Ive lost so many friends over the years that were once sincere and meaningful. Slowly they transformed from active members of my life down into artificial clicks and interractions between avatars. No matter how much I reached and pulled, I could no longer get conversations and in person meetings from anyone, but they are always all eager to like, comment & send someone elses curated content. Couldn’t take it anymore and deleted and cut everything and everyone off. Done waiting around for people who are lost in the sauce.
@@s4nder86 lol Exactly. Everything in moderation. Always in control. No reason to cut everything out cold turkey. Not everyone lives an out of control lifestyle. Unfortunately, it appears that far too many do.
Been using social media since 2006. For education, my own business, and entertainment. Always been happy because I never became addicted to it. I can see why most people are though. But still, to each their own. Its all about self control.
My wife and I don’t use social media (Ok, UA-cam comments). We are practically dead. Everyone still has our phone numbers, but essentially we died several years ago.
hello stranger, I dont use smartphone but flip phone again since ~2,5 years now aside from taking photos quitted social media 5 years ago and I am "dead" since then. Last invitation to restaurant or other stuff, social hang out, serious dating was 5 years ago. I have old friends ~50+ yo calling me up and going for coffee and the like, and I am in my 30´s. With young people I can not connect anymore
@@eichkater6928 recognize it (male 57) younger people wont return calls after or even during texting. I even quitted WhatsApp. I didnt see 90% of them anyway. I want to experience, share fun, grief, misery and love, and not just "maybe" higlights
I quit Facebook 4 years ago because I was tired of friends that were less than superficial. Only one person asked where I went. There is nothing in social media I want.
I deleted all of my social media and I have never felt happier. I think about this often. I always thing of a quote I saw during covid. "How happy is the fool by the waterfall with no cellphone, not worrying about all the worlds problems."
This is why I intentionally put my phone in another room at night before bed so it isn’t there waiting for me in the morning. Freeing me to journal, pray, exercise and start the day right.
@@s.muller8688 your attitude will determine where you place your phone. If you have no need for it, then you won't have it next to you. You also ignore the extreme work online platforms have done to make smartphone use addictive. There are proven studies that show just the appearance of a smartphone near a user can cause distraction. In light of that, the right attitude will result in a person controlling their environment which includes smartphones.
@@s.muller8688attitude in part will determine where the phone is placed. This ignores the extreme work down over a decade by tech platforms to make smartphone use addictive. A person with a poor relationship with their phone will have no control over their environment. If they don't need their phone, the phone won't be close by them. Attitude is a part of the solution but isn't enough if it doesn't translate to intentional changes in the person's environment.
I once had a lively social media presence. A few thousand friends, even. When I deactivated, only 2 people reached out and one was a family member. 😂 I find if you don't advertise yourself on social media, everyone forgets you exist. How weird is that?
it's really interesting... sometimes, I bump into people who I don't even know in real life and then we have a lovely connection without social media altogether. In fact, one of my dear friends, I don't even have his phone number. We just bumped into each other every other week.
I keep my Facebook so that I can reach out to people that enter my mind. I couldn't fathom why they wouldn't respond, until it dawned on me that they don't use the app for the same reasons. This is reinforced by how many people reach out to contact me (I can't think of anyone reaching out with the exception of my birthday, which even then is a generic well wish).
ordered a flippy phone, been talking about getting rid of the smart phone for a while. i have 2 small kids and it breaks my heart when i realize im paying attention to my phone over my kids. worse yet i can just see it being flipped on me when they grow up. i dont want to be a hypocrite
I wish I could do a flip phone but the sad truth is, I have no life and the internet keeps me sane. If I didn’t have it, I’d be bored as hell but even if I did have a life, I think I’d still be addicted to my phone. Just like everyone else. It’s only videos like this that made me realise I have phone addiction.
My son got his first smartphone for his 18th birthday, and I watched as it sucked him in. I didn't know what was happening. He's never been the same. It has led to other addictions. I pray for the day these things go away. I hope they do before the point of no return.
Getting rid of my smart phone in two weeks, already off social media, I can't handle the fakeness of this "connectivity". Nokia 6300, reading, drawing, walking outside and removing myself from the internet, and also youtube. The dopamine feedback loop can be put back to normal, just unplugged and be free from the unnatural influences.
"Social media and technology are not the problem. Ignorant people will always be the problem, whether technology exists or not." (Benjamin Ramos - Life / Relationship Coach)
@@perfectsoulmates2023 right. The environment changes behavior, but the environment is shaped by technology, so “there’s no way out.” People are enmeshed in time.
I use my smartphone only for the alarm clock and calendar reminders. There are no friends or even acquaintances to call me. I have never used social media (except from you tube) and I hate it when someone don't want to keep contact with me when I say that I don't have facebook. Last days I have noticed that I crave for human interaction and the only way to meet this need is by leaving comments on You Tube. It's too hard to find real connection in this world. It is so sad.
Sadly, you nailed it. I am lonely too - I used to have a lot of friends, but one by one, they disappeared, or rather I did, because I don't go along in this 'social' media bonanza. I have one/two friends left, I see them if I'm lucky three hours on friday night. Then they talk about stuff they talked about in their watsap (sorry, a language joke) groups. Last week I checked my incoming calls so far this year: not ONE was a casual one, a friend or a relative just calling to check on me or to have casual conversation. And I wonder how people fall in love these days - when you go out, you can sit four hours in a bar like you're a ghost. Maybe I am one.
