I just gave birth and I'm suffering from depression. I am diagnosed with severe anxiety too. To all the ladies like me out there, big hugs to you! Let's do our best to stay alive
That's so fantastic of you, the most important support your wife can get at the moment is professional help and loads of support from all her family and friends. I've dealt with postpartum depression myself and 2 years after having my first baby it is starting to get better. It's a long and hard road but I wish the best for you and your family!
You're a good man. My husband called me crazy and invalidated my suffering when I opened up about my depression. I'm only alive now because my children kept me going.
Your an amazing husband and father! I had that issue and believe me I felt I was locked up in a bubble. In reality if felt like I was in a dessert without no one. For some reason I felt like I needed to end all suffering for all of us and specially my new baby. I wanted to either end my life or the new born. Thinking this was the way out but I screamed for help. I told my husband what was happening in my head. He did not understand but tried helping me by taking the baby away. It took about 8 months to go away, but what helped me was. Writing down what I felt and group support. Meds helps but causes drowsiness. I tried herbs and it helped.
Needed to hear this. I loved being pregnant, and had an easy pregnancy. The overnight change from pregnant person to person with a baby shocked me. I have support but it's so much harder than I ever imagined. I know there's hope, and hearing others' stories helps.
I’m a father of newborn 3 weeks old, and this video made me realize it’s so much more than it being a little depression like our fathers around me say.. I believe the men are too Embarrassed to talk about it with family and friends. I never once got advice of what to do and say to make her feel better. The doctors and nurses brush it off so quick like it a flu you’ll get over. No, this is much more. But I’m here for her and for my little one while we work through this. Today we’re going to begin looking for professional help, thanks for the video!
I cried throughout this entire video because of how real this is💔😭!! Postpartum depression has to be the heaviest thing I've ever had to deal with. I have never been the same person after having kids
Sorry that turning into a parent didnt solve all your life problems, if its any consolation- its still 50/50 for all of us. Life Coaching podcasts might help with mindset shifts to empower you.
I’m so sorry you are not the same person you feel like you should be. Having children should enhance your life. No, it certainly doesn’t solve all of your life problems as the comment above said, that’s for sure! I had PPD after my 2nd child. I didn’t have it to the extreme of hearing and seeing things, just EXTREMELY depressed. I thought I was going crazy. Even my doctor didn’t say anything about it. It’s been 14 years ago, and he’s a great doctor, but I didn’t think about it either until later. I got on an antidepressant and got on the level I needed, and an anxiety medication. I finally was able to enjoy my child. Both of them. My first one was 14, so he was getting into his teens, but it helped me so much. Ask for help, if any kind. Don’t be embarrassed to be on medication for depression or anxiety or whatever you are feeling. ❤
I always thought PPD was bs and that’s only a terrible person would feel they way they do after birth, but with my fiancé being pregnant I’ve been doing a lot of research and it makes me sad that the stigma exist. I still don’t understand how the human brain could do that to a mother, but as a suicide attempt survive to know our brain is wack heck. Glad there are women speaking up about it so I can learn.
Thank you for changing your outlook on it. It happens mostly because of hormonal changes that occur after the birth and like the presenter said, it's made worse by sleep deprivation. Make sure you're helping her and allowing her to take care of herself by showering, eating well and sleeping. Too many people seem to forget that the men helped make those babies so they can help take care of them. My ex's family finally made him help me. So please do all the research you can and support her all the way.
I thought that way until I had it myself. I said I'd never go on antidepressants. Well I had 2 severe cases. I never wanted to harm my babies but I was so not myself I was scared those thoughts could happen. Thank God at my son's first checkup his pediatrician noticed I wasn't ok. She said "baby is doing great but how but how are you doing momma?" I just started crying and told her everything. She called down to whe wing with my obyn and he got me in immediately!
I’m crying while listening to this. I’m 5 months post partum and I am overwhelmed and can’t do it anymore. I got help and I’m starting an antidepressant. I hope it gets me out of this feeling and I’m ready to feel like myself again
A nurse at my school has been struggling with this for years...last night she took her own life.. she was loved by many, myself included, so this has majorly affected everyone at my school...
Thank you for sharing your story, Auburn. This message NEEDS to be heard and I love how you so eloquently and powerfully made that clear. I am a two time survivor of postpartum psychosis, and I too had the opportunity to share my story in a TEDx talk in Hamilton, MT. In listening to your story I was struck by how similar our thoughts and feelings were, and yet how our stories were unique in our own ways. Praying that you continue to heal and speak your truth! Way to go momma!
11:11 "YES" says a woman and simultaneously by a man from the audience. Both of you are angels. God bless you. The courage and confidence that you have are at the right direction. Salute you. 😘 For those who don't get it, the loud yes is a powerful encouragement and acknowledgement for the woman who spoke about the problem. She would have cured another 50%
I was just looking through the obituaries and I found one of a woman who died from suicide in January after having a baby in November. It said her most important dream was to become a mother and that she suffered from a severe form of postpartum depression after having her daughter. She was 45 years old. Very sad.
She is very brave to have given this speech. It would be difficult to be this honest to this many people as a woman. I think it’s tough to admit when we get this issue. I started watching for it at the end of my pregnancy and I’m glad there’s so much awareness bc I am able to make a plan in case it happens.
Thank you for sharing this. You are beautiful and strong. I will share my story and I will start talking. This is such an important topic. This gave me chills I am dealing with PPD right now got diagnosed today and so grateful to get the help that I need. Ladies take care of yourself. You are a wonderful mom and person and you will get through this we all will.
