Real Life Footage of the Actively Dying Phase
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2024
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00:00 Intro
00:21 Non-Peaceful Death
00:56 Trigger Warning Non Peaceful Death Footage
01:14 Explanation
Thanks again, Julie. I'm actually the one who's dying. Early stages (untreated cancer, I've made it 13mos) , I'm still ambulatory, not incontinent yet, and actually eat something from time to time! But sharing your stuff with my friends/fam tells them what to expect later on. It helps them as much as anything can, I suppose. Keep doing this. People need to know.
The Lord be with you AMEN.
Unreal. I tried to wish you well and the site removed my post
Bless you on your journey.❤
May Peace and comfort be yours and your family's and friend's. May angels carry you gently into eternal life. Katy retired hospice chaplain.
You sound like a very resilient and special person. My mum never accepted her cancer and she became instantly depressed and withdrawn from diagnosis until she passed and it was like she had already left me. God bless you x
Thanks to the family for allowing you to educate us with real videos. And sorry for their loss.
Best comment ever!! As a hospice nurse, I love this!!! The family deserves so much respect for sharing this! And to be appreciated for this. Such a blessing!!
I agree. Such a beautiful and loving gesture, made even as they are losing a loved one. I am also sorry for their loss.
Great comment ❤
Indeed
Well said. God bless the family
This was too painful to watch. This was my mother in February of this year. I stayed with her until she died. Thank you to the family for sharing this footage with the world.
@@baigish100 I am so sorry for your loss.
@@baigish100 same here, 2 years ago. I’m glad I watched this though because this whole time I thought my mother was gasping for air and choked to death. I’m so relieved this is normal and it looked exactly like this. Sorry for your loss
Sorry for your loss ❤
In less than 11 minutes, you've taught the general public, more than what I got in the classroom. My first day in trauma, my first hour, I experienced my first death. Was tough. I never really got to witness the natural process, until much later. In my experience, most of the time, it's not a struggle for the dying person, but it's especially hellish, for the family. You and this family are to be commended. You've provided something wonderful in this experience. 👍
@@orbs1062 agree, I’ve been there for my grandmother, mother, and father’s death at elderly ages. All of them went thru this. It was really difficult and it bothered me a lot… even to this day. However, after watching this - it brought some understanding and comfort as to what took place.
As a caregiver I cared for several family members. While caring for my mother, I climbed in her bed, sat up behind her, rapped my arms around her and told her that she could go, that she raised us well, that we would be alright and that we all loved her very much. Shortly thereafter she took her last breath. It was such an honor to be able to be there for her. She was an angel on earth, now she's an angel in heaven. Love, from S. California.
You just made me cry, you gave your mother the best of you in her worst time and gave her peace. I’m a mom of six , two of them are gone and the three turned their backs on me , only one stayed. And there’s not a day that I don’t pray for their safety and peace in their lives. I hope that when my time comes to go that they will be there for me like you did for your mom. If not, I hope God will just take me quietly . You were a blessing to your parent may God bless you always.
I have no doubt that she heard you & your soothing, loving voice helped with her peaceful passing. You sound like a wonderful daughter & I’m sure she was an amazing mother who is still watching over you now. Thank you for sharing. 💜
@@glennarussell4682 this is such a beautiful story! Clearly she did raise you well, and with your sweet words, she was assured it was ok for her to go. Because she loved and trusted you, and because she was safely enveloped in your arms.
I told both my mom and dad that they were going and that they will see a loved one or Jesus or an Angel. I said to them that, “they will get up out of this bed and go with the loved one.” With my mom, I said all her children’s names and said we will all be fine. It took about 12 hrs before she went left. My dad, I told him on Saturday afternoon. I was louder and more authoritative at that point. I asked him to let go. The sufferings for both of them was no good and I felt they would understand that statement. Overnight, my dad became unconscious and Tuesday early afternoon he passed. (sadly, hospice arrived on Monday for evaluation and Tuesday, he received medication in his mouth / by his cheek) and passed 30 mins later. Every dying person would benefit to be on hospice for at least a month prior to passing.
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I watched my husband pass from leukemia. He had a hospice nurse but she wasn't around when it happened. She actually didn't believe me when I called her that night saying he passed. She had been there that afternoon and thought he was still doing well. After she left, I realized he had cold legs and I knew he was going. I miss him tremendous, he wasn't just my husband, he was my best friend. ❤
Sorry for your loss, it’s so painful to lose the one that is closest to you. I hope your doing ok
SOS sorry for your loss. I hope you have peace.
Death is so incredible and different ..my grandmother was talking up a storm ..I even asked the nurse are you sure she is dying .. the nurse said it’s normal ..by the next day she passed.. it was a beautiful experienced to know she used her last bit of energy to love us .again 💕
Sorry for your loss!!!🙏🙏🙏
I am so very sorry for your loss. My mom will be 90 in two weeks. She was diagnosed with leukemia a year and a half ago. She has declined. She also had a stroke back in October. She declined some more. Can you offer any advice on what I need to look for in my mom to know when she might need to go on hospice. She can barely walk and is incontinent. She is in extreme pain when she moves from arthritis.
