I had a road rage incident today. The person was at fault and their attitude caused my reaction but I was just so unnecessary. I hate that I allowed myself to react like that. It’s hard to stay calm when you’ve been wronged but I need to practice these points you’ve made in your video.
Don't be daft. Some people DESERVE to be told to 'Fu** off.' They are usually muggy little cowards, that will then get in their car AND hurriedly actually 'fu** off!' who's the winner there? YOU are. #Done
I ignore the person entirely. They usually ramp up for a time after ive started ignoring. But then they exhaust themselves if not self destruct. Then I continue to ignore
My own mother keeps singing out load in front of my room, she knows that I'm studying a lot to get a new job, I want to be independent, she doesn't care, also my father, he get into my room without knocking when I'm studying, I am grateful that if we wasn't for them I would be homeless, but I feel annoyed when they do that.
Afeef M definitely 😁 and the fact that ur self aware about it means ur ahead of the game. Most people haven’t even realised they need to look at the issue. 🙏👍👍
what about when someone is bossing you around and is trying to get a reaction from you telling you can do this or do that deliberately trying to get underneath your skin.
You stand up...by imitate them like a child... It's allways work...and you take him as you're puppet ...hé already react just seing you...mess with his head
Very good tips However, I find that particular situations trigger me so quickly and profoundly that I am swept off in anger /emotion and before i realise to apply any common sense as per the video, it's usually a bit late
I understand this. I think the solution is in understanding exactly what is triggering you. If you ever need a chat drop me an email Wellnesswithinsolutions@gmail.com 👍 happy to be an ear for support
No matter how provoking the person is. One big advice of them all is dont ever ever hit them get physical because thats is they actually win over you. And you lose psychologically against them Yeah sometimes it is normal to retaliate back by provoking back but one thing out of all dont ever ever get physical against them. Speaking from my own experience
one of my colleague is insecure with me. I can really sense that the way he reacts in what i do, and in what i say. I am too positive at first and dealing everybody the right way without stepping nobody. He is trying to get into my nerves and even told everyone amd tells publicly the things i didnt do. and then i started to DM him and saying hurtful things, he bounce back and do the same thing. the reason why i told him about it to let him know that he stepped out the boundaries that should not be done to me. and then he acts likes a victim. everytime when I do good to somebody and say something to our team, he then reacts to laugh, but i just ignore that. and let it go because i have express my emotions already and what i feel to him. and done. still he continues to provoke me. and it keeps me angry more and more. i dont know what would be my next move. the reason why i wrote this in the comment section. i dont want to feel like a loser or let them do the things and say to everybody that i am like this and that. any advise?
I am ignoring from last 1 week .. Let me tell you my story. Please please please try to give me the best possible solution..because I am short tempered but as I have grown up I try to ignore which is suggested by my friends and parents ,so I try to understand and give me the solution.. So from last 1 week ..there is a girl in my hostel and she was in good term with me..like healthy friendship..she lives in triple sharing room ... And right now due to quarantine we some girls are stuck here. I have no roomates. So I have my washroom in sharing and her washroom is attached with room .. So outside veranda which is common to everyone and specialy for us who is having their washroom outside.. So recently from last 1 week she is just turning off the light of veranda and whenever I come outside for washroom I open the light of veranda and then go to washroom ..and then if I need to fill the water in my bottle for drinking, or if I have to face wash ..taking photos .. then I do that also and after returning from washroom I came back to my room.. Then again she come outside from her room and switch off the light ..one day I just askd them dt do u guys..switch off the light of veranda ..then they first get hesitate and said no ..and then asking indirectly are u asking about veranda or washroom ..I said veranda then she said ya I cnt sleep because of little amount of light ..I mean I was shocked bcz earlier she dont used to do that ..the next most important thing is to notice is that you live inside ur room..ur washroom is inside and you are getting issue with outside light in sleeping.. Then I said I heard it first time .. And said we dont have options..i cant walk in dark.. Then she said dts why I open the light of washroom ..then I said I am paying money to walk in the light ..and veranda is common for everyone ..also there is a basin and filter outside so I cant fill the water in dark or wash my face in dark .. Then their roomates agreed that ok we will not do that ... Then on the same day at night she again switched off the light ..now I felt that she is jealous or I dont know why suddenly she started doing these things ..Now as per the suggestion I no more ask or discussed to her..just try to ignore her ..and whenever I feel that I need to go out for washroom or water I switch on the light and return back to my room.. Now day before yesterday ..I came outside switch on the light and wash my face and return back to my room ..then I started talking to my friend then at 4am again when I opened my gate ..I saw she switched off the light but also she opened her room gate also and waiting for when I will come outside ... I saw that her room gate is open with all lights off ..this time I didnt switch on the light and just went to washroom without turning on the light ..I got all the vibes that early in the morning she wants to fight with me ,because ryt now If I will open the light then she will gonna say that light is coming on us.. We arent able to sleep..coz this time she just opened her room gate and when I returned back to my room I saw that she closed her door. I just controlled my anger ..but I she is provoking me to fight ..and she wants to fight like school kids.. Which will be really bad for image impression coz many juniors will see ..and she made them her friends ..so if m gonna fight then everyone will thought that I have initiated .. I even called the warden also ..he said ok i will talk..but I stopped him because I said to him dt first let me handle it without being voilent if it will not going to work then I will inform you.. So this is tha case ..please give me the best possible solution .. !!!
I will boot stomp them!...Lol...Actually my counter to anger and negative energy is to head out to nature and hang out with the birds and fuzzy little woodland creatures and meditate for a while and center myself. My true problem is I have been under a lot of stress for a very long time I am to easily provoked. But meditation does help. The guy that provoked you wins when you go off and make a complete ass of yourself I have done it and it is not a good feeling.
I don't know ..how to stay 4hours a day beside someone who constantly nagging? Sometimes you react but most of the time you..control yourself and after that the body with your toughts take the place...and so on..
Is it possible to use earphones and Mabey put on some music so as not to engage so much with the person..if not feel free to expand more and let’s see if we can help u draw a conclusion
@@godekchen9658 that must be an awful situation to be in. If u Would like to send us an email and tell us your story I will make a video based around this scenario. Not using any of your personal information or names of course just a general overview of a similar situation to try and help you see it from another perspective to get clarity. Wellnesswithinsolutions@gmail.com Hope u feel better soon😁
I was sucker punched when trying to explain they guy for judgibg me wrong. I should have been more calmer and should have been careful with words and not react but rather acted as in leave the area.
Do you offer psychological courses? Online And how much for price? The one i have know is kinda somehow kindergarten psychology and not like adultlife unresolved issues in early life
How I would react is not react to breath, calm down and say to my self that other ppls action is a reflection of themselves then me.
Best advice is to ignore any one that makes u feel that way. Stay away from them
I had a road rage incident today. The person was at fault and their attitude caused my reaction but I was just so unnecessary. I hate that I allowed myself to react like that. It’s hard to stay calm when you’ve been wronged but I need to practice these points you’ve made in your video.
Non of us are perfect Louise. The fact that you recognise that makes you a good person!
Don't be daft. Some people DESERVE to be told to 'Fu** off.' They are usually muggy little cowards, that will then get in their car AND hurriedly actually 'fu** off!' who's the winner there? YOU are. #Done
I ignore the person entirely. They usually ramp up for a time after ive started ignoring. But then they exhaust themselves if not self destruct. Then I continue to ignore
My own mother keeps singing out load in front of my room, she knows that I'm studying a lot to get a new job, I want to be independent, she doesn't care, also my father, he get into my room without knocking when I'm studying, I am grateful that if we wasn't for them I would be homeless, but I feel annoyed when they do that.
Did you get the new job?
I would breath in and out , think about how it will affect others , have a calm mind and think positively .
Great self awareness Hakeemat. Keep up the good work my friend. Looking forward to hearing about your continued growth in the future!
Thanks
'realise the situation' - very useful video, thanks.
Practice is the best medicine 😍
Afeef M definitely 😁 and the fact that ur self aware about it means ur ahead of the game. Most people haven’t even realised they need to look at the issue. 🙏👍👍
@@wellnesswithinsolutions3914 Thank you sir.