It's a real tragedy that this conversation is not getting anywhere near the attention it deserves, because raising awareness and working against the stigma would save so many lives. The videos that show up when you search "postpartum depression" have very few views on average. But the results depend a lot on the search settings (in the app, you can find them by tapping the three dots to the right of search bar and tap Filters). Search results on UA-cam are sorted by relevance on default, and in this case it seems to favor more educational videos. When I sorted by view count it turned out that there are many videos about PPD with a lot more views, though no more than 18M. But that's when you get a few more unsavory and sensational stories like true crime videos. To find more personal stories like vlogs etc., sorting by rating does the trick.
It's been 9 years now since I went through that. I am pregnant now with my 2nd child and is seeing a pattern feeling down at times except this time I know why I feel down... Tks for sharing I am praying for the courage to share openly with everyone.
I knew about PPD but I didn’t know it could get to this extent! Woman are amazing and can battle through anything. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and your personal story! ❤️
Thanks for talking about this, I've been experiencing symptoms of postpartum anxiety. I am a SAHM of 3 (8, 4 & 3months old), my husband has been deployed for a few months and I have been under a lot of stress. I had a panic attack last week and since then I feel panicky, anxious and afraid that I'll have another attack. My middle kid got injured and my thoughts were racing all the worst case scenarios and how I had noone to call for help. I KNEW my kiddo was fine, but I couldn't stop the panic. I had my baby in the ring sling carrier and I got more scared that I would pass out and hurt her, I couldn't breathe, I couldn't talk, my body wanted to run but I wanted to just curl up in a ball on the floor. My whole body was shaking and my baby was starting to push away from me. I tried getting her off but my fingers were going numb and I was panicked. I pushed my back against the wall and focused on my breathing, if I could just control it and focus. I tried to smell my babies head, and hugged her. Then I called my husband and put the baby down on the bed. I was like on autopilot for the next hour or 2. Like I couldn't trust myself, and I was exhausted. For a few days I felt like I would have another panic attack. Like it was just one wrong breath away, I could almost feel it in my chest just waiting to attack again. I'm trying to take better care of myself, taking time to be in the moment instead of feeling rushed and can't keep up with the chores, responsibilities and still be a good mom. It's like all those mom fears and guilt but times 10, it's that loneliness and missing family and friends while he's deployed times 10 and not wanting to acknowledge it because it takes too much from me and would make me sad.
Pain, delivery, hormones, breastfeeding...now PPD. I think I made up my mind about being pregnant. Here I go adoption. Thank you for sharing the experience.
People need to stop shaming women for having PPD. It keeps them from getting the help they need. My sister-in-law had me convinced that if I went to the hospital to get help that they would call CPS and take my son away. I am angry at her to this day because she delayed me getting the help that I so desperately needed. She had me convinced that I was a terrible mother who couldn't do anything right and to be honest, I can't stand her. I've never liked her to begin with but that just made it worse.
People really do need to stop shaming. I just need to say your sister in law was kind of right. Not in your situation but in mine. I admitted that I may have ppd in Hospital 5 weeks postpatrum and they went and made 'calls' I didn't have any thoughts of harming my child but they called social services and tried to have my baby taken off me. Now I have to pretend I don't have ppd and now it kills me everyday that the only 'help' I receive is having my child taken. Your sister in law does have a point about that. So happy you got your help.
I have PPD. I'm sorry and give you compassion for what you've gone through. These are hard things, it's like having your heart constantly broken. I have a genuine question though because I want to recieve help but I'm also afraid CPS would take away my child. Does this claim have truth behind it? Does PPD CPS take away kids?
@@corinaavelar5752 id like to know the answer to this as well. I'm so scared. It's not fair that we have to worry about having our babies taken away just because we are human beings suffering from a very common condition. It's just not right. I'm gonna try to get on medication cuz Im not gonna let my ppd get worse
Cut her off some people know exactly what you’re going though and want you to drown my mother did this to me I can never talk to her about how I feel ever ! She asked me do I have a temper and am I harming my baby I’ma first time mother I text her one day and said can somebody help me I’m trying to work and she was very non chalant knowing she went through the same things, so I keep my distance from her and my sister my sister has 4 boys and even one time called my mom crying saying she was thinking of drowning her kids when I had a baby they did not support me at all but attack me. Stay away from these type of people you gotta love them from a distance cause their showing you how they truly feel about you
Wow. That was powerful and necessary. A tragic story from our community saw the most beautiful light of a person take her own life. I don't think a suicide has ever impacted me as much as this one and I didn't even know this woman all that well, she was my son's grade 1 teacher, active in the community, energetic, giving, and kind. Her baby was 6 months old when she could not go on. I wish it had not happened. It seems so unfair and unimaginable that something so debilitating could happen to someone so high-functioning.
I am so thankful she was able to talk about her story. so many women are so afraid of what people think about them. All these feelings are normal and women need to know that. That it is important to be kind to new mothers.
Auburn you are brave, beautiful and an inspiration! I am sorry you suffered so greatly from postpartum depression. Thank you for turning your pain into positive dialogue! You are an inspiration for sharing your story to help others! (And you do so with such poise- an incredible public speaker!!)
This presentation by Auburn Harrison was very eye opening into the struggles mothers can face postpartum. Even after taking our second reproductive block of medical school, I had no clue that postpartum depression is the most common complication of childbirth. However, I am not surprised that this issue is pushed off and ignored by healthcare providers. It’s extremely disheartening to hear about the multiple providers that ignored Auburn’s concerns. Her story about the ER physician taking five minutes to talk to her and find out what she was feeling shows how easy it can be to support our patients. During this encounter, the physician was also the first person to acknowledge that postpartum depression is common and that she needed treatment. While things did not necessarily improve for Auburn after this encounter, it seems like it was at least a step in the right direction. It amazes me that all a provider needed to be able to diagnose Auburn was a five minute conversation. She did not need all the tests that she had been put through at the emergency department a week before. Had the providers taken Auburn’s concerns seriously, maybe she could have gotten help sooner than she did. Auburn was really an advocate for herself even during this difficult time of her life. However, I think the providers she interacted with should have given her more autonomy in her care. In medical ethics, autonomy is the principle of having control in your care. Nobody knows your body and your emotions better than you. For this reason, I cannot believe that multiple providers ignored the signs of postpartum depression that were being laid out for them. By ignoring her concerns, they made the situation worse for Auburn. Overall, what I learned from this presentation is that it does not always take much to be there for our patients. By giving a listening ear for just five patients, we can show a patient that we care. This also gives us the time to learn about everything the patient is going through. Therefore, helping us see where care is truly needed. Giving our patients time to talk also gives them autonomy and allows them to have a say in their own health. Auburn’s story really showed me the importance in listening and trusting our patients' judgment.