I watched my brother taken off life support. He was given a sedative before the device came out of his mouth. He took a few breaths out of his mouth. The process took 10 minutes. His organs failed due to a life long addiction to alcohol. He passed peacefully with his family around him.
Sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace
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I made the choice to remove my Dad and my husband off life support. Both were brain dead. Last thing I told my Dad was I think I’m pregnant, but you can’t tell anyone. Needless to say he didn’t. My husband was also brain dead. Removed him off life support. Covid was running rampant I was very sick and my daughter made me go home and she and my son in law stayed with him. She washed his face combed his hair and cleaned his beard up. Was holding his hand when he left for his new journey. It’s been 3 years still miss him married for 34 years. And life goes on.
My Dad died of brain cancer this February and this was exactly how he died. It was loud but thankfully I had watched some of Nurse Julie’s videos and knew what was coming and that gave my Mom and myself tremendous relief
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Sorry for your loss❤
What a very generous woman she was to allow this video of her to be shared with everyone.
Like Julie said, I don't think it was the actual woman in the video, because she's dying and she was unconscious. It was that woman's family. So thank them. I mean, yes, the woman in the video might've been happy that her experience is being used to help people, but I don't think she had any choice in the matter. It was her family.
@@lisachiappetti6092that could be possible as well but when ppl know that they’re dying they can give permission before they are in this state. I know my mom had multiple requests before she wasn’t able to speak anymore.
@@lisachiappetti6092 her family knows her well and maybe even had conversations about it before it was too late. I don’t think it would’ve been a spur of the moment decision
Thank you for giving more insight about this. ❤
@@lisachiappetti6092 I thought she said she was a patient of hers who gave her permission (prior)?
When my husband died, I was afraid. But hospice helped me. He died in peace. Thank Hospice
The same hospice helped me a lot. I had no other help because we lived in a state without family
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Hospice in my home abused my mom! It was so bad, the coroner did an autopsy
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I am so sorry. ❤
I didn't have a lot of help with hospice either, they came first thing in the morning and it took days for her to leave. I was so scared and she was just like this sweet lady. I just couldn't be there like I should've and I now regret this so much. I'm sorry but not all hospice is not created equal, I wish they more of a comfort to me. I was in so much pain myself 😢
The death rattle I heard as I watched my mom die of brain cancer when I was 19 years old! I will never ever forget it.
I’m so sorry.
I can’t imagine how painful and scary that was.
@taramama6658 I was present when my mother died at 19 years old, too. It happened just over 2 years ago.
@@irelynegrega502 I am now 52 and I remember it like it was yesterday it is something that gets easier with time but the pain never truly goes away does it? Glad bless you honey.
@@taramama6658 that's rough sorry for your loss
My mom had already stopped breathing, but her heart was still beating. I got my stethoscope (was an emt) and listened to her final heartbeats. Miss her a lot.
Awe. May she rest in peace.
THANK YOU! I have been haunted for 5 years from my sister's last breaths! She was making motions like a fish out of water. I thought she didn't have a peaceful death and it troubled me greatly. Now I know it was agonal breathing! The video was much like what I saw in my sister, but maybe just a little more animated in my sister (or maybe conflated in my memory). This was very informative and comforting to me. Thank you so much.
I was holding one of my many favorite clients' hands when she was passing over, and that is exactly the way I explained it.
"Like a fish out of water." I loved my people, my extended family, but I'm so glad I'm retired. It's not really good to watch life leave a body . Especially someone you love :'(
My husband was like your sister & unfortunately I did not have a great experience with our hospice nurse. It has stayed with me also, but Julie has helped to ease that pain. I send you hugs for those feelings at the time of losing your sister & hope you feel more at peace now.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I greatly appreciate this video. We all benefit from understanding what we might expect and know it is all a natural part of the dying process ... Not painful as you stated but "normal" the body shutting down. We can be comfortable, agonal breathing is not painful and as you state should NOT be "hidden".
Over 20 years ago I worked as a CNA . I saw a lot of people die but it was the most difficult thing was to be with my father when he died
At least I know that he made his peace with God
End of life should be as sacred as the beginning of life. My husband passed in 2007. He was 56 yrs old . He was unconscious and at home . Surrounded by family and friends. My hospice friend told😂 me to tell him it’s okay to go . I didn’t think he could hear or understand me. His body was shutting down & he could no longer eat or drink . So I sat by his side held his hand and said I will always love you and I am grateful to God for our life together. But you must go . No more worrying no more pain . I will be fine with the precious memories. And with that he had a huge exhale and was gone . Sharing the gift of going home should be as special as a new arrival. My granddaughters were 10 & 6 they were there as well and we all said this was Pop’s graduation to heaven . We will miss them and think of them often but such is life❤
Well spoken 😊
Hearing is the last to go.
