My sister is autistic but is more empathetic than the average person. A lot of people with autism actually feel empathy but just have trouble expressing it.
My daughter is autistic and she has a ton of empathy!! Totally wrong that people on the spectrum don't have empathy, they just show it or feel it differently sometimes.
Its really about how we process things differently and because of that we struggle to express it in a way that the non autistic people can understand, we actually do express empathy aĺl the time, its more to the point that in this and other emotions its us that are trying to fit in and make allowances for or on a level that you can understand (or that we struggle with it anyway) and it is more offten than not that people dont even bother to meet half way. You two must be really amazing people if you can see such thing that other people are blind in an autistic person. Thants My personal opinion anyway. Im on the Spectrum too. 💘
While empathy seems to come quite naturally for those among us on the autism spectrum, I'm regularly reminded that even so-called "normal" or as you've put it average people often struggle reading social cues of others.
I think the notable difference to most is the inability to express empathy and emotions in a societally appropriate manner. Unless you live with or are very close with someone who has ASD or ADHD (which I think is frankly two sides of the same coin) then you may miss the depth of their emotions.
I also have identical twins with severe autism and a 3rd child with high functioning autism. they are 18 years old now and they still have tantrums so it’s a challenge every day. But they are very loving and have their daily routines. My husband and I also worry about what will happen to the welfare of our kids when we are no longer able to care for them in our old age or when we pass away.
@@AK-qf8gs may i advise you to not use the terms “high functioning “ and “tantrums” when talking about autistic people? “high functioning” is an ablest terminology commonly used to separate who acts the most “appropriately “ in a neurotypical society and also discredits the different hardships they face due to being autistic that you might not even notice. Also, saying your 18 year olds have tantrums is extremely infantilising and the majority of the autistic community feels very uncomfortable when referred to like that. You may not have intended to use those terms but please think upon what i’ve said, as an autistic person myself.
imo, as an autistic woman who's done social work for over a decade, these might be the most educated, caring parents of autistic children that I've ever seen. they're miles more knowledgeable about their children's true needs than a heap of boastful "autism parents" that I deal with regularly. I can tell just by the language they use (ie - speaking about their daughter masking, which is typically a thing that girls with autism do) that they are incredibly tuned in to their children's well-being. these kids are going to become such wonderful adults because of the amazing start their parents gave them. I loved watching this so much, and I wish them all the best. 💖
Masking is currently becoming more prevalent in both genders in our comunity at this point it did used to be typical of females I mask when I am in public but look at results currently ask around just as many males are masking as females now
@@daisysummer514 most parents dont have to get on this level with there children they let them get on with it till something requires them we always require some type of suport there for parents do work harder
Ooh, yeah. I am an autistic woman sociologist, and a (single) parent to three autistic teenagers. The parents here are very much more switched on than most parents of autistic young people. There’s so much pressure from many parents to ‘teach their kids to fit in’. Autistic people by and large don’t want to be ‘normal’, but we do need help to achieve our best in a busy and sociable workplace...
When i was a kid, I thought everyone can smell ants too until i got older and realized i can't smell them anymore and when i asked other people they get weirded out 😂
Wait you can actually smell ants? Like how? Can you find them by smell or you gotta put your face close to the ground to smell them? 😂 Just ants, what about other insects?
These parents are actually parents because they think about their children's needs beyond food and shelter. They think about their kid's personal growth, relationships, and how their kids will "be" in the world. Amazing.
Watching her daughter is like watching my childhood getting recorded and played out to me.... the part where Sophie wouldn’t get out of the car hit the hardest, at that age kids start to realize your different. Not only do they realize they start to pick you out of the crowds then starts the heavy masking making each day SO draining and that’s just socially so once you combine the academics with it woah does it become far too much. Seeing her sit there fiddling with the seat beat crying just hoping her mom won’t actually make her go was far too relatable to the point that it almost physically hurt me to watch her make her go ( even though I do realize the mom of course needs to work and child care is expensive).
I had trouble going to school ever since I was 8, look where I'm at now, dropped out. there's no really ANY exposure here about autism or mental health, therefore my parents hated me for being a "lazy child" who only brings burden to them. they would abuse me, hitting and slapping my face after they get so irritated watching me making excuses as to why I didn't want to go. not to mention the guilt tripping they always do to make me feel more shit than i already do
and as an asian, just imagine how hated i am in this family. as my other cousins are studying overseas, bunch of them becoming doctors, while i slowly rot in the house. both of my grandmothers hate me.
me too the car bit was very scary for me. i had flashbacks drawn from the depths of my memory in primary school. once my dad called the principal to coax me out and i remember wanting to shrink behind the drivers seat. i don’t have autism but back then i was struggling to cope with severe ocd, anxiety, odd, sensory processing disorder, adhd and arfids. i still have them all today lol plus a few more but i’m worlds ahead from where i thought i’d ever be (and my parents and treating team as well) wish i could say something to little sophie but hang in there, it’s rough but it’s not forever 💚
Did the 👍 because 100% minus the brackets part. It isn't about money or compulsory it's about if you don't go and you don't cross that barrier than you won't ever do it, because really its getting into school and started thats the most anxiety filling part cause your actually pretty alright after that bit, remember seeing Sophie with her friends; she was happy and she was copping. I'm honestly the same exept back then i didn't have friends and that was the worst part of all = no stability at school whatsoever
As someone who may be autistic herself, but never diagnosed, and grew up with two diagnosed siblings, I completely understand the whole being left out thing. I felt like I was borderline abandoned at times. My brothers got everything and I usually got ignored
Dont feel bad;she is strong. You are right that the camera people weren't helping and it was a tearless cry (sorry i'm a persific haggler/ nightmare/sometimes appears to be robot) i still struggle to get out of the car too when dropped off, i'm in highschool by the way.☺
@@AZRAEL_FURY whats the link between this documentary and this video ? Maybe I understood it in a wrong but after typing it on youtube I saw it was a documentary about how supposedly vaccines cause autism which is far from being true. We are in 2021, so many studies have shown this argument is false and comes from an ignorant place...I'm sorry but I don't get why this comment is here under this interesting video about a family dealing with autistic kids.
This was a great depiction of real life on the spectrum. I cried when Sophie was in the car and didn't want to go to school, because that was my exact experience of school too!
@@donnaadom8483 When I was growing up in school, no one knew I had autism yet but I was just like Sophie in this way. I don't think my peers meant to be cruel by excluding me but I was very lonely. I didn't know how to socialize with them and I just couldn't in large groups. It's not how I'm wired. But rather than address it to help me at all I think the school simply thought "Oh well, she's simply an unpopular little girl. Not much we can do about it." This is sad. We're all social beings, some more than others and in all kinds of ways. School isn't just about learning your ABCs. It is also about teaching children to socialize and how to do it with those who might be different.
Same, my mom didn't knew that I'm autistic so she just trought that I was lazy and didn't like to study. It was a terrible traumatic experience, she would push me physically to school and I was always crying in class.
I’ve never been diagnosed but this was my experience too, I hope you guys are doing better now (‘: I used to cry and yell in the car, just so drained of school and not wanting to go and be bullied. It hurts to think there are kids experiencing that every year
Same here the chart they created for all the girls to play in a non invasive environment is amazing! The education is student led and just beautiful to watch
Indeed! We stopped having kids after having one with autism, because I was afraid I couldn't handle more than 2 children when one has special needs, but she does great.
@@harrypriestley1136 Tell your mum she's doing well for me, okay? I'm doing the same with mine whenever I see her, Didn't think I'd find someone who also grew up in A house of 6, with only 1 neurotypical sibling.
The way the mother described every single one of her children's personallity, traits and difficulties was lovely to see, not many parents out there actually know their children so well.
I have high-functioning autism and I wasn't diagnosed until I was 13 or 14. I'm almost 17 now and still the only diagnosed one (though I suspect my mom is on the spectrum). I wish that my family was as chill as you guys are because it's almost like a curse for me and they expect me to do everything "normally" and not get migraines when I'm surrounded by flowers, cleaning smells, people, or light. I wish I could come live with you guys☺️🫂
I hope Conner is doing okay, and so are all his siblings and both parent are doing well. It’s gotta be difficult being the only sibling not on the spectrum.
I hope he's okay too. I'm the oldest at home and my little sister is heavily autistic and while I have autism too, It's a lot milder for me but I struggle with her behaviour a lot.
