Therapist reacts to Staind - It's Been A While
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- Опубліковано 21 тра 2024
- Therapist analyzes the lyrics of It's been a while by Staind to discuss how it being a while can actually be a hopeful thing because it means that at some point the things you want now were a reality. It means it's an accessible feeling the individual is seeking, which is easier than starting from scratch.
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Saw Staind in 1999 Aaron was a heroin addict This song is actually about his recovery and a fourth step Anyone in recovery should truly understand
think i saw staind with the sick an twiztid tour
There's so many great songs to look at from Staind. Epiphany is probably a good one after this, but it just keeps going.
I can't get enough of Staind
The new album HITS
It's been awhile since he wasn't a heroin addict..."cannot blame this on my father..."
"I can still remember just the way you taste"
"Since I could see myself straight"
"All the shit seems to disappear when I'm with you" Heroin addicts are in misery until they get their dose.
"Since I held my head up high"...heroin addicts NOD, they aren't holding their heads up much. And...nodding will also cause someone to unknowingly drop their lit cigarette and burn the place down, like at the end of the video!
7:30
I concur.
Epiphany is the greatest.
It means a lot more.. to a lot more people... than they intended it to.
Epiphany was like my childhood, for how messed up I was from everything I was going through as a child dealing with adhd at such a young age and poverty and with 1 parent basically. It was my favorite song as a kid at 12 or 13. I still get emotional from that song to this day. Amazing song!
Stained is one of the most underrated bands of the last 30 years
Underrated? They have sold millions of albums, had many top 10 hits. ???? Chevelle is a true underrated band of the last 30 years..
Early Staind was so good. Their first album is a banger and when they entered this ballad style, they put out PHENOMINAL music! Epiphany is one of my favorite songs from Staind and it deserves a listen. Kind of the same wheelhouse as this one, but so broken down and just awesome! Great reaction.
Dysfunction was so powerful and raw, I love it!
Mudshovel goes pretty hard.
@@Syzygy77 YES!!! One of my favorites!
@@mikeacuna6077 HELL YEAH! Definitely a banger all the way through!
Still putting out bangers, that collab with Dorothy was awesome!
This song kills me all the time. Story of my life, still living it.
Same here brother. I lost the greatest woman because of my mistakes.
I feel you brother
youre not alone
Haha...exactly.
Aaron with this stripped down to him and an acoustic is incredible. You can FEEL it. He’s “that voice” for me when he’s in that place. “something to remind you” live at the Mohegan Sun is literally written into my will to play at my funeral. Him reflecting on life after being told about a fan committing suicide…..he FEELS it and he will make you feel it. ❤
as a therapist, "Something to remind you" is one song of theirs you really must react to.
Her being a therapist doesn't make her qualified to have an educated opinion on these songs but dummies like you will come on here and feed her fragile ego and tell her how important her opinion is. Her opinion means about as much as mine or yours. Yall are annoying af
absolutely
I'd add that the live version is what needs to be reacted to. There is a level of emotion that he connects to with the lyrics that doesn't exist in the studio version
@jmike8934 the live version is good and he does show emotion value perfectly and should be reacted to. That being said the studio version is a definite listen to request on your own time as it in my own opinion is the best version
i fully agree, so deeply
also it's my dads favourite song from staind
Excess baggage was the hidden track from their album, "dysfunction." I listened to it several times. Still my favorite by them.
Yes. Excess Baggage is so sad. Dealing with demons.
Divorced three times, my depression issues, ptsd, and so on all basically drove everyone away. I’ve learned over the years that I need to work on things and therefore have sought help and tried. Still alone and go through a lot of days that I replay life and how I’ve dicked it all up. Still here though, still hopeful that I can find a way to get happiness and love back. Songs like this help
From djstarion: @Deadmaninc81 Hey friend!
I totally get where you're coming from. I'm glad you've learned that you need to work on things and sought help! I do have a question, if that's okay. What kind of help have you reached out to? If you've reached out to a therapist or someone and it didn't work out, I'd highly suggest finding someone who specifically deals with PTSD. It's kinda like going to a doctor. There's general practice doctors and specialized ones. It's kinda the same way with mental health professionals. Finding the right one can be tricky, but when you do, it can be a huge help!