I am a Single Dad. And ever since my child was born, in his 4th day in this world,i was the one who took care of him. And i just read lately that there is also a "paternal postpartum depression" and i thought that i also did undergone this kind of phase. But i thank God i passed that scary phase.
I have anxiety and depression, so researching postpartum depression made me stay firm on my decision to not have children. When I'm feeling low it's a chore doing simple things around the house and I just want to be alone or just cuddle with my husband. A child would drive me nuts.
The nausea she talks about, it is what I experienced, among others, and could not find an explanation apart from dehydration, even though I drank a lot of water. I read so much about pregnancy and perinatal events, yet I superficially dismissed PPD, I thought that would not happen to me. Boy, was I wrong! The worst, though, is my cousin getting postpartum psychosis and doctors not being able to diagnose it and her support network not being reliable in the process. I am binging on these videos because I cannot comprehend how this topic is not discussed more often among women and men alike.
We welcomed our 3rd boy in 2018 too, he has 2 brothers, too who's 7 and 4. I had 24 hours panic attack last year on my second son's 3rd day of school, he wet his pants 4 times that day and the teacher called me 3 times. I rushed to school a couple times with my baby in the stroller in a raining day. Panic attack arrived that evening. I was so scared.
I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and still suffering from this. I keep waiting to feel better. The joy is usually short lived and the agony starts again.
Hello Gugu, I hear you. I have three kids, teens now but I remember those days being so difficult. Some days I just wanted someone to tell me what to do :) Be sure you are taking care of you as best as you can. Arrange for quiet time alone. Even if it's in the car before you go in. It counts.
That's completely normal. In fact it's considered rude to interrupt a mom's bonding time with her baby but some overbearing in-laws don't care. What you're feeling is completely normal and okay.
@@maureen9449 wow I'm sorry. Hugs. Men don't understand it but they could be more compassionate. Every time I ask my son's father and then begged him for help he would tell me to stop complaining. He finally helps me now because his family got on to him and told him that it was his baby too and that he needed to be helping. I resented him every time the baby woke up and he would lay there sleeping while I took care of him. It's not like he worked or anything either so he really had no excuse. He was just lazy and didn't want to do the work.
I don't think alot of people understand that even without depression or ptsd mothers constantly hear babies crying in their head, even when away from their children. Child birth isn't always the beautiful thing the diaper ads portray.
my mum had ppd both after me and my sister, she doesn't like to talk about it but I remember her saying she went untreated after having me and didn't seek help until 3 months after having my sister who is 4 years younger than me. I remember her walking me to school one day and having a breakdown in the middle of the street because she put my shoes on the wrong feet and I kept tripping up over my shoes. I also have a lot of memories of her being very distant and not wanting to engage with me or my sister she only disciplined us but would often overreact to minor bad behaviours such as bad manors, which are fairly normal in young children. im now 22 and my sister is almost 18 and our mum is still very much the same, she's very distant she likes to control us and often blames us for things that go wrong in her own life that we have nothing to do with.
The only reason why women develop depression is modern lives. Independance -i call it loneliness- brings trauma. Raising whole families alone is a real violence. In more traditional countries it tooks a whole village to raise childs.
My heart is literally pounding, I give birth in exactly a month. This is a huge concern of mines. I believe I had PPD with my twins and I theorize that is was bc of this or that!! I’m changing my surroundings now and getting support in preparation for baby girl!!
@@ShakiraElizabeth She’s 2 months now and it’s complete bliss! This time around I choose to live in the moment, enjoying her instead of seeing it as a hard responsibility. All is well, thanks for asking!! 🙂🙃
@@tanyastalking8495 congratulations!!♥️ I’m 41 and for the first time in my life want to try to become pregnant. I’m so nervous about everything but I think without a baby my life with always be incomplete. Congratulations on your beautiful baby! God bless
I didn't ask for help until my baby was nearly a year old. And all the doctor did was offer me antidepressants. Everyday I would tell myself to take things one day at a time.
I'm here to know more about PPD , after in India , Karnataka State's former Chief Minister BS Yediyurappa's Grand daughter hung herself who had a 6 month old child.
Yeah but if you admit it or ask for help you are looked at as a “bad mother” I love my kids it’s me that’s messed up sad, depressed, paranoia, anger but I had it 2 pregnancies back to back so it’s pretty bad at this point.
My wife had got a bit of a little bit of everything a woman goes through ,I love her but she drives me nuts! 😫 And our 3 kids are now teenagers ,when does It all end!?🤔 She's got a mix of everything going on at different levels. It really affects me as her husband and man, she seems to trigger my own issues so it's a double or triple whammy.
Live your life happy or stay in whats comfortable & wonder later what could have been. Youre not here for anyone else but you. Your kids will understand a peaceful separation.
I'm a 24 year old woman, I don't have kids yet, but my husband and I have been talking about wanting to expand our family sometime this year. Hearing about this stuff really, really scares me, I won't lie. It encourages me that the percentage of women who get it is so low (even if the percentage is a little higher than reported), but I still feel afraid. Is there anything one can do _before_ getting pregnant that can help prevent this?