Thank you for this. Makes end of life less scary.🙏
@@caroltaylor-hinds6050 just to let you know, something I didn’t add at that end something else happen . At the Wake those friend that were there for his last breathe told me they experienced the same thing I felt , when he exhaled it was as though a balloon full of air was let go and buzzing happily around the room . I know it seems silly but we all felt his joy & relief . It’s been 17 years , and I still cry missing him but the tears are less painful and more grateful 🙏🏼 ♥️💪🏼
I've been a nurse for 26 years and have been bedside for so many deaths...I see it exactly as you do! It has always been an absolute honor to see these people and be able to be part of making them comfortable and to be able to make it the best experience I can for the families. ❤
My mother was the sole caretaker of my quadriplegic stepfather for 45 years,.Before she died (a month ago), she was complaining that she needed someone to take care of her, both physically and mentally, and was severley depressed. I couldn't be there for her as I live in a different country.
She spent the last couple of months in a beautiful hospice, surrounded by the most wonderful staff who she loved dearly, and got all the attention she was craving, I was blessed to be there with her in her last days and witness how calm and happy she was when she passed away. I truly admire the wonderful work hospice nurses and doctors do, there are no words to describe how grateful I am.
1st, your Mother was already a Saint for taking care of your Father for 45 years. I am so glad that she was surrounded by these wonderful doctors, nurses and attendants in her final weeks. They are incredible people.
Thanks for this, Julie. When my husband died three years ago, it was during the Covid-19 pandemic and I was not able to remain at his bedside in his final moments. However, when I arrived at the hospital in the afternoon before he passed away, he was already unconscious, but I knew from my understanding of the dying phases that he could still hear me, so I spoke to him for a long time and the hospital Chaplain came to bless him and we recited the Lord's Prayer together and the Chaplain read a few short scriptures that were comforting. My husband wasn't afraid of dying but was worried about leaving loved ones behind, and the combination of prayers and healing helped him to let go of his physical body and allow his spirit to move on. He had been physically unwell for quite some years before he died, so losing him physically was hard, and yet I knew it was his time and that his spirit could not live in his body anymore. My husband died in peace. Death is still a taboo subject and is avoided as a topic of ordinary conversation, and yet it is nothing to be afraid of. It is just a transition to the afterlife. A year and a half after my husband's death, my stepdaughter found out she was pregnant and a little girl was born, so my husband's genes live on through his daughter and granddaughter, which brings me a lot of comfort. Sometimes I see a glimpse of him when she smiles. I have so much respect for Hospice Nurses and staff who look after the terminally ill and dying. Death is as sacred as birth.
Thanks for your wonderful comment.
Bless all nurses
Birth is celebrated and widely available to observe...
Death, however, is (literally) cloaked in darkness - therefore compounds our fears towards the end of our existence .
Both are natural occurances and should be understood.
Thank you so very much, Julie, for being a beacon of light in the darkness ✨️ ❤️ xxxxx
I can't imagine anything about death to celebrate...the end of everything...it is very sad.
@vickieyoung7122 Oh gosh, no! What I meant was that it's a fact of life that if we are born, then so we must die.
It's good to be educated. Xxxx
No, quite the opposite actually. I've had a couple of NDEs due to anaphylactic shock from an unknown allergy at the time - (Alpha Gal)
Transitioning feels like being high or on nitrous. Colors get brighter, sounds seem more distant, yet louder.
Once you get past that feeling of impending doom that the body gives off as a danger signal, you start relaxing more & the thought of dying isn't scary, given how intense & yet peaceful these sensations become. You don't think about regrets so much as being grateful & focusing on the good things.
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Nothing at all to celebrate for sure. It brings great sadness and fear to me also. ❤
@@davinastanton3865 No, no. Have no fear. It's totally natural. Start watching JeffMara. You'll see.
My grandma once told me "I never feel sad for the ones who die, I feel sad for those left behind". Since then with every funeral ive attended, i watch those attending, and I feel sad for them all. I often am not saddened by the persons passing, I mean I am but my sadness is based around those left behind.I view my own passing the same. I dont fear death, but I worry about my children and their lives after.
You are correct..being the one left behind is devastating and lonely...I know this first hand
That’s exactly how I feel.
My mom too says that those are left behind suffer the most and that’s true😢
I feel this exact same way
My mother just passed on 2 weeks ago.
I was so blessed to be with her as she passed on.
I prayed, read the Bible, played Christian music, kept her comfortable by putting a wet sponge on her lips and tongue. She passed with great peace. She could her me talk to her. I told her how much I love her and thanks her for all she had done. I told her all about her family and Jesus coming to get her.
