I just wish with all of my heart that more people around me would accept me more for who I am INCLUDING my autism. But now I'm almost completely off medication, I used to take 13 or more pills a day, Xanax and more of that type. I was a complete zombie but very unhappy. But I feel like some people are still trying to make me behave more like a neurotypical person, which is never going to happen because that's not how my brain is wired. I'm way happier now even if I go outside less often. I get overstimulated and that's what makes me nervous. I see so much in these children that I can understand, wish I could explain to more people.
My grandson was diagnosed a year ago and believe me I want to learn everything about it. So I help my son and his wife with this precious Angel 😇 and there’s nothing I could find out about him to stop me from loving him very very much ❤
Hello, my kid is 10 year old. He was diagnosed that he is in spectrum when he is 2.5 years We worked to help him adjust with the world and around 7 he started communicating with us. He is 10 years old now. I am his mother, he communicates well with me. And slowly learning to have conversations with others. He loves to have friends, but finds it a bit difficult to understand how to go about it. He found it very difficult understanding school last year ( not the academics, he does get that stuff and does ok in his tests) . But he prefers hands on learning to conventional education. But the place we are in doesn’t have many options for creative thinkers, application learners. Can you give me life through your eyes and what else I can do to help him manage this world ? I do see him processing lot of stuff before venturing into everyday life. And we both sit and discuss a lot about how to manage certain situations and reactions from people. But your inputs might help me more. Thanks a lot in advance.
Please dont take offence. I am just really interested in learning more about Autism being in the medical field. Is there a reason you dont like making eye contact? Are u just not able to? Like something wont let u?
@@1000greengirl I feel overstimulated when making eye contact so I dont do it. It feels like watching a tidal wave coming at you and the only way to stop it to look away.
I am a Special Needs Teacher and my class is 90% children with Autism, love then to bits and would not teach i a mainstream now, I also have 2 children of my own on the spectrum and would not change anything about them , they are fantastic. It is not always easy by any means , but it is amazing and I am always learning. I look for their strengths' and interests and build on those. It is sad to hear so much negativity.
As someone with autism, i have great difficulties with the use of the sentences "something wrong with the child" when they are discussing the possibility or the existence of autism on a particular child. It makes me sad that none of the parents uses a frase like "there's something DIFFERENT with my child. None of those childen are wrong, they just have developed a different brain.😢
My father had Asperger's Syndrome. He was very intelligent, and articulate. But he could not maintain eye contact during conversations, and he was obsessed with details and order. He had a successful marriage to my mother, but he had trouble making friendships with other men. He played golf by himself a lot. He was a loving father to my brother and me, if frustrating at times. He was a successful businessman, and overall, lived a happy, successful life, despite his disability. It's a shame that eye contact is so important in human society, but it is. In some other species, dogs, for example, prolonged eye contact is a sign of aggression, and should be avoided.
I am so sad for Patrick. He understand everything and it sims that he is frustrated that he cannot do better or that is hard for others to understand him.
I don't think these documentaries cover the anxiety and OCD that frequently accompany autism. Those two things are such a source of frustration for them.
Although I’m not sure I think it’s safe to assume that this video is old even though it was uploaded a few days ago. So anything they say can be outdated.
Excellent look into how autism affects not only the child but also the families. Giant Steps seems like a great school to explore what these children can offer and not just what they lack.
I can tell that these are all very educated parents. They're attractive, articulate, and speak with educated accents. They have the skills and means to provide for their children's special needs. What happens to autistic children of working class parents, who cannot pay for private schooling?
The title of the video is offensive. I did not know about my autism until late teens so I literally did feel like an alien to everyone in my school and my family and everyone I ever met and it was a horrible feelings
I want to say this as gently as I can. I am a medical researcher. I am a dad with a son with autism. I am a man diagnosed with autism many years ago. I understand people want to be accepted, and they should be. But I can never be convinced of modern-day beliefs toward autism. My child has no future except that future in which I am able to provide for him. He is low functioning. I realize I use out-of-date terminology that some do not like. I'm not going to change my beliefs and the terminology I use. I do not believe todays studies. I have done my own research with an open mind. Today's science is filled with statements that can be and have been proven wrong. There is a grieving process that some deny and don't want to hear about. I grieve for the loss of my son's mind and ability to work toward his own future. He is everything to me. I grieve for him all the time. My research will never end until I find the facts I'm looking for. I have no need for today's philosophers concerning autism.
I also hate how Jo talks about stopping the flapping (a stim). Because we stim to release emotion, it is our way of coping. Autistic people should not be stopped from stimming, even if those stims may seem odd to people who do not know what they are
@@valm.0 I'm not the person who you asked, but I'm an autistic adult who's worked with autistic kids before. If stimming isn't causing any harm or impairment, it's really best to just let it be. Even if it's frequent, it shouldn't be a problem if it's not interfering with his day-to-day activities. When I was a kid, I liked to line things up and swing on swing sets a lot. I still do the latter, and I'm glad nobody stopped me. If he likes vestibular stuff, I couldn’t recommend a swing (it's a good physical activity too!) or something that rocks (eg. rocking chair) enough. I understand that your son's stimming could be quite different, though. If it *is* causing a problem and/or it's hurting him or other people, it can help to look into things that could be stressing him out because we tend to do it more when we need to regulate our emotions. Sometimes headphones, a routine, sensory toys/processing techniques, etc. can help. If that's not helping, you could try to talk to a professional to try and find some replacement behaviours or other self-soothing mechanisms to fill the void. It's better to pay attention to the underlying cause and work with it as opposed to just trying to stomp the behaviour out by force, you know? That can be stressful and probably won't work as well. I'd recommend someone like an OT or BCBA if you need more guidance. A good professional should focus on quality of life and functionality.