My phone lives on top of the fridge in silent mode. At work it is on silent mode in my pocket. I check my phone 3 times a day... When i grab it off the fridge to put in my pocket to go to work, when i take it out of my pocket after work to put it on the fridge, last thing before i hop into bed, mainly to see if my almost 90 year old mother has left a message. As it lives on silent no one can ever get me. So, leave a message or send a text and i will see it eventually. It is so So SO good not being chained to the phone.
it's not that big a deal. people in my circle are circling back to using basic nokia phones. Social media, was ultimately a mistake and community centers need to make a comeback...
Haha... good one! I’m likely much older than you. I grew up without a computer, smart phone or any social media. I’m over 60 now an still don’t have a smart phone and have no desire for one other than for starting a YT Channel, but do I really want to start a YT Channel? Will it enrich my life or help me connect with people? We never meet anyone in person making comments on YT. In many ways, it just isolates us more.
These days I never plan anything with anyone. Any "plan" you make just goes into a bin of possibility for the other person, that can be changed at a whim. These days, if I'd like to meet up with someone, I tell them where I am going and when, and I invite them to join me. Then I forget about it. I make my plans and carry them through alone. If that person shows up, then I switch gears and enjoy that. I never have to wait for an answer, or deal with multiple redirects, or any of that. II don't end up having my invitation to them switched around to where they are inviting me! t also tells you pretty quickly where you fall within their priorities, say 1 through 10. It's probably not where you think. People always make time for the things most important to them. Always. I miss the 60s and 70s.
It's worse. The globalists nwo want to monetize the entire world and everything in it. Nature, trees, animals, everything, will have a price tag if they get their way.
You have said everything that is swirling through my mind at a million miles an hour. Having sever ADHD most of my life hasn’t helped. But today, this phone stuff has ruined our society, by ruining people to where they aren’t keeping their word, they aren’t socializing and living in the moment, they aren’t putting down our phones, they have become severely flakey. I desperately wish we could go back to the days before all of this social media nonsense.
I hate social media, almost never use it, couldn't care less. UA-cam is my main source of media consumption and it is 99% informational and/or educational. And since I'm here, this video must fit into on of those categories.
@Arthur_3Tyeah, i have a serious issue for trying to absorb as much imformation and to hunt for the truth of our world. i have come to realize i am addicted to that just like someone with corn or other addictions. its almost impossible to escape needing these phones when the gov has all but made them mandatory to function at all in society
I connect with nature every day. I walk in the woods and the countryside for at least 2 hours every day. The other day for about a half hour I watched a dragonfly continually whiz around in a circle over a small creek hunting for bugs to eat in the water… it was very meditative. Don’t feel guilty, we need this type of life for our wellbeing.
Its no surprise that when you look at the statistics, all the issues with teen depression and feelings of inadequacy etc all started around 2010 - 3 years after the iPhone touched down and started to become more affordable for the masses, particularly younger people. How much focus etc has been destroyed among people because of smartphones. I look around now and there's too many people glued to them, not looking around or where they are going. Myself I am looking at going back to an older 'new' model dumbphone. A smartphone is a distraction nightmare for productivity too!
Exactly why I delete Instagram and try to stay off. It takes you down rabbit holes and sometimes makes you go look for things that don’t matter! It’s a weird energy on Instagram specifically … I can’t explain it…it’s like a portal.
@@z352kdaf8324we weren’t all like that. I hated MTV and the likes and I was always outside in the woods looking for animals I discovered in books. It was great. I miss those days.
@@z352kdaf8324 Nonsense! We met after school and we would go directly to the house of our friend, because you couldn’t phone them all the time. And when we played video games together all the computers had to be in the same room, because the LAN cable wasn’t any longer.
Social media is poison. Even stuff like youtube shorts is bad. Feel so much better since I have stopped using my smartphone in that way. I just use it for music maps and getting information.
"A Calendar Full of Maybes". I operate a farrier business, and everything on the calendar says "Tentative-text". Can we just schedule something and then stick to the schedule? Then I have to text message a couples days prior and then the day before to make sure everyone "remembers", but then when I send the reminder message, someone says "can we switch days". Frustrating! It's true. No one commits to a schedule any more.
I was on the other side trying to get a farrier out. Two years ago I started trimming my horse myself and it seems to be working fine. I can see it being frustrating on your end for sure. It’s no longer herding cats, now it’s juggling cats.
Thank you for this video!! I struggle daily with this addiction and cycle of checking notifications and social media, today was a bad one. My mental clarity and focus was so off. There is no such thing as a quick scroll. I appreciate the real advice that anyone can try!!
I’ve tried to limit technology and have really felt the effects of chasing validation on SM. I deleted my apps for months and felt amazing. Have had them back for a few months now and just deleted them again. It’s tough because I’m a voice actor and also have a public profile in my industry, so leaving social media removes me from being visible and current. But, the more I age, the more simplicity I crave. Brain just can’t handle all the things anymore
Bro I had this same thought about not caring what everyone was doing on social media and wondered why anyone would care what I was doing too. Dropped that shit 13 years ago.
As a senior type person I am amazed how many make plans for the next day or two and then do not show up and even ghost you until the next time they need something. So different then just 20 years ago. I have even been told that if I do not hear an answer from someone the answer is no.
i always have my own plan, people can join or not. BUT if someone commits him/herself and let me down for „nothing“ it was the last time i choose that person for any activity. Sometimes i even block them on my phone. I am very harsh from experience.