Also, have you checked on any support groups in your area? They are an excellent option as well, because the best way to get your true feelings out and be supported and listened to is when you're talking to people who have gone through the same trials and situations you have. They've walked in your shoes, and fought your battles. It could definitely be worth looking into.
Regardless, you've got this!
From toastaintbad: @Deadmaninc81 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans,
It's awesome that you are trying to improve your mental health. I struggled with trauma once in awhile. Trauma is difficult to manage but I sometimes try to not get into my head. You can never changed in the past but all you can is reflect and fix those mistakes. Sometimes music helps me with mental health issues.
From lizuh: @Deadmaninc81 The most powerful thing to hold onto when struggling with anything like PTSD, depression etc is hope. Hope can push you into action and take your life back into your hands. You know that you want love and happiness, and you haven't given up on it. Regardless of your past choices, broken relationships etc, you are NEVER too far gone to turn around and walk in a direction towards healing.
From Shan: @Deadmaninc81 Hi friend,
I'm sorry to hear about the ways your struggle with depression, ptsd, and mental health have impacted your life and your past relationships. However, I am so proud of you for taking steps to work on things and to seek help. That alone takes such strength and shows such growth. This is all a journey and a process. There will be good days and bad days where you think all about the past and that "only ifs" start to kick in. But I encourage you to stay strong. We can't change our past, only the present and our future. And you have already started the hard work towards that change.
I'm glad to hear that you are still hopeful. I hope with you! And I believe in you, that you can and will find happiness and a healthy flourishing love. You deserve them both! :white_heart:
From Micro: @Deadmaninc81 Proud of you, friend. For seeking help and being open about what you've been struggling with. Depression, PTSD and the strain it can have on our relationships are huge burdens to carry. It's been strong of you to not let yourself carry those burdens alone anymore. I know there's a part of our mind when we're deep in the trenches that tries to convince us that nothing's worth it anymore. But through it all, through all days you've cried, felt numb or could only survive, *you* have always been worth it, my friend. There is a way through this, even if during some seasons time seems to be our only asset. I wholeheartedly believe in you. :heart:
He does country now, plus lots of patriotic music. He sings with so much heart period.
I've felt every bit of the pain of not only this song, but every song on the entire album this song is on. I was in a pretty deep pit for a long time in the early 2000s - this lingering depression. Yet I kept wandering, looking for something, even if there was nothing to find. In early 2006, interestingly enough in the context of this channel; ya know what song you recently reacted to that pulled me out of that pit? It was "Stinkfist" by Tool. THAT song, lit a FIRE inside of me. Tool has often lended me strength through music.
It’s been awhile since I listened to this song
Saturday will be 13 years since I kicked opioids. Unfortunately, my active addiction left a huge damage path, including my first significant relationship. And it's been a while since I could say I love myself...maybe I never had that ability. But this song has been making me cry since high school.
From Lisalovesfeathers: @meghanmonroe Firstly can I say how bloody amazing it is that you have managed to firstly kick opioids and remain off of them for 13 years!!! What an amazing feat but not one that is plain sailing I am sure. I can imagine it was incredibly difficult, sometimes seemed impossible and there were many occasions you wanted to throw in the towel? But it appears that strength, courage and determination won through, sadly any fight like that will leave scars and my first instinct is to tell you to wear them with pride however its bloody hard to say goodbye to your first love.
That one always feels super special and sometimes they genuinely are and sometimes they really are not, you just haven’t known anyone better to weigh them up against.
To find that person, that person who will be the one, you do indeed need to feel deserved of that. I already think you are but now you need to know it, What you have accomplished should make you the hero of your own story, love yourself for that, recognise that this amazing person who has fought this addiction, this wonderful beautiful soul who wants and deserves love, affection and joy is deserving of it. Start by looking in the mirror and just saying “I am a good person, I love, I am loved, I love myself” eventually you will begin to believe it and once you do you will see things begin to open up and get lighter for you. People will see the lightness in you and be drawn to that. Its true and quite fascinating. I would love to know if you try and how you get on. Best of luck. Lisa x
From Shan: @meghanmonroe Hi friend,
Thank you for sharing. First, with it being Saturday, I'd like to wish you a happy 13 years!! Being clean and overcoming an opioid addiction for 13 years, and counting, is such an AMAZING accomplishment. I am so happy for you and proud of you - and I hope that you are too.
