How To Live With In-Laws - 7
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I would say that first have a job and money in your bank account before marrying then you will have an upper hand. Otherwise, they will only try to belittle you.
Dear it's not always the case. I was working as a lecturer in university and the first salary after my marriage was transferred to my sis in laws account. Some in laws are blood suckers. They harressed me for a piece of single roti, during my pregnancy.
I think we just have to give them time and wait otherwise leave if they don't want to understand that you have your life to live.
@@beautifullife9039
True , although I am not working currently but I have saved enough for myself . This saving of mine gives me the strength not to tolerate my in laws stupid demands and blames . So being independent is very important!! ( My In laws dont know how much money I have with me 😂 , they actually think I am a beggar lol, and ofcourse they wonder how come I am so strong.)
Nice approach. Reeks of negativity and suspicion right from the get go. Why not keep an honest and transparent relationship with your husband rather than playing mind games of ‘who has the upper hand or lower hand’. A home is a place that has no place for your mind games where you are free to be who you are. If you are so worried about the upper hand then don’t get married in the first place. Live an independent life. You will always have the UPPER hand whatever that means.
Never NEVER NEVER NEEVER NEEEVVVERRRRR LIVE WITH YOUR IN-laws! If I can save someone out there thinking about it then I’ll be happy. It doesn’t matter how much you like them, don’t ever live with them! I’m stuck. Don’t make the same mistake I did
Awww thank you. My fiancé family says I’m a bad person because I don’t wanna live with them
@@africanqueen5292 ask them if your husband is a bad person because he doesn't wanna live with yours
I also stuck in the same situation. God please help 🙏me.
After this post I decided to not let her get to me. And do my own thing. And things have changed drastically for the better. She now sees that nothing gets to me and I honestly don’t care if she’s being a CU&+. We still love together but I realized that I am in control of how I let others make me feel. And I CHOOSE to not let her get to me in any negative way. It’s been great ever since. She shes backed off a lot too. Maybe she noticed I don’t care lol
We cannot generalize...some in laws are amazing some are not
This is ridiculous. Even in today's modern times, we're having to endure so much. Why can't we all just for a change RESPECT each other's BOUNDARIES? It's just unfair to expect so much from a daughter in law while the only expectation from a son-in-law would be to keep their daughter happy!
This needs to change!
Marriage is a hell these old people dont understand daughter in laws and grandchildren only they hang them for their own selfish motives.
Very well saif my friend
The main prb is i think they see tht a new girl came she has to adjust. Bt in laws forget that for tge new girl they also needs to do sme adjustment or make her comfortable
Naveditha rao. More expetations from laws is also unfair. Ek dusere ko samaj k kuch compromise unhe krna padega or kuch hame. Is modern time main hame jyada zarrorat hai k ham apni family relations k upper jyada focus kre.
Nividitha rao. Kabi aap ko bi saas ban na Padega fir kya kroge tab time our bi modren ho jayega😁
Living with your in laws is the biggest punishment one can face.. My mil has been extremely difficult to handle.. and now after 2.5 years of suffering I have a Co-sis who happens to be my mils relative to increase my problems.. living in a family of 7 along with my 7 month old baby, I can say I know what hell looks like!!
I m living in same situation more than 22 years
Same situation life becomes hell with these people
My si2 sster in law and their husbands also started staying with us. They created so much trouble in my life now I'm with my parents marriage is already destroyed by them along with mil intensionally
Not only in-laws but if anyone's behaviour is causing you mental turbulence then it's better to stay away or ignore them .Because our mental stability should be our first priority.
No one has the right to cause hell in your life - no one. I agree with you, Monali.
@@jefftube58 yes
💯 true
Go to himalaya then, because in society there will always be someone causing you mental turbulence. If you can't handle your mother father who only wants your good then it would be hard for you deal with harsh society who try to drag you in mud always.
Exactly
no man is innocent. one needs to accept that. ladies... never ever assume that ur hubby is innocent. he is clever enough to leave u alone in such fights and pretend the sufferings.
Ya its fact of husbands
True
Im facing the same
M facing the same thing
Yes i am married for 10 years and have 6 year old son. But when his mom yells for silly things, he never opens his mouth. I have found a solution. Keep your communication with in laws to the minimum. Avoid sharing any kind of information with them. Be a strong woman and show them you have a right to live in the house. And be financially as well as emotionally independant. Dont ever expect your husband to have your back, they are his family first and you entered later to it. Be happy with yourself always and believe and pray that even if none of them love you, the love of God is more than enough for your entire life... tc all who are hurting...
