The passive aggressiveness mentioned is a huge red flag, I don’t find anything appealing about mean men or men who try to humble their partners through sarcastic rude jokes. Partners should always be trying to lift each other up, not tear each other down.
Other red flags: A. Talking poorly about his exes and always tainting them as the problem with no accountability B. Being disrespectful to the women in his life, including family C. Has a history of cheating in his relationships D. Last minute planners and cancellers E. Only sticks to low-investment dates like coffee or "Netflix and chill" F. Dislikes romantic gestures such as buying you flowers, telling you he loves you, or at least expressing his love for you in the way you like to receive it Fb. Will only make very performative romantic gestures to make themselves look better after royally screwing up (like filling your house with roses after cheating on you for the nth time) or putting on a show
Men being overly romantic with amazing gifts is a sign too. Men can be giving and not great at gift giving, this is a skill that can be learned. Men I have seen that are so romantic with the gift giving are the ultimate players. Guys that enjoy giving but might not be excellent (yet) are valuable. Men that abhor gifting are selfish to an extreme. Some things men have to be gently guided to do or you find a man that has been married previously as they learned through their first wife what to do or what not to do.
SO true! Another red flag....a man who doesn't want you to meet his family; his people. Big tell of someone that's a player and isn't proud of you & being seen with you...no serious future intent regarding you, for sure! Drop kick FAST! 👍
This needs to be taught to every young girl starting out at 12 years old or maybe younger. I wish I had heard this years ago when I was young I would’ve made such better choices.
Absolutely! As women I feel like overall we tell ourselves we deserve less or that a truly decent man is beyond our reach. She gives excellent advice! 👏🙏❤️
Accusing, lying and blaming instead of listening, understanding and problem solving is a huge red flag. Guys that don’t respect any boundaries demand things like “what you bring to the table.”
That question has always been interesting to me… Just the concept of that question if it’s a man or a woman asking. If you’re talking and getting to know someone exclusively for a while, you’re going to begin to see the characteristics attributes and things that they bring to the table. It’s pretty much one of those unspoken questions… You’re going to know, so when people ask that question… In my mind I’m like OK , what’s your angle… It either makes me think that this person isn’t looking for a serious relationship or it’s just playing games
@@maryamadedeji24 it’s insulting and playing games to hurt you on purpose and also those people are often polygamists that don’t want to be honest about it and even if they’re not they don’t want to put forth the effort of protecting or providing for a woman. They often divorced the last wife because she “spends to much time with the kids”, showing a lack of love not only for the wife but also neglect of the children which isn’t loving to the children. It’s narcissism supreme.
@@melissamelissa2603 yeah it’s men like that that you have to avoid. I don’t want a polygamist man long-term or a man that is chronically online and there’s nothing wrong with being online but every day all day? No thank you.
@@melissamelissa2603 also even if you answer that question, what do you bring to the table, your actions will have to align and there’s nothing wrong with the question. It’s just the reasoning and the intention behind the question is what I have the issue with… Because it would begin to show what your mindset is like, and who you are to me.😅
In the past I believed too much in the independent women strong boss babe mentality that I didn't even expect him to help me. At one point in my life I was at rock bottom and needed a lot of emotional support and help, and yet all he did was to continue with his life and expect me to help myself because I should be able to, I'm an adult, I'm a strong independent woman. And at some point it felt like I was embarrassing him because of my issues. Fortunately it ended, and I'm in a much better place now, but I felt so angry at myself after realizing that I allowed this behavior and treatment in the first place. Don't let this be you ladies, a man who is in his masculine and sees you as his lover will drop everything to help you, because he can't stand to see you suffer. Everyone has times where they need emotional support and help, no matter how strong or independent you are, and your partner should be there for you. If they can't be there for you during hard times then they don't deserve to be with you.
Lisa could you please make a video for women who are already married? I hate to think it’s “too late” for me because I no longer am dating and would love to inspire my husband with some of your tips!
Oh my, I’ve dated men with alllll these low value qualities. I couldn’t escape it on my own. Spent years by myself, applying the feminine practices. Made mistakes, realizing more and more how detrimental low value men are to my soul. And some can “appear” like you said as high value. Tricky. It always ended with me feeling empty and depleted. I eventually met a man with all these high value qualities, as I got to know him more over time, they were all confirmed. I had a deep inner knowing when I met him, I was open and I’m so grateful ❤. Took practice to change and patience.
Provide Protect Profess ! Love this. A lot of men will hide their girlfriends. I think privacy is definitely different than secrecy. I tend to be a very private person when it comes to my relationships, however i do not hide them.
If he takes you out a lot, and has shown the people closest to him pictures of you (they're on the other side of the world), but doesn't post you on FB is that privacy or secrecy?
Once I was on a couple of dating apps and found so many men who didn’t respect my boundaries, and were not willing to go the extra mile and not willing to give me the princess treatment I’ve been realizing more and more lately that I truly deserve. Finally I decided that I needed to focus on myself and realize that while a man should add to your life. I don’t really who acts low value and I don’t need someone who won’t treat me like a queen. I owe the knowledge that I’ve gained to Miss Lisa and her videos thank you so much for all the advice and the knowledge that I’ve gained from you God bless you✝️❤️💐👑🎀💋🍷💃
i cant say how much i love ur channel as a 16 yr old girl u unlocked my feminity that i always wanted! (Like being girly ) now im so fun and girly i love it!
