7 Common Signs of Low-Value Men!

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  • @user-ol9bd5vp1x
    @user-ol9bd5vp1x 10 місяців тому +139

    I love the "Warps his opinion" point, I feel like it often goes overlooked. Especially younger and less experienced people tend to think that compatibility means having lots in common, but often relationships work out great when the two have differences to balance it all out!! My parents are very different but they are so compatible.

    • @puerry
      @puerry 10 місяців тому +27

      exactly, what matters most is that the most important values and core beliefs are the same. That's a must! But everything else like hobbies, likes, dislikes, even personality can be different, and sometimes people are actually more compatible when their partner is different from them (e.x. feminine vs masculine).

    • @user-ol9bd5vp1x
      @user-ol9bd5vp1x 10 місяців тому +2

      @@puerry this!!

  • @justnorthern
    @justnorthern 9 місяців тому +90

    I am a 21 year old girl born and raised a tom boy in northern Alberta Canada. I have not had much practise or desire to be a beautiful young lady but am starting to realize the beauty, and honour we have as women. I really appreciate how your videos are womanly, and how you embrace that and there is no shame, there is no shame in being a women.
    I have grown up feeling ashamed to be a women at times, and videos like yours are certainly helping to change that. We have to sit down, and separate what the world says a women is, what men say a women should be, and what God has said and made a women to be.
    My opinion has been changing in regards to what women really are. I am starting to realize a women is one of Gods most beautiful creations he has ever made, if we open our eyes and embrace our full potential.
    When you have a women who is honourable, has a pure heart before God, and a man who is manly and strong in character before God and you put them together in marriage, I think you have the most beautiful creation God ever made.
    It was great to hear you mention the Tates. They are indeed dangerous in my opinion to both the pure and vulnerable who might be looking for some type of leader, role model, or example of what a man should be or look like. We must be very wise when choosing our life love.
    Blessing to you Jasmyne in Jesus Christ!

  • @krissyhall2838
    @krissyhall2838 10 місяців тому +32

    Yess a guy talked to me for a year and said he just wanted to be friends.He would contact me everyday.I told him I don’t want to be friends I’m looking for a courtship commitment relationship (like his profile says)I said I don’t think we should be talking anymore.He said “Are you sure?”One time I asked him to call instead of text me all the time.He never considered my feelings on that and continued to text.He would send me audios of him singing worship music in the car...👀When I finally said I wish him the best and God Bless.He said “Forever?”like sir why do you still want to communicate when your not looking for a relationship with me!?Some guys just want you as a emotional place holder.

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +36

      Yes. Wants female attention without the commitment. Wants to feel desired… wants to feed off of your energy. Good for you for putting him in his rightful place and moving forward.

    • @paperroutedash
      @paperroutedash 9 місяців тому

      Wow that is soft

  • @Nadia-se2ev
    @Nadia-se2ev 10 місяців тому +24

    Totally unrelated, but lately I've done a "Friends" series rewatch, and i am a die hard fan of the relationship between Rachel and Ross (even tho i know how toxic they were). And now this "red flags video" has literally Ross as a thumbnail 😭
    You cant make this up hahahah

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +25

      He’s the most romantically toxic *and* recognizable male character I could think of haha.

  • @leafsleafsleafs2
    @leafsleafsleafs2 9 місяців тому +4

    you are a breath of fresh air, Jasmyne. I wish we could be friends in real life.

  • @gemsandpearlswithlove
    @gemsandpearlswithlove 10 місяців тому +7

    These are so important! Many women could save themselves a lot of heartache if they paid attention to these red flags!💕🎀

  • @naomililith9350
    @naomililith9350 10 місяців тому +5

    I am so glad to have found my fiance. After meeting him back then in school, having no contact for years he reached out, we met, got together 1 week after. We talked about marriage within a month of dating. A year later i got a proposal on our anniversary. Couple months after we moved together and plenty of years later still here and happy together. As soon as I graduate we will have a ceremony. (Due to financial reasons we did not sign the papers yet, but we know that we will as soon as possible) We're both orthodox christian and are looking forward to get married in a church too.

    • @noway165
      @noway165 9 місяців тому

      Have your talked to your priest about this?
      Perhaps he will want you two to be married on the next Sunday.

  • @lilyhendershot7495
    @lilyhendershot7495 10 місяців тому +7

    Also Jasmyne, can you do a video about places to get dresses and veils/scarves? Thanks so much! I thrift a lot but would love to get your input

  • @gerrimiller3491
    @gerrimiller3491 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for being so sweet & helpful here🩷I'm learning alot!!

  • @EmmanuellaArubi
    @EmmanuellaArubi 6 місяців тому +1

    I'm a teen, and these videos are soo helpful and inspiring 🤍

  • @washing_vinegar0332
    @washing_vinegar0332 10 місяців тому +3

    I love that Ross is in the thumbnail 😂

  • @bigbangengineer7686
    @bigbangengineer7686 4 місяці тому

    Positive comment for algorithm boost and bad vibes in the comments. This discourse always seems to prick the nerves of people for some reason. Keep up the great work 🎉😊

  • @SofeeYAH
    @SofeeYAH 10 місяців тому +2

    OMG the anxiety is sooooooo real

  • @HeptaLanguages
    @HeptaLanguages 9 місяців тому

    I just love your videos so much!