I kissed her and told her she was no longer a pilgrim here but that she was going home for eternity with God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit and all of her loved ones!!
She passed just after I kissed her.
I miss her but know I will see her again when I go home. God bless.
Until we meet again moma! ❤
I was with my twin sister and held her as she passed from breast cancer. Since I was born first I must have also witnessed her first breaths. Being there for her last breaths was such a privilege. She had been non-verbal for about a week and had her eyes shut until the very end when she opened them briefly. I'm not sure she saw me, but the hospice nurse encouraged me to talk to her because hearing is apparently the last sense we lose. I hope she knew how much I loved her and wouldn't have wanted to be anywhere else for her last moments. She breathed very much like the lady in the video. What I was shocked by was how gray my sister's fingers were. Thank you for sharing this and thank you to that lovely lady's family for allowing you to post this.
Thank you for sharing that tender, unique love with us. I am sure she felt you there, and felt your love.
I truly believe the hearing stays aware. My beloved uncle responded when I spoke to him about my work (we were/are both LEO) and he got a bit riled up. I think he just wanted to "talk shop" like we used to but couldn't. Then when his son was praying over him "God please take this man" phewwwww, he gave him an earful. Of course it wasn't words, but I'm pretty sure I could interpret the grunts and growls as "I'll go when I'm ready!!" Miss him so much
My sister died at a dialysis appointment last week. She passed quickly and unexpectedly. She was 50 and a few days prior, she said she was going to die this next week and those with her were shocked by the comment. She knew she was going to die and it’s insane to know her statement and then dying in her appointment. I’m so sad and shocked. I do appreciate your channel because it has brought so much comfort to so many.
@@wowzatrishiebunz I'm so sorry for your loss.
Bless your heart. Bless you as you grieve.
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@@wowzatrishiebunz prayers and love I am so sorry for your loss!
Thank you for sharing and wishing you healing 🙏
Very beautiful for sharing. I held my mother’s hand as she took her last breath. It was on my 50th birthday. I whispered to her that we were together in a hospital room 50 years ago that day, as she watched me take my first breath. I wouldn’t give anything for those last moments together. My brother and sister were in the room too, and although difficult, don’t be afraid to share these unforgettable moments.
Such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing.
I wish I knew this before my husband died!! I was TERRIFIED!!! I wish I could get a do over!! RIP MY LOVE!!! ❤❤
That's why this is so important to watch and understand!!! I am sure you did just fine! Bless you.
You did your best dear....you did your best🙏💖
I’m so sorry.
I’m sure you were terrified.
May God bless your sweet soul.
I wasn’t able to be there when my wife died, and it really hurt.
I don’t know which is worse, but my heart aches for you.
Please thank the family for us. Thank you for showing us the most private moment of this dying woman. It helps to understand.
This is exactly how my Mother sounded. Mama was on home Hospice care and my twin sister and I were taking care of her daily; with her nurse available by phone at all times. Hospice nurses are truly amazing and caring. Mama's nurse explained everything to my sister and I about what would happen and she gave us a booklet to read about what to expect at end of life. The fear was gone because of Mama's nurse because we knew what was happening at every stage. We used those sponge things to keep her mouth moistened and we played her Christian hymns in the background. Mama was 95 and went to Heaven on New Year's Eve 2022. We love you Mama ❤ God bless all Hospice nurses 🙏
Much love and comfort to you.❤
@@marlenea.6465 Thank you so much! 💛
My mother went through home hospice. I myself count on that for myself when I’m ready. Please know the people that were sent were absolutely perfect and I believe God was there. It was so beautiful and the room had a golden glow not from artificial lighting. Do not fear my friend. My love is with you. Please trust 🙌🏻❤️😘
She was blessed with a long, and, I hope, happy life and loving children who were with her through to the end.
@@elderlypoodle9181 Thank you so much; God bless 🌹
This is exactly how it was going with my mother-in-law right before she passed away. It is absolutely important for people to see this.
I brought mama home for hospice per her wishes. She didn't want to be "doped up in a cold room, unable to respond to anyone but hearing them" (her words). Her caregiver and the visiting hospice nurse helped me tremendously through the process. The only obstacle was giving her pain medication on a schedule per the nurse. Mama abruptly came out of slumber, told the nurse she would let us know when she was in pain and wanted medication only at that time. The nurse relented then. Thank you and the family for sharing this. I'm sure it will be helpful to many. Condolences on losing their precious loved one.
My wife and I are surprised that our parents are all alive. All 80’s and 90’s. This was great to see. Bless her and her family to allow this to be shared. Thanks to all.
The more you know the less you fear imo
My mom is dying, stage 4 COPD and dementia. I feel so prepared for reality now. I don’t feel scared to lay with my mom while she dies. Thank you Nurse Julie.
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I’m so sorry.