"How to live with in-laws".....YOU DON'T.
Well said.👍
To late for me .
LOL TRUE. I have avoided staying with them but then social media helps them to communicate their thoughts of me.
What if you have no choice :(
@@pinksmurf10 Well, I can't say I have all the answers but from my perspective here are some suggestions.
First visiting and living with you are two different things. At least if they're visiting you then its just for a very short period of time. But if they are talking about living with you maybe your husband and his siblings can find a senior apartment living complex where the rent is reasonable. That way, his parents could pay half the rent and the other half can be divided amongst him and his siblings. So for example if the rent is $500 his parents will pay $250 with their social security and your husband and his siblings would divide the remaining $250 amongst them. Advocate that by doing it that way everyone will have their own space it would be convenient and everyone can have their privacy.
Now if they have to live with you then hopefully you have the space where you hardly have to set eyes on them...I'm serious. Personally, when my in-laws came to visit not so long ago for what was supposed to have been 2 weeks but turned into a two and a half month stay I hardly saw them. Covid-19 extended their stay because the airports and traveling situation was tight and risky for them considering their age. So that's what happened there. They were coming from overseas where they retired and then they were planning to travel out of state to visit the other SILS there...but again social distancing, quarantining, etc. prolonged their stay with my husband and I. All that time, I saw them like a hand full of times. Fortunately we have a basement that's equivalent to say a house apartment. It has a living space, bedroom, full bathroom, kitchen and separate exit/entrance. Even from my husband's suggestion, I just "Ignored them, gave them their space and did as always." Now of course I was cordial and respectful and all but I kept my distance. Now on another note let's face it, life is hard for everybody. So that means start talking about them assisting with utility payments...more people are now going to be using up the energy in the house. OR they can divide their time between the siblings. So for example, they'll spend 2-3 months with you and your husband, and 2-3 months with another sibling and so on. That way it can be cost efficient and fair for everyone and to some degree you'll still have a privacy factor. Good luck.
I think the main culprit is husband...If husband wants he could set the boundaries both ways..and if he puts a strong foot forward in laws can't speak a word because of the fear of losing their son! The problem is "Husband"
This is so real...
Awww girl.... You're just on point. Can't agree more! Actually they are super cleaver. They think we want them to take sides, but NO, we just want him to say what's right. My husband still beleives that his mum can't be WRONG, NEVER. 🤣🤣
U are so biased as a counselor 🤣
Such Bad Advice. Bad in laws are just that - bad. This video is gaslighting people into ignoring their own intuition. This advice makes me physically sick. You have no clue about subtle abuse, psychological manipulation or abusive in-laws. Stay the hell away from PRETENDING you do. BAD, BAD, BAD Advice, disgusting and misleading. If you're suffering from living with or dealing with bad in laws don't take this advice, it's really going to hurt you.
Narcissists Happen what would your advice be. My MIL moved in and she is good at manipulating my husband. He doesn’t see it and tends to give in to her to make happy.
It's not a straight forward answer. Everyones relationship and circumstances are varied. The only thing that is common is that toxic in laws MUST be avoided at ALL costs. How that happens depends on your individual circumstances but it MUST happen to preserve your sanity and self esteem.
Even living with "good" in laws is awful. You feel isolated from your own marriage, like you're not even part of the family anymore. In laws usually take over the house.
That's not what I heard at all. She simply advised not to make assumptions based on things that have not been said. If you need clarification, just ask. If something truly concerns you about the way your spouse is handling a matter concerning your in laws, speak to your spouse and actively listen to what they have to say regarding their reasons for doing so.
You are right. My fucked up mother in law has cancer and she has moved in with us and is nicely staying and livin with us. Made my house a mess and what not. What should I do??? I can't even ask her to move out.
Zindgi barbad h shadi k baad😪🙅🙅
Shekhawat Anu sachme
pointt
Haha.. seriously? I was hoping to marry some day !😏 I think marriage is good if it's only 2 not other adults in yr family, correct? 😝
😭
true
What the hell is she suggesting? Being a woman she's speaking as if it's only a women's responsibility to keep her feekings checked and not feel bad.
True ...