@@racheld8920 I’m part of a Sibling group where we are siblings of someone with a disability... (my sibling used to have a disability) This is on FB, it’s called SibNet if you’d like to check it out!
Well I’m autistic and my non autistic younger sister has over the years had said “your overreacting” “why are you crying” both mainly because she’s shouting at me and the noise is causing me to overstimulated “suck it up” when I’m having sensory problems and one time I got asked if I’ll ever be cured of being autistic which in her defense she was like 8 when she asked this one
@@starolivio6895 Cus the other's may get more attention (cus they're on the spectrum and kinda requires it) and he may feel left out or abandoned and maybe feel like he isn't as loved as the others'
The way the parents really try their hardest to make sure all the kids feel completely equal. They really found what works for every kid and is just working with it. Even with their son that doesn't have autism they realize that he needs some time away and then letting Sofia and Harry go to the nature program a couple day a week instead of all the sensory of regular school. They're a beautiful family.
I got mine at 18 and the more I learned about autism, the more my life made sense. I moved out of my mom's house when I was 19. I am 22 now and working a full time job. I ride the bus because I can't drive and I eat a small variety of foods because of sensory issues
I was diagnosed at 27, and it explained everything. I cried when I got home after I was diagnosed, because it was just so overwhelming to realize that all the bullying and abuse I took was for things I couldn't possibly be expected to do.
this made me really emotional. I was diagnosed with autism when i was a kid but only found out a couple months ago ( I'm 21) . I did'nt know i had autism so thought i was just a weirdo, got bullied most of my time in school. Really wish i was told earlier on so i understood it was a positive thing, instead of now being in and out of depression, social anxiety, no self confidence.
I've got three autistic children and in recognising my childhood in them, eventually was diagnosed myself. The hardest thing about having autistic kids for me has been reliving the trauma of sending them to school in tears knowing how stressful that is. They are just perfect in every way...
I’m autistic and I want to raise children. I can’t fathom sending them off either. There’s some things you can’t help. But I’m sure you are helping in the ways you can.
@@monicamotatto3152le recomiendo preguntarle a un profesional para que pueda hablarle acerca de eso y saber cuál sería la mejor decisión dependiendo de las necesidades del niño
These parents are SO in tune with their children wow. They all seem so genuinely calm and content, I'm sure they have their moments like any other family but they do really seem like lovely, lovely people the lot of them. Parents anyone could look up to regardless of if they have children with ASD or not Also Big shoutout to the school helper that Sophie has, even a lot of professionals don't understand autism in girls unfortunately, I'm glad sophie has someone like her who gets it to help.
This popped up in my recommendations and I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of this programme. What an incredible family. Look how much the children thrive in the nature school too. My son would love it. Such a shame that it's not incorporated more into the curriculum here in the UK. Some schools offer nature school (forest schooling) once or twice a week but it's mostly under 5s.
I'm autistic and when I was young, nobody even knew about autism at all. I had to learn to mask all the time the hard way, with a lot of pressure and violence, I was never seen as the person I was, nor tried my family to support me in anything. When I see this family, I'm so happy for them, but I can't help a feeling of sadness for myself as well.
@@rita_3967 Thank you for sharing this, Amélie! It totally makes sense to me. In fact, I find myself in a so called mid-life crisis because I have no idea how I really want to live! I feel like I don't know myself at all. Luckily, I was able to find a very good therapist and I'm working on it, but I know it will take a lot of time, which makes me sad as well, because it feels like time is ticking out for me while others already have a life they want...
@@rita_3967 I think the "problem", if you will, is that each person with autism is totally different than the others. We are very individual. I know a lot of autists, but I only met one person I could connect to. So, "just" being an autist doesn't make us connect with each other. For example, I have a high IQ around 140 and that changes a lot with my autism as well. I can mask very well and I can learn a lot of stuff, but my mind goes blank when I should listen to/look at something that doesn't interest me...
Oh wow, this was filmed in my hometown in Christchurch, New Zealand! Big ups to the family looking after the kids so well, especially with the really tough 10 years we have faced in Chch, that would surely make it a lot harder. They are doing an amazing job as parents and these kids are going to grow up and be the most awesome humans ever💛
Growing up undiagnosed I completely understand what these kids are going through. It's amazing that they have such a functional family to support them through the struggles. Brings a tear to my eye
I’m autistic and it’s affected my life deeply I wish I could say I loved my autism but to be completely truthful my experiences have made me hate this part of me, people can be so cruel when they don’t understand you!
Wow. My son feels the way you do also. He’s 13 and doesn’t tell people even if they ask. It’s like a little family secret . He hates even hearing the word and gets angry. Is currently in denial and says he doesn’t have it. He sees it as a negative
@@Hotchocolatewithsugar I completely understand that and it’s definitely hard to accept it as a positive whilst others view it as a negative, in the four months since I wrote this comment I myself have bit by bit learned to accept my autism as a founding part of myself, I have learned that many autistic children have talents in many other stuff and what can be seen as a nuisance in some situations can also be a benefit in other situations, I hope you’ll pass on to your son the knowledge that having autism does not make him any less of a person if anything it makes him kinder and more compassionate for others, wishing your son and your family the best in life and I hope he begins loving himself all part of him the autism included!!
@@linnda3406 I'm honestly so happy for you for getting to that point ❤I was going to write, for me it gets redirected more as anger that people are taught that my harmless behaviours are "bad" and should be shunned. Like, I still hide most of my stimming so im not ostracized, but when i really think about it, I get more mad at the world for making me hide it
@@Hotchocolatewithsugar Help him identify a benefit of having Autism rather than negatives. Show him that he is experiencing that benefit as well. In my case I was in denial of having Autism because I thought that having such a condition also meant low intelligence. After finding out the opposite is true I felt more confident in my Autistic self and went on to surpass everyone in my class in our final exams except one person. Your son can come to view Autism as a strength too. Just highlight the positives and show him evidence that the positives exist within him.
This makes me feel important and lucky that i have highfunctional autism. That it's nothing to be ashamed of. I loved to see how this family was working together in social situations.💕
I only found out I was on the spectrum at age 22. Been terrorized and traumatized developed ptsd and anxiety through life. Was bullied and psychologically terrorized by a friends mom from age 4 til 12. Apparently she was jealous of my mom and had to take it out on me. I wasn't the weird kid. But I was the overly happy and smiling kid. But so many people found it too annoying.. But I'm actually getting through it
I myself have autism too so seeing kids being so young and knowing about their autism and getting to learn already is something that I never had because I'm almost 17 and I have known this for a little longer than 6 months so I feel great when I see the parents being so understanding to the kids because my parents and I are still in therapy for my autism
As an autistic adult, it's lovely to see a documentary like this. It's so refreshing to see people not being afraid to highlight the strengths in autism as well as the struggles and it's lovely to hear the kids speak, so people can hear their perspective too. One thing that was perhaps just slightly miscommunicated here was the idea that to be autistic you need low-empathy. This isn't the case and many autistic people actually present with very high empathy and can be very oversensitive to other's emotions. Just so people know! :)
These parents really took the time to figure out exactly what each of their children need. They are amazing parents and I hope they see all these comments bc they deserve it
I used to do the same thing all the time growing up but I would just get yelled at because I wasn't diagnosed with anything until recently. I'm glad these kids are getting the support they need :)
I have a son who high funching. He is very smart. Hated school. Yet was so smart. He dont like to hug. He dont understand to watch that he dont tell what he really feels. They definitely says things that we would not. Love my son he is so gifted. Love your family.
My autism is just like Sophie’s!!! I acted just like her in elementary school. I mask a lot and experience hyper empathy, like many girls on the spectrum.
Yep! That’s me and also my daughter too... it can be a hard and tricky path. And the other girls/ women in schools and workplaces can be really nasty to females who are ‘different’.
The history of autism REALLY seems to highlight the patriarchy, sexism in medicine & education, and the often significant difference between genders. SO VERY glad that girls with autism are finally getting some light..may we all continue to learn, and accept each other for the betterment of us ALL.
Same with me. It took having a son of my own with autism for me to realize most of my problems including drug addiction were a way of coping with my hyper empathy and over stimulation and hyper emotions.. sensory overload and auditory processing disorder. I was in talented and gifted in 2nd grade and teachers wanted me to be skipped ahead a grade in 2, 3, and 4th grade. Then in middle school I went the opposite direction. Couldn't focus and easily bored because i was so ahead and then i started getting in trouble. My overload would lead me to self harm. I dropped out sophomore year. I wish I could have gotten help when I was younger but this had led me to go all out with the help I am getting my 4 year old.