I love how there are those looking for answers to better support those with autism, but I keep asking myself why we have be adjust, why we have to change. I was asking why I wasnt taught these basic life skills, to be able to fit in to the "normal" world, and I felt sorry formyself, but now my question is WHY. I do not want to fit in with them...I don't even LIKE them. I do not agree with, nor do I identify with, any "normal" person.
it’s so sad seeing the doctors and parents in this documentary treating and referring to the children shown with such demeaning and cruel language. imagine being ostracized and alienated by your own parents and those meant to care for you, the neurotypical world has a lot to answer for.
I have an autistic daughter, 5 years old, I think us parents have to accept the autism so that we can go forward and help the child as much as possible. Beying aware there is a problem isn't nasty, it's necessary
She told the kid to put Thomas the train together and he went to go do it and then she pulled his face up and was like you need to put Thomas the train together And then he didn't You weren't giving him time to process your adult understanding that's the problem
Applaud you for taking the time to share your courage with us! In two experiments, high-functioning autism children aged 8-15 outperformed individually matched subjects on basic language tasks such as vocabulary and spelling. Both autism students outperformed monitors in challenging language activities.
@Al-zein Kusmantoro Yeah, I hate that people make it feel like it's some kind of deadly disease. Some parents even say it's like their child died, breaks my heart.
@@explodingdog Their dreams of having an average child died. It can be excruciating to parent kids with moderate to severe autism! Often the kids will require lifetime care.
Be proud of your child on an individual level, not on what YOU want your child to do. Stop dismissing the little things your child accomplished like "yeah they did this this week, but I wish they could do more" STFU
I just started to watch and i am already like disagreeing...4 times more then girls? its actually no difference girls just mask better,then mom saying she wouldn't want child with autism to anyone...that's sad...
I feel like it gets harder as you get older. A lot of people will disrespect people who they think are slightly different and it can be harder to get your foot in the door when it comes to jobs and careers.
@@noneya7910 I've found myself in abusive jobs many times. They'll take advantage of my speed, efficiency and problem solving skills to do things well above mypay grade. They think I dont realize this. I do.
@@GUY-iz4hkactually, Asperger’s is not a term that we use anymore. It was named after Hans Asperger, a N*zi, and essentially serves to wean out the “less autistic.” It ends up being kind of demeaning plus why would we want to have a condition named after a N*zi?
I feel as if the parents in this documentary are belittling their children. Autism is definitely a mental and physical challenge but a lot of children learn to live genuine normal happy self-sufficient lives. Like saying their child "died" after receiving an autism diagnosis feels so inconsiderate and unreasonable.
@@denisewhisler5536 Thank you for replying to my comment with no substantial evidence. My twin brother along with one of my best friends is on the spectrum and they are very well functioning in regular society. Obviously it's dependent on where the child falls on the spectrum, but there is always room for improvement. Either way, my initial claim was that the parents in this documentary are belittling them, which is quite evident by the statements made by them. It's my opinion on how they describe their children which I personally disagree with.
I feel like it’s just how they felt on the beginning. They obviously support their child and take them to an amazing, probably expensive school and love their kids but it just be difficult to receive this news when you had specific hopes and dreams for your kids.
@@miss7182 Fair point, I just believe they had a somewhat negative view point on their child, but they obviously support them and are trying to help them. I just didn't really agree with how the parents felt about their children.
Yeah, but it really depends on the level, my mother used to be a teacher to special needs children and she had about 5 kids with autism, one of them was really smart, could have a conversation with anyone, but there were others that couldn't even write their own names. But I agree, it's not like the children "died", it must be difficult for the parents but they should learn how to accept them.
They just don't work the same way normal people do. So instead of trying to make them normal how about working in their world with their rules. Honestly all i see is that they are just not interested in what ur trying to get them to do.
My daughter is 8 with level 2 autism.. still in 1st grade and trying to keep up as today’s virtual learning..loves water, speak 2-3words and can copy sentences..able to count and write..before she get frustrated easily and pinching me or other adult due to lack of speech..she had ABA therapy, speech and OT until now..she chooses what clothes should I wear hehe calling me MoM! Don’t lose hope with our little angels😊focus the present in how you can help them than thinking what’s their future gonna be..just think positive!
Im sorry but I actually get so angry watching this. Why why why why???? Why are you trying to change them? Would you like it if you suddenly got learned to start lining up your toys instead of playing with them the 'normal' way? Would you??? Like why do people need to be normal. These kind of thoughts displayed in this documantary is putting autisitc people like me in a tight box. Its harmfull and heartbreaking too see. There is nothing wrong with handflapping, lining up toys or not making eye contact. All that you are doing by trying to make us look 'normal' is trying to make yourself better for it, because if I can tell you one thing its that it is not helping any autistic person.