This is the exact reason she does what she does with her videos and book and I think it’s so amazing! I’m so glad you have some comfort knowing what to expect and as prepared as one can be when the time comes. Death has also been a topic that is never discussed even though it’s something every single one of us go through at some point personally and also with our loved ones.
I lost my dad back in May. He also had dementia and COPD. I'm so sorry 💔 😢
As someone who has been at the bedside of many who've died, I wish to thank you for your work here and wherever you are. I, too, no longer have a fear of death. It is best understood from a clinical and natural perspective. You are doing a very good service here.
I was fortunate in being able to be with my mom in hospital when she died. The process was much like that for the woman in the video. My mom was lingering until I put my mouth close to her ear and told her that my (absent) brother was fine and that she could go. She died almost immediately afterward. Thank you for all this information ❤
That’s just how my husband was before he passed away. I know he wasn’t in pain those six days he was in hospice. He looked peaceful. It’s just that the sounds are kind of frightening, but they told me he’s not in any pain at all. I could tell by the color of the skin that it wasn’t going to be very long and it was no sooner than I went home that night that he passed an hour later, still get mail from the hospice center asking how I’m doing. They were incredible.
Thank you Julie and to the family who allowed this video of their dying loved ones to be shown. I have been tormented, have frequent flashbacks and have had no peace for the ten months since my father passed. I thought he suffered and was gasping for air. I am crying with relief and can have peace now for the first time since he died. ❤
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Be well dear...you were there for him💖🙏
I am so glad you found this and that now you know what was really happening, it must have been a nightmare for you these past months. God bless 🙏❤
I pray this precious one had a mostly joyful life. Thank you to her family for allowing us to learn through her. Thank you Hospice Nurse, for this lesson. I agree, knowledge takes the fear out of these kinds of situations. Be Blessed.
I used to run a 20 bed hospice. This was a regular thing for most who lived and died there. It can definitely be uncomfortable for loved ones, but the patient is totally at peace if care is properly provided. Thank you for your work.
most of society used to know what death looked like. We really became far removed from it. Thank you Julie!
My mother passed away June 9,2024. Some of her children were moistening her lips and inner cheeks with the sponge when she bit down. It was at once alarming, then kinda funny as they all looked at each other saying “now what do we do??!!” After a few minutes her jaw muscles relaxed again and the sponge was removed. Nursing staff said that commonly happens. Be prepared but don’t try to pull it out until the loved one releases their jaw muscles.
This was really helpful. My Dad passed when I was not there at the nursing home and I always wondered what his final moments looked like. The hospice nurse described it, but it was helpful to see it. Please thank the family that provided these videos - it had to be hard to record that and to share it but I am sure it is helping a lot of people.
My husband had kidney failure which made him have a heart attack. He was unconscious but he had a painful look on his face plus his body reacted to the pain from the heart attack. He was in hospice and they told us he would have a heart attack but not the reaction he'd have to it. So sad, my teenagers were traumatized. We miss him so much
If it wasn't for you, then my dad and I would not have been prepared for when my precious mam was taken by pancreatic cancer.
May God bless you 🙏 xxxxx
so sorry for your loss
I was my mothers care taker and was with her when she went home to be with her Savior. It was the most BEAUTIFUL thing I've ever seen. She looked SO beautiful and peaceful. I leaned down and kissed her telling her I would see her again ❤❤
It bothers me when people don’t want to be with their loved ones as they leave this earth. I was holding my mother’s hand as she took her last breath and wouldn’t give anything for that. I was on the interstate when my dad passed because I didn’t make it there in time. My mother and siblings were there though and that comforts me.
Amen!
I JUST HAPPENED TO STUMBLED ACROSS THIS CHANNEL NOT SURE WHY IT POPPED UP BUT I'M GLAD I CLICKED ON IT. IT'S VERY INFORMATIVE IN A PROFESSIONAL WAY
Julie , thank you so much for educating us on what dying looks like. I really wish you had a TV show and you could explain that the only scary part about dying is not knowing what is happening to your loved one. Thank you to the family for allowing us to see this . Also, I’m so sorry for their loss .
My dad passed from lung cancer so peacefully, no obvious signs, heavily sedated with pain relief. Just took one last breath in and that was it RIP DAD
My mum passed from lung cancer too. She was the same, no obvious signs, heavily sedated, one last breath
@@tylahoc9271 I think we are lucky.
@@chrissymasters4987 absolutely!! I remember sitting there watching mum, waiting for the death rattle and all the other signs we are told about. Instead it was such a peaceful beautiful passing
you sound fortunate!--sorry for his passing!!!
Same with my Mom. None of the breathing shown in video. She just opened her eyes.
I’m a volunteer with 11 th hr. We helped 2 Angels go home in this week. I really wish families could watch a video like this as soon as there family member goes on hospice. If it’s there fist time watching someone die, they have a hard time excepting their loved one is not suffering. Thank you for all you do Julie.
Can you post info on becoming this kind of volunteer?