Hey Lisa this is so spot-on and so helpful! This reminds of so much of my ex-boyfriend, who refuses to be a man and a provider. Thanks for the reminder that there are plenty of good provider men out there. I just need to be the best version of me, and my good provider man will show up and take good care of me. 🥰I appreciate your content as always, and I absolutely love your dress!
@@Mmmmkaaay I don't know maybe but there is something in his eyes that gives me a Harvey weinstein vibe. Wouldn't be surprised if we hear creepy things about him one day.
Totally agree. I don't understand why those women fell for him. Just because he was a good actor in Titantic so they thought he was a good man in real life? If he is not an actor, nobody gives a damn about him. He's short and a player. Not even handsome if you ask me. Conclusion: Being rich has advantages. This guy gives out creepy vibes that he is not a serious type. I wasn't even a fan in Titantic either. Just weird that those women were so naive.
Before you mentioned it in this video, I actually didn't know you have a man, Lisa. I like it that you keep things private and he's a hell of a lucky dude to be with someone like you, Lisa! You're beautiful, kind, feminine and intelligent. I am really happy for the two of you and I really wish you all the best, Lisa!
This video has come to me at the perfect moment. I've been wasting so many years of my life with a man who has so many of these...🤦♀I'm out! Thanks for the video!
Exactly some days ago a guy asked me for a coffee date I said no I only accept dinner dates. He started saying if I’m hungry and all the low value men stuff. 🤮🤮
I don't get what's up with a coffee date for a first date? It's perfect for both to be able to sit and talk properly, rather than doing so between mouthfuls of food. If he won't pay for the coffee, you know there's no chance he's paying for dinner. I think coffee dates are the perfect first date to get to know the basics about someone.
Friends meet for casual coffee dates. Is that the tone to start with, casual? Or are you looking for something more serious and committed? It is okay to talk on the phone before agreeing to meet as well to get more info. Please ladies don't sell yourself short
@@mysweetpepper This is a person you've never met before I'm assuming? You may not even like them to want something serious? They may not like you. Going for dinner on the first date proves absolutely nothing that you or them are looking for something more committed. Coffee isn't selling yourself short, it's putting yourself in a situation where there is no pressure on either person. It's a comfortable environment and it's easy to get away from if you decide you don't like their company. Dinner - You may end up talking with spinach stuck in your teeth. It's more awkward to leave early if you want to as there's probably another course of food coming. And just because he pays for it even on a first date - it's a sweet gesture but it proves nothing. Coffee dates as first and/or second dates. If they go well and you both like each other, then dinner is next.
Great video Glad you discussed redflags Such as gaslighting,insulting behaviour.i have met men like this in the past One even yelled at me in public so humiliating I ended the relationship immediately
Glad that channel like yours is rising standard for all ladies around the world. Sometimes girls get stuck with Low Value man and their confidence is destroyed so they can't seem to get out that relationship. Keep it up Lisa, keep teaching all the ladies!
Hi Lisa! Could you do a video with your point of view about the stress and the emotional instability that women go through after such an experience with a low value male? Most women tend to get extremely depressed and question themselves and their self worth, thinking there is something wrong with them and no woman should ever feel like that! Thank u! ❤
The power of masculinity is very important. If he is not desciplined, confident and mature don't waste your time. There are many immature guys out there who just really needs to grow up. On their own time ladies.. Not on yours.
Hi Lisa, great video! ❤Would you ever consider making more videos on how to be elegant/feminine while you are already married or in a long term relationship? A lot of your advice is for dating, which is great but sometimes hard to apply when you are married 😅
@@ThePinkPantha21 Of course. I just thought it would be interesting to have more content on the topic, and it would be a great way for Lisa to broaden her audience 😊
This is so perfectly explained and summarized. You have helped validate decisions I have made with "good" men that some friends may have questioned, and you have helped me finally identify the flaws I missed in some of the others. Thank you 💖
Another one is a man threatening to leave you at every inconvenience or that tells you to tak3 your things and get out of his house. This happened to my sister and I was in shock because then he would come back crawling and beg for forgiveness. Absolutely disgusting.
Yep good question. She seems to say that men will pursue a woman they’re interested in, but I have only encountered extremely low effort men for years.
@@AmyB369 The key is to self focus on other interests which activates your feminine energy. Especially if they involve things like dance, taking a course in an interest of yours, relaxing at the spa, self care ect. Remember self care isn’t after care! This will naturally draw high value men like a magnet because they are attracted to a woman with high self value.
This what I experienced to my husband.we have different in culture. He is European and I am Asian. He doesn't want to go with me if I ask him to the City or if ever I'm going to meet my friends. but if he likes to visit his friends its okay even I couldn't speak there language. And he is not happy I make friends and many more he doesn't like. And I am not happy he is older than me too.
Why he likes to visit his friends but he don’t let you visit your own friends? That’s very red flag right now. He is dangerous you are blind to his hidden red flag.
Do not let he control your life. That’s very serious here because he think he can do whatever he want but you can’t do whatever you want. Not safe for you in reality life. You need to get out fast!
