My dad is an alcoholic and I'm so scared to loose him. I feel hurt, angry, hopeless, full of responsability. Thank you for your video, it made me feel less lonely
I feel you, my dads an alcoholic and all of my siblings don’t see him anymore because he’s said he would change so many times and didn’t. Now I’m the only child left that still messages him but my mum has banned us from seeing each other unless it’s at a place with supervision. I’m scared that I won’t see him again before he’s dead.
my dad is an alcoholic, im currently 17 and he is doing so awful. i’m so scared of losing him but i’m so angry and upset and hurt and things like that. i just don’t know what to do anymore honestly
Hi Ella, my dad was also an alcoholic and died as a result of it in Sept 2017. I was 38 when he died and he was an alcoholic for the biggest part of my life. Increasingly got worse from when I was a teenager. I completely identify with everything you have said. He was a high functioning alcoholic too and held down a job as a policeman until he retired at 49. We were an ordinary happy family on the surface but it was far from the reality... and my mum eventually left him when I was 30. That was the hard part as I felt he then became my responsibility. He wasn’t, but I was all he had. He used to have awful episodes of seizures, hallucinations, falls and I was terrified of finding him alone lying on the floor dead. I got to him in time before that happened and he spent the last two weeks of his life in intensive care. His body eventually gave up and there was nothing more that could be done. It angers me that I couldn’t help him stop, but I know it wasn’t my job to save him. I have struggled with the guilt since he died, and like you, loved him so so much and remember the happier days more than the bad ones. It’s incredibly common and yet not talked about so openly like you would with any other illness. Well done for speaking up and sharing your story. You are not alone and I’m sure other people out there will take comfort in your words too. Take care of yourself now and you probably find it quite cathartic doing this. Thank you x
Hi, I’m so sorry you had to deal with this too but talking about it always helps! It seems as if we have been through similar things and have experienced similar emotions, as a lot of people with alcoholic parents do! Thank you for much for sharing your story, always be strong. Take care of yourself also x
Thank you for sharing your very powerful story. I was a heavy drinker ever since my kids were born. They are now 15 and 17. Like your dad, I was a very high functioning alcoholic. As my kids started to get older I noticed that they started to notice my drinking and began to distance themselves from me. I love my wife and kids more than anything and knew I had to change. I quit drinking on July 27th of this year and started a youtube channel doing daily videos of my journey in hopes of helping others who are struggling with alcohol. My life has improved in every way possible since I quit drinking, but most importantly, my kids are starting to let their gaurd down and open up to me again. Watching your video really helped me to understand the way they must have felt and even still feel. Thank you. Drinkers are not who they really are deep down when they are lost in the drink. I would hit my knees in tears almost every night when I was drinking. It wasn't who I was or wanted to be. You are blessed and wise to be able to see past your dad's drinking. I'm certain he would be very proud of you. All the best to you, Nate
my dad just passed away and i am also 17 years old. he was also and alcoholic. this was so comforting and made me feel so seen. thank you so much. i love you so much and am so proud of you. ❤
Hi Ella, I admire you so much. This video has really made me feel less alone. I am newly 18 years old, and my dad has been an alcoholic for my entire life time. He drinks two packs of beer a day and I am scared of losing him despite our bad relationship. He also is addicted to smoking cigarettes and it causes a lot of anger issues for him. No one ever talks about alcoholism which can make those who suffer or the children of alcoholics feel very lost. I have to walk on eggshells around him, which is why him and I do not talk. However, I feel angry and helpless because he does not care about his health. He is very skinny, and does not eat anything. The only thing he drinks is Budlight and despite my mom confronting him about his problem he refuses he has one. I do want to help him, but he does not want to help himself which is the worst part. Emotionally, I feel like I have already lost my father. I feel like he is at the end of his lifetime. He is constantly passing out while walking around and has smokers cough everytime he wakes up. I just want him to be healthy again.
