Black Men Are Finally Speaking Up!
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- Опубліковано 19 вер 2024
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"We need to prioritize her interests, feelings, and her needs... EVEN IF SHE DOESN'T EXIST YET"
BARS!
An SWP sighting!!! Glad you are an "official" part of the Manosphere!!
Happy wife happy life😏 even if your not happy 🙄
Wow this is essentially Black men publicly protesting by walking out. This is pretty huge. Hope it spreads.
I walked out in the 1990s when I started dating foreign women at 18 yrs old. Early 2000s I moved to Japan. I refuse to date westernized women, even if they're fit, childless and 21-24 yrs old. The wall is 25 yrs old for women here in Japan.
That was so disrespectful to treat those men like that.
I can just imagine the embarrassment those women felt when those men walked out of the church.
Good for them in taking that action.
Exactly. I remember telling family its not my responsibility to carry everyone else and you should've seen the faces
Its like asking the brothers in the church to finish eating somebody else plate with the same fork or spoon.
😂
But pay the full check.
You’re right, generation X was not encouraged to date women who weren’t moms. At least that was my experience.
I co-sign.
In many respects we didn’t have a choice.
It seemed by the time I reached my early 20’s in the early 90’s nearly all the women in our age range ALREADY had children.
Much like Dr. T Hassan Johnson I had the same experiences. I married a single mother( 1 child, that was my limit)
Because, that was the expectation of the men of our generation ~
You generation was sold a bill of goods
It wasn't until you,Kevin Samuel and others started putting numbers up ,giving words of wisdom and life experiences. Men would be stuck with the stereotypes of all black men having kids,you need to marry single mothers and the shaming languages,we would still be lost.
Tommy Sotomayor also stated that LONG TIME ago
Too antagonistic
@@loucypherdamorningstar honesty hurts
Brutal honesty only stings those who hate the Truth.
We been speaking up.
Yes but not in this large numbers!
@@johnnyblaze8090 And in a wide audience.
You and Tommy Curry, PhD are waking us up and giving us courage. Thx Doc.
“Black Men stand up and walk the F*** out!”
BRAVO to those brothers! Now the sane actions need to be taken when they find themselves in a nice restaurant, and silly sisters get the urge to twerk…stand up , pay your bill, and walk out! Even if-ESPECIALLY if- it’s the date or mate you came in with!✊🏽
Amen
Noo, do not pay for your meal. Thts th statement tht needs to be made and to specifically state tht its thise women tht is making your meal uncomfortable!! Enough bros did tht and they will get th messages.
Well…paying for your meal IS the proper thing to do, since you DID already order the meal, I presume.
However, if music is being played, and one or 2 grown females suddenly jump up on the tables to twerk, you guys would show class with a capitol “C” stand up calmly and quietly stand up, signal to the waiter/ hostess that you’d like to pay your bill and leave! If the lady you came with feels indignation or embarrassed and doesn’t follow your lead tell her she can find another way home!
THAT would also show you immediately whether she is on the same page as you, by the way!
You’re welcome! 🤟🏾💕
They “Manned up” alright and walked out! 👍🏾. And what makes them good?
The nerve of that pastor.
The topic of your conversation, you are speaking about my entire life as a man 2 marriages 6 step children and my mind set was to make the lives of these women better and in both cases I was nothing more than an replacement to fill a void in their lives nothing more, I'm glad your here to educate young black men
Damn! Well knew it’s your time. Self improvement and live your happiness, good brother!
Thanks Dr. Johnson! Very strong and Direct conversation. I am completely in that place NOW!! It took me a while to understand that I am VALUABLE as a BLACK MAN....never was taught that growing up? But, I have embraced it fully as a SUCESSFUL BLACK MAN...I operate now from a position of Knowledge, Insight and Understanding...keep up the great work! I appreciate your passion and LOVE for the BLACK MAN!!
Wow, 😳. This is eye-opening. I’ll be sure to pass this one on to my sons and nephews. Thanks Dr. J!