Men who say 'I'm not going to chase you, I don't have to impress you, I'm looking for an independent woman, I'm looking for a woman who has her shit together.' So many...lol I could write a book after dating lames! haha And now that I'm wiser, I'm not going out on any date as 99.9% give me a red flag before the date happens. Screwed either way!
I recently broke up with a man who displayed all of these signs.. what is interesting is that to begin with (first 2 months) he acted high value and then after holidays together transformed…. Is this common / anyone else experienced this sort of thing ? I keep thinking i acted in a way that changed his behaviour towards me.. at the same time, he was immature in many ways (silent treatment/ not knowing what he wants despite being v successful in his career…)
No Darling, if he changed after 2 months that is absolutely not your fault. It is often a sign of narcissistic behavior or tendencies, that make them pretend to be amazing in the beginning for you to be hooked on them. And then afterwards show their true face. Make sure to take your time when you get to know someone !
16:00 I've come across these problems myself, and it'll just be really helpful if u gave a few tips on how to deal with it because I literally stumble upon these so many times that idk what the right course of action is for myself anymore, how to respond how to react how to change this Ofc don wish to change the person infront at that moment bcz then I'd tell them u never spend time with me But that is not the way I wish to handle it, if I am respecting my worth i cannot say that
I have a question me being a man sometimes when I’m out with my girl, I like to make jokes not about her appearance but when we’re out and she talks, I say what and then she keeps going and I say ever. I do it in a joking manner, but seeing this video, should I stop? She hasn’t mentioned anything that bothers her. I always like to cheer her up and make jokes. Any tips on what I should do?
Every relationship has different dynamics. you’ve gotta trust her to tell you if she doesn’t like it, if you see it as cheering her up and she isn’t bothered there isn’t any reason to stop. If you feel worried ask her how she feels about it :)
What if he is very generous with his money even at his low level but Not with his emotions. What does that mean? He doesnt pressure for sex either ever.
I think seeking attention and always making everything about THEM and how they felt rather than caring about how you feel too, and not wanting to solve the actual problem but keep complaining and then going with silent treatment is a massive red flag, this would always make you feel like your feelings dosen't matter and only his matter, and you're always in the circle of trying to satisfy him, literally men like this are kids!!! When a man dosen't want to communicate the problem with you until you find the right solution to it and how it won't happen again but just runs away from it is a big red flag. And when he dosen't put in the effort to take you on a date or even text you, but just keeps posting provocative things here and there and expect you to talk first like are you 🧔🏻♀️???? And then when he texts you he hits you with "why aren't you asking about me" like SHUT UP!!! Also a man who's always pointing out on small things and wanting to text you and know what you're doing 24/7 and not respecting that you have your own resposabilities to handle and then he feels intimidated by you because you put more effort than he does is a huuuuuge red flag for me at least. Thank you so much lisa for this video i learnt so many things and it opened my eyes to what's been happening with me lately, and made me reflect, deffinitly helped me❤️❤️❤️❤️ I love you , you looked so elegant in this video queen✨💋
If every low value man had a high value brother, father or ex-friend, they would say this: Any man who cannot make responsible and stable decisions SHOULDN'T date at all. No plans to see the girl, WHY ASK HER OUT? If there's serious problems (or a questionable relationship) with family, she would get warn or told to dump him. Selfishness and greed won't make a relationship last long. No ambition and goals won't attract a girl Male gold diggers ask such questions. Asking for "doing the nasty" hastily is desperate for it! commit to Better off with a man regarding giving a gift. If their was a word for fear of commitment and have unrealistic ideas of relationship, it would be used a LOT. P.S. I don't know how half this message turn red, it just did. LOL
Hi, Lisa and all the ladies here in the comment section! I have a question and I want to ask your opinion. My boyfriend wants us to move to Italy for a better life, his job is kind of assured as my aunt s husband (they live there) is in the construction industry and my man likes that handy stuff. But I have no options there, I built a carreer here in our hometown that does not apply there. He is until know the best guy I ever had and he said we will live off his salary until I find something to do there. We have been together for 9 months and since the beginning he assured me that I am his future wife and mother of his children. But we are not married yet, he told me that he will decide when. He also has many high value man qualities except for a great financial status (that s why he wants us to move), but at the beginning he was very generous, until we moved together and shared costs. Would you go with him?
i have lived in italy. Where are you moving from. Would you consider moving there yourself? Do you speak italian. Research the country and your options there.
Do not move unless you are his wife. If he wants you to give up your life to start a new one with him, he should ensure your security with a marriage certificate first.
@@JayJay-wg5ex we are from Romania, I know Italian, I have been there 5 months with Erasmus Programme and I also visit often my aunt who lives there. But I never considered moving altogether.
I have been married over 20 years. Before I met my husband I had one serious relationship. He wanted me to leave my home, move in with him etc etc. He was also high value etc etc but I decided not to. We spoke of marriage but he had so much other stuff going on, the relationship would have been imbalanced from the start and women should always begin a relationship ahead and keep moving ahead in the relationship. We have way too much to lose, I just don't think it's worth it moving for men that's not your husband. When I married my husband I moved countries for him BUT he had resources (was a professional athlete) and so I was afforded much opportunity to give up my previous life to move. I wouldn't live with men as girlfriend cause they always gain more and I would never leave my created life as a girlfriend either. I have never met a person that it worked out for. I know I don't know everyone but you don't need to know many people to know something won't work out for most in similar situations 😂.
