Jared Singer - Just Take a Shower
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i love how he just says thank you at the end like he didnt just make me cry at 5 in the morning
Ace Adams RIGHT LIKE THAT MADE ME FEEL OVERDRAMATIC FOR BEING IN TEARS
Right... Lol
4am*
Bruhhhhhh I saw this comment and was like “eh it’s not 5 yet”. Look at the time, 5:01. What are the odds lol
Its 1pm. Cooking Mac and cheese for my kids, feeling grateful.
"You cannot get over somebody but you can take a shower, and then you can get dressed, and then you can find your keys, and then you can go grocery shopping, and then you can do your laundry,
and then,
it's ten years later and they're still dead and you are happy."
i love that part of the poem.
you just literally quoted something all of us just herd and got 1k likes. wtf is 2020 youtube
@@aliciadalton6873 it's called highlighting a part that 1.2k people can relate with the most, or like the most, or appreciate the most. if this is the epitome of 2020 youtube then i kinda like it here.
Sabrina Jery no. she didn’t highlight it, she quotes it. She quoted something we all heard like 5 minutes ago. comments like this where they just quote what the creator said isn’t funny. it’s just annoying
That's when I started crying
“You cannot get over somebody, but you can take a shower.” The most powerful sentence I’ve ever heard..
Oh boy do I relate. Self care is so hard when you're depressed. I've gone way too long without basic hygiene. I am learning how important it is to appreciate the smallest efforts.
Virtue Friend I get it girl...sometimes just getting up and finding the energy to get moving is the hardest thing in the world. My children come get me from bed to make them breakfast and tell me "mommy your taking forever"....
Meagan Hiller I'm sorry. I'm sure it hurts you that you can't explain to them what's going on. They will understand someday. I think it's good they come and get you though. Whatever it takes.
Most days it's my cats who get me to move.
Also, just realizing how many other people struggle with functioning encourages me to keep fighting so I can hopefully help others like me.
Virtue Friend Hi 😊 take every step at a time. It's hard, but once you overcome those challenges, it'll be easier for you. You need to be your own mental coach.
I'm a recovering addict and have been clean for almost six years now and it's just been hard to find out who I am again.
Meagan Hiller I'm sure it has, but don't worry about that right now. Just try to enjoy every moment that you are clean and free of addiction. Savor each bite, each day of sunlight, the wind on your skin, the fresh smell of flowers, laughing with friends, petting an animal, and observing nature. Just the small things. That's enough to live and be healthy for.
I love how at the end he just says a simple "thank you" like he didn't just fucked my hole existence in just 4 minutes
"I don't believe in God, but I do believe in miracles... Being here is a miracle" Those statements mean so much on many levels...
Dana T. that explains me so well
It is God who gives miracles
@@thepersonbehindelonmusksuc1634 I think it would depend on who you ask.
Damn. We found my grandma on the floor after an attempted overdose. The night before, she locked her door and we just thought she was in a bad mood so we left it alone. We didn't go in until the next day. Honestly I don't think that feeling will ever leave me. Now anytime anyone is 10 minutes late, won't answer the phone, doesn't respond when I call to them, ect. I panic. It's such a weird feeling. So hard to get over. I wish taking a shower would make that go away
I feel you. Everytime my sister is out without telling anyone where she is and not answering text messages or calls I get so ridiculously worried and I hate it.
I felt crazy for feeling like this after a similar thing but it's nice(?) To know someone else does. My friends just think I'm just ott
I always thought i was the only one, who worried like that. But ig im not. Which is good, cause now I don't feel so crazy.
I get worried like that too- I've had too many people I love talk about being suicidal and now anytime I cant get in touch with someone quickly it freaks me out.
It took me a long time to adjust when my brother started working nights- I used to not be able to sleep until he was home.
I felt the same way after I found my dad dead after coming back from the fair. It has gotten better but I still find myself worrying from time to time
"10 years later and they are still dead... but you are happy" and now im sobbing
Self care is legit hard when have depression gosh this moment the tears...
AlwaysLumosFangirl I'm going through this right now because of a heartbreak. This is literally the worst pain I have ever felt.
AlwaysLumosFangirl I feel you babe. Everything is hard for me tbh.
AlwaysfightFangirl my mother just says im lazy, but she doesn’t know whats really going on.
Just take a shower lyrics by Jared Singer
(I hope I got them Right)
the hardest thing I've ever did was take a shower. holding the body of someone you love who has committed suicide is..easy.
all you have to do is sit there while you wait for the paramedics, and hope that you are wrong ,pray that there is still a person here to save .
when you are in shock ,the weight of a torso is negligible for all the strain it puts on your body ,might as well be on the beach holding a book.