Appreciate you spreading the word and I’m doing the same.
Greatly appreciated.
Anyone that hasn't heard of it, I highly recommend the movie, Diary of a Tired Black Man.
That was a good movie. I saw it some time back.
Hey! I saw that here on UA-cam! It's pretty good! Yes, everyone (bw included) need to see it!
Right no microwave family for me, you stick it in you hear a bing noise and you have instant family.
This is what hurts us brothers the most. Like you said Dr. nobody talks to us about this. Nobody told us hey start your own family we just accepted another kid and took the responsibility.
This is not deep info. You can start a family if you wish yes.
Dude Latinos, African ,Caribbeans & Afrolatinos immigrants ... ALL KNEW THIS .
I don't understand how ADOS men didn't know this .
Deception is warfare.
Very powerful. I love to hear stuff like this and I do believe that you deserve some credit with all of this as well doctor keep doing what you doing
Good on those brothers for walking out on that pastor.... and BOO HISS to that preacher...BTW, what did he say to those single mothers?
I'll WAIT.
He probably shrugged his shoulders, threw up his hands, looked up at the ceiling and said
“ We’ll lord…I tried”’ 🤷🏽♀️
@@patriciacoley3801 I'll give you that one! Good reply! LOL!😆
@@Saintnix69 Then after services all the women ganged up on him behind closed doors and accused him of not being a REAL man , because a REAL man would've made those brothers do what he said. HAHA! And he'd deserve that treatment too, for trying to pull that crap!
Excellent vid, Dr. Johnson! Kudos to those brothers that refused to be "saddled" up by that crooked a$$ "pastor/bishop", and left that dysfunctional church.
99% of black churches are the definition of dysfunction and mediocrity. Just walk out WITH YOUR WALLET and never go back. The rot in the so called black church is just too deep and cant and will never be fixed.
@@davidhunter1424 Exactly!
@@JohnSmith-or8rh If you want to research something that make your blood boil, look up Michigan's dad's by default law and the Duluth model. Make sure that you're in a calm mindset before you do. Do me a favor and pass it on.
My mother and grandmother always told me that you DON'T want to date women with children. So I have always had that in my head. Although, I've dated a couple women with kids in my early 20's, I can see what they were talking about.
Straight fire Dr. T. Hasan Johnson!!👏🏾👏🏾 It's funny how the points you touched on mirrors my life and hardships.
That was BEAUTIFUL. 👏🏾. I have never considered fathering someone else’s kids. When reality struck me that statistically it was not probable for me to enjoy my own homegrown family (in the black community), the red pill so-to-speak hit me.
As a Black father who has a son, I'd made sure he knows the *game of these single mothers and to not wife them or leave his seeds in them.* Its imperative that more fathers *got to schooled* their sons on female nature.
I'm about the same age as you Doc and I remember that mindset in the community about single mothers too! The only thing that made me not accept it was both sides of my married parents families did not participate in this dysfunction so I was made to not accept it by them. My parents would have disowned me if I brought home or even dated a baby momma!
As I mentioned before, as a brother born in the 70’s by the time I reached my mid 20’s over 70% of Black women already had children. The options were extremely limited for many of us. I applaud your parents for their efforts. Although I came from a two parent household, I didn’t have many choices to date women without children. With me, I was always encouraged to find a sister, if I had the wherewithal and information available now, I probably would’ve dated and married outside my race. Instead I married a single mother with one child, and had two other with her. Now divorced and paying a sizable chunk of child support, I’ll make certain my sons won’t go down the same path as I did. I started talking to them about this issue at early ages. Reinforcing to them to invest and themselves and DON’T ever date or procreate with a single mother! Period!
@@mobrown1198 I've known several brothas like you over the years and virtually none of those situations turned out well. I said on another channel that the pickings were slim for average brothas to begin with in our communities at that time between all of the baby mommas and the sistas fighting over the dope boys so I did not do a lot of dating. Then I went to college and the whole world opened up to me that growing up in an all black community never afforded me. Dating out allowed me to NEVER, EVER consider baby mommas as a viable option nor masculine women with poor attitudes.