I wish I could like this documentary a thousand times. My autism was ignored when I was a child, I got labeled by my parents as a shy, selfish loner when I was having non-verbal phases with a well developing depression through my whole childhood. I went and got diagnosed at 26 after a couple of major burnouts and hospitalization.
My girlfriend's 3 yr old son has moderate to severe autism and is nonverbal. It can be incredibly challenging but he's an amazing kid. We are trying to teach him basic sign language and reduce the amount of meltdowns. I've gained so much empathy and understanding from the experience
These parents are inspiring. I have a lot in common with both. I am definitely on the spectrum like the dad, but I also was so obsessed with learning about autism and how to help my son that I ended up going to college for social work and got my degree! Now I'm working on my bachelor's degree in child, youth and family studies!
I wish we had programs like this in the US. I work with Autistic children.....Sort of...I am a school bus driver for young adults. I love it and determined to learn more about Autism. My son is ADHD so I have the empathy for it but want to learn more. I love all the students on my bus. I am glad I can rely on youtube for more info. Thank you for sharing your story.
I'm a 10 year old girl and I have autism just like these lot. Sometimes it is very difficult to be me with typical autistic meltdowns and stimming and flapping. I mask to look like I'm ok and to look like I fit in. But really I don't cope to well. I mask alot at school but as I've gotten older it's gotten harder to do. I struggle with going to school because it is difficult for me. I love school it's just hard. Some ppl don't except me but I know I am who I am and I was meant to be me. So I will not change for anyone ❤️❤️ my thoughts and prayers go to this beautiful family ❤️💗
You sound like such a lovely kid. There are so many things that make you special and wonderfully unique. These school years are hard but it’ll be worth it when you’re closer to being an adult and can find people that truly accept you without exception.
@Kenaidy Adan thankyou so much, had quite a tough day at school today and this is just what I needed to hear, hope everything goes well with you new life and living without your parents ❤️❤️
@@moonspirit2119 thankyou so much, these school years r tough and I'm scared for secondary, I'm only in year 5 but I'm very nervous but thankyou, lovely ❤️❤️
I'm have aspergers....didn't know until late 20's , thank God for my caring and supportive parents everyday!! Can be hard with finding the right words to express how you feel at times , upside is you have a very unique way of thinking and figuring out things !!
the little girl reminded me so much of me as a child, especially w the whole school situation. it's so difficult to figure things out there and i feel bad that she's already worried about school at such a young age. i wish her the best of luck
I actually cried when the daughter was talking about socialising and school because I related so much - it was like looking at a younger me but one who had all the answers earlier on. I'm so glad she and her brothers have such a supportive family and environment to grow up in.
Love this beautiful family. Sophie, if I was your age and went to your school I would definitely play with you! You’ll find friends that will embrace you WHOLEHEARTEDLY eventually...they just need to mature first ❤️
They may have autism, but wow! I'm very impressed with this family. Imagine what they will be doing with their lives as they mature. Their brother who does not have autism is looked after too. I'll assume that they have their times when it's full melt down time. The patience that Racheal shows (note that I spelled that her way!) is awesome. I wish them continued success.
Hi.. I am 45 and have been wondering the same thing, I have two boys who are 3 and 8 who are on the spectrum and I see so many of my problems in them I had growing up.. I have always had anger problems and emotional difficulties and very annoying ocd habits.. I have always wondered am I just wierd and why am I different to everyone else.. Well just in the last year I am pretty sure I am on the spectrum too.. Amazing parents by the way.. If I can learn just a little from you and your parenting skills I will be happy, its difficult to raise my children for me as I have so many issues myself.. Thank god for their mum my wonderful partner
@@UtdLee76 why dont u get tested? i mean 2 kids on the spectrum...me too, and of course i also got tested. it would be too weird not to know, i mean no i dont need to listen to all that bull that sometimes gets explained by professionals about autism and about my kids. coz now i am the proven experts and the ableist professionals dont dare anymore to talk that negatively about my kids.
autism in females is very different and thats why a lot of females dont know they have it or never get diagnosed OR get diagnosed with the wrong thing!
Claire awww thank you 😊 yeah it’s an amazing feeling being able to explain all those “weird” things we do. I like how the kid in this vid says it’s like having super powers 😂 that’s how I’m going to think of it from now on 😊
My 4 year old is autistic struggling a whole lot with language but learns the hardest things by just looking at pictures. Absolutely loves cars and planets literally knows all the car models etc but struggles with language and conversation as well as certain environments that cause him sensory overload. Birthday parties are a huge problem.
@@southwest3671 it's funny I honestly don't remember ever drinking or even seeing "American lemonade" in stores anywhere although I'm sure they probably did have it. So I have no idea haha. Maybe they called it something like "traditional" or "old-fashioned lemonade." The most popular brand of soda lemonade is actually called L&P which stands for "lemon and Paeroa" - Paeroa being the North Island town south of Auckland where the beverage is produced. The town has a local spring that produces naturally carbonated mineral water, sort of like Perrier. I visited their factory and they have a giant L&P bottle outside that you can hug or climb on for photos lol.
@@Cyber.blox1 that's crazy lol yeah I actually lived in the UK as well for two years (I moved there with my British ex after we left NZ) and I honestly can't recall ever seeing lemonade over there either! It's kind of baffling because everyone seems to know what it is yet nobody has gone ahead and just made some. 😂
As an American, you can't buy real lemonade here either, by which I mean it is totally different than the taste or texture of homemade. To make the real stuff just squeeze a bunch of lemons, and the "secret" is sweeten with simple syrup (50/50 sugar and water boiled together then cooled). Then water to dilute to taste, but it should be pretty sweet and strong. I haven't made it in years because it is basically drinking sugar water, but man it is so good. Thanks for the clarification on the NZ version!
What an amazing family. You guys are so lucky. I’ve never had a childhood anything like what they’re having. Friends like they have, parents like they have, support, etc, so lucky and amazing.
This is amazing! She’s a super mom and I think the dad is using his experiences to help her learn the best way to handle situations. It’s amazing to see the supports available around the world.
My grandson was classified as on the spectrum. He did not talk for the first few years of his life. We took him to a speech therapist and now he talks very clearly and fast. He is a Honor Roll student. And he has an unbelievable love for basketball. He now travels the South East of America to play a high level. He knows about everything and the history of basketball. The biggest issue is his eating. He will only eat a few select foods. If the sun is up he is outside. Once the sun goes down he is a gamer.
This resonates so clearly with my family. I don’t think I’ve ever seen another family that looks like mine, what our life looks like. We don’t have the supports this family has which makes things much harder to navigate
I'm a single mom with 4 boys on the spectrum. My twins also have ADHD and ODD and ASPD. Watching this video is like watching a version of explaining my life. With my boys
I can understand Sophie very well. Got diagnosed only at 61 and a half years but would have been so much better off, had I known sooner. Admirable family, parents and kids are just wonderful. Love them!
My 23 year old brother has Autism and life has been challenging with him. He is now in supported living and for me and my parents it has been a blessing
My son (3) has ASD. Because it’s a invisible disability, it’s hard for the world to understand why child with autism do certain thing. My son looks “normal” but his unpredictable behavior in public gets us in so much trouble (random meltdowns, repetition of a word, he hits/hits and kicks. Of course I have plenty of people telling me that he’s out of control and I don’t do anything about. Literally do they know we go to speech therapy, occupational therapy and ABA to help him with these behaviors and behavioral norms in public
I am going through the same thing and even though his grandma knows he has ASD she still manage to tell me that he is out of control and I need to dicispline him better. 😢😫
I have 11 year old twins. My boy has autism and my daughter has Aspergers. I love it, they give me such a fascinating view of the world. This family are doing it right. Rachel, you’re a great mum, beautiful family :)
Elisa van den Berg autism is an umbrella term, aspergers is the high functioning diagnosis under that umbrella ( but still experience the emotional, social and sensory issues) my cousin has aspergers and he is an engineer that earns around 100 grand a year, but he still gets easily upset and aggravated at family events- which to outsiders would seem extremely childish and pathetic
As a person with an autistic brother, and as a person who has worked with autistic children, I have lots of respect for this family, they are doing a great job👍💜
Thank you for sharing this video. I've studying Autism so I can better understand my daughter and it has been a long battle 😩! This has put a light on many perspectives for her as well as help me not to feel alone in my journey to assist her in life. May God continue to give you strength and encouragement to persevere.🤗
I think its amazing that youre doing that for her! Remember to talk to autistics and autistic communities, the so called experts are often a little daft haha
When I visited MIT it was like more people on the spectrum than not, and it is a place that is very accepting. Some students might need reminding to wash regularly, or to not wear pajamas to class... but they handle teaching those social things very well. It's not a big deal, and for those that are high functioning or "normal", help the others and let's not talk about the professors... it was a delight to be the one that stood out, for being not as smart as they are....and not being able to see life in the different ways they do.