I learned that most women who's got postpartum is because the absence of husband at first of the child. I on the other hand was there for my wife from day -200 forever. I act like a nanny taking care of the baby after my wife breastfed the kids. Burning myself out while learning that I must get healthy and strong in order to keep doing this for life. That's when I embarked on intermittent fasting and now I'll talk at you all day long all year round.
I have been suffering with ppd for a year. The last two weeks my Prozac stopped working and I've been on the edge of a cliff trying not to jump. I know there's hope but I'm exhausted
It is a condition but I think the children should be somewhere a little safer until ur meds regulate an ur metal awareness improves just to be on the safe side
Also this says a lot about conventional western medicine. We need to listen The Who body, mind and spirit. Not even the obgyn could give her an explanation to what she was feeling.
I am doing an essay/research paper and I wonder why the stats are so different I wonder where she’s pulling it from becuase Im doing only in the us and the numbers are higher
Thank you this video speach help me a lots. How i interact with my wife. Cause for me when your are already a family man you should know how or what even where to interact in every situation.. Im calling every boys out there you shouled or proboblye love your wife, your mother, grand mother sister , aunties and every women you have in life except for plings.
@@ST-xg8bf I’m ok up with the baby now lol but I get depressed outta nowhere a lot struggling with my body image not feeling like myself.it’s a lot to go through ppl saying it’s my hormones so I guess I have to wait till everything goes back to normal 🤷🏽♀️
Talk to describe by her it could have been done by her husband, which I did and my wife gave birth to my kids I was there the entire way. I know it's hard took a little bit of burden as much as I could
I’m second time mom with toddler and giving birth 🤰 in 2 weeks ❤my rainbow 🌈👶🏼👑🎀 baby one thing I’m scared about it’s postpartum I act like I don’t need help and want to b with my new baby and son I try b strong 💪 all time
It’s internal. It ends when you know it will end. It stays when you need it to stay. Caused by a spiritual imbalance in us after we suffered a major event in our lives. Child birth is a major event. Its like your skin is slipping off your bones afterwards, and nothing satisfies you. To fix it, you need to re-establish yourself. It’s the shadow aspects of ourselves~all those insecurities, weaknesses, & biases we’ve held onto. When we bare a child before fixing it in ourselves, we reject it. It’s as if our soul is flipped inside out on itself. For 2 years, the soul has been trying to rebuild itself~Fixing the brokenness. If you listen to the woman, you’ll notice her voice cracks. It’s a sign of what she’s been through in her soul. She was broken. But gave birth anyways. You’re allowed to. But the fact is, something within needs repair. And when you do just that, your children will thank you for never being their first wound. 🤞🏾❣️
my 3rd baby is almost 2, but recently I feel my PPD come back again or it never goes away, I think I had PPD after I had my first one and second one, but at that time I didn't know, my mood instantly get better after them going to daycare but because of covid, I have to wait to send my third one to daycare, wish I will be done with PPD after my third one goes to daycare.
It's completely normal especially if it hasn't been treated. Treatment is sometimes medication but is often therapy, nutrition, exercise, sleep, respite, mindfulness therapy and building community. Covid has made life, including access to care and often also financial security hard. I'm sorry you are still going through it. Be as gentle with yourself as you can.
I just gave birth and I'm suffering from depression. I am diagnosed with severe anxiety too. To all the ladies like me out there, big hugs to you! Let's do our best to stay alive
I'm here to learn how to help and understand my wife. Postpartum after 2 babies she's beat down emotionally and I want to understand
That's so fantastic of you, the most important support your wife can get at the moment is professional help and loads of support from all her family and friends.
I've dealt with postpartum depression myself and 2 years after having my first baby it is starting to get better. It's a long and hard road but I wish the best for you and your family!
Thank you fit trying to understand her rather than berate her❤
Bless your heart! Your wife is lucky to have you
You're a good man. My husband called me crazy and invalidated my suffering when I opened up about my depression. I'm only alive now because my children kept me going.
Your an amazing husband and father! I had that issue and believe me I felt I was locked up in a bubble. In reality if felt like I was in a dessert without no one. For some reason I felt like I needed to end all suffering for all of us and specially my new baby. I wanted to either end my life or the new born. Thinking this was the way out but I screamed for help. I told my husband what was happening in my head. He did not understand but tried helping me by taking the baby away. It took about 8 months to go away, but what helped me was. Writing down what I felt and group support. Meds helps but causes drowsiness. I tried herbs and it helped.
15%…that we KNOW of. I highly believe it’s way more if people weren’t afraid to talk about it.
Yes
People get their babies taken away by CPS if they admit to it. Only those who want to risk losing their child admit to PPD.
Exactly!!!!
It’s for sure more
Needed to hear this. I loved being pregnant, and had an easy pregnancy. The overnight change from pregnant person to person with a baby shocked me. I have support but it's so much harder than I ever imagined. I know there's hope, and hearing others' stories helps.
So relatable…Going through this at the same time after delivering twins as first time mothers
I’m a father of newborn 3 weeks old, and this video made me realize it’s so much more than it being a little depression like our fathers around me say.. I believe the men are too Embarrassed to talk about it with family and friends. I never once got advice of what to do and say to make her feel better. The doctors and nurses brush it off so quick like it a flu you’ll get over. No, this is much more. But I’m here for her and for my little one while we work through this. Today we’re going to begin looking for professional help, thanks for the video!
I hope things are better now!
I cried throughout this entire video because of how real this is💔😭!! Postpartum depression has to be the heaviest thing I've ever had to deal with. I have never been the same person after having kids
Sorry that turning into a parent didnt solve all your life problems, if its any consolation- its still 50/50 for all of us. Life Coaching podcasts might help with mindset shifts to empower you.