And your not alone I'm autistic to sometimes I had to talk but people don't pay me any attention so I just go with the flo and keep it moving and yes I'm 22 and still have hyper sensitive to some sounds sometimes that's why I always wear ear plugs to help stop the noise so just letting you know that's all
@@alexisstroud7162I actually started preschool early and at one point they didn’t think I’d be able to talk but now most people don’t even think I have autism
These people are so lucky to be able to get a dx so early my daughter is on the wait list here and she won't be assessed until shes 4 or 5. She's 3 and is no verble and no eye contact
That boy Patrick being in a mainstream classroom is counterproductive on every level possible. He isn't gaining anything from it, and it's depriving the regular students of quality instruction. Any social benefits he could get from it, miniscule as they are, would be more efficiently gained through a different program for disabled kids that took them out into the community. Waste of money, effort, and resources, and time.
If you have a child showing severe autistic symptoms before they are three, it is hugely unlikely that child will be writing comments on a youtube vid as an adult. It is devastating to have your child diagnosed with this disorder. Your hopes and dreams do die, and the whole family pays a huge price. These parents are giving up any semblance of a normal life to help their child. The grief is real, and perhaps even more (longer) than if a child had died.
Not necessarily so Once these were the children placed into institutions with no hope of learning anything. I have high hopes for the non doctors who approach things through food and ask questions as to why so many kids are coming up with autism now. They say half of children one day in the future will be on the spectrum.
when my now 16 year old was younger he was distant and non verbal I had to fight for an autism diagnosis just so that he could get the right help he did eventually and now talks non stop and attends college so getting the right help at the right time makes the world of difference
But the thing is, autism does not need to be fixed. When you say that you are telling autistic people like me and your son that there is something wrong with us.
@@GabbyBeyer you don’t have autism like my son does. He is like a 6 years old child. He gets so frustrated when he can’t tell us something. It’s like talking is painful for him. We now hike on challenging trails in a great state park near us everyday. He loves it. Leaves us in the dust!!
There are behavioral surveys that identify babies with autism as young as 4 months of age. If it runs in your family or you suspect autism please get the baby/kid screened. Early intervention is key!
Parents may not have seen this book, Healing and Preventing Autism: A Complete Guide, by pediatrician Dr. Jerry Kartzinel and Jenny McCarthy (mom of a son with autism/ actress/celebrity). Dr. Kartzinel's adopted son lost all his language and developed all the classic symptoms, and being determined to undo the injury (caused by thimerasol, he believes), he worked tirelessly researching ways to heal the brain. There is hope here. I am a SpEd teacher who has worked with special needs children, but have no personal experience with his program, just wanted to pass this along....
My UA-cam channel is about inspiring and encouraging people with disabilities. I have a learning disability. I love encouraging others with disabilities who might not have had a support system that I had. My passion is helping and supporting people with disabilities in any way.
21:02 "I felt I didn't really know this child. I hadn't really bonded with him anyway. There wasn't that same interaction that I'd had with my first son."
Hopefully these parents realized their children can understand some of what they are saying. Breaks my heart that they say bad things about their children while they are there.
Its like my parents always said. They make it so tempting to antagonize and hurt them. Yknow. As an adult. I still think its gross who these children can be stuck under.
Amanda Garnett - the reason so many children have autism these days is largely due to the huge number vaccines they are now required to get by the age of 4. Not all children are equally susceptible to vaccine damage. There are common gene mutations like MTHFR & COMT that make some people more susceptible due to it making it harder for them to utilise neuroprotective anti-oxidants like glutathione and also harder to detox toxins; and other difficulties associated with methylation. Don’t be afraid to have kids, but do your research on vaccines first - including the vit K shot given just after birth. They are not as risk-free and safe as the medical & pharmaceutical industries would have us believe.
MagiSlash Mild autism is not a bad thing. Certainly not the worst thing a person could have. But it can make life more difficult for the person with it. Severe autism is another thing altogether.
Io ho avuto una diagnosi di autismo tanti anni fa ma in realtà i movimenti stereotipi non li facevo. Ricordo ancora qundo mi hanno detto, crudelmente: !in è importante se sia st😊ato causato o se era preesistente
As a mother to an autistic child what I do know now and what I will say is we as the adults need to stop trying to change these little children! Autism is not curable but manageable and as adults we need to learn from these children instead of finding ways to try and change them. We as adults need to learn more about autism, learn to be more understanding and patient with autistic children. My son has taught me how to be more understanding and patient with him. I would never want to change my son as his autism makes him who he is which is loving, caring, gentle and super intelligent. I understand autism is different for every child and this is why it’s so important that us adults learn to understand a child with autism. It’s a learning lesson every single day, it’s the most hardest thing I’ve ever done but I would never change my life. We need to stop seeing autism as something bad because it is not! I also work in an SEN school as a TA and I find it incredibly interesting working with children who have autism and how unique they all are. It can be frustrating for an adult who cannot understand what an autistic child needs or wants but imagine how much more frustrating it is for the autistic child! As I agree with certain groups and sessions for autistic children I also disagree with many as well! What I also will never understand is why a parent who already has an autistic child goes on to have more children knowing full well their next child may have it, it’s incredibly unfair on the child and it just makes your life harder as a parent. But I guess each to their own, we can’t control what other people do but it’s common sense really. I know I’ll get a negative response to my comment here but I don’t really care what others think, this is my opinion and I stick by it always.
These are some refrigerator mothers right here. I'm autistic and I'm fed up with the self pitying parents and "experts" who paint autism as this evil curse
So much negativity and lack of understanding of the challenges for parents of autistic children from people with autism in the comments - from a parent on the spectrum.
We have the same problem, being in a similar situation. Its heat breaking seeing people in a much worse situation. The only hope is a medical breakthrough.