I've quit Facebook back in 2010 and never did any social media anymore, unless you count UA-cam as social media (it's a video hosting website IMO). I'm at a few forums though, mostly to nerd out on my hobbies, but that's way different from actual social media. Social media is just a waste of time, wasting time to show off how wonderful you are. I know no one gives a crap about me, so I know that there's no point in showing off on social media. I'm all on my own, and so are most people... but most people decide it's something bad and so they don't want to live with that fact and need to escape it.
I know already about this , maybe since 2020. I know smartphone make our society become so weird, chaos , and to much people become depresed.get easy to be bored. No body believe , even my friends and my family. They think I'm stupid for not having social media account.damn
I'm still somewhat young and don't use any social media apart from UA-cam. I prefer it old school, pick up the telephone and have a chat, just like today I had a good chat with a mate of mine on my old landline phone for an hour solid. My smartphone hardly gets used.
This is an important message in your video. I also struggled with social media in terms of creativity and productivity. I see it everywhere: People get lost in the internet and they suffer from it in every aspect of human life. It's time we leave the media behind and learn to focus on the social again like we did before we opened this energy consuming portal to depression, emptieness and anxiety
This video is so important, the protocol segment works wonders, especially not using social media in the morning. I like to see it as a blank canvas, if you check your phone in the morning, it's like splashing black ink all over it. Not good for the soul and wellbeing.
@@sole__doubtdude I try so hard but I always end up being late. It’s exhausting. It’s like I don’t percieve time correctly in my brain. Like things are always taking less time than what I feel.
Thank you for this video, I really needed this morning and before..:)..this is why I do everything alone. When I walk in my town and see people I know we talk and seat together and that's good for me. IT's in the flow and I don't have to worry anymore. Blessings!
My FB was hacked two years ago and I miss complete strangers I will likely never speak to again, because I can't recall their name. I still have some life long friends I talk to regularly that I hope stick around.
Thank you for the video. I stopped using most social media some years ago and looking back I didn’t lose anything. I think there is just little value in it to be found. As far as reaching out to people, few actually make calls with their phones.
Serious question. I haven't used Facebook since 2020 [ deactivated it ]. Do people still use that as their default window for viewing the world? It's such an utterly lame way to exist.
I’ve learnt to be able to go on social media and not allow social media to impact me in any way. I can live my regular life and be online and I’m not affected either way. Idc what anyone else is doing really. I just share what I want to. And people either like it or don’t. Whatever.
I NEVER worry about anything anyone else is pretending to be on social media! I literally have 10 friends on Facebook and no other social media, and I still don't pay attention to anything they post, and they never pay any attention to anything I post, tbh I just watch silly cat videos every now and then! I spend literally 90% of my life in my own company and I don't care! Most people are actually annoying AF these days and not even worth spending any time trying to get to know! The small amount of people I do actually quiet enjoy spending time with I hardly ever see, but when I do we have a great time! You don't need a million friends or contacts, it's only the past 10 years that was ever a thing, it's not normal, and it messes with your head!
That's actually a great advice - not to check my phone right in the morning. I'll definitely try that, thanks. I'm currently trying to change my approach towards my phone. I realised not long ago that it has a much bigger grip over me than I thought. And it's f***ing hard to do something about it. But I stay optimistic. :-) Nice telly btw. :-) I always liked the white ones. But my secret plan is to have a purple one built for me by a local luthier.
The one thing that convinced me that I would never get a mobile device ever again is when a certain national leader demanded all cellphone owners to have their phones on for a "national emergence test." It scared me what was really behind that. Luckily for me, I had ditched my cell phone 17+ years ago.
New subscriber love your work. The best thing i discovered on my phone was do not disturb mode, its on most of the time now. I have had the same close friends for 30 odd years so I am lucky and we are all slack at connecting with each other cos we are busy doing our thing. They have known me as the crazy bike and guitar guy who is not very peopley since our teens and are cool with that. I get on UA-cam of an evening instead of watching tv or movies so i can choose what i want to learn. You are spot with your observations on the socials and phones in general. As i live out bush with three of my kids and don't get to town much I get on the social media of an evening on the weekend a bit like going to the pub is for some people, fire a few messages back and forth catch up then split but yeah if that happens in the morning the day is shot and no body i know is online to even interact with, just be mindlessly scrolling.
We've always been in a trance since the inception of organised theology. Phones just make it visually more obvious, it's a trance within a trance. It's actually a good thing, because when we become aware of one layer of unconsciousness, it's a catalyst for ongoing awareness of other levels of unconsciousness; resulting in heightened presence, consciousness and connection, with self/others/life itself. 😊
As a phone repair technician and delivery courier I sometimes feel too much of my life depends on being on my device. I tried to scale down my activities on it to simply job related and shut it off once I get home, it's kinda weird how "not normal" my activities feel and how my customers most of the times basically are addicts. I feel bad for them and try to promote responsible use of their devices, but most don't care at all, they just want stuff done or delivered ASAP. I wish to make enough money to not need to do this jobs anymore in a near future and travel around in my bike but it seems bleak since it has been already 4 years as a delivery courier and 10 repairing electronics, mainly phones.
