Why I Dont Talk To My Family
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- Опубліковано 29 сер 2022
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how to cope w fomo? or how to stop fomo & the insecurity that comes with it?
I live an hour away from my friends & I have no friends in the town I currently live in. Due to this I have bad fomo & am starting to get insecure. They’re my best friends but since they are all getting closer I can’t help but think I am not as important or crucial to the friendship anymore
“how have you dealt
with your body changing
as a model?”
podcast question:
“How to maintain
healthy friendships/
how to set boundaries
in realationships.”
“what did you eat today?”
“have you ever
struggled to fit in?”
could you please
do a podcast episode
touching on why you
don’t speak to your
family
i feel like your
answers can
sound so mature
but you’re still so
immature and
irresponsible.
the things you
do are childish
and you seem to have no
structure. it’s so confusing
“Favorite song at the moment”
Also, YES more solo episodes and don’t worry about making them “too depressing”, it’s just the reality of the situation. I can personally relate and it feels better knowing i’m not alone and i’m sure it does the same for others
Totally agreed!
Ur really great at interviewing others and I love those podcasts, but there's something about these solo podcasts that shows your authenticity and brings something new to youtube where everything seems fake or exaggerated lately. These videos feel real and I think you could build a nice community of wholesome people who support you if you go this route.
agreed!!
I agree!! And I also actually really like how this video was recorded on photo booth without a mic… it makes it feel more personal, intimate and casual like a conversation / FaceTime with a friend
this podcast means a lot more to me than i think you could ever comprehend. thank you for being so honest online, it’s tough to be vulnerable in real life, let alone over the internet and the way you do feels extremely authentic and personable. i really look forward to these charlotte
I don’t talk to my family. At all. You talking about it really made me feel better about my situation and I really appreciate you.
Though you may feel embarrassed or ashamed I hope you don’t always because a lot of people actually find comfort in hearing that other people also have these kind of issues with family and it helps to not feel lonely in it
My heart broke when you teared up talking about your dad. I cried too and I wish I could hug you and give you all the love that you truly deserve. I feel the same way about being so protective over who I’m friends with, and if I could be your friend I would give you the world, cause i know youre a wonderful person. I love you and thank you for sharing this with us. I can’t wait for your next episode. You make me feel so human because youre a reflection of that and youre your true self, as we all should be. i admire you so much.
I really appreciate that you opened up about your family situation. I know the feeling of being embarrassed for having crazy parents and not a typical happy family but this is exactly what people have to hear and know is that not every family is perfect and there are other people going through the same things ❤️ thank you!
It is not embarrassing!!! It’s refreshing. As sad as I am that you had to go through that I had a VERY similar situation, thank you for being so raw and transparent
I love your solo episodes, they feel more deep and kinda like a therapist session which I love. I listen while doing my makeup, or doing homework for college. You’re energy is pure sweet sunshine, and it’s so refreshing seeing someone be kind and talk about real things.
I really enjoyed this episode and you were very brave to open up. It sounded hard to grow up in an environment like that, but it is clear that because of it, you are an extremely resilient and insightful person. I loved the solo episode and how you went about answering the questions, so I would love more like these! 💓
what a tender, honest, authentic, excellent episode. just, wow. charlotte, you never need to apologize for being "depressing" or "bleak" and you speaking your truth about your relationship with your family and with family as a concept is so beautiful and valuable, it is NOT embarassing. i feel so seen in hearing how you speak about these subjects and it is the very rawness and honesty with which you discuss them that makes this video far more valuable than 99% of videos one can find on youtube. never stop being you
thank u for bein so vulnerable on here, helps ppl realise we’re all goin thru our own things and no one is alone in that 💓
When you talked about “wanting to see your friends have fun”, I never thought of it that way. And I’m going to now, it just clicked for me when you said that and makes a lot of sense! Thank you! Also I have a really toxic family life so hearing you speak so openly about ur dad makes me feel light. Like who cares, it’s a fact that families aren’t perfect so why do we feel embarrassed by it. It’s really therapeutic to hear u talk about ur dad.
this podcast is so refreshing to see someone be so authentic and honest on their videos. i think everyone watching really feels a connection to what you talk about thank you 💓
i relate to u so much about feeling some sort of disconnect with ur family/dad, our situations are very different but the way we cope and think feels very similar and I appreciate u a lot for sharing this very personal and vulnerable thing w us. It makes me feel less isolated and sad.
I've come to terms with the fact that my only true family is my mom and that's it, and making peace w it has been life changing. Also, trying to find a good solid circle of friends that feel like a family is something that I share w u.
