Billy Bob Thornton on losing his brother
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I lost my older brother on May 04, 2023. My only brother. The pain is unbelievable and my heart is heavy. It’s Jan 25, 2024 and it still feels like I’m just getting through the day. There’s not an hour that goes by that I don’t think of him. I miss him so much. He always knew what to say, and made everyone laugh around him. He brought people together and was the ultimate hype man. He would introduce people by pointing out great qualities and common interests. When he introduced you, you felt like a rockstar. Everyone around me makes it seem like I should be over it, or overreacting. So I just hide it and shut everyone out. Growing up having an older brother always looking out was such a privilege that I took for granted . Even if we didn’t see each other often and had our own lives, knowing he was there brought a sense of comfort and safety. I am now alone. Watching this video brings me a small sense of comfort and can relate. 50 % happy and 50 % sad at any given time is an accurate description. If you have a sibling, hug them, tell them you love them. Tell them how much you appreciate them. Tomorrow isn’t promised.
Grief is a hell of a thing.
Thanks for posting this, I needed to hear it today ❤
I think you need to hear that this is not a healthy way to live.
These are the words of a man who is still grieving. He should get help. Our lives are not meant to stop being happy when someone dies. And you're not dishonoring them by finding happiness again.
@jog8483 I think you need to hear that yours was an extremely rude, assumptive and inhumane comment.
@@Qu33nMary444 It wasn't rude at all. Death is a part of life. No one likes it but you have to accept that it happens and still find your joy. We're not meant to stop being happy when there's a loss.
Stop trying to use big words, because you're not applying them properly. You don't know the meaning of inhumane.
@jog8483 I don't know what alien planet you're from (presumably one where empathy, intelligence and manners don't exist), but humans feel and display a wide range of emotions and it is not only normal but very healthy to feel negative feelings after someone that a human loves, dies. We have this cool thing called therapy, and we talk to other humans about our problems.
Also I found your original comment to be extremely rude, that's how I feel and you dont have any right to tell me otherwise. Bye 👋
@@Qu33nMary444 Everything I said went RIGHT over your head. You don't even realize that your comment agrees with me. You say we have "this thing called therapy". Yea, we do. And it's for people who haven't learned to cope. THAT is what this man needs. Because the notion of NEVER being happy again after a death is UNHEALTHY and needs to be addressed in therapy!!
Thanks for blathering on long enough to make my exact point. BYE!
You never get over losing someone important to you. And you never should. Hope you’re all doing okay.
@jordankelly1912 Your thinking isn't healthy. You should never forget them, never stop talking about them and accept that they left an unfillable hole. But we HAVE to get over it.
People told me to allow 6 months to get over my brother. After over 50 years I realized I would never recover..
😢
WAAAAAHHHH
I’ve always wanted to write A book “ What not to say to someone grieving “.
You won’t ever recover, but that’s okay. Because in a way, “recovering” would be to forget him. It’s your job to remember him, more than anyone else in this life.
Like Billy said, you can let the pain and grief bring you down, or you can embrace it as your way of honoring him. Because he deserves it, and a piece of him remains here through your memory.
What a disgusting thing for them to say!!
Never...
I can't begin to say how much this has helped me. God bless Billy Bob and everyone else going through grief.
I miss my little brother. He passed at 32. I'm miss him so much.
Thank You Sir for expressing your feelings that way, I really appreciate and respect you for that.
I know how he's feeling because I've lost all my brothers to and I'm 62 now and I miss them so much. God bless everyone reading this message
So sorry. I lost my 4 bros in 1980-88 to suicides n murders, we grew up without our mom at 4-8 years old, our dad couldn't take care of us bc the war ruined him. We grew up being very close, we took care of each other living on our grandpa's ranch. Life was hard but we tried to be there for each other. Their deaths are my worst heartbreaks in my life n I'll always remember them. I'm 62 now n still have this loneliness for them. I'm so grateful for their children n grandchildren for being great reminders of them. My own children n grandchildren definitely makes life great n helps me get thru the holidays, my bro's anniversaries are Dec thru Feb. I truly feel for those who're also grieving for their families. God bless❤
It doesn’t get better, it gets different.
It never gets better. You just learn to live with it.
@@steffe.g.2043you are not wrong, what else 🤷🏼♀️
Yes! It becomes your new normal.
While never a big fan...
These are truly deep words of wisdom. I've never come back from the loss of my brother and parents. The world is different now. I will never heal that damage. Part of me is gone.
