules are redundant and don't affect anyone.
Guests at a high end restaurant have a right to expect an elegant atmosphere.
@@5610winston That's THEIR problem. What goes on at other tables is none of their concern.
Wow...so many angry comments about proper dining etiquette at high end restaurants. I'm glad I learned proper manners when I was young. It makes the dining experience that much better. Maybe if some would actually try the suggestions in this video they might see the difference it makes in how they are treated at upscale establishments.
some people are upset with how “strict” this is, but it’s still important to just know how to be respectful if you’re making the conscious decision to go to an upscale restaurant
I usually take the bread they serve at the beginning and use it to clean the soup at the bottom, enjoying every drop. I paid $14 for lobster bisque, I'm having ALL of it
If it's a "FINE DINING ESTABLISHMENT," plates will NEVER EVER be stacked when removed from the table.
I agree with most. However. 2 points. However this is all dependent on the country. Firstly in the UK it would be rude to signal the waiter. The correct way would be to make eye contact and raise a finger just as you catch their attention. It would be rude to hold it more than a second if they didn't notice repeat. Make out as if they just noticed you on the first attempt. However in France this would be terrible the best way would be to place the carafe or bread basket on an edge of the table and wait the staff will soon notice and arrive in a timely manner. You wouldn't want to appear in a rush or as if they weren't serving your needs. (traditionally a meal can last 1 to 2 hours and dining is considered a social event, it would be rude if they pounced on your table as if to say they wanted the space) , in parts of Asia its rude to not ask as its rude to hog the space. secondly As for the bread. In the UK bread is given at the start and it would be ill-mannered to spread the butter, a small chunk placed on a mouth sized piece is correct. In france bread is served throughout the meal. Butter is a definite no. Do not ask for it. Ever. Period. Butter is served with radishes or possibly with the cheese course. Bread is often a suitable substitute for a knife when pushing food onto a fork. Also in the UK holding the fork in the left and spiking food or pasting peas into the forks is okay in France the fork should be used to hold food still while cutting then the fork turned to push food onto it. like how you should never spike food to then put it in your mouth. Side note : it is acceptable in a restaurant to request a cheese course prior to deserts. In France this is the norm however in other parts of the world cheese comes last.
What? I like Golden Corral😁
I was a waitress for years, truck stop to fine dining to cocktails. I can't tolerate a table full of dirty dishes or empty glasses. But I know how to stack and bus.
Sometimes it is because nobody comes to take them away within a reasonable amount of time.
@@peterchen8868 I agree. I don't really do 'fine dining' often, but when I am out with hub's band, I play waitress for the guests... Whatever.
Lorrie ....me too Lorrie, To me it’s a question of manners. I’ve had many a server thank me for ‘stacking’ the dishes....and many friends tell me to knock it off, “it’s the servers job!” I say it’s just freakin’ good manners not to leave a disgusting mess!
@@barbjohnston2345right? We do our best to be polite, helpful, respectful and friendly. Is this wrong?
everyone makes these mistakes? Girl, not all of us were raised in a barn
Ahh cool. I can pay a month's salary for a single meal AND get judged by a bunch of people with nothing better to do because I ate bread wrong and had the audacity to use the dessert fork to eat my entree? Sweet.
You don't belong there.
@Brad Viviviyal Probably doesnt tip at all
No one cares that much to be watching you dude.
Bruh!! I am a chef, have worked in the most expensive Restaurants in Zurich. Believe me, no one cares how you eat. What matters to the chef is if you enjoy your meal or not. I love sushi and when I go to a sushi place I eat it with hands as I find it easy and satisfying. No one is gonna tell me to use chopsticks instead of hand.
Eat however you like, if someone can't handle it then it's their problem. Have you ever seen a chef eat or taste in the kitchen? They find a spoon, good. If not they eat with hand.
Nobody cares....
I can just imagine all the outrageous stuff outlined by a society of Pompous neurotypicals!
Growing up we occasionally set up full formal place settings so we had a chance to practice. When we ate in the dining room which was frequently, proper table manners were expected. The upside is we got to go out to some pretty nice restaurants at younger ages than most. More than once other dinners came up after we finished and complemented our manners. I don't think I've encountered anyplace that actually does a full formal place setting. Most places have cleared the silverware from the previous course and brought ought what was needed for the next. Aside from being less intimidating for diners who might not know what some of them were, it also means smaller tables can be used to fit more diners.
