This video made me cry. I have always been super chill and had rarely ever had anxiety ever until my wife got pregnant. And for over 2 years I’ve been suffering from anxiety and intrusive thoughts about my son and other people’s kids. I never understood how amazing these little children are until I had one of my own. I felt like is there anyone else out there going thru this psychosis? I still have work to do, but therapy was a massive help. Just the first time someone asked me, “So what’s been going on?” it was like I took the deepest breath and talked for 10 minutes straight at least on an intro call. There is also a book called The Power of Now that I started reading, and it is life-changing. It teaches you that you are not your thoughts. Your thoughts are from your ego, which is fragile and always under attack, but your actual self is the being that is living inside of this human existence. I stopped going to therapy, and I feel like I’ve been regressing, so I will be going back. Therapy every 2 weeks, journaling, meditation, a good night’s sleep, The Power of Now, and watching videos like this are the things that have helped me. Much love to all the parents out there doing their best every day 🫶.
My husband is divorcing me because he couldn’t handle all the stress of the before and after postpartum depression. Is really sad how many people don’t get it.
Talk about it? Talk to whom? No one in our society really thinks it is a thing as all our mothers and grandmothers have gone through all of this without saying a word
I am watching this & I am crying, I have been wondering what the heck was wrong with me for months. I didnt understand what was going on, thank you for sharing this.
I am a stay at home dad with my wife..Lets please don't forget that dads too suffer from it - it comes in different forms. It takes its toll on a family. But we need to educate people what may occur after birth and what the tools there exists that we can use to cope and get through the tough first few years of bringing up our little miracles. men tend to become irritable and easily frustrated and angry.. This in turn does not help out mothers and actually makes the situation worse. Some men just withdraw and are not involved at all and can also be a form of ppd. Spread the word and start the conversations.
Thank you for talking about this im going through postpartum anxiety right now! I have a 4 month old son and my fears are through the roof with intrusive thoughts and anxiety
It makes me so sad watching this. I have a two month old and I am constantly in a state of panic about him. I know he’s fine and I’m honestly starting to drive people around me nuts because of it but it’s so so hard to deal with.
I could have written this 😞 my partner doesn’t understand me and thinks Im crazy. My words tho not his, but I know he is kinda sick of my constant crying and not handling taking care of my son well. Actually Im handling all of his needs, but Im falling apart. Insomnia and catastrophic thoughts… I dont wanna get on medication but I dont see the way out😞 Plus my baby is an amazing sleeper, I just cant seem to nap when he is sleeping, Im so exhausted I just wanna cry 😪
I have been struggling with anxiety for months. I’ve been to the E.R so many times & I feel that they just think I’m crazy. What you explained is exactly the type of thoughts I have about my daughter and husband and it’s exhausting. Thank you for talking about this I’m definitely going to talk to my doctor about this because I really need help.
6 months postpartum and I’m suffering with anxiety. Worst feeling ever! I went to my doctor he prescribed me Lexapro. I really don’t want to take it because of the side effects so I try control it but know I feel confused like if everything is all a dream. Ill definitely look for help because I want my life back.! Thank you for the video it made me feel better knowing I’m not the only one suffering from this.
Thanks for sharing this! I’m going through this right now. Docs and people seem to ask the wrong questions pertaining to PPD “are you having thoughts of harming yourself or your child?” - NO, I’m not. So that must mean I don’t have PPD, but I’m terrified in other ways and have this anxiety! It’s PPA! Makes perfect sense.
Thank you for sharing this. By my son’s first month I thought I was in the clear and I was good. Yet I had those exact thoughts creeping into my head little by little. Here I am now, almost 4 months postpartum and coping through postpartum anxiety. Thank you for sharing this. Making small changes one day at a time.