I think we should reDefine the word tragedy as that which is a impossible to get over unless you are profoundly lucky,it will happen to you and on that day when all of your Happy daydreams seem tiny and all of your nightmares seem huge,on the day when the worst what if you could ever imagin has already happened, when a friend who you love has committed suicide ,when your step father is paralyzed probably forever will ever your tragedy ends,please use me a cautionary tale.because only a mad man tries to do the impossible.
and after her death I was indeed a mad man ,I tried to get over her suicide .
and failing that I did nothing I sat on my own filth for three weeks until a dear friend walked into my room carrying a towel hoping that I was not another impossible task and said " you are taking a shower RIGHT NOW " that shower was the hardest thing I have ever done ,you can't get over somebody but you can take a shower ,and then you can get dressed and then you can find your keys and then you can go grocery shopping and then you can do your laundry and then it's ten years later and they are still dead and you are happy
I don't believe in God but I do believe in miracles .
in things so large they seem impossible when you do them one tiny step at a time you get them done .taking a shower is a miracle, laughing is a miracle ,being here is a miracle.
so that is the real example.
we all give up ,we all hide ,and we all wallow in our own whatever awful we have to Wallow in.but if you are lucky ,if there is a miracle ,you take a shower and you get up,and you keep doing tiny things into a world that is slightly less dark place
Reem Yasir i’m pretty sure instead of “into a world” it’s “until the world”. But great job otherwise!
Thank you for taking the time to write this out it was very helpful! ☺️
Many thanks!
Sometimes Button Poetry is the only thing keeping me functioning
I have anxiety issue since I got kids.
Sometimes, I am overcome by a sudden, primal fear that something could happen to them, that they could be taken from me, that I will lose them. A fear that makes me jump out of bed, turn on all lights, checking my children's heartbeats as they lie sleeping safe and sound. It is a fear of being left in a pitch black darkness that no light could possibly enter, a vast universe of sadness and despair that can never be crossed. The debilitating certainty I could never be happy again, not even functional, in any capacity any more if this was ever to happen.
And when that fear make me shake and threatens to make me curl up as crying ball on the bathroom floor, I return to this poem. And, like a lifeline, it drags me back into sanity, out of the tar pit that my mind has become, with that flimsy, tiny ray of hope that, I, maybe, could take a shower. That the night might not be endless. That there might be a miracle.
Thank you, Jared Singer.
I can feel this mans emotions in every poem. I love him.
I love that he wrote about something specific but everyone in the comments is able to think of something of their own that this poem reminds them of. That's when you know you're a brilliant poet. I'm struggling with getting myself to just take a shower and he put everything so perfectly. I've been badly abused and living that felt easier than getting out of bed to take a shower in the morning. It's hard to explain to people who haven't been through it but being in the midst of tragedy and wallowing in it somehow is less emotionally draining than getting past it. Getting past it takes all the strength in the world while being in the midst of it just takes you laying there while it rests on you. It really is the little steps like showering every day and doing your laundry that make it easier to get through it
xosecox12, I think it's because it's so exhausting to battle yourself constantly so by the time it's time to get out of bed you're tired again.
xosecox12 that’s what poetry is really all about. You get to write so that other people find solace in your words, and you may not know everyone’s story, but when you get down and out about why you even write and if you’re being heard, just think of it like that
That's the difference between fighting the current and letting it drown you, my friend. Fighting will always be harder. It's much, much easier to drown. But if you choose to fight, you get to tell your story in the end.
I hope you are healing
This empowered me to actually take a shower. I feel much better. Thank you.
I hope you feel better now!
I hope you still feel better
I still still hope you feel better now
my bestfriend killed himself when we were only 12, we we're going to do it together, but after that day i swore to myself that i would never get better without him. It is a miracle, to be happy after loss again. to move on. this poem is a miracle too. i know you dont believe in god but, god bless you sir. god bless you.
Master FS I send love and healing to you, you are a miracle too 💕
Master FS
I am so so so sorry my friend
Master FS How are U now?
Damn, depression is a demon. My heart goes out to all who are suffering/ed from that deadly disease. I've had my share of it many times, and life seemed so bleak. His friend really loved him enough to come in with a towel and get him to take a bath.
"I think we should re-define the word tragedy as 'that which impossible to get over'."