  • @amandabounsana9245
    @amandabounsana9245 9 місяців тому +1

    I send my daughter who's 15 your videos. Also because you're orthodox we're Catholic you share many of the same beliefs on marriage. Having grown up Southern Baptists they have very different standards and I had to reverse years of those ideas. So in short thank you❤

  • @NorasNarrative
    @NorasNarrative 10 місяців тому

    Thank you for another great video !

  • @johnceena3127
    @johnceena3127 8 місяців тому

    This is a really great video. UA-cam needs more creators like you. I would just make one comment on the whole redpill thing as someone who used to be quite redpilled. The reason why men get redpilled in the first place is because they fall into the belief that modern women are these depraved, somewhat evil creatures who will turn to depravity at the drop of a coin. This is obviously not true, but when your feed constantly displays positive reinforcement of this idea (street interviews outside nightclubs in Miami) the truth starts to become warped. Even Tate, the face of the red, does not think all women are hoes- he has said time and time again that he loves women very much, and not only in a sexual manner. I think 'low value men' generally do not understand the nuance. Yes, some depraved women cheat on their boyfriends at the drop of a hat. But there are also many wife quality women out there. The UA-camr Hamza used to be redpilled, and being a 'redpilled' man will involve you optimising your life to appeal to low quality women for casual sex. BUT what the redpill does do very well is help men to level up which will attract wife quality women (although they do it for more casual sex with more attractive women). Just some male insight. Keep up the good work.

  • @therealhaley
    @therealhaley 10 місяців тому +5

    As a single woman wanting a genuine leading man to be my husband one day; this. is. So. Good.
    How do you feel about men having female friends as a red flag or am i just a jelly(ous) (human)bean? 😬
    Byeee

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +12

      Im so glad you found this valuable!!
      That’s definitely a red flag to me. I wouldn’t want my husband to have any female close friends and I of course honor that, too - no male close-friends.

    • @therealhaley
      @therealhaley 10 місяців тому +1

      @JasmyneTheodora
      Yes, I thought the same! Clarity is everything. Thank you ! 💖

    • @zapiekanka161
      @zapiekanka161 10 місяців тому +1

      @@JasmyneTheodoraEven if these are childhood friends? I mean I’m a man with some male and female (but mostly male) friends which are like family for me. Which I know since ages and where I have no sexual interest whatsoever. For me it would be frightening to dump these people just for the jealousy of another person. I also wouldn’t dump my sister for that reason. If one truly loves his neighbour, then one never focusses on the body of strangers, because one also wouldn’t do that within his o her own family. So if your potential partner truly loves his neighbour as Jesus did, this shouldn’t be a problem. For me it would be a red flag if my potential partner is so insecure in me, because I think that’s a sign that (in my case she) is struggling with exactly this problem.

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  9 місяців тому +1

      There’s of course nuance involved with every “red flag”. Perhaps childhood friends would be fine but I’d personally take issue with my husband going out to dinner.. getting coffee.. hanging out alone a lot.. with a female friend. Also considering my husband and I were once “friends” and met in highschool. Haha.

    • @DeeDee-nj1xe
      @DeeDee-nj1xe 8 місяців тому +1

      We should be each other's best friend of the opposite sex. (My opinion)

  • @username00009
    @username00009 10 місяців тому +1

    ❤ #5

  • @FirstnameLastname-py3bc
    @FirstnameLastname-py3bc 7 місяців тому

    Do one for what a boy should look for lol

  • @dmitri1483
    @dmitri1483 5 місяців тому

    Red pill section😭😭😭

  • @agustinavillavicencio5412
    @agustinavillavicencio5412 9 місяців тому

    But what if i am the low-value girl?

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  9 місяців тому +2

      What would make you low-value?

    • @agustinavillavicencio5412
      @agustinavillavicencio5412 9 місяців тому

      @@JasmyneTheodora at the moment, i don’t have the right answer, but I’m dating a guy and we were dating for a year and maybe I’m upset because he didn’t want to formalize our relationship and that thing makes me think that I’m not the girl that he wants but then he tells me that he wants to be with me

    • @rosiexx8127
      @rosiexx8127 7 місяців тому +1

      Leave him, have real relationship with God, men don't make a move because women willing to give them free time without commitment. Don't idolize male attention, it will hurt you

  • @JessMan508
    @JessMan508 8 місяців тому +1

    How are Jordan Petterson and Joe Rogan right wing?

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  8 місяців тому +3

      I actually didnt say they’re right-wing, right-wingers just tend to like their podcasts

    • @JessMan508
      @JessMan508 8 місяців тому

      @@JasmyneTheodora but so do non-right wingers.

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  8 місяців тому +3

      I think most progressives dont like either of them, especially Peterson. I mean, Peterson works with Ben Shapiro.

    • @JessMan508
      @JessMan508 8 місяців тому

      @@JasmyneTheodora Does Petterson even make his political views public? Crazy how most progressives dislike a guy just because it's trendy.

    • @JessMan508
      @JessMan508 8 місяців тому

      I understand Shapiro but classifying Peterson and Rogan in the same category as Shapiro doesn't make sense.