I did exactly the same thing I gave up my life, my friends, my family, and it didn’t work out after two years. My advice from a 68-year-old woman is don’t move there if he really loves you. He will move there and miss you and ask you to marry him and then move in, don’t do it before.😊
Delay and see if he is still interested and if you have a fight how does he respond , does he leave or stay to make it work. Does he have husband qualities he has proved with his behaviour
All these red flags are forbidden by Islam and warned against. Islam cares a lot about women in terms of relationships and the Prophet Muhammad described women as glass bottles due to their extreme delicacy and recommended treating them with kindness and gentleness. This was approximately 1444 years ago when the rest of the world doubted whether women were human beings. ❤
Fgm, banned from driving, multiple wives bcs they see us as property, honour k!llings, forced hijabs, forced marriages to first cousins hmmmm idk nowadays
@@basicinfo2022 that sounds toxic, I have a man who I can’t even tell if I love him more or he loves me more, but he doesn’t always do these actions in the vid amd yes I’ve talked to him about it but he doesn’t understand what to try differently :( I’d love some more advice tho lol
@Lauren-cy3vo it's important that you know he loves you way more because it's the man's role to propose and pursue you passionately and romantically without you having to force him to or taking on the man's role which is role reversal.
Lmao so every guy wants to have me meet his family but they don't show the other signs you listed 😅. So that means they just want to make their family and friends believe they have their life together because they are dating me 😅
Sounds good and straight out of a romantic movie but you can’t have everything. Inflation is on the rise, back in the 50s things weren’t as costly. I guess you can have a man who is a provider but he’ll not be as good looking or he might be very controlling. You don’t know if the man that provides for you can leave you later on and you’re left with nothing but kids. You have to be smart and strategize, the only that can save you is yourself.
Yep, I tick most of those boxes but I also have a chronic illness so I don't make the money to be a provider and money seems to be the biggest thing so yeah I don't know if it's even worth trying to date.
Wow, amazing video lisa. I’m gonna go into an arranged marriage and can you please share on how to discuss the ‘virginity topic’ with a high value man? Should I not discuss that about me with him? Can you please share your views on this topic and also sharing about the past relationship?
Lisa I wish one day you will reach 1 Million Subscribers very very soon 🥹🥹💗💗 and I am watching your videos since years ago and I wish you have a blessed week ahead
“If he does not know how to fix the problem, he will pay someone to fix the problem.”
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The passive aggressiveness mentioned is a huge red flag, I don’t find anything appealing about mean men or men who try to humble their partners through sarcastic rude jokes. Partners should always be trying to lift each other up, not tear each other down.
Other red flags:
A. Talking poorly about his exes and always tainting them as the problem with no accountability
B. Being disrespectful to the women in his life, including family
C. Has a history of cheating in his relationships
D. Last minute planners and cancellers
E. Only sticks to low-investment dates like coffee or "Netflix and chill"
F. Dislikes romantic gestures such as buying you flowers, telling you he loves you, or at least expressing his love for you in the way you like to receive it
Fb. Will only make very performative romantic gestures to make themselves look better after royally screwing up (like filling your house with roses after cheating on you for the nth time) or putting on a show
i feel also wanting to be chased and wanting to be the centre of attention in the relationship
You made it even harder 😄 to find such "high value" man
Low investment dates I totally agree
Of course will never say I love u
Men being overly romantic with amazing gifts is a sign too. Men can be giving and not great at gift giving, this is a skill that can be learned. Men I have seen that are so romantic with the gift giving are the ultimate players. Guys that enjoy giving but might not be excellent (yet) are valuable. Men that abhor gifting are selfish to an extreme. Some things men have to be gently guided to do or you find a man that has been married previously as they learned through their first wife what to do or what not to do.
I think another major red flag is if he acts differently toward you when his friends are around. It’s another indicator of insecurity and immaturity.
SO true! Another red flag....a man who doesn't want you to meet his family; his people. Big tell of someone that's a player and isn't proud of you & being seen with you...no serious future intent regarding you, for sure! Drop kick FAST! 👍
This needs to be taught to every young girl starting out at 12 years old or maybe younger. I wish I had heard this years ago when I was young I would’ve made such better choices.
100%
I agree with you. We need to prepare our girls
100% facts and correct. Never settle for a low value man. This video is spot on.
Absolutely! As women I feel like overall we tell ourselves we deserve less or that a truly decent man is beyond our reach. She gives excellent advice! 👏🙏❤️
Hygiene. If they cannot level up to the same standards as you are presenting yourself to him and the world-RUN! 🚫 Dusties! 🙅🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️
Oh yes agreed!
Accusing, lying and blaming instead of listening, understanding and problem solving is a huge red flag. Guys that don’t respect any boundaries demand things like “what you bring to the table.”