You simply dont live with them...thats the answer
It's the best solution
But how? I love my husband and he loves me and his parents. How can he agree to leave the house for me. Impossible
@@freespirited4966 stay near by apartment. Be vocal with ur husband
@@freespirited4966 he doesn't love you sis if he doesn't prioritizes you
Tell him you too love your parents why doesn't he let you live with them
@@freespirited4966 in the same way u agree to live without your parents
Don't live with them!!!! U will regret it! I definitely do, pls just don't do it everyone needs their own space, arms length with ur in laws trust me
Phone connection is always a ghost. Husband always on phone with them...if not living in joint family
So true
Normally I don't like calling people through phone...It doesn't mean I forgot them...I am busy in my world..My mother in law complains about me about not calling her.. Currently I am engaged only... and i am not able to create a bond with her. I am a person who don't trust people much...so i always keep a distance...i dont know how to deal this kinda issues.... If anyone can give me any advice on this . Please do 🥺
Then you've to get out of your comfort zone . Atleast take a step & call her .May be you can't talk with her more but atleast try ; if she is near by you then it would be great to meet in person or if she's far then fix a day to meet your in-laws. Cause communication is the vital factor in a relationship, if we don't communicate how do we know what is on other person's mind. Without communication there will be misunderstandings, doubts. At least try to communicate then slowly slowly make connection wid them. Bt if they r like" we need all your attention cause you r going to be our daughter in law then that would creat a problem. They've to understand there are other things in your life. So atleast fr making some connection take tiney step.Try to talk fr sometime in a week .no need to call daily.
Ohk!! Hope my suggestion will help you. Bdw congrats !!May you get a life wid full of love nd happiness 😊
All videos on UA-cam is related to mother in law's and daughter in law's. Specially how a daughter in law should behave, think, and live with her MIL. And to please her MIL everytime. Not a single video about how MILs should treat their DILs. Amazed😭
Father in laws too..
Mine is a terror 😭
Because they will mend
this mentality is sick where women has to understand and adjust. and these kind of videos are giving it more push. thumbs down.
Christina Yemmi thank god
I think lots of patience and just learning to ignore criticism. Mils will never understand the age gap,generation gap nor the background of urs how different ur childhood was or how different it was from her so just keep doing the things u need to do and ignore getting hurt of their criticism. :)
At inlaws place our neighbours also one of the horrible creatures I faced..they want to create disturbance in the family and always talk rubbish to create fight .and inlaws are very interested in such talks ..what should we do then??
The Sharm's Beauty&Vlog's Fam best advice I heard it’s just hard to follow sometimes, my mom always used to tell me that MIL are all the same but I told her my husband mom is lovely, I had a love marriage , however after living 6 months with her now I can see some bad points and it’s annoying me. But you are right, I have to be strong and ignore the criticism.
Your comment made be happy coz thia is truth ignore n live
Whatever may be our behavior in-laws are always tough to us
Trueee
Very true
True
Very tough to handle
True
Yes,,this is the problem which i m facing now a days..i hear the words which r not even told by inlaws..but dear ,words r not the only thing which hurts ..smtimes,they kill us from their rude nd rough attitude towards us...i suggest only 1 thing to not to get very much emotionlly attached with ur inlaws,,they only make use of u and throw u away like a bee is thrown from milk when they get ur substitute ..
TRUE
How to deal when your mother-in-law always put her daughter's name in every single conversation???????
Same my mother in law b Aise hi krte h
What does she do exactly? How do you deal with the situation?. Im asking cos I maybe getting married soon and that is freaking me out so much. 🥺 what kind os patriarchal society are we jn which makes us leave our own home and fucking 'Adjust' with the other. It's like getting adapted!
Same dear...I belong to a very good family earlier also and where I got married too (financially) but she literally everytime talks about that I should do a job so that I can handle all my finances myself and even my sil always talks about job .They themselves are housewife
Same here meri saas bhi yhi krti hai....
Same with me
If the daughter in law will do things their son was suppose to do then it’s her responsibility but when their son just puts rice in rice cooker then they will be like why are you doing her work let her do the household work.
Gone through that 🙄
Yeah me too.. He can't even take rice from rice cooker. Even if he takes, they will run and ask why are u doing this. You go and have a seat, she will bring u lunch...
Free Spirited yes.. this actually happened with me .. it takes you down no matter how much you wanna stand up. It’s same with their daughter also. They will always shield their son and daughter and m just fed up with that 🙏
Yes me too. 🥺
This happened with me too. Like what the hell. How is this my work.