I know this is an old documantary but its so full of stigma and the facts are "no longer" correct. Not 1 in 500 children have autism, a lot more do and not 4 in 5 of people with autism are boys. More and more girls are diagnosed and that old stigma has been proven wrong. But yes this is still an old documentary but you should be aware that the facts stated here are not longer considered true. I btw am one of the few girls that was diagnosed as a child.
I just discovered a couple of months ago that I am likely autistic as the age of 37! I scored 41 on the autistic quotient test & if you score over 32 you are very likely autistic especially if you are female as its particularly accurate for females. I do wonder if I would have had an easier time as a child if I had been diagnosed but then watching this video I suspect I wouldn't have, I would just have had different struggles
@@emmarichardson5357 well I would not be envious of you. Even though getting the diagnosis as a child can also have disadvantages it does give you a reason why you are different. The diagnosis gives you handgrips to survive better you might say. I btw completely validate any form of self diagnosis. It's great you found out your autistic! Hope the knowledge lets you accept yourself more.
She told the kid to put Thomas the train together and he went to go do it and then she pulled his face up and was like you need to put Thomas the train together And then he didn't You weren't giving him time to process your adult understanding that's the problem
This documentary should be more balanced. Not just negative. I'm not going to finish watching it as it is making me feel sad. Autism should be celebrated. It's ok to be different! Life isn't over because you're autistic. It's not a death sentence. You Tube remove this video please!
It is certainly genetic. I’m not sure why you think that? It is not always genetic as of course environmental factors may have an effect. But when you say it runs in families, I am not sure how you can say it is not genetic? I am just curious what you mean exactly?
@@jordanhancock279 The family IS the environmental factor, which is why you often get more than one autistic child in the same household. Nothing to do with genes.
Its been around for ages. Were now in a time where access to diagnosis and treatment are more available. In the past children with disabilities were left in asylums and kept away from public view. You can't do that now so that's why you see an "increase" in autism and other disabilities
Interesting video, speaking as an older Autistic myself, conclusion is that ASD has NOT increased in population, what I call Autism. Mass poisoning from neurotoxins is the cause, affecting a very sensitive nervous system with contaminated food air water vax, causing autistic like symptoms. Reducing demands on immune system is where to start, correct diet/bowel movements, distilled water, organic foods, reduced vax, fresh air, unstructured free play times, patient parenting. Pure Autism is as old as mankind, a genius trait, mindset of warriors craftsman poets and prophets who simply have found something better to do than socialize ~~
I just wish with all of my heart that more people around me would accept me more for who I am INCLUDING my autism. But now I'm almost completely off medication, I used to take 13 or more pills a day, Xanax and more of that type. I was a complete zombie but very unhappy. But I feel like some people are still trying to make me behave more like a neurotypical person, which is never going to happen because that's not how my brain is wired. I'm way happier now even if I go outside less often. I get overstimulated and that's what makes me nervous. I see so much in these children that I can understand, wish I could explain to more people.
You are totally accepted by me. Lots of Love and Respect for you.❤
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And then documentaries like this where they support saying they wouldn’t wish an autistic child on any parent like we are just burdens
Brain wiring is not immutable. It changes according to what you do and experience.
My grandson was diagnosed a year ago and believe me I want to learn everything about it. So I help my son and his wife with this precious Angel 😇 and there’s nothing I could find out about him to stop me from loving him very very much ❤
I had speech problems with autism while growing up. I had really good speech therapist in school for years which did a fantastic job for me.
Can you plz tell us more about your journey
Hello, my kid is 10 year old.
He was diagnosed that he is in spectrum when he is 2.5 years
We worked to help him adjust with the world and around 7 he started communicating with us.
He is 10 years old now.
I am his mother, he communicates well with me. And slowly learning to have conversations with others. He loves to have friends, but finds it a bit difficult to understand how to go about it.
He found it very difficult understanding school last year ( not the academics, he does get that stuff and does ok in his tests) .
But he prefers hands on learning to conventional education.
But the place we are in doesn’t have many options for creative thinkers, application learners.
Can you give me life through your eyes and what else I can do to help him manage this world ?
I do see him processing lot of stuff before venturing into everyday life. And we both sit and discuss a lot about how to manage certain situations and reactions from people. But your inputs might help me more.
Thanks a lot in advance.
@@UjwalRam when your kid started to speak mean at which age he started his speech ?
At 35, I'm still not making eye contact. People take it really personally. Sets me apart immediately.
Please dont take offence. I am just really interested in learning more about Autism being in the medical field. Is there a reason you dont like making eye contact? Are u just not able to? Like something wont let u?
@@1000greengirl I feel overstimulated when making eye contact so I dont do it. It feels like watching a tidal wave coming at you and the only way to stop it to look away.
@@daniplaysoneasy-9454 oh ok that is a great analogy. Wow i didnt even think that it would feel so uncomfortable in that way...
Jesus will help you. I know a lot of autistic people are usually atheist but the truth is only Jesus can set you free.
I am a Special Needs Teacher and my class is 90% children with Autism, love then to bits and would not teach i a mainstream now, I also have 2 children of my own on the spectrum and would not change anything about them , they are fantastic. It is not always easy by any means , but it is amazing and I am always learning. I look for their strengths' and interests and build on those. It is sad to hear so much negativity.
As someone with autism, i have great difficulties with the use of the sentences "something wrong with the child" when they are discussing the possibility or the existence of autism on a particular child.