Step Fathers saved so many families back in the day, but todays women are not worth the risk or effort they have devalued themselves in relationships, marriages, and companionship.
Personally I saw so many stepfather being destroyed and wasting all their life trying to save a single mom that's crazy
Step fathers saved nothing. That is not the standard paradigm.
@@troywest1724 Do you not think that this is what bw want, and dream about.
@@troywest1724 BW are now facing a quandary, bm are 😷 sick of them, and wm don't want them.
10:20 I agree, nobody tells you about choice. You are told you're not a real man or you hate blk women if you're not interested in raising someone else's kid
I was raised by the silent generation and having children out of wedlock is not tolerated.
For me by mid school, i had learned that i couldn't trust or depend on others. My mom had 6 kids, i am the 3th child, the 2nd boy, one uncle on moms side.My dad was alcoholic older man. Lucky a boys club opened in my neighborhood. It exposed my to a much broader world. Nobody took the time to find out who I was. I think they thought I don't need help, I was not going to ask for help, I would never show weakness, too dangerous. I thought They just assumed that I'm less than they are. l assumed that if i let them have that they would be friendly. I grow fast and strong no one noticed my cognitive abilities. I could sense danger at a young age but I wasn't afraid, Being attacked at school wasnt addressed because i thought i would be blamed. Later in life I realized my family had to have heard that I fought 4 boys at school that day. I knew i was on my own. The final analysis was that because I don't cowl in the attack, the individual attackers became afraid of retribution. The truth is I was not interested in fighting. I eventually valued them more than myself, I thought if they come at me in a group of 5 or more i would need to put them down in a way that they couldnt continue. I thought that without help i may do the unthinkable. I thought that these boy could growup to be better people, it's impossible to take everyone on, I would lose eventually. I already thought that they must be better than me. They could have a chance in life. I didnt want to be harming people because I was duel a shitty hand. I learned to avoid them, i saw education as a chance early enough. I made good sound life decisions because I believe that I don't have a support system, if I fail there will be no rescue attempt. When I graduated HS I joined the military. THE TRAINING was partially TOP SECRET. I now work as a Sr. Electrical Design Consultant on gov and commercial projects. People don't know what to think about the skills I display professionally. I must say that BLACK WOMEN stay clear of me. I dont understand why until social media showed me what's really happening. Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us.
Could you elaborate more on the reasons you believe bw stay away from you?
@Jarvis Addison; Are you kidding? The ones who were up to no good could sense that a brother like this was not to be messed with, so they wisely looked elsewhere for a sucker!
Ok Dr. T! You KNOW it’s crackin when Dr. T is dropping F-bombs. Love it. #DrTruth
This information could have done me a lot of good 30 years ago
I think the encouraging thing that is happening right now is more and more men in our community want to have standards. We should expand our reach moving forward and recognize that we will establish our principles, values and interest whether anyone or group wants to acknowledge it. Great Work As Always!!🤛🏽
Black have to have each others backs!
The women and the church has left us!!!
spread this message.....
Kudos to the brothers, for voting with their feet. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Can’t please everyone but who’s the FOOLS who disliked the video?
Those single mothers that were left in the church. Not just the one mentioned here in the video.
The “useful tool” was profound! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
A turning of the tide... I love it.
DR H, thanks for this brilliant video. You hit the nail on the head, "black men" in the United States are raised without standards. We accept anything and any type of women and this is why the Black manosphere is so important.
This is some Powerful Truth! As Always. Thank you
I would have left that church as well. Why should those 50 men have to clean up the mess those women volunteered for? Women need to understand that if they become single mothers. It will stop you from becoming a wife.
Your show is therapy for me! Thank you brother!💪🏾👍🏾🍻
Absolutely on point Dr. T. 👍👍 Thank you for your work, it's truly appreciated!