I read so many lovely comments here from autistic people. It makes you realize that if all you have ever seen is the out of control children and the parents who are in constant crisis, that there are high functioning people also. These people seem to have either learned on their own how to cope with life or had a strong support system to help them, they have become (or are still becoming) adults that accept or embrace the differences. They don't call it a spectrum for nothing. There are two ends and everything in between. I think these two wonderful people could teach so much to parents who have no idea how to cope.
As someone on the spectrum it was so sweet to see a mother that catered to her autistic children’s needs. I recently became 18 and my childhood was probably as difficult for my mom as it was for me because she had no idea what to do with me. Because of that my sister said she felt left out. So I understand the neurotypical son’s situation as well. I feel like my sister is getting a lot more attention now. It’s also good for me too because I get to learn about my autism without my mother always in my business.
All of your children are so blessed! To have parents like you and such incredible support at school. This video made me smile and cry. As someone who has autism, I related so much to the children and to your family as a whole. Thank you so much for making this. The whole world needs to see it; The whole world needs people like you
I absolutely loved watching this. I am your children. I have ADHD, and I think potentially on the spectrum as well. Your family is incredible And thank you to whoever put this together.
I wonder how the second oldest son feels about only getting one-on-one attention from a relative, and not from his parents. I am curious if children/teenagers like this end up being closer and feeling safer in the company of people who aren't their blood relatives, and their bond with their family is more based on memories or closeness they worked for.
Its not as tho he is neglected by his parents, and he has strong bond with older brother..I'm guessing he understands, and treasures his day with her. And yes, probably is easier for him to already bond outside his immediate family.
@@donnaadom8483 It’s a pretty common thing for children who grew up with disabled/different siblings to feel less loved. It’s just an irrational conclusion but children register more attention as more love. Hopefully his parents schedule alone time with him.
This is such a great look into autism and this family is so awesome. This also backs up the idea that autism is partially genetic, and having multiple siblings on the spectrum is very common. Also I believe the Dad questioned if he is on the spectrum too. So that ups the likelihood too of having children on the spectrum. I have questioned myself if I am on the spectrum, a lot of parts of the video are relatable to me.
To kids like this who may watch this vid. If you read this. Don't stop trying to check out the typical world. As frustrating as they can be there is a lot of cool stuff to try. You can always stop but never hopping in and pushing through the tough stuff, man I would regret it. I never understood why everyone around me seemed to have a list of what everyone was supposed to be doing and I never got that list. So I learned to just be the odd guy and find a small place here and there. Now that I am an adult I have learned to fake it so well most think I am such a great person to be around. Of course I am not trying to trick anyone because none of them know the real me except for a few who are my closest friends, but I do enjoy making others smile and getting into the world and trying to experience as much as possible. I was shocked when I found out someone told me I have done more by the time I was 30 years old than most do in their whole life. Yeah its frustrating and scary and I am very irritated most of the time but its so worth it. Besides they don't realize they don't make sense. lol. I was 38 when I found out I was autistic. Found out my mom was, my brother, My grandfather, my daughter, my uncle. None of us fit like others but we found out where we want to be and it works. Just keep it up. There are others like you who get it.
I love everything about this family. And I love that they have a male caregiver and their aunt who’s a quite old woman being the sports coach for their team. No gender boundaries. And the family is so loving and knit together unlike tons out there including mine that ARENT. Their kids have friends and sports and games and everything combined. I’ve never had friends and activity and a childhood like they have.
I'm sorry for your family and childhood, But please remember that it's never too late to be a child again. I recently did an Avatar the Last Airbender marathon with a bunch of 20+ers, And it was really fun to just laugh and enjoy this kids show.
Wow I have so much respect for the mom. I'm 24 yo now and can't ever imagine dedicating so much of my life to 5 other beings, like she does. Mad respect !
I have asperger's & my mom made the same comment after spending some time at her sisters' & she realized her sisters' kids doesn't really do stuff like cuddling/kissing/using endearing words to eo etc after a certain age. Idk maybe it's just them but I'm 30+ & I still do that kinds stuff everyday. Never miss a goodnight kiss. I wonder why some ppl stop doing it tho
My sister is autistic but is more empathetic than the average person. A lot of people with autism actually feel empathy but just have trouble expressing it.
My daughter is autistic and she has a ton of empathy!! Totally wrong that people on the spectrum don't have empathy, they just show it or feel it differently sometimes.
Its really about how we process things differently and because of that we struggle to express it in a way that the non autistic people can understand, we actually do express empathy aĺl the time, its more to the point that in this and other emotions its us that are trying to fit in and make allowances for or on a level that you can understand (or that we struggle with it anyway) and it is more offten than not that people dont even bother to meet half way. You two must be really amazing people if you can see such thing that other people are blind in an autistic person. Thants My personal opinion anyway. Im on the Spectrum too. 💘
@@violetmusic7209 ❤️
While empathy seems to come quite naturally for those among us on the autism spectrum, I'm regularly reminded that even so-called "normal" or as you've put it average people often struggle reading social cues of others.
I think the notable difference to most is the inability to express empathy and emotions in a societally appropriate manner. Unless you live with or are very close with someone who has ASD or ADHD (which I think is frankly two sides of the same coin) then you may miss the depth of their emotions.
I think the parents are doing an outstanding job with their children. It takes a lot of love & patience.
Amen
I have twins with autism and are on different sectrims...never easy
I also have identical twins with severe autism and a 3rd child with high functioning autism. they are 18 years old now and they still have tantrums so it’s a challenge every day. But they are very loving and have their daily routines. My husband and I also worry about what will happen to the welfare of our kids when we are no longer able to care for them in our old age or when we pass away.
@@AK-qf8gs may i advise you to not use the terms “high functioning “ and “tantrums” when talking about autistic people? “high functioning” is an ablest terminology commonly used to separate who acts the most “appropriately “ in a neurotypical society and also discredits the different hardships they face due to being autistic that you might not even notice. Also, saying your 18 year olds have tantrums is extremely infantilising and the majority of the autistic community feels very uncomfortable when referred to like that. You may not have intended to use those terms but please think upon what i’ve said, as an autistic person myself.
Please watch the documentary called Vaxxed, you can find it here on YT.
imo, as an autistic woman who's done social work for over a decade, these might be the most educated, caring parents of autistic children that I've ever seen. they're miles more knowledgeable about their children's true needs than a heap of boastful "autism parents" that I deal with regularly. I can tell just by the language they use (ie - speaking about their daughter masking, which is typically a thing that girls with autism do) that they are incredibly tuned in to their children's well-being. these kids are going to become such wonderful adults because of the amazing start their parents gave them. I loved watching this so much, and I wish them all the best. 💖
I’m sure most parents are doing their best
@@daisysummer514 yes but they don't take the time to learn, they just assume they know best.
Masking is currently becoming more prevalent in both genders in our comunity at this point it did used to be typical of females I mask when I am in public but look at results currently ask around just as many males are masking as females now
@@daisysummer514 most parents dont have to get on this level with there children they let them get on with it till something requires them we always require some type of suport there for parents do work harder
Ooh, yeah. I am an autistic woman sociologist, and a (single) parent to three autistic teenagers. The parents here are very much more switched on than most parents of autistic young people. There’s so much pressure from many parents to ‘teach their kids to fit in’. Autistic people by and large don’t want to be ‘normal’, but we do need help to achieve our best in a busy and sociable workplace...