It’s been nice being off the main social medias (twitter, facebook, instagram, snapchat,etc) since 2017. I’m very lucky to have never even had TikTok, seeing how addicted everyone is to that, and the only ‘social medias’ I use are UA-cam, Discord, and Reddit. Reddit is definitely the worst as far as time sucking/attention grabbing and I want to make a point to stop using it completely. I did set a timer for myself on my phone to limit it to 1 hour for reddit (because as you said there’s no such thing as a quick scroll haha) so that is helping but eventually i’ll bring it down to none. The camping part is so true. My problem is it takes me 1-2 days out of service to get out of the headspace of “did I get new views on this video?/did my friend respond?/etc” before I can get in that groove of slow moving and slow thinking. Thanks for another great video David, loved the Harry Potter edit by the way 😂
The best thing I ever did was get rid of all my "social" media 😂 I enjoy watching people's videos here on YT, but other than that, I'm not hooked on "likes," unlike too many others out there
Same here, although I do find myself falling into some of the addictive tendencies with the mediocre discussions I start here. I go down rabbit holes and emotionally invest myself in making points to people who aren't having a good faith debate, but rather are just proclaiming truths and have no interest in changing their minds. I often wonder if that's what I'm doing, but certainly try not to. I appreciate what I learn on this platform, but it's just as easily a way for me to take in content with which I already agree, only further convincing me I'm in the right. It's exhausting. At least we have some awareness, but it's hard to know where to balance it. I know I'm being surveilled too, and anytime I use the feed I'm being manipulated subtly. But I still come back for more🤦♂️
Going by the thumbnail the cellphone appears to be melting your face. That is very dangerous. I'd say more dangerous than a fully semi automatic assault weapon.
I’d like to say the best thing you can do is to just simply go do what you want get outside don’t put your life on pause waiting for someone to go with you just go.
I'm old enough to know life before computers. I do like internet shopping and social media. I do prefer how people were before computers. I feel like younger generations swipe left or right on meeting you. We generally get to know someone before making that decision.
Share this with a pal who you’d like to stop having “maybe” dates with xx
I’d share it with you if I could… 😢
This video was so engaging. The presenter's authenticity came right through. Really refreshing.
Satan makes you pay to carry his tracking device 666
Ive lost so many friends over the years that were once sincere and meaningful. Slowly they transformed from active members of my life down into artificial clicks and interractions between avatars. No matter how much I reached and pulled, I could no longer get conversations and in person meetings from anyone, but they are always all eager to like, comment & send someone elses curated content. Couldn’t take it anymore and deleted and cut everything and everyone off. Done waiting around for people who are lost in the sauce.
The same here for more than 5 years now
I feel ya
I relate to this. Almost to a T. Even when the whole pandemic scare happened that forced most of us indoors.
deejay alice - do you think you're better off alone. Why yes, well mostly at leastlol
Lost in the sauce, I like that
Social media is to the mind what fast food is to the body
A little goes a long long way.
Junk.
Nutricious and energizing?
@@s4nder86 lol Exactly. Everything in moderation. Always in control. No reason to cut everything out cold turkey. Not everyone lives an out of control lifestyle. Unfortunately, it appears that far too many do.
Social media is to the soul as Zyklon-B was to a poor Holocaust victim.
Been clean from SM for about a year. Only youtube mainly for music and education like this video. Been happy ever since
Been using social media since 2006. For education, my own business, and entertainment. Always been happy because I never became addicted to it. I can see why most people are though. But still, to each their own. Its all about self control.
I don't know why but i was thinking about SM and not SM
My wife and I don’t use social media (Ok, UA-cam comments). We are practically dead. Everyone still has our phone numbers, but essentially we died several years ago.
hello stranger, I dont use smartphone but flip phone again since ~2,5 years now aside from taking photos quitted social media 5 years ago and I am "dead" since then.
Last invitation to restaurant or other stuff, social hang out, serious dating was 5 years ago.
I have old friends ~50+ yo calling me up and going for coffee and the like, and I am in my 30´s.
With young people I can not connect anymore
@@eichkater6928 recognize it (male 57) younger people wont return calls after or even during texting. I even quitted WhatsApp. I didnt see 90% of them anyway. I want to experience, share fun, grief, misery and love, and not just "maybe" higlights
same here. if I dont call noone calls.
I quit Facebook 4 years ago because I was tired of friends that were less than superficial.
Only one person asked where I went.
There is nothing in social media I want.
I never had a smartphone and I feel like I am still living the life that many people don't know exists. I have one friend and it's enough.
The less you care about any of this, the happier you will be. Living a life of simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.
ahh yes
it's true these days
“It is very simple to be happy, but it is very difficult to be simple.”
― Rabindranath Tagore
Great way to describe it!
“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” -Leonardo Da Vinci
I deleted all of my social media and I have never felt happier. I think about this often. I always thing of a quote I saw during covid. "How happy is the fool by the waterfall with no cellphone, not worrying about all the worlds problems."
This is why I intentionally put my phone in another room at night before bed so it isn’t there waiting for me in the morning. Freeing me to journal, pray, exercise and start the day right.
the place of your phone has no meaning, it's the attitude you have towards being controlled by a device.
@@s.muller8688 your attitude will determine where you place your phone. If you have no need for it, then you won't have it next to you. You also ignore the extreme work online platforms have done to make smartphone use addictive. There are proven studies that show just the appearance of a smartphone near a user can cause distraction. In light of that, the right attitude will result in a person controlling their environment which includes smartphones.
@@s.muller8688attitude in part will determine where the phone is placed. This ignores the extreme work down over a decade by tech platforms to make smartphone use addictive. A person with a poor relationship with their phone will have no control over their environment. If they don't need their phone, the phone won't be close by them. Attitude is a part of the solution but isn't enough if it doesn't translate to intentional changes in the person's environment.
It can help @@s.muller8688
I love this. Will definitely put my phone in another room at night
I once had a lively social media presence. A few thousand friends, even. When I deactivated, only 2 people reached out and one was a family member. 😂
I find if you don't advertise yourself on social media, everyone forgets you exist. How weird is that?