That question has always been interesting to me… Just the concept of that question if it’s a man or a woman asking. If you’re talking and getting to know someone exclusively for a while, you’re going to begin to see the characteristics attributes and things that they bring to the table. It’s pretty much one of those unspoken questions… You’re going to know, so when people ask that question… In my mind I’m like OK , what’s your angle… It either makes me think that this person isn’t looking for a serious relationship or it’s just playing games
@@maryamadedeji24 it’s insulting and playing games to hurt you on purpose and also those people are often polygamists that don’t want to be honest about it and even if they’re not they don’t want to put forth the effort of protecting or providing for a woman. They often divorced the last wife because she “spends to much time with the kids”, showing a lack of love not only for the wife but also neglect of the children which isn’t loving to the children. It’s narcissism supreme.
@@melissamelissa2603 yeah it’s men like that that you have to avoid. I don’t want a polygamist man long-term or a man that is chronically online and there’s nothing wrong with being online but every day all day? No thank you.
@@melissamelissa2603 also even if you answer that question, what do you bring to the table, your actions will have to align and there’s nothing wrong with the question. It’s just the reasoning and the intention behind the question is what I have the issue with… Because it would begin to show what your mindset is like, and who you are to me.😅
@@maryamadedeji24 it’s not an honest question.
In the past I believed too much in the independent women strong boss babe mentality that I didn't even expect him to help me. At one point in my life I was at rock bottom and needed a lot of emotional support and help, and yet all he did was to continue with his life and expect me to help myself because I should be able to, I'm an adult, I'm a strong independent woman. And at some point it felt like I was embarrassing him because of my issues. Fortunately it ended, and I'm in a much better place now, but I felt so angry at myself after realizing that I allowed this behavior and treatment in the first place.
Don't let this be you ladies, a man who is in his masculine and sees you as his lover will drop everything to help you, because he can't stand to see you suffer. Everyone has times where they need emotional support and help, no matter how strong or independent you are, and your partner should be there for you. If they can't be there for you during hard times then they don't deserve to be with you.
Lisa could you please make a video for women who are already married? I hate to think it’s “too late” for me because I no longer am dating and would love to inspire my husband with some of your tips!
Oh my, I’ve dated men with alllll these low value qualities. I couldn’t escape it on my own. Spent years by myself, applying the feminine practices. Made mistakes, realizing more and more how detrimental low value men are to my soul. And some can “appear” like you said as high value. Tricky. It always ended with me feeling empty and depleted.
I eventually met a man with all these high value qualities, as I got to know him more over time, they were all confirmed. I had a deep inner knowing when I met him, I was open and I’m so grateful ❤. Took practice to change and patience.
Provide Protect Profess ! Love this. A lot of men will hide their girlfriends. I think privacy is definitely different than secrecy. I tend to be a very private person when it comes to my relationships, however i do not hide them.
What's the difference?
If he takes you out a lot, and has shown the people closest to him pictures of you (they're on the other side of the world), but doesn't post you on FB is that privacy or secrecy?
when he checks all the boxes x.x we can only go up from here🎉🎉🎉
😂😂 for real
Once I was on a couple of dating apps and found so many men who didn’t respect my boundaries, and were not willing to go the extra mile and not willing to give me the princess treatment I’ve been realizing more and more lately that I truly deserve. Finally I decided that I needed to focus on myself and realize that while a man should add to your life. I don’t really who acts low value and I don’t need someone who won’t treat me like a queen.
I owe the knowledge that I’ve gained to Miss Lisa and her videos thank you so much for all the advice and the knowledge that I’ve gained from you God bless you✝️❤️💐👑🎀💋🍷💃
i cant say how much i love ur channel as a 16 yr old girl u unlocked my feminity that i always wanted! (Like being girly ) now im so fun and girly i love it!
Hey Lisa this is so spot-on and so helpful! This reminds of so much of my ex-boyfriend, who refuses to be a man and a provider. Thanks for the reminder that there are plenty of good provider men out there. I just need to be the best version of me, and my good provider man will show up and take good care of me. 🥰I appreciate your content as always, and I absolutely love your dress!
DiCaprio as a low value illustration 😂
Thats exactly what he is
I'm beginning to wonder if it's a cover for preferring men.
@@Mmmmkaaay I don't know maybe but there is something in his eyes that gives me a Harvey weinstein vibe. Wouldn't be surprised if we hear creepy things about him one day.
Wealth and fame =/= high value.
Totally agree. I don't understand why those women fell for him. Just because he was a good actor in Titantic so they thought he was a good man in real life? If he is not an actor, nobody gives a damn about him. He's short and a player. Not even handsome if you ask me. Conclusion: Being rich has advantages. This guy gives out creepy vibes that he is not a serious type. I wasn't even a fan in Titantic either. Just weird that those women were so naive.
GREAT comment!
Before you mentioned it in this video, I actually didn't know you have a man, Lisa. I like it that you keep things private and he's a hell of a lucky dude to be with someone like you, Lisa! You're beautiful, kind, feminine and intelligent. I am really happy for the two of you and I really wish you all the best, Lisa!
This video has come to me at the perfect moment. I've been wasting so many years of my life with a man who has so many of these...🤦♀I'm out! Thanks for the video!
You got this!
Exactly some days ago a guy asked me for a coffee date I said no I only accept dinner dates. He started saying if I’m hungry and all the low value men stuff. 🤮🤮
I don't get what's up with a coffee date for a first date? It's perfect for both to be able to sit and talk properly, rather than doing so between mouthfuls of food. If he won't pay for the coffee, you know there's no chance he's paying for dinner. I think coffee dates are the perfect first date to get to know the basics about someone.