  • @dragaivanovich6625
    @dragaivanovich6625 5 місяців тому

    Category: Useless advice😁

  • @Live-jk1pn
    @Live-jk1pn 9 місяців тому

    I'm not a Christian But you're an Orthodox Christian. It's weird. In America specifically Of course your mother is Ukraine, Russian or Eastern European countries and that's why you converted to Orthodoxy

  • @flashnimi
    @flashnimi 10 місяців тому +1

    I sure hope Rachel isnt supposed to be our role model

    • @HashtagAPI8
      @HashtagAPI8 10 місяців тому +8

      Rachel was quite a great character. She wasn’t perfect but she fought her way out of what was expected of her and built a good life for herself.

  • @ziiimt
    @ziiimt 10 місяців тому +3

    just started the video but i already know its gonna be great 🤭🫶🏽

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +2

      Ohhh ☺️☺️

    • @TruePathLiving
      @TruePathLiving 10 місяців тому

      Simp 😂

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +2

      Simping is only applied to romantic situations. This is just a sweet compliment.

    • @TruePathLiving
      @TruePathLiving 10 місяців тому

      @@JasmyneTheodora lol I was just teasing and using your simping analogy as an example. It was a joke lol

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому

      Oh haha it’s difficult to tell it someone is joking when not face to face

  • @mariaspanopoulou8493
    @mariaspanopoulou8493 10 місяців тому +467

    thank you for addressing the toxic "red pill" community!!!! many non christians compare them to godly masculinity, it's just unfair

    • @NorasNarrative
      @NorasNarrative 10 місяців тому +1

      the red pill is for sour people

    • @mariaspanopoulou8493
      @mariaspanopoulou8493 9 місяців тому +8

      @@AlexisMarie_97 do you even know him?? No orthodox christian man is red 💊

    • @refilwemotlhaga3748
      @refilwemotlhaga3748 6 місяців тому

      I have been hearing a lot about "the red pill" what is a red pill?

    • @hmmmnope2455
      @hmmmnope2455 6 місяців тому +7

      I'm a non Christian and I have never considered them close to godly masculinity. Nor have my other non religious friends. If anything it's quite the opposite

    • @PermanentHigh
      @PermanentHigh 6 місяців тому

      You don't like the Red Pill because it reveals the truth about female nature, modern women, and dating in 2024. Literally all the RP talks about can be independently observed as fact.

  • @lilyhendershot7495
    @lilyhendershot7495 10 місяців тому +63

    Jasmyne, I want to be your friend 😭 thank you for your phenomenal videos. I like the issues you addressed - since going to college, I have experienced pretty much each of these red flags in suitors. This is a good reminder to keep my standards high.

    • @empiricaltheory6650
      @empiricaltheory6650 10 місяців тому +3

      I want to be her friend too! 😭 We're so similar

  • @zoeirwin2857
    @zoeirwin2857 10 місяців тому +139

    Thank you for this video! I am dealing with a male acquaintance in my friend group right now with many of these crimson flags you mentioned. He always tries to push my boundaries even though I have made them verbally clear multiple times. I thought I was going crazy, and have been trying to convince myself to keep our friendship as to not disturb the group, but I don’t think it’s healthy to have him in my life anymore. This video helped me make that decision.

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +44

      Yes, girl. Honor your gut! And don’t forget to pray about it! xx

    • @zoeirwin2857
      @zoeirwin2857 10 місяців тому +9

      @@JasmyneTheodoraThank you!!

    • @d3rinsola
      @d3rinsola 10 місяців тому

      I’m in the same situation aswell; I felt I was the problem 🥲

    • @BriannaWalker14
      @BriannaWalker14 9 місяців тому +1

      Jasmyne, why was Andrew making Chad memes on Reddit 🤔🤣 must’ve missed out on that red flag

    • @kingiam9271
      @kingiam9271 2 місяці тому

      Were you thinking about dating him?

  • @Miss_Yusuf
    @Miss_Yusuf 10 місяців тому +85

    You’re right about some men not wanting commitment but female attention. Some of them are emotional users

  • @sally.g.
    @sally.g. 10 місяців тому +29

    I agree with you on all 🚩And I appreciate for including "red pill" and "manosphere" on the list. I think that's what you get when instead of God, you put yourself and your own selfish desires at the centre of your life.
    It's sad to see. I often wish I was already married so I wouldn't have to deal with dating :'-). I guess I have to pray and trust a bit more.
    Anyway, love your videos sister💛

  • @sanyuwatson6330
    @sanyuwatson6330 10 місяців тому +36

    This is great video for young women especially to look out for
    From a young woman myself 😂

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +14

      Yes, I could’ve used this info when I was a teenager!

  • @phoenixxsoul
    @phoenixxsoul 10 місяців тому +38

    Manipulation and controlling behavior are huge red flags. It's very difficult to deal with this side of someone, esp if they have a tendency to be "hot and cold" ie for some time he's showering you with romance and attention, and on some other days he's being unreasonably... unreadable. You don't understand why he's acting like that and you just feel that he's not being very honest, with himself or with you.

    • @eyeamphree3337
      @eyeamphree3337 2 місяці тому +1

      When people act hot & cold with you then you reject any advance they make rather positive or not. When you pick up on their patterns of playing on your emotions then show them nothing but numbness & indifference. Let the pranksters play themselves until they get tired & turn on each other ✌🏿

  • @mike-xk6qt
    @mike-xk6qt 8 місяців тому +49

    As a young man still growing this is a really helpful video

    • @Slavocean
      @Slavocean 5 місяців тому +6

      Kudos to you for searching and watching good content on the internet.