No couple, NO couple should ever live with their in-laws fr any reason. Never. Don't even think about it.
Don’t live with them. It doesn’t matter how nice they are, how much they do for you or how guilty they make you feel for wanting to move out just move!! Too many adults in one household is not good. I’m still stuck with mine and hope my dream comes true of moving out
I pray and hope the best for you sis. I had to bring my in-laws to the place where I live inorder to take care of my little girl so that I can go for work and the one time my mother in-law helped my daughter change her pyjamas (after being her for like7 weeks, finally) and she didn't look very happy and so I asked her is everything ok? I never left her to do it by herself, I was always there beside her to help but still she had a hard face and the reason why she had to do it is because my daughter wanted her grandma to dress her this time. She then explained to me that she finds it very difficult to change my daughter's PJs because she has never took care of a girl before. That broke my heart and I asked her aren't you a woman mommy? what is the extra skill that is required to help a girl wear her PJs? and I told her that it really hurt me. After a few days while I was doing the kitchen work and preparing my daughter's breakfast she came out of the washroom and asked me to feed my kid in a rude way and again I had to speak out saying that she didn't have to tell me what I should do for my child as there is no one in this house that is actually helping my daughter for anything at all and she was like let me say what I am saying just listen and keep quiet that is what my other daughter in-law does. She never speaks back to me and then she started crying. My husband is not home almost 5 days a week and I am going through a hard time.
Even my dream is to move out
They just ignore me.. And never make me a part of their family
Same here. If I do anything, they ask me not to do. And afterwards complain that I don't do anything especially father in law
Same here
Sweet girl u r very funny😂😂
@@ooaabaie please explain the fun part.
@@freespirited4966 agar koi apne bete ko pyaar krta hoga to vo kabi bi nai chahe ga k uska ghar khraab ho. Yes possible hai ki do insaan ek jese nai hote kuch differences jaroor hone unki nature main isi liye to kuch compromise laws ko krna chahiye or kuch girls ko. Pyaar badaiye nafrat nai apne aap saab theek ho jayega. Or just ignore me vali baat muje isi liye funny laggi thi.
She openly critisizes my dressing and everything while everyone else likes the way i am..
Hema Latha lol Indian MIL
She is jealous
Same here
Same happen with me
Same here
See , Once the differences are seen betwwen you and inlaws , its never going to patch up . The only solution is just to geographically shift your family location and be polite and respect people at any instance .
to be honest.... they haunt u where ever u shift.
They won't leave u even after shifting
If there is no way to apart from mils
@@zeynabyt3754 I like the word Haunt used for inlaws :)
@@divyajami3182 should set boundaries
Inlaws r differnt internally n externally
I know what u mean. They smile EXTRA unnecessarily in front of my friends and as soon as they’re gone, the true taunts n controlling abuse comes out
I know what u mean
I feel that its hard to explain someone who is deaf n blind. They really become blind to acknowledge your goodness. In first place they should not marry their son. When son does something for his wife then they think why for only? Or in case why for her? This should have been mine not hers . If this was the case then they should have kept their son unmarried n have taken or enjoyed with him whole life but no they need someone to torture abuse , put someone down. Horrible relationship is this. Feel ashamed of this.
Absolutely true..
My mother in law is very bad women
She always make me sad
Always talk rubbish abt my parent's
Yes, mine too
Same... there is never a day she dont tlk rubbish abt my parents.
Samsung Tab 99.99%mil are same
Same here sis 😢
Just slap her cheeck 😠
They expect so much from us
We work for them and there house 24 hrs like servent and still not enough for them always back biting , always trying to put me down ⬇️
It's true ..inlaws always sees their daughter suffering in her's inlaws but not their own daughter in law...
no man is innocent. one needs to accept that. ladies... never ever assume that ur hubby is innocent. he is clever enough to leave u alone in such fights and pretend the sufferings.
Yes. He used my fights with my in laws..u r not good.. nobody likes u
What to do if ur mother in law is holding your 100% of your husband salary. And making jewelry for herself in the old age ...and only thinking about her own daughter...and your husband get angry if u say a single word to him
Just leave him.
Pack your shit leavd then tell him ...he is a kid not a man
@@adisha9966 it's not easy
Why do you have problem if he is spending on his mother. She is her mother. Mother is most important in life. You should be happy that you got such a nice husband and encourage him to do more.