I am sorry to hear about the things that you lost on your journey so far, and I imagine it can be hard to move on from when we think about the hurt or damage that have occurred. We can't change the past, we can only do things in the present, and already you have made decisions to better yourself and your future, and that is commendable.
This is just an outsiders opinion, but I think, at the least, there was a time where you did have self-love because it takes soo much to be able to make a decision to get clean and to stick to that process. Maybe with the feelings of guilt that you feel, you lost sight of that self-love along the way.
I hope that you will one day be able to forgive yourself for what happened whilst actively engaging in opioid addiction, and that you can forgive yourself for the things that you lost. You have taken steps to repair what damage could be repaired and you have been doing better for yourself. You are human, and you are doing your best. :white_heart:
From Celine_N: @meghanmonroe Hello,
Thank you for sharing this with us, and I am sorry you are having a difficult time.
I wanted to go out and say that I am so proud of you doing something with the opoid addiction. Your feelings are valid but I believe that you have loved yourself before; if you could say that you loved yourself before then you have the ability to love yourself again. Life is complex and full of changes; we live and we learn. We can't change the past but your experiences makes you flourish. Sometimes difficult paths leads to beautiful destinations. I love this quote "Life is like a roller coaster. It has its ups and downs..but its your choice to scream or enjoy the ride". I hoped this helped. Feel free to reach out to us anytime, we are always here to support you.
Staind is so nostalgic for me, definitely check out the song fade that one hits on a personal level.
Despite their band name, Hatebreed is a band you should check out. They spew positivity in pretty much every song. "Defeatist", "I Will Be Heard", "To The Threshold", "This Is Now" & SO MANY others. Check them out! Enjoyed your reaction. I used to listen to "It's Been Awhile" SO MUCH back in the day. Keep up the GREAT work! 🤘🤘🤘
Hatebreed has always been garbage
Hatebreed should definitely be checked out. They are amazing, full of positivity. If i remember, supremacy albumb was written when the singer was dealing with the loss of his father.
Lost and Lonely acoustic version is phenomenal by him, its about him going to rehab.
Aaaah... That's a great great song... The feeling that Aaron puts into singing is unique, seeing him sing a live version is great!! I think he and Sully Erna are the kind who sound incredibly good live.
This song always hits me a certain way for so many reasons. I'm glad this showed up in my feed today.
This man knows how to capture emotion in his music…
Always hits hard.
Tough childhood abandoned by mom …
If you wanna explore his darker songs
EXCESS BAGGAGE
FOUR WALLS
Are great songs to dive into
I relate so much to this song, I've been in therapy off and on since I was 4yo.
Major depressive, BPTSD, I also have a tendency to self destruct myself and crave normalcy.
This song resonates deeply with me.
Man, I need a fucking hug.
Sending you a hug!❤️ I’m sorry your hurting.
Virtual hug incoming. I need one, too.
Hugs ❤
Here's a hug 🫂!!
Staind was my go to band to listen to back in high school (late 90's, early 2000's) - Got me through some of the harder times in my youth. I once heard their music genre described as Self-Rock Therapy and always felt like it was fitting. Their music definitely hits you in that part of your soul that helps you get over your troubles.
❤❤❤ I can relate to the addiction. My wife passed away in 2014 it'll be 10 years in September. But ur video's definitely help... Thank you for your videos.😢😢😢😢
You are such an amazing woman. What a great perspective. Im so glad you share your light as you do in all your videos. I pray that you help many suffering people. Keep shining your light!
You're such a beautiful person. I love your reaction. Thank you so much for your work ❤
Another good video...dang it's been so long since I have listened to this song. Crazy to think how long it's been out now already. Still can't wait for you to do some more Ren, especially his song with Chincilla, "Chalk Outlines". The verses/message in there I think will blow you away, and can't wait to see how you interpret it.
I love Staind. This is one of my favorite songs off that album. A few others are Please, Schizophrenic Conversations, The Way I Am, Pardon Me....
So many bangers with Staind. You should do Epiphany next!