CrimFerret so boring childhood.
@@stevenbotwin No, we learned proper table manners from a young age. Also, my mom is a really good cook. I'm sure if cell phones had been a thing back then, they'd have been banned at the table (as they should be for anyone with any courtesy). Even now I refuse to try to hold a conversation with somebody who's constantly checking their stupid phone.
the fun thing about the current world is that there is that "proper table manners" don't really exist outside of common sense like "don't wipe you ass on the table" and "don't spit out food onto the table". Most of the etiquette stuff we learned as kids was useless garbage leftover from pretentious boomers who valued pomp over pragmatism and looking "respectful" or making sure you were consumer quality ingredients. Now we can get high quality stuff at reasonable prices, created by talented chefs who have a genuine passion for food. I love it!
@@Shoddragon "pretentious boomers"? It's called class and tradition fool.
The reservation one is obviously important. The rest is laughable. Maybe I'm odd, but I go out to eat in order to eat. Not to play these pointless, outdated games, not to impress strangers and chefs, but just to have a good meal with people I enjoy being around. The hell with any establishment that emphasises pomp and circumstance to this degree, they are notorious for serving most unappetizing things at the most laughable prices in my experience. I'll stick to Five Guys with my husband and kids, thanks. 😊
Exactly. And wtf is a etiquette expert. Made up profession to look down upon people.
Five Guys can get pretty expensive, too! You are so right.
These are obviously for people with some level of class, not for average slobs. Not to 'impress' anyone, but to maintain a little bit of courtesy and as said, "social etiquette". To show some level of respect to the chef who has crafted his art. I grew up in a family of five, and our parents instilled some of these traits. I see Americans cannot understand these concepts. Stick to fast food.
@@walterbrunswick Walter, er, I mean Sir Walter, this is seriously not the 30s or 40s anymore. All this weird etiquettes are just outdated games and as long as someone is being respectful and polite (not giving attitudes and at least saying thank you) we should be able to eat however we want because we pay a high price for that food.
@@marcelacruz7661 stick to fast food like he said, you just don't get it
Not a single one of these 'rules' makes a damn bit of difference. Eat how you want without being obnoxious and unnecessarily annoying other patrons.
If I want the Tabasco sauce because I like it that way, the chef should just suck it up. Not because I am paying for it, but because I want to enjoy it my way.
"You spent years learning to do your job, and you worked hard on this, but suck it up! I want all food I eat at home and in restaurants to taste the same every time! I didn't come here because I wanted food the way it's prepared here! I came here because I wanted to spend money eating your specialty in some other way!"
Well The chef isn’t the one paying for what’s going into the customer’s mouth. It’s always great to try smthg as it is. But If sauce helps or you like sauce with everything then go for it. Not everyone has the same palate u know. And forcing a paying customer to suck it up and not personalize it to their own palate is rather stupid. It’s like making u pay exorbitant amounts and also not allowing u to have ur opinion on it. Sure try the first bite to respect the chef, but I’m taking that sauce out if I personally think i like it better with it. I’m not paying hundreds of dollars for someone to parent me on what to eat.
I guarantee you there is no Tabasco at a fine dining restaurant. Also no ketchup, mustard, mayo, and the only Salt will come with the butter for the fresh bread.
UA-cam Sings! If you want McDonald’s go eat there, have some class if you want to go somewhere nice.
Scarface throwing the napkin on the table is hallerious 🤣🤣
Watching while broke
*slurping soup in Japan is proper edequett :-)
Please keep in mind that most fine dining restaurants do not even bring bread to the table because they want the customers to enjoy the food and not get filled up with bread. As a chef and owner for the last 37 years I highly recommend ordering an appetizer versus having the bread first.
I'm a chef and used to work in a Michlin 2 star restaurant. We used to play a game called working class middle class. It was basically working out who was who by watching what cutlery they used and if they wanted tomato sauce. Cause it was an open kitchen, when the checks came in, we looked at the table an had to say either working class or middle class. The waiting staff let us know and the winner got a dessert.