Mera bhi same situation
It is gud to stick to this advice if it is not said dont assume but honestly in Indian society it dsnt wrk tht way specificaly in case of in laws rather this rule is gud for corporate world but not for in laws they r so opiniated nd if u dont read between the lines and actions nd b that flamboyant girl u wil hv to hear lot of things related to ur unserious nature nd ur upbringing
hey please expand, what do you mean by flamboyant nature? i recently moved in with inlaws and im very shy and reserved so its kinda difficult sometimes
I'm in with my in-laws since 7 years and they are still the same . I'm so depressed with little issues every time it's my fault ( why ) now I'm suffering from mental illness anxiety issues whom should I blame I have three kids lots of home chores are my responsibility and after that I'm useless I do nothing, they said 😢😢
Lesve please
My problem is my evil sister in law with I am dealing every single day n getting depressed...
Same here..But I am not staying with them ..Any way she tries to create lots and lots of problem...The worst lady
In my case, it's my brother-in-law. My husband fights with me over his brother. Well he fights with me over his whole family. So sick of his family now! 👎
What happened?
They are devils dont fight just watch the dramas n ignore
My problem is father in law. He thinks he rule the house. Any item in the house should not be misplaced. If we want to go out, we need his permission. If we want to order something, we need his permission.
Fed up really 😭
Wt abt the tips for the husband who needs it the most.western culture is the best in thus this respect, live and let live
Yes..once we are matured enough, we can lead an independent life
I'm very unhappy to stay with my mother in law...she behaves so bad with me always.... 💔 I always try to keep her happy but she doesn't want to stay happy with me.... Even it's arranged marriage
Background music is over powered n can’t get u quite clear
What about the things that a mother in law actually say and it hurts and how to get out of that without loosing peace of mind and good night sleep ( both I have lost)
What my husband says is to ignore what they say and do what I want...what I have to say is that they will never stop judging us no matter what we do...so live your life...take care of them thats enough...dont let their actions and words spread roots in your mind....just do what makes u happy...
The most worst feeling is that when u hear is whn its nt said.. m facing some issues that way
Same here..sometimes i really get depressed n not able to take my stand..nt able to fight back
True
Whenever I cook something, she gets curious to know what I cook but I don't like telling all those details
Same here 👍
I dont like to cook so I order my dabba. On tht also she had an issue. I gave no flying fucks abt it. She stopped cooking for her son. I didnt care a fuck abt tht also. Now my hubby doesn't eat home. Thnk God she exposed herself
Whos she
My mother in law always taunt me... Indirectly... Even she always compare me to her daughter that she is best in every way.. in cooking.. in behaviour... Etc etc... Mother in law is not in good relation with her son... She don't like him... Always their conversation results in fight. They always disrespect us in every words ... I m really tired of this.... N disturbed a lot....
Atleast she is not ignoring u r in her list as she is comparing u with her daughter and not with any maid 😊😊
Sometimes Mother in law makes fun of me and husband also joins in it.. the fun most often appears to be as humiliation and when I protest or try to communicate with my husband regarding my feelings, he would generally create a big drama of it.. I have gone frustrated with this .. what should one do in this case?
What a difficult and sad situation. My mother in law is a good person, but she is absolutely overattached to her kids, especially my husband. Now that we are awaiting our first child she turns into a control freak. I can sense she is afraid to "lose" him and takes it out on me, which I don't deserve and won't put up with basically. But it's incredibly hard to communicate that towards my husband without causing big drama and fights. Also, I just don't need this kind of stress right now, given the fact that I'm pregnant. Sometimes I get really desperate...
U must plane n do nice jokes on them also u have rights
Same situation here. At first, I used to smile in front of them and cry afterwards in the bathroom. But now I will retort then and there itself. That is the best solution. Express your feelings there. No need to cry privately. Why shud we cry?
@@freespirited4966 yeah , you’re absolutely correct dear 💝
@@freespirited4966 please watch Mohanji and saibaba's video on UA-cam. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
What if they don’t want to respect the boundaries?.
What do you do if you mother in law is divorced? She has to live with one of the sons. Im in the same situation and is very difficult to deal with a mother in law that has OCD and depression.
Millie mine is widowed and has depression and is borderline bipolar.She has two different personalities.In society is a polite,compassionate woman but her behaviour towards me at home is completely opposite.And she always plays the victim card so well.She is emotionally and verbally abusive.Have to listen to her taunts on a daily basis and cry to sleep.