You have to cut him out off your life now. Because your dad is never a good father two you and your family and friends around you. He will never change and the hurtful thing is that he will betray you for what he’s is to you. He never love’s you for the way you are and you have to wake up and realise that he’s is betraying you and your family and please do the right thing please.😇
thank you for sharing this, currently struggling to come to terms with an alcoholic father its such a confusing childhood its comforting to know other people went through this too and to hear your acceptance towards it now helps me see a different perspective
I am a father of 2 girls. I am a struggling alcoholic and this is a mirror image of my life. I know my habit is effecting them especially the 13yo. Thank you for opening my eyes to the impact in such detail God bless you
Thank you for sharing this and I think it’s so important that people these days understand the severe consequences of being an alcoholic and how it can impact a whole family. I am very proud of you for being brave ❤ We are all sending hugs
This really hits home for me sister. Not because I am the child of an alcoholic parent...I am the alcoholic parent of two amazing (almost teenagers). A couple months ago we (my husband, children, and myself) celebrated my one year sobriety birthday. I am incredibly sorry for your loss and grateful you shared your story. Alcoholism is a horrible disease that ravages families. Thank you again for sharing!❤
@@nomin7746 Why did I do what to my kids? Why did I get sober for myself and my family? Alcoholism isn't a choice, it is a disease...much like Cancer? As a child, no person says man when I grow up I want to be a raging alcoholic that slowly destroys my body, and every single relationship especially with those who love me most, and die a painful and incredibly lonely death. No adult wakes up and wishes that for themselves or anyone else for that matter. So to answer your question @nomin Yes, yes I know first hand what the "effects" are on the child of an alcoholic, and I am grateful to say I know the positive "effects' of having 2 sober parents raising teenagers. I highly recommend you educate yourself on alcoholism before you make ignorant statements like "Why did you do that to your kids.
@@courtneybailey1841 boomers, karens always defend theirselves and never wrong. What do you mean by "do what"? You literally broke your kids's hearts. Do your poor kids have ocd, anxiety and depression etc now? Have you ever think how many times they cried over you? Please prepare yourself, or be responsible before having a child or if you have a child and before defending yourself alcoholism is a disease. I dont really care how alcohol works. I care any kid shouldnt be suffer because of their alcoholic parent. They are just the kids and you are grown woman.
@@nomin7746 Awe, you're cute. Bless your heart, you know so little about struggle and growth. Don't worry, life gives us all many lessons. You will learn.😘
Thanks for sharing yours and your dads story, and i hope he rest in the peace he couldn’t get in this world. And I hope you continue to be a voice for us and others who are struggling. I too lost my mum on 01/03/2018 to alcoholism. All the feelings you have said you felt I also felt the same my entire 25 years up untill her death. The worry, the embarrassment, the anger. Not enough is done to help children in this country who deal with this while also trying to have a normal life and do well at school is nearly impossible. So painful and I miss her greatly but also sadly happy I don’t have to suffer anymore which hurts me saying that aswell. But my love to you and everybody here who has a similar story ❤
Such an important video. Well done for taking about such a difficult subject. Very brave young lady and I hope you have healed and are happy. Much love to you and your family Ella xx
I know this has been a year ago, but I just feel so alone in this. My mom have been drinking since I can remember, but the last 6 years have been the worse. She is in such a bad place. She have pushed out everyone in her life, and does not want to accept the fact that she has a problem. She lives with an abusive cheating man who I believe have driven her to the lowest point in her life. She doesn’t have a job and no money at all. And we have tried to help her find a job, but she just can’t get herself to put in the effort. She drinks from the moment she wakes up until the moment she passes out. She smokes 4 packs of cigarettes a day. I am afraid she will end up homeless and even worse, dead. I sometimes feel like I would be relieved if she would just be gone, I know that is wrong, but I don’t know what else to do to help her. I have tried everything!
Hi Ella, thankyou for sharing your story with the world. My dad was an alcoholic and passed away a few years ago. Our stories are quite similar❤. I hope you are doing well in life. If you feel like talking feel free to reach out! Stacey
Your an amazing human! Thanks for sharing. And your an amazing daughter. Your dad had a disease and he loved you dearly.. I can tell by the way you speak. God bless
Thank you for this video, we have very similar experiences I’m currently 16, my parents divorced when I was in yer 4 as well, even weirder my dads birthday is the 27 th of October thank u
First off I want to say I’m sorry for what you went through I’m sorry for your dad passing I’m going through the same situation as you my parents are divorced because of my dad‘s drinking and as I got older I’m 29 now it’s always been bad ever since I was a little boy...... I try to cope with the trauma in my own way but the more I get in my head it’s like a delusion and it doesn’t feel real I only see my dad sober when he’s done work at the end of the day when I pick him up because he has a DUI....So I’ve been driving him to work and picking him up every day for the last 10 years that’s really screwed my life up because my whole life the last 10 years has been revolving around me picking him up and dropping them off at work and if I don’t do it we lose our house that we live in and from this has ruined relationships and job opportunities for myself and now he still continues to do what he does because the human animal is creatures of habit I see him poisoning himself every single day and I’ll try to stop it because I’m a designated driver for him and he depends solely on me for transportation he asks me to go and get him alcohol or drive him to get alcohol and I say no sometimes and then he manipulates the situation by saying I do everything for you and makes me feel bad by manipulating me to go and drive him to the beer store or whatever the least you could do is go to the beer store...... from all these years since I was a little boy has gave me extremely bad anxiety and trauma and I feel like there’s no hope for him or me and I don’t know what to do anymore from this I’ve obtained severe depression and now on antidepressants is there any advice that you can give me to help me
Look for an AL-Anon group. I'm sorry, your father is blinded by how wonderful a kid you are. He is really sick. Getting help for yourself will help you most at this point.