So we’re going to ignore the fact that the kid could SMELL ants??? That’s amazing! Beautiful smart children and amazing parents!
wait i thought everyone can smell ants'
When i was a kid, I thought everyone can smell ants too until i got older and realized i can't smell them anymore and when i asked other people they get weirded out 😂
Ellie Exe yea wtf when i say omggg the ants smell so disgusting everyone in my family looks at me so weird
Wait you can actually smell ants? Like how? Can you find them by smell or you gotta put your face close to the ground to smell them? 😂 Just ants, what about other insects?
DasPikachu I have these same questions
These parents are actually parents because they think about their children's needs beyond food and shelter. They think about their kid's personal growth, relationships, and how their kids will "be" in the world. Amazing.
Watching her daughter is like watching my childhood getting recorded and played out to me.... the part where Sophie wouldn’t get out of the car hit the hardest, at that age kids start to realize your different. Not only do they realize they start to pick you out of the crowds then starts the heavy masking making each day SO draining and that’s just socially so once you combine the academics with it woah does it become far too much. Seeing her sit there fiddling with the seat beat crying just hoping her mom won’t actually make her go was far too relatable to the point that it almost physically hurt me to watch her make her go ( even though I do realize the mom of course needs to work and child care is expensive).
this comment is it. i can't express things well and this comment was exactly what i thought in my head. thank you
I had trouble going to school ever since I was 8, look where I'm at now, dropped out. there's no really ANY exposure here about autism or mental health, therefore my parents hated me for being a "lazy child" who only brings burden to them. they would abuse me, hitting and slapping my face after they get so irritated watching me making excuses as to why I didn't want to go. not to mention the guilt tripping they always do to make me feel more shit than i already do
and as an asian, just imagine how hated i am in this family. as my other cousins are studying overseas, bunch of them becoming doctors, while i slowly rot in the house. both of my grandmothers hate me.
me too the car bit was very scary for me. i had flashbacks drawn from the depths of my memory in primary school. once my dad called the principal to coax me out and i remember wanting to shrink behind the drivers seat. i don’t have autism but back then i was struggling to cope with severe ocd, anxiety, odd, sensory processing disorder, adhd and arfids. i still have them all today lol plus a few more but i’m worlds ahead from where i thought i’d ever be (and my parents and treating team as well) wish i could say something to little sophie but hang in there, it’s rough but it’s not forever 💚
Did the 👍 because 100% minus the brackets part. It isn't about money or compulsory it's about if you don't go and you don't cross that barrier than you won't ever do it, because really its getting into school and started thats the most anxiety filling part cause your actually pretty alright after that bit, remember seeing Sophie with her friends; she was happy and she was copping.
I'm honestly the same exept back then i didn't have friends and that was the worst part of all = no stability at school whatsoever
As someone who may be autistic herself, but never diagnosed, and grew up with two diagnosed siblings, I completely understand the whole being left out thing. I felt like I was borderline abandoned at times. My brothers got everything and I usually got ignored
Yes yes yes
same here. But with my mom and my twin sister.
Relatable.
HUGS as the middle child in a quote"normal family" I felt the same much love to you!!
Me too.
I feel bad when the little girl was crying and didn’t want to get out of the car. It’s so much worse because of the camera person.
Dont feel bad;she is strong. You are right that the camera people weren't helping and it was a tearless cry (sorry i'm a persific haggler/ nightmare/sometimes appears to be robot) i still struggle to get out of the car too when dropped off, i'm in highschool by the way.☺
Same, i was like "back off camera person, let them have a moment" the hug at the end was sweet tho
@@livvieRAWR99 if they weren't happy showing her crying in the car they wouldnt havent put the clip in. also there is a thing called a zooming
Please watch the documentary called Vaxxed, you can find it here on YT.
@@AZRAEL_FURY whats the link between this documentary and this video ? Maybe I understood it in a wrong but after typing it on youtube I saw it was a documentary about how supposedly vaccines cause autism which is far from being true. We are in 2021, so many studies have shown this argument is false and comes from an ignorant place...I'm sorry but I don't get why this comment is here under this interesting video about a family dealing with autistic kids.
This was a great depiction of real life on the spectrum. I cried when Sophie was in the car and didn't want to go to school, because that was my exact experience of school too!
The other girls pushed me aside too. Kudos to her teacher for addressing it!
@@donnaadom8483 When I was growing up in school, no one knew I had autism yet but I was just like Sophie in this way. I don't think my peers meant to be cruel by excluding me but I was very lonely. I didn't know how to socialize with them and I just couldn't in large groups. It's not how I'm wired. But rather than address it to help me at all I think the school simply thought "Oh well, she's simply an unpopular little girl. Not much we can do about it." This is sad. We're all social beings, some more than others and in all kinds of ways. School isn't just about learning your ABCs. It is also about teaching children to socialize and how to do it with those who might be different.
Yep same and I used to tick school a lot too or pull sickies. Mind I got genuinely sick too and have PCOS aswell and EDS :'(
Same, my mom didn't knew that I'm autistic so she just trought that I was lazy and didn't like to study. It was a terrible traumatic experience, she would push me physically to school and I was always crying in class.
I’ve never been diagnosed but this was my experience too, I hope you guys are doing better now (‘: I used to cry and yell in the car, just so drained of school and not wanting to go and be bullied. It hurts to think there are kids experiencing that every year
The teachers and parents of theses kids are so rad! I love how everyone has worked together to make sure the kids are able to be successful!
Same here the chart they created for all the girls to play in a non invasive environment is amazing! The education is student led and just beautiful to watch
@@DiniBrum Yes, and it gives the classmates a healthy view of autism
I agree, but "rad"? That died off a LONG time ago. I suggest "amazing".
Sophie’s hair colour is really pretty
That mom is an absolute hero!
Indeed! We stopped having kids after having one with autism, because I was afraid I couldn't handle more than 2 children when one has special needs, but she does great.
My Mum is the best
@@harrypriestley1136 Tell your mum she's doing well for me, okay?
I'm doing the same with mine whenever I see her,
Didn't think I'd find someone who also grew up in
A house of 6, with only 1 neurotypical sibling.
@@BramLastname hi it’s me Harry mum is going good
The pics of the dad when he was young looks exactly like his kids. Ahaha they are his little copies
I know he looks exactly like me 😄
The way the mother described every single one of her children's personallity, traits and difficulties was lovely to see, not many parents out there actually know their children so well.
Yes!! She's so lovely. It's so pleasing to see parents seeking out to understand and love their children
You kinda have to with these kids,
But I don't see that as a bad thing,
The world just isn't ready for them.
I have high-functioning autism and I wasn't diagnosed until I was 13 or 14. I'm almost 17 now and still the only diagnosed one (though I suspect my mom is on the spectrum). I wish that my family was as chill as you guys are because it's almost like a curse for me and they expect me to do everything "normally" and not get migraines when I'm surrounded by flowers, cleaning smells, people, or light. I wish I could come live with you guys☺️🫂
I hope Conner is doing okay, and so are all his siblings and both parent are doing well. It’s gotta be difficult being the only sibling not on the spectrum.
I hope he's okay too. I'm the oldest at home and my little sister is heavily autistic and while I have autism too, It's a lot milder for me but I struggle with her behaviour a lot.
@@racheld8920 I’m part of a Sibling group where we are siblings of someone with a disability... (my sibling used to have a disability) This is on FB, it’s called SibNet if you’d like to check it out!
Well I’m autistic and my non autistic younger sister has over the years had said “your overreacting” “why are you crying” both mainly because she’s shouting at me and the noise is causing me to overstimulated “suck it up” when I’m having sensory problems and one time I got asked if I’ll ever be cured of being autistic which in her defense she was like 8 when she asked this one
@Harry Priestley Hi!
How are you?
This video was really beautiful to watch, you have a really good family
@Harry Priestley hi
This child who doesn't have ASD. I hope he feels well.
Why do you say?
@@starolivio6895 Cus the other's may get more attention (cus they're on the spectrum and kinda requires it) and he may feel left out or abandoned and maybe feel like he isn't as loved as the others'
Same😬
True. When a sibling needs special care sometimes the "normal" child is left out somewhat.
Yep. I know a lot of people who siblings who have various disabilities... and that issue does exist.
The way the parents really try their hardest to make sure all the kids feel completely equal. They really found what works for every kid and is just working with it. Even with their son that doesn't have autism they realize that he needs some time away and then letting Sofia and Harry go to the nature program a couple day a week instead of all the sensory of regular school. They're a beautiful family.