I pray, and believe, I will see them again. It helps me continue. I know the melancholy he speaks of.
Grief is overwhelming. Sadness is deep. Love is what gets us through.
It's been a little over 12yrs since i lost my son and i know just how Billy feels, devastated doesn't even come close....
I lost my son in October 😢
My dad lost our mother Jan 2015 then we lost our lil bro April 2015, I don't know how my dad did it and stills does it. He is my hero he is my unspeakable truth. I feel so bad for my dad. He is a man's man, a rock on the outside but jello on the inside.
god, this is so real and true. Just try to honor them with everything you have.
agreed , I've not had a day without crying in the 5 years my brothers been gone.
True, u dnt ever get over it.
I lost my 4 precious beautiful bros in 1980 - 88 at 21 to 25 yrs old by 2 suicides n 2 murders. We lost our mom in 67, we were 4 to 8 yrs old, was raised on our grandpa's ranch, our dad had gotten lost in alcohol after he was drafted in the Marines n fought in a war. So we were all very close, they were my world n we looked after each other. A great part of me died with each of them, the greatest heartbreaks in my life. I still have breakdowns n grieve during their anniversaries Dec thru Feb. I miss them terribly n hang on to our memories, my pictures of them are my treasures. I'm very grateful to God for blessing me with the life n love we shared together, for my nephews n nieces who're great reminders of each of them in every way, they especially look so much like them.
My heart goes out to all who've lost their loved ones, God bless❤
God Bless you!
On November 13, my son has been gone 34 years. Everything he said is true. If you know someone who has buried a family member, be patient with them and understand. Hug them and let them cry.
I’m so glad someone said this out loud. I’ve felt it since my own brother died 30 yrs ago. I thought i should be over it by now for Gods sake but im not. Then when my mom passed , oh just devastating. I’m so sorry for your loss Billy Bob and thank you for admitting this.
As simple as this sounds , it's the first time I feel like it's OK to feel what I feel all these years.
@@johnmasciola1047 I hate how as long as the human condition has existed we’ve been taught to be ashamed of it.
It changes you forever. Life is never the same again.
Life is never the same again. True.
But it doesn't mean you're never happy again. And that if you are you're somehow dishonoring their memory.
I feel his pain. Some days you’re feeling fine and then the next day you feel like someone has ripped your heart out.
You really feel it when he says the only advice he can give is that you never get over it. It’s soul crushing.
I lost my wife of 22 years January 2023, every word he's saying rings so true.
Losing my brother was the hardest thing ever in my life...I completely understand...you don't ever get over it..
He is so right... since i lost my mum i feel the same im only 50% happy any different moment
same..mom died 10y ago..
Billy Bob I may not be 50% happy 50% sad at any given moment but I know exactly what you're talkin about my youngest brother is gone three years this December we would have comedy conversations and laugh our heads off and get even funnier when my middle brother we talked about him and his sense of humor great times with my youngest brother miss him much
Thank you Mr Thornton for putting these feelings into words.
All three of my sibling have passed. Two of them were my best friends. I’m relatively young to be the last person standing, particularly since our Father lived to 100 and our mother 86.
Siblings know us in a way no one, not even our spouse, will ever know us. They shared the first part of our journey with us. They know our foundation. We need that special connection. Hang onto those siblings. You need them. They need you.
sorry for ur loss
God bless ❤
I still miss my brother after 30 years. It was a wrongful death which still haunts me. Nobody deserves that.
Yeah, that’s a great perspective on loss of loved ones. They deserve your grieving. It does honor to their place in your life and gives the loss some purpose.
I know how it feels. Even at times of joy and happy days, there will never be a day that goes by that you don't think about the loved ones that you lost. However, they still live on through us, because we are their legacy.
Makes a lot of sense
I know what he means also
For me, it was my mom
I had a nervous breakdown
He is absolutely right, you never get over it
For me, it was an awful rollercoaster ride
Finally my mom came to me in my dream, like an spiritual being and told me that I was beautiful, she always said to me and she said, she was good, do not worry
And I didnt
❤ that's beautiful ❤
There are different types of grief, depending on who you lost and how old they were when you lost them. Losing a sibling when you’re both fairly. young is completely different than losing a grandparent or parent when they’re very old. At least that’s the way I see it. 😘 when I think of Billy Bob, I think of a photo I saw of him sitting behind a beautiful gold sparkle drum kit. 👍🏻
My Brother died.
Its very hard.
True Love is losing someone more than you Love yourself.