  • @mojyoqueen350
    @mojyoqueen350 10 місяців тому +22

    I guess my partner qualifies as a 100% husband material. He does every GOOD thing mantioned in this video + more.

  • @jemimajanvier4706
    @jemimajanvier4706 9 місяців тому +23

    I would love a video on how to flirt like a lady, and in general, hold conversation when a man is pursuing you. As someone who didn't have a lot of interactions with the opposite sex growing up, I find myself being very timid and self-conscious; especially when I know a man is interested in me. I know a lot of your videos have a marital lens, but I would love if you could broaden it to those of us who are dating. Love you content!

    • @afrofaeries
      @afrofaeries 5 місяців тому +1

      YES PLEASE

    • @jadexx1
      @jadexx1 2 місяці тому

      The best thing you can do is practice with random strangers. Compliment people, smiling, saying hello when u pass someone. And if a convo starts, continue it and practice. It'll be easier to practice with people who don't intimidate you and you'll start to feel like you can talk to anyone

    • @imanijx
      @imanijx Місяць тому

      yes please!!!

  • @anetka1377
    @anetka1377 10 місяців тому +69

    Hello. I really like your videos. I do unfortunately live in very secular country and finding a good christian man is extremly hard for me. I am slowly loosing hope in getting married, but I still want to have faith and be optimistic. I would really apreciate a video about cultivating femininity while being single (voluntarely or not) I guess I am not the only single woman on this chanel so it could be helpful for a lot of us! Thanks!

    • @sidology1.0
      @sidology1.0 10 місяців тому +4

      Are you in America? Because same

    • @anetka1377
      @anetka1377 10 місяців тому +4

      @@sidology1.0 no, I live in czech republic.

    • @zapiekanka161
      @zapiekanka161 10 місяців тому +3

      @@anetka1377I’m so sorry for you. Greetings from Poland. We are probably your most religious neighbor our languages and cultures are pretty similar. So maybe it could be a point for doing a exchange semester or internship over here :). But hurry up because there are more and more people becoming atheist or just culturally Christian, especially in Warsaw.

    • @zapiekanka161
      @zapiekanka161 10 місяців тому +5

      @@sidology1.0I think out of the western countries the US is still one of the most religious ones. Maybe after Poland, Italy, Romania or Greece

    • @friedawells6860
      @friedawells6860 9 місяців тому +1

      Have you considered Catholic Match? If you're really ready to get married, I think it would be a good option

  • @DinoKoprivanac-i7g
    @DinoKoprivanac-i7g 8 місяців тому +60

    Dude here.. I came in expecting to be met with shallow stupidity. I left feeling like i took my first breath of fresh air in a really long time.
    Thank you and keep it up!

  • @lucasley20
    @lucasley20 10 місяців тому +30

    What a timely video! I was just talking to my husband about the movie you showed at the beginning. Quality men, when they are ready, absolutely know what they want from their significant other!

  • @BIGARMADA1988
    @BIGARMADA1988 10 місяців тому +150

    I'm a guy, and I agree with pretty much everything you said in this video. I think the main problem with the Red Pill/Manosphere is something that comedian Andrew Schulz said on the Chris Williamson podcast almost a year ago. He basically says that the Manosphere used to be a light hearted funny space for men to talk about things in their life like dating, marraige, how to improve yourself and then in recent years it got infiltrated by a bunch of unfunny people who took the topics way too seriously, basically to the point where it's now the mirror version of modern day feminism for men. A lot of comedians used to talk about these things in a more light hearted way as a means to connect with other men similar to how women talk about their husbands around their friends, even on the days where you might get on each others nerves, you still love each other. While Modern day Feminism and Manosphere influencers have sort of turned the online space to talk about those issues into this male vs female oppression olympics to try and prove who has it worse instead of using it to try to get men and women to better understand each other.
    Sorry for the long post.

    • @puerry
      @puerry 10 місяців тому +20

      Noo this is good! These are all my thoughts exactly, I watch Galatea aka The Authentic Observer just like Jasmyne does and she points all this out, it is such a red flag and so toxic for men and women to fall into. This space is one of the few where Godly but sane normal people who aren't crazy woke feminists or cringe red pillers can come together and it reminds me there are still normal people left. Both men and women deal with so much in the world, but with the strength of God we can get through it all

    • @durhamrise6207
      @durhamrise6207 10 місяців тому +5

      Well said, I totally agree.

    • @princessbabyboo
      @princessbabyboo 9 місяців тому +3

      thank u for this comment !!

    • @SaiMan5793
      @SaiMan5793 9 місяців тому

      @@puerry you dont want to be woke? then you wont be, be careful what you attack. read what the bible says about wokeness

    • @SaiMan5793
      @SaiMan5793 9 місяців тому +2

      that is nonsense. the manopshere was never about joking about ,mens issues, oppression is not funny, i have listened to different redpillers since 2008, it was always about mens issues how the modern world is gynocentric. now i dont support or listen to most of them now because the white ones are racist. but i still listen to many black and brown men online, and they do help men. become aware and become better

  • @wuvbell
    @wuvbell 10 місяців тому +18

    I’m just 18yo but recently i’ve found nowadays it is really hard to find a ‘future partner’ at this age essentially men like you described, maybe waiting until i’m mid 20s is the right thing 😅?

