Real Life Footage of the Actively Dying Phase

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  • @panamafloyd1469
    @panamafloyd1469 6 місяців тому +9590

    Thanks again, Julie. I'm actually the one who's dying. Early stages (untreated cancer, I've made it 13mos) , I'm still ambulatory, not incontinent yet, and actually eat something from time to time! But sharing your stuff with my friends/fam tells them what to expect later on. It helps them as much as anything can, I suppose. Keep doing this. People need to know.

    • @conniebalmer1448
      @conniebalmer1448 6 місяців тому +828

      The Lord be with you AMEN.

    • @bunberrier
      @bunberrier 6 місяців тому +434

      Unreal. I tried to wish you well and the site removed my post

    • @lindagale7281
      @lindagale7281 6 місяців тому +389

      Bless you on your journey.❤

    • @Katyjustice1943
      @Katyjustice1943 6 місяців тому +466

      May Peace and comfort be yours and your family's and friend's. May angels carry you gently into eternal life. Katy retired hospice chaplain.

    • @nomorenarcz
      @nomorenarcz 6 місяців тому +299

      You sound like a very resilient and special person. My mum never accepted her cancer and she became instantly depressed and withdrawn from diagnosis until she passed and it was like she had already left me. God bless you x

  • @kathyscott5580
    @kathyscott5580 6 місяців тому +2177

    My mom had already stopped breathing, but her heart was still beating. I got my stethoscope (was an emt) and listened to her final heartbeats. Miss her a lot.

    • @rdallas81
      @rdallas81 5 місяців тому +71

      Awe. May she rest in peace.

    • @TheDemon3666
      @TheDemon3666 5 місяців тому +48

      @kathyscott5580 Wow, this comment though... what a wild and neat yet heartbreaking event to experience 🖤

    • @blessedluck1710
      @blessedluck1710 5 місяців тому +4

      😢🤍💙🤍🥺

    • @DarrellMcQueen
      @DarrellMcQueen 5 місяців тому

      @@kathyscott5580 I promise you will see her again.

    • @xcobyxzei
      @xcobyxzei 5 місяців тому +2

      Aw❤😢😢😢

  • @lynnmason1625
    @lynnmason1625 5 місяців тому +489

    Watched my 26 y.o. daughter go, now I am facing my time, thank you for helping + caring.❤ God calmed me then + He comforts me now.

    • @angelbear_og
      @angelbear_og 4 місяці тому +16

      Shortly before my grandmother passed, her daughter (my aunt) was with her. My grandmother told her there was a woman with dark hair waiting for her -- probably her mother. :) Perhaps your daughter will be waiting to help you go home. Bless you, and prayers for a peaceful journey. Hope to meet you there some day! :)

    • @soapboxearth2
      @soapboxearth2 2 місяці тому +11

      May Jesus receive you with love and peace and welcome you into paradise 🙏

    • @babs5573
      @babs5573 Місяць тому +7

      Oh my sweet Jesus I am so very sorry for your loss😢now you can finally be with her❤ God bless you and keep you close to Him🙏
      I lost the love of my life at 17… so so long ago.. these days I think of him often and dreamt of him recently! I look forward to seeing him again❤

    • @rcpcash
      @rcpcash Місяць тому

      🙏🙏🙏

    • @Xrager101x
      @Xrager101x 25 днів тому +3

      She will be there before you pass over . I just know it. My mother was with my sister, standing close. I talked to her and said I was so glad she was there to take my sister onto glory. She died when we were 20 and 15, respectively. May you have moments of peace that pass understanding. Your daughter will lead you home. The love is for eternity. Sending you love and light! ❤

  • @glennarussell4682
    @glennarussell4682 6 місяців тому +4108

    As a caregiver I cared for several family members. While caring for my mother, I climbed in her bed, sat up behind her, rapped my arms around her and told her that she could go, that she raised us well, that we would be alright and that we all loved her very much. Shortly thereafter she took her last breath. It was such an honor to be able to be there for her. She was an angel on earth, now she's an angel in heaven. Love, from S. California.

    • @marjorieferrer9520
      @marjorieferrer9520 6 місяців тому +156

      You just made me cry, you gave your mother the best of you in her worst time and gave her peace. I’m a mom of six , two of them are gone and the three turned their backs on me , only one stayed. And there’s not a day that I don’t pray for their safety and peace in their lives. I hope that when my time comes to go that they will be there for me like you did for your mom. If not, I hope God will just take me quietly . You were a blessing to your parent may God bless you always.

    • @sarahrupert5320
      @sarahrupert5320 6 місяців тому +51

      I have no doubt that she heard you & your soothing, loving voice helped with her peaceful passing. You sound like a wonderful daughter & I’m sure she was an amazing mother who is still watching over you now. Thank you for sharing. 💜

    • @lauranorwar
      @lauranorwar 6 місяців тому +26

      @@glennarussell4682 this is such a beautiful story! Clearly she did raise you well, and with your sweet words, she was assured it was ok for her to go. Because she loved and trusted you, and because she was safely enveloped in your arms.

    • @MagsChase1229
      @MagsChase1229 6 місяців тому +22

      I told both my mom and dad that they were going and that they will see a loved one or Jesus or an Angel. I said to them that, “they will get up out of this bed and go with the loved one.” With my mom, I said all her children’s names and said we will all be fine. It took about 12 hrs before she went left. My dad, I told him on Saturday afternoon. I was louder and more authoritative at that point. I asked him to let go. The sufferings for both of them was no good and I felt they would understand that statement. Overnight, my dad became unconscious and Tuesday early afternoon he passed. (sadly, hospice arrived on Monday for evaluation and Tuesday, he received medication in his mouth / by his cheek) and passed 30 mins later. Every dying person would benefit to be on hospice for at least a month prior to passing.

    • @daniwren2037
      @daniwren2037 6 місяців тому +2

  • @laurakrajnikburick2731
    @laurakrajnikburick2731 6 місяців тому +2924

    I watched my husband pass from leukemia. He had a hospice nurse but she wasn't around when it happened. She actually didn't believe me when I called her that night saying he passed. She had been there that afternoon and thought he was still doing well. After she left, I realized he had cold legs and I knew he was going. I miss him tremendous, he wasn't just my husband, he was my best friend. ❤

    • @donnanorman1022
      @donnanorman1022 6 місяців тому +71

      Sorry for your loss, it’s so painful to lose the one that is closest to you. I hope your doing ok

    • @KL-er7yi
      @KL-er7yi 6 місяців тому +23

      SOS sorry for your loss. I hope you have peace.

    • @sallymoore6920
      @sallymoore6920 6 місяців тому +67

      Death is so incredible and different ..my grandmother was talking up a storm ..I even asked the nurse are you sure she is dying .. the nurse said it’s normal ..by the next day she passed.. it was a beautiful experienced to know she used her last bit of energy to love us .again 💕

    • @lynx6124
      @lynx6124 6 місяців тому +14

      Sorry for your loss!!!🙏🙏🙏

    • @sadielong3021
      @sadielong3021 6 місяців тому +14

      I am so very sorry for your loss. My mom will be 90 in two weeks. She was diagnosed with leukemia a year and a half ago. She has declined. She also had a stroke back in October. She declined some more. Can you offer any advice on what I need to look for in my mom to know when she might need to go on hospice. She can barely walk and is incontinent. She is in extreme pain when she moves from arthritis.

  • @josotorres9643
    @josotorres9643 8 днів тому +31

    I wrote a letter to my father after seeing this. I told him I would sing for him when he passes, and that I will know that he will dry my tears in spirit. I love my dad. Thank you for sharing

  • @Clem62
    @Clem62 6 місяців тому +2080

    What a very generous woman she was to allow this video of her to be shared with everyone.