It makes me sad that none of the parents uses a frase like "there's something DIFFERENT with my child.
None of those childen are wrong, they just have developed a different brain.😢
My father had Asperger's Syndrome. He was very intelligent, and articulate. But he could not maintain eye contact during conversations, and he was obsessed with details and order. He had a successful marriage to my mother, but he had trouble making friendships with other men. He played golf by himself a lot. He was a loving father to my brother and me, if frustrating at times. He was a successful businessman, and overall, lived a happy, successful life, despite his disability. It's a shame that eye contact is so important in human society, but it is. In some other species, dogs, for example, prolonged eye contact is a sign of aggression, and should be avoided.
I am so sad for Patrick. He understand everything and it sims that he is frustrated that he cannot do better or that is hard for others to understand him.
I don't think these documentaries cover the anxiety and OCD that frequently accompany autism. Those two things are such a source of frustration for them.
I have a friend who has 4 autistic brothers. In watching this documentary it really helped me understand it more.
1 in 500? Umm no creditable publications put it at 1 in 59. So right off the bat I put little stock in what “facts” their putting out.
Although I’m not sure I think it’s safe to assume that this video is old even though it was uploaded a few days ago. So anything they say can be outdated.
Excellent look into how autism affects not only the child but also the families. Giant Steps seems like a great school to explore what these children can offer and not just what they lack.
I'm a mother of three boys, eldest with ADHD and asd, and twins with autism and global developmental delay.
This was hard to watch.
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Fuck off.
@@universaltruth2025 no? Mental issues are not linked with vaccines
I can tell that these are all very educated parents. They're attractive, articulate, and speak with educated accents. They have the skills and means to provide for their children's special needs. What happens to autistic children of working class parents, who cannot pay for private schooling?
The title of the video is offensive. I did not know about my autism until late teens so I literally did feel like an alien to everyone in my school and my family and everyone I ever met and it was a horrible feelings
I have autism sometimes it's difficult for my family sometimes I just wanted to hide sometimes but I can't
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Same I’m still doing my test but they said I most likely have it I’m only young but I still understand you
Aww hun, I’m so sorry to hear that, I’m sending you love ❤️
Keep that to yourself
@@GUY-iz4hk be quiet don't tell others
This seems to be quite an old documentary, I wonder how the kids are doing now, I hope everything goes well for all of them.
I was wondering the same..
Me to
Only one thing for sure, they're still not making eye contact
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@@daniplaysoneasy-9454 funny?
I want to say this as gently as I can. I am a medical researcher. I am a dad with a son with autism. I am a man diagnosed with autism many years ago. I understand people want to be accepted, and they should be. But I can never be convinced of modern-day beliefs toward autism. My child has no future except that future in which I am able to provide for him. He is low functioning. I realize I use out-of-date terminology that some do not like. I'm not going to change my beliefs and the terminology I use. I do not believe todays studies. I have done my own research with an open mind. Today's science is filled with statements that can be and have been proven wrong. There is a grieving process that some deny and don't want to hear about. I grieve for the loss of my son's mind and ability to work toward his own future. He is everything to me. I grieve for him all the time. My research will never end until I find the facts I'm looking for. I have no need for today's philosophers concerning autism.
I also hate how Jo talks about stopping the flapping (a stim). Because we stim to release emotion, it is our way of coping. Autistic people should not be stopped from stimming, even if those stims may seem odd to people who do not know what they are
Hey Gabby but what should I do with my 4yo if all he does it is stimming ?
@@valm.0 I'm not the person who you asked, but I'm an autistic adult who's worked with autistic kids before. If stimming isn't causing any harm or impairment, it's really best to just let it be. Even if it's frequent, it shouldn't be a problem if it's not interfering with his day-to-day activities. When I was a kid, I liked to line things up and swing on swing sets a lot. I still do the latter, and I'm glad nobody stopped me. If he likes vestibular stuff, I couldn’t recommend a swing (it's a good physical activity too!) or something that rocks (eg. rocking chair) enough. I understand that your son's stimming could be quite different, though. If it *is* causing a problem and/or it's hurting him or other people, it can help to look into things that could be stressing him out because we tend to do it more when we need to regulate our emotions. Sometimes headphones, a routine, sensory toys/processing techniques, etc. can help. If that's not helping, you could try to talk to a professional to try and find some replacement behaviours or other self-soothing mechanisms to fill the void. It's better to pay attention to the underlying cause and work with it as opposed to just trying to stomp the behaviour out by force, you know? That can be stressful and probably won't work as well. I'd recommend someone like an OT or BCBA if you need more guidance. A good professional should focus on quality of life and functionality.
I love how there are those looking for answers to better support those with autism, but I keep asking myself why we have be adjust, why we have to change. I was asking why I wasnt taught these basic life skills, to be able to fit in to the "normal" world, and I felt sorry formyself, but now my question is WHY. I do not want to fit in with them...I don't even LIKE them. I do not agree with, nor do I identify with, any "normal" person.
it’s so sad seeing the doctors and parents in this documentary treating and referring to the children shown with such demeaning and cruel language. imagine being ostracized and alienated by your own parents and those meant to care for you, the neurotypical world has a lot to answer for.
