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When a woman goes cold its wise to talk about it with numerous direct factual examples on the behavioral/attitude change. Ask them if they want to end the relationship. Then, mention sometimes people don't want to consciously end things but they subconsciously want to and then very slowly carry out the unwind. Assuming you really didn't do anything relationship endingly wrong that explains the coldness, she will hopefully realize by the above questions that she is actually functionally doing the slow break up and hopefully she will come to some kind of insightful realization of her more core needs and motives and then discuss them with you. There could possibly be dozens of reasons for the coldness and you cant read her mind to figure out the depths of her subconscious psychology. One possibility is that she hasn't been "FEELING" loved and cherished. When a woman doesn't feel cherished, not necessarily your fault, she will frequently loose her emotional connection and eventually her love for the guy. Rich, the things that get a man and woman together in the beginning aren't enough to keep things together. A woman can have burning desire for a perfect alpha male but she will eventually long to FEEL cherished, intertwined, connected, loved, and valuable. If this feeling isn't created in her, by a man skilled in doing so, then she will be in a state of hoping and then mild irritation for a long time until she subconsciously sees the relationship as an irritant, even though she consciously still wants the relationship, for now. When they go cold its important to have the talk, express your care, and send her off to a therapist if she cant consciously explain and correct her behavior change. Keeping in mind, most behavior change is subconsciously driven/motivated and its common for a woman to not understand the psychological mechanics of her internal drive changes. So, she wont have the insights or articulation to be able to tell you distinctly the feeling she is craving and how you can make her feel that. On a side note: I knew a guy who was a skilled playboy. He wasn't alpha at all but he was very naturally relational and could easily make women feel loved, understood, un-conditionally un-judged, and he was very sensitive to their smallest of mood changes and would mention it so they felt like he knew them better than they knew themselves. All his sensitivity was nearly like mind reading so he was a big time player.
Patrice O'Neal had a great take on this,"women can't function when they think you don't care if they go or stay."Comfort is a relationship killer for them regardless of what they say.
Most men deal with it because of emotional attachment and it's such a process to replace her. I know I've been there, but being able to walk away is a must as a man.
Been there several times. Always stayed too long. When being with a woman starts to turn you into something you don’t like, whether you love her or not you have to take care of yourself first and leave.
I once had this happen to me and someone's advice was, " Don't chase her. Leave her and find a woman that looks at you with big puppy eyes". I thought it was overly simple advice, and I ignored and kept chasing. But these last few years have been with a woman who does look at me with big eyes. She always wants to be around me. She never ignores me. And when I look back at the girl I was chasing, I realize she was of low character and the man who gave me the advice to drop her and find a better was absolutely correct.
If she goes cold on you, that is her way of telling you she has no burning desire for you. Call it a day gents and move on.. the nxt stop for you is friend zone when it come to her
If she goes cold I've learned to distance myself and possibly leave. Usually women cheat with men they don't want a commitment with. Once you leave this cold type of woman they sometimes want to come back. No 2nd chances because she will repeat the cycle.
True, most women have plenty of options. Whenever they go cold, you know some dude already has their attention. And many guys make the mistake of just holding on and waiting for her to come back. They're simply cycling their options.
It means she’s already found your replacement and she’s setting you up to be the bad-guy so she can blame-shift her treachery on to you thereby absolving herself of any accountability for her actions.
come on Rich! speeking for myself if this happens then i'm moving on thanks for the smash I could care less what the reason is I refuse to put up with this behavior life is short. thanks love your videos.
Asking a woman a pointless question is a waste of your time. They won’t tell the truth, won’t correct the behavior and will blame you. If she pulls back, you pull back-forever
If she pulls away or goes cold, she’s seeing other guys. Do the same to her and start looking for someone else. Your mindset should be: “Let the best woman win.”
She does it because she wants YOU to break up with HER now. So you can either make her wish come true, or prove her wrong, because maybe she just didn't understand something about you.