My father has been an alcoholic for almost all years I know him. I couldn't left him be alone in Kharkiv a year ago (when Russia invaded partially to my country Ukraine). But speaking honestly even that didn't change him. Nothing changed him. All I may do is getting used to his almost constant complainings, and his constant blambling all the time (he doesn't shut up, only when sleeping). What can I say is that it is extremely often when girls choose 'cooler' or 'stronger' men among others thinking that they will be always as 'cool' and 'tough' all those years, but those men become extremely disgusting and weak as soon as some changes begin to occur with them. That's why I think that the problem of alcoholism is so broad. Surely it's not only the fault of women, but women, please, stop choosing those 'cool' or 'tough' guys, that is completely stupid.
My dad is an alcoholic and I'm so scared to loose him. I feel hurt, angry, hopeless, full of responsability. Thank you for your video, it made me feel less lonely
I feel you, my dads an alcoholic and all of my siblings don’t see him anymore because he’s said he would change so many times and didn’t. Now I’m the only child left that still messages him but my mum has banned us from seeing each other unless it’s at a place with supervision. I’m scared that I won’t see him again before he’s dead.
my dad is an alcoholic, im currently 17 and he is doing so awful. i’m so scared of losing him but i’m so angry and upset and hurt and things like that. i just don’t know what to do anymore honestly
I think that you should leave him for good.😇
Hey, I'm also facing the same situation right now in my life. And can I know how your dad is doing now?
Hi Ella, my dad was also an alcoholic and died as a result of it in Sept 2017. I was 38 when he died and he was an alcoholic for the biggest part of my life. Increasingly got worse from when I was a teenager. I completely identify with everything you have said. He was a high functioning alcoholic too and held down a job as a policeman until he retired at 49. We were an ordinary happy family on the surface but it was far from the reality... and my mum eventually left him when I was 30. That was the hard part as I felt he then became my responsibility. He wasn’t, but I was all he had. He used to have awful episodes of seizures, hallucinations, falls and I was terrified of finding him alone lying on the floor dead. I got to him in time before that happened and he spent the last two weeks of his life in intensive care. His body eventually gave up and there was nothing more that could be done. It angers me that I couldn’t help him stop, but I know it wasn’t my job to save him. I have struggled with the guilt since he died, and like you, loved him so so much and remember the happier days more than the bad ones. It’s incredibly common and yet not talked about so openly like you would with any other illness. Well done for speaking up and sharing your story. You are not alone and I’m sure other people out there will take comfort in your words too. Take care of yourself now and you probably find it quite cathartic doing this.
Thank you x
Hi, I’m so sorry you had to deal with this too but talking about it always helps! It seems as if we have been through similar things and have experienced similar emotions, as a lot of people with alcoholic parents do!
Thank you for much for sharing your story, always be strong.
Take care of yourself also x
Thank you for sharing your very powerful story. I was a heavy drinker ever since my kids were born. They are now 15 and 17. Like your dad, I was a very high functioning alcoholic. As my kids started to get older I noticed that they started to notice my drinking and began to distance themselves from me. I love my wife and kids more than anything and knew I had to change. I quit drinking on July 27th of this year and started a youtube channel doing daily videos of my journey in hopes of helping others who are struggling with alcohol. My life has improved in every way possible since I quit drinking, but most importantly, my kids are starting to let their gaurd down and open up to me again. Watching your video really helped me to understand the way they must have felt and even still feel. Thank you. Drinkers are not who they really are deep down when they are lost in the drink. I would hit my knees in tears almost every night when I was drinking. It wasn't who I was or wanted to be. You are blessed and wise to be able to see past your dad's drinking. I'm certain he would be very proud of you.