I have an autistic daughter, 5 years old, I think us parents have to accept the autism so that we can go forward and help the child as much as possible. Beying aware there is a problem isn't nasty, it's necessary
@@Nosila685 Exactly
She told the kid to put Thomas the train together and he went to go do it and then she pulled his face up and was like you need to put Thomas the train together
And then he didn't
You weren't giving him time to process your adult understanding that's the problem
Applaud you for taking the time to share your courage with us! In two experiments, high-functioning autism children aged 8-15 outperformed individually matched subjects on basic language tasks such as vocabulary and spelling. Both autism students outperformed monitors in challenging language activities.
These families need to realise that Autism can not be cured
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@Al-zein Kusmantoro Yeah, I hate that people make it feel like it's some kind of deadly disease. Some parents even say it's like their child died, breaks my heart.
@@explodingdog i have a severe autistic child. Your comment makes me think you really dont know how is our life.
@@explodingdog Their dreams of having an average child died. It can be excruciating to parent kids with moderate to severe autism! Often the kids will require lifetime care.
Be proud of your child on an individual level, not on what YOU want your child to do. Stop dismissing the little things your child accomplished like "yeah they did this this week, but I wish they could do more" STFU
Geez, who are you to be so critical of loving parents?
I just started to watch and i am already like disagreeing...4 times more then girls? its actually no difference girls just mask better,then mom saying she wouldn't want child with autism to anyone...that's sad...
This documentary was made a long time ago when that science was considered accurate
well, I'm part of the autistic spectrum, with Aspergers. Still hard as 20 years old.
It’s as-burgess
I feel like it gets harder as you get older. A lot of people will disrespect people who they think are slightly different and it can be harder to get your foot in the door when it comes to jobs and careers.
@@noneya7910 I've found myself in abusive jobs many times. They'll take advantage of my speed, efficiency and problem solving skills to do things well above mypay grade. They think I dont realize this. I do.
@@GUY-iz4hkactually, Asperger’s is not a term that we use anymore. It was named after Hans Asperger, a N*zi, and essentially serves to wean out the “less autistic.” It ends up being kind of demeaning plus why would we want to have a condition named after a N*zi?
I feel as if the parents in this documentary are belittling their children. Autism is definitely a mental and physical challenge but a lot of children learn to live genuine normal happy self-sufficient lives. Like saying their child "died" after receiving an autism diagnosis feels so inconsiderate and unreasonable.
You are so wrong
@@denisewhisler5536 Thank you for replying to my comment with no substantial evidence. My twin brother along with one of my best friends is on the spectrum and they are very well functioning in regular society. Obviously it's dependent on where the child falls on the spectrum, but there is always room for improvement. Either way, my initial claim was that the parents in this documentary are belittling them, which is quite evident by the statements made by them. It's my opinion on how they describe their children which I personally disagree with.
I feel like it’s just how they felt on the beginning. They obviously support their child and take them to an amazing, probably expensive school and love their kids but it just be difficult to receive this news when you had specific hopes and dreams for your kids.
@@miss7182 Fair point, I just believe they had a somewhat negative view point on their child, but they obviously support them and are trying to help them. I just didn't really agree with how the parents felt about their children.
Yeah, but it really depends on the level, my mother used to be a teacher to special needs children and she had about 5 kids with autism, one of them was really smart, could have a conversation with anyone, but there were others that couldn't even write their own names. But I agree, it's not like the children "died", it must be difficult for the parents but they should learn how to accept them.
They just don't work the same way normal people do. So instead of trying to make them normal how about working in their world with their rules. Honestly all i see is that they are just not interested in what ur trying to get them to do.
Thank you all for sharing!
My daughter is 8 with level 2 autism.. still in 1st grade and trying to keep up as today’s virtual learning..loves water, speak 2-3words and can copy sentences..able to count and write..before she get frustrated easily and pinching me or other adult due to lack of speech..she had ABA therapy, speech and OT until now..she chooses what clothes should I wear hehe calling me MoM! Don’t lose hope with our little angels😊focus the present in how you can help them than thinking what’s their future gonna be..just think positive!
I'm sorry but I think Aba is child abuse.
i have autism and im proud of what i am
Im sorry but I actually get so angry watching this. Why why why why???? Why are you trying to change them? Would you like it if you suddenly got learned to start lining up your toys instead of playing with them the 'normal' way? Would you??? Like why do people need to be normal. These kind of thoughts displayed in this documantary is putting autisitc people like me in a tight box. Its harmfull and heartbreaking too see. There is nothing wrong with handflapping, lining up toys or not making eye contact. All that you are doing by trying to make us look 'normal' is trying to make yourself better for it, because if I can tell you one thing its that it is not helping any autistic person.
I have autism I'm high functioning even though I'm 22 i still struggle i have trouble being in load places and school was hard for me
And your not alone I'm autistic to sometimes I had to talk but people don't pay me any attention so I just go with the flo and keep it moving and yes I'm 22 and still have hyper sensitive to some sounds sometimes that's why I always wear ear plugs to help stop the noise so just letting you know that's all
@@alexisstroud7162I actually started preschool early and at one point they didn’t think I’d be able to talk but now most people don’t even think I have autism
I'm glad society has come a long way.
These people are so lucky to be able to get a dx so early my daughter is on the wait list here and she won't be assessed until shes 4 or 5. She's 3 and is no verble and no eye contact
Same here. They barely want to diagnose my son now. He's going to be 5 in March
lilblacklamb - check out these links ua-cam.com/video/-ib-WAlDW24/v-deo.html.