    • @zoeirwin2857
      @zoeirwin2857 10 місяців тому +7

      I understand where you’re at. I am 16 so I’m not ready to date yet, but the guys at my school are nothing close to what I’m looking for. There’s a guy trying to pursue me at the moment with a lot of the traits mentioned in the video. I hope in time men will mature.

    • @lilyhendershot7495
      @lilyhendershot7495 10 місяців тому +8

      Some big sister advice as a 20 year old: I’m glad I dated and had some of the bad experiences I did because I learned a lot of hard lessons, but honestly, it’s wise to wait to date until your a bit older. I’ve recently realized I have a lot of personal things to work through and things I want to learn before finding a partner. That’s not to say you can’t grow and improve in a relationship, but singleness is also a huge gift. Use that time wisely. At the same time, though, keep your mind open and pray about your relationship status. The Lord will direct you. Peace be with your spirit 🤍

    • @whenyouwishuponastar6643
      @whenyouwishuponastar6643 10 місяців тому +4

      Dating at 18 will be different than dating in your mid or late 20s. You can certainly take your time. My advice is don’t entertain or date men you know isn’t right. Keep your options open until you find someone who it seems you could have a real relationship with.

    • @annamojzisova9
      @annamojzisova9 10 місяців тому

      I started dating my husband at 16 (he was a year and something older). While he wasn't 'the future partner' back then (didn't see value in marriage etc) I saw a lot of potential and was able to guide him to mature in the right direction. I would look at the relationship of his parents/in his family in general. If those are healthy and working I would be more forgiving with 'modern' flaws. From my experience these people adapt their behaviour once they realize that what they want (because they saw it at home and value it) is not achievable by the way of life society tries to trick you into.

    • @friedawells6860
      @friedawells6860 9 місяців тому

      Honestly, there is a TON of maturing that happens between age 18 and age 22. Unless you meet someone who is truly exceptional, I would say don't date any 18, 19 or 20 year old men. I think it would be good to sort of put dating on the back burner until you're like 21 and develop good habits and virtue in yourself instead (studying scripture, eating healthy/cooking for yourself, exercising regularly, all great stuff to work on at age 18).
      By 21 or 22 you might also be more ready to seriously date for marriage. Getting into a relationship at 18 with another 18 or 19 year old means a really long courtship where you're going to be really tempted to fornicate, so not ideal :/

  • @dorcasmacmillian8450
    @dorcasmacmillian8450 10 місяців тому +22

    The "wants to jump in bed" part is something a deal with all the time😅. There was this guy i talked to and i told him about my principals, he was nice to me and everything, but the guy started to be a little bit too intimate and sadly i fell for it. After he got what he wanted he blocked me😢. I felt used, however i blame myself. Thank goodness this only happened online and not in real life, cuz he would literally destroy my life😂. Thanks for the video tho❤

    • @LeeFlowers1995
      @LeeFlowers1995 10 місяців тому +9

      God bless you, I know someone who went through something very similar, I hope you don’t dwell on those moments too much because if you always worry about the past you’ll never have time to plan for your future. Hope it was more so character development for you

    • @feyzacelik723
      @feyzacelik723 9 місяців тому +7

      Sending so much love and compassion to the parts of you that have feelings bubbling up from being used so horrendously! ❤

    • @jadexx1
      @jadexx1 2 місяці тому +3

      Never send nudes and don't try to start something with someone who doesn't live in your city

    • @eyeamphree3337
      @eyeamphree3337 2 місяці тому +2

      U sound unhinged & need med 🤷🏿‍♀️ move on

  • @thecoyote9866
    @thecoyote9866 10 місяців тому +12

    A Man who pushes for commitment such as Marriage from the start may sound good in the mind or fairytales but in reality it’s received as clingy and creepy.

    • @Florida_gyrl
      @Florida_gyrl 9 місяців тому +1

      Yes! It can also be a red flag!

  • @jessicahitchens6926
    @jessicahitchens6926 5 місяців тому +2

    Men lie.... to get what they want. And they don't even know what they really want. They get caught up in the infatuation stage. You have to be a detective to see what a man is actually after.

  • @9lovemedo
    @9lovemedo 9 місяців тому +29

    My biggest red flag is a mommy’s boy or a boy to attached to his mom or a mom to attached to the guy your are dating. I would NEVER pursue a relationship further if that was present.

    • @audwan4
      @audwan4 7 місяців тому

      I agree. Never again.

    • @kingiam9271
      @kingiam9271 2 місяці тому +2

      Facts, coming from a man, that's not a man. Love and respect your mom but some men refuse to grow up and it's thanks to mommy.

    • @imanijx
      @imanijx Місяць тому +1

      Yep!! Never again! Mine was a mummy's boy AND red pill. I've learnt!!

    • @afrofaeries
      @afrofaeries Місяць тому

      Agreed. Its fine if you respect your mother and your parents in general, but if you’re obsessed to the point where you idolize and put her above any woman you meet, that’s a phase you have to grow out of.

  • @Kirollus
    @Kirollus 9 місяців тому +4

    God says to flee from lust. If the guy is causing you to even consider bending your values then get out of there asap!