    • @lisachiappetti6092
      @lisachiappetti6092 6 місяців тому +126

      Like Julie said, I don't think it was the actual woman in the video, because she's dying and she was unconscious. It was that woman's family. So thank them. I mean, yes, the woman in the video might've been happy that her experience is being used to help people, but I don't think she had any choice in the matter. It was her family.

    • @Dimples411
      @Dimples411 6 місяців тому

      @@lisachiappetti6092that could be possible as well but when ppl know that they’re dying they can give permission before they are in this state. I know my mom had multiple requests before she wasn’t able to speak anymore.

    • @TheePrincessBrat
      @TheePrincessBrat 6 місяців тому +56

      @@lisachiappetti6092 her family knows her well and maybe even had conversations about it before it was too late. I don’t think it would’ve been a spur of the moment decision

    • @mzgizz
      @mzgizz 6 місяців тому +10

      Thank you for giving more insight about this. ❤

    • @1ocdchik
      @1ocdchik 6 місяців тому +6

      @@lisachiappetti6092 I thought she said she was a patient of hers who gave her permission (prior)?

  • @bingsballyhoo711
    @bingsballyhoo711 6 місяців тому +3056

    Thanks to the family for allowing you to educate us with real videos. And sorry for their loss.

    • @cm-xq5zj
      @cm-xq5zj 6 місяців тому +89

      Best comment ever!! As a hospice nurse, I love this!!! The family deserves so much respect for sharing this! And to be appreciated for this. Such a blessing!!

    • @lauranorwar
      @lauranorwar 6 місяців тому +49

      I agree. Such a beautiful and loving gesture, made even as they are losing a loved one. I am also sorry for their loss.

    • @norapeterson6331
      @norapeterson6331 6 місяців тому +11

      Great comment ❤

    • @LiveLifeBeingThankful
      @LiveLifeBeingThankful 6 місяців тому +4

      Indeed

    • @Lulu-ki6ds
      @Lulu-ki6ds 6 місяців тому +11

      Well said. God bless the family

  • @robinstroud5036
    @robinstroud5036 5 днів тому +16

    I have been a hospice nurse for 17 years and am now retired, I think. These videos are incredible and I can think of so many people who will benefit from them. Thank you for creating these!

  • @hayleymorris6294
    @hayleymorris6294 6 місяців тому +1228

    Birth is celebrated and widely available to observe...
    Death, however, is (literally) cloaked in darkness - therefore compounds our fears towards the end of our existence .
    Both are natural occurances and should be understood.
    Thank you so very much, Julie, for being a beacon of light in the darkness ✨️ ❤️ xxxxx

    • @vickieyoung7122
      @vickieyoung7122 6 місяців тому +33

      I can't imagine anything about death to celebrate...the end of everything...it is very sad.

    • @hayleymorris6294
      @hayleymorris6294 6 місяців тому

      @vickieyoung7122 Oh gosh, no! What I meant was that it's a fact of life that if we are born, then so we must die.
      It's good to be educated. Xxxx

    • @MeanOldLady
      @MeanOldLady 6 місяців тому +50

      No, quite the opposite actually. I've had a couple of NDEs due to anaphylactic shock from an unknown allergy at the time - (Alpha Gal)
      Transitioning feels like being high or on nitrous. Colors get brighter, sounds seem more distant, yet louder.
      Once you get past that feeling of impending doom that the body gives off as a danger signal, you start relaxing more & the thought of dying isn't scary, given how intense & yet peaceful these sensations become. You don't think about regrets so much as being grateful & focusing on the good things.

    • @davinastanton3865
      @davinastanton3865 6 місяців тому +9

      ​@@vickieyoung7122
      Nothing at all to celebrate for sure. It brings great sadness and fear to me also. ❤

    • @websurfer5772
      @websurfer5772 6 місяців тому

      @@davinastanton3865 No, no. Have no fear. It's totally natural. Start watching JeffMara. You'll see.

  • @Makreads
    @Makreads 5 місяців тому +1679

    To the family who sent in the videos of their family member, thankyou for sharing and allowing us to learn despite how difficult it is. May this lady rest in peace & may her family be blessed. ❤

    • @victoriat7716
      @victoriat7716 4 місяці тому +14

      @@Makreads this!! I really appreciate her family for being to open to share with us this moment for them. It makes it easier for people who are wanting to learn about this process or will have to go through it themselves or with a loved one. My mom passed away at my house while I was at the park with my younger siblings and I didn’t get to be there for her. I’m so sad she experienced her last breath alone without me. But so grateful to be able to have some insight into how peaceful it could be if I needed to be there for another loved one in the future especially consider how fast my grandparents are aging. It also gives me some ideas of how to make my loved ones comfortable if necessary and what to expect in the moment etc.

    • @Bithia65
      @Bithia65 4 місяці тому +10

      @@victoriat7716 Some people say that our loved ones choose to go when we are apart from them. They hang on until we go so it is less traumatic. I am not sure how that works but that is an explanation I was given. If it helps. My mum is 99 and I am waiting waiting waiting and wondering how it will be for me and her. I remember how hard it was for me - this last stage with my dad. I got my mum in to be with him, and had to go out...he passed when I was out and mum was with him and she was at peace throughout the process.

    • @Breakinghealing
      @Breakinghealing 4 місяці тому +3

      @@Makreads 🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @fashion_of_design
      @fashion_of_design 3 місяці тому +2

      ❤😢rip myu

    • @kristin2115
      @kristin2115 2 місяці тому +4

      @Bithia65 when my husband's grandmother passed away, just before, he had been by her side for HOURS. He got up to go to the bathroom (this hospital didn't have in-room bathrooms) and she passed. I believe this 100% ❤️

  • @blueturtle3623
    @blueturtle3623 2 місяці тому +106

    Thank you to this woman's family for allowing these videos to be used for education. Rest in peace to their loved one.

  • @Vodkainsomniac
    @Vodkainsomniac 6 місяців тому +1201

    When my husband died, I was afraid. But hospice helped me. He died in peace. Thank Hospice

    • @SuperGigi06
      @SuperGigi06 6 місяців тому +18

      The same hospice helped me a lot. I had no other help because we lived in a state without family

    • @jackieridley8465
      @jackieridley8465 6 місяців тому +4

      🙏💐

    • @LilByrdFly2
      @LilByrdFly2 6 місяців тому +12

      Hospice in my home abused my mom! It was so bad, the coroner did an autopsy

    • @davinastanton3865
      @davinastanton3865 6 місяців тому +8

      ​@@LilByrdFly2
      I am so sorry. ❤

    • @jeffreyj3906
      @jeffreyj3906 6 місяців тому +11

      I didn't have a lot of help with hospice either, they came first thing in the morning and it took days for her to leave. I was so scared and she was just like this sweet lady. I just couldn't be there like I should've and I now regret this so much. I'm sorry but not all hospice is not created equal, I wish they more of a comfort to me. I was in so much pain myself 😢

  • @Patty-it7tw
    @Patty-it7tw 5 місяців тому +871

    I couldn't have ran across this at a more PERFECT MOMENT!!!! I'm dying from Stomach Cancer. Thank you for doing this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @chaiellexo
      @chaiellexo 5 місяців тому +67

      @@Patty-it7tw my prayers go for you 😪❤

    • @NYPD99STARR
      @NYPD99STARR 5 місяців тому +25

      @Patty-it7tw god bless you Patty!