I wish people could watch it so m uh sooner to start to reconcile the inevitable for us all. The end shouldn’t be so mysterious or scary. Knowledge is important. This way the medical system can’t easily traumatize people with “you’re going to die”. We already know that. And so are you lol
We experienced this just a year ago with my wife's mother. She came home from the hospital to do home hospice. She was home less than 3 hours and passed before the hospice nurse arrived. I made it to the 3rd breath in this and had to stop. It brought back memories of when my mother passed in '95 in the hospital. We turned her life support off. She passed several hours later while I was holding her hand. God Bless this family and every family who endures this.
Great video for teaching. Thank you to the family. Retired RN here and have seen this many times. Thank Thank you Julie for your teaching people about the dying process.
I wish I could know more about this lovely lady. This departure video is an important part of her life, but I know there’s so much more.
What did she do for fun? Did she have pets? Who was her very best friend?
Did she work somewhere with people she laughed with…and people who got on her last nerve?
Did she travel?
Collect green stamps?…sing?…play bingo?
It all matters. Because she mattered. And she always will.
This is beautiful , made me tear up TBH , I hope she had a happy life and is at peace now 🕊️
@@suesmith3744 thank you so much!
@@lauranorwar I read the comment from the woman in this video who is still alive 13 months out….scroll & read
@@kimlarsothat’s not the same lady in this video is it? I didn’t read it that way. She was telling her she’s the one that’s actually dying now not just a commenter. This lady in the video is no longer here.
Awww....what a lovely comment 🥰🥰
I was fortunate enough to discover your channel before my father passed. When he began the process of dying, I had a better understanding of what was happening thanks to your channel.
Thank you so much for sharing this. My sister passed away two years ago. She got melanoma cancer, and six months later she passed away in a hospital. Oh how I wish the medical staff would have shared this with us. You have no idea how much this means to me. Thank you for sharing this now I know she was in peace, and I can finally be at peace over it too. don’t get me wrong she had to suffer extremely, but the last couple of days played out just like this And we didn’t know what was going on.
I’m a retired ER and ICU physician. I’ve watched many people at the end of life. Your videos are excellent and I wish more people would watch them. I always know when a family has seen this process before with another loved one and how much better they handle it the next time. Keep showing these and it will make a difference, I’m certain. Thank you. 🙏
I have dementia and you help me so much.
This was exactly how my mother passed away. Thank you for sharing this so people understand.
I too quietly told my Mom she could go. That we will all be alright and that we love her.
My Mom passed in September 2023. Your videos prepared me for what to expect. I wasn’t scared and that allowed me be present in her final moments of life. I’m forever grateful.
this video would have been extremely helpful when my grandma was passing in hospice. At 23, it was my first experience with death/being around an actively dying person. I really think this video will help a lot of people. Thank you, Julie!
Thanks again Julie for educating us as well as to the family for allowing Julie to share this video.
I was with my dad 2 years ago thank god I knew what expect … just last week I got to visit a dear client who passed 3 hours after our visit … this video is priceless for those who don’t know what to expect…
My deepest condolences to the family that allowed the patient to be recorded. Thank you so much for allowing this it is really really nice of you. I was very moved by this and it was very informative. Thank you so much.
Thanks to the family for allowing us to see these videos and thank you for explaining them. I was with both my parents when they died and now I finally know what they did was very normal and natural. It has been about 30 years and now I finally have peace. Thank you so much.
Thank you for continuing to raise awareness about the Macy Catheter and its ability to help patients achieve peace at end of life! We are honored to partner with you and, like your audience, we are grateful for the work you are doing to provide accessible hospice education for all. You're the best!
Yes. She is!
@HospiCorporation Yes thank You. This is New to me even tho I retired from HHC & Hospice quite a few years ago 😍 I'm 67 now and rehabbing from my 2nd hip replacement. God Bless You and all that you do for us.. I still love learning ❤️
You truly are an Angel of Mercy & Knowledge ❣️
Love you so much, Julie ❤
You Really are a special and unique, loving lady.
God Bless ❣️
I offer each and every one of you my deepest, most heartfelt condolences for the loss of your loved ones. Though so many are no longer with us in the physical body, they are with us in spirit. May you all experience comfort and peace as you process your loss.
Bless your heart.
@@rdallas81 Thank you kindly! 💖
My mother passed in hospice care and my brother and I truly appreciated our mother’s nurse for sitting with us and explaining all the stages we were seeing.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for letting Nurse Julie show your relative peacefully crossing over. ❤🙏🏻
My thanks to the folks who gave you this video to share.
I saw this twice. My maternal grandmother and my father. I thought my dad’s passing was beautiful, because he was there for my first breath and I was there for his last
Thank you very much. RIP sweet lady and thank you and your family for the courage to share.
Thank you for explaining the differences in breathing during active dying. A special thank you to the family for sharing their videos with us, my sincere condolences on their loss.