And ua-cam.com/video/8pJuG85zVNY/v-deo.html
I’m only 13 but I’m still waiting for my test aswell and I’ve been waiting for months
@@GUY-iz4hk the wait list here is 12 to 18 months
Star Fire STFU
That boy Patrick being in a mainstream classroom is counterproductive on every level possible. He isn't gaining anything from it, and it's depriving the regular students of quality instruction. Any social benefits he could get from it, miniscule as they are, would be more efficiently gained through a different program for disabled kids that took them out into the community. Waste of money, effort, and resources, and time.
there are so many different levels. I have 2 with autistic diagnoses
Why tell people this world is full of haters
Aww bless you all 🙏🙏
"Its definitely like the child u had has died" seriously!!
If you have a child showing severe autistic symptoms before they are three, it is hugely unlikely that child will be writing comments on a youtube vid as an adult. It is devastating to have your child diagnosed with this disorder. Your hopes and dreams do die, and the whole family pays a huge price. These parents are giving up any semblance of a normal life to help their child. The grief is real, and perhaps even more (longer) than if a child had died.
Not necessarily so Once these were the children placed into institutions with no hope of learning anything. I have high hopes for the non doctors who approach things through food and ask questions as to why so many kids are coming up with autism now. They say half of children one day in the future will be on the spectrum.
when my now 16 year old was younger he was distant and non verbal I had to fight for an autism diagnosis just so that he could get the right help he did eventually and now talks non stop and attends college so getting the right help at the right time makes the world of difference
I love this yt channel
My son is 31 and severely autistic. I agree with the Mom who said how hard can it be to fix autism? I grieved years ago, but I still have hope.
Please keep that to yourself
Alt Dimas shut up
The thing about autism is it can’t be fixed its not something that need fixing it needs to be managed.
But the thing is, autism does not need to be fixed. When you say that you are telling autistic people like me and your son that there is something wrong with us.
@@GabbyBeyer you don’t have autism like my son does. He is like a 6 years old child. He gets so frustrated when he can’t tell us something. It’s like talking is painful for him. We now hike on challenging trails in a great state park near us everyday. He loves it. Leaves us in the dust!!
There are behavioral surveys that identify babies with autism as young as 4 months of age. If it runs in your family or you suspect autism please get the baby/kid screened. Early intervention is key!
Parents may not have seen this book, Healing and Preventing Autism: A Complete Guide, by pediatrician Dr. Jerry Kartzinel and Jenny McCarthy (mom of a son with autism/ actress/celebrity). Dr. Kartzinel's adopted son lost all his language and developed all the classic symptoms, and being determined to undo the injury (caused by thimerasol, he believes), he worked tirelessly researching ways to heal the brain. There is hope here. I am a SpEd teacher who has worked with special needs children, but have no personal experience with his program, just wanted to pass this along....
I love that she said that: Not to cure them, but to help them
My UA-cam channel is about inspiring and encouraging people with disabilities. I have a learning disability. I love encouraging others with disabilities who might not have had a support system that I had. My passion is helping and supporting people with disabilities in any way.
It’s 1 in 36 born now….theres something going on
21:02 "I felt I didn't really know this child. I hadn't really bonded with him anyway. There wasn't that same interaction that I'd had with my first son."
Is terrible. Accept the child for who he or she is. Pretty basic.
Hopefully these parents realized their children can understand some of what they are saying. Breaks my heart that they say bad things about their children while they are there.
Exactly!
Just because they're non verbal doesn't mean they have the mind of a baby
Its like my parents always said. They make it so tempting to antagonize and hurt them.
Yknow. As an adult. I still think its gross who these children can be stuck under.
Are there any updates?
The change is so interesting - that they can be normal and then not as if something external which we do not know takes hold.
I love this yt channell
:OO great video!
Imagine if Patrick had a device that helped him communicate.
I do find it strange that it just happens after some time. Like it's not there and then it is. Why don't we know why?
1:29 maybe myka stauffer should have seen this.
Do we know how all this kids are doing now ?
So sad but its things like this that make me not want kids 😢
Amanda Garnett - the reason so many children have autism these days is largely due to the huge number vaccines they are now required to get by the age of 4. Not all children are equally susceptible to vaccine damage. There are common gene mutations like MTHFR & COMT that make some people more susceptible due to it making it harder for them to utilise neuroprotective anti-oxidants like glutathione and also harder to detox toxins; and other difficulties associated with methylation. Don’t be afraid to have kids, but do your research on vaccines first - including the vit K shot given just after birth. They are not as risk-free and safe as the medical & pharmaceutical industries would have us believe.
Star Fire Get your dumb anti vaccine propaganda out of here.
@@universaltruth2025 vaccines do not cause autism. we are born with autism. and being autistic is not a bad thing.
MagiSlash Mild autism is not a bad thing. Certainly not the worst thing a person could have. But it can make life more difficult for the person with it. Severe autism is another thing altogether.