I love ur solo episodes, they feel comforting
Being this vulnerable and true to yourself in a very public space is not only so strong and brave, it inspires me to do the same for myself. I feel so much better knowing I and others who have gone through the same are not alone. Please do NOT apologise for talking about family like this, it's so valid and it's made me realise how important it is to not pretend everything in life is perfect. Talking about the hard stuff makes it easier to accept that unfortunately some of us experience a difficult time or relationship in our lives but none of us are any less valued or important. Thank you for this!
I looooveeee listening to you process your family trauma and express your unedited emotions towards them. I really feel like for one of the first times ever, I am almost listening to myself process my own family trauma through your expression. Thank you so much for being open and honest 🤍
It's actually the opposite of depressing for me. Thank you for being open, its refreshing (:
Thank you so much for sharing this with the world. I hear you in the dark emptiness that puts one on alert. I have a similar experience with this. Hearing you call it out is really really comforting. I’m right there with you.
These solo podcasts are almost therapeutic. You have such a way with words. 🧡
I love how someone can express lots of ideas coming from experiences and overthinking topics this is like super deep but chill at the same time
I’d have to disagree with your response to the first question. Sometimes a friendship is more valuable to one party over the other and therefore there is nothing that you can do to be a better friend in order for them to care more. Anytime you do something for another person and expect them to always do the same for you in return will end up hurting you. I honestly think in these situations where one friend feels like they are being forgotten about, they usually are. And that is sad, but a good friend will always reassure you.
This
this podcast makes my week. i relate to every word u say and even when i dont u always keep me thinking. ur awesome bb pls dont stop doing solo eps
char i love all of your podcast eps soo much!! i’d love to see another solo ep next week, and tbh i like hearing u talk about whatever
‘Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents’ is SUCH a good read on this , ur strong as hell for talking about this and giving other people your strength
Currently going through a breakup & your solo podcasts make me feel a little less alone. I don’t know you but I’m proud of you!
i love your podcast so much, it feels so real and effortless, which makes it so authentic 🤍
This is a superb podcast episode - differnt from any other podcast i've ever seen, your honesty is so refreshing and your expeirneces with parents extremely relatable. i've subscribed, keep up the great work and don't doubt the substance of your creative output.
I am so proud of your honesty and vulnerability. You are a shining soul.
Another wonderful episode, love you for talking about interesting topics!
through all the difficulties and tribulations of your life you’ve blossomed into the sweetest, cutest and realest person. idek you and im proud of you
Sending you so much love, thank you for sharing! 💕
Reallllly love these solo episodes! You have great insight and a good head on your shoulders Char :)
love this Charlotte - you’re doing so well 💓
I really resonated with your thoughts on everyone’s inner child and never letting go to some of those aspects of yourself.
Great video. The production quality is perfect. Solo podcasts are best because they're easier to organize, you can do more of them, you can comment on any topic. I like your thoughts on your father and family. You seem quite mentally strong for having such a dynamic and challenging life. Nice job of staying sane. You may not have a close relationship with your father, but he's probably closer than he appears. Parents influence their children in strange ways. They mark your skin. When your father dies, he will become even more powerful. His voice will get louder in your head.
Charlotte! Love your podcast! Thank you for putting yourself out there, it's very inspiring.
this made me feel SO seen-- thank you for this.
This sounds exactly, EXACTLY like my sociopathic dad -- my sister was the first to accept his true nature while i grew up craving his approval. its a harsh reality to accept but it is what it is and its liberating to accept
26 minutes in and just wanna say i appreciate the open-ness. I'm from Toronto and can relate to a lot of this. Anyways, ima keep watching. God bless
I love ur videos sm they make me feel so comfortable
A breath a fresh air every time 🙌
This was so so wholesome!! Love you Char
Please dont feel you have to bite your tongue, this is a safe space for you to share as much as you want. So many of us also dont have perfect families and it feels nice to relate
I think you have a great attitude about all of this, and you are most definitely not alone. People like your dad are very destructive to their children and you are very lucky and wise to put distance between yourself and him. That shows that your instincts are very good and that is a blessing because far too often kids of people like this start to not trust themselves because they have been gaslighted so extensively. My eldest son was a musician (Noah Ransom Music here on youtube), but sadly he was deeply traumatized by his dad and this eventually drove him to an accidental overdose. His younger brother, my only surviving child (adult child), really struggles with the truth of his life. An attitude like yours might have saved them. You are absolutely right that some people should not have kids. Narcissists and sociopaths cannot be parents because parents do have love and empathy and the ability to put their children's needs ahead of their own, and your dad can't do that. You should be very proud of yourself for trusting your own feelings. Don't ever betray your own intuition as this will protect you from repeating a pattern of abuse which is very common for people raised by parents like this. That was true for me, and my sons and I really paid a high price for that. One last thought : there is a big difference between child-like and childish, and I hate to say it but it sounds like your dad is childish which means not being there for another person including your own kids. We all get older, but we don't all mature, and nothing is uglier or more destructive than a middle aged toddler.