I never ever forget my Brothers ❤️💖
It never goes away.
My brothers are with me all the time 💝🪄💞
Godbless all the good people in this comments section. You are pillars of strength , examples of true virtue, true humility, sacrifice and bravery and I appreciate you. I will learn to forgive, swallow my pride and I will mend wounds and build bridges and will love more present and selfless. Thank you.
I can see that. Lost my sister at 15 & my brother at 21. Both younger. That stays with all of us. 🙏🏻
Grief is love that has nowhere to go….
Thanks billy Bob thats some good insight
I understand what this man is saying and respect his perspective. I'm gonna say: you can get over these things and it doesn't mean you have to forget. In time the pain will subside and I'm saying this from experience having lost most of my immediate family before I was 35. It does get better, you live and rebuild and happiness comes again. You'll look on the dead and say with pride you are happy, in your mind's eye they will smile back. Remember what they wanted for you and you're still alive so anything is possible.
This is so fucking true. Lost my mother in 2016 and I’ve never been the same
In ten years since my mom died, this is the first statement about grief that feels true. My mom was that great.
I have never been the same since my brother died either. It shattered my soul, and I have never recovered. It’s been 25 years. It affects me every single day of my life. It was as if I died too that day.
Lost my brother 9 years ago. He was 54. I'm not suffering now. But he's always on my mind.
I honor my son and my husband everyday. I will never be the same.
I lost the love of my life to a drunk driver over 4 years ago and I still miss him almost every day! I miss what he brought to my life and I will NEVER be the person I was before he was stolen from me. I'm still coming to terms with that. 😢
"Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer a great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them." - Leo Tolstoy
So true , I agree 💯 % there are just some people who inpact our lives so much that carring the touch is pure honor. Thank BT for sharing.
We have lost our brother and I don’t think we will ever get over his loss. Too young too soon and the most beautiful soul known to mankind. I love you Rich always ❤
AMEN !!!! Six and a half years ago …….. and I ache for him every day.
When I realized after I lost my father, who was my hero, that I would never be how I was before he died it helped. I saw that grief, sadness, loneliness and heartache were now part of my new "normal" it helped me find happiness in other things and but the sad parts are always there.
I loss my brother in 2020.. he got in the car with someone that had been drinking and driving.. she crashed the car they were in, she hit a pole at 120 mph. My brother died on the seen. He was my best friend. The pain I felt that day and the grief that followed since that day is unbearable and unimaginable. Every time I see this clip in make me tear up. I understand what Bill means.. the pain nvr really goes away.
Rip big bro. I love you JJ.
A1 since day 1.
I always felt that it’s fucked up to be expected to “get over” things like people dying. Maybe because I feel it’s fucked up that if I died people would just “get over” it.
I feel the same way I miss my son his laugh his voice every day I think what a horrible loss my world will never be the same
I feel the same way about my two older Brothers passing, I think about them often and I’m 50% sad and 50% accepting of the fact that their gone😢
May he RIP
I lost my brother 8 years ago and this man is speaking truth, it’s like he took the words out of my head, thank you for this ❤
You won't get over it. You can only get through it. The melancholy is normal. It will be balanced by joyous memories. We can also honour their memory by trying to live a happy and healthy life for them. If you were dying you would want your loved ones to enjoy their remaining years.
This wzs a poetic tribute to grief..it explains the deep sadnness i have personally felt witnessed over my lifetime.
When i meet my loved ones in dreams i savour every moment..still making memories in my soul.
The way to deal with this feeling is to convince yourself the person you lost wouldn’t want you sad.
I assure you I know. It’s something I use to reset my own emotions.
It really works. I have moments of profound sadness and grief.
But see that person laughing at me and saying are you that weak?
I literally trick myself to cope.
I lost my 10 month old son 3 months ago. I like watching this video even tho it makes me cry 😢
You are awesome Billy Bob. Listening to you raised goosebumps all over me
Geez exactly how I feel about my Dad , since loosing him I am and my life has never be the same....I miss him every mome and also happy the way he went, exactly the way he wanted...☺️😢
You don’t have to forget them, but they wouldn’t want you to suffer with the mentality that adds to their value.
Ahh. A mini-master class on grief. Great share.
No! A lesson in how to let grief permanently cripple you emotionally.
This is a man who needs help.
My baby brother Mark died almost two years now and I can't and will never get over it. He died a year after our momma. I will never be the same. Everything is never going to be the same 😢
I'm sorry for your losses friend. You're not alone.