Ill leave my napkin wherever the hell I want
A rule for the wait-staff: never touch the bottle of wine to the glass. This goes for people serving wine at home too. The neck of the bottle should never rest against the glass whilst your pouring the wine. I don't know, but I'm guessing this came from using very expensive crystal (eg Waterford crystal where you're paying up to AU$100 per glass). If you don't tap the bottle to the edge of the glass, you're unlikely to chip the glass. Also, it means the pourer is in control of the pour from start to finish - in the same way that you control a steering wheel on a car, rather than letting it swing back to its normal position. You want to remain in control of the car at all times when driving.
I never want to eat at one of these places ...
Yeah, give your credit card to a total stranger for the duration of your meal or "have it on file" in their computer system. Sure. Everyone knows that "skimming" is just an urban myth... Seriously?
O.k. I was waiting to learn something. But, EVERYTHING that was mentioned, I learned in cooking classes in School. (We practiced it many times) One thing that was not mentioned was: A man should NEVER enter a house with his hat on. He takes it off entering a house, and especially when entering a Dining room or greeting a Lady anywhere.
This is why I go to McDonald’s drive through and eat like an animal in my car. Lol too many rules.
Exactly, like an animal.
A few simple things to help,with your fine dining. As a ship goes out to sea I dip my spoon away from me - soup. From the outside to the inside- using utensils. If you are unsure...look around and watch. Small bites for everything, this helps you not to choke on your food and doesn’t take so long to answer questions.
I have to say, the one about not putting salt and pepper on your food before you even taste it should apply anywhere. I ate at Taco Mac recently and, out of habit, sprinkled a little salt on my tacos before I ate them, and they happened to be extremely over-salted that day. It made them almost inedible. My husband said his were way too salty, and he didn’t put any extra on. I learned to always taste before I season, even when I’ve eaten the dish before and know how salty it usually is.
I’m not putting my fancy napkin on the seat that some farted on or possibly soiled themselves earlier.
No way would I call ahead and leave my cc info with the restaurant. Those jokers at dives AND FANCY restaurants take liberties with the tipping, and not just a couple of bucks. Those servers KNOW that you will not debate and embarrass yourself once all is said and done. I have worked in food service. I've seen lots. NOOOO waaaaayyyy.
I can't take fancy restaurants seriously. Do I really need 2 dozen pieces of cutlery at my table? Hell no, what kind of bullshit is that?
What the hell difference does it make if you use the same fork for your salad and the rest of the meal? All of the food is going down the same place, in the same way. So why such a hassle, SERIOUSLY...?
When I walk into a restaurant I observe the people who are there before I get seated. If I see anyone with sneakers or a tshirt or polo ,and no suit and tie ,or evening gown ,I politely say never mind and leave.
Don't say it is a 4 or 5 star restaurant when your guests have no class
Many who have commented have missed the point of this video. The whole idea is not to just enjoy a meal, but to PLAY. Remember, its called fine dining (500.00 plus for dinner for two) Think about your senior prom. Did you rent a tux? (Yes, I wanted to dress to impress) Did you rent a limo? (Yes , I wanted us to arrive in style) Did you take your date to a fancy restaurant for dinner? (Yes, I wanted to experience a grand meal). When you were at the restaurant, did you try your best to be a little elegant? And that's all this video is about, some tips to be a little elegant. Try some of these suggestions the next time your out on the town. Be a little snobbish, act like your a cut above the rest and I promise (for just a little while) you just might feel like the king of the world. (except for maybe the napkin thing, I do not place my napkin on my seat)
Well, I am not too big on fancy dining in general. I could care less about all this etiquette. The most I really can deal with formally in a restaurant is real napkins. I don’t want none of that fancy food though. Outback is probably the most formal place I like to eat at of places I have eaten at. Being fancy is something I don’t really like doing.
How horrible it must be for people to go to fine dining restaurants and see someone butter an entire piece of bread. Those must be such trying times filled with uncertainty over whether or not this will be the act that brings down the republic. I hope they can muster the strength to be strong and brave and true and suffer through this great calamity in hopes of better days.
I understand proper etiquette, but, seriously who makes some of these rules? I am not buttering my bread one bite at a time. Who decided that that was more polite than buttering a whole piece at once??
Terri MacKay get aquatinted with etiquette of the place/country you want to visit, ahead of time. Europe has different etiquette then the US. In the US just about anything goes, not so in Europe for example. That is why in many places Americans are not very welcome.