  • @ayushmitachakraborty3414
    @ayushmitachakraborty3414 10 місяців тому +11

    Hey Jasmyne.. are you comfortable sharing your age when you were dating your husband & also your age when you got married? I'll appreciate it. If you're not comfortable doing so please leave it. And girl.. I loved this video.. 💗

  • @James.PraisesChrist
    @James.PraisesChrist 9 місяців тому +12

    as a man I have to be honest, I just found out that there's actually a feminine woman trying to help women. much respect to you for doing this.
    also as a man, I have to agree with these points. these are true. he is not low-value though. he is just lost.
    the red pill community section is something I disagree with but also agree kind of.
    it's mostly meant to be about men improving their lives and becoming more masculine which is great.
    There is one problem with it...
    lord Jesus isn't mentioned enough which leads men to worship these self improvement UA-camrs who yes give great advice but are not your god or a god in anyway shape of form. you should respect them and just respect them. (for men who may see this)
    that is the only problem I've personally found with the ''red pill''
    everything else is correct what you said jasmyne.
    praise god.

  • @gregcoogan8270
    @gregcoogan8270 10 місяців тому +15

    Glad to see this advice being shared. One thing I would add though, many of things she talked about, one will not know all of them, unless you spend time with each other. You will not learn about another person 5 seconds after meeting them. Obviously, if they are giving off a negative vibe that is immediately obvious, then yes you'll know something right away. I see way too many women immediately reject a guy and give him no opportunity to fully reveal himself to her. Spending time does not mean any commitment, it just means spending time and not making a decision about him a few seconds after meeting him.

  • @elainelee4828
    @elainelee4828 10 місяців тому +17

    Great video, well articulated. I will have my now 7 yo daughter listen to it when she is a preteen

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +4

      Im honored ☺️ thank you very much

  • @ythatesfacts
    @ythatesfacts 10 місяців тому +12

    Granted there is one that I had as a guy and I want to elaborate
    Not going to church till she convinced me
    I had a long history with the church to the point where I would just stop going altogether, when I posted my history about it online they sided with the elders and made my story feel insignificant.
    1. Elders were aholes (my dad was on the elder board and they would make decisions without him, which led him to withdrawing from the elder board)
    2. Sexism (the elders wouldn't recognise my mom whenever she voiced her opinion but would go to the next guy who voiced the exact same opinion and credit them)
    3. No relations/gray audience (Hardly anyone is gen z with most being boomers or silent gen making it increasingly difficult to connect and relate with people, despite my dad thinking it's not.)
    4. Frequent snoozing (I don't know if it's the temperature or the pastor sounding so boring but I frequently even as an adult found myself struggling to stay awake during my (now late, may God rest his soul) pastor's sermons. Only to be rudely jabbed in the head by fingers or an elbow)
    5. Elders don't give a _ (when I was sick my mom would allow me to go back and watch the sermon from the TV or just in general to quarinteen myself away from others. Turns out they have no chill when it comes to people skipping the worship service as they play like turincy officers)
    When I vented this to my gf she brought to light to not focus on that even though it happened, God will judge them. What is more important is that we build our foundation on God. That's when I started going to church again. She has helped fill a lot in which I feel so indebt to God for.

  • @tahirah6
    @tahirah6 9 місяців тому +13

    I love the way she talks. She is very well spoken

  • @Brody-Aleksander
    @Brody-Aleksander 10 місяців тому +6

    Great Video, I dont watch all your videos let alone comment on the ones that I do, as Its not for me, but I just wanted to say this video was great (I either make it to the end of video or within the first minute realize its not for me, I will try to be more careful in the future judging by titles so as to avoid leaving your vids a minute in and hacking the algoriddim)

  • @enya0813
    @enya0813 9 місяців тому +7

    Hi Jasmyne I hope you and your family are well :) I was hoping you would consider talking about how a woman could mature before becoming a mother specifically, based on your experience. Thank you for providing your perspectives on so many topics I appreciate it!

    • @pxcepeda
      @pxcepeda 9 місяців тому +1

      I second this!!!

  • @jessicahitchens6926
    @jessicahitchens6926 5 місяців тому +1

    I hate the sliding into your DMs terminology. Its highly suggestive and essentially means= sliding into your kitty cat. Or trying to... Young women must be so damaged from all this tripe.

  • @jimatreidēs
    @jimatreidēs 10 місяців тому +9

    Thank you for providing such excellent advice to young women out there!

  • @Yaslove001
    @Yaslove001 10 місяців тому +7

    Waited for that one, I enjoy watching your videos during my self care Sunday.
    Also the veil looks lovely on you !

  • @Cultivatecrochet
    @Cultivatecrochet 9 місяців тому +4

    I’ve been discovering orthodoxy this past year from my future son-in-law, and I just found your channel. I’ve been watching a few of your videos. Thank you so much for explaining everything easily. 😊

  • @tihtina3839
    @tihtina3839 10 місяців тому +7

    Looking great with your scarf on ❤

  • @ammonite400
    @ammonite400 10 місяців тому +12

    I love ross in the thumbnail lol ur so right girl

  • @TysonMakoaWickes
    @TysonMakoaWickes 5 місяців тому +2

    As a young man seeking marriage, this video has provided me very clear insight! Thank you very much Jasmyne Theodora, very articulate! Thanking the Lord for finding this video.