No. Dinner or lunch dates. Some proper commitment. Vet guys before agreeing to go on a date in the first place. Don't just date all people.
Friends meet for casual coffee dates. Is that the tone to start with, casual? Or are you looking for something more serious and committed? It is okay to talk on the phone before agreeing to meet as well to get more info. Please ladies don't sell yourself short
@@mysweetpepper This is a person you've never met before I'm assuming? You may not even like them to want something serious? They may not like you. Going for dinner on the first date proves absolutely nothing that you or them are looking for something more committed.
Coffee isn't selling yourself short, it's putting yourself in a situation where there is no pressure on either person. It's a comfortable environment and it's easy to get away from if you decide you don't like their company.
Dinner - You may end up talking with spinach stuck in your teeth. It's more awkward to leave early if you want to as there's probably another course of food coming. And just because he pays for it even on a first date - it's a sweet gesture but it proves nothing.
Coffee dates as first and/or second dates. If they go well and you both like each other, then dinner is next.
@@mysweetpepper exactly.
Great video
Glad you discussed redflags
Such as gaslighting,insulting behaviour.i have met men like this in the past
One even yelled at me in public so humiliating
I ended the relationship immediately
Glad that channel like yours is rising standard for all ladies around the world. Sometimes girls get stuck with Low Value man and their confidence is destroyed so they can't seem to get out that relationship. Keep it up Lisa, keep teaching all the ladies!
I’m so glad that my videos can help women see their worth! 💖
Feminine is a POWERFUL energy. SHAKTI
These are all great points! This is probably the only video you ever need to watch to sift a situationship from a relationship 😅
Duh I need to watch this like 10x to finally lose that crush I have on a low value man that is literally ticking ALL the boxes 😅
You know, I thought I met the one and fell head over heels.
He ticked some of these red flags. Thank you for the guidance. 🙏
Amazing video Lisa, I hope you will write a book one day with all your knowledge and wisdom. I will immediately buy it !
Hi Lisa! Could you do a video with your point of view about the stress and the emotional instability that women go through after such an experience with a low value male? Most women tend to get extremely depressed and question themselves and their self worth, thinking there is something wrong with them and no woman should ever feel like that! Thank u! ❤
The power of masculinity is very important. If he is not desciplined, confident and mature don't waste your time. There are many immature guys out there who just really needs to grow up. On their own time ladies.. Not on yours.
Hi Lisa, great video! ❤Would you ever consider making more videos on how to be elegant/feminine while you are already married or in a long term relationship? A lot of your advice is for dating, which is great but sometimes hard to apply when you are married 😅
I'm married, it's not hard to apply real men love the challenge.
@@ThePinkPantha21 Of course. I just thought it would be interesting to have more content on the topic, and it would be a great way for Lisa to broaden her audience 😊
This is so perfectly explained and summarized. You have helped validate decisions I have made with "good" men that some friends may have questioned, and you have helped me finally identify the flaws I missed in some of the others. Thank you 💖
Another one is a man threatening to leave you at every inconvenience or that tells you to tak3 your things and get out of his house. This happened to my sister and I was in shock because then he would come back crawling and beg for forgiveness. Absolutely disgusting.
This has been the MOST helpful video yet!! I love how right you are about it all! 🎉 Please more like this! ✨🤗
Always looking forward to your next outfit…❤❤❤ from Nigeria 🇳🇬
Thank you Lisa, that was so helpful🥰
that dress is so pretty
You are so wise. I just recently subscribed and i have gained so much ❤❤❤
Who doesn’t want to put their efforts like picking you up or picking a place that near your place.
I would go on a trip like you had planned for the Almafi coast in Italy. 🌹🌹
💖love love love your videos! Can you review the light and dark feminine energy in the movie The other Boleyn Girl !
Very good advice! Good job !
Lisa is always snapping me out of my wounded feminine moments ❤🥹
Girl you look like a barbie ❤
Thank you Lisa 🤍🤍🤍
Love you girl ❤
I have to ask where is the shirt and skirt from? You look absolutely stunning! 🥰🩷
Question is..where to find such man.
What I am learning is that most men are providers innately what activates their masculine is your true feminine energy, what Lisa is teaching.
Yep good question. She seems to say that men will pursue a woman they’re interested in, but I have only encountered extremely low effort men for years.
@@AmyB369 The key is to self focus on other interests which activates your feminine energy. Especially if they involve things like dance, taking a course in an interest of yours, relaxing at the spa, self care ect. Remember self care isn’t after care! This will naturally draw high value men like a magnet because they are attracted to a woman with high self value.
Polo matches!🏇
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Focus on you and he'll find you.
I wish I had known this years ago. I’ve never met such a wonderful man. I know they are out there though 💗
The only thing you need to do is to LISTEN to your intuition 🎉 you feel off you leave thats it
This what I experienced to my husband.we have different in culture. He is European and I am Asian. He doesn't want to go with me if I ask him to the City or if ever I'm going to meet my friends. but if he likes to visit his friends its okay even I couldn't speak there language. And he is not happy I make friends and many more he doesn't like. And I am not happy he is older than me too.
Why he likes to visit his friends but he don’t let you visit your own friends? That’s very red flag right now. He is dangerous you are blind to his hidden red flag.