So I see, when you go to a restaurant, the more that you pay in price, it isn't about YOU/CUSTOMER anymore, it's about the restaurant/staff/chef. I say b*&%$#*#! If I spend my money, as long as I show respect and manners, I should be able to eat/season my food anyway that I want.
Standing ovation!!!!!! They are there to please me, not the other way around. As long as I'm polite and considerate, your snooty rules are an intrusion on my experience.
Uncultured swine. lol
This video is about manners.
Would you take your recently purchased luxury sports car home, drive it around, then back to the dealership sometime later and tell them it came with the wrong tires? Spending your hard earned money on high priced items enters you into a transactional agreement. As the purchaser, you’re declaring your trust that as much talent, skill, and honesty went in to merit the price. Assuming you’re buying the right to undo or “improve” any of is entitlement.
@@santiago4120 While you have a good point the luxury for some people is to simply have it 'their' way. It makes sense, but I paid for it and I want it my way.
I'm not pinching off and buttering single bites of bread.
Most pretentious part of the whole video. Who does that??
Yeah especially when she just said "set it on your bread plate between bites" excuse me well why do we have bread plates if not FOR THE BREAD
To be fair, you get more butter that way. So there is a win.
I hate butter
@@lonedragon3261 I do
Chopsticks and fingers to the rescue.. way too much cutlery 😂😂
785 people have never eaten at any place more fancy than Applebees.
I had one of those mothers. Worst thing you could do butter a whole slice of bread. Who gives a dam really.
I'll slurp a spoon full of butter and put water in my lemon.
Thank goodness I never go to 'fancy' restaurants.
Unless you're dining in some royal banquet, most Michelin starred restaurants will remove and replace the cutlery/silverware and dishes for each course.
We don't go to Fancy Restaurants! You get more and better food at the local home cookin cafe. Let those Rich Folk keep them in business.
So I guess banging your elbows on the table and chanting "we want food" is out of the question?
you guys were so wrong showing Tony Montana throw his napkin on the table. I laughed so hard...lol
Yeah,I do pepper.usually in soup or on a steak.my dad and my wife would tell me taste before I put stuff on it.my problem is dealing with table setting for 6 when 4 would fit comfortably.
Don't forget to raise your pinky when lifting your tea cup!
Its a British thing, we just dont understand it!
Who gives a crap. If you're so worried about offending the chef, the waiter or the restaurant management, you're probably too stiff to enjoy the meal. I'm not saying a food fight is good form... but I'll be damed if I'm going to fret over seasoning my $40 ribeye with table salt.
It's not that you can't season it the way you want, they just ask that you try it first before you ask for or put on other seasoning.
@@bandotaku Why worry about the really small stuff... like what a chef might think if I pour ketchup on his or her filet cooked in thyme infused duck fat.? If I'm partial to ketchup, so what? We're too worried about what other people think these days.
@@Peter7966 I don't think you read my comment correctly. I said you can season things the way you want. It's just that in fine dining, the chef prepared it a certain way, so it would be polite to at least try it their way first. And that's not anything new. Also, most of the restaurants you go to aren't fine dining, anyway, so it doesn't matter that much.
@@bandotaku No... I got it. Yes, I taste it first... and no I don't ask for Ketchup. Mostly food today is lightly seasoned with salt, for good reason heath-wise... I got that too. But my point is, I don't give hoot if the chef, the wait staff or Ms. Manners at the next table looks at me with disdain if I do whatever I want to with the expensive or inexpensive food I'v'e ordered, food that I will pay for with my hard earned $$$.
@@Peter7966 Oh, ok then. You do you :)
I actually agree with the Chef being indignant about diners adding condiments to food before tasting it. Just because all the other (likely lower end) restaurants you normally go to don't season your stuff enough doesn't mean such would be the case automatically at a higher end restaurant. As he said at least TRY the dish before dumping salt on it. Also, I agree about asking the chef directly to adjust seasoning if it's not enough. If i'm dropping mad $$$ at an establishment for a meal it'll be their responsibility to provide me a satisfactory dishes. Dish taste bland and bill of God knows what incoming? Heck nah, they gonna take that dish right back and redo it.