This song will always remind me of the love of my life, twice over now. We were engaged over 20 years ago and things didnt work out. She came back into my life during the pandemic, and fundamentally changed me. Reminded me of who I was, who Ive always been. Sadly it didnt work out. I am thankful thou to her because I know Jesus again and who I have always been, even thou I buried it deep to hide the pain.
Craziest song i ever heard dance with the devil by immortal technique
Thank you for your message of hope😊
Staind’s new stuff like Cycle of Hurting and Better Days are really good.
The origin of this song was written and improved on stage at a Limp Biscet concert where they opened and he sang this song amazingly and it became an overnight success
Glad I experienced this Band years ago ❤❤
Just saw Aaron Lewis a few weeks ago. He played a lot of Staind songs and covers. Great show.
This definitely brings back memories. I absolutely love Staind. Haven't listened to them in years. Break the cycle and Dysfunction were incredible albums. Need to react to more Staind for sure
So many great songs to choose from Staind
Love this band. so many good lyrics and music from these guys. definitely worth the rabbit hole
Yes can Def relate the overdose of my ex and a very toxic dependent relationship but now myself 7 years sober but still missing that one
Second!! Can you please react to the band Hatebreed. "Destroy Everything", "defeatist", "I will be heard", "seven enemies" all excellent songs in my opinion.
Everyone Bleeds Now 🤘🏽😎
Hatebreed sucks dude
@@MinuteManClips everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but yours is wrong...
Staind is awesome 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Seen them 2x recently and will see them again in September!! Can’t wait!!
I saw them open for korn on the issues tour back in 2000. That was when they were actually good. Now Aaron is a miserable person who puts his political views on full display instead of shutting up and playing his music
I'd nearly forgotten how much I enjoy Staind. This song hits a lot of emotions for me. For some reason it brought to mind the song, "Hate Me" by Blue October.
You words are what I needed. TY.
My God, that speech at the end… chills! Loved it!!
This is my all time favorite band. The music had helped me through a lot over the years. "For You" would be perfect to get your perspective on. Also my favorite song "something to remind you."
"Outside" and "mudshovel" are Staind classics.
There are two songs of the new album... "Better Days" and the title track "Confessions of the Fallen"❤️no videos for those two but the lyrics are powerful.
this song hits so damn hard for me because it sums up 2003, when i threw away my wife and my life for nothing but a temporary release. this was the song i was blasting at home when the cops came and picked me up.
I remember this song so much!
Good reaction, this song is super feels, just got out of prison where i became addicted on intravenous opiods and intranasal pharmaceuticals, i used to cope to as i was dumped by my fiance of 3 years and was left lost and alone in prison where i saw people die. Its hard to live going forward with so much self loathing and guilt and shame.
From toastaintbad: @drewtheleaf7712 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans,
You are super strong able to go through something difficult drug addiction, dumped by your finance, and prison. I can't even imagine seeing people die in prison that must have been super traumatizing for you. No pressure of any means! Are you seeing a mental therapist specializing with PTSD & drug addiction? I feel like talking with a mental health professional might help you understand your emotions and improving yourself little by little each day. It takes many years for people to get heal from trauma.
Don't be so hard on yourself for the actions that you did in the past. At least, you are able to make out of prison alive. Let me know if you need anything else from me. I'm here to support you!
I remember when I first heard them in 96 a few months before I went to BCT and I have been a fan ever since awesome music.
Years ago, I heard a rumor that this song was actually about heroine. I have no idea if that’s true, but it’s definitely a different way of looking at the lyrics.
Imagine my surprise when my older sister told me that this song always reminded her of me?! Yeah, she told me this at my mother's funeral. It's so nice to have sisters. I divorced myself from her right then and there and it has been wonderful to not have to put up with her shit any longer. It's been 15 years now.
this song makes me cry for all my failures
She doesn't seem like someone who has been lost and have gave up because of their situation. She sounds like someone that has never struggled with life. Someone who has thought about taking their own life. She sounds like someone who doesn't understand someone that deals with depression or suicidal tendencies
Yes please go down the rabbit hole of Staind and Aarons solo stuff. Please please. Any song. They are all good
Just recently discovered the channel - thank you for your work and dedication to improving mental health. Love to hear you react to “To The Flowers” by While She Sleeps
Aaron is seriously underrated, he was (to me) top 20 when it came to writing songs
This is genuinely turning into one of my favourite channels due to the content and your reactions.