Yup, I personally took one month off of social media and only two people reached out… Tells me everything I need to know. It’s all a imagination
it's really interesting... sometimes, I bump into people who I don't even know in real life and then we have a lovely connection without social media altogether. In fact, one of my dear friends, I don't even have his phone number. We just bumped into each other every other week.
It’s wonderful…. As is the peace
I keep my Facebook so that I can reach out to people that enter my mind. I couldn't fathom why they wouldn't respond, until it dawned on me that they don't use the app for the same reasons. This is reinforced by how many people reach out to contact me (I can't think of anyone reaching out with the exception of my birthday, which even then is a generic well wish).
And that's the best because then you don't have the negative energy of people coming at you on a daily basis.
ordered a flippy phone, been talking about getting rid of the smart phone for a while. i have 2 small kids and it breaks my heart when i realize im paying attention to my phone over my kids. worse yet i can just see it being flipped on me when they grow up. i dont want to be a hypocrite
I wish I could do a flip phone but the sad truth is, I have no life and the internet keeps me sane. If I didn’t have it, I’d be bored as hell but even if I did have a life, I think I’d still be addicted to my phone. Just like everyone else.
It’s only videos like this that made me realise I have phone addiction.
easy, don't buy them smartphones. Steve Jobs did not allow his kids iPads and iPhones
My son got his first smartphone for his 18th birthday, and I watched as it sucked him in. I didn't know what was happening. He's never been the same. It has led to other addictions. I pray for the day these things go away. I hope they do before the point of no return.
Getting rid of my smart phone in two weeks, already off social media, I can't handle the fakeness of this "connectivity".
Nokia 6300, reading, drawing, walking outside and removing myself from the internet, and also youtube. The dopamine feedback loop can be put back to normal, just unplugged and be free from the unnatural influences.
No FB IG Twit etc. not even 'smarthphone' , but no friends either just me . Growing up during 80's-90's was awesome !! Excellent video aka message ;)
Awesome 😎 ps. my geography teacher was called Mr Jolly
@@thedavidboland I hope he was reflection of his name :) .. Oh btw is that actully real name/surname in IR or more like nickname ?
No. Most social media is dead space. People fighting through the nothingness for attention. Even this “feels like a commercial I’ve seen before.”
same
"Social media and technology are not the problem. Ignorant people will always be the problem, whether technology exists or not." (Benjamin Ramos - Life / Relationship Coach)
Funny it's called SOCIAL media yet if yiu attempt to connect you are simply weirdo. These days anyone trying to connect are scammers.
@@perfectsoulmates2023 right. The environment changes behavior, but the environment is shaped by technology, so “there’s no way out.” People are enmeshed in time.
0:04 - No, that's why I have a zero tolerance policy for ads, and I block ads, sponsors, cookies, and tracking to the maximum extent possible.
I use my smartphone only for the alarm clock and calendar reminders. There are no friends or even acquaintances to call me. I have never used social media (except from you tube) and I hate it when someone don't want to keep contact with me when I say that I don't have facebook. Last days I have noticed that I crave for human interaction and the only way to meet this need is by leaving comments on You Tube. It's too hard to find real connection in this world. It is so sad.
Sadly, you nailed it. I am lonely too - I used to have a lot of friends, but one by one, they disappeared, or rather I did, because I don't go along in this 'social' media bonanza. I have one/two friends left, I see them if I'm lucky three hours on friday night. Then they talk about stuff they talked about in their watsap (sorry, a language joke) groups. Last week I checked my incoming calls so far this year: not ONE was a casual one, a friend or a relative just calling to check on me or to have casual conversation. And I wonder how people fall in love these days - when you go out, you can sit four hours in a bar like you're a ghost. Maybe I am one.
My phone lives on top of the fridge in silent mode. At work it is on silent mode in my pocket. I check my phone 3 times a day... When i grab it off the fridge to put in my pocket to go to work, when i take it out of my pocket after work to put it on the fridge, last thing before i hop into bed, mainly to see if my almost 90 year old mother has left a message. As it lives on silent no one can ever get me. So, leave a message or send a text and i will see it eventually. It is so So SO good not being chained to the phone.
it's not that big a deal. people in my circle are circling back to using basic nokia phones. Social media, was ultimately a mistake and community centers need to make a comeback...
Haha... good one! I’m likely much older than you. I grew up without a computer, smart phone or any social media. I’m over 60 now an still don’t have a smart phone and have no desire for one other than for starting a YT Channel, but do I really want to start a YT Channel? Will it enrich my life or help me connect with people? We never meet anyone in person making comments on YT. In many ways, it just isolates us more.
It is a big deal
Do you think there's a "luddite" movement of younger people giving up smartphones? I'd love to hear more about that if it's a thing....
These days I never plan anything with anyone. Any "plan" you make just goes into a bin of possibility for the other person, that can be changed at a whim. These days, if I'd like to meet up with someone, I tell them where I am going and when, and I invite them to join me. Then I forget about it. I make my plans and carry them through alone. If that person shows up, then I switch gears and enjoy that. I never have to wait for an answer, or deal with multiple redirects, or any of that. II don't end up having my invitation to them switched around to where they are inviting me! t also tells you pretty quickly where you fall within their priorities, say 1 through 10. It's probably not where you think. People always make time for the things most important to them. Always. I miss the 60s and 70s.
Telling the curse of social media through the blessing of social media
We are all in a trance. Perhaps they engineered it that way so they could monetize us.
Perhaps? No, it's definitely the case. You should watch The Social Dilemma, a great documentary on this topic.
@@charlie5thumbs351 Thank you for the tip. Will do.
