1 Corinthians 7:3-4 - What Is My Right Over My Spouse's Body & What Are My Conjugal Responsibilities
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- In this episode, Nathan and Andrea consider Paul's writing to us in 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 where Paul talks about our responsibility with regards to our spouse's "conjugal rights" and the authority that we have over our spouse's body. So which takes precedent? Our responsibilities or our rights? How you answer that says everything you need to know about the direction of your marriage. Let's get into that!
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The entire point is that you can't sort it out. I hear it all the time. They blame the husband for having a self-control issue. As if self-control was something you could have or work toward.
That's not how the gifts of the Spirit work.
"but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control...I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another."
If you don't have self-control, then that's because the Holy Spirit deliberately wanted it that way. He did not give it out.
1 Corinthians 12:11 " All these are empowered by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually as he wills."
It's perfectly okay not to have self-control in a marital context; that's the entire reason why Paul made the concession.
1 Corinthians 12:29-30 (NIV): "Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all have gifts of healing? Do all speak in tongues? Do all interpret?"
It's God's will that some men just don't have the gift of self-control in regard to conjugal rights. It's a right. Why? The answer is probably just as simple as "Be fruitful and multiply.", "A wife is saved through child-bearing." , and "An elder must be blameless, faithful to his wife, a man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient."
Listen. If you own your house, aren't you allowed to go in whenever you please? And if you own your car, are you not allowed to drive it whenever you please? If you're hungry, do you have to consult your mouth to eat food? And if you go to the bathroom, no matter how undignified, do you have to ask your hand to wipe? A wife does not have authority to say no to hanky-panky. Her body is not her own. You are one flesh. The man is the head of his wife. His wife is his body and his glory. Do you know what it's called when your body doesn't obey your head? Paralysis. If not, multiple sclerosis. If I demand my hand to do something undignified, doesn't it do even that without resisting? How much more so do I have a right to demand of my body that which is Holy and commanded by God?
"Love your wife like you love your body." True, yet use your body according to it's purpose. You don't need permission. If you have a toothache, do you stop eating? If a man's other body doesn't obey him, that's a shameful thing, and not on his behalf. You both got married because you had no self-control in the first place; both of you. You made this marital bed, now you have to sleep in it.
Vice versa, but men are not challenged by this as much, generally. If a woman wants children, a man has no right to abstain. Yet, men are faithful to God's call to fruitfulness; I don't know what the ladies' problem is. Probably something to do with:
“I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing;
in pain you shall bring forth children.
Your desire shall be contrary to[f] your husband,
but he shall rule over you.”"
" 5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."
Read verse 5. How does that say consent works? " Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time,". Ah, so you have to have your spouse's consent for abstinence. You need you're spouse's consent NOT TO HAVE sex. Now, I'm not saying that marital r@pe is not a thing. Obviously not. I'm saying it works opposite than how you think it works. By abstaining from sex, you rape your spouse and their righteousness. If you're married, self-control is not an option. It's either self-control, or marriage. And because it works like that, you force you spouse into a decision. "I don't have self-control. Do I A. Commit Adultery, which jeopardizes my eternity, or do I B. Do what God has entitled me and encouraged me to do at the risk of going to jail?" The choice is clear, and if you send your spouse to jail because you're lazy or a little achy, because you have a bad attitude about the rights you signed away in the marital contract, then you have destroyed your spouse? They are suffering for righteousness sake, and you caused it. Do you not think God will hold you accountable? Otherwise, if they choose option A., you have caused one of God's children to stumble, and it would be better for you to be drowned with a millstone around your neck.
Like, this is obvious, right? God has just blinded you or hardened your hearts if you don't understand this. Why do you choose to see God's clear message breathed by the Spirit in His Scriptures through the myopic lens of your own carnal comforts except that God purposefully designed women to be disobedient so that we can see the way we act to Him. You'd have better luck seeing the truth by looking through a dirty sock. If you believe this nonsense, you do not love your spouse, you do not hunger for holiness/righteousness, and you do not love God. And that's what it's all about. Our relationship to our spouse is supposed to reflect the Church's relationship with Christ.
Say the Lord tapped you on the shoulder and told you to go plant a seed in a stranger. Do you have the right to say no? Why would you even think of it? Even if you're sick, you surely have no right. Didn't Paul and Epaphroditus minister in sickness and in weakness, with fear and trembling. Your heart in this issue of Corinthians 7 reflects your heart toward God. If you think you have a right to withhold your body from your husband, then you think you have a right to withhold ministry from the Lord. That's the point. Get your heart right. Pray God will have mercy and perhaps give you a new one. Hunger for righteousness. Love your spouse. Their salvation is more important than your comfort. Period.
He was literally speaking about sex. That was the context of the question. Read the king James. It’s not difficult to understand what he was saying.
I agree, but I believe it is reasonable to ask the question of whether sex was the ONLY thing that Paul was talking about. I think an honest reading of this passage - EVEN the KJV ("due benevolence") - raises the question of whether Paul was using a bit of double meaning to underscore his point - which is clearly that husbands and wives should be considering their spouse's needs and wellbeing FIRST. What do you think about that?
Praise God for satisfying marriages! I therefore bind to hell every desire to abuse one's conjugal rights towards one's god-ordained spouse while binding one to desire to understand and discern what are and what are not one's conjugal rights in marriage in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with anyone desiring to abuse one's conjugal rights while lacking to understand and discern what are one's conjugal rights in marriage and what are not, in accordance with this word and 1 corinthians 7:3-4, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah, glory to God ❤!
Thank you so much for this podcast. You'll never know how much I needed to see this. God Brought this to me in a time that I really needed to see it.
I'm still learning His Word and this has helped me learn and understand things so much. I know that God wants me to marry a man who loves Him and wants me to be with a man who loves me in this way. I'm just trying to learn and navigate this while trying to learn His Word in the process.
I've been very sick for a long time and was abandoned by my first husband because of my sickness. God has taught me forgiveness and I have forgiven him and the women involved.
Can you PLEASE pray for me? I have lost several people this week and I'm struggling in a current relationship. I only want to do what's right for Him. Jesus is my rock and I don't want to disappoint Him.
I want to learn His Word, I just struggle to remember things due to a brain disease that I've been battling over 20 years. I've had 3 brain surgeries and will be having another one if the pressure in my brain ever goes up again because the shunt in my brain is currently broken. I have an angiogram coming up soon and may have to have a Stent put in due to a possible narrow sinus in my brain that they saw on my MRI.
I know that the enemy attacks me, but Jesus has been watching out for me my whole life. I KNOW THAT! I'm just in a place right now where I need to make sure that I don't let the enemy guide me away from Him. Can you please pray for me?
Thank you again for this podcast. I'll be watching it again and taking notes. May God Bless you both.
Good morning @TheChellebelle0621! We just wanted to reach out to you and see how everything is going for you??? We are so grateful that God led you to our channel. In a very real sense, we are ALL learning God's Word together. That will be a life long commitment so take courage that you will continue on your journey of seeking Him all of your life! We are so sorry to hear about your losses and your abandonment. Do not lose sight of your true Protector and Provider. God is committed to loving and pursuing you just the way you need to be loved and pursued. Cling tight to Him and He will make straight your paths in His timing. Please let us know if we can do anything to help. Until then, see you next Monday on the pod!
--Nathan & Andrea