This is very helpful. Thank you so much for sharing this
what about when someone is bossing you around and is trying to get a reaction from you telling you can do this or do that deliberately trying to get underneath your skin.
Did you not watch the video?
You stand up...by imitate them like a child...
It's allways work...and you take him as you're puppet ...hé already react just seing you...mess with his head
Very good tips
However, I find that particular situations trigger me so quickly and profoundly that I am swept off in anger /emotion and before i realise to apply any common sense as per the video, it's usually a bit late
I understand this. I think the solution is in understanding exactly what is triggering you. If you ever need a chat drop me an email Wellnesswithinsolutions@gmail.com 👍 happy to be an ear for support
@@wellnesswithinsolutions3914 please share your email
@@MrDrpk you will see my email address in my previous message to you 😁
Yes calm remain.
Thank you so much, this help me out a lot, I'll choose productive behaviour not self sabotage
Whenever someone tries to provoke me I go home and cry and look at memes all day because they're right
same ngl
No there not right . Practice practice
Great info, very helpful. Thanks
Thankyou kindley Ron!
No matter how provoking the person is. One big advice of them all is dont ever ever hit them get physical because thats is they actually win over you. And you lose psychologically against them Yeah sometimes it is normal to retaliate back by provoking back but one thing out of all dont ever ever get physical against them. Speaking from my own experience
one of my colleague is insecure with me. I can really sense that the way he reacts in what i do, and in what i say. I am too positive at first and dealing everybody the right way without stepping nobody. He is trying to get into my nerves and even told everyone amd tells publicly the things i didnt do. and then i started to DM him and saying hurtful things, he bounce back and do the same thing. the reason why i told him about it to let him know that he stepped out the boundaries that should not be done to me. and then he acts likes a victim. everytime when I do good to somebody and say something to our team, he then reacts to laugh, but i just ignore that. and let it go because i have express my emotions already and what i feel to him. and done. still he continues to provoke me. and it keeps me angry more and more. i dont know what would be my next move. the reason why i wrote this in the comment section. i dont want to feel like a loser or let them do the things and say to everybody that i am like this and that. any advise?
Interesting, don’t react but act right. I love that.
I am ignoring from last 1 week ..
Let me tell you my story. Please please please try to give me the best possible solution..because
I am short tempered but as I have grown up I try to ignore which is suggested by my friends and parents ,so I try to understand and give me the solution..
So from last 1 week ..there is a girl in my hostel and she was in good term with me..like healthy friendship..she lives in triple sharing room ... And right now due to quarantine we some girls are stuck here. I have no roomates. So I have my washroom in sharing and her washroom is attached with room .. So outside veranda which is common to everyone and specialy for us who is having their washroom outside.. So recently from last 1 week she is just turning off the light of veranda and whenever I come outside for washroom I open the light of veranda and then go to washroom ..and then if I need to fill the water in my bottle for drinking, or if I have to face wash ..taking photos ..
then I do that also and after returning from washroom I came back to my room.. Then again she come outside from her room and switch off the light ..one day I just askd them dt do u guys..switch off the light of veranda ..then they first get hesitate and said no ..and then asking indirectly are u asking about veranda or washroom ..I said veranda then she said ya I cnt sleep because of little amount of light ..I mean I was shocked bcz earlier she dont used to do that ..the next most important thing is to notice is that you live inside ur room..ur washroom is inside and you are getting issue with outside light in sleeping.. Then I said I heard it first time .. And said we dont have options..i cant walk in dark.. Then she said dts why I open the light of washroom ..then I said I am paying money to walk in the light ..and veranda is common for everyone ..also there is a basin and filter outside so I cant fill the water in dark or wash my face in dark .. Then their roomates agreed that ok we will not do that ...
Then on the same day at night she again switched off the light ..now I felt that she is jealous or I dont know why suddenly she started doing these things ..Now as per the suggestion I no more ask or discussed to her..just try to ignore her ..and whenever I feel that I need to go out for washroom or water I switch on the light and return back to my room..