UA-cam is the closest thing I have to social media. I'm autistic and have no desire for more, idk
It's worse. The globalists nwo want to monetize the entire world and everything in it. Nature, trees, animals, everything, will have a price tag if they get their way.
Spot on mate 😊
You have said everything that is swirling through my mind at a million miles an hour. Having sever ADHD most of my life hasn’t helped. But today, this phone stuff has ruined our society, by ruining people to where they aren’t keeping their word, they aren’t socializing and living in the moment, they aren’t putting down our phones, they have become severely flakey.
I desperately wish we could go back to the days before all of this social media nonsense.
I hate social media, almost never use it, couldn't care less.
UA-cam is my main source of media consumption and it is 99% informational and/or educational.
And since I'm here, this video must fit into on of those categories.
Same
@Arthur_3T yes, you have to practice discipline. Watch only what you were looking for and don't start the Scroll of Doom.
@Arthur_3Tyeah, i have a serious issue for trying to absorb as much imformation and to hunt for the truth of our world. i have come to realize i am addicted to that just like someone with corn or other addictions. its almost impossible to escape needing these phones when the gov has all but made them mandatory to function at all in society
UA-cam is very addictive and damaging to your brain.
I cant tell you how guilty I feel for enjoying a simple life. I feel lazy for sitting on my deck watching the hummongbirds for a few hours.
That sounds delightful
I connect with nature every day. I walk in the woods and the countryside for at least 2 hours every day. The other day for about a half hour I watched a dragonfly continually whiz around in a circle over a small creek hunting for bugs to eat in the water… it was very meditative. Don’t feel guilty, we need this type of life for our wellbeing.
Its no surprise that when you look at the statistics, all the issues with teen depression and feelings of inadequacy etc all started around 2010 - 3 years after the iPhone touched down and started to become more affordable for the masses, particularly younger people. How much focus etc has been destroyed among people because of smartphones. I look around now and there's too many people glued to them, not looking around or where they are going. Myself I am looking at going back to an older 'new' model dumbphone.
A smartphone is a distraction nightmare for productivity too!
Exactly why I delete Instagram and try to stay off. It takes you down rabbit holes and sometimes makes you go look for things that don’t matter! It’s a weird energy on Instagram specifically … I can’t explain it…it’s like a portal.
I miss the 80s and 90s...❤
Where you were watching mtv all day long. Same fungus, different input
@@z352kdaf8324we weren’t all like that. I hated MTV and the likes and I was always outside in the woods looking for animals I discovered in books. It was great. I miss those days.
@@z352kdaf8324 Nonsense! We met after school and we would go directly to the house of our friend, because you couldn’t phone them all the time. And when we played video games together all the computers had to be in the same room, because the LAN cable wasn’t any longer.
I wish I got to experience those times :(
Social media is poison. Even stuff like youtube shorts is bad. Feel so much better since I have stopped using my smartphone in that way. I just use it for music maps and getting information.
"A Calendar Full of Maybes". I operate a farrier business, and everything on the calendar says "Tentative-text". Can we just schedule something and then stick to the schedule? Then I have to text message a couples days prior and then the day before to make sure everyone "remembers", but then when I send the reminder message, someone says "can we switch days". Frustrating! It's true. No one commits to a schedule any more.
this is very relatable...
I was on the other side trying to get a farrier out. Two years ago I started trimming my horse myself and it seems to be working fine. I can see it being frustrating on your end for sure. It’s no longer herding cats, now it’s juggling cats.
Short answer people are to worried about what others think of them
Thank you for this video!! I struggle daily with this addiction and cycle of checking notifications and social media, today was a bad one. My mental clarity and focus was so off. There is no such thing as a quick scroll. I appreciate the real advice that anyone can try!!
cheers Selena! wishing you a lovely day
I’ve tried to limit technology and have really felt the effects of chasing validation on SM. I deleted my apps for months and felt amazing. Have had them back for a few months now and just deleted them again. It’s tough because I’m a voice actor and also have a public profile in my industry, so leaving social media removes me from being visible and current. But, the more I age, the more simplicity I crave. Brain just can’t handle all the things anymore
I got banned off Twitter and deleted my Facebook account. Ended up writing a book instead.
I quit twitter last year, it was my NY resolution and never had a Fb account. I use IG to upload my art but I dont use it to look at others content.
maybe don't be racist so you wont get banned
I love to know that which Book change your perspective on life and
Please share your book on UA-cam
😊🇮🇳
A lifetime ban on Twitter was a blessing in disguise for me
This video was almost spiritual for me. Big thanks, needed to hear all of it. Great vibe too. Subbed.
cheers mate :) great to have you here
Bro I had this same thought about not caring what everyone was doing on social media and wondered why anyone would care what I was doing too. Dropped that shit 13 years ago.
As a senior type person I am amazed how many make plans for the next day or two and then do not show up and even ghost you until the next time they need something. So different then just 20 years ago. I have even been told that if I do not hear an answer from someone the answer is no.
Not even bothering to answer is wild, wth is that friendship
I don’t use any form of social media anymore except UA-cam
Very, very few people actually exist. Those who have a tangible self.
by the divines do I have a tangible self
i always have my own plan, people can join or not. BUT if someone commits him/herself and let me down for „nothing“ it was the last time i choose that person for any activity. Sometimes i even block them on my phone. I am very harsh from experience.
5 years without social media now. One of the best decisions of my life. Only better one was creating a relationship with God.
I hope you don't praying to a dead man.
