My Modeling Experience | Eating Disorders, Nepotism
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- Опубліковано 18 жов 2024
- Trigger WARNING: eating disorders
This will be my first podcast talking about my modeling experiences & essentially my introduction into modeling & how I got scouted. What aspects of the modeling world affected me & how to get into it now. I also touch upon my experience with nepotism and what I've done to deal with it within the industry.
It’s crazy to me that at this time period I was also this insecure and idolized u thinking, “well if I looked like her I would be happy.” We really never know what others are going through and comparison truly kills. Thank you for sharing your personal struggles
Same!!! When I was in high school I thought she was the most beautiful girl ever. Didn’t know she was going through so much.
Honestly, I don’t have a problem with nepotism if that person actually knows how to do the job and she or he does it good. The problem is when someone who is a relative gets hired over a stranger who’s actually much more suitable for the job than that relative is, that’s when nepotism becomes a problem. In my opinion anyway
I mean they directly take jobs from me. it's not the idea they are, it's that they are. but being angry over it doesn't help me, I cant compete with that and never will be able to compete with a powerful family behind me. my point is to not hate those who have more for the sake of them having more and being more blessed. I can only control what I can control, and putting my time there doesn't help me in my life. id rather put it behind trying to be talented or creative enough to not need anyones help.
Sure, I can see that. Being hateful towards anyone is not doing anybody any good in any kind of situation. @@goodevilbycharlottedalessi7249
You're blessed with beautiful genes. Statistically that doesn't happen a lot. It's something you didn't do anything for and that's totally fine, because it's mostly about what you do with the cards you've been dealt. You've got a great hand, now go and play with it to the best of your ability :)
She got so much plastic surgery lmao
@@ninajohn5506 Always been beautiful
@@ninajohn5506 nobody cares
@@thisisAshtar2 well when someone says “blessed with beautiful genes” it’s televant
relevant*
You should read “Running on Empty” by Jonice Webb (who has a PhD in clinical psychology). I also thought the absence/emotional distance from my parents didn’t affect me as I also had a chill, relatively happy childhood. However you’d be surprised how much the things our parents DONT do affects us. If they’re not there for us emotionally, we can develop severe self image, self worth, and self esteem complications. It’s a great read and has helped me astronomically in understanding the way that I think.
I second this! It's an incredible book.
oooooooh good to know thanks for rec
I came here to suggest this book as well! Now that I’ve started recognizing the patterns of (unintentional) neglect in my own life, I couldn’t help but notice them in her story and way of speaking as well.
Hey, if you like that you should check out The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Not a model and a guy but woah when I was younger the flash photos and dead pan into the camera was definitely something that I did growing up. Looking back I definitely see how negative it was to judge yourself at such a young age so critically. Really glad we’ve grown a lot since then
These solo episodes are everything ❤️never stop posting them
Love the pod! And with the nepotism Conversation you make a good point of their parents trying to help them as any Parent would. But I don’t think it’s necessarily that people hate that they
have famous parents or relatives , I think
the part that gets people on edge is that some feel superior than others and make this sad story as if they were working a 9 to 5 busting tables to try to make it when in reality they’re living in a mansion in Beverly hills and say they’ve had to work 10 times harder than anybody else which sounds really ignorant. And just because your nepotism doesn’t mean that you’re not talented because you have people like Liza Minnelli, Jane Fonda, Sofia Coppola & many more who are truly talented but then you also have people like Kendall Jenner, Brooklyn Beckham, lena Dunham who refuse to believe that they have famous parents.
She's a 10 out of 10 and has perfect grammar and diction.
No, she's not a 10.... she's an 11!
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@@shawnferrari1533 there’s always that one guy😂😂😂
Yes, everything for a reason. I think you’ve done an amazing job of remaining grounded. Congratulations on growing out of substances as a crutch. Thank you for sharing your story.
This was so motivating for me. Honestly, it has given me a greater positive outlook on essentially "starting from the bottom". Thank you for this!
i love hearing your perspective on things. can you talk about how you met your friends in the industry? especially the ones you had before you got scouted
I remember the coachella photos the PINK BODYSUIT with the rollerblades!!! forever iconic
Thank you for being so honest!!! It’s your super power and what makes you so relatable!!! The part where you talk about being faded to get you through jobs was so refreshing, real, insightful and helpful. I would rather know the truth of someone’s success then bs highlights. The fact that you got yourself out of that headspace and habits is SO inspiring!🎀 also the part about nepotism was really balanced. I think it was important to say because a lot of people don’t have a lot of empathy. And just knowing that life isn’t fair can just put everything into better perceptive. Nothing is fair so no one should expect it to be. Some things just are.
its crazy even MODELS have insecurities... i would have never thought you were dealing with having confidence, charlotte. it doesnt show in your pictures at all, you kick ass in what you do! you're beautiful and you know you are deep down
Girl forget statistics it’s so simple I remember those back in like 2014 I wanted to be you so bad. And now I love you and your podcasts. It makes sense& was meant to be!