Now day before yesterday ..I came outside switch on the light and wash my face and return back to my room ..then I started talking to my friend then at 4am again when I opened my gate ..I saw she switched off the light but also she opened her room gate also and waiting for when I will come outside ... I saw that her room gate is open with all lights off ..this time I didnt switch on the light and just went to washroom without turning on the light ..I got all the vibes that early in the morning she wants to fight with me ,because ryt now If I will open the light then she will gonna say that light is coming on us.. We arent able to sleep..coz this time she just opened her room gate and when I returned back to my room I saw that she closed her door.
I just controlled my anger ..but I she is provoking me to fight ..and she wants to fight like school kids.. Which will be really bad for image impression coz many juniors will see ..and she made them her friends ..so if m gonna fight then everyone will thought that I have initiated .. I even called the warden also ..he said ok i will talk..but I stopped him because I said to him dt first let me handle it without being voilent if it will not going to work then I will inform you..
So this is tha case ..please give me the best possible solution .. !!!
Saloni Chaudhary 🙏 thank you for bringing this situation to my attention. Here is a way that you might find resolve. 💪💕
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Awesome video☝🏼 subbed
I will boot stomp them!...Lol...Actually my counter to anger and negative energy is to head out to nature and hang out with the birds and fuzzy little woodland creatures and meditate for a while and center myself. My true problem is I have been under a lot of stress for a very long time I am to easily provoked. But meditation does help. The guy that provoked you wins when you go off and make a complete ass of yourself I have done it and it is not a good feeling.
Don't ignore it, I think it's best to confront the person
Thanks so much! Very helpful.
Great accent by the way 🤘🏾
I don't know ..how to stay 4hours a day beside someone who constantly nagging?
Sometimes you react but most of the time you..control yourself and after that the body with your toughts take the place...and so on..
Is this a work situation?
Yes it is
Is it possible to use earphones and Mabey put on some music so as not to engage so much with the person..if not feel free to expand more and let’s see if we can help u draw a conclusion
I know what it is ..nobody can't get their eyes of me...it's overt provocation
@@godekchen9658 that must be an awful situation to be in. If u Would like to send us an email and tell us your story I will make a video based around this scenario. Not using any of your personal information or names of course just a general overview of a similar situation to try and help you see it from another perspective to get clarity. Wellnesswithinsolutions@gmail.com
Hope u feel better soon😁
Ignore them
I am just going to sit like a vegetable
I was sucker punched when trying to explain they guy for judgibg me wrong. I should have been more calmer and should have been careful with words and not react but rather acted as in leave the area.
My mother-in-law usually provoke and blaming me all the time..that breaks my patience level sometime...what to do..😭
There is no kind way of saying this so I I’ll just say it 🤗Distance yourself from idiots they don’t deserve your company 💚
Say one of the Divine Mother mantras
1. Om Durgaya Namah
2. Om Dum Durgayei Namah
in your mind every time it happens
Ma Durga is the Divine Mother full of compassion, strength, morality and protection.
She safeguards you from evil powers
By practicing these steps
Ok when you said wait for the plane to go away a plane was passing by here also and that’s really cool and freaky
🤣 brilliant
First I ignore the person if she/he is not important and if he/she is important then I will say to myself if I react than it will destroy me .
Do you offer psychological courses? Online And how much for price? The one i have know is kinda somehow kindergarten psychology and not like adultlife unresolved issues in early life
Great info. Thank you
Great helping content ! Thanks alot . Keep going on 👌👍🙏
PRACTICE, REPETITION, REPETITION, REPETITION. 😊
its hard especially when im being threatened by men in public that i dont know....
Great lesson
Thank you for helpful information, You earned my sub, keep up 😭💫👀
What if you are in a boondocks moment? 🤔
Amen!
Great one! Practice! Practice! Practice! What is the key point when dealing with customer in front you trying to provoke you?
annurab38 always remember that it is not personal and this will help you disengage from the situation and Handel it better 😁
2:25 for the 1st reason
maybe people shouldn’t provoke me
Seems like you are reading out what is infront of you.
I am 🤣 but I wrote it first lol
💁
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So ready to rage