  • @memeitall6505
    @memeitall6505 7 місяців тому +3

    Amen to the RP ideology. My spouse has been watching for a while. It’s no different than if I watched Ricki Lake, Jerry Springer, or one of those shows that bashed men all the time. My view on men would be thwarted. Same happens when you watch those dating shows like Kendra G. You’re view becomes thwarted. He called me a feminist.
    He just told me again that if I have my own point of view then I need to be single. When we have a difference of opinion, he tells me that I’m not on his page. He says I’m never on his page. And it could be over absolutely nothing. A show on UA-cam that we watch. Or my opinion about something trivial. I’m a few years older than him and make more, which was fine when we got married. Now it’s an issue for him. After hearing some of the RP content, I think he regrets marrying me to be honest. I think he wishes he had chosen younger and someone who made less.
    I don’t care about the amount I make and I don’t throw it up with pride. We all live off if both of our incomes.
    I just don’t know what else to do. I think he’s thinking of leaving me.

    • @phoenixxsoul
      @phoenixxsoul 2 місяці тому +2

      Praying for things to be better for you 🤍 and/or that your husband leaves the manosphere and realizes how hateful and ridiculous it is

    • @afrofaeries
      @afrofaeries Місяць тому

      How are things now? Are you alright?

  • @JohnnyWalkerBlack142
    @JohnnyWalkerBlack142 9 місяців тому +9

    I aspire to be a great Christian man, future husband and father!

    • @eliaslopez-tb2hi
      @eliaslopez-tb2hi 9 місяців тому

      Me too

    • @patdo4452
      @patdo4452 8 місяців тому

      The fact that you are on this channel, listening and learning, shows you are on the right track! The best thing you can do is grow your relationship with the Lord and model His love for people. God bless
      Ephesians 5:25-27
      Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it to make it belong to God.

  • @sapphirespalace2549
    @sapphirespalace2549 10 місяців тому +4

    please can you tell me how you went through deliverance? I really wanted to restore my sexual purity

    • @elsieawuor2710
      @elsieawuor2710 10 місяців тому

      1 John 1:9
      [9]If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
      1.Simply go before the Lord in prayer, repent of your sexual sin and ask for forgiveness, then ask that he may purify you and restore you to the person he created you to be.
      DO NOT rely on how you feel: guilt, shame, self-disgust. Rely on God's word, if he says you are forgiven then you are forgiven. The feelings will adjust with time.
      2. Spend quality time with God in prayer and Bible reading daily, start slow, with time your desire for daily devotion will grow and you will look forward to that time with Christ daily 😊
      3. It helps to confess your sin to an older or more mature believer that you can trust. One who can pray for you and give you wise godly counsel.
      4. Be patient, some sins are quite entangling and some of us may fall again and again before we find freedom. Take each fall as a lesson, study what led you to compromise, repent and keep moving. Keep your focus on Christ, getting to know Him more and spending more time with Him. He'll do the rest. You will find the deliverance you seek in Him.

  • @alecarrasquillorivera
    @alecarrasquillorivera 9 місяців тому +2

    its Ross in the thumbnail for me😂😂

  • @MrMiki0082
    @MrMiki0082 7 місяців тому +2

    True words! Very good! Keep doing what your doing!

  • @miho5752
    @miho5752 8 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for this great video 🙏🏻
    I would like if you use maby not every time music in sour videos
    It is way more better to focus on the video and your helpful advices 💕💕💕

  • @anon0268
    @anon0268 10 місяців тому +1

    What you also need to clarify is that having a boyfriend/girlfriend is considered fornication.
    We are looking for people to marry, not date. Pastor Richard Lorenzo goes deeper into it

  • @carlashupe3348
    @carlashupe3348 26 днів тому

    Jasmyne you are such a beautiful young lady!

  • @ogreachiever989
    @ogreachiever989 9 місяців тому +1

    Can you please do a video on your thoughts about Shera seven AKA sprinkle sprinkle I’d literally pay for your opinion ‼️

  • @emceeking5959
    @emceeking5959 7 місяців тому +1

    I am a man and i'll note them down. God bless you sister

  • @Kie143life
    @Kie143life 9 місяців тому +2

    This was refreshing and informative.

  • @ajax1786
    @ajax1786 9 місяців тому +1

    You are such a beautiful woman, MashaAllah

  • @jcqwater8713
    @jcqwater8713 10 місяців тому +1

    hahaha kinda laugh that it was ross in the thumbnail 😄 chandler made really good development

  • @elzamikelsone9507
    @elzamikelsone9507 10 місяців тому +1

    Hi! I have some questions (peacefully, in a curious way). You mentioned with the red pill that they are dominating, aren't men supposed to be the dominant ones in masculine/feminine relationship? Along sexual self control, do feminine non religious women also have to have sexual control all the time in regards of self pleasure?

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +5

      And as for “dominance”… you shouldn’t feel dominated by your husband in your marriage. You should feel lovingly led by him. There’s a pretty big difference.
      As for sexual self-pleasure, as a Christian, I believe it to be a sin in all cases.

  • @lookatyoustrawberrybrunette
    @lookatyoustrawberrybrunette 9 місяців тому +1

    So basically dont marry a Wickham

  • @everlynenganga781
    @everlynenganga781 6 місяців тому

    Thank you Jasmyne for this insightful video. In all honesty I didn't think about manipulation from a potential partner until now. God truly bless you and your family ever so abundantly for the enormous efforts you take to make femininity such a joy. Although I am inclined to ask; in my tribe, men term marriage as introduction to parents enough ground to term a relationship as a marriage a they prepare to proceed with dowry. In my opinion, marriage was created by God and I wouldn't want to move in with anyone before that happens. My partner supports the tradition while I don't. How would you go about that? And what if he keeps mentioning that the woman's place is in the kitchen?