All the best to you,
Nate
my dad just passed away and i am also 17 years old. he was also and alcoholic. this was so comforting and made me feel so seen. thank you so much. i love you so much and am so proud of you. ❤
Hi Ella, I admire you so much. This video has really made me feel less alone. I am newly 18 years old, and my dad has been an alcoholic for my entire life time. He drinks two packs of beer a day and I am scared of losing him despite our bad relationship. He also is addicted to smoking cigarettes and it causes a lot of anger issues for him. No one ever talks about alcoholism which can make those who suffer or the children of alcoholics feel very lost. I have to walk on eggshells around him, which is why him and I do not talk. However, I feel angry and helpless because he does not care about his health. He is very skinny, and does not eat anything. The only thing he drinks is Budlight and despite my mom confronting him about his problem he refuses he has one. I do want to help him, but he does not want to help himself which is the worst part. Emotionally, I feel like I have already lost my father. I feel like he is at the end of his lifetime. He is constantly passing out while walking around and has smokers cough everytime he wakes up. I just want him to be healthy again.
You have to cut him out off your life now. Because your dad is never a good father two you and your family and friends around you. He will never change and the hurtful thing is that he will betray you for what he’s is to you.
He never love’s you for the way you are and you have to wake up and realise that he’s is betraying you and your family and please do the right thing please.😇
@@Nathann-by2jb excuse me
How dare you are saying that to my face
thank you for sharing this, currently struggling to come to terms with an alcoholic father its such a confusing childhood its comforting to know other people went through this too and to hear your acceptance towards it now helps me see a different perspective
I am a father of 2 girls. I am a struggling alcoholic and this is a mirror image of my life. I know my habit is effecting them especially the 13yo.
Thank you for opening my eyes to the impact in such detail
God bless you
hey. I have an alcoholic dad and i just want to understand why. why do you drink ?
I'm so grateful that you are seeing the truth and is trying the change. It must be hard, but you are strong❤️
Thank you for sharing this and I think it’s so important that people these days understand the severe consequences of being an alcoholic and how it can impact a whole family. I am very proud of you for being brave ❤ We are all sending hugs
This really hits home for me sister. Not because I am the child of an alcoholic parent...I am the alcoholic parent of two amazing (almost teenagers). A couple months ago we (my husband, children, and myself) celebrated my one year sobriety birthday. I am incredibly sorry for your loss and grateful you shared your story. Alcoholism is a horrible disease that ravages families. Thank you again for sharing!❤
Thank you for sharing also❤️ I’m so happy for you & your family to be able to celebrate 1 year! Well done you x
Why did you do that to your kids? Have you ever read how alcoholic parent affects a child?
@@nomin7746 Why did I do what to my kids? Why did I get sober for myself and my family? Alcoholism isn't a choice, it is a disease...much like Cancer? As a child, no person says man when I grow up I want to be a raging alcoholic that slowly destroys my body, and every single relationship especially with those who love me most, and die a painful and incredibly lonely death. No adult wakes up and wishes that for themselves or anyone else for that matter. So to answer your question @nomin Yes, yes I know first hand what the "effects" are on the child of an alcoholic, and I am grateful to say I know the positive "effects' of having 2 sober parents raising teenagers. I highly recommend you educate yourself on alcoholism before you make ignorant statements like "Why did you do that to your kids.
@@courtneybailey1841 boomers, karens always defend theirselves and never wrong. What do you mean by "do what"? You literally broke your kids's hearts. Do your poor kids have ocd, anxiety and depression etc now? Have you ever think how many times they cried over you? Please prepare yourself, or be responsible before having a child or if you have a child and before defending yourself alcoholism is a disease. I dont really care how alcohol works. I care any kid shouldnt be suffer because of their alcoholic parent. They are just the kids and you are grown woman.
@@nomin7746 Awe, you're cute. Bless your heart, you know so little about struggle and growth. Don't worry, life gives us all many lessons. You will learn.😘
Thanks for sharing yours and your dads story, and i hope he rest in the peace he couldn’t get in this world. And I hope you continue to be a voice for us and others who are struggling. I too lost my mum on 01/03/2018 to alcoholism.