Keep a full time maid for her to deal with
This vid is NOT helpful. Indian MIL are VERY vocal about dislike, they would run around you (like tag herself behind you ) and keep saying the same thing again and again of how AWFUL I wore the dress or how bad the food was. There is ZERO subtlety. When she says out loud in front of the family that you stole her son- there is no hidden meaning? Only thing I agree is that yes there is certain disappointment when the MIL’s son no opinion and ignores about his moms’s bad behaviour or mental abuse.
When you address directly at a problem with the utmost honesty you are mostly regarded as a fiesty woman especially with your in-laws. Facts.
The best solution to in-laws problem is settle far far away. 😁
Here's a tip: DON'T!
cannot make out what you are saying at times very distracting loud background music
Nothing important.
Asking women to suppress ourselves
My mother in law said to stay away from her tulsi pot while i am menstruating.how to deal with such pathetic mindset?
My mother in law doesn't allow to touch his son during those days .... In 21st century such mindset .....
Mine to... She said to stay away from achar pot and..many more... I m so... depressed .. sometimes i feel y I m menstruating 😔
Hello freedom bubies don't worry u all will become mother in law one day ,that time u will understand
gargi mishra oh no, that sucks 😖😖😖 what does your husband think about this?
CEMENT PLANT ELECTRICAL AND INSTRUMENTATION shut up
I also want to move but iam stuck here
But how to deal with in-laws who say bad about u n Ur family, Ur siblings indirectly..u know they mean it to you n have said it many times directly also.. out of three siblings, in-laws stays with us permanently n dont go anywhere..infact nobody wants them..inspite doing everything for them, they talk about my sanskar, my family, me..
How to deal with it??
I am really tensed now.. anyone respond please
Give them nice slap in words
Give it back. We can't let it perpetuate it.
Hi dear I completely understand your plight, I suggest you to stay dutiful yet strong not allowing anyone to cross boundaries.... reply in short n let them know you wont entertain their nuisance... dont expect your man to have a take on it, he wont, rather deal with it wisely by limiting the time to be around them..
Hate the background music when she is talking, absolutely unnecessary!
Hey please can u suggest me something . I just feel pissed off at times and frustrated as well , I do all the household works and everything after I have done things my motherinlaw comes to do things and whenever she is in call with her parents or our any of the relatives she intentionally goes to kitchen and say to them she was doing etc etc etc and I m busy with my other job as if I don't work .
Dont do work for one week
Hahaha its everywhere, but people who hear them know that this lazy mils dont even move around forget about doing some work.... it used to burn my heart but now it doesnt bother me.... it's just like taking credit for your work in corporate world... just ignore such conscienceless morons.... it doesnt make you less hardworking either.... god is the one who judges all of our actions.... he knows what all you did and do and how dutifully you did...
@@phcrghalli5850 forget about one week, if you skip half day.... starts the drama... dhoom tana nana.... aarigamapadani
I can understand ur situation...... As I am not married...... But my grand mother used to do it with my mom........so I know this feeling of my mom very well......she shows as she had done all the work before my father when he comes backs to office............ So much drama for 24 years ...........now my grand ma has died 3 months ago.......
They dont want me to work as reporter... But my career in must... What should i do
do you sis at the end of the day you will need the cash
Keep working !
Yeah. Keep working because there lies your true happiness.
Keep working.
Before getting married make sure that you will live separately with your husband. It's such a headache to live with them. it's been 7 month to my marriage and I am taking medication for my anxiety because of them.
I don't quite agree with don't hear whats not been said. The way of saying and the body language conveys that even if the words are nothing bad, the message is quite mean..
Exactly
My inlaws are sucks. They hate me without a reason. What the hell. I can't understand why
What to do if your husband is always in your in laws side? And yoy are also living with your in laws who is always keep in looking something negative things against you? Is there any suggestion?
The best thing you said is, what is not said to you directly dnt assume it. Thanku, i will try mu best to follow it.
Who tf wants to live with in-laws ?
You are giving bad advice to the women why we women should sacrifice for selfish in-laws
In Laws have different rules and regulation for daughter and different for daughter in law
We live together we re happy accept them they will accept you,you can't always get your way but u can make your way by Making them understand
What about hypocrite in-laws?