Smile warmly at your date, and make. her feel sweet about Paying the Entire Dinner check!
I guess the fancy restaurants should just keep clutching their pearls. I’m paying for good food, not permission to put a cloth napkin in a chair.
It is fun to parody restaurant staff as snooty. In fact they are nearly always helpful.
Etiquette is the art of making others comfortable. Take it to heart and ignore all else.
THANKS. I learned something.
I do stack my plates at everyday restaurants, but in proper order. I use to be a waitress, so there is a way to stack. In nicer restaurants, I leave my plates for the servers.
Whether I stack or not mostly depends on how long they stay on the table. It's not subtle, but it gets the point across....
Whats more rude is sitting with people watching your manners instead of enjoying the meal and conversation.
If you have to be so awkward and be on watch, maybe that person is in a situation above their payscale and lineage.
Having travelled extensively in America I've come to the conclusion that "fine dining" means you eat with a knife and fork.
I’m going to guess you HAVENT extensively traveled the U.S. then. New York City has some of the best restaurants in the world. And other major cities, like L.A., San Francisco, Seattle, etc have very large food and restaurants cultures/scenes.
Doesn't matter how far you travel if you are making bad restaurant choices. Should have done a little research, great food is everywhere.
A friend of mind had been to Paris as a young woman. She frequently spoke of how the French despised Americans' requests for catsup. She convinced me to go to a local French restaurant with her, as part of my family is French and I am conversant in the language. We ordered our lunch--and the first thing she asked for was catsup. The owner, who made it her business to chat with every single guest in either French or English (she loved correcting high school French, but gently, of course) was horrified. I wanted to sink into the floor. My friend is in her 80s, so she's probably lost the plot a bit.
This is fascinating.
In chinese culture, slurping the soup is literally a compliment to the chef. You wouldn't slurp soup unless you absolutely LOVED IT, it makes sense.
IN FACT, IN JAPANESE CULTURE, IT'S ACTUALLY LITERALLY CONSIDERED RUDE NOT TO SLURP YOUR TEA OR SOUP AT LEAST A LITTLE BIT.
People are being so uppity about these rules in the comments when most of you aren't going to need to worry about them anyway. This is just for super fancy restaurants for the most part, though you should use a few of these as guidelines anyway when out (such as not being too loud, etc.), that's just good manners in general.
Most restaurant and table etiquette is nonsensical. Bread etiquette? GTFO of here.
*I think it's a White Syndrome.* 🙋😜😎 Good table manner is the Universal NORM in Asian culture, in ALL Restaurants, Homes, or Caves. You gonna choke yourself one day, if you dont slurp your soup(mechanics call it hydro locking😉), but if i see a person pat down a pizza with a napkin to remove grease, *i am gonna clear the Bitch's table, and clean her Clock !!!* 😠😬😤👃👃👃👈
@@suesan5111 How weird. Why are you serving your guests greasy pizza?
Sue San i think its just you being a dumb, racist bitch
Great video!
When I was younger, as I grew up poor, I was more likely to feel subconscious at more expensive places. Maybe a little. But Im paying. I can do what I want to the food or with anything else as long I’m not ruining the other patrons experiences or being a jerk to the waiting crew.
So when I can enjoy the meal?
30 years ago
When you eat at mom’s
Anarchist! You're supposed to keep your eyes lowered and not smile. That shows you have class.
I knew all of these because I was taken to Sunday dinner every week all my childhood. You teach your children how to behave that way. I taught my own son the same manners too. It's really basic stuff.
Is eating food with different silverware manners and considered "basic"?
@@hansf.6463 Yes, being able to manage silverware is basic manners in the UK. Some of the comments here elevating bad manners shock me.
Michelin restaurants such as Gordon Ramsey ( £100 a plate) or Sal Baines have been known to ask diners to leave. Basic etiquette is taught to most children in Europe, and are expected in dating and employment.
The way I think of it, is if you are paying a shit ton of money for a nice dinner, eat it the way you want.
We are a family of stackers .Dirty dishes on a small table are so annoying to us. I guess we will have to learn to leave them for the server. 😜
Judy Berends ....NO, DON’T!!!! Servers appreciate it, trust me!
I do think if you aren't going to the Restaurant you should phone and tell them you're cancelling. it's only right.