@@universaltruth2025 although hard and different it is not a bad thing does not need a cure
Io ho avuto una diagnosi di autismo tanti anni fa ma in realtà i movimenti stereotipi non li facevo. Ricordo ancora qundo mi hanno detto, crudelmente: !in è importante se sia st😊ato causato o se era preesistente
As a mother to an autistic child what I do know now and what I will say is we as the adults need to stop trying to change these little children! Autism is not curable but manageable and as adults we need to learn from these children instead of finding ways to try and change them. We as adults need to learn more about autism, learn to be more understanding and patient with autistic children. My son has taught me how to be more understanding and patient with him. I would never want to change my son as his autism makes him who he is which is loving, caring, gentle and super intelligent. I understand autism is different for every child and this is why it’s so important that us adults learn to understand a child with autism. It’s a learning lesson every single day, it’s the most hardest thing I’ve ever done but I would never change my life. We need to stop seeing autism as something bad because it is not! I also work in an SEN school as a TA and I find it incredibly interesting working with children who have autism and how unique they all are. It can be frustrating for an adult who cannot understand what an autistic child needs or wants but imagine how much more frustrating it is for the autistic child! As I agree with certain groups and sessions for autistic children I also disagree with many as well! What I also will never understand is why a parent who already has an autistic child goes on to have more children knowing full well their next child may have it, it’s incredibly unfair on the child and it just makes your life harder as a parent. But I guess each to their own, we can’t control what other people do but it’s common sense really. I know I’ll get a negative response to my comment here but I don’t really care what others think, this is my opinion and I stick by it always.
" a completely different Child in 2 weeks" i wonder what caused this Change? A completely normal born Child becomes authistic, why?
These are some refrigerator mothers right here. I'm autistic and I'm fed up with the self pitying parents and "experts" who paint autism as this evil curse
EX frickin ACTLY
So much negativity and lack of understanding of the challenges for parents of autistic children from people with autism in the comments - from a parent on the spectrum.
We have the same problem, being in a similar situation.
Its heat breaking seeing people in a much worse situation.
The only hope is a medical breakthrough.
I am autistic, and I will say this until I die: we do not need a cure
Both of Patrick’s parents are older.
It's one in thirty now
Doesnt it just make you wonder why? Like its so prevalent and they dont have a specific reason? There is a reason. Has to be.
13:28 💔
Definitely not true though
I know this is an old documantary but its so full of stigma and the facts are "no longer" correct. Not 1 in 500 children have autism, a lot more do and not 4 in 5 of people with autism are boys. More and more girls are diagnosed and that old stigma has been proven wrong. But yes this is still an old documentary but you should be aware that the facts stated here are not longer considered true. I btw am one of the few girls that was diagnosed as a child.
I just discovered a couple of months ago that I am likely autistic as the age of 37! I scored 41 on the autistic quotient test & if you score over 32 you are very likely autistic especially if you are female as its particularly accurate for females. I do wonder if I would have had an easier time as a child if I had been diagnosed but then watching this video I suspect I wouldn't have, I would just have had different struggles
@@emmarichardson5357 well I would not be envious of you. Even though getting the diagnosis as a child can also have disadvantages it does give you a reason why you are different. The diagnosis gives you handgrips to survive better you might say. I btw completely validate any form of self diagnosis. It's great you found out your autistic! Hope the knowledge lets you accept yourself more.
She told the kid to put Thomas the train together and he went to go do it and then she pulled his face up and was like you need to put Thomas the train together
And then he didn't
You weren't giving him time to process your adult understanding that's the problem
Hi
cool.
This documentary should be more balanced. Not just negative. I'm not going to finish watching it as it is making me feel sad. Autism should be celebrated. It's ok to be different!
Life isn't over because you're autistic. It's not a death sentence. You Tube remove this video please!
1:28 if there is ever a cure, don’t give it to me. Thank you!
With the sudden onset of autism in two of the children, does this correlate after receiving childhood vaccinati9ns?
It tends to run in families, but it's not genetic. There's an obvious answer to that, but we're not allowed to talk about it.
It is certainly genetic. I’m not sure why you think that? It is not always genetic as of course environmental factors may have an effect. But when you say it runs in families, I am not sure how you can say it is not genetic? I am just curious what you mean exactly?
@@jordanhancock279 The family IS the environmental factor, which is why you often get more than one autistic child in the same household. Nothing to do with genes.
Watching Phone and Tv and eat all fast food and all soft drinks and all sweets it not good .
The question must be asked, what is going on that there are so many children with autism???
This was not common prior to the 1980s.
GOVERNMENT/VACCINES
Yes it was autism has always been a natural thing
It just wasn't as commonly diagnosed.
They were locked away. Or at least in my country. People used to dump people with autism and down's syndrome in hospices and other places like that.
Its been around for ages. Were now in a time where access to diagnosis and treatment are more available. In the past children with disabilities were left in asylums and kept away from public view. You can't do that now so that's why you see an "increase" in autism and other disabilities
This is sad
wow
I have autism
Epic oof
Interesting video, speaking as an older Autistic myself, conclusion is that ASD has NOT increased in population, what I call Autism. Mass poisoning from neurotoxins is the cause, affecting a very sensitive nervous system with contaminated food air water vax, causing autistic like symptoms. Reducing demands on immune system is where to start, correct diet/bowel movements, distilled water, organic foods, reduced vax, fresh air, unstructured free play times, patient parenting. Pure Autism is as old as mankind, a genius trait, mindset of warriors craftsman poets and prophets who simply have found something better to do than socialize ~~
Im sorry to say but you are simply just incorrect.
Why? @@joelledevries5124
("they're, not "their")
Horrible parents. Cute boy.
He kneed his own head, skills son skills.
lol
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First I guess
The fundraiser dance scene was painful. Truly unbelievable how many white people can’t dance.
Vaccines ..???????
Vaccines do not cause them
@@emilygwynneth1278 exactly
@@emilygwynneth1278that’s not certain
I love this yt channel