    • @Patty-it7tw
      @Patty-it7tw 5 місяців тому +25

      @@NYPD99STARR Thank Sweet P. Blessed Be Honey

    • @NYPD99STARR
      @NYPD99STARR 5 місяців тому +10

      @@Patty-it7tw hugs

    • @len1045678
      @len1045678 5 місяців тому +21

      May god give you strengh all love ❤❤❤❤

  • @Mangcoya
    @Mangcoya 4 місяці тому +144

    My mum died when i was 11 at home in the same bed. i was sleeping with her . All night, all she did was talk about the past . For the first time in months, she looked better. I was annoyed because she kept waking me up all night just to talk ( I was only 11), but she finally stopped waking me up around 3am . I woke up around 6 am. worried cos she 6 said anything in a few hours only to find her fully awake, but her breathing was shallow, and she looked paralyzed. Woke up my grandmother, and an hour later, she was pronounced dead. I still wish i had stayed up to chat to her, but i was only a kid and didn't know any better . This video has helped to explain that . Rest well, Mum.

    • @mijntuintje
      @mijntuintje 26 днів тому +17

      What a lovely mom you've had ❤ telling you stories before she was dying she must have known. Reading your story, it's like she was going true al the lovely memories she had with you ❤️

    • @rilbrianne
      @rilbrianne 25 днів тому +7

      I'm so sorry for your loss. She had the best part of her (you) right there with her and that probably made her so happy. I hope you don't carry any guilt. As a mother, I'd never want you to think you did anything wrong, holding you near was more than enough, I assure you.

    • @Mangcoya
      @Mangcoya 25 днів тому

      @@mijntuintje I wish I was olf enough to understand because I would have sacrificed that night. Thank you soo much for your kind words

    • @Mangcoya
      @Mangcoya 25 днів тому +4

      @rilbrianne I needed to hear this. Thank you. I've been carrying that and unable to even visit her grave because I've been walking around with that anger. I can't even tell my sister, who was 4 at the time, what kind of person mum was without feeling guilty, so I just don't talk about her at all.

    • @maureenjossick429
      @maureenjossick429 11 днів тому +2

      @@Mangcoya I am so sorry for your loss and suffering.
      I can second that comment as a mother of a 22yr old,20yr old and 8 yr old- it’s HEAVEN just to know you are laying right next to us, that truly is a gift to a mother. And I’m sure she spoke so much love over you while you asleep, just reminiscing in her memories❤️ Please know, you gave her the BEST last hours of her life, and I guarantee you- there was nowhere else she would have rather of been. our love for you doesn’t change! It’s ok to talk about your mom, especially to your sibling! That keeps their memory alive, for both of you.
      I lost my father to murder at 5yrs old. I had 2 younger siblings..I’m the only one with memories of my dad..so I understand how you feel about feeling that guilt of not being able to give that knowledge,or memories of our parent, to our younger siblings, just so they can know..I also have felt guilt over that. But I know we have pictures that we can remember, and I know my dad loved all of us..and that is what helps me..I know there are somethings that were out of my control..but I can control what I can do with the knowledge I have.
      Share with your sibling about your mother. You deserve to bask in her good memories,as well as your sibling.
      Let your guilt go, You did nothing wrong. You must have been an amazing child, she knew her time was coming, and you were with her,just being there..when she needed you. You were there for her! Never think differently. I hope this brings you some peace..from a mother’s perspective. You did everything perfect. ✨🌌 💕

  • @racinggirl2436
    @racinggirl2436 6 місяців тому +339

    My mom is dying, stage 4 COPD and dementia. I feel so prepared for reality now. I don’t feel scared to lay with my mom while she dies. Thank you Nurse Julie.

    • @allatomas1743
      @allatomas1743 6 місяців тому +4

    • @sandracrandall4561
      @sandracrandall4561 6 місяців тому +4

      🙏💖

    • @ash3227
      @ash3227 6 місяців тому +5

      I’m so sorry.

    • @emilywiebel3238
      @emilywiebel3238 5 місяців тому +4

      This is the exact reason she does what she does with her videos and book and I think it’s so amazing! I’m so glad you have some comfort knowing what to expect and as prepared as one can be when the time comes. Death has also been a topic that is never discussed even though it’s something every single one of us go through at some point personally and also with our loved ones.

    • @mimato
      @mimato 5 місяців тому +2

      I lost my dad back in May. He also had dementia and COPD. I'm so sorry 💔 😢

  • @kitkatmac100
    @kitkatmac100 6 місяців тому +1062

    THANK YOU! I have been haunted for 5 years from my sister's last breaths! She was making motions like a fish out of water. I thought she didn't have a peaceful death and it troubled me greatly. Now I know it was agonal breathing! The video was much like what I saw in my sister, but maybe just a little more animated in my sister (or maybe conflated in my memory). This was very informative and comforting to me. Thank you so much.

    • @niecythebudgetnista3223
      @niecythebudgetnista3223 6 місяців тому +59

      I was holding one of my many favorite clients' hands when she was passing over, and that is exactly the way I explained it.
      "Like a fish out of water." I loved my people, my extended family, but I'm so glad I'm retired. It's not really good to watch life leave a body . Especially someone you love :'(

    • @Vicky49610
      @Vicky49610 6 місяців тому +34

      My husband was like your sister & unfortunately I did not have a great experience with our hospice nurse. It has stayed with me also, but Julie has helped to ease that pain. I send you hugs for those feelings at the time of losing your sister & hope you feel more at peace now.

    • @spellbinder3113
      @spellbinder3113 6 місяців тому +19

      I'm sorry for your loss.

    • @amybusch9253
      @amybusch9253 6 місяців тому +13

      I greatly appreciate this video. We all benefit from understanding what we might expect and know it is all a natural part of the dying process ... Not painful as you stated but "normal" the body shutting down. We can be comfortable, agonal breathing is not painful and as you state should NOT be "hidden".

    • @treatzfortruckerz3913
      @treatzfortruckerz3913 6 місяців тому +27

      Over 20 years ago I worked as a CNA . I saw a lot of people die but it was the most difficult thing was to be with my father when he died
      At least I know that he made his peace with God

  • @thehappyparamedic
    @thehappyparamedic 5 місяців тому +61

    As a longtime Paramedic it breaks my heart when I go to scenes where this is the case and loved ones do not understand it is end of life. Thank you for this and to the family that allowed these videos to be shared. It’s important more people understand this.

    • @PjKneisel
      @PjKneisel Місяць тому +2

      Thanks for being a paramedic! You rule.

  • @CQuinnLady
    @CQuinnLady 6 місяців тому +600

    My grandma once told me "I never feel sad for the ones who die, I feel sad for those left behind". Since then with every funeral ive attended, i watch those attending, and I feel sad for them all. I often am not saddened by the persons passing, I mean I am but my sadness is based around those left behind.I view my own passing the same. I dont fear death, but I worry about my children and their lives after.

    • @vickieyoung7122
      @vickieyoung7122 6 місяців тому +33

      You are correct..being the one left behind is devastating and lonely...I know this first hand

    • @susanpage8315
      @susanpage8315 6 місяців тому +15

      That’s exactly how I feel.

    • @abhipsamishratripathy6590
      @abhipsamishratripathy6590 5 місяців тому +17

      My mom too says that those are left behind suffer the most and that’s true😢

    • @chrissironan3434
      @chrissironan3434 5 місяців тому +6

      I feel this exact same way

    • @vaszgul736
      @vaszgul736 5 місяців тому +6

      @@CQuinnLady I feel the same way in some aspects, I feel saddened if someone goes young because I know they probably have unfinished business. But people are going back into the comfortable cosmos. Everything that makes them up has always been here and always will be. They were comfortable for all of time before being alive, they'll be comfortable for all of time again after.

  • @taramama6658
    @taramama6658 6 місяців тому +577

    The death rattle I heard as I watched my mom die of brain cancer when I was 19 years old! I will never ever forget it.

    • @patrickflohe7427
      @patrickflohe7427 5 місяців тому +38

      I’m so sorry.
      I can’t imagine how painful and scary that was.