I’m so sorry you are not the same person you feel like you should be. Having children should enhance your life. No, it certainly doesn’t solve all of your life problems as the comment above said, that’s for sure! I had PPD after my 2nd child. I didn’t have it to the extreme of hearing and seeing things, just EXTREMELY depressed. I thought I was going crazy. Even my doctor didn’t say anything about it. It’s been 14 years ago, and he’s a great doctor, but I didn’t think about it either until later. I got on an antidepressant and got on the level I needed, and an anxiety medication. I finally was able to enjoy my child. Both of them. My first one was 14, so he was getting into his teens, but it helped me so much. Ask for help, if any kind. Don’t be embarrassed to be on medication for depression or anxiety or whatever you are feeling. ❤
I always thought PPD was bs and that’s only a terrible person would feel they way they do after birth, but with my fiancé being pregnant I’ve been doing a lot of research and it makes me sad that the stigma exist. I still don’t understand how the human brain could do that to a mother, but as a suicide attempt survive to know our brain is wack heck. Glad there are women speaking up about it so I can learn.
Thank you for changing your outlook on it. It happens mostly because of hormonal changes that occur after the birth and like the presenter said, it's made worse by sleep deprivation. Make sure you're helping her and allowing her to take care of herself by showering, eating well and sleeping. Too many people seem to forget that the men helped make those babies so they can help take care of them. My ex's family finally made him help me. So please do all the research you can and support her all the way.
I thought that way until I had it myself. I said I'd never go on antidepressants. Well I had 2 severe cases. I never wanted to harm my babies but I was so not myself I was scared those thoughts could happen. Thank God at my son's first checkup his pediatrician noticed I wasn't ok. She said "baby is doing great but how but how are you doing momma?" I just started crying and told her everything. She called down to whe wing with my obyn and he got me in immediately!
Only bad moms have postpartum depression
@@labrea5399 did you even watch the video
@@babyhandgrenade4004 Just a quick point, both men and women can experience post partum depression!
I’m crying while listening to this. I’m 5 months post partum and I am overwhelmed and can’t do it anymore. I got help and I’m starting an antidepressant. I hope it gets me out of this feeling and I’m ready to feel like myself again
How are you feeling now? Are the meds helping? I think that’s what I need.. this sucks.
A nurse at my school has been struggling with this for years...last night she took her own life.. she was loved by many, myself included, so this has majorly affected everyone at my school...
Thank you for sharing your story, Auburn. This message NEEDS to be heard and I love how you so eloquently and powerfully made that clear. I am a two time survivor of postpartum psychosis, and I too had the opportunity to share my story in a TEDx talk in Hamilton, MT. In listening to your story I was struck by how similar our thoughts and feelings were, and yet how our stories were unique in our own ways. Praying that you continue to heal and speak your truth! Way to go momma!
11:11 "YES" says a woman and simultaneously by a man from the audience. Both of you are angels. God bless you. The courage and confidence that you have are at the right direction. Salute you. 😘 For those who don't get it, the loud yes is a powerful encouragement and acknowledgement for the woman who spoke about the problem. She would have cured another 50%
I was just looking through the obituaries and I found one of a woman who died from suicide in January after having a baby in November. It said her most important dream was to become a mother and that she suffered from a severe form of postpartum depression after having her daughter. She was 45 years old. Very sad.
She is very brave to have given this speech. It would be difficult to be this honest to this many people as a woman. I think it’s tough to admit when we get this issue. I started watching for it at the end of my pregnancy and I’m glad there’s so much awareness bc I am able to make a plan in case it happens.
Thank you for sharing this. You are beautiful and strong. I will share my story and I will start talking. This is such an important topic. This gave me chills I am dealing with PPD right now got diagnosed today and so grateful to get the help that I need. Ladies take care of yourself. You are a wonderful mom and person and you will get through this we all will.
Update a year later?
You are so very brave most women just suffer in silence, that why I think the number of women that suffer is so much higher than we all think!!
It's a real tragedy that this conversation is not getting anywhere near the attention it deserves, because raising awareness and working against the stigma would save so many lives. The videos that show up when you search "postpartum depression" have very few views on average. But the results depend a lot on the search settings (in the app, you can find them by tapping the three dots to the right of search bar and tap Filters). Search results on UA-cam are sorted by relevance on default, and in this case it seems to favor more educational videos. When I sorted by view count it turned out that there are many videos about PPD with a lot more views, though no more than 18M. But that's when you get a few more unsavory and sensational stories like true crime videos. To find more personal stories like vlogs etc., sorting by rating does the trick.
It's been 9 years now since I went through that. I am pregnant now with my 2nd child and is seeing a pattern feeling down at times except this time I know why I feel down... Tks for sharing I am praying for the courage to share openly with everyone.
Please get help if you feel yourself spiralling x
I knew about PPD but I didn’t know it could get to this extent! Woman are amazing and can battle through anything. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and your personal story! ❤️
Thanks for talking about this, I've been experiencing symptoms of postpartum anxiety. I am a SAHM of 3 (8, 4 & 3months old), my husband has been deployed for a few months and I have been under a lot of stress. I had a panic attack last week and since then I feel panicky, anxious and afraid that I'll have another attack.