I’m so glad you made this video, you’re so well spoken. I’ve followed you on Instagram since you got scouted and this is so insane to hear the whole story from your perspective. I had a super bad eating disorder at the same time that you describe struggling with your self image/eating and idk man it’s so crazy because I definitely looked up to you so hard during that time, I still do btw, but it was like in a super unhealthy way before. So idk I’m proud of us both because I was definitely like ugh I want to look like charlotte so bad when I was a teenager. It’s such a mind fuck on both ends like you’ve always been the shit to me yet you had so much going on inside. I’m really happy to hear you’re doing better and this also made me realize how much I’ve grown as well. I hope this makes sense, sending you all the love ❤️
hey charlotte! Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts, I wanted to say that please don't invalidate your feelings only because other people have it way worse, the abscence and lack of guidance from the parents does affect, especially when you're a teenager or a child, it's called emotional neglect which can cause problems of self esteem and other issues, I wish you the best
What a refreshing perspective!!! and soooo grounded. More of this kinda content is needed today!!!
you are such an eloquent speaker. you are so self-aware and reflective and raw. wow
As a 5’ 7” model, I love to see a fellow “short” model do so well!
Thank you for posting this podcast! Although I've seen some of your personality peek through in your podcasts, I felt like watching this video made me see more of who you truly are as a person. I know that it might be hard to understand why you've been gifted with these opportunities, but after hearing your story and the way you speak, it makes sense! You have a good attitude on life and you lead with humility. The universe has rewarded you accordingly for such things. Congratulations on all of your success - your future continues to look bright!
Charlotte, You have the face, the body and the personality luv. You are beyond stunning! Be yourself and do th BEST you can. When you do that, you'll have inner peace because you know you gave it your all and will have no regrets!
My favorite day of the week is when Charlotte posts her solo talks. How can someone be this down to earth and this beautiful and smart all at once? A genuine superpower in my humble opinion.
I applaud you for reaching that point in your self healing journey to be able to be so openly honest and vulnerable. You should be really proud of yourself 💓
I agree👍🏻
It's your humble Virgo moon, sweet girl! You deserve every inch of success that comes to you, Taurus queen.
With the nepotism section, I agree that parents should strive to get the best for their kids and if you have a leg up you should use it to do something you truly love. My mother works in a furniture store and with nepotism (I guess?) I was able to be a candidate for a job, it was level entry not fancy but an example of simple common folk nepotism. Although I think the problem with nepotism is actors/models who have this huge advantage of getting an easy way into the game but they don't follow through with the talent. All while there are thousands of very talented people striving for that one opportunity. This take is tired but Kendall Jenner is a great example, highest paid model has an atrocious walk and no life in her eyes in 90% of her pictures. Her paparazzi pictures show more emotion in her face than any professional fashion shoot. And there's so many mid actors that are monotone but they only get the job because of their parents. On the other hand the Hadids are a great example of nepotism because they are so wildly talented and captivating. No one is mad at them or debating their positions in the industry. Other than that, you are a great model and you're so eloquent and you deserve the opportunities you get because you deliver every time.
As a local Toronto girl who’s followed you for years, I’m so happy you went into your story!
I remember seeing ur Coachella pics 😭 and thinking who is she!! Because you stood out so much in a goddess way
She’s so well spoken I love her sooo much
Char, I’ve followed you since like forever and I’ve always liked you! I live in Sweden and you’re literally my fav person to follow even though you live far away from me. I love your UA-cam channel and your videos! You’re so sweet and authentic, never change and keep doing whatever you’re doing ! Love u💜
7:57 I relate to this so much. But with replying to professors and doing homework. It's like not because I don't want something but because I don't believe in myself and find it hard to get started and try.
i LOVE your solo episodes! you're an inspiration to me.
this genuinely felt like waking up and reading good and evil like i used to and it made very nostalgic
i wish char can go deep on eating disorders cause some of us need that foreal
This spoke right too me 💕 this is exactly what I needed right now! Thank you for sharing queen
You should read jojo bizarre adventures with (and part 7 specifically), because it shows you the difference between a rider/stand user who have been given/inherited and those who are self made. In this case it's diego brando being self made and the villain of the story against johnny joestar.