I remember finding my grandma dead like it was yesterday. It was 3 years ago, and I still struggle daily trying to get past it, but this poem definitely helped me look at it from a different pov. Perhaps getting over it won't happen, but happiness still can. This poem hit me hard and his emotion sent chills down my spine.
Thank you, Jared for sharing this.
I hope you’re doing better ❤️.
Hugs
*keep doing tiny things until the world is a slightly less dark place* ❤👌
💕💕
“It’s 10 years later and they are still dead and you are happy” that part hits
I am in shock. I’ve had this experience where someone just comes in and forces me to take care of myself after being overwhelmingly suicidal for days. I could never voice how that experience felt, bc it kinda saved my life. But this poem does it perfectly. “Suddenly it’s ten years later and they’re still dead but you’re happy”... things get better. Thank you.
This guy and koyczan is a must listen
You can hear the pain in his voice. This is so powerful; I love this so much
I've experienced my best friend trying to kill herself when we were 14. I called 911 and drove to her house and seeing her like that changed me. 4 years later, my boyfriend, who i was close friends with before we started dating, tried to kill himself about 3 months before we got together. His brother is the one told me he was in the hospital and I was terrified. My dad has talked about wanting to kill himself as long as i can remember. My mom told me that if she hadn't gotten out of prison when she did, she would've killed herself. My brother in law tried to kill himself, he still had the scar to prove it. I'm lucky enough that none of this includes that they DID kill themselves, only tried or talk about it. Depression is fucking evil. It is soul deteriorating. I'm so sorry if you've ever lost someone to suicide.
Someone I love took her own life this July. Now I will use one of her (many) special expressions, "Holy Wow!" to respond to this Poem.
Thank you for your Life and lovely Expressions, Dear Adriane.
Love.
Wow. Thank you. "Holy Wow!" sounds just about right. Love and light.
This saved my life so many times.
my dear, i am so proud of you
at the end, i love the way he snaps away with just a "thank you"
When I was 16, my best friend of the same age killed himself. I remember mourning, trying to "get over" his death. Swallowing my tears and trying to act strong, this worked for a while until I nearly joined him exactly 2 months after his wake. Losing a friend is one of the worst pains one can expefience and it's so easy to forego even the simplest things such as taking a shower, doing homework, or even eating. This poem reminds me that there's a reason to keep going and to keep prospering no matter what happens in our lives. We are lucky to be here, and if there ever comes a time where you go through trauma or tragedy, just take a shower.
Dear Moonbin, thank you for all of your hard work and the many smiles you gave all of us over the years. 🕊️
❤️
For 11 years I have made "I love you, talk to you tomorrow" the last thing I have said to every single person I care about in my life. It's the truth, but for a long time it was also a promise. A promise made daily so that I would not kill myself. In the dark hours of my days I would remind myself of all the people that I loved and PROMISED I would see tomorrow. Sometimes I didn't want to. Sometimes I was moments away and had almost convinced myself that they did not want to see me anyways. I must have made that promise thousands of times. I am no longer suicidal most days. The majority of my days are happy or atleast tolerable and most nights are peaceful. I still make those promises. Out of habit or fear I do not know. I lived my life for them for years. Now I live my life for all of us.
this is absolutely beautiful, im so glad i got to hear you talk tomorrow
This is the poem I listened to the night of my 18th birthday.I come back to this from time to time .It gives me a lot of hope.
So happy to hear it connected for you.
Chances are Jared will never see this comment but I wanted to say thank you this poem helped me through the loss of 4 people
Over a year and a half ago, my dad was in hospice care after his brain cancer rapidly got worse. One night at like 2 am I woke up to the sounds of many footsteps above me (my room is in the basement). I wasn't sure what was going on, but I had a bad feeling. After about 5 minutes of listening, my mom came down the stairs and into my room and sat next to room. It was then that I knew exactly what had happened. I began sobbing into my mom's shoulder because I didn't know what to do. There are days where I'll just be sitting there minding my own business and then suddenly I am curled into myself sobbing uncontrollably because I could have done something different. I could've spent more time with him. I could've listened to him more often. I could've done anything. Tragedy, death in particular, is something that is extremely hard to get over.
When I was young, my Mom would tell me to "shower it off", as my son grew older I would say the same to him. there's something magical about a shower. thanks for capturing it in this beautiful poem
The person that may have been the love of my life committed suicide a month ago. Every word of this is profoundly accurate and important. I cried for a very long time after watching this, but i think i needed it. Thank you, Jared Singer. Your words have impacted me in a way i cannot describe.