@ because accepting the fact that the person you loved unconditionally for more than 2 decades in my case no longer wants a relationship with you it’s devastating. You’ve built a life, a family with person for so many years. It’s hard to accept
@dragonkoi100 life is hard to accept now. Look at what's going on in the world. I'm just saying, did you not see any red flags at all ?? Think about it I'm sure you did
After putting up with this for about 8 months and this after a 6 year relationship, I broke up with her and did exactly what Rich suggested. Another beautiful, complementary woman came into my life and it’s been so good… there is absolutely no reason to put with this sort of behavior. And furthermore there is no reason to be in a monogamous relationship with a women who is not affectionate and kind.
most people (male female) have really lame communication/interpersonal skills. look at yourself (and her), top 5 friends, family, job, hobbies, sports, health etc. Relationships are work but they shouldn't bring you down - they should compliment your life.
I think a very important part of your answer is this: you don’t need to tell women what to do, just tell them what you will do if they start doing or stop doing certain things. If they decide to start smoking, you will leave, if they decide they have to go out with the girls you will leave. Don’t say you may not go out with the girls, say a woman that goes out with her, girlfriends to the bars would not work for me.
All that stuff he listed for holding up your end of the bargain. Really, how long are you going to be able to keep that up for? Is it really worth it for the adulation of a woman? If you let any one of them slip, can you expect the worst? I understand that they’re kind of good for you anyway, but at the same time, there’s a joy in letting your hair down, and not giving a fxxx about it all. At least sometimes.
My wife always does this anytime I try to talk through a difficult situation as a means to work through it together. It drives me fucking nuts especially because I’m just trying to work it out without any judgement and to be fair. It is a major turnoff and I find it to be totally immature. The thing is, she’s does it for a few days and then it goes away, but it sure sucks well it’s going on. Ironically i literally did every step this video said to do before I randomly came across it today and she still claims everything is fine. I just think she’s hurt but I don’t give a shit. I was fair. At this point if she wants to walk I don’t give a shit. She needs to grow up and stop playing college musical at 38.
I always subscribed to the idea of communicating my wants, needs, and boundaries. I learned quickly if a woman is compatible with me just by speaking up.
You have to lead and start the conversation. Honest, direct, no blablabla, but yet friendly and treat her well. Could be some misunderstanding etc. Be responsable and clarify the situation, take responsability and be the boss. She will usually honor it and be more comitted to you.
Sounds like all the women in US and CAN you dealing with are somehow bad.. interesting, how you get to level to get that qualiti women around you.. maybe that is telling something about yourself....
Damn all these topics that this guy talks about goes both ways if you’re a dude and you’re not holding up your bargain guess what partner your ass is gone probably
donate. Must say, i wonder what planet and where R operates. I just dont see this behavior in my world. Not saying it doesn't exist, i have just never witnessed it. Ghat being said, i don't hang out with trashy men or women. Sorry for whomever has to deal with these type of situations.
A bonsai tree, grows in worth as long as it is properly taken care of, some trees can be sold for millions of dollars. Its a good investment if you are willing to put in time and effort to learn the craft of maintaining the tree.
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When a woman goes cold its wise to talk about it with numerous direct factual examples on the behavioral/attitude change. Ask them if they want to end the relationship. Then, mention sometimes people don't want to consciously end things but they subconsciously want to and then very slowly carry out the unwind. Assuming you really didn't do anything relationship endingly wrong that explains the coldness, she will hopefully realize by the above questions that she is actually functionally doing the slow break up and hopefully she will come to some kind of insightful realization of her more core needs and motives and then discuss them with you.
There could possibly be dozens of reasons for the coldness and you cant read her mind to figure out the depths of her subconscious psychology. One possibility is that she hasn't been "FEELING" loved and cherished. When a woman doesn't feel cherished, not necessarily your fault, she will frequently loose her emotional connection and eventually her love for the guy.