  • @laurenfaith4800
    @laurenfaith4800 6 місяців тому

    I am 17 years old, growing up in a family with very demoralized and a mother operating out of masculinity. She has provided for our family, became the decision-maker, etc etc etc... With that example I grew up hyperindependently, not letting people open doors for me, falling for weaker men with sexual expectations and me behaving like a mother in the forefront. This also caused me to reject my walk with God, identifying myself as agnostic/spiritual in order to mask my faith in a higher being. I think I have not only refined my desires in a relationship, but I have gotten to a point where I can get over my rejection of Christ, allowing me to fully dive into my relationship with God.
    I want to thank you for your videos because they are providing a great guide for me as I truly unlock my true femininity and my role as one of God's children.

  • @baharmm3695
    @baharmm3695 10 місяців тому +1

    finally, the Turkish subtitle was created❤

  • @ariannam.9360
    @ariannam.9360 2 місяці тому

    thank you so much for your little disclaimers regarding terminology and youtube algos. I love that you always say exactly what you mean and how you define a term instead of assuming mutual understanding it is so refreshing

  • @htttppppp
    @htttppppp 7 місяців тому

    I understand that this is off topic by thanks for explaining the Chad and soyjack meme as I am totally oblivious what they mean and it’s probably because I come from a different country and therefore a different context plus I am 48 so no wonder.

  • @mayaday8538
    @mayaday8538 3 місяці тому

    This was great...going off topic (sorry). How often or in what situations do you wear your head covering?

  • @friedawells6860
    @friedawells6860 9 місяців тому +1

    The movie clips were really well placed to illustrate your point!

  • @Bearsef
    @Bearsef 4 місяці тому

    I’m here for the Ross Gellar smack talk

  • @kumagaikatsuya4921
    @kumagaikatsuya4921 8 місяців тому

    The only potential problem with your list is the fact of most women, in Orthodoxy at least, are freakishly scared of commitment. Maybe I've just not been around the right girls, but the ones I've run into are scared. I only date with an interest in marriage after getting to know the girl well enough that I feel she would be a good wife. But so many girls seem incapable of commitment. Coming from places of trauma, some of them, but otherwise...I mean to say, wat.

  • @meganoreilly895
    @meganoreilly895 5 місяців тому

    Should a lack of income deter you from investing in a relationship?

  • @jessicas.4552
    @jessicas.4552 5 місяців тому

    you should discuss finances, goals and expectations before saying yes to a man.

  • @oliviaxyz2087
    @oliviaxyz2087 10 місяців тому +2

    what do u mean by stand up from the table when she stands up to use the bathroom? x

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +7

      It’s an act of respect. A gentleman standing up when a lady stands and leaves the table. xx

    • @oliviaxyz2087
      @oliviaxyz2087 10 місяців тому

      ​@@JasmyneTheodora so he is supposed to stand up at the same time that i do, wait for a few seconds til i disappear, and then sit down again?:)

    • @JasmyneTheodora
      @JasmyneTheodora  10 місяців тому +7

      He should sit back down when she leaves the table. Then he should stand up again when she returns to sit. This is considered “dining etiquette”. Such a lost art!

    • @oliviaxyz2087
      @oliviaxyz2087 10 місяців тому

      @@JasmyneTheodora ahhhhh thats beautiful

  • @penttimuhli9442
    @penttimuhli9442 9 місяців тому

    Phew, thought I might be one of those really low value men but didn't rate too bad. But then there is always room for improvement. End of the day it will all come down to how God sees us

  • @jessicas.4552
    @jessicas.4552 5 місяців тому

    You should discuss finances before saying yes to a man.

  • @Seraphim7
    @Seraphim7 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so Much for this Video!!! Glory to God ❣️
    Wise Counsel & Godly Truths which is the Truth.💯💯

  • @Missnoemit
    @Missnoemit 9 місяців тому

    May I share something because I love it and is not common, but the times I was sent really wonderful messages through social media, and they arent many, were from men of God and their first messages they were clear they wanted marriage, i feel excitment to receive such messages, even if it doesnt workout! The man that sends a long, well written message and shares he wants marriage has my attention! Nowdays is so common to get messages one doesnt feel inspired to answer!
    Love your videos!🙏💜

  • @worldadventuretravel
    @worldadventuretravel 4 місяці тому

    What's "RW" and what's a "soyjack?"

  • @LandinhaCortez_e
    @LandinhaCortez_e 10 місяців тому +1

    I do neeeded this video ❤️

  • @rikki_hwang
    @rikki_hwang 8 місяців тому

    Thanks to one UA-camr I found out about your channel. This video is so informative!❤

  • @boskoromanic7425
    @boskoromanic7425 9 місяців тому

    Good vid. Let's now do one but adress all this same ... but about women. 👍

  • @upmajo
    @upmajo 7 місяців тому

    she doesn't know she's my best friend

  • @mariannacoomes1094
    @mariannacoomes1094 10 місяців тому +1

    Wow, this is so good. 💗

  • @EvaVas03
    @EvaVas03 9 місяців тому

    Love it also men find purpose in helping out there women.