You are so well spoken. You truly are so beautiful inside and out 🤍
You really spilled on this…. proud of you!!!!!
Your honesty is so refreshing thank you for sharing
I loved this so much, thank you for posting and sharing your life. Lots of things I needed to hear x
I could listen to you talk all day
I enjoy your thoughts, attitude, and mindset. thank you for sharing 🫶
I want to thank you for sharing your experience. You are so beautiful and amazing inside and out ❤️ it’s so interesting and inspiring listening to your podcast 😊
Ive never been a model but I have been through everything you speak of
This is so random but I sold you those Coca Cola pants you wore at Coachella with Josie! I ran a Depop shop called “thevintagecrate” in case you remember! I’ve been following you ever since 🥰
omgg those pants are iconic
really loved hearing you sharing on such a controversial topic!! and think you have a really important holistic perspective on the industry. i do think however this may be a time to look at the blind spots you may have, such as whiteness and heteronormativity. our privilege often times makes us distant from the reality of community, and without recognizing your inherent connection to yourself, others, and the environment this type of message tends to come off as individualistic and ignorant. appreciate your perspective regardless and have always loved listening to your outlook throughout your years of being online. 💛
There is something special about those Coachella photos. It is sad that this beautiful girl struggled with self-esteem and eating disorders...she probably would not believe this but, she is stunning at healthy weight. Beauty is not about being skinny. I am sure everyone agrees Sophia Loren is beautiful and she was not skinny.
This was actually really interesting to hear about during drinking my morning coffee :)
Thank you so much for videos like this, it helps me so much with my thoughts. You are amazing at analyzing love you so much!!!!
Love hearing you share ❤️ Your transparency is beautiful
beautiful inside and out. proud of u🖤
can you please do a makeup video on this makeup look u have here. iknow it’s not ur usual content but i would really appreciate it !!
This is so interesting thank you for sharing with us your story and I think it's great that you are being transparent
i loved this episode! you're so brave for sharing what you've been through :)
u look way younger than u did a few years ago, u looked 35 back then
I bet it’s makeup choices… it looked heavier back then
I relate so much... as a model with crippling anxiety and low self esteem.
It happens to you because you have heart. You are obsessed. You go for it.
Saying that the modelling industry is how it is take it or leave is a bit done deaf COMJNG from a slim, white woman who fits what society deems as beautiful. And then to try and justify it by saying “omg the industry even told me to gain weight” yeah cos u were clearly underweight and unhealthy when other models who are a healthy weight get told they are plus size. Idk seems a bit tone deaf to me
wait respectfully, ur a daughter of two producers and u were friends w Josie conseco before even being scouted? aren’t u also a product of nepotism? There’s certainly connections there lol both ur parents are in the industry
The industry being Hollywood and entertainment industry. If ur parents worked at the DMV or manager of Chiles or owned a restaurant. That’s not the industry. It’s not a bad thing. I agree with what u said on the topic, it just seemed like u were implying u had no connections or nepotism unlike ur friends
Best episode yet girl
Really cool and honest video! hands-down one of the best perspectives regarding the fashion industry.Thanks!
Love your hair!! It looks so fresh😍
thanks for all you share about your experiences! you're fucking lovely and im stoked to finish watching -
You definitely have a very unique look and it’s absolutely gorgeous.
I love you so much this was the best podcast ive ever listened to youre a kween 💗🫶🏻
So I had no idea who you were until a few hours ago and it wasn’t from this video (I was like 19 layers deep down an internet wormhole) but I’m here because I read your story and I was desperate to find out, like …. Is this girl okay, present day? I knew that experience could be potentially catastrophic after the honeymoon phase.
Turns out you’re the only person I’ve ever heard put words to the reason why I bailed on modeling. My best friend was a model and then I started getting asked to do photoshoots too. I’ve always been very passionate about photography so I said yes, hoping to learn about photography from industry professionals. Instead, I found that being in front of the camera was, at best, uncomfortable most of the time, and at worst, it drove me to this, like… addictive, delusional spiral of self loathing and various kinds of self abuse. I’m still in therapy 10 years later, to make sure I don’t slip back into that toxic mindset. I still get asked if I model and when I say no, a lot of times it feels like I have to fight to get well-meaning people to respect my choice. they’ll insist I’m pretty enough, like that’s all there is to it. They don’t know what it did to me.
I’m so glad to see that as of this year you’re safe and happy and healthy and smart. Thank you so much for sharing this, it’s incredibly validating for me after all these years.