Rich, the things that get a man and woman together in the beginning aren't enough to keep things together. A woman can have burning desire for a perfect alpha male but she will eventually long to FEEL cherished, intertwined, connected, loved, and valuable. If this feeling isn't created in her, by a man skilled in doing so, then she will be in a state of hoping and then mild irritation for a long time until she subconsciously sees the relationship as an irritant, even though she consciously still wants the relationship, for now. When they go cold its important to have the talk, express your care, and send her off to a therapist if she cant consciously explain and correct her behavior change. Keeping in mind, most behavior change is subconsciously driven/motivated and its common for a woman to not understand the psychological mechanics of her internal drive changes. So, she wont have the insights or articulation to be able to tell you distinctly the feeling she is craving and how you can make her feel that. On a side note: I knew a guy who was a skilled playboy. He wasn't alpha at all but he was very naturally relational and could easily make women feel loved, understood, un-conditionally un-judged, and he was very sensitive to their smallest of mood changes and would mention it so they felt like he knew them better than they knew themselves. All his sensitivity was nearly like mind reading so he was a big time player.
Ignore her completely and start dating other women, is how you deal with it.
😂😂😂👍
Facts!
Terrible advice from Rich this time
100%
How to deal with it. Ask her.Wasss up ??
real
Dealing with cold women: tip toe backwards and never look back. They are DAMAGED.
My mother could be cold at times. I think there was some damage there.
When are women goes cold, STOP THE RELATIONSHIP. LET IT END. BECAUSE ITS ALREADY OVER.
Patrice O'Neal had a great take on this,"women can't function when they think you don't care if they go or stay."Comfort is a relationship killer for them regardless of what they say.
I also heard him drop a good nugget of wisdom once - they're not loveable, they're leaveable.
Most men deal with it because of emotional attachment and it's such a process to replace her. I know I've been there, but being able to walk away is a must as a man.
Yes, I agree.
Been there several times. Always stayed too long. When being with a woman starts to turn you into something you don’t like, whether you love her or not you have to take care of yourself first and leave.
Absolutely.
Never ever cohabitate or marry or breed with a woman! It puts you under her control…
I've come to the stunning realization that most women are like big children.
I once had this happen to me and someone's advice was, " Don't chase her. Leave her and find a woman that looks at you with big puppy eyes". I thought it was overly simple advice, and I ignored and kept chasing. But these last few years have been with a woman who does look at me with big eyes. She always wants to be around me. She never ignores me. And when I look back at the girl I was chasing, I realize she was of low character and the man who gave me the advice to drop her and find a better was absolutely correct.
You Dont- You Walk Away.
Less is more for a women - Darius M i.e.reverse psychology works for women
Take a hint and realize she just aint into you
100% Bye Felicia!!
til they breadcrumb ya, and the punnnanie is good, most would go back....freaking simps!!
9 times out of 10 they’re just miserable people
RED FLAG moment.
Show her you have strong will power to walk away and not coming back.
If she goes cold on you, that is her way of telling you she has no burning desire for you. Call it a day gents and move on.. the nxt stop for you is friend zone when it come to her
If she goes cold I've learned to distance myself and possibly leave. Usually women cheat with men they don't want a commitment with. Once you leave this cold type of woman they sometimes want to come back. No 2nd chances because she will repeat the cycle.
True, most women have plenty of options. Whenever they go cold, you know some dude already has their attention. And many guys make the mistake of just holding on and waiting for her to come back. They're simply cycling their options.
Women go cold because someone else is getting the warm fuzzies she used to direct your way.
@@splashmoby so true, and if they do come back it’s because that Chad is done with them.
@@splashmoby 100%
@@cbxxb4841 so true my friend 100%
It means she’s already found your replacement and she’s setting you up to be the bad-guy so she can blame-shift her treachery on to you thereby absolving herself of any accountability for her actions.
A possibility.
@@chriskitchen4772 THE possibility
This is so accurate 😂
With my experience. If she goes dark and cold. She's getting ready to leave you
Brilliant stuff, Rich! You're right, if she expresses "contempt" for you....pack it up 'cause it's OVER.
come on Rich! speeking for myself if this happens then i'm moving on thanks for the smash I could care less what the reason is I refuse to put up with this behavior life is short. thanks love your videos.
Asking a woman a pointless question is a waste of your time. They won’t tell the truth, won’t correct the behavior and will blame you.
If she pulls back, you pull back-forever
When she’s cold God is blessing you.
Run!
"cold woman"- oh, you mean a wife?
Ha-ha !!! Good one. You deserve a reward for that one.