I’d like to recommend “Poet and the Pendulum” live at Wembley by Nightwish. It is not the normal song people start with when it comes to Nightwish, however it is the song that suits this channel the most as it deals with depression and struggle. It was written by Nightwish’s song writer the keyboardist Tuomas during the hardest time in the bands history and he basically ended his life in the song to stop himself doing it in real life, however the new song finishes positively with a new beginning. It is one of the best written pieces of music you will come across and is broken into Acts. I won’t say more about it.
Nightwish hold the record for most reacted song in UA-cam history with “Ghost Love Score” (normally what people start their Nightwish journey with. However, as previously mentioned, “Poet” suits this channel perfectly, especially if the research is done on the songs meaning beforehand.
This piece and others helped me a lot after the death of my mother, followed by an extremely unfortunate relationship with a textbook narcissist.
I'm feeling much better now, but listening to this takes me right back to that place.
Just saw Staind last Saturday night with my wife who's divorcing me because I can seem to fix my anger issues that keep coming up over and over. We embraced each other while this song played as I was crying my eyes out. It's been awhile. ❤
This song always gets me😢 and it pisses me off love 💕 your reactions!
one of my favorite songs ❤
Just saw them live Saturday night. Bucket list check! I love Aaron Lewis, he can sing for real. His voice is like nothing else. Gives me chills every time.
Love Staind, Aaron Lewis is such a deep writer! Tangled up in you by Staind was my first dance at my wedding!!
I found what was...and it never left me! I'll always keep the advice that was given to me by a wise old man in my life..."Every choice you make will affect not just your life, but he lives of those around you! So, take your time, think first, and make a wise choice focused on others and that will ultimately take care of your needs too."
Thank you for this reaction video
More Staind please. Aaron Lewis wrote some heartbreaking lyrics that a generation could really relate to.
99' Family Values Tour!!!!! Will never forget seeing this live!
I had a whole planned out way to express my gratitude to you and HeartSupport... But like always, it vanished as soon as I pressed the first key.
Thank you for what you do.
this was my jam in late elementary/early middle school
Preach!
“Something to remind you” (live version is great), “waste,” or “everything changes” i’d love to see you react to from Staind. Thanks for your videos! Love em.
P.S. on a different note, “When a demon defiles a witch” by Whitechapel!
One song Aaron Lewis does that hits my heart deep is 'Outside'. It explains so much and has truly helped me heal alot.
I feel this song in the depths of my soul.
Outside is my favorite Staind song.
This is one of my favorite songs for self reflection I used to be really suicidal and I have survived 4 attempts music can really resonate strongly and help you through tough times depression is very difficult to fight I still struggle every day and think about things in my past I fucked up and keeping thinking could it have worked I thought i was over it but it keeps haunting me I did self harm a lot I don’t have much self esteem music has been keeping me going people shouldn’t be ashamed to say you are struggling we all struggle this song means a lot to me I relate deeply with it
From DyllonKG: @Cheelaii_Goat Hey my friend. I am so so so glad you're still with us and grateful to be able to share this time with you. www.loom.com/share/f6bc87e14682413aa55cb0ddc7ec0b04
@@HeartSupport it is still hard sometimes but it’s not as bad as it was although I have never had anyone to really talk to about my feelings or problems I have trouble opening up and trusting and I feel like I don’t want to bother people with my problems
@@HeartSupport thank you for the video I just started today seeing a online therapist because of your video for me I appreciate this channel and especially allowing me to be honest and share my experiences I love music it has helped me but I think therapy will be good for me I appreciate you
Great analysis
@heartsupport that feeling of coming out of a deep depression is such an amazing feeling
I just saw staind live last weekend ❤
It hurts too be the lost cause and taking advantage of the ones trying too pull you out of the hole you created. .. this is my song.
Different reaction for me. I related to this song a lot at the end of my marriage. Just before my wife left me for an other woman. It took me going to therapy to realize the reason I felt like this was I was being told over and over how I was screwing up and making everything worse and everything was my fault by my ex. My therapist was great & got me to realize it was not my fault. She also taught me some new words like narcissistic and sociopath. Was angry at first but later realized this was her core and she was just her.