All the feelings you have said you felt I also felt the same my entire 25 years up untill her death.
The worry, the embarrassment, the anger. Not enough is done to help children in this country who deal with this while also trying to have a normal life and do well at school is nearly impossible. So painful and I miss her greatly but also sadly happy I don’t have to suffer anymore which hurts me saying that aswell. But my love to you and everybody here who has a similar story ❤
My dad got diagnosed with fatty liver it’s bad n our relationship at all time low when I was legit daddy’s lil girl that’s no more
Such an important video. Well done for taking about such a difficult subject. Very brave young lady and I hope you have healed and are happy. Much love to you and your family Ella xx
I know this is really late but I've just lost my dad due to alcoholism and i relate to this so much thankyou ♡♡
I know this has been a year ago, but I just feel so alone in this. My mom have been drinking since I can remember, but the last 6 years have been the worse. She is in such a bad place. She have pushed out everyone in her life, and does not want to accept the fact that she has a problem. She lives with an abusive cheating man who I believe have driven her to the lowest point in her life. She doesn’t have a job and no money at all. And we have tried to help her find a job, but she just can’t get herself to put in the effort. She drinks from the moment she wakes up until the moment she passes out. She smokes 4 packs of cigarettes a day. I am afraid she will end up homeless and even worse, dead.
I sometimes feel like I would be relieved if she would just be gone, I know that is wrong, but I don’t know what else to do to help her. I have tried everything!
Thank you for sharing your story with us all.
Hi Ella, thankyou for sharing your story with the world. My dad was an alcoholic and passed away a few years ago. Our stories are quite similar❤. I hope you are doing well in life. If you feel like talking feel free to reach out!
Stacey
Your an amazing human! Thanks for sharing. And your an amazing daughter. Your dad had a disease and he loved you dearly.. I can tell by the way you speak. God bless
Thank you for this video, we have very similar experiences I’m currently 16, my parents divorced when I was in yer 4 as well, even weirder my dads birthday is the 27 th of October thank u
First off I want to say I’m sorry for what you went through I’m sorry for your dad passing I’m going through the same situation as you my parents are divorced because of my dad‘s drinking and as I got older I’m 29 now it’s always been bad ever since I was a little boy...... I try to cope with the trauma in my own way but the more I get in my head it’s like a delusion and it doesn’t feel real I only see my dad sober when he’s done work at the end of the day when I pick him up because he has a DUI....So I’ve been driving him to work and picking him up every day for the last 10 years that’s really screwed my life up because my whole life the last 10 years has been revolving around me picking him up and dropping them off at work and if I don’t do it we lose our house that we live in and from this has ruined relationships and job opportunities for myself and now he still continues to do what he does because the human animal is creatures of habit I see him poisoning himself every single day and I’ll try to stop it because I’m a designated driver for him and he depends solely on me for transportation he asks me to go and get him alcohol or drive him to get alcohol and I say no sometimes and then he manipulates the situation by saying I do everything for you and makes me feel bad by manipulating me to go and drive him to the beer store or whatever the least you could do is go to the beer store...... from all these years since I was a little boy has gave me extremely bad anxiety and trauma and I feel like there’s no hope for him or me and I don’t know what to do anymore from this I’ve obtained severe depression and now on antidepressants is there any advice that you can give me to help me
Look for an AL-Anon group. I'm sorry, your father is blinded by how wonderful a kid you are. He is really sick. Getting help for yourself will help you most at this point.
lots of love xx
My father has been an alcoholic for almost all years I know him. I couldn't left him be alone in Kharkiv a year ago (when Russia invaded partially to my country Ukraine). But speaking honestly even that didn't change him. Nothing changed him. All I may do is getting used to his almost constant complainings, and his constant blambling all the time (he doesn't shut up, only when sleeping). What can I say is that it is extremely often when girls choose 'cooler' or 'stronger' men among others thinking that they will be always as 'cool' and 'tough' all those years, but those men become extremely disgusting and weak as soon as some changes begin to occur with them. That's why I think that the problem of alcoholism is so broad. Surely it's not only the fault of women, but women, please, stop choosing those 'cool' or 'tough' guys, that is completely stupid.
Well done to open up
Thank you. I think my dad is choosing alcohol. It's nice to know I'm not alone though
Exact same happed to my I only remember the good times
How old was your dad
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Thankyou ﹰElla, this helped me alot to understand this devestating illness. Please make more videos we are all behind you.