    • @irelynegrega502
      @irelynegrega502 5 місяців тому +17

      @taramama6658 I was present when my mother died at 19 years old, too. It happened just over 2 years ago.

    • @taramama6658
      @taramama6658 5 місяців тому +22

      @@irelynegrega502 I am now 52 and I remember it like it was yesterday it is something that gets easier with time but the pain never truly goes away does it? Glad bless you honey.

    • @danarzechula3769
      @danarzechula3769 5 місяців тому +7

      @@taramama6658 that's rough sorry for your loss

    • @johnkennethsolo6769
      @johnkennethsolo6769 5 місяців тому +6

      I'm so sorry for your loss , no one should ever experience seeing their loveones in that state .. I hope you're doing well .. ♥️

  • @azazellon
    @azazellon Місяць тому +46

    I know it's small, but thank you for the poster on the wall/door that says "Nothing to Fear". It comforts those of us still wary of the topic and shows and reassures that it's a natural process.
    Thank you.

    • @PrimateProductions
      @PrimateProductions Місяць тому +2

      I dont know...a poster on a wall proclaiming "nothing to fear" does nothing to alleviate any fear I (or most people) have regarding death or dying.

  • @soggycontent6484
    @soggycontent6484 5 місяців тому +395

    I watched my grandpa have a heart attack while we were snow machining. I was 14 and it was just us and we were out in the middle of nowhere. Its been 8 years and alot of healing but this video makes me feel more honored that I was there for his very last moments. Rest in peace Papa.

  • @wowzatrishiebunz
    @wowzatrishiebunz 6 місяців тому +738

    My sister died at a dialysis appointment last week. She passed quickly and unexpectedly. She was 50 and a few days prior, she said she was going to die this next week and those with her were shocked by the comment. She knew she was going to die and it’s insane to know her statement and then dying in her appointment. I’m so sad and shocked. I do appreciate your channel because it has brought so much comfort to so many.

    • @Lisa.Halloran
      @Lisa.Halloran 6 місяців тому +30

      @@wowzatrishiebunz I'm so sorry for your loss.

    • @codeN_8
      @codeN_8 6 місяців тому +18

      Bless your heart. Bless you as you grieve.

    • @mercywilliams2698
      @mercywilliams2698 6 місяців тому +8

      🍃💕🦋

    • @angelatemke9160
      @angelatemke9160 6 місяців тому +10

      @@wowzatrishiebunz prayers and love I am so sorry for your loss!

    • @amybusch9253
      @amybusch9253 6 місяців тому +13

      Thank you for sharing and wishing you healing 🙏

  • @diannestrong9441
    @diannestrong9441 6 днів тому +4

    Being a RN hospice nurse 20 yrs. I can say that this is a good video and accurate. 👍🏽

  • @bosborne220
    @bosborne220 6 місяців тому +276

    This is exactly how it was going with my mother-in-law right before she passed away. It is absolutely important for people to see this.

  • @rosebud6485
    @rosebud6485 6 місяців тому +322

    Very beautiful for sharing. I held my mother’s hand as she took her last breath. It was on my 50th birthday. I whispered to her that we were together in a hospital room 50 years ago that day, as she watched me take my first breath. I wouldn’t give anything for those last moments together. My brother and sister were in the room too, and although difficult, don’t be afraid to share these unforgettable moments.

    • @Madmarsha
      @Madmarsha 6 місяців тому +18

      Such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing.

    • @lahni7683
      @lahni7683 5 місяців тому +6

      @@rosebud6485 Thank you for sharing this. I held my father’s hand as he passed away on my 30th birthday and never thought of the fact that we were together when I took my first and while he took his last breaths. That makes it easier for me to feel better about celebrating my birthday on his death anniversary

    • @gigidayz6936
      @gigidayz6936 6 днів тому

      @@rosebud6485 that is so sacred and beautiful ❤️

  • @JoAnnFortin-cr8hy
    @JoAnnFortin-cr8hy 4 місяці тому +235

    I took care of my husband at home for 4 months and he died in our arms. Hospice came in 2 times a week. I wish I new more and was educated to know what was going to happen at the end. We were married for 51 years. Thank you for educating other people to let them know what to expect because we were so sad an distraught seeing him dieing to know what was happening! Hospice was not there to help us. I lost my Marine, my best friend, the love of my life.

    • @KimS-MK
      @KimS-MK 4 місяці тому +6

      @@JoAnnFortin-cr8hy I'm so, so sorry. ❤️ You will be reunited again.

    • @jessicahanley5080
      @jessicahanley5080 4 місяці тому +4

      My Dad was a Marine, too. They're special, aren't they? I'm very sorry for your pain. I'm sorry for mine, too.❤

    • @Bithia65
      @Bithia65 4 місяці тому +4

      Be thankful every single day for living with the love of your life for 51 years! What an absolute blessing that so few of us get to experience. Rejoice in that gift and know that death is not the end but the beginning of eternity. So many memories to cherish. So amazing!!!

    • @spiritconduit4578
      @spiritconduit4578 4 місяці тому +1

      Thank you for your service, Sir! Please know, your wife is supported emotionally and loved. I am confident she sees the signs you leave her. Rest well. I know you and she will be reunited after she crosses peacefully into your loving, competent arms-

    • @secretzelda7198
      @secretzelda7198 2 місяці тому

      @JoAnnFortin-cr8hy I went through the same thing with my spouse who had multiple sclerosis. It was a long illness, but the real bad portion was the last 3 years or so. It will be 3 years next month and I'm still in grief. We had 2 girls, 8 grandchildren and our first great-grandchild shortly after my love's passing. What I would've given for a cure for MS.

  • @baigish100
    @baigish100 6 місяців тому +154

    This was too painful to watch. This was my mother in February of this year. I stayed with her until she died. Thank you to the family for sharing this footage with the world.

    • @tinytesla3877
      @tinytesla3877 5 місяців тому +5

      @@baigish100 I am so sorry for your loss.

    • @Iounnica
      @Iounnica 5 місяців тому +2

      @@baigish100 same here, 2 years ago. I’m glad I watched this though because this whole time I thought my mother was gasping for air and choked to death. I’m so relieved this is normal and it looked exactly like this. Sorry for your loss

    • @MrJhonB184
      @MrJhonB184 5 місяців тому +1

      Sorry for your loss ❤

  • @wheredidthetimego8087
    @wheredidthetimego8087 6 місяців тому +210

    most of society used to know what death looked like. We really became far removed from it. Thank you Julie!

  • @markrhuett
    @markrhuett 4 місяці тому +29

    My mother was breathing the same shallow breaths right before she passed. She was aware and able to hear. I thanked her for being such a good mother and she tried to talk. Before she became very ill she would frequently see her deceased parents at the front door.

  • @orbs1062
    @orbs1062 6 місяців тому +294

    In less than 11 minutes, you've taught the general public, more than what I got in the classroom. My first day in trauma, my first hour, I experienced my first death. Was tough. I never really got to witness the natural process, until much later. In my experience, most of the time, it's not a struggle for the dying person, but it's especially hellish, for the family. You and this family are to be commended. You've provided something wonderful in this experience. 👍

    • @shuffman8094
      @shuffman8094 6 місяців тому +13

      @@orbs1062 agree, I’ve been there for my grandmother, mother, and father’s death at elderly ages. All of them went thru this. It was really difficult and it bothered me a lot… even to this day. However, after watching this - it brought some understanding and comfort as to what took place.

  • @jaygunn8331
    @jaygunn8331 5 місяців тому +331

    As someone who has been at the bedside of many who've died, I wish to thank you for your work here and wherever you are. I, too, no longer have a fear of death. It is best understood from a clinical and natural perspective. You are doing a very good service here.