Go check out the live outside. He wrote the song on stage bc he didn’t have the lyrics only the chorus. Fred Durst of Limp Bizkit told him to do that song because Aaron Ludden said he had it wrote. He literally wrote that song in front of an audience. That tells you what kind of musician and writer he is.
Came for the song cuz it cuts me to the core,subbed for the therapy.thanks
Every teenager in the late 90's early 2000's can identify with this song on a "failed relationship" level. As a Divorced father at 38 I can identify with this in many other ways. Its been awhile since I saw my kids, its been awhile since I could see my own smile, its been awhile since I could feel like the man I once was trying so hard to be for my kids. Even though its been awhile I still keep trying to hold my head up high and be that man ai know I always was and can be even if my children aren't allowed to witness and learn from it. I may have not been the most sensitive husband or father, Marines are not sensitive individuals while in service due to many reasons. But I always loved my wife and kids whole heartedly and always did my very best to provide what I thought and felt was a stable and secure life. However being a Marine I spent a good chunk of time away from home and my ex-wifes eyes began to wander. It was my fault for being called in to duty and working too much, she needed a man home with her and in her bed when I was away. I didn't satisfy her needs in the bedroom often enough as I was away, but Jody was always there for her... I'm one of millions of Military Service mwmbers with this story. We are willing to die for our Family and Country's defense, but our wives are not willing to remain loyal to our marriage. And in the end most of us who served are butchered in court like I was. Because I'm a Marine I am dangerous, a trained killer, and abusive. Even with absolutely no evidence to support those lies they are written in stone and I carry that perception everywhere. Never once lifted a finger in anger against my family, might have chose poor words during disputes, but who hasn't? Its insane being held to far higher standards than others and then demonized for choosing to offer your service to your Country. It's Been Awhile since our Society had any respect for those willing to die for it.
being willing to kill others doesn't earn you respect
@@xOsleepwalkerOx Talking out of line doesn't either. 2 Holidays in the United States that Celebrate Veterans and their accomplishments. Not a single holiday for Jerks. Veterans Day and Independence Day you're welcome
@@xOsleepwalkerOx Also less of being willing to end lives and more like willing to give my life so people like you can continue being ungrateful and condescending idiocrat.
I'm 44. Struggling husband. Failed father. This song always stops me in my tracks. Even as a kid I always feel ITS my fault. No matter what IT is. Sometimes there is no IT. This song expresses the pain, and the inherited cloud that follows always on sunny days.
the struggles are real, I'm about ten years ahead of you. Stay strong...
From toastaintbad: @josephainsworth9681 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans,
Nobody expects to be the a perfect father & husband. Don't be so hard on yourself. The more negativity that you will bring to yourself, you are going to feel way much worse than before. People fail and make mistakes that's is what make us humans. For how many times that you fail, you will always get better. Many people misinterpret as fail as losing but it's not. You are never going to be positive & upbeat every single day. Each day will comes with a difficult challenge and you can do is push it through the best that you can.
From Micro: @josephainsworth9681 Yes, it is so painful to feel like no matter how much or how hard you try, there is always something in the back of your mind making you feel like you are a failure. That somehow you would be to broken, too inadequate, too worthless to have the possibility to feel proud of see the good in you. This narrative can be stuck for so long in your mind that it becomes your normality. It turns into something both familiar and hated at the same time.
I'm personally right there with you on this struggle bus. 31, and it's still hard to feel like I'm not guilty of all the things that are not functioning in this world. It's like wearing glasses at some point that adds different colors to your your life and to yourself. It makes you see things a certain way, and you feel it so much at your core that it's hard to rationalize those thoughts. Whenever I would see failure in my life, I would attribute it to myself, my identity and my value, which is so hurtful.