My grandfather was diagnosed with cancer last year and had been in hospice these last three months. Your videos have really helped my family and I have less fear about his inevitable passing. He passed last night, and I still go back to your videos to reassure myself that what he was going through was normal. Thank you so much for this ❤️
Thank you. I've followed you for a little bit of a while... You helped me help my family AND myself with a passing last month. Honestly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you ❤❤❤❤ You also helped me understand my grandma's passing. I've had trouble until you. Blessings to you ❤️❤️❤️
I was with each of my parents when they passed and neither of them looked or sounded like that lady in the video. It was way more peaceful than that. I actually had my hand on my mom's chest and felt each of her lungs collapse before her heart stopped and was right up by my dad's head, that didn't happen with him either.
My grandpa wasn't on hospice, he was in a VA hospital with copd. He didn't do this, he just kept saying over and over that the devil was coming to get him and he did not go down easy. He was very abusive in life. My granny, the main object of his abuse, lived 25 more years and she just slipped away with a smile. So happy we didn't have to deal with the death rattle. Just give me a massive dose of morphine before this happens to me. PLEASE.
Romans 3:27-28-And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:
28 So Christ was once offered to bear the sins of many; and unto them that look for him shall he appear the second time without sin unto salvation.
The A B C's of salvation:
A-Admit that you are a sinner
Romans 3:10
Romans 3:23
B- Believe that Jesus is Lord , died for your sins and rose from the dead.
Romans 5:8
Romans 6:23
C- Call upon his name.
Romans 10:9
Romans 10:13
SAME!!!! My mom was NOT at peace when she went. She was a very good woman and had nothing to fear, but something in the room was frightening her. I still can't get it out of my mind 20 years later.
@@charleneneisler7596 🤦🏻♀️
Me too
@charleneneisler7596
Thank you. May God bless❤❤❤❤❤
God Bless this patient and their family.😇
They didn’t even hold her hand or comfort her. Horrible.
Hi Julie, my dad died yesterday in front of me, and your video has been enormously helpful in understanding what happened. It was exactly as you described, and how this lady in the video was breathing. I was able to explain it to my sister in a sensitive way, it gave me great comfort to know that although it was confronting, he was not suffering. x
My sister and I watched our mother die many years ago. The hospice nurse was very good at explaining all of this. We could see all the signs plus the ear lobes folding and the feet turning in and all that you mentioned. Thanks for this for all who don’t know. It makes it so much easier. Bless you.
I can honestly say that I
wouldnt want anyone, loved one or not, to see me this way. I would rather be remembered as my best self. Pride and dignity mean everything to me, as well as sparing loved ones from everything you mentioned. I think I had better make my wishes known ahead of time. Thank you for all your helpful and compassionate info. Hope to get your book to gift to my daughters.
pride comes before the fall
Yes, you are entitled to your feelings. It's always a good idea to plan ahead if you can. I have. You can do what are called advanced directives. They are are legally binding documents letting your family, medical people, hospitals etc . Basically everyone what your wishes are. There are other documents as well. Check with your local hospital or medical district to find more information. An attorney can also help. Big Love ❤
@@nancyayers8322
Thank you
Thank you to the family for allowing us to experience this!
Julie thank you for all the videos. My mom passed yesterday and your videos helped us so much. My sister found you and I watched all the late stage videos and they were so helpful as to what to expect. Bless all you do and keep going ladybug.
Seeing this now, I fully understand my grandfather's passing. Thank you for sharing this!
I'm here because my mother is dying.
We're incredibly estranged but I went to see her. She was yelling at me for not bringing her granddaughter. Yelling at me for childhood things. I left because i couldn't bring her more distress, but my heart breaks because I never wished harm on her, just for her to stop messing with my job and marriage.
I'm guessing she's so scared, that she isn't going to be thinking straight until the end.
I still went and told her i loved her. I can't do much more than that.
@@RayeBlevins you did the right thing. Don't blame yourself for anything, it's not your fault. She knows you loved her.
You did exactly the right thing. ❤Your mother sounds as if she had a mental illness of some kind.
You have a beautiful birb.
Do what you need to do to be at peace with yourself, in your heart. I'm proud of you for protecting yourself and your children. ❤
I just want to thank you for making these educational videos. I just lost my mom unexpectedly a week ago today. Because I’ve watched so many of your videos and TikToks, it helped me as I watched my mom pass away. I knew what was happening and why and I made sure she was comfortable. Thank you for all that you do. ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss, my mom will be gone 10 years in September. I will say a prayer for you ❤it’s not easy losing a beloved parent.
They just watched her die and didn’t even hold her hand. 😟
Thank you Julie, and thanks to the family for use of this film. I am a health care professional and sometimes it's so hard trying to describe these processes to students and those going through this. You have provided an amazing teaching tool.