My middle kid got injured and my thoughts were racing all the worst case scenarios and how I had noone to call for help. I KNEW my kiddo was fine, but I couldn't stop the panic. I had my baby in the ring sling carrier and I got more scared that I would pass out and hurt her, I couldn't breathe, I couldn't talk, my body wanted to run but I wanted to just curl up in a ball on the floor. My whole body was shaking and my baby was starting to push away from me. I tried getting her off but my fingers were going numb and I was panicked. I pushed my back against the wall and focused on my breathing, if I could just control it and focus. I tried to smell my babies head, and hugged her. Then I called my husband and put the baby down on the bed. I was like on autopilot for the next hour or 2. Like I couldn't trust myself, and I was exhausted. For a few days I felt like I would have another panic attack. Like it was just one wrong breath away, I could almost feel it in my chest just waiting to attack again. I'm trying to take better care of myself, taking time to be in the moment instead of feeling rushed and can't keep up with the chores, responsibilities and still be a good mom. It's like all those mom fears and guilt but times 10, it's that loneliness and missing family and friends while he's deployed times 10 and not wanting to acknowledge it because it takes too much from me and would make me sad.
Pain, delivery, hormones, breastfeeding...now PPD. I think I made up my mind about being pregnant. Here I go adoption. Thank you for sharing the experience.
People need to stop shaming women for having PPD. It keeps them from getting the help they need. My sister-in-law had me convinced that if I went to the hospital to get help that they would call CPS and take my son away. I am angry at her to this day because she delayed me getting the help that I so desperately needed. She had me convinced that I was a terrible mother who couldn't do anything right and to be honest, I can't stand her. I've never liked her to begin with but that just made it worse.
People really do need to stop shaming. I just need to say your sister in law was kind of right. Not in your situation but in mine. I admitted that I may have ppd in Hospital 5 weeks postpatrum and they went and made 'calls' I didn't have any thoughts of harming my child but they called social services and tried to have my baby taken off me. Now I have to pretend I don't have ppd and now it kills me everyday that the only 'help' I receive is having my child taken. Your sister in law does have a point about that. So happy you got your help.
@@marymccarron2570 I'm sorry to hear that... Stray strong, ma'am. I'm cheering for you ✊
I have PPD. I'm sorry and give you compassion for what you've gone through. These are hard things, it's like having your heart constantly broken. I have a genuine question though because I want to recieve help but I'm also afraid CPS would take away my child. Does this claim have truth behind it? Does PPD CPS take away kids?
@@corinaavelar5752 id like to know the answer to this as well. I'm so scared. It's not fair that we have to worry about having our babies taken away just because we are human beings suffering from a very common condition. It's just not right. I'm gonna try to get on medication cuz Im not gonna let my ppd get worse
Cut her off some people know exactly what you’re going though and want you to drown my mother did this to me I can never talk to her about how I feel ever ! She asked me do I have a temper and am I harming my baby I’ma first time mother I text her one day and said can somebody help me I’m trying to work and she was very non chalant knowing she went through the same things, so I keep my distance from her and my sister my sister has 4 boys and even one time called my mom crying saying she was thinking of drowning her kids when I had a baby they did not support me at all but attack me. Stay away from these type of people you gotta love them from a distance cause their showing you how they truly feel about you
Wow. That was powerful and necessary. A tragic story from our community saw the most beautiful light of a person take her own life. I don't think a suicide has ever impacted me as much as this one and I didn't even know this woman all that well, she was my son's grade 1 teacher, active in the community, energetic, giving, and kind. Her baby was 6 months old when she could not go on. I wish it had not happened. It seems so unfair and unimaginable that something so debilitating could happen to someone so high-functioning.
I am so thankful she was able to talk about her story. so many women are so afraid of what people think about them. All these feelings are normal and women need to know that. That it is important to be kind to new mothers.
I've been diagnosed with PPD and I can't stop crying.
You are not alone
We’re all here with you! If you need someone to talk to just reach out! Shoot I’ll answer!
I hope you're feeling better
Auburn you are brave, beautiful and an inspiration! I am sorry you suffered so greatly from postpartum depression. Thank you for turning your pain into positive dialogue! You are an inspiration for sharing your story to help others! (And you do so with such poise- an incredible public speaker!!)
I feel so motivated to improve my wellness after watching your content!
Congratulations to the translator to the subtitles in Portuguese! Great job Virginia
I felt this.. 😢 i didnt know where to ask for help.. i just prayed to GOD
Thank you for your courage and vulnerability
This presentation by Auburn Harrison was very eye opening into the struggles mothers can face postpartum. Even after taking our second reproductive block of medical school, I had no clue that postpartum depression is the most common complication of childbirth. However, I am not surprised that this issue is pushed off and ignored by healthcare providers. It’s extremely disheartening to hear about the multiple providers that ignored Auburn’s concerns. Her story about the ER physician taking five minutes to talk to her and find out what she was feeling shows how easy it can be to support our patients. During this encounter, the physician was also the first person to acknowledge that postpartum depression is common and that she needed treatment. While things did not necessarily improve for Auburn after this encounter, it seems like it was at least a step in the right direction.
It amazes me that all a provider needed to be able to diagnose Auburn was a five minute conversation. She did not need all the tests that she had been put through at the emergency department a week before. Had the providers taken Auburn’s concerns seriously, maybe she could have gotten help sooner than she did. Auburn was really an advocate for herself even during this difficult time of her life. However, I think the providers she interacted with should have given her more autonomy in her care. In medical ethics, autonomy is the principle of having control in your care. Nobody knows your body and your emotions better than you. For this reason, I cannot believe that multiple providers ignored the signs of postpartum depression that were being laid out for them. By ignoring her concerns, they made the situation worse for Auburn.
Overall, what I learned from this presentation is that it does not always take much to be there for our patients. By giving a listening ear for just five patients, we can show a patient that we care. This also gives us the time to learn about everything the patient is going through. Therefore, helping us see where care is truly needed. Giving our patients time to talk also gives them autonomy and allows them to have a say in their own health. Auburn’s story really showed me the importance in listening and trusting our patients' judgment.
Just a quick note, men can also suffer from post partum depression.