Super Facts...🙌
Excellent show! Thank you very much for articulating Black men's....i.e..OUR thoughts, needs, and interests Dr. T Hasan Johnson!💥✊👊🙏
Those Brothers Did What OBSIDIAN Called "Brothers Voting With Their Feet!"
Thank you, Doctor. I praise my God for this video because you address a subject very personal for me, spirituality and religiosity.
This is one of many other reasons why, I became a Hebrew Israelite 15 years ago!
Shameful!
It's possible that minister was put up to this nonsense by his wife and other female church leaders. The truth of the matter is, the families ( grandmoms, granddads, aunts, uncles, etc) of those single baby mommas are the ones that should realize it is THEIR responsibility to shoulder the burden of helping to raise those children. This is absolutely NOT the duty of single bm. Hopefully, many others will follow the example of these brave men! This is an amazing demonstration of self-love !! YAY!!!
One of the best channels on UA-cam for black men. Thank you 🙏🏾
Good I'm glad to hear that these brothers said no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The negatives will always outweigh the positives when seriously dealing with single mums. Always put yourself first and only take care of your own seeds.
Preach!!!!!!!!
Keep up the good work ! This a great podcast !
Preaching
Excellent video and analysis. I love the passion. Peace.
Thank you brother for this message. Wish I had it when I was a boy.
They need to shame the baby daddies to marrying their baby mommas instead of shaming good brothas to play the clean up man.
Ummm, nope! The churches need to shame the baby mommas for being baby mamas…like they USED to do!
Young black couple about to get married passes a horse farm. He envisions two horses preparing to accept the same yoke and share in the plowing. Meanwhile she's wearing jockey's silks, rider's crop in hand, preparing to throw a saddle on his back.
Should have never been there to begin with.
You mean all those baby mamas, I presume! Yeah, unless I was a widowed mother I wouldn’t have been caught dead attending church on THAT day!🤣
Further in my opinion this is called " the martyr syndrome ".
The martyr syndrome in my opinion is based on the religious belief of sacrifice for the sake of other's!
But this martyrdom is uniquely tied to how our manhood has been defined.
@@DrTHasanJohnson yes this is true!
We are the sacrifice now!!!!
Excellent! Sending this to my son. We’ll discuss it after he watches it.
Great content Dr.T. Hassan Johnson
Great commentary!
Dr. T. Hasan Johnson conveyed a reality that provokes a powerful view in the black man's perspective of choice. Thanks! We needed this.
Amen! When I returned home to my childhood church after graduating from college, I attended alone so that I was unrecognized due to me not standing next to my family members. After the third visit, I was painfully aware of how much I was avoided by the men there [who I'd never speak to outside of the church], and I was never welcomed in. There were attractive young women sitting in the front, but they appeared to have their own separate dynamic that I didn't care to figure out. I haven't been back to church since then. If my church [which is a good one based upon conversations with peers/friends] was that far off, then I can only imagine how bad it is elsewhere.
I fell into this myself.. I thought being a step father is the righteous thing to do.. Even though I love the child as if it’s mine and I have a biological child by the mother.. I come to realize I’m not appreciated..
I bet.
Yo Dr. Hasan, I believe my colleague Dr. Frazier was in the school of Africology Ph.D. program when you were there. He came out Yale and USF. You brothers are holding it down. Thoughtful words today. Thanks for the uplift. -Dr. G
I’m not sure we met… Thanks for your support!
@@DrTHasanJohnson on ok bruh. Keep it the good work.
Again brother your content hits home in ways that are a direct reflection of what I've been through in my life. Almost brought me to tears. Thank you for helping brothers like myself understand our value and showing that we have the right to express and voice our feelings!
Great Content Bro
I am almost certain that the post you read was in the comments section of the Kevin Samuels show called "Does The Black Church Want Black Men Back?"
He SHOULDA been advising them sisters to go make nice/make a deal with their children’s fathers. It’s crazy how they try to shame us into “bonus parenting” 🤦🏾♂️😂
Great topic and thx for encouragement as always👊🏽
I remember a similar story where the young man told his Pastor that "he'll Stoneleigh step up to a clean plate".