I'm 21 and have just been diagnosed, I was very much like these kids but no one ever noticed. Since I know my whole life suddenly makes sense.
yes! i'm 14 and trying to get a diagnosis right now. it just makes so much sense now
grace wishing you the best!!
got mine at age 13 made life more easy to understand
I got mine at 18 and the more I learned about autism, the more my life made sense. I moved out of my mom's house when I was 19. I am 22 now and working a full time job. I ride the bus because I can't drive and I eat a small variety of foods because of sensory issues
I was diagnosed at 27, and it explained everything. I cried when I got home after I was diagnosed, because it was just so overwhelming to realize that all the bullying and abuse I took was for things I couldn't possibly be expected to do.
Their mom deserves all the recognition in the world!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌
She is the best mom in the world
this made me really emotional. I was diagnosed with autism when i was a kid but only found out a couple months ago ( I'm 21) . I did'nt know i had autism so thought i was just a weirdo, got bullied most of my time in school. Really wish i was told earlier on so i understood it was a positive thing, instead of now being in and out of depression, social anxiety, no self confidence.
I've got three autistic children and in recognising my childhood in them, eventually was diagnosed myself. The hardest thing about having autistic kids for me has been reliving the trauma of sending them to school in tears knowing how stressful that is. They are just perfect in every way...
I’m autistic and I want to raise children. I can’t fathom sending them off either.
There’s some things you can’t help. But I’m sure you are helping in the ways you can.
El Home Scooling es una buena opción en ese caso? Mi hijo está llegando a la edad de estudiar en escuela y estamos considerando enseñarle en casa
@@monicamotatto3152le recomiendo preguntarle a un profesional para que pueda hablarle acerca de eso y saber cuál sería la mejor decisión dependiendo de las necesidades del niño
the honesty and openess of this documentary is so helpful and encouraging
i recognize so much of myself in that little girl
These parents are SO in tune with their children wow. They all seem so genuinely calm and content, I'm sure they have their moments like any other family but they do really seem like lovely, lovely people the lot of them. Parents anyone could look up to regardless of if they have children with ASD or not Also Big shoutout to the school helper that Sophie has, even a lot of professionals don't understand autism in girls unfortunately, I'm glad sophie has someone like her who gets it to help.
This popped up in my recommendations and I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of this programme. What an incredible family. Look how much the children thrive in the nature school too. My son would love it. Such a shame that it's not incorporated more into the curriculum here in the UK. Some schools offer nature school (forest schooling) once or twice a week but it's mostly under 5s.
I'm autistic and when I was young, nobody even knew about autism at all. I had to learn to mask all the time the hard way, with a lot of pressure and violence, I was never seen as the person I was, nor tried my family to support me in anything. When I see this family, I'm so happy for them, but I can't help a feeling of sadness for myself as well.
Oh dear! I'm so sorry about that, I wish you had someone to lend you a hand and know when to reach out. Are you okay, now?
@@gladysolvera6566 I am, thanks a lot!
@@rita_3967 Thank you for sharing this, Amélie! It totally makes sense to me. In fact, I find myself in a so called mid-life crisis because I have no idea how I really want to live! I feel like I don't know myself at all. Luckily, I was able to find a very good therapist and I'm working on it, but I know it will take a lot of time, which makes me sad as well, because it feels like time is ticking out for me while others already have a life they want...
@@rita_3967 Absolutely correct, I totally agree! I'm actually very pleased to have met someone else who struggles with this.
@@rita_3967 I think the "problem", if you will, is that each person with autism is totally different than the others. We are very individual. I know a lot of autists, but I only met one person I could connect to. So, "just" being an autist doesn't make us connect with each other. For example, I have a high IQ around 140 and that changes a lot with my autism as well. I can mask very well and I can learn a lot of stuff, but my mind goes blank when I should listen to/look at something that doesn't interest me...
This mom is amazing😭😭
It’s so cute the oldest look like Dad and the youngest look like mama. Thx for the vid ❤️
To the person/team who produced and edited this video: this is really good storytelling, so well done!
Oh wow, this was filmed in my hometown in Christchurch, New Zealand! Big ups to the family looking after the kids so well, especially with the really tough 10 years we have faced in Chch, that would surely make it a lot harder. They are doing an amazing job as parents and these kids are going to grow up and be the most awesome humans ever💛
Growing up undiagnosed I completely understand what these kids are going through. It's amazing that they have such a functional family to support them through the struggles. Brings a tear to my eye
I’m autistic and it’s affected my life deeply I wish I could say I loved my autism but to be completely truthful my experiences have made me hate this part of me, people can be so cruel when they don’t understand you!
Wow. My son feels the way you do also. He’s 13 and doesn’t tell people even if they ask. It’s like a little family secret . He hates even hearing the word and gets angry. Is currently in denial and says he doesn’t have it. He sees it as a negative
@@Hotchocolatewithsugar I completely understand that and it’s definitely hard to accept it as a positive whilst others view it as a negative, in the four months since I wrote this comment I myself have bit by bit learned to accept my autism as a founding part of myself, I have learned that many autistic children have talents in many other stuff and what can be seen as a nuisance in some situations can also be a benefit in other situations, I hope you’ll pass on to your son the knowledge that having autism does not make him any less of a person if anything it makes him kinder and more compassionate for others, wishing your son and your family the best in life and I hope he begins loving himself all part of him the autism included!!
@@linnda3406 I'm honestly so happy for you for getting to that point ❤I was going to write, for me it gets redirected more as anger that people are taught that my harmless behaviours are "bad" and should be shunned. Like, I still hide most of my stimming so im not ostracized, but when i really think about it, I get more mad at the world for making me hide it
The 1st half i had someone understand my struggle and now i have to deal with people who don't understand....and its hard...
@@Hotchocolatewithsugar Help him identify a benefit of having Autism rather than negatives. Show him that he is experiencing that benefit as well.
In my case I was in denial of having Autism because I thought that having such a condition also meant low intelligence. After finding out the opposite is true I felt more confident in my Autistic self and went on to surpass everyone in my class in our final exams except one person.
Your son can come to view Autism as a strength too. Just highlight the positives and show him evidence that the positives exist within him.
This makes me feel important and lucky that i have highfunctional autism. That it's nothing to be ashamed of. I loved to see how this family was working together in social situations.💕
I only found out I was on the spectrum at age 22. Been terrorized and traumatized developed ptsd and anxiety through life. Was bullied and psychologically terrorized by a friends mom from age 4 til 12. Apparently she was jealous of my mom and had to take it out on me. I wasn't the weird kid. But I was the overly happy and smiling kid. But so many people found it too annoying..
But I'm actually getting through it
Thanks for bringing awareness as it’s really tough when people can’t actually see the difference so they fail to understand.
I myself have autism too so seeing kids being so young and knowing about their autism and getting to learn already is something that I never had because I'm almost 17 and I have known this for a little longer than 6 months so I feel great when I see the parents being so understanding to the kids because my parents and I are still in therapy for my autism
As an autistic adult, it's lovely to see a documentary like this. It's so refreshing to see people not being afraid to highlight the strengths in autism as well as the struggles and it's lovely to hear the kids speak, so people can hear their perspective too. One thing that was perhaps just slightly miscommunicated here was the idea that to be autistic you need low-empathy. This isn't the case and many autistic people actually present with very high empathy and can be very oversensitive to other's emotions. Just so people know! :)
Right well put 😂
What a beautiful family. The hardest part probably for me from my autism is anxiety.
These parents really took the time to figure out exactly what each of their children need. They are amazing parents and I hope they see all these comments bc they deserve it
Sophie not getting out of the car and her explanation broke my heart
She finds it hard to get out of a car
I used to do the same thing all the time growing up but I would just get yelled at because I wasn't diagnosed with anything until recently. I'm glad these kids are getting the support they need :)
I have a son who high funching. He is very smart. Hated school. Yet was so smart. He dont like to hug. He dont understand to watch that he dont tell what he really feels. They definitely says things that we would not. Love my son he is so gifted. Love your family.
I have learnt more from watching this episode than any lectures I have attended .
My autism is just like Sophie’s!!! I acted just like her in elementary school. I mask a lot and experience hyper empathy, like many girls on the spectrum.
Me too! Also a girl on the spectrum
Same and I'm 31 at this point
Yep! That’s me and also my daughter too... it can be a hard and tricky path. And the other girls/ women in schools and workplaces can be really nasty to females who are ‘different’.