I am a Single Dad. And ever since my child was born, in his 4th day in this world,i was the one who took care of him. And i just read lately that there is also a "paternal postpartum depression" and i thought that i also did undergone this kind of phase. But i thank God i passed that scary phase.
Courageous mama! Thanks for sharing your insights with the world. We all need to hear this.
I have anxiety and depression, so researching postpartum depression made me stay firm on my decision to not have children. When I'm feeling low it's a chore doing simple things around the house and I just want to be alone or just cuddle with my husband. A child would drive me nuts.
The nausea she talks about, it is what I experienced, among others, and could not find an explanation apart from dehydration, even though I drank a lot of water. I read so much about pregnancy and perinatal events, yet I superficially dismissed PPD, I thought that would not happen to me. Boy, was I wrong!
The worst, though, is my cousin getting postpartum psychosis and doctors not being able to diagnose it and her support network not being reliable in the process. I am binging on these videos because I cannot comprehend how this topic is not discussed more often among women and men alike.
Power to her for sharing her testimony
Went through this. And yes its definitely a journey that cannot beput in words. U did ur best and i definitely had tears in my eyes. ❤❤❤
We welcomed our 3rd boy in 2018 too, he has 2 brothers, too who's 7 and 4.
I had 24 hours panic attack last year on my second son's 3rd day of school, he wet his pants 4 times that day and the teacher called me 3 times. I rushed to school a couple times with my baby in the stroller in a raining day. Panic attack arrived that evening. I was so scared.
I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and still suffering from this. I keep waiting to feel better. The joy is usually short lived and the agony starts again.
Hello Gugu, I hear you. I have three kids, teens now but I remember those days being so difficult. Some days I just wanted someone to tell me what to do :) Be sure you are taking care of you as best as you can. Arrange for quiet time alone. Even if it's in the car before you go in. It counts.
You did well to work on it ppd can make someones life to be in tears for years
I liked your talk. Thank you for sharing.
Is it normal if i dont want people visiting me during my postpartum confinement. I want to be alone
I felt the same . I prefer not to talk to anybody and yes it is normal
I feel the same too.
I remember my husband telling me to get over it...
That's completely normal. In fact it's considered rude to interrupt a mom's bonding time with her baby but some overbearing in-laws don't care. What you're feeling is completely normal and okay.
@@maureen9449 wow I'm sorry. Hugs. Men don't understand it but they could be more compassionate. Every time I ask my son's father and then begged him for help he would tell me to stop complaining. He finally helps me now because his family got on to him and told him that it was his baby too and that he needed to be helping. I resented him every time the baby woke up and he would lay there sleeping while I took care of him. It's not like he worked or anything either so he really had no excuse. He was just lazy and didn't want to do the work.
The intensity of PPD/PPA is so misunderstood with its intensity. It makes us look insane.
I don't think alot of people understand that even without depression or ptsd mothers constantly hear babies crying in their head, even when away from their children. Child birth isn't always the beautiful thing the diaper ads portray.
Get it girl! Love it!!!!
my mum had ppd both after me and my sister, she doesn't like to talk about it but I remember her saying she went untreated after having me and didn't seek help until 3 months after having my sister who is 4 years younger than me. I remember her walking me to school one day and having a breakdown in the middle of the street because she put my shoes on the wrong feet and I kept tripping up over my shoes. I also have a lot of memories of her being very distant and not wanting to engage with me or my sister she only disciplined us but would often overreact to minor bad behaviours such as bad manors, which are fairly normal in young children. im now 22 and my sister is almost 18 and our mum is still very much the same, she's very distant she likes to control us and often blames us for things that go wrong in her own life that we have nothing to do with.
Thank you for this. You’re incredibly brave to speak out. And it’s helping moms like me.
You are my inspiration. Thank you
The only reason why women develop depression is modern lives. Independance -i call it loneliness- brings trauma. Raising whole families alone is a real violence. In more traditional countries it tooks a whole village to raise childs.
My heart is literally pounding, I give birth in exactly a month. This is a huge concern of mines. I believe I had PPD with my twins and I theorize that is was bc of this or that!! I’m changing my surroundings now and getting support in preparation for baby girl!!
How did it go??
@@ShakiraElizabeth She’s 2 months now and it’s complete bliss! This time around I choose to live in the moment, enjoying her instead of seeing it as a hard responsibility. All is well, thanks for asking!! 🙂🙃
@@tanyastalking8495 congratulations!!♥️ I’m 41 and for the first time in my life want to try to become pregnant. I’m so nervous about everything but I think without a baby my life with always be incomplete. Congratulations on your beautiful baby! God bless
Thank you for sharing your story with us
Bless you. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼
I didn't ask for help until my baby was nearly a year old. And all the doctor did was offer me antidepressants. Everyday I would tell myself to take things one day at a time.
Thank You so much. I appreciate and value your experience. I was looking for answers and got them. Thanks again🙏🏿
I'm here to know more about PPD , after in India , Karnataka State's former Chief Minister BS Yediyurappa's Grand daughter hung herself who had a 6 month old child.
Thank you for sharing!
Yeah but if you admit it or ask for help you are looked at as a “bad mother” I love my kids it’s me that’s messed up sad, depressed, paranoia, anger but I had it 2 pregnancies back to back so it’s pretty bad at this point.
The word ppd makes me cry
Needed this. ❤
My wife had got a bit of a little bit of everything a woman goes through ,I love her but she drives me nuts! 😫 And our 3 kids are now teenagers ,when does It all end!?🤔 She's got a mix of everything going on at different levels. It really affects me as her husband and man, she seems to trigger my own issues so it's a double or triple whammy.
Get vasectomy so that she doesn't have to take mood altering, life shattering, hormone changing birth control pills. Also, man up.
Live your life happy or stay in whats comfortable & wonder later what could have been. Youre not here for anyone else but you. Your kids will understand a peaceful separation.