The bw got their butter biscuits. Now it’s our time to FEAST on the meals we desire. Don’t settle BM. Continue to drive your agenda and let the chips fall where they drop. SF
I believe Kevin Samuels is the impetus for black men finally speaking up.
One man can't speak for everyone. We can't let a individual represent us. We all have our own power to speak up. Agreeing with someone is fine but don't let them speak for you
@@Dabeast1911Que That's a narrow way of looking at things. Large corporations even have spokespeople.
Black Men Have been "Speaking Up" since Day one!
The Black Manosphere is the reason brothers are speaking up. A collective of voices, not just one.
Societal makeup is a key
This the stuff I wish I was told coming up.
The Comment May Have Come from a Post about "The Black Churches" on Dennis Spurling's Page.
Preach!!!!
Church is LGBTQ supportive!!!
Same for me doc when my dad was on crack in the late 80s my great aunt finished raising me who was an Evangelist her self to me a lot women would use pastors
Powerful.
No offense: Bishop, but that ain't in the Bible, stick to the text (scripture). It's nothing in the Bible that says marry a baby mama, whom possibly have at least 5+ bodies on them and been busted down and out for years...I'm sorry the Holy Ghost ain't told you that.
Doc, I want to add on to this great video. The church enables these single mothers with their 2, 3 or 4 kids. These women come to church and try to REINVENT themselves with the lord, hoping to find a sucker. Instead of chastising these women, the church puts pressure on these men to devalue themselves.
I am a Step Dad.. My baby went home to God just before he was born. I love being a step dad, however.... If I had the choice I would want my own Children
Nothing wrong with choosing to be a stepfather. It’s even better that you can be honest with yourself.
@@DrTHasanJohnson , Thank You. I appreciate your time.
@@pwhales264 you can still choose to have your own children
@@ernestocalderon3453 , 😊Yes, and No😔... Happy Father's Day Bro.
So the Bishop was pimping the congrebation?!!
All in the name of profit.
Nope it wasn't!!
So true!!!
I'm older than your average demo, but it never occurred to me and my single, childless friends to wife a chick who already had somebody else's kids. Now if you were divorced, with a kid, and she was divorced with a GOOD kid (or two), maybe then, but otherwise "No way Jose" (that's how we used to talk). When did these dudes get so whipped?
Betrayed too many times, won't listen to them.
Damn Good Expose: The KOSHER CLINICIAN. Options were never given, correct. A lot of good feedback from the show we did! Peace
I'm a Gen X man who married at an older age (37) by choice. I was childless and relatively successful; not to mention rather good looking (being modest). By the time I decided to marry, I assumed I'd marry a woman with children because the majority of women I came in contact with in my age range (27-35) already had children. Mind you, when I was younger, I wouldn't even date a woman with children, but by the time I was ready to marry, I felt like I had no choice. I love my wife (we had two more kids) but I never mince(d) words about what I think about having kids out of wedlock. 75% of women having kids out of wedlock has gotta stop. That's a big part of why the Black community is losing/dysfunctional. Black men have to require better of Black women. They do of us (even though some can't ask for it). That's the only way it's gonna change.
WOW!!
Really good talking points. I definitely seen the implications it had on the mind of so called black men.
Nice sword collection. 👍
Your talking about black women with kids out of wedlock. So a divorced black woman with a kid is ok to wife up? I'm confused😂
Why don't you ask Kevin Samuels why he says, "men who make under 50K typically go for single Moms." I say this because in past shows, when delusional, black, single mothers call Kevin's show, thinking they are entitled to high value men, Kevin tells these women not only don't they qualify for high value men but the men these women do qualify for are men making under 50K a year. Kevin literally tells these women, these are the kind of men that "go for you."
As a man who makes 45K a year, living on my own, no roommates, debt free, excellent credit, no kids, 6'5, in top shape, disciplined, and responsible, I don't want to marry a single Mom!