  • @lisareid5624
    @lisareid5624 14 днів тому +1

    I watch your videos when I find them. I’m taking care of my 90-year-old mother who looks like she’s at the end of life and her Dr didn’t think she’d last past the end of the year she doesn’t eat much but she knows who I am and thank you.

  • @shannonhondo260
    @shannonhondo260 6 місяців тому +176

    My Dad died of brain cancer this February and this was exactly how he died. It was loud but thankfully I had watched some of Nurse Julie’s videos and knew what was coming and that gave my Mom and myself tremendous relief

    • @angeltexas3208
      @angeltexas3208 6 місяців тому +2

      🙏❤️🙏

    • @danarzechula3769
      @danarzechula3769 5 місяців тому +2

      Sorry for your loss❤

    • @misbees
      @misbees 5 місяців тому

      @@shannonhondo260 sorry for your loss 🫂

  • @judymenard3287
    @judymenard3287 5 місяців тому +833

    My mother just passed on 2 weeks ago.
    I was so blessed to be with her as she passed on.
    I prayed, read the Bible, played Christian music, kept her comfortable by putting a wet sponge on her lips and tongue. She passed with great peace. She could her me talk to her. I told her how much I love her and thanks her for all she had done. I told her all about her family and Jesus coming to get her.
    I kissed her and told her she was no longer a pilgrim here but that she was going home for eternity with God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit and all of her loved ones!!
    She passed just after I kissed her.
    I miss her but know I will see her again when I go home. God bless.
    Until we meet again moma! ❤

    • @joemeschke
      @joemeschke 5 місяців тому +26

      @@judymenard3287 God bless you for being so caring and loving to your mother during her final earthly moments. Catch you on the other side, kind stranger!

    • @ernestbuckley8671
      @ernestbuckley8671 5 місяців тому +7

      🙏❤️🙏

    • @lizzyg.5852
      @lizzyg.5852 5 місяців тому +15

      @judymenard3287 So sorry for your loss. She must be rejoicing in the presence of our Lord🙏

    • @jennymarx9228
      @jennymarx9228 5 місяців тому +7

      Not only youu, everyone who we love truly will be together connected. If reincarnated, we'll be with them related to them as we liked to be, in paradise too we'll be connected to them 🥰 so like I'm generally not sorry for your loss, I'm just happy that she's gonna be with God guiding you spiritually and you both will reunite again veryy veryyy sooonnm in terms of spiritual age (like 100 yrs is not big in terms of God) may her Soule rest in peace 🕊️💞

    • @ij1376
      @ij1376 5 місяців тому +10

      I'm a 30 year old guy and this is a beautiful story. Makes me want to cry. Wow.

  • @binkleyrules
    @binkleyrules 4 дні тому +2

    Julie, thanks for showing us what really happens at the end. Your videos are an enormous help in showing us what really can happen at the end & how to be prepared for whatever happens at the end of life. ❤

  • @Prancer0210
    @Prancer0210 6 місяців тому +381

    This is exactly how my Mother sounded. Mama was on home Hospice care and my twin sister and I were taking care of her daily; with her nurse available by phone at all times. Hospice nurses are truly amazing and caring. Mama's nurse explained everything to my sister and I about what would happen and she gave us a booklet to read about what to expect at end of life. The fear was gone because of Mama's nurse because we knew what was happening at every stage. We used those sponge things to keep her mouth moistened and we played her Christian hymns in the background. Mama was 95 and went to Heaven on New Year's Eve 2022. We love you Mama ❤ God bless all Hospice nurses 🙏

    • @marlenea.6465
      @marlenea.6465 6 місяців тому +7

      Much love and comfort to you.❤

    • @Prancer0210
      @Prancer0210 6 місяців тому +5

      @@marlenea.6465 Thank you so much! 💛

    • @elderlypoodle9181
      @elderlypoodle9181 6 місяців тому +10

      My mother went through home hospice. I myself count on that for myself when I’m ready. Please know the people that were sent were absolutely perfect and I believe God was there. It was so beautiful and the room had a golden glow not from artificial lighting. Do not fear my friend. My love is with you. Please trust 🙌🏻❤️😘

    • @davidadams2395
      @davidadams2395 6 місяців тому +7

      She was blessed with a long, and, I hope, happy life and loving children who were with her through to the end.

    • @Prancer0210
      @Prancer0210 6 місяців тому +4

      @@elderlypoodle9181 Thank you so much; God bless 🌹

  • @catmama54
    @catmama54 6 місяців тому +153

    That’s just how my husband was before he passed away. I know he wasn’t in pain those six days he was in hospice. He looked peaceful. It’s just that the sounds are kind of frightening, but they told me he’s not in any pain at all. I could tell by the color of the skin that it wasn’t going to be very long and it was no sooner than I went home that night that he passed an hour later, still get mail from the hospice center asking how I’m doing. They were incredible.

    • @victormugabe4742
      @victormugabe4742 2 місяці тому

      Hello 👋. I hope you’re doing well! I wanted to reach out because I’m looking for a caregiver job and thought you might know of any opportunities. If you hear of anything or have any leads, I’d really appreciate your help!
      Thanks so much!

    • @emmaknitty8748
      @emmaknitty8748 Місяць тому +1

      @@victormugabe4742 you're asking for a job? Are you serious?

    • @victormugabe4742
      @victormugabe4742 Місяць тому

      @@emmaknitty8748 Yes I am very much serious and committed to finding a job. I would be very grateful to you if you helped me. Thanks 🙏

    • @victormugabe4742
      @victormugabe4742 Місяць тому

      ​@@emmaknitty8748 Yes I am serious and committed to finding a job. I would be grateful to you if you helped me find a job. Thanks 🙏

  • @simonhodgetts6530
    @simonhodgetts6530 Місяць тому

    Thank you for this - I watched my Nan go through various stages of dying, but, sadly I couldn’t be with her when she left us - she died a few hours after my last visit, but there were many occasions when she appeared to stop breathing, and I prayed that she’d passed. I hope she didn’t feel any pain, she was a lovely lady and I still miss her greatly…….

  • @cherylhughes8061
    @cherylhughes8061 6 місяців тому +207

    Thank you Julie and to the family who allowed this video of their dying loved ones to be shown. I have been tormented, have frequent flashbacks and have had no peace for the ten months since my father passed. I thought he suffered and was gasping for air. I am crying with relief and can have peace now for the first time since he died. ❤

    • @TheDeb295
      @TheDeb295 6 місяців тому +3

      ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @sandracrandall4561
      @sandracrandall4561 6 місяців тому +3

      Be well dear...you were there for him💖🙏

    • @johnpoulter
      @johnpoulter 6 місяців тому +5

      I am so glad you found this and that now you know what was really happening, it must have been a nightmare for you these past months. God bless 🙏❤

    • @leannesampson3199
      @leannesampson3199 4 місяці тому +1

      ❤❤❤

  • @siliconvalleyengineer5875
    @siliconvalleyengineer5875 5 місяців тому +118

    I held my fathers hand until the very last breath, I told my father how much I loved him and that he was the best dad I could ever hope for.

  • @rwoodard6984
    @rwoodard6984 4 місяці тому +22

    Very helpful video.
    As a retired mortician, funeral Director I have been present at several deaths and hospice is such a great organization. If I can add anything from experience, then it would be that after death air can still be located in the lungs and moving the body can cause a final exhalation which I have explained to a bereaved family more than once. It can be a very, very sad field to work in , but very personally rewarding as well.
    you have to give a lot of yourself.
    however, what personally sustains me is my faith in knowing that it does not end at the grave.