I hope you the best
Abraham
@@ibrahimalharbi3358be kind and gentle in your words brother
Amen ❤
I've quit Facebook back in 2010 and never did any social media anymore, unless you count UA-cam as social media (it's a video hosting website IMO).
I'm at a few forums though, mostly to nerd out on my hobbies, but that's way different from actual social media.
Social media is just a waste of time, wasting time to show off how wonderful you are.
I know no one gives a crap about me, so I know that there's no point in showing off on social media.
I'm all on my own, and so are most people... but most people decide it's something bad and so they don't want to live with that fact and need to escape it.
I know already about this , maybe since 2020.
I know smartphone make our society become so weird, chaos , and to much people become depresed.get easy to be bored.
No body believe , even my friends and my family.
They think I'm stupid for not having social media account.damn
I'm still somewhat young and don't use any social media apart from UA-cam. I prefer it old school, pick up the telephone and have a chat, just like today I had a good chat with a mate of mine on my old landline phone for an hour solid. My smartphone hardly gets used.
Same!
Taking control of your life and making a stand for 'you' is the key to survival in this crazy tech world we live! Bravo & awesome vid! :)
Bless you for this video.
This is an important message in your video. I also struggled with social media in terms of creativity and productivity.
I see it everywhere: People get lost in the internet and they suffer from it in every aspect of human life.
It's time we leave the media behind and learn to focus on the social again like we did before we opened this energy consuming portal to depression, emptieness and anxiety
This video is so important, the protocol segment works wonders, especially not using social media in the morning. I like to see it as a blank canvas, if you check your phone in the morning, it's like splashing black ink all over it. Not good for the soul and wellbeing.
cheers, glad you found it useful!
Very profound, the social media disaster keeps isolating us into different silos, always having options but nothing secure
the apathy of options! hope you're good buddy
I realized waiting on someone was delaying me to my appointment with life, and I hated it !
Being late is one of the biggest insults possible.
@@sole__doubtdude I try so hard but I always end up being late. It’s exhausting. It’s like I don’t percieve time correctly in my brain. Like things are always taking less time than what I feel.
@@miriades Im 46 and I havent been late for anything since I was in high school.
@@sole__doubt I don’t know what to do about this.
@@miriades Leave earlier. Im early to everything. You are either early or late, its all up to you my friend.
There he is! UA-cam put you on my home screen / browse 👊🏾
Haha, love it! ❤
If we don't participate in that nonsense, people will say that you are not moving with the times…..I think ahead of time.
Thank you for this video, I really needed this morning and before..:)..this is why I do everything alone. When I walk in my town and see people I know we talk and seat together and that's good for me. IT's in the flow and I don't have to worry anymore. Blessings!
I love this! I feel the exact same... it's so nice to go out by myself and have a spontaneous meeting with whoever happens to cross my path!
@@thedavidboland Yes I love doing that, it's more in my flow now. It's like an adventure everyday!
A really enjoyable watch David, and I loved the way you presented your ideas. Fellow Irishman here btw. Cheers!
Hey mate! Awesome - greetings from the east coast! Love your stuff, very very cool niche!
@@thedavidboland ah, thanks for checking it out!
I go for walks. I look at trees. I pick through the trash and find neat things. I like sun, fresh air, and myself. Phones are only trouble.
❤ 🙌
Nice video mate, hopefully it gets spread about a bit! Thanks
So much real talk in this.
My FB was hacked two years ago and I miss complete strangers I will likely never speak to again, because I can't recall their name. I still have some life long friends I talk to regularly that I hope stick around.
Thank you for making this
thanks for being here xx
using an app to post things without wanting to talk to people one on one...
i absolutely don't understand that.
You found a very artistic way of conveying simple truths. Bravo.
Thank you for the video. I stopped using most social media some years ago and looking back I didn’t lose anything. I think there is just little value in it to be found. As far as reaching out to people, few actually make calls with their phones.
Beautiful uplifting video to help our mental health ❤
blessings
Brilliant, insightful message! Dia dhuit a chara 🙏🕊️
dia smuire dhuit deirfuir! good to see you, greetings from the east ❤️
Great video. Love your content!
good conversation... the point about first looking at the choices you are currently making , true. good editing as well
Thanks man, comletely related to this and agree 100% as you said YOU ARE THR MADTER OF YOUR MIND you keep it in check.
Serious question. I haven't used Facebook since 2020 [ deactivated it ]. Do people still use that as their default window for viewing the world? It's such an utterly lame way to exist.
I'm sure some people do.
I’ve learnt to be able to go on social media and not allow social media to impact me in any way. I can live my regular life and be online and I’m not affected either way. Idc what anyone else is doing really. I just share what I want to. And people either like it or don’t. Whatever.
"We need to curate our digital landscapes" - UA-cam chooses this moment to play an ad for chips.
I NEVER worry about anything anyone else is pretending to be on social media! I literally have 10 friends on Facebook and no other social media, and I still don't pay attention to anything they post, and they never pay any attention to anything I post, tbh I just watch silly cat videos every now and then! I spend literally 90% of my life in my own company and I don't care! Most people are actually annoying AF these days and not even worth spending any time trying to get to know! The small amount of people I do actually quiet enjoy spending time with I hardly ever see, but when I do we have a great time! You don't need a million friends or contacts, it's only the past 10 years that was ever a thing, it's not normal, and it messes with your head!
I stopped making plans with family because they cancelled an hour before dinner.....twice.
It's been years.....life is just sad sometimes.