Indifference is the best move
If she pulls away or goes cold, she’s seeing other guys. Do the same to her and start looking for someone else.
Your mindset should be: “Let the best woman win.”
If she turns cold buy her a bonsai tree.
She does it because she wants YOU to break up with HER now. So you can either make her wish come true, or prove her wrong, because maybe she just didn't understand something about you.
This. And breakup with her is exactly what I did.
It’s especially difficult when you’ve been in a relationship with this person for almost 20 years
How is it difficult ?she's going to walk away very soon or cheat... when a woman goes cold we know that we don't want you anymore
@ because accepting the fact that the person you loved unconditionally for more than 2 decades in my case no longer wants a relationship with you it’s devastating. You’ve built a life, a family with person for so many years. It’s hard to accept
@dragonkoi100 life is hard to accept now. Look at what's going on in the world. I'm just saying, did you not see any red flags at all ?? Think about it I'm sure you did
It's a signal to dump her and move on.
Those are beautiful Bonsai trees in the back seat.
I'm glad I'm not the only one appreciating those bonsai!
Finally, a comment that isn't part of the echo chamber.
This one is easy ..if you had options you wouldn’t even care
Most guys don't have any options.
@@miamitrancemissions6425men do have
Abundance mindset
Dude is always on the ball.
😂😂
Isn’t a cold woman a redundant term?
I was dating someone for four months. Went cold and it ended. She is sending breadcrumb messages occasionally now.
Me too.
After putting up with this for about 8 months and this after a 6 year relationship, I broke up with her and did exactly what Rich suggested. Another beautiful, complementary woman came into my life and it’s been so good… there is absolutely no reason to put with this sort of behavior. And furthermore there is no reason to be in a monogamous relationship with a women who is not affectionate and kind.
Ain’t no one talking about the garden in the back of his car 😂😂
When a woman turns cold you just mirror her behavior.
It's after all the woman who wants the LTR usually. If not so any longer, so be it.
Mirror, so if she sobbing you're gonna sob too? You'll be manic and making incomprehensible statements..
That's stupid advice.
@@daves2822 key word "cold". Where did you get him saying when she sobs to mirror her?
This conversation/topic can go both ways for men and women
I noticed the real beauty in the back there. When is Rich gonna make an "Entrepreneurs and Bonsais" channel? 😅
Let her go. Seriously, let her go.
And, tell us about that bonsai tree you got there, Rich!
The power of walking away to get what you want!
Hey rich, whats your opinion on the book " the manipulated man " by esther vilar?
That's quite a remarkable book.
most people (male female) have really lame communication/interpersonal skills. look at yourself (and her), top 5 friends, family, job, hobbies, sports, health etc. Relationships are work but they shouldn't bring you down - they should compliment your life.
Never chase them she will call the police file a report just to get a government 💰 handout
Looks like Porsche is going overboard with their add-ons these days. A bonsai tree in the back seat must add at least 7 extra horsepower! 👍
Is it a Porsche or an Audi? (I know, I know; 2 cheeks of the same arse)
I totally agree with you, Rich. Men should hold women accountable for the way they want to be treated.
Yes, but the problem is THEY DON'T WANT TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE.
@chriskitchen4772 The secret is, you have to be willing to walk away if they don't want to play by your rules
Punt. I did 7 months ago after 6 years together
Don't. Walk away and find someone else.
I think a very important part of your answer is this: you don’t need to tell women what to do, just tell them what you will do if they start doing or stop doing certain things. If they decide to start smoking, you will leave, if they decide they have to go out with the girls you will leave. Don’t say you may not go out with the girls, say a woman that goes out with her, girlfriends to the bars would not work for me.
All that stuff he listed for holding up your end of the bargain. Really, how long are you going to be able to keep that up for? Is it really worth it for the adulation of a woman? If you let any one of them slip, can you expect the worst? I understand that they’re kind of good for you anyway, but at the same time, there’s a joy in letting your hair down, and not giving a fxxx about it all. At least sometimes.
“Waiter, check please.” Leave
Am i the only one staring at that bonsai tree.