Thank you. I lost my mother last year, and this video helped me understand what we experienced. And thank you to the family of this lovely lady for sharing her last hours with us.
Thanks for posting this. It may make some people uncomfortable to watch, but I find it educational and reassuring. So much of the dying process is shrouded in mystery by our culture.
Great service Julie. I was a Hospice Massage Therapist for 20 years. And I have certainly seen and experienced all that you’ve shown and described in this video. Families have to be completely educated as soon as a family member becomes a hospice patient. As you know sometimes a person comes on hospice and suddenly they may deteriorate quickly and the family should know the possible scenarios they may all of a sudden observe in their loved one. Love your channel , and keep it going. ❤
Thank you for continuing to educate. I wish I had known this when caring for my mother until she passed. I was terrified and clueless. She’s been gone for 4 years but it still brings comfort knowing my fears and her transition was normal. The guilt of thinking I was doing everything wrong has lifted
Thank you to the family for helping to educate. They cared for her and are now caring for those on the same path, through empowering them with information.
This reminded me of my Mother. She was at home on Hospice and would have those fluids and get coughing attacks like she was chocking and this would happen day and night and went on for one week before she passed so we would need to stay with her day and night. My Father in Law went through the same but in the Hospital and he got the drops to dry his throat. It made a huge difference
Your videos helped prepare us for our father’s death on Mother’s Day. We also kept his mouth moist. He didn’t do the death rattle. I remember you saying hearing is one of the last senses to go so we made sure he knew we were there and he was not alone. We held his hand, sang songs, and said our goodbyes. Ty so much for what you do!! 🙏🏾
I wrote to you nearly 3 years ago, wishing I had seen your videos while I was nursing my brother. It would have calmed me so much, helped me understand that he wasn’t drowning and it was all very normal. I was so traumatised by his passing because I was unprepared of how death can look. My parents passed 20+ years ago, theirs wasn’t anything like his. It gives me great comfort to see your videos and know that his passing was normal.
You are sweet and compassionate to do this… for the families 💜
My mother, father and brother went through the breathing stages until end of life. Thank you for sharing this video for others who may not be aware of the various breathing moments.
Thank you, Julie! I'm not scared anymore!👍
Im still scared
@@Motorider50 I'm so sorry. 😢 I think it turned so suddenly and went downhill so fast, it hadn't really sunk in. Mostly what's freaking me out is worry about my dog - who will take her and love her. No one will even step up to watch her so I can get to the ER when I need to, so worry for her has taken my focus off of me. I'm nervous about going through it alone, so I hope it's fast. Meanwhile, I'm praying for an earthly angel to be there for her. Take care!
@@Sherry-hj6ku no family anywhere for your pup?
I'm terrified of that death rattle. It seems like I'd suffocate to death and this is my worst fear.
@@dovannajones9264 I’ve hospices a few people now. The medications they provide relaxes your breathing and takes away any pain. You’ll be unconscious by the time you have death rattle. Don’t be scared. 🙏❤️🪽🪽
Thank you nurse Julie for all of the information. I'm so grateful, you've helped remove the fear of the unknown. My aunt has been dying on hospice for 3 with ovarian cancer and it has certainly been a learning experience for myself and my family.
I'm also very appreciative of the families that have shared the last moments of their loved ones to help educate us.
Hospice nurses are such a unique and important part of this process, thank you!
These videos are incredibly important. Thank you so much for having the courage to post this content. Although I work in the funeral industry, I seldom have the opportunity to witness the actual dying process itself, but I feel that it's very important to understand what the people that have been received into my care have gone through at the very end of their lives. Also, having been present at the demise of both of my parents and several close friends, I found this video to be particularly comforting. Again....thank you.
I wish I had found your videos a year ago. I live away from my family and my brother experienced watching our mother actively die by himself about 10 months ago and he had no knowledge. It has marked him for the rest of his life. I found your videos about 3 months ago. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
My husband died suddenly at 33, a massive heart attack. It was jarring for someone who had never experienced death first hand and gave me extreme ptsd, but this has helped me alot
Sorry for you loss
So young is really sad.I hope you can find peace with this terrible situation.I experienced the same with a girlfriend of mine.I found her with a cerebral infarction.She died the next day.That was 24 years ago.I wish you all the best with this loss.Stay strong.
❤❤❤ gods richest blessings to you and your family members
@@jrgenvansligtenhorst4640 I'm so sorry ,that is terrible
Thank you so very much for these videos. I took care of my father who was diagnosed with renal cell carcinoma. Everything you are saying, is very true . I’m so thankful that I was able to take care of him . That journey with my beloved father , made me a better human being!
Julie, thank you for this video. I witnessed all the phases you talked about with the passing of both my parents. They were all so hard to watch. The doctors and nurses tried to comfort me by saying they were feeling no pain but still hard to watch. Seeing your fantastic video helped to confirm the doctors and nurses were right, THANK YOU!