Edit: I lived in the basement of my dads house and got faded af for shoots too and was so scared of being asked to lose weight I became anorexic adjacent on my own lol. I came back from it all too though; earlier this year I accepted a dream photography job offer. I work at the headquarters of a YUGE a company, taking photos of food (and taking a lot of bites)
I can’t understand why you’d felt confused about being scouted, at some point you had to have realized you were really pretty right ? or there’d had to have been an abnormal amount of attention you were getting at some point in your life
Omg I do the same thing with taking pictures of my face constantly !
Oh man, i hope you understand how serious that amount of substance abuse at that age is?!!! That’s neglect on your fathers end and NOT ok advice. I am so sorry you went through that.
Thanks for sharing this with us 😊
oh to not be 5’ 3” 😞
love u Char ty for content❤️
girl i loveeee your top where is it from?? ❤️❤️❤️
Omg u posted this on my 16th b day lol what a coincidence 😭
Didn’t you say your dad was a director? How is that not nepotism
her dad played no part in her getting scouted
Just because u work in the arts does not mean you have any leverage or connections in entertainment.
@@sophiec7156 that’s not nepotism, her dad is literally uknown
@@fashionistax9919 ik i agree!
You should watch the video again. It isnt neopotism.
Aiming for that James Bond aesthetic
nepotism works against social good by creating an environment where people are encouraged to follow their "natural instincts" at the cost of the social good. Humanity has a ton of "natural instincts," for example, violence in the face of danger -- fight or flight. However, society is about conditioning human beings to go one level beyond their natural conditioning to the element of not just what one is capable of but what one *should do.* The essence of society is that everyone has to put just a little bit of their personal prefrences behind the collective every once and a while for the collective to achieve meritocratic progress. The reason nepotism sucks is it creates a society where those who may be worst fitted for the job -- the children of those who currently do it -- will get the job (preferencing personal good) over those who actually can perform the best (meritocracy) and therefore, is immoral (in the sense of perverting social incentives to work hard for everyone else) regardless of the intent of the nepotists. the extreme example is olivia jade taking a spot on the rowing team at USC from an individual who genuinely worked their entire young adult life to achieve that and deserve it. But, americans prefer vanity to accomplishment, as you noted.
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This is some Taurus shit ❤️I’m sorry you dealt with that.
I lost it at greek mythological creatures 😂 what nah dude, I dont really care much about what the kids of celebrieties do, sometimes I just google them to see what they look like. I prefer seeing new faces tbh esp. in the fashion industry and commercials, movies etc.
So I thought this was quite interesting but a bit too self-centered. The topics are certainly important and relevant but I think it would be nice if Charlotte would build on her experience and reflect a bit more about the industry etc. I think the concluding remarks about not taking back anything felt a bit short. Sure no one can go back in time and change the past, but we can draw conclusions and reflect about it in a constructive way. She also glossed over some important aspects about fashion industry which have nothing to do with girls being sensitive to rejection but rather systemic problems related to predatory behaviors, enforcement of unrealistic body image etc. To sum up: I think this was a good video but I think it could be deeper. Wishing best of success in her career!
loved this
Thank you for sharing 👍🏻
You should do a "Charlotte D'Alessio reacts to Neon Demon" video.
why would you ever change your name from Briar, such a good name
You're physically very beautiful, girl. Your voice sounds like that of a 35 y.o. woman, but you have a baby face, like that of a 16 y.o. (not meant to be snarky). The fact that you cuss here and there tells me two things: anxiety and your true self.
can we get a room tour video? 💕
she looks really annoyed with her bangs. just grow them out and don't cut your bangs again if it bothers you that much. also while they are growing you can put clips on them so they don't keep falling in front of your forehead.
I had the same insecurities with the imposter syndrome too 😞
I love ya!
Why do you pronounce the second T in Toronto?
i really hope younger girls watching this have a pinch of salt to take it with. like a lot of salt, liters, gallons… please
More solo episodes!!
I love you Charlotte, but I think we all know why statistically you were more likely to go viral after Coachella. It’s not common for any 16 yr old girl to be casual friends with Josie Canseco and photographer Bryant Eslava. Clearly you had a strong network by that age to be friends with those people who were already well connected themselves.
lmao the way i found you was through the buzzfeed article
Your father has sociopathic tendencies. No loving parent encourages their daughter to get drunk on a modeling job. That's asking for trouble in a myriad of ways. At 16, you're vulnerable and can easily be manipulated. I'm sorry you had that experience but I'm glad modeling has worked out for you.
You have THE model genetics, i'd rather put you on the main spot at every show than Gigi Hadid/Kendal Jenner average looking faces...
You looking gorgeous , gorgeous
Damn this shit os taking forever
You cant 'consider' having an eating disorder. Eating disorders are a mental illness not some kind of choice