I can relate, I don't talk to many in my family because of my sexuality. They wanted me to meet a woman get married have kids, they don't like that I have a boyfriend
this is probably one of the most helpful and validating youtube videos i’ve watched in awhile
You have to be kidding me
I love your response about keeping a part of yourself like a child forever! I am such a huge advocate for play, childlike wonder and vibrance in our adult life. When you talked about growing up to step into the role of a mom, I hope you always keep this philosophy close to your heart.
I hope you never fully grow up & not in the Peter Pan way like your dad. More in a way where you prioritize keeping the light in you very bright. I mean it's moronic to think the best way to raise a child is by killing the child in yourself.
Towards the end of the video it started to remind me of when u used to go on insta live. I loved it char
the favorite song question got me thinking u should do media share at the end of episodes if u want, like fav song/movie/show/fashion release/etc at the moment
Dear Charlotte🫶🏻.
You sharing your story is not embarrassing AT ALL. I don’t think you realise how many people you’re helping and validating by sharing something so personal.
Listening to you speak about everything especially your relationship with your father has given me so much perspective. I do not have a good relationship with my mother and it is close to us not having a relationship at all even though we live in the same house.
Sometimes there’s no way to turn back and make things okay and that is okay.
I am learning to forgive myself and not blame myself for her negative and narcissistic actions towards me. I am using her negative energy to full me in the right direction, to be better, to make better decisions and to have the life I dream of without feeling bad and to blame for her life “failing”.
please continue sharing your story. we need you🫶🏻lots of love and hugs xxx❤️
It wasn’t depressing it was really interesting for you to be so raw and real!
I related to your story about your family so much. the way you described your dad reminds me soooo much of my father
Hey Char,
I think an episode of you interviewing Bazzi would be so great to hear. I would love to hear both of your intellectual minds bounce off each other. So happy the pod is back!🫶
I was gonna make a comment, but I'm speechless after reading yours
That was pretty brave. I was narrow minded and followed you for your looks over the years. I apologize to you for labeling you as the dumb hottie party girl. I’m so happy to learn you have grown into who you are. My Mom passed a few years ago and I miss her immensely. I have become closer to the rest of my family. You can’t chose your family and I think you are doing an amazing job managing your situation. Thanks for opening up so much, I think it’s good for people to hear that everyone has their own struggles. And good on you for helping guide your sisters.
Ed 🥹😭🙌
fair enough but its kinda wild how u needed to see someones vulnerabilities to give em their basic respects without even knowing em
@@m.inittttt Please understand it was not Miss D’Alessio’s vulnerabilities that swayed me, it was seeing her pods and listening to her over the last couple of years. This was the first place I felt appropriate to admit my own faults and growth, and also to apologize for being an asshat.
@@m.inittttt but also good for Ed for owning it and being open to changing his mind 👏
He didn’t have to share he felt that way before
this was soo good thank you for sharing!
I barely talk to my family members as well. I only talk to my grandma and my mom, although when I moved out I didn’t talk to my mom for almost a year. She never called and so I haven’t called either. It’s complicated. However, I still love my family, but it was never what I wanted and needed it to be.
Love your videos! 💕
Beautiful episode 🌸
You talking about your dad really reminded me of my step dad. I’m on vacation with him and my mom right now, and I feel so mentally weak. He is truly evil, and it breaks my heart that my mom is in love with this monster. I am making the promise to myself to never talk or see him ever again. I just can’t keep accepting and tolerating his behavior.