My wife always does this anytime I try to talk through a difficult situation as a means to work through it together. It drives me fucking nuts especially because I’m just trying to work it out without any judgement and to be fair. It is a major turnoff and I find it to be totally immature. The thing is, she’s does it for a few days and then it goes away, but it sure sucks well it’s going on. Ironically i literally did every step this video said to do before I randomly came across it today and she still claims everything is fine. I just think she’s hurt but I don’t give a shit. I was fair. At this point if she wants to walk I don’t give a shit. She needs to grow up and stop playing college musical at 38.
Our Puritan ancestors knew how to warm 'em up.
Sean connery tactic ?
great clip
Is it worth the squeeze, though 🤔
Most of us cant get numbers or dates so its scarcity on our end. Most of us are not millionaires like rich
Yes, many men will put up with this behaviour.
Whis the bonsai tree for?
You don’t deal. You stay high level so you can get another one. Having a passport ready never hurt either
You forget about her and get an escort for the night
Just for the hour, that'll do!
Go to Germany or Costa Rica. Best escorts in the world for sure.
Rich is right, he's being polite compared to the old days, a man would have been like, "smarten the fk up or pack your shit"!!
Cruising in a SQ5?
I always subscribed to the idea of communicating my wants, needs, and boundaries. I learned quickly if a woman is compatible with me just by speaking up.
My wife is like this!
3 plants in the back there haha
Thank you
-34 year old single man.
You have to lead and start the conversation. Honest, direct, no blablabla, but yet friendly and treat her well. Could be some misunderstanding etc. Be responsable and clarify the situation, take responsability and be the boss. She will usually honor it and be more comitted to you.
She went cold because she thinks she can do better and another guy is already mixing her guts and blowing her back out.
Warm beer cold women ! A Tom Waits song .
Stop giving her attention, and start flirting with other women in front of her 🤷🏾♂️😂
Like Tampo in the Phils. Head problems.
If you are the one that screwwed up?😢
Great video.
Is that bonzai tree in the back Richsan?
Nope. I’m bouncing.
Wash your motorcycle carbs in the kitchen sink.
or buy a new one with fuel injection...
@@John_Wood_ Yes, buy a new motorcycle and park it in the living room.
LEAVE and walk away.
Just walk away
No relationships, no marriage for wamen
And no wives or children for men. Dysfunctional society.
❤Bonsai tree😍
But why has she gone cold…
She went cold because she thinks she can do better and another guy is already mixing her guts and blowing her back out.
That's your cue to go look for another warm body haha.
...don t!
what if the woman is your daughter? Same rules?
Most guys aren't smashing their daughters.
Bonzai Tree Mr. Miyagi and Daniel-san.
Go fishing.
Narcissistic mind games…
Women will do this if you simp. IMHO this rarely happens if she knows she’s not priority number 1 .
Don't
This is hilarious.
Don’t waste your time.
whys this d giving advice about chicks
Sounds like all the women in US and CAN you dealing with are somehow bad.. interesting, how you get to level to get that qualiti women around you.. maybe that is telling something about yourself....
Damn all these topics that this guy talks about goes both ways if you’re a dude and you’re not holding up your bargain guess what partner your ass is gone probably
Yeah but guys don't constantly say they are unhappy for no reason.
Snakeoil 😂
donate. Must say, i wonder what planet and where R operates. I just dont see this behavior in my world. Not saying it doesn't exist, i have just never witnessed it. Ghat being said, i don't hang out with trashy men or women. Sorry for whomever has to deal with these type of situations.
Your lucky, I think it happens a lot.
What sort of alpha male has plants in his car?
"Richie, can you pick up some plants for me, baby?"
A bonsai tree, grows in worth as long as it is properly taken care of, some trees can be sold for millions of dollars.
Its a good investment if you are willing to put in time and effort to learn the craft of maintaining the tree.
Don't have time for that
A cultured alpha male. One that is trying to make $hit heads wise to the female nature.
Most do. I’m at Home Depot weekly and often have plants or mulch or rocks.
That wad an interesting English flag in the back ground.
Get RID of her
Just ignore cold(or acting like cold) women
She went cold because she thinks she can do better and another guy is already mixing her guts and blowing her back out.