The history of autism REALLY seems to highlight the patriarchy, sexism in medicine & education, and the often significant difference between genders. SO VERY glad that girls with autism are finally getting some light..may we all continue to learn, and accept each other for the betterment of us ALL.
Same with me. It took having a son of my own with autism for me to realize most of my problems including drug addiction were a way of coping with my hyper empathy and over stimulation and hyper emotions.. sensory overload and auditory processing disorder. I was in talented and gifted in 2nd grade and teachers wanted me to be skipped ahead a grade in 2, 3, and 4th grade. Then in middle school I went the opposite direction. Couldn't focus and easily bored because i was so ahead and then i started getting in trouble. My overload would lead me to self harm. I dropped out sophomore year. I wish I could have gotten help when I was younger but this had led me to go all out with the help I am getting my 4 year old.
I wish I could like this documentary a thousand times. My autism was ignored when I was a child, I got labeled by my parents as a shy, selfish loner when I was having non-verbal phases with a well developing depression through my whole childhood. I went and got diagnosed at 26 after a couple of major burnouts and hospitalization.
My girlfriend's 3 yr old son has moderate to severe autism and is nonverbal. It can be incredibly challenging but he's an amazing kid. We are trying to teach him basic sign language and reduce the amount of meltdowns. I've gained so much empathy and understanding from the experience
Omg a play chart, that makes me so happy to see them finding solutions , and the other girls being so kind and responsive
Finally people are starting to understand ASD does not have to be the stero type I also have ASD
These parents are inspiring. I have a lot in common with both. I am definitely on the spectrum like the dad, but I also was so obsessed with learning about autism and how to help my son that I ended up going to college for social work and got my degree! Now I'm working on my bachelor's degree in child, youth and family studies!
I wish we had programs like this in the US. I work with Autistic children.....Sort of...I am a school bus driver for young adults. I love it and determined to learn more about Autism. My son is ADHD so I have the empathy for it but want to learn more. I love all the students on my bus. I am glad I can rely on youtube for more info. Thank you for sharing your story.
I'm a 10 year old girl and I have autism just like these lot. Sometimes it is very difficult to be me with typical autistic meltdowns and stimming and flapping. I mask to look like I'm ok and to look like I fit in. But really I don't cope to well. I mask alot at school but as I've gotten older it's gotten harder to do. I struggle with going to school because it is difficult for me. I love school it's just hard. Some ppl don't except me but I know I am who I am and I was meant to be me. So I will not change for anyone ❤️❤️ my thoughts and prayers go to this beautiful family ❤️💗
You sound like such a lovely kid. There are so many things that make you special and wonderfully unique. These school years are hard but it’ll be worth it when you’re closer to being an adult and can find people that truly accept you without exception.
@Kenaidy Adan thankyou so much, had quite a tough day at school today and this is just what I needed to hear, hope everything goes well with you new life and living without your parents ❤️❤️
@@bluecheesehasmoldinit thankyou so much, you telling me this has warmed my heart aswell ❤️ and to know I'm not alone is amazing ❤️ take care 😊
@@moonspirit2119 thankyou so much, these school years r tough and I'm scared for secondary, I'm only in year 5 but I'm very nervous but thankyou, lovely ❤️❤️
AmeliaJess xo I send you such good vibes. Continue being your sweet self and people will see it and want nothing more than to be your friend.
I'm have aspergers....didn't know until late 20's , thank God for my caring and supportive parents everyday!! Can be hard with finding the right words to express how you feel at times , upside is you have a very unique way of thinking and figuring out things !!
the little girl reminded me so much of me as a child, especially w the whole school situation. it's so difficult to figure things out there and i feel bad that she's already worried about school at such a young age. i wish her the best of luck
when she said “the worst part about autism is that it’s hard to get along with people” it hit me hard. i wish her well too. i feel her.
I actually cried when the daughter was talking about socialising and school because I related so much - it was like looking at a younger me but one who had all the answers earlier on.
I'm so glad she and her brothers have such a supportive family and environment to grow up in.
Love this beautiful family. Sophie, if I was your age and went to your school I would definitely play with you! You’ll find friends that will embrace you WHOLEHEARTEDLY eventually...they just need to mature first ❤️
No-rules-night, they follow all the rules! Children!
A bunch of great kids truly
That mom is a superhero!!!
They may have autism, but wow! I'm very impressed with this family. Imagine what they will be doing with their lives as they mature. Their brother who does not have autism is looked after too. I'll assume that they have their times when it's full melt down time. The patience that Racheal shows (note that I spelled that her way!) is awesome. I wish them continued success.
Auntie Annie is so precious as well. Bless her.
I’m 62 and I just realized that I may be on the spectrum. That explains a lot!
Hi.. I am 45 and have been wondering the same thing, I have two boys who are 3 and 8 who are on the spectrum and I see so many of my problems in them I had growing up.. I have always had anger problems and emotional difficulties and very annoying ocd habits.. I have always wondered am I just wierd and why am I different to everyone else.. Well just in the last year I am pretty sure I am on the spectrum too.. Amazing parents by the way.. If I can learn just a little from you and your parenting skills I will be happy, its difficult to raise my children for me as I have so many issues myself.. Thank god for their mum my wonderful partner
@@UtdLee76 why dont u get tested? i mean 2 kids on the spectrum...me too, and of course i also got tested. it would be too weird not to know, i mean no i dont need to listen to all that bull that sometimes gets explained by professionals about autism and about my kids. coz now i am the proven experts and the ableist professionals dont dare anymore to talk that negatively about my kids.
Me toooo!!!
autism in females is very different and thats why a lot of females dont know they have it or never get diagnosed OR get diagnosed with the wrong thing!
@@__katerandoe Yes
I was 27 when I found out I had autism. Life was torture up to that point. These kids are so lucky to have a family that understands 🥰
I'm so glad you know now! I am 17 and learning this year & it's so freeing & healing.
Claire awww thank you 😊 yeah it’s an amazing feeling being able to explain all those “weird” things we do. I like how the kid in this vid says it’s like having super powers 😂 that’s how I’m going to think of it from now on 😊
My 4 year old is autistic struggling a whole lot with language but learns the hardest things by just looking at pictures. Absolutely loves cars and planets literally knows all the car models etc but struggles with language and conversation as well as certain environments that cause him sensory overload. Birthday parties are a huge problem.
I know this is off-topic but just to clarify in NZ "lemonade" is actually carbonated soda like Sprite lol
What do you call lemonade then? The lemon juice, water and sugar in a decanter at a lemonade stand? Just curious.
@@southwest3671 it's funny I honestly don't remember ever drinking or even seeing "American lemonade" in stores anywhere although I'm sure they probably did have it. So I have no idea haha. Maybe they called it something like "traditional" or "old-fashioned lemonade." The most popular brand of soda lemonade is actually called L&P which stands for "lemon and Paeroa" - Paeroa being the North Island town south of Auckland where the beverage is produced. The town has a local spring that produces naturally carbonated mineral water, sort of like Perrier. I visited their factory and they have a giant L&P bottle outside that you can hug or climb on for photos lol.
That's interesting I never knew that!
@@Cyber.blox1 that's crazy lol yeah I actually lived in the UK as well for two years (I moved there with my British ex after we left NZ) and I honestly can't recall ever seeing lemonade over there either! It's kind of baffling because everyone seems to know what it is yet nobody has gone ahead and just made some. 😂
As an American, you can't buy real lemonade here either, by which I mean it is totally different than the taste or texture of homemade. To make the real stuff just squeeze a bunch of lemons, and the "secret" is sweeten with simple syrup (50/50 sugar and water boiled together then cooled). Then water to dilute to taste, but it should be pretty sweet and strong.
I haven't made it in years because it is basically drinking sugar water, but man it is so good.
Thanks for the clarification on the NZ version!
What an amazing family. You guys are so lucky. I’ve never had a childhood anything like what they’re having. Friends like they have, parents like they have, support, etc, so lucky and amazing.
This is amazing! She’s a super mom and I think the dad is using his experiences to help her learn the best way to handle situations. It’s amazing to see the supports available around the world.
What a cool family. Thanks for showing a slightly different side of autism than is usually portrayed, Attitude.
I really recognize my younger self in Sophie!
Update: yesterday I was diagnosed with autism, ADHD and panic disorder. I do have things in common with her.
Mama has the most beautiful calming voice, bless her. I only wish my mom acknowledged my autism.