  • @DanceQueen5122
    @DanceQueen5122 6 місяців тому +858

    End of life should be as sacred as the beginning of life. My husband passed in 2007. He was 56 yrs old . He was unconscious and at home . Surrounded by family and friends. My hospice friend told😂 me to tell him it’s okay to go . I didn’t think he could hear or understand me. His body was shutting down & he could no longer eat or drink . So I sat by his side held his hand and said I will always love you and I am grateful to God for our life together. But you must go . No more worrying no more pain . I will be fine with the precious memories. And with that he had a huge exhale and was gone . Sharing the gift of going home should be as special as a new arrival. My granddaughters were 10 & 6 they were there as well and we all said this was Pop’s graduation to heaven . We will miss them and think of them often but such is life❤

    • @bosslady1188
      @bosslady1188 6 місяців тому +14

      Well spoken 😊

    • @maryrankin9869
      @maryrankin9869 6 місяців тому +25

      Hearing is the last to go.

    • @caroltaylor-hinds6050
      @caroltaylor-hinds6050 6 місяців тому +11

      Thank you for this. Makes end of life less scary.🙏

    • @DanceQueen5122
      @DanceQueen5122 6 місяців тому +39

      @@caroltaylor-hinds6050 just to let you know, something I didn’t add at that end something else happen . At the Wake those friend that were there for his last breathe told me they experienced the same thing I felt , when he exhaled it was as though a balloon full of air was let go and buzzing happily around the room . I know it seems silly but we all felt his joy & relief . It’s been 17 years , and I still cry missing him but the tears are less painful and more grateful 🙏🏼 ♥️💪🏼

    • @carrielopez1728
      @carrielopez1728 6 місяців тому +22

      I've been a nurse for 26 years and have been bedside for so many deaths...I see it exactly as you do! It has always been an absolute honor to see these people and be able to be part of making them comfortable and to be able to make it the best experience I can for the families. ❤

  • @Tk.utelab
    @Tk.utelab 6 місяців тому +59

    I’m a volunteer with 11 th hr. We helped 2 Angels go home in this week. I really wish families could watch a video like this as soon as there family member goes on hospice. If it’s there fist time watching someone die, they have a hard time excepting their loved one is not suffering. Thank you for all you do Julie.

    • @LinFromMinn
      @LinFromMinn 6 місяців тому +1

      Can you post info on becoming this kind of volunteer?

    • @candacewalton9456
      @candacewalton9456 5 місяців тому

      I wish people could watch it so m uh sooner to start to reconcile the inevitable for us all. The end shouldn’t be so mysterious or scary. Knowledge is important. This way the medical system can’t easily traumatize people with “you’re going to die”. We already know that. And so are you lol

  • @terriberry9401
    @terriberry9401 Місяць тому

    Your videos have taken the fear of the unknown away from me. My dad is suffering from dementia and I have now have a better understanding of what is to come in the future. God bless you.

  • @hayleymorris6294
    @hayleymorris6294 6 місяців тому +73

    If it wasn't for you, then my dad and I would not have been prepared for when my precious mam was taken by pancreatic cancer.
    May God bless you 🙏 xxxxx

  • @angelaharris1112
    @angelaharris1112 6 місяців тому +47

    I have dementia and you help me so much.

  • @Mary-q8v
    @Mary-q8v 21 день тому

    Thank you for sharing this with us. I was with my Mom when she left me, she did the same things. I held her hand and told her I love her over again. I miss her so much, it's been since 2005, on Mother's Day. Love you and miss you so much Mom 🙏💔💞

  • @LSTAR06
    @LSTAR06 6 місяців тому +44

    Thanks again Julie for educating us as well as to the family for allowing Julie to share this video.

  • @HarryCopperPot
    @HarryCopperPot 6 місяців тому +46

    I was fortunate enough to discover your channel before my father passed. When he began the process of dying, I had a better understanding of what was happening thanks to your channel.

  • @deathofnavii8713
    @deathofnavii8713 Місяць тому

    This video was very educational. I’m in school so in less then a month I’m a CNA. I’ve not been present in alot of active dying patients so having seen this does make me feel like I can be more supportive, calming and be able to explain to loved ones what’s going on. Thank you

  • @sCarrieCemetery
    @sCarrieCemetery 6 місяців тому +44

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for letting Nurse Julie show your relative peacefully crossing over. ❤🙏🏻

  • @sharonhinds4808
    @sharonhinds4808 6 місяців тому +17

    Thank you so much Julie for normalizing the natural dying process. As a retired hospice nurse I can attest to witnessing this process many times over. It can be frightening to see but knowledge is power. Bless you for taking the time and having the courage to create these down to earth, thoughtful videos.

  • @Nell_PWT
    @Nell_PWT 3 місяці тому +22

    The death rattle was the scariest part of my mom passing.. I'm thankful for the hospice nurses who helped us through the process. ❤❤

  • @RebeccaShanks-ch9ku
    @RebeccaShanks-ch9ku 6 місяців тому +30

    Thanks to the family for allowing us to see these videos and thank you for explaining them. I was with both my parents when they died and now I finally know what they did was very normal and natural. It has been about 30 years and now I finally have peace. Thank you so much.

  • @suzytr111
    @suzytr111 6 місяців тому +147

    My mother was the sole caretaker of my quadriplegic stepfather for 45 years,.Before she died (a month ago), she was complaining that she needed someone to take care of her, both physically and mentally, and was severley depressed. I couldn't be there for her as I live in a different country.
    She spent the last couple of months in a beautiful hospice, surrounded by the most wonderful staff who she loved dearly, and got all the attention she was craving, I was blessed to be there with her in her last days and witness how calm and happy she was when she passed away. I truly admire the wonderful work hospice nurses and doctors do, there are no words to describe how grateful I am.

    • @johnpenner2632
      @johnpenner2632 6 місяців тому +5

      1st, your Mother was already a Saint for taking care of your Father for 45 years. I am so glad that she was surrounded by these wonderful doctors, nurses and attendants in her final weeks. They are incredible people.

  • @gingerengels3659
    @gingerengels3659 12 днів тому +1

    I've never seen anyone pass away, so this was extremely helpful to me. I'd heard the term "actively dying" but had no idea what that would look like. God bless the family who allowed the sharing of their loved one. How kind. And thank you for all your teaching videos!

  • @hedwigdevine9053
    @hedwigdevine9053 6 місяців тому +49

    Thank you to the family for allowing us to experience this!

  • @msfranklin2650
    @msfranklin2650 5 місяців тому +58

    I JUST HAPPENED TO STUMBLED ACROSS THIS CHANNEL NOT SURE WHY IT POPPED UP BUT I'M GLAD I CLICKED ON IT. IT'S VERY INFORMATIVE IN A PROFESSIONAL WAY

    • @Muffinn_Cakes
      @Muffinn_Cakes 5 місяців тому +10

      just lettin you kno ur caps lock is ON

    • @Paraselene_Tao
      @Paraselene_Tao 5 місяців тому

      I'm kind of similar. I sometimes look up medical lectures and surgical procedures, but this came up kind of unexpectedly, and I don't think I've looked up any hospice topics. It was a good, informative video.

  • @michelefeigenblat4854
    @michelefeigenblat4854 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you love. I have suffered for years with the death of my mom. Now I know everything I experienced was natural and she did not suffer. ❤🎉thank you you have no idea the peace you just gave me.

  • @shirleyashanti3031
    @shirleyashanti3031 6 місяців тому +28

    I brought mama home for hospice per her wishes. She didn't want to be "doped up in a cold room, unable to respond to anyone but hearing them" (her words). Her caregiver and the visiting hospice nurse helped me tremendously through the process. The only obstacle was giving her pain medication on a schedule per the nurse. Mama abruptly came out of slumber, told the nurse she would let us know when she was in pain and wanted medication only at that time. The nurse relented then. Thank you and the family for sharing this. I'm sure it will be helpful to many. Condolences on losing their precious loved one.