This truly hit me. Me and my family lost my brother he was 23 yrs old and I was 12 at the time. I honestly feel like what I didn't understand at 12 that I do now is when you lose someone like that you also lose the family dynamic that you are used too. You see your parents change and siblings change at the height of me starting preteen years I'm 42 today and I struggle with it everyday. 🙏🏼
Lost my dad in January. This explains it better than anything I’ve heard or read.
What is said here, is so true for myself with the lost of my Mother , now 3 years gone. Ur heart ,is never the same. If U know, U know!
Thats beautiful. Exactly the same way as me regarding my father. Its numbing. He describes it so well.
All i heard is "Im 50% happy at any given time" that's more than most of the people
This hits me hard. So true I’m 50 percent happy 50 percent sad since my brother died
I know the feeling, especially when your so close. It's a sad thing , you think about them , you laugh one minute then your crying the next minute, you never get over it.. We use to talk about everything under the sun and then some. We would laugh til we cried..
This is the best explanation of how I feel ever since my brother died. The pain just turns into a sadness that never goes away.
Thanks, Mr. Billy Bob Thornton. Thanks for saying that. Thanks for posting that. I lost my brother, I'm different now, and that's unusual to me. It's taking time to get used to that. It's very difficult. Thank you
Lost my Mom who was my best friend and confidant 6 years ago,my sister 5 years ago. I miss them so much. I cry for my sister pretty much every day.
Grief is love with nowhere to go ❤
I lost my brother and my dad this year it hurt at first but just have to move on with my life can’t let it change me. Well damn just writing that all out brought it all back.😢
Lost my brother 16 years ago today :( he was 22 and it’s not been the same without him since 😞then lost my dad to covid in 2020.I will never be ok .
I lost my closest person in 2012 when my big sister Jill died. We are from a family of nine siblings, six boys and three girls. She is four and a half years older than me and was my closest ally. We shared our childhood and teenage years together and maintained a close relationship until her passing. I’m still devastated to this day, but I’ve learned to keep it in a secure place so I can let her rest in the past. I can’t talk or write about her without losing my composure fairly quickly. I guess it’s similar to the relationship described here in the video. I’m half sad every day.
I keep my brother in my thoughts all the time and he'll be forever in my heart!
Billy's daaaayum right... Hundred percent spot on. Take Care Fam....
One never stops loving and missing a loved one, you just learn how to cope with it. There’s not a day that goes by I don’t think about my husband and father, 8 and 13 years now respectively, it makes me feel closer to them and happier.
I feel the same about my brother. We've been best friends our whole lives.
Definition of "Gone, but NEVER forgotten!"
WoW never knew that about him but feel the exact same way. Lost my brother in 2009
I so understand the need to keep that feeling deep inside..been like that since i lost my wife and daughter..been 14 years..never forget that feeling..manager it but never forget.
Lost my older brother. I feel this and he's absolutely right. You never fully recover, because they deserve that.
10 years later and the thought of him still makes me cry instantly. you really do never get over it
Yes 24 years ago my oldest brother was killed he would be 41 years old today dec 27 i will remember him till i die
My brother passed away in 2015 I'm angry I'm sad I'm lost
I've never heard it put this way but it's exactly how I feel. When my mom passed away I thought what do I do now. There's nowhere I can go, no phone number I can call, time passes but it stays the same nothing I can do. So I get what he says because to not feel this pain is to let go of something connected to her and I can't do that. And like you said I don't want to...
thank you, I feel that way about all that I have lost, especially my Father
So true😢I miss my brother too😢
Say it how we feel for our loved ones. Love Hollywood people that keep it real. Ate too many left
❤Me neither, he’ll always with me ❤
My husband is the one I'll never get over. I've got friends that remarried and said they never got over the loss of their first true love. The second time they married for companionship that grew into love.
Yes!
Hurting because of grief is GOOD. It means you had someone in your life that is worth having so much grief over losing them
People who only want the good things in life and live in denial are missing out on the true experience of being alive.
Ps: can we finally get a movie in which BBT and Timothy Olyphant are like brothers or father and son.
The resemblance is uncanny
Cherish the memories more than the loss...
Losing two sisters and a brother to cancer at an early age scarred me as well!
Thanks for posting this.
You learn to just make it through the day....
50 percent sad and 50 percent happy at any given moment is …well it’s normal
I empathize completely. Sooo difficult
Parents died 20+ years ago. I'm over it. You can get over it. It's constantly telling yourself you can't that holds you back.