I've just found out this is what I have and been struggling with. I felt exactly the same when I found the problem I had has a name, it makes you feel like you're not alone. Luckily I feel like I'm on the other side of it now, some days I still struggle a little but my mind is easier to snap out of the thought process or that dark pathway. I can't say there was anything that made it better but just stop closing off to things my brain was telling me was a danger and the more I seen they werent dangers, the easier it got. I remember the day I told my husband the most irrational fear I had and he tried to make me feel better. I ended up at the doctors and they said I had an illness phobia. I left feeling maybe I do but why? Only months previous I didn't and I started questioning if all this time I had and it had been building up. Then the other night I was scrolling through the short reels on UA-cam and a video popped up called 'I'm scared of my own body' where she described things I had been going through and gave it a name 'postnatal anxiety' I couldn't believe it... all this time I finally found the name to my problem. I finally found that this isn't me, this is an illness. It had been killing me for so long. I can't advise on how to fix it, I'm sure everyone's idea of fixing it will be different. The things that helped me: Talking, not giving up and try to live normal and not let those fears control your day to day. As you go on you will see these are not real fears and they will fade like you're ticking them off the list "didn't die from whatever was playing in my head" ✔️ each day goes by doing those repeated things will hopefully show you that it's a positive not a negative situation. Try to get in a good routine but don't let your head control you. I hope you all stop suffering very soon because I know what it feels like and I think it's still not spoken about enough or the definitions of it are not clear enough to be diagnosed and it can go unnoticed and wreck your life, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and finding life pointless or not wanting to live like that. Life isn't pointless, it will stop just please keep going and be strong enough to live the worry your head is creating. You will be ok
The best advice I ever got while struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts was to not suppress the thoughts but acknowledge them for what they were; just thoughts. Thoughts that are not your own. They are not a reflection of your true self. And they will pass. My baby is just a little over 6 months now and I promise it does get better, but while it's happening, keep your partner and loved ones informed. Lean on the people around you and take help whenever you can. It can be terrifying and feel so hopeless. Look online for mommy groups and air your thoughts out. You're not alone. I promise.
This really made me feel so seen, I’ve been struggling with anxiety for a long time now, after having my son these are definitely thoughts that have crossed my mind too🥹 thank you for sharing !
I have all these exact same fears... I thought I was alone & crazy. I finally pushed my anxiety & fears to the back of my mind, in mid anxiety attack I was on the phone w my dr. I pushed thru & I finally have an appointment. I can’t handle feeling like this anymore. I’m not even mid way thru & it’s like you’re telling my life story..
I don't think I even slept for 2 hours per night until my baby became 1 years old in fear of SIDS. And now that he is 2 everytime he is ouside without me I just want to sit and cry and think about how to kill myself if something would happen to him I picture him in very very graphic situations and its driving me crazy. Now that I actually know what my problem is I will ask for help for sure. Thank you
@@TheEverpassenger my second was born about a month ago and I am alot calmer this time. I just wont let my mind go to that direction again. Keeping myself busy, trying to stop those thoughts before they start and getting help so I wont be stressed and exhausted all the time really helps.I guess we have to accept the fact that we can not control everything in this world and as long as we are trying our best to protect our loved ones there is no point being worried about something that hasn't happened and probably will never happen.
Congratulations! I am so happy to hear that you have your baby safe&sound. I am also happy to hear that I am not alone in choosing to have the second baby despite the negative experience in the first time. I have hope that this time it might be better, I am more aware of myself and what baby-rearing takes. But other times I ask myself am I crazy to disrupt my peace a second time :). My baby will arrive in a month inshaallah, and I wish the best for all of us. Thank you for your comment.
This is me. Every single word. I don't recognize myself anymore. This is not who I am. Yet somehow I've become this person 😢 my son is 5 and I still have intrusivw thoughts
Im here! I hear you! You are not alone! My daughter is almost 5 and I feel just the same. Im on pills. Im afraid I will never be free of them. Shoutout from Poland!
I asked for help from my OB, he submitted a request only to receive a denial letter from my insurance not sure why. Didn't have the energy to investigate.
my wife is having her postpartum and I'm reallyscared coz sometimes shes not eating anything in a day. I'm worried about her and i don't know what to do. i can't even work coz she's not letting me.
I have a 22 days old baby..I didn’t know what I was going thru was postpartum anxiety...the panic Nd guilt Nd fear has been crippling me for the last two weeks..started with my baby being admitted for jaundice for 2 days...I watch my baby all night to see if he’s breathing..I feel inadequate to take care of him, I feel like I am going to screw this up too..I fear how can something so good happen to me nd worry of it ll be taken away from me bcz of my thoughts...don’t know what to do... maybe I ll find some help too soon..