Right? My mom was instructed to just “slap her out of it and tell her to smarten up” 🙄
My grandson was classified as on the spectrum. He did not talk for the first few years of his life. We took him to a speech therapist and now he talks very clearly and fast. He is a Honor Roll student. And he has an unbelievable love for basketball. He now travels the South East of America to play a high level. He knows about everything and the history of basketball. The biggest issue is his eating. He will only eat a few select foods. If the sun is up he is outside. Once the sun goes down he is a gamer.
What a great school, amazing parents & awesome kids!
This resonates so clearly with my family. I don’t think I’ve ever seen another family that looks like mine, what our life looks like. We don’t have the supports this family has which makes things much harder to navigate
I'm a single mom with 4 boys on the spectrum. My twins also have ADHD and ODD and ASPD. Watching this video is like watching a version of explaining my life. With my boys
This family is so kind-hearted and intelligent and loving!
Ratchel you are a wonderful mum, wife, and teacher you bring tons of love as do the people you surround your self with.
I can understand Sophie very well. Got diagnosed only at 61 and a half years but would have been so much better off, had I known sooner.
Admirable family, parents and kids are just wonderful. Love them!
Racheal is some sort of superhero, getting her degree while being a mum (alone for 10 weeks a year)! and having a job. My god.
My 23 year old brother has Autism and life has been challenging with him. He is now in supported living and for me and my parents it has been a blessing
My son (3) has ASD. Because it’s a invisible disability, it’s hard for the world to understand why child with autism do certain thing. My son looks “normal” but his unpredictable behavior in public gets us in so much trouble (random meltdowns, repetition of a word, he hits/hits and kicks. Of course I have plenty of people telling me that he’s out of control and I don’t do anything about. Literally do they know we go to speech therapy, occupational therapy and ABA to help him with these behaviors and behavioral norms in public
I am going through the same thing and even though his grandma knows he has ASD she still manage to tell me that he is out of control and I need to dicispline him better. 😢😫
I have 11 year old twins. My boy has autism and my daughter has Aspergers. I love it, they give me such a fascinating view of the world. This family are doing it right. Rachel, you’re a great mum, beautiful family :)
Isn't that the same?
Elisa van den Berg autism is an umbrella term, aspergers is the high functioning diagnosis under that umbrella ( but still experience the emotional, social and sensory issues) my cousin has aspergers and he is an engineer that earns around 100 grand a year, but he still gets easily upset and aggravated at family events- which to outsiders would seem extremely childish and pathetic
@@NeedANewName nope
@@NeedANewName Asperger's doesn't exist in the USA anymore. It is now just a part of the Autism Spectrum.
As a person with an autistic brother, and as a person who has worked with autistic children, I have lots of respect for this family, they are doing a great job👍💜
What an amazing mother. She does so much for her family and so much love.
My little brother is on the spectrum. Love this Kiwi family. 💗
So is my son
She’s a life saver ! A perfect mom to help
Incredible family with such positive outlook on life! Good role model for families with autistic kids, and for all families in general!
Thank you for sharing this video. I've studying Autism so I can better understand my daughter and it has been a long battle 😩! This has put a light on many perspectives for her as well as help me not to feel alone in my journey to assist her in life. May God continue to give you strength and encouragement to persevere.🤗
I think its amazing that youre doing that for her! Remember to talk to autistics and autistic communities, the so called experts are often a little daft haha
I'm in love with this family. You guys are so beautiful and so special inside and out.
When I visited MIT it was like more people on the spectrum than not, and it is a place that is very accepting. Some students might need reminding to wash regularly, or to not wear pajamas to class... but they handle teaching those social things very well. It's not a big deal, and for those that are high functioning or "normal", help the others and let's not talk about the professors... it was a delight to be the one that stood out, for being not as smart as they are....and not being able to see life in the different ways they do.
I read so many lovely comments here from autistic people. It makes you realize that if all you have ever seen is the out of control children and the parents who are in constant crisis, that there are high functioning people also. These people seem to have either learned on their own how to cope with life or had a strong support system to help them, they have become (or are still becoming) adults that accept or embrace the differences. They don't call it a spectrum for nothing. There are two ends and everything in between. I think these two wonderful people could teach so much to parents who have no idea how to cope.
As someone on the spectrum it was so sweet to see a mother that catered to her autistic children’s needs. I recently became 18 and my childhood was probably as difficult for my mom as it was for me because she had no idea what to do with me. Because of that my sister said she felt left out. So I understand the neurotypical son’s situation as well.
I feel like my sister is getting a lot more attention now. It’s also good for me too because I get to learn about my autism without my mother always in my business.
All of your children are so blessed! To have parents like you and such incredible support at school.
This video made me smile and cry. As someone who has autism, I related so much to the children and to your family as a whole.
Thank you so much for making this. The whole world needs to see it; The whole world needs people like you
Thank you
My daughter is so much like your Sophie! What a wonderful family working together to give your children the very best support and love.
this needs at least 1 mil views
I absolutely loved watching this. I am your children. I have ADHD, and I think potentially on the spectrum as well. Your family is incredible And thank you to whoever put this together.
I wonder how the second oldest son feels about only getting one-on-one attention from a relative, and not from his parents. I am curious if children/teenagers like this end up being closer and feeling safer in the company of people who aren't their blood relatives, and their bond with their family is more based on memories or closeness they worked for.
Wow you make a great point.
Its not as tho he is neglected by his parents, and he has strong bond with older brother..I'm guessing he understands, and treasures his day with her. And yes, probably is easier for him to already bond outside his immediate family.
@@donnaadom8483 It’s a pretty common thing for children who grew up with disabled/different siblings to feel less loved. It’s just an irrational conclusion but children register more attention as more love. Hopefully his parents schedule alone time with him.
I so needed to see this. Single mum, 2 kids on the spectrum...constantly on duty, but so rewarded.
This is such a great look into autism and this family is so awesome. This also backs up the idea that autism is partially genetic, and having multiple siblings on the spectrum is very common. Also I believe the Dad questioned if he is on the spectrum too. So that ups the likelihood too of having children on the spectrum. I have questioned myself if I am on the spectrum, a lot of parts of the video are relatable to me.
To kids like this who may watch this vid. If you read this. Don't stop trying to check out the typical world. As frustrating as they can be there is a lot of cool stuff to try. You can always stop but never hopping in and pushing through the tough stuff, man I would regret it. I never understood why everyone around me seemed to have a list of what everyone was supposed to be doing and I never got that list. So I learned to just be the odd guy and find a small place here and there. Now that I am an adult I have learned to fake it so well most think I am such a great person to be around. Of course I am not trying to trick anyone because none of them know the real me except for a few who are my closest friends, but I do enjoy making others smile and getting into the world and trying to experience as much as possible. I was shocked when I found out someone told me I have done more by the time I was 30 years old than most do in their whole life. Yeah its frustrating and scary and I am very irritated most of the time but its so worth it. Besides they don't realize they don't make sense. lol. I was 38 when I found out I was autistic. Found out my mom was, my brother, My grandfather, my daughter, my uncle. None of us fit like others but we found out where we want to be and it works. Just keep it up. There are others like you who get it.
I love everything about this family. And I love that they have a male caregiver and their aunt who’s a quite old woman being the sports coach for their team. No gender boundaries. And the family is so loving and knit together unlike tons out there including mine that ARENT. Their kids have friends and sports and games and everything combined. I’ve never had friends and activity and a childhood like they have.
I'm sorry for your family and childhood,
But please remember that it's never too late to be a child again.
I recently did an Avatar the Last Airbender marathon with a bunch of 20+ers,
And it was really fun to just laugh and enjoy this kids show.
@@BramLastname yeah. I wish I had someone to bring the good side and missed out side of me with. I wish I was lively. And could be more of someone.
@@AfraidMonsters do you have Discord?
Wow I have so much respect for the mom. I'm 24 yo now and can't ever imagine dedicating so much of my life to 5 other beings, like she does. Mad respect !
a loving family. Many "normal" families don't have their obvious loving relationship with each other
I have asperger's & my mom made the same comment after spending some time at her sisters' & she realized her sisters' kids doesn't really do stuff like cuddling/kissing/using endearing words to eo etc after a certain age. Idk maybe it's just them but I'm 30+ & I still do that kinds stuff everyday. Never miss a goodnight kiss. I wonder why some ppl stop doing it tho