Dillon Hockett if you want to talk I'm here to listen
every time i find myself depressed, i go back here and remind myself that doing things might be hard, but i can start with a shower.
Every time I listen to this, I'm so grateful to your resilience, and also to your friend who came in with that towel. Metaphorically, the loved ones who can burst in with the tools we need to take that leap are so important. It's that part of this story that first makes me cry. To those reading this, if someone has not done this for you, or has stopped doing this for you, you are worthy of it, it is not your fault it hasn't happened or isn't happening. Right now, this poem for me, I just took a shower. Getting dressed, finding my keys. Thank you Jared for being my dear friend when my loved ones aren't aware or aren't here or don't have the energy to burst in with a towel
Jared's poems always hit me so hard and leave me in tears. I hope he knows just how talented he is with his words.
this specific piece has stuck with me since he performed it for the live stream last month. it's one of my favorites.
This is beautiful . so well written . heart wrechingly touching .
I can listen to this 30x every day and it always makes me feel better
this moved me. completely touched my heart and these words will stick with me for a while. thank you, jared
It's so crazy how about two years ago I listened to his poem about suicide and now this one about feeling better
When I was suicidal, I listened to this right before I was about to do it. If it wasn’t for this poem I wouldn’t be alive. Thank you for this art.
My mother died in 2011 after a long battle with cancer. The weeks after I don't even remember, except one moment sitting on my porch steps crying that I wish it were me instead, that I wish I'd been brave enough to speak when I sat next to her dying body hours before she passed. This piece brings that all back and reminds me to keep going for her, even if I can't share with her. It's coming up on 11 years later and I am happy, but the pain still creeps in here and there. Thank you so much for your words. I bought your book as well with this poem in it and your work is striking and beautiful and heartfelt. Thank you.
I'm crying. This is literally one of my favorites pieces ever of the hundreds I've heard on Button Poetry. Much love.
Why did this poem make me cry?
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💫
3 years later from the original video. I still come back to it. Every time I need a reminder .... To get up and do tiny things so I can live on
Thank you for this💙
britain chew stay alive fren |-/
|-/
"And then it is ten years later, and they are still dead, and you are happy."
hit me like a god damn truck. this is the first time a poetry reading has ever made me cry. thank you for your beautiful words jared.
You know its good when you start crying halfway in.
I feel like I've been crumbling a lot lately. I always come back to this poem when I'm in need of kind, honest words. Thank you.
Lost my best friend the same way in January. You’ve put it all into words.
thinking about the pain of my loved ones is one of the things keeping me here... thank you for this reminder
I lost my best friend to suicide and it's been almost 3 years and this poem is such a blessing to listen too
This small 4 minute poem has gotten me through so many terrible things. I just want to say thank you Jared, I don’t think you can understand how helpful this has been. By far my favorite poem on this entire earth.
i'm not crying my eyes out you are
And then is ten years later... It has been almost 3 years but we need to keep going
“And after his death I was indeed a madman. I tried to get over HIS suicide”. I play this poem on repeat. I left my dad alone for the first time in months. I knew he was sick. I came home that night to a body. He took his life. And I had to clean him up. He was the best thing that ever happened to me. I really want to believe in miracles. “One tiny step at a time”. I miss you dad.
Everytime i feel like there is nothing to be done I search for this video and i watch it again
This is my favorite Button Poetry video. Thank you to this writer.
This broke my heart and built it back up in the span of 4 minutes. Thank you for these words.
The power in this poem is absolutely beautiful, I'm stunned
Just discovered Jared during the first days of lockdown and am now obsessed.
beautiful and well performed. very touching
I feel nothing and everything at the same time, It makes no sense to me. I try whatever I can to distract myself from my pain, I try so hard to just stay away from my house so I don't think too hard. but at midnights when I come home from a long day I find myself filling my mind with so many thoughts and then there I am at this unbearable state which is more than just sadness. I don't feel like me anymore.
Cheyenne R i hope your doing better now
Well said!! I don't think u understand how good u described it.. It's so true
Same
We should redefine the word tragedy as that which is impossible to get over
Man did i ever need this right now, thank you Jared.
This poem helped me get the courage and when I get sad mourning a decade of abuse and trying to get over not having the perfect family unit I hear the lines "you cannot get over someone... And it's 10 years later and... You ARE HAPPY"
I love him
You do them one step at a time.
Im crying. Thank you for making me get up today.