I just want to hide, I just want to run away. I feel like someone will say "why are you like this", because my situation is better than others'. I should be able to handle it. Returning to work soon. And I don't know how I'm gonna do it.
Kalisod ba laman e open up sa imu husband ky dili man kasabot... Ma stress sija ug tuda kung my mood is not good. I have bad days, anxiousness that affects my day and it will show later on to my husband but he will get angry. He doesn't want me to have mood swings, he wants me to be all good, smiling, and don't have bad days. So it makes me very sad everyday.
This video made me cry. I have always been super chill and had rarely ever had anxiety ever until my wife got pregnant. And for over 2 years I’ve been suffering from anxiety and intrusive thoughts about my son and other people’s kids. I never understood how amazing these little children are until I had one of my own. I felt like is there anyone else out there going thru this psychosis? I still have work to do, but therapy was a massive help. Just the first time someone asked me, “So what’s been going on?” it was like I took the deepest breath and talked for 10 minutes straight at least on an intro call. There is also a book called The Power of Now that I started reading, and it is life-changing. It teaches you that you are not your thoughts. Your thoughts are from your ego, which is fragile and always under attack, but your actual self is the being that is living inside of this human existence. I stopped going to therapy, and I feel like I’ve been regressing, so I will be going back. Therapy every 2 weeks, journaling, meditation, a good night’s sleep, The Power of Now, and watching videos like this are the things that have helped me. Much love to all the parents out there doing their best every day 🫶.
My husband is divorcing me because he couldn’t handle all the stress of the before and after postpartum depression. Is really sad how many people don’t get it.
I'm so sorry. My husband didn't know how to handle it either. It's one of those make or break it situations I think. And It's not ur fault
Same problem, he left me when the baby turned 53 days old
@@yl508 wow. What a terrible person. I’m sorry. You deserve and will get better.
Hang on mama better days are coming. ❤️
😢❤❤❤❤🫶🏾
Talk about it? Talk to whom? No one in our society really thinks it is a thing as all our mothers and grandmothers have gone through all of this without saying a word
THIS
I am watching this & I am crying, I have been wondering what the heck was wrong with me for months. I didnt understand what was going on, thank you for sharing this.
U okay now?
Are you ok now?
me too its been 4 months
I am a stay at home dad with my wife..Lets please don't forget that dads too suffer from it - it comes in different forms. It takes its toll on a family. But we need to educate people what may occur after birth and what the tools there exists that we can use to cope and get through the tough first few years of bringing up our little miracles. men tend to become irritable and easily frustrated and angry.. This in turn does not help out mothers and actually makes the situation worse. Some men just withdraw and are not involved at all and can also be a form of ppd. Spread the word and start the conversations.
It absolutely affects fathers. I'm glad you said something.
Thank you for talking about this im going through postpartum anxiety right now! I have a 4 month old son and my fears are through the roof with intrusive thoughts and anxiety
How you feeling now mama?
I feel the same
Also 4 months
I feel the same :(
I'm 4 months pp right now, and my anxiety is so high right now. I'm hoping for some relief soon 😢
It makes me so sad watching this. I have a two month old and I am constantly in a state of panic about him. I know he’s fine and I’m honestly starting to drive people around me nuts because of it but it’s so so hard to deal with.
I could have written this 😞 my partner doesn’t understand me and thinks Im crazy. My words tho not his, but I know he is kinda sick of my constant crying and not handling taking care of my son well. Actually Im handling all of his needs, but Im falling apart. Insomnia and catastrophic thoughts…
I dont wanna get on medication but I dont see the way out😞
Plus my baby is an amazing sleeper, I just cant seem to nap when he is sleeping, Im so exhausted I just wanna cry 😪
I really needed to hear this .... I wish this can be advocated in Nigeria
You're right. I'm a Nigerian and am going through postpartum depression and anxiety. Its the worst nightmare ever. Mine is the thoughts of death.
@@atalkwithroborsamson764 did you get over it
I have been struggling with anxiety for months. I’ve been to the E.R so many times & I feel that they just think I’m crazy. What you explained is exactly the type of thoughts I have about my daughter and husband and it’s exhausting. Thank you for talking about this I’m definitely going to talk to my doctor about this because I really need help.
How are you doing now?