It’s not that people don’t trust the chef, it’s that every person on Earth has a different sense of taste.
A Kayfabe agree when I go to Chinese place I always tell them extra spoon of MSG
Bay Ridge LOL MSG is the one I don’t want more of. It’s bad for lung problems
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That was a joke and I'm glad someone fell for it
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Bay Ridge clearly a joke msg isn’t a condiment lol
I'm not wealthy or fancy, but I have learned some dining etiquette over the years. At several work functions I've said to a few less clued-in colleagues "Deploy your napkin. Unless you want the waiter's hand in your lap, of course." That always seems to do the trick.
My family are the poor side of the clan so we, certainly I, was a bit unnerved to find that a luncheon to mark a special occasion turned out to be a posh formal event at a 5-star restaurant complete with speeches, their side of the family had booked the whole place (it was a hotel as well), and once we'd been served the waitresses and waiters stood in a row on the other side of the dining room, but within hearing distance, in case any of us wanted anything and ready to clear away. It felt unnerving, felt like we were being closely scrutinised, which we were as the waiting staff did an (excellent) job of anticipating a diner's slightest need. The posh side of the family seemed used to this. Afterwards hubby and I made sure to find and thank the manager, who'd been there throughout (he used discreet hand signals to his staff), and he broke into a beaming smile, saying it was the first time that someone had thanked him personally - that felt sad. He felt so happy that he insisted on giving us as a souvenir a couple of the menus that'd been specially printed for the occasion, complete with them inside the restaurant's leather presentation covers.
The biggest mistake is going to one.
You are missing out. Going to a fancy restaurant is a wonderful experience.
You never put your soup spoon back in the bowl when done. You place it on the saucer that came with the bowl.
Placed my napkin on the seat, no thank you! The seat itself is for bottoms, my napkin is for my hands and face! I simply fold my napkin in place on the right side of my plate. If I return to my seat and see my napkin has been moved to the chair, I simply asked for a new one. After taking many classes on viruses and bacteria, you’re lucky I even sit in the chair itself. Upholstery chairs in restaurants should be a thing of the past, holds too many germs.
So why is there a bread plate if I am not supposed to put the bread on the plate?
Even chefs and etiquette experts disagree, apparently. It really depends on local custom and whether the chef is sane.
Etiquette is a lost art in most USA .
Rodney Dangerfield in Caddyshack didn't follow any of these rules and he looked plenty happy !!!
Nah. If I'm paying that much for food, I will slurp my Tabasco flavored soup and take half the loaf of bread.
That soup eating rule just triggered me. I get no slurping, but who is going to "Dip the spoon sideways into the soup at the near edge of the bowl, them skim from the front of the bowl to the back"? Whats the point of that?
Just don't slurp i guess, jesus
*If you don't Slurp your soup, you will choke yourself and die one day,* cuz Heimlich maneuver is also a bad dining etiquette,,, 😉😂😂😂😲
@@suesan5111 lollll
It helps avoid accidently sloshing your soup onto your lap or shirt.
@@marenkuether-ulberg3311 ahh I see that. but im sure there is another simpler method to not spill soup on yourself
I've been known to stack , but i am a silver service Maitre'd and can't help it when the server is too slow, i want a nice clear table to enjoy company in between courses, including fresh napkins and water replenish , It's always stacked correctly but i admit i have to stop doing this, apologies to all House staff, #justenjoy
ok coming fro an ex waiter, PRE BUSSING IS AWESOME
I never realized how people dont know about tablemanners, I was raised in a very mannered family but when I started Hosipitality Management School I realized how many actually werent sure how to behave at a table while to me it was second nature
I prefer to eat at home. My food tastes MUCH better than every "fine" dining restaurant ive ever been.
Exactly, Royal Blue. I grew up on home cooking and baking. My dad did not trust strangers handling his food and laughed at the lunacy of paying $30 for a salad. Anyone can cook decently with a bit of instruction and practice. I learned in my mid forties so it's never too late.
True. I have gotten sick too many times after eating out.
Upscale restaurant or not, I've probably been farting on my chair the whole meal, I'd never leave my napkin on it.
Smart thinking. How many more farts before you?
I've always responded to the question, How do you want this done? with, As the chef enjoys eating it. I've got some happy stories to tell on that.