I did and I never regretted something like this my life I even started to lose feelings for my husband it’s heartbreaking
if she is praising somebody else in front of me... its obvious that she is comparing me with that person and trying to say that I am not gud at it
Yes I agree , most of the time in laws comparing you with other even my mother in law do the same thing ...it's feel very painful
On top of that even imagine your boyfriend joining in saying about his sister in law she’s very talented
I agree
And they do this every alternate day... Inspite she is not good At all.. She herself never achieved anything great.. And compare us with others
My mother in law always praises her daughter and make me to feel that I am nothing in front of her. Daughter.
but when i speak with guardian .every family was interfere and they told if i do love marriage then what relationship says and and feel like guilty....so please u have any suggestion or idea so help it.
I feel bad after getting married.i wish I could live single fr good
Please stop that background music😢
Looking at the comments only I feel like exiting
WHAT TO DO WHEN A DAUGHTER-IN-LAW, ALONG WITH HER CHILDREN, GETS KICKED OUT OF THE IN-LAWS FAMILY HOUSE BY THE PARENT-IN-LAWS AFTER BEING ABANDONED BY HER HUSBAND ON THEIR TURF? ALL THIS AFTER NEGOTIATIONS BETWEEN THE PARTIES FAIL AND WHAT IS THE NEXT STEP FOR THE WOMAN?
Contact a lawyer. They will help you deal with the situation. In laws have no feeling for you. They just want you to serve them.
Always manipulative in laws
As a Muslim Pakistani woman i have the right to stay with my inlaws or have a separate home.my religion encourages and allows me to have a separate home and the husband have to provide it at any cost.so before i got married i asked my husband to buy a separate house for me.he bought it and after marriage i directly moved into it.i have very good relationship with my mother in law and we talk on phone almost every day.but my husband's sisters and bhabis are not good and try to complain my husband everytime that your wife never calls us and other small lies.but i simple ignore them.
Y such a bad back ground music
Please advice me my mother in law keep my baby away from she gives me only for feeding him please tell me how should I tell her I miss my baby
Grab him from her. Take responsibility urself, evenif you have to fight
Follow Mohanji blogs. Om Sairam. U will get your answer.
My mother in law directly says her daughter cooks well this dish and you can't and you won't
Let her cook. Better than the situation that they use you as their maid.
This generation is not to live as in laws , go for living together .
Enough now we will teach our sons to cook , no need of a girl to give child birth go for test tube baby
I would rather live on skid row than with an in law. My pockets are fat so that'll never happen. I'm trying to avoid them living with me.
Einstein was legend created theory of relativity, but failed in relationships, hard truth, so take it easy your life is yours and others so morale is LIVE AND LET LIVE
Never live with them is a nightmare
I don't knw what the problem between me and my in-laws....i always behave as they want ...never ever utter a single word in front of them.....but they what me to be friendly with them....and i think they will be able to tolerate my friendly nature ....i jst don't feel comfortable to talk to them
Pls Stop saying Ah A a in between your sentences!! It triggers my ocd so much😵😭
I really really like that thought that if it is not said you should not heard i think it can solve many many misunderstanding thankyou very much
Y music is so loud
Parents suffer ,they are older younger girls and son can try to understand then than compete.
My useless mil pretends to like me. I just let her know smtimes I know that she doesn't like me.
I don't even Live with my parents why tf would I want to live with my wife's family 😒
I am from US
And putting up with all this
Very sad
What do you mean by keeping boundaries?? Can u plz elaborate it.
Bullshit
Important information but background music is too high
Worst pandemic ever and none of my inlaws contracted covid-19 virus. It’s been 8 months ffs. I must be the luckiest guy alive
Not to live with your in laws no matter what ...
My wife will have to stay or will get divorced my dad and me both are judge I will sue her from my property with ease
background music is so annoying
not helpfull
True
I'm stuck with my in laws and my husband don't want to live alone 😔
Living alone is so dangerous in our Indian society, always live in big family, unity is strength or your neighbors and society wil make you suffer. This is india, here people start dominating others once they get that the other is weak and alone.
Women... Please marry men who are from orphanage and who have no family.
Don't seperate Husband's blood relations.
U have no sympathy
R u 3rd gend***
Men.. Please marry girl from orphanage don't separate their blood relations.
@@aditibisht22 right, separating a woman from her family is ok for these hypocrite.
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Hearing things that aren't said. Good advise. Thanks