6 months postpartum and I’m suffering with anxiety. Worst feeling ever! I went to my doctor he prescribed me Lexapro. I really don’t want to take it because of the side effects so I try control it but know I feel confused like if everything is all a dream. Ill definitely look for help because I want my life back.! Thank you for the video it made me feel better knowing I’m not the only one suffering from this.
Hi - how’s it going now? It’s been a long time since you wrote this. I was on Lexapro for my anxiety and it worked wonders.
How r u, now
I m suffering frm it
😢😢
Thanks for sharing this! I’m going through this right now. Docs and people seem to ask the wrong questions pertaining to PPD “are you having thoughts of harming yourself or your child?” - NO, I’m not. So that must mean I don’t have PPD, but I’m terrified in other ways and have this anxiety! It’s PPA! Makes perfect sense.
This!
I really needed this...thank you so much.
Hang in there. You won’t feel like that forever
@@LaJuera25 I agree with you
Thank you for sharing this. By my son’s first month I thought I was in the clear and I was good. Yet I had those exact thoughts creeping into my head little by little. Here I am now, almost 4 months postpartum and coping through postpartum anxiety. Thank you for sharing this. Making small changes one day at a time.
I've just found out this is what I have and been struggling with. I felt exactly the same when I found the problem I had has a name, it makes you feel like you're not alone. Luckily I feel like I'm on the other side of it now, some days I still struggle a little but my mind is easier to snap out of the thought process or that dark pathway. I can't say there was anything that made it better but just stop closing off to things my brain was telling me was a danger and the more I seen they werent dangers, the easier it got.
I remember the day I told my husband the most irrational fear I had and he tried to make me feel better. I ended up at the doctors and they said I had an illness phobia. I left feeling maybe I do but why? Only months previous I didn't and I started questioning if all this time I had and it had been building up. Then the other night I was scrolling through the short reels on UA-cam and a video popped up called 'I'm scared of my own body' where she described things I had been going through and gave it a name 'postnatal anxiety' I couldn't believe it... all this time I finally found the name to my problem. I finally found that this isn't me, this is an illness. It had been killing me for so long.
I can't advise on how to fix it, I'm sure everyone's idea of fixing it will be different. The things that helped me: Talking, not giving up and try to live normal and not let those fears control your day to day. As you go on you will see these are not real fears and they will fade like you're ticking them off the list "didn't die from whatever was playing in my head" ✔️ each day goes by doing those repeated things will hopefully show you that it's a positive not a negative situation. Try to get in a good routine but don't let your head control you. I hope you all stop suffering very soon because I know what it feels like and I think it's still not spoken about enough or the definitions of it are not clear enough to be diagnosed and it can go unnoticed and wreck your life, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and finding life pointless or not wanting to live like that.
Life isn't pointless, it will stop just please keep going and be strong enough to live the worry your head is creating. You will be ok
The best advice I ever got while struggling with anxiety and intrusive thoughts was to not suppress the thoughts but acknowledge them for what they were; just thoughts. Thoughts that are not your own. They are not a reflection of your true self. And they will pass. My baby is just a little over 6 months now and I promise it does get better, but while it's happening, keep your partner and loved ones informed. Lean on the people around you and take help whenever you can. It can be terrifying and feel so hopeless. Look online for mommy groups and air your thoughts out. You're not alone. I promise.
This really made me feel so seen, I’ve been struggling with anxiety for a long time now, after having my son these are definitely thoughts that have crossed my mind too🥹 thank you for sharing !
I wish more moms would listen to this. I can’t believe it only has 4.2 k views.. 90 likes. It should have so much more.
I have all these exact same fears... I thought I was alone & crazy. I finally pushed my anxiety & fears to the back of my mind, in mid anxiety attack I was on the phone w my dr. I pushed thru & I finally have an appointment. I can’t handle feeling like this anymore. I’m not even mid way thru & it’s like you’re telling my life story..
Ikr it’s super scary !
I had to thank my mom, I was on the brink of psychosis. I had anxiety and OCD.
I don't think I even slept for 2 hours per night until my baby became 1 years old in fear of SIDS. And now that he is 2 everytime he is ouside without me I just want to sit and cry and think about how to kill myself if something would happen to him I picture him in very very graphic situations and its driving me crazy. Now that I actually know what my problem is I will ask for help for sure. Thank you
I also had this. My number two is on the way and İ pray to god that İ will be calmer this time.