Do not let he control your life. That’s very serious here because he think he can do whatever he want but you can’t do whatever you want. Not safe for you in reality life. You need to get out fast!
Men who say 'I'm not going to chase you, I don't have to impress you, I'm looking for an independent woman, I'm looking for a woman who has her shit together.' So many...lol I could write a book after dating lames! haha And now that I'm wiser, I'm not going out on any date as 99.9% give me a red flag before the date happens. Screwed either way!
Well said
my father and brother are 100% green flag🥰❣
I recently broke up with a man who displayed all of these signs.. what is interesting is that to begin with (first 2 months) he acted high value and then after holidays together transformed…. Is this common / anyone else experienced this sort of thing ? I keep thinking i acted in a way that changed his behaviour towards me.. at the same time, he was immature in many ways (silent treatment/ not knowing what he wants despite being v successful in his career…)
No Darling, if he changed after 2 months that is absolutely not your fault. It is often a sign of narcissistic behavior or tendencies, that make them pretend to be amazing in the beginning for you to be hooked on them. And then afterwards show their true face. Make sure to take your time when you get to know someone !
@@Lisaglamour thank you for your reply ☺❤
Well…. I guess I never even met someone 1/4way decent then. Definitely getting a therapist. 💔🥀😢
I love your video
❤❤❤perfect
I wish I had seen this video earlier 😅
men like these days are really really rare like 5% maybe
16:00 I've come across these problems myself, and it'll just be really helpful if u gave a few tips on how to deal with it because I literally stumble upon these so many times that idk what the right course of action is for myself anymore, how to respond how to react how to change this
Ofc don wish to change the person infront at that moment bcz then I'd tell them u never spend time with me
But that is not the way I wish to handle it, if I am respecting my worth i cannot say that
Never met a man with all of these or most of these traits and I’m a high value woman.
I have a question me being a man sometimes when I’m out with my girl, I like to make jokes not about her appearance but when we’re out and she talks, I say what and then she keeps going and I say ever. I do it in a joking manner, but seeing this video, should I stop? She hasn’t mentioned anything that bothers her. I always like to cheer her up and make jokes. Any tips on what I should do?
Every relationship has different dynamics. you’ve gotta trust her to tell you if she doesn’t like it, if you see it as cheering her up and she isn’t bothered there isn’t any reason to stop. If you feel worried ask her how she feels about it :)
IF she says she doesn't like it and it's hurting her, STOP
Men want to be treated like the girlfriend they should look for another guy
What if he is very generous with his money even at his low level but Not with his emotions.
What does that mean?
He doesnt pressure for sex either ever.
Whats the name of the movie of Jennifer lopez ?
How I met your mother episode I think
Many men huh? I have not met a man in years that put in effort
@@AmyB369 same here
Ussss
Maybe you have a bad pattern of how you choose. Trauma in childhood? That could be a cause
I think seeking attention and always making everything about THEM and how they felt rather than caring about how you feel too, and not wanting to solve the actual problem but keep complaining and then going with silent treatment is a massive red flag, this would always make you feel like your feelings dosen't matter and only his matter, and you're always in the circle of trying to satisfy him, literally men like this are kids!!!
When a man dosen't want to communicate the problem with you until you find the right solution to it and how it won't happen again but just runs away from it is a big red flag.
And when he dosen't put in the effort to take you on a date or even text you, but just keeps posting provocative things here and there and expect you to talk first like are you 🧔🏻♀️???? And then when he texts you he hits you with "why aren't you asking about me" like SHUT UP!!!
Also a man who's always pointing out on small things and wanting to text you and know what you're doing 24/7 and not respecting that you have your own resposabilities to handle and then he feels intimidated by you because you put more effort than he does is a huuuuuge red flag for me at least.
Thank you so much lisa for this video i learnt so many things and it opened my eyes to what's been happening with me lately, and made me reflect, deffinitly helped me❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love you , you looked so elegant in this video queen✨💋
What about single mothers and the 50/50 men? Should we expect them to pay for everything then? 😊
Absolutely ! Why would it be different 😘
@@Lisaglamour agree
If every low value man had a high value brother, father or ex-friend, they would say this:
Any man who cannot make responsible and stable decisions SHOULDN'T date at all.
No plans to see the girl, WHY ASK HER OUT?
If there's serious problems (or a questionable relationship) with family, she would get warn or told to dump him.
Selfishness and greed won't make a relationship last long.
No ambition and goals won't attract a girl
Male gold diggers ask such questions.
Asking for "doing the nasty" hastily is desperate for it!
commit to
Better off with a man regarding giving a gift.
If their was a word for fear of commitment and have unrealistic ideas of relationship, it would be used a LOT.
P.S. I don't know how half this message turn red, it just did. LOL
Babygirl do a review on It Ends With Us if you`ve seen it, 100% our niche 🥰🥰💖
so I'm here to see, what's stopping girls from reaching out to me? 😂
Hi, Lisa and all the ladies here in the comment section! I have a question and I want to ask your opinion. My boyfriend wants us to move to Italy for a better life, his job is kind of assured as my aunt s husband (they live there) is in the construction industry and my man likes that handy stuff. But I have no options there, I built a carreer here in our hometown that does not apply there. He is until know the best guy I ever had and he said we will live off his salary until I find something to do there. We have been together for 9 months and since the beginning he assured me that I am his future wife and mother of his children. But we are not married yet, he told me that he will decide when. He also has many high value man qualities except for a great financial status (that s why he wants us to move), but at the beginning he was very generous, until we moved together and shared costs. Would you go with him?
i have lived in italy. Where are you moving from. Would you consider moving there yourself? Do you speak italian. Research the country and your options there.