  • @eradgr8
    @eradgr8 6 місяців тому +12

    I wish I had found your videos a year ago. I live away from my family and my brother experienced watching our mother actively die by himself about 10 months ago and he had no knowledge. It has marked him for the rest of his life. I found your videos about 3 months ago. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

  • @eriktulgetske6402
    @eriktulgetske6402 Місяць тому

    I love this. I was helping take care of my dad's sister. Who passed at our home from pancreatic cancer. I have to say it was humbling.

  • @kenspencer9895
    @kenspencer9895 6 місяців тому +31

    My thanks to the folks who gave you this video to share.

  • @vjdalady
    @vjdalady 6 місяців тому +88

    My mother passed away June 9,2024. Some of her children were moistening her lips and inner cheeks with the sponge when she bit down. It was at once alarming, then kinda funny as they all looked at each other saying “now what do we do??!!” After a few minutes her jaw muscles relaxed again and the sponge was removed. Nursing staff said that commonly happens. Be prepared but don’t try to pull it out until the loved one releases their jaw muscles.

    • @2000w_king
      @2000w_king 5 місяців тому +3

      @@vjdalady I’m so sorry I’m going through it now

    • @vjdalady
      @vjdalady 5 місяців тому +2

      @@2000w_king my thoughts and prayers are with you. Be in the moment with your loved one.

  • @winterdesert1
    @winterdesert1 4 місяці тому +1

    Saw my mom go through this in 2016. She was 97. Also the hospice nurse was showing us how the cold started at the feet and gradually moved up the body towards the head as the moment neared. I remember feeling her cold legs. There was something very mystical and spiritual about all of it.

  • @Cheryl-t7b
    @Cheryl-t7b 6 місяців тому +84

    I was with my twin sister and held her as she passed from breast cancer. Since I was born first I must have also witnessed her first breaths. Being there for her last breaths was such a privilege. She had been non-verbal for about a week and had her eyes shut until the very end when she opened them briefly. I'm not sure she saw me, but the hospice nurse encouraged me to talk to her because hearing is apparently the last sense we lose. I hope she knew how much I loved her and wouldn't have wanted to be anywhere else for her last moments. She breathed very much like the lady in the video. What I was shocked by was how gray my sister's fingers were. Thank you for sharing this and thank you to that lovely lady's family for allowing you to post this.

    • @Fragrantbeard
      @Fragrantbeard 6 місяців тому +5

      Thank you for sharing that tender, unique love with us. I am sure she felt you there, and felt your love.

    • @briggie27
      @briggie27 5 місяців тому +6

      I truly believe the hearing stays aware. My beloved uncle responded when I spoke to him about my work (we were/are both LEO) and he got a bit riled up. I think he just wanted to "talk shop" like we used to but couldn't. Then when his son was praying over him "God please take this man" phewwwww, he gave him an earful. Of course it wasn't words, but I'm pretty sure I could interpret the grunts and growls as "I'll go when I'm ready!!" Miss him so much

    • @robertajwhite
      @robertajwhite 5 місяців тому

      @@Cheryl-t7b i am a twin, can't imagine

  • @maryannematthews7176
    @maryannematthews7176 5 місяців тому +42

    Hi Julie, I want to thank you. My mother passed away 6 weeks ago. She was 95 and had dementia. I discovered your channel just a couple of weeks before, and if it wasn’t for you I wouldn’t have known what was going on. I am so grateful to know that she died peacefully in her sleep and didn’t suffer.

  • @sannedekoning1984
    @sannedekoning1984 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much for posting this. We watched over our dying mother (64y/o) three weeks ago, and thanks to this video, I recognised the different stages of breathing and we were there when she died. I was prepared and not at all afraid. I can not begin to tell you how that helped in the grieving process. Thank you so so so much. And thank you to the family who made this video possible. So very sorry for your loss ❤

  • @jodigraham101
    @jodigraham101 6 місяців тому +15

    I pray this precious one had a mostly joyful life. Thank you to her family for allowing us to learn through her. Thank you Hospice Nurse, for this lesson. I agree, knowledge takes the fear out of these kinds of situations. Be Blessed.

  • @ericherman5413
    @ericherman5413 6 місяців тому +15

    I used to run a 20 bed hospice. This was a regular thing for most who lived and died there. It can definitely be uncomfortable for loved ones, but the patient is totally at peace if care is properly provided. Thank you for your work.

  • @ashlee2142
    @ashlee2142 Місяць тому

    Thank you Julie, I appreciate you for taking the time to show us, I did that moisten my papa mouth, kept his mouth nice and moist, he passed when I left to have a shower, my mom and Nanny were there, now I take care of my Nanny, and I am here for her when it’s time for her to pass, and I honestly pray it doesn’t happen for a while. She will be 93 Dec, 24th. 🎉

  • @bettyboo5589
    @bettyboo5589 6 місяців тому +55

    Please thank the family for us. Thank you for showing us the most private moment of this dying woman. It helps to understand.

  • @marlamacmichael6115
    @marlamacmichael6115 6 місяців тому +18

    My mother, father and brother went through the breathing stages until end of life. Thank you for sharing this video for others who may not be aware of the various breathing moments.

  • @younglobo
    @younglobo Місяць тому

    Thank you so much, and thanks to the family member who donated the video. This definitely brings me some somber comfort in knowing what to expect with my parents.

  • @brunettebunnyasmr
    @brunettebunnyasmr 6 місяців тому +24

    this video would have been extremely helpful when my grandma was passing in hospice. At 23, it was my first experience with death/being around an actively dying person. I really think this video will help a lot of people. Thank you, Julie!

  • @CathEllis
    @CathEllis 6 місяців тому +28

    This was exactly how my mother passed away. Thank you for sharing this so people understand.

    • @debspencer4099
      @debspencer4099 4 місяці тому

      This is exactly how my daddy passed away. I was there holding his hand, and he raised up and was gasping for air, or so I thought. It was very scary for me, and I assumed for him too. I was the only one in the room at the time and thought I had done something wrong as far as telling them to increase his morphine. Thank you for sharing this. Now I realize everything that happened during his passing was normal, and he wasn't in pain. Thank you ❤

  • @bbstv1933
    @bbstv1933 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you so very much for sharing your comforting knowledge. You are truly an angel for those left behind.

  • @kathikamholz2100
    @kathikamholz2100 6 місяців тому +17

    I saw this twice. My maternal grandmother and my father. I thought my dad’s passing was beautiful, because he was there for my first breath and I was there for his last

  • @viviansagginario7579
    @viviansagginario7579 6 місяців тому +92

    I was my mothers care taker and was with her when she went home to be with her Savior. It was the most BEAUTIFUL thing I've ever seen. She looked SO beautiful and peaceful. I leaned down and kissed her telling her I would see her again ❤❤

    • @rosebud6485
      @rosebud6485 6 місяців тому +6

      It bothers me when people don’t want to be with their loved ones as they leave this earth. I was holding my mother’s hand as she took her last breath and wouldn’t give anything for that. I was on the interstate when my dad passed because I didn’t make it there in time. My mother and siblings were there though and that comforts me.

    • @tinytesla3877
      @tinytesla3877 5 місяців тому

      Amen!

  • @TOKITOMUICHIRO-y4c
    @TOKITOMUICHIRO-y4c 23 дні тому

    Thank you. Hospice nurses are a blessing. It’s important to learn to understand this natural process and to know what to do.