As you described so well, it's like having inherited of a narrative that you keep carrying on with you even during the good times and keeps clouding your perception. You *want* to enjoy the good things in your life, but there is this thing that filters your view and make you see the glass half empty, making you feel like you are worthless and you just don't belong. I'm sorry friend that this narrative has been a significant part of your own life. It is the kind of battle that remains unseen to most, and I think it takes a lot of courage to speak up about it, to let others SEE how it is behind the curtain. Right here, you allow yourself to be vulnerable, to be authentic, and to be LOVED in the midst of what feels like utter brokenness to you. If anything, I can assure you that your pain does not define you, and the knowledge that there is more is something that can be worth holding on to, even if it's hard to see beyond the mountains of doubts, fears and feelings of guilt.
You are enough just as you are, and we are blessed by your presence. :heart:
What you said at the end of this song resonated with me.
About two years ago, before I lost my father to COVID-19, I was working out training in martial arts; I was in phenomenal shape and felt confident and like I could do anything. My career was taking off and going in a fantastic direction. I had that drive and fire to set an excellent example for my children. I was just happy! But after I lost my dad, I became sedentary, drank more, ate badly, stopped going to the gym, stopped training martial arts, and then after a few months, I became disgusted with what I became because I realized I was not a good role model for my girls anymore. I was sitting around watching TV and not doing anything, not being active, was setting a horrible example for my girls. Anyway, I looked back at some pictures that were taken the summer before my dad passed, and all I can think is how badly I want to get back to how I felt when those photos were taken that summer. So, like you said, it’s not like I have never felt that, and therefore, you can feel that again. Will it be precisely the same? No, because my dad is no longer here, and he’s not coming back. But I think I can get close to how I felt during that wonderful time by returning to the gym and training and re-establishing that drive I had in my career and putting that energy towards my family again. Thank you!
I saw them at The Family Values in 1999..... he sounds the EXACT same live.... its amazing
Fantastic song
The hostess looking incredible in the video .This is so good and it Rock one of the times best rock songs at the . I know from your point of view there a hinted and darkest subject behind it and l understand your point of view and others going through the same thing or times .
This whole album is amazing, and every song reminds me of my son's mother. I think pain of the relationship became the addiction and how I related to love. I believe he's expressing/singing about the "discard stage" of a narcistic relationship.
Wow not even close to spelling narcissistic right 😂😂. Stop whining and get on with life simp
From an analyst/therapist prospective, you’d likely enjoy “Waste” from this same album. It’s deeply emotional (despair, anger, frustration, grief) and addresses some HEAVY issues.
Staind had so many emotional kind of melancholy songs. Nu Metal era emo lol. I would listen to it a lot when i was feeling things as a teen
This song always had a special meaning to me since my childhood.
Every one of these songs I feel at the same time synonymously.
I think it was on CARSON DALY LATE NIGHT, He/ Aaron Lewis did a tribute to LAYNE STALEY, and other Musicians who passed wayyy too soon, he sang NUTSHELL, an ALICE IN CHAINS ⛓️ song 🎵
Always loved this song!! And great reaction!! ❤
I was wondering if you would like "To the flowers" by While She Sleeps
Something to remind you is another great song by them
Been there, done that. But the emotions never leaves.
To the flowers by While she sleeps is really good.
I like how you flipped that from a sad it's been awhile too a more hopefully it's been awhile because every time I hear this song I think of the past and how I messed up that relationship but now since you said too flip that into a I've had it before how can I get it again it gives hope that I can achieve that lvl of relationship and maybe a higher level of relationship thank you so much
I remember there was a period of about 5 years where I was an incredibly highly functioning alcoholic, and I can't explain how many times I destroyed relationships with self-destructive behavior. During that time this song, Hurt and Mr. Self Destruct by Nine Inch Nails, Snuff by SlipKnoT, and a lot of other thematically heavy songs were in my playlist. I've been sober now for about two and a half years and man, not feeling like I have to have a drink to function has been life changing. This song reminds me of those times, and how proud I am that I've come so far from where I was then.
Congratulations on the path of recovery that your trudging. My clean date is 8-9-16 keep going It gets better each and every day. Stay the course No Matter What😊
@@anthonyturner1808You're doing great mate! You're almost at 10 years! My date is 24NOV2021.
Such a Great track, I've not listened to it in a long time.. Great reaction with a message of support.. Talking of support, Taylor if you read this the brown cabinet with the glass bricks on behind you looks like it needs some support in the middle.. sorry if it's already been said..:)