@@scream1237should leave her
I'm a 24 year old woman, I don't have kids yet, but my husband and I have been talking about wanting to expand our family sometime this year. Hearing about this stuff really, really scares me, I won't lie. It encourages me that the percentage of women who get it is so low (even if the percentage is a little higher than reported), but I still feel afraid. Is there anything one can do _before_ getting pregnant that can help prevent this?
no, you can’t prevent it. it’s honestly just something you have to prepare to possibly go through
Amazing lady ever so true i believe i have it
I learned that most women who's got postpartum is because the absence of husband at first of the child. I on the other hand was there for my wife from day -200 forever. I act like a nanny taking care of the baby after my wife breastfed the kids. Burning myself out while learning that I must get healthy and strong in order to keep doing this for life. That's when I embarked on intermittent fasting and now I'll talk at you all day long all year round.
Thank you for sharing this with word
I have been suffering with ppd for a year. The last two weeks my Prozac stopped working and I've been on the edge of a cliff trying not to jump. I know there's hope but I'm exhausted
I think she has more than PPD. That just brought it out.
Thanks sweetheart xxx
thank you for sharing!
A woman in my church called CPS on me and they sadly are trying to take my baby away and had even had her placed in Foster care for a month
Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
It is chronic indeed if you underlate the condition
There is too much medical gaslighting going on ........
It is a condition but I think the children should be somewhere a little safer until ur meds regulate an ur metal awareness improves just to be on the safe side
Mine lasted for 3 years 😔
SHOCK - being a parent doesn't solve all your emotional problems, and life is still 50/50 - parent or not.
Omg... Those crazy thoughts... Terrible and hurtful thoughts... I didn't know it PPD
I thought I'm just crazy
The mindfulness book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels is a good resource.
Is this because husban or father is not helping ? Or what can s husband do to help ?
Poor lady where is her family there for her helping ?
Also this says a lot about conventional western medicine. We need to listen The Who body, mind and spirit. Not even the obgyn could give her an explanation to what she was feeling.
Men deal with this too. I did
I am doing an essay/research paper and I wonder why the stats are so different I wonder where she’s pulling it from becuase Im doing only in the us and the numbers are higher
Thank you this video speach help me a lots. How i interact with my wife.
Cause for me when your are already a family man you should know how or what even where to interact in every situation..
Im calling every boys out there you shouled or proboblye love your wife, your mother, grand mother sister , aunties and every women you have in life except for plings.
Can a mom still develop post partum depression, anxiety, over worrying when her kids are all grown up and married already?
Depression is a monster so it’s quite possible..even if you’ve adopted a child you could still develope PPD.
I’m going through this now just had my baby 3 days ago and I hate it I don’t like this feeling
How are you doing now?
@@ST-xg8bf I’m ok up with the baby now lol but I get depressed outta nowhere a lot struggling with my body image not feeling like myself.it’s a lot to go through ppl saying it’s my hormones so I guess I have to wait till everything goes back to normal 🤷🏽♀️
The gaslighting in the medical industry is crazy
Who would ever admit to having postpartum depression? You risk getting your baby taken away by CPS.
Talk to describe by her it could have been done by her husband, which I did and my wife gave birth to my kids I was there the entire way. I know it's hard took a little bit of burden as much as I could
does it see in pregnent women before delivery??
Wow 👏🏼
Wow impressive, you are welcome ❣️
But women prefers straight away blaming their husband for all this mess 😢
Huh? What are you talking about?
I’m second time mom with toddler and giving birth 🤰 in 2 weeks ❤my rainbow 🌈👶🏼👑🎀 baby one thing I’m scared about it’s postpartum I act like I don’t need help and want to b with my new baby and son I try b strong 💪 all time
My family didn't survive
M too suffering from the same
Unfortunately in india, this is still a myth 😢
7.8 billion ppl, we will be alright
has anyone ever heard of the wife being unfaithful to the husband during PPD
Oh I see Canada stats would be different
My wife has this illness, 😢
Is it ok to have PPD after 2 years of birth?
It’s internal. It ends when you know it will end. It stays when you need it to stay. Caused by a spiritual imbalance in us after we suffered a major event in our lives. Child birth is a major event. Its like your skin is slipping off your bones afterwards, and nothing satisfies you. To fix it, you need to re-establish yourself. It’s the shadow aspects of ourselves~all those insecurities, weaknesses, & biases we’ve held onto. When we bare a child before fixing it in ourselves, we reject it. It’s as if our soul is flipped inside out on itself. For 2 years, the soul has been trying to rebuild itself~Fixing the brokenness. If you listen to the woman, you’ll notice her voice cracks. It’s a sign of what she’s been through in her soul. She was broken. But gave birth anyways. You’re allowed to. But the fact is, something within needs repair. And when you do just that, your children will thank you for never being their first wound. 🤞🏾❣️
my 3rd baby is almost 2, but recently I feel my PPD come back again or it never goes away, I think I had PPD after I had my first one and second one, but at that time I didn't know, my mood instantly get better after them going to daycare
but because of covid, I have to wait to send my third one to daycare, wish I will be done with PPD after my third one goes to daycare.
It's completely normal especially if it hasn't been treated. Treatment is sometimes medication but is often therapy, nutrition, exercise, sleep, respite, mindfulness therapy and building community. Covid has made life, including access to care and often also financial security hard. I'm sorry you are still going through it. Be as gentle with yourself as you can.
After the postpartum period, it is considered major depression if it lasts longer especially 2 years
You need to get help, don't be afraid to. PPD can become permanent if left untreated.
How long can it last?
It depends
Mine is starting to get better 2 years after having my son. Postpartum depression affected me when he was 6 months. So mine was 1.5 years x
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