Do not move unless you are his wife. If he wants you to give up your life to start a new one with him, he should ensure your security with a marriage certificate first.
@@JayJay-wg5ex we are from Romania, I know Italian, I have been there 5 months with Erasmus Programme and I also visit often my aunt who lives there. But I never considered moving altogether.
I have been married over 20 years. Before I met my husband I had one serious relationship. He wanted me to leave my home, move in with him etc etc. He was also high value etc etc but I decided not to. We spoke of marriage but he had so much other stuff going on, the relationship would have been imbalanced from the start and women should always begin a relationship ahead and keep moving ahead in the relationship. We have way too much to lose, I just don't think it's worth it moving for men that's not your husband. When I married my husband I moved countries for him BUT he had resources (was a professional athlete) and so I was afforded much opportunity to give up my previous life to move. I wouldn't live with men as girlfriend cause they always gain more and I would never leave my created life as a girlfriend either. I have never met a person that it worked out for. I know I don't know everyone but you don't need to know many people to know something won't work out for most in similar situations 😂.
I did exactly the same thing I gave up my life, my friends, my family, and it didn’t work out after two years. My advice from a 68-year-old woman is don’t move there if he really loves you. He will move there and miss you and ask you to marry him and then move in, don’t do it before.😊
Does such men exist at all??
Yes there are many of them!
How long do we wait for intimacy? No one can agree!
Until marriage as God teaches us! :)
I'm not Christian/religious and I believe in waiting until marriage. It protects you, your sanity and your body.
Until a genuine and healthy emotional connection is established and is reciprocal
Delay and see if he is still interested and if you have a fight how does he respond , does he leave or stay to make it work. Does he have husband qualities he has proved with his behaviour
Do not reward low value men. You are making it harder for you, them, the next women. Everyone. Society. Please stop it.
1000%
omg you're like cr7's wife😳😍
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All these red flags are forbidden by Islam and warned against. Islam cares a lot about women in terms of relationships and the Prophet Muhammad described women as glass bottles due to their extreme delicacy and recommended treating them with kindness and gentleness. This was approximately 1444 years ago when the rest of the world doubted whether women were human beings. ❤
Funny that especially in muslim countrys men have the highest red flag scores.
Fgm, banned from driving, multiple wives bcs they see us as property, honour k!llings, forced hijabs, forced marriages to first cousins hmmmm idk nowadays
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better question; 🙋♀️ how can i get my current man to act right
Real
Choose a man that loves you more than you love him. Love and care for him less than he does.
@@basicinfo2022 that sounds toxic, I have a man who I can’t even tell if I love him more or he loves me more, but he doesn’t always do these actions in the vid amd yes I’ve talked to him about it but he doesn’t understand what to try differently :( I’d love some more advice tho lol
@Lauren-cy3vo it's important that you know he loves you way more because it's the man's role to propose and pursue you passionately and romantically without you having to force him to or taking on the man's role which is role reversal.
@@basicinfo2022 thank you I needed to hear that but why won’t he act like that? Ahhhh
Why am I repulsed by men who chase?
Cause you want to be in control 😂 real men chase, girly guys want to be chased. Choose a side and learn to be ok with it.
Because it's desperate energy. There is a difference between men that put in effort to show you they care v.s. a dog drooling over a bone
Daddy issues?
Lmao so every guy wants to have me meet his family but they don't show the other signs you listed 😅. So that means they just want to make their family and friends believe they have their life together because they are dating me 😅
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Go for marriage. Boyfriend/ girlfriend is a scam
Sounds good and straight out of a romantic movie but you can’t have everything. Inflation is on the rise, back in the 50s things weren’t as costly. I guess you can have a man who is a provider but he’ll not be as good looking or he might be very controlling. You don’t know if the man that provides for you can leave you later on and you’re left with nothing but kids. You have to be smart and strategize, the only that can save you is yourself.
Yep, I tick most of those boxes but I also have a chronic illness so I don't make the money to be a provider and money seems to be the biggest thing so yeah I don't know if it's even worth trying to date.
These men are not on earth I guess 😅
is this female redpill lmao
Is it his money is my money and my money is my money is a double standard js
Wow, amazing video lisa. I’m gonna go into an arranged marriage and can you please share on how to discuss the ‘virginity topic’ with a high value man? Should I not discuss that about me with him?
Can you please share your views on this topic and also sharing about the past relationship?
Lisa I wish one day you will reach 1 Million Subscribers very very soon 🥹🥹💗💗 and I am watching your videos since years ago and I wish you have a blessed week ahead
Yes. She is awesome ❤
sweatie, you are my own therapist.
Hi Lisa, I am just wondering how much you charge for 1 to 1 coaching?
Great video, Lisa. Thank you!
Such a lovely video, thank you Lisa ❤
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