Thank you so much for talking about it. It is very healing and validating to hear you being so blunt about it. I now choose to protect my peace❤️
Loved you on Jeff's podcast. 😊
Aw Charlotte, I know you already know this but you’re not alone. I notice in your pods you seem to have an internal conflict about whether or not you’re a good person, i wonder if those thoughts about yourself stem from the way your dad is? love the pod, can absolutely relate to narcissistic parents. wishing u the best ❤️❤️
loved this episode
We love a relatable queen
this helped me so much w my daddy issues. ily sm
your sisters are so lucky to have you❤️
Loved this ❤️
I feel really bad for you, you’re so nice you can’t even say your dad is a douche bag , and like always try to understand him and find excuses for him 💔 this breaks my heart
Your dad sounds exactly like mine. My dad had 4 kids by 3 different women and married each woman but never stuck around to raise any of his kids. I’m 27 now and I cut him off 2 years ago because it was a very half assed father daughter relationship on his part. I can relate you what you said about feeling ashamed about your family. I can totally relate, and when I was growing up I used to lie to people about my relationship with my dad because I felt so ashamed about the truth that he didn’t give a shit about me and wasn’t involved in my life. Something that I tell myself when I feel ashamed about my family is that none of the problems are my fault, I didn’t ask for them
I agree with you about the texts. It can get to be too much. I'm sure you get a ton of texts and you'd be on your phone all day responding to them. You have better things to do with your time.
I am sorry about your dad. You are a beautiful person.
i literally laughed out loud when you responded “ummm yea” to the person saying that you act immature hahaha this episode was chicken soup for the soul
Sounds like you’ve grown up with a father that has dark triad traits (psychopathy, narcissism, machiavellianism). glad to see that you’re coping well and don’t care what he thinks! That’s really admirable
your podcasts are so real and vulnerability is really touching, Motivates me to be more honest and take the risk of being vulnerable. Thank you so much Charlotte
U deserve your own show
I love you and this podcast was amaze
I can relate to the family issues. Cool podcast :)
off topic but I miss your Livestreams with Chiara and Banana just getting ready and having fun.
Also the PhotoBooth felt like FaceTiming you
Literally just got into a fight with my mom .. who is literally like how you explain your dad .. & trust me this is more than relatable .. 💕
I feel for you. To go from a cold household to the superficial culture of Los Angeles, I hope you have or will find genuine people who can offer support. Please use these videos as an opportunity to heal. We are here to help you.
I agree with so many things you say !!! ✨✨❤️
i know this is unrelated but i would love if you mentioned your astrology chart in one of your episodes!! like either your whole birth chart or just sun, moon, rising. 💕💕
Such a good video!
Same here. I avoid holiday gatherings completely now.
Keep going with that nice podcast I like it so much 🤍
God I would love to be on your podcast I think we would have great conversation in a lot of ways I see myself in you especially with your upbringing everything you explained is beautifully worded and true to me as well as you great podcast lots of love keep doing what you r doing
Do either of you know how to speak? She is all over the place.....wow
23:58 Missing timestamp about why she doesn't speak to her family
I hope that 1 year later your issues are resolved. In all cases, I wish you the best and keep up the good work Charlotte.
when is ur podcast with ryley coming? also i rlly enjoyed this episode xx
Solo episode forever
Love the photobooth vibe
solo episodes >>>>
I love listening to you
You’re amazing
it’s fun to be a little child-like actually, i don’t want to be a boring adult
Question for all. If you had little to no connection with your family and it was something that made you feel better to have it that way. How would you handle having a significant other, in which their family questions and wants to meet your family ??
Good question
I fancy this girl so much
I’m so confused about your name! Do you go by Briar and use Charlotte for work?
Yes as a natural redhead (and tall girl) I’ve always wanted to just fit in and not stand out
Absolutely love this, I just have one small recommendation; I know this is a really serious video, but try not to say “like” so much, it’s kind of distracting.
bestie!! you should get madison beer on the podcast. it would be really interesting
Sounds like your father may have an entity attachment. A lot of times these entities attach in childhood as a result of some type of abuse and they tend to stay with a person throughout life unless the attachment is removed. The person with the attachment must also do the personal work so the entity does not return. You may want to look into this phenomena for your own peace of mind. People with entity attachments can present exactly as you describe with your father. They can be very charismatic and may seem like a great person to those who don't know them well, but their family sees a much darker side. Sometimes the family will even see the person with the attachment manifest but they don't understand what they're seeing. I'm sorry you've had this experience. My Mom has an attachment and it was extremely difficult growing up in the same house. One other thought ~ In every single person I've seen with an attachment, they experience arrested development meaning they never develop emotionally past the age that the entity attached. So for example, if an entity attaches to a person at age 5, that person will continue to have the emotional maturity of a 5 year old even as an adult. A lot of times, entities will attach in adolescence and the person will appear as a perpetual teenager, even when they're 40, 50, or 60.
Beautiful