His words give me so much peace finally
My friend took her own life two years ago and I still remember everything about that night. Thank you for this poem
This is one of the best poems I've heard in a while. It had me in absolute tears because I've taken that shower and he couldn't of described it any better x
My mother passed away on mother's day 11 years ago. I'm always a hot mess on this weekend, but today I took a shower. This poem is lovely. Ty for your art.
This just let me open the gates of 10 years of rivers that needed to flow. Every word felt. Thank you brother. Thank you!
Almost brought me to tears wow
The hardest thing I ever did was take a shower
Holding the body of someone you love who has committed suicide is easy
All you have to do is sit there while you wait for the paramedics
And hope that you are wrong,
Pray that there is still a person here to save
When you are in shock the weight of a torso is neglegable
For all of the strain it puts on your body, you might as well be on the beach holding a book
I think we should redifine the word 'tragedy' as 'that-which-is-impossible-to-get-over'
Unless you are profoundly lucky, it will happen to you
And on that day, when all of your happy daydreams seem tiny
And all of your nightmares seem huge
On the day when the worst what if you can ever imagine has already happened
When a friend who you love has committed suicide
When your stepfather is paralyzed probably forever
Whatever your tragedy is
Please use me as a cautionary tale
Because only a madman tries to do the impossible
And after her death I was indeed a madman
I tried to get over her suicide
And failing that, I did nothing
I sat in my own filth for three weeks until a dear friend walked into my room carrying a towel hoping that I was not another impossible task
And said you are taking a shower right now
That shower was the hardest thing I have ever done
You cannot get over somebody, but you can take a shower
And then you can get dressed
And then you can find your keys and then you can go grocery shopping
And then you can do your laundry
And then it's 10 years later and they are still dead and you happy
I don't believe in God
But I do believe in miracle
In things so large they seem impossible when you do them
One tiny step at a time you get them done
Taking a shower is a miracle
Laughing is a miracle
Being here is a miracle
See, that's the real example
We all give up
And we all hide
And we all wallow in our own whatever awful we have to wallow in
But if you're lucky
If there's a miracle
You take a shower
And you get up
And you keep doing tiny things until the world is a slightly less dark place
Thank you so much for posting that!
I think my favorite line was "a slightly less dark place" because it took me 27 years to see the bad in people
Thank you❤
I wish I knew him. I needed this.
Wow. I'm frozen. This is so powerful and beautiful advice.
OMG THIS MADE ME FEEL SO MUCH. I DONT KNOW HOW TO DESCRIBE WHAT I FEEL RIGHT NOW. BUT PUTTING IN INTO WORDS, WHAT YOU FEEL, IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING YOU CAN DO.
mad respect for you man
Wow. I think you are right, we should redefine tragedy. But even when you know that, when you have experienced that endless loss of a loved one, sometimes it isn't enough to prevent you from doing the same thing.
Beautiful
And I am sorry for anyone and everyone who have lost a dear person to their heart
I send you my love and compassion
I can't stop watching this channel...
you can see his fingers shaking and you can hear his voice quiver with every word. i love this, i love his words and i so much wish nothing but happiness for him.
This always hits deep. Especially if you did loose someone from depression. Or just in general
I wish I could like this poem 1 million times. absolutely beautiful!
Yeah, I'm crying on this.
Sweet boy I pray for your peace
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Wow. I just can't get over how words become feelings when they are aline in such a perfect way. Wonderful poem! Cheers for another day.
this is true poetry, it's so touching because it's so true. This is true art, this is what all of literature should be about in order to be truly remarkable. If this didn't make your eyes water my friend, you're lying
i love his voice & delivery
Thank you!
You're welcome!
This hits so hard. His words. My heart. My oh my... this is spoken truth.
My mom has been dead 10 years this september. This hits so hard, I have had friends try to kill themselves, I have held my daughters lifeless body as I breathed will into her. Thank you so much for this
Amber Wilcher I am so sorry you had to go through that. I can't help you and you don't know me, even so, if you ever need someone to talk to I will listen to you.
Same. Just, same.
saw jared singers name and knew it was going to be incredible. wasn't disappointed
Only a madman tries the impossible...❣⏳
This hits so hard... especially when you've been through similar experiences. Wow.
I just want you to know that I watch this video whenever a shower is overdue. It's funny how such simple and little things are impossible when you have depression. You are to me what the friend with the towel was to you
Your "you cannot get over somebody, but you can take a shower" has become my "you cannot cure your depression in a day, but you can take a shower"
The best part is at the end when he says thank you. It is such a dramatic poem delivered with an appropriately somber performance But, then right in the end he says "thank you" like someone was giving out cookies to everyone and it was his turn.