That's actually a great advice - not to check my phone right in the morning. I'll definitely try that, thanks. I'm currently trying to change my approach towards my phone. I realised not long ago that it has a much bigger grip over me than I thought. And it's f***ing hard to do something about it. But I stay optimistic. :-) Nice telly btw. :-) I always liked the white ones. But my secret plan is to have a purple one built for me by a local luthier.
thanks friend for sharing
I cut off all social media except UA-cam and Google and I dislike facebook and Twitter since I lost jobs and friends in the past because of it
The one thing that convinced me that I would never get a mobile device ever again is when a certain national leader demanded all cellphone owners to have their phones on for a "national emergence test." It scared me what was really behind that. Luckily for me, I had ditched my cell phone 17+ years ago.
Yes! I like your way of thinking David. I do very similar things myself. Live your own life! x
New subscriber love your work. The best thing i discovered on my phone was do not disturb mode, its on most of the time now. I have had the same close friends for 30 odd years so I am lucky and we are all slack at connecting with each other cos we are busy doing our thing. They have known me as the crazy bike and guitar guy who is not very peopley since our teens and are cool with that. I get on UA-cam of an evening instead of watching tv or movies so i can choose what i want to learn. You are spot with your observations on the socials and phones in general. As i live out bush with three of my kids and don't get to town much I get on the social media of an evening on the weekend a bit like going to the pub is for some people, fire a few messages back and forth catch up then split but yeah if that happens in the morning the day is shot and no body i know is online to even interact with, just be mindlessly scrolling.
We've always been in a trance since the inception of organised theology. Phones just make it visually more obvious, it's a trance within a trance. It's actually a good thing, because when we become aware of one layer of unconsciousness, it's a catalyst for ongoing awareness of other levels of unconsciousness; resulting in heightened presence, consciousness and connection, with self/others/life itself. 😊
You are an intuitive genius and an excellent communicator. Thx. Chris
I really hate cell phones. I do not do social media, it looks senseless to me. I do not understand the point of social media.
cal newport says in his book that bssically, its about an exchange: i see your stuff if you see my stuff. In one word: narcisism
Thank you very much. This was the most inspiring video since a long time! And it seems to come right in time!
Thank you David🙏 for this inspiring video. It’s an eye opener 💡
As a phone repair technician and delivery courier I sometimes feel too much of my life depends on being on my device. I tried to scale down my activities on it to simply job related and shut it off once I get home, it's kinda weird how "not normal" my activities feel and how my customers most of the times basically are addicts. I feel bad for them and try to promote responsible use of their devices, but most don't care at all, they just want stuff done or delivered ASAP. I wish to make enough money to not need to do this jobs anymore in a near future and travel around in my bike but it seems bleak since it has been already 4 years as a delivery courier and 10 repairing electronics, mainly phones.
Excellent thanks for posting ❤
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Thanks for sharing this.
It’s been nice being off the main social medias (twitter, facebook, instagram, snapchat,etc) since 2017. I’m very lucky to have never even had TikTok, seeing how addicted everyone is to that, and the only ‘social medias’ I use are UA-cam, Discord, and Reddit. Reddit is definitely the worst as far as time sucking/attention grabbing and I want to make a point to stop using it completely. I did set a timer for myself on my phone to limit it to 1 hour for reddit (because as you said there’s no such thing as a quick scroll haha) so that is helping but eventually i’ll bring it down to none.
The camping part is so true. My problem is it takes me 1-2 days out of service to get out of the headspace of “did I get new views on this video?/did my friend respond?/etc” before I can get in that groove of slow moving and slow thinking.
Thanks for another great video David, loved the Harry Potter edit by the way 😂
nice! thanks for sharing brother and thanks for hanging out in the live!! :)
Your videos are very thoughtful and slow down the world just enough and make me think.
Dang it! People who work in corporates don't even have time to use social media.
This man is doing a great thing ❤ thank you for doing this 😊
The best thing I ever did was get rid of all my "social" media 😂 I enjoy watching people's videos here on YT, but other than that, I'm not hooked on "likes," unlike too many others out there
Same here, although I do find myself falling into some of the addictive tendencies with the mediocre discussions I start here.
I go down rabbit holes and emotionally invest myself in making points to people who aren't having a good faith debate, but rather are just proclaiming truths and have no interest in changing their minds.
I often wonder if that's what I'm doing, but certainly try not to.
I appreciate what I learn on this platform, but it's just as easily a way for me to take in content with which I already agree, only further convincing me I'm in the right.
It's exhausting.
At least we have some awareness, but it's hard to know where to balance it.
I know I'm being surveilled too, and anytime I use the feed I'm being manipulated subtly.
But I still come back for more🤦♂️
I agree with what you said 100% Thank you beautiful soul! 💚
Mom was right
Phone did ruin my life
I reaaaaally appreciate this video.
Good call, no socials here other than blood relatives.
I actually do care about my friends on social media. As Kipling said in his poem "If," "If all men count for you, but none too much."
Going by the thumbnail the cellphone appears to be melting your face. That is very dangerous. I'd say more dangerous than a fully semi automatic assault weapon.
Instead of being feed information, I choose the information that I want to see and hear. I’m deleting X, don’t use Facebook, and reading more.
I’d like to say the best thing you can do is to just simply go do what you want get outside don’t put your life on pause waiting for someone to go with you just go.
You're absolutely right 🙏 thank you!
I'm old enough to know life before computers. I do like internet shopping and social media. I do prefer how people were before computers. I feel like younger generations swipe left or right on meeting you. We generally get to know someone before making that decision.
Amazing vid bro loved every bit of it
You covered tons in this video that many havent. Thank you for the maybes.