You ever had high blood pressure with it
@@ayannagonzales7974 no. my blood pressure is actually always a bit low
@@TheEverpassenger my second was born about a month ago and I am alot calmer this time. I just wont let my mind go to that direction again. Keeping myself busy, trying to stop those thoughts before they start and getting help so I wont be stressed and exhausted all the time really helps.I guess we have to accept the fact that we can not control everything in this world and as long as we are trying our best to protect our loved ones there is no point being worried about something that hasn't happened and probably will never happen.
Congratulations! I am so happy to hear that you have your baby safe&sound. I am also happy to hear that I am not alone in choosing to have the second baby despite the negative experience in the first time. I have hope that this time it might be better, I am more aware of myself and what baby-rearing takes. But other times I ask myself am I crazy to disrupt my peace a second time :). My baby will arrive in a month inshaallah, and I wish the best for all of us. Thank you for your comment.
Are you talking about me?? Really i went through all what you are talking about. Also the answer was talking about it . Not hiding it. Thank you
First thing sleep alot as much as possible dn go out see sorrundings n take some me time n if talk ds things with some positive ppl it helps me alot
I lost my fiancée because he didn't understand what's happening & left me with a 2mnth old baby to raise all by myself
This hasn’t ended for me since my kids were born. Only gotten worse. They’re 4 and 6 and I am deteriorating
Hi Amber. For me it started in the second year of my child. He is 4 now and I have bad anxiety . Are you doing therapy or something?
@@ritadelille Two years into it is not postpartum. It’s just anxiety and depression.
@@hollydaugherty2620 yes, it s anxiety, but I m not depressed for sure.
Exactly what am going through...I thought I was going mad 🥲🥲
Exactly what am going through now...my life is like a dream😭
Everything is said here in the video. ❤
Much needed, thank you
This is me. Every single word. I don't recognize myself anymore. This is not who I am. Yet somehow I've become this person 😢 my son is 5 and I still have intrusivw thoughts
Im here! I hear you! You are not alone! My daughter is almost 5 and I feel just the same. Im on pills. Im afraid I will never be free of them. Shoutout from Poland!
I asked for help from my OB, he submitted a request only to receive a denial letter from my insurance not sure why. Didn't have the energy to investigate.
my wife is having her postpartum and I'm reallyscared coz sometimes shes not eating anything in a day.
I'm worried about her and i don't know what to do.
i can't even work coz she's not letting me.
Take her to the GP (doctor) or speak to the public health nurse. She needs to speak to a medical professional and they can support you both ❤
Oh dear.... Is this what is happening!?
💛💛💛
I have a 22 days old baby..I didn’t know what I was going thru was postpartum anxiety...the panic Nd guilt Nd fear has been crippling me for the last two weeks..started with my baby being admitted for jaundice for 2 days...I watch my baby all night to see if he’s breathing..I feel inadequate to take care of him, I feel like I am going to screw this up too..I fear how can something so good happen to me nd worry of it ll be taken away from me bcz of my thoughts...don’t know what to do... maybe I ll find some help too soon..
You got this! Talk to your OB. They are amazing and know what to do.
My mans for head brruuuuuuuuvvvvv
Omg this is me…
This deserves more recognition !!
I just want to hide, I just want to run away. I feel like someone will say "why are you like this", because my situation is better than others'. I should be able to handle it. Returning to work soon. And I don't know how I'm gonna do it.
Haven’t finished listening yet but it’s like you’re talking about me😢 that’s how I feel!!! I’m 7 weeks postpartum with my first child.
My baby is almost 6 weeks and same! Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor. They understand all of this.
Same
Kalisod ba laman e open up sa imu husband ky dili man kasabot... Ma stress sija ug tuda kung my mood is not good. I have bad days, anxiousness that affects my day and it will show later on to my husband but he will get angry. He doesn't want me to have mood swings, he wants me to be all good, smiling, and don't have bad days. So it makes me very sad everyday.
I met Royale in person back in 2019 when my school was visiting KOAT news station in Albuquerque. She is so sweet and nice
I just got home from work, I leave early because I couldn't breathe and start crying I don't know what's happening to me😭
You literally described me to a T