  • @lorettavanhaasteren2776
    @lorettavanhaasteren2776 5 місяців тому +14

    I’m a retired ER and ICU physician. I’ve watched many people at the end of life. Your videos are excellent and I wish more people would watch them. I always know when a family has seen this process before with another loved one and how much better they handle it the next time. Keep showing these and it will make a difference, I’m certain. Thank you. 🙏

  • @victoriayebra4359
    @victoriayebra4359 6 місяців тому +27

    This reminded me of my Mother. She was at home on Hospice and would have those fluids and get coughing attacks like she was chocking and this would happen day and night and went on for one week before she passed so we would need to stay with her day and night. My Father in Law went through the same but in the Hospital and he got the drops to dry his throat. It made a huge difference

  • @shaunmcdaniels2460
    @shaunmcdaniels2460 4 місяці тому +2

    Living is fatal. I am grateful that Nurse Julie has taken the time to provide some clarity regarding the end of life process!!!

  • @lynnejackson5052
    @lynnejackson5052 6 місяців тому +13

    10:25thank you for this information ....i only wish that my sister and i had watched the videa clips before we sat with our dear Mother before she died. We did not get any information from the nursing home staff about what to expect. It was harrowing for us both. Bless you and the family of the lady who was actively dieing . ❤

    • @victormugabe4742
      @victormugabe4742 2 місяці тому

      Hello 👋. I hope you’re doing well! I wanted to reach out because I’m looking for a caregiver job and thought you might know of any opportunities. If you hear of anything or have any leads, I’d really appreciate your help!
      Thanks so much!

  • @HospiCorporation
    @HospiCorporation 6 місяців тому +21

    Thank you for continuing to raise awareness about the Macy Catheter and its ability to help patients achieve peace at end of life! We are honored to partner with you and, like your audience, we are grateful for the work you are doing to provide accessible hospice education for all. You're the best!

    • @brettbrown1548
      @brettbrown1548 6 місяців тому +4

      Yes. She is!

    • @christineZagorski
      @christineZagorski 6 місяців тому +1

      @HospiCorporation Yes thank You. This is New to me even tho I retired from HHC & Hospice quite a few years ago 😍 I'm 67 now and rehabbing from my 2nd hip replacement. God Bless You and all that you do for us.. I still love learning ❤️
      You truly are an Angel of Mercy & Knowledge ❣️

    • @christineZagorski
      @christineZagorski 6 місяців тому

      Love you so much, Julie ❤
      You Really are a special and unique, loving lady.
      God Bless ❣️

  • @pamelafisher5125
    @pamelafisher5125 Місяць тому

    Thank you Julie for sharing these videos. It is quit scary if you don't know what to expect. You share in a very caring, loving manner. I appreciate you.

  • @janicelehane6373
    @janicelehane6373 6 місяців тому +7

    Got your book two days ago...there's no words to describe the help you gave me two years ago when I gave up my job to look after my mum at home, I was there and I understood everything that was happening because of you. You are doing something extraordinary for us all...sending you love and lots of more success for the future x❤

  • @joylanigan5752
    @joylanigan5752 6 місяців тому +8

    So glad Julie that you are doing these videos. We had Hospice when my dad died. The catheter that you showed on your video we used for him. It was very helpful and I would encourage people to use this for their loved ones if needed.
    The worst thing that my sister and I didn't think of until later was the mouth swabs....I wish we would have realized how useful they really are for the comfort of your loved ones. Take care everyone. ❤

  • @megankeil5228
    @megankeil5228 Місяць тому

    Thank you. I was there when my grandmother passed and this was her. It’s confronting but needs to be put out there for people to know. So thank you, and thank you to the family that sent this to you

  • @annisarich
    @annisarich 6 місяців тому +24

    My wife and I are surprised that our parents are all alive. All 80’s and 90’s. This was great to see. Bless her and her family to allow this to be shared. Thanks to all.

  • @joeolson6085
    @joeolson6085 6 місяців тому +9

    Great service Julie. I was a Hospice Massage Therapist for 20 years. And I have certainly seen and experienced all that you’ve shown and described in this video. Families have to be completely educated as soon as a family member becomes a hospice patient. As you know sometimes a person comes on hospice and suddenly they may deteriorate quickly and the family should know the possible scenarios they may all of a sudden observe in their loved one. Love your channel , and keep it going. ❤

  • @Ebostic711
    @Ebostic711 Місяць тому

    Thank you to you and her family for this educational opportunity.

  • @wendybothma3548
    @wendybothma3548 6 місяців тому +15

    I was fortunate in being able to be with my mom in hospital when she died. The process was much like that for the woman in the video. My mom was lingering until I put my mouth close to her ear and told her that my (absent) brother was fine and that she could go. She died almost immediately afterward. Thank you for all this information ❤

  • @michelle-cl1du
    @michelle-cl1du 6 місяців тому +23

    God Bless this patient and their family.😇

    • @heatherjames887
      @heatherjames887 6 місяців тому

      They didn’t even hold her hand or comfort her. Horrible.

  • @ciararoe1009
    @ciararoe1009 Місяць тому

    Thank you to the family who was gracious enough to share these sacred moments with the world. I was able to be there with my in-laws as my sister-in-law passed at home last December. Although it was an incredibly difficult time, it was also an amazingly beautiful experience to be a part of and together for. We couldn't have asked for much more in her transition than to all be together, loving her, keeping her comfortable, and cherishing those last days, hours, and minutes.

  • @williamt9058
    @williamt9058 5 місяців тому +56

    I was on life support for 2 weeks and I remember everything I felt miserable, I was cold, I was thirsty, I seen people that came to visit even though I was unconscious…….. I talked to a man who told me that my great aunt was in the same hospital as me. I asked him where was she; but he told me they came and took her away….. once off life support I told my uncle about my aunt and he was very surprised 😮 he told me she had passed away but we weren’t in the same hospital….. the living sees one thing the dying sees another. It wasn’t my time. I think life is the dream until you pass away; that’s when you wake up. Death is uncomfortable until it isn’t

  • @Sterlingkataadem
    @Sterlingkataadem 6 місяців тому +125

    I watched my brother taken off life support. He was given a sedative before the device came out of his mouth. He took a few breaths out of his mouth. The process took 10 minutes. His organs failed due to a life long addiction to alcohol. He passed peacefully with his family around him.

    • @itsme-gm9oi
      @itsme-gm9oi 6 місяців тому +5

      Sorry for your loss, may he rest in peace

    • @angeltexas3208
      @angeltexas3208 6 місяців тому +4

      ❤️🙏❤️

    • @francessewell6543
      @francessewell6543 5 місяців тому +15

      I made the choice to remove my Dad and my husband off life support. Both were brain dead. Last thing I told my Dad was I think I’m pregnant, but you can’t tell anyone. Needless to say he didn’t. My husband was also brain dead. Removed him off life support. Covid was running rampant I was very sick and my daughter made me go home and she and my son in law stayed with him. She washed his face combed his hair and cleaned his beard up. Was holding his hand when he left for his new journey. It’s been 3 years still miss him married for 34 years. And life goes on.

  • @margaretattkisson4059
    @margaretattkisson4059 Місяць тому

    Thank you for sharing this video. It helped me process my mother’s passing in 2019 and answers many unspoken questions I had. God bless the family who shared this video and my sympathy to them for their loss.

  • @eka8881
    @eka8881 6 місяців тому +14

    I just want to thank you for making these educational videos. I just lost my mom unexpectedly a week ago today. Because I’ve watched so many of your videos and TikToks, it helped me as I watched my mom pass away. I knew what was happening and why and I made sure she was comfortable. Thank you for all that you do. ❤

    • @sapphirerain70
      @sapphirerain70 6 місяців тому +3

      I’m so sorry for your loss, my mom will be gone 10 years in September. I will say a prayer for you ❤it’s not easy losing a beloved parent.

    • @heatherjames887
      @heatherjames887 6 місяців тому

      They just watched her die and didn’t even hold her hand. 😟